We were still living together when I filed for divorce. He was being verbally abusive and threatened. So I went before the judge and obtained by myself and order of perfection. In one of his outbursts he kicked me in the leg which enacted the Order Of Protection and he was taken away in handcuffs and was not allowed in the house. Of course till today he tells our son that it was all my fault.
I’m juuuust about to say those words…. But we still live together… I know sh#%*t will hit the fan. Considering mailing the paperwork to him. How do I protect myself from the inevitable narc rage?
Are these people just so unaware of their behavior? Seems to me that we are living during a time where there is an epidemic of mentally abusive people living in homes in our soceity. What started this? I believe, Sir, that we are in a mental health crisis that needs to be looked at from a sociological view. Mental illnesses are being normalized and integrated into our family systems and that weakens our immunity to our tolerance of this self entitled behavior. I can speak from experience due to being forced to grow with an adopted borderline schizophrenic sibling since infancy. This was not morally right. For me. Mentallly ill people weaken other people's health and mental health. I watched this child destroy my mother's life. To me, now, if a child can't help how they behave and the behavior is disruptive to the lives of anyone else in the household, then drastic measures need to be taken to protect the mentally healthy members in the home. It is abuse of the mental well-being of healthy children. I was traumatized by this monster. But they loved him. Felt sorry for him. But I was able to see that this was not normal. These matters can't wait in regards to chilsren in these homes with emotionally abusive big people. I recommend taking serious steps to removing any child from any harmful environment because the mentally ill always have to be Right. Even before their children. Long term damage will be done if you enable these damaging people to control your life. Remember, it's Your life they need to survive. And that's all they're really doing. Using other people's resources. Don't let them mess with your kids minds. Because they will. Because they never take a consequence. Its everybody else's Fault. If you're here, you have one of these little perfect fools. Believe your eyes, your feelings and your heart. I now study human behavior. And will never be disrespected by a parent or a charmer again. And shame on my mother for ever taking a chance like that with an innocent child. Took me 10 years of her gone to get past the reward of a trauma bond. What some people will do to protect mental illness is inhumane. I believe the stigma is being lifted and these behaviors are finally being dealt with more seriously. Its an isolating thing. Be it a scant of schizophrenia or bpd. But being honest with the person about their behavior is the only way to live your life as you should. In peace. You can love somebody. But it might be best for You at a safe distance.
so sorry for what you experienced!!!! can you clairify with whom you had the trauma bond? your sibling? the idea of 'being honest' with the mentally ill... I would only modify the statement for a person with NPD ...that's simply a NO CONTACT option. There is no normal way to commicate.
We were still living together when I filed for divorce. He was being verbally abusive and threatened. So I went before the judge and obtained by myself and order of perfection. In one of his outbursts he kicked me in the leg which enacted the Order Of Protection and he was taken away in handcuffs and was not allowed in the house.
Of course till today he tells our son that it was all my fault.
I’m juuuust about to say those words…. But we still live together… I know sh#%*t will hit the fan. Considering mailing the paperwork to him.
How do I protect myself from the inevitable narc rage?
Great shirt Ross, your ALWAYS spot on, thank you.
Very welcome!
It’s the most dangerous life changing event. But in the end you will have PEACE.
So sad for the kids 🫣
Boy No Kidding the Schmidt hits the fan. 😳 🫣🫠
Are these people just so unaware of their behavior? Seems to me that we are living during a time where there is an epidemic of mentally abusive people living in homes in our soceity. What started this? I believe, Sir, that we are in a mental health crisis that needs to be looked at from a sociological view. Mental illnesses are being normalized and integrated into our family systems and that weakens our immunity to our tolerance of this self entitled behavior. I can speak from experience due to being forced to grow with an adopted borderline schizophrenic sibling since infancy. This was not morally right. For me. Mentallly ill people weaken other people's health and mental health. I watched this child destroy my mother's life. To me, now, if a child can't help how they behave and the behavior is disruptive to the lives of anyone else in the household, then drastic measures need to be taken to protect the mentally healthy members in the home. It is abuse of the mental well-being of healthy children. I was traumatized by this monster. But they loved him. Felt sorry for him. But I was able to see that this was not normal. These matters can't wait in regards to chilsren in these homes with emotionally abusive big people. I recommend taking serious steps to removing any child from any harmful environment because the mentally ill always have to be Right. Even before their children. Long term damage will be done if you enable these damaging people to control your life. Remember, it's Your life they need to survive. And that's all they're really doing. Using other people's resources. Don't let them mess with your kids minds. Because they will. Because they never take a consequence. Its everybody else's Fault. If you're here, you have one of these little perfect fools. Believe your eyes, your feelings and your heart. I now study human behavior. And will never be disrespected by a parent or a charmer again. And shame on my mother for ever taking a chance like that with an innocent child. Took me 10 years of her gone to get past the reward of a trauma bond. What some people will do to protect mental illness is inhumane. I believe the stigma is being lifted and these behaviors are finally being dealt with more seriously. Its an isolating thing. Be it a scant of schizophrenia or bpd. But being honest with the person about their behavior is the only way to live your life as you should. In peace. You can love somebody. But it might be best for You at a safe distance.
so sorry for what you experienced!!!! can you clairify with whom you had the trauma bond? your sibling?
the idea of 'being honest' with the mentally ill... I would only modify the statement for a person with NPD ...that's simply a NO CONTACT option. There is no normal way to commicate.