I clean my husband cleans my kids clean. Everyone is responsible and we are all a team. You don’t need a cleaner sis. You need to be more organized and teach your kids the ethics of being clean and be responsible for their messes. This is why most kids who have maids lack self accountability.
@@bluerain3282 No they didn’t fail us. we are humans and can’t be doing everything. In the west the houses are not as clean as African houses we here the maids clean everyday!
completely agree, somalis who live backhome, or in kenya/ethiopia/gulf all have maids, literally ALL, I live in the west, but in our area us Somalis do hire maids occasionally to help but nowhere near the amount of things maid do in Africa or Asia
Our Somali parents need to do better. How can they justify in this day and age, how they raise their boys to be useless? The girls are getting their education, working full time and still expected to do all the housework and cooking while their sons sit around doing jack all! How is that fair? Let’s face it the girls contribute more financially in the majority of households than the boys, so why do we get rid of tradition in that regard but keep it when they act like it is ceeb for a boy to be in the kitchen? Sorry if I sound bitter but I am. I know this doesn’t apply to all Somali households. Shoutout to those amazing parents raising their kids to be successful adults. I just wish the majority were like that.
@@Noname-vu1om I agree with you on every point, however after years and years of having this conversation, I actually gave up. I accepted this is how it’s going to be in this generation (for some households)
That's why their boys are on the streets into gang life and filled in the prison cause no one taught them Aqlaaq, Deen and equally household duty share growing up. Somali moms are the only parents who raise they children by their own and yet, they failed their sons to teach a real life lessons. They don't know how to raise sons/men at all.
@@fadumonor868 what does that mean? How is making your daughters the slaves of your sons Islam? And how can men/boys sitting around being utterly useless be justified by anything?
This is why our men make up the worst leaders both as fathers husbands and leaders of their countries. Somali mothers do not understand that they are raising theirs sons to be future failures. Not only that their sons wont care for them in their old age because they will expect their elderly, in her old age to continue cooking for them and cleaning after them.
sister did you try taking turns cleaning with your siblings? Like each day someone will clean the kitchen ir something Its kinda sad how in the somali culture they expect girls to do everything
@@aesthete7227 hey hun, we usually clean on the weekends, and my siblings do clean when they’re told to, however it’s not a good job. I eventually got tired of doing the big jobs ie fridge, bathroom, stove, so I hired a cleaner 😇
They just don’t understand.. there is no demanding from siblings. The constant yelling and arguments leave you depleted and they work they do is not enough. It’s a losing battle.
It’s more like deep cleaning not specifically after what you ate and wore but like walls floor places u can’t reach, cupboards all hard tasks it helps so much
By the way I’m commenting again to say you are right that is lot in the west are so used to living rafad lifestyle that we never consider things like hiring anyone to clean. Allahuma barek laki. May Allah continue to bless you. I’m nowhere near being the oldest but that responsibility always fell on me because apparently I’m OCD for expecting to live in a clean house. Don’t even get me started on living with people who expect to be told what to do or they won’t lift a finger. 😒
Bruh why hire someone to clean?! Why not do it yourself it’s much easier and more efficient someone doing it for money and you doing it for ur own well being . And Alhamdulilah Allah gave us our feet and hands Alhamdulilah only get a cleaner if you actually have a disability
In some countries its actually normal to get cleaners maybe if like your work or homeschool your children someone cleans the house its normal its not about it being your house maybe you dont have that much time @WaterMelon-uz7wo
That's why their boys are on the streets into gang life and filled in the prison cause no one taught them Aqlaaq, Deen and equally household duty share growing up. Somali moms are the only parents who raise they children by their own and yet, they failed their sons to teach a real life lessons. They don't know how to raise sons/men at all. Anyways, us Somali sisters we need to LOVE ourselves and learn how to respect and nurturing. 😍😍😍
i would've done that but i'm paranoid about someone going through my personal space. you must be a "normal" person lol.... nothing strange crazy out of the ordinary but what if they steal something or place something in your home? like cameras or even worse put sihir in your home. god forbid i wouldn't trust anyone after that. i don't even leave the maintenance guy alone. i sit there, watching.
@@imanbashir-mi2zx girl I live in a typical Somali household with 7+ people 😂 that cleaner had eyes on her at all times. It was actually a funny sight because she’s cadaan passing that’s cleaning a house full of Africans. Plus she only cleaned the kitchen,bathrooms, living space and laundry. Not the bedrooms
I like this but, I always assumed cleaners are expensive, like in the thousands of dollars. I will definitely tell my family to do this ones we go back to the West, In Sha Allah. Please share more ideas of how we can level up as individuals and as a community.
Well done, sis, living your Rich life. This called buying your time back. If you have the money 💰 why not. Allahuma barik
@@rodajimale6549 absolutely! Alhamdulillah
I clean my husband cleans my kids clean. Everyone is responsible and we are all a team.
You don’t need a cleaner sis. You need to be more organized and teach your kids the ethics of being clean and be responsible for their messes.
This is why most kids who have maids lack self accountability.
Lies. The Proverbs woman had a maid so your logic is flawed unless you want to call God a liar?
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her MAIDENS” (Proverbs 31:15). PLURAL MULTIPLE.
Yessss!!! Well said
Am not Somali girl, but I think this influence to most of us I grew up with a maid. I never know The struggle till I came to the state .
No offence. But your parents failed you in life and you had to face reality in the state.
@@bluerain3282 No they didn’t fail us. we are humans and can’t be doing everything.
In the west the houses are not as clean as African houses we here the maids clean everyday!
Am Somali and in Africa we all have cleaners
Honestly, I love this for you. I told myself when I deliver I’m gonna hire a cleaner weekly for the first 2 months iA
completely agree, somalis who live backhome, or in kenya/ethiopia/gulf all have maids, literally ALL, I live in the west, but in our area us Somalis do hire maids occasionally to help but nowhere near the amount of things maid do in Africa or Asia
Our Somali parents need to do better. How can they justify in this day and age, how they raise their boys to be useless? The girls are getting their education, working full time and still expected to do all the housework and cooking while their sons sit around doing jack all! How is that fair? Let’s face it the girls contribute more financially in the majority of households than the boys, so why do we get rid of tradition in that regard but keep it when they act like it is ceeb for a boy to be in the kitchen? Sorry if I sound bitter but I am. I know this doesn’t apply to all Somali households. Shoutout to those amazing parents raising their kids to be successful adults. I just wish the majority were like that.
@@Noname-vu1om I agree with you on every point, however after years and years of having this conversation, I actually gave up. I accepted this is how it’s going to be in this generation (for some households)
That's why their boys are on the streets into gang life and filled in the prison cause no one taught them Aqlaaq, Deen and equally household duty share growing up. Somali moms are the only parents who raise they children by their own and yet, they failed their sons to teach a real life lessons. They don't know how to raise sons/men at all.
I think is wast of time to compare boys and girls if we all teach and follow Islam everyone will understand their rule.
@@fadumonor868 what does that mean? How is making your daughters the slaves of your sons Islam? And how can men/boys sitting around being utterly useless be justified by anything?
This is why our men make up the worst leaders both as fathers husbands and leaders of their countries. Somali mothers do not understand that they are raising theirs sons to be future failures. Not only that their sons wont care for them in their old age because they will expect their elderly, in her old age to continue cooking for them and cleaning after them.
sister did you try taking turns cleaning with your siblings? Like each day someone will clean the kitchen ir something Its kinda sad how in the somali culture they expect girls to do everything
@@aesthete7227 hey hun, we usually clean on the weekends, and my siblings do clean when they’re told to, however it’s not a good job. I eventually got tired of doing the big jobs ie fridge, bathroom, stove, so I hired a cleaner 😇
They just don’t understand.. there is no demanding from siblings. The constant yelling and arguments leave you depleted and they work they do is not enough. It’s a losing battle.
Unless you're physically unable my conscience will not allow me to have someone to clean after me.
It’s more like deep cleaning not specifically after what you ate and wore but like walls floor places u can’t reach, cupboards all hard tasks it helps so much
its not about the little things, more so the deep cleaning
By the way I’m commenting again to say you are right that is lot in the west are so used to living rafad lifestyle that we never consider things like hiring anyone to clean. Allahuma barek laki. May Allah continue to bless you. I’m nowhere near being the oldest but that responsibility always fell on me because apparently I’m OCD for expecting to live in a clean house. Don’t even get me started on living with people who expect to be told what to do or they won’t lift a finger. 😒
Bruh why hire someone to clean?! Why not do it yourself it’s much easier and more efficient someone doing it for money and you doing it for ur own well being . And Alhamdulilah Allah gave us our feet and hands Alhamdulilah only get a cleaner if you actually have a disability
In some countries its actually normal to get cleaners maybe if like your work or homeschool your children someone cleans the house its normal its not about it being your house maybe you dont have that much time @WaterMelon-uz7wo
That's why their boys are on the streets into gang life and filled in the prison cause no one taught them Aqlaaq, Deen and equally household duty share growing up. Somali moms are the only parents who raise they children by their own and yet, they failed their sons to teach a real life lessons. They don't know how to raise sons/men at all. Anyways, us Somali sisters we need to LOVE ourselves and learn how to respect and nurturing. 😍😍😍
Yeah right boys are not in a gang because their not cleaning houses like females. I think the problem is much bigger than that
i would've done that but i'm paranoid about someone going through my personal space. you must be a "normal" person lol.... nothing strange crazy out of the ordinary but what if they steal something or place something in your home? like cameras or even worse put sihir in your home. god forbid i wouldn't trust anyone after that. i don't even leave the maintenance guy alone. i sit there, watching.
@@imanbashir-mi2zx girl I live in a typical Somali household with 7+ people 😂 that cleaner had eyes on her at all times. It was actually a funny sight because she’s cadaan passing that’s cleaning a house full of Africans. Plus she only cleaned the kitchen,bathrooms, living space and laundry. Not the bedrooms
Was her name shu shu ?
I like this but, I always assumed cleaners are expensive, like in the thousands of dollars. I will definitely tell my family to do this ones we go back to the West, In Sha Allah. Please share more ideas of how we can level up as individuals and as a community.
@@flowerpower7228 I definitely recommend hiring a cleaner once a month. It’ll never be in the thousands of dollars 😂
I need a cook! I love this for you though sister! Take care of yourself
15$ per hour is acceptable.
I don’t know where you live or how much you earn .
If you can afford why not.
I would love to have one. But I am too broke
Apologies if it Australia dollars then it’s ok. But it is still a lot. You can find a cheaper option.
@@wm9669 yeah it is expensive but my new cleaner did such a good job (exceeded Somali mum standard) that it was worth it 😁
That is good idea 😊
You make up looks amazing ❤
@@Zey_ducaysan thank you luv 🫶🏾
New subscriber ❤
@@khadijahassan7130 thank you luv ♥️
Cleaners don’t clean deeply the way the owner does
U can find ones who do, if u pay a high amount they will deep clean very good
It's important to supervise them as they work.
Nooo this isn't level up this is called Caajisnimo
Japan Koormee western country noqotay π™
@@2pacgilsi589 sorry for the confusion, I live in Melbourne Australia. I visited Japan for a solo trip only 😇