First Year of Parenting (ft. Gray!)
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2023
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I’m so appreciative of how y’all approach sharing your kids and parenting on the internet! Of course it’s sweet to see into your lives as well but it’s also so great how well you protect your kids
On your opening, Hannah Witton once said that the children’s first birthday party is really a celebration of the parents doing the first year so you ABSOLUTELY get to choose whatever theme you want!
I love the saying raising babies is simple, just eat when they eat, sleep when they sleep, wash dishes when they wash dishes, pay bills when they pay bills etc.
My son is a teen now and completely different from when he was little. He was a builder and inventor, spending his time in engineering classes and giving zero f's about anything artsy. I spent a lot of time in his classrooms and I was sooo sure he was going to be an engineer. Then in middle school he all of a sudden became extremely artsy and it's like his whole personality now. Art & music. Parenting never ceases to amaze me.
What an interesting perspective! To me those two disciplines seem so closely intertwined. How could you invent things without being creative?
Trans Dad here, 9 week pregnant with identical twins! After 3 years TTC. I got pregnant ‘naturally’ as I was scheduled for an IUI but ended up getting pregnant with a known sperm donor.
You’re still a woman. No man can give birth. Stop being delusional and get therapy
Wow, how exciting!! Hope you have a safe delivery!
Congratulations!! How's life as a dad? :)
The fact that the cabbage baby thing being so fricken hilarious to me, and when Ash started laughing against their will and I was like "ya obviously it's beyond hilarious" really resonates with how I appreciate their sense of humor and I thought "No wonder I'm 29 and have been watching since I was in uni".
I just found out I’m pregnant yesterday after over two years of unexplained infertility, I’m excited, nervous, just all the feels! Hearing the perspective of two parents who are already one year down was actually very comforting. Also I am truly OBSESSED with the ATLA birthday party
Enjoy your sleep while you can
@@manitoublack ironically one my symptoms has been terrible insomnia, my partner joked it’s my body trying to prepare me for parenthood 😂 but I’m hoping it’s only an early symptom and goes away soon
May the pregnancy and birth go as smoothly as possible. 🙏❤
Congratulations!
Congratulations!!!! ❤🎉
As someone working in optical I'm very happy to hear you're building outdoor time into your routine, it's the best thing you can do for their developing vision! Especially once they start school
Ash - you're a crafty person and a good artist. Kudos to you for respecting your kiddos privacy.
I am not a parent and never plan to be, but watching you do those crafts were very fun. You did such a great job!
"You couldn't see it, but we kissed!" that was so stinking cute lmao! your little family seems to be flourishing and I'm so happy for you all!
The Appa turned out so good!
I'm laughing so hard about the cabbage baby plans that got scrapped
i love how much you respect your kids privacy! Its so cool seeing other trans people post about parenting, it makes it feel more real that i might be able to have kids once my financial situation is sorted. i'll be several years on testosterone at the point when im trying to get pregnant (im going to go off it four months before hand for safety reasons), and the idea of being a public spectacle is pretty scary. i live in a pretty safe area though so im at least not worried about any threats to my safety (other than my sanity). my wife has a much different sleep schedule than i do naturally, (shes basically nocturnal lol) so im hoping with that plus all the extra hands from other people in our polycule that we wont have the sleep deprivation issue as much.
Really glad you recognise this party isn't about them. Not that they won't have a good time, but they don't know what a birthday is and as you suspect, won't remember it. Xx
Some day your kids will really enjoy hearing both of you talk about parenthood during their first year. Such cute bday decorations too! 🥳
Honestly when Gray started talking I remembered how much I love their voice! You're so right, Ash, really enjoyed hearing their voice
Gray- so crazy to remember you as a very young human & now hear you speak so responsibly and beautifully about your parenting journey. Congratulations to you both on making it through the first year in one piece 😂. Big hugs to the littles!
*Babyproofing is so important! I remember so many people (including my family) when my kids were little, who firmly believed in just... training the tots to not go/touch in most of the home, and I always thought that was NUTS! Definitely better to make as much of the house a safe zone as possible, and put a barricade when it's not.
*Ash, I am truly in awe of your artistic talents. Your Appa and boulders are great!
*Thank you for sharing the adventure of your first year as parents, Ash and Gray. And good for you, protecting the kidlets' anonymity.
❤🙏🏳🌈🏳⚧
It’s really sweet seeing how I’m 2020, Ash was nervous for parenthood cause they thought they weren’t able to meet their kid’s needs, and then seeing them now! They’re so present, and caring, and wowie !! Seeing them and Gray learn about raising these kids and choosing to be compassionate and cautious is healing something I think. My childhood was really yucky and my parents weren’t like them. It makes me so hopeful though, that there’s gonna be 2 lil folks in the world with Ash and Gray’s vibes hehe
Clicked so fast! Thanks so much for sharing these experiences and your awesome crafts. Also love hearing from Gray.❤
When I was a baby/toddler, my mom read her accounting books out loud to me. Apparently it worked out because my vocabulary was amazing from a young age.
You guys are so sweet! You clearly make a good team
The biggest compliment my best friend of over a decade ever gave me we were talking about what benders we all would be was that they thought I'd "just be Korra". I've never been so flattered again.
Needless to say, awesome birthday theme! The cabbage idea made me laugh. If I had twins they for sure would have been dressed up as Lo and Li, the direction you took is probs kinder 😂
I think what you are doing for your kids is very clever and respectful - I think a lot of people share their children's identity with no protection and with no way for the child to control their image once they are older. Kudos on a year of parenting and making good choices.
Love seeing how y'all approach parenting, it gives me a lot of hope for my future family
I think the baby cabbages is a very funny idea, but agree that it might not be the comfiest. But very cute mental image!
You sound like such a sweet and wholesome family, there's so much love and care and creativity there. Wishing all little babies could grow up in a family like yours
Obsessed with the Appa omg
The decorations turned out fantastically! I have been in such awe of your creative talents since I found your channel almost 10 years ago. Keep up the amazing work!
But... you remember the "cabbage patch kids"?? It would have been so funy for them to be the cabbages and you the cabbage guy!!! Maybe making a couple leaves out of flet to sew them on their onesies, or a mini felt cabbage on a hair band???
Anyways, Appa looks amazing!
Happy first year of parenting!
I've been following Ash for a few years but I just happened to watch their parenting-related videos today and, oh my god, it's just so recomforting to be able to see non binary people living a nice life, being a parent, sharing love... As a young adult trans person, I guess I have been struggling a lot lately to just imagine myself being able to have those things in my life. I just wanted to leave this comment of appreciation for Ash and Gray for sharing these bits of their lives and let them know that, just the fact that they are living their life to the fullest, is really important to some of us out there. Much love!
Was nice to hear your thoughts! My Munchkin is 1 year old in a couple of weeks
beautiful appa ash!!! thank you for sharing, cabbage fish and squish are hilarious and adorable 😂
I think the cabbages idea is adorable, & hilarious. Maybe some really ruffly, soft green onesies? I dunno, but I liked the thought. 💚
"mossy rock" is the only term of endearment i'll be accepting from now on 🪨♥️🪨
it's so sweet 🥺 I love that it symbolizes soft strength.
this was so so wonderful to watch! congratulations to you and gray for bossing a year of parenting!!
This is such a thoughtful, sweet, loving tribute to your Children’s 1st year and you and your partners 1st year parenting together ❤ Happy celebrating to you all, you did really well! Be so proud of yourselves!
This was so beautiful to hear. Thanks for sharing your experience!
This is so cute! You and Gray are such great parents ❤
I love the party theme. Avatar rocks! You as the cabbage guy and the kiddos as cabbages would’ve been super cute but I understand why you didn’t do it though.
I love seeing you make stuff!
I love being able to see your journey as parents! I've been watching you for years and seeing y'all in this stage of life is so cool and inspiring!
Omg you two are so cute!! I hope the birthday party went well ❤ Also the theme was great
This is so precious oh my goodness! Congratulations on one year of parenting! Happy belated birthday to the kiddos! The appa is adorable! It's so nice to hear from Gray! Cabbage babies would have been adorable! And it would be so lovely, I think for you guys as well to look back on if you did a yearly review of what parenting has been like each year. So excited for you guys!!
☺💜 this was such a sweet video. thank you for sharing! i love hearing you both talk about parenting and each other. just a wonderful video all around. ☺
Happy birthday to your babies! 🎂🎉🥳
I know I say this every video, and I mean it, you're awesome parents! 👍💯
Your art projects turned out great! I never thought about making rocks like that, so creative!
Thank you for sharing and making me truly smile in my mind, heart, and face!😊
this was really nice, both to watch and listen to.
This is sweet. A little window into parenting. You certainly put your heart into the arts and craft project there. Guess I have now seen the artist Ash at work. Never had kids myself. Always fascinated by how kids have changed people that i know. When sharing these experiences with their kids I sort of feel part of it. it's an unexpected but pleasant experience for us single folk.
Omg your Appa looks so good!!! I hope the kiddos had a great party 😊
Such an awesome theme! You did great!
my baby is 5 months old and its crazy how time flies congrats to your kiddos turning one recently!
The Appa turned out fantastic!
Awesome video and crafts u made u and gray are doing a amazing job at parenting 👏
Picture you and your cabbage patch kids was indeed funny. Especially with you as the cabbage guy. XD
I’m on one year of parenting too 😊 🎉
It's a journey. First one is 18-months and my wife's 7 weeks pregnant with No.2.
Thanks for sharing! I’m 4 mo pregnant with twins and kinda terrified with what is to come. I always imagined being a parent but never imagined twins!
Lovely
The sleep deprivation is the absolute worst. I have a 14 month old who still sleeps v poorly and...ooof it s been rough at times
Even though ill never be able to be a father its still fascinating to learn about it 🙂
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I have that same shirt!
Re cabbage costumes - maybe you could modify some pumpkin costumes for Halloween?
the avatar birthday is so fun - pin the tail on the air bison!!!!!!!
Cabbage man and cabbage kids for Halloween!
idk avatar but someone on my TL said the US is a fire nation
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cabbage patch kids for halloween perhaps
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if you wanna consume some avatar content with a sprinkle of difference i recommend Overanalysing Avatar (did the whole series episode by episode and is doing the comics) and Xiran Jay Zhao (did a video per book/season about the cultural inspirations)
I'm a triplet and I can confirm, my parents got no sleep for the first couple of years😅
Are you doing gender neutral parenting? Would love your perspectives on assigning gender to babies and how to handle other people’s opinions if you are refusing to do that
IM GONNA DRESS MY FUTURE BABIES IN CABBGE OUTFITS IN YOUR HONOR THAT WAS THE BEST IDEA
It's probably for the best you couldn't figure out how to pull off the cabbage cosplay - something always happens to his cabbages, you know?
My cabbages!
This sounds silly, but your conversation about bringing the kids on errands and realizing they enjoy it reminds of the importance of taking your puppies to places in a safe and appropriate way so they can learn about the world.
Love the videos and how you don't show your kids in the videos.
new video yay! (first?)
ive never wanted to have kids but watching your videos makes me feel excited about having a partner and possibly kids Im enby and mosly into women so it was really hard to see myself in het or even lesbian couples
Fake Cabbage leafs on bonnet n green onesies?
Be careful because if there are too many people and they sing happy birthday, the kids will cry. One-year-olds don't get birthdays yet.
You wanted them to be cabbage patch kids 🥬
Every time I see one of your videos I want to ask what gender the kids were assigned at birth and it makes me crazy because the reality is what genitals your kids have has no impact on my life as lived, but I'm so used to being able to box kids however loosely, based on that and I had no idea...I don't want to know, I want to not want to know. It's all so weird. I never want to stop improving though, and the only way is to be challenged. Thank you for unwittingly challenging me in this way.
Oh I think comment is so human, honest, reflective, and I love how you wanna grow! Very cool ❤
@@MoreAshAndGray thanks. Me too. The human condition is weird.
0:41 I think you're so awesome Ash but I can't let you get away with calling the elements "earth, wind, air, fire." smh smh smh
Oh my lord,
PLEASE DO NOT READ THE KYOSHI BOOKS TO THE LITTLES.
IT IS NOT CHILD FRIENDLY.
IT IS MUCH MORE MATURE THAN THE SHOW WAS.
Please bump this so they can see it! I'm serious, those books are *Very* mature, and I would go so far as to say Violent and Gory!
I'm sure they're able to determine what's violent and gory for themselves, and I would assume they read them books for literal toddlers.
@@judycarter888 There is literally a scene where a daughter brutally murders her mother in a fit of rage by stabbing her in the neck.
I really *really* don't think this book series was meant for toddlers.
@@judycarter888 I don't usually care to tell folks what they should and shouldn't read- my name is GreaterBookWyrm for fuck's sake! But I know it was shocking to a lot of people how violent those books were because of the children's show it's based off of. Having read them myself, I'm really just trying to help - considering that in the video its called out as "Age appropriate" when it absolutely is not.
First year is hard. I know my wife found nursing our first son a very special time and allowed her to bond with our son. My question (should you choose to respond) is how did you find the first year, given that you were incapable of nursing the kids?
Would you take back the surgical procedure you had, so that you could have nursed your children?
Keep up the good work.
*promosm*
Are you raising your kids gender neutral? You don't have to answer that. I'm honestly just curious since this is something that some parents do, more specifically but not exclusively LGBTQ+ parents.
Are you serious??? Their real names are Squish and Fish??? They have to grow up with those names??? WTF???
Haha, that was a joke. We aren’t sharing their real names online :)
Just a little tip. We exist before birth so "365 days of existence" is unneccesarily dehumanizing. Some people say phrases such as "earth side" or "outside of the womb" to indicate this, so that we aren't erasing the preborn experience.
So what do your kids actually look like??? You've never posted them. Who doesn't post their kids???
Thankfully more and more people. The kids can not consent to being shared online.
That’s really creepy. . . wtf is wrong with you.
They are protecting their kids from weirdos like you.
@@trinesrensen6821??? That does not answer my question.