Attached most of my 20s and single all of my 30s. Now 41 n still single. I enjoy being single. I get to do things i like without a care what people's perceptions of me. I see friends and classmates my age who are married yet miserable, because they never got to discover who they are inside, which was something i only learnt from being single
I have been single until I was 27 when I matched with someone on a dating app. We got into a relationship and now, I am happily married to her. Currently, we are getting used to our new flat and lifestyles and on the whole, it has been fulfilling so far and the 2 of us split the household chores equally. My wife likes vacuuming and I do the laundry. One can be happy being single as well because you have more time and money to discover yourself. My sister is 37 this year and she's happily single, moved out and has her own place and freedom. She is able to make the effort to spend time with her friends. Single or in a relationship, you do you as long as you're happy.
@@dextercjr well you could marry someone who will never fulfill certain needs you realise you desire from a life partner. Like you might never have a deep connection and they may be quite distant. But you should in that case be looking for fulfillment in other ways - friends/hobbies. If you have codependency issues though you tend not to. But, I must say just having someone near you and having your physical needs met makes things easier.. for myself, it's much better than being single I'm sure.
@@yukisnoww ohh that potential truth bomb might sting a bit! 😂 well you know, sometimes you just have to power through till the end and make the best of your circumstances.
Yea, while being single/having multiple partners in your 20s and 30s is more fun, it means you may pay for it when you're older. You might be too fussy to make it work with anyone at that point.
@@mong771 Its not about the gdp, population etc. Its also having a partner whom you can love and reciprocate, and someone there for you when one is old and sick. Get the whole picture clear.
What I like about being singlehood is that I take it as a self-discovery journey, so I have a better bargaining power before going into my next relationship
These singles sure are better and having more fun.. but if they do start a family late, it will be a different experience. They will never experience forging a life together.
Not too sure there's negative annotations to singlehood. I have number of people around me who are single and we are mindful not to overstep our boundaries because it might just be a lifestyle that one adopts by choice or not. But one thing for sure, it's better to be single than to be in a toxic/ abusive relationship. Treat singlehood as a phase to rediscover and improve self. And by the way, I believe quite a number of local men of my generation are already doing a lot of housework and child caring in the household.
i dont mind being a house husband at all... i dont mind doing all the cleaning! i dont mind hand washing her bra's for her... i dont mind alot of things! just want her to acknowledge and appreciate all im doing for her without complaint!! and ur right i think our generation are more hands on rather then saying thats females work!
@@joshualee8151 even my older generation does 50%+ at home. It's not always in terms of vacuuming though. For myself it's in terms of having long hours to earn more and DIY home reno, maintenance and doing some of the cooking and cleaning.. these all count.
I've never even experience what it's like to date but i do want to date. BUT i'm afraid of the idea of getting married and i have a phobia of weddings/big gatherings it's just not a position i want to put myself in. So basically unless i can somehow find a partner that shares the same vibe that wants to date and have someone/a partner to spend time with and share storys and problems with each other without really any progress or intention to get married and have kids then that would be a miracle if not i'm perfectly fine remaining single it is what it is it's just not for everyone.
Ngl there are times I feel damn single when I see those who are attached but I can say 90% of SG/MY couples don't give me that vibe. It's mostly the overseas ones like tw,it,eu,jp that really hits you hardaf. Then again a RS is also 90% chore 10% happiness, maybe I don't like anyone enough yet but the trade isn't exactly worthwhile for now..
Hehe agree.. includes abcs too (Asians brought up in eu / states), Taiwanese and Vietnamese too (especially uk/us educated) are good. Dated women from these backgrounds and there are more flirty , warm, girly girl , supportive moments vs sg's criticism, complaints boyishness , demands etc =p MYs not bad la. Close runner up to above
I think only meeting people introduced through friends is boring. And those types of cliquey groups would find an outsider without similar friend circles odd. But I guess that's what the masses are like.
I don't understand this lack of 'freedom' when you are in a relationship. I understand that when you have kids, you lose freedom, but with relationships aren't you FREE to CHOOSE to spend time with your partner? 'Answering' to your partner is not an obligation, you communicate with them openly because you want to share your life with them.
Why SG ruling party "pro-family" ? Imagine each single purchased a 3 room or bigger public housing, each occupy a floor space of 65 sqm. If 2 single married, will share a 3 room or bigger public housing. This lead to more living space for importing more thankful new citizens to increase the population to .....
Have you ever heard the expression, the road to hell is paved with good intentions? I accidentally stumbled upon this podcast and blimey, I was simply not prepared for what came my way for the next 32 minutes. No, I'm not talking about the heavy toll that the language inflicted on me both phonetically and grammatically, which it most certainly did, but the sheer banalities these two seemingly successful adult women were trying to pass off as informed and good intentioned advice. It is extremely unfortunate that by pedalling this stuff they are not only causing irreparable damage to their audience/viewers whom they think they're helping but also unmindfully perpetuating the very notions and beliefs that need to be demolished and junked. As long as we are subjected to the tyranny of this school of thought, perfectly normal singles in Singapore will continue to suffer its pernicious consequences of isolation and extreme loneliness which are completely avoidable.
Attached most of my 20s and single all of my 30s. Now 41 n still single. I enjoy being single. I get to do things i like without a care what people's perceptions of me. I see friends and classmates my age who are married yet miserable, because they never got to discover who they are inside, which was something i only learnt from being single
I have been single until I was 27 when I matched with someone on a dating app. We got into a relationship and now, I am happily married to her. Currently, we are getting used to our new flat and lifestyles and on the whole, it has been fulfilling so far and the 2 of us split the household chores equally. My wife likes vacuuming and I do the laundry.
One can be happy being single as well because you have more time and money to discover yourself. My sister is 37 this year and she's happily single, moved out and has her own place and freedom. She is able to make the effort to spend time with her friends.
Single or in a relationship, you do you as long as you're happy.
"I feel that being single, makes me feel a little bit empty sometimes"
Agree
And being married you can experience the same.
@@hannesRSA Legit?
@@dextercjr well you could marry someone who will never fulfill certain needs you realise you desire from a life partner. Like you might never have a deep connection and they may be quite distant. But you should in that case be looking for fulfillment in other ways - friends/hobbies. If you have codependency issues though you tend not to.
But, I must say just having someone near you and having your physical needs met makes things easier.. for myself, it's much better than being single I'm sure.
@@hannesRSA it's called being trapped
@@yukisnoww ohh that potential truth bomb might sting a bit! 😂 well you know, sometimes you just have to power through till the end and make the best of your circumstances.
the only thing bad about being single is feeling lonely occasionally. but thats it, after a while ur living life like normal
That's true for some, but as an introvert like myself, that loneliness doesn't exist for me so I guess it depends on the person.
@@0fficialselena__90 I agree
There are times when being single is better than being with the wrong one. It makes life tougher :)
Yea, while being single/having multiple partners in your 20s and 30s is more fun, it means you may pay for it when you're older. You might be too fussy to make it work with anyone at that point.
That's the problem Singapore and some advanced countries is facing, population is declining due to self individual interest and self centered.
@@thamandy8274 no one gives a fuck about increasing population for gdp and the country. Whats the point
@@mong771 Its not about the gdp, population etc. Its also having a partner whom you can love and reciprocate, and someone there for you when one is old and sick. Get the whole picture clear.
@@thamandy8274 you don't need to settle down to have a fulfilled life. Its about having choices mate
What I like about being singlehood is that I take it as a self-discovery journey, so I have a better bargaining power before going into my next relationship
These singles sure are better and having more fun.. but if they do start a family late, it will be a different experience. They will never experience forging a life together.
Not too sure there's negative annotations to singlehood. I have number of people around me who are single and we are mindful not to overstep our boundaries because it might just be a lifestyle that one adopts by choice or not.
But one thing for sure, it's better to be single than to be in a toxic/ abusive relationship. Treat singlehood as a phase to rediscover and improve self.
And by the way, I believe quite a number of local men of my generation are already doing a lot of housework and child caring in the household.
i dont mind being a house husband at all... i dont mind doing all the cleaning! i dont mind hand washing her bra's for her... i dont mind alot of things! just want her to acknowledge and appreciate all im doing for her without complaint!! and ur right i think our generation are more hands on rather then saying thats females work!
@@joshualee8151 even my older generation does 50%+ at home. It's not always in terms of vacuuming though. For myself it's in terms of having long hours to earn more and DIY home reno, maintenance and doing some of the cooking and cleaning.. these all count.
hush podcast girls hitting the right topics yet again!
I've never even experience what it's like to date but i do want to date. BUT i'm afraid of the idea of getting married and i have a phobia of weddings/big gatherings it's just not a position i want to put myself in. So basically unless i can somehow find a partner that shares the same vibe that wants to date and have someone/a partner to spend time with and share storys and problems with each other without really any progress or intention to get married and have kids then that would be a miracle if not i'm perfectly fine remaining single it is what it is it's just not for everyone.
Ngl there are times I feel damn single when I see those who are attached but I can say 90% of SG/MY couples don't give me that vibe. It's mostly the overseas ones like tw,it,eu,jp that really hits you hardaf. Then again a RS is also 90% chore 10% happiness, maybe I don't like anyone enough yet but the trade isn't exactly worthwhile for now..
Hehe agree.. includes abcs too (Asians brought up in eu / states), Taiwanese and Vietnamese too (especially uk/us educated) are good. Dated women from these backgrounds and there are more flirty , warm, girly girl , supportive moments vs sg's criticism, complaints boyishness , demands etc =p
MYs not bad la. Close runner up to above
I think only meeting people introduced through friends is boring. And those types of cliquey groups would find an outsider without similar friend circles odd. But I guess that's what the masses are like.
We need a new episode soonnn! It’s been one month too long for me hahaha
IT'S COMING SOON! Thank you so much for waiting! 😘😘
I don't understand this lack of 'freedom' when you are in a relationship. I understand that when you have kids, you lose freedom, but with relationships aren't you FREE to CHOOSE to spend time with your partner? 'Answering' to your partner is not an obligation, you communicate with them openly because you want to share your life with them.
Haha I am a single, but I like to spend time alone more....
Why SG ruling party "pro-family" ? Imagine each single purchased a 3 room or bigger public housing, each occupy a floor space of 65 sqm. If 2 single married, will share a 3 room or bigger public housing. This lead to more living space for importing more thankful new citizens to increase the population to .....
Have you ever heard the expression, the road to hell is paved with good intentions? I accidentally stumbled upon this podcast and blimey, I was simply not prepared for what came my way for the next 32 minutes. No, I'm not talking about the heavy toll that the language inflicted on me both phonetically and grammatically, which it most certainly did, but the sheer banalities these two seemingly successful adult women were trying to pass off as informed and good intentioned advice. It is extremely unfortunate that by pedalling this stuff they are not only causing irreparable damage to their audience/viewers whom they think they're helping but also unmindfully perpetuating the very notions and beliefs that need to be demolished and junked. As long as we are subjected to the tyranny of this school of thought, perfectly normal singles in Singapore will continue to suffer its pernicious consequences of isolation and extreme loneliness which are completely avoidable.
nah humans are not meant to be single. we yearn for that companionship. You either want to be in a rs or dont want. Nth about single and happiness..
Weird take since family and friends can provide companionship
Biologically, women after 35 years old, conceives rate and the percentage to get of healthy babies will decrease.