I know many people who NEED to keep busy. "Life in the fast lane ", said one. I stretch and luxuriate in being in no particular lane. In the evening I sip tea. My lovely cat goes on the patio each evening and watches the sun go down. Such wisdom in my cat.
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When we're stuck in incessant thinking, other people become 2D characters - we don't see their full being, the suffering they may be going through. Really appreciated that insight, thank you Tara
Have been stuck with thoughts that only way for my son is to see a therapist to address his rage. After listening to this, I will just rest in my love for him, and truly keep trusting in life and God. Life is unfolding as it should. Thank you Tara. Namaste.
Thank you for this. I woke up from a dream and starting journalling my dream that translated into past and present hurt. I found your talks and presence claiming. After two hours of tears flowing from 4.30am - I thought I need a hug...I will listen to Tara. I feel claim now. Thank you so much. Blessed and appreciative of your UA-cam talks 🙏🌻🌼⭐
I’ve been exploring schema therapy with a therapist and it is incredible how this talk fits in with it. Unraveling the unhelpful stories to recover what has authentically been there the whole time. I’m refreshed too that Tara emphasizes the value of critical thinking- some western Buddhists throw “the baby out with the bath water”. Thinking is an adaptive tool, but maladaptive master.
It matters so much to be right, because psychologically it represents safety. Society's present existence has tested, and continues to test our ability to group together en masse, and because our survival instinct is based on a negative bias of threat neutralization, we begin to see that larger groups often use a threat driver to maintain cohesion. We see this in authoritarian theologies, commercial advertisement, political caucuses. There is inevitably an aggressor to be vanquished, avoided, or ignored that require concerted efforts. The perceived reward is safety. Safety is one of the principal needs we become wired to pursue and as a group of groups, have learned to manipulate among ourselves. Studying other species herd behaviors and remembering that WE are herd animals provides a useful context to have a greater understanding of how our instinctual thought structures play thru, and why active cognition is so easily disrupted.
Sitting there and just feeling the emotions; is very hard. I already have mechanisms for fighting off the pain of feeling lost. Its been three years since my ex left me; I tried talking to her but I mean she has moved on. “I moved on, like you should too.” It hurt when she said that. “Don’t get mad at me, cause I’m giving him the world, and not you.” I went out of my way to ensure she was okay and fine. To comfort her, when someone was harassing her to the point she was thinking suicide. I wasn’t perfect hell it was my first rodeo. But I gave it all of what I knew. Ever since she left me, I became cold. My perspective and opinion of women lessened greatly, I grew to hate her to the point of almost wishing death upon her. She was very emotionally abusive to me; and did and said things to me that marriage couples wouldn’t do or say to eachother. But idk why I’m still sad that she’s gone, I let myself go completely. My life is a mess; last I saw her she claimed that she was living her best life. While my world fell apart, I loved her and during that time her parents were getting divorced which did a number I think to her. I can’t do it, I am afraid to try again. I learned a lot sure; but when I give my time to someone that’s what intend to do. She apparently has had many boyfriends since me. Idk I think I’m the bad guy; maybe she’s ether off without me. Maybe I was toxic; I mean I don’t think that I was. I listened to her struggles, was there for her when she needed me, I spoiled the hell out of her. It was hard enough being a Interracial couple, but that didn’t really bother me. In my eyes I fell in love with another human being. But I guess I wasn’t enough. Idk, since then I actually grew to hate myself, and even though I’m in the path to becoming an Accountant I feel like I’m a loser and a piece of crap; she did tell me that I wasn’t all that. Maybe she’s right; seeing how things turned out for me. I’ve lost faith in myself, and I don’t even take care of myself as I should. Life’s been really crappy for me since she left me
Her replies to you were designed to be hurtful. Not "giving The world to you". She is not the world. I'm going through a similar situation. Study into narcissistic abuse. realize that if you made mistakes, the biggest one is letting someone else's Evaluation of you decide how you feel about yourself. Make sure you are seeing a good therapist. As men what I'm discovering is that we think of women as better than ourselves. We are not taught to Manage how we feel. look up Mark Manson lesson 2 For information on this inferiority gap. It's going to take a while for you to learn how to take care of yourself. I'm still learning, and I have every feeling you described in your comment. The only thing that's putting a dent in these horribly painful feelings So far Are Taras meditations on saying yes to painful emotions.
I listened for 15 minutes. In that period of time there were no tools and no advice, just some story telling and a whole lot about what's wrong with thinking. In classic NLP terms, this is called "a moving away from filter" ... that means a whole lot of talk about what's wrong, and no advice at all about how to get "out of the problem and into the solution. I'm sure that a little further along there was something useful ... i just grew weary of hearing the same problem stated 15 different ways, especially since the average human being has over 30,000 thoughts a day.
The point is: Building compassion for who you are. Forgiving yourself. Accepting who you are, accepting the situation. Tara Brach offers lots and lots of tools and you don`t need to watch a talk, there are lots and lots of meditations for free. I have just finished a talk with 3 Reflections. If you do not listen with your heart, experience and apply the teachings no mentor has a solution for you.
I know many people who NEED to keep busy. "Life in the fast lane ", said one. I stretch and luxuriate in being in no particular lane. In the evening I sip tea. My lovely cat goes on the patio each evening and watches the sun go down. Such wisdom in my cat.
When we're stuck in incessant thinking, other people become 2D characters - we don't see their full being, the suffering they may be going through.
Really appreciated that insight, thank you Tara
Have been stuck with thoughts that only way for my son is to see a therapist to address his rage. After listening to this, I will just rest in my love for him, and truly keep trusting in life and God. Life is unfolding as it should. Thank you Tara. Namaste.
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Thank you for this. I woke up from a dream and starting journalling my dream that translated into past and present hurt. I found your talks and presence claiming. After two hours of tears flowing from 4.30am - I thought I need a hug...I will listen to Tara. I feel claim now. Thank you so much. Blessed and appreciative of your UA-cam talks 🙏🌻🌼⭐
I love Tara Brach ! Wish I could meet her someday :)
Namaste Tara. I viewed this at the time I needed to express from my heart. Thank you. I love your reflections. Helps me.
I loved the example and info on "sticky" thoughts - and the feelings underneath.
Thanks for your kind and insightful words Tara.
One of my sayings is, let my mind be a tool of my heart, not vice versa.
So grateful to you for your teachings. Blessings. Thanks. Namaste.
Bless you. Thank you ❤
I’ve been exploring schema therapy with a therapist and it is incredible how this talk fits in with it. Unraveling the unhelpful stories to recover what has authentically been there the whole time. I’m refreshed too that Tara emphasizes the value of critical thinking- some western Buddhists throw “the baby out with the bath water”. Thinking is an adaptive tool, but maladaptive master.
Excellent. Wonderful talk. Thank you.
This is wonderful and helpful. Thank you.
Thanks everyday Tara, your teachings are so true. Thanks for teaching me the true
Lovely expression of feminine whole-brained wisdom coming in strong now as more women find their wise voice and use it.
Thank you Tara. You have a gift and are a gift. Eternally grateful.
Loved this VERY much. BIG thanks for opening my eyes ... 🙏💖
Just what I needed to hear 🙏🙏🙏💚🌏
Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏
Excellent. Just needed this!
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It matters so much to be right, because psychologically it represents safety. Society's present existence has tested, and continues to test our ability to group together en masse, and because our survival instinct is based on a negative bias of threat neutralization, we begin to see that larger groups often use a threat driver to maintain cohesion. We see this in authoritarian theologies, commercial advertisement, political caucuses. There is inevitably an aggressor to be vanquished, avoided, or ignored that require concerted efforts. The perceived reward is safety. Safety is one of the principal needs we become wired to pursue and as a group of groups, have learned to manipulate among ourselves.
Studying other species herd behaviors and remembering that WE are herd animals provides a useful context to have a greater understanding of how our instinctual thought structures play thru, and why active cognition is so easily disrupted.
“Thinking can be a great servant but is a terrible master” Yup - my mind is at war with my heart and I am lost at sea.
Open to exploring meditation contemplation for Peace
Thank you with gratitude for great appreciation of you teaching. I love healing and am on path of ACIM!🤟
What is ACIM?
Mohsin Kazi A Course in Miracles
Kathleen Westbrook I'll google it.I myself am doing Tara and Jack mindfulness teacher training.
Thank you 🙏🏼🧘🏻♀️What year was this dharma talk?
Sitting there and just feeling the emotions; is very hard. I already have mechanisms for fighting off the pain of feeling lost. Its been three years since my ex left me; I tried talking to her but I mean she has moved on. “I moved on, like you should too.” It hurt when she said that. “Don’t get mad at me, cause I’m giving him the world, and not you.” I went out of my way to ensure she was okay and fine. To comfort her, when someone was harassing her to the point she was thinking suicide. I wasn’t perfect hell it was my first rodeo. But I gave it all of what I knew. Ever since she left me, I became cold. My perspective and opinion of women lessened greatly, I grew to hate her to the point of almost wishing death upon her. She was very emotionally abusive to me; and did and said things to me that marriage couples wouldn’t do or say to eachother. But idk why I’m still sad that she’s gone, I let myself go completely. My life is a mess; last I saw her she claimed that she was living her best life. While my world fell apart, I loved her and during that time her parents were getting divorced which did a number I think to her. I can’t do it, I am afraid to try again. I learned a lot sure; but when I give my time to someone that’s what intend to do. She apparently has had many boyfriends since me. Idk I think I’m the bad guy; maybe she’s ether off without me. Maybe I was toxic; I mean I don’t think that I was. I listened to her struggles, was there for her when she needed me, I spoiled the hell out of her. It was hard enough being a Interracial couple, but that didn’t really bother me. In my eyes I fell in love with another human being. But I guess I wasn’t enough. Idk, since then I actually grew to hate myself, and even though I’m in the path to becoming an Accountant I feel like I’m a loser and a piece of crap; she did tell me that I wasn’t all that. Maybe she’s right; seeing how things turned out for me. I’ve lost faith in myself, and I don’t even take care of myself as I should. Life’s been really crappy for me since she left me
Her replies to you were designed to be hurtful. Not "giving The world to you". She is not the world. I'm going through a similar situation. Study into narcissistic abuse. realize that if you made mistakes, the biggest one is letting someone else's Evaluation of you decide how you feel about yourself. Make sure you are seeing a good therapist. As men what I'm discovering is that we think of women as better than ourselves. We are not taught to Manage how we feel. look up Mark Manson lesson 2 For information on this inferiority gap. It's going to take a while for you to learn how to take care of yourself. I'm still learning, and I have every feeling you described in your comment. The only thing that's putting a dent in these horribly painful feelings So far Are Taras meditations on saying yes to painful emotions.
great-full you are exist .
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I listened for 15 minutes. In that period of time there were no tools and no advice, just some story telling and a whole lot about what's wrong with thinking. In classic NLP terms, this is called "a moving away from filter" ... that means a whole lot of talk about what's wrong, and no advice at all about how to get "out of the problem and into the solution. I'm sure that a little further along there was something useful ... i just grew weary of hearing the same problem stated 15 different ways, especially since the average human being has over 30,000 thoughts a day.
The point is: Building compassion for who you are. Forgiving yourself. Accepting who you are, accepting the situation. Tara Brach offers lots and lots of tools and you don`t need to watch a talk, there are lots and lots of meditations for free. I have just finished a talk with 3 Reflections. If you do not listen with your heart, experience and apply the teachings no mentor has a solution for you.