The IKEA effect: *Looks at computer she built all by herself under the guise she would save money but totally overspent on mismatched parts with all the love of a mother looking at her child. *
yeah. fictional heroes are usually reactive while the villains are proactive. in real life being proactive is a heroic quality that is in fiction almost always given to the villains. When I finish the book I have been working on for some time, I will start one that is to have proactive characters doing their thing, just to meet villains who are reacting on the heroes action... like the heroes in other stories. usually 3
Scientists give animals plague and watch them suffer. Thats what biology research is about and medical. Chemistry is about giving animals toxic chemicals.
@@coralecho2485 the means matter more than the ends. Ends justify means is proven to be a psychopathic mentality. It matters far more what you do now than the results coming from it. Im here to insult scientists theres lots on pages like this.
@@louisfalcone5494 Imagine going specifically into someone's comment sharing their personal fascination with an aspect of our world and then literally admit the only reason you're here is to insult 'scientists'. Do you even hear yourself? I understand your point and even agree with you, about the ends not justifying the means in terms of science, but you seriously chose to go out of your way to seek out intelligent people to insult? You're the kind of person who gives ignorant people a bad name.
As a kid a friend teased me a lot about my anime crush, because he "wasn't real." But she crushed hard on a famous singer. I argued both were equally one-sided, unrealistic, and perfectly normal. Now 20 years later I gotta call her and tell her I was right. Lol!
imo crushing on a fictional character makes more sense, because with celebrities they're always putting on a show/playing a character. you can't see the real them. but with fictional characters you can get to know them as you keep watching/reading. idk, it makes more sense to me
Same. As a kid I was shamed any time I even hinted at a fictional crush, but it was totally normal to crush on boy bands and other celebrities, which bugged me. Fictional crushes seem to have been normalised nowadays too, which I'm happy about for today's kids (and adults too, of course).
Crushes on celebs are vapid too, but someone can argue that the celeb is a real person over a fictional character. But someone can also argue that using a real person like a celeb is terrible. Especially if people post inappropriate fanart of real people. Idk why people would crush on characters or celebs when it only ends in disappointment. The only thing is that maybe people can use characters to think about what kind of people they want to hang around with. Also, some people who crush on characters, or celebs, bully and demand everyone has to agree with their way, and can criticize them or say they're uninterested in that kind of stuff. The problem with crushing on someone not real or a celeb, or depicting fanart of being together with them, is that they didn't consent. So it's controlling, toxic, and violating, and being ok with. I wouldn't want someone or some fan doing that to me. So the criticism is fair.
@@marnenotmarnie259 Not every celeb is the same or fake. Acting fake is exhausting. Jake Lloyd, who played kid Anakin, quit acting because of harassment from the press and bullying. Jon Bellion said he didn't want to be famous, but just to sing. Some celebs are introverts or asocial. Just because someone criticized crushing on characters doesn't mean you have to insult all celebs. People are allowed to criticize crushing on characters or celebs. Also, some people pressure celebs have to act friendly, perfect, or a certain way to people all the time. It sounded like you contradicted yourself because you thought it was ridiculous to crush on celebs cause you assumed they're all fake, but characters are fake and made up. You degrade all celebs to characters while you tried to make fictional characters more real than they are? When some celebs killed themselves, like Jonathan Brandis, Cheslie Kryst, Robin Williams, and Hana Kimura. They're not just characters. The only thing is that people can using characters to think about what kinds of people they want to hang around with. The problem with crushing on someone not real or a celeb, or depicting fanart of being together with them, is that they didn't consent. So it's controlling, toxic, and violating, and being ok with. I wouldn't want someone or some fan doing that to me. So the criticism is fair.
0:45 Why We Love Movie Villains 6:35 Why Are Celebrity Crushes So Intense? 11:30 Why You Really Love That Wobbly Table 17:01 Why Do Some People Love Horror Movies? 22:22 The Science Behind The Pimple Popping Phenomenon
Ah yes the Ikea effect - except with artists, where most people can only see the flaws in anything they make, no matter how much time they spend on it lmao
Absolutely correct! The worst is when someone admires something you‘ve done awhile ago, and you are horrified, wanting to show them your latest work instead because it is so much ‘better’ -when it’s basically the same quality.
I feel like with that first part it's worth noting that sometimes people identify with villains because they're part of marginalized groups that are scapegoated and more frequently depicted as villains and that doesn't have anything to do with them looking at a bad trait and painting it as good, but with the mainstream looking at more or less neutral traits and painting them as bad. Would love to see a video on that.
Thank you for saying this because it’s 100% the reason I like villains the most (especially queer codes ones, like my recent obsession with Dr. Neo Cortex and (the might be villain) Wally Darling. Aside from that, villains are also good at teasing you and convincing people to join their cause. And like, who doesn’t want to be bad in fiction every once in a while? Doesn’t mean you’re a bad person IRL, fictional and real life is very separate after all.
Here's a hypothesis about why benign masochism might be beneficial to us: to learn things we have to try and fail a lot, which might cause a negative feeling. But ultimately the negative feeling ends up in something positive long-term, since we maybe learned something from it. I could see a species that goes for that (knowing that the consequences will not be too bad) lasting longer than one that avoids all negative feelings.
The more SciShow Psych I watch, the more alone I feel on this planet. So many "everyone does this" that I just don't, and am legitimately confused that so many people do.
I think psychology is a particularly difficult area for us to learn, experiment, explore and infer conclusions from. We should always hear psych news as "this is the best idea we have so far". It may not be concrete. And also sample sizes and statistical tolerances for psychology studies I think should be orders of magnitude more stricter than biological studies. There is also culture bias too. So take this with a giant boulder of salt.
@@fromulaon How is this science less concrete than other science? There being more variables and interactions doesn't degrade the accuracy. As to culture, there's not a bias, as the research is not assumed to apply outside the population of interest. (It's why research is cross-validated before being used in different settings).
@@jeffreym68 because psychology research depends largely on people’s feelings and their access to said feelings. With biological research you can ask someone what physical symptoms they have and it’s pretty easy to answer. After, say, a parent’s death if someone’s in a study they could have a dozen different feelings about it they can’t name. They may only say “sad” when they also feel angry about their parent drinking themselves to death or neglected by them and heartbroken they couldn’t make up. It’s a lot easier to name every sensation in your body than it is to name all the feelings you have associated with life events, major or minor, even if you have a pretty good grasp on your feelings.
Whoa, I'd never heard parasocial relationships talked about like that. Makes me feel so much better about the state of the world haha!! Like humans are SO social we can't help it lmao
Not everyone agrees with parasocial relationships. The problem with crushing on someone not real or a celeb, or depicting fanart of being together with them, is that they didn't consent. So it's controlling, toxic, and violating, and being ok with. I wouldn't want someone or some fan doing that to me. So the criticism is fair. The only thing is that people can using characters to think about what kinds of people they want to hang around with. Some people are asocial.
Way back in time, the entirely fictional character of Betty Crocker was created to market food products. Most people assumed she really existed. By 1945, she was voted the second most popular woman in America, after Eleanor Roosevelt. One key to the success of the Betty Crocker instant cake and brownie mixes was that the customer was required to add an egg to the mix. The company knew that it would be easier, cheaper and more efficient to just include dehydrated egg in the mixture, but concluded that the feeling of "making the cake by yourself" by adding an egg was more psychologically satisfying to the customer.
The logical extension of the Ikea-effect: Guitarists always start to customize their instruments at some point. They feel more like "your" guitar when you put stickers on it, I guess ^^
I skinned mine in black carbon fiber and painted what I didn't skin black... I do now feel like it's more mine. Although the paint is chipping and I need to redo it haha
On the topic of parasocial relationships. I wasn't to thank you guys for helping me through some dark points in the last few years. I only realised while watching this video how much i had attached to you guys during those points. Thank you
Im grieving 24/7 for years cause of psychologists torturing animals in mad science experiments which their whole field is based on and depends on to advance. Psychology is evil and biology chemistry medical its all mad science experiments on weak defenceless animals. Banning animal torture would shred those fields like cheese in a cheese grater. So those fields are evil. Yes im aware most research doesnt involve torture but the part that does is vital for the whole field. So the whole field is evil and everyone it should be punishe.
@@dannahbanana11235 no not really im pissed off at scientists and doctors every minute of everyday and find them online to insult them everyday and i remember everything they all said, each person in thousands i replay what they each said all day everyday even years later cause im autistic. And i remember what they looked like and they all look innocent and normal. Which pisses me off extra.
I completely understand the Ikea Effect. As someone with Generalized Depression and Executive Dysfunction, finding the energy to "Do The Thing" can sometimes be VERY hard. So being able to look at something I've built/done/accomplished (even if it's just flatpack furniture), really does make me feel proud of myself that I was able to fully "Do The Thing" and enjoy it afterward. I know it's just an item and holds little value, but the experience is far more valuable. I get the same feeling from the crochet Dice Bags I make for TTRPG.
11:30 as an artist i also have to note that this part of the video completely and totally forgot to take into account that when you make something competently it perfectly meets everything you want out of that item (to your preferences / taste / interests / vibes / fit / application), for example im an interdisciplinary artist and one of the things i make is dresses (crocheted) and the dresses i've made perfectly fit my personal style and vibe and body more than literally anything i could ever buy, because they were made custom stitch by stitch by me for me, to just completely ignore this part of that effect is like ignoring two thirds of the entire reason why this effect happens, maybe not with the ikea and lego stuff but definitely at the deeper levels of this effect
Absolutely! I make Victorian ball gowns that are fabulous because I care about the details that are too time consuming for mass production. If you enjoy the process, then your handmade item is often excellent!
Similarly, writing the stories (original or fanfic) that you want to read yourself may cater to a small niche audience, but they're always precisely what you like. Now if only we could have someone take the story and crafting project ideas out of our heads and make them all for us (preferably for free)... Hmm, are reasonably priced personal assistant 'droids hitting the market any time soon??
I never think my hand-made things are as good as the store versions. Like yes, I'm very happy and proud when I make something myself, but no way are they better! I value it more sentimentally but it obviously isn't better than a professional's work.
That pimple popping one was interesting because I’m a person who has dermatillomania, or skin-picking disorder. It’s true that I often compulsively pick at my skin when I’m feeling anxious, stressed, or bored. I also for some reason find any protrusion on my skin to feel like a gigantic thing that I must get rid of, smooth out or peel off. From a crusting scrape to a barely there sunburn or cat scratch. It’s something I have a hard time controlling and the dopamine effect and reward and relief feeling I get during a session of picking is intense, often followed by shame and guilt afterwards for damaging my skin. Here’s the thing: I absolutely HATE seeing pimple popping videos. I hate seeing people pick at their skin casually in front of me. It doesn’t trigger me to start picking, it makes me conscious of the places I would pick but I have a large influx of that “don’t do that” emotion while either watching a video alone or being in front of people. I see those pleasure seeking pimple videos as disgusting, dirty, they make me want to vomit. Even if I might do the same things to myself. I don’t get any positive reaction out of watching others like what was mentioned in the last segment. Isn’t that interesting? You’d think those videos would give me relief or have the opposite effect and make me want to scratch my own skin but it actually triggers a strong negative reaction and deters me from doing the same to myself. Neat, huh?
Same! I was so surprised when such vids became a thing, and people said they really liked them or felt compelled to watch. It just reminds me of how gross our bodies are when you really think about it. Like "see that nasty stuff coming outta vid-person's face? yeah, that's in yours! all up in your skin, which is all over you. you're welcome good day!" and ugh just please no.
This isn't a scientific answer, but I would suspect that it has something to do with the fact that once you are lying down in bed, your mind is free from other distractions that you would normally encounter throughout the day. If you're up and doing stuff, or even if you're just watching a show or doing something "mindless", you're usually at least somewhat engaged in that activity, but when you're lying down to go to sleep you aren't doing anything else that may distract you from those random things your brain remembers. I'd be curious to find out if there's any research behind this though.
same; most villains i just feel a burning hatred for. only villains who have genuine reason to be the way they are i feel empathy for and want to see redeemed
I don't necessarily cheer them on. I just like watching them do their thing because they just do more interesting or unusual things than the heroes. Like, wow, you want to make a coat out of innocent baby puppies? That's horrible. Please continue.
well written villain's are just heroes with a flaw that they are either oblivious to or too jaded to fix, if you have written a good villain then most of the time it is the "end justifies the means" approach that makes them a villain not their goals or the person itself, people rarely relate to mustache twirling villain's but a villain that has a goal but is too jaded to do it within the confines of "being a good guy" is something people can relate and even cheer on on the big screen, it is especially effective if within the universe the setting is in his/her point of view is almost or entirely justified, if lets say in fantasy setting there is a incompetent king who is a tyrant and everyone just follows them because their oaths then a villain who seeks to overthrow that king for the good of the people can be justifiable to a degree, his methods will then be what defines them as a villain and these kind of villains are the ones that most people cheer for, if you haven't seen any well written villains that you cheered for then you've either been reading bad fiction or are bland in my estimate, or could be that you just don't see the chaos element of change that hero and villain both embody as a positive thing
@@Jinnai89 in the scenario you described about overthrowing a shitty King, I wouldn’t consider that to be a villain. If they’re overthrowing a tyrant king then that’d make them a hero.
From the perspective of a writer, I can tell you that we have many reasons to love villains. But our favorites are fleshed out, well written villains. We like villains whose backstories we can learn or speculate on. We like villains who have a little bit of gray and grey in their morality. We like villains who struggle just as much as heroes, and end up choosing the opposite path to the heroes. They stand as both cautionary tales and hope spots. They help us believe that a) we have the power to prevent villains, and b) villains can be redeemed, thus giving us hope for redemption when we become our own villains, so to speak. It's why Negaduck is so popular among the Darkwing Duck fandom. People aren't huge fans of twist villains mainly because they're given very little reason to suddenly turn evil. They have a Freudian excuse and that's it. And they can often become one-dimensional once their villain status is revealed. Also, they've been done to death. Literally in the case of Ernesto de la Cruz (Coco, 2017). Though he wasn't a twist villain as far as I was concerned, because even before the reveal, he was shown to be extremely vain and fame-obsessed. Re: TP roll position: I guess I'm a chaotic neutral, then, because I do not care. Californians, please stop naming your children Montana. Thank you. Me, a learned INFP: * psychoanalyzing the ESTP sitting across from me, banging pots and pans * My, what strong Se you have. On that note, I do like Zaheer, a villainous INFP, but the Avatar fandom agrees that he is easily the best written villain in LoK, and one of the best in the entire franchise.
I know when I was young and very much dysphoric, watching horror was part of me wanting to assimilate and be perceived as 'brave' or any ofthe other things people associate with masculinity. That and it being something I'm not 'supposed to' enjoy made it better. but now, I am very much disinterested with horror. unless it has a psychological element to it. I feel things A Lot. But for some reason, movies and writing (including roleplay) is something that feels somewhat safe? like a way to explore things and deal with trauma. Feel things my dissociative ptsd makes me wanna avoid.
Imo, this is why a lot of people write fanfic (especially Alternate Universe stuff). The characters we're already attached to act as an emotional buffer between us and the strongly felt emotions. Since it's not 'our' trauma, we don't have to be so afraid or angry or sad that we shut down out of self-preservation (unless very triggered, ofc) when we read / see the character experience something. . It gives us the sense of being 'not alone' (because if someone else made this media, or reads and/or watches and comments, then they probably are one or know someone who has also endured Serious Sh*t). Yet we can also gain alternate perspectives, advice or comfort in a way we feel safe and comfortable with receiving through the mc's narrative or conversations with others. . Stories in any format (even video games or paintings) can be very cathartic and even help with processing and healing.
I don't have issues with that at all. What I tend to have problems with is embarrassment. When the person is being embarrassed, I almost have to leave the room. Same with medical issues or real pain. Horror is so fantasical that I kind of know it's not real. But this also leads me to be bored by them. I don't feel fear in horror films, I do like comedy horror though.
@@surelock3221 It's extremely difficult with the feeling of homicidal misantropy, though, if you haven never experienced that feeling. That becomes more of an intellectual exercise for me.
Personally, I like heroes and villains equally. Heroes vibe with the altruistic, hopeful side of myself. Whereas villains tend to relate to the part of myself that feels like a social outcast. There’s a sort of freedom to villains, that they live their lives without worrying over peoples approval. I’ve always liked that about them.
I get you, but I think villains and acting terrible has limits too. Such as mistreating others chases them away. Also, any other destruction villains do. Like maybe to the environment around them or their own homes. Being nice also open doors. Such as attracting people to help you back. If villains are too terrible, that's not very relatable either.
I've always wondered if parasocial relationships are the same as the love that you feel for a plant? Like, how is 'my friend Totoro' different from 'this is my spider plant; he's called Steve.'
I've always liked villains because they were smart. They spent year planning their ultimate plan, gathering resources, keeping it secret, until everything was right. On the other hand, majority of heroes just come and smash everything. I like smart characters.
The thing about villains in movies, books, and games is that you get shown more perspectives than just your personal experience or hearsay like in real life. I think that causes the viewer to relate or be more empathetic to the villain. You are more likely to think the villain is a good person who just makes poor choices or at least has a reason to do evil deeds.
When Hank started talking about parasocial relationships I immediately thought of him and John, whom I have been jokingly calling my parasocial uncle and dad for years now, since I found vlogbrothers as a teenager.
People think Ièm weird for being so freaked out my Saw because "It's so silly and not scary". It is scary when you're a highly empathetic person and feel what the victims feel.
I am missing the IKEA affect. I built a crooked bookshelf once and I hated it until the day I threw it away. If anything, it was a recurrent blow to my self-esteem.
"Effort justification" should more accurately be termed "creation justification." Affinity for one's own creations also comes from the knowledge that something now exists that would not have existed at all, had it not been for oneself. The existence of my own creation - good or bad - both proves and justifies my own existence. I create, therefore I am. (And for me personally - I am, therefore I create. 😁)
Another element I’d be curious to see explored WRT the IKEA Effect is the practice of mending items rather than buying new ones. I definitely feel a sense of competence when I can fix something, or even via the frugality of buying it secondhand. But it also strongly lines up with my values about avoiding waste and taking care of the things you own. I also find that that “DIY high” doesn’t really apply to craft I’m practiced or disciplined in (eg. drawing). I felt really happy and proud of myself when I mended the tear in my comforter (which, funnily enough, was from IKEA), but objectively I did a terrible job. But knowing it’s not reflective of any of my abilities that “matter,” I can remain satisfied with it. So the hypotheses related to values and identity make more sense to me than the effort justification, which just doesn’t ring true to any of my endeavors. I definitely get sunk cost fallacy with stuff like making purchases, and I’ve had to kill my darlings in creative tasks, but valuing something I made more simply because I made it? Nope. And if the consistent self-prescribed undervaluing of artists’ labor is any indication, I’m not the only one.
I question constantly whether or not I'm a bad person. I default to probably most of the time. I tend to try to find the reason behind actions whether or not I condone those actions. I also don't form parasocial relationships really at all. Never did. Never understood why people did. But that explanation makes sense
The IKEA effect makes sense but creative sellers often under price their work because of imposter syndrome so interesting to find out where that line is.
Ah, I see you're a person of culture! 🧐 Funny this; when I chat about The Little Mermaid with the people I do mermaiding (as a hobby), Ursula is my fine wine. So much so that I found out cecaelia are a thing and one of my sewing goals is to make an octopus tail to swim in.
That last one... I feel called out. However, let it be known that I like my food spicy enough to constipate me, counteracting the diarrhea I would get otherwise. That I don't pop my zit, but scratch the itch 'till it comes off. And that I never once rode a roller coaster in my life, because my life is one hell of a roller coaster ride all by itself.
Parasocial relationships with Markiplier & the Achievement Hunters are how I survived High School In real life, friends that I made increasingly expected more from me. In general, it was little more than spending time with them, but I had real problem doing that after my best friend of half my life dropped me. I got used to being alone, and I was too scared to give up that time to the risk of being dropped again, because I wasn't giving them the right "thing". A UA-camr can't drop you. They continue to do their job because it's their job, and if they ever quit, you can safely assume that it wasn't your fault. Achievement Hunter looked like the group of friends I always wanted, and like the ones that my mom, brothers, and sister had had. There's a reason I watched them play 400 episodes of Minecraft, and 350 episodes of GTA. I got to learn them~ figure out what their reactions look like, when they were and weren't genuine, when someone made a good joke, and when they took it too far. Their creator said he "wanted to create the feeling of friends playing together on a couch," and that's all that this kid wanted; a kid who was terrified that he didn't understand the rules of friendship.
I love that you are not saying that name. Positive vibes from New Hampshire and remember to be kind to each other and yourself during this pandemic and social crisis
These relationships might be an effect of ancient people communicating about their parents grandparents and so forth. This way you can feel like you're connected to your grandparents or your parents is kids or whatever else without actually being able to know them
@@cassieoz1702 i have never had a cat do that. Mine just steals hair elastics. But that's because it glides so nice over the floor and under the door. I just have a lot.. My dog on the other hand takes plastic trash form the kitchen and has also broken 2 car keys. Because plastic fixation
People are the best toys that you could possibly have and, sort of like subgroups, some of humanity's characteristics such as language or the reactions you can produce by "pushing (the right) buttons" of an individual or a group. There is certainly a sense of satisfaction in being able to control others.
Today a guy on a dating site told me he has a “body swapping” fantasy. I asked for clarification. He has a fetish for people switching bodies. Like Freaky Friday. And it’s especially arousing if it’s accidental or done against their will and they can’t switch back. Officially the most Niche paraphilia I’ve ever heard.
I was never able to sell my art even when people offered to buy it and display it publicly because I spent soooo much time and effort on each painting or drawing that I was emotionally attached to it. I could not let go of anything I worked so hard on. Or are you talking about artists not asking enough money for their art?
I have an interesting relationship with horror movies and... people... I guess. I can understand and process the emotions the characters feel on screen, and enjoy it's significance and value, but I don't feel it myself, almost like I'm disconnected from it. This also applies to my friends and family to some extent. I care about them, and their emotional states, if they're sad or angry, I can understand that and comfort them, but I can't share their emotions. I can sympathize, but for as long as I can remember, I've rarely empathized with people. Sad games don't make sad, horror moviess don't make me scared, but I can appreciate them and still enjoy them, or even obsess over how good they were(Like Omori). I can't tell you how many times I've been in a situation where I'm just awkwardly standing around while everyone around me is crying or being sad over some event. To quickly clarify, it's not that I don't feel emotions, I most certainly do, but I just can't feel those emotions simply because others around me are. The best example of this is I've never thought of group goodbyes as sad, despite seemingly everyone around me thinking so.
It can just mean you're naturally more resistant to behavioural contagion, being more logic-driven and/or oriented on literal, physical practicalities. Like, friend is sad? help fix problem, offer act of service to ease their workload, lend a listening ear -- instead of sitting there trying to transfer their feelings into yourself or naturally reacting emotionally as if problem was actually happening to you. . Because both feeling the Feels with people and being able to identify with and relate to them, AND being more objective and neutral-pov about stuff, is helpful, really, in their own turns and depending on the other people involved. We are who we are.
On the identifying with the villain one, there's also the factor that many villains are often queercoded whereas protagonists are often portrayed as strait, making it easier for some queer people to identify with the villain and harder to identify with the good guys
It's because the light is better at work and I can suddenly see my skin really well in the bathroom mirror there. Which leads me to squeezing everything because apparently I'm blind and need better light at home.
And then there is me: I watched a horror movie that never had any relief, and everything got scarier, and there were scenes I refused to watch, and I finally left the theater way before the movie ended. A minute later, another patron ran into the bathroom and threw up.
There was something so jarring about it. Like, despite the fact that I have been watching the gaming channel all night, I had to rewind 4 times to fully comprehend that he truly did say Dan Howell.
See just making me feel even weirder, I don't have any celebrity crushes at all. I like certain characters but not to a point that I think about them when the films not on etc and I've never thought screwing a table together made it better, usually the opposite.
The ikea effect: i just wanted to note that I am the go to to family member for putting things together and taking them apart and have been since i was 14 and ended up going in after my step dad 'fixed' something so i got good at knowing how things worked and fir together. HOWEVER, there are a few things i have to dismantle and rebuild just to move it and my mom LOVES to rearrange the house. Those things that i do constantly just gives me an air of disdain every time i see it. I actually convinced my mom to get a new desk cause i came to despise her her old one....using it as kindling was the most satisfying thing ive ever experienced
When Hank talked about parasocial relationships I could only think of the fact that I feel like we’re friends
I don't want to brag or anything but he once liked one of my comments on Facebook
@@jcespinoza I am jealous
@@jcespinoza Are you kidding? Brag away! In fact, you might want to include that info on your hopefully distant headstone.
But they ARE our friends! Aren’t they? 😧
That's toxic and controlling to decide for others that you guys are friends when they didn't consent. Nor did people ever talk with them or much.
The IKEA effect: *Looks at computer she built all by herself under the guise she would save money but totally overspent on mismatched parts with all the love of a mother looking at her child. *
But hey!
Bet the overall capacity is top notch! , compared for what you could've bought for the same price if it were pre-built
@@almaclarawork9621 did you miss the word "overspent?"
@@yoursubconscious they're looking on the bright side
same. my pc is best pc. all other pcs bow before it
It's not mismatched, it's Picasso themed. >_>
Hank is my best friend that doesn't know it
He's also a surprisingly remarkable singer!
He’s mine! You can’t have him!
@@curmudgeon7217 we can share,
parasocial relationships
parasoviet relationship !
Villains are confident, well dressed, and stand up for a cause they believe in
They can be. But also, being a villain or a hero is often a matter of perspective
yeah. fictional heroes are usually reactive while the villains are proactive. in real life being proactive is a heroic quality that is in fiction almost always given to the villains. When I finish the book I have been working on for some time, I will start one that is to have proactive characters doing their thing, just to meet villains who are reacting on the heroes action... like the heroes in other stories. usually 3
Like Roger Stone
They’re also often given traits of marginalized groups that aren’t represented by heroes.
Ie queer coded and disabled villains
I've been obsessed with plagues since I was a little kid. Living through one (and catching it) has not diminished my fascination.
Scientists give animals plague and watch them suffer. Thats what biology research is about and medical. Chemistry is about giving animals toxic chemicals.
@@louisfalcone5494 No, it is about discovery. You make it seem like those things are the end goal of science, what are you even doing here?
@@coralecho2485 the means matter more than the ends. Ends justify means is proven to be a psychopathic mentality. It matters far more what you do now than the results coming from it. Im here to insult scientists theres lots on pages like this.
@Wemple Imagine simping for scientists... an old man in a lab coat isn't gonna shake your hand and say "Well done my son!" for defending them online.
@@louisfalcone5494
Imagine going specifically into someone's comment sharing their personal fascination with an aspect of our world and then literally admit the only reason you're here is to insult 'scientists'. Do you even hear yourself? I understand your point and even agree with you, about the ends not justifying the means in terms of science, but you seriously chose to go out of your way to seek out intelligent people to insult? You're the kind of person who gives ignorant people a bad name.
As a kid a friend teased me a lot about my anime crush, because he "wasn't real." But she crushed hard on a famous singer. I argued both were equally one-sided, unrealistic, and perfectly normal. Now 20 years later I gotta call her and tell her I was right. Lol!
imo crushing on a fictional character makes more sense, because with celebrities they're always putting on a show/playing a character. you can't see the real them. but with fictional characters you can get to know them as you keep watching/reading. idk, it makes more sense to me
@@marnenotmarnie259 my love for Lara Croft makes more sense than a love of Angelina Jolie.
Same. As a kid I was shamed any time I even hinted at a fictional crush, but it was totally normal to crush on boy bands and other celebrities, which bugged me. Fictional crushes seem to have been normalised nowadays too, which I'm happy about for today's kids (and adults too, of course).
Crushes on celebs are vapid too, but someone can argue that the celeb is a real person over a fictional character. But someone can also argue that using a real person like a celeb is terrible. Especially if people post inappropriate fanart of real people.
Idk why people would crush on characters or celebs when it only ends in disappointment. The only thing is that maybe people can use characters to think about what kind of people they want to hang around with.
Also, some people who crush on characters, or celebs, bully and demand everyone has to agree with their way, and can criticize them or say they're uninterested in that kind of stuff.
The problem with crushing on someone not real or a celeb, or depicting fanart of being together with them, is that they didn't consent. So it's controlling, toxic, and violating, and being ok with. I wouldn't want someone or some fan doing that to me. So the criticism is fair.
@@marnenotmarnie259 Not every celeb is the same or fake. Acting fake is exhausting. Jake Lloyd, who played kid Anakin, quit acting because of harassment from the press and bullying. Jon Bellion said he didn't want to be famous, but just to sing. Some celebs are introverts or asocial. Just because someone criticized crushing on characters doesn't mean you have to insult all celebs. People are allowed to criticize crushing on characters or celebs.
Also, some people pressure celebs have to act friendly, perfect, or a certain way to people all the time.
It sounded like you contradicted yourself because you thought it was ridiculous to crush on celebs cause you assumed they're all fake, but characters are fake and made up.
You degrade all celebs to characters while you tried to make fictional characters more real than they are?
When some celebs killed themselves, like Jonathan Brandis, Cheslie Kryst, Robin Williams, and Hana Kimura. They're not just characters.
The only thing is that people can using characters to think about what kinds of people they want to hang around with.
The problem with crushing on someone not real or a celeb, or depicting fanart of being together with them, is that they didn't consent. So it's controlling, toxic, and violating, and being ok with. I wouldn't want someone or some fan doing that to me. So the criticism is fair.
They actually named it the Ikea Effect? I love it haha
Happy to see you here!,
Dollightful? In scishow comments? Now this is the most ambitious crossover in cinematic history
@@francisyehuda6120 yeah you're right noone gives a damn
scientists are really uncreative when it comes to names
woah never expected to see dollightful here! I love your vids!
Depression: let me just take those away for you.
0:45 Why We Love Movie Villains
6:35 Why Are Celebrity Crushes So Intense?
11:30 Why You Really Love That Wobbly Table
17:01 Why Do Some People Love Horror Movies?
22:22 The Science Behind The Pimple Popping Phenomenon
Thank you..
Ah yes the Ikea effect - except with artists, where most people can only see the flaws in anything they make, no matter how much time they spend on it lmao
Omg yes 🤣
And then theres engineer, who is conditioned to accept "good enough" result from their work 😁
for me its both at the same time: i think my creations are crappy and suck but gods forbid someone else insults my creation and itll be on sight
This is exactly what I was thinking 🤣
Absolutely correct! The worst is when someone admires something you‘ve done awhile ago, and you are horrified, wanting to show them your latest work instead because it is so much ‘better’ -when it’s basically the same quality.
the link between effort justification and burnout would be interesting. Basically when you realize the effort wasn't really worth it
It’s a little similar to Utility I imagine. The more you have of something, the lower your satisfaction with it as that variable increases.
Must have been quite an effort if you swooned over your table.
Aka the ROI
Beautiful profile pic💜
@@nessie968 thanks, it took some effort :) :p
I feel like with that first part it's worth noting that sometimes people identify with villains because they're part of marginalized groups that are scapegoated and more frequently depicted as villains and that doesn't have anything to do with them looking at a bad trait and painting it as good, but with the mainstream looking at more or less neutral traits and painting them as bad. Would love to see a video on that.
I can be your angle 📐
And your demen 😈
Thank you for saying this because it’s 100% the reason I like villains the most (especially queer codes ones, like my recent obsession with Dr. Neo Cortex and (the might be villain) Wally Darling.
Aside from that, villains are also good at teasing you and convincing people to join their cause. And like, who doesn’t want to be bad in fiction every once in a while? Doesn’t mean you’re a bad person IRL, fictional and real life is very separate after all.
Gotta love how most capable disabled people in films end up as villains
Boo hoo
@@sudjen???
Thanks. I was feeling weird about my grief over Grant Imahara's passing. It's a relief it is a normal thing.
I'd let myself forget, because it hurts. That man was so important to my childhood and love of science and experimentation.
Here's a hypothesis about why benign masochism might be beneficial to us: to learn things we have to try and fail a lot, which might cause a negative feeling. But ultimately the negative feeling ends up in something positive long-term, since we maybe learned something from it. I could see a species that goes for that (knowing that the consequences will not be too bad) lasting longer than one that avoids all negative feelings.
The more SciShow Psych I watch, the more alone I feel on this planet. So many "everyone does this" that I just don't, and am legitimately confused that so many people do.
I think psychology is a particularly difficult area for us to learn, experiment, explore and infer conclusions from. We should always hear psych news as "this is the best idea we have so far". It may not be concrete. And also sample sizes and statistical tolerances for psychology studies I think should be orders of magnitude more stricter than biological studies. There is also culture bias too. So take this with a giant boulder of salt.
Same sometimes.
@@fromulaon How is this science less concrete than other science? There being more variables and interactions doesn't degrade the accuracy. As to culture, there's not a bias, as the research is not assumed to apply outside the population of interest. (It's why research is cross-validated before being used in different settings).
@@jeffreym68 because psychology research depends largely on people’s feelings and their access to said feelings. With biological research you can ask someone what physical symptoms they have and it’s pretty easy to answer. After, say, a parent’s death if someone’s in a study they could have a dozen different feelings about it they can’t name. They may only say “sad” when they also feel angry about their parent drinking themselves to death or neglected by them and heartbroken they couldn’t make up. It’s a lot easier to name every sensation in your body than it is to name all the feelings you have associated with life events, major or minor, even if you have a pretty good grasp on your feelings.
@@Crucisphinx That's not a reflection of psychology research as I know it.
Whoa, I'd never heard parasocial relationships talked about like that. Makes me feel so much better about the state of the world haha!! Like humans are SO social we can't help it lmao
Not everyone agrees with parasocial relationships. The problem with crushing on someone not real or a celeb, or depicting fanart of being together with them, is that they didn't consent. So it's controlling, toxic, and violating, and being ok with. I wouldn't want someone or some fan doing that to me. So the criticism is fair.
The only thing is that people can using characters to think about what kinds of people they want to hang around with.
Some people are asocial.
Way back in time, the entirely fictional character of Betty Crocker was created to market food products. Most people assumed she really existed. By 1945, she was voted the second most popular woman in America, after Eleanor Roosevelt. One key to the success of the Betty Crocker instant cake and brownie mixes was that the customer was required to add an egg to the mix. The company knew that it would be easier, cheaper and more efficient to just include dehydrated egg in the mixture, but concluded that the feeling of "making the cake by yourself" by adding an egg was more psychologically satisfying to the customer.
I love how this video doesn't have a music soundtrack. Thank you!!!
The logical extension of the Ikea-effect: Guitarists always start to customize their instruments at some point. They feel more like "your" guitar when you put stickers on it, I guess ^^
I skinned mine in black carbon fiber and painted what I didn't skin black... I do now feel like it's more mine. Although the paint is chipping and I need to redo it haha
I would never put stickers on my guitars, especially when they have beautiful wood grain.
On the topic of parasocial relationships. I wasn't to thank you guys for helping me through some dark points in the last few years.
I only realised while watching this video how much i had attached to you guys during those points.
Thank you
So my body pillow with an anime character (Hatake Kakashi) is completely normal? Awesome. I'll tell Kakashi. He'll be really happy.
Hello fellow Hatake connoisseur
Do they make body pillows of loli or shota characters? I asked this because I would turn the 8 year old version of Nick Wilde into such a pillow.
Kakashi is definitely a normal attraction!!! Happily married, and my husband thinks my Kakashi crush is adorable! 😅
Do you know where I can get a hank green body pillow?
@@DrLongWang I think you need therapy man
I had a surprising amount of parasocial grief when Alan Rickman died. It does feel silly at first, but it's part of what makes us human.
Im grieving 24/7 for years cause of psychologists torturing animals in mad science experiments which their whole field is based on and depends on to advance. Psychology is evil and biology chemistry medical its all mad science experiments on weak defenceless animals. Banning animal torture would shred those fields like cheese in a cheese grater. So those fields are evil. Yes im aware most research doesnt involve torture but the part that does is vital for the whole field. So the whole field is evil and everyone it should be punishe.
@@louisfalcone5494 Are you okay?
@@dannahbanana11235 no not really im pissed off at scientists and doctors every minute of everyday and find them online to insult them everyday and i remember everything they all said, each person in thousands i replay what they each said all day everyday even years later cause im autistic. And i remember what they looked like and they all look innocent and normal. Which pisses me off extra.
@@louisfalcone5494 I just don't understand why you replied to my comment is all I guess. Didn't really seem relevant.
@@dannahbanana11235 i say it to random people to get my message out.
23:22 big error in the graphic. It shows serotonin while talking about dopamine.
“Big error in graphic”... for the 13 chemistry nerds I guess. 😂
@@ArealMrsSmith arent the creators meant to be science nerds?
@@cassieoz1702 fairly sure they are youtubers, animators and presenters.
The research is done by researchers.
Nothing wrong with a little correction when it's wrong. Gotta lovevus needs...no matter what we are into...!
Danger, Will Robinson! Danger!
I just finished re-finishing my bathroom. Now I question my satisfaction.
Pff, don't be silly. Enjoy that beautiful bathroom you did
@@yulebones I am!
Feeling much better about accidentally calling Mykie and Lex "my friend" in actual conversations more than once after this!! Thanks Hank!
I completely understand the Ikea Effect. As someone with Generalized Depression and Executive Dysfunction, finding the energy to "Do The Thing" can sometimes be VERY hard. So being able to look at something I've built/done/accomplished (even if it's just flatpack furniture), really does make me feel proud of myself that I was able to fully "Do The Thing" and enjoy it afterward. I know it's just an item and holds little value, but the experience is far more valuable. I get the same feeling from the crochet Dice Bags I make for TTRPG.
It's a very solid proveable accomplishment that our self-doubts can't say didn't really happen the way they can about intangible accomplishments.
11:30 as an artist i also have to note that this part of the video completely and totally forgot to take into account that when you make something competently it perfectly meets everything you want out of that item (to your preferences / taste / interests / vibes / fit / application), for example im an interdisciplinary artist and one of the things i make is dresses (crocheted) and the dresses i've made perfectly fit my personal style and vibe and body more than literally anything i could ever buy, because they were made custom stitch by stitch by me for me, to just completely ignore this part of that effect is like ignoring two thirds of the entire reason why this effect happens, maybe not with the ikea and lego stuff but definitely at the deeper levels of this effect
Absolutely! I make Victorian ball gowns that are fabulous because I care about the details that are too time consuming for mass production. If you enjoy the process, then your handmade item is often excellent!
Similarly, writing the stories (original or fanfic) that you want to read yourself may cater to a small niche audience, but they're always precisely what you like. Now if only we could have someone take the story and crafting project ideas out of our heads and make them all for us (preferably for free)... Hmm, are reasonably priced personal assistant 'droids hitting the market any time soon??
I never think my hand-made things are as good as the store versions. Like yes, I'm very happy and proud when I make something myself, but no way are they better! I value it more sentimentally but it obviously isn't better than a professional's work.
That pimple popping one was interesting because I’m a person who has dermatillomania, or skin-picking disorder. It’s true that I often compulsively pick at my skin when I’m feeling anxious, stressed, or bored. I also for some reason find any protrusion on my skin to feel like a gigantic thing that I must get rid of, smooth out or peel off. From a crusting scrape to a barely there sunburn or cat scratch. It’s something I have a hard time controlling and the dopamine effect and reward and relief feeling I get during a session of picking is intense, often followed by shame and guilt afterwards for damaging my skin.
Here’s the thing: I absolutely HATE seeing pimple popping videos. I hate seeing people pick at their skin casually in front of me. It doesn’t trigger me to start picking, it makes me conscious of the places I would pick but I have a large influx of that “don’t do that” emotion while either watching a video alone or being in front of people. I see those pleasure seeking pimple videos as disgusting, dirty, they make me want to vomit. Even if I might do the same things to myself. I don’t get any positive reaction out of watching others like what was mentioned in the last segment. Isn’t that interesting? You’d think those videos would give me relief or have the opposite effect and make me want to scratch my own skin but it actually triggers a strong negative reaction and deters me from doing the same to myself. Neat, huh?
Same! I was so surprised when such vids became a thing, and people said they really liked them or felt compelled to watch. It just reminds me of how gross our bodies are when you really think about it. Like "see that nasty stuff coming outta vid-person's face? yeah, that's in yours! all up in your skin, which is all over you. you're welcome good day!" and ugh just please no.
I have a question I would like to see the answer to. Why do you suddenly remember things when lying down for bed??
FinderofStar, that's a great question! It happens to me a lot.
Please, SciShow, if this vid topic is not already in the works or the queue, add it!!!
This isn't a scientific answer, but I would suspect that it has something to do with the fact that once you are lying down in bed, your mind is free from other distractions that you would normally encounter throughout the day. If you're up and doing stuff, or even if you're just watching a show or doing something "mindless", you're usually at least somewhat engaged in that activity, but when you're lying down to go to sleep you aren't doing anything else that may distract you from those random things your brain remembers. I'd be curious to find out if there's any research behind this though.
Because I had crushes on celebrities while I was underage I saved myself from teen relationships and I don't regret that
*sees thumbnail* ah yes, I do have a niche interest in a room full of vampires
I’ve never felt myself cheering on villains, but apparently that’s a thing that most people do? Weird
same; most villains i just feel a burning hatred for. only villains who have genuine reason to be the way they are i feel empathy for and want to see redeemed
I don't necessarily cheer them on. I just like watching them do their thing because they just do more interesting or unusual things than the heroes. Like, wow, you want to make a coat out of innocent baby puppies? That's horrible. Please continue.
well written villain's are just heroes with a flaw that they are either oblivious to or too jaded to fix, if you have written a good villain then most of the time it is the "end justifies the means" approach that makes them a villain not their goals or the person itself, people rarely relate to mustache twirling villain's but a villain that has a goal but is too jaded to do it within the confines of "being a good guy" is something people can relate and even cheer on on the big screen, it is especially effective if within the universe the setting is in his/her point of view is almost or entirely justified, if lets say in fantasy setting there is a incompetent king who is a tyrant and everyone just follows them because their oaths then a villain who seeks to overthrow that king for the good of the people can be justifiable to a degree, his methods will then be what defines them as a villain and these kind of villains are the ones that most people cheer for, if you haven't seen any well written villains that you cheered for then you've either been reading bad fiction or are bland in my estimate, or could be that you just don't see the chaos element of change that hero and villain both embody as a positive thing
@@Jinnai89 in the scenario you described about overthrowing a shitty King, I wouldn’t consider that to be a villain. If they’re overthrowing a tyrant king then that’d make them a hero.
@Jinnai89 understanding what led the villain to violate societal norms is also interesting.
From the perspective of a writer, I can tell you that we have many reasons to love villains. But our favorites are fleshed out, well written villains. We like villains whose backstories we can learn or speculate on. We like villains who have a little bit of gray and grey in their morality. We like villains who struggle just as much as heroes, and end up choosing the opposite path to the heroes. They stand as both cautionary tales and hope spots. They help us believe that a) we have the power to prevent villains, and b) villains can be redeemed, thus giving us hope for redemption when we become our own villains, so to speak. It's why Negaduck is so popular among the Darkwing Duck fandom. People aren't huge fans of twist villains mainly because they're given very little reason to suddenly turn evil. They have a Freudian excuse and that's it. And they can often become one-dimensional once their villain status is revealed. Also, they've been done to death. Literally in the case of Ernesto de la Cruz (Coco, 2017). Though he wasn't a twist villain as far as I was concerned, because even before the reveal, he was shown to be extremely vain and fame-obsessed.
Re: TP roll position: I guess I'm a chaotic neutral, then, because I do not care.
Californians, please stop naming your children Montana. Thank you.
Me, a learned INFP: * psychoanalyzing the ESTP sitting across from me, banging pots and pans * My, what strong Se you have.
On that note, I do like Zaheer, a villainous INFP, but the Avatar fandom agrees that he is easily the best written villain in LoK, and one of the best in the entire franchise.
I know when I was young and very much dysphoric, watching horror was part of me wanting to assimilate and be perceived as 'brave' or any ofthe other things people associate with masculinity. That and it being something I'm not 'supposed to' enjoy made it better. but now, I am very much disinterested with horror. unless it has a psychological element to it. I feel things A Lot. But for some reason, movies and writing (including roleplay) is something that feels somewhat safe? like a way to explore things and deal with trauma. Feel things my dissociative ptsd makes me wanna avoid.
Imo, this is why a lot of people write fanfic (especially Alternate Universe stuff). The characters we're already attached to act as an emotional buffer between us and the strongly felt emotions. Since it's not 'our' trauma, we don't have to be so afraid or angry or sad that we shut down out of self-preservation (unless very triggered, ofc) when we read / see the character experience something.
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It gives us the sense of being 'not alone' (because if someone else made this media, or reads and/or watches and comments, then they probably are one or know someone who has also endured Serious Sh*t). Yet we can also gain alternate perspectives, advice or comfort in a way we feel safe and comfortable with receiving through the mc's narrative or conversations with others.
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Stories in any format (even video games or paintings) can be very cathartic and even help with processing and healing.
I like sharpening metal tools. It is uniquely relaxing for me.
I'm strongly in the "Empathy Camp"... I struggle to get through horror movies because I can't help but wonder about their feelings and pain.
I don't have issues with that at all. What I tend to have problems with is embarrassment. When the person is being embarrassed, I almost have to leave the room. Same with medical issues or real pain. Horror is so fantasical that I kind of know it's not real. But this also leads me to be bored by them. I don't feel fear in horror films, I do like comedy horror though.
See, mine's not about wondering, I mentally "feel" everything because I so strongly imagine it happening to me. No thank you.
Just empathize with the killers instead of the victims then
Unless they act like unrealistically stupid not quite humans (bad screenplay), then I couldn't care less.
@@surelock3221 It's extremely difficult with the feeling of homicidal misantropy, though, if you haven never experienced that feeling. That becomes more of an intellectual exercise for me.
Pelicans... Hank this is an intervention
7:00 the celebrity talking to his fans about parasocial relationships is meta as heck
Personally, I like heroes and villains equally.
Heroes vibe with the altruistic, hopeful side of myself.
Whereas villains tend to relate to the part of myself that feels like a social outcast.
There’s a sort of freedom to villains, that they live their lives without worrying over peoples approval.
I’ve always liked that about them.
I get you, but I think villains and acting terrible has limits too. Such as mistreating others chases them away. Also, any other destruction villains do. Like maybe to the environment around them or their own homes.
Being nice also open doors. Such as attracting people to help you back.
If villains are too terrible, that's not very relatable either.
You could argue that the amount of love that goes into a thing is what gives it it’s value
I've always wondered if parasocial relationships are the same as the love that you feel for a plant? Like, how is 'my friend Totoro' different from 'this is my spider plant; he's called Steve.'
I've always liked villains because they were smart. They spent year planning their ultimate plan, gathering resources, keeping it secret, until everything was right. On the other hand, majority of heroes just come and smash everything. I like smart characters.
Thank you so much for uploading this video. It is helping me get through the pandemic!
The thing about villains in movies, books, and games is that you get shown more perspectives than just your personal experience or hearsay like in real life. I think that causes the viewer to relate or be more empathetic to the villain. You are more likely to think the villain is a good person who just makes poor choices or at least has a reason to do evil deeds.
When Hank started talking about parasocial relationships I immediately thought of him and John, whom I have been jokingly calling my parasocial uncle and dad for years now, since I found vlogbrothers as a teenager.
when she said love that wonky table I legit teared up xD pure wholesome content
Summarising the internet as "meeting strangers and incredible memes" is a testament to humanity
You guys are awesome! love you ❤️
People think Ièm weird for being so freaked out my Saw because "It's so silly and not scary". It is scary when you're a highly empathetic person and feel what the victims feel.
Now we know why the world is controlled by villains, we encourage them
Man, not only the compilation was fun you guys are generously dropping topics for undergrads.
Always interesting, thank you.
Geez man you are just all over the place aren't you? Nice to see you again! Wonderful to see you have remained excellent!
I am missing the IKEA affect. I built a crooked bookshelf once and I hated it until the day I threw it away. If anything, it was a recurrent blow to my self-esteem.
"Effort justification" should more accurately be termed "creation justification." Affinity for one's own creations also comes from the knowledge that something now exists that would not have existed at all, had it not been for oneself. The existence of my own creation - good or bad - both proves and justifies my own existence. I create, therefore I am. (And for me personally - I am, therefore I create. 😁)
This.
Another element I’d be curious to see explored WRT the IKEA Effect is the practice of mending items rather than buying new ones. I definitely feel a sense of competence when I can fix something, or even via the frugality of buying it secondhand. But it also strongly lines up with my values about avoiding waste and taking care of the things you own.
I also find that that “DIY high” doesn’t really apply to craft I’m practiced or disciplined in (eg. drawing). I felt really happy and proud of myself when I mended the tear in my comforter (which, funnily enough, was from IKEA), but objectively I did a terrible job. But knowing it’s not reflective of any of my abilities that “matter,” I can remain satisfied with it. So the hypotheses related to values and identity make more sense to me than the effort justification, which just doesn’t ring true to any of my endeavors. I definitely get sunk cost fallacy with stuff like making purchases, and I’ve had to kill my darlings in creative tasks, but valuing something I made more simply because I made it? Nope. And if the consistent self-prescribed undervaluing of artists’ labor is any indication, I’m not the only one.
I love you guys. Keep up the great work.
About parasocial relationships: it's funny, cuz I often find myself hanging out and chatting with movie stars in my head.
17:09 the murderous ghost in question is looking so non-threatening 😂
No sir let's talk about science through a oujia board.
Oh holy crap, who else laughed at Brit when she said "Its CROOKED and BEAUTIFUL". Ah the face at 16:31 is epic!
I question constantly whether or not I'm a bad person. I default to probably most of the time. I tend to try to find the reason behind actions whether or not I condone those actions. I also don't form parasocial relationships really at all. Never did. Never understood why people did. But that explanation makes sense
The IKEA effect makes sense but creative sellers often under price their work because of imposter syndrome so interesting to find out where that line is.
Video: talking about people loving fictional villians they identify with.
Me: Ursula is the *best* Disney villain ever.
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Ah, I see you're a person of culture! 🧐
Funny this; when I chat about The Little Mermaid with the people I do mermaiding (as a hobby), Ursula is my fine wine. So much so that I found out cecaelia are a thing and one of my sewing goals is to make an octopus tail to swim in.
Jokes on you, I immediately believe everything I make must be crap
I feel you buddy
That last one... I feel called out.
However, let it be known that I like my food spicy enough to constipate me, counteracting the diarrhea I would get otherwise. That I don't pop my zit, but scratch the itch 'till it comes off. And that I never once rode a roller coaster in my life, because my life is one hell of a roller coaster ride all by itself.
My celebrity crush wished me happy birthday last year 😭 I am still over the moon
Parasocial relationships with Markiplier & the Achievement Hunters are how I survived High School
In real life, friends that I made increasingly expected more from me. In general, it was little more than spending time with them, but I had real problem doing that after my best friend of half my life dropped me. I got used to being alone, and I was too scared to give up that time to the risk of being dropped again, because I wasn't giving them the right "thing".
A UA-camr can't drop you. They continue to do their job because it's their job, and if they ever quit, you can safely assume that it wasn't your fault. Achievement Hunter looked like the group of friends I always wanted, and like the ones that my mom, brothers, and sister had had.
There's a reason I watched them play 400 episodes of Minecraft, and 350 episodes of GTA. I got to learn them~ figure out what their reactions look like, when they were and weren't genuine, when someone made a good joke, and when they took it too far. Their creator said he "wanted to create the feeling of friends playing together on a couch," and that's all that this kid wanted; a kid who was terrified that he didn't understand the rules of friendship.
Now I want to know the implications of NOT having some of these tendencies.
Nah paintings by local artists are better than prints of old works any day.
All of these videos help me understand why some of my uncles still love a particular political figure... he who shall not be named.
I love that you are not saying that name. Positive vibes from New Hampshire and remember to be kind to each other and yourself during this pandemic and social crisis
These relationships might be an effect of ancient people communicating about their parents grandparents and so forth. This way you can feel like you're connected to your grandparents or your parents is kids or whatever else without actually being able to know them
Cats are helpless against the underhanded tp. It's the only way to hang toilet paper
Well, there's another reason for not having a cat
@@cassieoz1702 i have never had a cat do that.
Mine just steals hair elastics.
But that's because it glides so nice over the floor and under the door.
I just have a lot..
My dog on the other hand takes plastic trash form the kitchen and has also broken 2 car keys. Because plastic fixation
Our cats have never tried to do this so we don't need to hang it undersided lol
Didn't stop my cat lol
People are the best toys that you could possibly have and, sort of like subgroups, some of humanity's characteristics such as language or the reactions you can produce by "pushing (the right) buttons" of an individual or a group. There is certainly a sense of satisfaction in being able to control others.
Today a guy on a dating site told me he has a “body swapping” fantasy.
I asked for clarification.
He has a fetish for people switching bodies. Like Freaky Friday. And it’s especially arousing if it’s accidental or done against their will and they can’t switch back.
Officially the most Niche paraphilia I’ve ever heard.
I love that the zombie was labelled a shopaholic, nice Dawn of the Dead (1978) reference
I really like this new guy!!! I hope I hear more from him!!
the ikea effect is super interesting! strange that it doesn't seem to apply to art, like, at all. any explanation for that?
I was never able to sell my art even when people offered to buy it and display it publicly because I spent soooo much time and effort on each painting or drawing that I was emotionally attached to it. I could not let go of anything I worked so hard on.
Or are you talking about artists not asking enough money for their art?
I like watching pimple popping and blackhead videos because I imagine the relief the person felt after finally getting the gunk out
Acknowledging that there is nothing special about someone glorified in an industry should be the norm
the Ikea effect just sounds like a more specific version of sunk cost fallacy. I like this thing because I sunk time into putting it together.
Yes, it's the same principle.
That was a *mindblowing* episode! 🤯
I have an interesting relationship with horror movies and... people... I guess. I can understand and process the emotions the characters feel on screen, and enjoy it's significance and value, but I don't feel it myself, almost like I'm disconnected from it. This also applies to my friends and family to some extent. I care about them, and their emotional states, if they're sad or angry, I can understand that and comfort them, but I can't share their emotions. I can sympathize, but for as long as I can remember, I've rarely empathized with people. Sad games don't make sad, horror moviess don't make me scared, but I can appreciate them and still enjoy them, or even obsess over how good they were(Like Omori). I can't tell you how many times I've been in a situation where I'm just awkwardly standing around while everyone around me is crying or being sad over some event. To quickly clarify, it's not that I don't feel emotions, I most certainly do, but I just can't feel those emotions simply because others around me are. The best example of this is I've never thought of group goodbyes as sad, despite seemingly everyone around me thinking so.
It can just mean you're naturally more resistant to behavioural contagion, being more logic-driven and/or oriented on literal, physical practicalities. Like, friend is sad? help fix problem, offer act of service to ease their workload, lend a listening ear -- instead of sitting there trying to transfer their feelings into yourself or naturally reacting emotionally as if problem was actually happening to you.
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Because both feeling the Feels with people and being able to identify with and relate to them, AND being more objective and neutral-pov about stuff, is helpful, really, in their own turns and depending on the other people involved. We are who we are.
@@iprobablyforgotsomething Huh... I never thought of it that way... thanks.
Thank you SciShow...
For helping me feel slightly more "normal" about my dermatillomania...
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2:12 And here I thought it was just because the parents of those children lived in that state.
IKEA effect ...it could be the reason why people are so proud of their newborns 😉
(4:33) So.. you're telling me that Dr. Nefarious is my favorite villain because I'm similar to him? I kinda doubt that..
On the identifying with the villain one, there's also the factor that many villains are often queercoded whereas protagonists are often portrayed as strait, making it easier for some queer people to identify with the villain and harder to identify with the good guys
It's because the light is better at work and I can suddenly see my skin really well in the bathroom mirror there. Which leads me to squeezing everything because apparently I'm blind and need better light at home.
I can tell you 100% why I like villains: they are sexier. Loki? Way hotter than Thor. Shigaraki? Way crustier and sexy than All Might.
I like talking about my niche interests so much I literally made a whole channel 100% about them 😂Anyone else?
Sneaky self promote, no hate
And then there is me: I watched a horror movie that never had any relief, and everything got scarier, and there were scenes I refused to watch, and I finally left the theater way before the movie ended.
A minute later, another patron ran into the bathroom and threw up.
What was it? Now I'm curious.
Misery, if you must know. I'm not good with Stephen King.
When he mentioned the crush on Dan Howell I felt SO attacked
There was something so jarring about it. Like, despite the fact that I have been watching the gaming channel all night, I had to rewind 4 times to fully comprehend that he truly did say Dan Howell.
See just making me feel even weirder, I don't have any celebrity crushes at all. I like certain characters but not to a point that I think about them when the films not on etc and I've never thought screwing a table together made it better, usually the opposite.
so me grieving over losing my parasocial relationship with unus annus wasn’t silly or stupid? nice.
Super interesting topic. What does make people want to repeat things? People are weird
The ikea effect: i just wanted to note that I am the go to to family member for putting things together and taking them apart and have been since i was 14 and ended up going in after my step dad 'fixed' something so i got good at knowing how things worked and fir together. HOWEVER, there are a few things i have to dismantle and rebuild just to move it and my mom LOVES to rearrange the house. Those things that i do constantly just gives me an air of disdain every time i see it. I actually convinced my mom to get a new desk cause i came to despise her her old one....using it as kindling was the most satisfying thing ive ever experienced
Okay... I wasn't going to admit that I had a celebrity crush on Brit, but now she's talking about enjoying horror movies...
The Ikea effect is also the reason cake mix requires milk and eggs
"everyone enjoyed a good scare as long as they had a reality check"
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