Said the guy In countries like india and Pakistan where the society is extremely patriarchal, women are often forced into marriages they don't want They are pressurized and even threatened All is well and good if you accept the proposal because that is how you are trained and brainwashed since you are a child But if you reject the marriage proposal then you can see their true colours And don't even start with love matches because honour killings are the reality Religion, class, caste matter wayyyyyy more than important than compatibility Btw this just doesn't happen with girls but boys as well Pressure is also about the time and not just choice If you decide that you want to marry anlittle later in life then screw you , you can't whatever they decide is the rule ,
Every person has different experiences. It’s more of a feminist perspective than male perspective. Hardly anyone think about log kya kahengay in todays times
Both a two extremes. U don't have to go for a live in but even we are extreme where U just meet a couple of times and then marry. You need to have a few months to know eachother before getting married. Compromise to an extent is fine and good but most of the time one spouse or even both end up compromising way more just to keep marriage going esp to please the families
I find European marriage understands more about the relationship importance. Where our Asian culture is imposing everything beside the relationship between husband and wife. Nothing is more important than husband and wife relationship in a marriage we Asians need to understand it.
I think our culture is very beautiful. I don’t support forceful marriages. The guy and the girl should meet, even our religion allows that. Having yrs of relationship, then stepping out of it is something that I don’t appreciate. When there’s seriousness, there’s commitments there’s trust. Majority of these Europeans even after having a partner, they have affairs going on. They even have kids, some don’t even know who the partner is because of having multiple partners.
Majority of the people of Pakistan and India live together for a lifetime due to family, society and financial difficulties, because most of the married couples have no alternative, especially women are very forced in this matter and are forced to live. It is an open fact that no one talks about, but the freedom and adultery of the West is not a better way.
For any person and especially girls, it's only ok or works of both people are compatible with each other, truly care about each other and have aligned and balanced perspectives about family life and their family also supports it too. But if you have a spouse and their family- who is crazy, culturally oppressive, mentally/ emotionally/ physically incompatible or abusive towards the woman- which is actually true of many women I know who had arranged marriages, from my and my mom's generation- then for a good in love with their spouse woman, or one who is financially and emotionally dependent ( or in case of really in love man)- it becomes a nightmare.
Meeting alone/staying together for male & female (na-mehram= who can bind in nikah) is forbidden in Islam & a MUSLIM is one who submits to Allah's will.🌷 Our beautiful & very protective deen for women's rights orders a male to take responsibility+love+care+provide for the woman who is there, whole heartedly, for him, by bearing Allah SWT a witness (nikah).💞 If they can't get along then there is a way of parting (talaq/khula)💕 A marriage either arranged or love requires, prioritising partner's happiness over own/sacrificing own likes over partner's, which is the definition of love. An example of love (here love for Allah) we as Muslims celebrate as eid al-adha.❤
Ham directly koodh jate hai bina soche samje, agar bach gaya to miracle hai. ,aur usko ham bolte hai sampradaay. Europeans pahle research karte hai, tabhi utarte hai, samajdaari se.
Dating is totally against the teachings of Islam. We can only meet once or twice before nikah to talk and that's not alone. With some family member. There is Hikmat in every thing imposed by Allah and His Prophet Muhammad (SAW), which can only be understood by someone who knows his religion Islam
NA MEHRAM AUR MEHRAM KA TO EU MAI CONCEPT HE NAHI HAI ISLAM MAI TO YEH ALLOWED HE NAHI LIVING RELATION KIND OF WE CONSIDER IT HARAM ... FOLLOW ISLAM ☪️
Don't agree. At all. No pride in never leaving a partner if you are unhappy. Nothing to do with being 'desi' or 'western'. Dating is very important. It helps you deal with rejection and helps you discover your own toxic patterns as well as those of the opposite sex. The dialogue from Dear Zindagi is apt here - "Hum itni kursiyan dekhte hai ek khareedne se pehle phir apna life partner choose karne se pehle options dekhne mein kya problem hai?” For relationships to work, one needs to know themselves well. And love oneself. Only then we can love someone else fully. It's not impossible for arranged marriages to work, but it's rare. And compromises only make you frustrated. Never happy.
Its supposed to be so. Par sub ka dimaagh itna achcha aur sanskaari nahi sochtein. Agar itne gawar hoke blind marriages agree karte dono ( ladka aur ladki) toh dono hi bewakoof hain. Ladka pyaar chahta nahi ( ya sochta hai ke gawar toh karegi hi . Ya usko kya zaroorat hain) aur ladki ke hawww mera innocent sanskari ladka jo bina dekhe samjhe kar raha hain mujhse shaadi.. kitna puaar karta hoga. Aur arey mein toh pyaari se gumaal banoogi hi naa . Bullshit. Pls youngsters dont get into this fantasy. Karna hai 1 nohht stands karke bhoot utarwaalo. Warna zindagi bhar pachtaooge. Har koi lucky nahi hota is zamane mein to hit the jackpot to have a good husband or wife. Oh by the way.. speaking with experience. Married @ the age of 20 from the 80’s generation. Abh 40 ki hoon. Phir bhi bahut purani soch abhi bhi log exist karte hain. Aur mein abroad ki hoon. Koi farq nahi hota. Jos ko dominate krna hai … woh husband ke naam pe karega hi.
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Said the guy
In countries like india and Pakistan where the society is extremely patriarchal, women are often forced into marriages they don't want
They are pressurized and even threatened
All is well and good if you accept the proposal because that is how you are trained and brainwashed since you are a child
But if you reject the marriage proposal then you can see their true colours
And don't even start with love matches because honour killings are the reality
Religion, class, caste matter wayyyyyy more than important than compatibility
Btw this just doesn't happen with girls but boys as well
Pressure is also about the time and not just choice
If you decide that you want to marry anlittle later in life then screw you , you can't whatever they decide is the rule ,
This is a very 'male' perspective to have. Most women stay in an unhappy marriage because 'LOG KYA KAHENGE'
Marriage it self irritating b single nd no kids b happy ❤
Every person has different experiences. It’s more of a feminist perspective than male perspective. Hardly anyone think about log kya kahengay in todays times
Both a two extremes. U don't have to go for a live in but even we are extreme where U just meet a couple of times and then marry. You need to have a few months to know eachother before getting married. Compromise to an extent is fine and good but most of the time one spouse or even both end up compromising way more just to keep marriage going esp to please the families
At last you said absolutely right 😊 I agree with you
You are right
I find European marriage understands more about the relationship importance. Where our Asian culture is imposing everything beside the relationship between husband and wife. Nothing is more important than husband and wife relationship in a marriage we Asians need to understand it.
Golden Rules of our countries 🇮🇳 & 🇵🇰❤❤
You are right 👍. Zindabad.
Shukriya 😊
I think our culture is very beautiful. I don’t support forceful marriages. The guy and the girl should meet, even our religion allows that. Having yrs of relationship, then stepping out of it is something that I don’t appreciate. When there’s seriousness, there’s commitments there’s trust. Majority of these Europeans even after having a partner, they have affairs going on. They even have kids, some don’t even know who the partner is because of having multiple partners.
Iska kya matlab 😢 humare liye allah ne jo rakha hai vo sahi hai kisi ajnabi ke sath rehna haram hai
Majority of the people of Pakistan and India live together for a lifetime due to family, society and financial difficulties, because most of the married couples have no alternative, especially women are very forced in this matter and are forced to live. It is an open fact that no one talks about, but the freedom and adultery of the West is not a better way.
Mashriqui nizaam zindabaad❤❤
As a result we work for family...
Not for interest in working 😞😞
After 40 less creative in science and technology. Check
Dhoka mat dain dono aik dosray ko sirf piar k liay shadi karain na green card na paysa na koi or maksad mix karain
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Agar tum aaj goro ki side lete to pakka unsubscribe hojate .but thanks god you still stand with us ❤
For any person and especially girls, it's only ok or works of both people are compatible with each other, truly care about each other and have aligned and balanced perspectives about family life and their family also supports it too.
But if you have a spouse and their family- who is crazy, culturally oppressive, mentally/ emotionally/ physically incompatible or abusive towards the woman- which is actually true of many women I know who had arranged marriages, from my and my mom's generation- then for a good in love with their spouse woman, or one who is financially and emotionally dependent ( or in case of really in love man)- it becomes a nightmare.
Insan acha hona chahiye chahe kese b mile
Meeting alone/staying together for male & female (na-mehram= who can bind in nikah) is forbidden in Islam & a MUSLIM is one who submits to Allah's will.🌷
Our beautiful & very protective deen for women's rights orders a male to take responsibility+love+care+provide for the woman who is there, whole heartedly, for him, by bearing Allah SWT a witness (nikah).💞
If they can't get along then there is a way of parting (talaq/khula)💕
A marriage either arranged or love requires, prioritising partner's happiness over own/sacrificing own likes over partner's, which is the definition of love.
An example of love (here love for Allah) we as Muslims celebrate as eid al-adha.❤
Ham directly koodh jate hai bina soche samje, agar bach gaya to miracle hai. ,aur usko ham bolte hai sampradaay. Europeans pahle research karte hai, tabhi utarte hai, samajdaari se.
Dating is totally against the teachings of Islam. We can only meet once or twice before nikah to talk and that's not alone. With some family member. There is Hikmat in every thing imposed by Allah and His Prophet Muhammad (SAW), which can only be understood by someone who knows his religion Islam
Is it allowed in Turkiye 🇹🇷 ?
Yes its allowed
I think the culture of Pakistan is fine
I agree
NA MEHRAM AUR MEHRAM KA TO EU MAI CONCEPT HE NAHI HAI
ISLAM MAI TO YEH ALLOWED HE NAHI LIVING RELATION KIND OF WE CONSIDER IT HARAM ...
FOLLOW ISLAM ☪️
👍🏼
"Zindagi acchese gujarti hai", is a myth. Do not fall for this trap
Don't agree. At all. No pride in never leaving a partner if you are unhappy. Nothing to do with being 'desi' or 'western'. Dating is very important. It helps you deal with rejection and helps you discover your own toxic patterns as well as those of the opposite sex. The dialogue from Dear Zindagi is apt here - "Hum itni kursiyan dekhte hai ek khareedne se pehle phir apna life partner choose karne se pehle options dekhne mein kya problem hai?” For relationships to work, one needs to know themselves well. And love oneself. Only then we can love someone else fully. It's not impossible for arranged marriages to work, but it's rare. And compromises only make you frustrated. Never happy.
Its supposed to be so. Par sub ka dimaagh itna achcha aur sanskaari nahi sochtein. Agar itne gawar hoke blind marriages agree karte dono ( ladka aur ladki) toh dono hi bewakoof hain. Ladka pyaar chahta nahi ( ya sochta hai ke gawar toh karegi hi . Ya usko kya zaroorat hain) aur ladki ke hawww mera innocent sanskari ladka jo bina dekhe samjhe kar raha hain mujhse shaadi.. kitna puaar karta hoga. Aur arey mein toh pyaari se gumaal banoogi hi naa . Bullshit. Pls youngsters dont get into this fantasy. Karna hai 1 nohht stands karke bhoot utarwaalo. Warna zindagi bhar pachtaooge. Har koi lucky nahi hota is zamane mein to hit the jackpot to have a good husband or wife. Oh by the way.. speaking with experience. Married @ the age of 20 from the 80’s generation. Abh 40 ki hoon. Phir bhi bahut purani soch abhi bhi log exist karte hain. Aur mein abroad ki hoon. Koi farq nahi hota. Jos ko dominate krna hai … woh husband ke naam pe karega hi.
We are not fallowing Islam.
Our culture is best. We marry then make children not other way around