I used to think they would be good to date too but you have to remind yourself that he took her children that means he wasn't very good at finding a suitable partner because if he really was reliable his wife wouldn't have left him she may of gotten arrested or she had some kind of mental impairment and couldn't support them because she was homeless or couch surfing they knock up women they don't care about and they always assume custody is going right to the mother not if that mother doesnt have enough finances like him to take care of it. If she was a local Hooters waitress or a stripper or rapper, food worker or cashier sometimes those women have the option to opt out of being a mother because we are usually more vulnerable than career women it's the career women they should be knocking up not women that ride the bus and work side gigs or women that work in the sex industry that can also be dangerous for a child to grow up in if there always traveling, going to concerts and on the road.
Yikes this is my brother. He’s a single dad now and goes through relationships like a whirlwind. I genuinely think he needs someone to take care of him and his kid, like a free babysitter and maid. The rough part is that my nephew keeps getting introduced early on only for these women to fall in and out of his life. I just can’t imagine that’s good for him!
It’s NOT!! 😵💫😤😤 sis you really need to have a heart to heart with him and let him know it’s not a good thing to bring all these women around his son! It’s bad to introduce every woman you messing with to him. He will think this is normal behavior and constantly leads to abandonment issues that all these women come and go 😢
I'll tell you why because im not a free babysitter, if im not the MAIN priority im no priority at all. It's not selfish it's called standards for what I want out of MY life. If they ended up long term, every holiday, every birthday, ect. Is gonna either be spent as a third wheel to accommodating their broken relationship, or alone while they "bond with their family/child" and im not doing it. Ever. If I want kids with that man there's always gonna be that other half of a family and it's not my style. I want all my siblings to be 100% related. I was raised by a broken family with little stragglers from other marriages, and I don't want any of that in my future kids lives. I'm still recovering from decades of nonsense
“He’s out of my league” THIS is where it went wrong. Not his terrible boundaries, not his questionable parenting… get this woman some self-esteem stat!
He was out of her league “looks wise”. She was realistic because she knows she’s average which is ok. Her being childfree when he has a kid actually makes her out of his league.
Ladies, know the difference between a man who wants you in his life to build and raise the kids or a woman that's going to raise his kid and care for the home but want no emotional connection or bond with you. Some men who have equal custody or full custody or weekends and holidays with their children either can't handle it or wants a woman whom he doesn't care about to play a role in his and his childs life as a caregiver so he can still live his Life. Hang out with the boys etc while you're occupied with playing the mother and wife but he doesn't care about you but the qualities you possess to fill the position. No, not all men do this but for the woman who believes she's been picked because he loves her is not right. If you just want to play the role without love? cool. Do you but know what you are getting into. The same way they drag a woman for only wanting a man to provide and does not love the man is no different. You're being deceptive. Be honest. If the other person is not there because you care about them and you are using them for the position. You're wrong. Period.
I got lucky. I am in a relationship with a man with a child and I almost noped out of the relationship as soon as it started. The baby momma isn't in the picture, lives in another state, has another child and another partner and I've literally never met her. I have had 0 responsibility for the kid, my partner always considers me, and the child is 18 later this year. Almost 8 years together and it has been wonderful. I'm so grateful.
You’re not lucky. You will never be a priority. You will never come first. Find a man with no kid if you yourself are childfree. Dating someone with a child is like dumpster diving. That child could be 45 years old and that child that he made with another woman will ALWAYS COME BEFORE YOU. Wake up.
I love you gals! That's video is important! When I was divorced with my boys, I never wanted to bring a mam into my house! No man would NEVER be priority. So, that is the same for the dads! I love kids, I may have a fling with the guy, but I would not respect a man that left his child!!!
Me too! I'm a teacher and I have attracted men at my job who were single fathers or married with kids. I'm child-free and I know better to stay away from men who are divorced and with kids. Great minds think alike!
I keep telling people I told my mom that and she told me good luck finding someone without kit because I think people without kids should date people without kids. That’s what makes sense unless they want kids and I can’t have any of their own.
No, no, no. Stay out of my lane. You have a baby daddy, he has a baby mama, the rest of us don't have a baby. You made your bed. You're not entitled to everything, sweetie. You are not liked, you are not understood, you are tolerated. Do not play that game, or your marriages will have no mercy. That ship has sailed for you. We've had it with you.
I don't want kids, and I'm not dating anyone with kids because i don't want to have to care for them
Same. Sounds like a good reason to me.
I used to think they would be good to date too but you have to remind yourself that he took her children that means he wasn't very good at finding a suitable partner because if he really was reliable his wife wouldn't have left him she may of gotten arrested or she had some kind of mental impairment and couldn't support them because she was homeless or couch surfing they knock up women they don't care about and they always assume custody is going right to the mother not if that mother doesnt have enough finances like him to take care of it. If she was a local Hooters waitress or a stripper or rapper, food worker or cashier sometimes those women have the option to opt out of being a mother because we are usually more vulnerable than career women it's the career women they should be knocking up not women that ride the bus and work side gigs or women that work in the sex industry that can also be dangerous for a child to grow up in if there always traveling, going to concerts and on the road.
Same. Plenty of single moms to date single dads and vice versa. Not like they don't have plenty of options without going for us people without kids.
Once a guy tell me he has kids. I let him know im not interested. 😅😂
That single dad is wild for letting some woman that he just met be alone with his child.
Yikes this is my brother. He’s a single dad now and goes through relationships like a whirlwind. I genuinely think he needs someone to take care of him and his kid, like a free babysitter and maid. The rough part is that my nephew keeps getting introduced early on only for these women to fall in and out of his life. I just can’t imagine that’s good for him!
It’s NOT!! 😵💫😤😤 sis you really need to have a heart to heart with him and let him know it’s not a good thing to bring all these women around his son! It’s bad to introduce every woman you messing with to him. He will think this is normal behavior and constantly leads to abandonment issues that all these women come and go 😢
I'll tell you why because im not a free babysitter, if im not the MAIN priority im no priority at all. It's not selfish it's called standards for what I want out of MY life. If they ended up long term, every holiday, every birthday, ect. Is gonna either be spent as a third wheel to accommodating their broken relationship, or alone while they "bond with their family/child" and im not doing it. Ever. If I want kids with that man there's always gonna be that other half of a family and it's not my style. I want all my siblings to be 100% related. I was raised by a broken family with little stragglers from other marriages, and I don't want any of that in my future kids lives. I'm still recovering from decades of nonsense
“He’s out of my league” THIS is where it went wrong. Not his terrible boundaries, not his questionable parenting… get this woman some self-esteem stat!
He was out of her league “looks wise”. She was realistic because she knows she’s average which is ok. Her being childfree when he has a kid actually makes her out of his league.
Men with kids AT ANY AGE are a NO.
Men actually DEMEAN single mothers and yet women have to “KINDLY” explain why we don’t want single fathers. Interesting…
Don't explain a thing. Just say you don't feel a connection.
They don’t demean single mothers they tell the truth. And childfree women tell the truth about men with kids being the bottom of the barrel.
Ladies, know the difference between a man who wants you in his life to build and raise the kids or a woman that's going to raise his kid and care for the home but want no emotional connection or bond with you. Some men who have equal custody or full custody or weekends and holidays with their children either can't handle it or wants a woman whom he doesn't care about to play a role in his and his childs life as a caregiver so he can still live his Life. Hang out with the boys etc while you're occupied with playing the mother and wife but he doesn't care about you but the qualities you possess to fill the position. No, not all men do this but for the woman who believes she's been picked because he loves her is not right. If you just want to play the role without love? cool. Do you but know what you are getting into. The same way they drag a woman for only wanting a man to provide and does not love the man is no different. You're being deceptive. Be honest. If the other person is not there because you care about them and you are using them for the position. You're wrong. Period.
Doesn’t matter, if you’re a childfree woman NEVER date a man with a child.
I got lucky. I am in a relationship with a man with a child and I almost noped out of the relationship as soon as it started. The baby momma isn't in the picture, lives in another state, has another child and another partner and I've literally never met her. I have had 0 responsibility for the kid, my partner always considers me, and the child is 18 later this year. Almost 8 years together and it has been wonderful. I'm so grateful.
You’re not lucky. You will never be a priority. You will never come first. Find a man with no kid if you yourself are childfree. Dating someone with a child is like dumpster diving. That child could be 45 years old and that child that he made with another woman will ALWAYS COME BEFORE YOU. Wake up.
@@Laoriginal718 I agree with you!
I love you gals! That's video is important! When I was divorced with my boys, I never wanted to bring a mam into my house! No man would NEVER be priority. So, that is the same for the dads! I love kids, I may have a fling with the guy, but I would not respect a man that left his child!!!
Anissa Nicole (blue shirt) was spot on!! Go save your family!! Lol
They can’t save themselves out of a wet paper bag.
Would you take these losers back?
100%
Marriage makes a family. Children make a situation.
I would have never dated a man with children or a man who has been divorced.
Me too! I'm a teacher and I have attracted men at my job who were single fathers or married with kids. I'm child-free and I know better to stay away from men who are divorced and with kids. Great minds think alike!
I keep telling people I told my mom that and she told me good luck finding someone without kit because I think people without kids should date people without kids. That’s what makes sense unless they want kids and I can’t have any of their own.
I agree with her
No, no, no.
Stay out of my lane.
You have a baby daddy, he has a baby mama, the rest of us don't have a baby. You made your bed.
You're not entitled to everything, sweetie. You are not liked, you are not understood, you are tolerated. Do not play that game, or your marriages will have no mercy. That ship has sailed for you.
We've had it with you.
Huh?