My cats steal my hair ties too so i startes putting them on doorknobs so the cats can't get them. Now every doorknob in my house has it's own stash. Discord is a steep learning curve. I'm clueless. Thank you for the tutorials i will check them out, and than you for the new thing to learn. It's my thing of the week for week one.
This is so funny because its true!! I remember talking to a friend about how many carbs are in carrots and he literally laughed and said, nobody ever got fat from eating a carrot lol
I feel the same way as you! My videos get 99.9% positive comments yet the .01% of fart smelling trolls can totally crush my vibe. I am working on my binge eating and I'm learning to give myself more calories during the week so I don't feel so restricted or deprived by the weekend when I binge. It has been working better for me lately! Best of luck to you! ❤🤩💪
I'm not justifying what trolls do or their behavior, but at the same time you can't expect to get 0% chance of haters...I think that's apart of putting your life online so publicly. Some people will always have something negative to say but you should focus on that 99% instead of that small percentage.
Locked my keys in the car, got yelled at on my first day of new job, break up 2 days ago, today could not get worse. Thank you for making it an iota better
So sorry you had one of those days. I have had so much going on too, lots of stressful and unexpected things that threw me for a loop. I hope you are able to decompress and know that things will get better. I hope your day today was much better!
That sucks. I’m sorry. I hope you’re feeling better now, or that you will soon - life is a bunch of ups and downs, that’s one thing we can count on. I’m having a shit day and I’m totally overwhelmed but I know that by next week, it’ll seem like no big deal. Hugs xoxo
As a therapist, my advice is to tell your therapist what is working or not working for you. If a client told me hey you don't have to thank me for sharing, I'd appreciate the feedback. We're people and sometimes we fall into certain way of giving feedback without even realizing it. Good luck on your therapy journey! I hope it's a positive experience.
"This banana...is not why I'm fat..." It's no wonder everyone loves you, Bea. How you make me laugh like this in spite of the hopelessness I feel while trapped in my binge eating, I'll never know. But it's so appreciated ❤.
I want to share in case this helps and you have a similar experience (because I think you're amazeballs). I moved out when I was 29 into my own home and it was damn hard. The first few weeks I went back and forth between my house and my parent's house, the whole time thinking I'd made a huge mistake. I really don't like change. What had at first seemed exciting was now making me feel sick. The anxiety was real. A much older friend at the time said my new home would soon become my haven and I just couldn't imagine that. But they were SO right. It might be very different for you and you might love it straight away, but in case you don't just know those feelings WILL change and you'll be incredibly happy with this new chapter of your life :-)
The discord has been such an incredibly supportive community of such wonderful people so far! Thank you for bringing all these folks together, I can't wait to see where this challenge takes us! ❤
@@hanako_w the video description has the invitation link. So you'll just need to download the app (if you're using mobile) or go to the website and create an account. The link will let you join the group
@@jonap5740 she technically switched to retired and because of her status change she can only make so much money or they take away her stuff so she had to stop accepting new patients and some insurances. Idk it's a wiered situation
You, my dear, are a breath of fresh air! You are open and honest and are so brave that it is inspiring to all of us. And you are rescuing a dog?!?! Cherry on top of the Bea sundae 🍧
"That sinking ship that is my Discord." Honey, I will sign up for that fun cruise ship each and every time !!! LOL, we can all sink together and then find ways to keep each other floating. We leave no one behind!!! 💞
Girl. I love your candid mental health talk. I’m a school psychologist so I usually work on these things with kids, but you sit criss cross applesauce...so we’re good. Lol. 2 things that I thought of while you were talking: 1. We are very likely to confirm our own biases. You are subconsciously searching for data that matches your self concept. Changing your self concept is a HUGE undertaking, but you’re moving in the right direction. 2. There are 9 affects and only 3 of them are positive. What the crap, right?! It’s like our emotions were set up to skew to the negative. It takes a lot of effort and intentional practice to stay in a positive space. The 1 neutral affect is related to shock/surprise. One of the ways we shock kids out of their negative affects is to say something surprising or silly. Try to shock yourself into a different affect with one of the many adorable, quirky antics that you do. Also, just changing your physical position helps. Your constant self-reflection, realistic outlook, and positive attitude of grace is inspiring! You truly are capable, beautiful, and worthy. Keep up the good work! PS - hearing things that don’t fit your image of yourself will often cause people to rebel and act out. If you feel uncomfortable when you read positive comments, leave space for that and reflect on it. If you just stuff down the discomfort, you are likely to lash out against it. Almost to prove your own ideas about yourself. 🤗
B, you’re human. As humans we are constantly growing and it’s obvious you are. You’re growing out of your comfort zone every darn day. You have been doing so incredible and you need to look at yourself in the mirror and repeat the words, “I AM HOT SHIT” because you are. Keep growing, keep going. I’m so so proud of you💛
I love Chetti walking up with a little inconspicuous meow like "Oh my, where did those hair ties come from? Who ever would have put them there? hmmm so weird..."
Woot woot! I'm a graphic designer, and I created my own checklist, complete with darling little images so that I could be hashtag accountable! Thanks Bea!
Something that has been helping me with binging is recognizing the feeling that makes me want to binge. Then work out why I'm feeling that way, and finally...what can I do instead of eating. Then IF I binge, then I write down the feeling that it gave me. It's a work in progress, and what helps me. I haven't binged in a while :) I don't count days or anything.
I have known I needed to lose weight for the decade but kept putting on the pounds. The group discord channel and your videos, Bea, have helped me to pause, reflect and start a new lifestyle. Thank you to you, the moderators on discord and the lovely people I have met on there that have given realistic and positive encouragement to make this weight loss journey (I need to lose about 110lbs). I am starting from zero, zero exercise, zero diet tips, I know the journey won't be easy but I am determined.
I'd like to thank Discord for this early notification! And thank you, Gen Z buddies, for helping me learn how to use it! AND THANK YOU 🐝 FOR MAKING IT ALL HAPPEN!
You do you Bea. Seeing a lot of negativity thrown at you rn but honestly you help so many people. It’s awesome to see an influencer actively learning about health instead of trying to recall their journey AFTER they met their end goals.
I've never clicked on a vid faster. I'm so happy for how much you've accomplished over the pandemic. you did not only lose some weight, but grew a following of people that appreciate your amazing and fun personality and that are inspired by your journey. not just that, but you got a house!!! thats amazing! I restarted at around the same time as you, and even though there have been ups and downs, but im still proud because I accomplished so much more more outside of my weight loss, and still accomplished a bit of weight loss!!
Middle of a conversation on discord and I dropped it and came here 😂 i can’t help it this comes first always. It’s also really normal to only focus on the negative over the positive. It’s like when your boss gives you a list of things that you do well and one thing to improve on, you only think about the thing you are told to improve on. You aren’t alone just know you are fantastic and doing things exactly how you need to do them for yourself!
I just wanna thank you for starting this challenge because after gaining like 30 pounds in 2020 and being at my highest ever weight, I have desperately needed motivation and support to get this extra weight knocked off. This challenge is 100% giving it to me 💗
Sending lots of love! The Discord is a beacon of kindness and support. Proud and grateful to be there and so excited to have a new Bea video to watch while I make my healthy dinner for challenge day 2!
Don't forget to congratulate yourself on reaching some goals already: buying a house, moving, and seeking help when you need it are all things you have already accomplished. The negative voice in your head will make it easy to forget what you have already done and those accomplishments deserve celebration and recognition.
I was in therapy for about a year and it is definitely awkward at first but I honestly think starting was the hardest part. Be proud for taking that step!
I love chatty!!! How he checked his art work!!! under the carpet!! I also want to congratulate you for keeping going. We all have our struggles! And is so hard to do what is best for ourselves sometimes. But we are all in the same path and I know we can do this!! and much more! You are inspiring!
hey just a note about therapy that my therapist told me recently (I've been working with my therapist for over 2 years). she said that big breakthroughs aren't a thing, or at least don't happen very often. everything feels very slow until you look back at who you were a few months ago or a year ago and you realized how much you've grown! so proud of you for reaching out to someone!
I remember back in psych 101 at college, I learn that it takes 10 compliments to psychically heal the mind from an insult, no matter how trivial the insult might be. I think about this every time I ever hear or see anyone being negative to another person. The old adage is true: ‘ if you have nothing nice to say, it’s better not to say anything at all’. Bea, thanks for your honesty and real ness. It’s appreciated far more than I could ever tell you here.
I am a certified health coach, and you are an inspiration to me, personally and "professionally", because you model so much accountability and self-scrutiny that watching your videos impels me to try harder. Bless you for the immeasurable good that you do!
Moving into a place alone can feel a bit overwhelming. Give yourself time to adjust to all of the difference noises... i.e.the furnace turning on, the pops and cracking sounds the walls make when the wind blows. You're gonna do great!!!
It’s hard to explain how binging just takes over and is so unconscious for me. I’m so glad you are so aware of what your triggers are and how you came up with some good ideas of how to delay the action. Bea, you are such an inspiration to me and others. You give me a lot to think about through the week and through your journey have shown me how thinking healthier evolves over time and how even what sounds good (ie. a salad for breakfast) slowly changes with small and continued healthier choices. I am so happy for you to be growing so much and to be moving into your own home. Thanks for keeping your channel going and keeping it real. I look forward to you sharing more of what your future has in store. Sending you positive thoughts - but also want you to know that because real life is full of peaks and valleys, you being so genuine in your videos is greatly appreciated. ❤️
I am so excited for your journey with therapy! I also went to therapy for binge eating and it had helped me IMMENSELY! I still struggle but I am miles ahead of where I used to be. It helped me with weight loss and self confidence so much. 💙💚💜
This community is so awesome already. I was expecting a challenge when I was asked to be a mod, but it's been such a great time and fantastic people!!!
I'm so excited for you! The worst of moving is finally almost over. There is something so freeing about finally having all your stuff where you want it in you own space. BTW, your therapist might have kept doing that because some people are so freaked out about telling someone personal stuff like that that she was trying to reassure you that this is a good thing. She's obviously gotta feel you out to know how to tailor her treatment to you. I'd recommend being blunt with her like "You don't have to thank me for sharing, I'm sharing cause I need help and I recognize that. Just be real with me and give it to me straight cause I want to work". Thank you for the discord beginner's guide because I wanted to join, but hesitated cause I don't understand all these new fangled yungin's apps.
I hope you get the internal healing you are searching for. I’m really grateful for your videos and the authenticity of them. I love how open you are and if you had never shared with all of us the struggles you go through, I would never have imagined you have them. I mean you are such a cool girl and I LOVE watching your videos. You’re funny and vibrant and give off a vibe that’s so contagious, even through videos! You make my day better every time you upload a new one!! Thank you for being you, Bea!!!
I'm like you in that I'm very pragmatic and blunt, and when I started therapy I was uncomfortable with how supportive and nice my therapist was. That tells you what my main issue is (i.e. can't access or process emotions well). Anyway, I just wanted her to give me "things to do to get over it" and it ended up being a 3 year journey of diving deep into the blockages around my emotions and undoing the "training" I'd received growing up to ignore emotions and ignore "bad" things (just "pull up my socks", "other people have it worse", "just get on with it", etc.). It was tough - I'd come home some days and lay on the couch and cry for 2 days after some of biggest break-throughs - but I love where it has gotten me to today. Wishing you the same tough but wonderful journey to yourself!
I hope you’re enjoying your new house! Congrats! That’s a huge accomplishment and I hope that you truly stop and think about all the amazing life achievements you taken in an conquer. Your channel is so inspiring and I love reading all the positive comments. You do a lot of us (or me), so thank you 🖤
Bea, thank you SO MUCH for sharing your experience so far with Better Help. I don't know how things are in your state, but I work for a mental health clinic in Oregon and services here are seriously lacking, I have to tell people every day that we are full and not accepting new patients for therapy and it's so disheartening. I've heard adds on my podcasts for Better Help before and have honestly almost directed people there when I have to turn them away, but this is the first time I've come across a real person talking about their experience with it. So helpful, you're the best!
Hey Bea discord was causing me major anxiety so I’m just going to put my goals out here got my diet figured out and I’m planning on exercising five out of seven days. Those are goals I feel fairly confident I can complete.
Bea, thank you for always being you. I was having a very down day with depression. watching this video made me feel a bit better. Enough to go outside for a small walk. Thank you for that. And congrats on your new place!
Thank you so much for creating the discord! Having some form of community to come back to, even a community of strangers with common goals, has been the change I didn't know I needed during this isolating pandemic. Hilarious and honest video, as usual! Your videos give me a reason to love Mondays.
Hi Bea! I´ve been on therapy since last december, and it has made a huge change in my life, It´s amazing you do this for you!. I know sometimes people (even my self) can sound super positive, but it comes not necessarily from a super happy place, but from a place of love, support and empathy. For example, I can be depressed but also cheer you up.. that´s why community it´s so amazing, we lift eachother so we all move forward. Again you are amazing, we see it, hope you see it too XO
I think the reason we are listening to the negative voices is because we think in the same patterns. If we allow ouselves to think different we have a fair chance to be able to stop listening. But that impulse has to come from within and I think you are still desperately trying to find an impulse from outside. Thank you so very much for sharing! You really bring a kind and friendly voice in this world!
Bea, many of us being positive (including myself), struggle every day. We see how important being motivated it so we try to do just that! I've been trying to lose 20 pounds and cut down on over eating so my words of encouragement will always be true despite how I feel about myself any given day! Motivating you motivates me, girl!
One thing I do to help binge eatting,.is when I am in a binge eatting mode, I do something self care instead. Example: paint my nails. I can't eat with wet nails without messing then up. So I have to wait until they dry. I will also put on a clay face mask. I try to replace my binge eatting qith self care.
Girl focus on the positive!! You're being 100% you. Not everyone is going to like it. People feel their opinions are the say all end all. Keep doing you! I love watching your life! I get so excited for your milestones! That's for making my Mondays better!!
In my experience, you can't get "too much" help... In addition to talking to someone, I joined supportive facebook groups, I followed a bunch of great weight loss UA-camrs, and I also read multiple books about things like compulsive eating, compulsive overeating, binging and mindless eating. My go-to example of mindless eating is popcorn because you're watching a movie. Can the movie still happen without the popcorn? Of course. I just needed to change my mindset programming. At first, we'd do a big dinner right before the movie so hubby & I were too full for popcorn. Eventually, we almost dropped the popcorn completely. Now, when we do have it - it's a real treat! Anyway, I've been here for a while and continue to support your journey! Congrats on the new house! Heather xo
I feel like this is true for a lot of us. Negative comments or criticism just hits and attacks us harder. Thank you for this positive community. I love reading all the good comments that keep me in track with myself too.
Thank you so much for your videos! I joined discord just for the challenge and I'm getting the hang of it. I am kickstarting my weight loss journey with the challenge and 2 days in is going well so far. I am so happy for your next step in life! I'm currently house hunting an hour away from "home" myself! (My Mom constantly talks how she is going to miss me as I'm currently still at home myself at 27, soon to be 28). I connect with your videos so easily and I feel like there is a support from them even though I don't know you personally, and quite often wish I did! I appreciate your blunt, and straight to the point mentality. It's how I am, and makes me love your videos even more. You're an amazing inspiration to so many, and has inspired me to put myself first, because my mind, body, and soul need that a lot right now. First time I've ever commented and I just kind of dumped all of my thoughts at once. Keep being fantastic, love seeing your journey in all aspects of life! 💚
Can you start doing little hauls of what you're getting for your new house in your vlogs? I know you showed a montage but I'd love to see everything more in-depth and see why you got what you did. 😁
I'm late starting the challenge because I've been having a pretty horrible time mentally but I'm back, watching the fab Bea & managing not to cry !! Glad the move went well, you're a real superstar. xx
I saw something on twitter the other day - and I thought it was both quirky and useful! A girl wrote a 'resume' for her disorders/mental health issues that she has (severity+symptoms+background+possible causes), treatment that she is undertaking/has tried, medication, coping mechanisms (healthy+unhealthy), behaviours she wants to target (ones to stop and ones to develop). I think it's a good/easy way to get information through if you find you shy away from mentioning it in the moment (maybe initially struggling to say it outloud) or find you're getting side-tracked :) love that you're trying this out - and if, for whatever reason, you don't find she's suitable try not to be discouraged. There's a reason multiple therapists+organisations exist. If she doesn't work out, that just means she's not the right fit for you! ♥
My kitty does the same thing with hair ties, I like to tell everyone that's his retirement fund, when he hides a spoon with hair ties I say he's diversifying his retirement🤣
Girl that feeling of spiraling. I live in it a lot. I've sought out help and it worked for me. I'm out of therapy at the moment, but I'm looking to get back there. Trust that you're not alone in that journey.
I'm terrible with people. So I often default to thanks for sharing. It's much better then my teenage response, 'that's nice.' I literally said that when my Grandma told me someone from our church died. After that, I made an effort to say something different each time, but just ended up with a new default.
Bea, first I’d like to say how much I love your videos. You are not alone in believing that the “1% is always right.” There are many of us who only pay attention to the negative people. However, when you have that feeling, go back and look at ALL the people who are positive towards you and are following you on your journey. We believe in you. You have a gift in the way you are able to open up to us and tell us your struggles and, I think, most of us have those struggles as well. Your words of how you are dealing with things and steps you are taking inspire me. I look forward to all your videos. PWE
I started the challenge! (A few days prior) its kept me mindful of remembering to go and do....new thimgs that move my body. Even started folk dancing lessons on UA-cam from my mom's culture. You're inspiring!!!
I was so determined to be apart of this challenge but things don’t always go according to plan. My dog recently died. I usually don’t post on UA-cam comments but I felt the need to say this. Beau, you are such a joy and an inspiration. I’ll try to start the challenge when I feel mentally better.
this is all inspiring. I was a little bummed that I'm off to a rocky start, so this was helpful. Thank you, looking forward to figuring out discord hahaha
Tell your therapist up-front that you don't feel comfortable with her response style, and that you need someone who's going to be more blunt with you. Or, ask her or Better Help for a referral to someone else more your style.
Yes! Being honest with your therapist is the most important thing in the whole process. It should be a natural, honest relation, nothing should feel “off”.
I Love the realness in your weight loss approach. You're kind, sweet, caring and funny! I appreciate you sharing the emotional side of losing weight too, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you & Congrats on becoming a home owner!
I'm legitimately so excited about this challenge! And the discord has just been so nice! It's been so supportive and kind! 😊 (BTW I moved to West Africa for a year and literally packed nothing until the day before my flight so I feel you on the procrastination 😂)
I completely respect your moms privacy...but we love her! It’d be pretty epic one day to have a meet my mom video! Also, so happy for you that you’re settling into your new place!
Bea, I just want you to know that you are a stand out star in our little world and your struggle is relatable, and we are all grateful for you. (Thank God your weight brought you to UA-cam! ) Although you may not feel it, you function at an extraordinarily high level of competency (executive function!). You are wildly talented, organized, wise, inspired, inspiring, entertaining, hilarious. You could have your own talk show (duh! you do) , you could have your own sitcom, you could run for office (any office!), you can just stand still and do absolutely nothing and you are a star. You are as talented as the most talented people on our planet because you can connect and because you are organized enough to have ideas and follow through and create and because you are brave enough to be who you are! And now I’m late for work😂!
Bea I'm a therapist and with BetterHelp counselors are required on chat to reply to EVERY SINGLE THING you say. That's why she's saying "thank you for sharing that."
Chetti’s secret second stash on the other side of the carpet had me wheezing
Right? I admit I gasped and then rolled laughing! What a turkey!
@@julietijerina8176 I mean, Bea prepared us but I wasn’t prepared!
WHAAAAT!!!! That was soo funny!
Sinking ship of love. We love you!
I laughed so hard! My cat does this too
Awww your Mom is so cute. “You can live with me till your 90” every mother’s dream.
Congratulations on moving day!!
I would have loved to have a mom like that!
Well, not *everyone’s* mother’s dream 😭 haha wish I had some time to get a job and start saving money!
Chetty: hides all the hair ties under the rug
Also Chetty, when exposed: you can't be mad at me - look at me, I'm so cute
He does have a point there :D He is so darn cute.
I kind of need him 😍
I love how he meowed right on cue lol
Aye, he was like: "No, not the treasure!"
@@mhirhcp I get that reference! :D
The hair ties KILLED me. He knows what he done!
"That's why I don't have any hair ties!" Cue Cheddy's meow!!! LOL, I'm dying!!
Right! I laughed so hard! Especially when he meowed. Like what? Ahhh you found my stash.
My cats steal my hair ties too so i startes putting them on doorknobs so the cats can't get them. Now every doorknob in my house has it's own stash.
Discord is a steep learning curve. I'm clueless. Thank you for the tutorials i will check them out, and than you for the new thing to learn. It's my thing of the week for week one.
He was probably like hey leave my stash alone! Cats dont know guilt 😂
Repeat after me: NOONE 👏HAS 👏EVER 👏GOTTEN 👏FAT 👏BECAUSE 👏OF 👏FRUIT 👏
Diet-culture needs to stop crimianlising fruit 😂
Puh-REACH!💛💛💛
This is so funny because its true!! I remember talking to a friend about how many carbs are in carrots and he literally laughed and said, nobody ever got fat from eating a carrot lol
Yes girl say it loud🙌🙌🙌
I was eating a banana watching this video lol
Amen!!!!
I feel the same way as you! My videos get 99.9% positive comments yet the .01% of fart smelling trolls can totally crush my vibe. I am working on my binge eating and I'm learning to give myself more calories during the week so I don't feel so restricted or deprived by the weekend when I binge. It has been working better for me lately! Best of luck to you! ❤🤩💪
Just watched your week 114 update then watched this lol!! I'm rooting for you both!!
@@agonza4381 thank you!
Fart smelling trolls omg I'm losing it
The hair ties tho!!! I’m dead
I'm not justifying what trolls do or their behavior, but at the same time you can't expect to get 0% chance of haters...I think that's apart of putting your life online so publicly. Some people will always have something negative to say but you should focus on that 99% instead of that small percentage.
Locked my keys in the car, got yelled at on my first day of new job, break up 2 days ago, today could not get worse. Thank you for making it an iota better
I’ve had those days too. I go home and cry it out real good, drink a lot of beer, take a shower and move on to the next day. Hang in there!
Ah damn, the universe should really give you a break!
So sorry you had one of those days. I have had so much going on too, lots of stressful and unexpected things that threw me for a loop. I hope you are able to decompress and know that things will get better. I hope your day today was much better!
That sucks. I’m sorry. I hope you’re feeling better now, or that you will soon - life is a bunch of ups and downs, that’s one thing we can count on. I’m having a shit day and I’m totally overwhelmed but I know that by next week, it’ll seem like no big deal.
Hugs xoxo
🙏🏾🤗
As a therapist, my advice is to tell your therapist what is working or not working for you. If a client told me hey you don't have to thank me for sharing, I'd appreciate the feedback. We're people and sometimes we fall into certain way of giving feedback without even realizing it. Good luck on your therapy journey! I hope it's a positive experience.
GO DAY 2, PEOPLE!
So thankful to be apart of this challenge community. ❤
Do you live in Burlington, KS?
@@weirdnotormaybe No, Arizona. :)
@@KruezFam my bad made me think you are my friend from the childhood
@@weirdnotormaybe Sorry to disappoint. I married into the Krueger last name. :) #Freddy
@@KruezFam 🤣🤣 its all good!
I feel like you've had 10 years of growth in the short 1 year I've been watching your channel. Look how far you've come!!!! So happy for you! :D
"This banana...is not why I'm fat..."
It's no wonder everyone loves you, Bea. How you make me laugh like this in spite of the hopelessness I feel while trapped in my binge eating, I'll never know. But it's so appreciated ❤.
I want to share in case this helps and you have a similar experience (because I think you're amazeballs). I moved out when I was 29 into my own home and it was damn hard. The first few weeks I went back and forth between my house and my parent's house, the whole time thinking I'd made a huge mistake. I really don't like change. What had at first seemed exciting was now making me feel sick. The anxiety was real. A much older friend at the time said my new home would soon become my haven and I just couldn't imagine that. But they were SO right. It might be very different for you and you might love it straight away, but in case you don't just know those feelings WILL change and you'll be incredibly happy with this new chapter of your life :-)
The discord has been such an incredibly supportive community of such wonderful people so far! Thank you for bringing all these folks together, I can't wait to see where this challenge takes us! ❤
Agreed! I love her little community 💕
I agree! Everyone seems so nice and supportive so far.
How can I join/ find it? :) thanks
@@hanako_w the video description has the invitation link. So you'll just need to download the app (if you're using mobile) or go to the website and create an account. The link will let you join the group
Omg, I need these videos, I am NOT sure how to use Discord.
Chetty lookin' SO concerned you're gonna take away his stash... and then his SECOND stash. XD
His face was like, "WE ALL HAVE SECRETS OK"
I've been seeing a therapist for three years. Recently she stopped taking my insurance but she still sees me once a month for free
That's amazing 💫
Omg that's incredible! She clearly loves her job!
Aw! How lucky you are to have her!
I don't understand why she would stop taking insurance. So glad she sees you once a month for free, though.
@@jonap5740 she technically switched to retired and because of her status change she can only make so much money or they take away her stuff so she had to stop accepting new patients and some insurances. Idk it's a wiered situation
The way I *CACKLED* at the under-the-rug reveal! Chetty has been an A+ hunter of hair ties galore!
You, my dear, are a breath of fresh air! You are open and honest and are so brave that it is inspiring to all of us. And you are rescuing a dog?!?! Cherry on top of the Bea sundae 🍧
"You can live with me until you're 90" your mom is so cute 🥺❤
"That sinking ship that is my Discord."
Honey, I will sign up for that fun cruise ship each and every time !!! LOL, we can all sink together and then find ways to keep each other floating. We leave no one behind!!! 💞
Oh! Cruise! We should do a cruise together!! Positive vibes only!
I love this and I am here for it!
I am just glad that I am not the only one that was on that maiden voyage and was not the only one lost as hell.
Girl. I love your candid mental health talk. I’m a school psychologist so I usually work on these things with kids, but you sit criss cross applesauce...so we’re good. Lol.
2 things that I thought of while you were talking:
1. We are very likely to confirm our own biases. You are subconsciously searching for data that matches your self concept. Changing your self concept is a HUGE undertaking, but you’re moving in the right direction.
2. There are 9 affects and only 3 of them are positive. What the crap, right?! It’s like our emotions were set up to skew to the negative. It takes a lot of effort and intentional practice to stay in a positive space. The 1 neutral affect is related to shock/surprise. One of the ways we shock kids out of their negative affects is to say something surprising or silly. Try to shock yourself into a different affect with one of the many adorable, quirky antics that you do. Also, just changing your physical position helps.
Your constant self-reflection, realistic outlook, and positive attitude of grace is inspiring! You truly are capable, beautiful, and worthy. Keep up the good work!
PS - hearing things that don’t fit your image of yourself will often cause people to rebel and act out. If you feel uncomfortable when you read positive comments, leave space for that and reflect on it. If you just stuff down the discomfort, you are likely to lash out against it. Almost to prove your own ideas about yourself.
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B, you’re human. As humans we are constantly growing and it’s obvious you are. You’re growing out of your comfort zone every darn day. You have been doing so incredible and you need to look at yourself in the mirror and repeat the words, “I AM HOT SHIT” because you are. Keep growing, keep going. I’m so so proud of you💛
I love Chetti walking up with a little inconspicuous meow like "Oh my, where did those hair ties come from? Who ever would have put them there? hmmm so weird..."
Woot woot! I'm a graphic designer, and I created my own checklist, complete with darling little images so that I could be hashtag accountable! Thanks Bea!
Something that has been helping me with binging is recognizing the feeling that makes me want to binge. Then work out why I'm feeling that way, and finally...what can I do instead of eating. Then IF I binge, then I write down the feeling that it gave me. It's a work in progress, and what helps me. I haven't binged in a while :) I don't count days or anything.
I have known I needed to lose weight for the decade but kept putting on the pounds. The group discord channel and your videos, Bea, have helped me to pause, reflect and start a new lifestyle. Thank you to you, the moderators on discord and the lovely people I have met on there that have given realistic and positive encouragement to make this weight loss journey (I need to lose about 110lbs). I am starting from zero, zero exercise, zero diet tips, I know the journey won't be easy but I am determined.
I'd like to thank Discord for this early notification! And thank you, Gen Z buddies, for helping me learn how to use it! AND THANK YOU 🐝 FOR MAKING IT ALL HAPPEN!
Clicked so fast, running for snacks now
You do you Bea. Seeing a lot of negativity thrown at you rn but honestly you help so many people. It’s awesome to see an influencer actively learning about health instead of trying to recall their journey AFTER they met their end goals.
I've never clicked on a vid faster. I'm so happy for how much you've accomplished over the pandemic. you did not only lose some weight, but grew a following of people that appreciate your amazing and fun personality and that are inspired by your journey. not just that, but you got a house!!! thats amazing! I restarted at around the same time as you, and even though there have been ups and downs, but im still proud because I accomplished so much more more outside of my weight loss, and still accomplished a bit of weight loss!!
Can't believe people are still blaming bananas for obesity *facepalm*
Middle of a conversation on discord and I dropped it and came here 😂 i can’t help it this comes first always. It’s also really normal to only focus on the negative over the positive. It’s like when your boss gives you a list of things that you do well and one thing to improve on, you only think about the thing you are told to improve on. You aren’t alone just know you are fantastic and doing things exactly how you need to do them for yourself!
Why is your cat such a star... it’s like he knows what to do right on cue every time 😂
The video popped up just as I opened the app.. it’s fate 😂 I needed motivation today!
I just wanna thank you for starting this challenge because after gaining like 30 pounds in 2020 and being at my highest ever weight, I have desperately needed motivation and support to get this extra weight knocked off. This challenge is 100% giving it to me 💗
same here! this is the boost I needed to get my health back in check
Sending lots of love! The Discord is a beacon of kindness and support. Proud and grateful to be there and so excited to have a new Bea video to watch while I make my healthy dinner for challenge day 2!
Had to laugh at Chetty's stash and his innocent little "who me?" talk back. Sooo cute! 😊 Congrats on moving into your new place!! 😀
Best notification of the week!
Your relaish with mom is so sweet. My mom said I couldn’t come home when I was like 20. It’s always sweet to see moms who want to mom (like as a verb)
Don't forget to congratulate yourself on reaching some goals already: buying a house, moving, and seeking help when you need it are all things you have already accomplished. The negative voice in your head will make it easy to forget what you have already done and those accomplishments deserve celebration and recognition.
Omg I can't 😂 I love your mum so much she's an icon 😂
It's such an amazing, overwhelming feeling when you finally move in.
Congrats again on your new home! 💙
Thank you so much! It definitely is!💛🦕😊
I was in therapy for about a year and it is definitely awkward at first but I honestly think starting was the hardest part. Be proud for taking that step!
I love chatty!!! How he checked his art work!!! under the carpet!! I also want to congratulate you for keeping going. We all have our struggles! And is so hard to do what is best for ourselves sometimes. But we are all in the same path and I know we can do this!! and much more! You are inspiring!
hey just a note about therapy that my therapist told me recently (I've been working with my therapist for over 2 years). she said that big breakthroughs aren't a thing, or at least don't happen very often. everything feels very slow until you look back at who you were a few months ago or a year ago and you realized how much you've grown! so proud of you for reaching out to someone!
"People are telling me I'm fat because I eat bananas" .... As I'm eating a banana 😆.
Same...I was halfway through my own banana when she said that, lol
I remember back in psych 101 at college, I learn that it takes 10 compliments to psychically heal the mind from an insult, no matter how trivial the insult might be.
I think about this every time I ever hear or see anyone being negative to another person.
The old adage is true: ‘ if you have nothing nice to say, it’s better not to say anything at all’.
Bea, thanks for your honesty and real ness. It’s appreciated far more than I could ever tell you here.
Your videos always brighten my day 💙
I am a certified health coach, and you are an inspiration to me, personally and "professionally", because you model so much accountability and self-scrutiny that watching your videos impels me to try harder. Bless you for the immeasurable good that you do!
Moving into a place alone can feel a bit overwhelming. Give yourself time to adjust to all of the difference noises... i.e.the furnace turning on, the pops and cracking sounds the walls make when the wind blows. You're gonna do great!!!
It’s hard to explain how binging just takes over and is so unconscious for me. I’m so glad you are so aware of what your triggers are and how you came up with some good ideas of how to delay the action. Bea, you are such an inspiration to me and others. You give me a lot to think about through the week and through your journey have shown me how thinking healthier evolves over time and how even what sounds good (ie. a salad for breakfast) slowly changes with small and continued healthier choices. I am so happy for you to be growing so much and to be moving into your own home. Thanks for keeping your channel going and keeping it real. I look forward to you sharing more of what your future has in store. Sending you positive thoughts - but also want you to know that because real life is full of peaks and valleys, you being so genuine in your videos is greatly appreciated. ❤️
I am so excited for your journey with therapy! I also went to therapy for binge eating and it had helped me IMMENSELY! I still struggle but I am miles ahead of where I used to be. It helped me with weight loss and self confidence so much. 💙💚💜
This community is so awesome already. I was expecting a challenge when I was asked to be a mod, but it's been such a great time and fantastic people!!!
Day 1 and 2 starting off strong!!! Thank you discord moderators!!
I'm so excited for you! The worst of moving is finally almost over. There is something so freeing about finally having all your stuff where you want it in you own space. BTW, your therapist might have kept doing that because some people are so freaked out about telling someone personal stuff like that that she was trying to reassure you that this is a good thing. She's obviously gotta feel you out to know how to tailor her treatment to you. I'd recommend being blunt with her like "You don't have to thank me for sharing, I'm sharing cause I need help and I recognize that. Just be real with me and give it to me straight cause I want to work". Thank you for the discord beginner's guide because I wanted to join, but hesitated cause I don't understand all these new fangled yungin's apps.
HAHA, now I have "Chetti on the jumpoleeeeen" over and over in my head. Also, congratulations on the pup! I can't wait to meet your dog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you get the internal healing you are searching for. I’m really grateful for your videos and the authenticity of them. I love how open you are and if you had never shared with all of us the struggles you go through, I would never have imagined you have them. I mean you are such a cool girl and I LOVE watching your videos. You’re funny and vibrant and give off a vibe that’s so contagious, even through videos! You make my day better every time you upload a new one!! Thank you for being you, Bea!!!
Chetty is a dragon and the hair ties are his hoard
Also, moving is a full body workout
I'm like you in that I'm very pragmatic and blunt, and when I started therapy I was uncomfortable with how supportive and nice my therapist was. That tells you what my main issue is (i.e. can't access or process emotions well). Anyway, I just wanted her to give me "things to do to get over it" and it ended up being a 3 year journey of diving deep into the blockages around my emotions and undoing the "training" I'd received growing up to ignore emotions and ignore "bad" things (just "pull up my socks", "other people have it worse", "just get on with it", etc.). It was tough - I'd come home some days and lay on the couch and cry for 2 days after some of biggest break-throughs - but I love where it has gotten me to today. Wishing you the same tough but wonderful journey to yourself!
I hope you’re enjoying your new house! Congrats! That’s a huge accomplishment and I hope that you truly stop and think about all the amazing life achievements you taken in an conquer. Your channel is so inspiring and I love reading all the positive comments. You do a lot of us (or me), so thank you 🖤
Bea, thank you SO MUCH for sharing your experience so far with Better Help. I don't know how things are in your state, but I work for a mental health clinic in Oregon and services here are seriously lacking, I have to tell people every day that we are full and not accepting new patients for therapy and it's so disheartening. I've heard adds on my podcasts for Better Help before and have honestly almost directed people there when I have to turn them away, but this is the first time I've come across a real person talking about their experience with it. So helpful, you're the best!
Hey Bea discord was causing me major anxiety so I’m just going to put my goals out here got my diet figured out and I’m planning on exercising five out of seven days. Those are goals I feel fairly confident I can complete.
Same!
Yeah too many people! Found a buddy and ipretty much left😊
Bea, thank you for always being you. I was having a very down day with depression. watching this video made me feel a bit better. Enough to go outside for a small walk. Thank you for that. And congrats on your new place!
Thank you so much for creating the discord! Having some form of community to come back to, even a community of strangers with common goals, has been the change I didn't know I needed during this isolating pandemic.
Hilarious and honest video, as usual! Your videos give me a reason to love Mondays.
Hi Bea! I´ve been on therapy since last december, and it has made a huge change in my life, It´s amazing you do this for you!. I know sometimes people (even my self) can sound super positive, but it comes not necessarily from a super happy place, but from a place of love, support and empathy. For example, I can be depressed but also cheer you up.. that´s why community it´s so amazing, we lift eachother so we all move forward. Again you are amazing, we see it, hope you see it too XO
You are not the kid in class that doesn't pull their weight. You are the Ideas Person! Without you this wouldn't have happened.
I think the reason we are listening to the negative voices is because we think in the same patterns. If we allow ouselves to think different we have a fair chance to be able to stop listening. But that impulse has to come from within and I think you are still desperately trying to find an impulse from outside. Thank you so very much for sharing! You really bring a kind and friendly voice in this world!
The hair ties under the rug made me laugh way too long 🤣
Same!
Bea, many of us being positive (including myself), struggle every day. We see how important being motivated it so we try to do just that! I've been trying to lose 20 pounds and cut down on over eating so my words of encouragement will always be true despite how I feel about myself any given day! Motivating you motivates me, girl!
One thing I do to help binge eatting,.is when I am in a binge eatting mode, I do something self care instead.
Example: paint my nails. I can't eat with wet nails without messing then up. So I have to wait until they dry.
I will also put on a clay face mask. I try to replace my binge eatting qith self care.
Girl focus on the positive!! You're being 100% you. Not everyone is going to like it. People feel their opinions are the say all end all. Keep doing you! I love watching your life! I get so excited for your milestones! That's for making my Mondays better!!
I literally paused my audio book to watch this!! So chuffed for you Bea!!
In my experience, you can't get "too much" help... In addition to talking to someone, I joined supportive facebook groups, I followed a bunch of great weight loss UA-camrs, and I also read multiple books about things like compulsive eating, compulsive overeating, binging and mindless eating. My go-to example of mindless eating is popcorn because you're watching a movie. Can the movie still happen without the popcorn? Of course. I just needed to change my mindset programming. At first, we'd do a big dinner right before the movie so hubby & I were too full for popcorn. Eventually, we almost dropped the popcorn completely. Now, when we do have it - it's a real treat! Anyway, I've been here for a while and continue to support your journey! Congrats on the new house! Heather xo
The evolution of a pets name can really get away on itself 😂
Our dog ended up being named Crystal Chica Bun Bun and we called her Lee-Lee, for Crystalee. Who knows why!
Yea my dogs name is biggie and it turned into meep moop. Or doodoo.
I love you Bea, and all of your wonderful viewers who are so kind and supportive. We are SPREADING LOVE YALL and it’s magical!
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😂😂😂 omg those hair ties under the carpet 😹
I feel like this is true for a lot of us. Negative comments or criticism just hits and attacks us harder. Thank you for this positive community. I love reading all the good comments that keep me in track with myself too.
I love you Bea you are the reason Ive lost any weight this year.Your the best❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your videos! I joined discord just for the challenge and I'm getting the hang of it. I am kickstarting my weight loss journey with the challenge and 2 days in is going well so far.
I am so happy for your next step in life! I'm currently house hunting an hour away from "home" myself! (My Mom constantly talks how she is going to miss me as I'm currently still at home myself at 27, soon to be 28).
I connect with your videos so easily and I feel like there is a support from them even though I don't know you personally, and quite often wish I did! I appreciate your blunt, and straight to the point mentality. It's how I am, and makes me love your videos even more.
You're an amazing inspiration to so many, and has inspired me to put myself first, because my mind, body, and soul need that a lot right now.
First time I've ever commented and I just kind of dumped all of my thoughts at once. Keep being fantastic, love seeing your journey in all aspects of life! 💚
Can you start doing little hauls of what you're getting for your new house in your vlogs? I know you showed a montage but I'd love to see everything more in-depth and see why you got what you did. 😁
I'm late starting the challenge because I've been having a pretty horrible time mentally but I'm back, watching the fab Bea & managing not to cry !! Glad the move went well, you're a real superstar. xx
Am I the only one dying at the fact that she has a random Snoop Dog calendar 😂😂😂
Oh my gosh I laughed hard and instantly scrolled looking for someone to comment on it.
It's somehow very on-brand for her as well 😂
It's so her isn't it?! 😂 I love it.
I saw something on twitter the other day - and I thought it was both quirky and useful! A girl wrote a 'resume' for her disorders/mental health issues that she has (severity+symptoms+background+possible causes), treatment that she is undertaking/has tried, medication, coping mechanisms (healthy+unhealthy), behaviours she wants to target (ones to stop and ones to develop). I think it's a good/easy way to get information through if you find you shy away from mentioning it in the moment (maybe initially struggling to say it outloud) or find you're getting side-tracked :)
love that you're trying this out - and if, for whatever reason, you don't find she's suitable try not to be discouraged. There's a reason multiple therapists+organisations exist. If she doesn't work out, that just means she's not the right fit for you! ♥
My kitty does the same thing with hair ties, I like to tell everyone that's his retirement fund, when he hides a spoon with hair ties I say he's diversifying his retirement🤣
Girl that feeling of spiraling. I live in it a lot. I've sought out help and it worked for me. I'm out of therapy at the moment, but I'm looking to get back there. Trust that you're not alone in that journey.
I'm terrible with people. So I often default to thanks for sharing. It's much better then my teenage response, 'that's nice.' I literally said that when my Grandma told me someone from our church died. After that, I made an effort to say something different each time, but just ended up with a new default.
Bea, first I’d like to say how much I love your videos. You are not alone in believing that the “1% is always right.” There are many of us who only pay attention to the negative people. However, when you have that feeling, go back and look at ALL the people who are positive towards you and are following you on your journey. We believe in you. You have a gift in the way you are able to open up to us and tell us your struggles and, I think, most of us have those struggles as well. Your words of how you are dealing with things and steps you are taking inspire me. I look forward to all your videos. PWE
Congratulations on your home!
I started the challenge! (A few days prior) its kept me mindful of remembering to go and do....new thimgs that move my body. Even started folk dancing lessons on UA-cam from my mom's culture.
You're inspiring!!!
Oh my God, I just saw chetty's thumbs IN ACTION and they are insaneeee 😂😂
I saw them too!! That cat has opposable thumbs.
Me too!! I never knew he was a polydactyl this whole time. SO adorable!!!😍😍😍
So cuuute!
I was so determined to be apart of this challenge but things don’t always go according to plan. My dog recently died. I usually don’t post on UA-cam comments but I felt the need to say this. Beau, you are such a joy and an inspiration. I’ll try to start the challenge when I feel mentally better.
this is all inspiring. I was a little bummed that I'm off to a rocky start, so this was helpful. Thank you, looking forward to figuring out discord hahaha
The discord is so great. Thank you so much! This community is the best! I love following REAL people on UA-cam and Instagram. So awesome.
Tell your therapist up-front that you don't feel comfortable with her response style, and that you need someone who's going to be more blunt with you. Or, ask her or Better Help for a referral to someone else more your style.
Yes! Being honest with your therapist is the most important thing in the whole process. It should be a natural, honest relation, nothing should feel “off”.
I Love the realness in your weight loss approach. You're kind, sweet, caring and funny! I appreciate you sharing the emotional side of losing weight too, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you & Congrats on becoming a home owner!
I'm legitimately so excited about this challenge! And the discord has just been so nice! It's been so supportive and kind! 😊
(BTW I moved to West Africa for a year and literally packed nothing until the day before my flight so I feel you on the procrastination 😂)
I hope you know how many people you are helping by telling your story and being so open!! 👏🏻 Thank you!
I completely respect your moms privacy...but we love her! It’d be pretty epic one day to have a meet my mom video!
Also, so happy for you that you’re settling into your new place!
Bea, I just want you to know that you are a stand out star in our little world and your struggle is relatable, and we are all grateful for you. (Thank God your weight brought you to UA-cam! ) Although you may not feel it, you function at an extraordinarily high level of competency (executive function!). You are wildly talented, organized, wise, inspired, inspiring, entertaining, hilarious. You could have your own talk show (duh! you do) , you could have your own sitcom, you could run for office (any office!), you can just stand still and do absolutely nothing and you are a star. You are as talented as the most talented people on our planet because you can connect and because you are organized enough to have ideas and follow through and create and because you are brave enough to be who you are! And now I’m late for work😂!
"It's official moving day!" Pans to a fully full room
Bea I'm a therapist and with BetterHelp counselors are required on chat to reply to EVERY SINGLE THING you say. That's why she's saying "thank you for sharing that."