The obsession with socks and beanies. I think a skin to skin is the way to go. Also, let the feet flex, stretch, and move around on uneven terrain after they start walking. Babies and kids need to walk around barefoot to develop healthy feet and, by extension, healthy posture. Wide toe gaps are a good thing for stability and it reduces the risks for joint and back pain related issues later in life. Socks and shoes are like a mild foot binding so, personally, we’ll just use them when they’re absolutely necessary, especially in the earliest years. I should mention, this opinion keeps in mind weather and the avoidance of social ostracism in certain settings as exceptions 😅 otherwise, let the tootsies waddle around freely🦶😊
We moved my son’s bedtime up from 8:30 to 7:30, as suggested by TakeCaraBabies and he now sleeps through the night, waking up around 7. Sometimes he may wake up once. That’s still very refreshing compared to the 3 to 4 times that he would wake before.
Thank you! that last one sure does give you a lot of guilt when you are not in fact enjoying your baby crying all day, keeping you up at night, vomiting everywhere and pooping a thousand times a day
I'm sorry but my eastern friends(all different nationalities) have said all of these to me You want her to sleep now? But it is only 7pm! "She's tired and needs to sleep" Oh give your baby water, she's thirsty. "No she is 3 weeks old" Don't pick her up she will get used to it and be spoiled. "No she needs comfort, she is 4 weeks old and probably needs to burp" Put her on her stomach so she will like sleeping. "No that's dangerous, she's 2 weeks old, she needs to sleep on her back"
@@softscribbles babies under 1yo can get botulism from honey. It’s very dangerous and while many babies will be able to fight it off if they have strong enough immune systems, the risk is not worth taking until they’re older.
another i really can't stand is "do this, they need to get used to it". why? why do i need to be excessively loud or take her to loud places like bars?? my in-laws said my daughter needs to get used to loud noises, bright lights, and such at 4 weeks old (she's six months now). i asked why, they said she just needed to. horrible excuse. if she's down for a nap I'm not going to purposely play loud music or bang on pots and pans so she "gets used to it". there are normal house noises and she sleeps right through them. when my daughter was 4 weeks they insisted on eating out at loud places because it's where they wanted to eat. it was middle of summer and hitting triple digits. all the places they wanted to eat were loud, hot, and noisy. i would tell my husband that i needed to leave because she was getting too hot. a baby can't regulate their body temp so higher risk of heat stroke, he would say ok and go with me but his family would complain about us not being welcoming because our daughter came first and she was "boring". they are good people but so self centered
so rude, you have to be careful with babies especially with loud noises (loud music and car horns etc can actually harm their hearing permanently!!), and 4 weeks is way too young for a baby's immune system to hang around in crowded places! you're right to choose to take care of her rather than cater to everyone else's wishes..
@ezodragon yeah, i even questioned my husband why she needed to get used to all that at such a young age and he had no answer, even after thinking about it for a while and researching it. turns out he found out what you said and got baby ear muffs for her(for fourth of July and other celebrations). even still, we aren't very loud at all. she's actually more loud than the both of us 🤣
I don't think they are "good people" if they choose to prioritise their entertainment over the health of your baby. I would definitely avoid leaving your in-laws unsupervised with your child. And make sure your husband is in agreement that the well being of your child, no matter how "boring", takes priority over the wishes of these insensitive grandparents. Sending you big supportive hugs. And well done getting your baby away from these harmful situations.
@@dominofalling2038I was literally gonna say the same thing. My in laws where sending red flags before I even had the baby. Alwayse made sure she wasn't alone with any of them. The one time I slipped up and my husband let her go with one of them... It didn't end well we will say. Just don't do it. Dealing with They're scorn is better than risking trauma to your child
My dear...... call narcissistic behaviour what it is. And it's not "good people" when they care more about their fun than the literal safety of the weakest family member. To heck with painting the mess with little hearts just to ignore how messy it is. They suck. If they care to be good people, then they'll care to change their behaviour towards being exactly that. 😤
Just give them more milk if it's hot. Your body makes it more watery for the baby so they can hydrate. I always give baby a quick drink of milky after a hot walk/ outside play session.
I have a newborn!! My dad thinks i should let him “cry it out” When i know i shouldn’t do that especially when i know what’s wrong!! I always find out what’s wrong and my baby is fine ! But my dad insist on me letting him cry it out! Absolutely not 😭
I was put on my back & since the doctors didn’t believe I projectile vomited due to gastric issues I almost choked to death… 💀 to each their own but know your baby.
Loved tummy sleep for my little guy. I think if you’re not swaddling, some babies do well on their stomach, less reflexes and things like trapped gas. But I understand then risks factor mentioned above.
If baby sleeps during day they will be awake during night. Create sleeping patern. Absolute nonsense. More sleep means more sleep. Put baby to sleep whenever they are sleepy. That's i experienced. I have 4 months old. She takes several naps during day. Sllep soundly during night
“You don’t need to take the precaution of having visitors not kiss your newborn, newborns don’t get sick!! How will we love on our grandbaby if we can’t put our mouth on them??”
my in-laws are anti vax and said they don't need the tdap shot before seeing my baby when she was only 4 weeks, then was offended because she was "boring and doesn't do anything". duh, she was only 4 weeks, fresh out the oven!! my parents on the other hand got the shot and loved on my girl when they visited and were adamant about keeping her inside and in the cool air instead of the hot, sweltering sun like the in-laws because "she needs to get used to it". i really hate that phrase.
Avoid people kissing newborns, children are very vulnerable to cold sores/ herpes and can be terribly harmed if they catch the virus young from being kissed.
My sister did this but only because her pediatrician told her to. This was 20 years ago now but I still see it floating around. Just because a doc advised it a quarter of a century ago does not mean it is still good advice. Plus, there were probably medical reasons that don't apply to every baby
The pressure my family was trying to place on me as a first time mom to do this 😅 it was on of the things I needed to put my foot down and say no thanks. I was a young mom 22 and my family thought they needed to “help” by telling me everything I MUST do
With my first child 13 years ago, we were advised to let them cry out to help develop coping mechanisms however I took a parenting class with the one I have now he’s only one month and they said the cry out method is no longer advised because when the baby stops crying, it doesn’t mean that they’ve learned to cope. It. Ultimately means they were exhausted and stopped crying out of exhaustion. Is that true- I mean I can’t stand hearing my son cry anyway I couldn’t let him cry to long if I wanted my brain doesn’t like it.
The feeding them water thing was a no brainier for me… my MIL (bless her) told me to do this but I told her that if I drink enough water, baby will be getting enough water and I think she realised that it wasn’t good advice after I said that lol.
Thank you for providing a solid piece of information about back sleeping. When my mom asked me why I didn't want my baby sleeping on her stomach, I just said SIDS. I didn't have an actual explanation. This info greatly helps.
But it does go by quick, sure, it doesn't feel that way, but once it's over you'll miss it. Do enjoy moments with your child. I know you won't enjoy every minute, but it's about looking at as a whole and the simple things that'll never come again. Your baby will only be a day old for a day, they'll only be a month for a month, remember time is precious and be present.
My SIL tried keeping her newborns up all day so they’d sleep at night. That backfired on her. None of her kids have ever taken naps and I always wonder if that played a role.
Side to sleep is safest in my experience. Know a newborn that died choking on spit up. Never ever will I promote unmonitored back to sleep until baby can roll efficiently. SIDS is already to mostly be caused by central sleep apnea. It's been years that came out. Though a blanket caused death is listed as is choking and co-sleeping deaths. 🤬
Oh, old fashioned advice is: bathe your baby every day! Don't fry onions, the fumes are dangerous for baby You need drink (cow) milk to produce more (human)milk. Your baby must wear a hat at all times and be bundled in a blanket!
Pediatrician just told our daughter in law to start introducing solids at our grandson's four month check-up. Not in a bottle, but on a spoon. She's nursing, but some babies are ready sooner than others. He took to it immediately.
My son is 3 months and my parents think letting him cry it out to help him sleep better. 😵Shit advice. I did once while making a bottle, and my son started choking. I soothe my baby every time now. No more letting babies or toddlers cry it out.
My son CANNOT and has never been able to sleep on his back unless he is swaddled very tightly. The best night sleep for him is on my chest. That leaves no sleep for me, but hey. Hes crawling at 5 months and has an extremely strong core. Dr says its better than a baby not able to sleep, just moniter him well. Then, spoke to my mil and my husband was the exact same way as a baby. 😅 very scary for me, but hes doing very well and sleeps 6-8 hours every night since 1 month old
If you have a baby and a cat you must be extremely careful your cat doesn’t smother the baby… 😂 I mean obviously dont leave pets and babies alone together, but my cat loves the baby. ❤
That one is somewhat true. My mother in law is a daycare provider and isn’t allowed to own a cat per state regulations. Cats have the ability to jump in the crib and *unintentionally* smother the infant because they just want to cuddle up next to them. But obviously like you said just to monitor them together!
We had a certain family member who believed we needed to get rid of our cat before our baby was born 🙄 we would not leave our cat in the room while he was sleeping but they never missed an opportunity to tell us why having a cat posed a risk to our child. That cat is now our little guys best friend 😊
I would modify it to, "I know this is really hard. Try to look for and enjoy the good things. Youll wish later that you had slowed down to enjoy those things. What can I do to help you feel less overwhelmed so you feel like you can slow down?" I think sometimes we need a reminder that even hard times usually have something good in it, and trying to focus on those things when it gets really hard makes it feel less hopeless. But also, saying that to someone without offering support is not going to be helpful.
I honestly needed someone to just validate that it sucked at times. I would say that and then feel like I had to overshare exactly why I felt like crap because everyone wanted me to see the sunnyside when I felt so overwhelmed, that for me in the moment it wasn't there. On the whole things were fine and good, it wasn't an issue of missed PPD or PPA, but my kid only wanted to sleep on me and I was on fumes for months and really could have used a heartfelt, unqualified "yup, this sucks."
Couldn't agree more. There's a balance. Yeah, it can be invalidating to feel like aren't supposed to feel or talk about any "negative" things about motherhood, but sometimes it does help when someone helps us get perspective.
Can anyone tell me I'm not alone my baby hates being held and screams after a few seconds. She just likes playing or being soothed in other ways like belly rubs or rocking the pram.
My father-in-law legitimately suggested I use whiskey on the gums when my baby starts teething; needless to say, he will not be on the shortlist of babysitters
He's not telling you to give your baby a couple shots, just a droplet on your finger to rub over their gums. My grandparents (born in the 1920s) did that for me when I was teething. Considering they tell breastfeeding moms it's OK for them to have A drink, I doubt a tiny bit of whiskey on the gums is going to hurt the baby.
@calliope8675 I'm still not comfortable with the fact that he tried to argue with me once I told him I'm uncomfortable with that remedy. As my baby's mother, I feel like my wishes on what's administered to my kid need to be honored.
Ppl think children will get too clingy and dependent but they won't the more secure they feel the more they know they will be safe and explore more - dependency paradox
Okay but what if you slowly shift their sleep schedule? I think that's what most people are talking about when they suggest having them start their nighttime sleep later so they don't wake up quite as early in the morning.
Something glitches in some older relatives’ brains to make them take every baby care recommendation change as a personal attack on their parenting skills decades ago. I have had to literally tell one person that she did what her pediatrician recommended at the time and now I’m doing what my pediatrician recommends. When you have a pushy older relative that doesn’t agree with you on something important like safe sleep, blame the pediatrician. Odds are they won’t call the pediatrician to argue. But if they do then at least it will be entertaining.
It's a long time till children understand sleeping longer. 😉 If we were out and about unusually late (say, New Year's Eve as a family), we paid for it later. The children would wake up at their usual ungodly time, but be fussy and cranky all day long (maybe next day, too). Top that with Mom not having had nearly enough sleep. So. Not. Worth. It. -- Except that one year when I turned down an invitation for New Year's Eve dinner because all of the above. Maybe next year, i thought... Except next year, that sweet lady who had invited us, had passed away. 😢 Regrets...
My baby was having difficulty pooping in laws thought I should give him water he was only a month old I was like yeah ok then when they left it was like umm NO !
Omg, the outdated advice that angers me and makes me grind my teeth so much!!! "Don't hold your baby too much or you're going to spoil them" like F you! A little baby who just barely came into the world and you want to force them into independency right away, like how effed up is that!
You should NEVER let your kid sleep with you! They should sleep in a crib, the best in separate room. Your aunt once allowed the child in their bed and could never get rid of them....
You NEED TO give him a bottle with water, how else do you want to leave anywhere? It's summer, he's thirsty! How can it be dangerous? I was giving water to all my children and you turned out just fine!
Ill be honest with you, the last one? I think I disagree. I totally get that its OKAY to vent and to be honest about struggles you're having, but I'm SO DANG SICK of the constant negativity from everyone. In today's society it seems like the ONLY acceptable take is the uber negative "its so hard it sucks to be a mom what a struggle woe is me". Honestly some positivity goes such a long way sometimes.
Not outdated advice but - BABY CLOTHES. I got so many useless but adorable baby clothes. What newborn wants to be in a car seat with bulky Levi overalls? Or a gigantic floppy dress that is scratchy and hazardous?What tired parent wants to do a zillion teeny tiny snaps on a baby with a Moro reflex after the 5th night feed and a blowout of orange breast milk poo ? HARD PASS. Best newborn baby clothes are double zipper sleepers or nightgowns with hand covers sewn on the sleeves. Hands down. Everything else gets tiresome so fast.
Holding your kids calms their nervous system, not holding them,not talking to them, not looking at them,not teaching them things, all cause anxiety,short attention, and difficulty learning and regulating emotion.
Not all babies like to sleep on their backs. You will find out when they are a few months old and start to roll. That's why we always let them sleep in a different position first, and then let themselves choose the sleeping position later on.
@@saschamayer4050 When they can roll, you can let them sleep in whatever position they shift to. The back only is for when they can't move by themselves yet
@@saschamayer4050 I agree with what you're saying, but some people learn the hard way. sleeping on the front has a higher risk of SIDS, and is tragic....
This could be actually useful and beneficial, but in moderation. I agree that this cannot be possible right after giving birth or even after a few weeks. But after a while I think it's healthy to go back to your regular activities, though you might have to modify the time and length of said activities 😊
@@anie1983anie i think it's harmful to advise new parents that they have to ALWAYS pick up their baby. it puts undue and unrealistic pressure on them and promotes feelings of guilt. you can't possibly hold your baby all day (as most babies would like). there is cooking, cleaning, taking care of other children, showering, house repairs, etc. i feel like this is more extremist parenting advice, but just on the other extreme.
Can you do a short on the "crying out method" where parents don't pick up the baby as it's crying to make them learn how to self soothe and "sleep training" them? I'm not a parent, but it feels/sounds diabolical to let your baby cry itself exhausted and refusing to tend to their needs. Babies cry for a reason: - dirty diaper - hunger - discomfort - pain. I couldn't stay away from them if any of those issues could be at play 🥲
Not all babies are like that. My kids didn't mind the dirty diapers when they were babies. They all had a phase where I needed a lot of convincing to change the dirty diaper. 🙄 I don't think it's that uncommon though. And when they are a few months old, they can start to try things out for fun: - what happens when I knock stuff over? - what happens when I throw things on the ground? - what happens when I cry, even though everything is ok? Apart from that, babies need to train for a longer, better sleep cycle. They might cry, even though they AREN'T awake. Or they might cry in a phase where they are almost awake, but will sleep more later. That's why you shouldn't pick up a baby IMMEDIATELY when it cries at night. Give it a chance to get back to sleep. (The French call it 'le Pause'.)
if you don't have to do anything all day but cuddle your baby, then it's fine, but if you have to wash dishes, prepare meals, do laundry, shower, eat, care for other children, mop, sweep, check the mail, take out the trash, pay some bills, do household repairs, etc, you will learn the difference between a cry for hunger, pain, or discomfort and a cry because baby doesn't want to go to bed without you.
The obsession with socks and beanies. I think a skin to skin is the way to go. Also, let the feet flex, stretch, and move around on uneven terrain after they start walking. Babies and kids need to walk around barefoot to develop healthy feet and, by extension, healthy posture. Wide toe gaps are a good thing for stability and it reduces the risks for joint and back pain related issues later in life. Socks and shoes are like a mild foot binding so, personally, we’ll just use them when they’re absolutely necessary, especially in the earliest years. I should mention, this opinion keeps in mind weather and the avoidance of social ostracism in certain settings as exceptions 😅 otherwise, let the tootsies waddle around freely🦶😊
We moved my son’s bedtime up from 8:30 to 7:30, as suggested by TakeCaraBabies and he now sleeps through the night, waking up around 7. Sometimes he may wake up once. That’s still very refreshing compared to the 3 to 4 times that he would wake before.
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Same! My 3 year old has slept 7:30pm-7:30am since she was 1.5! I owe that woman everything 😂
Thank you! that last one sure does give you a lot of guilt when you are not in fact enjoying your baby crying all day, keeping you up at night, vomiting everywhere and pooping a thousand times a day
Shift & choose something different like … “this sucks, how can I help?” 😂😂😂
I'm sorry but my eastern friends(all different nationalities) have said all of these to me
You want her to sleep now? But it is only 7pm! "She's tired and needs to sleep"
Oh give your baby water, she's thirsty. "No she is 3 weeks old"
Don't pick her up she will get used to it and be spoiled. "No she needs comfort, she is 4 weeks old and probably needs to burp"
Put her on her stomach so she will like sleeping. "No that's dangerous, she's 2 weeks old, she needs to sleep on her back"
Honey on nipples for breastfeeding, was an outdated advice I got. Honey can be really dangerous due to a bacterium that babies can't fight off.
Honey is antibacterial… maybe there’s something that babies can’t have in it but it isn’t bacteria
@softscribbles yes it is. The bacteria in this case are Clostridium botulinum. You can look it up.
Lol honey is bad but tons of vaccine doses is fine?
@@softscribbles babies under 1yo can get botulism from honey. It’s very dangerous and while many babies will be able to fight it off if they have strong enough immune systems, the risk is not worth taking until they’re older.
@@softscribblesplease research honey is dangerous for babies
Lots of layers all the time! My mother in law always thinks babies are cold and need socks and hats and blankets...
another i really can't stand is "do this, they need to get used to it". why? why do i need to be excessively loud or take her to loud places like bars??
my in-laws said my daughter needs to get used to loud noises, bright lights, and such at 4 weeks old (she's six months now). i asked why, they said she just needed to. horrible excuse. if she's down for a nap I'm not going to purposely play loud music or bang on pots and pans so she "gets used to it". there are normal house noises and she sleeps right through them.
when my daughter was 4 weeks they insisted on eating out at loud places because it's where they wanted to eat. it was middle of summer and hitting triple digits. all the places they wanted to eat were loud, hot, and noisy. i would tell my husband that i needed to leave because she was getting too hot. a baby can't regulate their body temp so higher risk of heat stroke, he would say ok and go with me but his family would complain about us not being welcoming because our daughter came first and she was "boring". they are good people but so self centered
so rude, you have to be careful with babies especially with loud noises (loud music and car horns etc can actually harm their hearing permanently!!), and 4 weeks is way too young for a baby's immune system to hang around in crowded places! you're right to choose to take care of her rather than cater to everyone else's wishes..
@ezodragon yeah, i even questioned my husband why she needed to get used to all that at such a young age and he had no answer, even after thinking about it for a while and researching it. turns out he found out what you said and got baby ear muffs for her(for fourth of July and other celebrations). even still, we aren't very loud at all. she's actually more loud than the both of us 🤣
I don't think they are "good people" if they choose to prioritise their entertainment over the health of your baby.
I would definitely avoid leaving your in-laws unsupervised with your child. And make sure your husband is in agreement that the well being of your child, no matter how "boring", takes priority over the wishes of these insensitive grandparents.
Sending you big supportive hugs. And well done getting your baby away from these harmful situations.
@@dominofalling2038I was literally gonna say the same thing. My in laws where sending red flags before I even had the baby. Alwayse made sure she wasn't alone with any of them. The one time I slipped up and my husband let her go with one of them... It didn't end well we will say. Just don't do it. Dealing with They're scorn is better than risking trauma to your child
My dear...... call narcissistic behaviour what it is. And it's not "good people" when they care more about their fun than the literal safety of the weakest family member.
To heck with painting the mess with little hearts just to ignore how messy it is. They suck. If they care to be good people, then they'll care to change their behaviour towards being exactly that. 😤
Just give them more milk if it's hot. Your body makes it more watery for the baby so they can hydrate. I always give baby a quick drink of milky after a hot walk/ outside play session.
I have a newborn!! My dad thinks i should let him “cry it out” When i know i shouldn’t do that especially when i know what’s wrong!! I always find out what’s wrong and my baby is fine ! But my dad insist on me letting him cry it out! Absolutely not 😭
I was put on my back & since the doctors didn’t believe I projectile vomited due to gastric issues I almost choked to death… 💀 to each their own but know your baby.
Loved tummy sleep for my little guy. I think if you’re not swaddling, some babies do well on their stomach, less reflexes and things like trapped gas. But I understand then risks factor mentioned above.
same here
If baby sleeps during day they will be awake during night. Create sleeping patern. Absolute nonsense. More sleep means more sleep. Put baby to sleep whenever they are sleepy. That's i experienced. I have 4 months old. She takes several naps during day. Sllep soundly during night
Omg the days are long but the years are fast is such a spot on way to put it.
“You don’t need to take the precaution of having visitors not kiss your newborn, newborns don’t get sick!! How will we love on our grandbaby if we can’t put our mouth on them??”
my in-laws are anti vax and said they don't need the tdap shot before seeing my baby when she was only 4 weeks, then was offended because she was "boring and doesn't do anything". duh, she was only 4 weeks, fresh out the oven!!
my parents on the other hand got the shot and loved on my girl when they visited and were adamant about keeping her inside and in the cool air instead of the hot, sweltering sun like the in-laws because "she needs to get used to it". i really hate that phrase.
Avoid people kissing newborns, children are very vulnerable to cold sores/ herpes and can be terribly harmed if they catch the virus young from being kissed.
Mil said my no kissing rules were extreme, knowing full blown well she gets cold sores. 🙄
We got a little sign that said “no kissing the baby” and put it up when people visited the hospital. Our nurse loved it!
Rice cereal in a 4 month bottle will help them sleep longer at night. Is that still a thing?
People STILL say this yep!! It’s in a different video I made about this 🤣
My mom suggested this (because her mom swore by it). Survivor’s bias is a very real thing.
Totally still a thing
My sister did this but only because her pediatrician told her to. This was 20 years ago now but I still see it floating around. Just because a doc advised it a quarter of a century ago does not mean it is still good advice. Plus, there were probably medical reasons that don't apply to every baby
The pressure my family was trying to place on me as a first time mom to do this 😅 it was on of the things I needed to put my foot down and say no thanks. I was a young mom 22 and my family thought they needed to “help” by telling me everything I MUST do
With my first child 13 years ago, we were advised to let them cry out to help develop coping mechanisms however I took a parenting class with the one I have now he’s only one month and they said the cry out method is no longer advised because when the baby stops crying, it doesn’t mean that they’ve learned to cope. It. Ultimately means they were exhausted and stopped crying out of exhaustion. Is that true- I mean I can’t stand hearing my son cry anyway I couldn’t let him cry to long if I wanted my brain doesn’t like it.
Thank you. As a mom of a 22 month old, I agree and appreciate everything you said. Especially the last one, we have to come up with something else.
The feeding them water thing was a no brainier for me… my MIL (bless her) told me to do this but I told her that if I drink enough water, baby will be getting enough water and I think she realised that it wasn’t good advice after I said that lol.
Thank you for providing a solid piece of information about back sleeping. When my mom asked me why I didn't want my baby sleeping on her stomach, I just said SIDS. I didn't have an actual explanation. This info greatly helps.
But it does go by quick, sure, it doesn't feel that way, but once it's over you'll miss it. Do enjoy moments with your child. I know you won't enjoy every minute, but it's about looking at as a whole and the simple things that'll never come again. Your baby will only be a day old for a day, they'll only be a month for a month, remember time is precious and be present.
Some people told me to give my baby a teaspoon of black coffee so he wouldn't have seizure.
I'm not doing it 😅
My SIL tried keeping her newborns up all day so they’d sleep at night. That backfired on her. None of her kids have ever taken naps and I always wonder if that played a role.
Oh my gosh, that's just horrible!! 😮
Side to sleep is safest in my experience. Know a newborn that died choking on spit up. Never ever will I promote unmonitored back to sleep until baby can roll efficiently.
SIDS is already to mostly be caused by central sleep apnea. It's been years that came out.
Though a blanket caused death is listed as is choking and co-sleeping deaths. 🤬
Oh, old fashioned advice is:
bathe your baby every day!
Don't fry onions, the fumes are dangerous for baby
You need drink (cow) milk to produce more (human)milk.
Your baby must wear a hat at all times and be bundled in a blanket!
Pediatrician just told our daughter in law to start introducing solids at our grandson's four month check-up. Not in a bottle, but on a spoon. She's nursing, but some babies are ready sooner than others. He took to it immediately.
My son is 3 months and my parents think letting him cry it out to help him sleep better. 😵Shit advice. I did once while making a bottle, and my son started choking. I soothe my baby every time now. No more letting babies or toddlers cry it out.
My son CANNOT and has never been able to sleep on his back unless he is swaddled very tightly. The best night sleep for him is on my chest. That leaves no sleep for me, but hey. Hes crawling at 5 months and has an extremely strong core. Dr says its better than a baby not able to sleep, just moniter him well. Then, spoke to my mil and my husband was the exact same way as a baby. 😅 very scary for me, but hes doing very well and sleeps 6-8 hours every night since 1 month old
If you have a baby and a cat you must be extremely careful your cat doesn’t smother the baby… 😂 I mean obviously dont leave pets and babies alone together, but my cat loves the baby. ❤
That one is somewhat true. My mother in law is a daycare provider and isn’t allowed to own a cat per state regulations. Cats have the ability to jump in the crib and *unintentionally* smother the infant because they just want to cuddle up next to them.
But obviously like you said just to monitor them together!
We had a certain family member who believed we needed to get rid of our cat before our baby was born 🙄 we would not leave our cat in the room while he was sleeping but they never missed an opportunity to tell us why having a cat posed a risk to our child. That cat is now our little guys best friend 😊
I would modify it to, "I know this is really hard. Try to look for and enjoy the good things. Youll wish later that you had slowed down to enjoy those things. What can I do to help you feel less overwhelmed so you feel like you can slow down?"
I think sometimes we need a reminder that even hard times usually have something good in it, and trying to focus on those things when it gets really hard makes it feel less hopeless. But also, saying that to someone without offering support is not going to be helpful.
I honestly needed someone to just validate that it sucked at times. I would say that and then feel like I had to overshare exactly why I felt like crap because everyone wanted me to see the sunnyside when I felt so overwhelmed, that for me in the moment it wasn't there. On the whole things were fine and good, it wasn't an issue of missed PPD or PPA, but my kid only wanted to sleep on me and I was on fumes for months and really could have used a heartfelt, unqualified "yup, this sucks."
Couldn't agree more. There's a balance. Yeah, it can be invalidating to feel like aren't supposed to feel or talk about any "negative" things about motherhood, but sometimes it does help when someone helps us get perspective.
One time a random woman stopped me to tell me my baby needed socks on. It was May, in Texas. It was HOT! My baby was in no danger of freezing.
My brother died from lying on his stomach. He suffocated himself in his sleep.
Can anyone tell me I'm not alone my baby hates being held and screams after a few seconds. She just likes playing or being soothed in other ways like belly rubs or rocking the pram.
Yep, loved the this sucks, you are emotional go nap. God bless all the family who just cuddled babers while letting me sleep lol
My son hardly ever slept. A ten minute nap if you were lucky. Colicky too
My father-in-law legitimately suggested I use whiskey on the gums when my baby starts teething; needless to say, he will not be on the shortlist of babysitters
Had a doctor suggest this to me in 2023!
My sister suggested the same lol
😂 stuff like that makes you wanna keep your littles with you all the time because it’s a dangerous world out there!!!
He's not telling you to give your baby a couple shots, just a droplet on your finger to rub over their gums. My grandparents (born in the 1920s) did that for me when I was teething. Considering they tell breastfeeding moms it's OK for them to have A drink, I doubt a tiny bit of whiskey on the gums is going to hurt the baby.
@calliope8675 I'm still not comfortable with the fact that he tried to argue with me once I told him I'm uncomfortable with that remedy. As my baby's mother, I feel like my wishes on what's administered to my kid need to be honored.
I just told my husband the sleep thing, and he didn't believe me despite this being our third baby lol
Ppl think children will get too clingy and dependent but they won't the more secure they feel the more they know they will be safe and explore more - dependency paradox
Okay but what if you slowly shift their sleep schedule? I think that's what most people are talking about when they suggest having them start their nighttime sleep later so they don't wake up quite as early in the morning.
Something glitches in some older relatives’ brains to make them take every baby care recommendation change as a personal attack on their parenting skills decades ago. I have had to literally tell one person that she did what her pediatrician recommended at the time and now I’m doing what my pediatrician recommends.
When you have a pushy older relative that doesn’t agree with you on something important like safe sleep, blame the pediatrician. Odds are they won’t call the pediatrician to argue. But if they do then at least it will be entertaining.
It's a long time till children understand sleeping longer. 😉 If we were out and about unusually late (say, New Year's Eve as a family), we paid for it later. The children would wake up at their usual ungodly time, but be fussy and cranky all day long (maybe next day, too). Top that with Mom not having had nearly enough sleep. So. Not. Worth. It. -- Except that one year when I turned down an invitation for New Year's Eve dinner because all of the above. Maybe next year, i thought... Except next year, that sweet lady who had invited us, had passed away. 😢 Regrets...
“Never wake a sleeping baby” my god the screams of an over hungry baby are car worse than the screams of a baby that’s been woken up to feed
Drink a little beer it'll help with milk production 🥴🥴🥴
My baby was having difficulty pooping in laws thought I should give him water he was only a month old I was like yeah ok then when they left it was like umm NO !
Omg, the outdated advice that angers me and makes me grind my teeth so much!!! "Don't hold your baby too much or you're going to spoil them" like F you! A little baby who just barely came into the world and you want to force them into independency right away, like how effed up is that!
You should NEVER let your kid sleep with you! They should sleep in a crib, the best in separate room. Your aunt once allowed the child in their bed and could never get rid of them....
You NEED TO give him a bottle with water, how else do you want to leave anywhere? It's summer, he's thirsty! How can it be dangerous? I was giving water to all my children and you turned out just fine!
Ill be honest with you, the last one? I think I disagree. I totally get that its OKAY to vent and to be honest about struggles you're having, but I'm SO DANG SICK of the constant negativity from everyone. In today's society it seems like the ONLY acceptable take is the uber negative "its so hard it sucks to be a mom what a struggle woe is me". Honestly some positivity goes such a long way sometimes.
Not outdated advice but - BABY CLOTHES. I got so many useless but adorable baby clothes. What newborn wants to be in a car seat with bulky Levi overalls? Or a gigantic floppy dress that is scratchy and hazardous?What tired parent wants to do a zillion teeny tiny snaps on a baby with a Moro reflex after the 5th night feed and a blowout of orange breast milk poo ? HARD PASS.
Best newborn baby clothes are double zipper sleepers or nightgowns with hand covers sewn on the sleeves. Hands down. Everything else gets tiresome so fast.
*poofy - not floppy lol
Holding your kids calms their nervous system, not holding them,not talking to them, not looking at them,not teaching them things, all cause anxiety,short attention, and difficulty learning and regulating emotion.
Babies don't need soap bath, all they need is some water and EBM. 1000% babies should only sleep on there backs
What is EBM?
Yes!! I have said this about baths in another outdated video
Not all babies like to sleep on their backs.
You will find out when they are a few months old and start to roll.
That's why we always let them sleep in a different position first, and then let themselves choose the sleeping position later on.
@@saschamayer4050 When they can roll, you can let them sleep in whatever position they shift to. The back only is for when they can't move by themselves yet
@@saschamayer4050 I agree with what you're saying, but some people learn the hard way. sleeping on the front has a higher risk of SIDS, and is tragic....
Get back to your regular activies and walk it out 😂😂😂
This could be actually useful and beneficial, but in moderation. I agree that this cannot be possible right after giving birth or even after a few weeks. But after a while I think it's healthy to go back to your regular activities, though you might have to modify the time and length of said activities 😊
Bath baby daily…🫤
I've been wondering who you look like & I've got it now. You look like Barbie
all this new-age techniques have failed me.
Which techniques do you mean? Failed you in what way?
@@anie1983anie i think it's harmful to advise new parents that they have to ALWAYS pick up their baby. it puts undue and unrealistic pressure on them and promotes feelings of guilt. you can't possibly hold your baby all day (as most babies would like). there is cooking, cleaning, taking care of other children, showering, house repairs, etc. i feel like this is more extremist parenting advice, but just on the other extreme.
Can you do a short on the "crying out method" where parents don't pick up the baby as it's crying to make them learn how to self soothe and "sleep training" them?
I'm not a parent, but it feels/sounds diabolical to let your baby cry itself exhausted and refusing to tend to their needs.
Babies cry for a reason:
- dirty diaper
- hunger
- discomfort
- pain.
I couldn't stay away from them if any of those issues could be at play 🥲
Agree… all it teaches them is no one is coming to help them. It’s sad to hear that
Not all babies are like that.
My kids didn't mind the dirty diapers when they were babies. They all had a phase where I needed a lot of convincing to change the dirty diaper. 🙄
I don't think it's that uncommon though.
And when they are a few months old, they can start to try things out for fun:
- what happens when I knock stuff over?
- what happens when I throw things on the ground?
- what happens when I cry, even though everything is ok?
Apart from that, babies need to train for a longer, better sleep cycle. They might cry, even though they AREN'T awake. Or they might cry in a phase where they are almost awake, but will sleep more later.
That's why you shouldn't pick up a baby IMMEDIATELY when it cries at night. Give it a chance to get back to sleep. (The French call it 'le Pause'.)
wait, didn't you say you're not a parent?
if you don't have to do anything all day but cuddle your baby, then it's fine, but if you have to wash dishes, prepare meals, do laundry, shower, eat, care for other children, mop, sweep, check the mail, take out the trash, pay some bills, do household repairs, etc, you will learn the difference between a cry for hunger, pain, or discomfort and a cry because baby doesn't want to go to bed without you.
I think people are confusing babies with young toddlers in the comments...