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We guys are single these days one of the major reason of this is an average girl getting more attention than good looking guys. Our society treats men as achievers and women something to be achieved. 20:12 was damn funny
Society is conditioned in such a way that we are expected to chase a women as if she is a prize that we must get rather than seeing it as a human being. Its evident that women get alot of social attention then men even if she doesn't have all the qualities. Women in our society are expected to sit and select whereas men are expected to do alot more work in order to get her and its not a level playing field cuz disparity is higher in our gen.
A jobless man cannot and would not get a female partner for marriage even if he date alot but a jobless female can get multiple proposal from everywhere and there are people willing to do anything for her. Hence women would always have a higher social value then men.
@@ArjunVerma-wx7tf jobless woman get multiple proposal only when she is beautiful Social desirability criteria for men: money For woman: physical beauty
The Problem in India is that those who are introvert they opt for Dating application and many men still don't get matches on dating apps and also majority life of a middle class boy settle in complete the demands of his family and no one understands that men have so much pressure on them. And I believe that many indian girls attitude is getting so weirdly sometimes..
@@fedir5931 thats true.....asal me indian larki ko guts hi nhi h.....saamne se larke ko prapose krne ka......aur larko ke initiation ka toh mazzak bna diya h....seedha tharki hi sochne lgte h...image kharab wali baat ho jati h
As a Psychotherapist, I must add in short that throughout the world, Physical looks are still the initial parameter for choosing a partner, friends, colleagues or even employees. So no matter how your genetics are start working a bit on your physical grooming to add an extra advantage to your personality & avoid rejections. 🔥
Idk why people are laughing here. Its true. If you won't find wrapper attractive, you won't care which cookies are inside. But for that, no company has ever spent 50% of the revenue on designing the best f*cking wrapper..... just a decently attractive wrapper.. thats all you need.
@@pbirbal4757 True...you can be a gem inside but if you are not approachable & presentable then you are going to face rejections unconsciously again & again in life
@Abhishek Yadav no. Embrace them is correct. But when every girl you ask, rejects you...... Then you become crushed and lonely. This is my story, 1 year ago. Then I realised that I am ugly that's why. Now I live in bliss and it's peaceful down here.
I was a fat kid growing up due to some family issues, but since I've started working on my fitness my life has changed completely, I'm more productive in everything I do, I'm more disciplined and yes people do look at you as a different person.
Same bro i was overweight an year ago according to my BMI,i started to work on my physical fitness, my eating habits.I lost almost 10kg weight.Now i feel very energetic and more attentive towards my work.
One of the main reason from my point of view is desperation. Many guys are so desperate nowadays to get in a relationship that when they do get with a women they don't know what to do now. I think they should become a man of value first. Secondly, Bollywood have made guys "sadma aashiq"😂. Guys are thinking emotionally rather than logically because of this.
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Correct. People who are genetically attractive are most likely to get into a relationship and will definitely get into casual dating or hookups. Note: I'm not saying personality doesn't matter but a person can't just accept the other just because they exist.
Personality doesn't matter at all bro 🤦even if some girl gets in love with you just because you are intelligent or have a great mindset she will surely cheat you someday for a more good looking guy this is what reality is ....
@@nishank6969 actually personality matters the most. You are looking at it from short term pov. Life is 50 70 years after you turn 15. Maybe when you grow older, you will realize everything centers around personality. If you are gonna consider kids (people upto 26) and selectively look for those going for appearances, then your perception is severely limited and constrained by confirmation bias too. there are all types of people in this world, just like you are different from most guys.
Bruh I'm 19 & I'm already going against the culture. Everybody is talking about working for a big organisation BUT I want to BE THE ORGANIZATION. PERIOD
I'm just a 21 year old single Bangladeshi guy who loves ur videos. I finished my school and college life being single. I decided that if I don't get the chance to marry then I'm gonna adopt few kids from orphanage and take good care of them ❤️❤️❤️❤️
self care is main bro if u r secure about yourself, u can make others feel secure and comfortable too. And this is necessary not only to get a gf but also making new friends. Also having interests in certain fields that are more accessible like music, films-series, dressing sense, nowadays a lotta girls watch sports too irrespective of their degree of them being feminine. Polish your own good side and be your best version and you'll be interesting to many women. If you've some interesting real stories that just shows the person who you're(something good about you basically), Put it smoothly into convos and you're good to go. btw i'm not some internet love guru, i'm a normal engineer guy who introspected and discovered himself better.
Bro relationship is about experience, kuch sikne ko toh milega. Agar tum 19,18 ke bhi ho toh hakk hai ku h sikne ko milta hai. Lekin fhir bhi mai single hu
Was feeling the same thing , nowadays very much unaccepted, rejected, low self esteem, doubts, confusion but still this gangsta came to our rescue Thankyou Shwetabh sir 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I really respect you sir, your each video gives different n unique lesson of life. No matter whether its relationship, its study, its career. Your path of guidance always stand out 🙏🎉🎉🎉🎉
Bhai ek baat batao isne khud study aur career ke field mein kya achieve kiya hai, if you think being a UA-camr is great career, it's only your innocence because most UA-camr don't survive after an age bracket
In your previous videos you’ve also talked about self acceptance, you’ve said physical attractiveness is just one criteria out of other important aspects. But in this video I feel you’ve given a lot of importance to physical attractiveness
self acceptance, self knowledge, and self growth based on that knowledge are human superpowers. I have said this time and time again. This video is a sociological perspective (as a social group). Also, my goal is to talk about different perspectives in each video, not to repeat the same thing over and over. So what I have said before does not become irrelevant, it retains its position. This is simply looking at the topic from other points of view.
I have more money than I will ever need, health and generally good enough looks, still Reached 30 and I don't even bother anymore. Practically the only goal I have left in my life is to take care of my mother till the end of her life span and end myself after that.
Chump ,be strong ,live till fullest please be happy i am kinda Same here, i dont wanna marry or especially dont wanna have kids ,prolly gonna euthanize myself in late 50's, tired of this country's socio economic conditions,so unhealthy competition,culture, pollution, population
Same Thoughts aate hain ki ek rehni chaiye Lekin consciousness kehti hai kya ghnta kuch farak pdega 😂 Time hai nhi , kidhar se bojha uthayenge uske tension ka abhi 😏
when i studied in india i pretty much did no sports but when I came to nz I realised how much I really loved competition in a sports sense. it distracted from my studies but sports have given me lessons being a bookworm could never give me. Now I can apply my relentless grit gained from sports to my study.
One of the main reasons imo is that a lot of Indian guys grow without any female interaction, or barely any female interaction at all. A lot of our schools aren't co ed, a boy talking with a girl or vice versa is seen as something not good and in the end the parental pressure for studies and everything just kills the scope of female interaction fully. So hence even when we meet a girl who's even a little bit attractive, we fail to keep her at just a conversational length or a co-worker angle and can't help but feel attracted and get nervous, which even further hinders female interaction. Unlike America or European countries where female interaction is really very common.
Yeah this exactly what I had in my mind due to less female interaction most of guys don't know how to interact or be comfortable with a female. Back when I was in college I was totally hooked to porn and I had social anxiety with that I rarely had any female interaction and this what most guys face. And problem with girls is that they never seem to intiate the conversation at first and they rely on guys to make the first move and some guys do approach and some don't. With lack of experience when talking to women, most men do get little intimidated when interacting with an attractive female that they like.
Same here bro. I wish we grew up in a society which encouraged female interactions and didn't lock down upon it. I wish we were more exposed to the opposite gender.
This is what I was trying to explain to my parents a few months back. That if they focused on my overall development, then I would have achieved far greater success. I was very much interested in combat sports but I was never allowed to get into it. I also used to workout at home but was never consistent because studies used to come first. Well, it's still not too late. I am 24 and with a timeline of 3 is more than enough to build a good physique.
I'm in the same boat man, 24, love combat sports and been boxing and working out since 5 years. I had to really go out of the way during college. It was a hassle managing time, studying and all that but now i feel like it was really worth it.
Bro looking at this comment of yours gives me a sense of relief because of covid last two years have been a waste completely and for last two months I have been blaming myself for my single life and Virgin. Earlier I was thinking Ohh fuck I'm 22 already now after this I'm like I'm just 22🥂
DONT BLAME YOUR PARENTS... HERE IS THE NOTE FOR THE VIDEO MAKER....BE OF USE TO YOU AS WELL Speak for yourself Mr. Gangwar. None of the men in my family or in the neighbour I grew up had pot bellies. they worked hard, did not drink and were good people. You are right about speaking to women. But it is not just speaking to women, men who have a hard time speaking on many topics and ofcourse speaking to women are generally boring. Surprised you did not mention reading, reading --READING and Travelling even within your country, your state...makes you an interesting person, having hobbies etc. just having a body that goes to the gym will not make you interesting. BEING AN INTERESTING PERSON WILL MAKE YOU INTERESTING....
It is absolutely true bhai... before i used t0 hate myself and criticise self for every decision. Now I am starting to love myself and feeling good about myself. i have been taking care of my body and as a result, now I am in good shape.
Damn!!! He really touched the depth and reality of our society, and its downside. Moreover, from what I've seen not just young men but young women as well are lackadaisical and all slouched and these are just 24 year old folks which is something that needs to be addressed.
Bitter truth in India dating, love, romance and marriages are all rosy for those who are quite fortunate. By saying fortune it directly means good inheritance.. good looks and money... Fair skin, attractive face, tall height, money it all by inheritance. A genetic lottery. We want every thing in our 20s and so that we can have fun. You can only have fun in our 20s when you have money(inherited), and good looks. Because if you make good money on your own you don't have time to have fun.
You can start making good money in your business within few years. You're talking like you'll make 0 money for the next 30 years and no time for fun ffs.
I go to gym for last two month... And little bit but yes it gives me the descipline which sometimes also helps me in my studies .... And it's all happened due to my last heart broken relationship 😊
So correct . Parental guidance from grounded, well informed/ educated & broad minded parents & / or mentors can be very helpful & life transforming as well ( helping one to blossom from childhood , through adolescence into adulthood). Otherwise- it is a case of grooming oneself & a path of self education.
Sir, hats off to you, like in my case I was a topper and simultaneously I was an athlete and also I have played and participated in many games and competitions like badminton, football, swimming and also I was a dancer, singer etc but again after class 10th, JEE preparation led me to a drastic body transformation with lots of fat about which I never expected in my dreams though, I was like 17 kgs overweight but now recently after shifting to Online classes due to recent pandemic I have started workout for 30 mins with 8 to 9 kms walking or jogging and yes I have lost 7 kgs within 3 months and I will be appear in JEE 2022 🙂🙂🙂, and yes you always have support me with these types of video, thanks a lot sir…
@@peterpace3379 I'm not telling about 11th and 12th, in fact my performance were down in those classes, I'm telling in overall from class 1 or u can take frm class 6 and onwards...
Love you man Shwetabh , you'r perspective just brings so much clarity . Really impressive , your contribution to our youth is really appreciable . Keep it up man
I am 18, and i am going to gym from last two months, some times it is frustrating but everyday i complete my workout it feels just amazing 😌. So i considered everyone who are capable should do it.
These are some true reasons behind why most of the Indian men are single: 1. Culture/family pressure/image consciousness 2. Inability to sell ourselves in the market 3. Sex ratio (most imp. reason) 4. Rising expectations (Please check matrimonial apps to get proof of this! Or meet any person standing in arrange marriage market!) 5. All the reasons which Shwetabh has told in this video 👍🏼
getting job is easy and also hard If you think its hard than too hard and if u think its easy than its too easy for 2 years i struggled for job but now i have 8 lakh packaged job in 2019 i started with 3k per month , i passed BE at 2017 got job in 2019 now i am Senior Developer in my company
It is not difficult to find a woman but it is very difficult to find a woman who blows your mind and i am not talking about physically but personality wise .
100% I've so much female interaction throughout my life but I'm never got really attracted to eye candies.... i was always in search of girls whom i can resonate with intellectually!
We se that even if boys are single or in relationship, society judges us in every thing. They will ask u who is that girl and other questions which u will feel awkward to answer them. And if you are unmarried, they will ask u why aren't u married although u are having good income. I guess whether you are dating or u are single doesn't matters because everything is good at their own place. Just don't fall into these society traps and focus in your growth. Don't feel low seeing other guys into relationships. Atleast u can work now on yourself because at that time when u will be married you will have responsibilities. Enjoy your time now and when you meet your life partner enjoy that time too.
5:34 and school/college/job isn't a place for dating, people get to study there, so there will be a lot of people there who are already in a relationship
Though the discussion of this topic had a good start, but then at the end when you said "Girls also face this" I disagreed with you. Reason is because I see females are getting hooked up much more as compared to guys. And most single females are mostly in the age bracket of 28-35, mean at 31 years, who are not at all interested in love, dating and relationships. Females have a miniscule chance of getting rejected compared to males in the modern dating sphere in India. Even if you become a doctor in a reputed institute, you hardly get any right swipes on Tinder, that too in a city like Delhi (chote sheheron ki toh baat hi chor dijiye) 😂. TBH, there doesn't seem to be any hope for us. Would like to know what do you think on this.
@@aaryankhairnar69 I wonder if this is because we have reduced all our expectations for our prospective partner, or is this because of some guys in our midst who disturb the interpersonal interactions between men and women. Shwetabh sir didn't reply at all. 😔
@@sandeepdas2095 females get a lot less rejection on Tinder because the risk is WAY higher for them. Since you're a little girl you're told by everyone around you not to talk to strange men, not to meet them not to even look at them. So because the woman is taking a much bigger risk obviously she's going to be more choosy. But if you're a doctor in India you can easily get a pretty wife through arranged marriage.
@@sandeepdas2095 I'm not saying you should, of course. Just that in India, it is easier for men with lucrative careers (like a doctor) to get a wife through arranged marriage. Much easier than getting a girlfriend through tinder, unless you're super good-looking and have stellar social skills. Your profession really doesn't have much to do with your success on Tinder, but it can help you immensely on Shadi.com. That's all I'm saying.
Seriously Speaking I Go To Workout On A Daily Basis With Good Amount Of Rest And I Try To Build A Better Version Of Myself Everyday Regardless Thinking What Others Of My Age Are Doing And Also What Others Are Doing At My Workout Place Seriously Loved This Aspect From You Shwetabh❤️
Swetabh, you are absolutely right about the fact that men should start amplifying their attractiveness by hitting the gym regularly which would help increase their overall value on the sexual marketplace but the Indian society, especially the middle class - which is the biggest chunk, simply doesn't support this whole transformational self-care process for us, because of the lack of facilities and leverages, it becomes a drag race for most men who aren't financially potent, from a big city, socially significant and don't have any masculine figure around to show how it's done. The genetically gifted guys here take the best pieces of the pie creating instability and scarcity for other men. Social Media is also a big contributor to this social instability simply because it creates more options for gifted men creating scarcity for others. So kickstarting this whole process is pretty difficult when you are broke, living in a relatively small city with overall less leverage. Any suggestion on how to kickstart this and navigate better through this mess?
@Shwetabh Gangwar Sir I have also seen a similar situation, I was sitting around lakefront with my friends and we took a seat a couple of feets away from some girls who were sitting their and they just got up and left " I was like did I do something wrong ?? Did I approach them ? YAAR KAANTE LAGE HAI KYA MUJHPE ??"
our culture (society, elders, parents, brothers, aunts, grandparents, the wise people) as well as personal experiences (being stared at crazily, touched by men, groped, numbers being leaked, rumors flying around, guys following you at weird places) teach girls to basically stay the fuck away from guys at public places for the sake of safety. You're probably a decent guy, but from their pov you are a stranger. Go to any part of the world where the culture is different and women don't have such fears, and you can walk up to any of them and start a decent conversation, and people don't mind regardless of age. You can go up to an older person, (40, 50) and they would love to chat with you. Again, socio-cultural reality, socio norms, environment, climate, all contributes and matters. In short, don't take it personally.
@@control4050 Dude I was hanging out with my friends we just sat there kyonki humara Bhel bann raha tha baju mein, I was not ganging up on some girls 🤣
Never seen someone talk this much truth. I am one of those people who never make friends with girls. Not because I hate girls or anything. I just don't know the social cues and differences between a girls behavior when dating, flirting or just being friends. Only recently, I am beginning to understand that and I am 24. Nowadays it feels like somehow I am mentally fked. Now, I have a couple of female friends and when I talk to them about anything other than work, I have to keep telling my brain that her behavior is completely normal and she is totally not into me or anything, its not a sign, she talks like that because she is a close friend. And now even that friendship is suffering because I avoid talking to her, because I hate my own brain. This is a cycle, and it means I won't talk to girls about anything other than work even if they want, I will keep telling myself that its a normal friendly talk and not a sign to fall in love or get romantically interested. Which also means if a girl is actually romantically interested in me, I'll never be able to tell. I can't get out of this loop, and I can't even think of dating unless I recalibrate my brain (and recover from my last breakup) On a different note Swetabh was spot on about the parents thing. I have never gone to any place for holidays, never. I don't have any clue. My life has always been and still is, my home, my uncles home, my grandpa's house and school, college, office, etc. None of my parents are healthy. And the prevalent culture is just work and get settled, everything else is time waste.
Career is most important . Physique baad mai bhi ban sakta hai but not career. Paise honge tabhi tum apne aap ko self groom kar paoge . Career makes you valuable . Physical beauty is a matter of fusion of sperm and ovum . You should work on your health but attractiveness should be a secondary point.
@Bhaskar Nain without a good career you cannot be a man of value !! You can work upon your looks later . A person with good looks Vs a person with a good career . Second one will earn both respect and money. And I am not talking about physical and mental health here . I am talking about outer appearance .
Also thing i notice in your latest videos is that you have become a more calmer person than you were in india,do you feel that bro?because when you made your videos in india i felt like there was some frustration on your face everytime and you were more serious on camera,i understand because to stay in a hustling and bustling place like delhi,your daily life can be a frustration coz i lived there for a queit a while.i have seen a jameen asmaan change in your personality,more like you are high on life.
typical life of an average middle class indian BOY : step 1: a child born in middle class indian household step 2: expectations of govt. job laid on his shoulders and not to forget the emotional blackmails step 3: the scarcity of money in the teenage years and 20s limits the social freedom and traps the person within 4 walls step 4: by the time the child satisfies his parents he is already 25-30 years old and realizes that he has never lived his life. step 5: now he realizes what all he has missed in his life and that all he can do is regret. step 6: ARRANGE MARRIAGE ... AND THIS CYCLE CONTINUES🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Step 7 : get children under a year cuz your parents want to see "Pote ka chehra" Step 8 : you realized that you and your wife aren't compatible but it's too late now Step 9 : Can divorce but it's considered shameful plus you have children too Step 10 : you live with your wife whom you don't love just for the sake of your children Step 11 : then your children will also be like you going in their life Sad ending
Trust me guys...he's 100% right.. Gym... Working out totally chnged my life...i was a very very skinny kid 2years ago... Shy, introvert.... I've gained 20-23kg of lean muscle in 2years...and i just can't tell ho much confidence i got.... All girls... Basically alll girls used to reject me back then... Now many girls are after me... I worked on my physique and communication skill.. And it's like magic... When you're proud of your body... You'll have diff lvl confidence.. So guys... Gym jao mehnat kro... Ladkiya savko mil jayga😎🔥
What if I told you that even focussing on career, earning good money and having a decent personality might have also gotten you a woman? Like, even if it’s through an arranged marriage setting, your relationship could be just as good as in a love marriage, if not better.
Is being single really a problem ???? Its actually not!! People are very desperate about relationships which is not good . There is nothing cool in gf /bf neither being in single . Both are good at their places .
finally a sane comment! our todays society just cant accept that a person can be happy and satisfied without a partner as well! they have made getting a partner a sort of an achievement rather than simply longing companionship!
Many people were abused by their parents when they were children. Since it is very common in our country. When your provider shouts on you, in a young age, you look for love elsewhere. And that's why men are desperate to find love and intimacy. If you are a woman, you won't understand but the average man gets absolutely no love from anyone around. So yes that is why being single is a problem. If you still think that it isn't a problem, make a fake profile on tinder, as a man, for 30 days and see for yourself how many matches you get.
Being single isn't a problem at all but being single forever or being single when you don't wanna be single is. Also how's there nothing cool in having a gf or a bf? It's pretty cool. And I'm not talking about very serious relationships here.
@@spacemann1425 i am talking about non serious ones . Bz genuine relationships dont give much priority to physics attractiveness. They do give but not much .
07:47 I think our culture doesn't promote to sit in a room for a very long time and just study, this is because of stiff comparison of marks. Everyone just wants marks nothing else. Another problem is our school, it just supress sports, we get only 1 PT period in a week and that too 3 times in a month is taken by some maths teacher.
The reasons are: 1) Extreme expectation from women. (Women who earn 100,000 per month, wants to marry a guy who makes over 200,000-300,000 per month) 2) Feminism. ( There are women out there to whom if you ask them to make a sandwich, they fell they are being oppressed or abused) 3) Most men don't feel being loved by their wife/GF. ( A man always keeps on constantly providing all the things she wants, only then he will be valued and respected by his partner) 4) He must always keep a women happy in all phases of life. (There are women who want to be treated like "princess")
And today i understood why arrange marriage is important because we haven't so social Adaptiveness Or open minded to everyone or other people and some people were feel insecure then
Nah...arrnage marriage was best system that ensured virgin loyal girl, now things r fucked.up, I laugh to see guys simp for a second hand girl without relaising that she is not worth it
@@ayeshakawakil845 That's why I started dating this girl only to get laid . After dumping her I am planning to date another girl who looks quite interested . #mgtow
@@ayeshakawakil845 most marriages in India are still arranged , it’s only those upper cast cheap girls from New Delhi or Mumbai that you are talking about .
So what I understood from this video is to work on yourself. Work on making yourself better in all your aspects whether it be your personality, your communication skills or physique. When you constantly work on yourselves, you become even more secure as a result, which then also generates attractiveness. You have to first be a bit happy with yourselves before you get into the dating game. Although the only thing I didn't understand was what you meant by being resourceful. Agar seedhe bhasha mein bolen toh kya iska matlab jugadoo hona hai yaa kuch aur. Please clarify if you could.
No more self hook ups part at the end was hilarious and insightful. Quite introspective and it made me laugh hysterically and cry with tears of joy afterwards. Always a new perspective with this legend spitting philsophical fire right here.
I don't know about the rest but I am single at the age of 35 because I have social anxiety disorder from my childhood and I am also an introvert I never had a girlfriend
You discuss problems very well bro...but solutions Kahan hai??? Are you creating any value at the end of all this discussion???or you are just enlarging the problem..
How shallow view of yours to see other people. Both get rejected by each other. Ye EGO boost krne wali baat nai thi waise. Pata nai tum ladko ko rejection se fark Kyu padta hai,.
I am blessed with my surroundings, they all have sporty nature and we play games and do trekking, half marathon like stuff. Maja aata hai bro. We all like playing exercise and everything related to sports.
Ye society hi aisi hai ...main apna bta deta hu ...meri gf rhi hai par meri aaj tak koi friend nhi rhi ladki jo ghar pe ayi ho ....aur ye bahut common hai koi ladki hai toh vo meri friend nhi ho skti interaction bahut kam tha mere time ...ab toh fr bhi acha ho gya par isme ladkiyo bhi utni hi zimmedar hai jitne ladke ....vo bhi toh bat kr skti hai agar koi ladke ko dar lag rha hai ...ladki kyu nhi approach krti ...
Bhai sadiyo se ladkiyo ke man me daal dia gya hai ki ladko ka kaam hai propose krna. Ladko ka kaam hai ladkiyo ke piche mandraana. Ladkiyaan ni krti ye sab. Islee girls ko lgta hai ki unka ego hai wo khud approach ni krengi.
@@maishayartonahi I wish saare boys school ko co Ed school bana diya jaye. Isse yeh problem solve ho jayega. Maine boys school padah tha aur bohut Kam ladkiyo se baat ki thi. Jab college mein aya to maine apne aap se challenge Kiya ki har din jitni zyada hon sake utni ladkiyo se baat karun. Slowly meri confidence ladkiyo ke saath kaafi improve huin.
Itne saal tak study karke ek jaga pohcha Gaad fatke haat me aa gayi.. tunnel vision thaa Unfortunately competition to survive doesn't allow much time to do b,c,d aside from a which is work. Especially if you are coming from poor households like mine. At this point i am just too old and tired for trying to survive throughout my 20s To learn new tricks to impress girls and do the mating dance. I've consciously decided to not participate in family making. India has too much population anyways.
I see a huge contrast in the videos you made before and the videos you make now,i think after going to a foreign country your perspectives have changed a lot because i remember in one of your old videos you didnt like the idea of gym or bodybuilding,just my view....
I used to have the same problem after studying in boys school. So after reaching college I challenged myself to approach and talk to as many girls as possible. Slowly I became quite confident around average looking girls. I lost a lot of my college time due to pandemic.
Despite of knowing what is right to do right now nd knowing it's the only possible way right now to get out of ur problems, like preparing for a competition but still not able to dedicate urself towards that , what does that mean ???
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 but bhai indian ladkiyo ko yeh zada passnad ni aata bahar ki ladkiyo yeh zada attractive lgta hai Yaha ki ldkiya is like yarr bahot puraane bicharo wala h usse coll boy passnd h
@Larry stepney yesss you are absolutly true...and rahi baaat hunuman ki wo single by choice the...unpr bhi ladkia fida thi...but they were more into bhramchari thing...thats why
Not everyone wants a gf/bf tbh , i am 17 but I don't know why i am *allergic to relationship* , once a girl tried to get closer to me but i just stopped talking to her , i think if u have other things to do or you are passionate about anything Like in my case it's *FOOTBALL* then you wouldn't mind so much about relationship😌🤘
it's good and all but after a point having great connection with someone becomes a necessity, not necessarily a partner but in many cases a friend, a family member.
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Bhai u just changed my perspective . Am following you since 2 yrs . I waana meet you once in my life span .
Love from Bangladesh 🥰 vi
*" I love Myself "* 😗😗💜🖖
🤗
Shwetabh bhaiya aap video banate samay kise dekhto ho ...not trolling ! Just asking 😅
We guys are single these days one of the major reason of this is an average girl getting more attention than good looking guys.
Our society treats men as achievers and women something to be achieved.
20:12 was damn funny
There are many reasons that guys are single. One of the reason is men not having equal rights!
Society is conditioned in such a way that we are expected to chase a women as if she is a prize that we must get rather than seeing it as a human being. Its evident that women get alot of social attention then men even if she doesn't have all the qualities. Women in our society are expected to sit and select whereas men are expected to do alot more work in order to get her and its not a level playing field cuz disparity is higher in our gen.
A jobless man cannot and would not get a female partner for marriage even if he date alot but a jobless female can get multiple proposal from everywhere and there are people willing to do anything for her. Hence women would always have a higher social value then men.
'Abhay Tiwari' bhai aapki baat se ekdum sehmat hain ''Our Society treats Men as achievers and women as a trophy''.....
@@ArjunVerma-wx7tf jobless woman get multiple proposal only when she is beautiful
Social desirability criteria for men: money
For woman: physical beauty
The Problem in India is that those who are introvert they opt for Dating application and many men still don't get matches on dating apps and also majority life of a middle class boy settle in complete the demands of his family and no one understands that men have so much pressure on them.
And I believe that many indian girls attitude is getting so weirdly sometimes..
Very true 1.4 billion aabadi h 240 million girls h india me ....phir bhi ek nhi milti ...indian larki karti kya h aakhir....
@@kanishkkumar5431 unki personality lowclass hai isiliye
@@fedir5931 thats true.....asal me indian larki ko guts hi nhi h.....saamne se larke ko prapose krne ka......aur larko ke initiation ka toh mazzak bna diya h....seedha tharki hi sochne lgte h...image kharab wali baat ho jati h
Well dating apps are the worst places to find a partner
Ladki Kam hai yaar isilie .. female ratio Jada hota to perfect tha
As a Psychotherapist, I must add in short that throughout the world, Physical looks are still the initial parameter for choosing a partner, friends, colleagues or even employees. So no matter how your genetics are start working a bit on your physical grooming to add an extra advantage to your personality & avoid rejections. 🔥
Achaaa🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣
Idk why people are laughing here. Its true. If you won't find wrapper attractive, you won't care which cookies are inside. But for that, no company has ever spent 50% of the revenue on designing the best f*cking wrapper..... just a decently attractive wrapper.. thats all you need.
@@pbirbal4757 True...you can be a gem inside but if you are not approachable & presentable then you are going to face rejections unconsciously again & again in life
@Abhishek Yadav no. Embrace them is correct. But when every girl you ask, rejects you...... Then you become crushed and lonely. This is my story, 1 year ago.
Then I realised that I am ugly that's why.
Now I live in bliss and it's peaceful down here.
Desi ch geet aa trap ch beat aa sir kad gaj de speakeranch vajde Brown Munde 😎
I was a fat kid growing up due to some family issues, but since I've started working on my fitness my life has changed completely, I'm more productive in everything I do, I'm more disciplined and yes people do look at you as a different person.
That's great, brother
Period!!
@@sungdripwoo107 nahi vai ladko ko periods kaha 😶
Same bro i was overweight an year ago according to my BMI,i started to work on my physical fitness, my eating habits.I lost almost 10kg weight.Now i feel very energetic and more attentive towards my work.
@@Carbondioxidinashvilli period means end of sentence
One of the main reason from my point of view is desperation. Many guys are so desperate nowadays to get in a relationship that when they do get with a women they don't know what to do now. I think they should become a man of value first. Secondly, Bollywood have made guys "sadma aashiq"😂. Guys are thinking emotionally rather than logically because of this.
i have already talked about those two points, will be redundant to repeat them. I try to bring a new perspective in every video (emphasis on try)
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 There is very under rated philosophical channel named Identity Faraz ,
Please see his content he is bringing change in Indian UA-cam on philosophyby , he also do live problem solving just like u ,
U can collab with him and help him just like Prakhar
@@riju1956 he had a cold game bro, the guy was a proper player so I'm guess around 18 or 19. He has had a shit ton of female interaction.
If u apply logic then it is a business deal not a realtionship
Correct. People who are genetically attractive are most likely to get into a relationship and will definitely get into casual dating or hookups. Note: I'm not saying personality doesn't matter but a person can't just accept the other just because they exist.
Personality doesn't matter at all bro 🤦even if some girl gets in love with you just because you are intelligent or have a great mindset she will surely cheat you someday for a more good looking guy this is what reality is ....
@@nishank6969 it means the girl is immature. Lol.
@@nishank6969 actually personality matters the most. You are looking at it from short term pov. Life is 50 70 years after you turn 15. Maybe when you grow older, you will realize everything centers around personality.
If you are gonna consider kids (people upto 26) and selectively look for those going for appearances, then your perception is severely limited and constrained by confirmation bias too.
there are all types of people in this world, just like you are different from most guys.
@@demoncyborg98 no lol, it simply means she’s a girl
@@utubefreak7167 what in the misogyny???
Bruh I'm 19 & I'm already going against the culture.
Everybody is talking about working for a big organisation BUT I want to BE THE ORGANIZATION.
PERIOD
Roger that!!
Welcome to the club. May the sanatan dharm guide you.
I can imagine the hard work involved and the reality that needs to be built by you, all the best dear.
@@Carbondioxidinashvilli how that shit gonna guide any one
Unfortunately it can't guide shits
This Guy will never fail to give you a new perspective.
I'm just a 21 year old single Bangladeshi guy who loves ur videos. I finished my school and college life being single. I decided that if I don't get the chance to marry then I'm gonna adopt few kids from orphanage and take good care of them ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That's so sweet
Same here im from india
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Getting a girl is not success , just to impress girls you go to gym is worst reason.
self care is main bro
if u r secure about yourself, u can make others feel secure and comfortable too.
And this is necessary not only to get a gf but also making new friends.
Also having interests in certain fields that are more accessible like music, films-series, dressing sense, nowadays a lotta girls watch sports too irrespective of their degree of them being feminine.
Polish your own good side and be your best version and you'll be interesting to many women. If you've some interesting real stories that just shows the person who you're(something good about you basically), Put it smoothly into convos and you're good to go.
btw i'm not some internet love guru, i'm a normal engineer guy who introspected and discovered himself better.
No girl choose six cars overs six packs
@Winners Handbook I am talking about harrier, safari range rover jagvar mercedez,
@Winners Handbook of course. most of divorces are initiated by women due to alimony and division of husbands asset
Bro relationship is about experience, kuch sikne ko toh milega. Agar tum 19,18 ke bhi ho toh hakk hai ku h sikne ko milta hai. Lekin fhir bhi mai single hu
Was feeling the same thing , nowadays very much
unaccepted, rejected, low self esteem, doubts, confusion
but still this gangsta came to our rescue
Thankyou Shwetabh sir 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I really respect you sir, your each video gives different n unique lesson of life. No matter whether its relationship, its study, its career. Your path of guidance always stand out 🙏🎉🎉🎉🎉
Agreed
Bhai ek baat batao isne khud study aur career ke field mein kya achieve kiya hai, if you think being a UA-camr is great career, it's only your innocence because most UA-camr don't survive after an age bracket
@@max-cs9ko sahi bole ho bhai
relax boys , tum akele nhi ho
I felt it bro.. 😂
Relax girls, tum akeli nhi ho
Thank you bro
@@keepcalm127 wo waise bhi akeli nhi hai
Relax girls tum akeli nhi ho
As soon as saw the notification I was like "ohh ye to Mera wala video hai" 😂😂😂
In your previous videos you’ve also talked about self acceptance, you’ve said physical attractiveness is just one criteria out of other important aspects. But in this video I feel you’ve given a lot of importance to physical attractiveness
self acceptance, self knowledge, and self growth based on that knowledge are human superpowers. I have said this time and time again. This video is a sociological perspective (as a social group).
Also, my goal is to talk about different perspectives in each video, not to repeat the same thing over and over. So what I have said before does not become irrelevant, it retains its position. This is simply looking at the topic from other points of view.
Self acceptance doesn't mean you don't need to improve urself further.
I mean looks do matter, soooo.....
@@peterpace3379 yeah, looks matter a lot but Indian guys can't seem to believe it.
@@divyansh6574 shh let them not take care of their body we don't want competitors.
I have more money than I will ever need, health and generally good enough looks, still Reached 30 and I don't even bother anymore. Practically the only goal I have left in my life is to take care of my mother till the end of her life span and end myself after that.
Are u depressed?
That's the goal my boi
Chump ,be strong ,live till fullest please be happy i am kinda Same here, i dont wanna marry or especially dont wanna have kids ,prolly gonna euthanize myself in late 50's, tired of this country's socio economic conditions,so unhealthy competition,culture, pollution, population
My problem is even if i get a girlfriend,nothing much will change.i feel like I am trapped in my own mind and this pandemic has made it worse
yes
So you are normal?
@@control4050 I dont know
Same
Thoughts aate hain ki ek rehni chaiye
Lekin consciousness kehti hai kya ghnta kuch farak pdega 😂
Time hai nhi , kidhar se bojha uthayenge uske tension ka abhi 😏
Same 😂😂
when i studied in india i pretty much did no sports but when I came to nz I realised how much I really loved competition in a sports sense. it distracted from my studies but sports have given me lessons being a bookworm could never give me. Now I can apply my relentless grit gained from sports to my study.
One of the main reasons imo is that a lot of Indian guys grow without any female interaction, or barely any female interaction at all. A lot of our schools aren't co ed, a boy talking with a girl or vice versa is seen as something not good and in the end the parental pressure for studies and everything just kills the scope of female interaction fully. So hence even when we meet a girl who's even a little bit attractive, we fail to keep her at just a conversational length or a co-worker angle and can't help but feel attracted and get nervous, which even further hinders female interaction.
Unlike America or European countries where female interaction is really very common.
Yeah this exactly what I had in my mind due to less female interaction most of guys don't know how to interact or be comfortable with a female. Back when I was in college I was totally hooked to porn and I had social anxiety with that I rarely had any female interaction and this what most guys face. And problem with girls is that they never seem to intiate the conversation at first and they rely on guys to make the first move and some guys do approach and some don't. With lack of experience when talking to women, most men do get little intimidated when interacting with an attractive female that they like.
Fact 💯
so true
True
and then that also creates hindrance in our studies
I'm 24 and felt like bhai talked to me directly 🙏
Same here bro. I wish we grew up in a society which encouraged female interactions and didn't lock down upon it. I wish we were more exposed to the opposite gender.
Definetely man, leave dating I am not even good at starting a conversation with a girl
This is what I was trying to explain to my parents a few months back. That if they focused on my overall development, then I would have achieved far greater success. I was very much interested in combat sports but I was never allowed to get into it. I also used to workout at home but was never consistent because studies used to come first. Well, it's still not too late. I am 24 and with a timeline of 3 is more than enough to build a good physique.
All the best bro... Even if your parents didn't support you enough but make sure that you must support your next generation 👍
I'm in the same boat man, 24, love combat sports and been boxing and working out since 5 years. I had to really go out of the way during college. It was a hassle managing time, studying and all that but now i feel like it was really worth it.
Bro looking at this comment of yours gives me a sense of relief because of covid last two years have been a waste completely and for last two months I have been blaming myself for my single life and Virgin. Earlier I was thinking Ohh fuck I'm 22 already now after this I'm like I'm just 22🥂
DONT BLAME YOUR PARENTS...
HERE IS THE NOTE FOR THE VIDEO MAKER....BE OF USE TO YOU AS WELL
Speak for yourself Mr. Gangwar. None of the men in my family or in the neighbour I grew up had pot bellies. they worked hard, did not drink and were good people. You are right about speaking to women. But it is not just speaking to women, men who have a hard time speaking on many topics and ofcourse speaking to women are generally boring. Surprised you did not mention reading, reading --READING and Travelling even within your country, your state...makes you an interesting person, having hobbies etc. just having a body that goes to the gym will not make you interesting. BEING AN INTERESTING PERSON WILL MAKE YOU INTERESTING....
They call me 007 at work -
0 skills to talk to girls
0 in attraction scale
7 with rejection
It is absolutely true bhai... before i used t0 hate myself and criticise self for every decision. Now I am starting to love myself and feeling good about myself. i have been taking care of my body and as a result, now I am in good shape.
Damn!!! He really touched the depth and reality of our society, and its downside. Moreover, from what I've seen not just young men but young women as well are lackadaisical and all slouched and these are just 24 year old folks which is something that needs to be addressed.
Interesting perspective!!
Hats off to you for teaching us patterns in real life.
Bitter truth in India dating, love, romance and marriages are all rosy for those who are quite fortunate. By saying fortune it directly means good inheritance.. good looks and money... Fair skin, attractive face, tall height, money it all by inheritance. A genetic lottery. We want every thing in our 20s and so that we can have fun. You can only have fun in our 20s when you have money(inherited), and good looks. Because if you make good money on your own you don't have time to have fun.
You can start making good money in your business within few years. You're talking like you'll make 0 money for the next 30 years and no time for fun ffs.
Very true bro
@pratik_onyt blackpill is true. All the girls that was interested in me was because of my looks, otherwise I would have stayed virgin.
I go to gym for last two month...
And little bit but yes it gives me the descipline which sometimes also helps me in my studies ....
And it's all happened due to my last heart broken relationship 😊
So correct . Parental guidance from grounded, well informed/ educated & broad minded parents & / or mentors can be very helpful & life transforming as well ( helping one to blossom from childhood , through adolescence into adulthood). Otherwise- it is a case of grooming oneself & a path of self education.
I am a single Indian men who is happy even if I face brutal rejection
Sir, hats off to you, like in my case I was a topper and simultaneously I was an athlete and also I have played and participated in many games and competitions like badminton, football, swimming and also I was a dancer, singer etc but again after class 10th, JEE preparation led me to a drastic body transformation with lots of fat about which I never expected in my dreams though, I was like 17 kgs overweight but now recently after shifting to Online classes due to recent pandemic I have started workout for 30 mins with 8 to 9 kms walking or jogging and yes I have lost 7 kgs within 3 months and I will be appear in JEE 2022 🙂🙂🙂, and yes you always have support me with these types of video, thanks a lot sir…
For you 11th 12th guys, online classes have been a blessing in disguise indeed
@@peterpace3379 I'm not telling about 11th and 12th, in fact my performance were down in those classes, I'm telling in overall from class 1 or u can take frm class 6 and onwards...
Love you man Shwetabh , you'r perspective just brings so much clarity . Really impressive , your contribution to our youth is really appreciable . Keep it up man
Really liked the background music (soft and non-distracting) and topic is also great.
Best one:- "Meditation is a great thing, A Fu*king awesone thing for your mind and your overall health"😂😂
I don't get it. Is it a joke?
ok the question is till when?
@@kderailed86 12:52
its like you dont have any option sometimes i thought god really exist
I am 18, and i am going to gym from last two months, some times it is frustrating but everyday i complete my workout it feels just amazing 😌. So i considered everyone who are capable should do it.
Bhai gjb ki baat boli hai
One of my previous crush also has same name😂 .
Men will be Men 🗿
These are some true reasons behind why most of the Indian men are single:
1. Culture/family pressure/image consciousness
2. Inability to sell ourselves in the market
3. Sex ratio (most imp. reason)
4. Rising expectations (Please check matrimonial apps to get proof of this! Or meet any person standing in arrange marriage market!)
5. All the reasons which Shwetabh has told in this video 👍🏼
looks is the only reason, if attractive enough would ovveride all the other issues
U r confused between dating and marriage...most of datings r for fun not marriage
Isiliye mere cousin bhaiya ne simple ladki se shadi ki wo bus TCS me kam karte hai aur dalal rakhke shadi karwaye mere mama ne
You will get girls in India if you choose to date any girl but if you have standards it is going to be difficult to find one.
@@priyavassarker8070 who told you I have high standards?
IAM 24 still jobless...i feel bad about myself...
Same here
getting job is easy and also hard
If you think its hard than too hard and if u think its easy than its too easy
for 2 years i struggled for job but now i have 8 lakh packaged job
in 2019 i started with 3k per month , i passed BE at 2017 got job in 2019 now i am Senior Developer in my company
@@pratikgupta7373 can u pls tell me wt skills I have to learn ?
@@tylerdurden5642 any skills you like
I like mobile and gadgets
So I became mobile application developer
@@pratikgupta7373 hey, please guide me , I m 2020 Passout Batch ( B.tech Biotechnology) .What should I do?
It is not difficult to find a woman but it is very difficult to find a woman who blows your mind and i am not talking about physically but personality wise .
100% I've so much female interaction throughout my life but I'm never got really attracted to eye candies.... i was always in search of girls whom i can resonate with intellectually!
We se that even if boys are single or in relationship, society judges us in every thing. They will ask u who is that girl and other questions which u will feel awkward to answer them. And if you are unmarried, they will ask u why aren't u married although u are having good income. I guess whether you are dating or u are single doesn't matters because everything is good at their own place. Just don't fall into these society traps and focus in your growth. Don't feel low seeing other guys into relationships. Atleast u can work now on yourself because at that time when u will be married you will have responsibilities. Enjoy your time now and when you meet your life partner enjoy that time too.
5:34 and school/college/job isn't a place for dating, people get to study there, so there will be a lot of people there who are already in a relationship
Though the discussion of this topic had a good start, but then at the end when you said "Girls also face this" I disagreed with you. Reason is because I see females are getting hooked up much more as compared to guys. And most single females are mostly in the age bracket of 28-35, mean at 31 years, who are not at all interested in love, dating and relationships. Females have a miniscule chance of getting rejected compared to males in the modern dating sphere in India. Even if you become a doctor in a reputed institute, you hardly get any right swipes on Tinder, that too in a city like Delhi (chote sheheron ki toh baat hi chor dijiye) 😂. TBH, there doesn't seem to be any hope for us.
Would like to know what do you think on this.
Females do get a lot less rejection compared to males bro. It is very true.
@@aaryankhairnar69 I wonder if this is because we have reduced all our expectations for our prospective partner, or is this because of some guys in our midst who disturb the interpersonal interactions between men and women.
Shwetabh sir didn't reply at all. 😔
@@sandeepdas2095 females get a lot less rejection on Tinder because the risk is WAY higher for them. Since you're a little girl you're told by everyone around you not to talk to strange men, not to meet them not to even look at them. So because the woman is taking a much bigger risk obviously she's going to be more choosy. But if you're a doctor in India you can easily get a pretty wife through arranged marriage.
@@zetaforever4953 why should I opt for arranged marriage? Arranged marriage is like fruitflies in a laboratory forced to copulate by the scientists.
@@sandeepdas2095 I'm not saying you should, of course. Just that in India, it is easier for men with lucrative careers (like a doctor) to get a wife through arranged marriage. Much easier than getting a girlfriend through tinder, unless you're super good-looking and have stellar social skills. Your profession really doesn't have much to do with your success on Tinder, but it can help you immensely on Shadi.com. That's all I'm saying.
Who ever want Shwtabh bhai on Ranveer show
Un dono ki ladai ho chuki hai😂😂
@@KshitijPatel. ranveer is good too, respect 🤝🏼
I earn 1 Lakh+ per month, above average looking guy but I never had a GF (tried but failed). Some people are destined to live a lonely life.
Start working out
Get a good physique
And then try to get GF
@@niteshsaxena1066 it won't work because we need virgin girls
Seriously Speaking I Go To Workout On A Daily Basis With Good Amount Of Rest And I Try To Build A Better Version Of Myself Everyday Regardless Thinking What Others Of My Age Are Doing And Also What Others Are Doing At My Workout Place
Seriously Loved This Aspect From You Shwetabh❤️
This guy always provide practical knowledge on every topic.
Swetabh, you are absolutely right about the fact that men should start amplifying their attractiveness by hitting the gym regularly which would help increase their overall value on the sexual marketplace but the Indian society, especially the middle class - which is the biggest chunk, simply doesn't support this whole transformational self-care process for us, because of the lack of facilities and leverages, it becomes a drag race for most men who aren't financially potent, from a big city, socially significant and don't have any masculine figure around to show how it's done. The genetically gifted guys here take the best pieces of the pie creating instability and scarcity for other men. Social Media is also a big contributor to this social instability simply because it creates more options for gifted men creating scarcity for others. So kickstarting this whole process is pretty difficult when you are broke, living in a relatively small city with overall less leverage. Any suggestion on how to kickstart this and navigate better through this mess?
@Shwetabh Gangwar Sir I have also seen a similar situation, I was sitting around lakefront with my friends and we took a seat a couple of feets away from some girls who were sitting their and they just got up and left " I was like did I do something wrong ?? Did I approach them ? YAAR KAANTE LAGE HAI KYA MUJHPE ??"
We are just born in wrong generation
our culture (society, elders, parents, brothers, aunts, grandparents, the wise people) as well as personal experiences (being stared at crazily, touched by men, groped, numbers being leaked, rumors flying around, guys following you at weird places) teach girls to basically stay the fuck away from guys at public places for the sake of safety.
You're probably a decent guy, but from their pov you are a stranger.
Go to any part of the world where the culture is different and women don't have such fears, and you can walk up to any of them and start a decent conversation, and people don't mind regardless of age. You can go up to an older person, (40, 50) and they would love to chat with you.
Again, socio-cultural reality, socio norms, environment, climate, all contributes and matters.
In short, don't take it personally.
If you go in a gang, yeah they will freak out.
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 thank u for telling that!!!!!
All the bracket points are some of the reasons girls are afraid of approaching boys😬
@@control4050 Dude I was hanging out with my friends we just sat there kyonki humara Bhel bann raha tha baju mein, I was not ganging up on some girls 🤣
Never seen someone talk this much truth.
I am one of those people who never make friends with girls. Not because I hate girls or anything. I just don't know the social cues and differences between a girls behavior when dating, flirting or just being friends. Only recently, I am beginning to understand that and I am 24. Nowadays it feels like somehow I am mentally fked. Now, I have a couple of female friends and when I talk to them about anything other than work, I have to keep telling my brain that her behavior is completely normal and she is totally not into me or anything, its not a sign, she talks like that because she is a close friend. And now even that friendship is suffering because I avoid talking to her, because I hate my own brain.
This is a cycle, and it means I won't talk to girls about anything other than work even if they want, I will keep telling myself that its a normal friendly talk and not a sign to fall in love or get romantically interested. Which also means if a girl is actually romantically interested in me, I'll never be able to tell. I can't get out of this loop, and I can't even think of dating unless I recalibrate my brain (and recover from my last breakup)
On a different note Swetabh was spot on about the parents thing. I have never gone to any place for holidays, never. I don't have any clue. My life has always been and still is, my home, my uncles home, my grandpa's house and school, college, office, etc. None of my parents are healthy. And the prevalent culture is just work and get settled, everything else is time waste.
Same except that I'm 17. Have an advice for me?
Still you have female friends to talk even though I am working I don't have any female friends yet after my last breakup
So are in relationship 😂
Career is most important . Physique baad mai bhi ban sakta hai but not career. Paise honge tabhi tum apne aap ko self groom kar paoge .
Career makes you valuable .
Physical beauty is a matter of fusion of sperm and ovum .
You should work on your health but attractiveness should be a secondary point.
@Bhaskar Nain without a good career you cannot be a man of value !! You can work upon your looks later . A person with good looks Vs a person with a good career . Second one will earn both respect and money.
And I am not talking about physical and mental health here . I am talking about outer appearance .
This is one of the best talks of Shwetabh, thanks for this perspective man!
You deserve to be appreciated...much appreciation 🥰
Time, Creating value($$$), Health are the most important things for me
Also thing i notice in your latest videos is that you have become a more calmer person than you were in india,do you feel that bro?because when you made your videos in india i felt like there was some frustration on your face everytime and you were more serious on camera,i understand because to stay in a hustling and bustling place like delhi,your daily life can be a frustration coz i lived there for a queit a while.i have seen a jameen asmaan change in your personality,more like you are high on life.
recently figured out I have suffered from ADHD my entire life. It has helped a lot
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 yes i did watch it,i also feel i suffer from it because i cant focus on one thing for too long,even my comments show my adhd 🤣
@@STRONGERDAILY1995 what is adhd
@@zayn4883 ae dil hai dushkil
@@sidvyas9810 wtf🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
typical life of an average middle class indian BOY :
step 1: a child born in middle class indian household
step 2: expectations of govt. job laid on his shoulders and not to forget the emotional blackmails
step 3: the scarcity of money in the teenage years and 20s limits the social freedom and traps the person within 4 walls
step 4: by the time the child satisfies his parents he is already 25-30 years old and realizes that he has never lived his life.
step 5: now he realizes what all he has missed in his life and that all he can do is regret.
step 6: ARRANGE MARRIAGE ...
AND THIS CYCLE CONTINUES🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Step 7 : get children under a year cuz your parents want to see "Pote ka chehra"
Step 8 : you realized that you and your wife aren't compatible but it's too late now
Step 9 : Can divorce but it's considered shameful plus you have children too
Step 10 : you live with your wife whom you don't love just for the sake of your children
Step 11 : then your children will also be like you going in their life
Sad ending
@@anuragsosa hey are u married?
@@papa6902 no I'm not I'm just saying what I've seen
@@anuragsosa what's ur age?
@@papa6902 I'm 20
I really like the "self love” part, Amazing 😀
Trust me guys...he's 100% right..
Gym... Working out totally chnged my life...i was a very very skinny kid 2years ago... Shy, introvert.... I've gained 20-23kg of lean muscle in 2years...and i just can't tell ho much confidence i got.... All girls... Basically alll girls used to reject me back then... Now many girls are after me... I worked on my physique and communication skill.. And it's like magic... When you're proud of your body... You'll have diff lvl confidence.. So guys... Gym jao mehnat kro... Ladkiya savko mil jayga😎🔥
What if I told you that even focussing on career, earning good money and having a decent personality might have also gotten you a woman? Like, even if it’s through an arranged marriage setting, your relationship could be just as good as in a love marriage, if not better.
Its not bro even i have decent physique but i never got any proposal
@@peaceout7862 yeah sarkari naukri waale types.
@@sagniksaha46 private jobs wale bhi bas paise achhe ho😂
@@peaceout7862 right gym body banake temporarily relation rahega lekin sala paisa nahi rahega naukri nahi rahega kon ladki tumpe interest dikhayega.
Is being single really a problem ???? Its actually not!! People are very desperate about relationships which is not good . There is nothing cool in gf /bf neither being in single . Both are good at their places .
finally a sane comment! our todays society just cant accept that a person can be happy and satisfied without a partner as well! they have made getting a partner a sort of an achievement rather than simply longing companionship!
Many people were abused by their parents when they were children. Since it is very common in our country. When your provider shouts on you, in a young age, you look for love elsewhere. And that's why men are desperate to find love and intimacy. If you are a woman, you won't understand but the average man gets absolutely no love from anyone around. So yes that is why being single is a problem.
If you still think that it isn't a problem, make a fake profile on tinder, as a man, for 30 days and see for yourself how many matches you get.
Being single isn't a problem at all but being single forever or being single when you don't wanna be single is. Also how's there nothing cool in having a gf or a bf? It's pretty cool. And I'm not talking about very serious relationships here.
Well if you have an option..then it maybe better, otherwise it's just miserable life.
@@spacemann1425 i am talking about non serious ones . Bz genuine relationships dont give much priority to physics attractiveness. They do give but not much .
it's just not all about physique and body , we had not been exposed enough to understand women as same person as us and how to get together easily
Bhai kyaa baat kahi hai tune, la Tera no de iss bat pe khush hoke tera eik mahine ka recharge Karti hoon.
Woman r no same as man. Genius
07:47 I think our culture doesn't promote to sit in a room for a very long time and just study, this is because of stiff comparison of marks. Everyone just wants marks nothing else. Another problem is our school, it just supress sports, we get only 1 PT period in a week and that too 3 times in a month is taken by some maths teacher.
The reasons are:
1) Extreme expectation from women. (Women who earn 100,000 per month, wants to marry a guy who makes over 200,000-300,000 per month)
2) Feminism. ( There are women out there to whom if you ask them to make a sandwich, they fell they are being oppressed or abused)
3) Most men don't feel being loved by their wife/GF. ( A man always keeps on constantly providing all the things she wants, only then he will be valued and respected by his partner)
4) He must always keep a women happy in all phases of life. (There are women who want to be treated like "princess")
And today i understood why arrange marriage is important because we haven't so social Adaptiveness Or open minded to everyone or other people and some people were feel insecure then
Blame our society and especially indian parents who try to cage their children.
Nah...arrnage marriage was best system that ensured virgin loyal girl, now things r fucked.up, I laugh to see guys simp for a second hand girl without relaising that she is not worth it
@@ayeshakawakil845 That's why I started dating this girl only to get laid . After dumping her I am planning to date another girl who looks quite interested . #mgtow
@@ayeshakawakil845 most marriages in India are still arranged , it’s only those upper cast cheap girls from New Delhi or Mumbai that you are talking about .
So what I understood from this video is to work on yourself. Work on making yourself better in all your aspects whether it be your personality, your communication skills or physique. When you constantly work on yourselves, you become even more secure as a result, which then also generates attractiveness. You have to first be a bit happy with yourselves before you get into the dating game.
Although the only thing I didn't understand was what you meant by being resourceful. Agar seedhe bhasha mein bolen toh kya iska matlab jugadoo hona hai yaa kuch aur. Please clarify if you could.
Career , finance
Bhai u just changed my perspective . Am following you since 2 yrs . I waana meet you once in my life span .
Running in the morning along with push ups boosts your energy and mood for whole of your day..
Gym was more important than girl
"was" so what about now ?
@@basil2270 i have girl now
@@DeepakYadav-st9qe woooo
@@DeepakYadav-st9qe leave her.. And focus only on gym 🏋🚴💪
@@toofanmusic9558 gym se hi mile hai
He just explained my whole life
Yesterday I got breakup I was in stress but now I have gain strength through your vedio .thanku so much bade bhaai 👍
I'm with you bro
Bhai..dont worry. Ye dard 4 mahine baad tak rahega bhi nahi. I went through this same exactly a year ago. Dont worry!! We are with you.
Breakup is like having the bad day but after this you have another good day.. Waiting for you...
@@SGhosh-ce4vs went through one 2 years ago, moved on in a few days, keep your head up kings
Now make a UA-cam video of
"Breakup makes bodybuilders" and you are good to go👏👏👏👏
Love from maharastra ❤️love your work sir
Jai Maharashtra.
जय महाराष्ट्र
जय मराठी जय महाराष्ट्र
जय शिवराय जय महाराष्ट्र
Sanskari Ladke assemble ho jao!
Pencil mangne me bhi gaand fat jati hai
No more self hook ups part at the end was hilarious and insightful. Quite introspective and it made me laugh hysterically and cry with tears of joy afterwards. Always a new perspective with this legend spitting philsophical fire right here.
You always talk about our present inner voice and resolutions❣️🏋️
Change the trend, no need in this time to run toward girls. Work on your goals. You'll eventually get all things one by one.
I don't know about the rest but I am single at the age of 35 because I have social anxiety disorder from my childhood and I am also an introvert I never had a girlfriend
Arrange marriage
🥺🥺🥺🥺what man iam scared about myself too hearing you?
@@sagniksaha46 why bro?
Chill bro what do you do?? What job or business?
35😱😱😱
Sad thing is, young men don't socialize with each other on a good scale due to personal egoes
Shyness
You discuss problems very well bro...but solutions Kahan hai??? Are you creating any value at the end of all this discussion???or you are just enlarging the problem..
Solution is single e maroge, arrange marriage ho gaya toh thek, ma bap bhi nahi bacha paya toh Maro akela.
Only best thing happen in my life is that I have rejected 3 girls.... And not a single girl rejected me to whom I like ....
How shallow view of yours to see other people.
Both get rejected by each other.
Ye EGO boost krne wali baat nai thi waise.
Pata nai tum ladko ko rejection se fark Kyu padta hai,.
@@moonlover8924 ye chutiya hai jo ladkiyo ko reject krke apne aap ko hero smjh rha hai.
I have rejected more than 20 girls so far, I like to play with them, 😁
Chad bhai 😊
20:00 thats self love😂❤
I love it
Wooho
Mazza agyaa
Shwetabh bhaiya - Why so many Indian guys are single
Me - kyuki sb kaam kr rhe h bhaiya
Nope :)
😂
Koi kaam nahi kar raha sab ro rahe hai
I am blessed with my surroundings, they all have sporty nature and we play games and do trekking, half marathon like stuff. Maja aata hai bro. We all like playing exercise and everything related to sports.
Ye society hi aisi hai ...main apna bta deta hu ...meri gf rhi hai par meri aaj tak koi friend nhi rhi ladki jo ghar pe ayi ho ....aur ye bahut common hai koi ladki hai toh vo meri friend nhi ho skti interaction bahut kam tha mere time ...ab toh fr bhi acha ho gya par isme ladkiyo bhi utni hi zimmedar hai jitne ladke ....vo bhi toh bat kr skti hai agar koi ladke ko dar lag rha hai ...ladki kyu nhi approach krti ...
Bhai sadiyo se ladkiyo ke man me daal dia gya hai ki ladko ka kaam hai propose krna. Ladko ka kaam hai ladkiyo ke piche mandraana. Ladkiyaan ni krti ye sab. Islee girls ko lgta hai ki unka ego hai wo khud approach ni krengi.
Mardo ke tarah baat Karo...women r followers not leaders, they can't take risk
@@maishayartonahi I wish saare boys school ko co Ed school bana diya jaye. Isse yeh problem solve ho jayega. Maine boys school padah tha aur bohut Kam ladkiyo se baat ki thi. Jab college mein aya to maine apne aap se challenge Kiya ki har din jitni zyada hon sake utni ladkiyo se baat karun. Slowly meri confidence ladkiyo ke saath kaafi improve huin.
I am unable to go to gym because in my case it reduces my concentration in coding...But I jog and perform little exercises like pushups, crunches...
You can try swimming or playing squash.
Itne saal tak study karke ek jaga pohcha
Gaad fatke haat me aa gayi.. tunnel vision thaa
Unfortunately competition to survive doesn't allow much time to do b,c,d aside from a which is work.
Especially if you are coming from poor households like mine.
At this point i am just too old and tired for trying to survive throughout my 20s
To learn new tricks to impress girls and do the mating dance. I've consciously decided to not participate in family making. India has too much population anyways.
Same here but when I was in relationship, I realised that most of girls r childish and live in fancy world...north worth my time
End was great 😂😂🔥🔥
😂
Mere class me to 4 ladkiya hai aur 50 ladke😂
Tab to single hi reh mere saath bhi kuchh aisa hi hua tha
Science ke student hon kya?
*" I love Myself "* 😗😗💜🖖
🤗
nothing special
I am single kyuki bahut jyada buri tarah ignore hota hu mai. Jaise ki mai ek patthar hu😅
I see a huge contrast in the videos you made before and the videos you make now,i think after going to a foreign country your perspectives have changed a lot because i remember in one of your old videos you didnt like the idea of gym or bodybuilding,just my view....
umm maybe you mistranslated, a video i made was on working on overall development not just weight lifting (I was talking about doing martial arts)
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 ya maybe
@@ShwetabhGangwar1that video was basically hot take by shwetabh! Lol.. sometimes i also felt the same for such gym freaks
this video accurately tells the story of my life
liked your new editing style dad
Nice father son relationship
Man you are awesome. You have explained our social issues so well.
Thank god I have good friends who taught me this before hand !
How many girls did you dated?
I actually don't have much confidence or guts to talk to girls I like
I used to have the same problem after studying in boys school. So after reaching college I challenged myself to approach and talk to as many girls as possible. Slowly I became quite confident around average looking girls. I lost a lot of my college time due to pandemic.
Mano ya na mano Indian girls show themselves as western but deep down they are very much back dated.
Despite of knowing what is right to do right now nd knowing it's the only possible way right now to get out of ur problems, like preparing for a competition but still not able to dedicate urself towards that , what does that mean ???
Simple : you don't enjoy the process of preparing for competition (exam or whatever)
He is a friend everybody needs
Women hang out the finish line and they pick the winners 🏆 simple
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What Attracts Women :)
@@utubefreak7167 he aint ready for Blackpill yet, bro. Let him be. 🤣
We have a whole epitome of a bodybuilder in a god like Hanuman,but still this country has such a lot of unfit and thonthvaales,where did we go wrong?
we are very very verrrryy far from hindu teachings and practices
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 Bhai, please elaborate on this
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 but bhai indian ladkiyo ko yeh zada passnad ni aata bahar ki ladkiyo yeh zada attractive lgta hai
Yaha ki ldkiya is like yarr bahot puraane bicharo wala h usse coll boy passnd h
@@manasdangi241 bhai Ram was ripped
@Larry stepney yesss you are absolutly true...and rahi baaat hunuman ki wo single by choice the...unpr bhi ladkia fida thi...but they were more into bhramchari thing...thats why
What a beautiful analogy at the end of the day man so appreciated 😂😭
Not everyone wants a gf/bf tbh , i am 17 but I don't know why i am *allergic to relationship* , once a girl tried to get closer to me but i just stopped talking to her , i think if u have other things to do or you are passionate about anything
Like in my case it's *FOOTBALL* then you wouldn't mind so much about relationship😌🤘
You are just a kid right now bro everyone needs someone at a time in their life you are just 17 you are still maturing
True. I am just like you.
@@nishank6969 yep I was also one of them who used to mock relationships.
it's good and all but after a point having great connection with someone becomes a necessity, not necessarily a partner but in many cases a friend, a family member.
@@nishank6969 👆👆👆