You win or your learn, and imo it's up to you whether you call it failure or a learning experience. You're a role model and you've taken risks and made decisions that have helped inspire so many others. Keep rocking and rolling dude. This vid was great.
You can't fail at having an experience like that. Thats a life experience that will stay with you forever. Not many people even have the opportunity to even leave their own zipcode. Props to you for getting out there and doing it.
Hey Dorian, as somebody who has been a 'Digital Nomad' of sorts for the last couple years and is learning to code now so I can make more money while working remotely and living this lifestyle, you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Often times, people jump into this lifestyle with grand expectations of every day being filled with adventure, exploration, and excitement, I know I did. In reality, the novelty of indefinite travel wears off quicker than you think, and day-to-day life becomes less about exploration and more about just figuring out the logistical headache of it all, which can be taxing. I know many people who have quit the lifestyle, or at least taken a long break from it, and they were doing it solo without having a family to look after. I think Digital Nomadism (like coding) suffers a bit from influencers glamorizing the lifestyle and leaving out all the things that can make it difficult and challenging at times. There have been plenty of times I've wondered if I'm cut out for the lifestyle as well. I'm sure you and your family will be on the road again in the future, and your experience this time around will make you better equipped for the future. All the best!
Lot of people here saying you didn’t fail. I understand the good intentions these comments are coming from, and it is important to not beat yourself up too much like you said in the video. And yes, I do think your trip has been a success from a different perspective - you getting time out to chill, your family growing closer together etc. but it is important to recognise that you were not in fact successful in your actual purpose of why you did this whole trip. It is only if we accept our failures that we can learn and then grow. Your videos are one of the main reasons I started learning to code and it has already been of great benefit to me. Wish you all the best at your home base !
Digital Nomad lifestyle is very overhyped. I travelled Thailand + Bali for 6 months myself and it just really sucked trying to work there remotely and traveling at the same time. Everything is overpriced(especially Bali!), groceries really suck, none of the airbnbs have proper utilities for kitchen and workplace, internet is unstable, all the cool nomads you meet end up leaving anyways so you never connect, hassle with dealing with visas where rules change all the time. I think no matter where you travel outside of your home country, you'll always just end up paying tourist-price for everything. Conclusion: there is a reason we vacations --> so we can vent off, relax and take a break, and pay more for that than we're used to. Home base + couple weeks vacation per year ftw.
I'm happy to hear that even though the trip didn't end the way that you expected, it helped you recover from your burnout and gave you a clear objective! Tbh I'd say that was an unexpected success more than a failure, a true failure is when you don't even try, you tried it and it's advanced you mentally and allowed you to focus on family time too! Thank you for the authentic take, I look forward to seeing more content from you
A long time ago, someone remarked to me, _"If you take the king's nickel, you have to do the king's bidding'"_ While this has an obvious relevance to money and our consequent loyalty/obligation to the source of that money, in my experience it also applies to non-monetary contexts such as what you describe about UA-cam content creation. Creators are at the mercy of 'the market' and the market can be -- often is -- fickle. You could be doing everything right and the market could shift and unless you shift with it you risk losing some or all of the audience. I'm not saying that creating content is good or bad, right or wrong. I'm saying that in light of the remark of the king's nickel, for me it helped me to give more thought to whether 'what I want' is to provide what 'other people' (the audience) want from me, or whether 'what I want' is to genuinely express what I sincerely want and/or value. It's not an easy distinction to tease a part. Goals can be 'ends' goals, or 'means' goals. An 'ends' goal is a goal that is its own reward, whereas a 'means' goal is something that we do as a means to some other end. For example, I can work doing what I enjoy doing and derive satisfaction from my work, or I can work in order to have a title, gain recognition, earn money, etc., and hate what I do but get the title, recognition, and money. It doesn't have to be a mutually exclusive choice but often, the 'what I want' part gets watered down to near zero, while the 'what I believe that I need to do to get what I believe that I need' often gets over-emphasized to the point where I/we feel like we're approaching that boundary between 'emotionally healthy' and 'emotionally haggard'. As others have said, you haven't failed in an absolute sense. You're experiencing the dissonance between how you imagined it could be, and the reality of how it actually is. I went though a similar dissonance when I wanted to live a mobile lifestyle. In my mind, I saw it with all the positive aspects fully emphasized, while de-emphasizing the challenges, uncertainties, etc. I tried really hard to make it work within my abilities and means but it never did. So, for now, I've taken a step back into the status quo to re-evaluate what I want, what I did, how it worked out (or didn't work out), and to hope for some insight that will, as you mentioned, allow me to 'learn from my mistakes' and to make new, hopefully better, decisions about the next adventure I'll choose. There is no failure; there is only feedback. Cheers!
I'm just a stranger on the internet, whatever, but here's some (hopefully constructive and positive) criticism about Dorian's content. It's cool that he has the "growth/grind mindset", it did changed his life for the better, he'll talk about investments, entrepeuner thinking, studying, working, grinding hard, money money (and other stuff), but I think that he doesn't realize realistically how much he thinks about this (a lot, also in his free time), and how this does affect you negatively. I was watching Dorian's videos and thinking "how is this guy not burned out already?". Turns out, he was, and I'm extremely happy to see that he realized it (it could get worse, people get seriously depressed and disabled from this). There's one problem tho, he was guiding people torwards following his steps, but he was burned out, so it's almost like guiding people torwads getting burned out... and being successful in life (if they don't freak out in this process). Sometimes getting burned out is worth it, sometimes it isn't, it really depends on where you are in your life, his advice is mostly GREAT, but I know a lot of people who can't push harder, and can't handle being burned out right now. His POV is completely understandable, if grinding hard gives you everything you have in your life, you'll be a devote to that, it was worth it, and you'll try to teach people how to get their "everything" (which is pretty pretty nice). --- Well, in conclusion, here's my advice to the guy that actually gives me advices: I'd say, try being more self-aware on how much you're thinking about what you're thinking, and how this does affect you, also, I'd love to see a video where you talk about what you're doing, daily, to deal with being burned out, and to avoid falling into the same thing. Traveling once, or twice, won't cure your daily behavior the lead you into being burned out, when we keep the same behavior, we get the same results, if you don't change, you'll fall into the same state, so I'm actually interested in knowing what you'll change from now on. I don't want to make this sound like a huge deal, I think you're a little bit off-balance, a little bit too hard on yourself, and you could make a little micro-adjustment, FWIW I care and don't want to see you feeling wasted.
tbh, i have been following u since u had a 30k around subs u gave me lots of advice things like that. i never commented, thanks. Be health, may God bless u
I started watching videos on your channel maybe around a year ago. I think your channel is very inspiring and your viewers may think they were at the same boat as you. You show real life example of how someone could start from not knowing anything about programming to learn on your own and eventually work fulltime as software engineer. That was really amazing and inspirational. I wish the best for you and your family.
Hey Dorian I really respect you for enjoying your time traveling with your family and making sure they had a good time rather than focusing on making great vlogs.
I’m sorry to hear that you cancelled the rest of your trip but I wouldn’t call it a failure but more of a course correction. We’ve been travelling full-time for 7+ years so I know some of the struggles you went through. Doing it with two small children is next level difficulty though. Attempting to transition your channel/audience from coding to travel, another level. I’m sure there’s part of you, looking back, you appreciate it more now, wishing you enjoyed more of the moments when you were in them. One thing I think you’ll find coming back to the rat race is that you’ve changed but everyone around you stayed the same. I imagine you’ll feel the pull to try it again in the future. Keep the dream alive. Wishing you and your family all the best! - Alex (dope new office Btw) 👌
I’m planning on staying in Cambodia for expat work, doing video editing which is a high challenge. But I’ll stay here and work in Cambodia. Looks like you did allot of traveling in a short time. It’ll definitely burn you out. I’m glad you’ve learned allot from this experience. Best of luck in your future endeavors!
It is just a stepping stone. Maybe from my perpective, you could do a slow travel next time. Just stay in one place for three months. It takes a lot of the stress out. It also gives you time to adjust to the new country especially if the country doesn't speak English or a lot of the people don't speak English. I have been on the road for about a year now. I was in Malaysia for three months and Thailand for three months. I am currently coming up on three months in Spain. It could feel rushed if you hop from city to city in one country and trying to pack as much as you can. Sometimes you need a test run in the country so you learn how to navigate the country before you do a longer trip. I went back to the States for a little bit when I felt like I got tired of jumping place to place but I know in the future I want to be doing a more nomadic lifestyle for a longer period.
Not only was this NOT a failure , and not only an incredible experience for you and your wife , but your kids will remember this FOREVER. Probably make them world travelers at some point. I WISH I had the opportunity to travel with my family in Europe when I was 5 lol Would of made me think a lot differently!!
Sadli think you forget a lot, my parents did some trips like this, not as big but still and i forgot a lot of it but overall i literally came down to comment this same comment u made, this trip was great for them and everyone. Can't regret that
I don't think you failed. It's called, a life lesson learned. We all go through that in life. Hell, I go through it. This is the only way you can improve within yourself. You got this, Dorian!
Hey Dorian, i love your honest attitude and how you talk on those personal topics. Some people would probably even say those are very sensitive topics. You're helping people in ways you might not realize with these videos. It's really helping with confindence and motivation to get things done. I really do appreaciate it. From what you have told about your life in past videos, it sounds to me like you already made an incredible improvement. You shouldn't stop now, but you also shouldn't set unreachable expectations. You might even want to set higher goals, just a little above what's your limit or comfort zone and then when it's done, look back at what you have achieved, instead of looking at what you didn't achieve (yet). Everything has positive and negative sides. Try to be patient and see the positives. I've been doing that for years, they're 2 key things of my personality, and i feel like i enjoy life much more than most people do, relatively. If there is anything you want to achieve, think: "I didn't achieve xyz YET,. It might still be achievable, so i keep working towards it." Obviously only if xyz is still in your interest. I know society is harsh and always has high expectations, especially in todays society where the best skills can be seen by making 2 clicks on the internet. I really do feel that and yes it makes my skills feel less valuable to me aswell, even if i have 10+ years experience in web dev. It's not easy at all, but smartphones and the internet are tools, like a kitchen knife. You can use it to do useful things or you can use it to have bad effects, even on yourself. It is a mindset thing and i too am struggling with it sometimes. It's when i talk to my customers that i realize that my skills are being valued. In those moments, it doesn't matter what skills i could have learned. It mostly comes down to a mix of sympathy, making people feel that you're actually listening and finding ways to satisfy their needs. I am trying my best for my customer. Both in terms of cost and effectiveness. This year my focus 100% relies on the way i REALLY want to live my life. This is my life, i am solely reponsible for it and i currently live in circumstances where the needs of my parents are more important than my own. That must change and i want to un-bend my life! That's my goal and i'm actively working on it. Thanks for reading, writing this down is always a relieve and a reminder for myself. I wish you, Dorian, and everyone else who reads this the best of everything and good luck!
I spent several weeks in Portugal at the end of last year traveling around the country like you did. I loved it there! I also visited primarily with the idea of moving there. I haven't ruled it out but I had a similar experience as you where I felt like it was a huge reset that I didn't know I needed. I'm glad you and your family got that experience together and made a lot of great memories. I think it's important to do things like this in life where we think we need a massive overhaul so we go for it and find that the truth lies somewhere in the middle.
Traveling is a lot of work, especially with a finite money supply. I spent a couple years traveling around Asia and beyond. It was super amazing, best time of my life and wouldn't trade it for anything. But I blew about $50k and I was very tired by the end and ready for stability.
Nah bud, you just gained several experiences. I got back to Australia after 10 years overseas with barely a dollar to show for. But the hindsight after 1 year now (perhaps in time this will happen to you too, or maybe it has already) you can lo back and be proud that you did what you did. You're the guy who helped me start writing code. So thank you. I still have friends that I've known since school saying they're the ones envious of me, because they stayed here. They chose to be comfortable. Never knew that was the case, but it probably helped me realise what I've achieved too. All the best mate
Dorian I don't agree with everybody saying it's not a failure. When you set a goal and you don't achieve that, you can call that failure. And I think it's good that you are able to say that. However, I do agree with everyone that it's a great learning experience, and it can take a long time to really see what was good and bad about it. I'm not 100% sure that burnout is really caused by too much work. Maybe. But maybe it's because of the lack of peace, the constant thought of 'I have to do more', the inability to relax and unwind regardless of the time of day and week, existential questions and dread, unresolved trauma etc. Giving yourself such a big workload might also be your attempt at solving those deeper problems.
As a fellow full-time traveling dev, I couldn’t imagine the increased level of difficulty navigating the globe with kids. It’s challenging enough just moving around with a partner, especially since c19 entered the picture. Hope whatever you decide to do, you find happiness. I’ll be tuning in!
Mr Dorian, you are an inspiration to new aspiring web developers. This is not a failure. All the best wishes for you, hope to see many new vacation videos and glad you took this one.
You didn't failed! You just adapted. Failure would have been following a plan for the sake of sticking to what you said in the past which to me doesn't make any sense, you're a new person each day.
The burnout has eaten me and I'm now just applying but I coded a lot on run up and constantly, and the learning never ends. I think when I work I'm going to have to not do it like you said use that free time to decompress. And I genuinely wouldn't consider you a failure, not blowing smoke up your ass. Your trip you just decided to change what you wanted and I don't see that at failing.
I also recently returned to Canada where Im from originally to set up there and failed. No good job offers in 4 months, with 4 years of experience, spent all my savings and now I'm back here at my old job and I've been worrying what if I get laid off... Your video kind of makes me realise so what? As long as I'm trying and I don't give up who cares. I've always had this desire to become something great or be rich or famous and be looked up to because I was down so low in my youth but it's really just a weakness. I will have respect for myself as long as I refuse to give up and these material achievements in life don't matter as much as I have weighted them.
Why you couldn't find job in Canada in 4 months ? What kind of job were you looking ? I am in the process of immigrating there and your comment is kinda scary
@@awesomekj5812 Im a data analyst. I did have 2-3 interviews. However I didn't like the companies and the wage they were offering was 80k CAD when I had been making 120k before. I was applying to roles in toronto and vancouver and had expected more. I think you will be fine as long as you focus and put in the effort but if we had lower taxes and a better economy it would be preferable.
You always remind me that I am not alone in what I am thinking. I am not sure how to find out that thing I like but it is good to keep trying. Great video thank you man!
Love your authenticity - keep on doing what you really love and everything will align to resonate in harmony for you. Btw. I am learning how to code and part of the motivation came from you, so thanks for being YOU.
Good lessons here. Also went through similar situation once upon a time. But you are still young so keep inspiring all of us, even old farts like me! London, south England, and Scotland are nice!
I don't think you failed dorian but you got a new opportunity and a life change with your family, don't discourage your self you are doing way better than you thought.
Kudos to you for making this video. Sometimes you have to travel down a road to know it's not worthwhile. While I didn't go on an international expedition and leave behind my 9-5, I did spend about 18 months giving everything I had to build a writing career that eventually fizzled out. I know the fear that sets in when you realize you need to pivot and the peace that comes from going back to what you had to start again but with a different perspective. Wishing you all the best, but you got this. I'm interested to see what you do next. :)
Well, now you have no regrets on traveling and getting to experience countries not many families do! Life is all about experiencing! You can always get a job as a SWE granted you don't lose too much of your coding acumen.
I think you are just burnt out of working, and I relate to that, compare to other people you had have to work to survive and not to just be able to have stuff you dont need. Most people their first jobs is just to be able to get a car, buy expensive clothes or to travel. At least your family got a really cool experience traveling👍🏾
property is rarely a risk. i bought a house for 30k. no joke. tiny house. 1 year later its now worth 40k. thats massive. if that were a spendier house i mean imagine.
That's not a failure! Do you know how amazing getting all those travel experiences are. This is something that you, your wife and your kids will always remember.
I've traveled a fair bit in my life. Longest trip abroad was 9 weeks, but I had another trip that was 6 weeks. In my experience, *most* of the time, after about two weeks, you're ready to come back and start back up with regular life. Traveling is fun, vacation is fun, but it's not actually as fun as you think it will be after awhile. It is absolutely a good and necessary thing to do to recharge, reevaluate, de-stress, etc, but usually after a couple weeks, you've done those things, and then you start to feel more like you're just drifting. We're just not wired to enjoy that or find meaning in it. Rather than grinding yourself into dust over years and then "traveling the world" for a year or whatever, we're much better off taking smaller vacations of a couple days to a couple weeks every so often so that we never really hit burnout. No criticism here, I've been there. Just sharing my thoughts. Glad to have you back, Dorian.
One thing u haven't failed at is being an American citizen and taking advantage of it. To me being born in Miami, having access to beach, ocean, good weather, and then going to Portugal, Spain, which are also sunny beach places is beyond lavish.
Thank you for your content, you could have stayed in Albania. As an American you can legally stay in Albania for one whole calendar year as a tourist. Albania is a beautiful country with a lot to do and it is very cheap. The best part, you can then just drive the Greece right next door.
In my book you didn't fail at all. You and the family have seen a lot of places in Europe. You got to relax & rest on several beaches and that cleared your head. So there's room for new plans. Your family tasted Portugal and went there for a second time in your holiday. That Portugal didn't work out this time, doesn't say you and your wife give it a second chance. And for what's it worth keep up your channel and I'm happy to see new videos. For me it's the information you give and not the frequency.
Whatever you failed or not, this video is precious. It's much more fun and benefit when things go unexpected. I believe that if one doesn't have anything to comprehend, he becomes lifeless. Life turns into an algorithm, not journey.
Four countries is four countries. No one can take that away from you. Having lived overseas myself (teaching) I can say it's much easier on you if you stay in one place long term before moving somewhere else. Like, at least a year or two years. It's too stressful and too expensive otherwise.
I found your channel like 6 months ago and it was very helpful to my particular situation. I remember recommending it to my friend and referring you as "developer's mental coach". I'm happy to see again this kind of content. Thank you.
Bro I like how transparent you're. Whatever life throws at you let us know. We will be in any project you decide is next. We all are as you said try to figure things out and I am glad you had such a nice time with your family whom at the end will be all that matters! Bless to you and your family .
For just some guy, you've added a lot of little wisdoms to my life. Thank you outside of the actual coding journey, you've shed a lot of light on how to keep perspective and deal with life that comes with this career
Hi dorian I will get my bachelor degree next fall and I'm planning to apply for American universities for my master’s I have found just 1 university which is relatively cheap compares to the other universities in US which is based is New York, the name of this college is Touro University I'm from Iran and as you might know things are not really good at the moment in here and I have no one who has been living his entire life in Us to take advice from If you have time it would be my pleasure to have a virtual meeting with you and ask some questions about my possible future in Us The subject of master’s is gonna be related to web development that’s why I'm asking you Thank you sir❤️
I spent the full 90 days that Americans are allowed to stay in Portugal there one summer and I still feel like I didn’t have enough time. Idk if you can every have enough time in Portugal.
Yeah getting a visa in another country is not the easiest. Surprised someone told you you can just ask for a working visa while travelling and start living in the foreign country right away without going through the embassy.
I love how transparent you are bro. A sophomore in college initially I started following you for the coding videos. But your videos lately like the balding one especially and this one really helps out a lot. I appreciate the genuine content fam.
Hey Dorian, it would be interesting to see your youtube analytics. Is there a certain number per month you are trying to hit that will make youtube "work out" for you? Thanks man. I think more rate race videos would do well. Seems like everyone is interested in hearing this topic even if its the same information over again. Sometimes we just keep needing a reminder during those "days" haha.
Pretty sure making more coding videos explaining stuff for beginners will blow up your channel even more and you could make enough money with that. Beginners tend to struggle with motivation and I think you can offer that to them. just my 2c. I think as developers being burned out makes us question if this is worth it, but just taking a break we realise that yes it is but need to be more balanced.
Good choice making family a priority in a "family vacation". The only choice actually, people who photo and record everything end up with empty memories. Instead if you aim for youtube could take like 10min a day to just sum up or show to your audience something really nice or interesting and just spend rest of the time enjoying life. Also make sure to make recordings and photos do your sake, something you will not share with the internet.
You win or your learn, and imo it's up to you whether you call it failure or a learning experience. You're a role model and you've taken risks and made decisions that have helped inspire so many others. Keep rocking and rolling dude. This vid was great.
Love your channel Josh
You can't fail at having an experience like that. Thats a life experience that will stay with you forever. Not many people even have the opportunity to even leave their own zipcode. Props to you for getting out there and doing it.
Hey Dorian, as somebody who has been a 'Digital Nomad' of sorts for the last couple years and is learning to code now so I can make more money while working remotely and living this lifestyle, you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Often times, people jump into this lifestyle with grand expectations of every day being filled with adventure, exploration, and excitement, I know I did. In reality, the novelty of indefinite travel wears off quicker than you think, and day-to-day life becomes less about exploration and more about just figuring out the logistical headache of it all, which can be taxing. I know many people who have quit the lifestyle, or at least taken a long break from it, and they were doing it solo without having a family to look after. I think Digital Nomadism (like coding) suffers a bit from influencers glamorizing the lifestyle and leaving out all the things that can make it difficult and challenging at times. There have been plenty of times I've wondered if I'm cut out for the lifestyle as well. I'm sure you and your family will be on the road again in the future, and your experience this time around will make you better equipped for the future. All the best!
Lot of people here saying you didn’t fail. I understand the good intentions these comments are coming from, and it is important to not beat yourself up too much like you said in the video. And yes, I do think your trip has been a success from a different perspective - you getting time out to chill, your family growing closer together etc. but it is important to recognise that you were not in fact successful in your actual purpose of why you did this whole trip. It is only if we accept our failures that we can learn and then grow. Your videos are one of the main reasons I started learning to code and it has already been of great benefit to me. Wish you all the best at your home base !
Digital Nomad lifestyle is very overhyped. I travelled Thailand + Bali for 6 months myself and it just really sucked trying to work there remotely and traveling at the same time. Everything is overpriced(especially Bali!), groceries really suck, none of the airbnbs have proper utilities for kitchen and workplace, internet is unstable, all the cool nomads you meet end up leaving anyways so you never connect, hassle with dealing with visas where rules change all the time. I think no matter where you travel outside of your home country, you'll always just end up paying tourist-price for everything.
Conclusion: there is a reason we vacations --> so we can vent off, relax and take a break, and pay more for that than we're used to. Home base + couple weeks vacation per year ftw.
It can't be worse than dropping out of college twice, so don't fret it.
I'm happy to hear that even though the trip didn't end the way that you expected, it helped you recover from your burnout and gave you a clear objective! Tbh I'd say that was an unexpected success more than a failure, a true failure is when you don't even try, you tried it and it's advanced you mentally and allowed you to focus on family time too! Thank you for the authentic take, I look forward to seeing more content from you
You've been very successful at UA-cam and helped many people decide on a lucrative career. You've been a blessing
A long time ago, someone remarked to me, _"If you take the king's nickel, you have to do the king's bidding'"_
While this has an obvious relevance to money and our consequent loyalty/obligation to the source of that money, in my experience it also applies to non-monetary contexts such as what you describe about UA-cam content creation.
Creators are at the mercy of 'the market' and the market can be -- often is -- fickle. You could be doing everything right and the market could shift and unless you shift with it you risk losing some or all of the audience.
I'm not saying that creating content is good or bad, right or wrong. I'm saying that in light of the remark of the king's nickel, for me it helped me to give more thought to whether 'what I want' is to provide what 'other people' (the audience) want from me, or whether 'what I want' is to genuinely express what I sincerely want and/or value.
It's not an easy distinction to tease a part. Goals can be 'ends' goals, or 'means' goals. An 'ends' goal is a goal that is its own reward, whereas a 'means' goal is something that we do as a means to some other end. For example, I can work doing what I enjoy doing and derive satisfaction from my work, or I can work in order to have a title, gain recognition, earn money, etc., and hate what I do but get the title, recognition, and money.
It doesn't have to be a mutually exclusive choice but often, the 'what I want' part gets watered down to near zero, while the 'what I believe that I need to do to get what I believe that I need' often gets over-emphasized to the point where I/we feel like we're approaching that boundary between 'emotionally healthy' and 'emotionally haggard'.
As others have said, you haven't failed in an absolute sense. You're experiencing the dissonance between how you imagined it could be, and the reality of how it actually is. I went though a similar dissonance when I wanted to live a mobile lifestyle. In my mind, I saw it with all the positive aspects fully emphasized, while de-emphasizing the challenges, uncertainties, etc. I tried really hard to make it work within my abilities and means but it never did. So, for now, I've taken a step back into the status quo to re-evaluate what I want, what I did, how it worked out (or didn't work out), and to hope for some insight that will, as you mentioned, allow me to 'learn from my mistakes' and to make new, hopefully better, decisions about the next adventure I'll choose.
There is no failure; there is only feedback. Cheers!
I'm just a stranger on the internet, whatever, but here's some (hopefully constructive and positive) criticism about Dorian's content.
It's cool that he has the "growth/grind mindset", it did changed his life for the better, he'll talk about investments, entrepeuner thinking, studying, working, grinding hard, money money (and other stuff), but I think that he doesn't realize realistically how much he thinks about this (a lot, also in his free time), and how this does affect you negatively.
I was watching Dorian's videos and thinking "how is this guy not burned out already?". Turns out, he was, and I'm extremely happy to see that he realized it (it could get worse, people get seriously depressed and disabled from this).
There's one problem tho, he was guiding people torwards following his steps, but he was burned out, so it's almost like guiding people torwads getting burned out... and being successful in life (if they don't freak out in this process).
Sometimes getting burned out is worth it, sometimes it isn't, it really depends on where you are in your life, his advice is mostly GREAT, but I know a lot of people who can't push harder, and can't handle being burned out right now.
His POV is completely understandable, if grinding hard gives you everything you have in your life, you'll be a devote to that, it was worth it, and you'll try to teach people how to get their "everything" (which is pretty pretty nice).
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Well, in conclusion, here's my advice to the guy that actually gives me advices:
I'd say, try being more self-aware on how much you're thinking about what you're thinking, and how this does affect you, also, I'd love to see a video where you talk about what you're doing, daily, to deal with being burned out, and to avoid falling into the same thing. Traveling once, or twice, won't cure your daily behavior the lead you into being burned out, when we keep the same behavior, we get the same results, if you don't change, you'll fall into the same state, so I'm actually interested in knowing what you'll change from now on.
I don't want to make this sound like a huge deal, I think you're a little bit off-balance, a little bit too hard on yourself, and you could make a little micro-adjustment, FWIW I care and don't want to see you feeling wasted.
tbh, i have been following u since u had a 30k around subs u gave me lots of advice things like that. i never commented, thanks. Be health, may God bless u
I started watching videos on your channel maybe around a year ago. I think your channel is very inspiring and your viewers may think they were at the same boat as you. You show real life example of how someone could start from not knowing anything about programming to learn on your own and eventually work fulltime as software engineer. That was really amazing and inspirational.
I wish the best for you and your family.
A month in each country might have been easier to maintain but travel generally does take a toll on many people. Few of us are truly nomadic.
I admire your resilience to knee down and stand up again each time. Your kids can't hope for a better example than that behaviour
Hey Dorian I really respect you for enjoying your time traveling with your family and making sure they had a good time rather than focusing on making great vlogs.
I’m sorry to hear that you cancelled the rest of your trip but I wouldn’t call it a failure but more of a course correction. We’ve been travelling full-time for 7+ years so I know some of the struggles you went through. Doing it with two small children is next level difficulty though. Attempting to transition your channel/audience from coding to travel, another level. I’m sure there’s part of you, looking back, you appreciate it more now, wishing you enjoyed more of the moments when you were in them. One thing I think you’ll find coming back to the rat race is that you’ve changed but everyone around you stayed the same. I imagine you’ll feel the pull to try it again in the future. Keep the dream alive. Wishing you and your family all the best! - Alex (dope new office Btw) 👌
That is W bro! That is the lifetime memory right there to talk about for years to come
I’m planning on staying in Cambodia for expat work, doing video editing which is a high challenge. But I’ll stay here and work in Cambodia. Looks like you did allot of traveling in a short time. It’ll definitely burn you out. I’m glad you’ve learned allot from this experience. Best of luck in your future endeavors!
It is just a stepping stone. Maybe from my perpective, you could do a slow travel next time. Just stay in one place for three months. It takes a lot of the stress out. It also gives you time to adjust to the new country especially if the country doesn't speak English or a lot of the people don't speak English. I have been on the road for about a year now. I was in Malaysia for three months and Thailand for three months. I am currently coming up on three months in Spain. It could feel rushed if you hop from city to city in one country and trying to pack as much as you can. Sometimes you need a test run in the country so you learn how to navigate the country before you do a longer trip. I went back to the States for a little bit when I felt like I got tired of jumping place to place but I know in the future I want to be doing a more nomadic lifestyle for a longer period.
Not only was this NOT a failure , and not only an incredible experience for you and your wife , but your kids will remember this FOREVER. Probably make them world travelers at some point. I WISH I had the opportunity to travel with my family in Europe when I was 5 lol Would of made me think a lot differently!!
Sadli think you forget a lot, my parents did some trips like this, not as big but still and i forgot a lot of it but overall i literally came down to comment this same comment u made, this trip was great for them and everyone. Can't regret that
5 year olds do not fully appreciate or remember such trips. You had a wish to travel Europe at age 5?? STFU! Idk WTF you're even saying 🤔
@@Jada_RE 🤗
i always appreciate the honesty... much respect to you my guy
I don't think you failed. It's called, a life lesson learned. We all go through that in life. Hell, I go through it. This is the only way you can improve within yourself. You got this, Dorian!
You didn't fail! You tried something. Something that very few people have the opportunity to try. You learn something. Good for you!👍💪
I am here just for your honesty, not many UA-camr are like this
"When you fail to learn is when you truly fail"
Absolutely true and beautiful statement, highly quote-worthy
Cheers, D
Hey Dorian, i love your honest attitude and how you talk on those personal topics. Some people would probably even say those are very sensitive topics. You're helping people in ways you might not realize with these videos. It's really helping with confindence and motivation to get things done. I really do appreaciate it.
From what you have told about your life in past videos, it sounds to me like you already made an incredible improvement. You shouldn't stop now, but you also shouldn't set unreachable expectations. You might even want to set higher goals, just a little above what's your limit or comfort zone and then when it's done, look back at what you have achieved, instead of looking at what you didn't achieve (yet).
Everything has positive and negative sides. Try to be patient and see the positives. I've been doing that for years, they're 2 key things of my personality, and i feel like i enjoy life much more than most people do, relatively. If there is anything you want to achieve, think:
"I didn't achieve xyz YET,. It might still be achievable, so i keep working towards it."
Obviously only if xyz is still in your interest.
I know society is harsh and always has high expectations, especially in todays society where the best skills can be seen by making 2 clicks on the internet. I really do feel that and yes it makes my skills feel less valuable to me aswell, even if i have 10+ years experience in web dev.
It's not easy at all, but smartphones and the internet are tools, like a kitchen knife. You can use it to do useful things or you can use it to have bad effects, even on yourself. It is a mindset thing and i too am struggling with it sometimes.
It's when i talk to my customers that i realize that my skills are being valued. In those moments, it doesn't matter what skills i could have learned. It mostly comes down to a mix of sympathy, making people feel that you're actually listening and finding ways to satisfy their needs. I am trying my best for my customer. Both in terms of cost and effectiveness.
This year my focus 100% relies on the way i REALLY want to live my life. This is my life, i am solely reponsible for it and i currently live in circumstances where the needs of my parents are more important than my own. That must change and i want to un-bend my life! That's my goal and i'm actively working on it.
Thanks for reading, writing this down is always a relieve and a reminder for myself. I wish you, Dorian, and everyone else who reads this the best of everything and good luck!
In every family there comes the time when family life comes into conflict with lifestyle choices - you passed THAT test. Well done.
I spent several weeks in Portugal at the end of last year traveling around the country like you did. I loved it there! I also visited primarily with the idea of moving there. I haven't ruled it out but I had a similar experience as you where I felt like it was a huge reset that I didn't know I needed. I'm glad you and your family got that experience together and made a lot of great memories. I think it's important to do things like this in life where we think we need a massive overhaul so we go for it and find that the truth lies somewhere in the middle.
Traveling is a lot of work, especially with a finite money supply. I spent a couple years traveling around Asia and beyond. It was super amazing, best time of my life and wouldn't trade it for anything. But I blew about $50k and I was very tired by the end and ready for stability.
I am happy that YOU ARE BACK. All the best man
Nah bud, you just gained several experiences. I got back to Australia after 10 years overseas with barely a dollar to show for. But the hindsight after 1 year now (perhaps in time this will happen to you too, or maybe it has already) you can lo back and be proud that you did what you did.
You're the guy who helped me start writing code. So thank you. I still have friends that I've known since school saying they're the ones envious of me, because they stayed here. They chose to be comfortable. Never knew that was the case, but it probably helped me realise what I've achieved too.
All the best mate
Dorian I don't agree with everybody saying it's not a failure. When you set a goal and you don't achieve that, you can call that failure. And I think it's good that you are able to say that. However, I do agree with everyone that it's a great learning experience, and it can take a long time to really see what was good and bad about it.
I'm not 100% sure that burnout is really caused by too much work. Maybe. But maybe it's because of the lack of peace, the constant thought of 'I have to do more', the inability to relax and unwind regardless of the time of day and week, existential questions and dread, unresolved trauma etc. Giving yourself such a big workload might also be your attempt at solving those deeper problems.
As a fellow full-time traveling dev, I couldn’t imagine the increased level of difficulty navigating the globe with kids. It’s challenging enough just moving around with a partner, especially since c19 entered the picture. Hope whatever you decide to do, you find happiness. I’ll be tuning in!
interesting. thanks for sharing your experiences. your videos always give me an introspective take on my life. good luck
Thank you for sharing your story :) I'm sure you'll get what you want in the end.
When a kid falls off a bike we don't tell them they failed, they fell. We just tell them to get up and adjust.
Mr Dorian, you are an inspiration to new aspiring web developers. This is not a failure. All the best wishes for you, hope to see many new vacation videos and glad you took this one.
You didn't failed! You just adapted. Failure would have been following a plan for the sake of sticking to what you said in the past which to me doesn't make any sense, you're a new person each day.
still on track man , don't worry about a thing !!!
The burnout has eaten me and I'm now just applying but I coded a lot on run up and constantly, and the learning never ends. I think when I work I'm going to have to not do it like you said use that free time to decompress. And I genuinely wouldn't consider you a failure, not blowing smoke up your ass. Your trip you just decided to change what you wanted and I don't see that at failing.
It's okay to change your mind and adapt. It's part of life.
Thanks for sharing this!
You created memories bro. I think you're doing something right.
I also recently returned to Canada where Im from originally to set up there and failed. No good job offers in 4 months, with 4 years of experience, spent all my savings and now I'm back here at my old job and I've been worrying what if I get laid off...
Your video kind of makes me realise so what? As long as I'm trying and I don't give up who cares. I've always had this desire to become something great or be rich or famous and be looked up to because I was down so low in my youth but it's really just a weakness. I will have respect for myself as long as I refuse to give up and these material achievements in life don't matter as much as I have weighted them.
Why you couldn't find job in Canada in 4 months ? What kind of job were you looking ? I am in the process of immigrating there and your comment is kinda scary
@@awesomekj5812 Im a data analyst. I did have 2-3 interviews. However I didn't like the companies and the wage they were offering was 80k CAD when I had been making 120k before. I was applying to roles in toronto and vancouver and had expected more. I think you will be fine as long as you focus and put in the effort but if we had lower taxes and a better economy it would be preferable.
I like your videos man, I let it play while I do stuff. Cheers !
Man, you're awesome! I love your content, keep up the good work!
Welcome back to the States Bro! Burn out is real. It's great you are doing better.
They're called books. Classics. Great books. Philosophy books. Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe corpus.
Thinking is the best way to travel.
You always remind me that I am not alone in what I am thinking. I am not sure how to find out that thing I like but it is good to keep trying. Great video thank you man!
Love your authenticity - keep on doing what you really love and everything will align to resonate in harmony for you. Btw. I am learning how to code and part of the motivation came from you, so thanks for being YOU.
I spent years living out of a backpack man! I feel ya it's exhausting!
exactly, sometimes i say to myself - put that camera away and enjoy the actual experience! :D
Good lessons here. Also went through similar situation once upon a time. But you are still young so keep inspiring all of us, even old farts like me! London, south England, and Scotland are nice!
I don't think you failed dorian but you got a new opportunity and a life change with your family, don't discourage your self you are doing way better than you thought.
Kudos to you for making this video. Sometimes you have to travel down a road to know it's not worthwhile. While I didn't go on an international expedition and leave behind my 9-5, I did spend about 18 months giving everything I had to build a writing career that eventually fizzled out. I know the fear that sets in when you realize you need to pivot and the peace that comes from going back to what you had to start again but with a different perspective. Wishing you all the best, but you got this. I'm interested to see what you do next. :)
Well, now you have no regrets on traveling and getting to experience countries not many families do! Life is all about experiencing! You can always get a job as a SWE granted you don't lose too much of your coding acumen.
Man! I live in Inverness, would have given you some tips and places here! ;)
I think you are just burnt out of working, and I relate to that, compare to other people you had have to work to survive and not to just be able to have stuff you dont need. Most people their first jobs is just to be able to get a car, buy expensive clothes or to travel. At least your family got a really cool experience traveling👍🏾
property is rarely a risk. i bought a house for 30k. no joke. tiny house. 1 year later its now worth 40k. thats massive. if that were a spendier house i mean imagine.
That's not a failure! Do you know how amazing getting all those travel experiences are. This is something that you, your wife and your kids will always remember.
What an excellent take.
Welcome back...the rat race is more fun with you!
I have respect for you bro. You are keeping it real!
I've traveled a fair bit in my life. Longest trip abroad was 9 weeks, but I had another trip that was 6 weeks. In my experience, *most* of the time, after about two weeks, you're ready to come back and start back up with regular life. Traveling is fun, vacation is fun, but it's not actually as fun as you think it will be after awhile. It is absolutely a good and necessary thing to do to recharge, reevaluate, de-stress, etc, but usually after a couple weeks, you've done those things, and then you start to feel more like you're just drifting. We're just not wired to enjoy that or find meaning in it. Rather than grinding yourself into dust over years and then "traveling the world" for a year or whatever, we're much better off taking smaller vacations of a couple days to a couple weeks every so often so that we never really hit burnout. No criticism here, I've been there. Just sharing my thoughts.
Glad to have you back, Dorian.
One thing u haven't failed at is being an American citizen and taking advantage of it. To me being born in Miami, having access to beach, ocean, good weather, and then going to Portugal, Spain, which are also sunny beach places is beyond lavish.
Thank you for your content, you could have stayed in Albania. As an American you can legally stay in Albania for one whole calendar year as a tourist. Albania is a beautiful country with a lot to do and it is very cheap. The best part, you can then just drive the Greece right next door.
Keep working hard and never lose faith!
Portugal is a place that you have to go back eventually. When you're in Europe next time check out Croatia!
Every human on earth is a failure who doesn't know what they're doing. We're all just making it up as we go along.
Nice video, your'e a great inspiration to me! keep going! cheers from Medellin :)
In my book you didn't fail at all. You and the family have seen a lot of places in Europe.
You got to relax & rest on several beaches and that cleared your head. So there's room for new plans.
Your family tasted Portugal and went there for a second time in your holiday.
That Portugal didn't work out this time, doesn't say you and your wife give it a second chance.
And for what's it worth keep up your channel and I'm happy to see new videos.
For me it's the information you give and not the frequency.
At least you tried! Most people never get past the dreaming stage.
How affordable is Portugal?
At least you won't look back on this when you're old and wonder "what if".
Whatever you failed or not, this video is precious. It's much more fun and benefit when things go unexpected. I believe that if one doesn't have anything to comprehend, he becomes lifeless. Life turns into an algorithm, not journey.
Four countries is four countries. No one can take that away from you. Having lived overseas myself (teaching) I can say it's much easier on you if you stay in one place long term before moving somewhere else. Like, at least a year or two years. It's too stressful and too expensive otherwise.
From what i hear is not failure just not good planning thats all. Nothing stopping you from trying again.
I found your channel like 6 months ago and it was very helpful to my particular situation. I remember recommending it to my friend and referring you as "developer's mental coach". I'm happy to see again this kind of content. Thank you.
aw thats so sweet. I love the little life update
This guy took his family to Europe for more than a month and thinks he failed. What the frack?
Failure isn’t failure if you learn something. It’s a stepping stone. A lesson.
well done man! Dorian Developed
Bro I like how transparent you're. Whatever life throws at you let us know. We will be in any project you decide is next. We all are as you said try to figure things out and I am glad you had such a nice time with your family whom at the end will be all that matters! Bless to you and your family .
Welcome to the club
Love your content and all that you do Dorian! You are an inspiration
PROGRESS!
I liked this video, very human, shows vulnerability
For just some guy, you've added a lot of little wisdoms to my life. Thank you
outside of the actual coding journey, you've shed a lot of light on how to keep perspective and deal with life that comes with this career
Hi dorian
I will get my bachelor degree next fall and I'm planning to apply for American universities for my master’s
I have found just 1 university which is relatively cheap compares to the other universities in US which is based is New York, the name of this college is Touro University
I'm from Iran and as you might know things are not really good at the moment in here and I have no one who has been living his entire life in Us to take advice from
If you have time it would be my pleasure to have a virtual meeting with you and ask some questions about my possible future in Us
The subject of master’s is gonna be related to web development that’s why I'm asking you
Thank you sir❤️
I spent the full 90 days that Americans are allowed to stay in Portugal there one summer and I still feel like I didn’t have enough time. Idk if you can every have enough time in Portugal.
Yeah getting a visa in another country is not the easiest. Surprised someone told you you can just ask for a working visa while travelling and start living in the foreign country right away without going through the embassy.
You go Dorian!!
I love how transparent you are bro. A sophomore in college initially I started following you for the coding videos. But your videos lately like the balding one especially and this one really helps out a lot. I appreciate the genuine content fam.
Hey Dorian, it would be interesting to see your youtube analytics. Is there a certain number per month you are trying to hit that will make youtube "work out" for you? Thanks man. I think more rate race videos would do well. Seems like everyone is interested in hearing this topic even if its the same information over again. Sometimes we just keep needing a reminder during those "days" haha.
Sometimes giving it a go is the success :)
Pretty sure making more coding videos explaining stuff for beginners will blow up your channel even more and you could make enough money with that.
Beginners tend to struggle with motivation and I think you can offer that to them.
just my 2c.
I think as developers being burned out makes us question if this is worth it, but just taking a break we realise that yes it is but need to be more balanced.
I agree with all your points! Hopefully he sees this 🙌🏻
the fact that you were able to travel so much. I don't think you failed.
As someone who has traveled every country in Europe, you had too fast pace.
I did it in 15 years.
I fkn love Dorian 😂😂💐
Good choice making family a priority in a "family vacation". The only choice actually, people who photo and record everything end up with empty memories.
Instead if you aim for youtube could take like 10min a day to just sum up or show to your audience something really nice or interesting and just spend rest of the time enjoying life. Also make sure to make recordings and photos do your sake, something you will not share with the internet.
good luck bro