another thing that I find helpful to remember, is that in the moment we do something, we usually do it because it feels right to do so. So if you do something that you end up regretting later on, remember that when you actually did it, it probably felt like the right thing to do. when you adopt this kind of perspective, a lot of regret kind of dies down, because you realize that even your mistakes are often done with good intent. one last thing I would add, is that you have to be careful when using these kinds of perspectives as a coping mechanism. If you feel regret and shame in your body, you can try as hard as you want to argue with yourself about how the you from now and the you from the past aren't same person, or how regret doesn't make sense because mistakes are often done with good intent or whatever, but that likely won't make the feeling in your body go away. In my experience the only way to heal shame is not really through the use of positive perspectives (though it helps sometimes), but by actually warmly embracing and welcoming any shame or guilt that you may have lingering in your body until you feel ok with it.
I looove this perspective, this concept. I have an unbearable resistance to begin filming myself and posting my thoughts, also my work. The sad part is that I am a graphic designer and a web developer, and create visual work all the time. And I have been doing it for 8 years, and I never post my work.. the fear of judgement, which I know is BS, is just paralysing me. Also, I recorded an online course last year, but only sold it through ads, and did not make a single video talking about it on social media. The ads were kind of making me feel in control. But I cannot continue like this. I would be so much further in my business and get so much more opportunities if I started posting and sharing my expertise and work. This helps a little. Still paralysed though.
I’m also a small channel and just got back into Content creating and I fully understand what you’re saying, I look at videos I posted from a month ago and I have evolved even since then it sounds crazy but I understand fully
As a creator myself, I can 100% relate. I used to delete my newest music video every two weeks replacing it with a new one and most people complained about me doing that haha, because they were very professionally done by me; but it didn't feel like "me" anymore, I already did that, why should I keep it up when that's not me right now? I rather show the new me! And the new me! And the new... 🥱😴 eventually I had to give that idea up, I will post and delete for eternity if I wanna update people. I also had to change my perspective and see posting anything as creating a "fossil" rather than a timeless representation of "me". I also had to learn this because I just couldn't get fully rid of a Jesus book I wrote in a christian phase years ago (my present me is not religious at all) and a bunch of other stuff I posted years ago. I eventually had to accept it as my past self, detach from it and also accept that some people may not understand that you change. We're just creating "fossils", a monument of our past version of ourself but that's all we do when posting anything.
😊 Always walk your own path, or regret not doing so later. You've hit the nail on the head, great video!
i like your perspective on this. content really is a digital time capsule lol
"How FUTILE it is to live in other people's accordanse." FACTS. thank you for sharing!
This was so eloquently put, thanks for waking me up a bit around my digital image. Be here now friend
another thing that I find helpful to remember, is that in the moment we do something, we usually do it because it feels right to do so. So if you do something that you end up regretting later on, remember that when you actually did it, it probably felt like the right thing to do.
when you adopt this kind of perspective, a lot of regret kind of dies down, because you realize that even your mistakes are often done with good intent.
one last thing I would add, is that you have to be careful when using these kinds of perspectives as a coping mechanism. If you feel regret and shame in your body, you can try as hard as you want to argue with yourself about how the you from now and the you from the past aren't same person, or how regret doesn't make sense because mistakes are often done with good intent or whatever, but that likely won't make the feeling in your body go away. In my experience the only way to heal shame is not really through the use of positive perspectives (though it helps sometimes), but by actually warmly embracing and welcoming any shame or guilt that you may have lingering in your body until you feel ok with it.
I started posting around the same time as you recently. Excited to see what happens!
I looove this perspective, this concept. I have an unbearable resistance to begin filming myself and posting my thoughts, also my work. The sad part is that I am a graphic designer and a web developer, and create visual work all the time. And I have been doing it for 8 years, and I never post my work.. the fear of judgement, which I know is BS, is just paralysing me.
Also, I recorded an online course last year, but only sold it through ads, and did not make a single video talking about it on social media. The ads were kind of making me feel in control.
But I cannot continue like this. I would be so much further in my business and get so much more opportunities if I started posting and sharing my expertise and work.
This helps a little. Still paralysed though.
Just subbed! I appreciate content like this
I’m also a small channel and just got back into Content creating and I fully understand what you’re saying, I look at videos I posted from a month ago and I have evolved even since then it sounds crazy but I understand fully
Great video. Thanks bro
broo did you have a skate channel with another name ?
As a creator myself, I can 100% relate. I used to delete my newest music video every two weeks replacing it with a new one and most people complained about me doing that haha, because they were very professionally done by me; but it didn't feel like "me" anymore, I already did that, why should I keep it up when that's not me right now? I rather show the new me! And the new me! And the new... 🥱😴 eventually I had to give that idea up, I will post and delete for eternity if I wanna update people. I also had to change my perspective and see posting anything as creating a "fossil" rather than a timeless representation of "me". I also had to learn this because I just couldn't get fully rid of a Jesus book I wrote in a christian phase years ago (my present me is not religious at all) and a bunch of other stuff I posted years ago. I eventually had to accept it as my past self, detach from it and also accept that some people may not understand that you change. We're just creating "fossils", a monument of our past version of ourself but that's all we do when posting anything.