Hi! Adoptive mom here! Just wanted to say I really enjoy your videos and enjoy your respective and that you are open about your feelings about your adoption. I’m always trying to learn so I can parent my 2 “adopted” children well. Both are semi open adoptions so we have met the birth moms and send letter and pictures periodically. I agree with you that the portrayal of the meeting in the episode was off. It was too light. However, when we met both of our birthmoms, they had already chosen us to be the parents. Both encounters were different as well... meaning it depends on the birthmom’s personality. Our first meeting, there were lots of tears. Our second adoption birthmom, not so much. it was awkward at first but very sweet words were exchanged. Both times however, about 20 minutes into conversations is when we relaxed and had small talk and laughed about our similarities. I understand the excitement and giddy ness portrayed but they could have done a better job with the seriousness and pain the birthmom experienced.
Hi! Thanks for sharing. I’m sure you’re right it depends a lot on everyone’s personalities involved. I’m always learning about different adoption topics myself as an adoptee. I find my learning is never complete 😊
Hi! Adoptive mom here! Just wanted to say I really enjoy your videos and enjoy your respective and that you are open about your feelings about your adoption. I’m always trying to learn so I can parent my 2 “adopted” children well. Both are semi open adoptions so we have met the birth moms and send letter and pictures periodically. I agree with you that the portrayal of the meeting in the episode was off. It was too light. However, when we met both of our birthmoms, they had already chosen us to be the parents. Both encounters were different as well... meaning it depends on the birthmom’s personality. Our first meeting, there were lots of tears. Our second adoption birthmom, not so much. it was awkward at first but very sweet words were exchanged. Both times however, about 20 minutes into conversations is when we relaxed and had small talk and laughed about our similarities. I understand the excitement and giddy ness portrayed but they could have done a better job with the seriousness and pain the birthmom experienced.
Hi! Thanks for sharing. I’m sure you’re right it depends a lot on everyone’s personalities involved. I’m always learning about different adoption topics myself as an adoptee. I find my learning is never complete 😊