How to know if it's written for you

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  • @Nasy-y2n
    @Nasy-y2n 2 місяці тому +229

    I prayed thahujud ❤ ya rab pls grand all the friends who wants to get married their loved ones in halal way and pls grand all the commenting sis&bros duas❤❤❤❤ pls pray thahujud and 5 times prayer 🤲❤may allah accept your all duas... Pls make dua for yazNasi to go umrah so soon ❤

    • @khaulam100
      @khaulam100 2 місяці тому +1

      Me too...same reason Ameen ❤

    • @binteislam52
      @binteislam52 2 місяці тому +1

      ameen

    • @konikaprapty900
      @konikaprapty900 2 місяці тому +1

      ameen

    • @bismakhan950
      @bismakhan950 2 місяці тому +1

      Aameen

    • @liv16851
      @liv16851 2 місяці тому +2

      May you marry the one you love most. May Allah fulfill your desires amen

  • @drasc1470
    @drasc1470 2 місяці тому +98

    From people Ive seen, when they had deep convinction something they wanted WOULD happen, it did. SubhanAllah. Remember that Allah says He feels shy to give His servents nothing when they turn all their hopes towards Him. That's the love of Allah.

    • @Aishu-kt6fh
      @Aishu-kt6fh 2 місяці тому

      I'm non Muslim will Allah listen to my prayers too ?

    • @drasc1470
      @drasc1470 2 місяці тому +3

      @@Aishu-kt6fh ​ believe it or not, yes. This is what Allah says in the Quran: "I hear and answer the call of the caller whenever he calls Me." Surah baqarah verse 186. Allah uses the word caller, not believer, indicating that He listens to the prayers of anyone who calls out to Him.

    • @soundheart4013
      @soundheart4013 11 днів тому

      @@Aishu-kt6fh Allah, simply means in Arabic The God. Did he not create you ?

    • @Aishu-kt6fh
      @Aishu-kt6fh 11 днів тому +1

      @soundheart4013 I believe he did create us all brother/sister 😊

    • @soundheart4013
      @soundheart4013 11 днів тому +2

      @@Aishu-kt6fh I hope you become Muslim, you were born Muslim, so you are only returning to true faith.

  • @sunshineyellow956
    @sunshineyellow956 2 місяці тому +67

    My notes (full video is mind-opening with its depth!):
    1. Self-fulfilling prophecy: thinking it’s not written can make it so (helpful diagram at 2:01). Use analogy of driving to grocery store: needing to stop at multiple stop signs does not make us stop the journey to the store; similarly, being stopped/rejected multiple times shouldn’t deter us from our goal inshAllah. It’s not a problem if we’re stopped, only a problem if we are dissuaded and give up early. Instead have the mindset of I’ll keep trying while I still live as we’ll only know “it’s not written” if we pass away and haven’t reached our destination. (This commentator’s perspective: even if “not written”, dua is our weapon and can change qadr).
    2. Mindset of alhamdulillah, Allah SWT is saving me from a worse situation. “Happiness only comes from within and from Allah.” Dismantle thoughts about singlehood = bad and marriage = always happy. Blessings wherever Allah has placed us - we should avail these to the fullest. Never put your happiness in someone else’s hands (being sad about needing to wait).

    • @liv16851
      @liv16851 2 місяці тому +1

      If I am not with the person I like, is it because Allah is saving me from something even though I see it as my love? I feel angry for not being able to marry who I love Imade dua and nothings happen

    • @sunshineyellow956
      @sunshineyellow956 2 місяці тому

      @@liv16851 It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “A person will still be answered so long as his du’aa’ does not involve sin or severing ties of kinship, and so long as he does not become impatient.” It was said: O Messenger of Allah, what does being impatient mean? He said: “Saying, I said du’aa’, and I said du’aa’, and I did not receive any response, then he becomes frustrated and stops saying du’aa’.” Narrated by Muslim (2735).

    • @EihaaY
      @EihaaY 2 місяці тому +3

      How do you dismantle when everyone around you is married with kids..it is constantly on my mind. I always ask Allah to give me a sign to stop the search, It is really exhausting.

    • @hayrunissa6419
      @hayrunissa6419 2 місяці тому

      @@liv16851 trust me Allah showed me what it is to feel stuck with this person. We were gonna get married but I felt so depressed because he hurt me so much. Then I learned for sure, yes Ya Rab you really only know this person is bad for me. I prayed so much and my friend too. She was gonna get married and the guy she prayed for messed up her life took her dignity and divorced her.. So really, trust in Allah's Hikmah I know its difficult but you've been here for a reason and this test too.Try to see what benefit this situation gives you and make a lot of duaa and give sadaqah without waiting to be saved instead, Allah wants YOU to take action and see why it is bad. I made duaa on the final when I coudn't bear it anymore, I said Ya Rab, If there is any khair in this situation and I am gonna get happy with this person, make it easy, but If its bad for me and I'll be sad, just make my heart firm on the decision and make it clear without my heart getting broken. Wallahi, after that prayer a lot happened and I saw that he was indeed a bad person for me and I learned SO much and now after 1 year I am so gratefull to Allah swt because I see how the guy does in his life (haram things, changed a lot, follows girls half naked etc.) and now imaging getting married to him feels like Hell. I am so gratefull Allah saved me before marriage but know It was the most difficult decision of my life but I felt like I had to trust Allah and go trough this pain. May Allah make it easy on you to understand the Hikmah and know! Allah knows you too well to not make it happen :) He just wants you to trust Him and see this also for yourself and for you to make a decision. Sometimes we get so deluded because we feel inlove with this person but Wallahi Allah is the owners of the heart, just give your heart to Him and talk to Him how you feel and to show you why He doesn't make it happen without you getting hurt. You'll thank me later! (I normally don't comment on someone so long but I had the feeling you really had to hear this).

    • @BehrouzAya-rc2mg
      @BehrouzAya-rc2mg 2 місяці тому

      @@EihaaY Remember that Allah says He feels shy to give His servants nothing when they turn all their hopes towards Him. That's the love of Allah.

  • @a.j8558
    @a.j8558 2 місяці тому +50

    Guys please make a dua that I get to marry this person I dearly want and be with him in this world and the hereafter with peace and love. I shall make a prayer for you as well ❤❤

    • @mimo4856
      @mimo4856 2 місяці тому +1

      InshAllah you get this person if they are good for you, Ameen. Make dua for me too. JazakAllah Khair.

    • @a.j8558
      @a.j8558 2 місяці тому

      @@mimo4856 made a dua for u 🧡

    • @fairytaleworld7416
      @fairytaleworld7416 Місяць тому

      Ameeen sis
      Do the same dua for me Ameen

    • @SimonaKhan97
      @SimonaKhan97 Місяць тому

      InshaAllah, please make the same dua for me as well sister Ameen

    • @a.j8558
      @a.j8558 Місяць тому

      @@SimonaKhan97 may Allah grant you what you ask for

  • @Unknown00-m7d
    @Unknown00-m7d Місяць тому +6

    A strangers Dua is so powerful, I beg you all to pray for her hidayat, May Allah give her hidayat, melt her heart for me as he melted iron for Dawood ( A.S) and put her in my naseeb, make her my mehram, and melt her and her parents heart so much for me, make her only mine, put her in my naseeb, put all the goodness in her so she can be mine and put so much love for me in her heart ❤️ Ameen! 🥺❤️. Say Ameen for at least 30 times 😭🙏🏻

    • @ibrahimansari1630
      @ibrahimansari1630 25 днів тому +1

      AMEEN BROTHER MAKE THE SAME DUA FOR ME

    • @kehfilwara1692
      @kehfilwara1692 15 днів тому

      @@Unknown00-m7d Aameen
      Brother! May Allah accept your duas with khayr. May Allah open doors of Nikkah for you with the girl you want and may both of you be good for each other and bring each other closer to Allah. Aameen
      May Allah bless me with a righteous man who loves me as such to want just me and pray for me. Aameen 🤲
      Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqeer.

  • @DaniJ81
    @DaniJ81 2 місяці тому +16

    I am of orthodox faith and I love your content. Thank you very much. 43 and unmarried and just accepted it a couple of month ago, that this is my life and I am grateful that none of my exes became my husband. You are truely a gem and I know God is protecting me 💙

  • @GC-hv7mc
    @GC-hv7mc 2 місяці тому +7

    You are helping soo many sisters who have been struggling with these thoughts and problems for soo long. Its so nice to see such a fresh and reassuring perspective on all this marriage stuff. So grateful for you. I pray Allah rewards and blesses you abundantly.

  • @musichub4602
    @musichub4602 2 місяці тому +34

    wow i just cried about it in my prayer a few hours ago and your video shows up out of nowhere

    • @Soulful_42
      @Soulful_42 2 місяці тому +1

      Same with me 🥺

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому

      Please pray for me that i meet him in the most beautiful way😭I really love him a lot❤please pray that i get married to him.. Ameen🥺

    • @Soulful_42
      @Soulful_42 28 днів тому

      @@humera4259 please pray the same for me Please🥺🥺😭😭 I want to marry and be with only and only Him..please pray to Allah to unite me with him in the most beautiful way please😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺😭🙏🏻😭😭

  • @zaheerahmedvdf
    @zaheerahmedvdf 2 місяці тому +38

    38 alhamdulillah - please make dua for me that Allah give me the patience to be on the path so I may receive my spouse inshaaAllah perhaps one of you are closer to Allah

    • @sakura142
      @sakura142 2 місяці тому +15

      I have a cousin who recently got married at 39 approx MA tabarakAllah and even conceived within a month. She just became mom to a baby boy ! She's very happy in her marriage MA. Keep your hopes and prayers alive.

    • @zaheerahmedvdf
      @zaheerahmedvdf 2 місяці тому +5

      @@sakura142 Allahuma Barik and jazakallah Khair for this🫶🏽

    • @nowhere-qj5bd
      @nowhere-qj5bd 2 місяці тому +2

      aameen Ya Allah
      bi Rehmatika Ya Mujeebu Ya Wahhabu Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum
      Allah hu Akbar Alhamdulillah

    • @zaheerahmedvdf
      @zaheerahmedvdf 2 місяці тому +2

      @@nowhere-qj5bd JazakAllah Khair, may Allah give you the same and more!

    • @nowhere-qj5bd
      @nowhere-qj5bd 2 місяці тому +1

      @@zaheerahmedvdf aameen Ya ALLAH
      bi Rehmatika Ya Mujeebu Ya Wahhabu Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum
      Allah hu Akbar

  • @fathimaheenahasmi6706
    @fathimaheenahasmi6706 2 місяці тому +8

    Unmarried folks out here, here's a bit of hope for y'all. Recite this dua to get a pious spouse in which we all could find peace in. I pray we all find the missing part of ours soon, In Shaa Allah..
    رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ "
    " وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
    (“rabbana hablana min azwajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A’yunin waj’alna lil- muttaqina imama”)
    “Our Lord, grant us from among our pious spouse and offsprings comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.”
    (Surah Furqan:74)

  • @areeshasultan8077
    @areeshasultan8077 2 місяці тому +9

    Your video kept appearing on my feed, even after I refreshed it several times. After giving it some thought, I felt maybe it was a sign, so I finally decided to watch it.❤

  • @Fathimafaroosha-u7m
    @Fathimafaroosha-u7m 2 місяці тому +10

    I am 39, Please make dua for me to get righteous spouse.May Allah make our affairs ease and grant righteous spouse for the sisters who didn't marry yet.

    • @marriamshah5895
      @marriamshah5895 Місяць тому +1

      May Allah swt grant u righteous spouse❤

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому

      Please pray for me that i meet him in the most beautiful way😭I really love him a lot❤please pray that i get married to him.. Ameen🥺

  • @admensch
    @admensch 2 місяці тому +3

    I am convinced that Allah svt gave us our true desires into our hearts not to torture us but to give it to us if we have the right mindset so through our subconcious we will reach it...insaAllah... and why should Allah svt give the one believer his dreams and the other one not...that seems not to be fair..
    It seems all to be an energetic game...someone said once "Your belief is Your destiny"...salam

  • @iqrarasul
    @iqrarasul 2 місяці тому +7

    i needed this. may Allah SWT bless you so much sister 💕

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому

      Please pray for me that i meet him in the most beautiful way😭I really love him a lot❤please pray that i get married to him.. Ameen🥺

  • @phoenixxx0901
    @phoenixxx0901 2 місяці тому +5

    Omg. Thank you my sister. I needed to hear your words.

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому

      Please pray for me that i meet him in the most beautiful way😭I really love him a lot❤please pray that i get married to him.. Ameen🥺

  • @Aliz.A-Media
    @Aliz.A-Media 2 місяці тому +6

    Sister Lama!!! You are Amazing and doing such an incredible Job! May Allah protect and reward you with more knowledge and all good!

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому

      Please pray for me that i meet him in the most beautiful way😭I really love him a lot❤please pray that i get married to him.. Ameen🥺

  • @hayrunissa6419
    @hayrunissa6419 2 місяці тому +3

    subhanAllah, I was today and yesterday thinking maybe Its not meant for me? or maybe Allah wants me to just know Its not meant for me (because I have a limited belief that I don't deserve good which is from shaytaan) I am really learning about myself too. Jazakallahu khairan sis for making these videos I am beyond thankfull and Alhamdullillah how Allah guides us :) Your video popped up and I was immeadiatly suprised and understand that indeed Allah wants me to stop my limiting beliefs which is why its getting delayed still. We love you Ya Rab,the most Mercifull

  • @11hanim
    @11hanim 2 місяці тому +1

    MasyaAllah, love the way you deliver the message. Very clear & calm.

  • @Cavid.M
    @Cavid.M Місяць тому +1

    First financial issue second compatibility are the issues for alot of the men in so many places in the world.

  • @RetroHero404
    @RetroHero404 12 днів тому

    Yo i like your examples. Good job and respect for helping people out

  • @xmariamk
    @xmariamk 2 місяці тому +2

    Please make dua for me, that Allah grants my duas, forgives me and help me get into my dream med school. ameen. May Allah grant all your duas and Jannah for you ameen

  • @abdullahihalane6473
    @abdullahihalane6473 4 дні тому

    Jazakillah, I needed this

  • @malaymuslimah
    @malaymuslimah 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much for this advice! I've been having doubts lately but Alhamdulillah I came across your video. This certainly makes me feel more at ease. May Allah bless you and your family. ❤

  • @Rubiyafarooq
    @Rubiyafarooq 28 днів тому +1

    I needed this😊 Please make dua for me to get goods marks in all my upcoming exams🤲

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому +2

      Sum ameen♥Same here as well.. Ameen✨

    • @Rubiyafarooq
      @Rubiyafarooq 28 днів тому

      @@humera4259 Sum Ameen🤍

  • @nourali9148
    @nourali9148 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you for this. May Allah SWT bless you. Please make duaa for me.

  • @ilhanamuminovic
    @ilhanamuminovic 2 місяці тому

    Thank you sister for this video,i've been constantly thinking like this,that is not written for me and i've been sad but i will try to change this ❤

  • @hanah3529
    @hanah3529 2 місяці тому +1

    I havent even finished watching the vid and my eyes are opened👁👁

  • @CognitiveRippleKalena
    @CognitiveRippleKalena 2 місяці тому

    Lama you out here saving lives ! Allah humma barrik. Thank you so much for these videos. Might need to sign up for coaching because I need some more tips and steps!

  • @amirmajeed2227
    @amirmajeed2227 2 місяці тому

    If u ever read this i want say that
    It is really an eye opening video

  • @newmails
    @newmails 2 місяці тому

    Assalamualaikum lama, I was so tensed bacause of some issues like i am always oh who will be my spouse what will be his behaviour cux my parensts are talking with me for my rishta it's been like 2 months i was so tensed but suddenly i opened up yotube and saw your video on fyp, I think this was a sign from Allah, your words litterally flipped my way of thinking also it's my first time wattching your vid
    Thanks to Allah swt❣
    Thanks to you and please no matter what keep making these videos you are a gem Jazakallah💝♥♥

  • @J-12863
    @J-12863 2 місяці тому

    Jazak Allah very useful for my current situation😊

  • @JC-ce8uw
    @JC-ce8uw 2 місяці тому +4

    I have a feeling I won’t get married or to a bad person. My intuition tells me this.

  • @anikaseraj2702
    @anikaseraj2702 2 місяці тому

    Just what I needed! I was thinking about this topic yesterday, and today, your video shows up on my feed!

  • @Intisar-q7x
    @Intisar-q7x 2 місяці тому +3

    Jazakkallah that was so beneficial and yes pls make more videos related to that topic

    • @Yasmin-pj2ek
      @Yasmin-pj2ek 2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you soo much for this please do part 2 being single etc inshAllah❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jungkookslonghairarebackby1924
    @jungkookslonghairarebackby1924 2 місяці тому +2

    A requestt from a teenage Muslim girl whos really struggling right now to pray for her. I fell in love with a guy please pray to Allah that He makes the path towards marriage easy for us and if we are for each other He helps us make it work bcs we have many differences marriage is really hard for us. Please pray to Allah to grant us what is best for us and save us from harm, Ameen.🤍 JazakAllah to everyone who took time to read/make dua. May Allah forgive our sins.

    • @sayeeda2545
      @sayeeda2545 Місяць тому +1

      Do istekhara! The way will be automatically cleared towards or against as Allah s.w.t knew the unseen. And He is alone is capable of all. May he make it easy and halal asap. AMEEN

    • @kehfilwara1692
      @kehfilwara1692 11 днів тому

      @@jungkookslonghairarebackby1924 Aameen
      May Allah open doors of Nikkah for you with the one best for you. May Allah grant your love in Halal if it’s khayr for you. May Allah make things easy for you.
      As a Sister, I would suggest you to not be in contact with that person in anyway, not in through messages or calls, cut if off for the Sake of Allah, then make sincere Duas to Allah, make the Dua of Istikhara and pray Tahajjud, in Sha Allah, You’ll be blessed with the best life partner. May Allah give me the best husband as well who becomes the coolness of eyes and comfort of my heart. May I be blessed with pious in-laws too. Aameen

  • @Zoha.101
    @Zoha.101 2 місяці тому +6

    Salam guys. I am a muslim sister please pray for me to find a spouse.

    • @bitiboy786
      @bitiboy786 2 місяці тому

      You from GAZA? 😢

  • @Larasunshine9
    @Larasunshine9 2 місяці тому +1

    Jazaka Allah kheir ✨

  • @Drmeow786
    @Drmeow786 2 місяці тому

    Jazak Allah khairan kaseera ❤️‍🩹

  • @E.Cerulean
    @E.Cerulean 2 місяці тому +3

    Everything is written though. Thats the Aqeedah of Ahl Sunnah wal jama'a. What you think doesnt produce anything in terms of destiny. You make choices and Allah already know the consequences, and He has written it already. Just make dua, be smart, do your best, make decisions based on the Quran and Sunnah and be flexible for whatever happens.

  • @---bq2hq
    @---bq2hq 2 місяці тому

    love your videos so much, may Allah reward you ❤

  • @aishashaik-qs2of
    @aishashaik-qs2of 2 місяці тому +1

    جزاك الله خير ❤

  • @lubnapatel9891
    @lubnapatel9891 2 місяці тому

    Perfectly said❤
    Bulb on👏🏻

  • @ubiquitousinfluence
    @ubiquitousinfluence 2 місяці тому +34

    Free my girls from the shackles of singlehood and lifting heavy objects themselves.

  • @AyaWanda
    @AyaWanda 2 місяці тому

    I believe that Allah SWT is in control of your affairs. All of it. You working for something is a sign that he guided you and compelled you to a marriage because it was written for you. So yes we work for it, but the outcome was written before you were born. Whether you think of it or not, that is just how it is.

  • @abbyk7341
    @abbyk7341 2 місяці тому +8

    Thank you so much for this video! I haven't finished the video yet but I'm excited to watch. I do have a question though, how do I tackle the situations where I do long for this person on and off whilst trying to set them free once I made duaa for them to enter my life. Ive found the balance to be tricky. In some moments I'm free, and other moments, I can handle the feelings of longing, but there are times where I does goet me down. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Alhamdulillah Im feeling much better after watching your videos, but I would like to know what to do once the wave of loneliness comes back. Jazakallahi kheir

    • @fajjyy5128
      @fajjyy5128 2 місяці тому +1

      Once the wave of lonlieness comes back ensure you go straight to Allah, go pray extra, make extra duas, remind yourself the feelings you feel are from the shaytaan, you did the right thing and Inshallah Allah will bless you with a marriage full of goodness to your loved one, once you make dua learn to let go and have tawakkul, distract yourself with other things in your life, focus on the positive aspects remember Allah makes the impossible possible and all you can do is completely trust in your Lord, may Allah bless you with your loved one and grant you a beautiful marriage. Don't forget to pray tahajjud often even if it's just once a week you could do it every friday. I pray Allah eases your burdens

    • @abbyk7341
      @abbyk7341 2 місяці тому +2

      @@fajjyy5128 Jazakallahi kheir for such a beautiful response, may Allah SWT grant you jannat al firdous

    • @fajjyy5128
      @fajjyy5128 2 місяці тому

      @@abbyk7341 of course my love, I hope everything eases for you, you're in my duas please do keep me in your prayers also that I marry him and our marriage is blessed with goodness

  • @shagynaz
    @shagynaz 2 місяці тому +1

    Thanking you sis ❤

  • @Yours.4.-.143
    @Yours.4.-.143 Місяць тому

    In shaa Allah my dua will be answered and you'll be mine forever and ever 😭😭😭💜💜💜💜 ,please put me In your dua

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому +1

      Ameen✨Please pray for me that i meet him in the most beautiful way😭I really love him a lot❤please pray that i get married to him.. Ameen🥺

    • @Yours.4.-.143
      @Yours.4.-.143 28 днів тому +1

      @@humera4259 Ameen to both of us💜💜💝

    • @humera4259
      @humera4259 28 днів тому +1

      @@Yours.4.-.143 Sum ameen🥺Jazakallah✨

  • @humera4259
    @humera4259 28 днів тому

    Please pray for me that i meet him in the most beautiful way😭I really love him a lot❤please pray that i get married to him.. Ameen🥺

  • @busrakucukkendirci
    @busrakucukkendirci 2 місяці тому +11

    3:53 I wanted to ask that, I am 27 and thinking that sometimes I think the possibility that maybe Allah is not written it for me (not like giving up) but I am okay with it because I am single but I am trying to reach my goals and dreams and I am not pausing my life, so I accepted that if it is not written for me. But does this mindset prevents any possible chance to meet someone or to get married? Because I wanna marry but I am okay with the possibility of not getting married ever if it is not good for me I know Allah provides the best for me. What do you think about this kind of a mindset?

    • @khadijahuthmann
      @khadijahuthmann 2 місяці тому +4

      Well, for me personally i guess she should answer your question but if mine will help i guess you should also consider it. Firstlywhat is written is written and cant be changed. But sometimes it can be changed thats if it has potential of shifting talking about how deep your connection is with Allah, here am not saying when you have deep connection with Allah then whatever dua you make is going to be shifted or answered like you cant make dua for allah to change the date you are going to die or make dua for allah to return to back in your mothers womb so that you can be a girl or a boy not that type dua. What am saying here is if its written it will find ypur way regardless how old you are but if its not written then those dua you made allah will save them for you until you reach jannah then you will see your dua right in front of you allahu aalam what is that but the reward is massive, and you also talk about whether you should be okay by not thinking, i guess its important you think about it but dont let it consume you soo much, i remembera popular hadith the messenger of Allah says he would feel sad for the youth that passes away not married so its important to think about it because its the sunnah of our beloved prophet and your chances of getting closer to allah and going to jannah is easier when you marry the right person for the right reason and its a dream for every parents. Am 28yrs single also lost my dad 6yrs ago my mum 3 months ago that is enough reason for me to probably say am okay to not want to marry but thats the only thing that will make them more happier. In shaa Allah you are exactly where allah wants to see you and your spouse will come sooner or later just keep your intentions pure and by allah will make everything easy i hope it helped you salam alaikum.

    • @busrakucukkendirci
      @busrakucukkendirci 2 місяці тому +2

      @@khadijahuthmann alaikum salam, I guess there is a misunderstanding I am not saying I do not want to get married or not using chances for getting married, I am just saying that since I am single I just focus on living my life and sometimes I am just considering that (not in a hopeless manner) maybe marriage is not written for me but it is fine, I know Allah will provide the best in Jannah. By saying I am okay with it I meant that😌 but as she said we can only know when we die whether it is written or not. So maybe it is a wrong mindset since it can attract the wrong people in our lives but I consider this as a possibility not every person get married. But I assume focusing on an idea ‘there is one for me that Allah chosen in this world’ is better as she mentioned.
      May Allah ease your hardship and struggle and bless you with Jannah😊

    • @bitiboy786
      @bitiboy786 2 місяці тому

      ​@busrakucukkendirci if you want to get married even tho it may seem your okay with it not being written. But lowkey you want to. Read TAHAJJUD it is the key to all problems. Read it everyday, and I think this is a sign your gonna get married soon in'sha'Allah

    • @myronbolitar7403
      @myronbolitar7403 Місяць тому +1

      That's the mindset of completely surrendering to the will of Allah.
      Allah knows the best but that's one of the best mindset one could have. Like you said, it's not about giving up, but accepting that no matter what the outcome is, if there's any good in it, then Allah will make it happen for you.

    • @busrakucukkendirci
      @busrakucukkendirci Місяць тому

      @@myronbolitar7403 thank u ☺

  • @nadhaaw4748
    @nadhaaw4748 2 місяці тому

    salam :), jazakAllah khayyyr lama

  • @codylujan
    @codylujan Місяць тому

    I'm 30 and watching all my friends..all of them mind you, be married, have kids and all my coworkers are married and have kids, I travel and all pedestrians are with someone or have kids that look my age, it really pokes at me.
    I'm a practicing vedic (hindu) and the scripture also says to let your ego go but this is the last front I have to battle. I've conquered a lot in my life but I cannot seem to get a relationship. I have no idea what to do. It is frustrating and exhausting even with daily meditation and spiritual practice.

  • @minanelgaali3092
    @minanelgaali3092 13 днів тому

    Can you do a Q&A for youtube?

  • @BosniannMuslim
    @BosniannMuslim 2 місяці тому +12

    The thing is if youre not married its so easy to fall in haram especially as a male , which can lead you to hell. Sure you can fight the temptation but you will fall eventually its so depressing. Even the prophete said get married as soon as possible

    • @Sara-yi6dq
      @Sara-yi6dq Місяць тому +1

      the sames goes for women. women also have just as much desire to get married if not more than men.

    • @BosniannMuslim
      @BosniannMuslim Місяць тому +3

      @@Sara-yi6dq youre right, i would argue that its worser for women because they can fall in sin easier then men, its easy for a woman to have sex nowadays outside marriage. Its getting harder for both genders because of communities like red pill telling men to go their own ways, and feminist groups for women telling them they’re independent and dont need a man, when in reality its a very hard and depressing life to be alone without a spouse.

    • @AsmaBellay
      @AsmaBellay 18 днів тому

      Salam even if it's hard to stay disciplined, you have to try, everyday. Even if you fail some days, you will became stronger and resist. Nothing is impossible.
      Things will get easy if you think it's easy.
      Male or female, it can be hard for both, shaytan come at everybody

    • @RetroHero404
      @RetroHero404 12 днів тому

      I would like to disagree a bit. Like male and female bodies and hormones differ and i feel male have more raging hormones. And also its for a woman to get married compared to a man.

  • @LordsofHeavenn
    @LordsofHeavenn Місяць тому

    Please have a podcast with Sahil adeem

  • @azel9993
    @azel9993 2 місяці тому

    Watching from Kashmir

  • @solution42
    @solution42 2 місяці тому +1

    the problem with me is where I live (europe) there is literally no men available in my nationality. I mean neither do europeans talk to me or make a move nor an other guy with other nationality do. So the only platform I can talk to men is instragram or facebook. I talked to bunch of people. The problem is either they are far away or they are pathetic. I`ve never been able to talk to men where they have real intentions they either wanted something sexual/see me as an object or had weird character. I`m not picky Allah knows I spoke to every men possible (ugly,handsome, middle, with job, without job, my nationality, not my nationality even disabled ones etc.) It literally doesn`t end up well so I stopped talking. I`m waiting for that guy that will talk to me in real life and take actions. I`m really fed up not finding someone online. And let me tell you neither my family nor my friends help to find someone so I gave up and I`m fed up to be honest.

    • @ÄãbirIslam98
      @ÄãbirIslam98 2 місяці тому

      Hi.. 😅😂😅😂. Eaurope is hard to get a good practicing muslim for marriage. -- And same thought I have thought I just want to get married. Disable, unble, good looking, not good looking, homeless. just to be strong practicing muslim, with good character. But then I thought just being patient, pray to Allah and continously looking for one. That said chill..😅😂😂. Allah will give it at right time...

  • @kk-kk352
    @kk-kk352 2 місяці тому

    Plz pray i marry the one I want ameen

  • @GytSigma
    @GytSigma 2 місяці тому

    Am only 11 but am scared I will be lonely forver pls make dua so i can husband in future😢😢😢

  • @MMoavia0
    @MMoavia0 Місяць тому

    im very sad and very depressed about I don't do the the work I want to do. but I do little good things daily and don't make any pregress.

  • @ibrahimansari1630
    @ibrahimansari1630 25 днів тому

    Make dua guys for me that i marry this girl I'm madly in love with

  • @AbdimajidGuhad
    @AbdimajidGuhad 2 місяці тому +1

    😂😂😂 you are so funny but what you saying is truth Wallahi dua is biggest weapon Muslim has ❤❤
    Dua is your biggest weapon we need to remember story of Ibrahim and zakariye they both asked Allah to give them children so many years asking Allah same dua

  • @montassirelhayani
    @montassirelhayani 2 місяці тому +1

    who makes u make the dua of getting married? he'll help u to it

  • @Iamthatgirl286
    @Iamthatgirl286 2 місяці тому

    Yesss❤❤❤

  • @aleynaimroll
    @aleynaimroll 2 місяці тому

    Thanks sis❤

  • @ain8nia
    @ain8nia 2 місяці тому +2

    I want an advice if anybody could help I would consider it as a sign from Allah swt - I got a proposal and it's quite ok but I feel the this is not the person I prayed for not the kind of man I wanted..my family and parents are happy with this proposal and all seems well but here I am still not happy but cannot reject because the proposal seems good and I am 29 and have lot of acnes and dark spots and have very low self esteem but big dreams which is a bad combination I know but I am soo confused....I am torn between the duas I made and pictured in my head and now this happening im not even attracted to the guy and feel like he's not the one for me but I cannot say this and reject ...I will be questioned why and I fear I would not be able to explain to my family why....I want a brutally honest answer if I should shut up and accept/ if I am really being ungrateful/ or whatever it is...I really want some real advice...I feel soo stuck

    • @thaslimaali2971
      @thaslimaali2971 2 місяці тому +1

      Personally, if I was in your position I would reject. Your gut feeling is telling you that you don’t want him, which is a big enough sign from Allah to not go ahead with it. If I’m being honest, you should work on yourself to become more confident. If roles were reversed, would you want an insecure partner? You should focus on being the best version of yourself, rather than being in a life long commitment with someone you would be miserable with.
      That marriage is gonna be hell cause your insecurities are eventually gonna show & men always use it to their advantage. I get everyone has their insecurities but judging by what you’ve said, it sounds like the guy seems decent on paper & the reason a part of you isn’t feeling it, is because you think he’s too good for you. You really need to focus on yourself for the time being.
      Because you will meet someone who has the things you want in’sha’Allah. Maybe you could get to meet someone that YOU want to know & take your time with it e.g. dating apps. Not necessarily what your parents want.

    • @Cavid.M
      @Cavid.M Місяць тому

      Listen sister Allah knows best, but I try my best to give you a sincere advice as follows. First of all you have to know that nobody is able to find his or her life partner who is matching her or him 100 percent even twins are not matching each other like that ok? Second you have to see how much compatible you are with him in different aspects of life maybe you have to talk to him to know him more.
      And third you have to make istikhara prayer so that Allah swt guide you to the right choice which is good for your religion and your life.
      Remember sister that time passes so fast and as we grow older our options shrink more, so make the wise choice. May Allah help all of us .

  • @ludwigrando5603
    @ludwigrando5603 2 місяці тому

    You writing to me,i see your letter

  • @MMoavia0
    @MMoavia0 Місяць тому

    im struggling with my mind set i dont know what happen to me. i don't know

  • @eman1145
    @eman1145 5 днів тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @n_utd
    @n_utd 20 днів тому

    same wrong mentality which is, do everythi ng before marriage, otherwise once you are married you will be in jail. this is so wrong. if you expect a marriage to be a jail then you may end up in jail. instead say im gonna build my life and career and achieve my goals with my husband. travel together and live in idfferent states together. in fact im not sure if its permissible at all ladies live in different states alone without mahram

  • @hamzee13
    @hamzee13 2 місяці тому

    Ok let's marry

  • @alveerasmystery357
    @alveerasmystery357 2 місяці тому

    What about divorce

  • @new.yasemin
    @new.yasemin Місяць тому

    I thought this was about money/business.

  • @eashelfarooq12
    @eashelfarooq12 2 місяці тому +2

    Asalamualikum.
    Plz at least 40 People make Dua For me That I get admission in medical college ( MBBS) Ameen. PLEASE it is A humble request.

  • @aayatalsaeed1502
    @aayatalsaeed1502 2 місяці тому

    But what if it's me not allah i am the one who didn't study so i failed and i am late one year I can't say allah have sth for me in the future it's me who made my self late and if i worked from the beginning i would have been in other place having better chance

  • @gochohee
    @gochohee 2 місяці тому +1

    Would we really know? Isnt it only Allah knows?

  • @nissrinehirche7075
    @nissrinehirche7075 2 місяці тому

    can you add arabe subtitles

  • @aadibakhan5212
    @aadibakhan5212 2 місяці тому

    Please someone hindi translate m

  • @aizadaaimakhanova2570
    @aizadaaimakhanova2570 2 місяці тому

    I am sorry I want to make critic comment.You need ti improve your way of delivering.I really wanted to understand and learn but thoughts were chaotic

  • @Suleman-u9q
    @Suleman-u9q 2 місяці тому

    try not show yourself publicly sister

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 17 днів тому

      Why she is properly covered