Don’t be so hard on yourselves ❤ y’all are doing SO MUCH 1. You started a kids clothing business 2. You purchased your OWN home 3. You moved thousands of miles 4. You are raising a baby so amazing 5. You record content for UA-cam 6. You record content for Tik Tok/Facebook/Ig Y’all are doing AMAZING
Julius open up to your wife more. We are not meant to carry all of our burdens alone. “Carry one another’s burdens, in this way you’ll fulfill the law of Christ”. Losing your grandfather is an extremely traumatic event to happen in your life and it’s crucial that you lean on your wife especially when she’s practically begging you to. You’ll feel better and more light. Love you guys!! I’m glad the podcast is back.
I felt like he already felt the pain and like anything else that’s deep it always going to sting especially if it’s so soon. He was talking really mature and calmly so he’s coming from obviously sad but not super emotional like he was saying he probably dealt with it and internalized it already which is a great way to cope to just be real about it all. It does nothing to victimize yourself and make yourself suffer. I’m sure he cried it out and mourned by now and it’s a process that is taken day by day.
I'm glad to see you guys again! Julius, there is nothing wrong with letting it out, bro. Cry that shit out, it really helps. You need to share your emotions with your partner. You're not bringing your problems to your girl she's there to be your support, be that shoulder to lean on.
Every time I hear Julius talk about his grandpa it brings me to tears, I lost my grandpa 3 years ago January 7 2020, and he practically raised me and my sisters and it was the hardest thing ever. It still is. My best advice is to feel your feelings and cope how every you see fit. Talk to him, pray to him, and just know you’ll always have someone guiding you on the other side and your possibilities will be endless 🙏❤️
And also just a word to Juju; A problem shared is half solved. You really don't have to carry all your burdens alone cause otherwise it beats the point of marriage and having a life companion. I know it's easier said than done but even if you won't feel 100% relieved you'll feel a difference confiding in your wife. Fuck all that toxic masculinity/societal norms , it's okay to cry as a man. Let all that shit out. Peace & blessings to you guys 🙏🙏🙏
After having 4 kids, her points about adding another baby/kid to the mix are very valid. I remember trying to feed my 2nd baby, and my oldest was 4 at the time. I couldn't just get up and go play with him, and I had a c-section. My 4 year old at the time looked at me with tears in his eyes and said I didn't care about him. Of course, I got up and held him and tried explaining everything to him and letting him help with the baby, but they're so young they don't really understand, and it's so hard on them. I'll never forget how he felt. 🥺
103 days? Wow , it doesn’t seem that long. So excited for this! Welcome back. Ngl I missed the podcast the knowledge and the real topics had me locked in every episode. Y’all so dope 🔥
I just had my 2nd born almost 3 weeks ago and I didn’t expect this topic to pop up. I definitely miss when it was just me and my 1st and feel mom guilt. He’s 5yrs old and it’s been a whole new transition for us all but at the same time so worth it watching their bond grow more each day.
I personally don’t have kids but Destiny, what you were talking about having a second baby and the shift in attention is super valid! It’ll be okay though! Also, you guys already show us your everyday lives, but this podcast was so vulnerable and I just wanted to say thank you for sharing! ❤
Juju, hearing Papa passed broke my heart for you. I know from watching you for years now how close you were to him. And seeing the horrible comments people were making was really making me mad. I have been praying for you because I know this has been a very difficult time for you. I knew that Des would be there for you throughout the process because she is just a beautiful person and a phenomenal wife. I remember how supportive and loving she was when you lost Cairie ( sorry if I misspelled his name)
When I was pregnant I definitely felt sad because my big baby was no longer gunna be my only baby (she was 6 at the time lol) but once you see your kids interacting it’s just the best thing ever
It's so beautiful seeing your kids play together and they learn so much from eachother. I got pregnant when my first was 1 1/2 and they are so perfect together
So happy you all were so honest about money and being smarter about ownership and spending! You two being so young and managing it all while n LA - IK this move will make it even better - having funds put aside for savings and when you want to expand your family it doesn’t cost as much …. Thanks for sharing ! You all will make your house the cool crib even for Koa and all his friends
I love how honest these conversations are. You can see that even you two are learning about each other as you speak and it’s so beautiful. I will never meet you in real life but I love having you part of mine ❤❤❤
When I brought home my second baby, my first born looked at me and cried so deeply and I just KNEW that his little feelings were hurt. I cried and held him. He didn’t expect the “new baby” to come home with us. And yes unfortunately I did start treating my oldest bigger than he was. Something I regret so so so bad.
Grief is something I think we learn to live with and not wait till it’s over. Your grandpa will always be apart of you it’s okay to cry here and there and let it out in healthy ways. God bless you guys lean on each other and above all love each other so much ❤.
My first born was very clingy and needed a lot of attention and still is and still does (she's two and a half) I had my second when my first was 15 months old. It was challenging but oh so rewarding! Watching them grow up together and love each other is the absolute best. My girls are now 2 and a half and 15 months old
When I had my daughter I was so sad and literally cried when I introduced my son to my daughter. I felt soo guilty and felt like he felt a little abandoned. I tried my best to put him first and make him feel special all of the time. Eventually you grow from it and they build a bond that you enjoy seeing. 😢😢 Julius was so uncomfortable talking about his grandpa, I could feel the pain and emotions within him even though he didn’t express it. 💙
The podcast was great! As for diggy you can consult with a dog therapist or dog expert in texas to help you with techniques to stop doodle from doing that. In my own dog mom experience you have to teach the new dog since the beginning that diggy was there first. They are both males dogs and male dominance will take over as a bad habit. If you decide to do this you can share this with us and vlog or podcast about would be a great topic for any dog parents who are listening and watching...but dont be so hard on yourselfs you are young and accomplishing lots of beautiful positive things that most people your age dont have the courage to do. Been with you guys since day one and seeing your personal growth has been amazing!!! Keep it up!!!
Just an FYI from a born and raised Texan, y'all are gonna wanna start on that pool ASAP bc summers in TX with no water therapy quickly accessable are RIDICULOUS. 🤣
If you're going through something and have someone to talk to that will also hold loving space for you, definitely do so. Don't ever feel like you have to go through hard times alone or carry heavy weight alone. It's okay to open up and be vulnerable. Not only will it make the one who is hurting feel so much better but it will also improve the relationship you have with the other person, making y'all feel closer together.
I love how when yall talk about the studio I can also go back to my life during that time. It’s crazy I remember thinking like they’re gonna get big, this is it. Seeing it is so amazing just because of the people you are. I’m so glad you guys will always have the studio apartment to reflect on and are able to say we made it. It gives me so much motivation myself honestly. Knowing you aren’t even at your peak. I love yall fr no cappp. I dont even comment on videos but yall are so genuine and easy going I’m so glad you guys are started back up on here. Nothing but love and prosperity 🫶🏼
I love this podcast so much, I’m so glad y’all finally posted here. I’ve been around for the long hall, since Ju first got on UA-cam, your family channel and I love that I’ve been able to watch this full journey & support ! Look where y’all are now having your own little family & giving him the best life with both parents! #growth ❤
I relate to the Reddit story. I’m the oldest and have a younger sister that’s 19 years old (his biological daughter) My stepdad charged me $350 for my room in their house plus Wi-Fi, and all of my other expenses. If something broke down in the house he would tell me to pay half, like if the washing machine broke I would have to pay. Mind you I was paycheck to paycheck. she works but doesn’t pay ANYTHING. No rent, no phone bill, no insurance nothing. I come from a Mexican household so growing up at age 6 I had to translate everything because I was the older child. When I got older I had to put everything in my name, cars, insurance, phone service everything. I had to step up for everything. I moved out and live with my husband and they still call me so I can translate and do things for them and my 19 year old sister does nothing. They rather call me than rely on the daughter that they have living in their house for free
Ridiculous. This is similar to my story. My oldest sister was put on a pedestal and my parents only ask me for money and to help with translating and filling out forms and job applications and she doesn’t have to do any of that and they think of her so highly.
My husband went through something similar, and I don't know your feelings, the entirety of the situation, or how you are solving it, but if not already - try being happy for your sister. She is your younget sister, high emphasis on younger*, it doesn't feel great to be in the middle of family issues and have to judge off everyone else's judgment - because she hasn't stepped out of the home to form her own true relationships/understandings of everyone including you and your parents, and even of herself and her relationships with her parents. Everyone has their issues, even your sister who you think has it easier than you did. She has it harder in ways you might not understand, not to invalidate what you went through, but I would hope you don't perceive her as someone who has it easy in life just because she doesnt have the same struggles as you specifically, because everyone is growing from something. Which is why it's extremely important to have a supportive and loving older sister who's happy for you, encourages you in discovering who you are and doesn't judge, compare, or condemn off their personal experiences of growing up. Comparing will only take the joy out of your guys' relationship, and it will be evident, even if you try to hide it. Be happy for her, and maybe try seeing the gold in the dirt. You parents didn't love you less. As a parent myself, you cannot love any kid less than the other. Your step-dad is a whole other story, but your mom, whatever she allowed or didn't allow I don't think affected her love for you as less than your sister. In forgiving your parents, you can still have boundaries with them. Forgiveness is for yourself, for empathy towards them, and for a peaceful loving relationship with your sister. Boundaries can still be in place, in hopes for a better relationship. Assuming by your comment, it doesn't seem you have a joyful relationship with your parents. Your mom probably picks up on that, because regardless she does know you emotionally to some degree, and you never know, sometimes parents are Prideful and don't want to outfront acknowledge they messed up, and it's sad- but see the gold by seeing maybe your mom understands she messed up with your step-dad, maybe they both understand, and they try to give you sister a better life from learning from their relationship with you, which sucks and doesn't seem fair, but if you stare at everything wrong nothing will ever grow to be right. I would just be happy your sister is living the way you would have appreciated, and appreciate the lessons you learned from your own path, and appreciate your sisters path and be loving towards her, and help her in the ways she needs help from a loving eye not a comparing/condemning/jealous one. Not to say your jealous, but that's what comparison by default ends up bringing. It's easier said than done, but be there for your younger sister and know that you're loved, try to see the gold in the dirt. Maybe you already do all this, and I'm sorry I don't want to speak out of turn, but I've gone through something similar with my older sister, and my husband also went through something like this and unhealed hurt just spreads hurt. I don't know your faith, but we believe we get our healing from God. Try praying to God for clarity, help, wisdom, on how to approach boundaries with your family, and how to be loving. I once read in scripture sometimes God surrounds us with unloving people to teach us how to be loving. It's easy to love people who love you, and be good to those who do good to you. Even evil people do that. But to do be loving, and merciful and kind to those that don't like you, patient to those who are struggling with being loving towards you when you know better than they do, is love and mercy and kindness. Essentially two wrongs don't make a right in the totality of life. And if you ever need to talk to someone reach out to God, but you can also reach out to me! :))
@@mrscool03 with all due respect, that’s not the case with my parents. They are not “trying to learn from their mistakes” I moved out a couple months ago. We we’re both in the same household, both working full time jobs but I was the only one paying rent and anything else that they wanted to charge me. This started since I was 15 years old paying bills. I spoke to my parents about this and my step dad says that his daughter will not be paying rent until she decides to move out of their house. My mother said that she’s not getting involved because my step dad is the one making money and whatever he says goes. As for a relationship with my sister, there isn’t one really. It’s 3 of us, me and 2 other sisters. The 19 year old has always told me that that I’m not her real blood sister and she only speaks to me when she needs my help. My 2 sister are a clique and I’m the outsider and it’s been that way because I don’t like confrontation or fighting so they have said those things to me and I try to ignore it and keep my head down
@Tima Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. You are loved, despite the horrible flaws of others. I'm happy God blesses you with a husband, and in that, a family of your own that you can grow from all this and create good change. I know you might truly not want to hear this, but there is hope even in horrible times, with people doing horrible things. Still be loving to your sister, and your family, from the stand-pointed boundary you feel safe in. Being loving looks like a lot of things. You know, despite your sister being rude and hurtful and denying you, that you are sisters. You know it hurts you to be treated as not a sister, because you are sisters. Being loving could simply mean, not denying they are your sisters even when they deny you, because you know better in being loving, and how it's hurtful to be in that loop. Being loving could mean understanding even though they've grown to make their own choices, they're young still and under the heavy influence of your parents, and being loving could just simply mean, hoping for change at a safe distance. I will tell you this now though, you have all your lives to live out. If you all live to 100, that's 100 years of change. Being hopeful for that change, doesn't mean you necessarily expect it, but you can hope because I'm sure you know this, you're not the same person you were at 19 or younger. Nobody stays the same unless the actively try to allllll those years. It may suck, and you may feel like giving up, and are entirely justified in giving up on the relationship and not caring for boundaries and just cutting them out - but, maybe one day when they're 40 or 30, they'll grow and realize how wrong they were and want to do better, and if you remain loving, the relationship can grow from there, only if you want that. But if you give up on the bare minimum of hope and love towards them, again you don't have to spend every day talking to them, but be loving and hopeful towards them in your heart- if you give up on that, and hold resentment in your heart, nothing gets better. We've had family do us very wrong, almost in the same forms, I'm not forcing myself onto them, neither is my husband, but we try to be merciful, and loving. Because at one point or another we all deeply, deeply mess up and thats the grace of knowing we all deserve a chance, salvation. Yahshua (I call Jesus by his herbew name), as an example, he never forced himself onto anyone, many people hated him, but he never hated anyone. If he one day was like screw all of you, I'm not going to forgive because I'm justified, and he was justified, and cut everyone off, nobody would receive repentance or forgiveness, or grace, or mercy in these ways. Not everyone ended up having the best relationship with him, but he never gave up on anyone and in that- good came, and those who did end up changing or sticking around, recieved ane valued the depth of his love. In the same way, you don't have to force yourself onto them, you don't have to open all your arms and let yourself be abused and used without boundaries, but make sure the hurt you experienced doesn't make you become the same way towards anyone else, and even towards them. You won't be hurting forever, people will value your loving efforts thanks to you not giving up on hope and love, you will have a loving family whether it's from them, of from the lessons you've learned from them and change with your own family, and I'm sure God see's you, and won't forsake you, and good will come from all this. I'm also sure if you ask God, and seek him, he will help you throughout all this because only God knows how deeply you've been hurt, and only God knows what you need for your healing. I appreciate you sharing and I hope my words don't seem out of pocket, you do what you want with it all, but if you ever want a friend to talk to you I'm here! :)
I totally relate to treating your 1st born older even though they’re a baby as well. You WILL miss giving them your undivided attention, but watching them play together and create their own little bond makes up for it ❤
Loved this podcast and topic 🤎 It is very important for even men to show emotions because there’s only so much to keep inside and it could also result in other mental health issues. It’s important to show your children that it is OKAY to be vulnerable and get help with certain things because you want them to do the same.
Love these heart to heart conversations. Currently trying to grow my UA-cam channel along with my other platforms, and starting off is a struggle, I defiently grasp every piece of advice you guys give! Also seeing you guys evolve to better people is so heart warming, I wish you both the best always!
I feel like I can relate to Julius talking about his grandpa , I lost my dad when I was 15 & I am 22 now. I just feel like I never had a person to actually sit down & talk about it but if I did I don’t like doing it. It makes me feel like people think I want attention & that’s what I don’t like even til this day I don’t talk about it. People say time heals everything but I’m still here hurt as if it was just today I lost him.
You talking about it will give you some release and a little tiny bit of relief, trust me! Time heals nothing 😢 what you do with that time determines if you can begin to heal or not. Sadly, this is all coming from experience. 😞
Been loving the episodes so far on the podcast. A suggestion of probably what would add more to it is if you have a segment where you answer questions from your supporters like an "Ask Juju & Des" type thing preferably towards the end of the pod before signing out. That'd be dope.
Something I’ve realized with my husband is that men process things VERY differently than women. He may not get teary eyed around you but you can tell he’s hurting. Just make sure to love on him Des 💜 doing things that his Grandpa loved is always a great way to remember him. Go back to Hawaii and have that Vodka Cranberry My grandma passed away in 2020. I’ve lived with my grandparents since before I can even remember. I moved out a few months before she passed. I still grieve so bad but having my husband in my corner has helped SO much. Y’all are awesome and are doing great 💜💜 P.S let me hold $5 LOL
Has it been that long? It doesn't feel that long. But yall are more than worth the wait. I really loved yesterday's vlog on the main channel one of my favorites from yall. 🥰🥰🥰
I am so excited for the couple things podcast to be back I love you all you guys to speak facts and real-life issues I want to start by saying again I'm so sorry to do for your grandfather just want to say you guys are kicking by each and every day you do more and more and bigger and bigger things and it's such a blessing to watch you guys on this journey I've seen you guys since your studio apartment to now and it's such a blessing I have so many bills it's ridiculous usually what it comes down to paying bills I sit down and try to outweigh which ones are necessity and which ones I can wait for a little while because being a widowed single mom now working so many hours but nothing to show for has been really tough and prioritizing food bills and lifestyle and stuff me and my kids never get to go out and do anything I never get to buy a brand-new clothes it sucks but I know it's going to humble my children to see that you have to work your butt off to get good things
MA SHA ALLĀH!!!!! Love you guys so much and always praying for you guys! 2023 for me: 1. PRAY 2. LEARN HOW TO CONTROL/LET GO OF MY ANXIETY 3. Be more active and driven in everything 4. Expand my knowledge on things I think I already know and things I don’t 3. Be more present for myself (I give and give and forget me sometimes) 5. Allow myself to feel what I need to and not be harsh with myself about it, and also not stay in that same feeling whether it’s happy, sad, mad, excited etc! Find balance!!!!!!!!!! Thank you guys for everything you do! Can’t wait to support and witness every growth, every blessing, ever step you guys take!! 🥹🥹🥹 XOXOXOXO you’re SOOOO loved -from a supporter in SLC, UTAH :) More life yaaaah
Okay i must say I am SO happy you guys are back on this podcast. This is my favorite podcast! So real and transparent i love it! It just flows and i love that about this podcast!
I missed you guys! I feel you guys on the life is short and you just have to live everyday to the fullest.. I lost my little brother last month too he was 20. And that was such a huge loss I’m still dealing with it but we put into our heads that the older people go first and we kinda think whoever is our age or young they still have so much more time and sadly this wasn’t the case. I wanna make it a effort to be close to everyone and make memories because no one knows when our time is up and we just can’t be left with regrets. I’m 24 for he was really young to lose. Thank you guys for speaking on that and we just have to keep moving forward Julius and your right live and see the world like our lost ones did. My brother lived to the fullest and was happy. Someone took his life sadly but those last moments he was enjoying himself with friends and happy. We have to live that way and enjoy. Wish all the strength and happiness for you both and to continue because that’s all we have ❤
Girllll yes I felt u when y’all talked about how he uses so many dishes and pots to cook. My bf does the same thing and doesn’t clean up or do the dishes. When I cook I’m cooking and cleaning smh lol Gota love em hahah
The only thing I could think about while Julius was talking about him dealing with his emotions alone, was the Tiktok sound “were you silent or were you silenced 🤨”. Sometimes we don’t realize that things we do are actually trauma responses and not “just the way I am” :/ Great job destiny for not pressuring him to share but still letting him know that you’re there if he changes his mind 🤍 love u guys so much
Take it from a 41 year old with 18 year old son and 16 year old daughter.. you guys are doing it right! My mindset completely changed when my son was born. We did everything we could to buy a home to have a solid place to raise our kids and build up financial security. It’s not easy and it takes hard work, but we’re so far ahead of people our age. I don’t understand how so many influencers spend so much money to outdo each other. I get that image is part of their job but don’t put yourself in financial ruin to one up each other. Keep doing your thing for your family. Trust me, people are watching and they envy you.😉
Wow I enjoy these so much. Two of the sweetest souls keep the podcast going this helped me put me a good and relaxed mood for a big test tomorrow. Wish me luck thanks!
I just cleaned my house listening to your episode! I always need background noice while I clean but I always get over stimulated with the extra noise ? Lol but you both have the most soothing voices ! Appreciate y’all ❤️
No wayyyy, i was watching your other podcast and how you guys where talking about LA and all that and I started thinking like I can see you guys in Texas , Texas fits you guys.❤️
Yes des! Feeling guilty that your baby is the oldest and not your only baby anymore is a real thing, I went through it, it's like grieving your oldest baby stage. But it's normal the guilt will eventually go away 🤍
Mine are 2 years apart and it’s been really challenging and for them too having to share that attention and not really getting to be their own person because there’s always someone there. Two years wasn’t enough of an age gap for us I wish I would’ve known the struggles with it before hand. Love my babies though and I understand everyone’s situation is different.
So sad seeing Julius talk about his grandfather 😢 I can relate because my grandfather is my world and he passed away when I was 9. It’s been almost 20 years without him. You guys have to stop being so hard on yourselves you have your own personal lives to manage and also social media and your family. Give yourself some grace because I am. You guys are doing the damn thing! ❤ sometimes you have to take breaks because when you come back you will come harder. You don’t have to explain anything to anyone.
My kids are exactly two years apart and before I got pregnant for the 2nd time I had the same worries! It’s hard at first BUT this is now our new more and their bond is so cute! I have siblings and I can’t imagine traveling through life without them!
Really enjoyed listening to y’all!!!! Just recently started watching y’all again after I was taking a break from other social media and you guys are super refreshing. Hope y’all are enjoying Dallas and if you ever want to go to church you should come to Social Dallas! Also the Reddit story made me think y’all should give your opinion on stories your subscribers submit. Anywho y’all keep it up and keep being you, it matters! 💗
My goals are to be a better mom. I work from the time they get up to the time they're laying in bed. When I get home I don't wanna do anything don't wanna hear about these stories. I don't wanna read bed time stories I wanna lay down for the next morning. I feel bad. I need to redirect my energy. Feel like I need a break to help myself figure this out. I feel so guilty and will continue to work on this
Destiny being pregnant was the best and just the man Julius is was amazing to watch. Take your times guys I’m along for the ride have been apart of the juju and des fam for what seems like forever 🤎🥰
It’s not negative to share your feelings about death or loss - it’s a reality and it shows you are REAL ! It also will show you are human . . . Everyone goes through things differently, but I’m sure times in the car or when alone memories will bring a tear ! And it’s ok to cry or be angry . . . So happy you understand his pain is over, and knowing you are not selfish.
I was a teen mom had my first son at 15 and my daughter at 17, I’m 32 now and have a 5 year old son soon to be 6 but there’s a big gap between the older ones and I always told myself I would have my 4th child before my youngest was 3 so they could grow up together and I feel so bad because my almost 6 year old literally acts way older then he is because he’s only around my two teenagers I won’t be having a 4th because I feel I’m to old now and it’s a little to late for my youngest to actually grow up with a baby. My older two are only two years apart but the downfall to that was that they are the opposite sex and have nothing in common. I would definitely recommend you guys having another child sooner then later, May god bless you guys. I enjoy listening to yalls podcasts
With all the sudden events and changes (both good and bad) that they’ve gone through in such a short amount of time, I can’t imagine how Julius COULD be completely himself. It’s human nature for him to be thrown off and I think you’re right, he needs some time to process and emotionally deal with everything that’s happened. I know men don’t like to deal with their emotions but if they don’t, the emotions WILL come out in some way, and it’s harder that way to deal with at that point.
Marriage is a blessing from God, which makes you both, one flesh. The most vulnerable with God firstly, and one another secondly. Scripture says: "two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, and has not another to lift him up." - Ecclesiastes I'm sure you both know your situation best, but never lose sight that being loving towards one another, means helping one another while accepting needing to be helped by one another. Processing is a process - that requires patience from both ends, but also honesty throughout it all. If a song brings back memories on the car ride home, even if it's a glimpsed memory, talk about it. If you feel like you're going to cry a storm, let it out, because sunshine starts when the storm moves forward and out. If you're around your child and feel uncomfortable with him seeing a whole breakdown emotionally, possibly make the time somehow to adapt to the circumstance and prioritize honesty and emotional expression even in those moments by pulling over or moving to the next room to talk. Stoic masculinity is a strength for a husband to have, but make sure that quality is balanced with feeling out honestly with the wife God has blessed you with. God will bring healing. Be honest with God as well. You're not giving away your hurt by opening those doors, you're allowing someone who is in the position to be able to carry that weight, to help you with it. God is not us as humans, but sharing your hurt with him isn't giving him hurt for him to hurt, it's letting him carry that hurt away off of you. In that sense of reflection, since God is perfect, and blesses you with a marriage spouse, and we can do good through him, I'm sure God would want to help you, and use your wife (or husband) who is in the position to help you, to help you. Vise versa, same thing. That's why it's so important to love others as yourself and always put yourselves in their shoes, honestly. If Destiny wasn't expressing herself in major hurt, it wouldn't bring good things. You'd know in that moment she isn't passing her hurt to you, she'd instead be relying on you, you'd want her to rely on you in that moment, and for you to be able to give love in the form. In a sense, being loving is being what you expect for yourself in these ways. Don't force the process. Again patience is always acceptable, but honesty in those moments are always a given, and since only you know when you need to feel things out, try to recognize to do so, if you have not already, and it could help. I pray God blessed you both and your family with healing and happiness.
My goals are to start workout to lose weight which I have & I’m doing great so far 😊, take more care of my hair & my skin care, stop stressing myself out & stop worrying to much about things I can’t control, be more organized, be more productive, make more money, & to learn how to trust God more leave everything in his hands and to be more patient ☺️💕
Love that you were talking about your grandpa but at the same time des wants to be their for you and she’s your wife it’s hurts her even more to not let her in. Don’t hold to that burden. It’s okay to talk about your emotions. I enjoyed watching this and the transparency ❤️
I have 3 kids and my youngest 2 boys are apart by 1 1/2 years and I LOVE the bound they have. The best decision we made they have a best friend bound love it. Definitely recommend it! ❤
I enjoyed a podcast that was actually relatable… I’m also a young parent who is working hard for my kids and learning to be financially responsible 😊♥️🤞🏽God bless you !!!
Julius you need to bring the mic more up the way your slouched over and looking at the camera looks uncomfortable. But overall love your podcast. I've been thinking of leaving to Texas with my family also from south florida but I don't want to leave my mom or brother lol
Don’t be so hard on yourselves ❤ y’all are doing SO MUCH
1. You started a kids clothing business
2. You purchased your OWN home
3. You moved thousands of miles
4. You are raising a baby so amazing
5. You record content for UA-cam
6. You record content for Tik Tok/Facebook/Ig
Y’all are doing AMAZING
Perfectly said! ❤ I hope they read your comment.
It's too much
also had their own SHEIN line!
They really are the 1% of people that have that motivation
What’s their kids clothing business?
Julius open up to your wife more. We are not meant to carry all of our burdens alone. “Carry one another’s burdens, in this way you’ll fulfill the law of Christ”. Losing your grandfather is an extremely traumatic event to happen in your life and it’s crucial that you lean on your wife especially when she’s practically begging you to. You’ll feel better and more light. Love you guys!! I’m glad the podcast is back.
Julius talking about his grandfather was very emotional! You can tell he's holding in a lot of pain.
He’s definitely hurt I’m praying for him❤️
I agree. Definitely made me cry bc I lost my grandpa to COVID in 2020 and I still have so much anger and hurt and don’t know how to release it😓
@@esmealvarez2170 I'm praying for your healing 🙏🏽
@@adriennet3606 thank you 🙏🏻❤️
I felt like he already felt the pain and like anything else that’s deep it always going to sting especially if it’s so soon. He was talking really mature and calmly so he’s coming from obviously sad but not super emotional like he was saying he probably dealt with it and internalized it already which is a great way to cope to just be real about it all. It does nothing to victimize yourself and make yourself suffer. I’m sure he cried it out and mourned by now and it’s a process that is taken day by day.
I'm glad to see you guys again!
Julius, there is nothing wrong with letting it out, bro. Cry that shit out, it really helps. You need to share your emotions with your partner. You're not bringing your problems to your girl she's there to be your support, be that shoulder to lean on.
Every time I hear Julius talk about his grandpa it brings me to tears, I lost my grandpa 3 years ago January 7 2020, and he practically raised me and my sisters and it was the hardest thing ever. It still is. My best advice is to feel your feelings and cope how every you see fit. Talk to him, pray to him, and just know you’ll always have someone guiding you on the other side and your possibilities will be endless 🙏❤️
And also just a word to Juju;
A problem shared is half solved. You really don't have to carry all your burdens alone cause otherwise it beats the point of marriage and having a life companion. I know it's easier said than done but even if you won't feel 100% relieved you'll feel a difference confiding in your wife. Fuck all that toxic masculinity/societal norms , it's okay to cry as a man. Let all that shit out.
Peace & blessings to you guys 🙏🙏🙏
After having 4 kids, her points about adding another baby/kid to the mix are very valid. I remember trying to feed my 2nd baby, and my oldest was 4 at the time. I couldn't just get up and go play with him, and I had a c-section. My 4 year old at the time looked at me with tears in his eyes and said I didn't care about him. Of course, I got up and held him and tried explaining everything to him and letting him help with the baby, but they're so young they don't really understand, and it's so hard on them. I'll never forget how he felt. 🥺
103 days? Wow , it doesn’t seem that long. So excited for this! Welcome back. Ngl I missed the podcast the knowledge and the real topics had me locked in every episode. Y’all so dope 🔥
Destiny got me crying too talking about Julius and his grandpa 🥹
Currently crying at that part right now😢
I just had my 2nd born almost 3 weeks ago and I didn’t expect this topic to pop up. I definitely miss when it was just me and my 1st and feel mom guilt. He’s 5yrs old and it’s been a whole new transition for us all but at the same time so worth it watching their bond grow more each day.
I personally don’t have kids but Destiny, what you were talking about having a second baby and the shift in attention is super valid! It’ll be okay though!
Also, you guys already show us your everyday lives, but this podcast was so vulnerable and I just wanted to say thank you for sharing! ❤
Juju, hearing Papa passed broke my heart for you. I know from watching you for years now how close you were to him. And seeing the horrible comments people were making was really making me mad. I have been praying for you because I know this has been a very difficult time for you. I knew that Des would be there for you throughout the process because she is just a beautiful person and a phenomenal wife. I remember how supportive and loving she was when you lost Cairie ( sorry if I misspelled his name)
Well said ❤ agreed
When I was pregnant I definitely felt sad because my big baby was no longer gunna be my only baby (she was 6 at the time lol) but once you see your kids interacting it’s just the best thing ever
It's so beautiful seeing your kids play together and they learn so much from eachother. I got pregnant when my first was 1 1/2 and they are so perfect together
So happy you all were so honest about money and being smarter about ownership and spending!
You two being so young and managing it all while n LA - IK this move will make it even better - having funds put aside for savings and when you want to expand your family it doesn’t cost as much …. Thanks for sharing ! You all will make your house the cool crib even for Koa and all his friends
Des your humility is refreshing, never stop being you1
I love how honest these conversations are. You can see that even you two are learning about each other as you speak and it’s so beautiful. I will never meet you in real life but I love having you part of mine ❤❤❤
When I brought home my second baby, my first born looked at me and cried so deeply and I just KNEW that his little feelings were hurt. I cried and held him. He didn’t expect the “new baby” to come home with us. And yes unfortunately I did start treating my oldest bigger than he was. Something I regret so so so bad.
Yesssssssss I am ready for yall to have another baby as well. Team girl this go around. Koko is a dadas boy 100%
Grief is something I think we learn to live with and not wait till it’s over. Your grandpa will always be apart of you it’s okay to cry here and there and let it out in healthy ways. God bless you guys lean on each other and above all love each other so much ❤.
My first born was very clingy and needed a lot of attention and still is and still does (she's two and a half) I had my second when my first was 15 months old. It was challenging but oh so rewarding! Watching them grow up together and love each other is the absolute best. My girls are now 2 and a half and 15 months old
When I had my daughter I was so sad and literally cried when I introduced my son to my daughter. I felt soo guilty and felt like he felt a little abandoned. I tried my best to put him first and make him feel special all of the time. Eventually you grow from it and they build a bond that you enjoy seeing.
😢😢 Julius was so uncomfortable talking about his grandpa, I could feel the pain and emotions within him even though he didn’t express it. 💙
Koa wanted everybody to know he was on the plane😂💀 & a beautiful mini Des or Juju again HERE FOR IT y’all are such awesome parents!!!❤
The podcast was great! As for diggy you can consult with a dog therapist or dog expert in texas to help you with techniques to stop doodle from doing that. In my own dog mom experience you have to teach the new dog since the beginning that diggy was there first. They are both males dogs and male dominance will take over as a bad habit. If you decide to do this you can share this with us and vlog or podcast about would be a great topic for any dog parents who are listening and watching...but dont be so hard on yourselfs you are young and accomplishing lots of beautiful positive things that most people your age dont have the courage to do. Been with you guys since day one and seeing your personal growth has been amazing!!! Keep it up!!!
Just an FYI from a born and raised Texan, y'all are gonna wanna start on that pool ASAP bc summers in TX with no water therapy quickly accessable are RIDICULOUS. 🤣
If you're going through something and have someone to talk to that will also hold loving space for you, definitely do so. Don't ever feel like you have to go through hard times alone or carry heavy weight alone. It's okay to open up and be vulnerable. Not only will it make the one who is hurting feel so much better but it will also improve the relationship you have with the other person, making y'all feel closer together.
not me sipping my wine rubbing my feet😂🥰it’s a vibeee
I love how when yall talk about the studio I can also go back to my life during that time. It’s crazy I remember thinking like they’re gonna get big, this is it. Seeing it is so amazing just because of the people you are. I’m so glad you guys will always have the studio apartment to reflect on and are able to say we made it. It gives me so much motivation myself honestly. Knowing you aren’t even at your peak. I love yall fr no cappp. I dont even comment on videos but yall are so genuine and easy going I’m so glad you guys are started back up on here. Nothing but love and prosperity 🫶🏼
I love this podcast so much, I’m so glad y’all finally posted here. I’ve been around for the long hall, since Ju first got on UA-cam, your family channel and I love that I’ve been able to watch this full journey & support ! Look where y’all are now having your own little family & giving him the best life with both parents! #growth ❤
I relate to the Reddit story. I’m the oldest and have a younger sister that’s 19 years old (his biological daughter) My stepdad charged me $350 for my room in their house plus Wi-Fi, and all of my other expenses. If something broke down in the house he would tell me to pay half, like if the washing machine broke I would have to pay. Mind you I was paycheck to paycheck. she works but doesn’t pay ANYTHING. No rent, no phone bill, no insurance nothing. I come from a Mexican household so growing up at age 6 I had to translate everything because I was the older child. When I got older I had to put everything in my name, cars, insurance, phone service everything. I had to step up for everything. I moved out and live with my husband and they still call me so I can translate and do things for them and my 19 year old sister does nothing. They rather call me than rely on the daughter that they have living in their house for free
Ridiculous. This is similar to my story. My oldest sister was put on a pedestal and my parents only ask me for money and to help with translating and filling out forms and job applications and she doesn’t have to do any of that and they think of her so highly.
My husband went through something similar, and I don't know your feelings, the entirety of the situation, or how you are solving it, but if not already - try being happy for your sister. She is your younget sister, high emphasis on younger*, it doesn't feel great to be in the middle of family issues and have to judge off everyone else's judgment - because she hasn't stepped out of the home to form her own true relationships/understandings of everyone including you and your parents, and even of herself and her relationships with her parents. Everyone has their issues, even your sister who you think has it easier than you did. She has it harder in ways you might not understand, not to invalidate what you went through, but I would hope you don't perceive her as someone who has it easy in life just because she doesnt have the same struggles as you specifically, because everyone is growing from something. Which is why it's extremely important to have a supportive and loving older sister who's happy for you, encourages you in discovering who you are and doesn't judge, compare, or condemn off their personal experiences of growing up.
Comparing will only take the joy out of your guys' relationship, and it will be evident, even if you try to hide it. Be happy for her, and maybe try seeing the gold in the dirt. You parents didn't love you less. As a parent myself, you cannot love any kid less than the other. Your step-dad is a whole other story, but your mom, whatever she allowed or didn't allow I don't think affected her love for you as less than your sister.
In forgiving your parents, you can still have boundaries with them. Forgiveness is for yourself, for empathy towards them, and for a peaceful loving relationship with your sister. Boundaries can still be in place, in hopes for a better relationship. Assuming by your comment, it doesn't seem you have a joyful relationship with your parents. Your mom probably picks up on that, because regardless she does know you emotionally to some degree, and you never know, sometimes parents are Prideful and don't want to outfront acknowledge they messed up, and it's sad- but see the gold by seeing maybe your mom understands she messed up with your step-dad, maybe they both understand, and they try to give you sister a better life from learning from their relationship with you, which sucks and doesn't seem fair, but if you stare at everything wrong nothing will ever grow to be right. I would just be happy your sister is living the way you would have appreciated, and appreciate the lessons you learned from your own path, and appreciate your sisters path and be loving towards her, and help her in the ways she needs help from a loving eye not a comparing/condemning/jealous one. Not to say your jealous, but that's what comparison by default ends up bringing. It's easier said than done, but be there for your younger sister and know that you're loved, try to see the gold in the dirt.
Maybe you already do all this, and I'm sorry I don't want to speak out of turn, but I've gone through something similar with my older sister, and my husband also went through something like this and unhealed hurt just spreads hurt. I don't know your faith, but we believe we get our healing from God. Try praying to God for clarity, help, wisdom, on how to approach boundaries with your family, and how to be loving.
I once read in scripture sometimes God surrounds us with unloving people to teach us how to be loving.
It's easy to love people who love you, and be good to those who do good to you. Even evil people do that. But to do be loving, and merciful and kind to those that don't like you, patient to those who are struggling with being loving towards you when you know better than they do, is love and mercy and kindness. Essentially two wrongs don't make a right in the totality of life. And if you ever need to talk to someone reach out to God, but you can also reach out to me! :))
@@mrscool03 with all due respect, that’s not the case with my parents. They are not “trying to learn from their mistakes” I moved out a couple months ago. We we’re both in the same household, both working full time jobs but I was the only one paying rent and anything else that they wanted to charge me. This started since I was 15 years old paying bills. I spoke to my parents about this and my step dad says that his daughter will not be paying rent until she decides to move out of their house. My mother said that she’s not getting involved because my step dad is the one making money and whatever he says goes. As for a relationship with my sister, there isn’t one really. It’s 3 of us, me and 2 other sisters. The 19 year old has always told me that that I’m not her real blood sister and she only speaks to me when she needs my help. My 2 sister are a clique and I’m the outsider and it’s been that way because I don’t like confrontation or fighting so they have said those things to me and I try to ignore it and keep my head down
@Tima Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. You are loved, despite the horrible flaws of others. I'm happy God blesses you with a husband, and in that, a family of your own that you can grow from all this and create good change.
I know you might truly not want to hear this, but there is hope even in horrible times, with people doing horrible things.
Still be loving to your sister, and your family, from the stand-pointed boundary you feel safe in. Being loving looks like a lot of things.
You know, despite your sister being rude and hurtful and denying you, that you are sisters.
You know it hurts you to be treated as not a sister, because you are sisters.
Being loving could simply mean, not denying they are your sisters even when they deny you, because you know better in being loving, and how it's hurtful to be in that loop.
Being loving could mean understanding even though they've grown to make their own choices, they're young still and under the heavy influence of your parents, and being loving could just simply mean, hoping for change at a safe distance.
I will tell you this now though, you have all your lives to live out. If you all live to 100, that's 100 years of change.
Being hopeful for that change, doesn't mean you necessarily expect it, but you can hope because I'm sure you know this, you're not the same person you were at 19 or younger.
Nobody stays the same unless the actively try to allllll those years. It may suck, and you may feel like giving up, and are entirely justified in giving up on the relationship and not caring for boundaries and just cutting them out - but, maybe one day when they're 40 or 30, they'll grow and realize how wrong they were and want to do better, and if you remain loving, the relationship can grow from there, only if you want that.
But if you give up on the bare minimum of hope and love towards them, again you don't have to spend every day talking to them, but be loving and hopeful towards them in your heart- if you give up on that, and hold resentment in your heart, nothing gets better.
We've had family do us very wrong, almost in the same forms, I'm not forcing myself onto them, neither is my husband, but we try to be merciful, and loving. Because at one point or another we all deeply, deeply mess up and thats the grace of knowing we all deserve a chance, salvation.
Yahshua (I call Jesus by his herbew name), as an example, he never forced himself onto anyone, many people hated him, but he never hated anyone.
If he one day was like screw all of you, I'm not going to forgive because I'm justified, and he was justified, and cut everyone off, nobody would receive repentance or forgiveness, or grace, or mercy in these ways. Not everyone ended up having the best relationship with him, but he never gave up on anyone and in that- good came, and those who did end up changing or sticking around, recieved ane valued the depth of his love.
In the same way, you don't have to force yourself onto them, you don't have to open all your arms and let yourself be abused and used without boundaries, but make sure the hurt you experienced doesn't make you become the same way towards anyone else, and even towards them.
You won't be hurting forever, people will value your loving efforts thanks to you not giving up on hope and love, you will have a loving family whether it's from them, of from the lessons you've learned from them and change with your own family, and I'm sure God see's you, and won't forsake you, and good will come from all this. I'm also sure if you ask God, and seek him, he will help you throughout all this because only God knows how deeply you've been hurt, and only God knows what you need for your healing. I appreciate you sharing and I hope my words don't seem out of pocket, you do what you want with it all, but if you ever want a friend to talk to you I'm here! :)
Ugh lol there's so many typos I feel, but I hope you get what I mean☺️
I always try to tell people the newborn stage is the BESTTTT they don’t understand until they DO UNDERSTAND 😂😂😂 I so agree with you Des!!
Thank u for being transparent in all areas! Especially in financial moves.
I feel sorry for Diggy 🐶. I was wondering why we don’t see Diggy. Put Doodle in his place. 😂 I love You guys 💕💕
I can’t stand that dog 😂😂😭😭 I know that’s really mean but a dog can’t be that damn annoying and hyper all the time
I totally relate to treating your 1st born older even though they’re a baby as well. You WILL miss giving them your undivided attention, but watching them play together and create their own little bond makes up for it ❤
Loved this podcast and topic 🤎 It is very important for even men to show emotions because there’s only so much to keep inside and it could also result in other mental health issues. It’s important to show your children that it is OKAY to be vulnerable and get help with certain things because you want them to do the same.
Love these heart to heart conversations. Currently trying to grow my UA-cam channel along with my other platforms, and starting off is a struggle, I defiently grasp every piece of advice you guys give!
Also seeing you guys evolve to better people is so heart warming, I wish you both the best always!
It’s scary how relatable this is to my life right now !!!! IM FEELING EVERY BIT OF THIS EPISODE 🤍
I love how you guys have grown up, you guys truly love unconditionally love the podcast
Can someone please count how many times Julius said “we now live in Texas” within the first 10 mins LMFAO 🤣
I feel like I can relate to Julius talking about his grandpa , I lost my dad when I was 15 & I am 22 now. I just feel like I never had a person to actually sit down & talk about it but if I did I don’t like doing it. It makes me feel like people think I want attention & that’s what I don’t like even til this day I don’t talk about it. People say time heals everything but I’m still here hurt as if it was just today I lost him.
You talking about it will give you some release and a little tiny bit of relief, trust me! Time heals nothing 😢 what you do with that time determines if you can begin to heal or not. Sadly, this is all coming from experience. 😞
When Juju was talking about his fried rice being the best in the world and Destiny said "Not that day" I lost it 😂😂😂
Been loving the episodes so far on the podcast. A suggestion of probably what would add more to it is if you have a segment where you answer questions from your supporters like an "Ask Juju & Des" type thing preferably towards the end of the pod before signing out. That'd be dope.
Something I’ve realized with my husband is that men process things VERY differently than women. He may not get teary eyed around you but you can tell he’s hurting. Just make sure to love on him Des 💜 doing things that his Grandpa loved is always a great way to remember him. Go back to Hawaii and have that Vodka Cranberry
My grandma passed away in 2020. I’ve lived with my grandparents since before I can even remember. I moved out a few months before she passed. I still grieve so bad but having my husband in my corner has helped SO much.
Y’all are awesome and are doing great 💜💜
P.S let me hold $5 LOL
Has it been that long? It doesn't feel that long. But yall are more than worth the wait. I really loved yesterday's vlog on the main channel one of my favorites from yall. 🥰🥰🥰
I am so excited for the couple things podcast to be back I love you all you guys to speak facts and real-life issues I want to start by saying again I'm so sorry to do for your grandfather just want to say you guys are kicking by each and every day you do more and more and bigger and bigger things and it's such a blessing to watch you guys on this journey I've seen you guys since your studio apartment to now and it's such a blessing I have so many bills it's ridiculous usually what it comes down to paying bills I sit down and try to outweigh which ones are necessity and which ones I can wait for a little while because being a widowed single mom now working so many hours but nothing to show for has been really tough and prioritizing food bills and lifestyle and stuff me and my kids never get to go out and do anything I never get to buy a brand-new clothes it sucks but I know it's going to humble my children to see that you have to work your butt off to get good things
I love Des voice it’s so relaxing and sweet ❤
MA SHA ALLĀH!!!!! Love you guys so much and always praying for you guys!
2023 for me:
1. PRAY
2. LEARN HOW TO CONTROL/LET GO OF MY ANXIETY
3. Be more active and driven in everything
4. Expand my knowledge on things I think I already know and things I don’t
3. Be more present for myself (I give and give and forget me sometimes)
5. Allow myself to feel what I need to and not be harsh with myself about it, and also not stay in that same feeling whether it’s happy, sad, mad, excited etc! Find balance!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you guys for everything you do! Can’t wait to support and witness every growth, every blessing, ever step you guys take!! 🥹🥹🥹 XOXOXOXO
you’re SOOOO loved
-from a supporter in SLC, UTAH :)
More life yaaaah
Okay i must say I am SO happy you guys are back on this podcast.
This is my favorite podcast!
So real and transparent i love it!
It just flows and i love that about this podcast!
I’m crying from laughing at this Taco Bell story 😂
I missed you guys! I feel you guys on the life is short and you just have to live everyday to the fullest.. I lost my little brother last month too he was 20. And that was such a huge loss I’m still dealing with it but we put into our heads that the older people go first and we kinda think whoever is our age or young they still have so much more time and sadly this wasn’t the case. I wanna make it a effort to be close to everyone and make memories because no one knows when our time is up and we just can’t be left with regrets. I’m 24 for he was really young to lose. Thank you guys for speaking on that and we just have to keep moving forward Julius and your right live and see the world like our lost ones did. My brother lived to the fullest and was happy. Someone took his life sadly but those last moments he was enjoying himself with friends and happy. We have to live that way and enjoy. Wish all the strength and happiness for you both and to continue because that’s all we have ❤
Girllll yes I felt u when y’all talked about how he uses so many dishes and pots to cook. My bf does the same thing and doesn’t clean up or do the dishes. When I cook I’m cooking and cleaning smh lol Gota love em hahah
The only thing I could think about while Julius was talking about him dealing with his emotions alone, was the Tiktok sound “were you silent or were you silenced 🤨”. Sometimes we don’t realize that things we do are actually trauma responses and not “just the way I am” :/ Great job destiny for not pressuring him to share but still letting him know that you’re there if he changes his mind 🤍 love u guys so much
Absolutely 😢
Take it from a 41 year old with 18 year old son and 16 year old daughter.. you guys are doing it right! My mindset completely changed when my son was born. We did everything we could to buy a home to have a solid place to raise our kids and build up financial security. It’s not easy and it takes hard work, but we’re so far ahead of people our age. I don’t understand how so many influencers spend so much money to outdo each other. I get that image is part of their job but don’t put yourself in financial ruin to one up each other. Keep doing your thing for your family. Trust me, people are watching and they envy you.😉
Wow I enjoy these so much. Two of the sweetest souls keep the podcast going this helped me put me a good and relaxed mood for a big test tomorrow. Wish me luck thanks!
It was so nice to see another podcast! I missed them!
I just cleaned my house listening to your episode! I always need background noice while I clean but I always get over stimulated with the extra noise ? Lol but you both have the most soothing voices ! Appreciate y’all ❤️
Y’all should get some guests on the podcast would be lit ! 🔥
No wayyyy, i was watching your other podcast and how you guys where talking about LA and all that and I started thinking like I can see you guys in Texas , Texas fits you guys.❤️
Yea and you should really stop saying “I’m not going to lie”!!
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omg i’m so excited for you guys!!! been waiting sooo long for this i love these videos🥰
I feel like the podcast setting is perfect as it is. Very simple and looks like the perfect space for a podcast
Yes, reaching out is important & it makes a difference when reciprocity is given.
My bills in Kentucky are only a little over 2,000 a month. That’s including rent, utilities, groceries and car payment/car insurance
Omg! I’m so sorry Julius about your grandpa! Sending love and positive vibes❤ I loved watching him.
Yes des! Feeling guilty that your baby is the oldest and not your only baby anymore is a real thing, I went through it, it's like grieving your oldest baby stage. But it's normal the guilt will eventually go away 🤍
Mine are 2 years apart and it’s been really challenging and for them too having to share that attention and not really getting to be their own person because there’s always someone there. Two years wasn’t enough of an age gap for us I wish I would’ve known the struggles with it before hand. Love my babies though and I understand everyone’s situation is different.
So sad seeing Julius talk about his grandfather 😢 I can relate because my grandfather is my world and he passed away when I was 9. It’s been almost 20 years without him. You guys have to stop being so hard on yourselves you have your own personal lives to manage and also social media and your family. Give yourself some grace because I am. You guys are doing the damn thing! ❤ sometimes you have to take breaks because when you come back you will come harder. You don’t have to explain anything to anyone.
I have missed you guys so much! Glad you are back 😊
That makes me so sad for Diggy😢 maybe you guys should put Doodles outside just for a little bit and do one on one with Diggy guys🐶❤️
My kids are exactly two years apart and before I got pregnant for the 2nd time I had the same worries! It’s hard at first BUT this is now our new more and their bond is so cute! I have siblings and I can’t imagine traveling through life without them!
Really enjoyed listening to y’all!!!! Just recently started watching y’all again after I was taking a break from other social media and you guys are super refreshing. Hope y’all are enjoying Dallas and if you ever want to go to church you should come to Social Dallas!
Also the Reddit story made me think y’all should give your opinion on stories your subscribers submit.
Anywho y’all keep it up and keep being you, it matters! 💗
My goals are to be a better mom. I work from the time they get up to the time they're laying in bed. When I get home I don't wanna do anything don't wanna hear about these stories. I don't wanna read bed time stories I wanna lay down for the next morning. I feel bad. I need to redirect my energy. Feel like I need a break to help myself figure this out. I feel so guilty and will continue to work on this
I clicked so fast I been waiting for y’all !!! Ayeeee 🎉 I just poured my cup of wine . Just in time ❤
Destiny being pregnant was the best and just the man Julius is was amazing to watch. Take your times guys I’m along for the ride have been apart of the juju and des fam for what seems like forever 🤎🥰
Des be putting Julius on the spot the whole time😅
Love this couple! Love the vibes, podcast! Bless your beautiful family🙏🏽🤍
so happy to see you guys are back! missed the podcasts
It’s not negative to share your feelings about death or loss - it’s a reality and it shows you are REAL ! It also will show you are human . . . Everyone goes through things differently, but I’m sure times in the car or when alone memories will bring a tear ! And it’s ok to cry or be angry . . . So happy you understand his pain is over, and knowing you are not selfish.
So freaking HAPPY y'all are back!!!
I can always unwind listening to you guys!!
I was a teen mom had my first son at 15 and my daughter at 17, I’m 32 now and have a 5 year old son soon to be 6 but there’s a big gap between the older ones and I always told myself I would have my 4th child before my youngest was 3 so they could grow up together and I feel so bad because my almost 6 year old literally acts way older then he is because he’s only around my two teenagers I won’t be having a 4th because I feel I’m to old now and it’s a little to late for my youngest to actually grow up with a baby. My older two are only two years apart but the downfall to that was that they are the opposite sex and have nothing in common. I would definitely recommend you guys having another child sooner then later, May god bless you guys. I enjoy listening to yalls podcasts
Love watching yall❤️❤️Let me tell you. When des started crying i started tearing up because i could feel how she feels😢 yall truly love eachother
I’m excited you guys are back to posting in your podcast!
Julius doesn’t seem like himself 😔 he’s seems like he’s going through it. He needs some time for himself 🙏
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With all the sudden events and changes (both good and bad) that they’ve gone through in such a short amount of time, I can’t imagine how Julius COULD be completely himself. It’s human nature for him to be thrown off and I think you’re right, he needs some time to process and emotionally deal with everything that’s happened. I know men don’t like to deal with their emotions but if they don’t, the emotions WILL come out in some way, and it’s harder that way to deal with at that point.
That’s what she’s there for, Julius. Yea she’s emotional but it’s good to let things out. ❤❤
Marriage is a blessing from God, which makes you both, one flesh. The most vulnerable with God firstly, and one another secondly. Scripture says: "two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, and has not another to lift him up." - Ecclesiastes
I'm sure you both know your situation best, but never lose sight that being loving towards one another, means helping one another while accepting needing to be helped by one another. Processing is a process - that requires patience from both ends, but also honesty throughout it all.
If a song brings back memories on the car ride home, even if it's a glimpsed memory, talk about it. If you feel like you're going to cry a storm, let it out, because sunshine starts when the storm moves forward and out. If you're around your child and feel uncomfortable with him seeing a whole breakdown emotionally, possibly make the time somehow to adapt to the circumstance and prioritize honesty and emotional expression even in those moments by pulling over or moving to the next room to talk. Stoic masculinity is a strength for a husband to have, but make sure that quality is balanced with feeling out honestly with the wife God has blessed you with.
God will bring healing. Be honest with God as well. You're not giving away your hurt by opening those doors, you're allowing someone who is in the position to be able to carry that weight, to help you with it.
God is not us as humans, but sharing your hurt with him isn't giving him hurt for him to hurt, it's letting him carry that hurt away off of you.
In that sense of reflection, since God is perfect, and blesses you with a marriage spouse, and we can do good through him, I'm sure God would want to help you, and use your wife (or husband) who is in the position to help you, to help you. Vise versa, same thing.
That's why it's so important to love others as yourself and always put yourselves in their shoes, honestly.
If Destiny wasn't expressing herself in major hurt, it wouldn't bring good things. You'd know in that moment she isn't passing her hurt to you, she'd instead be relying on you, you'd want her to rely on you in that moment, and for you to be able to give love in the form. In a sense, being loving is being what you expect for yourself in these ways.
Don't force the process. Again patience is always acceptable, but honesty in those moments are always a given, and since only you know when you need to feel things out, try to recognize to do so, if you have not already, and it could help.
I pray God blessed you both and your family with healing and happiness.
Des you are such a beautiful person with such a beautiful soul so caring and gentle ❤
We missed you guys on the pod cast
hav no IDEA how w hav waited 4 this ....glad y r back n lets go
Y'all have idea how I was checking ur channel looking for new podcast, so glad y'all uploaded 💕💕
You guys just popped up on my feed for the first time! I love the name of your channel! ❤️🔥
My goals are to start workout to lose weight which I have & I’m doing great so far 😊, take more care of my hair & my skin care, stop stressing myself out & stop worrying to much about things I can’t control, be more organized, be more productive, make more money, & to learn how to trust God more leave everything in his hands and to be more patient ☺️💕
Omg this is so beautiful and I can resonate on all of this 🥺🫶
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Love that you were talking about your grandpa but at the same time des wants to be their for you and she’s your wife it’s hurts her even more to not let her in. Don’t hold to that burden. It’s okay to talk about your emotions. I enjoyed watching this and the transparency ❤️
Awwww I’m so sorry about your grandfather 😢.
Love y’all
I have 3 kids and my youngest 2 boys are apart by 1 1/2 years and I LOVE the bound they have. The best decision we made they have a best friend bound love it. Definitely recommend it! ❤
Julius is lucky, destiny really loves that man I have been with them since the studio apartment. It nice to have a partner who feels your pain.
awww I hope you guys still figure out how to give diggy love 🥺💗
I enjoyed a podcast that was actually relatable… I’m also a young parent who is working hard for my kids and learning to be financially responsible 😊♥️🤞🏽God bless you !!!
We bring our son everywhere to, 😂 it’s like you just love them and want to protect them. Lolol
Julius you need to bring the mic more up the way your slouched over and looking at the camera looks uncomfortable. But overall love your podcast. I've been thinking of leaving to Texas with my family also from south florida but I don't want to leave my mom or brother lol
I'm so happy to see URL back on the podcast
Can you guys go live when you do podcast.I think everyone would love that.