Vlog | Responding To Negativity Online
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Hope you all enjoy the vlog! Apologies for how rambling the nipples section was, watching it back I wish I had spoken more concisely but it was a reflection of feeling flustered at the time. The point I want to make is how much I understand that aesthetically not wearing a bra isn't for everyone - I fully appreciate why. I want to be able to share with you all what I love to wear at any given moment, and what I genuinely wear day to day and this is the look I like, and I am frustrated that it seems harder to do that on here than in real life. As always I love reading your opinions and value them so, so much - and I hope we can make this a productive discussion . Thank you all so much for watching, as always. xxx
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Yasssss Lizzy! I am so envious of those who go braless all of the time, I wish I had the confidence though I'm sure some day I will. Wearing a bra is rubbish tbh and those who have an issue seeing a nipple (which the majority of us biologically have) need to ask why they have such a problem with it. It's just a nipple?? If they're making it an overly sexual thing, then, as you say, that's their issue, not yours :) Lovely video as always! xx
Same here, jealous about girls not wearing bra I'm gonna do it too Ha! and I honestly think guys in absurdly tight jeans are worse that showing a nipple ;)
Thank you so much! xxx
Totally agree with that! And besides, everyone has got some nipples!!
It's completely up to the person, regardless of 'ruining' your boobs (what does that even mean anyway?) as it's their preference and their own body. I've also read research that says opposite, that going braless is completely fine and actually helps to strengthen the chest muscles. Some even say it makes their boobs perkier :) Either way, I honestly don't think it's down to anyone else apart from Lizzy to decide what she does with her own boobs tbh and no amount of scaremongering is going to change that
Not everyone is going to agree with the choices you make and that's okay. I personally am not a fan of the no bra look, and that's okay too.
It's your decision whether you want to do it or not because it's your style, your channel and your life.
I'd say to ignore the comments completely but that can be hard to do... Do you. ♥
Loving the fact that the VLOGS are back!! I couldn’t agree more regarding your frustrations on going/being braless!! Why is it is an issue, it really shouldn’t be. I’ve been going braless more and more, and feeling confident and comfortable doing so. Which you have influenced, so thank you!! Keep creating what you love and you feel inspired by at that point in time!! X
I very rarely comment on videos, Lizzie but I am an avid watcher and I love your style. I don’t wear bras very often and I also love the aesthetic. I recently started working full time and find that people do stare in certain outfits so I’ve had to buy some cotton bralettes but it’s so unfair. I see men’s nipples all the damn time and nobody cares but as soon as it’s a woman’s it becomes ‘indecent’ in the workplace. I hate how women’s breasts are overly sexualised and the people complaining about you not wearing a bra should be ashamed of themselves for making you feel conscious. Keep doing what you’re doing as you always look flawless. Thank you for the endless inspiration! 😘
Always so pleased when you post something new. You are currently what draws me to YT at all. I’m not too excited about other channels at the moment, not since I found yours. You raised the bar and now I only want the type of quality content you create. A very nice problem to have I must say!
If I were you I would just stop addressing the whole bra/ braless issue and wear whatever the hell you want. If someone comments that it’s hard to look you in the eye, that’s because their own misogyny or narrow-mindedness is blinding them.
I have been thinking about this video and the topics raised all night and cannot sleep because it is going round and round in my brain. I think the comments that sexualised you and your body parts were verging on sexual assault. If they said that to your face it certainly would be considered as that and I think it would make you feel intimidated and uncomfortable. I am very glad you’re talking about this, Lizzie, because these people have to be called out and it’s a very important conversation. I hope you hold your ground and do not continue to feel uncomfortable because that is not right. Keep doing what you’re doing :) Amy xxx
Love you Lizzie ! and you are so right, I wish you wouldn't worry, so many of us are on your side, agree or disagree with your choice without feeling the need to express it in a negative manner. I have really been enjoying not wearing a bra too, first because I don't really feel like I need it, and because I like the effortlessly casual look. I am more and more confident everyday, I don't even notice it. I don't understand why people feel they have a say on what you wear or not. Especially in 2018, aren't we now accepting everyone for who they are or want to be ? And people are getting upset over a piece of fabric ? Please don't feel you have to change anything, love you just the way you are ;-)
I'm with you 100%, Lizzy. I practically never wear bras anymore. Not just for "aesthetic" reasons, but also for comfort and health. Another commentator suggested it might have something to do w/ your camera angles. + I think I know exactly what video he/she is referring to. It can be a little distracting at times, but never offensive. It would feel like a kind of "loss" to see you change your style so as not to "alienate" the portion of your viewers who don't support you for you. #FreeTheNipple
Embrace the no bra and dont waste a second worrying about other people’s opinions. It’s your life girl.
You’re adored Lizzy, keep doing your thaaang xo
My thoughts on nipple-gate ... I think it would be less of an issue if this is something that you had done regularly from the start and not something that seems to have come about now that you are single and perhaps too if it is something that you do often when not wearing tops that aren't a bit see thru. To me it doesn't necessarily come off as authentic and more like chasing a trend, which is 100% okay, but not everyone reacts positively to change ... maybe if you spoke more about the why and moaned less about the reactions it would permanently change the tone/dialogue. I also have a bit of a problem with the whole trend because it really only favors those with young, perky breasts so while it is a bit feminist it really is also in line with typical societal conditioning bs ... perhaps that is where the alienation comes from? One last thought, you say it isn't about sexualization of the nipple, but I think the sexualization come naturally from the projected confidence and the scarcity of bra-less women, we are as humans designed to notice what is off/different ... whether intended or not.
I think the young, perky breasts are getting a lot of the attention, but that doesn't mean that only those people are going braless. It's more comfortable to go braless, whether you fit the "ideal" or not... and the look is fashionable, even for women with larger breasts, I believe. I really think getting over the nipple taboo will improve the lives of all women... and hopefully make it less frustrating for women even with less perky breasts.
I"m glad you addressed this. Looking at the comments, it looks like some people still don't get it - just because it's your ~opinion doesn't mean that it contributes to the conversation. And there's a difference between sharing an opinion and making comments that just aren't constructive and can make someone feel bad. It's so disheartening that the shame some people feel about their own bodies is starting to affect you, too. It's not about just disagreeing. It's about spreading that insecurity onto other people in a way that can be pretty thoughtless.
I'm sorry you're having to go through all this reading the comments, but I'm glad that the conversation about what is (or should be) acceptable about a person's body is happening. I think a lot of us who watch you, including your younger viewers, really value your content and the personality you put into your work. This is just one small part of that. I personally totally get it when you say you like the look. It's a little slouchy, a little more casual, a little louche that you can't really get any other way. And at the end of the day they're just tits, ffs.
saying you can't look woman in the eyes because she's bra less is incredibly demeaning and rather perverse; and if you make comments like that or think they're okay you can square up. So sorry you had to deal with something like that Lizzy
I absolutely love that you don't wear a bra. I hate wearing bras and go braless all the time but I'd always felt a little "unfashionable" when I did because it was so hard to find fashion content online that promoted or highlighted going braless. Far from alienating me, you've made me feel so damn accepted and included!!!
So I have thought a fair amount about this video and your response. I truly view your work as art and the purpose of art is to visually display a point of view, a perspective. Your choice to show your nipple or go braless or however we want to phrase that is an artistic choice. The gray comes in because you are your art and so I think others feel that they can criticize because you are Lizzy the fashion blogger, just a person living and documenting her life through a fashion lense. I don't. I think you are creating a visual perspective and I think you need to keep doing that. I love you blog and videos! Lots of love from LA!
If I wear a bra without padding and there's a gust of chilly wind or if I wear a bathing suit to the beach and the water is cold, my nipples will show. It is not sexual. I shouldn't have to police my body to that extend, that even when covering up my body, it would still be considered shameful when things happen that are out of my control. I can't control the wind or the water or if my nipples get hard for whatever reason. I have never been very sexual in my way of dressing or being, but I have always preferred the look and feel of bras without padding - but it has never been about bringing focus to my nipples, like some weird conspiracy to entice poor innocent men or whatever. It is frustrating if people feel like that.
Video inspired me to come up with a simple makeup routine for summer :) p.s. When people post non-constructive feedback its their problem not yours. Love that you present authentic content and stay true to yourself.
I love your style! Everyone has their style and whats yours is yours! Dont worry about the negativity
Boobs aside (yes to no bras), are those Celine’s heavy? They seem to be sliding down your nose a couple of times and I’m wondering is it because of the weight or just that their shape doesn’t fit? Are they comfortable to wear?
I know this is an old vid.. but I wonder if it comes down to jealousy/envy? I personally am much bustier and cannot style a tank like you, but wish I could. It does mean that when you do a braless look, I'm automatically excluded and can't recreate it, but that could be said of someone who doesn't suit straight jeans, or longline blazers. Just wondered if that might help rationalise/explain the frustrating comments? I'm more jealous of those Wimbledon seats though, looks amazing!!
There was a point in time when showing your ankles was considered inappropriate. That was also the time when women had no rights, but were constricted to follow rules and restrictions of society. We are supposed to represent a new, modern culture with its liberal and open-minded point of view. But underneath the image, are we all just conformists?
i really love how you articulate yourself 💜
You’re not rambling at all! Not a ramble. In fact it was such an articulate way to address the bra no bra thing (why is it a thing?) Thanks for addressing important issues in your vlogs, because the bra debacle is part of a bigger issue around expectations of women and control over their image/sexuality/body. Sexualising bodies that are just bodies. Fear and shame of the body, especially the female body. If people have a problem with it stuff them, their problem not yours, exactly as you said. Love your vlogs Lizzy, you seem like such a top person. Hope you’re doing well and it’s nice to see the vlogs trickling back in! Xx
hey Lizzy I enjoyed this vlog, cause I enjoy your personality and your vibes! I'm soo curious about the 'doing not so serious work in front of tele' bit, since I always want to know more about the behind the scenes and I'm sure a lot of ppl would like to know too. So, f.e. What do you categorize as "light work"? How long does it take you do finish that, OR could you just show as an sample example like "this would be my reply to this work cooperation request" (or similar), I'm curious about the wording here, the tactics maybe etc. XO X (also would be happy if you'd reply more often to comments
Hi, i just want to say love your channel and that you should continue rocking no bras while you can! It is all personal preference and please continue to be yourself. Life is about inventing and being true to yourself! Love you!
Great music selection and I was just about to ask about that linen dress. Great video.
Hi Lizzie, please can you link the shoes? They look amazing and so comfy 😍
I love that you don't wear a bra - I don't a lot of the time either (she types whilst at work, white tee - NO BRA)! As you said, it says more about the trolls than it does about you, someone else's sexualisation of your body is an inappropriate double standard and a projection of their perversions and discomfort onto you. As Patricia would say - nipples to the wind baby! Love your content Lizzy, sending love from NZ xxx
You look fabulous. Wear whatever you want. To those that keep saying “how come no one has a problem with a mans nipple” and sincerely feel like there’s no difference-Sorry, you’re missing out on a beautiful part of a woman’s own sexuality and that a female breast is sensual. Seeing it/ noticing it reminds people of that, they’re not pervs for goodness sake. Some might be nervous by it, some might appreciate it, and some might not give a second look. Who cares. Saying that going braless is “brave”,,,,That’s perplexing. Those saying it’s “brave” have also established it’s ridiculous for others to suggest there’s a difference between a man’s and woman’s. So if it is a nonexistent issue, why is one brave? As a woman, I’ll wear what I want. I base it on the environment, the people involved, the occasion, if it is while I am “on the job” or on my own time. Everyone’s choice is her own and everyone else will have their opinions. And that’s ok. That’s part of what makes life interesting. Social media, where we have communities of for the most part strangers, there is safety in anonymity, and some forget to play nice. No matter differing opinions, we can have them without verbally slapping those that differ from ones own. That’s the part of nipple-gate that’s driving me crazy.
Your amazing! Don't listen to the negativity xx
I wish I had the confidence to not wear a bra!! I’m bigger chested and just feel like my outfits look better with a bra but love that women are getting out there and have the confidence to go braless!! You go Lizzie!
Regarding nipples. Are viewers being mean or sharing their honest opinion? If the comments were all compliments specifically about nipples would that be acceptable?
I myself like to read comments and hear the honest commentors view.
Nipples, camel toes or obvious imprints in private area men or women most always grab attention. Good, bad or indifferent people notice it.
I don't ever want to discourage people sharing their honest opinion, and you are right that if it was constant compliments it would also be an issue because of how much it is a point of discussion. I am trying to engage with this discussion and just voicing my own opinion of how it is making me feel too. Hope that makes sense, I always want my comments section to reflect the good and bad of what people think. x
The key I take away from your response is the true fans really don't want to leave comments that hurt you or make you feel uncomfortable.
I appreciate you, your content, your freedom, and your honesty.
Lizzy Hadfield that’s exactly what’s happening though. People are commenting on it the way they comment on other looks. Likes, dislikes, and why... isn’t that the normal engagement? I get why it’s annoying or frustrating that comments revolve around your breast, but it’s kind of like if you wore a certain type of trouser and people said it made your legs look long. The look intentionally draws the eye, and I feel like the remarks are mostly fair.
Greene Leeves I totally agree with everything you stated. The honest critiques I have received have been the most helpful in my life. It isn't what we want to hear but it really gives us insight.
Personally i skip the bra at any chance I get, nevertheless I only do it when its the least noticeable. In the last video it caught my attention because the top was tight fitting and a bit see through, therefore not wearing a bra made it seem somehow cheaper and that’s my main criticism on that matter. Lizzie is a girl with a great eye for fashion and a big inspiration for me actually, but I think I have to disagree with her choice in the last video because it almost seemed to go against her own quality ideals regarding clothing due to the sheerness of the top and the choice of not wearing a bra that made it something much more noticeable. In a black top for example I doubt it would have such an amount of criticism
I love your style and that's it's different from everyone else on UA-cam. Keep doing it
Lizzy you said your self it's their problem not yours !! But glad you shared the issue of ignorance surrounding the taboo ( dare I say )
BREASTS & NIPPLES & more BREAST !!!
Clearly it's not just breast feeding that offends others then !
IGNORE -ance I say x
It is not just about the nipple in general. The thing is, that you focus too much on it with the angle of your camera. When you show an outfit or just talk to the viewers, there is too much attention on it.
- are you sure it's not that you're the one focusing your attention on it. I have never seen a full-frame view of her chest, ever. You can look elsewhere if you don't like it.
Love your content and your style, do you!!
They're just jealous of how amazing you look. Please try to ignore them. Hard I know. But honestly you're amazing, they're weird and you are entitled to do whatever you want.
Nipplegate - I wonder if you are getting more comments on UA-cam vs real life because in real life people see all of you - top to bottom - and then pass you by. In your haul video and others I noticed that, at times, the whole screen is filled with the chest area. Perfectly understandable if you are showing us a necklace or something. But the visual focus on our screens here is more focused on one body part or area. And for several seconds at a time. Which doesn't happen on the street. Does that make any sense? 🤔
"Everyone has nipples" - ha, well worth the price of admission! The people you're alienating Are Not Your People! They'll leave and will not be missed as they don't truly appreciate you as the rest of us do. You're a beautiful young woman who is comfortable with her body - that's to be commended, not criticized. Carry on, Lizzie!
Plz keep blogging! love em x
Actually, you have given me the confidence to just go braless whenever I feel like it (even with bigger boobs). Thank you for that :) It is not for everyone and doesn't have to be. The only comments I get are usually from older men staring or asking me 'if I'm cold', but slipping a middle finger in front of the nipple usually does the job haha.
It frustrates me that men think they have the the right to tell women how to dress it frustrates me much more when women can’t live and let live!
They just need to get over themselves. You need to just keep doing what you are doing.
I do not wear a real bra anymore because they hurt and are ill fitted no matter how many times I have gotten my size checked by professionals. Now I mostly use barrettes and if I have to I use wireless bras. All this and I do not even have big breasts (B-cup). I think people who have to ruin every little thing for others are called wankers (from what I have picked up from watching British panel shows). Ignoring them is difficult but I hope they'll go away to their miserable unless life and leave you alone. If they do not like your current look they should avoid going to the beach were there are quite a lot of men going topples aka nipples galore.
I loose those socks all the time!
Lizzy what dress are you wearing at the end of the vlog? I’m 😍 xx
Do what makes you feel beautiful ❤️ Do never wear a bra because of others opinion. It is so much prettier!
I think you look great and honestly not overly sexy at all. Perhaps people from other cultures are offended and commenting?
Bra or no bra, who cares?!
Why do people constantly feel the need to criticize women for the way they dress themselves? Anyone can choose what content they want to watch, so there really is no reason to body shame, ever! I find it so frustrating that we always talk about needing to support and empower other women, yet some women can't seem to stop putting others down based on their appearance.
I watch your content because we share a love of fashion and style. This is a place to come and be inspired and relax, so if anyone feels the need to mean, just leave!
x
You are amazing!
If people view you not wearing a bra as overtly sexual, that is their problem, not yours. There is nothing inherently offensive about a woman's breasts, and it really irks me that men are able to walk around fully topless in the street without comment, yet women still face criticism for going braless, just because they generally have more tissue on their chest. It's your body and I hope you continue to dress in a way that you like and makes you feel comfortable! x
Don’t listen to any of the negativity you get, you’re amazing and inspire me everyday ⭐️
I loveeeee your nipples 😂 not in a Pervy way but just to encourage you to keep staying true to your style which inspires me a lot! I had one nipple pierced and now they really different sizes and makes me self conscious to let them show but I freaking wish I could just not care and go brawless at least 90% of the time 😊 you do you girl!! 🍉🍉
This subject is so incredibly dull...but I guess this is a sign of our times and the insignificant things that "infuriate" people. I personally love your content. Please don't ever conform to the demands of the loud mouthed amateurs on the internet. I really wish you would take a stand for yourself and tell those who aren't comfortable to simply go elsewhere where their eyes can finally be safe from the assault of your nipples.
Fu... off all those comments! You empowered me to actually go for it I always liked it but never had the courage of wear it and now after seeing you I thought you know what I’m going to do it! And then it’s true never noticed anyone looking at me! And sure I do agree is an important message for young girls that it’s ok to love and feel comfortable with yourself! My boyfriend says you look so good because you look super confident, and is all down to you!
Free the nipple!!!✊
Can u not just ignore the negative comments about the bra? Like your comfortable so as you said who gives a fuck? It is sad when your content is overlooked because of it but hopefully if u just ignore it and keep doing you ppl with the issue will leave - maybe just reply by saying talkrd about it in my vlog here, so you dont necessarily have to respond again?
I just found it unnecessarily distracting. I was being honest. I lived through the 60s and I have no problem if you don't want to wear a bra, I personally don't find it aesthetically pleasing to the eye. Just giving my opinion in the world of free speech. You are a very attractive girl just ignore me if you don't like my views. It wasn't personal.
@Sarah Gill If a man goes without an undershirt, people won't find it 'distracting'. However, when a woman goes without a bra, it is 'distracting'. The fact that you find it 'distracting' in the first place says something about how you prioritize your attention. You are consciously putting more attention to it than it deserves. The matter itself should not have any positive or negative connotation attached to it, to begin with.
Hi Sarah. Of course I always appreciate your opinion, and while I am not trying to discourage people from sharing them the point I wanted to make was that I wish people could look past it as it seems so much more of an issue for me online than in day to day. I don't want anything to distract from my content, but I do want to share things as I am wearing them in real life while understanding people aren't always going to like what I wear as much as some other things. Me addressing this is about engaging with people's views too, not ignoring them too. xx
Sarah Gill She said she was not gonna change it and that those comments make her really uncomfortable and yet you still felt it was necessary to point it out again? Do you actually know how rude that is? Yeah in the name of freedom of speech you can say a lot of bad shit and be disrespectful to people. Doesn't mean that the content of your "speech" is utter garbage and really uncalled for. One might assume people with your age and life experience would know better.
*wasn't utter garbage
Sarah Gill, free speech doesn’t include being impolite.
They're just jealous. I know it is really annoying having to see these sad people's comments.
I love the braless look, just do you babe!! 💖
Also, I can imagine it being pretty frustrating when you put a lot of time and effort in creating something for your audience that is not about nipples, only to find out that pretty much every comment is (continuously) about nipples -_-
It's a shame that you have to keep justifying You're LIFE. Take care love.
Welcome to the birth of your feminist rage. 😏 Misogyny is a bitch. You are beautiful! Adorn & express your beautiful body as you please! I’m sorry you’re having to bear the burden of this, but know that your content is so appreciated, even by late 30-something professional mum of two toddlers for whom it shouldn’t even be directly relevant, but still manages to be very inspiring. ❤️
You always seem out of breath for some reason.
I think people have issues with women’s nipples showing because they’re part of a sexual organ for human sexuality. Men’s nipples don’t have the same connotation of sexual organ. It would be as if we could see a man’s testicles. Yes, most men have them, but it’s not something that everyone would be comfortable seeing on camera. Obviously breasts have other biological functions (like feeding babies), but they are also part of sex. It’s an interesting discussion. You’re lovely and doing great either way 👍
I don't agree that breasts are a "sexual organ" or the same as seeing a mans testicles at all. Testicles can be compared to vaginas. Nipples can be compared to nipples. Breast are made to feed babies. Yes breast are what we call an erogenous zone. Meaning it is sensitive. So are also the mouth, neck, ears, abdomen, sacrum, arms, armpits, fingers, legs and feet. Yet nobody finds it weird to see an ear.
Hilde Elisa K Of course breasts are part of female sexual anatomy- that is why they develop during puberty and not before, and often coincide with the onset of menstruation. They’re a sign of sexual maturity and are a visual cue for sexual arousal in men. That’s just basic science. The primary function of a penis is to excrete body waste via urination, but when you see a penis I doubt that you’re thinking of urination. Body parts can be multi-functional. I don’t see anyone touting to “free the penis for urination” because most people associate the penis with (you guessed it)- sex.
I lean left politically and completely support Lizzie in anything that she wants to wear or do with her body. I didn’t write the comment on the last video nor like it. But I will also defend other people’s right not to want to see a woman’s exposed breasts for other than breastfeeding given their own cultural, social, or personal reasons. ❤️
rlavelleSLP I think you have worded your replies and supported them absolutely wonderfully. we live in a society where everyone has to be OK with everything otherwise we are small minded but the fact is sitting in a coffee shop with your nipples visibly poking through your shirt in front of many generations of people really isn't OK..small kids right through to elderly men and women. Do what you want at home but there is a reason the nipple white tank top is a regular feature on the front cover of FHM and that's because it is considered to be sexual. it's like going to a family resort and having that 1 woman that has to lay there topless. time n place !
Sure, growing breast are one sign of sexual maturnity. But the nipples are there from the day we are born. And both men and women have them. Or is it ok for people with small breast to show their nipples? Even women? Some overweight men have big breast, should they wear a bra too?
I think a better comparison would be our butts. (Not testicles) We all have them. They can be sexy on both men and women and both men and women do wear tight trousers. Why is that ok? Why are the female nipple such a big deal?
Hypothetical: Would you never give a second thought to having your daughter/ teens nipples visible in tops? I'm not saying there is a particular right answer to this question. But, at this point in time many cultures have an idea about a woman's anatomy.
I believe it is okay for any woman to express themselves however they see fit. However, I do think you have to deal with how expansive view points will be when you're not in your immediate friend group. People are writing what they probably think in public. At this point in time many cultures are going to view not wearing a bra on some level as taboo and inherently this action is a political statement. You are allowed to be upset about rude senseless comments. But I believe it is also admirable to not complain excessively about this privilege(to not wear a bra). To feel safe and comfortable while partially exposing your nipples ,when so many cannot. So many people are born without the language or education, good examples, body type, "good" face, correct accent, correct age, that allows them to be well liked or inoffensive to the majority. So what if everyone doesn't give you a high five for not wear a bra.
Simply put: only silly people think they have authority over other people’s bodies
Lizzy, I'm not used to commenting on your videos, even though I watch every single one of them, but I really felt like saying this. The fact that you decide to wear a bra or not should entirely be up to you and you shouldn't be questioning it because of some random sexist person commenting that "it's hard to look you in the eye".
If people are sexualizing your "no bra look" it is not because of your doing, it's a misogynisic mindset that has to be changed. So please don't apologize about being bra-less.
I started going bra-less before watching your videos but felt more and more comfortable doing it thanks to you. I 100% agree with the comment saying that your message is empowering and important for women and girls. Style clothes as you want to style them, and people who genuinely love your content will keep on watching your videos! Don't change a thing, lots of love from France! xx
I'm not a big fan of the braless look, but I would never write a comment about it, it's your body...I just don't understand why people on the internet feel like it's okay to say things that they would never say to a stranger in real life!
Jacky W. A lot of it has to do with the "pick-me" culture of women sadly. And the less women are raised to be confident in their own bodies the more they seek to shame those women who flaunt what they've got... I was like that to but I got past that in my teenage years when I learned to love myself.
Jacky W. I would mention it in real life to any of my friends. I consider Lizzy as a UA-cam "friend".
Sarah Gill That really is a one-sided "friendship" though. Your friends are able to categorize that sort of criticism. Lizzy doesn't know you and therefore I can understand how she has a hard time with comments from strangers criticizing/shaming her for not fully concealing parts of her body in a way that she actually always felt comfortable with.
Sarah Gill I’d hope if I said a friend’s comments made me really uncomfortable, once would be enough and that would be that.
Greene Leeves Her boobs were not exposed but covered. You're entitled to your opinion but "yuck" is so disrespectful and rude. In any context. I'd rather be inappropriately dressed in the eyes of some than being inappropriately offensive to people for no apparent reason.
You’re normalising going braless and I think that’s fab ❤️
I never wear bras.I don't even give it a second thought, you'd think people would just get over it by now
Please anyone reading this, stand with your fellow woman and do not put her down for being comfortable without a bra. Stop oversexualizing women's breasts. It's old, tiring and rude.
What I don't get is people's self importance and arrogance in feeling that their opinion needs to be heard. I am all for people HAVING opinions but use a bit of social intelligence and just choose when it is and isn't appropriate to share an opinion. At the end of the day, its a fashion blogger choosing not to wear a bra, its so mundane. If you don't like it thats fine but literally no-one cares what you think. Who are you and why do you think your opinion is important enough to share without being asked?
It doesn't bother me. But I'm not going to pretend that a woman's breasts aren't an important part of her sexuality. And we can't expect others to pretend they don't notice, because they're just humans. By the way, I noticed that it's becoming more common to see UA-camrs (men and women) exposing more of their bodies (usually more cleavage) to the camera. What do you think of this trend? Do you think sex sells?
Lu Rezart And it's wierd how the camera is always zooming in on them. 😒
it's 2018! Let women exist in peace on the internet! People need to accept that other people present themselves differently from them, and that is 100% okay. Do you Lizzy, please and thank you!
I've been going through such a rough time in my life and barely keep on going with everything. I sometimes can't even get out of bed. Watching this vlog, the sun and your content manner with your life made me put myself in your shoes and gave me hope for better days. Hopefully I will be able to sit on my couch, freshly-showered watching fun tv show while doing light work, after a day of having a lovely day with my best friend. Seriously this video gave me hope. Thank you.
This issue with the nips and going braless is always going to be an issue for some. I am twice your age and have been going braless at times of my choosing all my life. It has obvious that for some to see a braless woman is uncomfortable. I work in an office and generally wear a bra when I feel it is needed. When I choose to not wear one outside of work I am comfortable both physically and mentally. I have found it to be one of those things you just have to shrug off. Its not up for discussion with me. Accept that everyone has a right to their opinion and its only that. It may not be worth commenting on. The way you choose show yourself to the world is what makes you real. Others have a choice to look or not. I will choose to continue watching this channel because I find inspiration.
Some people post and speak without thinking. Plus, they don’t think deeply anyway and when they do, it’s from their own insecurities. Try to focus on the positive comments which are the majority. They need to teach manners in school again. Within that, teach that it applies to social media as well.
Seeing your content where you've gone braless has really destigmatized the concept for me, I never would have dreamed of wearing an unpadded bikini top before but now I just don't care and have been doing so all summer so far. Please continue, I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels encouraged to feel more at ease with their body thanks to your content x
Personally I have really small boobs so I don't need to wear a bra...it's painful when I wear one because of my bones just under my boobs and since they are so small they never fit the bra 😂 Anyway. My point is, when you have the same size as mine, a bra is only to look prettier. That's all. It's not comfortable and it does nothing for your body. It's only according to what you wear (even though you can always put nipple cover instead of a bra). Do you see what I mean?
I never wear a bra at home, and since I'm on vacation it's been like 3 weeks now without wearing a bra 😂
I don't understand why UA-camrs focus so much on the negative comments. I posted so many positive and encouraging comments to many of them and never got that kind of attention. UA-cam is a public platform where everyone can interact, so yes, we are expected to subscribe, give a thumbs up, share, click on the link down below, check their Facebook, Instagram, Tweeter, Depop, they put ads in our faces but as soon as we express ourselves there seems to be a problem. Lizzy, you are a great UA-camr and many of us support you and enjoy your content (bra or no bra !). Just take it from there and run with it ! So much could come from putting forward positive feedback.
I wonder if it's because your viewers are from all over the world and UA-cam is such a global thing? Most of us British gals, esp those living in big cities like London will be more open and liberal see girls go bra-less every day - I don't think it's those people that are commenting. In other parts of the world it's just not a done thing to even wear tank tops out and about
Lizzy you look so beautiful (always) but especially in your look in the final moments of this vlog! Keep doing you gal; as you said it's their problem, not yours. #freethenipple
I only wear a bra to work, and usually those are just little thin bralettes. I have bigger boobs too (a D cup). People need to chill out! Do whatever you want. Nipples are not sexual, and women shouldn’t have to wear more than one layer of cloth over our boobs to be appropriate in public.
I’m just jealous because I’m an F cup and no bra is no go for me. That’s not an astetically pleasing look for me at all lol. I find it slightly annoying when u say you have big boobs oh and u must dress buy bikinis blah for your big boobs, because pert and braless does not equal big boobs in my book. It’s all perspective isn’t it. Me bouncing down the street in a bra never mind without...
a suggestion: put a blackboard or a whiteboard in your house and write a favorite comment on it weekly. That way it can help you focus on the good comments. Like you said it is easy to decide for your brains you should focus on the good comments, but this may be practical way to achieve this. Let it be a reminder that you decide which comments are valid.
Love the gym style, especially the top. Very cute. On the bra/no bra, sometimes it does draw my eye a bit more, but only cos it's not typical. Initially I wasn't sure what I thought about it but then I told myself to remember it's your body and choice. But as time has gone on, now I'm only jealous that I'm too big there to do it. Go you!
It’s just not the norm to go braless and have visible nips so people are going to look and have an opinion. It’s the same with big tattoos, multiple visible piercings, people with a ton of kids, pregnant women in their late 40s, age gap couples, people letting their kids run wild in a restaurant. If it isn’t the norm it’s going to get attention and commentary. Mostly bad. People don’t like a disregard for social norms!
I agree with most of these, but letting your kids run wild in a restaurant is not okay when they are interrupting other people's meals. Letting your kids run wild in a restaurant is not that it is not the norm, it is that it is just plain rude. None of the others are rude by any means. If people don't like tattoos, piercings, braless womenn, etc, then that is solely their problem. It doesn't really affect them other then not agreeing with their 'style'. However, kids running loose in restaurants affect everyone eating there...interrupting meals, accidentally tripping patrons/servers, etc. It is just rude. People should keep their kids under control when out in public.
when will you do wardrobe clear out or something like that?
love the content you are putting out at the moment!
I'm one of those 'not normally a commenter' folks but just wanted to say how frustrated I feel for you that you are being made to second guess your style choices due to the comments about going braless. I can't imagine how soul destroying it must feel when this dominates your experience, when you clearly work so hard on creating really great, innovative and engaging content. Your choosing to go braless is in fact something that I honestly have never considered whilst watching you. I think it says more about those with an issue with it than it does about you. Your aesthetic is yours and yours alone and that is what is so great about your approach to fashion. I don't always feel that I want to make the exact same style choices as you but that's ok, we aren't clones. What I do get from your content is your sense of creativity and confidence in your fashion choices, which gives me the courage to try different stuff out too. I also love that you are clearly an ace human with a lot about her. The fact you choose sometimes to ditch the bra is totally normal as far as I'm concerned. I go braless all the time. I have barely any boob to speak of so perhaps it's less noticeable but that doesn't make it any more or less acceptable. Anyway, this is becoming a huge ramble. In short, I really respect your openness to understanding those frustrating comments but I'd encourage you to try not to internalise them and certainly don't let them censor you. You are ace, with or without a flipping bra on. x
Lizzy - i and i know others who subscribe to ur channel are here to get some ideas/inspiration on fashion and how to style certain pieces. I would NEVER comment on what another woman wears - coz truly, i don't care! Bloody love ya - and in the words of the wisest person i know (ie:my 7 yo niece) "you do you, boo" 😊 x
I think we alllll need to not take comments and nipples so personal. I get it's bothersome, it's even bothersome to read the comments and have yet another discussion about people not liking the fact that you don't wear a bra. People come from all different backgrounds on here (not just western ones) and so their points of view will differ and THEY might take offense to your content. That's on them! On the flip side, you need to think about where they might be coming from and detaching yourself from the negativity of the comment. Most likely, they are not trying to hurt you as a person and even if they were going out of their way to be mean, they literally do not know you. It's not even about you. You could be a walking set of nipples and they'd still be offended. This is truly coming from someone who thinks you rock the look, has no problems with nipples and is tired of hearing about it and talking about it. Detach yourself from the comments, we are but illusions on a virtual screen.
I don’t think it’s an issue. It’s something I notice, but I just think you look comfortable. I would also notice if you decided to shave your head or paint your face green. It’s just a deviation from the norm, and sometimes people need time to catch up. Keep doing what makes you comfortable :)
Ps.... I’m OBSESSED with your pink button dress, could I ask where it’s from?
Nobody is that confident to take of their bras, especially on the internet. I’m so glad that you’re confident like that, and I hope all these comments that you’re getting about it doesn’t effect your natural esthetic❤️
Love your content Lizzy. Love your style - whether it's a braless queen kind of day or otherwise! Keep on your grind, you're doing great things xxxx
I am not a braless fan too as also I live in an asian country which my culture is way more different. This is internet where people from all over the world can watch ... they can have different opinion depend on their background and culture.
If I met you braless outside like on the street .. i think it’s fine. But watching you braless by focusing on the outfit .... Ummm I admit I feel a bit uncomfortable. But i still love your vdo and still support you.
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Love you as always Lizzy. In the last few months I’ve found myself going braless more, which probably has much to do with your influence. For me, it’s learning to love the shape of my body under clothes, without the “perfect” round look from a shaped bra. Also, it’s way too hot in Dallas to bother with bras, if I can get away with it. Super helpful to be reminded that your intention isn’t to get sexual attention. It’s just such a sensitive topic as we are in an over-sexualized society where people do dress for sexual attention. Everyone will impose their ideas and ethics, best you can do is stay rooted in your motives for your fashion decisions, and remind us that it is simply another option.
Amazing vlog loved watching it. In regards to the negative comments it's easy to say don't pay attention to them but I like that you're addressing them -- you're allowed to justify your choices! xx
I cant believe 99% of comments are about the nips! If people feel uncomfortable then just skip that particular part of video. You should be here for Lizzy and enjoy her content. Like she said it could be a phase, through the warmer weather and style choices may change. She has the right to choose her style and we can watch or not watch. It’s really not a big deal I’m sure we can move past this cant we? Glad your vlogging again 😘x
Aside from aesthetics, I find bras so bloody uncomfortable, I barely wear them. It is an interesting topic, whether one wears a bra or not, breasts are still there and visible.
If it is their problems,don''t make it yours!!!