I know. I am the only capable adult that i am responsible for helping - a final decision that is not going to change. Be selfish, be very full of yourself for 5 minutes at a time, and see if that gives you more rights or takes them away. Imagine what is it the full of yourself version wants, watch them, experience them, and if you wish, you can let that part of you in, that was pushed out, with the “others are more important”. You have ONE life, whos’ life do YOU choose?
So sorry🥰 I wish you all the Best! Start with little steps, learn how to be a Grey rock, go outside for a walk think about what you don't like, to find you boundaries, do things for you! Meet with your friends, the ones with feelings! You can do nothing to change him, nothing! He has to do it, you can not rescue him, no way, what ever you do, it's wrong! This is not end! Even get worse, day by day! Do things for yourself, get healthy again, and write every thing down, what he is doing to you, and write everything down in a other book what you love! Don't Loos your emphatie, but shift it to good people! They want you to even read there mind, and get mad that you did not read it! This is greasy. You got to understand what is really going on! Because it's hard to understand, really hard!
@@mday3821 That was me until 2 years ago. It took me a long journey to understand that,and even the fact that i was abused, so my advice to you is don't waist your precious time on pleasing other people. Start new right now, where you are, Best of luck
I find these types THE MOST exhausting. Even if you live in another country … they will drain you. They are emotional vampires. I planned my emotional exit and eventually went no contact. One of the best things I did for my mental health.
Narcissists like to make up word that you can’t even believe how to make one feel guilty for no reason, it’s their way of validating themselves it makes happy them once they make one unhappy
Guess we all should be on some reservation restitution mission making gigantic pies and bowls of happy for everyone cause in the barrel of life I personally tend to wonder what narcissism looks like for the gross negligent minds of some!
After 13 years of marriage and 40 years divorced, the Ex continues his long armed reach through my distancing to strangle my confidence and independence. Thank you for your service and support to restore my confidence in taking the better path
Oh my God, listening to this brings so much relief to my soul!!! Yes, I'm a rescuer, and it's hard for me to understand that I don't have the power to save everyone. I can help them and I'm available to help IF THEY TAKE THE FIRST STEP TO SAVE THEMSELVES! I want to be a therapist and I just got out of a three year relationship with a narcissist, and I think God know everything cause, even though I suffered being with him, I learned that really important thing to become a therapist: "I will help people who wants to save themselves, I will not save them, and I don't have to feel guilt about it, cause I'm in oeace with myself for knowing that I'm just another human being, I'm not God!!!". I'm so glad to listen to Dr Ramani! She's saving and healing my life and doesn't even know it! ❤❤❤ All the blessings to her! ❤❤❤
Is narcissistic facts of one having an undeniable interest in oneself whether admirable or not as true in the same variance saying a crime is a crime no matter how pretty you dress it up or you paint it. Whatever negligent act goes in towards committing the criminalistic offense. A crime is a crime and SHOULD be treated as such a criminal offense regardless how it is understood or viewed!!!!! Why we dont have a better prosecutioral system is unnerving! This is a scornful truth of reality that sits unsettling with unrest in the depths of my duress attentive spirit! When will open the blind eye to the instability in this truth.
I’m confident that I am in a partnership with a person who presents as Vulnerable Narcissist; I also keep putting myself down about the approach due to being able to see my own Narcissistic qualities, or self centeredness in terms of emotions felt throughout the relationship (trying to recall some things I’ve repressed over time) Is it becoming of someone with empathy (cognitive or emotional) to assume themselves to be a bigger issue or the cause of it? Or is that more of Me making excuses for someone’s behavior, ignoring my own feelings?
This is what I've been through most of my life...with my Narcissistic mother and my Narcissistic ex boyfriend....
I am a rescuer…and I don’t know how to let go. 😢
I know. I am the only capable adult that i am responsible for helping - a final decision that is not going to change. Be selfish, be very full of yourself for 5 minutes at a time, and see if that gives you more rights or takes them away. Imagine what is it the full of yourself version wants, watch them, experience them, and if you wish, you can let that part of you in, that was pushed out, with the “others are more important”. You have ONE life, whos’ life do YOU choose?
Fake it until you make it,and remind yourself every time why you are doing it- to save your life.
You always have to come first, practice boundaries
So sorry🥰 I wish you all the Best! Start with little steps, learn how to be a Grey rock, go outside for a walk think about what you don't like, to find you boundaries, do things for you! Meet with your friends, the ones with feelings! You can do nothing to change him, nothing! He has to do it, you can not rescue him, no way, what ever you do, it's wrong! This is not end! Even get worse, day by day! Do things for yourself, get healthy again, and write every thing down, what he is doing to you, and write everything down in a other book what you love! Don't Loos your emphatie, but shift it to good people! They want you to even read there mind, and get mad that you did not read it! This is greasy. You got to understand what is really going on! Because it's hard to understand, really hard!
I grew to be the fixer to my narcissistic mother & dysfunctional family.
@@mday3821 That was me until 2 years ago. It took me a long journey to understand that,and even the fact that i was abused, so my advice to you is don't waist your precious time on pleasing other people. Start new right now, where you are, Best of luck
Narcissist I called them dramatically great actors acting up that to make a scenes
Usually they interrupt you, because they don’t wanna hear constructive Critique.
I find these types THE MOST exhausting.
Even if you live in another country … they will drain you.
They are emotional vampires.
I planned my emotional exit and eventually went no contact.
One of the best things I did for my mental health.
Narcissists like to make up word that you can’t even believe how to make one feel guilty for no reason, it’s their way of validating themselves it makes happy them once they make one unhappy
Exactly 💯
When you are Happy -They are Unhappy.
When you're Unhappy -They are VERY Happy.
Guess we all should be on some reservation restitution mission making gigantic pies and bowls of happy for everyone cause in the barrel of life I personally tend to wonder what narcissism looks like for the gross negligent minds of some!
After 13 years of marriage and 40 years divorced, the Ex continues his long armed reach through my distancing to strangle my confidence and independence. Thank you for your service and support to restore my confidence in taking the better path
Thanks for sharing!❤⚘
Learning with your teachings!
Oh my God, listening to this brings so much relief to my soul!!! Yes, I'm a rescuer, and it's hard for me to understand that I don't have the power to save everyone. I can help them and I'm available to help IF THEY TAKE THE FIRST STEP TO SAVE THEMSELVES! I want to be a therapist and I just got out of a three year relationship with a narcissist, and I think God know everything cause, even though I suffered being with him, I learned that really important thing to become a therapist: "I will help people who wants to save themselves, I will not save them, and I don't have to feel guilt about it, cause I'm in oeace with myself for knowing that I'm just another human being, I'm not God!!!".
I'm so glad to listen to Dr Ramani! She's saving and healing my life and doesn't even know it! ❤❤❤ All the blessings to her! ❤❤❤
Facts 💯
omg so true
Is narcissistic facts of one having an undeniable interest in oneself whether admirable or not as true in the same variance saying a crime is a crime no matter how pretty you dress it up or you paint it. Whatever negligent act goes in towards committing the criminalistic offense. A crime is a crime and SHOULD be treated as such a criminal offense regardless how it is understood or viewed!!!!! Why we dont have a better prosecutioral system is unnerving! This is a scornful truth of reality that sits unsettling with unrest in the depths of my duress attentive spirit! When will open the blind eye to the instability in this truth.
I’m confident that I am in a partnership with a person who presents as Vulnerable Narcissist; I also keep putting myself down about the approach due to being able to see my own Narcissistic qualities, or self centeredness in terms of emotions felt throughout the relationship (trying to recall some things I’ve repressed over time)
Is it becoming of someone with empathy (cognitive or emotional) to assume themselves to be a bigger issue or the cause of it? Or is that more of Me making excuses for someone’s behavior, ignoring my own feelings?
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