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  • @ebsfxxedits1038
    @ebsfxxedits1038 4 роки тому +135

    I’m INFJ, and I can confirm that I hate physical touch when I’m not in the mood, and/or with the wrong person 😹

  • @berenice6307
    @berenice6307 4 роки тому +143

    How to tell if an INFJ likes you!😍
    1. They constantly walk in your direction.
    2. They contact you frequently.
    3. Their acts of service are endless
    4. Physical touch is not off limits.
    ... though this might be helpful...

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +10

      Thought*
      And yes, it was and it touched my heart that my words and teachings impacted you so much that you took the time to quote them. I feel so loved 🥰

    • @Icanreadvietnamese
      @Icanreadvietnamese 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you! You must be an INFJ. You anticipated our needs and decided to provide us with this list. Many thanks!

  • @abelassefa1824
    @abelassefa1824 4 роки тому +89

    He tries to controll u in a good way.
    He always helps u to excel.
    They really care care care they give it 110 percent.
    Will try to contact u even though he hates reaching out.
    He will open up to u.
    He will stay humble and down to earth even though he can see through ur BS.
    He would stay silent rather than telling u what u did is wrong.
    He wont judge u no matter what.
    He got everything planned ahead of time for u.
    He will provide provide provide.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +8

      Wow. Yeah, actually. Spot on too. Good work XD
      All me too, and I still do all these things in my marriage. Thank you for your insight. I learned something new today!! ☺️

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +1

      @@sirlancealittles I deeply respect your endeavors to exemplify your cry for people and the hurting and mean in no way whatsoever to cause you any feeling of grief in what I am about to say (and as one whose credibility has stood the test and whose statements have been tested, proven and agreed with I implore you to hear with an open heart): Your statements are filled with quite a few toxic and poisonous perspective-led assumptions, scientifically proven truth's that are either excluded from your text and reasoning or else refuted, and incorrectly categorizes the most hurt INFJs as those who can be categorized at all. I fear (terrifyingly so seeing your profession) you lack a working knowledge and understanding of the human psyche, genetic alterations, predispositions relating to individual cognitive analysis and the observational workings of human relations.
      I could write down a list of all that is incorrect and misleading in your above article but instead (seeing as that would appear to be publicly and personally foolish and hurtful) wish to implore you to see reason in the science behind the reasoning: Subconscious predisposition, genetics and chemical dependence and preference. There is indeed much hurt (and in turn pollution, I see many traits of an unhealthy INFJ in you - again this deals with the psyche) and subjectivity in your teachings and I mean no offense in saying this but I also implore my all readers to take caution against reading it all as fact.

  • @michi5078
    @michi5078 4 роки тому +113

    INFJ love is great! As an ENFP I feel so blessed when an INFJ wants to be friends 🥺

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +16

      You ENFP's are amazing creatures. I met 2 of you in my life, and the more introverted one is amaaaaazing to talk to. I love you guys and how well we click 🥰

    • @michi5078
      @michi5078 4 роки тому +14

      Awe thank you Eric!!! Yes INFJs and ENFPs can connect on another level! The INFJs have the best advice and easy to talk with!

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +15

      @@michi5078 And the ENFP is so encouraging and friendly, making us INFJs feel so loved and affirmed 🥰 I love you guys ^_^
      (Ps. Thank you for the compliment and your kind words ☺️ )

    • @ebsfxxedits1038
      @ebsfxxedits1038 4 роки тому +8

      @@EricMaffettone I’m an INFJ (female lol).. JUST GOTTA SAY THAT THIS IS THE SWEETEST THING I’VE READ ALL DAY🥺💓You guys are adorable

    • @johannaguzman9521
      @johannaguzman9521 3 роки тому +1

      That's cute

  • @lyfewithdj2258
    @lyfewithdj2258 4 роки тому +110

    As an INFJ woman, I agree w/all the points u mentioned. Especially the point with how quality time is our love language. I def view that as ways to show me that I am loved...simply by spending time w/me!🙂 Thx for this video!🙌🏾

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +5

      Glad it ministered to you. Thank you for confirming this. It made me smile ^_^
      Be blessed!
      - Eric

    • @sabrina798able
      @sabrina798able 3 роки тому +1

      Same girl same!

  • @godsgirl9497
    @godsgirl9497 3 роки тому +15

    *me listens to this to determine if I have a crush on someone*

  • @kristenjames1919
    @kristenjames1919 4 роки тому +28

    As an INFJ female, I say yes to all of these points. Another thing I do when I have a crush is give gifts. When I was in the 3rd grade, for one of my classes I sat at a desk that belonged to a boy I was crushing on. One day I left an unidentified gift in his desk- a little 3x5 card with hershey kisses glued to it and addressed to him. For many years of my adult life I was so locked up that I don't think I let on very well when I was attracted to someone. As I've matured, I've noticed my boldness has grown. So yes, I contact men I'm interested in and I also tell them what I like about them.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +5

      I did similar things and was in a similar boat.

  • @mohsinabushra2641
    @mohsinabushra2641 4 роки тому +36

    Thank you for telling me how I shouldn’t behave in front of my crush. Cause I don’t wanna make it obvious. 😬

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +9

      😂 No problem. Honestly this was one of my goals, because I used to make it obvious XD

    • @manarabdurrahim5856
      @manarabdurrahim5856 4 роки тому +6

      It's not obvious
      Even if u did all these we still won't know

  • @anosheep
    @anosheep 4 роки тому +34

    I’m an INFJ and I can say without a doubt that everything he said is true

  • @lor5272
    @lor5272 4 роки тому +20

    i am a female INFJ and even though i rarely develop crushes on people, this was very accurate. i get worrisome i show off the signs too easily, but when i do i get the chance, i will try to be around that person as much as possible.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому

      I made a part 2, "3 more signs an infj is crushing on you"

  • @vicky_d1896
    @vicky_d1896 4 роки тому +35

    Even tho I already know he has a crush on me it's so good to confirm it (ENFP here)

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +12

      Ah, the desired of the INFJs. ENFPs are for some odd reason charming to us INFJs

    • @vicky_d1896
      @vicky_d1896 4 роки тому +2

      @@EricMaffettone yeah but he's like "oh I don't wanna fall in love and all" and I asked him some questions about his actions and he was like "uh I don't have an answer for why". Me sitting here like "don't say!!"

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +6

      @@vicky_d1896 I would not trust him to stay. He is an infj-t thinking with his heart. Until he stops thinking with his FE you won't get a stable man. He needs to mature emotionally and cognitively first.

    • @vicky_d1896
      @vicky_d1896 4 роки тому +1

      @@EricMaffettone I understand, but what do you mean by "I would not trust him to stay".

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +6

      @@vicky_d1896 Meaning he is aflutter with his heart at the moment, or was. His emotions were setting an array of dreams, and until those emotions settle down he would not be stable.
      For example, say he wanted to go out with you and said so. Given time, after his emotions settle down he may seem disinterested or perhaps distracted by his thoughts and his eyes may end up sighting something or someone else after he goes through the butterflies.
      Again though, this is my subjective, partial thinking, having not met the guy nor knowing anything about him. So take it with a grain of salt and trust your instincts. ENFPs are a solid match for an INFJ, and when given insight from NI tend to find the holes in our thinking and mindset.

  • @sashi_youtuber
    @sashi_youtuber 3 роки тому +9

    All accurate analysis for the INFJ, I agree with everything you stated, especially "you cannot be an INFJ love interest & not be the center of their attention" LOL true true

  • @didia6397
    @didia6397 3 роки тому +8

    Me and my grandma are infjs , and we are vert destructive when we are sad or pissed, but when we are happy or just in the right mood, dear god we are so productive

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Unhealthy iNFjs. It is not a bad thing in and of itself but should be addressed when recognized. You can find information on this topic and areas that should be addressed in my video, "7 Signs of an Unhealthy INFJ"
      Best regards,
      Eric

  • @xchasingthefallx
    @xchasingthefallx 3 роки тому +6

    When I'm crushing on someone I always feel weird because then I go into detective mode to find out pretty much everything I can about them so I know if I'm wasting my time or if its a genuine connection to pursue. I also HATE with a passion any touch that wasn't consented by direct verbalization. My personal space is sacred, I don't want nor need people in my space who'll ruin my gardens or rip pages out of my books (its not a real place, just a space in my mind to escape to when things become a little too much socially wise).

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому +1

      I love your feedback. So true and personally relatable. Your heart is welcomed here as a fellow companion in this amenable world. Love one heart at a time ^_^

  • @EricMaffettone
    @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому +3

    11k views, 480+ likes and only 222 subscribers. I feel so cheated.

  • @hollytaylor-reeves
    @hollytaylor-reeves 2 роки тому +2

    The physical touch thing!!!!!

  • @sleepyaoki
    @sleepyaoki 3 роки тому +8

    You know when INFJs are interested in talking, helping and making deep connections with others, they start to act creepy or weird when perceived by others

    • @ellcally508
      @ellcally508 3 роки тому

      Lmao

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому +1

      Yeah.... I do XD

    • @olxxa4967
      @olxxa4967 2 роки тому

      My INFJ crush just stare at me in a weird way. He is not even smiling when I our eyes meet. I would find that creepy if I didn't had a crush on him XD
      I started to notice him the day he took my hand and gently caressing it. It gave me chills.

  • @jessylee4685
    @jessylee4685 3 роки тому +2

    This ia THE most accurate descriptions I heard aboug INFJ's love languages on youtube.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Your kind words are very encouraging to me.

  • @bananabreadloaf
    @bananabreadloaf 4 роки тому +9

    I’m an Infj, and this is pretty spot on for how I am when I’m into someone. Good video

  • @BluePhx17
    @BluePhx17 4 роки тому +13

    This was pretty accurate, I flashed back to many instances where I did just what you said.

  • @winniecantonese
    @winniecantonese 4 роки тому +4

    Agree!! And ALL apply on me too, as an INFP!!!

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +1

      That does not surprise me. My best friend is an INFP and treats me the same way ^_^

    • @howaperfectlybeautifulchil7340
      @howaperfectlybeautifulchil7340 3 роки тому +1

      My best friend is an INFP. INFP's are amazing in my book!

  • @dradiaravenwood7289
    @dradiaravenwood7289 3 роки тому +3

    INFJ here... Yeah, this is pretty spot on.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Welcome to the channel and it's nice to hear so many people agree.

  • @gabrielamendes8927
    @gabrielamendes8927 3 роки тому +11

    and we're going to stare at you unconsciously..

  • @MatheusSM1000
    @MatheusSM1000 4 роки тому +5

    You hit the nail right on the head lol

  • @sabrina798able
    @sabrina798able 3 роки тому +1

    Lol I'm a female INFJ and I thought it was spot on for me when I have crush.Super cute my man. It made me smile😊

  • @hitori7713
    @hitori7713 4 роки тому +6

    2:33 is there a way you can avoid making other ppl the Centre of your whole attention? Bc I’ve observed that behavior of mine too& I think it’s self harming to make yourself very dependent from others in order to be happy

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому +2

      I don't understand your question.

    • @319w
      @319w 4 роки тому +7

      Learn to set boundaries, do activities by yourself, learn to accept being by yourself sometimes

  • @nanalovesyou4450
    @nanalovesyou4450 3 роки тому +5

    An INFJ person has his or her own way of chasing after their love interest just without really chasing them^^

  • @christopherj5780
    @christopherj5780 4 роки тому +5

    Along these lines, if i invite my crush into my solitary time, act more weird and silly, but yes quality time. The thing is i do have a crush but shes in a relationship so i keep a little distance but go out of my way to say hi. Anyway,

  • @aydeegarza7020
    @aydeegarza7020 4 роки тому +7

    I'm an INFJ-T and all the things he said are true hahah

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому +1

      INFJ-A here. Welcome to my channel Aydee ^_^

  • @aylindecember8510
    @aylindecember8510 3 роки тому +1

    as an INFJ , if I do like you, you'll never know that !

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Well I suppose that's to be expected. We are secretive people after all.

  • @ayp5177
    @ayp5177 4 роки тому +2

    4:00 How did you know?? 😶

  • @violindalola
    @violindalola 4 роки тому +2

    I show all these signs! I'm a total INFJ

  • @mdkgr
    @mdkgr 3 роки тому

    Your way of expressing yourself is so witty and fun, almost ironic in a way. Also, I've shown all these signs to a beautiful ESFP and she didn't not really respond so now I'm trying to door-slam her. Too bad though we work together and it's difficult for me to think of good ways to do it.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Well dude you're talking to an ESFP. Your expectations are a tad unrealistic if you think she will pick up on such signs. First of all, she is an extrovert; extroverts are outgoing, touchy feely and the like and behave like this to their friends and people they don't even know. Second of all, she is an Sxx type. They are not known for their ability to emotionally read between the lines. Third, she is an xSFx type. They are not known for their desire to live outside the present. My best friend is an ISFP. My advice is to be less subtle if you are trying to get a message across.

    • @mdkgr
      @mdkgr 3 роки тому

      @@EricMaffettone Thanks for responding! I know I'm a dreamer, sometimes I feel as an INFP. I was subtle though, for sure, you can't be any other way as an INFJ. Great analysis though. I know I don't match with her, I just feel strong physical attraction towards her, which is weak by my side I guess... I think she also knows I'm not her type, she just admires me as a person (she compliments all the time my character and work ethic). I haven't been in a relationship for years and I guess I was kind of desperate. Anyhow, It was my fault and now I have to seek emotional shelter from myself.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Mmm... Maybe. Half the battle is realizing our emotional frailty. As INFJs we are so emotionally vulnerable when loving other people, and our NI can become a literal crisis for us. I have found less internalizing helps sort through the fragile shelter of emotional collapse; I am not saying to self destruct, but to safely untether ourself from our mental focus of emotionally inclining our thoughts towards our object of affection. Perhaps playing a video game that takes your attention off how fragile you feel, or talking with a friend and laughing about something to help you forget. The temporary regression may help to heal you a lot.
      Also, if you are a dreamer as you say you are likely an INFJ-T (turbulent) type. That makes you far more susceptible to emotional fragility. I am an INFJ-A which is very rare and means I am less prone to these events happening to me since I rely on my -TI a lot.

    • @mdkgr
      @mdkgr 3 роки тому +1

      @@EricMaffettone Thanks for the reply once again...

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Of course! I always respond to my viewers, my viewers just do not often engage with me. Which is a bit silly if you ask me, but to each their own. Many just come to listen to my content.

  • @SSS00180
    @SSS00180 20 днів тому

    So true 😊🎉❤ thanks for uploading

  • @kiriash_
    @kiriash_ 4 роки тому +7

    This was very helpful! Thank you for the video💛

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому

      You are welcome. I am thinking of doing a part 2

    • @kiriash_
      @kiriash_ 4 роки тому +1

      Eric Maffettone you definitely should, because the INFJ Im crushing on has shown/done all these signs, but I still can’t tell if he likes me or is just being friendly :P

  • @bibimemyi4838
    @bibimemyi4838 4 роки тому +3

    At the end of every sign I was like "omg so fking true" :o

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  4 роки тому

      I made a part 2 if you want to check it out. "3 More signs an INFJ is crushing on you"

  • @annathepianist5103
    @annathepianist5103 3 роки тому +2

    I was gonna remove my like when he said it's quality time that 'we' cravr but when he said affirmation DANG YES YOU GOT IT SUSCRIBED 😭
    Btw these are all very accurate.

  • @just_exo02
    @just_exo02 Рік тому

    As a INFJ
    I never do does 4 when I'm liking someone
    I'm just admiring her from afar. Because she's already dating someone else

  • @Daftpoetsociety
    @Daftpoetsociety 3 роки тому +1

    As an INFJ I can confirm that this is pretty accurate!

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      See my other videos too, including "3 more signs an INFJ is crushing on you"

  • @Isa-ce7dk
    @Isa-ce7dk 3 роки тому +1

    This is so creepy because all is so true! Gosh, I love it

  • @johannaguzman9521
    @johannaguzman9521 3 роки тому +2

    Hello, INFJ here, does anyone else get super shy when some people talk to them, and others it's just you can see me...is this what they call friends...ive read about those in books 😅

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Yeah, all the time. To this day I still do xD

    • @johannaguzman9521
      @johannaguzman9521 3 роки тому

      @@EricMaffettone oh gosh, we are in this together lol

  • @selenadiaz2665
    @selenadiaz2665 4 роки тому +2

    This was so helpful!!!! Thank you!!

  • @vanhawk1074
    @vanhawk1074 11 місяців тому +1

    True .

  • @tanyabekker4954
    @tanyabekker4954 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks.Learned lots.

  • @ceoofmychemicalfactory
    @ceoofmychemicalfactory 5 років тому +6

    Thumb up 🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @johnbennett2987
    @johnbennett2987 3 роки тому +2

    well done

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      thank you John. I needed that encouragement.

  • @lara5705
    @lara5705 3 роки тому +1

    Me being an infj wanting a infj cause they are the only ones that can understand me... or try jajsjxjd

  • @billbollins
    @billbollins Рік тому

    I am an INFP and I met an INFJ on a dating site so we text back and forth, the problem I have is getting her to open up and tell me what she thinks, she is very guarded. I know this is also an INFJ trait. She lives 2,000 miles from me too which doesn't help.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  Рік тому +1

      Okay.. so let me rip off the band aid for you. Prepare yourself, and if you need to take 5 before reading this.
      It is OK, you can put the phone down now and just walk away. Give it some time, then come back. I understand if you need to.
      No seriously, before reading on make sure you are ready. Okay, you good? Ready? Okay, let's do this then.
      Eh.. eh em!!!
      Okay, here it is.
      She is not in love with you and the relationship won't work out. She is not an infj-a, instead she is a -t type and a people pleaser love type. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings and is unsure of the relationship, and doesn't want to take any steps because she is unsure of how they will play out. She has anxiety about confrontation and is likely unable to form deep, meaningful connections with people. Likely got betrayed by someone in her past she was involved with and now seeks what she is missing but can not reach out.
      Take away: INFJ's don't do long distance relationships, and if they tell you they do they do not know what they want and will end up leaving you. You can do what you want with this information but there you have it.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  Рік тому +1

      PS... check out my "INFP" Videos, including signs an INFP likes you

    • @billbollins
      @billbollins Рік тому +1

      @@EricMaffettone Thanks Eric, Sound advice indeed, she just friend-zoned me anyway.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  Рік тому

      Wow... I scare myself with my accuracy sometimes. Sorry mate

    • @billbollins
      @billbollins Рік тому

      @@EricMaffettone You're just too good Eric, we are going to remain friends.

  • @boredmillionaire9914
    @boredmillionaire9914 3 роки тому

    He doesn't like me :( He does constantly position himself to be in front of my view & I thought that was a sign. But, everything else loudly says no. So, I concluded the modeling for me is just seeking out validation and being a tease.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Not being a tease. The man lacks self esteem and is too unstable and turbulent to be in a long term relationship. I could have told you if you asked. He sounds loudly like an Unhealthy INFJ. Watch my video "7 Signs of an Unhealthy INFJ" and tell me if he matches the description. He already shows one of the seven signs...

    • @boredmillionaire9914
      @boredmillionaire9914 3 роки тому +1

      @@EricMaffettone Okay, I just watched the video. Unfortunately, I don't know if if he fits those characteristics b/c it's never even gone past hellos and necessary interactions at work. I must say, I grew a little concerned for you while watching the video b/c it sounds as though your ex-fiancée gaslighted you and made you feel bad for being into her. I hope that is not the case!

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      @@boredmillionaire9914 It absolutely was the case. I am married now to another INFJ who loves me very much.

  • @alabaganne3772
    @alabaganne3772 3 роки тому +1

    Could not relate more

  • @mariamkinen8036
    @mariamkinen8036 3 роки тому +2

    Yes. Walk in sleep with infatuation.

  • @defaulthand8488
    @defaulthand8488 4 роки тому +2

    Me: watching these videos to find out what I’m like, fact checks the video through my own experiences, remembers I have a crush I want to know likes me, realizes I purposefully minimize physical contact with someone who might like me but I don’t like back, remembers group date that they both went to, realizes my crush was receiving the message that I’m not comfortable with physical touch
    Me: crap, they’ll never know

  • @binarydupizza6781
    @binarydupizza6781 3 роки тому

    I wish we can @ people from our life 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @lisaalvarez1142
    @lisaalvarez1142 3 роки тому

    I think he 💗 love ME 🦋💖❤️‍🔥

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому +1

      Do not misunderstand, and be weary: these signs do not mean love.

    • @lisaalvarez1142
      @lisaalvarez1142 3 роки тому +1

      @@EricMaffettone it was a joke. But no seriously he touches. More than others in a mutual friend group.

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому +1

      @@lisaalvarez1142 that is creepy lol But I understand

  • @ahsokatano5394
    @ahsokatano5394 3 роки тому

    true 😊

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому +1

      I'm glad you think so. I made a part 2 titled, "3 more signs an INFJ is crushing on you"

  • @aircaree
    @aircaree 3 роки тому +2

    shit i hope the my crush never finds this video, given all were true.

  • @lrizqiyah568
    @lrizqiyah568 3 роки тому

    Should i write it down and throw it on my crush's face so he'd understand me better?

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Being straightforward may help to clear the air, yes. Most men can't read cryptic signs. Even obvious ones can go un noticed. It just isn't normal for us to think so emotionally.

  • @zhasyane
    @zhasyane 3 роки тому

    I know an INFJ and i hate him lol. He ghosted me after that conversation 💀 I'm trying to move on

    • @EricMaffettone
      @EricMaffettone  3 роки тому

      Unhealthy INFJ. I made a video about it. I'm sorry you got hurt.

  • @persephone8960
    @persephone8960 4 роки тому +2

    Save this video to send to the future lucky person