She gets the so called best because she is his wife not his mistress! There isn’t anything powerful in another woman knowing he is married but still precedes. When will women start supporting women and leave the dirt bags alone!
I love my husband with all of mu heart and soul and I am so grateful that GOD GAVE ME YOU!!!!!!!! My baby forever and for all eternity ❤ Your beautiful wife- J. Wilkerson
November 2023 and this song still cuts like a knife through my heart. The tears in her eyes. The cry in her voice. Even the expression on Kristian Bush’s face as he plays the guitar. He knows the hurt she’s been through. This song will remain timeless in my book!
This is what I call real country music... it touches your soul and heart. Wish we had more of it being created today instead of all of this shallow commercial junk...
Wife of 19 yrs walked out on me and our 5 kids last July. We spent months homeless or in a shelter. After countless 60 hr work weeks I made us a home again. Now after all our struggle and after she's had her fun, she wants back in. It hurts, but after careful consideration I have advised her to stay.....stay gone, stay away. Sad but kind of happy at the same time. God, this song reminds so much of all the times I begged her to love me. In the end it was for the best. Great song
My mom used to listen to this song over and over. She’s been gone 5 years and listening to it makes me feel close to her. What a sad song. I miss my mom.
Well let me start off by saying as an African-American woman a lot of people don't think we like country music but we love country music this song is so touching to see her cry tears actually brought my knees and tears because as a woman I can relate to this on both ends of the coin haven't always been a proud of my actions put this song has made me stronger still listening to the song in 2024
Not all of us stereotype. I was at the grocery store yesterday and a carload of African American dudes were blasting Metallica out of their super sub/amp stereo in their car. I took my time loading my groceries because I was enjoying the heck out of it.
Music speaks to us ALL! Anyone with a soul❤ the good music that has the power to move our souls. .doesn't matter what type of music it is❤ we're all one❤ fighting this battle together
If you listen carefully to the song, the first part she says "he always goes home", she's the MISTRESS, not the wife, listen carefully. I just heard it and felt so dumb...
This song is what I'm dealing with the same thing but I'm the girlfriend who is being cheated on and I let him come back to wake up to him being gone again back to her the pain is the worst I ever felt
Christians eyes couldn't reckon the pain from toners eyes because she is not Andrea.christian is just a product of one of echos cameras in my house watching us get it on at the stove. He's just a fixed image. Of there sickness.
Yo you can call you in a minute with St Mary's to see what you are right about it and if I can work for a while but I have to run ey and I have errands we can work with the smoke and I have a ye rut y u know where she was going on the porch and I was thinking 💭 was going to be a eye doctor 🏥 with the eye I texted you about r u w and eyes and e and really really really appreciate that I was thinking you would eueu everything else well if we
Good morning any chance we can try it out tomorrow yet ei I have a few minutes and really ry eye 👀 e ieujosky to end end of the week and end of week eu we haven't done 👍 EU and right right now except for the store down there 😭 right now I know exactly right now I understand r
Sandy, she was going through a divorce at the time so it was emotional to her. That's why it's a great song, the emotion she was feeling came in the song.
I love performing this song, even in noisy bars, it seems to stop people in their tracks, just one of those heart wrenchingly soulful songs that can not be ignored. ❤
It's so sad that her can do it so good there so good they can do it all right on yall I lost my mom 2 years ago I hurt so much sugar land... from cody Barrera y'all
You can see that her green eyes are cloudy Grey. You guys out there, watch your girlfriend's eye color! If it gets brilliant,... prepare to loose your virtue. If it's leaning toward Grey, get ready to loose your girl.
@@marybentley843 think about it from the other side. I'm pretty sure it wasn't her idea... and if you absolutely had to pick a time to die, ... when would be the good time? Lost mine in 08. Feelin' Y'all, Thank God we only have to do it once for each parent !
every time she sings this I feel itl deep in my soul. She sang it with her whole heart. Almost as if she's really experienced it. Regardless of the topic she sings it beautifully. Soulful music!!
Ms. Taylor thank you for holding my hand through that last procedure in Midland memorial hospital. If it wasn't for you I'd probably be dead. I'll always remember those beautiful green eyes as I woke up in that hospital bed. Luv you "Dr. Taylor" 2:38
It's an understatement to say devastation is what one feels when a marriage ends due to infidelity. I was more than shocked since it was a close friend. I'll keep all who have experienced what I have in a general prayer.
I was married for close to 30 years when my husband left me for a woman at work. It tore me up and almost broke me. The absolute darkest time of my life. Sometimes I was so broken I felt like I couldn’t breath. It’s been 3 years since that day and while I almost can’t stand to remember the feeling of the darkness, I am proud that I made it through a time where I almost gave up. Some people comment that maybe we will be friends in the future when the pain passes. I always reply, absolutely not. I have no desire to relive the absolute betrayal from a man who disposed of me like common trash. No thanks! I spent so many years feeling worthless and alone. I don’t need to live that way ever again.
Anyone who's ever been in this situation feels this song on a different level. Shame on the man or woman who awakens a love with no true intentions of nourishing it.
I’m currently going through this now. It’s heartbreaking for me honestly. Her ex always harassed her causing issues with us and she’d leave. I’ve been broken for a while
I agree and it's a powerful song and another powerful song is Sara Evans A Little Bit Stronger cuz you can't let one bad experience or 20 bad experiences break you you have to get stronger otherwise you lose out
I was in a diner when I was about 7 years old. And my friends grandfather said "a man ought to be ashamed of himself making a beautiful woman cry like that."
Acording to what I read, this was the first Sugarland song written entirely by Nettles, and she did not think it was all that good, but the other member of Sugarland, Kristian Bush, finally convinced her to let him read the lyrics, and he was blown away. He also stated he feels like a big brother to her...he is a married man. He described how through multiple attempts Nettles kept breaking down crying. It was making him very angry, and he said it was like watching a close friend being tortured, and by Noon he was exhausted emotionally, and just said they would have to peice together the clips, he could not bear to watch this anymore. Even though the end result required dubbing over the parts she was breaking down in, that is what makes this video so powerful. It is almost like she layed bare every emotionally painful thing that had ever happened to her in this video. You can't possibly fake that, or even reproduce it. Sugarland has done this song countless times since, live. In my opinion, none of the subsequent performances carry the raw emotion of this video. I can also easily see why Kristian Bush found it so hard to watch it, but it made for a truly remarkable video that is hard to ever match...the viewers could truly feel the pain. It was real, it was raw, and it was amazing.
Wow I absolutely luv your explanation of this video. It truly portrays the depth of this pain. This is something I relate to personally from both sides. I'm definitely so grateful I've grown.
Thank you Sarge1231 for sharing these details. Though filmed years ago and I'm watching for the first time I feel her pain throughout the video and was wondering am I again being a softy for exceptional acting or is this pain real because every fiber in my being is screaming out for this woman. No one should experience the kind of pain reflected in this song.
I am blown away every time I watch the video. The hard, raw emotion she shows in the video is so powerful. I watched so many attempt to cover this song and they start the video laughing or smiling, and I can't watch.
You know you’ve healed when this song no longer breaks you. ♥️ Such a beautiful song, I will never forget the tears I cried while listening to this song over on replay.
@@rhondaboncutter5812 the passion we once felt for each other turned to complacency , that's when I found more love in a bottle . Been chasing ghosts from then on .
@@mikelcage6438 yeah man alcohol feels like the ultimate friend to kill solitary in these times but it also do one thing that is slowly destroying from inside(the organs)
jeez my mom listened to this song a lot when i was a kid because my dad and her got divorced because he cheated , i loved it a lot but i didnt understand why she liked it so much. Now im a 21 year old man now about to cry everytime i hear this song play because i know now she was broken deeply. this song will forever be a healing experience for me 16 years later shes happy remarried living a life i thank god shes living today because the sacrifice she went through working almost 3 jobs to support me and my sister. i can never thank her enough for what she did
The same here my husband cheated on me and it broke my heart it was like I got stabbed a million times I don't know why he did it I gave him the world I treat him the best gave him everything he wanted and I have four kids I raised by myself two jobs taking care of the kids when I will come home we'll get three or four hours of sleep head back to the other job while he was messing around and doing his drugs I didn't know what was going on but I stand hard for my own two feet and hell my head up high for my kids I had to make it every time I hear this song it hurts like I'm getting stabbed all over again by him I don't ever forget him but it's a sin not to forgive somebody so I got forgiven I don't talk to him I don't have nothing to do with him I try to stay away from him because it just brings memories of him abusing me man to leave physically and then while he was doing what he wanted to do without me knowing and it hurts every time somebody will call he will leave and tell me what's going to the corner store you wouldn't come back to the next day so I feel you how you feel for your mother I hope you feel me because my heart is trying thousands of pieces like a jigsaw puzzle I don't know where to begin I'm still by myself making it in this world my kids are growing up I'm glad that I made it I had my head up high to keep going even though I will cry in the nights and the restroom when I was taking a shower I will cry why why did I do wrong I don't know but I gave him the best I gave him the world I will do everything for you and you turn around and stab me billions of times broke my heart into a puzzle well I don't know where to put it back together again so I feel for your mother Gloria Flores
I've never heard this beautiful song before. It has so much emotional too it. It reaches into my heart. It brings tears too eyes. God bless this lady 🙏 ❤
The first guy, I begged. I cried. I still remember the pain. But no one should should have to beg. Eventually I learned. If I am not good enough, then don't stay. I finally know my worth. Be with me for me. If it is not good enough, why don't you leave? Life has been great since.
lher6425 Ive been thru that same shit. I cried and begged him the whole time he was packing. The irony is this year he comes back wanting to work it out. It felt so good to tell him to kiss my behind. Im using my HUSBANDS youtube. So glad I let him walk.
I’ve listened to this song 100’s of times over the last 10 years. As she’s singing her eyes are telling a story. It’s as if you can see into her soul and it always brings tears to my eyes.
"It's too much pain to have to bare to love a man you have to share." I have to listen to this everyday... I know I walked away and it'll get better but it can't hurt worse than being treated wrong.
A song that became an anthem. A song that evoked so much emotion, so much heartache, so much "real". Jennifer and Christian nailed this one and it will forever stand out as one of the strongest breakup songs. Well done.
“ I’ve given you my best, why does she get the best of you?” One of the greatest lyrics I’ve ever heard like I can relate to that one line sooo soo much
This song will always be a heartbreaker, the raw emotion is something we just don’t see any more. My heart goes to everyone tired of being a plan b, we’re stronger than we know
This song reminds me of the time back in 2018 when i got cheated on and she walked away from me with my cousin and now i am kinda glad that happened because now i know how to show someone i really love them and that i should't get so much attached to someone like i was with her cause i think that's what cause us to break up in the end
Holy crap!! Between the song and this post I want to confession and hug my dad. I hope you find the strength to show your kids how a real parent/father can endure. I’m rooting for you sir!
I’m pretty sure everyone in 2020 is still listening to this song in 2020 and ima sure they love ❤️ it and that’s mean u dont have to say so yeah I’m not trying to be mean
To all you happily married people, thank God you are, because the worst feeling next to loosing a child is to loose the love of your life because she wanted the greener grass on the side of the fence. Then they realize it’s not and comes home like nothing happened. It will tear at your soul and slowly drain everything good about you until you are empty inside. The trauma to your head and heart is like what a soldier gets on the battle field, you will never be the same again. I pray to all the people in love please don’t ever cheat on your partner, leave them first it won’t hurt as bad as cheating. Amen from an empty soul
The "other" woman in his relationship also got her broken. But she was the wise one broke off the relationship. She sent him back to his bed with his wife, even tho she loved him.
This song is still so chilling to me and I've been there and begged these words to keep my family together, looking at our childrens eyes filled with heartache
I was the wife....but i get it. when this song came out i was pregnant with our 3rd and yes i knew he had mistress. 10 years of marriage 4 children .... thrown out for her........................... hope it was worth all of this. going to listen to Kesha praying now. my new go to
I don't know the reasoning behind it but I've read that she was in the middle of a divorce when they filmed the video, so it could've been exactly how the song is, or not.
I disagree! If I have one critique of Jennifer it's that she's just too darn "happy" for my tastes. She seems like one of those naturally happy and upbeat people that comes from a good family. She certainly has the looks. Then you add that voice and what has she ever had to be down about? Through no fault of her own, Jennifer probably lacks enough experience in the more painful aspects of life. As far as this song is concerned, I doubt any guy had been stupid enough to pick another woman over Jennifer. I don't care if the other woman was a Victoria secret model, Jennifer is one in 10, 000,000. Nah, if she was drawing on past painful experiences for this song, she was more likely remembering a favorite dog that passed away.
Such an emotionally raw song. 🔥🔥🔥To me the “she” in this song is drugs. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with an addict, listen again. She’s BEGGING him to surrender, to stop the pain, the excruciating hurt and give his whole self to her.😭😭😭
Apparently she cried through the entire filming. They had to basically hold Kristian down bc he wanted to comfort her so badly, but she wanted to continue filming
Lol I remember when this song first came out. She’s actually crying because this song is about her. She was the other woman and finally decided to stop seeing the man. It’s how she was in a low place and settling until she finally said enough is enough. That pain you see is REAL.!
❤ this woman puts it all out there. Anyone who watches this and the way she performed you have to be sub-human. This girl right here chokes me up hitting the most me all the time
One of if not THE most heartfelt performances of any song videos I have ever seen. That was absolutely awesome. A beautiful lady with an incredible voice.
This literally breaks my heart every time I watch it! Seeing the beautiful and talented Jennifer Nettles get so emotional touches me greatly! This is a fantastic song! And I didn't even know it was sung from the perspective it is when I first heard it several years ago! I still love this song and I love Sugarland! I hope they come out with some new material together soon!
she does get very emotional. . she can probably truly relate to the song probably touches most people we have all vee. in those shoes once.. once shame on you twice shame on me
+robert hastings She wrote this song when she found out that her husband was cheating, and when she gets emotional its because this song is a true reflection of her own situation. :) but yes a great song, and im pretty sure we all can relate to it in one way or another!
After 15 years of marriage, I was that man. I ripped two families apart for selfishness. It doesn’t matter what is going on in a relationship, it’s never right to cheat. You never “owe to yourself” to cheat. My wife divorced me. I deserve every bit of hell I got from her for the hell I put her through. Through Gods forgiveness and a lot of work, my wife and I were remarried. That was 8 years ago. She has shown me grace and forgiveness that I don’t deserve. I will never take her for granted again.
This song is from the perspective of the other women, not the wife. Do you know, ever wonder or even care how the other woman in your relationship is doing today - 8 years later? Hopefully, like the lyrics she too, is up off her knees and no longer lonely, living a good and honest life ... the other woman deserves grace and forgiveness, too. Don't we all? 💔❤🩹❤💕
@@tzuro70 and my comment was from the man’s perspective. What’s your point. The woman in this song knew she was the side chick. Turns out the other woman cheated with another man after me. I guess some people are just that way.
@@tzuro70 that is exactly why I asked for your point to your comment. I don’t wish her any ill will, but couldn’t care less to know how she is, or what she’s up to. And yes, really, side “chick” is a very common term used to describe a woman engaging in affairs with someone else’s partner. If you’re implying that is a derogatory term, it is. And a fitting one for a person willfully cheating.
I remember vividly as a small child, sitting in the car with my stepmother as she bawled to this song on the radio. I didn't fully understand as a kid, I just knew my dad was hurting her and it was a lot for me to grasp at the time. It wasn't until I got older and realized what the song meant that I bawled at the reality of what my father put her thru. While my stepmother has left me with emotional scars, I still cry when I hear this song, for all the pain he caused her all those years...
If your stepmother "left you with emotional scars", then that's your father's fault too. It's not a step parents job to take care of a child. She didn't bring you into this world. That's the responsibility of your birth parents and it's on your father for not being around and leaving you with his wife.
@@thescourge6989 when you marry someone that already has children you "marry"them too. It's a package deal. If you cant care for thier children then you shouldn't be with them.
If a song can bring a smile to your face or a tear to your eyes, then the singer has given the song the best performance to reach your soul and become a lasting memory.
This actually wasnt my song ..it was someone i nos ..timmys ..everytime i hear it i remb the hurt in him and the feeling i had when he came to me for help ...god is good all the time and im always gonna be right here until im not .keep ya head up .
This song is to the only man that I ever known and loved for 26 years. After, rekindled and giving him everything he still left and ran from me. He went and had his fun getting high all the time. He kept running after I begged him to just loved me but it wasn’t enough. I went homeless to be with him and I guess I wasn’t enough for him to stayed. I got to the point where his shit got old, and I finally called it quit! I’m so done with his bs to where I just hate him. So i rather set him freed, so I can be free…
It wasn't based on her own experience. The song was inspired by Reba McEntire’s “Whoever’s in New England,” which was written from the perspective of a wife whose husband is cheating on her. Nettles knew countless songs written from that viewpoint but none from the other two people involved. She says most people don’t realize that even the person who is doing the cheating gets hurt as well.
Beth Rightmeyer.. Finally someone else that know's she never lived this experience. If half these Idiot's done a quick Google search they'd know this..
This song helped me walk away and know that I am worth so much more!! Lies and heartache and holding on to someone you love so much, to just be an option.. never again.. my heart still aches but I know that it will heal and I will get what I deserve from someone that deserves me! Thank you for such a great and emotion filled song.. it really touched me and helped me!!
I survived and married a man who loved just me! Married young, at 16 he was 19, got drafted to Vietnam! Came home never the same! Shared him with his mistress, she had a son 6 weeks before I had our daughter! I did this for 12 years, didn't want my daughter to blame me! I married someone else! 22 years together!
“I’ve given you my best, why does she get the best of you?” Is so powerful.
She gets the so called best because she is his wife not his mistress! There isn’t anything powerful in another woman knowing he is married but still precedes. When will women start supporting women and leave the dirt bags alone!
Amen!!
Here, here!
Best song lyric ever!!!
I love my husband with all of mu heart and soul and I am so grateful that GOD GAVE ME YOU!!!!!!!! My baby forever and for all eternity ❤ Your beautiful wife- J. Wilkerson
Still listening to on 2024
Who is with me ?
Me
All the Time 😢❤
I'm with you
Sorry I still miss her
@@outlaw26aow61 me too friend
April 2024... Who else is watching this? Most heartfelt video ever.
23rd here. Had an emotional day and need to feel, this one does it!
Yep! Last day of April listening to this during my ketamine treatment!
Jennifer did so good with this one. Still one of my favorites…. So many years later
I disagree I think Brad Paisley and Allison Krause song is the saddest WHISKEY LULLABY
😢
November 2023 and this song still cuts like a knife through my heart. The tears in her eyes. The cry in her voice. Even the expression on Kristian Bush’s face as he plays the guitar. He knows the hurt she’s been through. This song will remain timeless in my book!
This is what I call real country music... it touches your soul and heart. Wish we had more of it being created today instead of all of this shallow commercial junk...
WORD'S WELL SPOKEN!!! HITS CLOSE TO HOME... I was the Guy she referring to 😢
I see I'm not the only one that loves this song
No More Farmer Welfare!
It’s from the side chicks perspective which makes it even better
if you're listening to this with me In 2021 we're friends from here on out keep listening the amazing music with me
Going thru it huh new friend ? Me to. I can't stand liars and cheaters
Hi new friend🤭
Cheaters suck.
I am the man in this scenario. Please dont judge me,its not that simple.
@@dancortese3012 it really is. Pick one and let the other woman move on and be loved by someone who isn't so greedy.
Wife of 19 yrs walked out on me and our 5 kids last July. We spent months homeless or in a shelter. After countless 60 hr work weeks I made us a home again. Now after all our struggle and after she's had her fun, she wants back in. It hurts, but after careful consideration I have advised her to stay.....stay gone, stay away. Sad but kind of happy at the same time. God, this song reminds so much of all the times I begged her to love me. In the end it was for the best. Great song
Roman Gallardo Let her stay gone - she doesn't deserve you and your kids.
But it's life
I hope it works out for you all man give you all of my heart to you bub
Sending u blessings many many blessings♡♡♡
Respect. You're a strong individual and a great father.
My mom used to listen to this song over and over. She’s been gone 5 years and listening to it makes me feel close to her. What a sad song. I miss my mom.
Well let me start off by saying as an African-American woman a lot of people don't think we like country music but we love country music this song is so touching to see her cry tears actually brought my knees and tears because as a woman I can relate to this on both ends of the coin haven't always been a proud of my actions put this song has made me stronger still listening to the song in 2024
Not all of us stereotype. I was at the grocery store yesterday and a carload of African American dudes were blasting Metallica out of their super sub/amp stereo in their car. I took my time loading my groceries because I was enjoying the heck out of it.
everyone should be able to enjoy every kind of music..it soothsayer the soul ❤❤❤
sooths the soul
Music speaks to us ALL! Anyone with a soul❤ the good music that has the power to move our souls. .doesn't matter what type of music it is❤ we're all one❤ fighting this battle together
She bodied this...and the emotions she gives gave me chills. This is a song we can all relate too
Her emotion while performing this song appears as if she's reliving a personal moment. 100% chills.
She was, research it
Just looked it up - Jennifer wrote this song. It’s as personal as it could be.
A lot of tears and sometimes a lot of pain😅
This is what real music is.
Sounds like what my life was. Brought me to tears.😢
"Ive given you my best... why does she get the best of you???" - very powerful
Miki Nunya because she promised herself to him, and him to her, when they married. I love this song, but it's also sad
Miki Nunya indeed
You get to legitimately tell people "Nunya Business" all the time! Sweet.
If you listen carefully to the song, the first part she says "he always goes home", she's the MISTRESS, not the wife, listen carefully. I just heard it and felt so dumb...
yes it is suglarland rocks
She is so beautiful and I am still listening too. I'm 61 yrs old, and I will never stop listening. 2024.
Mar 2024 checking in. This song randomly popped in my head the other day. Been meaning to listen to it. Love this song and she put her heart into it.
Who's still listening in 2019? I am!
I can hear the pain in her voice and see it in her eyes. 😫💔
I sure am
jazzelly &boo
Ditto
Oh, yes!
Me
Christian’s eyes look so melancholy. He can feel the pain she’s expressing. That’s a forever friend.
He actually had them stop having her sing it after a few times of recording it
He wanted to stop recording Jennifer wanted to continue to film. I know this is a fact. My twin daughters' mom is married to Jennifer's brother
This song is what I'm dealing with the same thing but I'm the girlfriend who is being cheated on and I let him come back to wake up to him being gone again back to her the pain is the worst I ever felt
Christians eyes couldn't reckon the pain from toners eyes because she is not Andrea.christian is just a product of one of echos cameras in my house watching us get it on at the stove. He's just a fixed image. Of there sickness.
@@AngelHernandez-yb4fwalmost may 24 . She is the best
14 years later and i’m just now realizing SHE IS THE MISTRESS!!!!!!
Yo you can call you in a minute with St Mary's to see what you are right about it and if I can work for a while but I have to run ey and I have errands we can work with the smoke and I have a ye rut y u know where she was going on the porch and I was thinking 💭 was going to be a eye doctor 🏥 with the eye I texted you about r u w and eyes and e and really really really appreciate that I was thinking you would eueu everything else well if we
Good morning any chance we can try it out tomorrow yet ei I have a few minutes and really ry eye 👀 e ieujosky to end end of the week and end of week eu we haven't done 👍 EU and right right now except for the store down there 😭 right now I know exactly right now I understand r
The raw emotion in her voice and on her face adds SO much to this song. Absolutely love this song!
Hello Sandy how are you doing today
Sandy, she was going through a divorce at the time so it was emotional to her. That's why it's a great song, the emotion she was feeling came in the song.
The background story with her is so sad
You was beautiful just the way you were
I had no idea she was going through that but the raw emotion she gave to that song was enough to see something wasn't right in her life@@jamescook6564
this song made my mom a stronger woman. 🖒 🔥🔥🔥
Frank Willier
Amen
Me too I was in a relationship for 18 yrs he kept cheating on me once with his best female friend
me too!
No matter how many times I see this it always makes me cry. She just squeezes it right out of my eyes, and I’m a big, ‘ol tough man for heck’s sake!
Lmfao me too and a biker and a hard rock fan. Don't tell my friends.
You guys are awesome for admitting that but how can anyone not love it, I love hard rock but I'll listen to whatever lmao
I love performing this song, even in noisy bars, it seems to stop people in their tracks, just one of those heart wrenchingly soulful songs that can not be ignored. ❤
The Tears in her eyes are just heartbreaking. She's so beautiful.
It's so sad that her can do it so good there so good they can do it all right on yall I lost my mom 2 years ago I hurt so much sugar land... from cody Barrera y'all
You can see that her green eyes are cloudy Grey. You guys out there, watch your girlfriend's eye color! If it gets brilliant,... prepare to loose your virtue. If it's leaning toward Grey, get ready to loose your girl.
@@marybentley843 think about it from the other side. I'm pretty sure it wasn't her idea... and if you absolutely had to pick a time to die, ... when would be the good time?
Lost mine in 08. Feelin' Y'all,
Thank God we only have to do it once for each parent !
They had to stop the video so many times because she broke out in tears
@@marybentley843 .
One of the most heart-wrenching songs ever written. Beautifully performed by Jennifer. Thank you for this masterpiece.
I thought this song was 2022. Of course it isn't 😅 songs these days don't have any emotion.
🤣🤣All of you feeling sorry for a woman sleeping with someone's husband.
@@jennief7114 that's what I always think when I hear this song, like its emotional & beautifully composed but its ultimately about cheating 😅
@@skullgirrl757 well it is country music
every time she sings this I feel itl deep in my soul. She sang it with her whole heart. Almost as if she's really experienced it. Regardless of the topic she sings it beautifully. Soulful music!!
This song will never not give me chills
Ms. Taylor thank you for holding my hand through that last procedure in Midland memorial hospital. If it wasn't for you I'd probably be dead. I'll always remember those beautiful green eyes as I woke up in that hospital bed. Luv you "Dr. Taylor" 2:38
The passion in this video will forever be remembered. She literally poured her heart into this song.
you don't know how to use the word literally.
@@brianbytheocean and so the fuck what. Dont be RUDE. you never know what someone is going through.
♡♡♡♡
@@brianbytheocean he used
He used the word just fine stop it!
It's an understatement to say devastation is what one feels when a marriage ends due to infidelity. I was more than shocked since it was a close friend. I'll keep all who have experienced what I have in a general prayer.
I was married for close to 30 years when my husband left me for a woman at work. It tore me up and almost broke me. The absolute darkest time of my life. Sometimes I was so broken I felt like I couldn’t breath. It’s been 3 years since that day and while I almost can’t stand to remember the feeling of the darkness, I am proud that I made it through a time where I almost gave up. Some people comment that maybe we will be friends in the future when the pain passes. I always reply, absolutely not. I have no desire to relive the absolute betrayal from a man who disposed of me like common trash. No thanks! I spent so many years feeling worthless and alone. I don’t need to live that way ever again.
Hello Ann how are you doing today
God bless you I'm going through 20 years for him to cheat every chance he can it's about killed me but I will survive thank you 🙏
Terminally single here because 30 years & 5 husbands proved this song would never not be my daily life.
Hope you are well.
I'm the same way.
Sweet Ann I hope you’re well my friend ❤
The memory of a heartbreak... This song speaks volumes to someone who truly loved with her heart and soul, only to be an option.
How could ANYONE cheat and walk away from this amazing, fantistic, beautiful woman
With the most incredible voice?
This song still hits me 13 years later. What an incredible performance by an amazing vocalist.
Indeed. It’s like a fine wine.
It’s better every time you return for another sip.
(I just wish I could stop crying every time I return)
❤️ to all.
This song is about a side chick that is jealous 🤣
Amy lee gemstone! Righteous gemstones
Ikr...
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Anyone who's ever been in this situation feels this song on a different level. Shame on the man or woman who awakens a love with no true intentions of nourishing it.
Wow no truer words have ever been spoken. Awesome quote.
I’m currently going through this now. It’s heartbreaking for me honestly. Her ex always harassed her causing issues with us and she’d leave. I’ve been broken for a while
I agree and it's a powerful song and another powerful song is Sara Evans A Little Bit Stronger cuz you can't let one bad experience or 20 bad experiences break you you have to get stronger otherwise you lose out
@@justinbunn3273 you will pull through brother.🙏
I it's easier to be alone, I guess those deployments finally caught up w/ me. It doesn't hurt when I was better off being by myself.
*Also still❤
listening 2024🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉*
I was in a diner when I was about 7 years old. And my friends grandfather said "a man ought to be ashamed of himself making a beautiful woman cry like that."
Goddamn right he was
Breaks my heart to see her sing this song and the emotion behind it. Yes...its ok for men to cry.
I am right now
Yup
Yes it is ok
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I cry every damn time I hear this song, her emotion and beautiful voice is heart shattering.
Acording to what I read, this was the first Sugarland song written entirely by Nettles, and she did not think it was all that good, but the other member of Sugarland, Kristian Bush, finally convinced her to let him read the lyrics, and he was blown away. He also stated he feels like a big brother to her...he is a married man. He described how through multiple attempts Nettles kept breaking down crying. It was making him very angry, and he said it was like watching a close friend being tortured, and by Noon he was exhausted emotionally, and just said they would have to peice together the clips, he could not bear to watch this anymore. Even though the end result required dubbing over the parts she was breaking down in, that is what makes this video so powerful. It is almost like she layed bare every emotionally painful thing that had ever happened to her in this video. You can't possibly fake that, or even reproduce it. Sugarland has done this song countless times since, live. In my opinion, none of the subsequent performances carry the raw emotion of this video. I can also easily see why Kristian Bush found it so hard to watch it, but it made for a truly remarkable video that is hard to ever match...the viewers could truly feel the pain. It was real, it was raw, and it was amazing.
Beautifully said Sarge1231
Wow I absolutely luv your explanation of this video. It truly portrays the depth of this pain. This is something I relate to personally from both sides. I'm definitely so grateful I've grown.
Thank you Sarge1231 for sharing these details. Though filmed years ago and I'm watching for the first time I feel her pain throughout the video and was wondering am I again being a softy for exceptional acting or is this pain real because every fiber in my being is screaming out for this woman. No one should experience the kind of pain reflected in this song.
This is my favorite song by them. They had a third member years ago and had to pay her out but they made it so big after she left.
I am blown away every time I watch the video. The hard, raw emotion she shows in the video is so powerful. I watched so many attempt to cover this song and they start the video laughing or smiling, and I can't watch.
I just love Jennifer's voice and her Southern accent is very strong in each song. A great vocalist beautiful person
Story of my life. Hurt keeps me down and pride tied to the past. Want to catch that second wind to run. Pray for me.
❤️🩹🙏🙏
She puts her whole heart and soul in that song.... Awesome
You know you’ve healed when this song no longer breaks you. ♥️
Such a beautiful song, I will never forget the tears I cried while listening to this song over on replay.
Yeah well I can’t stop crying and I hate it
I couldn't say it any better
It appears I have not yet healed
What if it still breaks you? Your the wife.... years of being together, but in his th heart you are the side peace!
I listen to this still & im so glad I’m not bothered anymore
2024 and still listening
Such a beautiful, loving woman, how could somebody break that heart??
moral: don't be someone's 2nd choice...you deserve more than that
Exactly why a 12 year marriage is ending....
34 year marriage ended in 2014 .
@@mikelcage6438 Why? That was a long time! Hope you are happy now! Lost my husband 5 years ago!
@@rhondaboncutter5812 the passion we once felt for each other turned to complacency , that's when I found more love in a bottle . Been chasing ghosts from then on .
@@mikelcage6438 yeah man alcohol feels like the ultimate friend to kill solitary in these times but it also do one thing that is slowly destroying from inside(the organs)
jeez my mom listened to this song a lot when i was a kid because my dad and her got divorced because he cheated , i loved it a lot but i didnt understand why she liked it so much. Now im a 21 year old man now about to cry everytime i hear this song play because i know now she was broken deeply. this song will forever be a healing experience for me
16 years later shes happy remarried living a life i thank god shes living today because the sacrifice she went through working almost 3 jobs to support me and my sister. i can never thank her enough for what she did
wow what a great mom
Your comment touched me deeply. So many women can relate to this song I'm so happy for your mom. I love stories like this💖
The same here my husband cheated on me and it broke my heart it was like I got stabbed a million times I don't know why he did it I gave him the world I treat him the best gave him everything he wanted and I have four kids I raised by myself two jobs taking care of the kids when I will come home we'll get three or four hours of sleep head back to the other job while he was messing around and doing his drugs I didn't know what was going on but I stand hard for my own two feet and hell my head up high for my kids I had to make it every time I hear this song it hurts like I'm getting stabbed all over again by him I don't ever forget him but it's a sin not to forgive somebody so I got forgiven I don't talk to him I don't have nothing to do with him I try to stay away from him because it just brings memories of him abusing me man to leave physically and then while he was doing what he wanted to do without me knowing and it hurts every time somebody will call he will leave and tell me what's going to the corner store you wouldn't come back to the next day so I feel you how you feel for your mother I hope you feel me because my heart is trying thousands of pieces like a jigsaw puzzle I don't know where to begin I'm still by myself making it in this world my kids are growing up I'm glad that I made it I had my head up high to keep going even though I will cry in the nights and the restroom when I was taking a shower I will cry why why did I do wrong I don't know but I gave him the best I gave him the world I will do everything for you and you turn around and stab me billions of times broke my heart into a puzzle well I don't know where to put it back together again so I feel for your mother Gloria Flores
MaY GOD BLESS YOU, YOUR SISTER,YOUR MOM ,HER HUSBAND AND YOUR FAMILY!!
That’s good to hear your mom is now happy again!
Beautiful woman singing a beautiful song!
I've never heard this beautiful song before. It has so much emotional too it. It reaches into my heart. It brings tears too eyes. God bless this lady 🙏 ❤
The first guy, I begged. I cried. I still remember the pain. But no one should should have to beg. Eventually I learned. If I am not good enough, then don't stay. I finally know my worth. Be with me for me. If it is not good enough, why don't you leave? Life has been great since.
her husband went out on her.. that's why she gets so emotional
lher6425 Ive been thru that same shit. I cried and begged him the whole time he was packing. The irony is this year he comes back wanting to work it out. It felt so good to tell him to kiss my behind. Im using my HUSBANDS youtube. So glad I let him walk.
actually no.
Yeah....don't steal other's husbands! Mine was.
Vickie Lane ummm...no...
Other way around.
I’ve listened to this song 100’s of times over the last 10 years. As she’s singing her eyes are telling a story. It’s as if you can see into her soul and it always brings tears to my eyes.
She is a great actress. Watch coat of many colors.she plays dolly partons mom.
She’s been there….period ….
i noticed that as well and it hurts
Same
I agree never personally experienced this but damn the raw emotions..the crying the lip shaking....wow
"It's too much pain to have to bare to love a man you have to share." I have to listen to this everyday... I know I walked away and it'll get better but it can't hurt worse than being treated wrong.
I was 12 years old singing my heart out .. now I’m almost 27 and I completely understand how she felt
how does the guitarist not cry...I'd be cryin' like baby
I love this song.
william york same , like a baby
9 years later this song still makes me cry. And 9 years later Jenn still makes my heart skip a beat...
@Doc Holladay True, but this video was published on November 21, 2009.
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You are ONE lucky guy.
This was my mamaw's favorite song and she listened to it nonstop but she died.😢😭
Kelly Miller 😩
Still listening in 2024
Don’t think I’ve ever seen another artist put so much passion into a song she ends up crying 👍
Speaking from the soul
@@codykelly6066she is genuine
Miss Y'all.... Sugarland ❤🤟✌️😍🤩💯❤️
Hard to believe her husband cheated on her, but she writes a song as if she is the mistress and the mistress feelings. Jennifer is amazing.
Fhchgii
I did not know that. Thank you for that info
Didn't 3that's what happened.. after all this time wow
Think about it. Wives have the same feelings. Listen to the words, it's easily from a wife's viewpoint.
this song is brilliant cuz it can be from both sides
A song that became an anthem. A song that evoked so much emotion, so much heartache, so much "real". Jennifer and Christian nailed this one and it will forever stand out as one of the strongest breakup songs. Well done.
He wanted to stop recording, and she was the one that wanted to keep going.
The more you will hear the song, the more you will fall for it, this song deserves all the love and appreciation!💖
The song is about a side chick wanting him to leave his wife.
She has one of the best vocals in Country Music. Bar none!!!!!
“ I’ve given you my best, why does she get the best of you?” One of the greatest lyrics I’ve ever heard like I can relate to that one line sooo soo much
This song will always be a heartbreaker, the raw emotion is something we just don’t see any more. My heart goes to everyone tired of being a plan b, we’re stronger than we know
One of the greatest "Country Songs" ever written!!!!
For those of you who struggle with someone who cheated or can't commit to you, remember this; A true lover can't be stolen from you.
I agree wholeheartedly
So true thank you for making my day😜😜😍❤😭
@@feliciacarroll4324 Thank you thats so true
WOW thank you that statement , hearing it feeling it thx again
A real lover won't leave you for some floozy
2020 ,❤️❤️
Who still with me with this song !!!!!
This song reminds me of the time back in 2018 when i got cheated on and she walked away from me with my cousin and now i am kinda glad that happened because now i know how to show someone i really love them and that i should't get so much attached to someone like i was with her cause i think that's what cause us to break up in the end
Tugs at everyone's heart strings. For anyone who actually loved anyone fully in your life. I think we all have that "somebody"
I’ve known this song since I was little now I’m 17 years old watching the music video for the first time Nd I never seen so much hurt before
@@noahbradner6206 Bariloche Argentina
@@robinklein5776 Bariloche Argentina
That's the problem. No loyalty.
Holy crap!! Between the song and this post I want to confession and hug my dad. I hope you find the strength to show your kids how a real parent/father can endure. I’m rooting for you sir!
Still listening in 2020....love this song
thank GOD for 💘
lol yay! Are you a home wrecker too?
@@canterberrytells8215 Mo sorry dear, Never Needed another woman's man. Sorry to hear of your activities. 😏
Nah I just think a song about a home wrecker is disgusting, have no idea how people can endorse this song. It’s gross.
I’m pretty sure everyone in 2020 is still listening to this song in 2020 and ima sure they love ❤️ it and that’s mean u dont have to say so yeah I’m not trying to be mean
To all you happily married people, thank God you are, because the worst feeling next to loosing a child is to loose the love of your life because she wanted the greener grass on the side of the fence. Then they realize it’s not and comes home like nothing happened. It will tear at your soul and slowly drain everything good about you until you are empty inside. The trauma to your head and heart is like what a soldier gets on the battle field, you will never be the same again. I pray to all the people in love please don’t ever cheat on your partner, leave them first it won’t hurt as bad as cheating. Amen from an empty soul
dear empty soul … fill it up with garden and dogs and fishing… works for me ..
The "other" woman in his relationship also got her broken. But she was the wise one broke off the relationship. She sent him back to his bed with his wife, even tho she loved him.
Telling me i "shudve done it sooner" ' im lucky'
This song is still so chilling to me and I've been there and begged these words to keep my family together, looking at our childrens eyes filled with heartache
Who's here in 24? Sugar land ....❤ from Townes at Market Place in Wilmington,NC. ....June 2024...Denise Honan Cottrell
I'm in Wilmington NC too. June 2024
You can feel the pain through her singing. Amazing performance.
This lady can't produce those tears without having lived this song.
I was the wife....but i get it. when this song came out i was pregnant with our 3rd and yes i knew he had mistress. 10 years of marriage 4 children .... thrown out for her...........................
hope it was worth all of this.
going to listen to Kesha praying now. my new go to
Will Headington any body that messes around on this lady is stupid and don’t deserve her
I don't know the reasoning behind it but I've read that she was in the middle of a divorce when they filmed the video, so it could've been exactly how the song is, or not.
I disagree! If I have one critique of Jennifer it's that she's just too darn "happy" for my tastes. She seems like one of those naturally happy and upbeat people that comes from a good family. She certainly has the looks. Then you add that voice and what has she ever had to be down about? Through no fault of her own, Jennifer probably lacks enough experience in the more painful aspects of life. As far as this song is concerned, I doubt any guy had been stupid enough to pick another woman over Jennifer. I don't care if the other woman was a Victoria secret model, Jennifer is one in 10, 000,000. Nah, if she was drawing on past painful experiences for this song, she was more likely remembering a favorite dog that passed away.
Exactly
Great Song! I miss my grandma & grandpa! ❤
Such an emotionally raw song. 🔥🔥🔥To me the “she” in this song is drugs. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with an addict, listen again. She’s BEGGING him to surrender, to stop the pain, the excruciating hurt and give his whole self to her.😭😭😭
Going through this for 5 years now.
Goosebumps everywhere. You can feel her pain and cry along with her. Great job!
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This is still giving me chills in 2022. Damn Jennifer really got the emotions across in her eyes alone.
Same
Your the best
Apparently she cried through the entire filming. They had to basically hold Kristian down bc he wanted to comfort her so badly, but she wanted to continue filming
Lol I remember when this song first came out. She’s actually crying because this song is about her. She was the other woman and finally decided to stop seeing the man. It’s how she was in a low place and settling until she finally said enough is enough. That pain you see is REAL.!
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Holy hell, such a great song and message...
I love this song. It gives me chills every time I hear this song
Remember being a kid and my mom listening to this song and her wiping tears while knowing all the lyrics.. 24 now eyes wide open
😢😢😢
What is your Instagram?
This is me now... With my son ,trying to hide the tears while singing this song. It only hurts now ..
@@faithysanchez2420 I am so sorry I know we all have been there before..I hope you know it gets better for you my friend 🧡🙏🧡🙏
That’s a strong ass comment. I felt that.
Just looking at the expression on Jennifer's face makes me want to break out in tears.
❤ this woman puts it all out there. Anyone who watches this and the way she performed you have to be sub-human. This girl right here chokes me up hitting the most me all the time
So beautiful
👍❤Her voice is so real,true BEAUTIFUL!
One of if not THE most heartfelt performances of any song videos I have ever seen. That was absolutely awesome. A beautiful lady with an incredible voice.
She did this in one take I believe so it was an authentic reaction. So raw and heartfelt.
Couldn't have said it better myself.........
Vikki Carr, With Pen in hand song.
This literally breaks my heart every time I watch it! Seeing the beautiful and talented Jennifer Nettles get so emotional touches me greatly! This is a fantastic song! And I didn't even know it was sung from the perspective it is when I first heard it several years ago! I still love this song and I love Sugarland! I hope they come out with some new material together soon!
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+Matthew Lemay It's almost like this is personal to her. It's that or either she's a great actress.
+Matthew Lemay she sang it when she was going through a divorce
she does get very emotional. . she can probably truly relate to the song probably touches most people we have all vee. in those shoes once.. once shame on you twice shame on me
+robert hastings She wrote this song when she found out that her husband was cheating, and when she gets emotional its because this song is a true reflection of her own situation. :) but yes a great song, and im pretty sure we all can relate to it in one way or another!
I'm absolutely amazed by the talent God has given humans every time I here this song sung by her!
After 15 years of marriage, I was that man. I ripped two families apart for selfishness. It doesn’t matter what is going on in a relationship, it’s never right to cheat. You never “owe to yourself” to cheat. My wife divorced me. I deserve every bit of hell I got from her for the hell I put her through. Through Gods forgiveness and a lot of work, my wife and I were remarried. That was 8 years ago. She has shown me grace and forgiveness that I don’t deserve. I will never take her for granted again.
I'm a victim of this thanks to my husband..hurts..😢
This song is from the perspective of the other women, not the wife. Do you know, ever wonder or even care how the other woman in your relationship is doing today - 8 years later? Hopefully, like the lyrics she too, is up off her knees and no longer lonely, living a good and honest life ... the other woman deserves grace and forgiveness, too. Don't we all? 💔❤🩹❤💕
@@tzuro70 and my comment was from the man’s perspective. What’s your point. The woman in this song knew she was the side chick. Turns out the other woman cheated with another man after me. I guess some people are just that way.
@@triumphguy900 well it seems you missed it, my point that is. Chick? really, lol Peace and grace to you nonetheless.
@@tzuro70 that is exactly why I asked for your point to your comment. I don’t wish her any ill will, but couldn’t care less to know how she is, or what she’s up to. And yes, really, side “chick” is a very common term used to describe a woman engaging in affairs with someone else’s partner. If you’re implying that is a derogatory term, it is. And a fitting one for a person willfully cheating.
I'm ready to cry - who hasn't felt this pain? she is an artist! She should have 20 grammy awards.
I haven't felt this pain. I've never slept with a married man.
Sandy Cant say ive ever been a homewrecker sleeping w married people no
Its her husband cheating. I know the pain. Im coming up off my knees now
🙋🏾♂️ I’ve felt it
I've never been with a married man and I hate homewrecker
Jennifer Nettles has such an amazing voice!!! The way she sings this song is something that really gets to you. Such a powerful voice!!!
Every time I hear this song......I start crying and think of all my past failed relationships and ex girlfriends. Begging them to stay
I remember vividly as a small child, sitting in the car with my stepmother as she bawled to this song on the radio. I didn't fully understand as a kid, I just knew my dad was hurting her and it was a lot for me to grasp at the time. It wasn't until I got older and realized what the song meant that I bawled at the reality of what my father put her thru. While my stepmother has left me with emotional scars, I still cry when I hear this song, for all the pain he caused her all those years...
sorry, sometimes we are so cold to one another
If your stepmother "left you with emotional scars", then that's your father's fault too. It's not a step parents job to take care of a child. She didn't bring you into this world. That's the responsibility of your birth parents and it's on your father for not being around and leaving you with his wife.
@@thescourge6989 Nah, don't marry someone with kids if you're not going to be a parent to them. That's a stupid and unrealistic take.
@@thescourge6989 when you marry someone that already has children you "marry"them too. It's a package deal. If you cant care for thier children then you shouldn't be with them.
@@bekblackwell2492 Exactly! It's a package 📦 deal.
If a song can bring a smile to your face or a tear to your eyes, then
the singer has given the song the best performance to reach your soul
and become a lasting memory.
Absolutely
Truth. The actors I fall for, or wish harm are the best, because I believe the farce they are really are like they are pretending to be.
This actually wasnt my song ..it was someone i nos ..timmys ..everytime i hear it i remb the hurt in him and the feeling i had when he came to me for help ...god is good all the time and im always gonna be right here until im not .keep ya head up .
Period
And this young lady does it every single time!!
It doesn't get any better than this.
I think this is a heart breaker song. I will forever have this song in my heart. Thank you souch for this song .
This video cost $5 to make and still has more heart and soul than any big Hollywood production.
YA DAMN SKIPPY!!! 😊😊😊
Giddy up
@@cynthiafreyer5937 yehaw!! and ten fuzzy bunny rabbits.
no offence there just lovin the music
$5? Lol
Eight years later, and this still gets to me. Thank you, Jennifer, for making me feel human again.
Odee Dillon THIS SONG GOES OUT TO MY HUSBAND THAT LEFT ME AFTER 18 years that I spent with that sorry sob
+Lona Phillips sorry I'm in the same boat butt it gives us the truth very late its hard to except better for you long run
Odee Dillon thanks
This whole Song is so Powerfull !!! ❤❤❤
This song is to the only man that I ever known and loved for 26 years. After, rekindled and giving him everything he still left and ran from me. He went and had his fun getting high all the time. He kept running after I begged him to just loved me but it wasn’t enough. I went homeless to be with him and I guess I wasn’t enough for him to stayed. I got to the point where his shit got old, and I finally called it quit! I’m so done with his bs to where I just hate him. So i rather set him freed, so I can be free…
I still get chills in 2020 everytime I watch how much emotion she let loose for the world to see. That's that real hurt.
I love Sugarland. The voice, the emotions and the way the message is sent from her sad songs, her happy and fun songs. A genius.
Hello Codey how are you doing today
This song cuts to the core of my soul. People say you get past it! I don’t think you ever do! Those emotions come up eventually.
I have loved Sugarland since the beginning!! They r a beautiful duo!!!
This lady has a very beautiful voice.. She sings this song with so much passion. I love this song.
Scott Weighill It's because her husband cheated and left her during this time. So it was very real to her.
It wasn't based on her own experience.
The song was inspired by Reba McEntire’s “Whoever’s in New England,” which was written from the perspective of a wife whose husband is cheating on her. Nettles knew countless songs written from that viewpoint but none from the other two people involved. She says most people don’t realize that even the person who is doing the cheating gets hurt as well.
Beth Rightmeyer well said and I love this song because it shows the other side of a love triangle.👊🏾😎
Beth Rightmeyer.. Finally someone else that know's she never lived this experience.
If half these Idiot's done a quick Google search they'd know this..
Way you can't stay
This song helped me walk away and know that I am worth so much more!! Lies and heartache and holding on to someone you love so much, to just be an option.. never again.. my heart still aches but I know that it will heal and I will get what I deserve from someone that deserves me! Thank you for such a great and emotion filled song.. it really touched me and helped me!!
You will get through this ❤️
@@laurelcounsell4 Thank you, I'm trying!
Yes
Amen same here
I survived and married a man who loved just me! Married young, at 16 he was 19, got drafted to Vietnam! Came home never the same! Shared him with his mistress, she had a son 6 weeks before I had our daughter! I did this for 12 years, didn't want my daughter to blame me! I married someone else! 22 years together!