The first story: this dad is spectacular! He is parenting properly! I hope the mum can get some sense knocked into her and learns how life works Second story: I appreciate the mum trying to look out for her daughter, but the daughter is still a child - she's figuring herself out. Just let her try it if it matters that much to her! If it looks bad, there are ways to hide it. For example: in my 7th year, I hated my bangs (went through a BIG self discovery phase) and decided to hide them. I used headbands to push them back against the top of my head. I used bobby pins to pin them back. It works until her hair grows back enough to fix. Also, the mum definitely should not have scolded her like that. Those words were kind of cruel to say to a 10 year old who made a mistake :( People, if you have kids, please be kind
Exactly, I agree! Kids should get a say in how they want their hair to be cut and if they don't like it after the salon, now they know and they can learn from the consequences of their own decisions. They will also learn what they like and dislike. How will they learn if the mum did not give them a chance to experience something to learn from? Protecting your kid from just a hair cut is weird. Hair grows back anyways. BRING BACK THE BOWL CUTS LMAOO literally had too many bad haircuts but I finally know what's best on me!
My daughter didn't even ask first, her and her friend cut their hair with my mom's GARDEN SHEARS, they were 7 or 8, I got my hairdresser to fix it as best she could, other girls parents weren't mad either, we just figured kids do stupid things sometimes, I was more worried because they used garden shears, yikes, thankfully they didn't hurt themselves, the hair grew back and we all laugh about it, now they're almost 18.
@@arleneclark6369 exactly. Girls especially will cut their hair (very badly) on their own at least once in their life at some age point (whether really little like 3-6 years old or older). I was around 6 when my little sister told me to cut off her curls with scissors and then I also cut my own hair.
I'm honestly wondering if the "mom" in the first story isn't actually the son's stepmom. Her playing favorites like this is really giving off some of the Cinderella evil stepmother vibes.
When my daughter was five, she asked me for a short bob cut. She had waist-length hair, thick, dark red. I didn’t want her to cut it, but it’s her hair, so we did it. She loved it for about two weeks, until she realized she couldn’t really do much with it. So she grew it back a little bit, to a little past her shoulders, and decided that’s the length she wants it. It took about 8 months to grow from chin to shoulders. Hair grows. The mom in the hair story absolutely should’ve just let her kid get bangs.
I gave myself a bob cut when I was 4 in my bedroom. I then asked my mom to glue my hair back on, I cried that day. I haven’t done more then a trim since then.😥
8 months for it to grow chin to shoulder??! I may not know much about hair growth but I guess it's different for everyone. A relative of mine seems to get a haircut every two-three months or so cause they like it short but it grows pretty quick after some time.
@@gred_and_forge yeah I was also confused why it took so long to grow 8 months. The only time my hair took forever to grow back was because of a certain hairdresser. Other hairdresser's ive been to my hair never took long to grow back.
@@idkhithere6860 smh. if anything that one hairdresser didn't follow proper protocol when it came to sanitizing the hair tools. My cousin (male) went in for a clean up once but he didn't like the hairdresser. Unfortunately he couldn't get his usual one so he went somewhere else. My aunt and mom suspected from his recount of the place they weren't properly sanitizing their tools so they could get to everyone more quickly, and that's why one of the electric razors gave him a bald spot that took *forever* to grow back in 😤 that's why hygiene and sanitizing is important no matter what.
@@gred_and_forge damn that sucks for your cousin. In my case, I got a haircut from a family friend I knew for years. Tbh I ended up getting another haircut from her years later and there wasn't an issue so idk whats up lol. I like your name btw 😂
That woman is setting her daughter up to be a spoilt brat. You can't want to go to your siblings' events just because you like the place they're going. Especially if the sibling/friend didn't extend the invite Ngl the second girl might also end up spoilt if the mother acquiesces to her every request. She told her no and gave her a reason. No is no anyway. It is her fault for going and cutting her hair anyway and she's just gonna have to live with it until it grows back out
I cut my hair because I was made fun of for it and it was always in my face (I was six this was literally first grade kids are awful) I regret it and it has never grown back and it has been 12 years now my hair is uneven and short in the front literally the tops of my hair line are like two inches long I want to go bald but I'll cry because of it and my dad said he'd disown me (literally ment it and hid his at home head razor kit)
@@EggsToYourBacon It's her hair, and instead of just letting her try it because hair does grow back, she basically told her daughter she'd look ugly... She is a literal child as Kyutie said they literally could have gotten clip-on bangs to try it out or even showed her daughter the Face-tuned photo or her trying them out. Instead, of saying you're going to look bad so you can't do it and giving her daughter self-esteem issues.
@@notsofunnyjokes1040 Hopefully, you can move out soon because that is idiocy. I can't stand when parents control what kids can and cannot do with their hair. It grows back, wigs exist, etc. I buzzed my hair off after shaving my parent's hair off. And they appreciated it, a family member was diagnosed with Cancer, plus my hair was destroyed by a product another family member made me try. So it gave me time to repair my scalp and have my hair regrow. Buzzing it made it grow back so much more manageable than before it was buzzed off. I made it short, I think I used a size 2 if I remember correctly so it felt like peach fuzz lol It was the best thing I ever did for my hair and my confidence. It forced me to be more confident in myself because I always hated how my face looked. But I couldn't hide behind my hair anymore once I did it.
When I was about 15 I wanted to dye my hair from black with my light brown roots to blonde, my mom told me it would go orange, I didn't believe her, so she bought it for me anyways and did it for me, and just like she said the roots were orange. I was horrified and embarrassed and just started sobbing. Thankfully my mom paid for me to go to the hairdresser the next day and get it fixed and we managed to cover it up quite nicely in a way that would look good when growing out, but that was the last time I used cheap box dye lol
it has nothing to do with the box dye. Hair naturally goes to an orange tone when lightened, which cosmetologist are trained to tone out. Every dark to light hair does this.
I remember wanting to dye my hair black for the longest time but nobody would do it for me and I didn't have the money to get it done. One day I was hanging out with friends of a friend and they said I would look good with black hair and offered to dye it so I did. They did a terrible job, didn't use enough dye and with natural red hair within a week my roots was showing and it looked like my scalp was bleeding having red roots and black hair so my parents had to fix it. Sure, they was right that it didn't look good, but going the route I did made it look even worse.
You’re brave. I’m also a natural redhead and I’d be terrified to dye it black. When they fixed it, did they get your natural color back or did they make the black even?
As someone who used to have bangs that looked cute as a child. I begged my mom to let me have them again for years, but she refused for the same reason (I have really thin hair and I'd have to cut a large portion of my hair for it to be thick enough to lay flat) she finally allowed me to have them at 13-14 and my hair never grew. Actually, most of my bangs hair kept falling, now I just have a constant bird nest on my head that's too short on the sides to be clipped flat or gathered into a ponytail. I understand that most people have their hair grow back but I do believe the mom had to put her foot down on this one, just not the way she did. She could've been more gentle or at least wait until the daughter's hair grows back to teach her the lesson and it would've been just as effective.
As painful as it would be for me as a mother to watch my child make a mistake, especially if I made it, I think sometimes you have to let them learn themselves. Plus, well, even if it looks bad at least they are a kid. It’s a good time to make mistakes and learn for the future
hi kyutie! I just wanna say that I rlly like listening to your ‘am I wrong’ reaction videos because I like listening to your reflections and thoughts on them. Your videos are also a great source of comfort to me and really make me feel more relaxed when i listen to them to sleep! Thanks for the daily uploads. Keep up the good work :))
the second one annoyed me, cause Im trans and for the longest time when i was younger my mum wouldn't let me get my hair cut short because I might hate it, and once she even said that my face was too chubby for it to look good but now she pretends she was always for it. i think its just because she is transphobic though :,)
I agree with the mom. She told her she wouldn't look good with it and she still cut it. Now live with the ugly hairstyle. That will teach her to listen in the future!
When my kids wanted to do something all their friends did, and I wasn't convinced of its safety or efficacy, I would answer them with "Well, if all your friends want to jump off a cliff, are you going to follow them?" I taught, or attempted to teach, my children to make choices that were sensible for them, or fit their circumstances. Not just blindly follow some popular friend. 17 year old son came home with a tongue piercing. (personally, I think they're dangerous and revolting, but he was 17 and used his own money). I actually laughed and said "Watch out you don't swallow that" and a couple of days later he coughs and goes "Arrgghh I swallowed the piercing". I went and looked. Yep it was gone. I suggested where to find it if he wanted it back. We both laughed. He didn't do that one again. But...he was 17, not 10.
Number two she was putting her foot down for the wrong reason it should be because of her daughter wanting to be like her friend The "I want it because she has it" also why does she have a phone at 10 I didn't get mine till 11 and it was for emergencies (tracfone aka minute phone I'm Gen z btw didn't get a "real phone" until I was almost 13 and it got stole by some racist kid whose ass I almost kicked before he stole my phone, probably why he did it) Tiktok is doing to much as an influence for kids and people in general
Minute phone still exist on “real phones” I have an apple phone locked on a minute one (not tracphone but the other popular one) and I got mine which was a throw away phone at like 10/11 and even tho it was for emergencies I could still use it? Like what wack ass parents do you have?
For the second story I think the parent was right because the kid could of been be bullied because of it and they just want to protect them from being bullied
if i had the opportunity, i'm dying to see how the wife would do if her daughter's friend invited her to attend an amusement park. Will she says it is unfair for the son? i don't think so, cause it clearly looks like she's favouring the daughter more than the son. Will she not let her daughter attend the amusement park? hell nope, she'd probably let her daughter go on her merry way
To be honest I can understand the mum in the first story. Like one of your kids gets to go to Disneyland & the other doesn’t? 1. As a parent you’re never gonna hear the end of it from the one who doesn’t want to go 2. Tbh you might even want to go & you might feel sympathy for the kid who doesn’t. I really don’t think it’s favouritism. I mean anytime I go for lunch spontaneously with my best friend my parents ask my sister if she wants to go, & that’s just LUNCH. I know it’s not favouritism, although it is annoying. I can see form both perspectives but I don’t think the mum in necessarily wrong & she’s definitely not playing favourites
the last story reminds me of the time when i a kid and wanted to wear different color socks or something like that and my mom would just tell me no and say people will make fun of me. heck she even said that when i was a freshman and wore blue jeans and a blue dress. the dress was beautiful dark blue and the back was slightly long. like almost had a train but not. no one made fun of me behind my back or in my face. made fun of me when i had short hair and look like a boy but that i didnt let it bother me. i still like to wear none matching clothes,or having a side shave, or short hair or just plain no hair at all. fyi, i have a side shave with over shoulder length hair. i love how my hair is, but i hate my bangs but im 50/50 on letting my bangs grow so i would know how i look with long bangs. i did shave my head once and i actually like it. summer time as well so i wasnt getting my head warm. oh,also my hair is dark brown,almost look like black but not black. i actually had a few people ask me if my hair color is naturally black or died and i told them my hair is naturally dark brown and not black. i still remember the Pikachu surprise face to this day. hey,even people have that face when i tell them my age but my hieght and voice doesnt show that. im not 5ft and im 21. im around 4'11 maybe. so ya,im small. used to it tho.
to be fair I'm kind of understanding where the mom came from on the 2nd story yes she is just a child but sometimes we have to face the consequences of our own actions parents aren't gonna always be there to get their kids out of trouble, maybe the mom could have been nicer about it but she is correct in what she said
The mom in the Disney story is a terrible mother and that's an insane and abusive way to parent kids. The mom in the Bangs story is a good mom. You cant let kids do whatever they want just because they want to. A 10 year old is old enough to know what they're doing and old enough to live with the consequences.
Second story/Bangs story: I might hold the unpopular opinion but i think the mom is right in letting daughter face the consequences of her actions. It may seem harsh but she was right in telling her husband that daughter knew what she was doing was wrong b/c she hid in the bathroom. Even if the bangs came out good, did she honestly think her mom would overlook the fact she went behind her back and hid something like this in her own house?? Daughter most likely would've been grounded, and husband and wife still would've ended up arguing about the fairness of the punishment. The dad is right saying she's still learning, but he's also right in saying shes just a kid. The daughter is only 10, she's not even in middle school/junior high yet, and she chose to ignore the warning that her mom's cousin, who specializes in cutting kids hair, gave her that it wouldn't look good. For everyone who thinks mom should've just let the daughter get bangs then see the results for herself cause 'its her hair, her choice,' maybe mom could've compromised and told daughter to wait until summer break and cut her bangs. That way if it looks bad, it would grow back some length by the time school started, but if she likes it, they could trim it again before school.
Same. Tbh I feel like she wasn't harsh at all. 10 year old's known when they might get punished for doing something they weren't supposed to. But I also feel like the mom should have shown what she would've looked like without bangs, or maybe get clip on-s. But besides that fact the daughter needs to face the consequences, or save up for a wig.
I 100% agree. I am a mom to a 6 yr old girl and am a hair stylist. Our job is to be truthful if something will work on you or not. So that later, if you do it anyways and it looks bad, then we aren't held accountable (since we tried warning you). Also, as someone who was bullied a lot in school, he mom was protecting her. Not protecting her feelings, protecting HER. Kids can be cruel some times and her mom probably didn't want her to be made fun of. Also, babying her and telling her she looks nice isn't good bc she will see her mom lied the first sign of being picked on. Saying she looks nice when she doesn't is being a friend, but telling her "I told you so" is being a mom. We are the parents not the friends. If we say no and you do it anyways, and hate the result . . . . whelp, we told you. Now you know. We will still try to make the situation better, but it's a life lessoned learned and the kids can't be babied.
@@epicnguyens2821 yep, not to mention she's ten, and while it's a debate on when is the right age to stop babying your children, considering daughter was insistent on making these choices about her body (it's always hair first, then something else, like piercings), mom did right not babying her on the situation. And yes! My goodness, kids have no filter and will not hesitate to voice ther opinions, no matter how hurtful it is
@@gred_and_forge You are right, at 10 taking those kinds of chances means unless she gets the message now with this misadventure she might try other more dangerous things wanting to appear cool. The next time it might be hurting herself getting bleach in her eyes trying to lighten her hair because she saw someone else looking good with high lights.
Y’know, you didn’t look at the possibility that maybe she hid because it looked bad PLUS the fact that her mom told her it would look ugly. To be honest none of this would’ve happened if they got a PROFESSIONAL to do it in the first place, so I do hear your opinion, but I also don’t agree with it. Not thinking emotionally + logically is something I just can’t rationalise. If you’re only looking at one side then you may as well not look at all to be honest.. Also, being in someone’s house doesn’t give you the right to control their personal choices, :) so please don’t act like she owns her daughter or has the right to control her in this way. You brought up the fact that she could’ve compromised, which would be a good idea. Unfortunately that didn’t happen though, which makes this argument kinda fall flat. Like yeah it’s a good idea but also that’s not the what happened so using that is a bit pointless to defend the mom. Now I do want to say, I think the mom was trying to protect her daughter (to an extent), but she went about it the wrong way. I understand that rocking up to school with an skewed cut could induce bullying and stress, but also her hair would grow back and wouldn’t have looked as bad if they let a professional do it. Overall I think this is a case of an overprotective act, that got painted really badly.
Bro, I told my dad about the fist story and he just shook his head. This is literally how you make a spoiled brat. If she was really only concerned that she was sad about not going to Disney, she should have just agreed to do something with her too. But no, the wife tried to leave her son out of a *family* vacation because her daughter couldn't go to Disney with people she didn't even know. As for the second, I disagree. Yes, she's a kid. Yes, kids want to be like other people. But 10 is old enough to know that no means no. I'm speaking for myself, but I knew when I was disobeying at 10 years old. She knew that she wasn't listening and faced the consequences. And op isn't overprotective; she said that she usually lets her daughter pick for herself. At that point, she just knew that she wasn't getting what she wanted, and tried to do it herself secretly, and it's not harsh to tell her that. The only thing op really could've done was show her what her cousin saw to see if she still wanted to go through with it. But otherwise, she did nothing wrong.
In the second story, I disagree it's the daughter's fault for ruining her hair. She decided to disobey her mum and well she has to live with the consequences. Anyways, it's just hair it's gonna grow back anyways.
@@inuyashaslvr yes it does grow back which is why i don't think the mum went too far. Yeah she could've let her daughter try having bangs but it's still her fault for ruining her hair. At the end of the day the daughter will learn what hair looks better on her anyway, it's not like she'll have a terrible haircut forever.
Story 1: If my partner was showing such obvious signs of favoritism like that I would probably tell the brother that the partner wanted to leave the son with him out of the Vacation for getting to go to Disney. Let the whole family know probably, just to protect the son from being punished from the favoritism. If the partner gets upset I'd probably explain to them that they were the one who suggested leaving behind the boy with his uncle, so obviously a conversation had to be had with the uncle about it. Story 2: OP should have shown the daughter the Face Ap thing so she could see herself with bangs and then she might not have done it. Could have made a great bonding conversation about hair by googling hairstyle pictures of people with thin hair. Lord Of The Rings Elven hairstyles seem to work a lot better with my mom's thin hair than with my thick hair. The child is only 10 and already going behind their backs to get things done herself when things aren't fair and clearly has communication issues with her mother; Good Luck when that kid reaches her teenage years.
Man the wife in the first story, she is bonkers. Where do these parents even come from dude In the second story..lmao the kid will have a funny bad haircut photo when she grows up.
In regards with the second story, I agree that the mom should have let her daughter experiment, which could have prevented her from taking matters into her own hands. However, things happen and the mom is right to let the daughter know that she will have to live with the consequences of her actions. *I am speaking from experience with this exact thing.* My sister and I cut each other's hair when Tangled first came out, to see if it would turn colors. My sister was fine because she had curly hair and the chopped bit just blended right in- I had to get bangs though. My mom made it very clear that she was disappointed and disliked the hairdo. But I learned from the experience *because no one sugarcoated it* If the mom lets her daughter believe that everything is sunshine and rainbows, she's going to be horribly unprepared for the real world.
First story: The best friend has no relationship with his sister, no need to take her. The mom is kind of just dumb for not understanding this simple situation. The dad is good. Hr handled the situation properly and is good with his responsibilities. Second story: I mean you could just tell ur child it wouldn't look too good and tell them what the cousin said and the picture...make them understand if they don't listen, give them the haircut. And just say that you did tell her and she should listen to her next time or the "disaster" (If ever happened) would happen again. The kid is 10 not 5 she must have some sense. I don't think the mother did anything too much wrong. She was alr though she could've explained, and its also the daughters fault.
First story. First of all, who's "Keeping score?" And when the lad turns 16 is the mom going to refuse to let him drive until the daughter is old enough to drive, too? Best to leave the thinking to the dad in this family. As for the girl with the bangs, she was hiding in the bathroom because she knew her mom would be mad that she was being defiant. Actions have consequences and she is 10 ... old enough to learn that. Better a hair mishap than trying drugs at 12, or driving drunk at 17. Bangs will grow back.
I also hung out with my brother and his friends a lot as a kid. I see nothing wrong with it, but obviously I wouldn't go if I wasn't invited. The story about the bangs, I totally agree with Ellen. Kids around 10 are just like that. It's just bangs. The kid probably imagined it a certain way in her head. The only way to get that idea out if her mind is to actually let her get bangs. It's just hair. It grows back. I don't know why the mom was so insistent in how her daughter should look. And the way she talked to the daughter afterwards was so harsh. One thing though. Clip-in bangs wouldn't have worked because they won't have the same thickness as your own hair
As a 12 year old kid, I think I have the right to say that kids around ten these days really aren't as bad as you'd like to think, and I actually agree with the mom. The mom "was so insistent in how her daughter should look" because she knew that the kid would cry and be sad because she didn't like the haircut. Also she CLEARLY says that she tried to explain she can't fix it, but the kid wouldn't listen. I kind of agree with the fact that she was a bit harsh afterward and I would have given her some snacks to calm her down, then tried to show her some youtube videos about hair/why it can't be fixed, but the mom isn't wrong either
the 2nd story. If you have brown, black or whatever kind of strict parents, they will literally be all sarcastic and say 'oh why don't you just go bald huh?' if you ask them to even just trim your hair when they don't want you to.
Sorry but I have to agree with the mom in the second story: the kid made a choice, she has to face the consequences of that choice. I made that exact dumb choice to cut my bangs myself when I was around 12, it didn't look very good, I still went to school, faced some mocking smiles and remarks, it didn't kill me and I knew it was deserved because I did something stupid. Actions have consequences, you'll learn it by making some bad, stupid choices, you'll learn the lesson and, hopefully, not make the same mistake again.
When i was 6 my mum had brought me to the salon to get bangs. So many people thought that i looked good in bangs, but i hated them so later that week when my mum thought I was napping, she decided to take a shower. Once she got in the shower, i got up grabbed the scissors and chopped off my bangs. For some reason I was actually proud of my self. Funniest part is, is that in a couple days was my schools picture day. So i have a permanent memory of that day.
I don’t see anything wrong with the mom in the second story tbh… parents have every right to say no to anything if they think it will affect their kid or make them unhappy. Kids should always listen to their parents because they always know better. This all happened because the girl didn’t listen. In this case it was something harmless (hairstyle) but what if it was something much more harmful/dangerous?? Would you all still be like “well she should let her try it herself and find out”? I bet the answer is no. I get that the kid is only ten and doesn’t know any better and the mom could’ve been nicer to her about it but is definitely not the mom’s fault what happened.
It’s not the girl’s fault. And it was literally just a haircut. The mom should let the girl find out for herself that it’s a bad haircut. Plus simply blaming her and having no sympathy is harsh. The mom is the one that was irresponsible and didn’t let her just do something for herself. My mom let me picked my own clothes and hair when I was 10 and I’m grateful for it. The mom is literally protecting her from a haircut?l.
@@lunarialoonatic the mom is not irresponsible for saying no to something that she knows will make her kid unhappy. And it is in no way her fault that the kid decided to disobey her. The whole situation happened because of the kids disobedience or are you saying that kids shouldn’t listen to their parents and that they should do whatever they want? Now this is only a ten year old kid so I don’t expect her to understand the whole situation but I do expect 10 year old kids to know that they should listen to their parents and not just do whatever they want. So It was definitely the girl’s fault. But again she’s just a kid and mistakes are normal so the mom should’ve been less harsh on her.
Omg the thumbnail reminded me of this one time how my mom was giving me some money to get McDonald's or something cus I had to go to this mandatory event for college and would be out around lunchtime and there was one close to the event. My younger sister (11) heard this and so asked if we can go at the weekend to which my mom agreed until my sister said "but leave *my name* at home else it'll be unfair". Luckily my mom had my back for once and just simply said something like "yk what no we won't go cus we don't need to but *me* does need to eat whilst she's out and when you grow up and have to go to this event thing then you can have money for McDonald's then so it's fair". Most satisfying thing to watch.
The second story, while it sounds like the mom was being mean, she was teaching her child that actions have consequences that you have to live with. There is nothing that her mom can do to fix it. And the child has to learn that when they do things they shouldn't they will have to live with the consequences. That is how you learn to think carefully before you act. And yes I have a daughter and she wanted to cut her hair like a friends once and I said no, I told her you will not be like other kids, you will be you. When you want to cut your hair because you think it looks good, then I will let you cut it. Because I explained my reasonings to her she understood there was no problem. She is now 23, knows who she is and is well adjusted. Parenting is never easy, but no one can tell you how to do what is best for your child. And children need to learn consequences while they are young so that when they grow up they will be well adjusted adults.
The first story I can understand to a point. Like I understand not wanting to let him go because you know you can’t afford to ever take your other child there and don’t want to deal with the crying or any childish behavior from it… but her trying to exclude the son from a family trip I cannot understand… or her getting so much stuff and crying over 1 thing makes her thing it was the wrong decision The second story I feel like it’s partly the aunts fault for convincing the mom but in the end if you don’t cut your kids hair for then don’t be surprised if they try to do it themselves. Also even if it looked bad the child may of loved it… I know looking back I hate a lot of my childhood haircuts but I loved them at the time
My elder brother goes to Disney and other places all the time without me, even when I was younger. I didn't care. I love hanging out with my brother but he does his own thing and i do mine and I don't go with him if im not invited Some parents really have the nerve to not even hide their favorites
Im one of 4 children on my mums side of the family, growing up I remember year after year my youngest brother would get invited to these fun birthday parties with our cousin and I always felt a bit jealous because he was the only one of us 4 who ever got invited, but I never said anything. Fast forward and thinking back, those two were closer in age and interests so it only made sense that it worked that way and my uncle was a single hard working father who did his very best to give my cousin a great childhood and I'm so grateful he had that.
i feel like the mom in the seccond story was sort of in the wrong. i honstly dont know if the mom showed the daughter the eddited photo, since thats left out of the story. i also feel like people have diffrent oppnions on what looks good. i think the mom shold have at least shonw the daughter the eddited photo and explaind why bangs are a bad decision. she also cold have handeld the situation better and helped her daugter come up with solutions to "fix" or cover the bangs. like a head band or hair clips could be an easy fix.
For the second story, I think the mother did the right choice of saying no to her daughter and letting her go through the consequence of her choice. As much as kids can do whatever they want, even parents doesn;t want to have their child experience something very regretful like cutting thier hair to see that it turns out really bad. It may be a small issue but lets face it. When we are kids, even the smallest issue looks like the biggest regret. The mother can help her daughter in hiding her hair, but by the fact that it was said that it seems to imply that the daughter wants it fix(but both mother and cousin who is a hairdresser says it cannot be fix) might show that she didn't like the idea of just cutting her hair or even wants to hide it. As much as I feel bad for the girl, she really needs to live through this till it comes back. Even if she is a kid, at her age, she should at least know what consequences are and how not listening to no can really hurt you more than the person saying no.
Depends really you can take their opinion but you're the one who should make the final decision. And adding to that doesn't everyone makes mistakes? Children to adults, we all make mistakes and there are mistakes we do regardless of the consequences. It's just life. And the mother also kinda have a feel of 'I don't want to get myself hurt just incase my daughter didn't like it and blames me so i'll just not consider her decision' Like I get you don't want your girl to look bad and regret her choice but that's just life. Also can we talk about her harsh words? Maybe u don't agree with me but that's just harsh to say to someone, especially a kid. If you can say that to your child then it's better to just let her learn her preferences and let her learn from her mistakes, rather than you protecting her just cuz u it will hurt you, (a parent should know that their child/children will not like/hate something abot them cuz that's just life) and when she do it herself u hurt her even more with a harsh words. It just not right.
I cut my bangs too short once, laughed about my faux unicorn horn, let the hair grow back until I have my own bangs that I can maintain myself. One of the ways I learned to style my hair
0:05: I gotta side with the husband here. I mean, sure, our son can go, but his little sister has to tag along? Seems unfair to his son's friend and his family (especially since they would have to spare the expense of an extra plane ticket). 3:08: Parents should never play favorites with their kids. 5:40: At 10 years old, the daughter should have a say into how she wants to look. The thing about hair is it always grows back, even if it takes a while. 8:10: This is why it's usually a better idea to let other people give haircuts, instead of watching TikToks encouraging people to do it themselves. Yeah, this is a case of being young and experimental. The 10-year-old will be fine. It's just a big to-do over nothing, really.
Kids should b taught to b a trend setter not follower so I agree wit the mom not letting her daughter cutting her hair for multiple reasons and they were right to make her deal wit what she did she knew she was wrong and like the sayin goes she made her bed now she has to live wit it my kids r under ten and know better the on new y she was hidin
I just read the thumbnail one last night. I can understand the second one a little. Maybe, the parent is worried the daughter will get bullied from having messed up hair.
The kid cut her own hair after she was warned not to. Now she must live with her decision to lie and sneak. Ball caps are cheap and plentiful, and hair grows back. I don’t see the drama here. Natural consequences are the best teachers. 🤷🏼♀️
She didn't lie or sneak, like everyone who cuts their own bangs does it in a bathroom, idk why I guess the lighting, but she probably did that because that's what she saw on all the tiktok videos.
@@xcallisto_ what are you talking about? The location has nothing to do with the lying and sneaking. She was told no by her mom and went and did it anyway. That's literally sneaking around. She had said she was going into the bathroom for "alone time" when she was really just going to cut her hair after she was told a clear no. The location (the bathroom) doesn't matter. If she'd done it in her room instead of the bathroom, it still would be her defying her mother regardless. If she'd done it at a friend's house or at school, that does not matter. The point is what she did, not where she did it.
Bro, she's ten. Just let her experiment with how she wants to look, even if it doesn't look perfect. Children make mistakes and now she's learned what hair style she likes. Cut the kid some slack!
The hair story reminds of my first haircut 🤣 So...I was around 3 years old and I was at my grandparents' house, watching TV, while my mother and grandma were in the kitchen making lunch. According to them (because I don't really remember it happening...I just remember the result and reactions😅), a famous fashion designer in my country that had a really cool and funky hairstyle showed up on the TV show I was watching and I must have decided that I wanted that haircut because, the next thing they saw when coming out of the kitchen was me with my grandma's sewing scissors (that I somehow got my hands on even though the scissors were in a place I wasn't supposed to reach) and a chunk of curly hair (I have ringlet curly hair btw) in my hands. I remember them rushing towards me, taking the scissors out of my hand and asking what I was doing, panicked😅 I told them I wanted to look like the designer and, after the panic and scare wore off, they started laughing at my hair (I'm guessing it looked ridiculous😄) the next day (because I did this on a Sunday and the hairdresser was closed) I got the hair cut fixed but my curls vanished and I was left with wavy hair...until I was about 14/15 which is when my hair (after a haircut) suddenly started gaining curls again and now it's back to the ringlets I had before😁 I just wish it would go back to the colour it used to be though I know that was a result of aging rather than the haircut😅 my hair was a dark blonde (my baby hairs and new roots are that colour still) and now it's a dark brown almost black in certain lights (but what can you expect with a father with black hair and a mother with brown hair *shrugs*)
1. I agree with the Dad. The mom was playing favorites. They won't always get to do the same things. 2. I agree with the mom. Yes we should support our kids but we also have to be realistic with them when something doesn't look good on them or suit them. We also have to teach them that they can't follow everything that everyone is doing. The girl is 10, old enough to understand the consequences of her actions, and was being sneaky. She knew what she was doing when she hid in the bathroom to cut her hair. It sounds harsh but she deserved the scolding the mom gave her. As much as we don't like it sometimes parents know what they are talking about and know what is best for us. It may hurt to hear no but that is life, we can't do everything we like and get our own way in everything. There is a saying where I live that says "Hard ears you won't hear, own way you will feel.” Which means that you should adhere to advice or you will end up feeling the negative effects. If she had listened to her mom in the first place her hair would not be messed up.
Hi Ellen! I just wanted to say that you're always brightening my days with your videos (I watch them every night before going to sleep, like right now) and that I've been watching you for at least... around 3 years, I think. During this time I think I haven't missed a single video of yours and I also noticed that your reading/storytelling improved a lot over time. You seem more comfortable to talk more and also share your personal opinion and I really like and appreciate that!! I can usually relate to you so well and it always makes me go "Wow, Ellen and I share the same brain (more like the same values and opinions)". I also wanted to say that you're getting prettier and prettier??? Like you've always been pretty but I feel like you're constantly glowing up🥺 lol I'm sorry for rambling, I just really wanted to tell you these things because I've noticed them while watching your videos. I hope you have a great day!! 💗💗💗
I didn’t agree with you in the last story, I pulled something like that when I was young. I knew it was wrong but I did it anyways, I shaved the back of my head cuz I saw everyone else in my household shaving. I was 6 and I knew it was wrong. The mom knew it wouldn’t look good and even checked with a hairstylist….Hair grows but it takes a while. My hair is 4c so it took years to grow back. But I learned my lesson. I did not get any punishment for it cuz the embarrassment was punishment enough
I have been through the first and last story myself. It was opposite for the first story my bro had an invitation with friends but dad insisted him to take me with him as we should go together I was overjoyed as I was young and a social butterfly but it wasn't actually right and my mom explained it to me very nicely and I rejected what my dad said but I was very sad so my dad fought with mom but it didn't stop mom at all 😂 for the second one I would say the mom is correct
These stories are so hard to listen to most of the time, but glad you are reading them Ellen! I remember my brothers went to a theme park for their Boy Scouts. I was so, SO MAD because I couldn't go. Because "I am a girl and was too young." Yeah, the girls in my family got the short end of the stick when it came to having run things to do. I feel a lot of them do due to the fact "they're girls."
Exactly, children need to learn for themselves not be told, "You're going to look bad so you can't do it." Just because you don't think it would look good (in this case mom) doesn't mean she wouldn't like it. Also, if she was that determined to get her to not do it, it doesn't seem like she even tried all the alternatives she could have. As Kyutie said she could have tried clip-on bangs or a wig. They could have even taken sections of her actual hair, put it in a ponytail flipped up into a headband in the front of her face so she could see what it would look like to see if she would like them. Instead, it felt like she just said you'll look ugly so no...
I remember when I was about 6 I gave my 3 year old brother and myself a haircut. Our parents weren't to thrilled with the hair cuts I gave my brother and I. I didn't get in trouble for doing it either, but boy the haircuts were atrocious. All my parents did was take us to the hairsalon when the place opened to fix my mistake. I never gave another haircut again and it's been 29 years now. P.S. Ellen you are not old,you are still young. I am also the same as you and not wanting to out unless it's with close friends.
In the first story, I kind of have a different opinion. I think the nine year old sister should have been allowed to go too, since it's almost like a once in a lifetime opportunity (atleast for me). BUT it's completely different if the son doesnt get to go just because of his sister not being able to. I can understand why she burst out in tears when she saw all the toys and merch, honestly I would to LOL. At first I thought what the wife was saying is logical, but when she started talking about "evening the score" i was like 'yep, nevermind'. Even if you favour one child over the other , atleast try to hide it or try to show affection to your other child!! Like BRUH that's your kid!
My mom started dying my hair blonde in elementary school. She always prefers me blonde and makes comments if my hair isn’t sufficiently highlighted to this day in my thirties. When I was 15 I wanted to dye my hair black (emo phase). Now she took me to a salon to get my hair dyed blonde. To get my hair done black she used box dye and cheap. Huge difference in quality. And you know at the time I hated how my hair looked fake the difference a straight dye job can look like a wig with no highlights for natural hair color variation. I blame my mother for it NOW not then. Because I think she made my hair look worse on purpose to get her way. She has mentioned it too. That she made it look worse to prove a point to me. That everyone looks better blonde 😑 So I do think the mother is in the wrong because there is a difference in quality between a professional and a kid cutting bangs. Of course they’d look terrible. And if the kid felt the only way she had control over her look is to do it herself then honestly that’s the problem there. The mom should have got off her high horse and let the kid try out a bad hair style but done it right. As it is now. There’s still no proof she’d look terrible with bangs. Just that she herself is a bad hairstylist with no training at a young age. Just like I have no idea how I’d look with darker hair done right. Still dying it blonde now. It’s now worth the arguments. And I feel it’s too late to experiment anymore.
I always felt weird whenever my friends told me that their mom doesn't let them cut or dye their hair. For me, my mom never interfered with my hair and clothing decisions. I started cutting my own hair since I was in 5th grade and haven't stopped since. It's not like I'm a pro at cutting hair but because it's something i did myself, even if it turns out bad, i have only myself to blame. And I'm glad i experimented with my hair because after 20 years of my life, i finally realised that i look good in a short hair (short like boys')
That's a very mature attitude to have, but not all kids have that attitude of "I have only myself to blame". Particularly in this case, it's obvious that the daughter didn't have that attitude.
To the second story: I also always wanted bangs or shorter hair since mine is very thick and in general I have soo much hair that it’s just a pain to live with it especially during sommer. As my mum is kindhearted but very strict she would never let me do anything to my hair. I am 19 and have never colored it or cut it on my own. My hair grows fast even tho I have been maybe thrice to a hair salon to get it cut and it was not much length either. Whenever I wanted to cut it she told me that i should not because I have so beautiful thick long hair ( that went to my ass lmao ) and she even always argued with me. So i had enough and cut mine a few weeks ago on my own. It was the first time i did something like that in my life so it wasn’t good obviously but it could have been worse. Surprisingly she was calm about it, she didn’t say much and helped fixing it. But the anxiety I still had and had done the cutting when she wasn’t around ( exactly like the kid in this story ) at 19 years old is kind of sad to me. I definitely won‘t be so overprotective like my parents were over me because it only has brought me anxiety and stress. Due to also other reasons i had a mental breakdown and maybe even depression for more than 2 years while life was numb to me. It’s been 1 whole day since i am starting to listen to myself and my own needs and trying to crawl out of this hole even tho in a week there will be an event that will change my life and i am still not prepared for it, not literally and especially not mentally but well… Long story short, just let your kids do stupid things (trial and error) and only protect them when it’s needed and don’t go overboard!!
I had very long hair when I was growing up and I always wanted to cut it short, but my mom kept saying no because it would look ugly. Well, when I moved away for college, I finally got my hair cut really short. When my mom saw it, she was devastated and disappointed-almost in tears- because it looked so bad. Except, I myself love my short hair and haven't once considered growing it out since. But even if I hadn't liked my short hair, I still would have been glad to try it. I'd rather spend a few months with clip ons or hats or just disliking my haircut than spend a decade wondering what-if. This girl's mother- like mine- is sending clear messages that her perspective of beauty is more important than her daughter's age-appropriate bodily autonomy, that playing it safe is better than taking risks, and that she isn't someone the daughter will want to turn to after mistakes in the future- and may even want to hide them from. And why is the daughter suddenly old enough and responsible enough to live with the consequences of cutting her own hair when she previously wasn't old/responsible enough to make decisions about how she wanted it cut by a professional, in which case the consequences would have been far less severe? So frustrating!
The first story, here the difference, the birthday boy's parents invited their son to the party at Disney because one, he is a friend to the birthday and two, there are age differences while the son is probably 13 as his friend while his sister is 9. An 9 yrs old child can't be alone without adult supervision and it's wouldn't be fair for the host to watch over someone else's child who is in elementary which they suppose enjoyed their 13 yr old son's party without any adult supervision. Also, the host didn't know their daughter or the daughter didn't know them either. The trip will ended badly and the host will be mad because the money have gone to waste if the sister cry and wanted to go back home or complaining alots about the rides. The wife better end her favoritism or else everyone in her family will found out and will put either strain or end the contacts, after they learn about her plans and favoritism. And op, he better lawyer up and documents everything, and need to put cameras on his wife because what happened if op isn't around, the wife is probably abuse the son or talk down on him or force him to do alots of chores. Op, I hope u better realize that it's better to end the divorce.
The first story: What is with that mother? Our son's friend didn't invite our daughter to Disney World so our son can't go on the family vacation? I don't even know where the logic is. Life isn't fair. It's the way it is. The mother needs to grow up and start acting like an adult. Life is going to present both of these kids with different opportunities and denying one of them an opportunity simply because the other one didn't get the same opportunity is going to cause more problems. What happens if the daughter doesn't get into the same college/university as her brother, is he going to have to drop out because his sister didn't get in? What happens if one of them gets a great job that offers them everything they could ever dream of, are they supposed to turn it down because their sibling doesn't have the same job opportunity? What about marriage? Kids? Where does it end? Good on the dad for being a great dad. Second story: Let your 10 year old choose their hairstyle. It may look horrible and you may know it, but let them figure it out. You can try to steer them away from it. You can tell them you don't think it will look good on them. But if they're still insistent, let them get it done. It's their lesson to learn. I had golden blonde hair that everyone in my family and all my friends loved, but I was sick of it so I went and told my mom that I wanted to dye my hair dark brown. Like really dark brown. Almost black. She asked me if I was sure because everyone loved my hair the way it was. I told her that I was sure, so she reluctantly took me to the hairdresser, constantly asking if I was sure the whole car ride there. The hairdresser asked if I was sure because it was going to be a major change and I may never get my hair back to the colour it was. I was adamant that I wanted to get rid of my blonde hair and go dark brown. I got it. It was fine for a while, but after about a week, I missed my blonde hair. That was 15 years ago and I still regret it, constantly trying to get my golden blonde hair back. But, I'm happy that my mom let me figure it out on my own. I needed to experience this new hairstyle to know that it is not for me. And now I just have to look at photos of my hair during that time whenever I want to try something new. If my mom didn't give me the freedom to dye my hair, I would have spent every moment wondering "What if?"
My opinion on story #2: I personally don’t see anything wrong with the mom not wanting her daughter to have bangs. If the daughter HAD gotten her hair professionally cut, and it turned out to look awful, (As the professional hairstylist cousin had predicted), the mom would be the one to have to deal with the daughters complaints. Plus, don’t forget that the mom would be the one paying for the haircut in the first place. And it’s the daughters fault for not listening to the mom when she said no to the bangs. She is 10, not a child. She knows the difference between right and wrong, and she chose to disobey the mom, and cut her bangs anyway. But somehow it’s the moms fault???
But why bar your child from getting their hair cut? It’s not your hair. I’ve had shitty haircuts as a child I wanted and I was fine with it. Like they are being unfair because it’s not your choice to police THEIR hair. If she’s gonna be like that then her husband can tell the mom to not get her hair cut and the child can tell the mom she can’t get her hair cut. Seriously you all need to learn how to be a good parent not a shitty asshole
I remember when my hair was bothering me so much, it was around shoulder length but it was so very idk, bothersome. I literally was getting dreams about just tying my hair up and just cut it down- So some weeks later I did it cuz I didn't know the next time we would go to my home country cuz they usually do a very good job for a very cheap price, unlike here, cutting my hair has cost like 30€ per person- then I got a shampoo against dandruff for an extra 40€💀 Well basically I just cut it off, but I loved it, I loved how messy it was, I love how it made my face look, I loved how my neck wasn't sweating in the summer, I felt hot Then my dad comes and comments how I messed up my hair and I'm ugly I just look at him like "btch this is my head and I look fcking awesome" of course not exactly like this but yeah Ps: I was 17 when I did this, so I knew I could mess up, but too long hair just made me so uneasy I had to act
For the one with the daughter. I think she should've let her daughter cut the bangs, but I think her response was fair. At 10 years old they know what they're doing, and she was likely hiding in the bathroom to avoid getting in trouble because she knew she'd get in trouble for doing it. At 10, they know the consequences, and they can deal with it. They're smarter than most people think and they understand quite well, unless mentally there are developmental issues.
i am 18 and almost always had hip length hair and it was my choice but last week or so i said i wanted to cut them off and my mom was so supportive , i got it till my shoulders. The thing is , my mum loved my long hair and she also loves my short hair, she cares about ME and not my LOOKS??? that mom in 2nd story is such a bad parent.
First story: mother is wrong. Kids will have different opportunities and experiences throughout their lives. They need to learn to deal with it. Second story: the daughter learned a lesson, physically painless. But the parent might have let her go to a salon and get some kind of trim. Whatever, the hair will grow and this will be over.
When I was younger I cut my own bangs and my mum was angry but people said it actually looked good and then my mum kept thinking I cut my hair when I didn't
there was a time i wanted blonde hair. my grandmother let me try on her blonde wig so show me what i'd look like blonde. i don't look good blonde i learned. but the mom could have found a way like that to give her daughter a taste of bangs and see if she liked it or not
I don’t think the mom in the hair story did anything wrong she went and consulted a professional hairstylist a professional said that she didn’t think it would look good, the child shouldn’t have went against what the mom said just because she felt like it. Maybe if she was a little older but she’s 10 so it’s up to the discretion of the mom
My friend got bangs when she was like 10 they turned out really bad cause the hair cutter person made them way to short but she’s fine now we just laugh about it
I say the mom is in the right on the last story with the hair cut on the 10 year old, the kid made 2 sins steeling and doing what the parents said I think the mom was doing what all parents should do, its not like she spanked her kid she just told her kid and reminded her, that's her job, just like if a kid wants a toy but the mom says no bc they don't have enough $, then the kid takes it and steels should the mom be punished for teaching her kid not to steel or to let the kid steel and go to prison bc parents r to teach kids to be obedient and the best they can be thats what I say.
The story with the bangs- they should let the kid get bangs and if it’s bad she will learn she’s 10 it would be better for her to have bad bangs now instead of having bad bangs when she has a job so she won’t look stupid
The first story: I don't think they should cut the son out of the vacation, however I do think they should take the daughter to Disneyland or something or let her doing something fun like that if she feels left out. I know what it's like to have a sibling who got to do fun things out of pure luck; and I don't blame a parent for wanting to "even the score" just not by cutting someone out of a family holiday!
i honestly think the mom was right in the second one..? i am having a hard time understanding why the husband thinks it’s “cold” of her to say. i’ve had my share of messed up bangs in the past because i didn’t listen, and my mom was waaaay angrier than the mom in the story was. In the end i thought my mom was right and learned my lesson. The mom even said she usually lets the daughter decide for herself. But in that situation, as her mom, it’s understandable that she had to step in.
bangs story great, now the girl possibly got traumatized for their entire life just because "she didn't listteenenn" okay teaching children that their mistakes have consequences is fine but you don't manipulate them like "if you don't listen to me everything will go bad" like, MAYBE now, the child won't even trust their own judgement over the parent and that's unhealthy asf
Oh stfu shes not going to be traumatized over a haircut. Upset yes but not traumatized. And its not manipulating its parenting. You can support your childrens decisions but its your job to guide them. Children cannot be in complete control over their lives. Its bad parenting if u just let ur kid do whatever they want all the time. This girl made the mistake of cutting her hair and theres nothing she can do until it grows back. She fucked it up and has to go through the consequences. Its harsh but thats the price of having freedom at a young age. Not saying freedom is always bad but when u fuck up its on yourself. Dont know why u r blaming the mother for "traumatizing" her when she did it herself even after the mother warned her.
For the second story imma have to disagree. Yeah not allowing someone to do it might make them wanna do it themselves but that means you might as well let them do everything they want rules are pointess with a mindset like that.
I think the mom saying no is fine but the way she went about it after the daughter cut her bangs is what makes her wrong. A mom isn’t supposed to berate their daughter and make them doubt themself.
She's not berating her. She told her no and was as concise and rational as possible in her arguments against it prior to the incident. It was her daughter's choice to do it despite all recommendations so she was told to live with the consequences and take responsibility for her own actions, because at that age you know what's right and what's wrong. Haircut is not a big deal really but it's only not a big deal because it just so HAPPENED to be about a haircut, next time it might be something more serious. Without this lesson and learning about consequences one will in the best case scenario become spoiled, worst case scenario get yourself or someone else killed. Kids today doesn't learn about discipline, consequences and responsibility of actions anymore, only getting coddled by their parents, no wonder a whole generation has gone soft.
Sometimes you gotta let kids make their own mistakes. Sure she might've been upset that her hair looked like crap but it would've been done by a professional in the first place and she'd have actually no one to blame but herself, and she might've been more okay with that decision. I cried and cried when my grandma thought my hair would look better short so she had the stylist do that when I was a kid. Years later I've given up on growing long hair and embrace short, easy to manage hair. The difference is I chose it for myself.
The first story is relatable to me in some way except it was my father instead of mother. He kept favoriting my little sister and brother so much more than he ever would me. I did everything to make my dad like me, but it didn't work. He always prioritized my little brother and sister first. Always loving them, always giving them stuff and money. That's..my dad.
I don't support Ellen on the second story. I think the mom is right. She was not a mean mom and she did ask her cousin to fix it but sadly it was unfixable. If she helped her daughter cover it up this would be happening: 1) she would think her mom would fix any mistake she makes 2) she would think it's okay to not listen to Mom and Dad 3) she would not learn that those who like her won't care how ugly she looked (if her friends thinks she is ugly and abandons her (I know it's heartbreaking for a 10 year old), at least she will find who her true friends are) 4) just like everyone in the comment section says, actions have consequences. She must learn it BTW being ugly is not that uncommon for 10 year old. Most of us didn't look our best anyways when we were 10 year olds. 😂
2bd story- I think the lesson should've been- looks are not that important bruh. Idk why a TEN year old s crying about bangs of all things. Should've taught her that her daughter is always beautiful or whatever and she shouldn't have been so scared of "the public" because she is more important then the outside. Be careful y'all, bc too many ppl are raising insecure pll
I have to disagree with you, Kyutie about the second story. The mom could have lied, but I've never seen a situation where a parent lies to their kid under the idea of being "kind" and the kid actually appreciates it. She definitely could have said "oh honey, your bangs look good" yadda yadda yadda, but at the end of the day, other kids at school aren't going to do that. I don't think the mom was worried about being blamed as you put it, so much as she was worried about doing something her daughter would end up not even liking on top of it being her fault. Her utmost concern was clearly her daughter. She had even said she asked the opinion of others, did a photo mock up to see how it would look, etc. I don't think she was wrong because her daughter was being willfully defiant. Her mother said no bangs. In response, the daughter lied, went against her mother to do the bangs anyway and then didn't even like the results. She was 10, not 2. She isn't an idiot like some people in the comments are trying to make her seem. She was just being defiant. Her terrible bangs are a punishment of her own making. As for saying that it's no big deal and hair grows fast, that isn't the case for everyone. Some people, it takes years for their hair to grow even an inch. She's a kid, not an adult. There are plenty of things peers will be allowed to do, but at the end of the day, her mither said no. It was a clear no. Her doing it anyway is saying that her mother's "no" was obviously ignored. Letting that slide builds brats with attitudes. I knew plenty of kids like that in middle school where they felt they didn't have to listen to their parents and did whatever they wanted. A lot of times, that willful defiance led to the kids being problems because they never learned respect and boundaries at home. Thus, they bring that "I can do what I want, it's my body, etc" behavior into school, and turns out the teacher or principal aren't having it. Teach your kids to follow directions. Self-expression is important but it shouldn't supercede what your parent told you to do (or not to do) at 10 years of age when you're just going to be angry anyway. Her mom didn't have to take her to the salon, spending money on a haircut that she said no to. Clearly based on the research she did for her daughter, she cared and did want to give her daughter what she wanted, but the fact that a "no" from her mom got that response shows me that there isn't enough respect or discipline. Kids aren't always going to get what they want. That is normal. And it's not always going to be a no because of the parents. Sometimes it will be a no because it doesn't make sense or will harm them in some way. Teaching kids this early creates smart adults with the knowledge and wisdom to say no for themselves. To this day, I say no to certain things because I learned from childhood. The husband may also be a problem because instead of standing by his wife as a parenting unit and looking at his daughter like "if mom said no, why did you take it upon yourself to do as you wanted?" he goes and blames the mom as if she cut her daughter's hair like that and not her daughter. To expand, this is the classic "don't touch the stove" argument. I remember I was about 7 or 8 and my mom had told me repeatedly told me to not touch the stove. I kept asking why and she'd just say "because it's hot and your finger will get burned" or something along those lines. Long story short, I got it in my head to do it anyway. I was taunting my mother like "I'm going to do it" (over days) and looking back, that was rotten because she had told me not to. I ended up touching it, and it burned the heck out of my finger. My mom comes into the kitchen, confused and then mad when she realizes what's happened. She ran my finger under the water and asked me why I did it. I don't remember my answer, but I never touched a hot stove again. I bake often and have gotten burned sometimes, but I've never purposely burned myself again. I think I was on punishment for one day after I did that (so two total). My mom had made some type of dessert and I couldn't have any. My brother rubbed it in my face (he is older and was such a brat). Taught me a few important lessons (like you don't always have to experience something to know it isn't for you. Sometimes you can just take sound advice or look at how others end up after doing what you want to do. I don't always need to do something to know it isn't for me. Sometimes I do something, and hate it tho).
The first story: this dad is spectacular! He is parenting properly! I hope the mum can get some sense knocked into her and learns how life works
Second story: I appreciate the mum trying to look out for her daughter, but the daughter is still a child - she's figuring herself out. Just let her try it if it matters that much to her! If it looks bad, there are ways to hide it. For example: in my 7th year, I hated my bangs (went through a BIG self discovery phase) and decided to hide them. I used headbands to push them back against the top of my head. I used bobby pins to pin them back. It works until her hair grows back enough to fix. Also, the mum definitely should not have scolded her like that. Those words were kind of cruel to say to a 10 year old who made a mistake :(
People, if you have kids, please be kind
Agreed
Exactly, I agree! Kids should get a say in how they want their hair to be cut and if they don't like it after the salon, now they know and they can learn from the consequences of their own decisions. They will also learn what they like and dislike. How will they learn if the mum did not give them a chance to experience something to learn from? Protecting your kid from just a hair cut is weird. Hair grows back anyways. BRING BACK THE BOWL CUTS LMAOO literally had too many bad haircuts but I finally know what's best on me!
My daughter didn't even ask first, her and her friend cut their hair with my mom's GARDEN SHEARS, they were 7 or 8, I got my hairdresser to fix it as best she could, other girls parents weren't mad either, we just figured kids do stupid things sometimes, I was more worried because they used garden shears, yikes, thankfully they didn't hurt themselves, the hair grew back and we all laugh about it, now they're almost 18.
@@arleneclark6369 exactly. Girls especially will cut their hair (very badly) on their own at least once in their life at some age point (whether really little like 3-6 years old or older). I was around 6 when my little sister told me to cut off her curls with scissors and then I also cut my own hair.
I'm honestly wondering if the "mom" in the first story isn't actually the son's stepmom. Her playing favorites like this is really giving off some of the Cinderella evil stepmother vibes.
The fact that you can still keep your composer while reading these stories is surprising. -Someone with anger issues
I feel you, you're not alone :)
You call ranting after every 3 sentences "Keeping composer"? Then I don't wanna see what anger issues look like :D
@@leaflet1686 You think Ellen’s reactions are rants? You must’ve never seen a confrontation in your life.
@@leaflet1686 bruh did you even watch the video? google what rant means💀
When my daughter was five, she asked me for a short bob cut. She had waist-length hair, thick, dark red. I didn’t want her to cut it, but it’s her hair, so we did it. She loved it for about two weeks, until she realized she couldn’t really do much with it.
So she grew it back a little bit, to a little past her shoulders, and decided that’s the length she wants it. It took about 8 months to grow from chin to shoulders. Hair grows.
The mom in the hair story absolutely should’ve just let her kid get bangs.
I gave myself a bob cut when I was 4 in my bedroom. I then asked my mom to glue my hair back on, I cried that day. I haven’t done more then a trim since then.😥
8 months for it to grow chin to shoulder??! I may not know much about hair growth but I guess it's different for everyone. A relative of mine seems to get a haircut every two-three months or so cause they like it short but it grows pretty quick after some time.
@@gred_and_forge yeah I was also confused why it took so long to grow 8 months. The only time my hair took forever to grow back was because of a certain hairdresser. Other hairdresser's ive been to my hair never took long to grow back.
@@idkhithere6860 smh. if anything that one hairdresser didn't follow proper protocol when it came to sanitizing the hair tools. My cousin (male) went in for a clean up once but he didn't like the hairdresser. Unfortunately he couldn't get his usual one so he went somewhere else. My aunt and mom suspected from his recount of the place they weren't properly sanitizing their tools so they could get to everyone more quickly, and that's why one of the electric razors gave him a bald spot that took *forever* to grow back in 😤 that's why hygiene and sanitizing is important no matter what.
@@gred_and_forge damn that sucks for your cousin. In my case, I got a haircut from a family friend I knew for years. Tbh I ended up getting another haircut from her years later and there wasn't an issue so idk whats up lol. I like your name btw 😂
That woman is setting her daughter up to be a spoilt brat. You can't want to go to your siblings' events just because you like the place they're going. Especially if the sibling/friend didn't extend the invite
Ngl the second girl might also end up spoilt if the mother acquiesces to her every request. She told her no and gave her a reason. No is no anyway. It is her fault for going and cutting her hair anyway and she's just gonna have to live with it until it grows back out
You can want to, you just cant be a brat about it.
I cut my hair because I was made fun of for it and it was always in my face (I was six this was literally first grade kids are awful) I regret it and it has never grown back and it has been 12 years now my hair is uneven and short in the front literally the tops of my hair line are like two inches long
I want to go bald but I'll cry because of it and my dad said he'd disown me (literally ment it and hid his at home head razor kit)
@@EggsToYourBacon It's her hair, and instead of just letting her try it because hair does grow back, she basically told her daughter she'd look ugly... She is a literal child as Kyutie said they literally could have gotten clip-on bangs to try it out or even showed her daughter the Face-tuned photo or her trying them out. Instead, of saying you're going to look bad so you can't do it and giving her daughter self-esteem issues.
@@notsofunnyjokes1040 Hopefully, you can move out soon because that is idiocy. I can't stand when parents control what kids can and cannot do with their hair. It grows back, wigs exist, etc. I buzzed my hair off after shaving my parent's hair off. And they appreciated it, a family member was diagnosed with Cancer, plus my hair was destroyed by a product another family member made me try.
So it gave me time to repair my scalp and have my hair regrow. Buzzing it made it grow back so much more manageable than before it was buzzed off. I made it short, I think I used a size 2 if I remember correctly so it felt like peach fuzz lol It was the best thing I ever did for my hair and my confidence. It forced me to be more confident in myself because I always hated how my face looked. But I couldn't hide behind my hair anymore once I did it.
When I was about 15 I wanted to dye my hair from black with my light brown roots to blonde, my mom told me it would go orange, I didn't believe her, so she bought it for me anyways and did it for me, and just like she said the roots were orange. I was horrified and embarrassed and just started sobbing. Thankfully my mom paid for me to go to the hairdresser the next day and get it fixed and we managed to cover it up quite nicely in a way that would look good when growing out, but that was the last time I used cheap box dye lol
it has nothing to do with the box dye. Hair naturally goes to an orange tone when lightened, which cosmetologist are trained to tone out. Every dark to light hair does this.
I remember wanting to dye my hair black for the longest time but nobody would do it for me and I didn't have the money to get it done. One day I was hanging out with friends of a friend and they said I would look good with black hair and offered to dye it so I did. They did a terrible job, didn't use enough dye and with natural red hair within a week my roots was showing and it looked like my scalp was bleeding having red roots and black hair so my parents had to fix it. Sure, they was right that it didn't look good, but going the route I did made it look even worse.
You’re brave. I’m also a natural redhead and I’d be terrified to dye it black. When they fixed it, did they get your natural color back or did they make the black even?
@@Im-Izzy-Moonbow They stripped the black from my hair and made it as close to my natural as possible.
I too have dark red hair. I dyed my hair blonde but it made me look like a paler version of my cousin.😆
As someone who used to have bangs that looked cute as a child. I begged my mom to let me have them again for years, but she refused for the same reason (I have really thin hair and I'd have to cut a large portion of my hair for it to be thick enough to lay flat) she finally allowed me to have them at 13-14 and my hair never grew. Actually, most of my bangs hair kept falling, now I just have a constant bird nest on my head that's too short on the sides to be clipped flat or gathered into a ponytail. I understand that most people have their hair grow back but I do believe the mom had to put her foot down on this one, just not the way she did. She could've been more gentle or at least wait until the daughter's hair grows back to teach her the lesson and it would've been just as effective.
As painful as it would be for me as a mother to watch my child make a mistake, especially if I made it, I think sometimes you have to let them learn themselves. Plus, well, even if it looks bad at least they are a kid. It’s a good time to make mistakes and learn for the future
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For the hair cut warn them, then if they cut ug it's on them ya jnow
yup, totally agree. this way, they will learn the consequences of their own decisions.
@@Kyutie. absolutely
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the second one annoyed me, cause Im trans and for the longest time when i was younger my mum wouldn't let me get my hair cut short because I might hate it, and once she even said that my face was too chubby for it to look good but now she pretends she was always for it. i think its just because she is transphobic though :,)
I agree with the mom. She told her she wouldn't look good with it and she still cut it. Now live with the ugly hairstyle. That will teach her to listen in the future!
When my kids wanted to do something all their friends did, and I wasn't convinced of its safety or efficacy, I would answer them with "Well, if all your friends want to jump off a cliff, are you going to follow them?" I taught, or attempted to teach, my children to make choices that were sensible for them, or fit their circumstances. Not just blindly follow some popular friend. 17 year old son came home with a tongue piercing. (personally, I think they're dangerous and revolting, but he was 17 and used his own money). I actually laughed and said "Watch out you don't swallow that" and a couple of days later he coughs and goes "Arrgghh I swallowed the piercing". I went and looked. Yep it was gone. I suggested where to find it if he wanted it back. We both laughed. He didn't do that one again. But...he was 17, not 10.
Number two she was putting her foot down for the wrong reason it should be because of her daughter wanting to be like her friend
The "I want it because she has it" also why does she have a phone at 10 I didn't get mine till 11 and it was for emergencies (tracfone aka minute phone I'm Gen z btw didn't get a "real phone" until I was almost 13 and it got stole by some racist kid whose ass I almost kicked before he stole my phone, probably why he did it)
Tiktok is doing to much as an influence for kids and people in general
Minute phone still exist on “real phones” I have an apple phone locked on a minute one (not tracphone but the other popular one) and I got mine which was a throw away phone at like 10/11 and even tho it was for emergencies I could still use it? Like what wack ass parents do you have?
For the second story I think the parent was right because the kid could of been be bullied because of it and they just want to protect them from being bullied
if i had the opportunity, i'm dying to see how the wife would do if her daughter's friend invited her to attend an amusement park. Will she says it is unfair for the son? i don't think so, cause it clearly looks like she's favouring the daughter more than the son. Will she not let her daughter attend the amusement park? hell nope, she'd probably let her daughter go on her merry way
To be honest I can understand the mum in the first story. Like one of your kids gets to go to Disneyland & the other doesn’t?
1. As a parent you’re never gonna hear the end of it from the one who doesn’t want to go
2. Tbh you might even want to go & you might feel sympathy for the kid who doesn’t.
I really don’t think it’s favouritism. I mean anytime I go for lunch spontaneously with my best friend my parents ask my sister if she wants to go, & that’s just LUNCH. I know it’s not favouritism, although it is annoying. I can see form both perspectives but I don’t think the mum in necessarily wrong & she’s definitely not playing favourites
Okay I commented before finishing the story. The original sentiment is still not wrong but the “revenge” 100% is. She’s a terrible parent
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In like the second story l feel like there is nothing wrong with what the mom did honestly
the last story reminds me of the time when i a kid and wanted to wear different color socks or something like that and my mom would just tell me no and say people will make fun of me. heck she even said that when i was a freshman and wore blue jeans and a blue dress. the dress was beautiful dark blue and the back was slightly long. like almost had a train but not. no one made fun of me behind my back or in my face. made fun of me when i had short hair and look like a boy but that i didnt let it bother me. i still like to wear none matching clothes,or having a side shave, or short hair or just plain no hair at all. fyi, i have a side shave with over shoulder length hair. i love how my hair is, but i hate my bangs but im 50/50 on letting my bangs grow so i would know how i look with long bangs. i did shave my head once and i actually like it. summer time as well so i wasnt getting my head warm. oh,also my hair is dark brown,almost look like black but not black. i actually had a few people ask me if my hair color is naturally black or died and i told them my hair is naturally dark brown and not black. i still remember the Pikachu surprise face to this day. hey,even people have that face when i tell them my age but my hieght and voice doesnt show that. im not 5ft and im 21. im around 4'11 maybe. so ya,im small. used to it tho.
to be fair I'm kind of understanding where the mom came from on the 2nd story yes she is just a child but sometimes we have to face the consequences of our own actions parents aren't gonna always be there to get their kids out of trouble, maybe the mom could have been nicer about it but she is correct in what she said
I think the mom in the second story was right…
in the first story is says ALL FOUR way invited
The mom in the Disney story is a terrible mother and that's an insane and abusive way to parent kids. The mom in the Bangs story is a good mom. You cant let kids do whatever they want just because they want to. A 10 year old is old enough to know what they're doing and old enough to live with the consequences.
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The first one just set me OFF that's horrendous
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I used to pull out my hair as a kid so my mum cut it all off I disliked her since then -_-
Second story/Bangs story: I might hold the unpopular opinion but i think the mom is right in letting daughter face the consequences of her actions. It may seem harsh but she was right in telling her husband that daughter knew what she was doing was wrong b/c she hid in the bathroom. Even if the bangs came out good, did she honestly think her mom would overlook the fact she went behind her back and hid something like this in her own house?? Daughter most likely would've been grounded, and husband and wife still would've ended up arguing about the fairness of the punishment.
The dad is right saying she's still learning, but he's also right in saying shes just a kid. The daughter is only 10, she's not even in middle school/junior high yet, and she chose to ignore the warning that her mom's cousin, who specializes in cutting kids hair, gave her that it wouldn't look good.
For everyone who thinks mom should've just let the daughter get bangs then see the results for herself cause 'its her hair, her choice,' maybe mom could've compromised and told daughter to wait until summer break and cut her bangs. That way if it looks bad, it would grow back some length by the time school started, but if she likes it, they could trim it again before school.
Same. Tbh I feel like she wasn't harsh at all. 10 year old's known when they might get punished for doing something they weren't supposed to. But I also feel like the mom should have shown what she would've looked like without bangs, or maybe get clip on-s. But besides that fact the daughter needs to face the consequences, or save up for a wig.
I 100% agree. I am a mom to a 6 yr old girl and am a hair stylist. Our job is to be truthful if something will work on you or not. So that later, if you do it anyways and it looks bad, then we aren't held accountable (since we tried warning you). Also, as someone who was bullied a lot in school, he mom was protecting her. Not protecting her feelings, protecting HER. Kids can be cruel some times and her mom probably didn't want her to be made fun of. Also, babying her and telling her she looks nice isn't good bc she will see her mom lied the first sign of being picked on. Saying she looks nice when she doesn't is being a friend, but telling her "I told you so" is being a mom. We are the parents not the friends. If we say no and you do it anyways, and hate the result . . . . whelp, we told you. Now you know. We will still try to make the situation better, but it's a life lessoned learned and the kids can't be babied.
@@epicnguyens2821 yep, not to mention she's ten, and while it's a debate on when is the right age to stop babying your children, considering daughter was insistent on making these choices about her body (it's always hair first, then something else, like piercings), mom did right not babying her on the situation. And yes! My goodness, kids have no filter and will not hesitate to voice ther opinions, no matter how hurtful it is
@@gred_and_forge
You are right, at 10 taking those kinds of chances means unless she gets the message now with this misadventure she might try other more dangerous things wanting to appear cool.
The next time it might be hurting herself getting bleach in her eyes trying to lighten her hair because she saw someone else looking good with high lights.
Y’know, you didn’t look at the possibility that maybe she hid because it looked bad PLUS the fact that her mom told her it would look ugly. To be honest none of this would’ve happened if they got a PROFESSIONAL to do it in the first place, so I do hear your opinion, but I also don’t agree with it. Not thinking emotionally + logically is something I just can’t rationalise. If you’re only looking at one side then you may as well not look at all to be honest..
Also, being in someone’s house doesn’t give you the right to control their personal choices, :) so please don’t act like she owns her daughter or has the right to control her in this way. You brought up the fact that she could’ve compromised, which would be a good idea. Unfortunately that didn’t happen though, which makes this argument kinda fall flat. Like yeah it’s a good idea but also that’s not the what happened so using that is a bit pointless to defend the mom.
Now I do want to say, I think the mom was trying to protect her daughter (to an extent), but she went about it the wrong way. I understand that rocking up to school with an skewed cut could induce bullying and stress, but also her hair would grow back and wouldn’t have looked as bad if they let a professional do it. Overall I think this is a case of an overprotective act, that got painted really badly.
Bro, I told my dad about the fist story and he just shook his head. This is literally how you make a spoiled brat. If she was really only concerned that she was sad about not going to Disney, she should have just agreed to do something with her too. But no, the wife tried to leave her son out of a *family* vacation because her daughter couldn't go to Disney with people she didn't even know.
As for the second, I disagree. Yes, she's a kid. Yes, kids want to be like other people. But 10 is old enough to know that no means no. I'm speaking for myself, but I knew when I was disobeying at 10 years old. She knew that she wasn't listening and faced the consequences. And op isn't overprotective; she said that she usually lets her daughter pick for herself. At that point, she just knew that she wasn't getting what she wanted, and tried to do it herself secretly, and it's not harsh to tell her that. The only thing op really could've done was show her what her cousin saw to see if she still wanted to go through with it. But otherwise, she did nothing wrong.
Could have planned a mommy/daughter for the day of the Disney trip.
@@gaxalee7392 if you can afford it, for the majority of the people I know that's just not in the cards
@@SecretlyTwoFrogsInATrenchCoat Going to the park or something and playing with your kid is free and could still be considered a Mommy/Daughter day.
@@gaxalee7392 exactly
@@MusketeerGweneth yeah the mom is playing favoritism
In the second story, I disagree it's the daughter's fault for ruining her hair. She decided to disobey her mum and well she has to live with the consequences. Anyways, it's just hair it's gonna grow back anyways.
no itz her hair n hair growz back
@@inuyashaslvr yes it does grow back which is why i don't think the mum went too far. Yeah she could've let her daughter try having bangs but it's still her fault for ruining her hair. At the end of the day the daughter will learn what hair looks better on her anyway, it's not like she'll have a terrible haircut forever.
@@quietworld2267 i agre
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Story 1: If my partner was showing such obvious signs of favoritism like that I would probably tell the brother that the partner wanted to leave the son with him out of the Vacation for getting to go to Disney. Let the whole family know probably, just to protect the son from being punished from the favoritism. If the partner gets upset I'd probably explain to them that they were the one who suggested leaving behind the boy with his uncle, so obviously a conversation had to be had with the uncle about it.
Story 2: OP should have shown the daughter the Face Ap thing so she could see herself with bangs and then she might not have done it. Could have made a great bonding conversation about hair by googling hairstyle pictures of people with thin hair. Lord Of The Rings Elven hairstyles seem to work a lot better with my mom's thin hair than with my thick hair. The child is only 10 and already going behind their backs to get things done herself when things aren't fair and clearly has communication issues with her mother; Good Luck when that kid reaches her teenage years.
Man the wife in the first story, she is bonkers. Where do these parents even come from dude
In the second story..lmao the kid will have a funny bad haircut photo when she grows up.
In regards with the second story, I agree that the mom should have let her daughter experiment, which could have prevented her from taking matters into her own hands. However, things happen and the mom is right to let the daughter know that she will have to live with the consequences of her actions. *I am speaking from experience with this exact thing.* My sister and I cut each other's hair when Tangled first came out, to see if it would turn colors. My sister was fine because she had curly hair and the chopped bit just blended right in- I had to get bangs though. My mom made it very clear that she was disappointed and disliked the hairdo. But I learned from the experience *because no one sugarcoated it*
If the mom lets her daughter believe that everything is sunshine and rainbows, she's going to be horribly unprepared for the real world.
First story: The best friend has no relationship with his sister, no need to take her. The mom is kind of just dumb for not understanding this simple situation. The dad is good. Hr handled the situation properly and is good with his responsibilities.
Second story: I mean you could just tell ur child it wouldn't look too good and tell them what the cousin said and the picture...make them understand if they don't listen, give them the haircut. And just say that you did tell her and she should listen to her next time or the "disaster" (If ever happened) would happen again.
The kid is 10 not 5 she must have some sense. I don't think the mother did anything too much wrong. She was alr though she could've explained, and its also the daughters fault.
First story. First of all, who's "Keeping score?" And when the lad turns 16 is the mom going to refuse to let him drive until the daughter is old enough to drive, too? Best to leave the thinking to the dad in this family. As for the girl with the bangs, she was hiding in the bathroom because she knew her mom would be mad that she was being defiant. Actions have consequences and she is 10 ... old enough to learn that. Better a hair mishap than trying drugs at 12, or driving drunk at 17. Bangs will grow back.
Friendly reminder that wanting to treat your children equally is just as important as teaching them how to deal with frustation :)
I also hung out with my brother and his friends a lot as a kid. I see nothing wrong with it, but obviously I wouldn't go if I wasn't invited. The story about the bangs, I totally agree with Ellen. Kids around 10 are just like that. It's just bangs. The kid probably imagined it a certain way in her head. The only way to get that idea out if her mind is to actually let her get bangs. It's just hair. It grows back. I don't know why the mom was so insistent in how her daughter should look. And the way she talked to the daughter afterwards was so harsh. One thing though. Clip-in bangs wouldn't have worked because they won't have the same thickness as your own hair
As a 12 year old kid, I think I have the right to say that kids around ten these days really aren't as bad as you'd like to think, and I actually agree with the mom. The mom "was so insistent in how her daughter should look" because she knew that the kid would cry and be sad because she didn't like the haircut. Also she CLEARLY says that she tried to explain she can't fix it, but the kid wouldn't listen. I kind of agree with the fact that she was a bit harsh afterward and I would have given her some snacks to calm her down, then tried to show her some youtube videos about hair/why it can't be fixed, but the mom isn't wrong either
the 2nd story. If you have brown, black or whatever kind of strict parents, they will literally be all sarcastic and say 'oh why don't you just go bald huh?' if you ask them to even just trim your hair when they don't want you to.
Sorry but I have to agree with the mom in the second story: the kid made a choice, she has to face the consequences of that choice. I made that exact dumb choice to cut my bangs myself when I was around 12, it didn't look very good, I still went to school, faced some mocking smiles and remarks, it didn't kill me and I knew it was deserved because I did something stupid. Actions have consequences, you'll learn it by making some bad, stupid choices, you'll learn the lesson and, hopefully, not make the same mistake again.
When i was 6 my mum had brought me to the salon to get bangs. So many people thought that i looked good in bangs, but i hated them so later that week when my mum thought I was napping, she decided to take a shower. Once she got in the shower, i got up grabbed the scissors and chopped off my bangs. For some reason I was actually proud of my self. Funniest part is, is that in a couple days was my schools picture day. So i have a permanent memory of that day.
I don’t see anything wrong with the mom in the second story tbh… parents have every right to say no to anything if they think it will affect their kid or make them unhappy. Kids should always listen to their parents because they always know better. This all happened because the girl didn’t listen. In this case it was something harmless (hairstyle) but what if it was something much more harmful/dangerous?? Would you all still be like “well she should let her try it herself and find out”? I bet the answer is no. I get that the kid is only ten and doesn’t know any better and the mom could’ve been nicer to her about it but is definitely not the mom’s fault what happened.
It’s not the girl’s fault. And it was literally just a haircut. The mom should let the girl find out for herself that it’s a bad haircut. Plus simply blaming her and having no sympathy is harsh. The mom is the one that was irresponsible and didn’t let her just do something for herself. My mom let me picked my own clothes and hair when I was 10 and I’m grateful for it. The mom is literally protecting her from a haircut?l.
@@lunarialoonatic the mom is not irresponsible for saying no to something that she knows will make her kid unhappy. And it is in no way her fault that the kid decided to disobey her. The whole situation happened because of the kids disobedience or are you saying that kids shouldn’t listen to their parents and that they should do whatever they want? Now this is only a ten year old kid so I don’t expect her to understand the whole situation but I do expect 10 year old kids to know that they should listen to their parents and not just do whatever they want. So It was definitely the girl’s fault. But again she’s just a kid and mistakes are normal so the mom should’ve been less harsh on her.
Omg the thumbnail reminded me of this one time how my mom was giving me some money to get McDonald's or something cus I had to go to this mandatory event for college and would be out around lunchtime and there was one close to the event. My younger sister (11) heard this and so asked if we can go at the weekend to which my mom agreed until my sister said "but leave *my name* at home else it'll be unfair". Luckily my mom had my back for once and just simply said something like "yk what no we won't go cus we don't need to but *me* does need to eat whilst she's out and when you grow up and have to go to this event thing then you can have money for McDonald's then so it's fair". Most satisfying thing to watch.
The second story, while it sounds like the mom was being mean, she was teaching her child that actions have consequences that you have to live with. There is nothing that her mom can do to fix it. And the child has to learn that when they do things they shouldn't they will have to live with the consequences. That is how you learn to think carefully before you act. And yes I have a daughter and she wanted to cut her hair like a friends once and I said no, I told her you will not be like other kids, you will be you. When you want to cut your hair because you think it looks good, then I will let you cut it. Because I explained my reasonings to her she understood there was no problem. She is now 23, knows who she is and is well adjusted. Parenting is never easy, but no one can tell you how to do what is best for your child. And children need to learn consequences while they are young so that when they grow up they will be well adjusted adults.
Exactly
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I agree completely! We aren't raising copycats. Be yourself. Don't do this or that just because your best friend Sarah or Michelle did it.
The first story I can understand to a point. Like I understand not wanting to let him go because you know you can’t afford to ever take your other child there and don’t want to deal with the crying or any childish behavior from it… but her trying to exclude the son from a family trip I cannot understand… or her getting so much stuff and crying over 1 thing makes her thing it was the wrong decision
The second story I feel like it’s partly the aunts fault for convincing the mom but in the end if you don’t cut your kids hair for then don’t be surprised if they try to do it themselves. Also even if it looked bad the child may of loved it… I know looking back I hate a lot of my childhood haircuts but I loved them at the time
For the second one, my mom never let me cut my own bangs so i ended up doing it myself
Im pleased to say that i look better with bangs :)
My elder brother goes to Disney and other places all the time without me, even when I was younger. I didn't care. I love hanging out with my brother but he does his own thing and i do mine and I don't go with him if im not invited
Some parents really have the nerve to not even hide their favorites
Im one of 4 children on my mums side of the family, growing up I remember year after year my youngest brother would get invited to these fun birthday parties with our cousin and I always felt a bit jealous because he was the only one of us 4 who ever got invited, but I never said anything. Fast forward and thinking back, those two were closer in age and interests so it only made sense that it worked that way and my uncle was a single hard working father who did his very best to give my cousin a great childhood and I'm so grateful he had that.
The haircut story is why headbands were invented.
i feel like the mom in the seccond story was sort of in the wrong. i honstly dont know if the mom showed the daughter the eddited photo, since thats left out of the story. i also feel like people have diffrent oppnions on what looks good. i think the mom shold have at least shonw the daughter the eddited photo and explaind why bangs are a bad decision. she also cold have handeld the situation better and helped her daugter come up with solutions to "fix" or cover the bangs. like a head band or hair clips could be an easy fix.
For the second story, I think the mother did the right choice of saying no to her daughter and letting her go through the consequence of her choice. As much as kids can do whatever they want, even parents doesn;t want to have their child experience something very regretful like cutting thier hair to see that it turns out really bad. It may be a small issue but lets face it. When we are kids, even the smallest issue looks like the biggest regret. The mother can help her daughter in hiding her hair, but by the fact that it was said that it seems to imply that the daughter wants it fix(but both mother and cousin who is a hairdresser says it cannot be fix) might show that she didn't like the idea of just cutting her hair or even wants to hide it. As much as I feel bad for the girl, she really needs to live through this till it comes back. Even if she is a kid, at her age, she should at least know what consequences are and how not listening to no can really hurt you more than the person saying no.
I agree.
True, at least the kid will learn what looks better on her anyways. It's just hair, it'll grow back.
Depends really you can take their opinion but you're the one who should make the final decision.
And adding to that doesn't everyone makes mistakes? Children to adults, we all make mistakes and there are mistakes we do regardless of the consequences. It's just life.
And the mother also kinda have a feel of
'I don't want to get myself hurt just incase my daughter didn't like it and blames me so i'll just not consider her decision'
Like I get you don't want your girl to look bad and regret her choice but that's just life.
Also can we talk about her harsh words? Maybe u don't agree with me but that's just harsh to say to someone, especially a kid.
If you can say that to your child then it's better to just let her learn her preferences and let her learn from her mistakes, rather than you protecting her just cuz u it will hurt you,
(a parent should know that their child/children will not like/hate something abot them cuz that's just life) and when she do it herself u hurt her even more with a harsh words. It just not right.
I cut my bangs too short once, laughed about my faux unicorn horn, let the hair grow back until I have my own bangs that I can maintain myself. One of the ways I learned to style my hair
I totally agree with you
0:05: I gotta side with the husband here. I mean, sure, our son can go, but his little sister has to tag along? Seems unfair to his son's friend and his family (especially since they would have to spare the expense of an extra plane ticket).
3:08: Parents should never play favorites with their kids.
5:40: At 10 years old, the daughter should have a say into how she wants to look. The thing about hair is it always grows back, even if it takes a while.
8:10: This is why it's usually a better idea to let other people give haircuts, instead of watching TikToks encouraging people to do it themselves. Yeah, this is a case of being young and experimental. The 10-year-old will be fine. It's just a big to-do over nothing, really.
Kids should b taught to b a trend setter not follower so I agree wit the mom not letting her daughter cutting her hair for multiple reasons and they were right to make her deal wit what she did she knew she was wrong and like the sayin goes she made her bed now she has to live wit it my kids r under ten and know better the on new y she was hidin
I just read the thumbnail one last night.
I can understand the second one a little. Maybe, the parent is worried the daughter will get bullied from having messed up hair.
Thank you for posting everyday for us! Also cute hair style ❤️
10:10 she's ten... WHEN I WAS TEN I DIDNT PULL THINGS ON MY PARENTS, THOSE HAPPENED WHEN I WAS 5.
That's exactly what I was thinking. I'm sorry, but I had to disagree; she was old enough to where that was just disobedience.
The kid cut her own hair after she was warned not to. Now she must live with her decision to lie and sneak. Ball caps are cheap and plentiful, and hair grows back. I don’t see the drama here. Natural consequences are the best teachers. 🤷🏼♀️
She didn't lie or sneak, like everyone who cuts their own bangs does it in a bathroom, idk why I guess the lighting, but she probably did that because that's what she saw on all the tiktok videos.
@@xcallisto_ i didnt hav tiktok i cut mi bangs wen i was bout 7-8 they were uneven but mi mom never noticd til i told her
@@xcallisto_ what are you talking about? The location has nothing to do with the lying and sneaking. She was told no by her mom and went and did it anyway. That's literally sneaking around. She had said she was going into the bathroom for "alone time" when she was really just going to cut her hair after she was told a clear no. The location (the bathroom) doesn't matter. If she'd done it in her room instead of the bathroom, it still would be her defying her mother regardless. If she'd done it at a friend's house or at school, that does not matter. The point is what she did, not where she did it.
Bro, she's ten. Just let her experiment with how she wants to look, even if it doesn't look perfect. Children make mistakes and now she's learned what hair style she likes. Cut the kid some slack!
The hair story reminds of my first haircut 🤣 So...I was around 3 years old and I was at my grandparents' house, watching TV, while my mother and grandma were in the kitchen making lunch. According to them (because I don't really remember it happening...I just remember the result and reactions😅), a famous fashion designer in my country that had a really cool and funky hairstyle showed up on the TV show I was watching and I must have decided that I wanted that haircut because, the next thing they saw when coming out of the kitchen was me with my grandma's sewing scissors (that I somehow got my hands on even though the scissors were in a place I wasn't supposed to reach) and a chunk of curly hair (I have ringlet curly hair btw) in my hands. I remember them rushing towards me, taking the scissors out of my hand and asking what I was doing, panicked😅 I told them I wanted to look like the designer and, after the panic and scare wore off, they started laughing at my hair (I'm guessing it looked ridiculous😄) the next day (because I did this on a Sunday and the hairdresser was closed) I got the hair cut fixed but my curls vanished and I was left with wavy hair...until I was about 14/15 which is when my hair (after a haircut) suddenly started gaining curls again and now it's back to the ringlets I had before😁 I just wish it would go back to the colour it used to be though I know that was a result of aging rather than the haircut😅 my hair was a dark blonde (my baby hairs and new roots are that colour still) and now it's a dark brown almost black in certain lights (but what can you expect with a father with black hair and a mother with brown hair *shrugs*)
1. I agree with the Dad. The mom was playing favorites. They won't always get to do the same things.
2. I agree with the mom. Yes we should support our kids but we also have to be realistic with them when something doesn't look good on them or suit them. We also have to teach them that they can't follow everything that everyone is doing. The girl is 10, old enough to understand the consequences of her actions, and was being sneaky. She knew what she was doing when she hid in the bathroom to cut her hair. It sounds harsh but she deserved the scolding the mom gave her. As much as we don't like it sometimes parents know what they are talking about and know what is best for us. It may hurt to hear no but that is life, we can't do everything we like and get our own way in everything. There is a saying where I live that says "Hard ears you won't hear, own way you will feel.” Which means that you should adhere to advice or you will end up feeling the negative effects. If she had listened to her mom in the first place her hair would not be messed up.
shez a kid hair growz back cut her som slack dude
Hi Ellen! I just wanted to say that you're always brightening my days with your videos (I watch them every night before going to sleep, like right now) and that I've been watching you for at least... around 3 years, I think. During this time I think I haven't missed a single video of yours and I also noticed that your reading/storytelling improved a lot over time. You seem more comfortable to talk more and also share your personal opinion and I really like and appreciate that!! I can usually relate to you so well and it always makes me go "Wow, Ellen and I share the same brain (more like the same values and opinions)". I also wanted to say that you're getting prettier and prettier??? Like you've always been pretty but I feel like you're constantly glowing up🥺 lol I'm sorry for rambling, I just really wanted to tell you these things because I've noticed them while watching your videos. I hope you have a great day!! 💗💗💗
I didn’t agree with you in the last story, I pulled something like that when I was young. I knew it was wrong but I did it anyways, I shaved the back of my head cuz I saw everyone else in my household shaving. I was 6 and I knew it was wrong. The mom knew it wouldn’t look good and even checked with a hairstylist….Hair grows but it takes a while. My hair is 4c so it took years to grow back. But I learned my lesson. I did not get any punishment for it cuz the embarrassment was punishment enough
I have been through the first and last story myself. It was opposite for the first story my bro had an invitation with friends but dad insisted him to take me with him as we should go together I was overjoyed as I was young and a social butterfly but it wasn't actually right and my mom explained it to me very nicely and I rejected what my dad said but I was very sad so my dad fought with mom but it didn't stop mom at all 😂 for the second one I would say the mom is correct
Good on you for being mature, and trying to understand your brother's perspective. You weren't selfish even though you could have been.
These stories are so hard to listen to most of the time, but glad you are reading them Ellen!
I remember my brothers went to a theme park for their Boy Scouts. I was so, SO MAD because I couldn't go. Because "I am a girl and was too young."
Yeah, the girls in my family got the short end of the stick when it came to having run things to do.
I feel a lot of them do due to the fact "they're girls."
For the second story it is good to let your kid make decisions for themselves and make mistakes, assuming it's not dangerous to them or other.
Exactly, children need to learn for themselves not be told, "You're going to look bad so you can't do it." Just because you don't think it would look good (in this case mom) doesn't mean she wouldn't like it. Also, if she was that determined to get her to not do it, it doesn't seem like she even tried all the alternatives she could have. As Kyutie said she could have tried clip-on bangs or a wig. They could have even taken sections of her actual hair, put it in a ponytail flipped up into a headband in the front of her face so she could see what it would look like to see if she would like them. Instead, it felt like she just said you'll look ugly so no...
I remember when I was about 6 I gave my 3 year old brother and myself a haircut. Our parents weren't to thrilled with the hair cuts I gave my brother and I. I didn't get in trouble for doing it either, but boy the haircuts were atrocious. All my parents did was take us to the hairsalon when the place opened to fix my mistake. I never gave another haircut again and it's been 29 years now.
P.S. Ellen you are not old,you are still young. I am also the same as you and not wanting to out unless it's with close friends.
For the bangs story the mom was in the right. Her kid ruining her hair was her kids fault
In the first story, I kind of have a different opinion. I think the nine year old sister should have been allowed to go too, since it's almost like a once in a lifetime opportunity (atleast for me). BUT it's completely different if the son doesnt get to go just because of his sister not being able to. I can understand why she burst out in tears when she saw all the toys and merch, honestly I would to LOL. At first I thought what the wife was saying is logical, but when she started talking about "evening the score" i was like 'yep, nevermind'. Even if you favour one child over the other , atleast try to hide it or try to show affection to your other child!! Like BRUH that's your kid!
My mom started dying my hair blonde in elementary school. She always prefers me blonde and makes comments if my hair isn’t sufficiently highlighted to this day in my thirties.
When I was 15 I wanted to dye my hair black (emo phase). Now she took me to a salon to get my hair dyed blonde. To get my hair done black she used box dye and cheap.
Huge difference in quality. And you know at the time I hated how my hair looked fake the difference a straight dye job can look like a wig with no highlights for natural hair color variation.
I blame my mother for it NOW not then. Because I think she made my hair look worse on purpose to get her way. She has mentioned it too. That she made it look worse to prove a point to me. That everyone looks better blonde 😑
So I do think the mother is in the wrong because there is a difference in quality between a professional and a kid cutting bangs. Of course they’d look terrible. And if the kid felt the only way she had control over her look is to do it herself then honestly that’s the problem there. The mom should have got off her high horse and let the kid try out a bad hair style but done it right.
As it is now. There’s still no proof she’d look terrible with bangs. Just that she herself is a bad hairstylist with no training at a young age. Just like I have no idea how I’d look with darker hair done right. Still dying it blonde now. It’s now worth the arguments. And I feel it’s too late to experiment anymore.
I always felt weird whenever my friends told me that their mom doesn't let them cut or dye their hair.
For me, my mom never interfered with my hair and clothing decisions.
I started cutting my own hair since I was in 5th grade and haven't stopped since. It's not like I'm a pro at cutting hair but because it's something i did myself, even if it turns out bad, i have only myself to blame. And I'm glad i experimented with my hair because after 20 years of my life, i finally realised that i look good in a short hair (short like boys')
That's a very mature attitude to have, but not all kids have that attitude of "I have only myself to blame". Particularly in this case, it's obvious that the daughter didn't have that attitude.
To the second story:
I also always wanted bangs or shorter hair since mine is very thick and in general I have soo much hair that it’s just a pain to live with it especially during sommer.
As my mum is kindhearted but very strict she would never let me do anything to my hair.
I am 19 and have never colored it or cut it on my own.
My hair grows fast even tho I have been maybe thrice to a hair salon to get it cut and it was not much length either.
Whenever I wanted to cut it she told me that i should not because I have so beautiful thick long hair ( that went to my ass lmao ) and she even always argued with me.
So i had enough and cut mine a few weeks ago on my own.
It was the first time i did something like that in my life so it wasn’t good obviously but it could have been worse.
Surprisingly she was calm about it, she didn’t say much and helped fixing it.
But the anxiety I still had and had done the cutting when she wasn’t around ( exactly like the kid in this story ) at 19 years old is kind of sad to me.
I definitely won‘t be so overprotective like my parents were over me because it only has brought me anxiety and stress.
Due to also other reasons i had a mental breakdown and maybe even depression for more than 2 years while life was numb to me.
It’s been 1 whole day since i am starting to listen to myself and my own needs and trying to crawl out of this hole even tho in a week there will be an event that will change my life and i am still not prepared for it, not literally and especially not mentally but well…
Long story short, just let your kids do stupid things (trial and error) and only protect them when it’s needed and don’t go overboard!!
I had very long hair when I was growing up and I always wanted to cut it short, but my mom kept saying no because it would look ugly. Well, when I moved away for college, I finally got my hair cut really short. When my mom saw it, she was devastated and disappointed-almost in tears- because it looked so bad. Except, I myself love my short hair and haven't once considered growing it out since.
But even if I hadn't liked my short hair, I still would have been glad to try it. I'd rather spend a few months with clip ons or hats or just disliking my haircut than spend a decade wondering what-if. This girl's mother- like mine- is sending clear messages that her perspective of beauty is more important than her daughter's age-appropriate bodily autonomy, that playing it safe is better than taking risks, and that she isn't someone the daughter will want to turn to after mistakes in the future- and may even want to hide them from.
And why is the daughter suddenly old enough and responsible enough to live with the consequences of cutting her own hair when she previously wasn't old/responsible enough to make decisions about how she wanted it cut by a professional, in which case the consequences would have been far less severe? So frustrating!
The first story, here the difference, the birthday boy's parents invited their son to the party at Disney because one, he is a friend to the birthday and two, there are age differences while the son is probably 13 as his friend while his sister is 9. An 9 yrs old child can't be alone without adult supervision and it's wouldn't be fair for the host to watch over someone else's child who is in elementary which they suppose enjoyed their 13 yr old son's party without any adult supervision.
Also, the host didn't know their daughter or the daughter didn't know them either. The trip will ended badly and the host will be mad because the money have gone to waste if the sister cry and wanted to go back home or complaining alots about the rides.
The wife better end her favoritism or else everyone in her family will found out and will put either strain or end the contacts, after they learn about her plans and favoritism. And op, he better lawyer up and documents everything, and need to put cameras on his wife because what happened if op isn't around, the wife is probably abuse the son or talk down on him or force him to do alots of chores. Op, I hope u better realize that it's better to end the divorce.
That 1st story sounds like the mom is going to allow her daughter to grow up as a Karen if she doesn't stop her case of child favoritism.
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The first story: What is with that mother? Our son's friend didn't invite our daughter to Disney World so our son can't go on the family vacation? I don't even know where the logic is. Life isn't fair. It's the way it is. The mother needs to grow up and start acting like an adult. Life is going to present both of these kids with different opportunities and denying one of them an opportunity simply because the other one didn't get the same opportunity is going to cause more problems. What happens if the daughter doesn't get into the same college/university as her brother, is he going to have to drop out because his sister didn't get in? What happens if one of them gets a great job that offers them everything they could ever dream of, are they supposed to turn it down because their sibling doesn't have the same job opportunity? What about marriage? Kids? Where does it end? Good on the dad for being a great dad.
Second story: Let your 10 year old choose their hairstyle. It may look horrible and you may know it, but let them figure it out. You can try to steer them away from it. You can tell them you don't think it will look good on them. But if they're still insistent, let them get it done. It's their lesson to learn. I had golden blonde hair that everyone in my family and all my friends loved, but I was sick of it so I went and told my mom that I wanted to dye my hair dark brown. Like really dark brown. Almost black. She asked me if I was sure because everyone loved my hair the way it was. I told her that I was sure, so she reluctantly took me to the hairdresser, constantly asking if I was sure the whole car ride there. The hairdresser asked if I was sure because it was going to be a major change and I may never get my hair back to the colour it was. I was adamant that I wanted to get rid of my blonde hair and go dark brown. I got it. It was fine for a while, but after about a week, I missed my blonde hair. That was 15 years ago and I still regret it, constantly trying to get my golden blonde hair back. But, I'm happy that my mom let me figure it out on my own. I needed to experience this new hairstyle to know that it is not for me. And now I just have to look at photos of my hair during that time whenever I want to try something new. If my mom didn't give me the freedom to dye my hair, I would have spent every moment wondering "What if?"
My opinion on story #2:
I personally don’t see anything wrong with the mom not wanting her daughter to have bangs. If the daughter HAD gotten her hair professionally cut, and it turned out to look awful, (As the professional hairstylist cousin had predicted), the mom would be the one to have to deal with the daughters complaints. Plus, don’t forget that the mom would be the one paying for the haircut in the first place. And it’s the daughters fault for not listening to the mom when she said no to the bangs. She is 10, not a child. She knows the difference between right and wrong, and she chose to disobey the mom, and cut her bangs anyway. But somehow it’s the moms fault???
10 is a child; it’s just an age where a child absolutely does typically know better.
I definitely agree, I cut my hair once, it wasn't horrible but not as a good as a professional, but other kids obviously aren't had lucky
But why bar your child from getting their hair cut? It’s not your hair. I’ve had shitty haircuts as a child I wanted and I was fine with it. Like they are being unfair because it’s not your choice to police THEIR hair. If she’s gonna be like that then her husband can tell the mom to not get her hair cut and the child can tell the mom she can’t get her hair cut. Seriously you all need to learn how to be a good parent not a shitty asshole
"She is 10, not a child " huh? You have to be kidding me 💀
@@gaxalee7392 exactly
I remember when my hair was bothering me so much, it was around shoulder length but it was so very idk, bothersome.
I literally was getting dreams about just tying my hair up and just cut it down-
So some weeks later I did it cuz I didn't know the next time we would go to my home country cuz they usually do a very good job for a very cheap price, unlike here, cutting my hair has cost like 30€ per person- then I got a shampoo against dandruff for an extra 40€💀
Well basically I just cut it off, but I loved it, I loved how messy it was, I love how it made my face look, I loved how my neck wasn't sweating in the summer, I felt hot
Then my dad comes and comments how I messed up my hair and I'm ugly
I just look at him like "btch this is my head and I look fcking awesome" of course not exactly like this but yeah
Ps: I was 17 when I did this, so I knew I could mess up, but too long hair just made me so uneasy I had to act
For the one with the daughter. I think she should've let her daughter cut the bangs, but I think her response was fair. At 10 years old they know what they're doing, and she was likely hiding in the bathroom to avoid getting in trouble because she knew she'd get in trouble for doing it. At 10, they know the consequences, and they can deal with it. They're smarter than most people think and they understand quite well, unless mentally there are developmental issues.
i am 18 and almost always had hip length hair and it was my choice but last week or so i said i wanted to cut them off and my mom was so supportive , i got it till my shoulders. The thing is , my mum loved my long hair and she also loves my short hair, she cares about ME and not my LOOKS??? that mom in 2nd story is such a bad parent.
First story: mother is wrong. Kids will have different opportunities and experiences throughout their lives. They need to learn to deal with it. Second story: the daughter learned a lesson, physically painless. But the parent might have let her go to a salon and get some kind of trim. Whatever, the hair will grow and this will be over.
When I was younger I cut my own bangs and my mum was angry but people said it actually looked good and then my mum kept thinking I cut my hair when I didn't
there was a time i wanted blonde hair. my grandmother let me try on her blonde wig so show me what i'd look like blonde. i don't look good blonde i learned.
but the mom could have found a way like that to give her daughter a taste of bangs and see if she liked it or not
I don’t think the mom in the hair story did anything wrong she went and consulted a professional hairstylist a professional said that she didn’t think it would look good, the child shouldn’t have went against what the mom said just because she felt like it. Maybe if she was a little older but she’s 10 so it’s up to the discretion of the mom
My friend got bangs when she was like 10 they turned out really bad cause the hair cutter person made them way to short but she’s fine now we just laugh about it
I say the mom is in the right on the last story with the hair cut on the 10 year old, the kid made 2 sins steeling and doing what the parents said I think the mom was doing what all parents should do, its not like she spanked her kid she just told her kid and reminded her, that's her job, just like if a kid wants a toy but the mom says no bc they don't have enough $, then the kid takes it and steels should the mom be punished for teaching her kid not to steel or to let the kid steel and go to prison bc parents r to teach kids to be obedient and the best they can be thats what I say.
The story with the bangs- they should let the kid get bangs and if it’s bad she will learn she’s 10 it would be better for her to have bad bangs now instead of having bad bangs when she has a job so she won’t look stupid
The first story: I don't think they should cut the son out of the vacation, however I do think they should take the daughter to Disneyland or something or let her doing something fun like that if she feels left out. I know what it's like to have a sibling who got to do fun things out of pure luck; and I don't blame a parent for wanting to "even the score" just not by cutting someone out of a family holiday!
i honestly think the mom was right in the second one..? i am having a hard time understanding why the husband thinks it’s “cold” of her to say. i’ve had my share of messed up bangs in the past because i didn’t listen, and my mom was waaaay angrier than the mom in the story was. In the end i thought my mom was right and learned my lesson. The mom even said she usually lets the daughter decide for herself. But in that situation, as her mom, it’s understandable that she had to step in.
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great, now the girl possibly got traumatized for their entire life just because "she didn't listteenenn" okay teaching children that their mistakes have consequences is fine but you don't manipulate them like "if you don't listen to me everything will go bad" like, MAYBE now, the child won't even trust their own judgement over the parent and that's unhealthy asf
Oh stfu shes not going to be traumatized over a haircut. Upset yes but not traumatized. And its not manipulating its parenting. You can support your childrens decisions but its your job to guide them. Children cannot be in complete control over their lives. Its bad parenting if u just let ur kid do whatever they want all the time. This girl made the mistake of cutting her hair and theres nothing she can do until it grows back. She fucked it up and has to go through the consequences. Its harsh but thats the price of having freedom at a young age. Not saying freedom is always bad but when u fuck up its on yourself. Dont know why u r blaming the mother for "traumatizing" her when she did it herself even after the mother warned her.
For the second story imma have to disagree. Yeah not allowing someone to do it might make them wanna do it themselves but that means you might as well let them do everything they want rules are pointess with a mindset like that.
Well said 👍
I think the mom saying no is fine but the way she went about it after the daughter cut her bangs is what makes her wrong. A mom isn’t supposed to berate their daughter and make them doubt themself.
She's not berating her. She told her no and was as concise and rational as possible in her arguments against it prior to the incident. It was her daughter's choice to do it despite all recommendations so she was told to live with the consequences and take responsibility for her own actions, because at that age you know what's right and what's wrong.
Haircut is not a big deal really but it's only not a big deal because it just so HAPPENED to be about a haircut, next time it might be something more serious. Without this lesson and learning about consequences one will in the best case scenario become spoiled, worst case scenario get yourself or someone else killed. Kids today doesn't learn about discipline, consequences and responsibility of actions anymore, only getting coddled by their parents, no wonder a whole generation has gone soft.
Sometimes you gotta let kids make their own mistakes. Sure she might've been upset that her hair looked like crap but it would've been done by a professional in the first place and she'd have actually no one to blame but herself, and she might've been more okay with that decision.
I cried and cried when my grandma thought my hair would look better short so she had the stylist do that when I was a kid. Years later I've given up on growing long hair and embrace short, easy to manage hair. The difference is I chose it for myself.
The first story is relatable to me in some way except it was my father instead of mother. He kept favoriting my little sister and brother so much more than he ever would me. I did everything to make my dad like me, but it didn't work. He always prioritized my little brother and sister first. Always loving them, always giving them stuff and money. That's..my dad.
I don't support Ellen on the second story. I think the mom is right. She was not a mean mom and she did ask her cousin to fix it but sadly it was unfixable.
If she helped her daughter cover it up this would be happening:
1) she would think her mom would fix any mistake she makes
2) she would think it's okay to not listen to Mom and Dad
3) she would not learn that those who like her won't care how ugly she looked (if her friends thinks she is ugly and abandons her (I know it's heartbreaking for a 10 year old), at least she will find who her true friends are)
4) just like everyone in the comment section says, actions have consequences. She must learn it
BTW being ugly is not that uncommon for 10 year old. Most of us didn't look our best anyways when we were 10 year olds. 😂
2bd story- I think the lesson should've been- looks are not that important bruh. Idk why a TEN year old s crying about bangs of all things. Should've taught her that her daughter is always beautiful or whatever and she shouldn't have been so scared of "the public" because she is more important then the outside.
Be careful y'all, bc too many ppl are raising insecure pll
I have to disagree with you, Kyutie about the second story. The mom could have lied, but I've never seen a situation where a parent lies to their kid under the idea of being "kind" and the kid actually appreciates it. She definitely could have said "oh honey, your bangs look good" yadda yadda yadda, but at the end of the day, other kids at school aren't going to do that. I don't think the mom was worried about being blamed as you put it, so much as she was worried about doing something her daughter would end up not even liking on top of it being her fault. Her utmost concern was clearly her daughter. She had even said she asked the opinion of others, did a photo mock up to see how it would look, etc. I don't think she was wrong because her daughter was being willfully defiant. Her mother said no bangs. In response, the daughter lied, went against her mother to do the bangs anyway and then didn't even like the results. She was 10, not 2. She isn't an idiot like some people in the comments are trying to make her seem. She was just being defiant. Her terrible bangs are a punishment of her own making. As for saying that it's no big deal and hair grows fast, that isn't the case for everyone. Some people, it takes years for their hair to grow even an inch. She's a kid, not an adult. There are plenty of things peers will be allowed to do, but at the end of the day, her mither said no. It was a clear no. Her doing it anyway is saying that her mother's "no" was obviously ignored. Letting that slide builds brats with attitudes. I knew plenty of kids like that in middle school where they felt they didn't have to listen to their parents and did whatever they wanted. A lot of times, that willful defiance led to the kids being problems because they never learned respect and boundaries at home. Thus, they bring that "I can do what I want, it's my body, etc" behavior into school, and turns out the teacher or principal aren't having it. Teach your kids to follow directions. Self-expression is important but it shouldn't supercede what your parent told you to do (or not to do) at 10 years of age when you're just going to be angry anyway. Her mom didn't have to take her to the salon, spending money on a haircut that she said no to. Clearly based on the research she did for her daughter, she cared and did want to give her daughter what she wanted, but the fact that a "no" from her mom got that response shows me that there isn't enough respect or discipline. Kids aren't always going to get what they want. That is normal. And it's not always going to be a no because of the parents. Sometimes it will be a no because it doesn't make sense or will harm them in some way. Teaching kids this early creates smart adults with the knowledge and wisdom to say no for themselves. To this day, I say no to certain things because I learned from childhood. The husband may also be a problem because instead of standing by his wife as a parenting unit and looking at his daughter like "if mom said no, why did you take it upon yourself to do as you wanted?" he goes and blames the mom as if she cut her daughter's hair like that and not her daughter.
To expand, this is the classic "don't touch the stove" argument. I remember I was about 7 or 8 and my mom had told me repeatedly told me to not touch the stove. I kept asking why and she'd just say "because it's hot and your finger will get burned" or something along those lines. Long story short, I got it in my head to do it anyway. I was taunting my mother like "I'm going to do it" (over days) and looking back, that was rotten because she had told me not to. I ended up touching it, and it burned the heck out of my finger. My mom comes into the kitchen, confused and then mad when she realizes what's happened. She ran my finger under the water and asked me why I did it. I don't remember my answer, but I never touched a hot stove again. I bake often and have gotten burned sometimes, but I've never purposely burned myself again. I think I was on punishment for one day after I did that (so two total). My mom had made some type of dessert and I couldn't have any. My brother rubbed it in my face (he is older and was such a brat). Taught me a few important lessons (like you don't always have to experience something to know it isn't for you. Sometimes you can just take sound advice or look at how others end up after doing what you want to do. I don't always need to do something to know it isn't for me. Sometimes I do something, and hate it tho).