Great video as always Patricia. Regarding how to help clients feel their emotions rather than squelch/banish/suppress/dissociate from, etc. I always like the phrase: "Name it to tame it. Feel it to heal it". Or of course Non-Violent Communication (NVC) to aid with emotional expression/vocalization in an assertive yet non-violent way. Have you ever found that creating the "portrait" with the client about their anger has inadvertently led to dysregulation or re-activation (I guess we actually DO want them to get activated, just in a controlled, safe space like the therapy session where they can see the choices they have in how they respond. So the portrait thing in ISTDP sounds like it actually has its roots in a kind of _exposure_ _therapy_ . Kind of like "imaginal exposure" for OCD or "cognitive rehearsal" (but with emotions rather than thoughts).
In ISDP we help patents get in touch with feelings and impulses in order to unlock the unconscious - not to simply expose them and desensitize them. It is a very different process with a different goal, to get to the unconscious drive of symptoms and suffering. By building capacity and removing defense prior to portraits, dysregulation should be avoided.
Wonderful advice, but how do you let the person you're angry with, know you're angry? If you're busy getting in touch with the feeling, how is that feeling communicated to them, if something they did triggered it in the first place? I know that unless I throw a tantrum, my girlfriend doesn't take my feelings seriously.
Experiencing emotion and expressing it are two different things. I would not express emotion until you can own it and express it in a calm and direct manner. Having a tantrum is discharge. If your girlfriend only responds to regressive outbursts, it is an unhealthy relationship. Never trade in your self respect to appease another.
Such an important point, to really make this defence explicit.
Great video, appreciating all of these thanks Patricia
Such a good reminder Patricia, thank you.
Great metaphor of either swallowing emotions or spitting them out. Well as opposed to sitting with them (or maybe even tasting them)?
Indded. Just sit with, experience, and get acquainted with feelings in order to derive whatever energy and information is contained in them.
Great video as always Patricia. Regarding how to help clients feel their emotions rather than squelch/banish/suppress/dissociate from, etc. I always like the phrase: "Name it to tame it. Feel it to heal it". Or of course Non-Violent Communication (NVC) to aid with emotional expression/vocalization in an assertive yet non-violent way.
Have you ever found that creating the "portrait" with the client about their anger has inadvertently led to dysregulation or re-activation (I guess we actually DO want them to get activated, just in a controlled, safe space like the therapy session where they can see the choices they have in how they respond. So the portrait thing in ISTDP sounds like it actually has its roots in a kind of _exposure_ _therapy_ . Kind of like "imaginal exposure" for OCD or "cognitive rehearsal" (but with emotions rather than thoughts).
In ISDP we help patents get in touch with feelings and impulses in order to unlock the unconscious - not to simply expose them and desensitize them. It is a very different process with a different goal, to get to the unconscious drive of symptoms and suffering. By building capacity and removing defense prior to portraits, dysregulation should be avoided.
@@patriciacoughlinphd1852 very good answer, thank you
Wonderful advice, but how do you let the person you're angry with, know you're angry? If you're busy getting in touch with the feeling, how is that feeling communicated to them, if something they did triggered it in the first place? I know that unless I throw a tantrum, my girlfriend doesn't take my feelings seriously.
Experiencing emotion and expressing it are two different things. I would not express emotion until you can own it and express it in a calm and direct manner. Having a tantrum is discharge. If your girlfriend only responds to regressive outbursts, it is an unhealthy relationship. Never trade in your self respect to appease another.