When overprotective moms and dads need to back off. Dr. Robyn Silverman offers advice. Then, CNET's Kara Tsuboi on how staying organized can keep your inner-helicopter grounded.
I’m 23 and snapping now and my parents think that they have just spoiled me too much which they didn’t cause even now I’m not allowed to leave the house without permission and a million questions. They say i have an attitude. No I’m just no longer putting up with their crap
I snap ALOT on them because they judge me alot.and just their presence irritates me cause i know they are going to say something that will make me feel bad.
Andrew Bailey yes my Russian grandmother drives me mad. She is not a helicopter parent she will bring the entire FSB on my fucking case It drives me mad When I was studying in Canada they tried to mollycoddling me in Canada during the cold Canadian winter (Like I don't know) when I did my masters in Northern Ireland I got a lecture on the conflic there(which I know better then she does) LET ME LIVE MY FUCKING LIFE
My parents are helicopter parents and I really can't take it anymore, sometimes I wish I wasnt even alive, my mom says that she gives me everything but the truth is somethings I don't want to do. I can't even try a new sport or even hang out with my friends, I'm glued to my phone because I don't have anyone to hang out with, my mom says I don't need friends over when she locks herself in the room all day, it gives me depression and I don't want to have that. I just want a normal life like other kids to. I have mental break downs about everyday and I don't have joy in me, the only place I can be happy is when I am away from my parents, they don't even let me hang out with boys that are only friends and they blame stuff on me. I just wish for a normal life. Well I'm going to stop now, bye.....
Please, stay alive. I know it must be hard for you, but life must go on. I believe you will be okay, i know someday you will get better, stand up into your own, and get a freedom to do whatever makes you happy God Bless You :)
Ohhh god i can relate alot.i dont want to live sometimes . I cant with the damage my mom did to me (my dad also talk down on my and calls me stupid and carless and criticize me ALOT ) my mom prevents me from doing things im 23 and i cant do alot of things because of her. She rooted the fears and that avoiding behaviour in me.im depressed and anxious. U cant live this way its constant suffering every single day.
Parents need to teach their kids to survive meaning stay off their backs when needed one time I got into a confrontation for a kid who wouldn't stop harnessing me and got into a small fight and threw a few punches i went home and told my parents they didn't complain or anything I was punished but my dad said I'm proud of you sticking up for yourself it's unfortunate but we need to stand up for ourselves to survive and helicopter parents fail to see that when ever I was in discomfort my parents didn't make calls or complain they said so how are you going to deal with it and in my opinion I'm glad they raised me to be a lover and a fighter and that is true parenting
As a young mum, I was so scared of being judged and called a bad mum that I inadvertently became a helicopter mum. All these comments saying they are all bad parents need to realize that these mums may not realize what they are doing, I didnt until someone pointed it out to me. I'm lucky that my daughter is only 2 and it was easy to fix my mistakes
I know a kid that needs this in the worst way, he's 20 something and he lives at home, doesn't drive, doesn't even know how to write a check and Mom gets on his facebook page, and every bit of social media because she's afraid of someone saying something to him.
my teachers in high scholol tried to invade my personal professional and educatinal life so did my over the top controlling Russian grandmother who is a domestic Stalin Fortunately I did university and masters in Canada and the UK and here i am in hte Netherlands going to bring my Malawian girl here Ndiakukonda
I told my mom I wanted to go to the park one time. Apparently she didn't believe me because my dad pulled up a few minutes later to see if I was there or not.
I'm our son's 'spare-mom'. When he first got his DL, I went to pick him up at his grandparents. I tossed him the keys to my truck & asked, "do you think you can get us home?". He got this huge grin & said "no problem!" His grandfather said, "are you going to trust him to drive on the highway?!". No time like the present, right? I pretended to nap on our 1 hour ride home, he did just fine & he's always remembered that I trusted him. Sometimes, the best way to keep a child close to you is to let them go. If you do, they'll always know the way home & they will.
Thank you for reminding us to teach our children to think and not to over protecting. Good reminder of having good faith in our children after teaching them early before 7 years of age. Aloha.
Makes me feel like I wanna die or go crazy. Literally I have anxiety every day and feel numb to whatever they do whether it’s scolding me or loving me. I’m pretty disconnected with my social life and my childhood. Things I love and are interested are seen as a waste of time. So I’m a waste of time. Thanks for ingesting my salt. I have way more
Protect or over sheltering? Look I understand the desire of wanting to see your child succeed, but sometimes they have to learn the hard way early to make better choices.
I definitely understand the sneaking around part because I’m too scared to tell my parents I’ve had 2 relationships and had sex and am vegan but am too scared to tell my overprotective, Midwest, hard-core Christian parents any of this
My parents really never do much for me. My mom wants to make sure I can do things on my own. However, she never left me in the dust. She always came in behind to double check to make sure I didn't screw up important things and still gives advice in situations (although lets me make the ultimate decision....which sometimes I really want her to tell me what I should do)
my parents are making me insane. they don't want me to date, mom spies on my phone, and my mom keeps on checking in my job through my cousin who is the branch manager of the company I applied for. Yes, she even choose my clothes too , shoes and job .
@AnimeLoverJuan Statistically speaking though, delinquent behaviour in teens often phases out once they reach adulthood. Teens drinking, getting into a little bit of trouble, etc, is obviously not something to be encouraged, but the fact that teens do this sort of thing does not give an excuse to be a helicopter parent IMO. In fact, I think one of the reasons it generally phases out in adulthood is because they know they won't get bailed out by anyone, including their folks, if they screw up.
I have a friend with this kind of mom and i feel so bad for him becuase he doesn't realize it. And i feel like I should say something to him about it but i dont want to hurt his mom's feelings.
(Me) Finally! 26 years of overprotection. (Ring Ring!) (Me) Hello? (Mom) Unacceptable!How can you move without telling me where you move!Give me coordinates and pack up and extra room. (Me) Where did I put the gun?I think it is in one of this suitcase.Here it is! 🔫 (Me) Heaven here I come! (Mom)Thank goodness I found this Ouija board! (Me)Shit!
My mom is definitely a helicopter parent! I'm 'really' close with her, but recently I'm seeing that there are downsides to that! I'm 21 years old, and if she sees a guy even looking at me she'll either give him a 'back off' stare, or stay near me so he won't approach! AAAAHHHHH
oh man my mom just came from my school(paren tacher conference) oh man im really scared she ame in mad i saw her from upstairs...manjust now i had the bravery to face her but wen i saw her i bitched out....ooo this is gonna be akward wen i go down in the living room...........................some1 help but by the time u reply it prperly passed and im dead meat.......
Think about it like this. Once you die, what will happen? Your supposed to be guiding your kid though their life. Letting your kid grow into a person. Not uh, not allowed to date or go out at a opposite sex, curfew at 9:30 pm........ Choosing your kids college major, giving your 20 year old a bedtime....
As a concerned parent, I WILL NOT stand by and see my child disadvantaged under ANY circumstance. Our baby daughter is 36, lives at home and has never been happier.
If you ask me kids should only watch Elmo until the kid is like 5 or 6, Barney at 4 or 5 also and so on. But some shows you will have to admit aren't very good for young kids. And there are some shows that are on air just really for shock value and really shouldn't be watched. Kids need protection, but they need to be kids period.
Overpowering Parents need to realize that one day these “little” kids are going to grow the heck up and snap!!
Carly McKinney im 18 and i did
I’m 23 and snapping now and my parents think that they have just spoiled me too much which they didn’t cause even now I’m not allowed to leave the house without permission and a million questions. They say i have an attitude. No I’m just no longer putting up with their crap
I snap ALOT on them because they judge me alot.and just their presence irritates me cause i know they are going to say something that will make me feel bad.
it sucks when you have overprotective parents... it truly does
Andrew Bailey yes my Russian grandmother drives me mad. She is not a helicopter parent she will bring the entire FSB on my fucking case It drives me mad When I was studying in Canada they tried to mollycoddling me in Canada during the cold Canadian winter (Like I don't know) when I did my masters in Northern Ireland I got a lecture on the conflic there(which I know better then she does) LET ME LIVE MY FUCKING LIFE
Roman Soiko Northern Ireland's conflict is over. One of the most safest places in the world, actually. I live there. Ask me anything 😉
Andrew Bailey I feel ur pain
Andrew Bailey suffering terrible since few weeks! My father is sick
Andrew Bailey i feel you too
My parents are helicopter parents and I really can't take it anymore, sometimes I wish I wasnt even alive, my mom says that she gives me everything but the truth is somethings I don't want to do. I can't even try a new sport or even hang out with my friends, I'm glued to my phone because I don't have anyone to hang out with, my mom says I don't need friends over when she locks herself in the room all day, it gives me depression and I don't want to have that. I just want a normal life like other kids to. I have mental break downs about everyday and I don't have joy in me, the only place I can be happy is when I am away from my parents, they don't even let me hang out with boys that are only friends and they blame stuff on me. I just wish for a normal life. Well I'm going to stop now, bye.....
My Life same
You should fake smile :'(
Please, stay alive. I know it must be hard for you, but life must go on. I believe you will be okay, i know someday you will get better, stand up into your own, and get a freedom to do whatever makes you happy
God Bless You :)
Ohhh god i can relate alot.i dont want to live sometimes . I cant with the damage my mom did to me (my dad also talk down on my and calls me stupid and carless and criticize me ALOT ) my mom prevents me from doing things im 23 and i cant do alot of things because of her. She rooted the fears and that avoiding behaviour in me.im depressed and anxious. U cant live this way its constant suffering every single day.
Parents need to teach their kids to survive meaning stay off their backs when needed one time I got into a confrontation for a kid who wouldn't stop harnessing me and got into a small fight and threw a few punches i went home and told my parents they didn't complain or anything I was punished but my dad said I'm proud of you sticking up for yourself it's unfortunate but we need to stand up for ourselves to survive and helicopter parents fail to see that when ever I was in discomfort my parents didn't make calls or complain they said so how are you going to deal with it and in my opinion I'm glad they raised me to be a lover and a fighter and that is true parenting
As a young mum, I was so scared of being judged and called a bad mum that I inadvertently became a helicopter mum. All these comments saying they are all bad parents need to realize that these mums may not realize what they are doing, I didnt until someone pointed it out to me. I'm lucky that my daughter is only 2 and it was easy to fix my mistakes
Eriii Bambi good job :))
i'm glad you realize it
most helicopter parents doesn't realize this after they already drive their kids away
I know a kid that needs this in the worst way, he's 20 something and he lives at home, doesn't drive, doesn't even know how to write a check and Mom gets on his facebook page, and every bit of social media because she's afraid of someone saying something to him.
+Bayan1905 a 20 year old is NOT a kid
eh, some 20 year olds sure do act like one
Bayan1905 yo wtf
Thank god I moved to a different country away from my parents
my teachers in high scholol tried to invade my personal professional and educatinal life so did my over the top controlling Russian grandmother who is a domestic Stalin Fortunately I did university and masters in Canada and the UK and here i am in hte Netherlands going to bring my Malawian girl here Ndiakukonda
I wish i can do the same thing :")
I told my mom I wanted to go to the park one time. Apparently she didn't believe me because my dad pulled up a few minutes later to see if I was there or not.
My parents do that shit all the time and it pisses me off!
at least ur allowed to go to the park... u have no idea how lucky u are :)
desperate housewives fanpage Exactly right.
Helicopter parents are selfish and shouldn’t have kids in the first place if they are going to make their children suffer in that way
The may love their kids, but you can love them more by letting them take care of themselves
I'm our son's 'spare-mom'. When he first got his DL, I went to pick him up at his grandparents. I tossed him the keys to my truck & asked, "do you think you can get us home?". He got this huge grin & said "no problem!" His grandfather said, "are you going to trust him to drive on the highway?!". No time like the present, right? I pretended to nap on our 1 hour ride home, he did just fine & he's always remembered that I trusted him. Sometimes, the best way to keep a child close to you is to let them go. If you do, they'll always know the way home & they will.
Juli E. Exactly my parents let me be me if I need help I ask
Thank you for reminding us to teach our children to think and not to over protecting. Good reminder of having good faith in our children after teaching them early before 7 years of age. Aloha.
Makes me feel like I wanna die or go crazy. Literally I have anxiety every day and feel numb to whatever they do whether it’s scolding me or loving me. I’m pretty disconnected with my social life and my childhood. Things I love and are interested are seen as a waste of time. So I’m a waste of time. Thanks for ingesting my salt. I have way more
Woww...i can relate alot
My mother is one of those "over protective " I am 22 and she doesn't allow me to drive the car alone.
Protect or over sheltering? Look I understand the desire of wanting to see your child succeed, but sometimes they have to learn the hard way early to make better choices.
Having parents like this makes your peers feel that you are being dependent while not even trying to be. They hold you @ a lower standard for it
Very true
I definitely understand the sneaking around part because I’m too scared to tell my parents I’ve had 2 relationships and had sex and am vegan but am too scared to tell my overprotective, Midwest, hard-core Christian parents any of this
My parents really never do much for me. My mom wants to make sure I can do things on my own. However, she never left me in the dust. She always came in behind to double check to make sure I didn't screw up important things and still gives advice in situations (although lets me make the ultimate decision....which sometimes I really want her to tell me what I should do)
Exactly parents should let kids be kids
my parents are making me insane. they don't want me to date, mom spies on my phone, and my mom keeps on checking in my job through my cousin who is the branch manager of the company I applied for. Yes, she even choose my clothes too , shoes and job .
Diane Yen If your mum spies on your phone use passcodes
I am 30 and my parents do this crap all the time.
I felt bad 4 u. Thats why im gratefull to be an orphan.even my friend thinks me than im a disobidient child.
Whatever happened to finding a middle ground in life? Don’t neglect your kids, but don’t over power them either.
My grandmother is always following me wherever I go. I hate her now. She is a pain in the butt. I wish she would stop going wherever I go.
She checks on me so much that I feel like killing my self sometimes.....
Those are some strong words
My grandma’s just like yours, but you shouldn’t hate her. She just loves you.
@AnimeLoverJuan
Statistically speaking though, delinquent behaviour in teens often phases out once they reach adulthood. Teens drinking, getting into a little bit of trouble, etc, is obviously not something to be encouraged, but the fact that teens do this sort of thing does not give an excuse to be a helicopter parent IMO. In fact, I think one of the reasons it generally phases out in adulthood is because they know they won't get bailed out by anyone, including their folks, if they screw up.
Helicopter parents make highly dependent children. Raise babies while remembering you’re making HUMANS
So thankful for my *normal* parents
I have a friend with this kind of mom and i feel so bad for him becuase he doesn't realize it. And i feel like I should say something to him about it but i dont want to hurt his mom's feelings.
If you disliked this video you probably are a helicopter parent...learn something.
(Me) Finally! 26 years of overprotection.
(Ring Ring!)
(Me) Hello?
(Mom) Unacceptable!How can you move without telling me where you move!Give me coordinates and pack up and extra room.
(Me) Where did I put the gun?I think it is in one of this suitcase.Here it is!
🔫
(Me) Heaven here I come!
(Mom)Thank goodness I found this Ouija board!
(Me)Shit!
Just burn it
LMFAO. No place is safe
Usually I don't like Msm News, but this is exactly. What i like to hear being talked about in the News, I still deal with "Helicopter" Parents.
It sucks, I can't go anywhere without texting my parents where I am and when im coming home
My mom doesn't allow me to go alone with my friends -_-
My mom is definitely a helicopter parent! I'm 'really' close with her, but recently I'm seeing that there are downsides to that! I'm 21 years old, and if she sees a guy even looking at me she'll either give him a 'back off' stare, or stay near me so he won't approach! AAAAHHHHH
+Kathryn94 That's sucks, man. Thankfully, I don't have to deal with overprotective people at my time... SMH
Kathryn94 this comment was 3 years ago so I’m gonna respond with a turtle 🐢
I guess my generation grew up with parents, who's primary concern, was snorting some premium chop off a solid surface.
Back then my parents used to scold me for bad grades.. now parents scold the teachers...
their literally stopping kids from being happy.
And when u grow up and tell ppl about it they talk down on u for blaming your parents. U cant win
oh man my mom just came from my school(paren tacher conference) oh man im really scared she ame in mad i saw her from upstairs...manjust now i had the bravery to face her but wen i saw her i bitched out....ooo this is gonna be akward wen i go down in the living room...........................some1 help but by the time u reply it prperly passed and im dead meat.......
is a helicopter parent some one who does not let there kids have friends? but keeps them stuck inside.
Half a million subs and only 360p?!?! Shame on you CBS, shame!
Cory Scherer 2010
Hi guys plz help #parentalabuse Dono what to do
Help me parents are spying on my cellphone don't know what to do they want me to date!
simplyone200 use passcodes on your phone
simplyone200 get a trap phone and hide it
This shit totally sucks that's why i cant wait till next year so that i can finally be free
Think about it like this.
Once you die, what will happen? Your supposed to be guiding your kid though their life. Letting your kid grow into a person. Not uh, not allowed to date or go out at a opposite sex, curfew at 9:30 pm........ Choosing your kids college major, giving your 20 year old a bedtime....
As a concerned parent, I WILL NOT stand by and see my child disadvantaged under ANY circumstance.
Our baby daughter is 36, lives at home and has never been happier.
Mark Fairhurst that's NOT healthy
Lol troll
Some people can't take a joke
Mark Fairhurst Hahahha I knew he was joking lmao
I’m 17 and am not aloud to go anywhere without my mom unsupervised. I’m also not aloud to go out to my front yard
This is an epidemia is most Hispanic homes
AWFUL ! specially when a mother tries to make her son or girl guilty , I can’t fucking stand it
If you ask me kids should only watch Elmo until the kid is like 5 or 6, Barney at 4 or 5 also and so on. But some shows you will have to admit aren't very good for young kids. And there are some shows that are on air just really for shock value and really shouldn't be watched.
Kids need protection, but they need to be kids period.
it's women
That explains why socialism is favorable among millenials.