This video is just too 1 dimensional. Usually these sort of philosophies are cooked up- well- by 'philosophers' and influencers. They usually dont do much work and most of the time detached from society and therefore reality of the avg person. Its basically a watered down version of some Shaolin monk being locked up in some sanctuary giving advices to working people in society on how to live. Or the virgin priest with no experience giving out advice for married people. While theres some truth to it its so artificial lol I think you are the same. And I am not part of the society at all so its not that I have envy for the freedom or whatever people usually say in these topics when faced with opposite opinion. There are literally people who will test your boundaries. Lots of the times its not even individuals, but pack of ppl. The only time they not gonna escalate is when they face with strong conseqences. Lots of the time you stay quiet and it will cause lower ranked people in the social group to start attacking you because: no consequences. i think staying quiet and/or walking away from situation is the best method to deal when you can choose to never go back whenever you are pressured to fight of flight. You will have better and worse (and terrible) days so if the attack is regular -and sooner or later it is if you let them- you will have days when you wont be able to grey rock them. What you feel about their remark will be visible on you and will be enough for them to crack you more. I think it might work to stay quiet after disrespect when you see very high chances of the attack being a one time event out of frustration or something. But still even those times its usually better to bring it up in a calm manner (maybe later when emotions settled a bit) otherwise they have no idea they even hurt you. You stay quiet and they will keep doing it. Very rare situation when staying quiet is good: when you are the bottom of the group and fighting back in any way cause your situation to get worse. But in a modern society you can leave that situation. Of coure being snappy and fighting vs everyone is not a good strategy either. But this quiet BS may cause the people in the group to leave you alone but it doesnt mean you are part of that group or feared by them it means your new place is being ignored. And thats a carreer breaker lots of the time. (we assume that most adults people only forced social group is work and/or family) TLDR:being quiet is almost always inferior. Good strategy is wording it nicely for them to stop without losing your cool. when it doesnt help you need to cook up strategies to cause as much or more discomfort for them as they do for you. And that strategies are different and depends on the person and the group dynamics.
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This video is just too 1 dimensional.
Usually these sort of philosophies are cooked up- well- by 'philosophers' and influencers. They usually dont do much work and most of the time detached from society and therefore reality of the avg person. Its basically a watered down version of some Shaolin monk being locked up in some sanctuary giving advices to working people in society on how to live. Or the virgin priest with no experience giving out advice for married people. While theres some truth to it its so artificial lol
I think you are the same. And I am not part of the society at all so its not that I have envy for the freedom or whatever people usually say in these topics when faced with opposite opinion.
There are literally people who will test your boundaries. Lots of the times its not even individuals, but pack of ppl. The only time they not gonna escalate is when they face with strong conseqences. Lots of the time you stay quiet and it will cause lower ranked people in the social group to start attacking you because: no consequences.
i think staying quiet and/or walking away from situation is the best method to deal when you can choose to never go back whenever you are pressured to fight of flight.
You will have better and worse (and terrible) days so if the attack is regular -and sooner or later it is if you let them- you will have days when you wont be able to grey rock them. What you feel about their remark will be visible on you and will be enough for them to crack you more.
I think it might work to stay quiet after disrespect when you see very high chances of the attack being a one time event out of frustration or something. But still even those times its usually better to bring it up in a calm manner (maybe later when emotions settled a bit) otherwise they have no idea they even hurt you. You stay quiet and they will keep doing it.
Very rare situation when staying quiet is good: when you are the bottom of the group and fighting back in any way cause your situation to get worse. But in a modern society you can leave that situation.
Of coure being snappy and fighting vs everyone is not a good strategy either. But this quiet BS may cause the people in the group to leave you alone but it doesnt mean you are part of that group or feared by them it means your new place is being ignored. And thats a carreer breaker lots of the time. (we assume that most adults people only forced social group is work and/or family)
TLDR:being quiet is almost always inferior.
Good strategy is wording it nicely for them to stop without losing your cool. when it doesnt help you need to cook up strategies to cause as much or more discomfort for them as they do for you. And that strategies are different and depends on the person and the group dynamics.