In order to encourage more discusssions around experiences like mental wellness, feelings of loneliness is prevalent in all of us. This is true especially when you find it difficult to share your thoughts to others. That said, we encourage you to share your experiences related to this topic below. Do also share this video with your friends too, so they can better understand you.
what should I think about myself since I still want to be a highly intelligent person even after knowing their struggles due to my perfectionism... =")
Thank you for your comment! Would you be able to share more about what you mean by "lonely in a crowded place"? Do you feel that this is because of your intelligence as described in the video or because of something else?
@@Psych2go it's basically a term to describe someone who isn't able to connect with others in the room. Your nature is so counter intuitive to the atmosphere in that even though it's full of people, you still feel like your alone. You have to experience it to understand it. I'm generally an outgoing and social person, but even then when I talk to others it's sometimes a major disconnect
A song lyric from one of Mac Miller's songs hits so hard for me and it's the same thing. "Sometimes I get lonely, not when im alone. But it's more when im standing in crowds that im feeling the most on my own."
Another thing to consider is that more intelligent people tend to be more neurotic and prone to issues like social anxiety, which furthers the feeling of isolation from their peers.
I was always told that I was stupid because I struggled in school. I later found out I had ADHD at 15 and Autism at 20. I was a child with special needs who never got any extra help in school. Which is why I ended up dropping out of high school. But as I've gone through life and have met so many different people I often find the same reaction when people meet me and get to know me. They're in awe, they say I'm intelligent, I have an amazing mind, I'm creative and such. Which I knew I was more of a creative individual with a mind that was always what people referred to as "extra" or "too much" but I always told them thank you but no I failed school, so I can't possibly be intelligent. It wasn't until it really hit me one day. I was spending my day off from work watching documentaries and studying about something in history that fascinated me. That's how I chose to spend my free time. I was never into TV or mind numbing distractions. I always liked to absorb information. I brought up how I was feeling to my psychiatrist and she had told me that I was definitely in fact intelligent. She noticed it from the beginning back when I was 16 coming to see her, now 24 still seeing her to this day. If I would have had this video back in high school or growing up I think it would have saved me a lot of negative self talk. Maybe I wouldn't have been so hard on myself. Saw what I was truly capable of accomplishing. So thank you for putting this out there. I hope it helps someone else realize the true intelligence that they hold within themselves.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. We're always grateful when people watch our videos and they relate with the topic we discuss. It's amazing how you had the insight and the awareness of your intelligence, though it came later in your life. If you don't mind sharing with us, how are you doing now? Do you feel that you have the appropriate resources that can help you thrive?
Everyone has their own strength and weakness. I'm sure your intelligence is something that even school syllabus cant define it. I can feel you are amazing person. Not everyone can be creative
Thank you for sharing this, when I was younger one of my teachers also thought there was something mentally wrong with me and tried to hold me back a year because I wasn't "interacting with the other children" and had "odd behaviours"... I also stopped going to school for a few weeks one year because I felt misunderstood and so different... I almost dropped out but my mother was always there supporting me and constantly telling me "there is nothing wrong with you, you are a beautiful young woman"... I ended up going back to school and graduating in the top 1% of my school and now I'm currently in college with a 3.9 GPA. My mom and I found out JUST LAST YEAR that I may be mildly autistic and it explains so much of my upbringing... never give up on yourself and I am proud of you for your accomplishments and how far you have come. ♡
People doesn't realise this, but It's tiring when people think you should have an answer for everything, in every situation _just because you have high IQ_
I am unsure what my IQ is but I remember despite heavily struggling in departments like math and social skills sometimes I can just go on long tangents about a certain topic one time for example I was bored and decided to try to prove a taco was a sandwich to my parents (know its not it was just to see how they react) and had counter arguments points take aways i had all that just off the top of my head for example I claimed the idea of a sandwich was the very reason other items where not considered a sandwich as the brain would heavily categorize certain food items even if their structure is very similar and that the shells acted as a sort of Bread substitute in place for a sandwich and most sandwiches are described to have layers of food, meat cheese lettuce yet sandwiches have the very same set up. My point stands your honor
IQ doesn’t actually test how “smart” you are, it tests how well you are able to remember things. An example of something you would see on an IQ test would be like “what is the capital of Vietnam?” You wouldn’t see something like a complex math problem.
This has been my struggle. I tried to fit in and be interested with others but it's hard for me to just pretend so I keep pushing people away from me. I've been betrayed a lot of times before for giving too much empathy and attention to those I trusted. I have my own world and I'm so worried that I might end up living alone forever.
I 1000% understand how you feel, especially looking back at the old friends that are no longer there. It’s best to focus on our well-being, even when engaging with someone else. But sadly our world has become digitized and discombobulated after 2020. It’s hard to know who to rely on.
@@Psych2go well... All my classmates are [and i don't wanna insult them but they are] stupid Like... I can't have conversations with them, we don't habe anything to talk about, and even if we do... They are simple and i can't express my ideas I go to our school psychologist and she notice that i have a lot of creative ideas and she was impressed by the complexity in simplicity Older people are smarter, and they have interesting things to say, but classmates... They basic, and in my example... Yea they act like kindergartens, but there also classmates that are somewhat funni, which i like, the funni is funny, i like funni, but... I can't have deeper conversation with them sadly
This is great. Now I know I'm not alone... The hard part is convincing my family. Every thing you said in this video describes me perfectly... What's sad is that I'm now 70 and have always felt like I never fit in any where... I've seen a Therapist and she told me several times that I was so smart.. She never did help me so I quit going... Now what do I do??? This has not been an easy life for me.. I've seen different Doctors and therapist and nothing seams to work for me.. My body is so sensitive that I can't take different kinds of meds.. It sucks to be me...
Thank you for sharing something so personal to you. Though we're glad that you found the video relatable, it's unfortunate that you feel that many professional resources were not very helpful. If you could, what about therapy did you find unhelpful? Could you tell us a bit more about what you found unhelpful from doctors or therapists?
Timestamps 1). They don't fit in 0:36 2). Intelligent people need lots of stimulation 1:34 3). High level of empathy 2:28 4). Their brains process information differently 3:19 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
"high level of emathy" alright adios there's my stop like, i think i'm more.. egoistic? i guess? i don't really care about anyone, i care about my stuff. idk im lonely or i just wanna be alone or if im just ok with being isolated so much that now i get annoyed by anyone trying to interact with me. i guess
I think another one could be that intelligent people tend to have less self-esteem/confidence because they KNOW they don't know everything. So while someone who may be of less intelligence might feel more confident in themselves because they think they know everything, in comparison, I feel like intelligent people will doubt themselves and their ability to speak on different topics, knowing that they still do not know everything there is to know about the topic.
I absolutely agree; nothing is more scarier than someone who declares something with absolute, rigid and unwavering certainty. A truly smart person realise that they know just enough to know they know nothing at all. Just look at politicians all over the world.. Dumb as rocks! (sorry rocks, didn't mean to insult)
I think there was a study done with chess players that 100% backs up what you're saying here. The demonstrably best players rated themselves lower than they objectively were, and the less able players rated themselves higher. More intelligent people tend to question things more, including themselves, so consider context in a way that many others don't. I think more intelligent people are more willing to be open to the concept that they might not have everything correct right now, and they might learn new information some time in the future. Less intelligent people are more likely to be convinced that whatever they believe right now is correct, despite perhaps being able to remember occasions in the past when they got things wrong. But I could be wrong! 😅
Hope this helps. ❤ 1. They don't fit in. 2. Intelligent people need a lot of stimulation. 3. High levels of empathy. 4. Their brains process information differently.
My mother when i was a kid always told to me "You're special and so different to others. It makes proud to me and your dad" and I never understand why they said that to a lonely girl who never had luck with friends and felt like an alien until now, where a realize that i'm a intelligent person and that makes me rare around the teenagers from my classroom. I just found a gentle friend group and my ex friends aren't intoxicating my life anymore, they used to almost never include me in activities because of myself.
It's always comforting when we have a few group of friends we can be close to :) We're so happy that you have people you can connect with! What is it about the "gentle friend group" that you feel like you can connect with as opposed to your other former friends?
Now I'm definitely not the smartest person in a room, but I'm pretty intellectual and keep to myself since most people don't care/understand what I'd like to discuss. Thankfully I do like to joke around a lot too, but since I'm so empathetic, I'm very cautious about what I say. Often it's too cautious to the point where I remain quiet unless asked something. I definitely love my alone time, but contrary to the misconception, that doesn't equate to wanting to be forever alone.
@@Psych2go Hi! Well, I think about other people's feelings first. I often lean towards dark/dry humor which can come across as insensitive 😅 I just hope most people realize I'm actually very sensitive and caring.
@@arctrix765 Various topics that the general public might consider "nerdy" lol. I love to talk about anything involving psychology, philosophy, meteorology, space and time, etc.
I can‘t recall how often people told me that I‘m odd. They mostly don‘t mean it in a bad way, but with time it just starts to annoy you, because if you’re odd people aren‘t to keen on being more than just basic-level friends with you. And even if some people want to be my friends, I perceive them as totally boring (like I have nothing against them but I can tell what they will think about specific topics from miles ago). I don‘t know if I‘m highly intelligent or just weird. Either way, except for the bad grades part I can relate to everything.
Being odd or weird isn't such a bad thing! :) But yes, when we are unique or "different", it sometimes becomes a barrier to being close with people who find us quirky. Do you have other friends or colleagues that you connect with?
@@Psych2go Not really in the moment I‘m honestly pretty alone. Mostly because my only friend has a lot to deal with right now, so she doesn‘t really have time for me. But I really don‘t wanna cry about it, she has it much worse than me and I‘m not a very good friend anyway. So I‘m fine, I don‘t mind being alone that much.
Intelligence and being alone go hand in hand most cases, I've never been able to maintain more than 2-3 friends at a time and I don't have a social life but what I do know is I am constantly being told I have a beautiful mind and I am extremely intelligent. I am a bit of a polymath and I would much rather research or do something artistic with my time before going out or hanging with friends though easily, I love being alone.
@@Psych2go I love to write music, sing, and draw mostly but I have a passion for all forms such as writing poetry, dancing and even writing short stories.
Got cheated on, I didn't know he was cheating until I saw his phone got caught and kept telling me he didn't love me. I got used for 4 years, verbally abused cheated on multiple times bcoz of that I developed OCD and anxiety disorder & he doesn't even feel guilty about it. I feel totally lost and lonely as to how horrible this was for me I did so much for him. I'm only 21 and yet I can't process my life following this event 😔
Calm down and take a moment to review ur life again. Don't you think 21 is too early to quit trying??? Wake up each morning and count ur blessings, make a list of things u r grateful about. It can be anything..like u can be grateful u have eyes to see this beautiful world, u have nose to smell and many more things. Start listening to pleasant music..i am suffering from my anxiety and chronic depression so music helps me a lot. Try going out for a walk with ur pet(if u have any) or just plug in ur earbuds and walk down the lane. Watch feel good movies and eat whatever uplifts ur mood..like an Ice cream! You are just 21 and u have the whole world to conquer, you are doing great and Thank God that u came out of that toxic relationship early enough. This is not the end of the world..u will find the one who will be head over heels in love with you and will treat you like a 👑. So chin up and don't rott urself for the one who doesn't even value ur presence. Take care and God bless you😇
@@zenab3118 Thank you so much sister for your motivating words. Yes we have to be grateful for what Allah has given us we don't see those blessings in times of difficulty but with each breath Allah heals us. May Allah grant you happiness and ease all our matters ameen ❤
From past weeks I asked myself several times.. how can I be lonely when there’s billions of people.. but now I just got to know that I am intelligent 😃
I always feel lonely when I’m around people. I used tryin to fit in but I stopped because I realized that I wasted my time so I stepped back and wait. I have few people coming to me and talking to me but still feel mentally alone. I’m happy that I made a few new friends but I hate having mentally alone all the time.
We're so sorry that you feel this way. What makes you feel that you are mentally alone even when you're around other people? Do you feel that it has to do with your intelligence like in the video? Or do you think it's a little bit of everything like your hobbies, interests, etc.?
@@Psych2go yeah it was like that. I feel mentally alone when nobody actually talks to me but their friends in the class and sometimes I feel lonely because they don’t have same mindset, same interests and hobbies as mine. Sometimes I been around them, i feel not connected to people and not happy around them sometimes and I always want to be alone but not feel alone yk.
in school It was hard for me to get creative with my poems.. it would take a lot of effort but once I’m at home and I feel less out of it?! I actually feel confident and my poems are way more creative and advanced than the “poems” I used to know..
This is the exact video that resonates with me. Unfortunately our world will not back down from the internet. And it doesn’t feel any better to be alone without anyone who can relate to me.
This video definitely hits home! Sometimes I feel so different from my peers, and to them I hope it doesn’t come off as coldness or negativity, I just have a harder time connecting with people somedays.
I relate with so much of this, like 100%. Except the idea of being intelligent. I'm pretty friggin stupid. I've been told that I am. But I honestly think it's just the way I talk that makes me seem smarter than I am.
That's very interesting. Could you elaborate on what you mean by "normal" thoughts? What are some things that people would consider to be "normal" to you and what do you not like about them? Are you able to find connection with others who may share the same feeling as you?
@@Psych2go many people just want to fit in and switch to gossip every time I speak with them. Furthermore when I try to analyse the things others do or what they don't and try to stop gossiping many times it seems like they do not want to get into deeper thoughts (maybe someone didn't mean it that way) or try to solve problems they have with eatch other. Somehow what is weird is that I have problems to know if someone is a friend of mine or only kind to me (I kinda make friends all the time along the way without even knowing it) and I have very big trust issues for no reasons at all. I have two very close friends. We would talk hours about things no one else I know could really relate to. So my statement ''I just don't like people [...]'' is a bit wrong. I just don't understand many of them (Why wouldn't you just find a solution for your problems and stop talking about them? It's okay to talk about your problems but sometimes you have endless oppertunities to fix them and there is no need in my oppinion to complain over weeks.)
Damm even tho I'm not that smart I'm pretty alone but thanks to my friends being there for me and i don't feel alone anymore you might feel alone but others are alone too so you're not really alone!
If I had my way, I'd spend 80% of my time alone and only socialize when I've had a few drinks and want some entertainment. I've gradually lost interest in most "normal" people. They seem so content in their mediocrity, so confident in their opinions about everything. Most have no idea how limited their perspective is. It drains me listening to people chatter about things that have no substance.
To be honest, I always avoid acting smarter, i find being a little duller to make things better, being less aware of things can make life honestly better and more happy, because when I looked at every smart person I only ever noticed one thing, they were always sad or depressed. I thought I was wrong for thinking like this, but this video helped a lot, thanks for this helpful and informative video, keep it up. ❤
yeah true i did the same but i have this one classmate who's very smart and he seems unhappy by having to carry all the weight of the questions asked by friends,i noticed that he has to be able to answer every questions asked by his friends and he actually did answer all of it right, except for mine lfmao.I noticed that many genius (here in my social circle) are perfectionist and most are afraid of loosing the title genius which happened to this friend of mine,they will never find true meaning of happiness honestly and i think staying unnoticed is the best way.Anyways,love discussing this
They're able to observe the hypothetical situation, and after gathering statistics, can conclude that if they ask out the person they like, there is a 98 percent chance they will say no.
While I don't have an interest in philosophy over other topics (maybe because my teachers didn't make the subject interesting in high school), I can relate to some of these points. Number 2 (needing a lot of stimulation) is the most remarkable. Back in school, I had amazing grades at first because I found the classes interesting enough, but when I started playing more and more videogames my grades plummeted. Everyone told me I had the capacity to have excellent grades, but I just couldn't bring myself to get them because I wasn't getting enough stimuli from exams, studying or doing homework, and instead I was focusing more on videogames which were more stimulating. In the end, I was getting barely enough scores to pass subjects. This still happens to me to this day and it's kind of crippling because I procrastinate all the time due to lack of interest, which makes me miss valuable knowledge or lose a lot of time trying to study. Luckily I have a job that is stimulating enough on a daily basis so I can stay focused on it. I can relate with points 1 and 3 as well. I spend a lot of time alone voluntarily because I don't really fit into conversations or groups of people and socializing drains my energy rather quickly for some reason. For number 3, I always think about others first before me, which has put me into a pinch more than once, but at the same time I can imagine how the other person is feeling very clearly, which makes me try to be comforting even though I'm terrible at it. For number 4, I don't really know if I process information differently, but I sure do overthink. Sometimes I just come up with answers to conversations (mostly those involving sharing my feelings or giving an opinion) several hours after they took place because I start overthinking about them, sometimes even going into an endless loop of thought that feels more energy-draining than productive. Actually, I'm overthinking while writing this post, I keep re-reading, adding and changing sentences... Phew, better hit comment and be done with it.
I can consider myself intelligent because I think differently than anybody else. But sometimes I feel lonely a lot of how people used to treat me in school, home, etc. It caused me to have anxiety, depression, everything. I have autism as well and I used to be bullied a lot in school because people thought I was “odd” or “weird” including teachers and people where I use to work at. I’ve learned that I need friends to feel good. I’m good being alot but sometimes it gets lonely for me. 🥺😞
I love that everyone here is so supportive ❤️ We're so sorry that others ended up causing a lot of hurt in your life. How are you doing now? Do you feel that you have a good group of friends that you can connect with?
@@Psych2go I doing well in life so far. I’ve always struggled getting along with people all my life. I don’t have no support groups out here for me to connect with people. So I’m in a touch situation where I cut all the people that was toxic in my life to now just finding my self peace and seeking new genuine, positive mentor.
Truly intelligent people can develop social skills and be extremely effective when socializing. Don't let your intelligence hurt you, you can be anything you want.
I relate to this. Whatever "intelligent" means, I experienced everything you talked about in this video and proceeded to "exile" myself from, not all, but as many social interractions as possible. I've hidden myself from friends, family and others in general. Now, although I know it's not good for me since I'm suffering from it, I also couldn't do otherwise. Or rather, I feel that I couldn't do otherwise. I 've experienced various traumas during my life that made me eventually fear and disregard humanity in general. I've reached for professional help, but still didn't feel understood by them. In fact, I don't feel understood by anyone I ever met. Maybe that's normal, maybe it's not, I don't know. But it creates a growing feeling of uncompatibility (or something like that), to the point where I sometimes, do not feel human myself. Like a weird bug not supposed to be here, or on darkers days, not be at all. I don't know if this will be usefull to anyone, but I'll be glad to talk about this if anyone wants to. Have a great day everybody :)
i felt so related to everything you said, you even mentioned things that i didn't considered Thx a lot that rly helped me chill about things like "why do people don't get it" "why don't they take as much things into account as me during a discussion"
Thank you so much! It can be frustrating when we feel that we are not heard or validated for our opinions. Do you have others in your life who relate with your struggles?
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When you say a idea and people either talk over you or say no and wanna stick with their idea and when they do listen to your idea they be like "You smart" and all types of stuff.
Intelligence is not always synonim of loneliness. Intelligent people who are lonely, are lonely simply because they are not able to make relationships.
Now, when i am on college,i feel like a finally found a couple friends that really understand me And i am grateful fór them every single day since we became friends 😊
i was diagnosed with autism in my forties. i won the junior-high science fair at my school, but in high school i was bullied and was institutionalized for severe depression. medications, psychologist and psychiatrist visits, two narcissistic parents who, to this day, refuse to acknowledge i have autism. i speak to a social worker now. parents moved me to a bad neighborhood...
We humans as we are, we are a rope tied between beast and the higher human, a rope over an abyss. Humanity as is, is a thing that must be overcome. What is great in us is that we are a bridge, not an end.
I am smart, yeah, but one bad thing is that when you are a kid maybe you are actually smarter than your teacher, then the teacher gets the answer wrong, but you get it correct, but the teacher marks the answer wrong since they don’t actually know, I am glad one time I was able to explain so she realized.
Graduated high school with a 1.6 (curved 2.0). Never liked school. The school I went to was below par and never stimulated me; my mom never liked the "label" that I might've been special needs growing up because every thing you've said was spot on for me.
I actually felt my tech knowledge would never be used. I felt alone because of it and I then started helping out my elder friends and it's not only brought me a purpose but also made everyone come to me for advice and it has left me feeling less alone. :)
I'm so lonely, I sit under a tree almost every day and get lost in thought, I unintentionally scowl when focusing on something so I appear outraged to other people that's probably why I rarely get any company. Now I know why I don't get much company, thank you for helping me further understand myself and the people around me. I'll keep the things said in this video in mind.
I am literally crying right now. You just saw what I am in every Single point. I am 19, autistic, the Final exams are in a few Weeks, my grandfather died 9 weeks ago, my grandmother isnt doing well either, and I found out two days ago I am queer as f***. And I dont know how to tell my family.
I absolutely love the animation and the art style of the video it makes the video over all cohesive, it kept me engaged which is a big win in my book since I struggle with a short attention span. Shout out to the animator for helping make this video attention grabbing ❤
At first I was really suspicious this one was recycled too, but I imagine I would've remembered Edward Scissor hands so thankfully I was able to release the suspicion. I'm kind of tired of caring at this point. The inherent superiority complex of intelligent people that most have no acknowledgement of or drive to discard makes me want to club people to death.(Rob Dugan is great btw). Caring is bearing really bitter fruit.
I sometimes have thought that it's strange not to have friends, but with time I realised that it's ok, I haven't met people with whom I can communicate on interesting for me topics yet. I just couldn't find the mutual topic for conversation and was so disappointed(I wanted to speak about something from school, but my classmates don't. Fortunately, I realised that there are much more people in the world, especially at 21st century, not just from school)-it was few years ago. Now I don't think about this-just work on my self, enjoying life and study hard to achieve my goals This video was so much about me. I noticed things, that is usual for me. I'm pretty sure that intelligent people, who sometimes feel lonely, won't be lonely forever! They will find their way in life, will go to their dreams or goals and definitely will have a lot of stable relationships in all areas. For everyone, who read my comment, I wish good and happy day!🌞
People often think that you are genius if you are good at math and if you have high grades but i think we can be inteligence in many other ways as we have different talents and abilities. And people often see intelligent people as "a walking calculator' or "a walking dictionary" like they all have the answer.Which could lead to the intelligent person to be pressured of always being perfect and to know all the answers as expected to them.
This is true. I have a boy in school who’s one of the smartest kids and he doesn’t have no friends. Even his own brother turns his back on him when he gets bullied
Didn't even include the fact that we see more of what's wrong in the world and with people and even how to fix it, but no one listens to us about it, or understands our point of view, or how we came to the conclusions we did. That's so incredibly frustrating and depressing. All of this is me to a tee. I've never really found any community to be a part of, or anyone who really understands me in any way.
Five years ago, I never would have thought that my generalised anxiety disorder, dysthymia and immense feeling of loneliness had an origin in a high IQ and a then-undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder (what was called before “Asperger syndrome”).
Being smart sometimes makes you too aware and mature to your surroundings which makes it harder to fit in but my advice is just have fun go with the flow don't think too much and once you get the grasp of it you won't be feeling out of place 😊
I'm smart I guess. I get lots of A's and B's. But i find i can never fit in with anyone. Anytime I try to talk to them about random things, they never seem to get me. I also am VERY emotional. I remember I was talking to a friend when their dog died, and we both just started crying cause my grandparents had a dog that had died too, so I knew how they felt. The friends i have...don't really feel like friends, just cause i feel like they don't understand me really. And I get teased a lot. I was once called a nerd recently. Sometimes humanity is just cruel.💔
Great work, Psych2go, not only on the message and theme of the video but the unique character art and skillful animation as well! I was just introduced to your content today but found both the visual aspect and narration of this video so inviting and relatable that I now look forward to being a part of your mental health community! You guys are awesome and I really want to thank everyone in the team who made this possible. While I do believe that we can each measure and describe loneliness in our own way, this insightful video suggests how intelligence plays a part in our experiences and the five reasons mentioned here manage to thoughtfully sum up many derived tendencies with considerate explanations accompanied by beautifully animated images that represent scenarios we can all relate to. I struggle with loneliness too and am fascinated by the proposed likeliness that my intelligence could be linked to it. It's a neat theme and worth looking further into in order to better understand what we're going through psychologically and how we can ultimately improve our situations. I really appreciate this guys!
It’s more annoying when you ask questions for help and people assume you are supposed to know everything and don’t try to help when you really need help because they think you are playing coy when you genuinely want help!
Wait guys. There are solution for this loneliness. First read this book The art of communication. Second read the book named as quiet. Even if you are a intelligent person , you can still make connections by taking some help from these books. I also fall in intellectual category and thought I am never gonna fit in and will be never able to make friends but these two books changed my mindset. Read them they will surely help you. And take care of yourself.
I had a lot of these problems when I was younger. School was too "hard" because all they wanted was for us to memorize and not help. My teachers sucked. But by 12 I was able to program and build computers, Play instruments, literally produce and master my dads music. But I couldn't even add fractions until a couple years ago. Yep, stupid and dumb is how I felt because my teachers didn't care at all. And now I don't even know what I can and cannot do. I can't even stay in school because I loose so much focus that I catch nothing in the whole day. But its funny, I know how to teach English as a second language, talk to others so that they feel better and absorb their negativity, I can give good advice, and god dammit I do my best to the person around me to let them know they could do better.
Don’t worry bro, I was a high honors student all through school and wanted to drop out my senior year because I felt the “education” I was receiving was complete and utter trash. Public education focuses on rote memorization and compliance with authority, *not* critical thinking, logical deducing, problem solving, etc. Best I’ve found is focus on your strengths, shore up your weaker points as best as possible, and apply what you know consistently.
Thank you for this video psych2go because I always wondered what I was doing wrong to feel lonely even though I'm not alone Because being there for people knowing they are upset and being cautious while talking comes naturally but then I also avoid all disturbing topics and genres liek news and thrillers and after too much socialising I need time to recharge Which isn't the case for my friends so I kept wondering if I was at fault but I know now that it's normal Not saying I'm very intelligent but I know im not dumb I know i have topics I shine at even if my academics arent as strong
As someone on the autistic spectrum this video is very helpful. Being intelligent is so hard - I over-analyse and am overly critical. I don't mean to be that way, but it's just who I am. It can be a very lonely life, and I do struggle but videos like this help me understand others and others understand me 😊
In order to encourage more discusssions around experiences like mental wellness, feelings of loneliness is prevalent in all of us. This is true especially when you find it difficult to share your thoughts to others. That said, we encourage you to share your experiences related to this topic below. Do also share this video with your friends too, so they can better understand you.
Can I say that the English accent felt WAY unexpected.
Nay or yay?
@@Psych2go (I don't know)-ay
what should I think about myself since I still want to be a highly intelligent person even after knowing their struggles due to my perfectionism... =")
@Psych2go sounded forced to me, i was thinking to myself if it was the same person or someone else that sounds alike but with an accent. 🥴
The quote “lonely in a crowded place” is becoming more true by the day for me.
Thank you for your comment! Would you be able to share more about what you mean by "lonely in a crowded place"? Do you feel that this is because of your intelligence as described in the video or because of something else?
@@Psych2go Everyday in school when I see my classmates talk to their friends it makes me feel lonely...
@@Psych2go it's basically a term to describe someone who isn't able to connect with others in the room. Your nature is so counter intuitive to the atmosphere in that even though it's full of people, you still feel like your alone. You have to experience it to understand it. I'm generally an outgoing and social person, but even then when I talk to others it's sometimes a major disconnect
The quote "becoming more true by the day for me" is lonely in a crowded place
A song lyric from one of Mac Miller's songs hits so hard for me and it's the same thing.
"Sometimes I get lonely, not when im alone. But it's more when im standing in crowds that im feeling the most on my own."
Another thing to consider is that more intelligent people tend to be more neurotic and prone to issues like social anxiety, which furthers the feeling of isolation from their peers.
being intelligent only means they can see what is the goal, not being a goal based person
My friend once told me I had the social skills of a dead dinosaur. Their analogy was incorrect however, *dinosaurs actually existed at one point*
I was always told that I was stupid because I struggled in school. I later found out I had ADHD at 15 and Autism at 20. I was a child with special needs who never got any extra help in school. Which is why I ended up dropping out of high school. But as I've gone through life and have met so many different people I often find the same reaction when people meet me and get to know me. They're in awe, they say I'm intelligent, I have an amazing mind, I'm creative and such. Which I knew I was more of a creative individual with a mind that was always what people referred to as "extra" or "too much" but I always told them thank you but no I failed school, so I can't possibly be intelligent.
It wasn't until it really hit me one day. I was spending my day off from work watching documentaries and studying about something in history that fascinated me. That's how I chose to spend my free time. I was never into TV or mind numbing distractions. I always liked to absorb information. I brought up how I was feeling to my psychiatrist and she had told me that I was definitely in fact intelligent. She noticed it from the beginning back when I was 16 coming to see her, now 24 still seeing her to this day.
If I would have had this video back in high school or growing up I think it would have saved me a lot of negative self talk. Maybe I wouldn't have been so hard on myself. Saw what I was truly capable of accomplishing. So thank you for putting this out there. I hope it helps someone else realize the true intelligence that they hold within themselves.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. We're always grateful when people watch our videos and they relate with the topic we discuss. It's amazing how you had the insight and the awareness of your intelligence, though it came later in your life. If you don't mind sharing with us, how are you doing now? Do you feel that you have the appropriate resources that can help you thrive?
I want to know the true meaning of intelligence. Please tell me how do I know that I am intelligent?
I am sorry
Everyone has their own strength and weakness. I'm sure your intelligence is something that even school syllabus cant define it. I can feel you are amazing person. Not everyone can be creative
Thank you for sharing this, when I was younger one of my teachers also thought there was something mentally wrong with me and tried to hold me back a year because I wasn't "interacting with the other children" and had "odd behaviours"...
I also stopped going to school for a few weeks one year because I felt misunderstood and so different... I almost dropped out but my mother was always there supporting me and constantly telling me "there is nothing wrong with you, you are a beautiful young woman"... I ended up going back to school and graduating in the top 1% of my school and now I'm currently in college with a 3.9 GPA.
My mom and I found out JUST LAST YEAR that I may be mildly autistic and it explains so much of my upbringing... never give up on yourself and I am proud of you for your accomplishments and how far you have come. ♡
People doesn't realise this, but It's tiring when people think you should have an answer for everything, in every situation _just because you have high IQ_
At school, whenever I make a mistake people widen their eyes and stare at me and say “YoU mAdE a MistAkE!?!?” in a really surprised way 😓
I am unsure what my IQ is but I remember despite heavily struggling in departments like math and social skills sometimes I can just go on long tangents about a certain topic one time for example I was bored and decided to try to prove a taco was a sandwich to my parents (know its not it was just to see how they react) and had counter arguments points take aways i had all that just off the top of my head for example I claimed the idea of a sandwich was the very reason other items where not considered a sandwich as the brain would heavily categorize certain food items even if their structure is very similar and that the shells acted as a sort of Bread substitute in place for a sandwich and most sandwiches are described to have layers of food, meat cheese lettuce yet sandwiches have the very same set up. My point stands your honor
IQ doesn’t actually test how “smart” you are, it tests how well you are able to remember things. An example of something you would see on an IQ test would be like “what is the capital of Vietnam?” You wouldn’t see something like a complex math problem.
When did you take an IQ test and for what?
That's how it exactly feels🥲
The price of intelligence is that most don’t understand you
Which means those who do understand you, or at least attempt to, are so very special and to be treasured.
Price of intelligence is ○/r
Obviously the person who wrote the comment cared
This has been my struggle. I tried to fit in and be interested with others but it's hard for me to just pretend so I keep pushing people away from me. I've been betrayed a lot of times before for giving too much empathy and attention to those I trusted. I have my own world and I'm so worried that I might end up living alone forever.
I 1000% understand how you feel, especially looking back at the old friends that are no longer there. It’s best to focus on our well-being, even when engaging with someone else. But sadly our world has become digitized and discombobulated after 2020. It’s hard to know who to rely on.
Same. I get how you feel.
It’s like we’re the same person
Don't be scared, It could be the happiest way.
The “they don’t fit in” part is true, I often hang out with people older than me online. Because people my age often think I’m weird
Do you feel that you hang out with older people because your intelligence makes you more mature?
@@Psych2go well...
All my classmates are [and i don't wanna insult them but they are] stupid
Like... I can't have conversations with them, we don't habe anything to talk about, and even if we do... They are simple and i can't express my ideas
I go to our school psychologist and she notice that i have a lot of creative ideas and she was impressed by the complexity in simplicity
Older people are smarter, and they have interesting things to say, but classmates... They basic, and in my example... Yea they act like kindergartens, but there also classmates that are somewhat funni, which i like, the funni is funny, i like funni, but... I can't have deeper conversation with them sadly
@@randomlol-ya3063 i found my twin
@@milton5609 do you also have a lot of random ideas
Two annoying cousins
Likes undertale and cute stuff (lik kirby or kissing)?
@@randomlol-ya3063 nah, i meant like your story is like identical to my own one
This is great. Now I know I'm not alone... The hard part is convincing my family. Every thing you said in this video describes me perfectly... What's sad is that I'm now 70 and have always felt like I never fit in any where... I've seen a Therapist and she told me several times that I was so smart.. She never did help me so I quit going... Now what do I do??? This has not been an easy life for me.. I've seen different Doctors and therapist and nothing seams to work for me.. My body is so sensitive that I can't take different kinds of meds.. It sucks to be me...
We’re here for you, Queen.
Glad you’re here, Queen you’re not alone 🫶
Thank you for sharing something so personal to you. Though we're glad that you found the video relatable, it's unfortunate that you feel that many professional resources were not very helpful. If you could, what about therapy did you find unhelpful? Could you tell us a bit more about what you found unhelpful from doctors or therapists?
Damn I'm 25 and just got sad knowing imma be this way till I'm 70 😣
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1). They don't fit in 0:36
2). Intelligent people need lots of stimulation 1:34
3). High level of empathy 2:28
4). Their brains process information differently 3:19
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@@Psych2go not a problem happy to help out
This helps. Good information but the voice on this for some reason hard to take.
"high level of emathy" alright adios there's my stop
like, i think i'm more.. egoistic? i guess? i don't really care about anyone, i care about my stuff. idk im lonely or i just wanna be alone or if im just ok with being isolated so much that now i get annoyed by anyone trying to interact with me. i guess
I think another one could be that intelligent people tend to have less self-esteem/confidence because they KNOW they don't know everything. So while someone who may be of less intelligence might feel more confident in themselves because they think they know everything, in comparison, I feel like intelligent people will doubt themselves and their ability to speak on different topics, knowing that they still do not know everything there is to know about the topic.
That's also one possibility. The more we know, the less we realize we actually know.
I absolutely agree; nothing is more scarier than someone who declares something with absolute, rigid and unwavering certainty. A truly smart person realise that they know just enough to know they know nothing at all.
Just look at politicians all over the world.. Dumb as rocks!
(sorry rocks, didn't mean to insult)
I think there was a study done with chess players that 100% backs up what you're saying here. The demonstrably best players rated themselves lower than they objectively were, and the less able players rated themselves higher. More intelligent people tend to question things more, including themselves, so consider context in a way that many others don't.
I think more intelligent people are more willing to be open to the concept that they might not have everything correct right now, and they might learn new information some time in the future. Less intelligent people are more likely to be convinced that whatever they believe right now is correct, despite perhaps being able to remember occasions in the past when they got things wrong.
But I could be wrong! 😅
The reverse Dunning Kruger effect is super interesting to me. I follow the ethos the Science Channel espoused back in the day: Question Everything.
I agree with this.
2). People see me as lazy because i never look excited daily, but when works come i can do it fast(and excited)
Hope this helps. ❤
1. They don't fit in.
2. Intelligent people need a lot of stimulation.
3. High levels of empathy.
4. Their brains process information differently.
i relate hard...
@@egoistagatto7942 me too
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@@Psych2go :)
No 5?
My mother when i was a kid always told to me "You're special and so different to others. It makes proud to me and your dad" and I never understand why they said that to a lonely girl who never had luck with friends and felt like an alien until now, where a realize that i'm a intelligent person and that makes me rare around the teenagers from my classroom. I just found a gentle friend group and my ex friends aren't intoxicating my life anymore, they used to almost never include me in activities because of myself.
It's always comforting when we have a few group of friends we can be close to :) We're so happy that you have people you can connect with! What is it about the "gentle friend group" that you feel like you can connect with as opposed to your other former friends?
thank you psych2go for the many videos you have released in the past few days !
Thank you for the kind words! ❤️
Now I'm definitely not the smartest person in a room, but I'm pretty intellectual and keep to myself since most people don't care/understand what I'd like to discuss. Thankfully I do like to joke around a lot too, but since I'm so empathetic, I'm very cautious about what I say. Often it's too cautious to the point where I remain quiet unless asked something. I definitely love my alone time, but contrary to the misconception, that doesn't equate to wanting to be forever alone.
What are some reasons why you decide to be very cautious of what you say?
what do you like to talk about
@@Psych2go Hi! Well, I think about other people's feelings first. I often lean towards dark/dry humor which can come across as insensitive 😅 I just hope most people realize I'm actually very sensitive and caring.
@@arctrix765 Various topics that the general public might consider "nerdy" lol. I love to talk about anything involving psychology, philosophy, meteorology, space and time, etc.
I can‘t recall how often people told me that I‘m odd. They mostly don‘t mean it in a bad way, but with time it just starts to annoy you, because if you’re odd people aren‘t to keen on being more than just basic-level friends with you. And even if some people want to be my friends, I perceive them as totally boring (like I have nothing against them but I can tell what they will think about specific topics from miles ago).
I don‘t know if I‘m highly intelligent or just weird. Either way, except for the bad grades part I can relate to everything.
Being odd or weird isn't such a bad thing! :) But yes, when we are unique or "different", it sometimes becomes a barrier to being close with people who find us quirky. Do you have other friends or colleagues that you connect with?
@@Psych2go Not really in the moment I‘m honestly pretty alone. Mostly because my only friend has a lot to deal with right now, so she doesn‘t really have time for me.
But I really don‘t wanna cry about it, she has it much worse than me and I‘m not a very good friend anyway. So I‘m fine, I don‘t mind being alone that much.
Intelligence and being alone go hand in hand most cases, I've never been able to maintain more than 2-3 friends at a time and I don't have a social life but what I do know is I am constantly being told I have a beautiful mind and I am extremely intelligent.
I am a bit of a polymath and I would much rather research or do something artistic with my time before going out or hanging with friends though easily, I love being alone.
That's great! What artistic endeavors do you pursue in your spare time? Do you feel like having a creative outlet is helpful for you overall?
I'm impressed, you had at one point 3 friends simultaniously. Why can't i achive such glory
@@Psych2go I love to write music, sing, and draw mostly but I have a passion for all forms such as writing poetry, dancing and even writing short stories.
@@arctrix765 Well as of right now I don't have any friends so 😂
@@Azraelith but you had friends sometime on the line
Got cheated on, I didn't know he was cheating until I saw his phone got caught and kept telling me he didn't love me. I got used for 4 years, verbally abused cheated on multiple times bcoz of that I developed OCD and anxiety disorder & he doesn't even feel guilty about it. I feel totally lost and lonely as to how horrible this was for me I did so much for him. I'm only 21 and yet I can't process my life following this event 😔
Calm down and take a moment to review ur life again. Don't you think 21 is too early to quit trying???
Wake up each morning and count ur blessings, make a list of things u r grateful about. It can be anything..like u can be grateful u have eyes to see this beautiful world, u have nose to smell and many more things.
Start listening to pleasant music..i am suffering from my anxiety and chronic depression so music helps me a lot. Try going out for a walk with ur pet(if u have any) or just plug in ur earbuds and walk down the lane. Watch feel good movies and eat whatever uplifts ur mood..like an Ice cream!
You are just 21 and u have the whole world to conquer, you are doing great and Thank God that u came out of that toxic relationship early enough. This is not the end of the world..u will find the one who will be head over heels in love with you and will treat you like a 👑.
So chin up and don't rott urself for the one who doesn't even value ur presence.
Take care and God bless you😇
@@zenab3118 Thank you so much sister for your motivating words. Yes we have to be grateful for what Allah has given us we don't see those blessings in times of difficulty but with each breath Allah heals us. May Allah grant you happiness and ease all our matters ameen ❤
@@jennifer.s7285 Summa Ameen😇
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I stimulate myself by procrastinating. The anxiety is very stimulating
From past weeks I asked myself several times.. how can I be lonely when there’s billions of people.. but now I just got to know that I am intelligent 😃
Yes, you are the most intelligent :)
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@@Psych2go you did him dirty
@@Psych2go 🥰accepting your criticism
Yes!!
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I always feel lonely when I’m around people. I used tryin to fit in but I stopped because I realized that I wasted my time so I stepped back and wait. I have few people coming to me and talking to me but still feel mentally alone. I’m happy that I made a few new friends but I hate having mentally alone all the time.
We're so sorry that you feel this way. What makes you feel that you are mentally alone even when you're around other people? Do you feel that it has to do with your intelligence like in the video? Or do you think it's a little bit of everything like your hobbies, interests, etc.?
@@Psych2go yeah it was like that. I feel mentally alone when nobody actually talks to me but their friends in the class and sometimes I feel lonely because they don’t have same mindset, same interests and hobbies as mine. Sometimes I been around them, i feel not connected to people and not happy around them sometimes and I always want to be alone but not feel alone yk.
in school It was hard for me to get creative with my poems.. it would take a lot of effort but once I’m at home and I feel less out of it?! I actually feel confident and my poems are way more creative and advanced than the “poems” I used to know..
This is the exact video that resonates with me. Unfortunately our world will not back down from the internet. And it doesn’t feel any better to be alone without anyone who can relate to me.
This video definitely hits home! Sometimes I feel so different from my peers, and to them I hope it doesn’t come off as coldness or negativity, I just have a harder time connecting with people somedays.
I relate with so much of this, like 100%.
Except the idea of being intelligent. I'm pretty friggin stupid.
I've been told that I am. But I honestly think it's just the way I talk that makes me seem smarter than I am.
Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Agreed! Thank you for sharing your insight!❤️
I just don't like people and get easily bored by thier ''normal'' lifes and thoughts. This was always the case since I was young.
That's very interesting. Could you elaborate on what you mean by "normal" thoughts? What are some things that people would consider to be "normal" to you and what do you not like about them? Are you able to find connection with others who may share the same feeling as you?
or their lack of thought.
@@Psych2go many people just want to fit in and switch to gossip every time I speak with them. Furthermore when I try to analyse the things others do or what they don't and try to stop gossiping many times it seems like they do not want to get into deeper thoughts (maybe someone didn't mean it that way) or try to solve problems they have with eatch other.
Somehow what is weird is that I have problems to know if someone is a friend of mine or only kind to me (I kinda make friends all the time along the way without even knowing it) and I have very big trust issues for no reasons at all.
I have two very close friends. We would talk hours about things no one else I know could really relate to.
So my statement ''I just don't like people [...]'' is a bit wrong. I just don't understand many of them (Why wouldn't you just find a solution for your problems and stop talking about them? It's okay to talk about your problems but sometimes you have endless oppertunities to fix them and there is no need in my oppinion to complain over weeks.)
I'm in love with her voice & accent. So soothing~
Damm even tho I'm not that smart I'm pretty alone but thanks to my friends being there for me and i don't feel alone anymore you might feel alone but others are alone too so you're not really alone!
If I had my way, I'd spend 80% of my time alone and only socialize when I've had a few drinks and want some entertainment. I've gradually lost interest in most "normal" people. They seem so content in their mediocrity, so confident in their opinions about everything. Most have no idea how limited their perspective is. It drains me listening to people chatter about things that have no substance.
Best to have peace then be surrounded by fools
The reason why I don't have a crush because:
1. I'm not flirtive
2. I'm terrible at it
3. I follow her commands but she didn't follow my commands...
To be honest, I always avoid acting smarter, i find being a little duller to make things better, being less aware of things can make life honestly better and more happy, because when I looked at every smart person I only ever noticed one thing, they were always sad or depressed. I thought I was wrong for thinking like this, but this video helped a lot, thanks for this helpful and informative video, keep it up. ❤
yeah true i did the same but i have this one classmate who's very smart and he seems unhappy by having to carry all the weight of the questions asked by friends,i noticed that he has to be able to answer every questions asked by his friends and he actually did answer all of it right, except for mine lfmao.I noticed that many genius (here in my social circle) are perfectionist and most are afraid of loosing the title genius which happened to this friend of mine,they will never find true meaning of happiness honestly and i think staying unnoticed is the best way.Anyways,love discussing this
They're able to observe the hypothetical situation, and after gathering statistics, can conclude that if they ask out the person they like, there is a 98 percent chance they will say no.
Half of my brain would know that and the other half is just “Why the hell not?”.
While I don't have an interest in philosophy over other topics (maybe because my teachers didn't make the subject interesting in high school), I can relate to some of these points. Number 2 (needing a lot of stimulation) is the most remarkable. Back in school, I had amazing grades at first because I found the classes interesting enough, but when I started playing more and more videogames my grades plummeted. Everyone told me I had the capacity to have excellent grades, but I just couldn't bring myself to get them because I wasn't getting enough stimuli from exams, studying or doing homework, and instead I was focusing more on videogames which were more stimulating. In the end, I was getting barely enough scores to pass subjects. This still happens to me to this day and it's kind of crippling because I procrastinate all the time due to lack of interest, which makes me miss valuable knowledge or lose a lot of time trying to study. Luckily I have a job that is stimulating enough on a daily basis so I can stay focused on it.
I can relate with points 1 and 3 as well. I spend a lot of time alone voluntarily because I don't really fit into conversations or groups of people and socializing drains my energy rather quickly for some reason. For number 3, I always think about others first before me, which has put me into a pinch more than once, but at the same time I can imagine how the other person is feeling very clearly, which makes me try to be comforting even though I'm terrible at it.
For number 4, I don't really know if I process information differently, but I sure do overthink. Sometimes I just come up with answers to conversations (mostly those involving sharing my feelings or giving an opinion) several hours after they took place because I start overthinking about them, sometimes even going into an endless loop of thought that feels more energy-draining than productive. Actually, I'm overthinking while writing this post, I keep re-reading, adding and changing sentences... Phew, better hit comment and be done with it.
I can consider myself intelligent because I think differently than anybody else. But sometimes I feel lonely a lot of how people used to treat me in school, home, etc. It caused me to have anxiety, depression, everything. I have autism as well and I used to be bullied a lot in school because people thought I was “odd” or “weird” including teachers and people where I use to work at. I’ve learned that I need friends to feel good. I’m good being alot but sometimes it gets lonely for me. 🥺😞
I may not be autistic, but I too was bullied quite a lot in school for being odd and weird. You're not alone, my friend ❤
@@K9_JinX awww thank you ❤️ I appreciate for your understanding.
@@dominiquelemon7125 Of course! ❤️
I love that everyone here is so supportive ❤️ We're so sorry that others ended up causing a lot of hurt in your life. How are you doing now? Do you feel that you have a good group of friends that you can connect with?
@@Psych2go I doing well in life so far. I’ve always struggled getting along with people all my life. I don’t have no support groups out here for me to connect with people. So I’m in a touch situation where I cut all the people that was toxic in my life to now just finding my self peace and seeking new genuine, positive mentor.
These videos are the only things that make me feel anything anymore
Same. But you gotta keep living, you gotta stick it to the man!
A good explanation of why it's important for partners to be reasonably even in intelligence
Truly intelligent people can develop social skills and be extremely effective when socializing.
Don't let your intelligence hurt you, you can be anything you want.
damn i want to be a monke
I relate to this. Whatever "intelligent" means, I experienced everything you talked about in this video and proceeded to "exile" myself from, not all, but as many social interractions as possible. I've hidden myself from friends, family and others in general. Now, although I know it's not good for me since I'm suffering from it, I also couldn't do otherwise. Or rather, I feel that I couldn't do otherwise. I 've experienced various traumas during my life that made me eventually fear and disregard humanity in general. I've reached for professional help, but still didn't feel understood by them. In fact, I don't feel understood by anyone I ever met. Maybe that's normal, maybe it's not, I don't know. But it creates a growing feeling of uncompatibility (or something like that), to the point where I sometimes, do not feel human myself. Like a weird bug not supposed to be here, or on darkers days, not be at all.
I don't know if this will be usefull to anyone, but I'll be glad to talk about this if anyone wants to.
Have a great day everybody :)
i felt so related to everything you said, you even mentioned things that i didn't considered
Thx a lot that rly helped me chill about things like
"why do people don't get it"
"why don't they take as much things into account as me during a discussion"
Thank you so much! It can be frustrating when we feel that we are not heard or validated for our opinions. Do you have others in your life who relate with your struggles?
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When you say a idea and people either talk over you or say no and wanna stick with their idea and when they do listen to your idea they be like "You smart" and all types of stuff.
Intelligence is not always synonim of loneliness. Intelligent people who are lonely, are lonely simply because they are not able to make relationships.
A soothing voice with a soothing animation simply soothes my heart........❤❤
Now, when i am on college,i feel like a finally found a couple friends that really understand me And i am grateful fór them every single day since we became friends 😊
i was diagnosed with autism in my forties. i won the junior-high science fair at my school, but in high school i was bullied and was institutionalized for severe depression. medications, psychologist and psychiatrist visits, two narcissistic parents who, to this day, refuse to acknowledge i have autism. i speak to a social worker now. parents moved me to a bad neighborhood...
Thx psych2GO for giving us information
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We humans as we are, we are a rope tied between beast and the higher human, a rope over an abyss. Humanity as is, is a thing that must be overcome. What is great in us is that we are a bridge, not an end.
I really like this lady's voice
I am smart, yeah, but one bad thing is that when you are a kid maybe you are actually smarter than your teacher, then the teacher gets the answer wrong, but you get it correct, but the teacher marks the answer wrong since they don’t actually know, I am glad one time I was able to explain so she realized.
We are so lonely because GAWD seemingly talks to everyone else
So they keep telling me
Relatable... I simply accepted the fact that I'll be lonely forever because all evidence I got points to that
If having less friends makes you smarter then i must be a genius
Graduated high school with a 1.6 (curved 2.0). Never liked school. The school I went to was below par and never stimulated me; my mom never liked the "label" that I might've been special needs growing up because every thing you've said was spot on for me.
I actually felt my tech knowledge would never be used. I felt alone because of it and I then started helping out my elder friends and it's not only brought me a purpose but also made everyone come to me for advice and it has left me feeling less alone. :)
I'm so lonely, I sit under a tree almost every day and get lost in thought, I unintentionally scowl when focusing on something so I appear outraged to other people that's probably why I rarely get any company. Now I know why I don't get much company, thank you for helping me further understand myself and the people around me. I'll keep the things said in this video in mind.
I am literally crying right now. You just saw what I am in every Single point.
I am 19, autistic, the Final exams are in a few Weeks, my grandfather died 9 weeks ago, my grandmother isnt doing well either, and I found out two days ago I am queer as f***. And I dont know how to tell my family.
I’m sorry for your loss. I hope things get better for you.
This video was just very helpful like the others and I think this one I really needed this
I absolutely love the animation and the art style of the video it makes the video over all cohesive, it kept me engaged which is a big win in my book since I struggle with a short attention span. Shout out to the animator for helping make this video attention grabbing ❤
Wow, thank you! We'll pass it along! ❤️
At first I was really suspicious this one was recycled too, but I imagine I would've remembered Edward Scissor hands so thankfully I was able to release the suspicion. I'm kind of tired of caring at this point. The inherent superiority complex of intelligent people that most have no acknowledgement of or drive to discard makes me want to club people to death.(Rob Dugan is great btw). Caring is bearing really bitter fruit.
I sometimes have thought that it's strange not to have friends, but with time I realised that it's ok, I haven't met people with whom I can communicate on interesting for me topics yet. I just couldn't find the mutual topic for conversation and was so disappointed(I wanted to speak about something from school, but my classmates don't. Fortunately, I realised that there are much more people in the world, especially at 21st century, not just from school)-it was few years ago. Now I don't think about this-just work on my self, enjoying life and study hard to achieve my goals This video was so much about me. I noticed things, that is usual for me. I'm pretty sure that intelligent people, who sometimes feel lonely, won't be lonely forever! They will find their way in life, will go to their dreams or goals and definitely will have a lot of stable relationships in all areas.
For everyone, who read my comment, I wish good and happy day!🌞
@@theno1stnamenolastname362 Do you mean I confused this words and should redact my comment a bit or do you write about general concept?
People often think that you are genius if you are good at math and if you have high grades but i think we can be inteligence in many other ways as we have different talents and abilities. And people often see intelligent people as "a walking calculator' or "a walking dictionary" like they all have the answer.Which could lead to the intelligent person to be pressured of always being perfect and to know all the answers as expected to them.
i love that soothing Voice and the KAWAI animation, its a very cute informative Video and FUN!
This is true. I have a boy in school who’s one of the smartest kids and he doesn’t have no friends. Even his own brother turns his back on him when he gets bullied
Because we are surrounded by idiots and have no one to talk to without being judged.
I don’t consider myself intelligent yet I feel pretty lonely at times. Something might be wrong with me lol
Sorry to hear that you feel this way. What are some things that make you feel lonely at times? Would you be able to share with us? :)
Oh wow learned a lot from this video. Animation was extremely helpful as well 👏👏
Didn't even include the fact that we see more of what's wrong in the world and with people and even how to fix it, but no one listens to us about it, or understands our point of view, or how we came to the conclusions we did. That's so incredibly frustrating and depressing. All of this is me to a tee. I've never really found any community to be a part of, or anyone who really understands me in any way.
I’m going to use this as my excuse for being lonely
thank you, this helped me learn more about myself and others. keep up the great work!
The animation is amazing 😍
Very accurate, still am yet to find someone who i can actually talk to and have understand me.
You never be alone
this channel always loves to make me question whether i'm some super genius or just really autistic
I love the animation of the video 😍
I love this channel so much
Bro explained why i don't have any friends in school
And it's not something that i did
It is something that i am
And not in a negative way
Thank you for this video.
I love this animation! 👏👏👏👏👏
Im not intelligent and all but damn it felt like yall were talking directly to me
Five years ago, I never would have thought that my generalised anxiety disorder, dysthymia and immense feeling of loneliness had an origin in a high IQ and a then-undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder (what was called before “Asperger syndrome”).
Being smart sometimes makes you too aware and mature to your surroundings which makes it harder to fit in but my advice is just have fun go with the flow don't think too much and once you get the grasp of it you won't be feeling out of place 😊
I'm smart I guess. I get lots of A's and B's. But i find i can never fit in with anyone. Anytime I try to talk to them about random things, they never seem to get me. I also am VERY emotional. I remember I was talking to a friend when their dog died, and we both just started crying cause my grandparents had a dog that had died too, so I knew how they felt. The friends i have...don't really feel like friends, just cause i feel like they don't understand me really. And I get teased a lot. I was once called a nerd recently. Sometimes humanity is just cruel.💔
Great work, Psych2go, not only on the message and theme of the video but the unique character art and skillful animation as well! I was just introduced to your content today but found both the visual aspect and narration of this video so inviting and relatable that I now look forward to being a part of your mental health community! You guys are awesome and I really want to thank everyone in the team who made this possible.
While I do believe that we can each measure and describe loneliness in our own way, this insightful video suggests how intelligence plays a part in our experiences and the five reasons mentioned here manage to thoughtfully sum up many derived tendencies with considerate explanations accompanied by beautifully animated images that represent scenarios we can all relate to. I struggle with loneliness too and am fascinated by the proposed likeliness that my intelligence could be linked to it. It's a neat theme and worth looking further into in order to better understand what we're going through psychologically and how we can ultimately improve our situations. I really appreciate this guys!
We're so glad you found us! ❤️
Having high intelligence and being a Christian has definitely made me a loner.
Could you tell us more? Why do you think having high intelligence and being a Christian makes you feel lonely?
I love you guys the drawings are healing thankyou
Glad the videos could be therapeutic for you!
If only I could give back I have very little here I like the dancing drawings at the end on some heals my day
I relate to this so much. Thanks for sharing.
So this feeling of loneliness despite regularly being around people is just a part of my personality huh? Go figure I suppose.
I feel like some people just use me which is sad.
Way to make me feel like I'm a smart person 😭
Helpful video!
Day 8 of asking for the "Signs of whether you either have admiration or a crush" video
It’s more annoying when you ask questions for help and people assume you are supposed to know everything and don’t try to help when you really need help because they think you are playing coy when you genuinely want help!
Wait guys. There are solution for this loneliness. First read this book The art of communication.
Second read the book named as quiet.
Even if you are a intelligent person , you can still make connections by taking some help from these books.
I also fall in intellectual category and thought I am never gonna fit in and will be never able to make friends but these two books changed my mindset. Read them they will surely help you. And take care of yourself.
I hate to admit it as it makes me feel embarrassed but boy can I relate.
I had a lot of these problems when I was younger. School was too "hard" because all they wanted was for us to memorize and not help. My teachers sucked. But by 12 I was able to program and build computers, Play instruments, literally produce and master my dads music. But I couldn't even add fractions until a couple years ago. Yep, stupid and dumb is how I felt because my teachers didn't care at all. And now I don't even know what I can and cannot do. I can't even stay in school because I loose so much focus that I catch nothing in the whole day. But its funny, I know how to teach English as a second language, talk to others so that they feel better and absorb their negativity, I can give good advice, and god dammit I do my best to the person around me to let them know they could do better.
Don’t worry bro, I was a high honors student all through school and wanted to drop out my senior year because I felt the “education” I was receiving was complete and utter trash. Public education focuses on rote memorization and compliance with authority, *not* critical thinking, logical deducing, problem solving, etc. Best I’ve found is focus on your strengths, shore up your weaker points as best as possible, and apply what you know consistently.
Thank you for this video psych2go because I always wondered what I was doing wrong to feel lonely even though I'm not alone
Because being there for people knowing they are upset and being cautious while talking comes naturally but then I also avoid all disturbing topics and genres liek news and thrillers and after too much socialising I need time to recharge
Which isn't the case for my friends so I kept wondering if I was at fault but I know now that it's normal
Not saying I'm very intelligent but I know im not dumb I know i have topics I shine at even if my academics arent as strong
As someone on the autistic spectrum this video is very helpful. Being intelligent is so hard - I over-analyse and am overly critical. I don't mean to be that way, but it's just who I am. It can be a very lonely life, and I do struggle but videos like this help me understand others and others understand me 😊