Ep: 37 When Validating Your Kids' Emotions Backfires

Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast Episode 37: When Validating Your Kids' Emotions Backfires.
Ever tried to empathise when your child is upset and it completely backfires? Today I dive deep into the power - and downsides - of validating your children's emotions.
Here's what I share about in this episode:
Why Validating Emotions Matters: Understanding why acknowledging your children's feelings is vital for their emotional development and overall wellbeing.
When Validation Doesn't Seem to Work: Exploring why some children really don't respond well to emotional validation!
What to Do Instead: Practical tips and phrases to use when traditional validation methods aren't effective, so you can still support your child in the best way possible.
Real-Life Examples: I share relatable scenarios and simple adjustments you can make to help your child feel understood and calm.
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Great content! I hope your channel grows quickly. I’m a preschool teacher and try to use emotional validation a lot though I have never gotten this particular response. More often I’ll get an emotion/bodily sensation as a reason not to follow a rule (“I’m tired (or sad) [so I’m not cleaning up]. In that situation I’ll validate the emotion but explain that a rule always has to be followed, using myself as the example, that I don’t like to clean up (which is absolutely true) but I still do.
I think kids often view armchair psychoanalysis as a power play, and when I was a kid it was probably at least a low key one the way my generation was parented (I’m an early 80s millennial). For example, nobody likes to hear “I think somebody is tired” when you are grouchy/cranky, even if it’s true, because it comes off as condescending. Children need to be respected and communicated with in a way that lets them maintain a reasonable amount of power/autonomy. Great video, I will try this method of framing emotions and see how much traction it gets.