Everyone who's saying Matthias is a terrible father/husband for not waking up with Luna during the nighttime: Matt and Amanda chose for Luna to be breast-fed. Matthias doesn't have breasts. He can't do that. 😂 Both Matt and Amanda are doing the best that they can right now, give him a break. I think they're being excellent parents and a wonderful couple. ❤️
Not to mention Matthias is trying to run a business. I wish people didn't act like they knew 100% what was best for them, like they're part of the relationship. I hope Matt and Amanda get a good system that works for them soon, so our lovely Amanda can get the rest she needs.
Alexandra Trigg Of course it does, but she can pump while she watches Luna play at the gym thing, during tummy time, even when Matthias is holding Luna. She does not need to hold Luna all the time to spend time with her. I never said she needs to dedicate all day every day to doing it, just when she has time. I know/understand being a mother is a busy, thankless job for the most part. It was just a suggestion so there can be couple bottles around so Matthias can help with some night feeding once in a while. It can be a bonding experience for Matt to feed Luna, too, which would be an excellent payoff for all parties, if you think about it.
They bottle feed Luna too, Amanda was doing it last vlog, so matt could feed her at night but obviously he'd rather sleep then help out his exhausted and hormonal wife on nights
When I had my son, I was stir crazy. We started going swimming after my husband got off work at a hotel. My little man LOVED the water and so did I. Also, soaking in the hot tub helped my husband's back. People freak about germs in pools but the little ones are strong and become immune. I also learned to disregard other's feelings when my baby fussed. It was embarrassing and hard when I was alone but when my husband was with it didn't bother me as much. When they're newborns crying and fussing is waaay different than a toddler having a tantrum. Now I dip out of wherever I am if my little guy is losing his shit. Amanda will go nuts and become very depressed if she isn't able to do things herself and also go out with baby. Much luck and love to you all. Try swimming!!! 😊
And honestly, when I hear a newborn cry in a store or restaurant I say "Awww😍" not "oh my god, shut that baby up"... but I guess people are different so just ignore it and do your thing.
I think right now the best thing for Amanda is for you to not tell her what to do. Let her get to that point on her own. It's getting use to being a mom. It can take some time. Love you guys.
I don't think he's telling her what to do or more so he doesn't mean to. He wants to help her but not sure how so he suggests maybe getting out. He just doesn't want her to be stuck at the house.
I completely agree with you. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't let her finish what she wants to say or let her express what she's feeling. And sometimes Matt doesn't validate her feelings as well. This is why I love when Amanda gets a chance to vlog and she openly talks about her feelings.
Hee Matthias, When my sister had a baby she also had this fear of making people annoyed/tense because of her crying baby. The thing that worked for my sister was that they had to take walks with the baby so she would get used to the feeling of being outside when the baby may be crying there weren't a lot of people. We gradually walked to more crowded places and now she is all fine ans goes every where without worrying. I hope that this helps xxx
It has been 8 years since my daughter was born and even now I am the only one who gets up when my daughter gets sick. Household stuff falls on me. It has always been me. I am back in College and I still feel like my plate is overflowing and I wish I had time to just watch a movie. Yet my husband seems to be able to find time for video games etc. The only suggestion I have for you Matthias is help wherever you can!!! Dishes, Laundry, anything! Don't wait for Amanda to ask you to do it simply take initiative sometime sometimes something so simple can be such a big help
I felt the same way with my son, though for the first two months of his life he was still in the hospital. When we were finally able to bring him home, I didn't want to go out with him, because I was afraid that something would go wrong and that I would have no idea what to do. That lasted about two weeks, and my husband finally got me out of the house, with our son, to go grocery shopping. Actually, my husband helped me out a lot for the first few months... but anyway! After that, it was just walks around the neighbourhood. Going to the park, going for coffee... really, you just have to push yourself and just do it. But it does help to have someone with you.
I'm not a mom, but something that my mom friends have done is take weekly walks through the park (mid-day in a semi-popular park so as to not be completely isolated) with the baby, so they are out of the house, but not necessarily around a large amount of people, like you would be in a grocery store. Sometimes going for quick coffee shop meetings with a friend and the baby for even 15 minutes. Meeting other moms and socializing the baby early on is important too, as I have seen with my niece. You'll find that many people aren't overly annoyed by crying babies, and if they are, you're doing what you need to do for your child, and they don't need to judge you for anything. You're doing great Amanda! Keep it up! :)
A tip my mom used when I was a baby that worked was after I became aware of everything around me I had a certain blanket that I loved and always slept with. Maybe if Luna has a stuffed animal or blanket or something like that with her it'll call her down? My mom used to give me my blanket when she was on public and she said I was less fussy and more calm. Hope that helps
You asked for some mommy wisdom, so let me give you both some of the best advice I’ve learned over 10 years of having kids and being a wifey. Matt- I’ll give you the best words that a friend told me with my first kiddo. And for many it will sound selfish. When first time parents focus completely focus on this brand new little life, they put themselves on the back burner. You stay inside and plan everything around little ones. When was the last time you both had a date? Like a proper one. Just you two? Plan one (you did it when you dated!). Dress up. Pick up your wife. If she doesn’t feel right leaving for a long time, just go somewhere close. Dressing up super nice and going to fast food is more fun then it sounds. Go to the park and picnic then take a nap. It sounds selfish but one day Luna will model her relationships around yours. Don’t worry this stage of babyhood doesn’t last long but one day you long for how easy it was. Amanda- Us moms are stubborn. We feel the need to run the race and carry everyone too. It’s ok to have mom time. Even if it means going to the store alone and grabbing a coffee. Have one part of the day where it’s your time. You do what you want to do! Your sanity is important. It’s ok to have a slighty dirty kitchen or some laundry not done. The world will still go on. And it’s ok to ask for help! When you both got married you became a team. Let him help out in little ways. Even if he made sure your set up for the night feedings, he’ll feel like he’s making a difference and you’ll be less stressed. I wish you both the best!
I think what could have helped was to not start so many projects after Luna was only a few weeks old. They should have either been slowly introduced or held off until Luna was a few months old.
+Matt & Amanda As a professional Can Man, I recommend you use a fork to remove the lid from your can of opened tuna. Then the fork can be used to help remove all the pieces of tuna. That advice cost $10.
I don't go out much with my 3 week old either but I try to get out during the week to eat with my husband. It's hard not to worry about being out when the baby starts crying but I take comfort in knowing that I have everything she needs in my diaper bag. My husband works all day so he takes over after work and on the weekends so I can rest. He doesn't have the opportunity to rest during the day like I do so that's how we both have time to rest and take care of our baby. And if during a weeknight I need help he is there and willing to help. Try not to let what people say and think get into your head and just live how you feel is appropriate.
My biggest advice is to keep along with Luna's schedule when going out, after feeding, before nap time was always my prime getting out of the house time with my three boys as babies. They're usually wide awake for a good amount of time after a feeding and the stimulation is very good for her as well. Babies will fuss no matter what, it's just being prepared ahead of time that will make it less of a headache. A pacifier, stuffed animal or blanket from home is also a good comfort while they're out, smells of home, mommy and daddy and has always calmed my boys down when they were that little. Much love to you three!
Being a parent is really hard no matter whether you have one or two kids. There will always be people who will judge you. Just have confidence in yourself as a parent and that you know what is best for them. Something that you can do is just be patient with her and to support her. Moms go through so much mentally and physically after having a baby. Also, something to watch for is postpartum depression. I went through it with my first child and having the support from my husband and family helped get me through it. Good luck with your new baby girl and enjoy this time with her. They grow so fast.
When my mom went out with my two of my brothers and I when we were little, we were always difficult. We would run around, cry, throw fits, you know that kinda stuff. And after awhile my mom stopped caring what others think around her. She acknowledge that we were busy kids. It may take Amanda awhile, but it's your baby and that's what important. I'm sorry that Amanda is scared but it's really okay. I hope I sorts helped :)
The thing that worries me is that, if Luna isn't given the opportunity to get to know the outside world and be comfortable with noise and people and stuff, she might grow up with behavioural issues in the future. She's very malleable at the moment, and these are the times when socialization and interaction with people other than her family is really important so when she's one or two years old she ISN'T throwing a tantrum in a grocery store because she's freaked out by the noise and the crowd. I know it's scary, but even if she starts fussing, most people will understand -- she' a baby, babies cry. The end result will be completely worth the discomfort at the time. On a completely unrelated note, I would not be opposed to a regular "Cooking With Matthias" series.
Matthias, you try your best to be there for your family. I respect that a lot. Your helping your family by providing them with money and a father that takes care of them. So you shouldn't feel all that guilty ; ) Amanda and you are amazing parents
Wow wow wow at these comments. Us as viewers get half of the story, we get to hear the conversations they WANT us to hear, and it's our job to watch the video and give POSITIVE feedback. What's the point in criticizing them? I get that you want to help Amanda, but she is a grown woman, first time mom and has been with Matthias for YEARS, i'm pretty sure they can talk with each other about what's bothering them in THEIR life. Because as soon as you get on either of their nerves with these negative comments you (viewers) are the first to complain how they aren't smiling, how they aren't joking around, how they're doing something wrong, and if they don't post frequently you also complain. This is Matt's JOB, Hi5 Studios now has many more employees and he not only has to make money for him, Amanda and Luna but he also has to make enough money to pay the rest of his employees. Stop complaining and telling him how to be and how to help around, he helps by making money to maintain his family and props to him, because UA-cam isn't a stable job and he still manages to help his family. You don't know their whole life!!!!
it's always difficult with young babies at first,but I just took my babies with me and carried on as normal as possible,it helps to go to places where there is family's,they don't mind crying babies.hugs :-)
My husband accompanied me the first couple times we went out with our newborn and we literally practiced changing our kid in a public bathroom for the first time XD; Also, I'll put a BIG emphasis on NOT worrying about what other people think if Luna cries or anything! It's really just a mental block more than anything to go out with a kid, and you'll get better at it the more you do it. Just remember that you can't take your time anymore because a baby's patience doesn't last forever 😅
I struggled a bit but the docs told me that is was more difficult to get a new transplant because of what I did. My parents didn't trust me anymore and I lost a few friends and felt so alone. But then your videos would keep me trying to go forward and not give up no matter what. I wanted to change for a better life and you guys made me feel like I was part of your family. I know I'm one person but I care a lot and get attached too easily. I hope one day I can meet you guys as well as lil luna, and get a hug. That's all I really want a hug from you guys and I hope it happens. You are my second family and I couldn't ask for more love then you guys send to all of your viewers. Keep strong guys, and keep making me smile everyday. I love you guys. ❤️
I stopped drinking my meds for anti rejection and i had 2 rejections and was losing a lot of weight and not eating at all that i ate and just got nauseous and threw up. So everything went down hill until this summer i finally ws able to start having a normal safe life
Don't be afraid of going out. My baby cried, I talked to her just like she was another adult while I tried to see what's wrong. Actually, I talked to them constantly no matter what as if they could help me pick out groceries. When it came to crying for the breast, I eventually just did it anywhere. I breasted so much my breasts felt like an extension tool and I stopped caring. Do NOT EVER let society make you feel bad about your crying baby. You're still you. You're just you +Mommy now. You don't lose your privelage of being in society just because you gave birth. Matthias, you help her by giving her time. She might feel gross and incompetant and lost right now. Just give her time to find herself and keep helping herewith the little things like you have been. Personally, I needed time to find the new me vs. help from relatives. Good luck @MattandAmanda
I can see how hard this transition is on both Matt and Amanda. I think with time and best practices it'll help. One thing I'd have to say is that I know Amanda has anxiety about bringing Luna out in public because she doesn't really know what to do with Luna or if Luna was to get fussy, and it saddens me that in society, whenever we see a crying baby we immediately want them to (for lack of better words) "shut up". IMO, society makes it awkward for everyone and not the baby and mom, so Amanda if you're reading this, I hope you find the courage in the future to be out with Luna whether she's crying or not. Sending love and positive vibes to you Amanda. ♥
My grandma told my mom that a baby's cries sound louder to the mother than to everyone else, especially for first time mommies. It's kind of like an instinct mothers develop when they have a child, and it would make sense that a baby's cry has to sound loud to a mother. Sending love from Iowa
Advice from my mom about going out with the baby: Just go for it, most people are very understanding of a crying baby and sometimes people will even offer you advice on how to calm them down and what worked for their kids. She also said taking the baby out of the stroller and holding them while they're crying can help console them. Always make sure you've got some food (if they're eating) and something for them to drink. She also said it's very important to take them out to get used to the noise outside so they don't get freaked out so much. Eventually they'll adjust to the noise and trips will become easier and easier. But mainly just relax and go for it. All babies cry and people know that. It's okay :)
Matt!! your stronger in numbers. i went threw the same thing when i had my son. what helped me was going out in a "pack" i latched myself to my bestfriend who has 4 kids of her own and when we would go out she was my safety blanket. Have a person that will calm and protect her. I hope i am explaining myself. but have someone that Amanda is calm around and ok grabbing Luna and helping with her but also can confront someone that would be irrational towards a "crying baby". from then its baby steps. (haha baby steps lol) Another bit of advice from the "Book of New Babys" that no one told you to read (lol) Amanda wont rest for the first 6 months! She can't help it Matt there is something that maternally she doesnt know what to do with yet. She feels like she has to be SuperMom every waking moment. I felt the same way until I ran myself down to the point where it clicked and I stopped and was able to sleep when the baby slept. Even thou you remind her and say that she needs to sleep her maternal instincts are contering reality right now and its a loosing battle. Trust me a new mom never sleeps they only close their eyes and pretend.
In response to what you were saying earlier Matthias, I don't really understand why you can't also wake up at night to feed/change Luna and let Amanda sleep longer. You've said before that you don't need as much sleep as Amanda. Another solution is to just take time off from work. All of your viewers are understanding. And you have an entire team now who can take care of setting up the new Team Edge space just fine without you fully being there. Your wife and daughter should always come before your work. I hope that didn't come off as rude or condescending because I promise that's not my intention; I have nothing but love for you and your family. Just trying to give a little help.
Yes, some men have more demanding jobs and still wake up to care for their babies at night but we don't know the situation they're in. Amanda might want to be the one to take care if the baby at night or maybe Amanda didn't wake Mathias up to help her because she wants to learn to be a mother. We also don't know how much money Mathias is making. He might not be able to take time off work. Remember he doesn't just have to to Team Edge. He has other videos he needs to film and help edit. Amanda might want Mathias to continue working as well. Amanda might usually be breast feeding Luna at night and Mathias can't really help with that. Let's keep in mind that we're only seeing what they're filming so we don't really know who takes care of who the most. Mathias said he's trying his best and I believe him. :p
I understand what you're saying. We really don't know what their lives are fully like because we only see what they show us. Maybe he can't take time of work. Amanda has started to do some bottle feeding though so he can help more with the feeding. I was just trying to offer another perspective. I know they're both trying their best and that's all that really matters :) Sorry if my comment came off as assumption.
I agree. There's no reason that Matthias can't take a day off and let Amanda rest or go out on her own and get some rest and relaxation. Just my opinion
+singer17md I agree too but that would be easier if he still had his own channels to worry about. He's now in charge of other people who will have to work too so he can't just up and leave whenever he wants to even though there is this perception that you tubers lead easy unpacked lives. They actually have a lot of the mundane tasks we have to do too.
Matt if you want to try this recipe I have for tuna here ya go:1.tuna 2.fine red wine vinegar 3.relish 4. Mayo or egg putting step 1:take the tuna out and use a fork to smush it a little step 2: put as much mayo and red vinegar as wanted step 3: put relish in and Sreve alone it'll with Triscuits
I know when I first went out with my son, I was terrified because I was scared that he was going to just cry and want to eat and not let me have fun. But I just needed that push to get out and he ending up sleeping the whole time. just try and push her to get out because I know that if she doesn't, she is going to get super stressed and then get depressed. just try it and get her to get out. I hope this helps
i have to say the best advice i can give as a mother is just go out. if anyone gets annoyed about a crying baby (more often than not they are not parents themselves and don't understand) babies are going to cry and that shouldn't make you worry about what other people think. i used to be like that quite a bit but i learned to zone out that had issues also i had twins so more often than not they cried together lol. the worst time for me was in recent years with one of my boys throwing a full blown tantrum in a shop as he wanted a really expensive toy, we said no and maybe for Christmas because we really can't afford expensive things due to my fiance losing his job through his degenerative knee condition. anyway, my son lost it and because hysterical it went on so long that he had forgotten why he was upset. however the whole time i was fine and decided to take him to the entrance to cool him down. this was the moment a woman in her 40-50's drew me a dirty look and tutted at me. it made me break down in tears and made me feel awful. however within seconds i had a few teens (male and female) try to help and then another woman in her 40-50's sat down next to me and made me feel amazing and also managed to help me calm down my son. it was at that moment i realized the the tutting woman was the minority and didn't deserve to even be acknowledged by me. and i have never let people like that bother me since. just to add, the first few months can be difficult in some ways i am still trying to catch up on my sleep(kidding lol) but it does get easier, they do finally start to sleep longer and when that moment comes it will be bliss, i promise you xxx hope you both have an awesome relaxing weekend.
It can be a little annoying. But my mom would always take me to the bathroom to calm down so we wouldn't bother others. And babies have freak outs which is ok. And kinda cute. And before you freak I said it COULD be annoying
matt and amanda, when i had my first child,i was soo hyper from having her i didn't sleep well the first few days,but i just slept when she did,nursed on demand,and took her out after about the fifth day. i didn't worry much about what others thought.i enjoyed getting out with her. i was in my early twenties when i had my baby,and some people were rude,but i just smiled,and did us. hope you get some sleep Amanda. love your videos...veronica
I do that recipe too, just a little bit differently. Just one can of tuna, one spoon of mayo, lots of peas (I hate olives) and combine and mix with some wholewheat pasta. :)
I had the same fear of leaving the house with the baby when my daughter was that age. What really helped me was scheduling things during the week, not too often but maybe once or twice, and making it to those appointments. Here in Canada we have Early Years Centres that hold drop in programs for babies and toddlers. So I made a point to go to those at least once a week. Then we did baby swim classes. We also did walks around the neighbourhood just to get out. When my daughter got older I signed her up for a baby sign language class that we did together. Lots of programs out there. Since Amanda really likes oils a baby massage class would be right up her alley.
The can opener of preference for me is Pampered Chef New Smooth Edge Can Opener. It doesnt cut the lib, rather it undoes the adhesive of the lid leaving no sharp edges.
Matthias, we do something similar in my country, but it's some fish (usually we use sardines, or tuna), cut onion and butter. It makes a pate like paste that we love to eat on bread.
I went through the same thing, I didn't want to go out after I had my baby mainly for security/health reasons and because I was a C-Sec. I'm not saying security is her reason but I think this is a phase that almost every new mom goes through. We're getting used to being a mom, to attend not just our baby's needs but our needs too and it's very hard to do it at home let alone going out with all of this until we figure it out by ourselves. In my case I could go out when my baby was about 3 months old? I guess I could fully have confidence and say "OK, here we go in the name of God." Not saying Amanda should wait, it all comes down to when she feels like it's OK to do so. Now, what you DO have to look out for, Matthias, is for Amanda not to forget to fulfill her needs. Because that's a huge part of keeping herself healthy physically and mentally. Remember we're always here for you guys. Love you and God bless you three! And I'm done, OK? Luna with her intertwined little fingers qsjbdwevygweefigei *ded* God bless her lots!!
I don't understand how so many people think Matthias is a terrible father... 99% of the time, even new fathers have to keep working, so it's only natural that he does, too. He has to provide for his family somehow! And when he is home he's doting on both Amanda and Luna so much, making sure they're healthy and comfortable and taking incredible care of them. Getting up in the middle of the night isn't the only way to help out with Luna, and if Amanda really needed him to do so, she would tell him. People have no right to judge him or his choices as a parent when he's just trying to do what's best for his family. I do agree that the constant throwing around of the word "triggered" is a little insensitive, though. It's a term that's used improperly a lot (e.g. people claiming something triggers them that, in reality, they just don't like) but no one has the right to police those triggers because everyone's life experiences are different. Even people with strange triggers often have very good reasons for having them, and triggers are SUCH a huge thing for people with anxiety/PTSD, and being triggered is a very serious event that can often lead to people (either the triggered person or, in some cases, those around them) getting hurt. I know SJWs can be really ridiculous about some things, but this is just one case in which Matthias is making fun of a serious issue that I don't think he really has any right to make fun of. :/
When my boys were born, I didn't have someone to go with me. I HAD to go alone no matter the comfort level. The more I went out, the easier it got. If people around you get upset because Luna is crying, that's their problem. That is the only way Luna can communicate with you right now when she needs something. Don't be afraid of what they may think.
You guys are doing great with Luna. A couple of things I did when my daughter was little, baby wearing around the house saves your arms big time. As far as going out two things I had to learn was try and figure out the time of day Luna is the happiest and go out then. If that doesn't work you have to just get used to people looking at you funny. It is a big part of parenting. No matter how well you do there will always be someone to criticize. But for the most part other parents are really helpful and supportive. Good luck and remember to enjoy her!
getting Luna used to being out and about will be great for later in down the road, start small like taking walks at the park or outdoor malls, being outside will help if she starts crying it won't bother people as much, even though it shouldn't in the first place, babies cry but they grow out of it
Matt. Amanda.You might not want to know this know or not care, but, if you want to know Luna is gonna be right-handed or left-handed, follow these steps. (I learned this from school) Steps: 1. Lay Luna on her back. Preferably on the couch. 2. See which side she moves her head, or her hands, to. 3. If she went to the left side, she will most likely be left-handed. If she faces the right, she will most likely be right-handed. This has been tested(not a lie I looked it up online) and most of the time it is correct. Hope you try it! (For anyone that is not Matt or Amanda, leave a like on this comment so they can hopefully do it.)
You guys, you keep me going with you guys trying to get everything normal or on a schedule again. I never have commented on UA-cam before but I have always liked your videos and team edge and the crazie crew and yeah. I just want to say a couple of things. I am a 20 year old girl/woman/female and I have watched every video and felt like every single day I was right there with you guys. I struggle with medical issues and depression and anxiety. I have had 2 transplants and the very first one I struggle for years and kept stopping my medication and ended up causing so much damage to it that I ended up in the hospital so many times that when I go there I feel like I will never get out. I fell into a deep depression that I had attempted suicide but somehow God was there telling me it's not my time. I had to go to therapy for it 3 times the first I lied to, 2nd made me feel uncomfortable but 3rd is helping so much along with your videos guys.
Have the Grandmas come by and help. I sure if you ask they would be very happy to spoil their granddaughter. They might have some great advice to boot. I remember my mom talking fondly about the help she got.
I loved the little cooing Luna noises as you were vlogging there. Also giggled at the "cooking with Matthias" section - I am left handed and cannot use a normal can opener! That thing you're using looks like a medieval torture device - go get a new one! We're looking to get Hello Fresh (meal delivery subscription), so looking forward to trying new things.
The cooking section was amazing LOL I usually make my tuna with mayo, a bit of olive oil, salt, a bit of garlic power and pepper. And then I put it on bread with cheese and grill it so you have a Tuna Melt. Or I just put the tuna on ritz (or saltine) crackers. It's the best!
I've had such an amazing day already, your video makes it absolutely fantastic! You guys are amazing and I hope you two have been taking care of yourself!
If your the one that can come and go, no matter how valid your reasons, you truly have no idea and to no fault of your own. Remember, morning sickness, which starts hitting your energy level, then you get about three months where maybe you get some rest, but then at about 5-6 month your tummy is in the way of good rest, again another drain on the energy, then labor a total zip on energy, so now your minus any energy, now add up every two hrs, which actually amounts to 3 if you add feeding and changing time, so really there's an hour inbetween that you have to make yourself go back to sleep, minus the 15 min if your lucky to fall back to sleep, but now your closing in on the 2 hr mark and its feeding time again. So with in almost a year you've equaled approximately an actual months worth of good rest. And trying to nap when baby does means nothing in the house gets done. And when the babies "chill" jeez Louise, it's the only time you actually have to just for a moment remember you actually still exist. So when she's tired, instead of summarising, kiss her and let her know the first chance you get a chance to stop, you'll take over, other than the breastfeeding😊
My tuna sammich process: You get the albacore tuna in the pouches (they don't have a massive amount of excess water like in the can), 1 pouch for each sammich. Best Foods mayo is best, but since I'm on the East Coast I use Hellamans. Add about one healthy spoonful for each pouch, then get French's yellow mustard and put about a dime size into the bowl. Then you get your favorite sweet relish and add about 1 small spoon full, and stir until it's all blended together. You can add more mustard if needed at this point, same with the relish. I like to just put that on non-toasted bread most times, but it also tastes good with toasted bread (Oatmeal seems to taste the best). If I decide I want cheese I usually put sliced Munster or Gouda, since they're mild but go well with the tuna mixture :D
When I was born my mother and daughter went camping like two weeks after, Amanda just has to be ready and when she feels like it but at the same time she shouldn't be scared to take the baby out just push your self and u can do it but u guys are great parents and I love your vids!!
Amanda is such an amazing mom! she loves Luna with all of her heart and I love that so much! you guys are great parents and when Luna looks back at these videos when she is older she will see how much you guys love her!
Please try out this tuna salad recipe. It delicious! First you boil spiral noodles an put them in a big bowl. Then you add 1 can of peas, 2 cans of tuna, and 4-5 tablespoons of egg pudding. Then you mix it around and it's delicious.
hi guys, Idk if Amanda is allowed to eat egg or not but if so, I got this really great recipe for French toast. 1.get cinnamon swirl bread 2.Get mixing bowl and heat stove to medium, put pan on and spray so the toast doesn't stick to pan 3.crack 1 egg for every 2 slices of bread 4.pour some milk into the bowl and stir/mix 5.add cinnamon and stir again 6.drench bread in batter and make sure it's thoroughly covered in the batter and repeat for each slice 7.put bread w/ batter on heated pan and cook both sides of bread until lightly brown 8.serve and enjoy! if you need more information, just ask! :3
Go to a park, if Luna cries it's absolutely fine considering there's tonnes of other kids there already. It gives you all a chance of fresh-air, and Luna some outside time. You and Amanda can get some air and prepare a picnic meal if you want or just walk around and talk to eachother. It's nice to all relax together.
While I'm early I wanna say thanks. You make me smile when I'm sad. You make me laugh... Which doesn't happen a lot, you've given me strength and positivity. Without you guys and you're family, I don't know what would've happened. So just thank you.
I have a baby boy. He will be two months on the 12th. Every time we go out in public, I'm not afraid of if he will cry. but I'm always afraid of how people will react. I'm 21 and there's always some jerk that makes a snide comment about me being young. I always bring a receiving blanket and his pacifier. If he's asleep when we get there, I put the blanket over him and he usually stays asleep. If he's awake, I give him his pacifier and he noms on it and is usually pretty good. I'm breastfeeding him. so I don't usually go out for long periods of time. Just not comfortable with people watching me feed him. I don't know if a pacifier will work for you or not. Every baby is different.
Lovely people, have you had a chat about postnatal depression? Amanda, you're doing a fantastic job, but please don't forget to look after yourself too. I finally admitted it to myself that I had it when my daughter was a year old, and I really wish I had realised sooner! Feeling nervous to go out is absolutely fine, but keep an eye on whether you're actively avoiding it! Above all, massive love and hugs to you both, it will get easier! xxxx
Hello, Amanda and Matthias! It's my first time commenting on one of your videos, though I (through my boyfriend) have been following you for a year and a half. We have been watching you go through moving into a new house, pregnancy - and welcoming your firstborn. Both of your lives have changed dramatically - but Amanda's the one with the broken body, the getting up at night, the being-attached-to-Luna 24/7. Mother and child are symbiotic. And they are going to be for at least the first 4-6 months. That's normal. If Amanda's anything like other mothers - she'll be fine. She'll pull through. Luna will begin sleeping for longer periods very soon. At 4 months, you can begin making blended porridge for her - for spoonfeeding. It'll keep her full for longer. Then you can both sleep. Keep at it - you're both doing great! ❤️
Some things my husband and I did to help the sleep problems.... When the baby woke up, hubby would get up and change the baby, then bring him/her to me and I would lay in bed on my side and feed them with a pillow inbetween he and the baby and me and the baby would be inbetween us. They have beds now that fit up to the bed and you could get one of those, I am guilty of sleeping with the baby, I am a very light sleeper that does not move much so it was safe. You have to know yourself.
Matt makes tuna salad almost like me. Tuna can (as much as you like) Black olives mustard Pepper,Salt Swiss cheese (2-3 slices finely cut) Olive oil + Vinegar Spaghetti (hand full)
I babysit. Sometimes I have to take the baby I'm babysitting to town with me. Some parents are scared like you said, but it's actually pretty good for babies to experience the "outside world." If Amanda is semi cautious about taking her outside, that's completely fine in my book. 😊 Buttt, Luna will only be used to the house. Which makes her think that's what everything is. Interactions are good. Even taking her to like a park, or somewhere quiet to see how she will react with other people around. Idk, my opinion. 👍 ily guys 💗
Don't know if this would help, but my sister always made sure to go out for a walk either once a day or every other day. She'd walk to the park, enjoy being outside and walk back. Even though it was a small thing, it really did help perk her up. Even when she felt like death from lack of sleep :)
OK, sorry for another post. I post as I watch your videos. lol Best ever tuna/chicken salad recipe (my own recipe) 1 can tuna (yes, albacore is perfectly okay) or chicken Dressing (the mayo kind, not salad dressing) Diced veggies (1/4 c of each) - carrots, celery and onions Grated cheddar cheese (1/4 c) Sweet pickle relish (2 tbsp) Drain tuna/chicken, empty into bowl. Add the diced veggies, cheese, and relish. Mix well. Add as much dressing as you need to make the salad the consistency that you prefer. Start out with 1/4 cup and go from there. Stir until the dressing has disbursed evenly throughout the salad. This is good on both toasted and un-toasted bread as well as with butter crackers (such as Ritz) as a dip. This recipe makes a sweeter salad. Will post a recipe for the most awesome Mexican Dip in a different post.
I know this is a episode that came out nearly a year ago. But an idea to help Amanda is maybe to do the dishes or help clean up the living room where she spends most of her time. Just a thought from a chronic illness person who has trouble sleeping and doing task similar to Amanda now but she has much better excuse than I do. also I hope my baby has as big of cheeks as Luna does.
There are so many moms who just let their kids cry and go on a rampage. You know why? Because for the most part they can get away with it. They're kids! And babies! Don't sweat it Amanda!
well Matt and amanda babies actually love going outside and if Luna freaks out dont take her in leave her too look at the traffic and bright colour or even let her watch the parents do something because it makes them feel good and relax and even sleepy sometimes just a tip. love you guys
My grandma used to make me tuna the way you do it, but she also made it a second way. When she was trying to get me to lose weight, she'd skip the mayo and put red wine vinegar instead--not a lot, I'm sure there are recipes online. Then she'd add a little salt and pepper. I paused the video as tuna chunks were flying around your kitchen, so I'm not sure what else you put in besides Spanish olives so I'll list off what she used to put in hers: raw white onion, green olives, celery, either red wine vinegar or mayo, and if it was mayo sometimes she'd also put in a little relish. I think my favorite part was that she'd hollow out a tomato or red pepper and spoon the tuna into that so I had an edible vegetable bowl. She passed away last August. That recipe took a dark turn lol. I miss the old bat every single day.
Things that helped me. You do 1 wake up per night. Hubby used pumped milk from me, usually the first wake up after going to bed so I could have 1 long stretch. If Amanda can't express enough with her feeding as well then maybe you're comfortable with donor milk, maybe from a friend? second thing is as soon as you come home make sure baby girl is topped off on feeds and Amanda gets to leave the house for 1 hour, or run away in the house and hide (Headphones are an absolute must) Hire a house cleaner once a week if you can for 'deep cleaning' and her most hated chore so cleaning is easy. $60 a week made my life so much easier. Take over one chore she doesn't wanna do a day (You may already do this! :) ) Hubby cleaned the kitchen for me every night, with the house cleaner made it suuuuper easy and quick.
Don't feel bad Amanda, I'm with you about salt! I literally hate salt. I can taste it in everything. Especially pudding packs, the ones on the shelf already made. It is gross!!!
Only tip I can give about taking new babies out anywhere is don't worry about her crying or making a fuss. Other parents completely understand that babies cry. No point worrying about what other people think, public spaces are for everyone.
you can start with stuff like walking around with a stroller at parks or your street so it will get easier and more natural to go out with a baby. staying indoors won't help and seeing the outside is more interesting for a baby as well. ❤😄
As a Courtesy Clerk for a store seeing a baby at any time, even a fussing one, makes my day. You don't understand what a blessing it is to see a little one after dealing with rude customers and bosses all day. Sometimes we even want to join in on the crying (but that is a secret.)
You're a great dad Matthias. It's not always the amount of time you spend with your kids, but what you do during the time you have. Your hard work with your job also shows Luna and Amanda how much you love them. IGNORE THE HATERS
+RemyLexington I agree! It's hard for some people to actually understand how much he is doing for our family but we both are doing our jobs to make our family strong and our relationship work :) -A
best tips for going out with a small baby is just make sure she's got a full tummy and toys to play with and her pacifier and if she gets tired and doesn't want to nap in her carseat the carrying her in your sling and do a little bounce while you walk and she should do fine. I know how you feel Amanda about going out and bugging people except my son was quite chill going out and about the only thing I had to worry about was his apnea monitor going off if the stickers even slightly lifted off his skin.
My parents didn't start taking my little brothers and I out until we were a little older, mostly because they didn't want any of us getting sick. But if you're worried about Luna crying in public, I think people will understand, it's not your fault.
I think you and your families faith in god is so beautiful! So many people now adays are afraid to say aloud "I believe in god/i believe in a creator" so beautiful!! Living with purpose and living with with love is amazing!!
Hi Matt and Amanda I hope you guys see this. My name is Sarah and I will be sending you guys some 🎁stuff🎁 soon! I hope you guys can open it on camera if not it is OK I know ur busy with cute little Luna.💜💖💜
they don't open fan mail on vlogs anymore so they most likely won't open it on camera, but it could end up being in the future vlog in the background or something
+Martyna Wasilewicz they used to do it all the time but I don't remember exactly when they said they aren't doing them anymore I just remember them saying it a few months ago
Join a mommy facebook group, see if your city has a children's center and does baby playdates. Not to ring alarm bells but just what I'm hearing and from my experience, it sounds like she might be suffering from some post partum anxiety. I have some serious experience with PPD/PPA, so if you want, feel free to contact me.
Cooking with Matthias was filmed with a live Amanda audience :3
your comment made my day
Id watch that channel.....
don't forget the special not-so-guest Baby Luna. :3
My favorite part of the whole video. XD
Everyone who's saying Matthias is a terrible father/husband for not waking up with Luna during the nighttime: Matt and Amanda chose for Luna to be breast-fed. Matthias doesn't have breasts. He can't do that. 😂 Both Matt and Amanda are doing the best that they can right now, give him a break. I think they're being excellent parents and a wonderful couple. ❤️
Amanda pumps her breasts and puts the milk into bottles sometimes. I'm not saying anything for or against Matt, I'm just pointing out that fact.
Not to mention Matthias is trying to run a business.
I wish people didn't act like they knew 100% what was best for them, like they're part of the relationship.
I hope Matt and Amanda get a good system that works for them soon, so our lovely Amanda can get the rest she needs.
+Rory The Panda I got to say that pumping also takes time.time she could be sleeping or breast feeding. She likes spending time with the baby.
Alexandra Trigg Of course it does, but she can pump while she watches Luna play at the gym thing, during tummy time, even when Matthias is holding Luna. She does not need to hold Luna all the time to spend time with her. I never said she needs to dedicate all day every day to doing it, just when she has time. I know/understand being a mother is a busy, thankless job for the most part. It was just a suggestion so there can be couple bottles around so Matthias can help with some night feeding once in a while. It can be a bonding experience for Matt to feed Luna, too, which would be an excellent payoff for all parties, if you think about it.
They bottle feed Luna too, Amanda was doing it last vlog, so matt could feed her at night but obviously he'd rather sleep then help out his exhausted and hormonal wife on nights
When I had my son, I was stir crazy. We started going swimming after my husband got off work at a hotel. My little man LOVED the water and so did I. Also, soaking in the hot tub helped my husband's back. People freak about germs in pools but the little ones are strong and become immune. I also learned to disregard other's feelings when my baby fussed. It was embarrassing and hard when I was alone but when my husband was with it didn't bother me as much. When they're newborns crying and fussing is waaay different than a toddler having a tantrum. Now I dip out of wherever I am if my little guy is losing his shit. Amanda will go nuts and become very depressed if she isn't able to do things herself and also go out with baby. Much luck and love to you all. Try swimming!!! 😊
And honestly, when I hear a newborn cry in a store or restaurant I say "Awww😍" not "oh my god, shut that baby up"... but I guess people are different so just ignore it and do your thing.
I always get nostalgic to when my boys were that little...little newborn cries are so cute and small.
I think right now the best thing for Amanda is for you to not tell her what to do. Let her get to that point on her own. It's getting use to being a mom. It can take some time. Love you guys.
I don't think he's telling her what to do or more so he doesn't mean to. He wants to help her but not sure how so he suggests maybe getting out. He just doesn't want her to be stuck at the house.
I don't think he's being mean either, but she might just need a little time.
Yes I agree with your comment, I feel like whenever she tries to talk about it to he always cuts her off.
I completely agree with you. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't let her finish what she wants to say or let her express what she's feeling. And sometimes Matt doesn't validate her feelings as well. This is why I love when Amanda gets a chance to vlog and she openly talks about her feelings.
Agreed
Hee Matthias, When my sister had a baby she also had this fear of making people annoyed/tense because of her crying baby. The thing that worked for my sister was that they had to take walks with the baby so she would get used to the feeling of being outside when the baby may be crying there weren't a lot of people. We gradually walked to more crowded places and now she is all fine ans goes every where without worrying. I hope that this helps xxx
It has been 8 years since my daughter was born and even now I am the only one who gets up when my daughter gets sick. Household stuff falls on me. It has always been me. I am back in College and I still feel like my plate is overflowing and I wish I had time to just watch a movie. Yet my husband seems to be able to find time for video games etc.
The only suggestion I have for you Matthias is help wherever you can!!! Dishes, Laundry, anything! Don't wait for Amanda to ask you to do it simply take initiative sometime sometimes something so simple can be such a big help
I felt the same way with my son, though for the first two months of his life he was still in the hospital. When we were finally able to bring him home, I didn't want to go out with him, because I was afraid that something would go wrong and that I would have no idea what to do. That lasted about two weeks, and my husband finally got me out of the house, with our son, to go grocery shopping. Actually, my husband helped me out a lot for the first few months... but anyway! After that, it was just walks around the neighbourhood. Going to the park, going for coffee... really, you just have to push yourself and just do it. But it does help to have someone with you.
I'm not a mom, but something that my mom friends have done is take weekly walks through the park (mid-day in a semi-popular park so as to not be completely isolated) with the baby, so they are out of the house, but not necessarily around a large amount of people, like you would be in a grocery store. Sometimes going for quick coffee shop meetings with a friend and the baby for even 15 minutes. Meeting other moms and socializing the baby early on is important too, as I have seen with my niece. You'll find that many people aren't overly annoyed by crying babies, and if they are, you're doing what you need to do for your child, and they don't need to judge you for anything. You're doing great Amanda! Keep it up! :)
A tip my mom used when I was a baby that worked was after I became aware of everything around me I had a certain blanket that I loved and always slept with. Maybe if Luna has a stuffed animal or blanket or something like that with her it'll call her down? My mom used to give me my blanket when she was on public and she said I was less fussy and more calm. Hope that helps
You asked for some mommy wisdom, so let me give you both some of the best advice I’ve learned over 10 years of having kids and being a wifey.
Matt- I’ll give you the best words that a friend told me with my first kiddo. And for many it will sound selfish. When first time parents focus completely focus on this brand new little life, they put themselves on the back burner. You stay inside and plan everything around little ones. When was the last time you both had a date? Like a proper one. Just you two? Plan one (you did it when you dated!). Dress up. Pick up your wife. If she doesn’t feel right leaving for a long time, just go somewhere close. Dressing up super nice and going to fast food is more fun then it sounds. Go to the park and picnic then take a nap. It sounds selfish but one day Luna will model her relationships around yours. Don’t worry this stage of babyhood doesn’t last long but one day you long for how easy it was.
Amanda- Us moms are stubborn. We feel the need to run the race and carry everyone too. It’s ok to have mom time. Even if it means going to the store alone and grabbing a coffee. Have one part of the day where it’s your time. You do what you want to do! Your sanity is important. It’s ok to have a slighty dirty kitchen or some laundry not done. The world will still go on. And it’s ok to ask for help! When you both got married you became a team. Let him help out in little ways. Even if he made sure your set up for the night feedings, he’ll feel like he’s making a difference and you’ll be less stressed.
I wish you both the best!
Luna has such good parents :)
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I think what could have helped was to not start so many projects after Luna was only a few weeks old. They should have either been slowly introduced or held off until Luna was a few months old.
I can't wait till Luna is older. Because I want to know what she will look like.
Love your profile pic.
Yeah same I think she'll look so cute
I ruined the septiplier chain. Mhuaaa
+Alexandra Trigg LOLLL
Or maybe he will continue youtube but wont show Luna in any videos cause people might start harassing her
wow, from just a scroll theres a lot of negativity in the comments here, that makes me really sad, i hope we can keep positivity as the top comments
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+Matt & Amanda As a professional Can Man, I recommend you use a fork to remove the lid from your can of opened tuna. Then the fork can be used to help remove all the pieces of tuna. That advice cost $10.
I don't go out much with my 3 week old either but I try to get out during the week to eat with my husband. It's hard not to worry about being out when the baby starts crying but I take comfort in knowing that I have everything she needs in my diaper bag. My husband works all day so he takes over after work and on the weekends so I can rest. He doesn't have the opportunity to rest during the day like I do so that's how we both have time to rest and take care of our baby. And if during a weeknight I need help he is there and willing to help. Try not to let what people say and think get into your head and just live how you feel is appropriate.
My biggest advice is to keep along with Luna's schedule when going out, after feeding, before nap time was always my prime getting out of the house time with my three boys as babies. They're usually wide awake for a good amount of time after a feeding and the stimulation is very good for her as well. Babies will fuss no matter what, it's just being prepared ahead of time that will make it less of a headache. A pacifier, stuffed animal or blanket from home is also a good comfort while they're out, smells of home, mommy and daddy and has always calmed my boys down when they were that little. Much love to you three!
Being a parent is really hard no matter whether you have one or two kids. There will always be people who will judge you. Just have confidence in yourself as a parent and that you know what is best for them. Something that you can do is just be patient with her and to support her. Moms go through so much mentally and physically after having a baby. Also, something to watch for is postpartum depression. I went through it with my first child and having the support from my husband and family helped get me through it. Good luck with your new baby girl and enjoy this time with her. They grow so fast.
When my mom went out with my two of my brothers and I when we were little, we were always difficult. We would run around, cry, throw fits, you know that kinda stuff. And after awhile my mom stopped caring what others think around her. She acknowledge that we were busy kids. It may take Amanda awhile, but it's your baby and that's what important. I'm sorry that Amanda is scared but it's really okay. I hope I sorts helped :)
The thing that worries me is that, if Luna isn't given the opportunity to get to know the outside world and be comfortable with noise and people and stuff, she might grow up with behavioural issues in the future. She's very malleable at the moment, and these are the times when socialization and interaction with people other than her family is really important so when she's one or two years old she ISN'T throwing a tantrum in a grocery store because she's freaked out by the noise and the crowd. I know it's scary, but even if she starts fussing, most people will understand -- she' a baby, babies cry. The end result will be completely worth the discomfort at the time.
On a completely unrelated note, I would not be opposed to a regular "Cooking With Matthias" series.
Matthias, you try your best to be there for your family. I respect that a lot. Your helping your family by providing them with money and a father that takes care of them. So you shouldn't feel all that guilty ; )
Amanda and you are amazing parents
Wow wow wow at these comments. Us as viewers get half of the story, we get to hear the conversations they WANT us to hear, and it's our job to watch the video and give POSITIVE feedback. What's the point in criticizing them? I get that you want to help Amanda, but she is a grown woman, first time mom and has been with Matthias for YEARS, i'm pretty sure they can talk with each other about what's bothering them in THEIR life. Because as soon as you get on either of their nerves with these negative comments you (viewers) are the first to complain how they aren't smiling, how they aren't joking around, how they're doing something wrong, and if they don't post frequently you also complain. This is Matt's JOB, Hi5 Studios now has many more employees and he not only has to make money for him, Amanda and Luna but he also has to make enough money to pay the rest of his employees. Stop complaining and telling him how to be and how to help around, he helps by making money to maintain his family and props to him, because UA-cam isn't a stable job and he still manages to help his family. You don't know their whole life!!!!
it's always difficult with young babies at first,but I just took my babies with me and carried on as normal as possible,it helps to go to places where there is family's,they don't mind crying babies.hugs :-)
My husband accompanied me the first couple times we went out with our newborn and we literally practiced changing our kid in a public bathroom for the first time XD; Also, I'll put a BIG emphasis on NOT worrying about what other people think if Luna cries or anything! It's really just a mental block more than anything to go out with a kid, and you'll get better at it the more you do it. Just remember that you can't take your time anymore because a baby's patience doesn't last forever 😅
I struggled a bit but the docs told me that is was more difficult to get a new transplant because of what I did. My parents didn't trust me anymore and I lost a few friends and felt so alone. But then your videos would keep me trying to go forward and not give up no matter what. I wanted to change for a better life and you guys made me feel like I was part of your family. I know I'm one person but I care a lot and get attached too easily. I hope one day I can meet you guys as well as lil luna, and get a hug. That's all I really want a hug from you guys and I hope it happens. You are my second family and I couldn't ask for more love then you guys send to all of your viewers. Keep strong guys, and keep making me smile everyday. I love you guys. ❤️
I stopped drinking my meds for anti rejection and i had 2 rejections and was losing a lot of weight and not eating at all that i ate and just got nauseous and threw up. So everything went down hill until this summer i finally ws able to start having a normal safe life
Don't be afraid of going out. My baby cried, I talked to her just like she was another adult while I tried to see what's wrong. Actually, I talked to them constantly no matter what as if they could help me pick out groceries. When it came to crying for the breast, I eventually just did it anywhere. I breasted so much my breasts felt like an extension tool and I stopped caring. Do NOT EVER let society make you feel bad about your crying baby. You're still you. You're just you +Mommy now. You don't lose your privelage of being in society just because you gave birth. Matthias, you help her by giving her time. She might feel gross and incompetant and lost right now. Just give her time to find herself and keep helping herewith the little things like you have been. Personally, I needed time to find the new me vs. help from relatives. Good luck @MattandAmanda
From what I've heard and seen, you've been a great father and you and Amanda are doing the best you guys can in your particular situation 😊
I can see how hard this transition is on both Matt and Amanda. I think with time and best practices it'll help. One thing I'd have to say is that I know Amanda has anxiety about bringing Luna out in public because she doesn't really know what to do with Luna or if Luna was to get fussy, and it saddens me that in society, whenever we see a crying baby we immediately want them to (for lack of better words) "shut up". IMO, society makes it awkward for everyone and not the baby and mom, so Amanda if you're reading this, I hope you find the courage in the future to be out with Luna whether she's crying or not. Sending love and positive vibes to you Amanda. ♥
My grandma told my mom that a baby's cries sound louder to the mother than to everyone else, especially for first time mommies. It's kind of like an instinct mothers develop when they have a child, and it would make sense that a baby's cry has to sound loud to a mother. Sending love from Iowa
Babies are so overwhelming. My baby is almost 8 months and I'm overwhelmed everyday, going out helps so much.
Advice from my mom about going out with the baby: Just go for it, most people are very understanding of a crying baby and sometimes people will even offer you advice on how to calm them down and what worked for their kids. She also said taking the baby out of the stroller and holding them while they're crying can help console them. Always make sure you've got some food (if they're eating) and something for them to drink. She also said it's very important to take them out to get used to the noise outside so they don't get freaked out so much. Eventually they'll adjust to the noise and trips will become easier and easier.
But mainly just relax and go for it. All babies cry and people know that. It's okay :)
Yes they use canola oil Matthias. They use an Emulsion technique to make it. Egg and oil. (Lots of oil)
Now I know why Amanda worries about her kitchen when Mattias is in there alone!!!
Matt!! your stronger in numbers. i went threw the same thing when i had my son. what helped me was going out in a "pack" i latched myself to my bestfriend who has 4 kids of her own and when we would go out she was my safety blanket. Have a person that will calm and protect her. I hope i am explaining myself. but have someone that Amanda is calm around and ok grabbing Luna and helping with her but also can confront someone that would be irrational towards a "crying baby". from then its baby steps. (haha baby steps lol) Another bit of advice from the "Book of New Babys" that no one told you to read (lol) Amanda wont rest for the first 6 months! She can't help it Matt there is something that maternally she doesnt know what to do with yet. She feels like she has to be SuperMom every waking moment. I felt the same way until I ran myself down to the point where it clicked and I stopped and was able to sleep when the baby slept. Even thou you remind her and say that she needs to sleep her maternal instincts are contering reality right now and its a loosing battle. Trust me a new mom never sleeps they only close their eyes and pretend.
In response to what you were saying earlier Matthias, I don't really understand why you can't also wake up at night to feed/change Luna and let Amanda sleep longer. You've said before that you don't need as much sleep as Amanda. Another solution is to just take time off from work. All of your viewers are understanding. And you have an entire team now who can take care of setting up the new Team Edge space just fine without you fully being there. Your wife and daughter should always come before your work. I hope that didn't come off as rude or condescending because I promise that's not my intention; I have nothing but love for you and your family. Just trying to give a little help.
Yes, some men have more demanding jobs and still wake up to care for their babies at night but we don't know the situation they're in. Amanda might want to be the one to take care if the baby at night or maybe Amanda didn't wake Mathias up to help her because she wants to learn to be a mother.
We also don't know how much money Mathias is making. He might not be able to take time off work. Remember he doesn't just have to to Team Edge. He has other videos he needs to film and help edit. Amanda might want Mathias to continue working as well. Amanda might usually be breast feeding Luna at night and Mathias can't really help with that.
Let's keep in mind that we're only seeing what they're filming so we don't really know who takes care of who the most. Mathias said he's trying his best and I believe him. :p
I understand what you're saying. We really don't know what their lives are fully like because we only see what they show us. Maybe he can't take time of work. Amanda has started to do some bottle feeding though so he can help more with the feeding. I was just trying to offer another perspective. I know they're both trying their best and that's all that really matters :) Sorry if my comment came off as assumption.
I agree. There's no reason that Matthias can't take a day off and let Amanda rest or go out on her own and get some rest and relaxation. Just my opinion
+singer17md I agree too but that would be easier if he still had his own channels to worry about. He's now in charge of other people who will have to work too so he can't just up and leave whenever he wants to even though there is this perception that you tubers lead easy unpacked lives. They actually have a lot of the mundane tasks we have to do too.
she breast feeds so how is he going to feed her?
Matt if you want to try this recipe I have for tuna here ya go:1.tuna 2.fine red wine vinegar 3.relish 4. Mayo or egg putting step 1:take the tuna out and use a fork to smush it a little step 2: put as much mayo and red vinegar as wanted step 3: put relish in and Sreve alone it'll with Triscuits
I know when I first went out with my son, I was terrified because I was scared that he was going to just cry and want to eat and not let me have fun. But I just needed that push to get out and he ending up sleeping the whole time. just try and push her to get out because I know that if she doesn't, she is going to get super stressed and then get depressed. just try it and get her to get out. I hope this helps
The whole "egg pudding" part seriously just cracked me up the whole time! Can we get more Mathias trying to prepare food videos?! 😂😂😂
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i have to say the best advice i can give as a mother is just go out. if anyone gets annoyed about a crying baby (more often than not they are not parents themselves and don't understand) babies are going to cry and that shouldn't make you worry about what other people think. i used to be like that quite a bit but i learned to zone out that had issues also i had twins so more often than not they cried together lol. the worst time for me was in recent years with one of my boys throwing a full blown tantrum in a shop as he wanted a really expensive toy, we said no and maybe for Christmas because we really can't afford expensive things due to my fiance losing his job through his degenerative knee condition. anyway, my son lost it and because hysterical it went on so long that he had forgotten why he was upset. however the whole time i was fine and decided to take him to the entrance to cool him down. this was the moment a woman in her 40-50's drew me a dirty look and tutted at me. it made me break down in tears and made me feel awful. however within seconds i had a few teens (male and female) try to help and then another woman in her 40-50's sat down next to me and made me feel amazing and also managed to help me calm down my son. it was at that moment i realized the the tutting woman was the minority and didn't deserve to even be acknowledged by me. and i have never let people like that bother me since. just to add, the first few months can be difficult in some ways i am still trying to catch up on my sleep(kidding lol) but it does get easier, they do finally start to sleep longer and when that moment comes it will be bliss, i promise you xxx hope you both have an awesome relaxing weekend.
It can be a little annoying. But my mom would always take me to the bathroom to calm down so we wouldn't bother others. And babies have freak outs which is ok. And kinda cute. And before you freak I said it COULD be annoying
matt and amanda, when i had my first child,i was soo hyper from having her i didn't sleep well the first few days,but i just slept when she did,nursed on demand,and took her out after about the fifth day. i didn't worry much about what others thought.i enjoyed getting out with her. i was in my early twenties when i had my baby,and some people were rude,but i just smiled,and did us. hope you get some sleep Amanda. love your videos...veronica
I do that recipe too, just a little bit differently. Just one can of tuna, one spoon of mayo, lots of peas (I hate olives) and combine and mix with some wholewheat pasta. :)
I had the same fear of leaving the house with the baby when my daughter was that age. What really helped me was scheduling things during the week, not too often but maybe once or twice, and making it to those appointments. Here in Canada we have Early Years Centres that hold drop in programs for babies and toddlers. So I made a point to go to those at least once a week. Then we did baby swim classes. We also did walks around the neighbourhood just to get out. When my daughter got older I signed her up for a baby sign language class that we did together. Lots of programs out there. Since Amanda really likes oils a baby massage class would be right up her alley.
The can opener of preference for me is Pampered Chef New Smooth Edge Can Opener. It doesnt cut the lib, rather it undoes the adhesive of the lid leaving no sharp edges.
Matthias, we do something similar in my country, but it's some fish (usually we use sardines, or tuna), cut onion and butter. It makes a pate like paste that we love to eat on bread.
I went through the same thing, I didn't want to go out after I had my baby mainly for security/health reasons and because I was a C-Sec. I'm not saying security is her reason but I think this is a phase that almost every new mom goes through. We're getting used to being a mom, to attend not just our baby's needs but our needs too and it's very hard to do it at home let alone going out with all of this until we figure it out by ourselves. In my case I could go out when my baby was about 3 months old? I guess I could fully have confidence and say "OK, here we go in the name of God." Not saying Amanda should wait, it all comes down to when she feels like it's OK to do so. Now, what you DO have to look out for, Matthias, is for Amanda not to forget to fulfill her needs. Because that's a huge part of keeping herself healthy physically and mentally. Remember we're always here for you guys. Love you and God bless you three! And I'm done, OK? Luna with her intertwined little fingers qsjbdwevygweefigei *ded* God bless her lots!!
I don't understand how so many people think Matthias is a terrible father... 99% of the time, even new fathers have to keep working, so it's only natural that he does, too. He has to provide for his family somehow! And when he is home he's doting on both Amanda and Luna so much, making sure they're healthy and comfortable and taking incredible care of them. Getting up in the middle of the night isn't the only way to help out with Luna, and if Amanda really needed him to do so, she would tell him. People have no right to judge him or his choices as a parent when he's just trying to do what's best for his family.
I do agree that the constant throwing around of the word "triggered" is a little insensitive, though. It's a term that's used improperly a lot (e.g. people claiming something triggers them that, in reality, they just don't like) but no one has the right to police those triggers because everyone's life experiences are different. Even people with strange triggers often have very good reasons for having them, and triggers are SUCH a huge thing for people with anxiety/PTSD, and being triggered is a very serious event that can often lead to people (either the triggered person or, in some cases, those around them) getting hurt.
I know SJWs can be really ridiculous about some things, but this is just one case in which Matthias is making fun of a serious issue that I don't think he really has any right to make fun of. :/
When my boys were born, I didn't have someone to go with me. I HAD to go alone no matter the comfort level. The more I went out, the easier it got. If people around you get upset because Luna is crying, that's their problem. That is the only way Luna can communicate with you right now when she needs something. Don't be afraid of what they may think.
You guys are doing great with Luna. A couple of things I did when my daughter was little, baby wearing around the house saves your arms big time. As far as going out two things I had to learn was try and figure out the time of day Luna is the happiest and go out then. If that doesn't work you have to just get used to people looking at you funny. It is a big part of parenting. No matter how well you do there will always be someone to criticize. But for the most part other parents are really helpful and supportive. Good luck and remember to enjoy her!
getting Luna used to being out and about will be great for later in down the road, start small like taking walks at the park or outdoor malls, being outside will help if she starts crying it won't bother people as much, even though it shouldn't in the first place, babies cry but they grow out of it
Matt. Amanda.You might not want to know this know or not care, but, if you want to know Luna is gonna be right-handed or left-handed, follow these steps.
(I learned this from school)
Steps:
1. Lay Luna on her back. Preferably on the couch.
2. See which side she moves her head, or her hands, to.
3. If she went to the left side, she will most likely be left-handed. If she faces the right, she will most likely be right-handed.
This has been tested(not a lie I looked it up online) and most of the time it is correct. Hope you try it! (For anyone that is not Matt or Amanda, leave a like on this comment so they can hopefully do it.)
I forgot to add to not lay her down on anyone. Just lay her directly in the couch.
Luna with her fingers interlocked is just such a cuteness overload that I can't even function 😭😍❤
You guys, you keep me going with you guys trying to get everything normal or on a schedule again. I never have commented on UA-cam before but I have always liked your videos and team edge and the crazie crew and yeah. I just want to say a couple of things. I am a 20 year old girl/woman/female and I have watched every video and felt like every single day I was right there with you guys. I struggle with medical issues and depression and anxiety. I have had 2 transplants and the very first one I struggle for years and kept stopping my medication and ended up causing so much damage to it that I ended up in the hospital so many times that when I go there I feel like I will never get out. I fell into a deep depression that I had attempted suicide but somehow God was there telling me it's not my time. I had to go to therapy for it 3 times the first I lied to, 2nd made me feel uncomfortable but 3rd is helping so much along with your videos guys.
Have the Grandmas come by and help. I sure if you ask they would be very happy to spoil their granddaughter. They might have some great advice to boot. I remember my mom talking fondly about the help she got.
I loved the little cooing Luna noises as you were vlogging there. Also giggled at the "cooking with Matthias" section - I am left handed and cannot use a normal can opener! That thing you're using looks like a medieval torture device - go get a new one! We're looking to get Hello Fresh (meal delivery subscription), so looking forward to trying new things.
The cooking section was amazing LOL I usually make my tuna with mayo, a bit of olive oil, salt, a bit of garlic power and pepper. And then I put it on bread with cheese and grill it so you have a Tuna Melt. Or I just put the tuna on ritz (or saltine) crackers. It's the best!
I was recently diagnosed with depression, but the cooking with Matthias made me feel really happy, and it really made my day
I've had such an amazing day already, your video makes it absolutely fantastic! You guys are amazing and I hope you two have been taking care of yourself!
If your the one that can come and go, no matter how valid your reasons, you truly have no idea and to no fault of your own. Remember, morning sickness, which starts hitting your energy level, then you get about three months where maybe you get some rest, but then at about 5-6 month your tummy is in the way of good rest, again another drain on the energy, then labor a total zip on energy, so now your minus any energy, now add up every two hrs, which actually amounts to 3 if you add feeding and changing time, so really there's an hour inbetween that you have to make yourself go back to sleep, minus the 15 min if your lucky to fall back to sleep, but now your closing in on the 2 hr mark and its feeding time again. So with in almost a year you've equaled approximately an actual months worth of good rest. And trying to nap when baby does means nothing in the house gets done. And when the babies "chill" jeez Louise, it's the only time you actually have to just for a moment remember you actually still exist. So when she's tired, instead of summarising, kiss her and let her know the first chance you get a chance to stop, you'll take over, other than the breastfeeding😊
My tuna sammich process: You get the albacore tuna in the pouches (they don't have a massive amount of excess water like in the can), 1 pouch for each sammich. Best Foods mayo is best, but since I'm on the East Coast I use Hellamans. Add about one healthy spoonful for each pouch, then get French's yellow mustard and put about a dime size into the bowl. Then you get your favorite sweet relish and add about 1 small spoon full, and stir until it's all blended together. You can add more mustard if needed at this point, same with the relish. I like to just put that on non-toasted bread most times, but it also tastes good with toasted bread (Oatmeal seems to taste the best). If I decide I want cheese I usually put sliced Munster or Gouda, since they're mild but go well with the tuna mixture :D
When I was born my mother and daughter went camping like two weeks after, Amanda just has to be ready and when she feels like it but at the same time she shouldn't be scared to take the baby out just push your self and u can do it but u guys are great parents and I love your vids!!
Lol I meant to said father not daughter hahah woops
Oh, I was like "How do you have a baby 2 weeks after your birth??".
Amanda looks gorgeous under the sunlight. Classic filipina beauty.
Amanda is such an amazing mom! she loves Luna with all of her heart and I love that so much! you guys are great parents and when Luna looks back at these videos when she is older she will see how much you guys love her!
Cooking with Matthias made this one of my favorite videos. I absolutely love you guys!!! You are by far my favorite couple/family. #relationshipgoals
Please try out this tuna salad recipe. It delicious! First you boil spiral noodles an put them in a big bowl. Then you add 1 can of peas, 2 cans of tuna, and 4-5 tablespoons of egg pudding. Then you mix it around and it's delicious.
hi guys, Idk if Amanda is allowed to eat egg or not but if so, I got this really great recipe for French toast.
1.get cinnamon swirl bread
2.Get mixing bowl and heat stove to medium, put pan on and spray so the toast doesn't stick to pan
3.crack 1 egg for every 2 slices of bread
4.pour some milk into the bowl and stir/mix
5.add cinnamon and stir again
6.drench bread in batter and make sure it's thoroughly covered in the batter and repeat for each slice
7.put bread w/ batter on heated pan and cook both sides of bread until lightly brown
8.serve and enjoy!
if you need more information, just ask! :3
Go to a park, if Luna cries it's absolutely fine considering there's tonnes of other kids there already. It gives you all a chance of fresh-air, and Luna some outside time. You and Amanda can get some air and prepare a picnic meal if you want or just walk around and talk to eachother. It's nice to all relax together.
While I'm early I wanna say thanks. You make me smile when I'm sad. You make me laugh... Which doesn't happen a lot, you've given me strength and positivity. Without you guys and you're family, I don't know what would've happened. So just thank you.
I have a baby boy. He will be two months on the 12th. Every time we go out in public, I'm not afraid of if he will cry. but I'm always afraid of how people will react. I'm 21 and there's always some jerk that makes a snide comment about me being young. I always bring a receiving blanket and his pacifier. If he's asleep when we get there, I put the blanket over him and he usually stays asleep. If he's awake, I give him his pacifier and he noms on it and is usually pretty good. I'm breastfeeding him. so I don't usually go out for long periods of time. Just not comfortable with people watching me feed him. I don't know if a pacifier will work for you or not. Every baby is different.
Lovely people, have you had a chat about postnatal depression? Amanda, you're doing a fantastic job, but please don't forget to look after yourself too. I finally admitted it to myself that I had it when my daughter was a year old, and I really wish I had realised sooner!
Feeling nervous to go out is absolutely fine, but keep an eye on whether you're actively avoiding it! Above all, massive love and hugs to you both, it will get easier! xxxx
Hello, Amanda and Matthias!
It's my first time commenting on one of your videos, though I (through my boyfriend) have been following you for a year and a half. We have been watching you go through moving into a new house, pregnancy - and welcoming your firstborn.
Both of your lives have changed dramatically - but Amanda's the one with the broken body, the getting up at night, the being-attached-to-Luna 24/7. Mother and child are symbiotic. And they are going to be for at least the first 4-6 months.
That's normal.
If Amanda's anything like other mothers - she'll be fine. She'll pull through. Luna will begin sleeping for longer periods very soon. At 4 months, you can begin making blended porridge for her - for spoonfeeding. It'll keep her full for longer.
Then you can both sleep. Keep at it - you're both doing great! ❤️
Why not Amanda drop of Luna at your parents house while she goes out with her budz, let Luna have Grandma and Grandpa time!! Just a suggestion :)
But Luna will cry a lot coz she feeds off amandas milk 😁so she Cant leave her and amanda will be worrying too much abt luna
+Martyna Wasilewicz Well....Ted and Katie could feed her with milk bottles? Idk 😂
Amanda sometimes pumps her breasts and puts the milk into bottles for Luna so it wouldn't be impossible.
Like! Matt's parents (or Amanda's, but we only know Matt's,) could even come to the house and spend time with Luna while Amanda gets some sleep!
+Babytherat idk me it was just a suggestion😂
Do you go out on walks? Maybe doing that with Luna will be a way to get out but not neccessarily around a lot of people.
A tip for your tuna 🐟 you can use salad cream instead of mayonnaise. It's healthier for you and adds taste to it.
Some things my husband and I did to help the sleep problems.... When the baby woke up, hubby would get up and change the baby, then bring him/her to me and I would lay in bed on my side and feed them with a pillow inbetween he and the baby and me and the baby would be inbetween us. They have beds now that fit up to the bed and you could get one of those, I am guilty of sleeping with the baby, I am a very light sleeper that does not move much so it was safe. You have to know yourself.
Matt makes tuna salad almost like me.
Tuna can (as much as you like)
Black olives
mustard
Pepper,Salt
Swiss cheese (2-3 slices finely cut)
Olive oil + Vinegar
Spaghetti (hand full)
I babysit. Sometimes I have to take the baby I'm babysitting to town with me. Some parents are scared like you said, but it's actually pretty good for babies to experience the "outside world." If Amanda is semi cautious about taking her outside, that's completely fine in my book. 😊 Buttt, Luna will only be used to the house. Which makes her think that's what everything is. Interactions are good. Even taking her to like a park, or somewhere quiet to see how she will react with other people around. Idk, my opinion. 👍 ily guys 💗
Don't know if this would help, but my sister always made sure to go out for a walk either once a day or every other day. She'd walk to the park, enjoy being outside and walk back. Even though it was a small thing, it really did help perk her up. Even when she felt like death from lack of sleep :)
OK, sorry for another post. I post as I watch your videos. lol
Best ever tuna/chicken salad recipe (my own recipe)
1 can tuna (yes, albacore is perfectly okay) or chicken
Dressing (the mayo kind, not salad dressing)
Diced veggies (1/4 c of each) - carrots, celery and onions
Grated cheddar cheese (1/4 c)
Sweet pickle relish (2 tbsp)
Drain tuna/chicken, empty into bowl. Add the diced veggies, cheese, and relish. Mix well. Add as much dressing as you need to make the salad the consistency that you prefer. Start out with 1/4 cup and go from there. Stir until the dressing has disbursed evenly throughout the salad.
This is good on both toasted and un-toasted bread as well as with butter crackers (such as Ritz) as a dip. This recipe makes a sweeter salad.
Will post a recipe for the most awesome Mexican Dip in a different post.
I know this is a episode that came out nearly a year ago. But an idea to help Amanda is maybe to do the dishes or help clean up the living room where she spends most of her time. Just a thought from a chronic illness person who has trouble sleeping and doing task similar to Amanda now but she has much better excuse than I do.
also I hope my baby has as big of cheeks as Luna does.
There are so many moms who just let their kids cry and go on a rampage. You know why? Because for the most part they can get away with it. They're kids! And babies! Don't sweat it Amanda!
well Matt and amanda babies actually love going outside and if Luna freaks out dont take her in leave her too look at the traffic and bright colour or even let her watch the parents do something because it makes them feel good and relax and even sleepy sometimes just a tip.
love you guys
That tuna preparation though! I'd have killed my husband if he'd prepared it like that! LOL I'm with you on this, Amanda! Use a spoon, Matthias!
If you ever need to take a break, that's perfectly ok and completely understandable 💙💛
My grandma used to make me tuna the way you do it, but she also made it a second way. When she was trying to get me to lose weight, she'd skip the mayo and put red wine vinegar instead--not a lot, I'm sure there are recipes online. Then she'd add a little salt and pepper. I paused the video as tuna chunks were flying around your kitchen, so I'm not sure what else you put in besides Spanish olives so I'll list off what she used to put in hers: raw white onion, green olives, celery, either red wine vinegar or mayo, and if it was mayo sometimes she'd also put in a little relish. I think my favorite part was that she'd hollow out a tomato or red pepper and spoon the tuna into that so I had an edible vegetable bowl. She passed away last August. That recipe took a dark turn lol. I miss the old bat every single day.
Another thing you should add to your "Matthais Delight" is celary! My aunt made this for me all the time!
Things that helped me. You do 1 wake up per night. Hubby used pumped milk from me, usually the first wake up after going to bed so I could have 1 long stretch. If Amanda can't express enough with her feeding as well then maybe you're comfortable with donor milk, maybe from a friend? second thing is as soon as you come home make sure baby girl is topped off on feeds and Amanda gets to leave the house for 1 hour, or run away in the house and hide (Headphones are an absolute must) Hire a house cleaner once a week if you can for 'deep cleaning' and her most hated chore so cleaning is easy. $60 a week made my life so much easier. Take over one chore she doesn't wanna do a day (You may already do this! :) ) Hubby cleaned the kitchen for me every night, with the house cleaner made it suuuuper easy and quick.
Don't feel bad Amanda, I'm with you about salt! I literally hate salt. I can taste it in everything. Especially pudding packs, the ones on the shelf already made. It is gross!!!
Only tip I can give about taking new babies out anywhere is don't worry about her crying or making a fuss. Other parents completely understand that babies cry. No point worrying about what other people think, public spaces are for everyone.
you can start with stuff like walking around with a stroller at parks or your street so it will get easier and more natural to go out with a baby. staying indoors won't help and seeing the outside is more interesting for a baby as well. ❤😄
As a Courtesy Clerk for a store seeing a baby at any time, even a fussing one, makes my day. You don't understand what a blessing it is to see a little one after dealing with rude customers and bosses all day. Sometimes we even want to join in on the crying (but that is a secret.)
You're a great dad Matthias. It's not always the amount of time you spend with your kids, but what you do during the time you have. Your hard work with your job also shows Luna and Amanda how much you love them. IGNORE THE HATERS
+RemyLexington I agree! It's hard for some people to actually understand how much he is doing for our family but we both are doing our jobs to make our family strong and our relationship work :) -A
You guys are doing grea. Luna is a lucky girl. Thamk you for showing the world how a marriage and parenthood should be. You are a shining example
best tips for going out with a small baby is just make sure she's got a full tummy and toys to play with and her pacifier and if she gets tired and doesn't want to nap in her carseat the carrying her in your sling and do a little bounce while you walk and she should do fine. I know how you feel Amanda about going out and bugging people except my son was quite chill going out and about the only thing I had to worry about was his apnea monitor going off if the stickers even slightly lifted off his skin.
My parents didn't start taking my little brothers and I out until we were a little older, mostly because they didn't want any of us getting sick. But if you're worried about Luna crying in public, I think people will understand, it's not your fault.
To help not cut yourself on the tuna can, you can use a reasonably strong magnet and move the lid out of the way. Just thought you wanted to know...
I think you and your families faith in god is so beautiful! So many people now adays are afraid to say aloud "I believe in god/i believe in a creator" so beautiful!! Living with purpose and living with with love is amazing!!
my first time I went outside with my daughter I was scared to but the one thing I did was to just breath and keep calm and just enjoy your day
LOVED this video!! Matthias you should make stuff more often!
Hi Matt and Amanda I hope you guys see this. My name is Sarah and I will be sending you guys some 🎁stuff🎁 soon! I hope you guys can open it on camera if not it is OK I know ur busy with cute little Luna.💜💖💜
hi
they don't open fan mail on vlogs anymore so they most likely won't open it on camera, but it could end up being in the future vlog in the background or something
+heartfullbutterfly they do sometimes 😭😶
+Martyna Wasilewicz they used to do it all the time but I don't remember exactly when they said they aren't doing them anymore I just remember them saying it a few months ago
they don't open things on camera anymore
you should open the can fully, when you partially open it and throw it away tiny fingers could get stuck in the can, dispose of lid and can separated.
Join a mommy facebook group, see if your city has a children's center and does baby playdates. Not to ring alarm bells but just what I'm hearing and from my experience, it sounds like she might be suffering from some post partum anxiety. I have some serious experience with PPD/PPA, so if you want, feel free to contact me.