We need to talk about Sew Expo 2024
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I went to the 40th Anniversary of the Sewing & Stitchery Expo in Puyallup, Washington. And while there are good points, there are also some VERY BAD ones that I personally experienced. So lets dive into this sewing expo as a first time event-goer and a professional event manager with over 15 years of experience.
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What the actual hell??? I teach a sewing class where there is a LOT of measuring and touch involved, and I ask permission every. damn. time. Not just ask permission, but I explain what I'm going to touch and just as importantly, WHY, and give them options if they don't wish to be touched. Like 'The bust-span measurement is from nipple to nipple, are you comfortable with me touching there?' or 'For undies we need your groin measurement. Would you rather I instruct you how to take it yourself?'
I've been in that exact position before, when I went in to a lingerie boutique to ask about openings for a bra fitting. Instead of answering, the woman immediately started fondling my breast, and when I backed away, stepped forward after me to continue. I would feel sick if I ever made a student feel like that.
It's genuinely terrifying the number of women in positions of authority who think that this kind of behaviour is acceptable, and who would never see it as what it is- an outright sexual assault.
Excellent! I do these type things, too.
Well next time you can ask for a LASER Measure SO YOU DONT GET MOLESTED.
Even I have been sexually molested know if i go into a shop like that and ask for the measurement they will need to touch the areas that need to be measured .
Measuring your breast n fondling them is two different things
GRRRR
That’s horrible!
I recently attended a pattern drafting 2 day course. At the beginning the instructor let us know she would touch us to help fix the fabric but before EVERY SINGLE MOVEMENT the instructor would confirm consent and reiterated if we were uncomfortable at any point to tell them and at one point I was fitting my model, needed help and as the instructor held the readjusted fabric i poked model with a pin and the instructor IMMEDIATELY LET GO at the models non verbal discomfort and checked consent etc with the both of us.
I too, wouldve been too mortified/horrified if a stranger just randomly grabbed me and if it was on/near certain parts there would've been a physical rebuttutal caused by past experiences.
I also cracked up at the word used for top of crotch. This is why bodily consent/vocabulary is so so important to teach from a young age as there's no excuse of culture/age/background.
EXACTLY what I did when I did fittings. EXACTLY. As for the body shaming, the instructor ....I have no words for you @StephanieCanada, except for I am sorry for all of you. In a fitting class or session, touching is inevitable. But comfort for everyone involved is paramount. I am older, and even I have read the memo on that one, although I was raised to respect boundaries, and have always tried to read the situation. That said, at NO POINT, should butt-slapping come into play! UNREAL!
I too battle the bumps, blobs, and bulges of a larger body. I have days where it drags me down. I have days I KNOW I earned everyone of them and don't care how others perceive me. I don't think there is a person out there that doesn't overly judge themselves - skinny, fat, short, tall whatever - some just cope with it better. But I do know I don't ever need help putting myself down.
You wanted help learning how to better fit clothing that is either made for the generic masses, and truly fits no one well, or learn how to better fit sewing patterns that are also made for .... well, I'm still not sure who they're made for. Their sizing system alone is a shaming process.
We're all sisters in this struggle so all I can do is a cyber hug (with permission) you, and hope that maybe the experience will educate not only her, but others. I'm sorry it had to come at your expense though.
Oh man! I wish I could have been THERE instead! Consent is KEY!
YES! I’m a theater director & costumer, and there are multiple reasons you might want to touch actors or people you’re working with to relay information in the “easiest” way. I will as for consent before touching anyone for every single instance. I have no idea what people have going on and I’d never assume I had permission to do that without asking 😳
I'm an RN & I ALWAYS ask for consent. It would feel icky and predatory not to do so
"Peepee hole" sounds like she stuck her finger in the person's urethra... All sorts of grossness. I have issues with strangers touching me, I would have not reacted well to that class.
That pants fitter has been reported to multiple cons for really poor behavior like you described. I saw them listed and noped the heck out of this con - they’re invited, it’s going to be a poorly ran con.
Oh NO!!! That is horrible. And makes me so sad because you know there are other people that have had these experiences but haven’t spoken out.
why does no one do anything? Do they need content so badly, or do they want a lawsuit?
please name names
@@hillarymacabare1820 Stephanie chose to not, so I will respect that. It’s easily Googled.
@@KeiPalacethe pants fitter is a big name, so the cons like her. And my personal opinion is that a set generation typically attends these and they are prone to not causing a fuss. It’s a Wednesday, during work hours. Those are typically Boomer aged and up at sewing cons. I’ve attended those classes as a baby X or eldest Millennial and lowered the median age by a good 30 years.
Mama. You grew another human! Your belly is a battle scar!
Please accept this virtual hug. *hug*
Thank you! Hug accepted!
I was going to say this exact thing!
I came here also to say the same!
From one mom to another - you, and all of your most loved and hated parts - were strong and beautiful enough to bring life into this world. ❤️
@@StephanieCanada also if it helps to know you're not alone, please know that the body shape you describe is also what my mom looks like! Lots of people are shaped like this and that lady was either 1) talking nonsense or 2) hasn't been paying attention.
Wow, such inappropriate behavior. I measured high school kids for costumes for years and besides requesting consent, I used various tricks to never touch students. I would coach them through measuring themselves, and send some measuring jobs home to parents. In addition, there is a lot to be gleaned from just asking for sizes. Put it all together and you can craft a costume.
You are so right that being older doesn’t give you permission to touch anyone.
Good for you! You really don’t need to touch anyone to get it done, especially not THERE!
BIG AGREE. As a mom to a minor daughter, we model consent every day. It’s just normalized and a non issue in our home. I ask her before I even give her a hug most of the time. If I’m measuring her for a garment, I absolutely say something ahead of time. And it goes without saying that she holds the tape if there’s any measurement to be done in a sensitive area. Full stop. How the actual hell does this woman have the audacity to grab a stranger by the crotch?! I am irate for anyone who had such a violating experience.
Yes you should teach a vintage pattern class… I’d love to go!!!
Amazin! I will start working on one!
Could you do some of them in the southeast since it’s close to your home? I love your content, but have a hard time going further than Jacksonville, FL, Lake Charles, LA, and Jackson, MS. I live in the “land mass” between Mobile and New Orleans.
Oooo... New Orleans class? 👍 I know there's a sewing store with a classroom in the downtown area 👀
YES please yes!
@@StephanieCanadaI would love if you did an online zoom class! There’s way too few live online sewing classes.
"...we're here to sew and do nerdy things! That's what we do here!"
Thank you for summarizing my life.
Same!
That is the moment at which I hit 'subscribe.'
Girl! You had me crying with you! So glad you reported the first instructor, totally unacceptable. All bodies are not equal, and not all bodies grow babies!
Yeah. I am still sorta mad at myself for not speaking up when it happened but that is why I had to make this.
@@StephanieCanadaemotions are, by definition; not logical. Happy you shared it here.
I was crying too ❤
@@StephanieCanadait will have a big impact making a video
Sometimes, trauma takes us to "freeze" first before we get to "fight" in our responses.
Hello Stephanie. Body Positivity is so important at any age. I am a 71 year old woman and haven’t sewn since I was 14 years old. Why? I had a sewing teacher in grade school who shamed me into thinking that I was freakishly large and there were no patterns that would fit my body. Blanche DuBois (sewing teacher) exclaimed that she “just didn’t know what we were gonna do!” And for the record: I was 5 ft 3 inches and weighed 140 lbs.
That’s horrible. So sorry you had to go through that. And it shouldn’t matter, but I’m 5’3 and would love to be just 140lbs! Body shaming is disgusting.
damn that's toxic of her ! She should have been teaching you how to sew for your body shape and size instead of body shamming you !
Hello! When I was in high school, I was 5'2", and 130-140, and I thought I was huge, too! I never had the long legs that it seemed that ALL the other girls in high school had, so therefore, I saw myself as f*t. I'm 67 now, and still working on accepting myself.
🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ so disgusting
I’m 63 year old originally from Argentina, I googled that instructor and I said to myself for sure it’s an older teacher who grew up in the times where people were NOT very mindful of how approach body differences. I say this because I remember my grandmother and even my mom body shaming me for being too tall, and not petite like what was considered most desirable back then . Your video and that instructor comments brought back bad memories.
You were right to say something ❤ I must add my grandmother and my mom were both professional seamstresses.
I was wondering if she was an older woman from times before standards. I remember my first bra fitting as a kid. That lady grabbed and measured as she pleased. Teen eek moments. And the sewing fitting times if being pulled by the waistband...lol shared experiences I had no clue are not ok.
I'm 77 an back in the day you didn't even think about being touched when getting measured for new clothes. You were just very happy that you were getting something new. You wore clothes till they were thread bare and to small. Clothes were very expensive back then.
age is no excuse
@KeiPalace I disagree. Times have changed and older people are not aware of new ways. I an in my 50s and wouldn't have thought anything of it honestly. Clearly hosts need to inform their people of the expectations.
@@jeanninebooth6415 I'm 67 and would never allow such touch without consent to happen. Age is NOT an excuse.
Yes, in some cultures it was considered acceptable ... but this is 2024 and the United States, and if you can't follow current consent practices, you have no business teaching a class that requires consent.
Since I got my son I love every part of my body more - especially my stomach no matter how it looks now. You know why? Because it was able to create a miracle like him. Every mark from that experience shows that it happend. I was 41 as I gave birth so it was a too long wait. Having a healthy child or any child at that stage of my life makes me proud of myself. So don't let anyone shame you for the great body you have which made a new life minus a half sperm cell.
❤️❤️❤️
Totally, absolutely yes. I was 30 when I had my first baby, after many years of dr visits, surgery, 2 miscarriages, and a ectopic pregngncy, resulting in emergency. We had 3 beautiful children, 1 fallopian tube. So yes, having babies certainly is miraculous event. So I love my body too. I adore Stephanie, and her humor.
I'm sorry you had that experience. I'm struggling to love my body after a child, two kidney transplants, and head surgery. I need to rethink this. I'm 65 and still here. Many (including many in my family) can't say that.
I just listened to you about your sewing class. I agree about no touching other people's body and especially not degrade you for sensitive feelings. Some of is just have body issues that bother us and some we don't get over. I'm sorry you had that happen to you. I felt for you. That person giving the class was not a teacher because she could have showed what needed done on herself. She also needed to take sensitivity classes in what you can or can not do. I have taken many sexual harassment classes and the number one thing she did that was and is considered harassment is touching. That is a big do no do. That person should not teach that class or she needs to use a manican. 25:48
I am glad the rest of your time was better.
Wow … what a nightmare! Hope things change as a result of your objections regarding this absolute sh!t show!!!
Your tears/trauma broke my heart. I cried with you and was taken back to the horrible bra fitting I had last year at a major department store. I had never had a bra fitting, but was tired of wearing uncomfortable bras, so I screwed up my courage. When the petite fitter measured me, she actually gasped and exclaimed, "that has to be wrong!" She measures again, yup exact same number and says, "I think you must be a size -----" . Think? She then waves me towards the racks, now I am humiliated and given no help. (I am busty, but by no means the largest size carried in the store.) I left the store in tears not willing to give them my business. After a sit down in the mall to calm down. I went to a major bra retailer, where the fitter was more professional, who actually brought me bras to try on, but then informed me they were samples because they do not carry those sizes in the store, If I wanted them I had to go home and order them online! I guess if you aren't a size 2 retailers don't want our business. A little sensitivity on the part of the companies and employees shouldn't be too much to ask.
Bras are ridiculously narrow in availability and most people who need them are not wearing the proper size because it's not offered to them. I am by no means an outlier in size, but properly measured I wear a 30F/G, depending upon brand. A VS rep once tried to *shame* me into a 34C bra because that was the largest cup in their store. It was ludicrously wrong in fit, but that's all she had, so she told me I'd otherwise have to go to a plus sized store and pay the cost for all that extra fabric. It's hilarious to me now, and it helped then that my spouse found it alluring that I was "too big" for the lingerie seller.
Being shooved ingloriously into a size not my own then told I should be happy that mine are small-ish cuz ‘You wouldn’t believe what I’ve seen!’ It took me yrs to recover from that treatment, be brave enough to again and then get comfy w my real size cuz that lady was *way* off. You’re correct if you’re not the norm and choose not to conform to mistreatment, they do not want our business.
lane Bryant is a better company for the chesty
@@becpennington7470 I'm a 30D I don't look it but I am . I have to go to a specialty store to buy a bra. normal stores usually don't have anything under 32" for bands
@@ah5721 but the smallest band size they carry is usually a 38, which isn't helpful for many of us
Yes!!!!! Please teach!!!!
And thank you so so so much for your words. Your feedback and review has meant the world to me. I’m so happy we got to hang.
I'm glad Stephanie gave you a shout out! I'm binging your stuff!
This brought memories of the quilt expo Wisconsin that I volunteered at. Very chaotic and not well planned. They weren't sure where I was stationed, or what I was assigned to do. No info given about the quilts I was to show or when break was. After 5 o'clock people started leaving and all the stalls were being secured. No one came to relieve me, so I went to retrieve my items. I was yelled at for abandoning my "station". At the secured locker room I found out that the room was locked, & everyone had left!!! Had to wait for security to open the door, so I could retrieve my belongings. Never again....
HOLY MOLY. So, I'm a retired ballet dancer and costumer, and in ballet we have to get very hands-on to make corrections. There is a LOT of communication about this, but it is constant and common. We also have some lifts that are supported by the pelvic bones, so a partner's hand(s) may be right on the pelvic floor in certain moves - this is for older dancers and always done with close instruction and communication. In the studio, in an atmosphere with all these hands-on situations, I still as a fitter would never take measurements of dancers in personal areas of their bodies like that. They could hold the measuring tape themselves to sensitive spots, and take directional instruction for turning when needed. Where I did make contact, it was done with permission and discussion with witnesses who were welcomed to step in to advocate for the dancers' comfort (it really helped that as a dancer I was experienced with being on their end of the situation). There's just no reason to do anything like what you described. It's the definition of gratuitous, and egregious at that. She made herself clear by SLAPPING your friend; she knew what she was doing.
I once had someone measure me for a costume, yell the measurements across a room of people, and comment on how my body was 'bigger than she was used to costuming'. I was a UK 14 at this point. Thank you for being a lovely and considerate costumer.... x
As a native to Puget sound, I can explain why the air conditioner was on.
It removes the excess humidity, which is about 100% from the week after the rains return in the early autumn to mid summer when the drought weeks start. It's the only way to stop the mildew.
Seriously, to cold wet period is only 6 months long, we can have a very wide variety of fungi growing in the back of cupboard, closets, and anywhere there isn't enough heat and air flow. We then have the cool and wet, warm and wet. Moss grows on the south sides of our trees. My hubby uses our air con in the car more when temps are below 55F than above 75F.
I just want to give everyone who took that class a hug. I'm so sorry that happened. Teachers like Aaronica hope for the future of the sewing community. My body has changed quite a bit in the past few years. Sewing is one of the tools I'm using to love and accept my ever-changing body. I think a vintage sewing pattern class would be great. I live in a rural area so it would be great if there was an in person and virtual option. Thank you for being a positive light in the community!
Thank you for speaking out about this topic and informing the organizers of the show!
Thanks! I’m so sorry you had to endure that abuse. 5 children later you can understand I’m in the same boat and your tears are mine. You are beautiful and funny!
Thank you so much! You are very kind.
Good on you and BIG respect for bringing this to light! Many people would not have! I am so sorry you and Haley went through this. This behaviour is NOT acceptable and in today’s day and age (no matter WHAT generation you’re from) instructors should ABSOLUTELY. KNOW. BETTER!
Honestly, I knew I had to. I have to give a voice to those who have come before and to future goers to know that this is NOT ok.
I would love to take a vintage pattern class from you, Stephanie, not because I don't know about vintage patterns (as a teenager in the 1960s, I had learned to sew on '50s patterns and continued sewing with many of the patterns you now feature on your channel, so vintage patterns are a trip down memory lane for me) but because I so so SO enjoy your enthusiasm and humor. OMG, that pants-fitting instructor - you are too professional to have called her out on the spot, but I think I might have done so! As an, ahem, older woman I have no time or patience for insulting behavior, plus just being on the planet this long means I'm walking around in a body that drastically differs from pattern-makers' "norms". But hey, at least I'm still walking ;) LOVE your channel!
Aww thank you! I usually am the one that speaks up but I think I was in shock to what I was witnessing.
Wow, I hope they make some changes in their teacher list. How uncomfortable for everyone, sounds like. I loved your interview on Just Get It Done Quilts!
I hope so too. And thank you for listening to the interview!
Watching this morning I have no words ..Rage, Anger, and Shock come to mind but real words to even describe the experiences I have had to go through with my own issues with dysphoria. I have to say I admire your courage in the face of that travesty and also your strength You are a Beautiful crazed and loveable person and We the many who take part in your chaos love you and accept you with all your many facets. Thank you for speaking up and shining a light on it
Thank you for your kind words! I knew I had to say something, even tho the event did promise action.
Holy hell, I am so sorry to you, Haley, and the other participants. I am also a theatre professional & I would have been horrified in the same ways. Plus, I’m disabled/chronically ill. I’ve still attended conferences, but the extensive effort & energy exertion of just sitting in a long class means I’d be horrified if asked to move tables. I’d feel guilty for not helping without disclosing my invisible illnesses. Gross! And the lack of basic ADA access is appalling.
I have to say, seeing Haley happily scarfing that sandwich while nodding at everything you said gave me a big smile (despite the shitty circumstances.) All I could think was, “yes girl! You enjoy that sandwich!” So when you shouted out the sandwich later I cackled.
I have no idea if you’re in any Facebook sewing groups, but I can truly say they have been the biggest influence in healing my own struggles to accept & love my body exactly how it is. Right now. Not in some “distant future” where I’ll magically change a shape I’ve had for many years. I saw a quote once that said, “we don’t change our bodies to fit fabric. We change fabric to fit our bodies.” And I’ve kept that with me whenever I see fit fluctuations with my clothing for any number of reasons.
We love vintage sewing, so we know people altered & resized their clothes almost annually. There’s evidence in the seams of surviving garments. In today’s world, we’re all being sold clothes designed for such a small percentage of women with a very specific body shape. Sewing is a superpower to bring what an excellent fit feels and looks like for you!
Aaronica is a rockstar in some of these groups. So open & sharing with knowledge. Two of my favorite groups are The Curvy Sewing Collective Community and Plus Size Historical Costuming (lots of vintage clothes & excellent advice there too, not just pre-20th Century.) Incredible inspiration & tips from amazing people like Aaronica 😊
Thank you for all this great info! I will make sure to check out some of the groups you mentioned.
@@StephanieCanada oh! I forgot 2! Sewing For My Not Pregnant Belly and Sewing For Renaissance Festivals are both wonderfully inclusive w/wide style projects in both.
I’m so sorry you were put through that. I would have had a meltdown if that was happening to me. I felt even weird when I was measuring the crotch of a dress form for UA-cam. Seriously I am so mad at that teacher!
It was so crazy! I knew I had to speak up.
Hi Stephanie. I ran into you at one of the booths and managed to squeak out of HI. It must be very strange to run into people who feel they know you and you have no clue who they are. I tried to be cognizant of that.
It was my second time at Sew Expo. The first time was about 10 years ago, and it has not changed. What I learned from my first experience was to pick out your classes when the catalog was released and then just input the course numbers the day the tickets go on sale. I also had the delight of waiting for them to open late. My classes were a mixture of good and mediocre. I would love to take a class from you.
Stay well Dotschi
Omg I really hope they take your comments and make the changes that really need to change. I think if I had been there I would probably have left that class in tears 😢
Honestly I think there was a few folks that did.
Wow! Wow! WOW!! I am so sorry to hear about the horrific experience you and Haley (I love Haley too!) experienced in that class! I would assume that anyone wanting to take any fitting class is doing so to be able to have their garments fit them in the best and most flattering way possible in an effort to overcome any body image challenges that person may have; not to be left feeling ashamed or embarrassed by them. I looked up this “instructor” so I can avoid any future classes offered. I have my own body issues as a plus sized gal and love watching what you and Haley and the oh so lovely gal in pink at the ECCC ;) do! You wonderful ladies have helped me in my sewing journey. I certainly would not have been quiet while being handled in such a way and would have immediately pulled the instructor aside for a real quick “come to Jesus” chat. Unacceptable, unprofessional, and immensely disrespectful behavior. Thank you so so much for work. ❤️ I hope any other instructors seeing your video and reconsider their own teaching methods. Now to go and finish watching the rest of the video. Love ya!
I am usually the person who speaks up so I think I was just in so much shock from it all.
This was my first year of attending in person. I did the Virtual one during COVID, but only the Free and Lecture classes. I did do a class with the first teacher later on Friday (Cloning your clothes). It was the class I was most looking forward to, but it was meh. She wasn't touchy in that class, but did make us move the tables twice. We got told off by the facilities people the second time because of the noise in the draped class rooms. She did say this was her last year of teaching.
And I agree that Aaronica was lovely. I took the second class that you were in and got a lot out of it, which is amazing for a 45 minute class. Your advice on vetting the teachers is a good one.
The other complaints I heard were the increase in pricing. And the class that had kits were really added up. I heard people say they were only going one day rather than 3 or 4. The vendor prices went up also, so many vendors didn't come this year also.
Over all I had a good time and will go back. Thanks for your input, it was helpful!
Thank you Stephanie for sharing your experience with this instructor. I am registered for the same class in Cleveland and have already contacted the show organizers about switching my registration.
Wow... gotta give you props for not leaving that one class. My best friend and I think being event planners (retired) have jaded us a bit. Whenever one of us goes to any planned event... we just can't help but see what could have been set up better or what we'd done different. Cords NOT taped down usually leads the way.
The CORDS!!!! That is my first warning sign of a poorly run event.
Right? Yes, gaff tape is expensive, but so are medical bills and lawsuits. Yikes.
OMG, YES! I've done stage management for community theatre & have assisted with event planning -- a friend created a craft show & several of us helped with organization. The first location we used had... /ahem/ Issues /ahem/ with things like cord control. We would go around the entire space the day before just to call their people back to sort out hazards. And when we allowed exhibitors into their spaces, we would go around again to make sure they weren't leaving hazards. (Those who couldn't be persuaded to sort out such were not invited back.) We had a team of about... 10-15 people who just randomly walked the space throughout the event to make sure there were no issues.
Stephanie, I watched this last night and had to take the evening and morning to think. Your body is a miracle from above! It does amazing things! It has born a child! My mother once told me that the reason she sewed and taught us to, was so we could create items to wear that were as unique and beautiful as we were. Not sure why the "teacher" of that class thought she was so perfect and her students weren't, but I do know the world would be a boring place if we all looked and dressed the same! Please continue to show us your beautiful spirit and all of the unique and beautiful items you make that reflect your beautiful self. Every beloved woman in my family over the age of 40 has a gorgeous, womanly, curvaceous body! Catch up world of fashion!! We're coming for you! ❤️
Oh Stephanie!!! So sorry that this happened to you and everyone involved!
Thank you!
@@StephanieCanada No no. Thank you for bringing light to what happened ... It's not that common of a thing to occur, especially in this day and age but all I can say is if that "teacher who shan't be named" was one of my teachers let alone fit instructor back in college for design 20+ years ago she would have been axed ... I also acknowledge that there are many individuals out there who do turn a blind eye to the way that the world is awakening to things like the concept of consent but I think with this individual it is more than just being ignorant. Also yuck to the early mornings!
I'm very non confrontational by nature. I struggle even with little near inconsequential things. However, I also have this little thing my bff and I like to call "mom friend override" where, I can and will initiate a confrontation if my family or friends are the ones who are affected. I don't know that I would have been able to make it through that class without (politely, because that's the best way) telling that teacher where she could stick her handsy hands and her rude, and unnecessary comments. I've had 2 kids, and while most of me is VERY petite, I have a pooch that I'm aware of, but certainly don't need pointed out. I've accepted it's a part of me, and the price I paid and would pay willingly again, for my 2 beautiful children. I don't have to love it, but I have learned to accept it, and the rest of me, as it is. I'm glad you took steps to get yourself in a better mental place after (thrifting is the best
I went to sew expo a couple of years ago. As soon as you said you were asked to put the tables in a circle, I knew who it was. I didn’t do pants fitting but another of her classes. My class was so hard to follow just because of the constant random stream of consciousness of the teacher.
I did Aronica Cole’s measurement class, a bodice fitting class (where no one touched you without your OK and never inappropriately), and Jennifer Stern’s yoga pants class. Everyone was super positive and supportive, from the instructors to fellow students.
I’m so sorry you had such a negative experience the first day. You are beautiful, and every single body is unique. That’s why we need classes on fitting! We’re not all the same! I have learned so much and been so entertained by from your channel and look forward to new videos!
Hugs from Texas
Couple of things: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE consider giving a class next year at the Expo in Atlanta so I can (selfishly) meet you, but also so you can share about how to best preserve/use vintage patterns. ALSO, I am AGOG at the experience with being inappropriately touched and the body shaming. I know that can happen any time, any where but good LORT, the one place I would expect to be safe is at a sewing class taught by a woman-identified person. I am SO sorry that you both went through that. :(
I admire and support your fury. Thank you.
As a medical college instructor, my goal was to be at the classroom, meeting the class at the door.
For labs, I set up the day before.
For fire alarms, I directed all students up, and followed them out to evacuate.
For our hands-on classes, all students are expected to participate, but are warned well in advance and allowed to choose their partner(s). This was also used to demonstrate how to touch patients. Permission first.
Just listening to this horrifying experience I feel for all who had to endure it. I also have insecurities about my stomach area along with other places since having my kids and I sympathize with you. After all our bodies created a whole human being and we carry the battle scars. And should not be disrespected like that. So much ❤ Stephanie
Thank you for your kind words!
I adore your rants, you say exactly what needs to be said. Vintage pattern class, yes please!
The bad instructor's website is receiving so much traffic that it's down. She's probably never had this kind of attention and it's for all the wrong reasons.
I hope nobody is sending her absolute hate, but I also hope she learns from this and issues an apology. A good apology. Not a non-apology. She really needs and deserves a wake-up call. That behavior was not acceptable and expecting her students to rearrange the class to boot likely violated expo policy if not the ADA.
And before anyone asks, I'm not naming names. You can search through the class catalog yourself like I did.
Oh Stephanie I'm so sorry that happened to you and the others. I would have been in tears. You my dear are very kind. ❤
Thank you!
Thank you for this honest and detailed review. It's so important to make sure consent, communication , and body positivity are a part of classes like you pointed out. Sharing this information helps us all in the future and hopefully improves everyone's experience at events. Also, thank you for the recommendation of an awesome sewist to follow on social media.
Thank you for watching and yes I love to find the good creators and shout them out! We all need more Aaronicas
Im a retired seamstress specializing n bridal alterations. Omg!?!?! Touching anywhere on the front of the body is assault. Particularly in a class where people might feel pressured to give permission when they really don’t want to.
I would train my staff to use correct terms, always refer to the faults in the dress/sewing pattern and never ever refer to faults in the body. It’s just professional. I do think it is old thinking because I grew up in the 80’s and it was very normal to make fat jokes, comment on my enormous feet, huge hips and etc. Watch old tv shows and you’ll notice the difference. But for an instructor to use this language is unacceptable.
Yup! It can be and should be done with consent and I love the way you trained your staff!
i had to pause this vid because i started crying! i didn't KNOW how triggered i was about body positivity! THANK YOU for your kindness in the midst of this Review of the EXPO.
Okay fellow sewing people. And a teacher at Sew Expo. And that 8:00 am class was just MEAN. 😂
ABSOLUTELY, I would attend your classes. Even though I am vintage and have used the 50's and up patterns, love you, your sense of humor, the animated way of speaking. I can see a career in stand up comedy.😂😂😂. So thankful for Aaronica who flipped diasterous situations to raise the vibrations of the trauma causing classes. THAT IS NEVER OK IN ANY BOOK. THAT IS ASSAULT, PERIDOT. Sorry yall had that experience. I love how you gave an order do,not spew hate, as it never solves anything. Your pocketbook speaks volumes. Promise ya💚. Stephanie, only women can create the miracle of a child. The best SUPER POWER you have, don't forget that. Your followers love you💚💚💚. Peace, love and light sent to you. My bestest friends in life who got me through the toughest times were melenated sisters.
I always have to choose between Emerald City Comic Con and Sew Expo as they are usually on the same weekend. However in 2025, they are happening on separate weekends. Hope you are able to come out again next year.
I should be able too, but unless I teach I think I will save it for Comic Con. 😁
I hate anyone had such an awful experience. Thank you for being bold and vulnerable enough to share it here so others have a clearer picture.
First of all, so sorry you experienced that in the pants course. My jaw dropped at what you described. I took a sleeve class (room G after they fixed the entrance issue) which was much less intrusive, and while I didn't dislike the instructor, he was super snarky to a couple ladies in the back who had a hard time following. I don't feel like he stuck the landing. We got most of the way through the sleeve draft and he just sort of stopped to sell us some dress forms.
Bummed I missed you (I did spot Haley and that gorgeous coat of hers though). I spotted you in passing the next day at ECCC. Loved the Deadpool dress!
I noticed the garbage cans too and my first though was "Oooh, Stephanie is going to have something to say about this." I know they have tons of garbage bins during the fair so it was so weird that they were so lacking during this event.
Also, Aaronica was great. I took a 1 needle class from her, totally felt like I got my money's worth, and found it really validating and uplifting. 10 out of 10 would recommend a class from her.
I think my biggest problem with the show is value for money. There are so many classes offered that I could just watch a youtube video on. I wish there were more fitting and drafting classes (not like the one you took, oof!) and like you said, more difficult techniques. I felt like I just wasn't the audience. This was my second year, first year taking classes, I'll probably go again but mostly just to shop.
I will die happy if I am the creator known for making events add more trash cans!
29:17 I would love to take a class with a teacher like Aaronica. 🥰
EDIT: I am proud of you for talking about the first teacher. It can be hard to speak out when it happens in the classroom.
So sorry all of that happened Stephanie! ❤great coverage of the event, who knew I would go on a sewing expo rabbit hole this morning lol!
Thank you for your kind words Aaron! And it is a rabbit hole for sure!
I feel bad that I had to pause the video several times to process. I have a bad history with s.a. and body image. I would have had a panic attack in that class. I hope all the attendees were alright afterward and able to rise above the negativity and inappropriate behavior thrown at them. I am just floored by this situation.
“Sew and do nerdy things….”
I love it ❤😂
You go girl, and we are with you xx
Hi there, long time watcher, first time commenter. I have always enjoyed your content and am absolutely an admirer of your chaos and fun. What you do is amazing and that you share it here brings a ray of sunshine to my little part of the world. To answer your question as to whether or not we'd be interested in seeing you teach a class in vintage patterns (honestly anything!), if I could ever get out of Alaska, I'd be sew there! Hehe, nerd puns.
I am so sorry for your first day experience. As one who is working on my own healing from my body image, I totally understand your pain and can't believe the actions of that teacher. Appalling doesn't even start to describe it. I'll be mad about it for weeks.
Finally, thank you, thank you, thank you. I have been looking for something to push my creativity and own chaos and was able to snag one of those free months of your sponser. Love what you do, love your channel, love your work. Thank you, thank you!
Thank you so much for this video, for so many reasons. Your perspective as both an event planner, and an event participant are invaluable. I'm so sorry you had to go through the trauma of that first class. On the other hand, I'm happy to hear about what to look for in a good instructor at an event like this.
I am sorry for what happened to you and everyone at that class. I would love to see you teach a class. I think you would do a fantastic job. ❤❤
Thank you!
Hi Stefanie. I really enjoyed your review of the Sewing and Stitchery Expo. I live about a hundred miles north of Puyallup , and have attended this sewing extravaganza many times. I’m so sorry that you had to experience that terrible pants fitting class. I usually skip the classes and only go one day every few years. I have found in the past that the classes were over promised and underwhelming. I went on Saturday and now my big disappointment is that you weren’t there. I think n intro to vintage patterns would be a class I would enjoy. Next time you are in the northwest come on north and I’ll buy you lunch.
Aww sorry I missed you! Honestly, the classes taught by Aaronica were amazing! I feel like I got what I paid for from her classes. But the first one was a big yikes.
It seems like the instructor isn’t positive about her own body and is taking it out on her students. I’m SO glad you spoke up because people like that should know that times have changed and it’s not appropriate nor helpful to treat people that way. The whole reason most of us sew is because initially we couldn’t find clothes that fit us properly.
I am so sorry you had that experience the first day!! I had a sewing teacher in Jr High that was like that. Hands everywhere and just shoved you around as she saw fit. It was a shame because she was SUCH a fabulous seamstress and so knowledgeable! But she made me so uncomfortable whenever there was fitting and measuring to be done. I pray the professional, yet outraged, letter you sent will be taken seriously. No one should be treated like that. Ever. There is a reason the class was rather small. The Words out!!
I went to a sewing expo about 30 years ago. Other than the vender floor, whole thing was a waste of time and money for me. The classes I went to involved different woman standing in front of us reading a script so fast, using a sound system that was so poor I only understood about every 10th word. Or was doing complex pattern modification at top speed, assuming that everyone there was already an expert!! No explanation of how or why. I tried to take notes but it was impossible. Then there were the classes that were basically just an hour long commercial for products they were trying to sell. It was the first and last Sewing Expo I ever went to.
As someone who has struggled with body issues I found so much grace and relief in sewing because it gave me agency over clothes again. I have to say I’ve watched a lot of your videos and really enjoy them ❤ I’m so sorry you and your friend experienced that and I just want to say you are beautiful and a huge inspiration to me as a beginner sewist! I’m so honoured to learn from someone like you than someone who would be so dense, inappropriate and cruel to you and your friend. ❤❤
Ironically, I live in Puyallup and did not attend the Sewing Expo although a friend, who is an expert seamstress and always attends, did. She came came away with some mixed feelings this year after noticing fewer venders than usual. After chatting with some of the vendors there she found that some of them will not be returning next year because of escalating prices for their booths.
OMG 😦 Stephanie!!! My heart is just weeping for y'all. That instructor, and I say that lightly, was very unprofessional. I'm just floored. Honey, I had 4 kids. They called my tummy a roadmap and now at 60 it is a 3d roadmap. I totally get the uncomfortable position she put you in. I am so sorry sweetie. ❤
Thank you for the kind words!
I can tell you living in the Puget Sound area the reason everyone cleared out by 2pm on Friday is TRAFFIC. If you don't get through Bellevue or Seattle before 3 it will take hours and everyone tries to avoid that
As a Canadian of a 'certain age', I grew up with imperial measurements, and metric was introduced much later. I am also a woman of a 'certain size', so I find measuring myself (even weight) in metric to be enough of a disconnect that I feel less triggered than in imperial measurements.
Thank you for being so open and reassuring in your video!
Omg...The tears nearly burst from my eyes when things got emotional there... THE WORST. Im so sorry this happened to you. I know this struggle only too well. It is an everyday effort to love ourselves ❤❤❤ i love you and your channel so much ❤❤
What the most ACTUAL AND LITERAL heck?!?!? Im SO sorry you went through that, it shouldn't have happened at all!! Im shocked because I remember from your vid of last sewing expo wasnt great and the fact they flopped SO bad AGAIN?! not only that they let an instructor COMMIT actual crimes?! So awful!
Wow. I've been to partner dancing workshops - where touch is kind of required - that do a better job of prioritizing consent than that class.
I am aghast at this story, and I am so sorry you went through that.
Right! It is a simple consent conversation. It quite actually takes 10 seconds.
@@StephanieCanada exactly. No excuse.
Stephanie❤ I am so sorry that you had that experience, I appreciated you being able to share, your very brave and extremely professional on how you handled this. So proud to be apart of your beautiful community let’s make lemonade out of this. Steph you need to start your own expo! Oh yeah 😀
I’m so glad people like you are strong enough to use your platform to combat the horrible issues like this. This is absolutely horrific on so many levels. I was upset just at the beginning with the disrespect of time and everything of her arriving late and having you rearrange the room but then the horrific details you outlined later just broke my brain.
This is not a judgement but a statement of solidarity of experience. I find it sad that in a room full of mature women the power differential still silenced anyone from speaking up at the time, especially at the outset when the youngest was singled out and shamed at the least, and abused at worst. Why is it that as women, put into the scenario of teacher/student, we feel we cannot use our voices? How can we support each other better in these situations?
the precieved power of teachers really shouldn't be underestimated. maybe its something seeded from childhood when we were punished for speaking out when something unfair happened. i see so many uncomfortable things happening in college too
Yiiiikes. 😬 The pants fitting class alone is the kind of thing that's going to completely turn people off from sewing/sewing classes. Now I feel so lucky that I got back into sewing via a very fat-centric/body positive community.
(I would like to add a tip I've heard re:taking your measurements when that's a source of body anxiety, which is to swap from imperial to metric or vice versa, depending on which you typically use. It helps to reduce the measurement to a more neutral number.)
I found a trick for my measurements. I use ribbon, unlabeled, just a colored ribbon for waist, different color for arms, etc. then mark the ribbon. No ruler/tape measure needed and no one needs to know your size. Bring the ribbon to the expo and just tell the teacher, I’ve got it all here and pull out the ribbons.
Really enjoyed listening/watching this, lots of good information. Thanks.
Thank you for watching.
Stephanie, sorry you had to go through all that. And by the way, you have a lovely figure. Never feel less than the beautiful woman you are.
Thank you for your kind words!
I am absolutely appalled at what you and the other students in that class went through! I am so sorry you experienced that! Thank you for putting it out there to make others aware.
Thanks so much for being open and sharing how bad it felt to be the victim of that body-shaming first instructor. Back in the way back when I was young enough to care what the "fashion" industry declared acceptable, I was nearly six feet tall and never actually got the right look. When Twiggy was the icon, i was nicely rounded like Sophia Loren. When Sophia Loren was the icon, I was lean as Twiggy. I got sick of trying to be the "ideal du jour" I decided to wear whatever felt good,, fit properly, and most of all wear what I enjoyed. I raised more than a few eyebrows but man was it great. My Mom taught me to sew starting when I was five years old, so I was able to make clothing that fit MY standard. I appreciate you so very much and I'm so glad you're available to people like me. Keep going -- you're awesome
Every word worth saying, and so many of us would be too afraid to speak up. You spoke for us. Thank you!
Wow! Stephanie your insides are eye opening. Consent is ALWAYS necessary.
Looking forward to seeing your Comicon video.
Stephanie I am sorry you had a bad experience at this event but it sounds like that the other classes were way better. I have been to similar events here in Australia and understand many of the frustrations you shared. Keep on being you
Thank you! ❤️
The positive talk reminds me of my lovely pattern drafting teacher telling us the pattern is meant to fit the body, not the body to fit the clothes. So it was not you that needs to change, it was the pattern. Hence why we learn to drafted!
Omg. I'm watching this video and it just gets worse and worse. I'm so sorry you and everyone else had to go through that.
I design maternity and postpartum patterns and might teach there next year. You should sign up too! It sounds like they could really use some new instructors.
That instructor... I have no words. You are right, there's no excuse. It isn't hard to measure or fit a body without touching it.
Sending you ALL the love, Stephanie ❤
I'm so sorry that you had a horrible experience to the point of tears. So here's my comformations for anyone who needs it and I have said this many times before to my family member who also has issues with her body after having her child. I truly hope this helps someone.
It's proof that you have done something amazing and wonderful so don't be ashamed that you no longer have a flat stomach instead wear the stretch marks like badges and that no longer flat space well that's the highest level of badge the purple heart kind. Because it's an honor to be able to call yourself mom. So never discurage about your badges of honor again instead hold your head high and with your big Ole grin proudly wear and declare that you are above the standards because you are a mom😊😊❤❤
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You can also just have a pooch and stretch marks without having had a kid. Because bodies.
I am so sorry this happened to you and to Haley, as well as the rest of the class.
On another note, I am so glad you enjoyed Aaronica classes! She is amazing and I can’t wait to take an in person class with her!❤
❤I am so sorry you went through that. ❤
🎉 As a mom of 5, four of whom were born to me, before I was 30 years old, I totally felt that🎉
HOWEVER, as a WOMAN, approaching 60, let me share something with you:
Being a mother is the greatest thing that will ever happen to you.
You would walk through hell for your babies, and not even give it a second thought.
Wear that belly with pride! Look at those stretch marks, and thank whatever higher power you believe in, for every single one.
I weighed 100 lbs., when I was 10 years old. The only reason I ever felt bad about myself was because of Hollyweird. I kicked that to the curb a long time ago!
You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out. I love your videos, and your sense of humor! I would totally hang out with you!
Flip it! It's an honor!❤
Thank you Stephanie❤❤
in recent weeks have gotten some Aaronica B in my feed and it is true. She is delightful and fun and SO knowledgeable. Highly recommend anything she does.
I'm so sorry that happened. That was so not OK and disgusting. After that first section, I was worried that you were going to have a terrible time overall. I'm glad Aaronica was able to help turn that crappy experience around for you and the others (quite a bit from the sounds of it!), and I'm glad the event seems to be taking it seriously. I would love to take a class from you, either online or in person! Just let us know when and where!
I’m so sad that you all went through that but so glad you reported what happened. People need to speak out or nothing changes. Also I am very much not a morning person!
The mother’s body is a miracle - EVERY time. No matter what it looks like after it gave life. It is beautiful and remarkable. I hope you know that, even when the negative self thoughts are there to battle you 💔 I know our society tells us differently and that is hard to combat.
Thank you for your kind words!
Yes, please come teach about vintage patterns at Sew Expo. I'll bring my Puyallup sewing buddies. Meanwhile good to see a review. I've thought we need reviews of the classes as some teachers are so good it improves my sewing experience immensely while others leave me disappointed. I will watch for Aaronica Cole in the future.
I am so sorry that you experienced such trauma. And there is NEVER a reason for INAPPROPRIATE and/or NON-CONSENSUAL TOUCH! NEVER. I also hope you will consider becoming their event stage manager as well as teaching a few classes at the expo. You have so much information to share (I'd take a beading class from you or any class as I know I'd be in a supportive, creative, and fun space). We see you and uplift you! (Selfishly, I'd prefer you teach online as it's just cost effective for me)
I would love to go to a sewing expo with you teaching a class about vintage patterns. Or talking about vintage fabrics or vintage sewing manuals. Those would be awesome.
Stephanie, I am so sorry to hear about your very negative first class was. I was there all 5 days and had a blast. My check book not so much. I bought a new serger and a new sewing machine. As far as ticket purchase, I had a Dr appointment that started 15 min before tickets went on sale. I took my iPad because I knew I would have lots of sitting time. I was able to start the ticket purchase process right at 9 PST and by 9:10 I had purchased a 4 day pass and 10 classes! Thanks for the fun video! Oh and Aronica was awesome. I took a class from her and will happily take more!
Thank you for posting this video! I am so sorry you went through this issue. Wow! How unprofessional!!
Got half way through this and had to step away. But I wanted to come back and leave a positive comment.
You are spot on. In your own outrage and in turning it to something both productive and protective of others. I'm glad you had the email back from the organisers re: their immediate changes.
Please please please do a live event anywhere on the east coast! I would love to be able to take a class with you do a meet and greet anything!
I will start working on it!
Atlantic City or the Stafford Township Arts Center in Stafford Township NJ wouldbe awesomeif you want to come up north. I use to be the secretary for STAC and it is a not too far of distance from NYC (about 2 hours) and Philly (about an hour) and just over the bridge from LBI. They have a "dance room" that can be used for a workshop. You could do a discussion, demonstration (they have drop down side projectors), or Q & A session in the theater (it has 812 seats and is pretty. I think you would appreciate it) and you could even stream it. I use to be the secretary there and did a lot of different types of events with them. @@StephanieCanada
Wow. This video was excellent. As a former HR manager, you are spot-on!