Are There Really "No Good Catholic Men?" w/ Amber Rose

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  • Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
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    Matt tries to lessen the fears of a supporter by talking about how there might be more good Catholic men out there then you'd think.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 227

  • @daviddabrowski01
    @daviddabrowski01 Рік тому +318

    The good Catholic men are saying the same thing, “where are the good Catholic women?”

    • @vaskaventi6840
      @vaskaventi6840 Рік тому +12

      Pretty funny situation tbh

    • @johnpaulfitzpatrick8145
      @johnpaulfitzpatrick8145 Рік тому +9

      Facts

    • @finnfinn2381
      @finnfinn2381 Рік тому +1

      woke churches exist. Women workforce exists. men have to work full time to support. Women: "why no man in churches? where are the good men? why they dont fight evil?" im sure western men can fight evil when literally they have to work full day just to support themselves duh?!? but hey, gotta get women into work force am I right lool? I never regret leaving the us sh i t hole. too many gymnastic catholics there. imagine believing in God and democracy at the same time. like bruh

    • @JanuelWithGlasses
      @JanuelWithGlasses Рік тому

      Not me dude. There are so many incredible women at Catholic Church but the focus is the Rosary rn. Culture especially on UA-cam is to demonize the opposite sex so treat each other awesomely. PLEASE!

    • @boomct8569
      @boomct8569 Рік тому +13

      True!! Maybe you guys need to put up those posters with the little ticket thingies at the end…. ‘Have you seen a dateable good Catholic woman? Call this number!’ 😂

  • @catholicfemininity2126
    @catholicfemininity2126 Рік тому +63

    What Catholics are actually saying: "Where are all the ATTRACTIVE good Catholic men/women?"

    • @dwightschrute900
      @dwightschrute900 Рік тому +9

      There is a saint said, that if you only choose men/women based on their looks, the relationship will fall hard.
      I gotta find it though

    • @bigz1633
      @bigz1633 11 місяців тому +18

      ​@@dwightschrute900the attraction towards the physical aspect is still important and is the beginning of the spiritual one so it must still be there

    • @michaelsix9684
      @michaelsix9684 6 місяців тому +2

      very true, no one wants average people for marriage etc.

    • @TheJmlew11
      @TheJmlew11 5 місяців тому +2

      @@michaelsix9684then there will be this infinite stalemate going on. Because at the end of the day most folks aren’t super models.

    • @TheJmlew11
      @TheJmlew11 5 місяців тому

      @@dwightschrute900I would love to see this quote.

  • @MW-he4cp
    @MW-he4cp Рік тому +31

    The good Catholic dating pool is probably pretty small when compared to the general population, these days. Seventy years ago, when there were more good Catholics, I'm sure the dating was less awkward. I would say lukewarm Catholics could be good dating potential if they were open to becoming more serious in their faith. Ruling them out completely really does limit the possibilities of meeting the right spouse. The small amount of good Catholics to choose from is what makes the dating scene seem awkward because it's more desperate.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 Рік тому +3

      Its like you have to give up one thing for the another , you may find that you will need to date people you are less then what your physically attracted to, and than you would have to ask yourself is this someone you can see yourself having sex with ? Than for next 30,40 years ? Personally I wouldn't, I don't want to be in a roommate marriage 5,10,15 yrs down the road.

  • @JubalBed
    @JubalBed Рік тому +43

    The burden to be good enough is so heavy. I think living as Paul did helps relieve that burden.

  • @MW-he4cp
    @MW-he4cp Рік тому +32

    It's awkward for older Catholics, too. You kind of have to ask right away if someone you're interested in was divorced and what their previous marriage situation was in order to know if they would even be eligible to be your potential spouse. Would be heartbreaking to fall for someone who was previously in a valid Catholic marriage

    • @SuperSaiyanScandinavian
      @SuperSaiyanScandinavian Рік тому

      does the Catholic Church refuse to remarry anyone who's been divorced? or is it more specifically you can't remarry if you've been married before by a Catholic priest? Just curious cuz im starting my process to convert from a Lutheran to a Catholic in September, and while I'd ideally like to marry someone who's also never been married, I'm just wondering if I met someone who I connected with that had previously been married in either another Church or just civil union, and was able to convince them to convert to Catholicism if they'd be able to remarry again in a Catholic Church, or would I need to find a Catholic who's never been married, or someone who's never been married and is willing to become a Catholic?

    • @philfrank5601
      @philfrank5601 11 місяців тому +6

      ​@@SuperSaiyanScandinavian If someone has been married in a Catholic wedding, they cannot be married again afterwards..unless that marriage is annulled through the proper channels.

    • @SuperSaiyanScandinavian
      @SuperSaiyanScandinavian 11 місяців тому

      @@philfrank5601 thanks good to know

    • @artofdance99
      @artofdance99 10 місяців тому

      Spot on !

    • @michaelsix9684
      @michaelsix9684 6 місяців тому +1

      it's a real problem, and if someone is divorced with children, you have even more hurdles to face

  • @AlexJosten
    @AlexJosten Рік тому +105

    Yes it's incredibly difficult to talk to girls when they all immediately huddle into a circle. Also wearing a purity ring or Marian consecration ring on the left ring finger is an AWFUL idea. I see someone I think is pretty, notice the ring, stop thinking about her. 2 weeks later, no ring. Wtf am I supposed to do??? Also how do you find out how old a girl is? Sometimes I can't tell if they are 16 or 26 and I ain't trying to be a pervert.

    • @mariemunzar6474
      @mariemunzar6474 Рік тому +5

      Finding out how old a girl is actually isn't so difficult. Find out if she has a driver's license, if she is going to school or if she has a job. Or even if you can't find these things out right away or can't speak with any of her friends or family to figure out, also keep in mind where you met her at in certain places there are more adults than those under 18. If she is wearing a lot of makeup she may look older than she is however girls under 21 tend to be skinnier than older girls. I'm a woman in my twenties I can usually give a rough guess as to a girl's age. The older ones are easier to chat with, are less likely to shy away from a conversation, and as I said they're generally have put on more weight than younger girls. Women's bodies actually continue changing into their twenties, she may have larger breasts, wider hips, larger butt or stomach. It does depend on the body type but the facial features are also a little different, teenage girls usually still have a child's face with the exception of pimples. An adult woman might have a younger looking face too but you should be able to tell from just a couple brief chats.

    • @mariemunzar6474
      @mariemunzar6474 Рік тому +14

      @Jozo Kulis women don't get asked out by men as much as you seem to think. I was very rarely asked out. We are not rejecting men left and right. I can count on one hand how many guys have asked me out.

    • @mariemunzar6474
      @mariemunzar6474 Рік тому +4

      @@matthewvelazquez2013 I said no to the ones in high school because my parents said to wait until I was 18. After high school for the most part men would just ask for my number and not ask me out. But there was one who did and I did say yes to him. On online dating men were much more likely to communicate though I felt a bit uncomfortable with that. I am trying Catholic match right now though, will meet with someone from there.

    • @brookehamilton738
      @brookehamilton738 Рік тому +2

      Exactly! I think I’m decent looking and rarely if ever got asked out. Many of my relationships were because I asked the guy to be my bf.

    • @brookehamilton738
      @brookehamilton738 Рік тому

      The only reason I met my husband was on Catholic match. My only recommendation is to find someone local so you can get to know them better. It’s extremely hard to truly know someone long distance.

  • @ashawesome7234
    @ashawesome7234 Рік тому +32

    Good virtuous people to date do exist for both men and women, they are just buried in layer upon layer of non-dateable people. It gets isolating though.
    Edit: date-able autocorrected to edible. Whoops.

    • @saturdaysolitude7800
      @saturdaysolitude7800 Рік тому +7

      Well, I sure hope to find an eatable person someday. Can't always run to the supermarket if your fridge is empty.

    • @brandonnotsowise2640
      @brandonnotsowise2640 Рік тому +1

      … Dahmer vibes anyone?
      I kid.

    • @ashawesome7234
      @ashawesome7234 Рік тому

      @@saturdaysolitude7800 I LOVE AUTOCORRECT.

    • @Wolffur
      @Wolffur 6 місяців тому +1

      Well, it's not uncommon to describe an affectionate or caring person as sweet.

  • @tateharrigan8061
    @tateharrigan8061 Рік тому +12

    Fulton sheen once said that the woman can do alot for a man by simply dropping hints. he told a story about dropping a handkerchief and he picks it up and talks to her. He thinks he's doing normal, but she sorta led him into it.

  • @davidcole333
    @davidcole333 Рік тому +15

    Polynesian people wear a flower over their left ear if they are married. They wear the flower over their right ear if they are single. That would really simplify things in church :-) You would know who was approachable or not.

    • @Waldemarvonanhalt
      @Waldemarvonanhalt Рік тому +4

      In the past, married women would wear black mantillas/veils and unmarried women would wear white ones.

    • @Neema825
      @Neema825 Рік тому +2

      @@Waldemarvonanhalt they need to start veiling again.

  • @trueblueclue
    @trueblueclue 11 місяців тому +9

    Women don't appreciate how tough it is to approach them. Guys go through a lot mentally trying to make the first move so cut us some slack.

    • @karlheven8328
      @karlheven8328 6 місяців тому +1

      I feel that traditionalist women can be nasty if they expect 'alpha male mentality' . That's why I am sceptical of traditionalist dating, the role expectations can be too harsh for someone a bit shy like me😂

    • @israeliana
      @israeliana 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@karlheven8328just introduce yourself. It's pretty calm.
      But most women will not approach a man

  • @jeffthomas9768
    @jeffthomas9768 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for sharing my comment on the stream, Matt. I really enjoy your content and Amber's as well!
    I want to correct my comment though about me saying "I'm a 25 year old man..." the character limit was a struggle to figure how to say my comment. I should've said "gentleman". even though I am a young man, I really didn't want to sound older than I said i am. Darn you character limit boxes!

  • @luxither7354
    @luxither7354 Рік тому +15

    That last minute of the "is there a chance to get out of the friendzone" harsh reality was hilarious.

  • @serga7486
    @serga7486 Рік тому +15

    Catholic Match needs to advertise more. And bring down the price for basic communication hahaha

  • @mememe1468
    @mememe1468 Рік тому +39

    I tell you what: my conversion to Catholicism has utterly crippled my chances for dating. As a 28 year old convert with already stunted social skills, rejected just too many times, the possibilities are already low. Combine that with small, local parishes that are either populated by old people or people under 22. My current parish is very much a college parish. What's also wild is there aren't even that many women. Like, I've been Catholic for few years and the amount of Catholic women I've seen with my actual eyes is very small. My only real Christian options are all baptists and, obviously, most are uninterested. Like, bruh, I'm done for. I've given up entirely on even dating, let alone the possibility of marriage. Thanks Catholic church 🙂

    • @clayfurleigh4170
      @clayfurleigh4170 Рік тому +37

      Don’t be so melancholic. God works through open doors. You got this! Praying for you :)

    • @DelioJez
      @DelioJez Рік тому +8

      Watch Fr Ripperger, take the faith seriously, God will provide, follow his Will. I find it very tough, but I know there's hope. No point being a lukewarm Catholic, you either believe in God's divine will, that he wants the best for you (including marriage if it's your vocation), that there are angels and demons fighting battles every day, or you don't believe. Don't lose faith!

    • @jamesh6650
      @jamesh6650 Рік тому +13

      I live in one of the most popular places in the country (Raleigh, NC) with a rather large Catholic population (though like any area, the % of those who are truly devout Catholics is small) and I still can’t find a good girlfriend. Society is intentionally attacking monogamy, morals and God.
      But, like St. Padre Pio loved to say “Pray, Hope, and don’t worry!”

    • @javierclement3047
      @javierclement3047 Рік тому +1

      Hello Eirene, remember, You’re 28. Not 38. 18-22 is obviously in play and probably the best option in many cases.

    • @mariemunzar6474
      @mariemunzar6474 Рік тому

      You have more options now. Catholics are the largest religion in the US, each protestant sect is very small and baptists usually only marry other baptists. Keep looking join young adult groups also

  • @DeltaS5
    @DeltaS5 Рік тому +40

    Back in high school and early college I tried to date and always came up short. I was either too oblivious to women flirting or I find out weeks later they already in a relationship (which they never disclosed until I find out their boyfriend is jealous). It was either at mass or when I was at home reading the bible and 1 Corinthians 7:32 resonated with me. Really just told me to stop the worldly concerns and finding a girl, and start refocusing on the Lord and be more concerned with His way and what He wants. 10 years later and in my late 20's, still no regrets on this decision. So I never bothered with trying to date anymore, or even approaching women in that dating-like manner. If one comes my way then I might think about it, but I am fine if it never happens.

    • @cameronmcgehee
      @cameronmcgehee Рік тому +5

      I felt like this too for a while but it was just me rationalizing my way of escaping the anxiety I experienced from approaching girls. I'm not saying you aren't being genuine, you could be, but just watch out if you are indeed coming up with an excuse instead of actually being seriously OK with never dating anyone.

    • @eoinMB3949
      @eoinMB3949 Рік тому +4

      You're 100% right. And I would add to that make sure you give up masturbation and all forms of pornography. make sure that your life is a sex free zone because any sexual activity (including with yourself) outside of marriage is a sin. A lot of people who are think they're practicing celibacy aren't really because they continue to masturbate and watch porn. It makes a huge difference to be truly celibate. Focus on the Lord and the mission he has for you in life, if you meet someone along the way, great but don't chase after a relationship. So many Christians put a relationship above God, its as if they make a deal that they'll put God first as soon as the have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. God comes above this.

    • @DeltaS5
      @DeltaS5 Рік тому +2

      @@cameronmcgehee Thank you and I appreciate you sharing your experience. I'm honestly being genuine. Never had anxiety or much issue talking with women. I really thought and prayed on this for sure. It truly came down to understanding I may not be ready or it's not part of God's plan for me. So I've always been improving myself spiritually, career-wise, and being there for friends and family. And if something happens down the road and i find someone cool, but if not I'm really fine with that too.

    • @cameronmcgehee
      @cameronmcgehee Рік тому

      @@eoinMB3949 Porn is harmful in almost every situation but masturbation is fine as long as you're not using the thoughts/images of others as your source of arousal (going by your faith).

    • @eoinMB3949
      @eoinMB3949 Рік тому

      @@cameronmcgehee Porn is harmful but masturbation is also just as harmful. When you masturbate you are conditioning your equipment to your hand, which is far stronger than a vagina. So if you do get married and have sex you will not be able to perform and the sexual act will be a severe let down for you and your wife. Trust me I know this from experience. But when you stop masturbation it's like reseting yourself to factory settings, the way you were meant to be without interfering with yourself. And this is an incredible feeling. Masturbation also numbs you out, it destroys your natural sexual energy that you give off. Again, I can speak from personal experience here, the difference between the attention I get from women when I used to masturbate and when I stopped masturbation is the difference between night and day. If you give up masturbation you'll see for yourself, its incredible what happens and when you do see what it's like in your life when you don't jerk off, you will never do it again because you'll realise that you are a fool to masturbate. Another reason to never masturbate is what it does to your brain, watch Gary Wilson's Ted talk on this topic. He talks about porn but also about the effects of consistent masturbation......its scary because you are literally rewiring your brain. Masturbation is a mugs game and it's nonsensical to do this. If you don't believe me, stop masturbation for 3 months and see what happens. I promise when you see what life is like on the other side you will never masturbate again so long as you live.

  • @bradleytarr2482
    @bradleytarr2482 Рік тому +11

    The majority of people between the ages of 18--39, at least two thirds, maybe even more, in my 3 Local Parishes of Mansfield, OH, that actually show up weekly for Mass, and for Theology on Tap, and for Bible Studies, and for other events, are men. We're literally asking, "Where are the godly women?" And when I lived in Columbus, Ohio, that figure went up to about 4/5 single people showing up being men.

    • @michaelsix9684
      @michaelsix9684 6 місяців тому

      surprised to hear this, maybe women don't think they can meet anyone using church activities, Catholic women often marry outside the church and don't consider looking for Catholic guys

    • @Pieflavourman87
      @Pieflavourman87 3 місяці тому

      Same here, but in Central Ontario. The one single Catholic woman that was single (and looking to date) I've already dated 😂 So not sure where to go, probably will have to increase my social circle to congregations outside of the city I live in

    • @israeliana
      @israeliana 2 місяці тому

      This is interesting. In the City, my city, it's mainly women at Mass. We are just 😂 hanging out with the older ladies and men.

  • @swoosh1mil
    @swoosh1mil Рік тому +33

    Don't look for a good Catholic man; but rather strive to be a good Catholic woman! And Thank God Almighty for whatever He blesses you with.

    • @karlheven8328
      @karlheven8328 6 місяців тому

      wise tip for both men and women.
      We need to stop focusing on judging others and humble ourselves first❤

  • @fabs226
    @fabs226 Рік тому +13

    It's the first time I disagree with the comments shared on this channel 😅
    It is indeed *really* hard to meet good Catholic guys, even more living in such a fast-paced city like NY. Sadly, the hook-up culture is what most 20-30 somethings are into these days.

  • @MW-he4cp
    @MW-he4cp Рік тому +7

    Actively trying to date is good if marriage is your goal, but the best relationships often blossom from something small or from situations where there is no pressure to like each other in that way...for example, coworkers that end up together later because they've had time to learn about each other without dating. I'm sure joining events and getting involved in hobbies that include men and women might be a good way to get to know people without awkward dates.

  • @KingSquirtle999
    @KingSquirtle999 Рік тому +22

    That's like saying there are no good catholic women.

    • @aclark903
      @aclark903 Рік тому +2

      They're all sinners.

    • @KingSquirtle999
      @KingSquirtle999 Рік тому +6

      @@aclark903 relax kid

    • @garrettstephens91
      @garrettstephens91 Рік тому +1

      I have an impossible time finding ones that are single (especially in my area).

    • @KingSquirtle999
      @KingSquirtle999 Рік тому +1

      @@garrettstephens91 I have an impossible time finding kangaroos in my area, but that doesn't mean they don't exist.

    • @garrettstephens91
      @garrettstephens91 Рік тому +6

      @@KingSquirtle999 Sure, but if no one can find them, then whether or not they exist is functionally irrelevant.

  • @shelbyhuseman1220
    @shelbyhuseman1220 Рік тому +11

    If my Catholic husband wasn’t so amazing I’d definitely be a nun in a heartbeat 🤣 god had other plans for me, he hand picked my husband and brought him in my life when I least expected it. My husband is such a loving, compassionate, faithful man who does so much for me just because he loves me so deeply. Good Catholic young men exist for sure!

  • @peterwebb8732
    @peterwebb8732 Рік тому +21

    Spent 20 years breaking my neck to be “good”. Apparently it wasn’t enough.

    • @dann547
      @dann547 6 місяців тому +2

      Visit the Philippines. A Catholic culture, friendly people and beautiful churches.

  • @MaggiePies
    @MaggiePies 5 місяців тому +3

    Lets be honest most people are just focused on appearences.
    I dont doubt there are good Catholic men but the issue i run into is men who Don't want to wait until marriage for intimacy or believe in pro-choice things like that automatically turn me off.
    I think a lot of people are lukewarm in their faith and don't really take it seriously. It's almost like it's just a routine.

    • @angelrogo
      @angelrogo 3 місяці тому

      It is also necessary to talk about the "Catholic" women who are in active homosexual relationships, marry 6-6-6 Chads, having them as providers, while they keep their female homosexual relationships.
      Or about the purity rings that magically appear and disappear according to how good-looking it is the guy approaching.

  • @pdh7436
    @pdh7436 Рік тому +2

    I'm happy to say that my daughter found a very good Catholic man. When I asked how they arrived at the name Margaret for their newborn daughter, his response was that "A Man for All Seasons" is his favorite movie and St. Thomas More's daughter was named Margaret. But he then admitted with a chuckle that it was a 90/10 decision with Lady Thatcher given some credit.

  • @boomct8569
    @boomct8569 Рік тому +18

    I know a girl who ‘just wanted to be friends’ …. They’re now married with a son. 😊
    The best marriages all start with friendship. Still, I agree with Amber, if the girl says it to you she probably means it. Just keep being friends, pray like mad to St Joseph and things will move one way or another.
    Courtship and marriage discernment is HARD though!

    • @boomct8569
      @boomct8569 Рік тому +2

      @@matthewvelazquez2013 I hear you and
      I didn’t mean to wait around fruitlessly and lose other opportunities, I meant to try to maintain that friendship as a friendship and be open to God’s leadings by deep prayer. Things will move one way or another. There will either be a change in the girl’s feelings or another opportunity in a different relationship will present itself.

    • @dwightschrute900
      @dwightschrute900 Рік тому +2

      Sorry Matthew, you are wrong on this.

  • @paynedv
    @paynedv Рік тому +5

    Titus 2:2-8
    [2]That the aged men be sober, chaste, prudent, sound in faith, in love, in patience.
    [3]The aged women, in like manner, in holy attire, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teaching well:
    [4]That they may teach the young women to be wise, to love their husbands, to love their children.
    [5]To be discreet, chaste, sober, having a care of the house, gentle, obedient to their husbands: that the word of God be not blasphemed.
    [6]Young men, in like manner, exhort that they be sober.
    [7]In all things shew thyself an example of good works, in doctrine, in integrity, in gravity,
    [8]The sound word that can not be blamed: that he who is on the contrary part may be afraid, having no evil to say of us.

  • @MW-he4cp
    @MW-he4cp Рік тому +4

    I couldn't agree more about not sheltering kids. Yes, raise them right and protect them in the ways that are necessary but don't shield the from society completely or they won't know how to handle situations... and they won't fit in well. Some homeschool kids are awesome and get along great in life, but some are awkward and don't socialize well when they're on their own. The world needs bright little Catholic lights to be in society to spread the light of their faith to those who need it. I'm sure it's hard to navigate, though. It's hard enough for Catholic adults to represent and spread the faith, so I'm sure it's extra hard for the kids.

  • @Kipperbob
    @Kipperbob Рік тому +17

    Any time any women ever suggested the friend zone to me when I was younger, I always said "great, I wouldn't consider breeding children with anyone I couldn't consider a lifelong friend". As a man it's best to lay out your intentions honestly so that there's no confusion about the matter.

    • @catholicfemininity2126
      @catholicfemininity2126 Рік тому +2

      Honestly if meeting strangers and trying to date them isn't working, establishing friendships is the best.

    • @Kipperbob
      @Kipperbob Рік тому

      @@catholicfemininity2126 friendship is where any long term relationship is most secure, I've never been married to my lady friend for 22 years, we are friends with similar values who decided to establish a permanent basis for our friendship and embark upon raising a family together, Romance and love blinded by sexual attraction will never stand up to the trials life throws at us with close to the same resilience as friendship will.

    • @karlheven8328
      @karlheven8328 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@KipperbobI do not understand you are raising a family with a friend😂? Are you catholic or have I understood something wrong😂?

  • @Lauradahl-creations
    @Lauradahl-creations 8 місяців тому +3

    I disagree with Amber. I think starting out as friends is the best way to get to know each other. Then, if something develops after that, I think that I a more powerful relationship and bond. Just sayN

  • @interestedmeow
    @interestedmeow Рік тому +3

    1:13 The way she said ‘mmmm crazy’ and looked down for a good 10s beat is….troubling??

  • @BXMKE
    @BXMKE Місяць тому

    I think the issue is Catholics are family oriented when it comes to the faith or community related like around the neighborhood or city. I feel like meeting people on the basis their Catholic is hard to look for.

  • @SammytheStampede
    @SammytheStampede Рік тому +7

    Go to where the good Catholics are. In my home state of Massachusetts, we had one mass in Boston on the far end of the state. I have never been to that church. We have a mass in Connecticut, and watch the girls hair grow up. I never dated anyone in that chapel, I moved to North Dakota in the middle of nowhere somehow God brought my wife and I together. It was before the altar that I met my wife and it was before the altar that I married her. Oh and guys, get yourself well established and save your pennies before you go looking for a wife (make yourself a modest prospect), they will find you. But still, go to where the spouses are to be found.

  • @rmc8100
    @rmc8100 Рік тому +3

    Live in a city and can’t find good catholic women

  • @blueyedmule
    @blueyedmule Рік тому +5

    If your valuation of Catholicism and the marriage prospects in that world is what it looks like on the Steubenville campus, I think you're sample size is skewed. Try a typical novas order parish in Oregon in the 90s. It was horrible trying find someone who practiced the faith in anywhere near its fullness.

  • @jonathanl2748
    @jonathanl2748 Рік тому +10

    Good video!

  • @roquevillafranca4018
    @roquevillafranca4018 Рік тому +5

    People also deserve a little bit of grace for their past.

  • @jackedpreacher6570
    @jackedpreacher6570 Рік тому +10

    This just shows you that for women it's never enaugh. No matter how good of a man you are, they think they "deserve" (can get) better. Hypergamy is a thing, don't try to deny it girls...

    • @RocKnight11
      @RocKnight11 10 місяців тому

      What's wrong with aWoman getting the best partner they can get?

    • @zsedcftglkjh
      @zsedcftglkjh 8 місяців тому +2

      @@RocKnight11 That's fine if it's the best "they can get." Most women just want the "best" and won't settle for a man they can get. A friend of mine, good convert from Arkansas, dated a deaf and blind girl and she dumped him because...reasons. The expectations are unreal.

    • @RocKnight11
      @RocKnight11 8 місяців тому

      @@zsedcftglkjh Maybe these "reasons" were really good reasons for these two not to be in a relationship.
      Consider this: many of today's women are very liberal-minded, proChoice, and proWoke. Many of today's men are conservative-minded, anti-Choice, antiWoke... I mean, these guys are actually proud to be antiWoke.
      If a woman wants to date a person of similar values, it's completely understandable that they wouldn't want to date theseGuys.

  • @MultiJpad
    @MultiJpad Рік тому +20

    Good catholic women? There all on tinder and in clubs, then when they had all there fun at 30 years old then they become good catholics.

    • @theresefrancis9283
      @theresefrancis9283 Рік тому +9

      And plenty of "Catholic men" meet and hook up on tinder. Goes both ways. My TLM parish is busting at the seams with young families and awesome singles. Try the TLM parishes and then get back to me lol.

    • @theresefrancis9283
      @theresefrancis9283 Рік тому

      @@pjm001 Will probably change as time goes on. Ours was purely young families and then it grew to include singles. Since the Bishop made us merge the largest TLM diocese into 3 small churches for Latin Masses, it has only congregated them into the same spaces further.

    • @angelrogo
      @angelrogo 3 місяці тому

      @@theresefrancis9283 So basically, being Catholic is a big, fat lie and all men and women are looking for the same superficial things and for the same worldly pleasures.

  • @Wolffur
    @Wolffur Рік тому +2

    I'm sure that good women and men alike both exist. But trying to find each other is like trying to pan for gold in an ocean of nuclear waste!

    • @michaelsix9684
      @michaelsix9684 6 місяців тому +1

      so true, dating apps made it even harder

  • @Waldemarvonanhalt
    @Waldemarvonanhalt Рік тому +6

    I know we tend to make men out to be stupid, but most men are pretty good at making risk/benefit analyses.

  • @herbpalindrome
    @herbpalindrome Рік тому

    Next PWA debate: Amber Rose vs. a Church Militant anchor on whose causing the dating problem in the church: men or women

  • @lesmen4
    @lesmen4 Рік тому +3

    there are lots of good Catholic men who dont show off.
    .

  • @brookehamilton738
    @brookehamilton738 Рік тому +18

    Yeah girls say no because we have standards. There are some good holy and Catholic men. But the problem is the majority of the good ones are not actually attractive. Women shouldn’t be forced to lower their standards because a guy is worthy but not attractive. You wouldn’t tell a guy to date a girl he isn’t attracted to because she’s a good woman.

    • @Jimmy-iy9pl
      @Jimmy-iy9pl Рік тому +10

      There are girls I'm not particularly attracted too that I'd still date if they asked -- usually because of their demeanor, personality, intelligence and interests. And I wouldn't say I was lowering my standards either -- that's kind of an assholish thing to say about another person's looks assuming they're at least trying to keep up appearances.
      But I'd also say the dynamics here are somewhat different. No matter how good looking a girl is, most are going to hit the wall pretty hard by the time they turn 35. Even an average and plain looking man is going to age better than your average woman.

    • @ptacek-gn5jg
      @ptacek-gn5jg Рік тому +5

      Women are much more selective than men when it comes to their physical standards and that's okay. I just wish people were more honest about it instead of telling guys it's because they have a deeply flawed personality/don't make enough money etc.

    • @Lisa07-s
      @Lisa07-s Рік тому

      @@ptacek-gn5jg mem too

    • @catholicfemininity2126
      @catholicfemininity2126 Рік тому

      @@Jimmy-iy9pl Well, women prefer it if the man asks them, there were plenty of guys I was interested in, but wasn't sure if they felt the same way, and I didn't wanna be too masculine in asking them out or approaching them all the time. If a man doesn't approach, we girls assume he isn't interested.

    • @catholicfemininity2126
      @catholicfemininity2126 Рік тому +1

      You are so right, I think most of us just have high standards of looks or height etc..... I am a tall lady who wants a tall man, it's rough because I live in an area with lots of short men and it's so unfortunate.

  • @zacharyeicher390
    @zacharyeicher390 Місяць тому

    Who cares if their Catholic or not? Why not focus on if they are a good person? I understand the importance of sharing beliefs, but sometimes your special someone is outside of the faith.

  • @Primordial_Synapse
    @Primordial_Synapse 4 місяці тому

    I ask the following in sincere faith: how does the Catholic Church understand Deuteronomy 21:18-21? It's often dismissed as barbaric and cruel but I've seen what happens to men who "fail to launch" even well into middle age and quite frankly, death is preferable.
    Again, this isn't a "gotcha" question.

  • @Strive1974
    @Strive1974 Рік тому +2

    Raising lions, not sheep.....Viva Cristo Rey

  • @nchinth
    @nchinth 11 місяців тому +7

    ask yourself this: over the past 50+ years which sex has changed the most significantly (and for the worse)? Hint: think feminism.

  • @Mr_Fairdale
    @Mr_Fairdale Рік тому +3

    “There are so many amazing men”
    (me, nodding in agreement)

  • @INRIVivatChristusRex
    @INRIVivatChristusRex 8 місяців тому

    Yes, but we all are wounded by original sin. If both are not full practicing Catholics. It is going to be really, really, really hard to maintain a long marriage.
    Ave Christus Rex!
    Salve Maria Regina!

  • @user-yb4dz8gx9v
    @user-yb4dz8gx9v 2 місяці тому

    IT IS GODWILLING SO COUSE WE ONLY MARRY ONE MAN OR ONE WOMAN YOU WOULD NOT FOLLOW GOD WITH YOUR ❤IF EVERY MAN OR WOMAN WOULD BE ATRACTIVE TO YOU

  • @dmitryostrovsky5763
    @dmitryostrovsky5763 4 місяці тому +1

    Most of my Catholic women friends tell me that there are lots of good Catholic men, but hardly any good looking Catholic men. Some of my Catholic women friends wanted to have children before too old, and unfortunately married good Catholic men that they were not physically attracted to, in hopes that they would learn to love them, but ended up splitting up with them because they could not learn to love them. Some guys have it and some never will.

  • @bobsmitg6987
    @bobsmitg6987 Рік тому +9

    Don't be a loser, ask the cute Catholic girl out.
    It's how I got my wife.

  • @RealAugustusAutumn
    @RealAugustusAutumn Рік тому +3

    Its so difficult to find good Catholic men OR women. I feel like women just don't give men the chance.

    • @michaelsix9684
      @michaelsix9684 6 місяців тому

      they don't, and most women today are rejecting 80% of the men or more, studies show this, we now have the lowest marriage rates in US history

  • @wilhufftarkin8543
    @wilhufftarkin8543 Рік тому +13

    Pro tip: If you don't find a Catholic girl you vibe with, just date a girl you vibe with and make her Catholic.

    • @luciabardini5715
      @luciabardini5715 Рік тому +9

      you don't evange-date... in most cases it leads to a disaster

    • @Jimmy-iy9pl
      @Jimmy-iy9pl Рік тому +1

      I'm not Catholic but I've more or less come to the same conclusion. If you can find a pretty and feminine girl your age or younger, but she's not a Christian or doesn't share your particular type of Christianity, you can date her and slowly introduce her to your faith when it becomes apparent that you're both likely to commit to a relationship.
      You don't need to be a try-hard, just ask her to come to church with you and occasionally bring the subject up -- which you should be doing anyway if you're a sincere Christian. (Every Christian is called to be an evangelist of some sort. If you're not talking about your faith with friends and family, you're violating Jesus' command to spread the Gospel to the ends of the earth and to love your neighbor.

    • @luciabardini5715
      @luciabardini5715 Рік тому

      @@Jimmy-iy9pl sadly I tought it would work too...trust me there are countless marriages where the religion/confession is the major issue (if you take it seriously)

    • @catholicfemininity2126
      @catholicfemininity2126 Рік тому +2

      Noooo don't do that, you will only regret it. I've seen too many evengelizing dating go sour.

    • @dwightschrute900
      @dwightschrute900 Рік тому +2

      Do it! Slowly evangelizing in relationship does work! God works in mysterious ways!

  • @TomoyoTatar
    @TomoyoTatar Рік тому +2

    I'm under the impression that no, there isn't.

    • @artistforthefaith9571
      @artistforthefaith9571 Рік тому

      That's what happens when men are abandoned by their mothers and left to fend for themselves in a society that worships women's 'freedom'. Women demanded to be free and they now have their wish, seems like nobody is happy with the outcome.

  • @pamforrester844
    @pamforrester844 Рік тому +4

    Like, um like can't they find a grown up to like um discuss this? Throw some thing to the adults in the house, I may be ancient but this?

  • @swoosh1mil
    @swoosh1mil Рік тому

    Why ask this question? Only God is good!

  • @nicholasmargagliano1833
    @nicholasmargagliano1833 Рік тому +2

    I’m right here… but there’s no real catholic women. IMHO

  • @iroamalone6953
    @iroamalone6953 Рік тому +8

    Amber is 🔥

    • @jmcm152
      @jmcm152 Рік тому +15

      Gives up on simple math, that's a turn off for me

    • @javierclement3047
      @javierclement3047 Рік тому +2

      @@jmcm152 As a computational scientist, I have to say the same. She was perfect until I heard that 😅

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 10 місяців тому +1

    I am a good Catholic man and have never been flirted with or been shown interest by a Catholic woman. I tried flirting and being friendly with a Catholic woman from my Church but it went no where because like most women, Catholic or not, she wants a guy who excites her sexually and who is trying to get her into bed.

    • @zsedcftglkjh
      @zsedcftglkjh 8 місяців тому +2

      The default assumption is to treat men like they are predators.

  • @Lauradahl-creations
    @Lauradahl-creations 8 місяців тому

    No good, decent Catholic men? 😢

  • @Kipperbob
    @Kipperbob Рік тому +2

    Good men always step up to the expectations women place upon them, Women who complain about the lack of good men, perhaps they aren't demanding enough respect from the men around them.

    • @TomoyoTatar
      @TomoyoTatar Рік тому +2

      I'm pretty demanding. I guess my ex wasn't a good man.

    • @TomoyoTatar
      @TomoyoTatar Рік тому +3

      @@braveHoratius He was an atheist anyways who cheated; so I'm not really concerned. As for who was wrong, this is the internet...lmao only children fight on here. 🤣👍

    • @Kipperbob
      @Kipperbob Рік тому

      @@matthewvelazquez2013 I think the idea is that since women control access to sexual reproduction, men will make themselves into the men most desirable to women, which used to be those men who offered security and safety within a monogamous relationship, women no longer desire this since they have abandoned morality and become promiscuous, in the societies that have gone furthest down this path, 20%of the men are pro creating with all the women and 80% of the men do not have any access to sexual reproduction, that's 80%of the male population who have no personal investment in the creation of a society that is safe for women and children, because it ain't their women and ain't their children. Men become what women demand from them. If all the women demanded monogamous marriage in return for access to sexual reproduction, the distribution of females would be spread equally among all the male population, giving the majority of the men personal responsibility for the creation of a society safe for their women and children. So I put the blame for all the social degradation in the world right at the feet of promiscuous women. Because men will always step up to the mark and become the men most desirable to the women. In return for access to sexual reproduction of course.

    • @alvaradoac21
      @alvaradoac21 4 місяці тому +1

      There’s also the aspect of being over demanding, i.e. a woman who thinks because she’s pretty and of a certain faith she can have every guy she wants

    • @Kipperbob
      @Kipperbob 4 місяці тому +1

      @@alvaradoac21 that's why we have competition in the marketplace, she can have any guy she wants, if she's offering quality at a competitive rate, over demanding is leaving the men with more competitive options. Many will settle for a lesser quality product at lower cost, because it demands less and gets the same job done. Basically for the same reason I drive Nissan or Toyota instead of Audi and BMW, they function the same, but one demands less than the other to cover the same mileage.