Dear Dr. Chatterjee, please do more monologues. You do not do enough monologues. The message you convey in this video is extremely good. We all do not care if your future monologues overlaps or repeats itself because anything you say is gold. Thank you so much doctor.
Some days you feel great, some days not so much. But, remember, today is a blessing. You woke up, you see the sun and everything around you. You breathe. You are able to smell your favorite tea or coffee or your meal. You can smell a flower on your way to work or during a walk. Be kind to yourself and your life even if the day didn't start the way you expected. Thank your body for doing amazing things like getting you from A to B, digesting your food, feeling the touch. It's these simple things that we sometimes underestimate. Take a deep breath and consider every minute a new chance to make your day a better one
I was much better when we did not have cell phones or computers. That's for sure.. So now I shut my phone off for days and a week at a time.. sometimes I shut it off for two whole weeks at a time.. LOL 😆😆 go ahead and try it for the whole weekend.
It varies. Many use them to make money, like I do. Computers have gaming, and not all is online. You can even not partake in the convos, or not even display or play chats during online games for that matter. Phones and computers make people generally more antisocial, if they allow it, but society is generally fucked regardless. Lol. Most aren't vegan. Debunked religions, and debunked material atheism. Two-party puppet circus bully double-standards dictatorshittttt political system. Overworked society, which kills productivity often enough, and destroys mental and physical health too. Etc.
Ditto on switching the phone off and not bothering. Also, I dont have any friends at moment, coz I dont do jealousy, being pompous, lying, and just falseness. One friend would only want to talk ab out her. If i tried to change the conversation, shed just go back to where she was talking about herself. I’m picky now. I dont need selfish people in my life. Any of them.
Thank you Dr.Rangan. I wrote 10 ten things I love about myself even though I assumed I wouldn't get one and I cried out so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I never cried so deeply in a long time
I think no body should work on weekends. People need More committed time to share with family & friends and time for your hobbies.. the fun things that you love to do..
The last decade has been tough and stressful and I tried for ages to listen and absorb/understand the messages being told to me about inner happiness and peace etc. I just couldn’t get it. I was always in my mind following it intellectually but constantly saying, ‘yes, but…’. And it always felt preachy and judgemental (not to mention unobtainable). FINALLY someone’s explained it, compassion and (gentle) passion in a way that makes complete sense. Thank you very much indeed. It’s a gift….
I just wish ALLnot some doctors were like Dr. Rangan. By just listening to him can make someone really change their lifestyle and realise how short life really is. All his talks attracts us like a magneti.
This podcast is so useful, I keep returning to it and find something new every time. Through your books and podcasts, you have done more to improve the health of the world than any medical institution! Thank you.
Great topic. I have always dealt with stress by alignment, I would get stressed and remove myself from the city & job and pack up the truck ang go camping out on the mountain for 10 days by myself to enjoy nature and all that God created.. if I had not done that, life would have turned out very badly.. we people need to actually do the things that bring us joy..
Oh Dr. Chatterjee. I love your podcasts, tv series’s, books, I listen to this podcast on a day that has been a real struggle. I feel like this cast can possible help me start a road of healing. I have found myself wishing over and over again that you could be my doctor. Thank you for serving all of us around the world . I just pre-ordered your new book. You are a gifted and compassionate doctor and human being.
A successful life is the same for everybody Doctor. Spending quality time with family and friends and husbands & wives.. Taking time for hobbies like fishing camping, hiking, Taking time away from work for 30 days every year.. I used to take all my scheduled work days off for a whole month, my supervisor hated that, but she put up with it.. including the days in-between, and that adds up to around 25 to 28 days away from the job.. Plus it made me realize that I need to be doing what makes me happy more often then not. Like my hobbies or a new job that I actually enjoy and look forward to going to do.. God bless you. Bring more videos..
As an immigrant from India living in the US, i can relate to this. Most of us are doing the exact same thing. Wish back then, there was a Dr Chaterjee and UA-cam to teach us a better way.
Rangan, this is a great listen and I’m sure what a lot of people needed to hear, including myself. Spoken very thoughtfully and eloquently. Alignment is a topic that needs discussion, and this helped open my eyes! 🙌
Doctor K, Don't suffer in silence. Is it possible for you to go outside and chat with your neighbors? Can you make it to a nearby park or even a stroll around the block? Talk to the people you see, or just smile and wave. 👋 Just watching children play or people with their dogs will lift your spirits! Being outdoors is very healing, both mentally & physically. Talk to people when in line at the store, I do! If your physically limited, reach out to your local church or volunteer organizations. There are Senior programs too: they have bus rides to theatre shows, music & sports events or the beach. ⛱️ Check out your local Community Center for activities and events happening there, like Swimming for leisure or exercise, Craft Fairs, Music and Movie nights which are largely free or low cost to attend. Perhaps you can play cards, Bingo or whatever your interests are: Chess, Birdwatching, daily walks & other hobbies etc... There are volunteer programs & will be happy to visit, chat, take you to the store, dentist, haircuts or doctor appts. 😀 Please don't give up & know you are a valued & beloved member of our human race & society. We value your experience and insights, so please find a way to share yourself with the world! 🌎
@@calista1280 Ridiculous. I’m not infirm physically or mentally. I walk plenty, but no longer doing marathons or iron man’s. I live in a very right wing rural area. No services. No people. Extremely limited internet. No entertainment. Long haul to any story, and 100+ miles to medical care. Far too many churches for such a tiny population. I’m not christian and most of them are trump monkey, flag waving, uneducated hypocrites with serious drug, alcohol and food issues.
It has to be a two way street though... my family don't allow me time and don't want a relationship with me and my very few close friends are overseas. I dream of being surrounded by family and friends who love me on my deathbed but I know I'll be all alone. I've tried so hard to make/keep connections but I'm nobody's priority. Yes I follow my passions, play my saxophone, enjoy nature with my dog, but meaningful connection with other humans alludes me always 😢
This is so funny, I literally at the beginning of this year January 2022, at work, I talked to my new boss, new manager at a busy grocery store, and explained that I needed 3 days off a week. I had to adjust many things financially to allow me to be able to do this. But I didn't need those things in the first place. I knew for myself, I couldn't keep going the way I was going. I love spending time alone, I found out I'm my own best friend. I don't have any emedeit family, so I didn't lack of needing more time with family. But I noticed, I was able to connect with deceased family members more wholeheartedly. Crazy as it sounds, I'm more at peace, with less stress, and I really don't need a whole lot of out side stimulus to be happy. Just wanted to share my experiences.
Cindy Miller, I have been doing this all my life. We must find peaceful things to do that brings us joy. I fellowship with my God thru prayer and reading His word. Camping & getting things done on my mountain property all summer. One day before long, my cabin will be all done & I can live there full time & fishing is all around me in a short distance.. Having a great time developing my cabin & property. God willing,, it will all come together one-way or another in this crazy over priced lumber issue. Starting to look to habitat for humanity store for 1/2 price lumber and other things that normally get donated...I do not know what availability is like now that prices are so high at the big box stores. We will find out soon..
One of my favorite episodes. Wow… I just stopped to write down 5 qualities I like about myself. I have never done this before. Dr Chatterjee, your podcast is my favorite. Thank you!
Feeling whole and integrated is the essential key...something that even Martha Becks talk about. Very well pointed out, that Martha Beck, Shefali Tsabary, Gabor Mate talks about, that most of all live our lives through someone's or everyone's else's prescription list, essentially most of us are living someone's else's life then expecting ourselves to feel happy and content. You also beautifully talk about hedonic and eudamonic sense of happiness...one arising out of situations and circumstances and the other associated with joy, meaning, bliss and peace.
Barring a surprise I'm not close to death yet, but already one of my biggest regrets is believing and listening to doctors instead of my own intuition. And I'm not dissing this particular doctor. I think his message is spot on.
This was a great video. Since I got married I’ve been making couple friends with my husband with people who are great people that I love. But I’ve always found myself resenting spending time with them. From this video I realize I have to make personal friends that I enjoy spending time with beyond them just being good and loyal ppl. I have been scrolling to numb but I’m happy that it lead me to this video
I have been killing myself working and studying hard since I was 16( I still 32 I guess I have time). I was aways aware that this is not the life I wanted or that this is not healthy at all. But I am doing this to change my kids and my future grandchildren lives for them to have a better life. I want them to never experience the difficulties I had experienced. So I am sure that your Dad is proud of you because you are giving to him the best reward that is not only making a good use of your knolegment and life, but also sharing it with the world. Of course I am changing my habits and finding a balance to have a happier life but as soon as my future generation have the same results as you I will rest in peace one day🙏 Thank you Doc
I like the way you combine chat with strategy. It helps me remember your name so I can tell other people about you because I really enjoy your podcasts. Recently started walking early in the mornings, 2 miles fast, 5 times a week. Just hit 100 miles after 10 weeks and has made a huge difference to how I feel mentally and physically. I ride 20 miles on my road bike every Sunday and got my average speed back up to 17.5 mph. Because of you I discovered the glucose goddess which has helped with a change in my diet and a noticeable loss in visceral fat around my middle and waist. I appreciate what you're doing, keep up the good work. Born in 1960, you do the math.😊
Wow You are such an inspiration the changes Ive made due to your podcasts are live changing. I’ve just enrolled on a course with Institute of Health Science and when I shared that you are my “guru” they showed me the photos from 2017 when you did a talk there. I can’t wait to read your new book which has inspired me to dust off the book I started writing years ago! So who knows I may land up on your show!!! Keep sharing your passion the world needs you:-)
My problem is I can't even think of one thing that will make me happy! We lost all of our parents and then moved across the country. We live by our son and his wife and our 2 grandsons. Our daughter and her family live a 2 days drive away, and we moved here right before covid hit. I have acquaintances here, but haven't made any real friendships. I feel very alone. I feel like my life is passing by and I'm missing it but I don't know how to change it!! So when you say think of 3 things, I can't!
Hope you decide to go spend time near your daughter....rent an air band b or housesit someone's house near where she lives...and then stay several months. You will have a purpose there and while you are there, visit daughter, think about whether you want to stay closer to daughter or stay closer to son. See whether you want to stay in same relationship, etc. It's 7 months since you wrote your comment, hope you can relisten to the podcast and see where you are at. Lots of housesitting websites..
Brilliant...thank you! Look for silver linings, be kind, have compassion for self and others, smile at others, every moment is a grain of sand in the hourglass of my life.
My granddaughter who is only five years old is a Blessing, she makes me laugh a lot. Family time is very important, going to the beaches, along with Good food, and plenty freshair, prayers. Not holding any grudges is the biggest stress buster ever.
Dr. Thank you , ur so insightful. I personally had a medical situation that has brought me from my home state and job in metro Detroit to living with my sister( health) in SW Florida. Away from my friends and had to quite my job, I was with the Company and enjoyed it for 20 years , my life changed on a coin. Hospital for (3) months w/ sepsis and metal on metal hip disintegrated. And the only plus was a surgeon here in Sarasota took my difficult reconstruction. Which the Michigan surgeon would not touch. Long story short - I’m learning to walk again for a longer distance. No more walker etc - so it’s worked out. But now I’m in a state , I don’t like it’s 115F today .. One AC to another AC - it’s crazy - I was wondering way im so depressed and sit in my room , withdrawing from the world .. Now it’s up to me - to change things. Yet at 60 years old , and being a guy it’s NoT easy to make friends! Anyways thx for the intelligent cast and gave me hope and somethings to reconsider !
I guess every stage of life, our dreams that we chased change accordingly. We are dumb-founded when we dont know what are our next goals or dreams that make us happy. I dont need promotion, financial stable at least for my family and I can do what I want now...but...the main problem is I dont know what I want...
I don't have any friends, family or significant other. I have always been alone. I'm 53 years old and I'm tired of trying to make people like me. I work just so I won't take a permanent nap.
Please don't give up....l met a gentleman who works at a cemetery who retired from the military UPS and is now 78 but met and finally married someone who worked in a funeral home...they married only 5yrs ago and are now a contented and happy couple...keep your ears and eyes and heart open...
Just ordered your book. To give you the briefest review of your videos possible from me: your gifts include a soothing delivery steeped in sincerity and wisdom with a blood pressure lowering cadence. I can hear better when people sound calm. Anyway, I’m half way through this video and I just ordered your book. I’m hoping I find some actionable items for the area of control. I have no doubt I will. 😊😊😊❤
I really needed to watch and listen to this video. It is 1:30 am here in South Africa here am trying to train myself oh how to refrain from things and find my own happiness within me.
Thank you ever so much. I believe your talk was inspired by God and is in line with my favorite, Dr. Joe Dispenza. You remind me of William James - many of the concepts in your sentences are powerful enough to be expounded on in a paragraph! I'll be listening many times! Thank you. "Thoughts become perception, perception becomes reality. Alter your thoughts, alter your reality." William James
Happiness is an inside job, unfortunately the things that depress me are things that go into my body without my control. Environmental poisons and humans greed fill my souls belly ...it's heavy doc. Thanks for your insight 🤙.
Some of us just don't have that option, unfortunately. I would love to follow through on such, surrounded by situations beyond my control.... so just hiding out in a wine bottle in my room...ugh
That whole "talking to yourself with compassion and kindness" comes naturally when you start to love yourself through the daily good habits you have, there's no need to put too much effort on it, you should be putting that effort into changing your actions first, and the kind words will come to yourself automatically. Because now you actually respect yourself. But If your life is full of bad habits and you're miserable because of that, then you deserve to hate yourself, you deserve to insult yourself everyday. It's not about being delusional and saying "I love myself" when you actually don't, it's about becoming a person that you actually love, so you don't even have to think about saying "I love myself" it's just a feeling that will come naturally
My dad's story is the same as yours he too worked himself to death at 60 only because he wanted to give his daughter s every happiness in life but today I feel sad we are following his life
*simplicity is my alignment... no more good paying job I hated which required a newer dependable car to get me there so I could pay the big mortgage on the home I was rarely at but when I was there majority of my time was working on taking care of it all and the weekend chores because I needed clean clothes to get back to the job that paid well lol... and heaven for bid i didn't keep my expensive ass car clean and new ... its crazy! I now live in a tiny house that's paid for and I bought a 2008 Toyota for cash right after I quit my job and started my home base upholstery/artist business. Everything and I mean EVERYTHING in my life has changed and i have never felt more myself!!
Interesting, my dad was an orthopeadic surgeon, also from India. Surat / Bombay / Calcutta areas. I was born here in the 80'sand grew up watching just how much the increased workload took its toll on him due to various factors. I need to write a book on it one day. I didn't go into medicine despite my parents hoping I might. That is a big trend in children of parents who work in medicine. My Dads name was Munindra Nigel Blackburn.
I come across many people of parents from Indian sub continent, who were pushed and now are suffering many consequences. Anxiety is one of the most common, I use TFT to help them.
Hi From a family in italy that immigrated to manchester in the late fifties, i remeber growing up in manchester and my parents had dedicated all thier lives to work...we have tried to change the pattern of their example for a healthier life...my first lady indian docter came to my house for my brother. But was easily prescribed tranquiliseres not taken, I have tornano say love your advice and culture of which i always follow sister shivan that has simular mindset...thank you so much...
Nobody stays people always leave so you need to find a way to be strong alone. And many people who you smile and chat with if you knew the things they probably say behind your back you wouldn't' want to be talking with them anymore.
My motivation is not about a lack or a love situation. It is more about respectful life. It is more about work for a company who respect people, life, environment. I don't care about money but find a place where you can do your job with respect is almost become impossible. It is not about cleverly, it is not about degree to get a good job. So it is difficult to find the right way when the entire life is moving without respect. We can share work as employee but if we share the hour of work, someone will have to pay it and the boss do not want to pay it as government do not want to pay it also. So what can people do to have a balance life. C'est facile lorsque l'on est dans un confort de donner un avis mais il faudra parler à un moment d'exploitation de l'homme par l'homme pour sortir de ce tabou.
I love all of your inspiration, advice and TV appearances and get every word, however, I feel devastated for those at the moment who HAVE TO work 2, 3, or 4 jobs just to pay all the bills, so existing and not living and stress through the roof ☹️ with no end in sight. Not so easy for them.
Thank You Dr,Rangan , Youre a Good Man , truly a medicine man .. youre desire to heal people is phenomenal and Gods work ...i respect admire and appreciate that very much ..Youre Family is top of the line people ...My parents came to America in the early 70s and just like youre parents they worked ,,,their tails off ,heck my father is retired but my mother still works ...its ingrained in their blood ...to me they are the hardest working people ive ever known ....You are right ,,work does rob you of health and ultimately shorten life .Im grateful both my parents are still here ..working hard definitely had benefits but at a cost , ive just began to watch ur podcast ,,,it is brilliant ,,thank you again ...God Bless You and youre Family ...My Condolences for the passing of youre Father..
Dr Ragan, thank you for these tools, they are very valuable. We are work in process and each day is a new day to learn things about ourselves and the world we leave in. No matter your circumstances, each day is a new lesson 💖
I've been practicing denying my ego and freedom from desire for so long that my deathbed doesn't seem relevant and that I do not have anything that can make me happy. I am not motivated to do or get anything because I know that is external validation or at minimum service to the control society we live in. I pray for alignment, purpose, and inspiration, but it eludes me. I guess I don't really know myself, but then again I don't believe in myself as a separate idea from source. I also have not been blessed with a partner or a child, so creating wealth and happiness for them isn't reality either. Therefore, I have come to realize that doing nothing except connecting to source must be my purpose until I transition into the next reality. Other than that, I am kind of done here with the 3D Earth reality.
Actually what is happening in this era of social media which is a plus point for our generation.. It has some side effects too.. We tend to watch people n every thing randomly ..n it's like a process of our day to day life .actually we r just looking at something n thinking we need to do this.. Which leads to FOMO.. N actually in real if you are your behavior we r just looking them not doing what we are in real or Can do.. We just r bloody viewers n doing nothing. N just thinking that we r doing.. So the actions r not in real but in our brain.. N we r loosing our life just thinking our lives
What often helps me get happier is to recall how precious life is in any form, with the lessons it brings. I look inward to my body, as my cells orchestrate life, and thank them; then ...looking 'up' at the stars I thank them (the cosmos) for the energy they send me etc, and that little realization works to generate a genuine sense of awe and gratefulness.
I think this is a good point. While you could volunteer and meet new people, it takes time to build relationships and a support system. When people say, go spend more time with your friends, or go do things that require income, it feels like a setup. And it's very discouraging because people are saying your life could be great if you do x, as if it's simple and easily accessible, and these are things to which there are barriers to access. Maybe these podcasts are good for people of certain privileges, but for the rest they can be toxic.
Reach out to shelters or church groups that have solitary residents or single parented children who need the care and attention that a surrogate grandparent ...the rewards are not quantifiable but feel so very wonderful....
Dr. Chatterjee makes total sense.😊⭐🦉🇬🇧. We humans are SOCIAL creatures.😊. If we are cut off from community / neighbours, family / friends , for whatever reason, we are going to feel bad.😢. Some people use this as a controlling mechanism... ( I know TWO , for a start ! 😠); either carelessly, thoughtlessly, or intentionally. E.g., Narcissists... Why do you think solitary confinement as a punishment is so horrible ?! 😢. We all need care, kindness,being welcomed / valued in a community ; a meaning / purpose to our lives, compassion, productivity... All part of being Social Beings 😊🦉😊 Religions and clubs or cults are in effect, Mini-Tribes..... 🇬🇧😊💕😢🥕🇬🇧🌎🦉😊.
I think real happiness stems from contentment. If you are not satsified with life, your achievements, friends and family this leads to discontent. Always feeling there is something missing in life which feeds the discontent. The pressure in society to be successful makes a lot of people incapable of achieving happiness. Success is a very transient thing and different for everyone. Social media compounds our disastisfaction with things in life. So-called influencers affect many people who are not grounded or content with their own lives. I've found that once you go inside yourself and connect with your true values in life it can result in finding and discovering that everything else is irrelevant and a deep contentment can emerge. The contentment leads to happiness when you recognise you are okay with the person you have become today irrespective of what others think.
Dear Dr. Chatterjee, please do more monologues. You do not do enough monologues. The message you convey in this video is extremely good. We all do not care if your future monologues overlaps or repeats itself because anything you say is gold. Thank you so much doctor.
Some days you feel great, some days not so much. But, remember, today is a blessing. You woke up, you see the sun and everything around you. You breathe. You are able to smell your favorite tea or coffee or your meal. You can smell a flower on your way to work or during a walk. Be kind to yourself and your life even if the day didn't start the way you expected. Thank your body for doing amazing things like getting you from A to B, digesting your food, feeling the touch. It's these simple things that we sometimes underestimate. Take a deep breath and consider every minute a new chance to make your day a better one
i like waht you said
@@giorgiobianchi720 thanks, it's a quote from a thing called perspective of the day 👍
Thank you, very helpful words.
I need to guide my daughter through this path , this helps me a lot , blessings for you doctor ❤️❤️❤️
I was much better when we did not have cell phones or computers. That's for sure.. So now I shut my phone off for days and a week at a time.. sometimes I shut it off for two whole weeks at a time.. LOL 😆😆 go ahead and try it for the whole weekend.
It varies. Many use them to make money, like I do. Computers have gaming, and not all is online. You can even not partake in the convos, or not even display or play chats during online games for that matter. Phones and computers make people generally more antisocial, if they allow it, but society is generally fucked regardless. Lol. Most aren't vegan. Debunked religions, and debunked material atheism. Two-party puppet circus bully double-standards dictatorshittttt political system. Overworked society, which kills productivity often enough, and destroys mental and physical health too. Etc.
I totally agree with you on that!
Me too! I need to learn how to turn off my phone for week's.
I agree CRAZY WORLD NOW .....the phone is Everyones Best Friend...so 😥 sad!!!
Ditto on switching the phone off and not bothering. Also, I dont have any friends at moment, coz I dont do jealousy, being pompous, lying, and just falseness. One friend would only want to talk ab out her. If i tried to change the conversation, shed just go back to where she was talking about herself. I’m picky now. I dont need selfish people in my life. Any of them.
Rangan, because of where I'm at in my life, this is resonating. Much needed and much appreciated. Love listening to you. ❤ Thank you!
I love your compassion. You show a genuine concern of the mental health of others. Noble. Truly a delight to listen to! 😊 thank you !!
Thank you Dr.Rangan. I wrote 10 ten things I love about myself even though I assumed I wouldn't get one and I cried out so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I never cried so deeply in a long time
I think no body should work on weekends.
People need More committed time to share with family & friends and time for your hobbies.. the fun things that you love to do..
How would we get to enjoy going to the pub together then?
Who’s going to work at all the places we want to go?
The last decade has been tough and stressful and I tried for ages to listen and absorb/understand the messages being told to me about inner happiness and peace etc. I just couldn’t get it. I was always in my mind following it intellectually but constantly saying, ‘yes, but…’. And it always felt preachy and judgemental (not to mention unobtainable). FINALLY someone’s explained it, compassion and (gentle) passion in a way that makes complete sense. Thank you very much indeed. It’s a gift….
I just wish ALLnot some doctors were like Dr. Rangan. By just listening to him can make someone really change their lifestyle and realise how short life really is. All his talks attracts us like a magneti.
This podcast is so useful, I keep returning to it and find something new every time. Through your books and podcasts, you have done more to improve the health of the world than any medical institution! Thank you.
Great topic.
I have always dealt with stress by alignment, I would get stressed and remove myself from the city & job and pack up the truck ang go camping out on the mountain for 10 days by myself to enjoy nature and all that God created.. if I had not done that, life would have turned out very badly.. we people need to actually do the things that bring us joy..
Me too, its about creating your own reality. Instead of buying into the materialistic disease of "more"
No, happiness is a fleeting moment brought on by external influences. What we seek is contentment.
Oh Dr. Chatterjee. I love your podcasts, tv series’s, books, I listen to this podcast on a day that has been a real struggle. I feel like this cast can possible help me start a road of healing. I have found myself wishing over and over again that you could be my doctor. Thank you for serving all of us around the world . I just pre-ordered your new book. You are a gifted and compassionate doctor and human being.
Wonderfull
A successful life is the same for everybody Doctor.
Spending quality time with family and friends and husbands & wives.. Taking time for hobbies like fishing camping, hiking, Taking time away from work for 30 days every year..
I used to take all my scheduled work days off for a whole month, my supervisor hated that, but she put up with it.. including the days in-between, and that adds up to around 25 to 28 days away from the job..
Plus it made me realize that I need to be doing what makes me happy more often then not. Like my hobbies or a new job that I actually enjoy and look forward to going to do..
God bless you. Bring more videos..
As an immigrant from India living in the US, i can relate to this. Most of us are doing the exact same thing. Wish back then, there was a Dr Chaterjee and UA-cam to teach us a better way.
I feel the same way!!
Rangan, this is a great listen and I’m sure what a lot of people needed to hear, including myself. Spoken very thoughtfully and eloquently. Alignment is a topic that needs discussion, and this helped open my eyes! 🙌
I am listening…
True‘people connection’ is important but with right kind of people/friends…
Focusing on happiness... leads to sadness.... because its fleeting and hard to grasp.
I feel lost because of the overwhelm of my isolated, aging life. I am NOT and NEVER have been either lazy or unmotivated.
Doctor K,
Don't suffer in silence. Is it possible for you to go outside and chat with your neighbors? Can you make it to a nearby park or even a stroll around the block? Talk to the people you see, or just smile and wave. 👋 Just watching children play or people with their dogs will lift your spirits! Being outdoors is very healing, both mentally & physically. Talk to people when in line at the store, I do! If your physically limited, reach out to your local church or volunteer organizations. There are Senior programs too: they have bus rides to theatre shows, music & sports events or the beach. ⛱️ Check out your local Community Center for activities and events happening there, like Swimming for leisure or exercise, Craft Fairs, Music and Movie nights which are largely free or low cost to attend.
Perhaps you can play cards, Bingo or whatever your interests are: Chess, Birdwatching, daily walks & other hobbies etc...
There are volunteer programs & will be happy to visit, chat, take you to the store, dentist, haircuts or doctor appts. 😀
Please don't give up & know you are a valued & beloved member of our human race & society. We value your experience and insights, so please find a way to share yourself with the world! 🌎
@@calista1280 Ridiculous. I’m not infirm physically or mentally. I walk plenty, but no longer doing marathons or iron man’s. I live in a very right wing rural area. No services. No people. Extremely limited internet. No entertainment. Long haul to any story, and 100+ miles to medical care. Far too many churches for such a tiny population. I’m not christian and most of them are trump monkey, flag waving, uneducated hypocrites with serious drug, alcohol and food issues.
@@calista1280 that's some great advice 👍
It has to be a two way street though... my family don't allow me time and don't want a relationship with me and my very few close friends are overseas. I dream of being surrounded by family and friends who love me on my deathbed but I know I'll be all alone. I've tried so hard to make/keep connections but I'm nobody's priority. Yes I follow my passions, play my saxophone, enjoy nature with my dog, but meaningful connection with other humans alludes me always 😢
You're not alone. I live away from family. Friends are hard to establish. I have one friend that I can talk to. Family hard to talk to.
This is so funny, I literally at the beginning of this year January 2022, at work, I talked to my new boss, new manager at a busy grocery store, and explained that I needed 3 days off a week. I had to adjust many things financially to allow me to be able to do this. But I didn't need those things in the first place. I knew for myself, I couldn't keep going the way I was going. I love spending time alone, I found out I'm my own best friend. I don't have any emedeit family, so I didn't lack of needing more time with family. But I noticed, I was able to connect with deceased family members more wholeheartedly. Crazy as it sounds, I'm more at peace, with less stress, and I really don't need a whole lot of out side stimulus to be happy. Just wanted to share my experiences.
Glad to hear you are doing great.
Thank you....will go into my heart and mind to reach your depth of self awareness...
Cindy Miller, I have been doing this all my life.
We must find peaceful things to do that brings us joy.
I fellowship with my God thru prayer and reading His word.
Camping & getting things done on my mountain property all summer. One day before long, my cabin will be all done & I can live there full time & fishing is all around me in a short distance..
Having a great time developing my cabin & property.
God willing,, it will all come together one-way or another in this crazy over priced lumber issue.
Starting to look to habitat for humanity store for 1/2 price lumber and other things that normally get donated...I do not know what availability is like now that prices are so high at the big box stores.
We will find out soon..
@@harvdog5669 Hi, how's everything going for you- one month later?
I loved te testimony. IT Will influence my LIFE choices.thank you
One of my favorite episodes. Wow… I just stopped to write down 5 qualities I like about myself. I have never done this before. Dr Chatterjee, your podcast is my favorite. Thank you!
Fortune cookie on my kitchen cupboard, “success is when you get what you want; happiness is when you want what you get.”
This is what i need at this moment, i feel like my happiness has been lost in all aspects of my life and everything looks so dark😞
This too shall pass 👍
@@natureisallpowerful i hope so😣
Try to think of people less fortunate than yourself .
Feeling whole and integrated is the essential key...something that even Martha Becks talk about.
Very well pointed out, that Martha Beck, Shefali Tsabary, Gabor Mate talks about, that most of all live our lives through someone's or everyone's else's prescription list, essentially most of us are living someone's else's life then expecting ourselves to feel happy and content.
You also beautifully talk about hedonic and eudamonic sense of happiness...one arising out of situations and circumstances and the other associated with joy, meaning, bliss and peace.
Barring a surprise I'm not close to death yet, but already one of my biggest regrets is believing and listening to doctors instead of my own intuition. And I'm not dissing this particular doctor. I think his message is spot on.
This was a great video. Since I got married I’ve been making couple friends with my husband with people who are great people that I love. But I’ve always found myself resenting spending time with them. From this video I realize I have to make personal friends that I enjoy spending time with beyond them just being good and loyal ppl. I have been scrolling to numb but I’m happy that it lead me to this video
I have been killing myself working and studying hard since I was 16( I still 32 I guess I have time). I was aways aware that this is not the life I wanted or that this is not healthy at all. But I am doing this to change my kids and my future grandchildren lives for them to have a better life. I want them to never experience the difficulties I had experienced. So I am sure that your Dad is proud of you because you are giving to him the best reward that is not only making a good use of your knolegment and life, but also sharing it with the world.
Of course I am changing my habits and finding a balance to have a happier life but as soon as my future generation have the same results as you I will rest in peace one day🙏 Thank you Doc
This is pure gold , it spoke to me directly , these monologues are extremely helpful, TY
Your Dad (R.I.P). enjoyed making you happy by providing believe me. So it was worth it
Wow extremely powerful. You are a wonderful human being. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. You are changing peoples lives. 😊
Rangan I am so very grateful for you and what you give to the world ❤
Authentic self exploration.
The "soul self"..
This was a deep conversation between two mens, very touching
I feel such a great appreciation for this, thank you!
I like the way you combine chat with strategy.
It helps me remember your name so I can tell other people about you because I really enjoy your podcasts. Recently started walking early in the mornings, 2 miles fast, 5 times a week.
Just hit 100 miles after 10 weeks and has made a huge difference to how I feel mentally and physically. I ride 20 miles on my road bike every Sunday and got my average speed back up to 17.5 mph. Because of you I discovered the glucose goddess which has helped with a change in my diet and a noticeable loss in visceral fat around my middle and waist.
I appreciate what you're doing, keep up the good work. Born in 1960, you do the math.😊
Wow You are such an inspiration the changes Ive made due to your podcasts are live changing. I’ve just enrolled on a course with Institute of Health Science and when I shared that you are my “guru” they showed me the photos from 2017 when you did a talk there. I can’t wait to read your new book which has inspired me to dust off the book I started writing years ago! So who knows I may land up on your show!!! Keep sharing your passion the world needs you:-)
Golden Words dear Rangan, you're God sent🙏
Dr Rangan, you are such an inspiring and elegant speaker!
My problem is I can't even think of one thing that will make me happy!
We lost all of our parents and then moved across the country. We live by our son and his wife and our 2 grandsons. Our daughter and her family live a 2 days drive away, and we moved here right before covid hit.
I have acquaintances here, but haven't made any real friendships.
I feel very alone. I feel like my life is passing by and I'm missing it but I don't know how to change it!!
So when you say think of 3 things, I can't!
Try and go back to basics, food,clean water, a bed,a home..
Hope you decide to go spend time near your daughter....rent an air band b or housesit someone's house near where she lives...and then stay several months. You will have a purpose there and while you are there, visit daughter, think about whether you want to stay closer to daughter or stay closer to son. See whether you want to stay in same relationship, etc. It's 7 months since you wrote your comment, hope you can relisten to the podcast and see where you are at. Lots of housesitting websites..
Brilliant...thank you! Look for silver linings, be kind, have compassion for self and others, smile at others, every moment is a grain of sand in the hourglass of my life.
My granddaughter who is only five years old is a Blessing, she makes me laugh a lot. Family time is very important, going to the beaches, along with Good food, and plenty freshair, prayers. Not holding any grudges is the biggest stress buster ever.
I like your comment. Maybe I should try and connect with my granddaughter.
Dr. Thank you , ur so insightful. I personally had a medical situation that has brought me from my home state and job in metro Detroit to living with my sister( health) in SW Florida.
Away from my friends and had to quite my job, I was with the Company and enjoyed it for 20 years , my life changed on a coin.
Hospital for (3) months w/ sepsis and metal on metal hip disintegrated.
And the only plus was a surgeon here in Sarasota took my difficult reconstruction. Which the Michigan surgeon would not touch.
Long story short - I’m learning to walk again for a longer distance. No more walker etc - so it’s worked out.
But now I’m in a state , I don’t like it’s 115F today ..
One AC to another AC - it’s crazy - I was wondering way im so depressed and sit in my room , withdrawing from the world ..
Now it’s up to me - to change things. Yet at 60 years old , and being a guy it’s NoT easy to make friends!
Anyways thx for the intelligent cast and gave me hope and somethings to reconsider !
Your environment has an impact on your happiness, your energy also, social life? Fun activities excitement? These are external
I guess every stage of life, our dreams that we chased change accordingly. We are dumb-founded when we dont know what are our next goals or dreams that make us happy. I dont need promotion, financial stable at least for my family and I can do what I want now...but...the main problem is I dont know what I want...
I don't have any friends, family or significant other. I have always been alone. I'm 53 years old and I'm tired of trying to make people like me. I work just so I won't take a permanent nap.
Same here, also 53
Same here
Same here. I get through my day by praying in am and getting to my task. I am responsible for me. What I let or not let in my life.
Please don't give up....l met a gentleman who works at a cemetery who retired from the military UPS and is now 78 but met and finally married someone who worked in a funeral home...they married only 5yrs ago and are now a contented and happy couple...keep your ears and eyes and heart open...
Thank you Dr Chatterjee for sharing these thoughts on your podcast !
Just ordered your book. To give you the briefest review of your videos possible from me: your gifts include a soothing delivery steeped in sincerity and wisdom with a blood pressure lowering cadence. I can hear better when people sound calm. Anyway, I’m half way through this video and I just ordered your book. I’m hoping I find some actionable items for the area of control. I have no doubt I will. 😊😊😊❤
Oh this topic is really good.
I really needed to watch and listen to this video. It is 1:30 am here in South Africa here am trying to train myself oh how to refrain from things and find my own happiness within me.
Thank you ever so much. I believe your talk was inspired by God and is in line with my favorite, Dr. Joe Dispenza. You remind me of William James - many of the concepts in your sentences are powerful enough to be expounded on in a paragraph! I'll be listening many times! Thank you. "Thoughts become perception, perception becomes reality. Alter your thoughts, alter your reality." William James
Happiness is an inside job, unfortunately the things that depress me are things that go into my body without my control. Environmental poisons and humans greed fill my souls belly ...it's heavy doc. Thanks for your insight 🤙.
Some of us just don't have that option, unfortunately. I would love to follow through on such, surrounded by situations beyond my control.... so just hiding out in a wine bottle in my room...ugh
These suggestions are most important and I love your intense engagement for it!
That whole "talking to yourself with compassion and kindness" comes naturally when you start to love yourself through the daily good habits you have, there's no need to put too much effort on it, you should be putting that effort into changing your actions first, and the kind words will come to yourself automatically. Because now you actually respect yourself. But If your life is full of bad habits and you're miserable because of that, then you deserve to hate yourself, you deserve to insult yourself everyday. It's not about being delusional and saying "I love myself" when you actually don't, it's about becoming a person that you actually love, so you don't even have to think about saying "I love myself" it's just a feeling that will come naturally
My dad's story is the same as yours he too worked himself to death at 60 only because he wanted to give his daughter s every happiness in life but today I feel sad we are following his life
*simplicity is my alignment... no more good paying job I hated which required a newer dependable car to get me there so I could pay the big mortgage on the home I was rarely at but when I was there majority of my time was working on taking care of it all and the weekend chores because I needed clean clothes to get back to the job that paid well lol... and heaven for bid i didn't keep my expensive ass car clean and new ... its crazy! I now live in a tiny house that's paid for and I bought a 2008 Toyota for cash right after I quit my job and started my home base upholstery/artist business. Everything and I mean EVERYTHING in my life has changed and i have never felt more myself!!
How great 👍
I really admire your podcast. You are an amazing person. Thank You🤗
Love all your podcasts. You certainly make a difference. Thank you very much.
This podcast is very helpful and amazing Thank you so much❤ Dr Rangan🙏
Interesting, my dad was an orthopeadic surgeon, also from India. Surat / Bombay / Calcutta areas. I was born here in the 80'sand grew up watching just how much the increased workload took its toll on him due to various factors. I need to write a book on it one day. I didn't go into medicine despite my parents hoping I might. That is a big trend in children of parents who work in medicine. My Dads name was Munindra Nigel Blackburn.
I come across many people of parents from Indian sub continent, who were pushed and now are suffering many consequences. Anxiety is one of the most common, I use TFT to help them.
What is TFT?
SUCH GOOD ADVICE THANK YOU
Hi
From a family in italy that immigrated to manchester in the late fifties, i remeber growing up in manchester and my parents had dedicated all thier lives to work...we have tried to change the pattern of their example for a healthier life...my first lady indian docter came to my house for my brother. But was easily prescribed tranquiliseres not taken,
I have tornano say love your advice and culture of which i always follow sister shivan that has simular mindset...thank you so much...
Thanks sir for such motivating words.🙏
Rangan, wonderfull testimony. So much r for another perspective.
Wow, how amazing is the guidance in this video. Thank you so much. I have taken notes 😊
You are fantastic! I am so greatful that I discovered you! 🥳🤩🤝🥰👍Congratulations for everything you do!
💯 rid the phones nourishing relationships at least once a week! Laugh eat and love
Nobody stays people always leave so you need to find a way to be strong alone. And many people who you smile and chat with if you knew the things they probably say behind your back you wouldn't' want to be talking with them anymore.
Thank you for your words
My motivation is not about a lack or a love situation. It is more about respectful life. It is more about work for a company who respect people, life, environment. I don't care about money but find a place where you can do your job with respect is almost become impossible.
It is not about cleverly, it is not about degree to get a good job. So it is difficult to find the right way when the entire life is moving without respect.
We can share work as employee but if we share the hour of work, someone will have to pay it and the boss do not want to pay it as government do not want to pay it also. So what can people do to have a balance life.
C'est facile lorsque l'on est dans un confort de donner un avis mais il faudra parler à un moment d'exploitation de l'homme par l'homme pour sortir de ce tabou.
I love all of your inspiration, advice and TV appearances and get every word, however, I feel devastated for those at the moment who HAVE TO work 2, 3, or 4 jobs just to pay all the bills, so existing and not living and stress through the roof ☹️ with no end in sight. Not so easy for them.
you were speaking to me today ~ Thank you sO much
Thank you for reminding us all to mindfully put things into perspective and action!!!
Thank you for these words.
What an invaluable podcast, so informative ❤
Great monologue. Thank you!
thx for the great teachings
Thank You Dr,Rangan , Youre a Good Man , truly a medicine man .. youre desire to heal people is phenomenal and Gods work ...i respect admire and appreciate that very much ..Youre Family is top of the line people ...My parents came to America in the early 70s and just like youre parents they worked ,,,their tails off ,heck my father is retired but my mother still works ...its ingrained in their blood ...to me they are the hardest working people ive ever known ....You are right ,,work does rob you of health and ultimately shorten life .Im grateful both my parents are still here ..working hard definitely had benefits but at a cost , ive just began to watch ur podcast ,,,it is brilliant ,,thank you again ...God Bless You and youre Family ...My Condolences for the passing of youre Father..
19:16 happiness is an inside job
Thank you for all that you do and keeping us grounded. God bless you. I love your podcast!
I feel like this kindly guide more with your all literatures free of cost , huge suffering from to pandemic , thanks to all
Dr Ragan, thank you for these tools, they are very valuable. We are work in process and each day is a new day to learn things about ourselves and the world we leave in. No matter your circumstances, each day is a new lesson 💖
From the bottom of my heart, thank you. I needed to hear this at this moment of time I’m my life
I've been practicing denying my ego and freedom from desire for so long that my deathbed doesn't seem relevant and that I do not have anything that can make me happy. I am not motivated to do or get anything because I know that is external validation or at minimum service to the control society we live in. I pray for alignment, purpose, and inspiration, but it eludes me. I guess I don't really know myself, but then again I don't believe in myself as a separate idea from source. I also have not been blessed with a partner or a child, so creating wealth and happiness for them isn't reality either. Therefore, I have come to realize that doing nothing except connecting to source must be my purpose until I transition into the next reality. Other than that, I am kind of done here with the 3D Earth reality.
Actually what is happening in this era of social media which is a plus point for our generation.. It has some side effects too.. We tend to watch people n every thing randomly ..n it's like a process of our day to day life .actually we r just looking at something n thinking we need to do this.. Which leads to FOMO.. N actually in real if you are your behavior we r just looking them not doing what we are in real or Can do.. We just r bloody viewers n doing nothing. N just thinking that we r doing.. So the actions r not in real but in our brain.. N we r loosing our life just thinking our lives
What often helps me get happier is to recall how precious life is in any form, with the lessons it brings. I look inward to my body, as my cells orchestrate life, and thank them; then ...looking 'up' at the stars I thank them (the cosmos) for the energy they send me etc, and that little realization works to generate a genuine sense of awe and gratefulness.
Listen to lots of your videos and I reckon this has to be one of my favourites so far because you share how to improve ❤️
I have no friends and there are so many rudeness. My dog is my best friend.
That is a wonderful start...smile at others walking their dogs....like minded people??
But, what about the person who is beyond working age, living alone, no family or friends - how to overcome lack of motivation?
I think this is a good point. While you could volunteer and meet new people, it takes time to build relationships and a support system. When people say, go spend more time with your friends, or go do things that require income, it feels like a setup. And it's very discouraging because people are saying your life could be great if you do x, as if it's simple and easily accessible, and these are things to which there are barriers to access. Maybe these podcasts are good for people of certain privileges, but for the rest they can be toxic.
Reach out to shelters or church groups that have solitary residents or single parented children who need the care and attention that a surrogate grandparent ...the rewards are not quantifiable but feel so very wonderful....
Great chat Rangan, thankyou for sharing your thoughts and energy like this, great presentation,
Judith
Wow your dad♥️♥️♥️
Just watching an I fall at the first hurdle 51 years old I have no friends zero and family don't need my problems they have their own
I love you. Thank you so much for helping me.❤😊
Dr. Chatterjee makes total
sense.😊⭐🦉🇬🇧.
We humans are SOCIAL
creatures.😊.
If we are cut off from
community / neighbours,
family / friends , for
whatever reason, we are
going to feel bad.😢.
Some people use this
as a controlling mechanism...
( I know TWO , for a start ! 😠);
either carelessly, thoughtlessly,
or intentionally.
E.g., Narcissists...
Why do you think
solitary confinement
as a punishment is so
horrible ?! 😢.
We all need care, kindness,being
welcomed / valued in a
community ; a meaning / purpose
to our lives, compassion, productivity...
All part of being Social Beings 😊🦉😊
Religions and clubs or cults are
in effect, Mini-Tribes.....
🇬🇧😊💕😢🥕🇬🇧🌎🦉😊.
True very true
Beautiful. Thank you. 💕🙏
Thank you 🙏
I think real happiness stems from contentment. If you are not satsified with life, your achievements, friends and family this leads to discontent. Always feeling there is something missing in life which feeds the discontent.
The pressure in society to be successful makes a lot of people incapable of achieving happiness. Success is a very transient thing and different for everyone. Social media compounds our disastisfaction with things in life. So-called influencers affect many people who are not grounded or content with their own lives.
I've found that once you go inside yourself and connect with your true values in life it can result in finding and discovering that everything else is irrelevant and a deep contentment can emerge. The contentment leads to happiness when you recognise you are okay with the person you have become today irrespective of what others think.
Thank you for all this information you give us god bless you Dr ..🙏😎
I love all the videos so far, this was the first one that is not speaking to me.