ASMR | Gf reassures you over abandonment issues | [F4A] [NB4A] [comfort] [reassurance] [I'm dumb]

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  • @coreymcgivney5897
    @coreymcgivney5897 3 роки тому +171

    I don’t think I have abandonment issues but I do have loneliness and guilt issues so still helps me, particularly the “don’t say sorry” part, you are literally the best lance. 😊

    • @Wolfsong27FlyHalfFullHeart
      @Wolfsong27FlyHalfFullHeart 2 роки тому +1

      I always say don’t apologise just don’t hurt someone…simple really

    • @DucksDontQuack
      @DucksDontQuack 2 роки тому +3

      I always worry if people I love abandon me and I say sorry over everything and the “don’t say sorry” part broke me

  • @noahagrice
    @noahagrice 3 роки тому +70

    I always worry about being too clingy
    so this is just wonderful for me, It's validation that I don't ever get. thank you a bunch!

  • @fortminorproject
    @fortminorproject 2 роки тому +4

    I have bad trust issues and abandonment issues . This was so comforting I wish someone could care about my feelings like this.

  • @kimjisoo9673
    @kimjisoo9673 3 роки тому +8

    this person really had me blushing the whole time

  • @XartyVA
    @XartyVA 3 роки тому +32

    The second I saw it pop up in my Subscription tab, I literally dropped everything I was doing, ran to my bed, put my earphones in and listened to this roleplay while hugging my dakimakura, even though it was just 6pm.
    I was indeed crying today and I do get really worried whenever people I send messages to don't reply without any explanation. It might be partially caused by anxiety though.
    This roleplay, just like your other ones (even the reverse comfort RPs), felt so realistic I got physically involved in it - I smiled when you jokingly told me to "turn that frown upside down", I raised my pinky when you talked about a pinky promise, I chuckled when you were talking about Chinese food (according to the Q&A it's your favorite).
    Sometimes I just wish I could have such a partner...
    This RP indeed comforted me right when I needed that and I can't wait for the next ones. But of course feel free to make them when you're able to, without rushing.
    I won't mind you ditching all feminine related descriptions either, I totally respect you being non-binary and I think that your personality is what matters the most, not your specifically sounding voice.
    Thank you so much for your work, it always helps me in the rough times.

    • @historynerd6986
      @historynerd6986 3 роки тому +1

      AGREED I have at least two to three people at my high school that are non-binary and I try so hard with my shitty memory to remember

  • @SenailCooledge
    @SenailCooledge 3 роки тому +5

    Being forgotten about is one of my biggest fears. Not because I'm vain, but because of the emotions behind realizing that someone important to you just... forgot you existed. I pretty much stay close to whoever I'm out and about with, cuz I'm that paranoid of being left behind.

  • @T0P-Princess
    @T0P-Princess 3 роки тому +5

    The fact that today was the day I decided I wanted better....to stop running from the fear and negativity I've been holding onto for so many years. First time on UA-cam today and your vid is at the top.
    Lance, Thank You. Truly.

  • @camilleball1500
    @camilleball1500 3 роки тому +20

    The feeling of security that I get from this is unmatched because of my attachment and abandonment issues that I’ve suffered. I really appreciate this!!!

  • @solodolo2259
    @solodolo2259 3 роки тому +13

    I had the hardest day ever, but whenever I listen to your audios my day feel a lot better.. thanks 😊

  • @idvstella
    @idvstella 3 роки тому +29

    AH i clicked so fast i cant wait to listen to this, i’m glad ur back to posting !!! happy wednesday ❤️

  • @willowleavey1541
    @willowleavey1541 3 роки тому +6

    Willow - *has a therapy session phone call with one of their friends about abandonment issues etc* that was nice.
    Lance - *posts a video*
    Willow - *cackles in c-ptsd* oh they’re gonna get me fucked up aren’t they

  • @tazlambird
    @tazlambird Рік тому

    Dude 13:50 actually hit me so hard cus my mom literally gives me the silent treatment after we have an argument (as if she’s not a grown ass woman and I’m not literally in high school). I was crocheting and I just had to have a pause for a few seconds

  • @angeliqueroux3017
    @angeliqueroux3017 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for making this. 2 love bombing situations just fizzled out. Again. These audios make me believe that healthy, understanding, warm and stable relationships exist. Thank you 🤍

  • @ashbones2339
    @ashbones2339 2 роки тому +4

    I have pretty bad abandonment issues so this really comforted by this thank you lance i love you ❤️

  • @sleepy_bugs4166
    @sleepy_bugs4166 2 роки тому +5

    I needed this immediately.. my girlfriend has been gone for 3 days now and I'm scared that she's injured or as worse as this sounds.. died.. it's very hard to take this situation easy- but I'll be okay listening to your audios on repeat reminds and think of my darling so- thanks Lance I really appreciate it(I know it's a late response buut I just watched it today here's a heart for you ❤️ and have I good day/night)

  • @puglife658
    @puglife658 3 роки тому +2

    Their voice is so calming what the heck

  • @albusdumbledore5993
    @albusdumbledore5993 3 роки тому +11

    WOOOOO IM TOO HYPED RN 😭 WE MISSED YOU!!
    Finally got the chance to listen this! I was all sad and shi but the teacher’s speak made me giggle 😭❤️ This is very much comforting!! Why did I get emotional here 😭 I rlly love this!!

  • @ladymacbek
    @ladymacbek 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you, Lance. I have major abandonment issues and this was so comforting 🥺

  • @bork5002
    @bork5002 3 роки тому +3

    I’ve been searching for a audio like this for a while, I’m so glad it was you that made it, it made it 1000x better thank you for this💜

  • @cricket2591
    @cricket2591 3 роки тому +9

    Lance!!! You can always put NB4A If you want!!! (Litterally cried during this. Hope u feeling better!)

  • @Meikiku79
    @Meikiku79 Рік тому +1

    You’re such a beautiful soul, this moved my heart.😀

  • @jalenstrother5977
    @jalenstrother5977 3 роки тому +1

    You literally make the best asmrs i cannot stress this enough ; and sometimes theyre really relatable, so thank you!

  • @lukeytutube
    @lukeytutube 3 роки тому +4

    such a soothing voice
    thankyou for the audio

  • @knife47
    @knife47 3 роки тому +2

    They are the best person in knife’s life, knife would not have it any other way!

  • @xbl0p0
    @xbl0p0 3 роки тому +3

    This is so sweet and caring! It really helps

  • @snoopo2461
    @snoopo2461 3 роки тому +3

    i appreciate every bit of your existence . :)

  • @AliceRain
    @AliceRain Рік тому

    This audio made my day and helped me get through a break down, thank You

  • @kriggetkrigget
    @kriggetkrigget 3 роки тому +1

    Oh my god I started jumping and squealing when I saw the notif jdsmfbsk
    Update: I just finished listening to the audio and god- it's stupid that I cried so much fkdfbdk
    I've missed you so muchhh! Amazing audios lance!!!

  • @granpappy269
    @granpappy269 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you soo much Lance, I don't know how you do it but you some how manage to help my heart feel a little less empty ❤

  • @restlesssheep2453
    @restlesssheep2453 3 роки тому +1

    this was absurdly soothing

  • @imuyanirata
    @imuyanirata 3 роки тому +1

    FINALLYYY WE MISSED YOU!!

  • @spidergalva
    @spidergalva 3 роки тому +1

    Best comfort channel right here

  • @cucumber7199
    @cucumber7199 3 роки тому +3

    Cucumber Approved

  • @lhiveni
    @lhiveni 3 роки тому +1

    I am telling you I SCREAMED "OMG THEY POSTED 😭"

  • @inkproduction9665
    @inkproduction9665 2 роки тому +1

    One day I may have a girl who cares like this

  • @ellinor616
    @ellinor616 3 роки тому +1

    I found your channel today (no joke) and this is heaven 😅 my pan self is very very happy!

  • @elitedata2780
    @elitedata2780 3 роки тому +1

    I definitely need this theme, thank u!!! I will see to night

  • @dana4545
    @dana4545 3 роки тому

    you don’t have an idea of how much i needed this😭

  • @dimetime35c
    @dimetime35c 2 роки тому +2

    I feel like a little kid sometimes. I have abandonment issues. Like if they leave my mind will freak and say they are never coming back. I get the out of sight means gone forever panic.

  • @21abel
    @21abel 2 роки тому

    this made me cry fr ur so sweet

  • @mangokiller2873
    @mangokiller2873 2 роки тому

    I can't ever finish these videos I'm crying too much..

  • @hi_itsjoanna_9403
    @hi_itsjoanna_9403 3 роки тому

    Yeayy youre posting again!! I miss ur vids so much🥺💘 I have abandonment issues so this helps soo much!! I literally sobs while watching- Thank you for always making these amazing vids, sometimes I feel like nobody likes me or even care abt me so I really wanna say a big thanks to you, Lance❤❤

  • @coqxette_princess
    @coqxette_princess 3 роки тому +1

    Your back!

  • @thenargles
    @thenargles 3 роки тому

    While this one isn't aimed at me, I still listened to the end. You are sooo loving and caring, Lance. I aspire to be as good a person as you should I ever find myself in a relationship again!
    P.S. just hearing your voice genuinely makes me feel uplifted while self-isolating this week.

  • @Lianna_Is_Me
    @Lianna_Is_Me 3 роки тому +1

    I have abandonment issues this really helps me out

  • @dolphrimp
    @dolphrimp 3 роки тому

    Whee Lance welcome back! And stay safe!

  • @Saylorspizza
    @Saylorspizza 3 роки тому

    This one hits really close to home

  • @lt517
    @lt517 3 роки тому

    You are so good at these

  • @4ccomplished5cientist
    @4ccomplished5cientist 3 роки тому +1

    Seems like they've got their audience all figured out

  • @kio3533
    @kio3533 3 роки тому +2

    Literally in a zoom class rn but that can wait

  • @jeamie_109
    @jeamie_109 3 роки тому

    Welcome back from your short break Lance!!!! 💖 Plus an audio that acknowledges the tiny worries when you're in a relationship, 🐱🥰 I will gladly listen 💕

  • @leah9842
    @leah9842 3 роки тому +7

    I hope Lance audios raise everyone's standards.

  • @catgao2019
    @catgao2019 3 роки тому +3

    AHHH YOURE BACK!!! How do you know exactly what I’m asking for??? Thank you ❤️❤️.
    P. S. It is Wednesday my dudes

  • @iihaisixii
    @iihaisixii 3 роки тому

    i missed you sm and i hope you’re feeling better!!

  • @ledollarbeans1475
    @ledollarbeans1475 3 роки тому +1

    WE MISSED YOUUUUUUU! 😭❤️

  • @nicknel6354
    @nicknel6354 3 роки тому +2

    IM LITERALLY SCREAMING RN I CLICKED SO FAST

  • @hanh825
    @hanh825 3 роки тому

    AhhhhhhhHhhh its been so long... To wait your updates Lance !!! We missed U so much.... ❤️❤️❤️

  • @historynerd6986
    @historynerd6986 3 роки тому

    Ahhhh lance I’m out of school now thanks so much I NEEDED THIS!!!
    Oof it’s raining where I’m at and I’m so cold. My grandma ain’t here yet so I’m just hiding with my hood on

  • @zazabelle4430
    @zazabelle4430 3 роки тому

    AYOOOO U BACKKK HOPE YOURE DOING GOOD BAE

  • @large.mp437
    @large.mp437 3 роки тому

    swag audio dude

  • @kentarokozo5037
    @kentarokozo5037 3 роки тому

    30 mins of sleeping soundssss pls🥺

  • @mintskiva186
    @mintskiva186 3 роки тому +1

    'm the strong one, I'm not nervous
    I'm as tough as the crust of the earth is
    I move mountains, I move churches
    And I glow 'cause I know what my worth is
    I don't ask how hard the work is
    Got a rough indestructible surface
    Diamonds and platinum, I find 'em, I flatten 'em
    I take what I'm handed, I break what's demanding
    But
    Under the surface
    I feel berserk as a tightrope walker in a three-ring circus
    Under the surface
    Was Hercules ever like "Yo, I don't wanna fight Cerberus"?
    Under the surface
    I'm pretty sure I'm worthless if I can't be of service
    A flaw or a crack
    The straw in the stack
    That breaks the camel's back
    What breaks the camel's back it's
    Pressure like a drip, drip, drip that'll never stop, whoa
    Pressure that'll tip, tip, tip 'till you just go pop, whoa
    Give it to your sister, your sister's older
    Give her all the heavy things we can't shoulder
    Who am I if I can't run with the ball?
    If I fall to
    Pressure like a grip, grip, grip and it won't let go, whoa
    Pressure like a tick, tick, tick 'til it's ready to blow, whoa
    Give it to your sister, your sister's stronger
    See if she can hang on a little longer
    Who am I if I can't carry it all?
    If I falter
    Under the surface
    I hide my nerves, and it worsens, I worry something is gonna hurt us
    Under the surface
    The ship doesn't swerve as it heard how big the iceberg is
    Under the surface
    I think about my purpose, can I somehow preserve this?
    Line up the dominoes
    A light wind blows
    You try to stop it tumbling
    But on and on it goes
    But wait
    If I could shake the crushing weight of expectations
    Would that free some room up for joy
    Or relaxation, or simple pleasure?
    Instead we measure this growing pressure
    Keeps growing, keep going
    'Cause all we know is
    Pressure like a drip, drip, drip that'll never stop, whoa
    Pressure that'll tip, tip, tip 'til you just go pop, whoa-oh-oh
    Give it to your sister, it doesn't hurt
    And see if she can handle every family burden
    Watch as she buckles and bends but never breaks
    No mistakes just

  • @erenslover.
    @erenslover. 3 роки тому

    LOVE THIS!!!

  • @LunaFloraFae
    @LunaFloraFae 3 роки тому

    💜 thankie this is sweet

  • @kw7588
    @kw7588 3 роки тому

    I adore this and need this!

  • @bayo7
    @bayo7 3 роки тому

    Another awesome videooo

  • @bumblebee_007x
    @bumblebee_007x 3 роки тому +2

    I love how I was literally just struggling with my abandonment issues and then I see this😶
    Where the cameras at 🤨

  • @CleopatraKing
    @CleopatraKing 3 роки тому +1

    thanks lance
    *id totally would learn to cook chinese food so youd have good tasting chinese tbh*

  • @damitzuyugod
    @damitzuyugod 3 роки тому

    I love this!! ❤️

  • @topoo-kw8zr
    @topoo-kw8zr Рік тому +1

    This just doesn't work for me anymore. I need her reassurance but can't tell :

  • @ry9878
    @ry9878 3 роки тому

    🖤missed ya !

  • @faizahmdisa7079
    @faizahmdisa7079 3 роки тому

    Hi, Lance. Aunty F🤗 is here to comment on your video - “GF Comforts Your Abandonment Issues” which is a very interesting topic. This video have received 11k views within 4 days and that’s an amazing achievement. I also like this video where we can gain knowledge from it. So, thank you for this lovely and wonderful video. Well done, Lance. Congratulations for your excellent work.💐❤️👏👏👏 Keep it up! As l see it, abandonmment issues stem from a fear of loneliness, which can be a phobia or a form of anxiety. It occurs when an individual has a strong fear of losing loved ones. It usually starts in childhood but can begin in adulthood as well. Abandonment issues can have a significant effect on person’s life and relationships. They may experience problems in relationships because they fear that the other person will leave them. It is never too late to seek help for abandonment issues. When treating abandonment issues, the first step is understanding what triggers them and learning to withdraw when these triggers come up. Support and treatment can help reduce the anxiety. The primary treatment for abandonment issues is therapy, in which the person experiencing it can try to get to the root of their problems. It can be challenging to help someone with abandonment issues because they often push people away when they feel challenged or vulnerable. Stay calm during conversations. Avoid pushing for answers, and allow the person to open up in their own time. Reassurance is amazing. It’s nice when someone constantly reminds them of how much they mean to them, how they love them and how they never want to lose them. Sometimes words are enough just to let them know that they’ll always be there for them. It’s like a big weight of uncertainty has been lifted off their shoulders and they can breath again. Reassuring, it can do so much. Well, that is how l see it. Aunty F🤗 never get bored listening to this audio that’s for sure!💐❤️

    • @LanceAudios
      @LanceAudios  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much, aunty F! I think more people need to learn about and identify abandonment issues. x

  • @irisarmstrong
    @irisarmstrong 3 роки тому

    i don’t have anyone to tell me these things. it’s nice to hear it for once. :/

  • @thehelltaker8820
    @thehelltaker8820 3 роки тому

    Pretty nice. Thx Lance
    Pancakes 🥞

  • @ry9878
    @ry9878 3 роки тому

    Hope your doing well and if not hope you have a good day/night !

  • @hreto
    @hreto 3 роки тому

    Omg Hi Lance🥺👉🏼👈🏼

  • @kanepack876
    @kanepack876 2 роки тому

    Depression go brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr before I see this video
    Depression in the video 0%
    Wake up
    Cry

  • @teehee0659
    @teehee0659 3 роки тому

    im 5 hours late but better late than never 😍🤞

  • @ee9459
    @ee9459 3 роки тому

    subscribed!

  • @imjustafan1006
    @imjustafan1006 3 роки тому

    Fan likeyyy :)))

  • @22nouvelle
    @22nouvelle Рік тому +1

    Is the girl that voices these available ?

    • @fragile_resin
      @fragile_resin 11 місяців тому

      The ''Girl'' is non binary and no they are not they have a wonderful girlfriend

  • @AK45W
    @AK45W 3 роки тому

    W h o l e s o m e

  • @granpappy269
    @granpappy269 3 роки тому

    Do you think you would ever do anything for reassuring someone who is gender dysphoric? I'm ftm and I'm pretty comfortable for the most part with where I'm at now, but there are still always those thoughts in the back of your head

  • @rog_thonoth
    @rog_thonoth 3 роки тому

    I dont know why i typed this man

  • @mxragnarok3986
    @mxragnarok3986 3 роки тому

    You shouldn't hurt your feelings even writing GF can't feel right.. Why don't you write "partner comfort you..." you have a neutral voice you don't need to put a gender on in (not if it's one you don't identify with at least)

    • @LanceAudios
      @LanceAudios  3 роки тому +1

      I'm fine with gf! Don't worry, I like how it is x

  • @ledollarbeans1475
    @ledollarbeans1475 3 роки тому

    WE MISSED YOUUUUUUU! 😭❤️