SCARED TO HAVE SEX!.. DOES IT HURT? *TMI*
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- IS SEX THE FIRST TIME PAINFUL?.. TMI
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I know TMI is uncomfortable for some, but those moments you share are the most helpful that make everyone feel so much more secure and relieved, thank you for sharing!
TMI should be removed and changed it to RAW information.
I have something to say to the sister that wrote the email: the fact that your partner was willing to wait for you 2months and gave you space is so beautiful.. keep that in mind... Cherish that.. he's definitely someone you can trust your body and vulnerability with. It will be fine.
Exactly. He’s patient and kind and he must love you. Take your time and enjoy each others company. It will happen!
This should be the norm
Right
The standards here are SO low 😂 applauding someone for not forcing/pressuring their wife into sex wowww
@@lucymillar2066 you are missing the point.. but go off miss high standards
I was with my hubby for 2 years before having sex. It took so long for me to even feel comfortable to be naked in front of him no touching involved. I was scared, ashamed, anxious, everything. It was a JOURNEY of intimacy before even getting to sex. I cannot imagine what pressure it is to just be expected to feel fine having sex after a lifetime of being told intimacy is bad or whatever. People really need to talk more about the fact that there should not be any pressure or any time frame to have sex. No sex necessary the night of your wedding. Take it easy. But i really understand women feeling pressure when the husband is ready to go from the getgo. This needs to be talked about so much more. And thank you so much for talkinh about marital rape. It exists and it is unacceptable. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you have the right to demand non consesual sex.
You’ve made me cry. I’m in the same situation. You’ve given me hope, I feel like I’m useless because I’m so scared. Thank you so so much and god bless you for eternity for putting this comment.
Did it hurt sis? I am on same boat... 2 years🥺🥺
@@nadiratabassumpapri4639 If your in a haram relationship dont have sex. Its one of the biggest sins in islam. Just research for 30 mins the effects of zina on the mind soul morality and from a islamic perceptive. May Allah protect us all from zina ameen.
@@suhulahmed7422 I am a married person.. do u really think a Muslim girl will do a Haram relationship?
I got married recently it's been 4 months now and it's still taking time for me to overcome this fear. Buy my husband is a good man 🦋
Please don't ever delete this vid, gonna watch it again when I'm about to get married one day😂
Me too 🤣🤣😂😁
Take notes, test the waters and understand your own love languages.
Vaginismus is very very real, for us it stems from constantly being told that sex is bad and if you do it you're dirty. So when you get to it after marriage, even though it's now permitted you've already developed a mental trauma around having sex. You need to work through this mental block first by changing your outlook on sex, it's not supposed to be a painful thing that happens to you, you can enjoy it with your husband. It will take time, for me it took a year and a half to reach that relaxed place Dina said and still now sometimes I cant just get into it lol. You absolutely first of all have to work on removing this stigma you have around sex and developing positive thoughts about what sex is. Good luck :)
Your comment is so important! Went though the same as you and it took quite a while to build down that mentality
I am struggling with vaginismus currently and it is so difficult for me. Feels impossible to overcome 😭
@@LittleMissPharmacist_ oh my dear don‘t worry and don‘t put pressure on you for having those difficulties at the moment ❤️ there‘s nothing wrong with you and your body, all you need to show your body is that there is no danger when something is penetrating your vagina, be that during sex, at the gynecologist or when you out a Tampon into you ❤️ what helped me overcome my vaginism was to „train“ myself with dilators, these are tools that you can get at the pharmacy (at least here in Germany) or online at Amazon. I got them made out of silicone and they came in 5 different sizes, from very small (like finger size) to bigger. These tools are also used by sex therapist (which are basically specialized when there are problems evolving regarding having sex etc.). I basically trained my vagina with that tool by myself and helped my body to unbuild that anxiety regarding penetration and helped it to feel for itself that it is capable of any size of penetration as long as I‘m relaxed. I slowly did that over time and finally after like training myself for 1-2 Months I was finally able to have sex with my husband and not feel pain while having it. It‘s been quite a sad and depressing time for me till I was able to have no pain during penetration because I felt like as if I‘m unworthy and overall not women enough because I always had so much pain. Looking back I wished I where more kinder to myself and would have been much more gentler with myself because my body was only trying to tell me that it‘s not feeling good, mentally and physically - I hope this helps you a little bit and I hope you‘re being gentle and kind to yourself because there‘s nothing wrong with you and your body ❤️❤️❤️
@@fr3agy thank you so much for this lovely message. I really needed to hear this!! Inshallah I can overcome this soon xxx
@@fr3agy Thank you do much for your comments ladies. It's really helpful
It's actually heartwarming to hear you both talk about it so respectfully and compassionately actually because I've had the occasion to talk to muslim both men and Women about this Topic and Allah!!! Some people have absolutely no compassions for the partner. The only thing that comes out of their speech is that you don't have the right to say no to your husband and if he wants an sexualité intercourse you have to obey. I'm glad to see that not everyone thinks that way. May Allah grant us all a patient, respectful and caring partner.
Yeah I hate that mentality. It promotes marital rape. And its so damaging for women. And some husbands use that against their wives and manipulate them and harm them. Marital rape is really big problem in our communities. My husband told me that once and I was like if you want this to be a good marriage you will never say that to me again. And you will respect my "no". I don't care what scholars and imams say. They don't have to live on my body.
@@hyrunnisa997 lol you do realise Islam encourages this ‘marital rape’ you’re referring to. The angels will curse the woman who denies her husband and all that biz. You might want to read up a bit more about all the cruel and inhumane things your favourite prophet cane out with.
@@hyrunnisa997 I hâte this mentality too. It is utmostly scary. Actually it is even the reason why I fear men because what will heppen if I ever have a husband like that ? May Allah protect us, I'd rather observe celibacy my whole life than have a coercive husband.
@@axelx3923 And it is extremely problematic, that's also the reason why I said that I'll pray for a caring husband because the thought of your absolution being in the hand of another person, a person that could potentially make you miserable is scary. That being said, I Think you should be respect people spirituality. If Harm have been done, it is to be understand within the context of the time. Conflict and war always Bring along misery no Matter which side you're in.
@@axelx3923 I know what hadith says. Didn't you read what I said earlier? It doesn't matter to me. If husband's want a good relationship with their wives they will never follow those hadith.
We live in such an oversexualised society so hearing advice like this aimed at virgins is very rare (and appreciated).
Honestly I don't think it's TMI, cause you explaining it more "detailed" makes it alot easier for us to understand
This video is important because of Sid. Men need to see his willingness to admit he didn't know and learned as he went along . Women need to see him because guys are humans as well. Movies and Porn make it seem like men are robots who are dying to do it and ready for assault all the time but apparently stress can affect him as badly as it affects a woman so as he said, as long as you guys like eachother body and personality, just relax because it will eventually happen naturally. Just watch movies about teenie romances and see how long many kids date without sex. That's all mental foreplay. So just trust the process, do other fun things like shower together or workout together and your body will catch up.
I’m not a Muslim but I really appreciated the way you discussed this.
Foreplay is ESSENTIAL!!
Agreed! But most men are terrible at it 😒
Absolutely idk why they didn't speak about that
💯!!
Even in Islamic view the Prophet sallalaahu alayhi wa salam FORBADE men to come up to their women WITHOUT foreplay!
I agree. But most men just wanna get it going for them without caring about pleasing their wife
11:20 Dina I just want to clarify for everyone, having that “pressure” as a Muslim women is NOT from the religion but Culture.
Just thought I’d point it out for everyone.
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exactly people need to stop mixing up religion and cultures. So many issues come from the culture and not the religion itself but the religion still gets blamed.
@@munazaahmad6389 but the religion is clear that a woman has to satisfy the man's needs
@@fn33338 send me reliable sources x and pretty sure our religion states that a man needs to satisfy his wife's needs too x
@@munazaahmad6389 well you have just admitted its in the Qu'ran 😂 so you accept that religion does have a part to play when it comes to marriage and sex.
I feel like that Ali Dawah is already preparing his response video to this lol
Don't be a hater. Think good.
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It’s not haram to talk about this don’t think so
He talks wayyyyyyy too fast 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭
I love the growth we are seeing in Dina and Sid. I feel like a few years ago they would have struggled a lot talking about this topic. Their perspective has changed a lot and I love it. Living for this feminist Dina 💕
Sid hit the nail on the head when he said its about making her feel secure and being patient. Providing security and confidence will make her shine and flourish in soo many ways!
Something every girl wonders about but is afraid to ask 🙏
Islam emphasizes on foreplay. Imam ‘Ali (A.S.) says, “When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled).” 1
Sex without foreplay has been equated to cruelty. The Prophet (S) said, “Three people are cruel: …a person who has sex (intercourse) with his wife before foreplay.” 2
Thank you so much for being so honest and transparent. This isn't just an issue within the Muslim community. It's also an issue in the Christian community as well. We are taught to wait till marriage and then expected to be completely comfortable and willing on our wedding nights as well. Keep the real-life chats coming. They are greatly appreciated.
People need to talk about this more. Thank you both for your honesty and for sharing this.
As someone that went through this kind of trauma myself. I really feel for this person. I agree with Sid and Dina, communication is key and use lube. I was young and had no idea. I didn’t know there was lube. I would of bought it myself. I hope to be different as a parent and speak to my kids about sex and educate them. Take your time and don’t feel bad. Relax and if he’s a nice person...he’s going to understand you and help you. Foreplay is key as well. You can’t just dive in. It’s like hitting the bottom of the pool. It bloody kills. Love your videos guys! Been watching you from the start. ❤️
Foreplay is super important!
I am converting to Islam and found this super refreshing thanks for this info xx
That's great! Hope you have a blessed life
Periodt! may Allah help you on your journey 💜
There is something so heartwarming about Dina being Muslim and a passionate feminist.
Islam promotes feminism. It was the first religion to grant women the right to own land. It’s more so culture that oppresses women rather than Islam.
@WOMAN LIKE ME I feel like by commenting this you’re kind of disregarding all the misogyny and sexism which is very much prevalent in Islamic communities today. I agree Islam is definitely not this way but there’s no doubt that many Muslims are. Also about the university you mentioned, its true it was founded by a Muslim woman but women could only attend in the late 1940s so it doesn’t really prove your point.
It's a shame that you don't know much about Muslim women. Islam liberated women and gave them rights at a time when the western world were still discussing if women had souls
Lol talk about a backhanded compliment
There Is nothing to be surprised of tbh
So important to talk about this stuff for young Muslims watching
Definitely, even for young Christians.
It suck to be a girl sometimes why does everything involve pain😩
I didn’t even realize that until you said so...periods:pain, pregnancy:pain, sex for the first time:pain, beauty:pain
Agree but overcoming the pain is our strength, you can’t deny
@@adwoatumtum not forgetting getting waxed. the pain is unbearable sometimes 😣
@@saniaf258true but in this case I really dont want pain to be part of it ,but Allah designed it this way so I have no objection! May Allah rewarded us for the pain we go through 🤲
@@nussy3652 what about period cramps 😩😩 your so right sometimes its unbearable!
Sid is just sooooo funny. Who looks more at Sids facial reaction when listening to Dina. These two are just soo hilarious 🤣 love you both
Sids facial expressions were killing me off throughout 😂😭
Literally 😂😂💀
I don’t think it’s TMI at all. Sadly we grow up thinking sex is bad when really it is seen as a beautiful and encouraged thing in our religion (between a married couple of course). Due to the taboo surrounding these kind of discussions, our youth turn to other sources such as pornography to learn what to do (even if it is extremely unrealistic). There is no topic embarrassing or off bounds when it comes to religion and I think it is wonderful you guys cover topics other Muslim UA-camrs might be afraid to. Great video. Very informative & realistic. Only thing I would have mentioned is the importance of foreplay (heavily emphasised by religion but brushed to one side by culture who prioritise men’s sexual needs, as you both mentioned)
Man went from skiing to swimming to dancing😂😂😂
HAD ME DYING
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HAHAH
Really appreciate you guys talking about ‘taboo’ topics. You’re really out here breaking barriers and setting new standards for the community. Bless you both ❤️
Great to hear you both making it so clear that pressuring partners into sex is not ok! And also I feel like pressure from a partner or feeling like they expect you to have sex is the BIGGEST turn-off anyway, which I wish more men understood!
Don’t know if it’s just my perception but Sid seems so much wiser in these videos than the ones from a few years back and it’s lovely to see their growth together to share so openly and powerfully!
I know a lot of the time using tampons etc is frowned upon for Muslim girls but I do think that trying to use them in those first few months after becoming sexually active could help just to get the body used to having something inserted!
I wanna see the half-eaten croissant
😂😂😂
oscar for best supporting actor goes to the croissant tbh
Same lol
I’m literally so proud you guys made this video and talked about your own experience. It’s so nice to see a muslim couple talk about this, because it’s so so so so so so so necessary. Just like you said, so many girls do not know how it works and it’s so sad that our world has come to that. I recognize every single thing u guys said.
Honestly no one better dare to come after you guys after this video.
honestly, im not a muslim or a virgin but you guys are sooooo lovely and cute that ive been subscribed for years now. Love💜
I lived in Egypt for many years. It’s very normal there for newlyweds to take months to do it because sadly, girls have been raised being terrified of it.
Like someone else mentioned, foreplay is essential.
Its sad that girls have to ask a youtuber these questions. Their parents should be open-minded enough to discuss these topics with their children.
I think it will be our generation who will really start to have these convos with our kids. Our parents generation, especially those that came to the West and have strong cultural and religious beliefs - not so much.
I listen to these videos whilst cleaning my place. It makes the cleaning not so boring, so I thank you! Please keep them coming ♡
Me too😂
Wheres ur place?
are u Married??
I didn’t bleed and it didn’t hurt at all when I lost my virginity to my husband. But I was very comfortable with him. As she said, even now as a married woman and mom of 2 with 2 vaginal deliveries, if I’m not feeling it or majorly stressed, it can be painful to have sex still!
I’m so glad you guys talk about this. I feel like in this generation, it’s not even considered normal anymore to feel this fear
Thanks for having this uncomfortable but really important issue. Vaginismus is so real and I can’t help but think about the women, especially our grandmothers etc, who had to go through this right away with no help and patience. Thanks especially Dina for your perspective.
Ngl this isn’t talked about enough in our community in this manner because of the stigmatism’s attached and everyone makes it so weird and awkward. Glad you’ve spoken about this, will help a lot of girls who are terrified of their wedding night
Hang on I've seen you in Muzz app before
I’ve noticed there’s 2 types of attitudes to sex: some people can’t wait to have it and feel totally confident about it, expecting to feel good before even their first time. And some ppl are petrified by it and expect it to be so painful and difficult. It’s all mental. However you think about it, is how it will feel!
such an important convo! it's time for stigma around these issues to be washed away
I think this is the most normal, genuine raw advice from all of the youtube videos that ive seen thanks for sharing
To the sister who wrote the email, speak to your partner about your fears. There are ways he can help and you need to be in the right mindset.Or get your doctor to talk to you together. First time might be painful, but everyone is different. After that it gets easier
This is so funny!! Love how transparent you both are lol
Sid exactly like my husband
When there's serious talk he want to say funny things 😂😂😂
This was really great to here Dina and sid are opening up about topics that are not discussed really eye opener for any girl or guy that is watching this this sort of stuff needs to be spoken about more well done guys 🙂
This video is amazing! This topic isn’t talked about enough in the Muslim community🥺👏🏽
Ikrrr i love how these muslim young youtubers r educating people on these srs sensitive matter. They have a big platform and can reach many people. Young people look up to influencers and seek their advice and they deal quite maturely about it which is very helpful. They r doing a good job addressing this someone's gotta do it hahaha these youtubers r our saviours🤣
@@nahiedlaila9601 Literally, so true! Don’t think they understand how much they’re helping people. May Allah (SWT) always bless them and keep them happy, Ameen🥺
@@aisharashid989 exactlyyy! Yesss ameen🙏❤❤
Is this TMI - hell yea, but very glad you brought it up. Women, particularly young women, who haven't been fortunate to have this kind of conversation with other women or elders because it's 'haram', need to know one simple thing: your body is yours, your choice to have sex or not is yours. It is your gift to give, just like it's your husband gift to you. And do not feel like there's something wrong with you if you don't feel like it. If you can talk with your partner and share your worries, he'll be more likely to help/support you.
I'm an Arab and when you mentioned the wedding night in Arabic I immediately screameeeed YAAAAAS plz tell them to stop this stupidness and this stupid old school belief !!!! 🤐🤐
Its actually a disgusting practice. Makes me sick
@@ye23. super disgusting !!
Ask Sid and Dina videos are the best thing in the universe, seriously.
This is literally my situation. I’ve been married for over a year and I’m too scared still. I’m getting better but I’m so freaked out by it. Alhamdulilah my husband is an angel and he doesn’t want to hurt me or see me stressed out.
Gone a year and no actual sex? Woah, how do you cope? :o
@@teneshalulu2482 probably the same way she coped the length of time before she got married..... 🤨 wym....
@smartipants123 take your time sis, you have your whole life to have sex. You’ll get there in’sha’Allah. You can enjoy your marriage in every other way until you are comfortable 🤎🤎
@@breezeybee Thanks, Inshaallah I can get over the fear and relax soon. I’m praying for you to have a blessed married life too. 💕
She needs to talk to her husband about this topic and tell him how she feels this will bring them closer together and being intimate will be a lot easier. If ur with the right one it will be just fine!!!
Thank you for talking about this topic, i had a similar experience even though I’m not Muslim and I didn’t knew who to talk because my family background is quite conservative and I wish someone talked to me about it 😊🤗
I think you did a great job of talking through this. I’m sure a lot of people benefited from your perspective. Cheers!
A hymen is a stretchy muscle (*actually a thin tissue) and can sometimes bleed due to irritation or just because it is being stretched out
it's not a muscle. but yes it's porous so fluids can come through.
Yes, sorry, it’s a thin tissue* not muscle
You guys videos always make my day ☺️ So real and informative, I can imagine this video helping loads of women. Not just Muslim women(I’m not Muslim). Never stop doing these type of videos they are amazing !
Thank you for addressing and discussing these very real issues that people shy away from talking about these days.
Thank you Dina and sid for such content .I personally feel this info taught me alot and being an islamic girl from strict community I feel this content made me feel more relaxed chill .I highly appreciate it guys
where u from?
and r u Married?
Sid and Dina you don’t understand how helpful your videos are... your literally the only Muslim couple that talks deeply about such a topic
it is TMI but we all need to hear this! thank you for doing this even though your own family might watch this
You are like a cool big sister and a cool big brother who tell us things that we will probably never hear from our family! Thank you guys ❤️
I wanna tell the girl don't be so scared its not that painful, I mean everyone is different, but personally I found it was nothing like I what I expected. The best advice is to enjoy it, know what you like and do that. Don't look at it as something scary and painful and something you dread, think of it more positively and that you want it. It's not a chore and it's not just for a man's pleasure, its for you to enjoy
I understand your fears and here’s my advice based on my personal experience as well as psychology:
1. “Date” your husband post marriage. Get to know each other more.
2. Start off with basic intimacy and slowly increase. For example, holding pinkies, to holding hands, cuddling for 2 min on a sofa, to cuddling for 2 hours on sofa during sofa, to 2 min on bed, etc...kiss on cheek to pecks on lips to actual kissing and so on.
3. Hymens & Bleeding: the first time is not supposed to be painful and bleeding and an accomplishment to show to everyone. You do NOT have to have sex with your husband on the first night or even first month or year. Speak to your husband about your fear and desire to slowly build up to this. Sex is a partnership that is amazing and beautiful and gives us both pleasure and a chance to create new life-it should absolutely not be forced. Additionally, not all women bleed. I bled such a small amount that it only put one small spot on a wipe.
4. Foreplay: once you have increased your intimacy levels and you BOTH feel a physical and mental urge to have sex, make sure you don’t immediately take off your clothes and jump to penetration. Showing appreciation for the other and expressing verbal and physical intimacy prior to sex is a must.
5. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Please talk to your husband about your fear. Talk to him about what he wants. Come up with a plan together. Follow this plan. Even while increasing your intimacy, talk to each other. And please please talk to your partner during sex as well to them this works or this does not, this is scary, this is okay-communication is key!
Please message me privately if you have questions!
That moment when u have to rely on youtube to have the talk 😂 and ya girl 23 years old lol
It be’s like that yuno ☺️☺️
I love this content. This was so entertaining! Honestly I relate to the fear
My marriage was an arranged marriage. My exhusband had zero sympathy when I told him that I'm scared of the pain and if we could wait... He wanted to get intimate on the first night. That night was the most painful night. Even after couple of days I still had pain.
What an a**h**e !!! I feel really bad for you but I'm glad you got out of this marriage. May Allah protect you and ease your affairs. Ameen
@Sumra Qadir Thank you very much dear sisters for your kind words
I'm so sorry you had to go trough that, glad to hear he is an ex now!
How can one be so cruel !!! I really hope that you are happy now !
I'm so sorry for you. He is just a pig. I'm glad you got rid of him
Foreplay is a must!
On a cold day you don’t turn on your car and start driving straight away. You turn on the car and warm up the engine and then you start driving without putting pressure on the engine.
It’s similar when having a intimate relationship, you start with foreplay and make sure her engine is nice and ready for a great adventure haha
Don’t be too scared and stop scaring yourselves. Take it easy and go with the flow.
Best line ever "Wtf is this". 😂 But the man needs to have patience and be in tone with the woman body since it takes a mins for most women 15 mins to get in the mood. Both can also look up the information online in how to get in the mood. Learn each other likes and dislikes. Just have fun together and express if something doesn't feel right or if something does feel good.
Love the honesty in these videos !!!
i love sids immaturity man befo0re my own heart.. im like whys dina not laughing
cz shes used to it by now 😂
Thank you for always putting yourselves out there and talking about taboo topics. The young people need to hear this (men and women) so they can have better relationships between them. I’m not Muslim but other religions have no sex before marriage expectations tule as well and what you discussed applies to all people waiting for marriage.
i loved this video. an important issue discussed in a really coherent and complex way. y'all are amazing
I appreciate the honesty. We muslims should be more open in discussing issues like this.
This is so refreshing! Thank you! We need to talk about this more openly. Loving these videos lately. And can we talk about the co-ordination in the outfits too! Looking fab!
We appreciate you having the uncomfortable conversations that some of us couldn't grow up having!
100% BOTH have to be comfortable, and if the guy is being pushy. It's only going to make it a chore, instead of pleasure.
I feel like we saw Sid at his most mature in the end of this video. I think the message of communication, working together, and patience is key.
why is there a half eaten croissant there 😂😂😂
They already know their going to go viral with this title
The hymen part is so disturbing.. and annoying. Agree with Sid, it's so backwards!!
Its from the stoneage hahaha
They r lost in time and havent evolved yet hahaha
Right. I'm a virgin and mine already broke due to menstrual cups
i end up watching these at a faster speed almost always and it's so funny cuz everytime they laugh, they literally look like 2 ppl HIGH afff
Same 🤣🤣🤣
This was such an important topic and I’m so glad you spoke about it. There’s so many girls (and guys) out there that really don’t have a clue and don’t have someone to talk to about this kind of stuff and it’s SUCH a big thing! I really appreciate all the advice and information
Well done for covering the topic again and for helping many virgins out there. Can’t lie some
of the conversation made me feel like the third wheel 🤣 but it’s all good!! Time to move forward and step away from cultural taboos. Sid’s right, Allah gave this type of intimacy for a husband and wife. It’s a beautiful blessing. Hope this girl who emailed in does have a easier time going forward. ✌🏽
If you are having trouble with sex in your marriage and you are not satisfied read the book "come as you are"
Thank you for being so transparent! This is quite an awkward yet a very intriguing topic to speak about.
Iloveyourl sid and dina for the mere fact yourl are fearless, give the best advice, and speak about relevant topics. I'm a nurse and I'm also passionate about these topics because our community has this taboo over it. It gives soo many people the opportunity to learn something new and how to not only respect their relationship but also learn to enjoy each other's company and a enjoy intimacy. And dina... You are spot on your information. Sid, guys should really take on your advice we need good men out there because when I see patients, males most of the time doesn't know how to make their partners happy and it's totally normal. A relationship is a learning experience together. So experimenting with each other to find what each other's likes and dislikes is the best way.
Keep it up guys
In Swahili culture we have this thing where a woman or the woman who was there for you or helped you when you got your period has a conversation with the woman about what to expect when getting married. They go through different issues such as sex, ghusl, contraception, life with the husband etc. This person is called Kungwi. Although we do this for just women as far as I am aware, I think maybe having this person for both men and women in communities would help to assist in being able to get rid of stigmas.
Sid: "its like swimming"
ha ha ha ha!!!
but everything else you both said is spot on.
Being comfortable and relaxed really is key, I had little pain and no bleeding, I was so calm, so relaxed and comfortable. Plenty foreplay beforehand obviously helped with the ease of things if you know what I mean. A gentle and considerate partner really makes a world of difference!
You comment brought me comfort. Thank you
i have so much respect for you guys for speaking about this! keep doing what you’re doing! much love❤️❤️❤️
I love Sid and Dina they are like an older brother and sister you can ask literally anything and always give the best advice! And even though it’s a taboo subject they ain’t afraid to express their views regardless if people may feel negativity towards it! Love you guys... hope your safe and well! ❤️🥰
Thank you for sharing your opinions and your experience. I was in my mid twenties when I lost my virginity and I loved it. Yes it did physically hurt, however the whole experience of doing it felt good. Why? I waited for the right person (...no not for religious or cultural reasons and no I didn’t wait until marriage... I just waited to do it with the right person).
Throughout the whole thing he was asking me if I was okay or if I was hurting. We stopped when I felt uncomfortable and we went on when I was ready. Basically, I was spoiled with care that day.
My advice to anyone who hasn’t had sex is to find the right person to share it with. When someone respects you he/she will treat you so well.
Weird flex, but ok.
Wish I could but my parents won't allow it
Don’t be immature. You’re on a video about sex and pain. If you are uncomfortable reading stories from other Middle Eastern women, then don’t continue.
Dina looks tan and I'm here for it!!!
Absolutely loved this video. Sid is toooooo funny. When he was skiing and dancing and doing the hands movements I was laughing so hard. I loved every minute of watching Sid. I love how he advises then goes shy bless him. Really need to see more of Sid in your videos
I DESPISE "Laylat Addukhla" term with a PASSION!!!
I would like to add one thing from experience.
Of course when you are newly wedded you support each other, etcetera. It is no big deal that it takes time to have intercourse.. but re assure yourselves that there is nothing wrong in this. Because with us it took about 2 months. And in that time we were getting thoughts whether there was something wrong. NO, there is nothing wrong with you or him/her, you just need time.
I wanted to share my experience. And later on you understand the joy etcetera what everyone is talking about. So it definetely is eye opening and it makes the bond stronger.
thanks for touching on marital rape. it boils my blood that more women do not understand that they do not owe their partner sex when they are not ready.
I have been married for 10 years and I think in the starting thier should be no pressure for either one to do anything espically if it’s arranged or even love marraige. Time is always key to build the strong trust bond. Maybe slowly having a hug or kiss. Or even just writing a romantic letter not everything in marraige is only physical touch. I think it’s very important to communicate. Has she tried to speak with her husband abd I agree two mints is so less and understanding and bond can take time. My advice is to read namaz and make dua to Allah to ease your fear. And just trust him and for him to listen and understand it’s about communication. And another piece of advice never discuss any part of your marraige with any family member or friends work colleagues. Allah has made this part of relationship private. Trust In yourself him and Allah. My best wishes with you sister. Also another advice which I like to add always use protection be it condoms or pill etc as this could be the factor of fear incase of quick pregnancy. Giving time to relationship is very important.
How AWKWARD both of them were while sharing intimate details about their lives (knowingly or unknowingly) 😂😂😂😂😂
But it wasn't awkward though
@@fizzybizzy3790 dude, it's EXTREMELY awkward for a Muslim and even that a Pakistani/Egyptian (in case of Sid and Dina, because we have these cultural "things") to share details about their sex life. And it was so evident throughout the video, whenever they started talking about their own lives. Kudos to them though for giving honest and good advice to their viewers! 💯❤️
@@filzaali7659 I am a Pakistani Muslim. It's important to have conversations like this to help naive Muslim girls out. There's so much misinformation out there that is harmful. I think they did a great job. If you found it awkward, maybe you should do some self-reflection. They're married. It's halal.
@@fizzybizzy3790 my goodness! You totally misunderstood my comment. I didn't call them out for making it so awkward. They did the right thing by having this conversation, which I said in my comment too. And I'm a Pakistani Muslim too, so I very well know the taboos, misconceptions and superstitions surrounding a person's "sex life", even if they're married and totally halal for each other, it's not something which is discussed openly. And for Sid and Dina to talk about it, they were awkward, they even admitted that it felt like way tmi, but it's seriously appreciable! Girls need to know this because most of the times they can't and don't have this talk with their families! So, I appreciate your reply cuz I was able to clear my context!
@@filzaali7659 I'm glad we're on the same page. Also, our names are so similar :)
I don’t think it’s fair to say it’s always painful on the first try! More like uncomfortable more then pain or a feeling of tightness.