You reap what you sow, why are you even sad? You play favoritism and receive the consequences. Smh, parents like this sickens me. They expect what they dont give and complained why they werent loved or care for. Its too late to undo what you've done. Leave them alone
It’s not just 1975, it’s the Hmong kev cai worldview. In that worldview, daughters will go marrying off into another dab family, therefore they are not part of the family dab like the boys will. Ask yourself, specifically with that worldview, would you love your daughters equally or more than your sons? You shouldn’t bc it makes no sense.
I get the pain from the daughters-I cried too! Makes me think of my late father and how dearly I miss him. It’s hard to grab the attention and love from the person who is nearest to you especially when you have several other siblings who already get enough attention. Nevertheless, I still fought to show my love and demanded the same back because I know life’s going to continue revolving 365-366 days/year. Much love to grandpa and his daughters. May they find the closure and peace they have been seeking for.
Now days the daughters are the son to our parents. It’s so sad how the old generation parents think. I never get the love from my father too. Didnt almost knew I have a father a few weeks before he’s gonna pass.
Tiam no nej cov ua niam ua txiv nej txhob xav tia nej yug tau es nej g hlub nej yuav g muaj kev txhaum nej yeej mj kev txhaum thiab nawb mog vim nej yug tau nej g hlub
Yes, their karma is not getting the love they didn't earn. Kids do not owe parents love simply by being born. They also need to be raised and shown the love they're expected to return their parents.
It's wild that this was the general mentality of our elders. Hopefully this current generation can do better. Blessed are those who went against the grain.
Too late. Daughters do have a choice. They did show some compassion because they don't want karma from their kids. They got good hearts like their mom.
Tij, vim koj tsis muaj kev cia siab rau cov ntxhais es koj thiaj tsis hlub lawv. Tub ntxhais los yuav tau hlub lawv kom sib luag. Yam laus ces tsis paub xyov leej twg yuav hlub yus.
In today world Boys are much important like the 60 and 70 don't disrespect your wife and the daughter they may be girls but they will be the one to look at you when you get older in life......
Tus txiv tsev awnej cov txiv neej yuav tus tshiab lawm ces tsis xav hlub niam loj li kuv tu txiv ces tshuav nws thib thiab os txhob tu siab koj rov ua rau koj ris xwb os
Now you know, you give what you get. Hope you really learn from your experience. You lucky to even see them and they cared enough to go visit and even change you. Tell them you're sorry and its not late to turn around to love them like they deserved. Your daughters are good people, thanks to their mom she raised them well.
This guy does not see his fault at all. Koj twb yog txiv koj yeej lees tias koj tsis hlub tsis kes koj cov nxthais es koj yuav tseev kom lawv hlub koj dabtsi naw? Koj hlub koj cov tub xwb ces kavtsij zoo siab hlo ua raws li koj kev tshav ntuj mas! Tsis txaj muag li os, koj na.
Wow‼️….you really reap what you sowed! These days sons go & love their in-laws, “happy wife happy life.” Daughters have taken on the roles of sons in caring for their parents. Re-eval who you put on the pedestal, title & prestige have changed with sons.
I came from a family of 10 girls and 2 boys. My dad’s 2 sons and 4 daughters died. He was heart broken but never once looked down on us as daughters. We told him we are his sons. We all took care of him till his last breath and took care of his funeral for him. Many relatives said he was the most fortunate one because all his daughters loved him dearly.
Tsis tu siab li os yaw txiv awsss.. nyias ko nyias txaj rau nyias pws es tsis pom qhab tu siab rau leejtwg nawb.. yus twb vam cia siab rau yus cov tub xwb ces kav liam os.. ua siab tos tuag es lwm tiam mus thov ntaub ntawv Los ua tus neeg siab zoo siab ncaj hlub mi tub mi ntxhais sib npaug os
Nej yug tau ib pab ntxhais nej tsis hlub ces nej ntawv tau zoo tas lawm mog kwv tij Hmoob! Txheej tam sim no txawv txheej thaum ub lawm. Tub ces tsuas yog lub koob xwb, hos ntxhais thiaj yog kev cia siab. Nco ntsoov peb txoj kev sau nqi txhais tso tseg es thaum kawg peb thiaj tsis tau txais txoj kev txaj muag nawj.
Nej cov txiv neej txoj kev uas xav tshov lom luag muaj me nyuam tab sis thaus tau me nyuam lawm ho tsis xav hlub ces zoo li no twb tseem tsis tau txaus hlo li os
ab cov me niam tsev cas peb cov ua yug ntxhaus coob22 es tu siab tiag22 li os lawv aw Sim neej no es cov ntxhais no na twb yog yus yug lawv na cov txiv neej no Mas xuaj tiag ho txawj tu siab thiab no thiab tiag peb cov yug ntxhais ces rau kiag tib nkawm khau xwb os
Koj twb g hlub lawv thaum yau es tsam no lawv g hlub koj los koj tu g tau siab os vim koj g hlub lawv ne koj yeej g zoo ne koj cov ntxhai koj g quav ntsej koj cov ntxhai yuav txiv los koj g quav ntsej ne koj mas lim hiam dhau lawm tam tom xwb os thaub laus aw koj g muaj cai tu siab rau lawv
I dont feel sorry at all for this dad. He deserved all the love from what he wanted the most from his sons. I hope this story will change most OG now a day to love their daughters as well. Daughters are the one will be taking care of their parent now a day. Remembered their parents' birthday, Mother's Day and Father's Day. Love all your kids equally no matter what. The more daughters you have, the more blessing you're gonna get.
Haub yau, ua cas yus yug tau es yus hos tsis hlub tab sis yus hos yuav kom luag hlub yus. I never understand, man. If you want to have many wives, why can you love all equally. Love goes both ways.
Peb Hmoob yog ib haiv neeg g hlub ntxhais los yog tsoom poj niam li tab sis nyob li lwm hais neeg los zoo li kv pom suav ma lawv tsuag xav kom yug tau ntxhais.
Lim hiam li koj twb yog koj cov ntxhai no es tseem tuaj saib koj xwb yog lwm tus ces g quav ntsej koj li qhov koj g quav ntsej lawv ntag lau lim hiam ces paub lawm paub nej cov ua yog niam yog txiv es hlub g ncaj nruab nrab na tam tom ntxim xwb
Ned… yus tws paub tias yus tsis hlub me nyuam ib yam ces kawg li koj xwb thiab. Tsis txhob hais lawv, tsis txhob vam lawv hlub yus vim yus yog tus txhaum ned. When you know you didn’t love them equally… you should not be expecting them to love you at the end. They only treat you the way you treated them… they learn from you.
The audacity of OG's believing that because they produce a child but does zero for that child and expect the child to love them unconditionally is beyond crazy. You get what you give. In your case, you gave nothing but heartaches for them. You are lucky they didn't pay you back by giving you the same treatment you gave them. If you want to repent, leave those girls alone, they owe you nothing.
Old man aw!!!! You don't deserve any love from your daughters at all. That's what you get! OG Hmong parents need to appreciate all their kids no matter whether they are girls or boys. Love all your kids equally.
Nej cov laus na. Thaum yus tsis taus lawm tsuav tej tub nyab tseem kam tuaj tu es lawv yuav nyiam looj qhov ncauj qhov ntswg pes tsawg tshooj los txhob tub tub qaug nej thiab ma. Tsw2 heev ces lawv looj lawv thiaj tsis tau nyob tsev laus nawb
You get what you give.. you give nothing you receive nothing..
Nay naaayyyy
What!?! You don't even love them but you want their love??
This guy is delusional.
You reap what you sow, why are you even sad? You play favoritism and receive the consequences. Smh, parents like this sickens me. They expect what they dont give and complained why they werent loved or care for. Its too late to undo what you've done. Leave them alone
This is why the 1975 mentality dont work. Love all your kids equally. You don't know which one will love you at the end.
Agree
Excactly 100%
It’s not just 1975, it’s the Hmong kev cai worldview. In that worldview, daughters will go marrying off into another dab family, therefore they are not part of the family dab like the boys will. Ask yourself, specifically with that worldview, would you love your daughters equally or more than your sons? You shouldn’t bc it makes no sense.
Hai tau tu siab kawg 😂😂😂😂
Tus yawm txiv txhob tu siab tag tag rau koj cov ntxhai os. Vim lawv twb tsi tau koj txoj kev hlub lis ib leej txiv nes
Tus me yawm txiv aw koj zaj neej neeg es nim zoo li kuv txiv thiab o kuv ce nim tus2 siab li koj pab ntxhai thiab o 😢😢😢😢😢
Sounds like There’s more to the story. You reap what you sowed.
Yep. Sound she was never there for anything and not even the daughters weddings.
I get the pain from the daughters-I cried too! Makes me think of my late father and how dearly I miss him. It’s hard to grab the attention and love from the person who is nearest to you especially when you have several other siblings who already get enough attention. Nevertheless, I still fought to show my love and demanded the same back because I know life’s going to continue revolving 365-366 days/year. Much love to grandpa and his daughters. May they find the closure and peace they have been seeking for.
Bad father like you, you did what you got back dude
I know a family like this. It’s very sad, but it is what it is. There is definitely more to the story than not just loving the daughters.
Lig rau Koj lawm thaub laus😅
Nyuam qhuav nxim xwb mas ua 1 leej txiv siab phem li ko thiaj tsis tau kev hlub
29:34 Kuv yog koj tus niam loj pab ntxhais los kuv yeej tsis hlub koj thiab, vim koj yeej tsis hlub lawv thaum me los lawm. Koj txhob ntshaw2 lawv niam tej saw kub loj2 uas lawv yuav rau lawv niam. Thaum lawv me lawv tsuas pom lawv niam txoj kev hlub lawv xwb. Yog koj lam hlub koj pab ntxhais ntshe hnub no koj twb tsis tau txom nyem li ko os....thov nej cov OG saib taus nej cov ntxhais nawb vim cov yuav tsis qias nej ces yog nej cov ntxhais ntag.
Now days the daughters are the son to our parents. It’s so sad how the old generation parents think. I never get the love from my father too. Didnt almost knew I have a father a few weeks before he’s gonna pass.
Tiam no nej cov ua niam ua txiv nej txhob xav tia nej yug tau es nej g hlub nej yuav g muaj kev txhaum nej yeej mj kev txhaum thiab nawb mog vim nej yug tau nej g hlub
Yes, their karma is not getting the love they didn't earn. Kids do not owe parents love simply by being born. They also need to be raised and shown the love they're expected to return their parents.
It's wild that this was the general mentality of our elders. Hopefully this current generation can do better. Blessed are those who went against the grain.
Kuv tus ces coj zoo kiag li tus txiv neej no thov kom muaj ib hnub kom npam li tus txiv neej no
Tiam no ntxhais hluas txiv tshaj plaws lawm. Koj yog ib niag txiv xyob txhiaj coj tsis ncaj. Good story ua kev kawm tau cov txiv neej txhua tus.
Tos luag tias neeg siab zoo thiaj tau qhov zoo
Tus neeg siab ces yeej Yuav plag mud.
Your kids are giving your first wife the love you aren’t giving them or her. Nothing is wrong with them.
They love you as much as you love them. Lawv hlub koj li koj hlub lawv. Koj hlub me me, lawv hlub koj me me.
Too late. Daughters do have a choice. They did show some compassion because they don't want karma from their kids. They got good hearts like their mom.
Tij, vim koj tsis muaj kev cia siab rau cov ntxhais es koj thiaj tsis hlub lawv. Tub ntxhais los yuav tau hlub lawv kom sib luag. Yam laus ces tsis paub xyov leej twg yuav hlub yus.
In today world Boys are much important like the 60 and 70 don't disrespect your wife and the daughter they may be girls but they will be the one to look at you when you get older in life......
Mloog nawb nej cov txiv neej uas niaj hnub no tseem coj tus cwj pwm zoo li no na
Peb yuav tau hlub cov ntxhais dua os. Cov ntxhais mas thiaj hlub yus tshaj plaws li hos.
These men talk about regret, but i question how much they would of been able to change how they treated their daughters. Easier said than done.
Tus txiv tsev awnej cov txiv neej yuav tus tshiab lawm ces tsis xav hlub niam loj li kuv tu txiv ces tshuav nws thib thiab os txhob tu siab koj rov ua rau koj ris xwb os
Peb cov txiv nimno peb hlub peb cov tub cov ntxhai ib yam nkau, peb tsi cai li nej cov laus lawm 😂
Now you know, you give what you get. Hope you really learn from your experience. You lucky to even see them and they cared enough to go visit and even change you. Tell them you're sorry and its not late to turn around to love them like they deserved. Your daughters are good people, thanks to their mom she raised them well.
This guy does not see his fault at all. Koj twb yog txiv koj yeej lees tias koj tsis hlub tsis kes koj cov nxthais es koj yuav tseev kom lawv hlub koj dabtsi naw? Koj hlub koj cov tub xwb ces kavtsij zoo siab hlo ua raws li koj kev tshav ntuj mas! Tsis txaj muag li os, koj na.
Koj kawm tiav Dr. tias yuav tsum hlub cov ntxhais thiab tab sis lig zog lawm. Tsis muaj lwm tiam lawm.
Thaub koj txhaj le ua le ko xwb os. Peb tsi ua le ko. Tub ntxhais peb hlub sib npaug
It's too late... many broken hearts because of you. now you know the end game. Good for you.
Yus tseb dab tsi ces yus tau yam ntawd yus tseb kev hlub ces tau kev hlub yus tseb kev phem ces tau phem xwb os
Wow‼️….you really reap what you sowed! These days sons go & love their in-laws, “happy wife happy life.” Daughters have taken on the roles of sons in caring for their parents. Re-eval who you put on the pedestal, title & prestige have changed with sons.
I came from a family of 10 girls and 2 boys. My dad’s 2 sons and 4 daughters died. He was heart broken but never once looked down on us as daughters. We told him we are his sons. We all took care of him till his last breath and took care of his funeral for him. Many relatives said he was the most fortunate one because all his daughters loved him dearly.
Cov me ntxhais aw kav tsij mus hlub nej txiv os mog nws tsuas los ua yus txiv ib zaug xwb os mog.
Cas cov ntxhais tseem tuaj hlub koj thiab laus thaub laus siab lim hiam
Tsis tu siab li os yaw txiv awsss.. nyias ko nyias txaj rau nyias pws es tsis pom qhab tu siab rau leejtwg nawb.. yus twb vam cia siab rau yus cov tub xwb ces kav liam os.. ua siab tos tuag es lwm tiam mus thov ntaub ntawv Los ua tus neeg siab zoo siab ncaj hlub mi tub mi ntxhais sib npaug os
Nej yug tau ib pab ntxhais nej tsis hlub ces nej ntawv tau zoo tas lawm mog kwv tij Hmoob! Txheej tam sim no txawv txheej thaum ub lawm. Tub ces tsuas yog lub koob xwb, hos ntxhais thiaj yog kev cia siab. Nco ntsoov peb txoj kev sau nqi txhais tso tseg es thaum kawg peb thiaj tsis tau txais txoj kev txaj muag nawj.
Koj púas yog ib tu txiv zoo na kuv xav ma tsis yog hnub twg yuav tuag ces mas Xav txoj ces lig lawm mog 😂😂😂
Kuv txiv twb tsis yuav niam yau los kuv txiv twb tsis hlub peb cov ntxhais ib yam thiab os.
Nyiam qhuav haum txoj ke yus yug tau yus tsi hlub cav mus hlub cov tsi yog yus roj ntsha na have npam loj kawg
What these OG don't understand is you can't expect to receive love if you never gave love to begin with.
Nej cov txiv neej txoj kev uas xav tshov lom luag muaj me nyuam tab sis thaus tau me nyuam lawm ho tsis xav hlub ces zoo li no twb tseem tsis tau txaus hlo li os
Tiam no ntxhais thiaj hlub yus os
Koj paub tu siab thiab los koj twb tsis hlub cov ntxhais koj ho xav kom lawv hlub koj thiab
Vim yus tsis paub ua txiv...menyuam yuav fay hlub ib yam
What you reap is what you sow.
Ua neej nyob yus tau qhov yus ua xwb os .koj tus siab dabtsi
Thaub laus aws koj twb tau kiag qhov koj xav yuav lawm ne koj tseem muaj ntsej muag tuaj tham thiab, txoj me kev cov txiv neej saib tsis taus cov ntxhais na cas ho txawj mus taij cov ntxhais txoj kev hlub thiab
Nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb nej cov txiv neej siab phem na txawm tub txawm ntxhais los yeej tsis paub xyov Leej twg yuav hlub peb na cov ntxhais Lawv txawm mus yuav txiv lawm los lawv yeej yuav hlub peb na!
Koj pom koj zoo nkaus xwb ua neeg nyob koj twb tsi pom lawv zoo li os.
Tej kev no ces yog koj tsim koj xwb os, nej cov txiv neej hmoob ces yeej coj li koj 99% os thaum yov tuag ces mam xav tau luag zog thiab kev hlub.
Tus tib neeg ntxeev siab ces yeej tsis tau lub neej zoo. Txhob chim rau koj txoj kev phem.
ab cov me niam tsev cas peb cov ua yug ntxhaus coob22 es tu siab tiag22 li os lawv aw Sim neej no es cov ntxhais no na twb yog yus yug lawv na cov txiv neej no Mas xuaj tiag ho txawj tu siab thiab no thiab tiag peb cov yug ntxhais ces rau kiag tib nkawm khau xwb os
Koj yog ib leej txiv tsis muaj kev hlub.. lig kawg nkaus rau koj…
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Ca kj nim phem2 6 koj pab ntxhia ib yam peb txiv phem 6 peb 5 viv ncaus thiab os😢😢😢😢
Koj twb g hlub lawv thaum yau es tsam no lawv g hlub koj los koj tu g tau siab os vim koj g hlub lawv ne koj yeej g zoo ne koj cov ntxhai koj g quav ntsej koj cov ntxhai yuav txiv los koj g quav ntsej ne koj mas lim hiam dhau lawm tam tom xwb os thaub laus aw koj g muaj cai tu siab rau lawv
I dont feel sorry at all for this dad. He deserved all the love from what he wanted the most from his sons. I hope this story will change most OG now a day to love their daughters as well. Daughters are the one will be taking care of their parent now a day. Remembered their parents' birthday, Mother's Day and Father's Day. Love all your kids equally no matter what. The more daughters you have, the more blessing you're gonna get.
Dude it’s your own fault
Oh kuv yog tus thib #1 xub xub tuaj mloog ntag ov zaum no na
Ntuh aw.... Cas zaj no es zoo ib yam li peb thiab os😢😢 thaum kawg kuv txiv los tuag ntawm peb cov ntxhais xwb os hmoob....
Siab phem lim hiam li koj ces ua siab tuag liab qab mog.
Tab tom ntxim xwb mas txiv neej Hmoob lub siab phem 😂
Yus hlub lawv li cas ces lawv hlub yus li ntawv xwb..
Nyuam qhuav ntxim npam tsis npam niag ntsej muag laus txoj me kev siab phem rau cov me ntxhais os.
N.tsis hlub luwv ces ziag no ces xav ntau luwm 😂
tsis yog lawv ua pauj koj. vim koj txoj kev phem lim xyiam rov los raug koj .thiaj npam koj.tsis paub txaj muag li cas ntsej muag yuav tuab ua luaj yom
Yus twb tsis hlub cov ntxhais ces txhob tu siab. Yuav tsum hlub kom sib npaug tsis hais tub los ntxhais yus thiaj txaus hlub yav laus rau menyuam mas
Peb ua neej nyob ua zoo tau zoo ua phem tau phem ces li no tiag hmoob ua neej nyob yus hais tsis tau los lub nyuj mam hais xwb tiag hmoob
Haub yau, ua cas yus yug tau es yus hos tsis hlub tab sis yus hos yuav kom luag hlub yus. I never understand, man. If you want to have many wives, why can you love all equally. Love goes both ways.
Tiam no ces yuav tau hlub kom sib npaug g hai tub lo yg ntxhais
Peb Hmoob yog ib haiv neeg g hlub ntxhais los yog tsoom poj niam li tab sis nyob li lwm hais neeg los zoo li kv pom suav ma lawv tsuag xav kom yug tau ntxhais.
Yus ua li cas ces yus tsuas tau li ntawv rov xwb os vim yus tsis hlub luag ua ntej ne
Yawm txiv nej cov txiv neej tsa tsa hwj chim os mog txawm cov tub yog koj yug los lawv tsa tsa hwj chim tsis lam nyoo xiam piaj los hlub nej cov laus os mog. Peb cov ntxhais mas peb tsis tsa hwj chim li cov tub os cov tub txawj xav txawj txo hwj chim txawj hlub yus ces tsawg tsawg leej xwb mog.
Koj niag txiv dev liam li koj tseem cas tseem txawj ntshaw kev hlub thisb nas ntsej muag kuv ntxub cov txiv phem li koj
Lim hiam li koj twb yog koj cov ntxhai no es tseem tuaj saib koj xwb yog lwm tus ces g quav ntsej koj li qhov koj g quav ntsej lawv ntag lau lim hiam ces paub lawm paub nej cov ua yog niam yog txiv es hlub g ncaj nruab nrab na tam tom ntxim xwb
I am too from a family that only wants sons but my mom only birth girls. Too bad my dad died young or else he would be feeling like you.
Ned… yus tws paub tias yus tsis hlub me nyuam ib yam ces kawg li koj xwb thiab. Tsis txhob hais lawv, tsis txhob vam lawv hlub yus vim yus yog tus txhaum ned.
When you know you didn’t love them equally… you should not be expecting them to love you at the end. They only treat you the way you treated them… they learn from you.
Nev twb tias kom hlub ib yam peb cov hluas tiam tshiab no peb hlub ib yam xwb os yawm txiv
Tus old man no npab nauj dhau…txaj muag dhau lawm!!!!!!!!!!
Cov niag neejneeg ruam ruam li no mas lawv cov hais neejneeg nyiam hais heev li.
Yog 1 qhov zoo kom cov txiv neej hmong saib taus nws cov ntxhais Es kom nws txhob tuag da quav da zis thaum laus los mas
The audacity of OG's believing that because they produce a child but does zero for that child and expect the child to love them unconditionally is beyond crazy. You get what you give. In your case, you gave nothing but heartaches for them. You are lucky they didn't pay you back by giving you the same treatment you gave them. If you want to repent, leave those girls alone, they owe you nothing.
Vim koj xav hais tias koj yuav tsis ntxau laus nes...txog quaj os..
Cov txiv neej ua tsis hlub cov ntxhais thiab nws tus niam loj ua yug ntxhais xwb na. Koj hmoov zoo ua cov ntxhais tseem tuaj saib koj
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Kids now a day, no matter how much you love them or not, love them, this is what you will get from them.
Karma at its finest.
Old man aw!!!! You don't deserve any love from your daughters at all. That's what you get! OG Hmong parents need to appreciate all their kids no matter whether they are girls or boys. Love all your kids equally.
Zoo tshaj nplaws qhov uas yus tsi hlub luag os yus pheej xav hais tias ntshe yus yuav tsi txawj txom nyem li no nev paub lawv poj.
You didn't love your daughters to begin with, so don't expect to receive love in return.
Yus ua rau yus xwb!!!
Ab thaum me nyuam tseem me yus twb tsi hlub es txog thaum kawg es hais los lus thov txim xwb es tau dab tsi naj txiv neej hmoob
Don't be sad because you don't know how to be a good father 😢
Nej cov laus na. Thaum yus tsis taus lawm tsuav tej tub nyab tseem kam tuaj tu es lawv yuav nyiam looj qhov ncauj qhov ntswg pes tsawg tshooj los txhob tub tub qaug nej thiab ma. Tsw2 heev ces lawv looj lawv thiaj tsis tau nyob tsev laus nawb
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