Can you Reconcile with a Narcissist? What does the Bible Say about it?
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- Can you reconcile with a Narcissist? What does the Bible Say about it?
Should I reconcile with my narcissistic husband, wife, friend, or family members?
Jesus engaged in radical forgiveness with his abusers, the ones who are responsible for his death on the cross. But does God ever call us to reconcile with our abusers, especially when narcissism seems to be so entrenched in their personality? Isn't God all about restoring relationships? In this video, we will be looking at the story of Jacob and Laban to get God's heart and mind on the matter of reconciliation.
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Many Christians need to hear this...we are guilted into staying with these nasty demon filled people by the church...but with these kind of people we should run from them...not stay to continue to be abused. Thank you sister!
She took me to a meeting she set up with the new pastor and made me out to be the bad guy. The pastor told me my reasoning for divorce was unacceptable. Later when he called me, i told him if it were the other way around its not acceptable, so why should i have to accept the abuse? Some pastors just dont understand it.
Amen!
Amen
Absolutely. I showed the elders what was going on. Thinking our meeting with him was to confront him, I was shocked when it got twisted into me “talking too much”.
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Pastor? Most of them need to look in their own life. . .smoke screen
When a narcissist refuses to repent, acknowledge they made a mistake or that they have done anything wrong,they think they are totally honorable, nothing will ever be resolved. I know this from first hand experience.
I still could take that over the covert narcissist who lies and can cry and beg for forgiveness and then. Stab!
I know it all too well.
Psychotherapist advise y have zero contact with narcissists: that is all we need to know.
Another firsthander here
After 20 years living with someone who is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, I can only tell you to run, don’t walk away, run and leave no trace. He tried to fight his narcissistic traits, he’s even convinced he did it, but his narcissism got worse and worse. Yes, there were times when we went back to the honeymoon phase, but it didn’t last long. The man I had married either never existed or is completely gone. Divorcing him is a nightmare- every time I think he can’t be meaner or dumber, he proves me wrong.
Lady your amazing how you explain Narcissim through bible stories✝️🙏🏻
Matthew 7.6-16 of the Bible
Do not give what is holy to dogs; and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under foot and turn and maul you …. Keep up the good work 😊
Thank you Yusuf!
Thank you for the wording of this verse!
Exactly what a narcissist does
@@mlou7432 welcome 😊 ...personality disorders have been there from the beginning of time itself, and are described in all the religions and their booķs.... if the prophets of god faced malignant minds and forgave them for their actions.. it is hard for a human being in the 20th century to forgive such a individual but in time we learn that such an individual has been cursed by god himself to roam this world as a test ..god tests us in various ways.. may be forgiving the most toxic human mind called a narcissist can lead to a legacy of a greater and stronger future generation ..our father in heaven is a very merciful being, like father like children... forgive those who have sinned aganist you,walk away and never look back..
That's a great verse from Matthew. When my prayers were finally answered about what I was suffering " from " the Lord opened my eyes to the covert narcissist. As I began to study with others on this demon, one of the first verses was the one you shared. They are dogs and swine.Also emotional vampires. Nothing of their persona is genuine. They grow to mimic the authentic behavoir and emotions of others to deceive.
This has actually been the most profound video I have seen on narcissism, because it explains exactly what is going on in my heart. I have prayed for God to let his will be known because I can no longer trust my own will. For years and years I was praying for him to show me the truth, when he did and I could see clearly I didn’t know what to do, I gave it to him. Thank you for this video. I know that no matter how many times I want to believe that Gods only will would be for him to be saved by Christ and our family to heal… he works in many different ways, and I am trusting him more every day.
Wow. 😳😳 Just came across this video, one of the best I've EVER watched. THANK YOU sister! Being estranged of my own narcissistic mother and also my own adult son (24) who was raised Christian but now lives with her turning his back on us, this is just confirmation to what was my experience also. JESUS CHRIST will heal all our personal wounds SOON, no more tears in heaven! MARANATHA 🙏👰💖
2 Timothy 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Did the KJV tell you to sub satanic secular music like Led Zeppelin and friends?
Facts
Non Christians will not understand the Bible references they will take lightly Gods word.
It is their loss
Paul is a false apostle. Revelation 2:2. Christ said that. Who do you follow?
@@mariankeller5852 nonchristians we’re more than likely Christian at one time, they know the Bible well, they just got fed up with all the hypocrisy, especially from so called Christians like you!
Sitting at the lawyers office now. Your videos have given me the courage and knowledge to leave my marriage after 13 years of abuse! Thank you for your work! God Bless you! Thank you, thank you, thank you! 😊
Prayers to help and do not give up.
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Hopefully you saw her video on how to win in court against a narcissist!
every single time when I prayed for him..or for our relationship to get better...GOD never failed to reveal the truth...HE answered my prayer-to run. everytime I refused, HE revealed it again and again and again and I had no choice to understand that GOD was actually answering my prayers. So I ended it....while in separation, I still have hope...bur AGAIN-God showed me the answer-my narc seeked revenge instead of taking the space for reflection and
give me space heal.
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name. Pray lord send angels to free me from all witchcraft,free me from all lies of the enemy and pull down all strongholds effecting my mind in Jesus name.
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Narcs never apologize because they never see their issues.
Also, Narcs change on the daily….big swings in “moods” so you can forgive when someone wrongs you, but with a Narc you’d be challenged to do so daily….
Thank you SO much for talking about this topic. I am 58 yrs old, was raised by a diagnosed Malignant Narcissist/Sociopathic Mother. I am her scapegoat firstborn child. The abuse from her was crippling! Christian people throw the scriptures at me, like a sword, Honor thy Father and Mother, so that you will live a prosperous long life. I have severed all ties with her, as she goes out of her way to destroy me, sing my adult son to join her in mocking me. I have been in such pain, and I pray that God helps me understand. You are spot on with your Bible reference to Jacob and Laban. I feel such freedom, and now you’ve given me scripture to back it up! God bless you!
You are exactly right, many scriptures get misquoted. To honor one's father and mother simply means to live your life in such a manner that any normal parents would be honored by your lifestyle. But, please don't give up on Jesus just because some Christians misuse His words. Bless you Laurie Syme.
We aren't to disrespect them by honoring them just for the fact, they are Gods children and your mom, chosen by God.
Because YOU represent God and what a true Christian looks like. That's it.
Other than that, boundaries. You do NOT have to have her in your life. Period.
❤️
@@canabsk2179 Amen! Well said ✔️🥰
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name.
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This scripture really helped me...
Matthew 12:46-50
While he yet talked to the people, behold, his mother and his brethren stood without, desiring to speak with him.
47 Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee.
48 But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren?
49 And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!
50 For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.
My husband is Narcissist going on Psycopath. He tried to strangle me twice, break my ribs and then blatently lied in court and to everyone and completely escaped conviction!!! I was hoping he would wake up but
Matthew 7:6
“Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.”
I have been trampled on by my Narc husband and his Narc parents and family for 3 years. Its enough for me. He can get lost!!!!!
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name.
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You better run for your life!!
God bless you, Shaneen! I needed your explanation! I’m ending a 36 year marriage to a malignant narcissist who claims to be a Christian. This whole experience has been extremely confusing. Thank you for clarity.
I feel for you my re relationship was 3324 and marriage and seven dating and during the seven year dating. There were so many red flags even up to my marriage I’ve actually asked him to marry me because it was getting ridiculous and it turned out to be a horrible union and unfortunately I stayed in it for my kids which I shouldn’t have done because they suffered as well so you’ll get through it it will take time it’s been three years since my divorce but really only nine months no absolutely no contact so lemonade in my email laminated them off the phone social media everything and the kids are finally growing and feeling better and so am I I still think about them every day but the more I think about him I’m reminded of all the negativity and that there could never be a reunion between us reconciliation between us
You can but you will be going against God's will which is found in his book. 1. You are not to sue a brother but take it before the church.
2. Narcissistic behavior doesn't qualify for divorce. 3. If you don't think he's saved and you are, then you are supposed to stay with him to save the marriage. The unbeliever is sanctified by the believer. 1Corinthians 7:14. 4. You made a vow till death do you part.
5. Peter explains in 1Peter 3 that a woman is to have a meek and quiet spirit and win her husband not with the bible but by her chaste conversation even if he speaks badly of you or treats you poorly. Wives are to obey their husbands in everything. Now obviously if he tells you to rob a bank you can't do that. 6. Pray for him and don't give up on him. 7. Your reward will come from Jesus at his coming. 8. Read 1Peter 3 over and over every day in a King James Bible. 9. Not obeying your husband is blasphemy of God's word.
10. Read 1Peter 4:12-14. Too many divorces. If you EVER loved him love him now. Shift the focus on to him and not how you are treated. Jesus did not defend himself but submitted himself to his Father.
I've heard of several men change when their wives respected and loved and obeyed their husbands even though they felt unloved or treated unfairly. Maybe your husband is a jerk. Love him anyway. That's what God wants you to do. Now if there is physical abuse separate from him.
@@jerrylisby5376 where are the scriptures on the husbands role in marriage in you’re comment?
@@oceandove be more specific. not sure what you are asking. Do you mean if a man is saved? She seemed to think he wasn't because she said he claims to be a Christian. I don't know if she is saved. But I gave biblical advice on what to do to. save the marriage if possible.
@@oceandove Her husband is not in this thread so I can't give him scripture. If you personally want to know what role for husbands I can give them if you want.
YOU HAVE BEEN A ANSWER TO MY PRAYERS, I AM SO IMPRESSED WITH YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING OF NARCISSISM, GOD IS GOING TO REVEAL EVERY HIDDEN AND VILE THING OF THE EARTH BEFORE HIS DAY!!!!!!!!
Yes, He will 🙏🏽
VERY HELPFUL,THANK YOU🙏
I'm a man & experienced living with a female covert narcissist for over 23 years. I didn't even know what that was. Men experience this as well but not much is discussed about it. She would constantly gaslight me telling me everything was my fault. She threated to move out & actually did & while she was gone I felt such peace that I hadn't had in over 20 years. After 3 months she wanted me back I said no & filed for Divorce. The major reason I waited, I didn't want my kids growing up without a father in the home. If 70% to 80% of most marriage are filed by women & 90% if she college educated the 10% of men who file should really be explored. Thank you for your video you've done a great job. Again it has given me confirmation that I made the right choice.
Thank you very much! I really needed to hear this. I've had a hard time letting it go and accept the fact that I have to leave the relationship with the narcissist behind me. I hoped he could change because he became a Christian and got baptized. But I understand that narcissists seldom change. I will look forward now. Zero contact. God bless you from Sweden. ❤️🇸🇪
Anna-Karin Stenberg,You got a lovely smile 😊
@@jackpetersen7545 Thank You very much
You can’t make someone do anything they don’t want to do! I tried for 7 years. Not even our daughter/ family was worth it. I myself have a hard time letting go. He’s no good for me, he’s toxic & had many chances when we were together. He didn’t care! I have to leave him in my past no matter how much it hurts . Nothing I envisioned came true except out daughter 😢
I have been tormented with despair for two years since I was discarded. My ex cut me off from our little boy. I don’t want reconciliation with her, except to the point that she’ll let me see him. It’s complicated as he isn’t my biological son. But I named him, cut his umbilical cord, lay him on my chest and was his daddy for 4 years. Then- nothing. Took him from me. I feel so much pain every day. Can’t function. Crying as I write this. Having hope that there would be a miracle in her is killing me. Feeling hopeless.
@Daphne thank you so much dear. You blessed me.
@Daphne I so love the Lord’s people.
I pray things are getting better for you now.
Prayers to help and do not give up.
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ask God for the RIGHT spouse then u can have kids of your own and be filled with that joy to replace the previous pple.
In my experience you can’t reconcile. They are right and that is all they need to know. Excellent content. As someone who has no biblical relationship I really appreciate your down to earth honesty
Yes, as painful as it is some relationships have to end for good. And it is God who can turn those devastating losses into blessings. It is sometimes our walking away that opens a new door for somebody to start a relationship with God and which is the only thing that ultimately counts!
Oh this is so spot on. My husbands mother pounced on me as if I was amazing but she only cared about her own motives and son. It was so cold and cruel and calculating it is scary how these people behave. I have spent 3 years lured and surrounded by narcissists. Been horrible. My husband and his parents, abused, intimidated, mocked, abused and hated me for no reason except I entered into their den thinking they accepted me but they tried to kill me!!!! Broken ribs and left for dead while they still call themselves Christians. Its scary. God rescued me.✝️🙏🏻
I still pray for my husband and his family. But thats all I can do. To be with my husband. I will die. 😓🙏🏻✝️
well i hope u divorced him and go no contact
Bless you Darling.♡♡
I also had Narc.inlaws. when she picked us up from the hospital after our first baby miscarried...I was dizzy with anaesthetic....she spouted, ' How do you feel about losing the baby, SUSAN ' ?!
I responded... ' I don't know.'
She snapped back, ' MY SON' S JUST LOST HIS BABY' !!!
She then pulled over to a Cafe...to make sure... her son had breakfast....while we had to sit on benches ...which I kept nearly leaning back and falling from.
They both..did nothing...and ignored me most of the time.
Allll...of this treatment..just built up a profile of his parents n their Narc.ways n agendas.
It got very covertly nasty over time...placing me and our new child..in horrible circumstances so that we risked our lives.
The verse... ' a man leaves his parents to marry...and cleaves...to his wife' .....is only just starting to happen...after 26 years. Mainly cos he is studying at Uni - doing what he slways wanted to do - not his patent's choices.
Thank God....He helped me take these Narcs.down...over 6 years ago.
Never have we had...a more relaxed n peaceful life ...apart from my 'reparenting' efforts...as an X nanny - are.... N O T ....wasted. ¡¿¡
And these days...he calls me his Mentor. ♡♡
I love how you advising from a godly perspective. I've dealt with a narcissist ex-husband for 7 years. He goes to court lies all the time kept our children away from me before I used to get very stressed out, I've learned to pray for everything I live with peace .
I was just saying that many ppl don't take a biblical look at narcissists only medical. I believe it's all spiritual. in order to fully understand their role as well as your own in these circumstances you must have biblical understanding. without it we'd be forever plagued by their tactics. Be prepared 🙏🏾
AMEN, and thank you for this! It's a long story, but I know with certainty that GOD orchestrated the events that enabled my (biblically-sound) exit from my abusive marriage to a narcissist. (I had been truly committed to staying until death, as I had vowed.) During a moment of prayer about my situation, He had prepared me in advance with these exact words to my heart: "I know you don't trust HIM [husband]. [But] Trust ME." After I finally obeyed and placed my husband & marriage 100% in His hands, He almost immediately began the very painful but necessary process. And in the years since the separation & divorce, I have never looked back or regretted walking away.
This is all so true -the hard part is that you get so sucked into their web of lies-
You absolutely can, but instead of them ruining your life & tricking you…. You will be much smarter, harder and in control…. However, reconciliation with even the best intentioned narcissists… will still be upsetting, you will feel lonely, you may get a cheap gift every 20 years, you will feel like a parent & not a spouse, you will have to do all the hard labor in the relationship, , you will be disappointed a lot, and it will feel like a tugboat trying to pull the sinking Titanic to shore (guess which one you are)
Good video sis. When the Lord pulled me out of this relationship (although she was the one who filed for divorce) He appeared to me in a dream in the form of my bishop & told me not to go back. & i understood that if i go back it would be devastating. The lord also showed me that its a jezebel spirit, but when i started watching narcissistic videos i realized the traits are exactly the same. The lord also showed me the demon in my dream. After the divorce i dreamed that i was bk in my house that I lost & i confronted her, she went into one of the room & when i followed her she transformed into a demon 😈more than 20 ft tall. It was looking down at me & was very ugly. I said to it I'm in control now & the dream ended. It's seven yrs now since the divorce & the lord has kept me because his will is that we don't remarry after divorce according to
Luke ch 16 vs 18
Romans ch 7 vs 2-3
1 Corinthians ch 7 vs 10-11
1 Corinthians ch 7 vs 39
I know now that not every relationship there can be reconciliation.
Hi Bertram, I love how God guided you and protected you through your dream. He is so good.
Do u still talk to her at all?
@@warrior-111 no i don't talk to her because its important that we go no contact. She has also remarried & lives in my apartment that the court gave to her with her new husband.
Did you try praying for her
My brother was so empathetic and gifted as a child.....now he I'd a full blown narcissist. Violent, rage full, 😳 God please 🙏 touch him.
God told me to keep almost no contact with my narcissist ex. Which is not exactly what I wanted to hear since we have two kids together. But God has a better plan for me 🙏🏼❤️
I read these chapters and whoa!!! Such revelations! Thank you for this enlightenment of Laban’s character. What stands out to me is Gen 30:27
Laban was involved in divination that revealed his blessings were directly related to having Jacob in his life.
Divination opens up portals of demonic entranceways!
Excellent. I'm beginning to looking at Biblical figures in a whole new light now. Thanks.
Thank you Bee! I'm glad it was helpful!
Ephesians 6:12
King James Version
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Please pray for my heart and mind to be renewed because I am mentally failure due to a narcissistic person. I never knew such people existed. But now I want to move on at any cost.
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name.
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If you want more prayers just let me know.
@@teresanum278 I badly want to become a new person again. I want to forget the old
I really needed to hear this today. I am in the center of a divorce that has taken almost 2 years and it's still on going.... my heart has never been so shattered...
God bless you. You are the only one explaining narcissistic personality through the Bible and it really make sense. Is as if have never know God’s scriptures. Amen 🙏
YOU ARE TELLING THE TRUTH. THE REST ARE LOVERS OF MONEY OR PAIN PIMPS..I STICK WITH SHANEEN 100%>THEY CLAIM CHRIST, YET NO FRUIT OF SCRIPTURE, NO CHANGE FOR THOSE WALKING ALONE THUR THIS. ALL OPINIONS, NO CHANGE IN SOUL. THEY HAVE FANS ONLY
Kris Reece is really good too. She is a Christian counselor who was married to a narc. She lived it, so she understands perfectly, but counsels from a Biblical perspective.
Appreciate this video. My experiences came to light not more than 2 weeks ago. I finally got the answers I was (not) looking for. I am all about reconciliation, even going as far as helping my soon to be ex wife reconcile with those she had drama and tension with. Only in the end to be turned into the scapegoat and discarded. Yet I still sought reconciling. I know she cannot give me that nor closure, I will have to find it for myself. Our bond will become undone and I will become closure to my authentic self. Thank you for this video and hope for all those out there they find healing and peace.
This is brilliant. Thank you for this powerful video. My sister at 57, perfectly fits the Narcissistic behaviour pattern. She has abused, lied, blamed my mother and all our family for her life failures. She professes godly living but is so abusive. We have tried and tried but the line has had to be drawn. Thank you, thank you.
Thank you for this wisdom that is needed in the Christian community.
You're so welcome Gloria! God bless you! 🙏🏽😊💕
We pray for our enemies as is written , intercede to the intercesor Jesus! And we pray that these things be loosed from them to see their sins and repent to God! Gods will be done!
In the beginning God said, It is not good for man to be alone, later in Proverbs it says, Better to live in the wilderness than with an angry and contentious woman….at this point I’ll take the wilderness 😱🙏🏻
In summary: The bible tells us something different than reconciling with a narcissist. It says after confronting them yourself first, then confronting them again with another person with you who has credibility around them and then going to the church to confront them next with no change in their behavior as result of all that effort then you must treat them like a stranger who is for example hoping to collect more taxes from us regardless of the nature any previous relationship with them. Which is why both sisters Leah and Rachael chose to treat their own biological father Laban like just another tax collector while deciding to with their husband Jacob move as far away from Laban as they could. Am I ever glad to have the privilege of being able to live in a modern nation called Canada where women have more rights than what LAban was offering his own wives and all of the younger members of his family. Who am I to judge anyone who is surviving somehow while living under that kind of oppression? I like the example from the bible given since the Hebrew word Laban means white. White as in white tomb only.
I just found your videos a few days ago. You must be fulfilling your calling because you are amazing and clearly share the experiences of someone who has recovered from narcissistic abuse. I was searching for biblical justification to walk away after 30 years of riding this circular train to crazyville. I look forward to the free training video you have gifted your listener. God Bless you and Thank you so much.
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name. Pray lord send angels to free me from all witchcraft,free me from all lies of the enemy and pull down all strongholds effecting my mind in Jesus name.
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Wow - thank you for bringing a new light to the story of Laban and Jacob. And for the wise lesson the last three or four minutes! He is not only the God of multiplication, restoration and redemption, but also carries a sword of division! Jesus didn’t come to bring peace, but a sword! 🗡 A sword that would separate family members. I only wish there was a case in the Bible concerning an abusive spouse in marriage. Then our Godly counsel would have an example to refer to. The Godly council I have received, says that I must remain in my marriage. After all, God does separate the sheep from the goats, heaven from hell, & sin from the garden of Eden, and your example of Lot having to leave Sodom and Gomorrah; he was separated from his wife when she looked back!
THIS IS JUST WHAT I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR.
My toxic relationship is with a sister, and father. I was obligated to my father I was the only one left he trusted. Sister out of the family over 20 yrs for
Dangerous behavior. With a Merry Christmas message I had to open this door again. Because my father was in failing health. For one year, we tried only looking forward never back because it’s only bad back there. It was very very costly. I think I knew it the entire time but I had no way around it. There was going to be funeral plans, memorials, burial further family. Estate so much you can’t do when your at war with someone. The cost the painful is trying to introduce family who is. Then later yanked away. I struggle we’re see all that is left. Toxic doesn’t even describe her. Nobody knows on the outside gets it.
My mother used to tell me cutting her off was cruel- but going no contact is the only way of protection.
I hear you. Bless
The word persists really says it all. There should be easily recognizable evidence of change. I am praying for my friend. I am keeping boundaries.
This was so amazing every single video has brought growth in my life. This was so needed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and bringing clarity. God bless.
Thank you miztruth! You are so welcome.
Spiritual biblical i mean is the only way to healing
Very similar to my awakening. I only started being exposed to literature on the subject after the marriage ended and I suffered the “narcissistic discard and smear campaign “.
But I’ve learned how to keep enforcing boundaries for my own sense of peace.
She tried to cut me off from my 2 sons after discarding me. I was isolated for 9 months with no one to help. God had different plans for me and now i see my children. Shes vicious, but she cant fight Gods will. I wrote a book and have youtube channel. My ministry is starting. Praise Jesus 👏 and thank you Shaneen for your videos.
Thank you. I’m in the divorce process now. I’m at peace!!
Thank you for this video. Narcissistic abuse is one of the most confusing hurtful things I have been through. Thanks for sharing this with biblical perspective. The church does need to be aware of this they do pressure you to stay with these people more than most because they get so hung up on divorce being a sin. When the person you are with are clearly sinning and were are stuck. Just remember God divorced Israel because of there hardened hearts. Just think about that. I'm not promoting divorce but I'm not promoting staying in abusive marriages eirther.
I appreciate your coverage of the narcissist topic from a biblical perspective. Thank you
You are so welcome!
Thank you and I thank God for using you in such way. I also thank God for opening my eyes because I was so confused, so not well physically. I poured my heart and my mind into this relationship. After 8 years to find out it was all lies. God kept me in my right mind.
I'm so glad to hear God kept you in your right mind, despite all you've been through. He is so faithful. 🙏🏽
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name.
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God almighty I believe wanted me to forgive
the narcissists that was apart of my life, I also
believe God want me to stay away from her !
It’s been hard at times because she’s married
to my son! And they have children, God is showing me the path I must take now . God had saved me from more heart ache. I thank
God he show me what a narcissist is ! Thank you for video very educational God bless you always in Jesus amen
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name. Pray lord send angels to free me from all witchcraft,free me from all lies of the enemy and pull down all strongholds effecting my kidz mind in Jesus name.
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I often wonder how people like yourself are able to move on so well after a narc relationship, to the point of having a YT channel. Is it because the abuse wasn’t lifelong? I live like a hermit, but am able to write comments that hopefully redirect people to Jesus. But having my own channel? Even if I was successful leaving a lifetime of narcissistic relationships? I just don’t ever see myself being able to do that. God bless you & this ministry! It’s very much needed. ✝️
I don't mean this in a rude way, but you won't make much progress if you hold onto that attitude. Pray daily for Jesus Christ to grow your faith in Him, to help you forgive everyone you haven't already, and believe in The Lord's healing power. I've been abused basically my whole life; I feel like a literal narcissist magnet. Even though (up until I found Jesus) I've had horrible PTSD, have gone about two months in a row without sleeping, trying to take my Iife daily, having nearly constant meltdowns and losing my mind from the trauma, God has healed me tremendously over time. I found Jesus Christ at the end of 2020, and even though He immediately took away the depression, suicide attempts, and other issues, it was only until several months ago did He finally make my meltdowns end for good, and I've noticed significant healing after my constant praying since 2020/early2021. My PTSD isn't anywhere near as bad as it was, but it is still something I'm working through with Jesus Christ. The more I prayed, and the more my faith grew, the faster I healed. I just got out of a relationship with a narcissist less than 3 days ago (my first boyfriend since finding Jesus), and God had done such a good job on me, that I didn't shed one tear when my seemingly perfect boyfriend finally had his mask slide off to reveal a selfish monster. I even kept my word for the first time ever, when I told him I wouldn't reply to his crazy texts anymore-- he's texted my 50 times over the last 3ish days, and I haven't said a single word to him, which amazes me, because I ALWAYS let the narcissists reel me back in after I'd tell them I was done replying to their abuse. I think it took me less than five minutes to get over him and get back to laughing again. Now I'm considering making a video talking about it, so I might be able to warn others and save them some pain by using my testimony as an example. Have faith in The Lord, and focus on The Kingdom of God, and you will have your heart's desires. I'm praying for your healing and peace, and for your Holy dreams to come true. God bless you in Jesus' name❤
I could never,ever stay with my wife after what she has done. Adultery and the mental and physical abuse I got , especially as a man was incredibly hard , especially getting help in this delicate situation.
Adultery is just bad in my book and in the Bible from what I have learned.
My Narrccist was a Covert Narrccist, one of the absolute worst kinds of Narrccist.
At first I wanted to save the marriage of 30 years but after repeated attempts to get her help and to stop?
Even a court order didn't stop her.
I had my home , family dog and myself blessed by 4 pastors from my church because I feared her spirit was still haunting my home & life .
Since then somethings have gotten better , some new revelations on this matter have come to light in my favor , we will see.
God has a plan .
I do not trust this person at all. Just too much lying all the time.
Even swearing on her Dad's grave with a lie?
Narrccism is like a witchcraft spell that's hard to get rid of.
Well...God has my life in his hands now, not the Jezabel Spirit.
I only trust God now.
Jezabel is about to fall on her own sword .
I believe God intervened at that last minute and dragged the matter out for a reason.
Now I know why.
To expose her.
Thank you God ...thank you.
"Oh my goodness... it all makes sense." Yes. Shaking my head... shaking my head... shaking my head. We can spend a lifetime of drama and trauma and never understand. Both of us had toxic traits and baggage from our upbringing. But, when I learned about this it woke me up, as a Christian person. Now... it's been years of tip toeing around and strategizing to not get caught in the web of verbal assault and manipulation that has effected children, family friends, and even others within my professional environment. In some cases you have to try and clean up your reputation and image because of what others were told and how they now perceive you. Like a weirdo. I certainly have had my share of toxicity and personal struggles, but in my heart of hearts, I want to continue to change and grow, and not have these toxic character defects. But, both sides don't always want the same thing, or are noticeably making the same efforts to allow God to change them. You can tell by when they show up after several years, or when you hear of the gossip that they still spread with family members, that they haven't changed and they are still "cutting you up" and blaming you everything. Sadly, you sometimes feel like you have to live a life almost underground, because when you try to make positive change and publicly share positive things you're doing in life, they seem to turn up the heat on assaulting your character through messages via others. I can go on and on. But, thank you for this video. I'm hurt, but also reminded of how real this is. Please pray for me. Thank you
So what your relating is how you wish toxic people would view your reputation the right way. God finally helped me understand that you can’t control them or how your viewed by toxic people. Like pearls before swine. They will always trample you no matter how much you have changed.
I really hope that one day you are inspired enough to write a book based on your videos. Every video of yours reminds me just how much God loves us. Thank you once again for speaking words that heal so much.
There’s a lot of shame and disappointment in having selected a narcissist as a spouse. My narcissistic husband has abandoned me after 16 years. I am grateful for the peace and fee like God has released me. But I carry a lot of shame as I didn’t broadcast the state of my marriage so it has come as a surprise to family and I feel judged that I am not pining over him, doing all I can do to reconcile.
Although I'm the one who left in my case, I can relate to a lot of this. It is hard when people don't understand--you get tired of feeling like you have to explain & justify yourself to those around you. Sometimes we can explain the situation and they will finally get it (or at least not judge), but most of the time we have to learn to live with the fact that there are those who never will get it--and ultimately that's okay, because we answer to God and not to them.
Brilliant video.I have family members pressuring me to reconcile with a toxic sibling. I am tired of explaining myself only to having my feelings diminished by these family members more interested in playing happy families than seeing my own need to set boundaries and limit contact in order to preserve my own happiness and wellbeing.
My husband sent this video to me..implying I’m the one who is a narcissist..yet you describe my husband to a T!
He was telling you without telling you that he’s a narc
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name. Pray lord send angels to free me from all witchcraft,free me from all lies of the enemy and pull down all strongholds effecting my mind in Jesus name.
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Wow
They do not hear a word you say let alone know how to be loving and compassionate for someone else's well-being
No I will never go back! My ex is like the devil! I’m enjoying my new life, with my family and friends once again! And I have a awesome church and Pastors too!
God’s Love is what I need and Love It Amen
This was great thank you! Until I watched this I was concerned that maybe God was not okay with my separation from my Narcissistic parents. Now I can see that it was God's will. It's been 8 years and they recently started trying to contact me through YT. This has really helped thank you again. God bless you sister.
30 plus years with Laban (sister-in-law), I am so okay with God’s plan to put up that wall. I pray my brother is strong enough to realize he is being oppressed, mental abuse, and the injustice of keeping him away from family that truly cares about him because in my opinion she is identical to Laban and will never change.
Ty soooooo much for you videos!! I lost my Son, DIL & 3 beautiful grandchildren to narcissism. It's been 8 looooong painful years but now...FINALLY...I know that ABBA took me out of the relationship with the narcissist...but it cost me GREATLY. I pray for their deliverance constantly.
I'm waiting for God to orchestrate my escape from my very toxic and controlling elderly mother and the rest of my family. I'm in a waiting period. Every time I try to get out of here I meet a dead end. It makes me question whether or not God wants me here for good. But He sees how much I'm suffering. So I must believe that He will get me out of here when the time is right.
never !! you can forgive, but never take these evil ppl back !!
Amazing. That’s the heart of God. For God so love the world. Let’s keep praying for their deliverance
27 years married to a Narciss I didn’t know what one was, but I figured it out. Wish I would’ve known earlier.
Excellent teaching. I love that the Word of God shows us EVERYTHING we need for life! We can look back into scripture and see that NOTHING is new under the sun. While we will NEVER get away from wicked people God teaches how to deal with them. You do a great job at this Shaneen. You are gifted. Thank you!
My father was toxic to me. And my younger brother whom I was close to when young, turned out to be just like my Dad when older. I no longer have the close relationship with my brother, and my father is dead.
These must be the best words someone has said in a long time. -- Thank you for this Shaneen!
Shaneen.. Thank you so much for that wonderful Video! A badly needed reassurance that it IS OK to close the door even on toxic family. Its very hard when you want to have a loving relationship, and no matter how much you overlook, and silently forgive, it never happens, and you are always the one blamed and wrongly accused..
Thank you for the Biblical perspective, so important and reassuring. God Bless your great work!
Jacob did give Laban many, many chances, patience, perseverence, understanding and much more. In today's figures, twenty years work would amount to about one million dollars and yet at the end when Jacob should have freely been given what he worked hard and honestly for, the dreaded Laban said, no these things are all mine. Greed blinded Laban. And so many other things, as you say, the extension of people as part of himself instead of treating people as the human beings that they are. God hates many things but as you explain, the Bible gives us many good options that are righteous. Keep doing good. God bless
U r wonderful & so anointed at ur profession!! Thank you! God bless u!! ♥️
Thank you Renee. God bless you too. 🙏🏽💕
Reconcile? I'm surprised I could forgive. She committed adultery, falsely-convicted, completely destroyed my relationship with my children, lost everything. ..I mean everything. Forgive is the easy part. Reconcile?? No way José👌
How can reconcilable with the devil? They want you to grovel when they are in the wrong. Don’t give them the pleasure … all you do from experience is feed their addiction
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus. Pray I loose all trauma and stress from my heart in Jesus name. Pray lord send angels to free me from all witchcraft,free me from all lies of the enemy and pull down all strongholds effecting my mind in Jesus name.
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Thank you for these videos. I've only found two people on YT who speak about narcissists in godly terms; so many excoriate them as deliberately evil, which I just can't willingly believe.... But on the other hand I've found it really confusing that God asks me to forgive and practice mercy, but has also led me *away* from praying for the narcissist. SO confusing. Your videos have given me a possible explanation, and I appreciate that.
As a coach you do know these are the make up of three principalities Jezebel , Leviathan and anti christ and like you said they are blinded and reprobate mind and believing their lies their conscience is seared with a hot iron ! ,
So glad to hear someone speak the truth based on the word, not tckling the ears of the listener, because the story of Issac and Leban is the very example if how God will promote severing ties with abusive, manipulative narcissistic people. I cut ties with someone I knew for20 plus years because they took me for granted. And soon to cut ties with someone I mentored who saw my kindness as a way to axploit and abuse my actions. I believe we are being abused on a global level and the season of division will be seen soon.
Love your cannel! I wish I had found it sooner! It took me years of doubt and pain and crying to a) understand, and b) accept that forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same! And that I was not an evil person for running from my narcissistic family!
After being intensively stalked by a narcissist over 15 yrs, I would need to recover morally and spiritually, plus restart my life again, all my relationships and career were totalled. I remember being warned, at the beginning of the nightmare, that a narcissist could destroy my life, and I wondered how could anybody destroy my life, my career… well, I may witness today that it is possible and that it happened to me.
This is one of the best, most healing teachings I have ever heard. Thank you so very much for bringing clarity to these difficult relationships!!❤️
Excellent content and insight, love how you use the Bible as a reference and a point of validation.
Thank you!
Thank you so much for a video where you show an example of a narcissistic relationship from the Bible, and how God worked through those individuals.
I pray for this woman I know from Church who I liked for a long time that she is healed from her narcissism or whatever is plaguing her.
Thank you for this video. This is my life how you explained. I am looking for a way out Bc my 25 year marriage and abuse has been too much. He’s sucking the life out of me and I’m constantly ill with something. All the controlling, gaslighting, manipulation, threats and lies. I’ve had it. Unfortunately I noticed he was a narcissist too many years late. He controls the finances and it’s hard to get out. But all and all thank you again for this video and other videos. Keep them coming. Stay safe peace and love. 🙏🏼💕
give it to GOD, i know this is an old post
God opened the door for me to get out of my marriage and I ran to it. After I left I found out about narcissism. It was a kick in the gut for me. I’m putting my life back together now. This video helped me understand things better. I hope you find the peace your heart is aching for.
You are a treasured gift to the body of Christ Jesus
Thank you.
Thank you! 🥰. God bless you. 🙏🏽
Thank you Thank you Thank you !!!! For this informative and biblical message and bringing this misunderstood topic to light. So much damage has been done to many in abusive marriages and narcissistic spouses enabled by misled believers. May your clear and concise message open the eyes of many who have been misinformed. God bless 💜🙏🏽
When I was in my early teens, my "Christian" mother, who was a Sunday school teacher openly said that she lived in a world of her own (her own version of reality). She also said she did not agree with the story of the prodigal son and the young man should receive nothing because he left his father. I moved out in my mid 20's and my mother disinherited me......
I saw a person committing suicide who damaged me 22 years ago with NEVER ONCE confessing sin. I always made God my lawyer and this was the answer of God.
Thank you! Your video has helped tremendously. Speaks to my cries out in prayers, to move forward in marriage, long suffering …. Exodus 14:14.
I'm so glad to hear that. God bless you! 🙏🏽
Thank you for clarity. ❤️
Thank you mam . Iam very much blessed and encouraged from your word. 🙏 God bless you continuously to encourage men and women those who are living in toxic relationships.
Thank you so much! Bless you too. 🙏🏽🕊️
That was good I needed to hear this
Thank you for helping me. I am getting ready to transition in the next few weeks and will watch the video you have prepared for this. Also thanks for helping so many Christians who try so hard to follow the biblical teachings. We can learn from our trials, forgive, set boundaries and move on. I think we can heal when we are out of this situation. I have found it impossible to do so while remaining in it. Also, I really believe that God is now freeing me, like it’s finally OK. God puts individuals (you) in our life to help us to navigate our way through. Bless you
I needed this so much
That was a REALLY good teaching. I needed to hear this because my current narcissist is the pastor in a brand new church I have been serving in. But it keeps looking like God is leading me there, yet the pastors passive aggressiveness is clear as day
If God is leading you there, then He must have a purpose that outweighs the pain of being under a narcissistic pastor. I pray He would guide you and give you much wisdom and grace. God bless you. 🙏🏽💕
If you know this ..don't get too upclose and personal with him. Maybe God lead you there to teach you something but if the pastor lacks integrity, I'd leave .
Thank you I needed to hear this