"To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong" I always remind myself about this. Just to get things done or if I ever feel bad bcos I screw up what I'm doing.
*Conan is my internet (one-sided but its okay) best friend.* ☆the most honest, open and chill person I've ever met(lol, seen). *I'M GLAD YOU'RE A PART OF MY LIFE.*
tips on being happy coming from someone with anxiety and depression: 1. find an aesthetic that makes you happy (Cone's general aesthetic on social media is so pleasing and i love it so much it makes me so happy :)) 2. surround yourself with this aesthetic, decorate your room, your work space, locker ect... 3. don't go looking for things that lower your mood or keep you unhappy 🌞 4. if you're feeling down or you literally don't have the motivation to move even a finger (which is almost how I live my entire life) do not think yourself to be lazy or worthless because you're just tired and you should rest and take care of yourself. 🌱 5. find a beverage that makes you happy and drink often (be careful because caffeine is addictive and too much of it can stop the flow of iron in the bloodstream) 🍵 I really hope this helps, I have honestly learned a lot about self love from Conan even if he doesn't directly preach about it a lot. Thank you so much💖
I’m a perfectionist too.... last year I followed all these study jawns and got all this stationery.... my grades were perfect.... I got 99’s in all my classes (the highest u can get)... but I was miserable... i even worked so hard to get scholarships... but I procrastinated projects cuz I had a fear of failure and imperfections... I started over millions of times if I messed up a single word.... I got sad cuz though my grades were up my speech was terrible... I am from philly so how I talk is just all around me(well my neighborhood).... my grammar is a mess.... I studied grammar hard but when I talked it just idk... it’s hard to embrace the way I talk when I hate how incorrect it is.... this year I’m going to hs so I’m going to focus more on my mental state to balance myself... good grades are nothing when u aren’t happy :( Thanks for the vid.... I related a lot Dang it’s a whole paragraph... imma go now
Man, I relate!! I'm a year younger than you, I think. But it's cool you're overcoming stress and focusing on your happiness : ) (also my grammar sucks)
Something I wrote on Dec 26, 2017 about your channel. "This is something he is creating. He is making an aesthetic online. And I like it. It's not his real life. It's his highlights." Your point is understood👍
Katrina he used to post wednesdays & sundays then college and the ep happened and now he posts Wednesday’s every once in a while and it is a blessing everytime it happens💛
this was actually so weirdly calming cause i never really thought about how even simple things like following study blogs can be bad for your mental health.
Gabriella I. Yep 👍 I didn’t want to say this in front of Conan because I love him and it isn’t a bad thing and he so strong and confident. But I think he would be a bottom 😂 I love you Conan and it’s just a joke
I really enjoyed this :) Nobody really talks about this topic often, and It's such a breath of fresh air to hear this. You have such a happy channel, but can also talk about serious topics, which is such an incredible balance. Thank you! xx
this is so real. thank you for the realness. I feel this so much especially re: good grades and misery. Now that I'm an ~adult~ it's a good performance review and misery. I wrote down something my therapist said recently that I found very poignant: "It's really important to not be miserable."
I am a huge perfectionist and i don't think other people realize that being a perfectionist doesn't automatically make your life ideal. I have spent nights on nights stressing about whether or not I will do good on a test, project, etc. Thank you for speaking out about how living this lifestyle and working so hard can be unhealthy and is no where near as fulfilling as you may perceive. as always, love your videos endlessly.
"we fall in love with people's flaws; the perfect person would be impossible to love." i realize that one of my most consistent things in relationships of any nature is idealizing the person. i think in moments like that, that's when the love somehow fades a little. maybe that's what drove me to stop loving the person i loved the most. also, i've only recently started watching your videos and you're literally art to me, but is my view of you even real? could i appreciate who you are if i know a you that's portrayed as nearly flawless?
I don’t want to be you. But I want to be as honest to an audience as you. To be as genuinely beautiful as you in all senses. This video has proved that you are a beautiful person, particularly on the inside because you notice these things that a lot of people wouldn’t even notice, despite bring attention to.I do not want to be you, I admire you and I aspire to be as honest as you are, whilst still being my own person who has bad days. :)
Entering college, I'm being much more selective with my time and effort. I refuse to overwork myself like I did my senior year of high school. Looks great on paper, taught me valuable lessons, but I was lowkey miserable. Took 7 AP's that year, 11 total: don't overload like that unless you really have to. I'd say start off with 1 or 2, work your way up to 2 to 5 max per year. I started neglecting EVERY other aspect of my life: SLEEP, family, exercise, hygiene. Even with my friends, probably 80% of our conversations revolved around school. I was overwhelmed, anxious, sleep-deprived, started resenting the culture that'd encouraged me to overwork myself, but also I began resenting myself for not living up to its (and my own) standards. It wasn't healthy. I warned my younger cousin and her parents not to take advanced courses to the extreme like I did. Success is subjective; it varies from student to student, class to class, school to school, place to place. Evaluate your goals, what makes them appealing, their possible downsides. You're allowed to adjust and make compromises. I'd call that success.
OoooooOOOOooo dear...even right now as I was watching this video, I had the "wow look at the quality of the camera, the colors, the way you articulate and how intelligent/talented/fun/hardworking you are AAAaaaaaAaaahhhhh I'll never make videos as great as you." kinds of thoughts. I constantly compare myself to others where I highlight their achievements and neglect their flaws as something fun and quirky, which is such an AWFUL thing to do (I hate being an idealist sometimes). I'm so glad you made a video talking about the dangers of idealism. It was such a refreshing video to see, especially coming from you, where I see you as extremely hardworking, but extremely conscientious :)
We just think that way because we don't know the process. Conan has a good color pallet in his room. The dark blue contrasts with the honey browns and that pop of red on his shirt. He just has nice stuff. He also uses filters, and is in front of natural lighting. Go on posts that have the exact same aesthetic. How do I know this? Because I was trying to get that exact same aesthetic before I even found Conan. To go beyond, I think we all need to focus on more than aesthetic. You'll watch your tastes change when you learn more about cultures and history around you. That's not an assumption. It really happens. You'll start to value aesthetic less. And you won't idolize people. For example, through out this entire video all I thought about was if Conan even knew who to vote for in his local elections. I'm not saying he doesn't, but I'm not saying he does either. But me viewing that as an importance makes me not idolize him. Or even, where did he get that furniture from? Did it come from slave labor? Also I believe he teamed up with Amazon for a Back to School series. Amazon is the richest company in the world, and yet all their employees are on welfare and have to pee in bottles because they're over worked. It's slave labor too. Sorry for the long reply. I like watching his videos too. But I'm just trying to inform you how to not idolize people. Know more about the world around you. You won't look up to people when you realize what little truth they know.
Does anyone else just binge these from time to time and just feel...happy? Conan’s just so wholesome and it’s so cool to watch him grow and prosper in the music industry and I’m happy I could watch and be there. It almost feels personal as I grow and change too. That’s why I love him 🥰
You're the best thing in this world. Everyone is. I love your videos because i feel like you are my friend. I don't want to be you. I want to be myself. And so should everyone. I just said what you just said but ya know. That's what i think too.
So i started watching this channel a few days ago and at starting i was like soo happyyy that i found this causes at that time i was very depressed like you know sometimes small things keeps on gathering up and then they explode on one day when you can't take it anymore and you burst out ,and then i heard his songs and it really helped me coming out of that sad zone and i realised there are more better and happy things in life which you should care about and just let go of these small problems if they starts to overpower your happiness. ..i found out his vlogs were so simple and it provide me so much calmness and watching him speak about everything life really made me understand that whatever you do in life should first makes you happy other than comparing your life with other and looking down on youself because we don't have those lifestyles . One thing that he said that i loved is "The things that make them happy aren't the same thing that gonna make you happy"
I wish anybody wouldn't tell me my problems. I have anxiety and depression and I don't liked to be judged for being imperfect. But I can't get myself to love my imperfections. I wish no one would tell me what I am and what I am not. Everybody in my life loves me too much and that makes me feel like I can't let myself be myself. I'm just tired of expectations and societal pressure. I'm just fed up with my mentality that I can't live peacefully.
The whole idea of “the perfect life” is something that takes a toll on us, whether we acknowledge it or not. It’s the reason why two years ago I took a break from social media. When I returned, I looked at my posts and saw I was attempting to create an image so badly of the life I wanted to have. It took a toll on how I lived my life. I realize it was one of my worst times mentally. I couldn’t experience moments without thinking of what I would post. A smaller example being how instead of buying something I genuinely preferred, I bought the one that would cater to my instagram. I archived or deleted most of those now because I don’t really think they represent the actual me in any way. I’m in a healthier place now, recognizing that what we see of others online isn’t entirely what it seems. I don’t need validation from the number of likes a post gets. Instead I needed to make myself find some place of serendipity. Self love is another topic that intertwines with this. This conversation is one that really needed to be brought up. Thanks Con💜
i have always loved the “happy” quality of your videos because i don’t see them as your life but, like you said, a snapshot. a moment, chosen and cultivated for beauty and warmth. and while our lives certainly can’t (and shouldn’t!) be perfect all the time, we can choose to cultivate small moments of happiness, small moments where we bake with friends, or make tea, or get up early one day and go for a walk, or whatever it is that makes the sun shine that small bit brighter through the infinite other moments that are not cultivated for that purpose, the messy ones that just have to happen and the ones that help us grow. i love your channel because it reminds me to create those moments and sometimes, when i don’t have time, creates the moments for me. ps ur spider plant’s little baby is so cute!! it’s growing!!
Conan- I would just like to say I subscribed to you back in 2015 when you first started you channel. I was four years old and thought you were just so funny and I kept watching your videos 😂 I’m twelve now and you have successfully raised me and your music saved me from my crippling depression and stress during my 4-7th grade years and hope it still keeps helping continuing through eighth and until u die ❤ (never?)
Hi Cone, great video. I’ve heard to develop a healthy relationship with the perfectionism of social media is to look at it as inspiration instead of a comparison and in addition to that, take breaks. Also, I'd like to see uncut versions of your art-teas where we hear the pauses and you drink your tea. Much love❤️
Trust me y’all, as a former perfectionist being a slob (sometimes) is so much better (no sarcasm intended). All I can say to my fellow perfectionists out there is that if something doesn’t matter and no one is relying on you, you don’t need to put in 100%. Be choosy with what you apply you perfectionism to, so you can use the remaining energy to do something that makes you happy 😊 Quickly finish that useless assignment to a passing grade in a subject you don’t even like and go out and explore! And NEVER EVER push away your friends and family just to get one perfect grade. Our time is so limited with the people around us and our memories of them matter forever, but a grade only matters for a year at most!
I am a perfectionist, and sometimes it's okay. I always get me work done. On projects, though, I will spend hours trying to make sure that I get an A+. I usually end up staying up until 1AM, rereading essays or making that poster look as good as humanly possible. But because I've always lived knowing that I will get my work done, I procrastinate. Currently I have to write 2 reports, an essay, and fill our a facts sheet before school starts. School starts on the 29th. _pray 4 me_
love you cone and loved the message you shared in the vid. It's so easy for people to get caught up in the light of social media and to forget that content creators don't share every moment of their lives. keep doing you!!
nostalgia for the second art-tea ever!! i totally understand what you’re saying and it makes so much sense. it’s so cool to see how your thoughts on this topic have changed and evolved and grown.
social media is tricky. if you’re promoting a self depreciating, “haha it’s so relatable to be depressed” persona, it’s so unhealthy for the viewers. but, if you’re promoting “my life is perfect and i’m never sad” persona, it gets unhealthy too. i love the way you approach it though. your videos and your instagram posts are tiny snapshots of your happiest moments. you have downs just like everyone else. i’m glad you sat down and talked to us like this!
this video really helped. i've been obsessed with timothee chalamet and it reached a climax this weekend because i almost met him but didnt and i felt like my life wouldn't be complete without timothee, which i know sounds stupid but it was just a huge uncontrollable celebrity crush. and then i felt like my life is just so stupid and boring compared to all the celebrities living in nyc, living their 'perfect' lives and this video helped me realize they aren't living perfect lives and the only way for me to attain this happiness i kept believing i could get out of marrying timmy and living in a fame filled world in ntc is to simply be happy with the wonderful life i do have and make the best out of it instead of struggling after some unattainable ideal because then my life is just going to be full of let downs when instead i could be so joyously in love with my own life. its all about the mindset. thank u, cone.
I’ve never been so emotionally affected by a video. People are constantly telling me how perfect I am, even my close friends, and how flawless the reputation i built up for myself is. But it’s so not my reality and when once I leave school or walk through my front door and start crying knowing that I’m so far from perfect is something that I’ve hardly ever heard put in words. I’m so thankful that cone makes these videos and talks about these types of things, and I hope from the bottom of my heart that he knows they help people. His outlook on life is what got me to love his channel when he was just a lil youngin and what will keep me loving his channel till his last video.💓💘💞💖💗💕💝
I know you probably won't read it, but I would love to leave something. I watched your videos couple months/years ago and they brought me so much joy. I just sat down and listened to your voice, and sometimes I drew. Now, I've heard some not so positive news and I decided to listen to my favourite songs from you 'Greek god' and I remembered your vlogs. After finishing this one I felt so much better. Thank you with all my heart for putting it out there. Have a calming time 🌿
thank you conan, this video is really important. i run a studyblr and i completely agree that my community has a problem! i’ve seen posts saying to study every minute of free time that they have, it’s horrible :(
I think I may have been one of the lucky ones when it came to social media because I made my first Instagram account when I was 18. For the most part I had already figured out who I was, what I was, and what I aspired to be down the road and I think it’s the best way to approach social media. Figure out who you are before you look at the lives of other people on social media. Social media typically isn’t the place to look for role models because their image and spirit will always be perfect and unattainable since they never show everything about their lives. Turn to the people around you, make real human connections, and through them and ultimately yourself find out who you want to be.
I've so grateful that I found your channel your videos have been helping me a lot lately .. I've been starting to love myself all because of you❤️❤️❤️❤️
this video is so so mature. and self aware. conan, honestly, your videos actually make me feel like i can breathe again in MY life. the reminders that it’s okay to be soft, and quiet, and love my home. that i don’t have to party or give into expectations. you remind me how much i love being creative, regardless of how good or bad it turns out. you make me feel a little more whole, and “make” is the wrong word! you remind me. you mirror what i’m capable of if i focus on what really matters to me. and i appreciate that, and you, and your styles, so so much. i understand the fear that you have to be more vulnerable and raw and broken. i also have a social presence on twitter, and frankly, it’s easy for that to also become messy. its based on mental health, so my imposter syndrome is so so real. what do i do? stay positive and hopeful and spread light? show my shit insides and discourage one person? i don’t know. it’s been years of deciphering and sifting through it and social media doesn’t get easier. i am still learning that there is grace for this. that intention matters. so it’s okay, be true to you and what you want to promote. take care of yourself. know that we will so support you as a whole person. like i said, this is SO self aware and personal. all i am saying is that really, you foster many of us feeling good enough and able and content. i love getting that notification. and you showing more of yourself? that will also be lovely and holistic. follow yourself. have grace for yourself.
im honestly so proud of him he has gotten so much more comfortable in front of the camera in the past one or two years and it is just the cutest thing in the entire world to watch him process and get better each and each video after this i love him with all my heart wow.
Who else is still watching these videos in 2022? I love these videos. They r just so comforting and make me feel like I'm not alone. ❤️❤️❤️ Art-tea (or occasionally art-coffee) R the best segments on Conan's Channel! ☕🍵
thanks for this. i used to be proud of being a perfectionist, but now i’m realizing how self destructive it actually is. thanks for helping us becoming happier, promoting self-awareness
This was a really interesting, enlightening, and important video and I think you made awesome points! 👏👏 I definitely always go to your channel when I need something to brighten my day or inspire me. Much love!💕
whenever im in need of advice or someone to share my thoughts with, youre always there. even though i am only watching you through a screen, i feel as if we are sitting in the same room, having a deep conversation. for being someone with not that many friends, but having thousands of thoughts to share, i really appreciate the content you make. thank you cone, youre amazing
Normal people who accidentally drink coffee that is too bitter: ew- forgot the creamer. Conan: *has breakdown in kitchen* The birds outside conan's window: wUt
Conan, oh Conan. You are genuinely the best role model anyone can have. You make it your goal in life to ensure your viewers are happy and love themselves while also showing that they don’t always have to be the happiest, most perfect person to do that. You’re real, and I admire that so much.
Tbh I went through a breakdown short after I discovered more about Conan.. I was so depressed and unhappy with my lifestyle, and I was just like everything he said in this video.. it wasn't easy but I finally came to terms with myself and admitted my life is completely different. I learned it the hard way; but I'm still glad I saw this video. Thank you Conan❤
honestly I’m so happy that you covered this topic because listening to you made me realize that I do compare my myself to false imagery that people put out and it always eats at me that I’m not that “perfect.” i don’t think people realize how much simple things like that can have a serious significant influence/impact on people and it’s important to remind the people like look up to you that’s it’s ok to not be perfect because no one is.
That's funny how this vid popped out on my youtube homepage BUT thank you youtube for recommending this amazing vid! You are the youtuber I can relate. I followed loads of study channels and think that their lives are just PERFECT unlike mine. This literally gives me anxiety. But now I realise that nobody (even perfectionists) are not perfect.
from a theatre kid taking many AP classes and attending rehearsals or shows i totally understand working yourself till you’re sick and it’s super important to take time for yourself ! luvluvluv u cone
Honestly u make me so happy I really enjoy watching ur videos my life is not the greatest rn but I know that it will get better thank you so much Conan for being the light of my dark days you are changing my life for the better I love youu❤️❤️❤️
absolutely love your channel and all your real-ness... I feel like social media has been so toxic lately and it feels like I’m always comparing myself - your channel actually makes me want to be me and makes me want to be happy and makes me want to create something beautiful - so thank you for that ;,)
your videos don’t ever make me feel depressed. in fact whenever I am feeling depressed or anxious I watch your videos because they always make me feel calmer.
When I feel down, unhappy or anxious watching your channel always cheers me up. When seeing you always smiling, joking with your friends and going to your dream school it motivates me to achieve happiness. I don't want to be you nor do I think my life is bad because of I'm not you. Seeing the snippets of your life that you show the world shows me that what i want to do can be done and my idea of a happy and successful life is achievable. The you you show has a lot of positivity and energy, watching you gives me that positivity and energy. School is a few days away for me and I'm very nervous to start college classes, I rewatch your vlogs to get my self in a positive spirit for school and to show myself college is not the most horrifying thing ever. i don't think it's this happy place you made it be but your vlogs have helped me take a more happy and positive approach to things. idk if any of this made sense sorry lol.
"To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong" I always remind myself about this. Just to get things done or if I ever feel bad bcos I screw up what I'm doing.
preach bro preach xx
Thank u i
i miss conan’s therapy sessions 🥺 i love hearing him talk
Lydia Jane same
Same
i miss him sm
Same
Same
"You're never as bad as they say you are, and you're never as good as they say you are" -Tim Ferriss
twitter cone has been slipping into youtube it’s only a matter of time before he takes over insta too
TWITTER CONE SHALL _RULE_
He has taken insta. It’s too late. Watch the lasted vid please.
this comment is terrifyingly accurate.
well i guess you were right
I'm from the future. Twitter Conan has took over Conan entirely. But now Conan is dead theres only Bonan now.
*the intro was the cutest most pure thing I have ever seen* 💛
Luke Alexander well his literally the purest human being
He's so cute
honestly yes
Yall don't know him on twitter then
girl i know hahahaha
*Conan is my internet (one-sided but its okay) best friend.*
☆the most honest, open and chill person I've ever met(lol, seen).
*I'M GLAD YOU'RE A PART OF MY LIFE.*
Yess someone actually said it . It’s kind of sad but I m also so happy that he exists
I've been feeling very down lately and he's not failed once to make me smile :)
@@AreeeAsh same
If I could switch bodies with anyone for a day I would choose Conan just to experience the true power of that majestic hair.
•AuzzieToons• bold of you to assume it can look bad
Skittlez Band tumblrrr
-has breakdown for coffee without cream-
Coffee without cream is gross
@@felix9441 sameee
*i did not sneeze but thank you for this blessing*
peaches and stars I sneezed by looking at this comment
toni so i guess this comment is a blessing?
food chain
Smoooooth
start a podcast.
im begging you
ella marie we should sign a petition
PLS YES I WOULD LOVE THAT
Need that in my life!!
LIKE AND COMMENT ON THIS FOR PODCAST
ikr i could listen to him talk for hours aww
*”don’t debate me”* 💖😂
Linda Thao love that
hi i'm back lol. "the best version of yourself isn’t going to be someone elses idea of perfection" really hit me hard. love that
Yes ma’am it did
honestly, you breaking down bc of black coffee is a BIG mood rn
THATS THE OUTFIT YOU WORE IN THE LOOKALIKE LIVE SESSION OML
Nudeerah yup. Just checked.
Oh no! I completely relate on the “working yourself until you fall sick” front. Thanks for reminding us to take care of ourselves. 😭🙏
tips on being happy coming from someone with anxiety and depression:
1. find an aesthetic that makes you happy (Cone's general aesthetic on social media is so pleasing and i love it so much it makes me so happy :))
2. surround yourself with this aesthetic, decorate your room, your work space, locker ect...
3. don't go looking for things that lower your mood or keep you unhappy 🌞
4. if you're feeling down or you literally don't have the motivation to move even a finger (which is almost how I live my entire life) do not think yourself to be lazy or worthless because you're just tired and you should rest and take care of yourself. 🌱
5. find a beverage that makes you happy and drink often (be careful because caffeine is addictive and too much of it can stop the flow of iron in the bloodstream) 🍵
I really hope this helps, I have honestly learned a lot about self love from Conan even if he doesn't directly preach about it a lot. Thank you so much💖
thanks this helped
I’m a perfectionist too.... last year I followed all these study jawns and got all this stationery.... my grades were perfect.... I got 99’s in all my classes (the highest u can get)... but I was miserable... i even worked so hard to get scholarships... but I procrastinated projects cuz I had a fear of failure and imperfections... I started over millions of times if I messed up a single word.... I got sad cuz though my grades were up my speech was terrible... I am from philly so how I talk is just all around me(well my neighborhood).... my grammar is a mess.... I studied grammar hard but when I talked it just idk... it’s hard to embrace the way I talk when I hate how incorrect it is.... this year I’m going to hs so I’m going to focus more on my mental state to balance myself... good grades are nothing when u aren’t happy :(
Thanks for the vid.... I related a lot
Dang it’s a whole paragraph... imma go now
this comment have been written by me, no joke. everything you said is the way I was last year too! also im from philly too! :)
Kat Marie ayeee
aye, i’m from philly too!!! (uptownnn) and i relate and i hope you’re doing better
Man, I relate!! I'm a year younger than you, I think. But it's cool you're overcoming stress and focusing on your happiness : ) (also my grammar sucks)
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Don’t worry Conan ur imperfect in my eyes
*i meant that in the best way*
Unpopular opinion : why does this comment not have more likes?
@@anushk4core Because we all try hard to be perfect when we are not.
Something I wrote on Dec 26, 2017 about your channel.
"This is something he is creating. He is making an aesthetic online. And I like it. It's not his real life. It's his highlights."
Your point is understood👍
so beautiful.✨
“The best version of yourself isn’t going to be someone else’s idea of perfection” & “chasing perfection will always let you down” wise words
*Are we now getting 2 Cone vids a week?* cause I’m here for that, anyone else?💛
Luke Alexander yes i’m fricken here for that
YES IM HERE FOR IT
yeeees he used to post rarely and now he's spoiling us with these videos ❤
Luke Alexander this is the real tea spilled today
Katrina he used to post wednesdays & sundays then college and the ep happened and now he posts Wednesday’s every once in a while and it is a blessing everytime it happens💛
this was actually so weirdly calming cause i never really thought about how even simple things like following study blogs can be bad for your mental health.
omg a SPONSER?? get that coin king!!
'these studyblr accounts..' *wipes tear in studyblr account owner*
cloudyhaao효진 😞 i felt this... also im here bc his new song made me need to rewatch all of his old videos
the real question is: was conan *really* wearing pants?????
Matthew Parrella 0:27
Gabriella I. Yep 👍
I didn’t want to say this in front of Conan because I love him and it isn’t a bad thing and he so strong and confident. But I think he would be a bottom 😂 I love you Conan and it’s just a joke
i think he was? i THINK! perhaps
this has 666 likes and i can't ruin it im sorry
Yea i paused lol
I really enjoyed this :) Nobody really talks about this topic often, and It's such a breath of fresh air to hear this. You have such a happy channel, but can also talk about serious topics, which is such an incredible balance. Thank you! xx
this is so real. thank you for the realness. I feel this so much especially re: good grades and misery. Now that I'm an ~adult~ it's a good performance review and misery. I wrote down something my therapist said recently that I found very poignant: "It's really important to not be miserable."
0:13 seconds in the video and it was the cutest thing ever wtff
tHerE’s ToO mAny *_bEbbLeS_*
Me:
No one:
Literally not a person:
Not a soul:
Conan: Hey yall i'm from Texas yeehaw 🤠
I am a huge perfectionist and i don't think other people realize that being a perfectionist doesn't automatically make your life ideal. I have spent nights on nights stressing about whether or not I will do good on a test, project, etc. Thank you for speaking out about how living this lifestyle and working so hard can be unhealthy and is no where near as fulfilling as you may perceive. as always, love your videos endlessly.
I completely agree
same I feel like my life would actually be 100x better if I wasn't such a perfectionist :/
"we fall in love with people's flaws; the perfect person would be impossible to love." i realize that one of my most consistent things in relationships of any nature is idealizing the person. i think in moments like that, that's when the love somehow fades a little. maybe that's what drove me to stop loving the person i loved the most.
also, i've only recently started watching your videos and you're literally art to me, but is my view of you even real? could i appreciate who you are if i know a you that's portrayed as nearly flawless?
I don’t want to be you. But I want to be as honest to an audience as you. To be as genuinely beautiful as you in all senses. This video has proved that you are a beautiful person, particularly on the inside because you notice these things that a lot of people wouldn’t even notice, despite bring attention to.I do not want to be you, I admire you and I aspire to be as honest as you are, whilst still being my own person who has bad days. :)
someone: what’s your favorite tea
me: coffee.
them: but coffee isn-
me:ShHhHhHhHH
me
You’re too precious for this cruel world ❤️
Luke Alexander LMAO someone’s got a crush all these comments HAHAHAH obviously understandable
Luke Alexander have you seen Twitter Conan... this bad bitch can handle themselves
Davee Matthew HAHSKDJDND
Lol
Entering college, I'm being much more selective with my time and effort. I refuse to overwork myself like I did my senior year of high school. Looks great on paper, taught me valuable lessons, but I was lowkey miserable. Took 7 AP's that year, 11 total: don't overload like that unless you really have to. I'd say start off with 1 or 2, work your way up to 2 to 5 max per year. I started neglecting EVERY other aspect of my life: SLEEP, family, exercise, hygiene. Even with my friends, probably 80% of our conversations revolved around school. I was overwhelmed, anxious, sleep-deprived, started resenting the culture that'd encouraged me to overwork myself, but also I began resenting myself for not living up to its (and my own) standards. It wasn't healthy. I warned my younger cousin and her parents not to take advanced courses to the extreme like I did. Success is subjective; it varies from student to student, class to class, school to school, place to place. Evaluate your goals, what makes them appealing, their possible downsides. You're allowed to adjust and make compromises. I'd call that success.
OoooooOOOOooo dear...even right now as I was watching this video, I had the "wow look at the quality of the camera, the colors, the way you articulate and how intelligent/talented/fun/hardworking you are AAAaaaaaAaaahhhhh I'll never make videos as great as you." kinds of thoughts. I constantly compare myself to others where I highlight their achievements and neglect their flaws as something fun and quirky, which is such an AWFUL thing to do (I hate being an idealist sometimes). I'm so glad you made a video talking about the dangers of idealism. It was such a refreshing video to see, especially coming from you, where I see you as extremely hardworking, but extremely conscientious :)
JuSong i think you just articulated my thoughts exactly! i think it's good to be aware of these thoughts and stop and be critical
We just think that way because we don't know the process. Conan has a good color pallet in his room. The dark blue contrasts with the honey browns and that pop of red on his shirt. He just has nice stuff. He also uses filters, and is in front of natural lighting. Go on posts that have the exact same aesthetic. How do I know this? Because I was trying to get that exact same aesthetic before I even found Conan.
To go beyond, I think we all need to focus on more than aesthetic. You'll watch your tastes change when you learn more about cultures and history around you. That's not an assumption. It really happens. You'll start to value aesthetic less. And you won't idolize people.
For example, through out this entire video all I thought about was if Conan even knew who to vote for in his local elections. I'm not saying he doesn't, but I'm not saying he does either. But me viewing that as an importance makes me not idolize him. Or even, where did he get that furniture from? Did it come from slave labor? Also I believe he teamed up with Amazon for a Back to School series. Amazon is the richest company in the world, and yet all their employees are on welfare and have to pee in bottles because they're over worked. It's slave labor too.
Sorry for the long reply. I like watching his videos too. But I'm just trying to inform you how to not idolize people. Know more about the world around you. You won't look up to people when you realize what little truth they know.
With the help of editing👍
“chasing perfection will always let you down”
wow conan you are so wise beyond your years!! this video was much needed advice so thank you :))
I can't wait till he hits a million oml he deserves it so much
Bisma he has now!!
I miss his videos like this🥺
SAME
WoWoWo two videos in a week ??? WE ARE BLESSED Y’ALL
Does anyone else just binge these from time to time and just feel...happy? Conan’s just so wholesome and it’s so cool to watch him grow and prosper in the music industry and I’m happy I could watch and be there. It almost feels personal as I grow and change too. That’s why I love him 🥰
nope. tea is leaf water, coffee is bean water.
WoaH
DONT DEBATE HIM 🤠🤠😔😔🤙🤙✊✊
*BEAN WATER*
OOFFF
_Y E S_
This is why I support Conan ❤️he has such a pure heart and only wants people to be genuinely happy :’)
You're the best thing in this world. Everyone is. I love your videos because i feel like you are my friend. I don't want to be you. I want to be myself. And so should everyone. I just said what you just said but ya know. That's what i think too.
this was well put☺️
This comment made me warm ._.
So i started watching this channel a few days ago and at starting i was like soo happyyy that i found this causes at that time i was very depressed like you know sometimes small things keeps on gathering up and then they explode on one day when you can't take it anymore and you burst out ,and then i heard his songs and it really helped me coming out of that sad zone and i realised there are more better and happy things in life which you should care about and just let go of these small problems if they starts to overpower your happiness. ..i found out his vlogs were so simple and it provide me so much calmness and watching him speak about everything life really made me understand that whatever you do in life should first makes you happy other than comparing your life with other and looking down on youself because we don't have those lifestyles .
One thing that he said that i loved is
"The things that make them happy aren't the same thing that gonna make you happy"
I wish anybody wouldn't tell me my problems. I have anxiety and depression and I don't liked to be judged for being imperfect. But I can't get myself to love my imperfections. I wish no one would tell me what I am and what I am not.
Everybody in my life loves me too much and that makes me feel like I can't let myself be myself. I'm just tired of expectations and societal pressure. I'm just fed up with my mentality that I can't live peacefully.
The whole idea of “the perfect life” is something that takes a toll on us, whether we acknowledge it or not. It’s the reason why two years ago I took a break from social media. When I returned, I looked at my posts and saw I was attempting to create an image so badly of the life I wanted to have. It took a toll on how I lived my life. I realize it was one of my worst times mentally. I couldn’t experience moments without thinking of what I would post. A smaller example being how instead of buying something I genuinely preferred, I bought the one that would cater to my instagram. I archived or deleted most of those now because I don’t really think they represent the actual me in any way. I’m in a healthier place now, recognizing that what we see of others online isn’t entirely what it seems. I don’t need validation from the number of likes a post gets. Instead I needed to make myself find some place of serendipity. Self love is another topic that intertwines with this. This conversation is one that really needed to be brought up. Thanks Con💜
love this so much. you put it so well!✨
I swear cone could write books with his speech (also like if your re watching all of his vids right now haha)
conan with a watch is a very new concept to me
i have always loved the “happy” quality of your videos because i don’t see them as your life but, like you said, a snapshot. a moment, chosen and cultivated for beauty and warmth. and while our lives certainly can’t (and shouldn’t!) be perfect all the time, we can choose to cultivate small moments of happiness, small moments where we bake with friends, or make tea, or get up early one day and go for a walk, or whatever it is that makes the sun shine that small bit brighter through the infinite other moments that are not cultivated for that purpose, the messy ones that just have to happen and the ones that help us grow. i love your channel because it reminds me to create those moments and sometimes, when i don’t have time, creates the moments for me.
ps ur spider plant’s little baby is so cute!! it’s growing!!
Art-tea on Wednesday?
On my birthday?
Omg I'm not okay
Love you Conan 💕💕💕
Happy Birthday girl!
Ruby Contreras happy birthday!
Happy Birthday!🌟
Happy Birthday!!
awww happy birthday! i hope you have a fun day!! 💕💖💕
Conan- I would just like to say I subscribed to you back in 2015 when you first started you channel. I was four years old and thought you were just so funny and I kept watching your videos 😂 I’m twelve now and you have successfully raised me and your music saved me from my crippling depression and stress during my 4-7th grade years and hope it still keeps helping continuing through eighth and until u die ❤ (never?)
Hi Cone, great video. I’ve heard to develop a healthy relationship with the perfectionism of social media is to look at it as inspiration instead of a comparison and in addition to that, take breaks. Also, I'd like to see uncut versions of your art-teas where we hear the pauses and you drink your tea. Much love❤️
Trust me y’all, as a former perfectionist being a slob (sometimes) is so much better (no sarcasm intended). All I can say to my fellow perfectionists out there is that if something doesn’t matter and no one is relying on you, you don’t need to put in 100%. Be choosy with what you apply you perfectionism to, so you can use the remaining energy to do something that makes you happy 😊 Quickly finish that useless assignment to a passing grade in a subject you don’t even like and go out and explore! And NEVER EVER push away your friends and family just to get one perfect grade. Our time is so limited with the people around us and our memories of them matter forever, but a grade only matters for a year at most!
I am a perfectionist, and sometimes it's okay. I always get me work done. On projects, though, I will spend hours trying to make sure that I get an A+. I usually end up staying up until 1AM, rereading essays or making that poster look as good as humanly possible. But because I've always lived knowing that I will get my work done, I procrastinate. Currently I have to write 2 reports, an essay, and fill our a facts sheet before school starts. School starts on the 29th. _pray 4 me_
love you cone and loved the message you shared in the vid. It's so easy for people to get caught up in the light of social media and to forget that content creators don't share every moment of their lives. keep doing you!!
nostalgia for the second art-tea ever!! i totally understand what you’re saying and it makes so much sense. it’s so cool to see how your thoughts on this topic have changed and evolved and grown.
sophia tingley fr tho !
social media is tricky. if you’re promoting a self depreciating, “haha it’s so relatable to be depressed” persona, it’s so unhealthy for the viewers. but, if you’re promoting “my life is perfect and i’m never sad” persona, it gets unhealthy too.
i love the way you approach it though. your videos and your instagram posts are tiny snapshots of your happiest moments. you have downs just like everyone else. i’m glad you sat down and talked to us like this!
girl i miss this sm
The lookalike outfit... Nostalgia at its finest.
this video really helped. i've been obsessed with timothee chalamet and it reached a climax this weekend because i almost met him but didnt and i felt like my life wouldn't be complete without timothee, which i know sounds stupid but it was just a huge uncontrollable celebrity crush. and then i felt like my life is just so stupid and boring compared to all the celebrities living in nyc, living their 'perfect' lives and this video helped me realize they aren't living perfect lives and the only way for me to attain this happiness i kept believing i could get out of marrying timmy and living in a fame filled world in ntc is to simply be happy with the wonderful life i do have and make the best out of it instead of struggling after some unattainable ideal because then my life is just going to be full of let downs when instead i could be so joyously in love with my own life. its all about the mindset. thank u, cone.
I’ve never been so emotionally affected by a video. People are constantly telling me how perfect I am, even my close friends, and how flawless the reputation i built up for myself is. But it’s so not my reality and when once I leave school or walk through my front door and start crying knowing that I’m so far from perfect is something that I’ve hardly ever heard put in words. I’m so thankful that cone makes these videos and talks about these types of things, and I hope from the bottom of my heart that he knows they help people. His outlook on life is what got me to love his channel when he was just a lil youngin and what will keep me loving his channel till his last video.💓💘💞💖💗💕💝
I know you probably won't read it, but I would love to leave something. I watched your videos couple months/years ago and they brought me so much joy. I just sat down and listened to your voice, and sometimes I drew. Now, I've heard some not so positive news and I decided to listen to my favourite songs from you 'Greek god' and I remembered your vlogs. After finishing this one I felt so much better. Thank you with all my heart for putting it out there. Have a calming time 🌿
thank you conan, this video is really important. i run a studyblr and i completely agree that my community has a problem! i’ve seen posts saying to study every minute of free time that they have, it’s horrible :(
I think I may have been one of the lucky ones when it came to social media because I made my first Instagram account when I was 18. For the most part I had already figured out who I was, what I was, and what I aspired to be down the road and I think it’s the best way to approach social media. Figure out who you are before you look at the lives of other people on social media. Social media typically isn’t the place to look for role models because their image and spirit will always be perfect and unattainable since they never show everything about their lives. Turn to the people around you, make real human connections, and through them and ultimately yourself find out who you want to be.
I’m actually addicted to these art-tea videos but i’ve watched most of them 😔 please make more if you have time 😁
This really helped me from feeling really bad about making a mistake in front of people
I've so grateful that I found your channel your videos have been helping me a lot lately .. I've been starting to love myself all because of you❤️❤️❤️❤️
rewatching cause your old videos are my comfort videos
Dying-of-laughter Cone is my fave Cone
conan keep doing you baby. real will always recognize real. you will find your way to the top by being just you. love u.
you're so genuine and real and relatable, love you so much .
this video is so so mature. and self aware. conan, honestly, your videos actually make me feel like i can breathe again in MY life. the reminders that it’s okay to be soft, and quiet, and love my home. that i don’t have to party or give into expectations. you remind me how much i love being creative, regardless of how good or bad it turns out. you make me feel a little more whole, and “make” is the wrong word! you remind me. you mirror what i’m capable of if i focus on what really matters to me. and i appreciate that, and you, and your styles, so so much. i understand the fear that you have to be more vulnerable and raw and broken. i also have a social presence on twitter, and frankly, it’s easy for that to also become messy. its based on mental health, so my imposter syndrome is so so real. what do i do? stay positive and hopeful and spread light? show my shit insides and discourage one person? i don’t know. it’s been years of deciphering and sifting through it and social media doesn’t get easier. i am still learning that there is grace for this. that intention matters. so it’s okay, be true to you and what you want to promote. take care of yourself. know that we will so support you as a whole person. like i said, this is SO self aware and personal. all i am saying is that really, you foster many of us feeling good enough and able and content. i love getting that notification. and you showing more of yourself? that will also be lovely and holistic. follow yourself. have grace for yourself.
if conan doesn’t start a podcast i dont know what i’m gonna do
I watch all of his old vlogs when I'm sad
It always cheers me up for some reason that idk
Conan having a melt down over coffee is a *_mood_*
conan: don't come to this channel to be depressed
me: *comes here to see cone happy bc i'm sobbing so hard*
I- RIGHT? I miss yt Conan so much
*sobs*
literally doing that rn 😭
*when he was laughing i swear i could’ve cried*
im honestly so proud of him he has gotten so much more comfortable in front of the camera in the past one or two years and it is just the cutest thing in the entire world to watch him process and get better each and each video after this i love him with all my heart wow.
Love you so much Conan!!! All the way from the Philippines!!!
Who else is still watching these videos in 2022? I love these videos. They r just so comforting and make me feel like I'm not alone. ❤️❤️❤️ Art-tea (or occasionally art-coffee) R the best segments on Conan's Channel! ☕🍵
I had a dream last night and you, Tyler joseph, and Billie Eilish were in it . It was gr8
goals
That sounds like an amazing dream
Sofie Pearl omg tyler joseph and conan how much better could it get
That even sounds like a dream
3 good artists 🤷🏻♀️
thanks for this. i used to be proud of being a perfectionist, but now i’m realizing how self destructive it actually is. thanks for helping us becoming happier, promoting self-awareness
This was a really interesting, enlightening, and important video and I think you made awesome points! 👏👏 I definitely always go to your channel when I need something to brighten my day or inspire me. Much love!💕
whenever im in need of advice or someone to share my thoughts with, youre always there. even though i am only watching you through a screen, i feel as if we are sitting in the same room, having a deep conversation. for being someone with not that many friends, but having thousands of thoughts to share, i really appreciate the content you make. thank you cone, youre amazing
Normal people who accidentally drink coffee that is too bitter: ew- forgot the creamer.
Conan: *has breakdown in kitchen*
The birds outside conan's window: wUt
Conan, oh Conan. You are genuinely the best role model anyone can have. You make it your goal in life to ensure your viewers are happy and love themselves while also showing that they don’t always have to be the happiest, most perfect person to do that. You’re real, and I admire that so much.
Tbh I went through a breakdown short after I discovered more about Conan.. I was so depressed and unhappy with my lifestyle, and I was just like everything he said in this video.. it wasn't easy but I finally came to terms with myself and admitted my life is completely different. I learned it the hard way; but I'm still glad I saw this video. Thank you Conan❤
honestly I’m so happy that you covered this topic because listening to you made me realize that I do compare my myself to false imagery that people put out and it always eats at me that I’m not that “perfect.” i don’t think people realize how much simple things like that can have a serious significant influence/impact on people and it’s important to remind the people like look up to you that’s it’s ok to not be perfect because no one is.
That's funny how this vid popped out on my youtube homepage BUT thank you youtube for recommending this amazing vid! You are the youtuber I can relate. I followed loads of study channels and think that their lives are just PERFECT unlike mine. This literally gives me anxiety. But now I realise that nobody (even perfectionists) are not perfect.
from a theatre kid taking many AP classes and attending rehearsals or shows i totally understand working yourself till you’re sick and it’s super important to take time for yourself ! luvluvluv u cone
"coffee is a tea"
~ Conan Gray 2018
I’m sure as fans of you, Conan, we can all agree that a video of bloopers would be wonderful
Honestly u make me so happy I really enjoy watching ur videos my life is not the greatest rn but I know that it will get better thank you so much Conan for being the light of my dark days you are changing my life for the better I love youu❤️❤️❤️
absolutely love your channel and all your real-ness... I feel like social media has been so toxic lately and it feels like I’m always comparing myself - your channel actually makes me want to be me and makes me want to be happy and makes me want to create something beautiful - so thank you for that ;,)
You are such a big supportive role model for me you are like my therapist lol 😂😁 thank you for being you mwah💖 thank you so much for making me happy
your videos don’t ever make me feel depressed. in fact whenever I am feeling depressed or anxious I watch your videos because they always make me feel calmer.
Conan: I worked really hard in school. Also Conan: I skipped two periods everyday to finish homework that was due already
Lmao I love you 😂💞
Also look at the most recent Ash and come cooking show
@@seanakamine6712 wait did u mean ash and cone cooking show??
When I feel down, unhappy or anxious watching your channel always cheers me up. When seeing you always smiling, joking with your friends and going to your dream school it motivates me to achieve happiness. I don't want to be you nor do I think my life is bad because of I'm not you. Seeing the snippets of your life that you show the world shows me that what i want to do can be done and my idea of a happy and successful life is achievable.
The you you show has a lot of positivity and energy, watching you gives me that positivity and energy.
School is a few days away for me and I'm very nervous to start college classes, I rewatch your vlogs to get my self in a positive spirit for school and to show myself college is not the most horrifying thing ever. i don't think it's this happy place you made it be but your vlogs have helped me take a more happy and positive approach to things.
idk if any of this made sense sorry lol.
Such an important video!!