Never Tell Your Man To Be This Way
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- #relationships #love #dating #marriage #islam
Hey everyone, welcome back!
In this video, I talk about why some men can be like gold when they choose to carry their burdens without sharing. I see this trait not as a weakness but as a unique strength. While there's an ongoing conversation about men's rights and emotional balance, but it is important for us to understand that every man is different. And as I discuss in the video, what you might think works for women doesn't necessarily apply to men.
Whether your man openly expresses his feelings or keeps them inside, this video offers a my perspective on those who choose the latter. I hope it provides you with a new way to look at and appreciate this group of men.
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This video might answer the following questions:
Why do some men choose to keep their burdens to themselves?
How can a man's decision to not express emotions be viewed as a strength?
Is there a unique strength in men who internalize their struggles?
Hi Fuad! 😊
Your content really helps me to reflect, to understand men even better. I usually never leave comments on UA-cam videos as I am very busy with own life but your channel is very different!
I started to learn some Arabic (Lebanese - Levantine) and I like when you say some words in Arab in your videos 🤗
I know content creation takes lot of time and efforts behind the camera and I wanted to write this message to really encourage you in your journey as a UA-cam Creator! Keep sharing with us your wisdom and good vibes 💫 Thank you!
Hey Melani, thank you very much! I appreciate the comment! 🙏
I always thought that being vulnerable is never a weakness especially for a man. To me, we are all human beings. Emotions is in our biology.
I remembered telling my boyfriend that it's okay to be vulnerable because at least I know that he is just a human. Btw, my boyfriend is a Yemeni-Saudi guy. When he told me that he is not the type to be vulnerable because to him he is afraid I might get the "ick" if he starts crying to me more than twice.
I had a small debate with him about that. He told me himself he is not used to being vulnerable and he was like "why change it?".
I guess after watching this video at least I kinda understand where my boyfriend is coming from. We are in a long-distance relationship. I am from Malaysia and he is from Saudi Arabia. It really worries me that he hasn't talked to me for months. I don't know what personal struggle he went through but I hope there is a chance that we can rekindle what was lost in our relationship 😭💔
Hi. Definitely men and women work out problems and show emotions differently, but don’t hide them. 😊
I don’t agree that as a man you need to work out your challenges and problems independently. It is ok to show emotions regarding such to your wife (she is your confidence, your best mate) you can cry (don’t worry she’ll understand) and/or express your emotions in your own way. You don’t have to be the unbreakable ‘hero’ and work it all out on your own.
In effect you should share your problems and any challenges you face with your wife and not just come back with a solution once you worked it out on your own. Some could argue not sharing is the equivalence to hiding, speak lying, you don’t want to have this in your relationship or marriage. Respect your wife and tell her what problem is bothering you.
Any challenge you and your wife work out together makes your relationship so much stronger and will create trust and give you a path to a long lasting marriage. This is what your wife is here for, to give you the support to overcome any challenge you might face so you can be a better person and partner for her.
Hopefully you can get some value from this advice. Thx.😊
Thanks for sharing that! I understand what you're saying, and I don't advocate men to handle their issues this way if it is not who they are. My point was, if your man doesn't like whining and complaining, respect that, and view it in a more positive light, instead of trying to change it. Thanks again!
Yes never hide your feelings, it's ok to be open to your better half
Your husband shouldn't have to cry for you to see their emotion, it's in their eyes. Watch their face and eyes to know the truth. If you talk every day, you know each other's life. Life isn't about being independent. Wifes are put into their husband's life to be that partner in all things.
I love what you said here! When you are wise and perceptive, you can hear the unsaid...very true. Thank you for this input!
Thank you 🙏🏽
You know ... I had to watch this a few times to really get your point. At first ( being a girl and an empathetic one at that) I thought wow thats not true but.... then I reviewed the males in my life over the years and your correct. Starting with my beloved daddy my hero always no better man can ever measure up yet... no crying. He was our tower of strength our knight in shining armor a true problem solver. You knew he was distressed not by tears but a certain look in his eyes and moreover " the dad sigh"
my contemplative dad. Mom and I cry the ugly cry but Not dad - our ultimate problem solver, tower of pisa. Watch out for the sigh not a big one but it meant something and hes gonna fix it . Thinking about the Arab men in my life whether ❤ or Family yes true. Its the unspoken male " burden " keep your emotions to yourself and solve the trauma be the solid tree for the woman's. I read people's eyes well and I can tell if something is bothering the man if its Arab family of course its not proper to ask but rather I just pray for the pains to end and being a positive not arguing lady ( whats the point of shouting :love and light please) , I did learn with maturity and age don't take it personal if your sweet man has stuff on his mind and clearly needs space not waterworks , a feeling lady can see in the mans eyes his sufferings but hes not gonna go all weepy bc he is built to be your rock your protector your tower of strength. I prefer not bothering my guy when I can see hes upset just by his eyes or perhaps actions ( grumpy...). Just love him and be patient. Cook him his fave meals, give him a massage but crying ? No this is true.
I am Christian and we do not believe in suicide either and sadly its too common in West " the easy way out". ummm nooo God forbids it. However, to share: Someone I loved intensely and the same back almost married him but had my family first to care for. So at our work I took a promotion which meant not being together at work all day. I needed the xtra$ however being a girley girl, I called him one evening and cry " I will miss you" boohoo ... In his voice I can hear upset very upset but no 💦 that ( to me) would just be weird. His voice was strong, supportive and manly. Loving but its "ok breathe love".
Now this being said I am also an humanitarian worker and my heart and soul have been ripped out of my body as the Gaza children suffer. I go to Arab protests here and comfort the families here I help with food, clothing for refugees. While its not proper to as a woman hug the men crying, suffering grieving families overseas , this intense suffering of men any father , husband etc in any wartorn country the anguish that brings me literally to my knees as I watch these men be a tower of strength yet cry for grief I will never know. As humanity fails the children that God/ Allah has gifted them with these Fathers bear witness to un fathomable horror. I can hold the mothers , sisters, children that's proper but my soul is equally ripped out as the men grieve and cry at family lost forever. We expect so much of men and JMO I had to think about what Fuad was saying but I think that yes at least myself would rather have the tower of strength not a weepy willy. Men do experience emotions quite differently than women and thats ok too the most important thing we ladies can do is hold his hand, give him space and appreciate/ really appreciate all he does. My dad had his " man cave" in our house. I called it his think tank. He loved building things ( he was a mechanical engineer), I would go downstairs and visit my daddy and he would give me a silly project to do or fix something I did wrong and sometimes I could hear " the dad sigh" and mostly he was very quiet ( my thinker) and usually we just hung out together or he would put some big band WW2 music on and I would stand on his feet and dance but I Always knew when something was bothering him and I just felt the quiet need to be there with my protector♥️
Thanks Diane for sharing this. Much appreciated! 🌟
Can I just say men dont get the street cred they deserve we just "
assume " the male is fine hes the man he's supposed to be all/ do all.
I have found in my life journey that men in general are deep deep deep vessels of caring, supporting, protecting. They just don't show it and thats ok. Do we as a society tell men " its ok hey I appreciate you just for being you? "Stuff is always on their radar and its a lot to take day to day. I was just watching a Gaza hospital video ( before it was ....) Male Drs our ultimate pillars of strength finding out their own families are gone some brought in as patients, theres anguish ( and yet these Heros go on ). Like trees, the leaves fall but the tree stands firm and strong. Men: we cherish and appreciate you our heros our everyday and everything . May Allah protect you all. May love and light comfort you all the days of your life.❤
I hate when one say man can't cry damn he is human
Of course they do, that wasn't the point of the video.
He dont want any relatioship cause it will end soon and doesnt want to broke my heart . He wants me to keep in his life but the feeling us mutual but afraid to commit .
And he is very honest about something he will do or should i say it bothers him if he will not tell me .
Can you explain this please . He arab also and I was always there to understand him ,respect and doesnt ask about anything from him cause he doesnt likes it
Thanks . I will wait for this
He seems to be an honest man. I cannot provide an explanation with the limited information you provided, but I would suggest waiting and seeing whatever unfolds, whether from him or from anyone in general. At least him expressing that he is hesitant is good; he did not leave you hanging. Wish you all the best.
No, all women do not sit around eating ice cream. 😂
😂 😂
Don't forget while crying😂😂😂😂
I agree about the stoicism though. Once men and women start down the path of role reversal, it is the beginning of the end of the relationship.
I think the reason why men cry less is mostly biological, we just rationalize it differently. Studies across different cultures show that men cry less than women irrespective of cultural gender expectations. Important to note is that crying functions as a social signal that draws attention.
Your argument for why Muslims commit suicide less seems flawed to me. I would argue Muslim societies typically have larger emotional support systems/communities (namely, large families), thus suicide rates are lower. Muslims in the US are considerably more likely to commit suicide than non-Muslims, but worth mentioning is they’re stigmatized from the broader society. Muslim-majority societies tend to be more monocultural in their shared beliefs and values, and therefore less atomized.
Your point makes sense, and I don't think we differ much on how we view this. Families, communities, and the strong support networks people build and enjoy in Muslim nations are what they are because of religion.
The fear of God is a big deal. People will avoid doing things not because the government might come knocking but because they feel accountable to something bigger. A higher moral authority - not necessarily Islam. The secular elements in many societies have absolutely an influence on why people end up taking their own lives. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!