@Jennifer Nettles.. Your performance is so heartfelt and amazing! I’ve told my daughter-in-laws that my dream, my final wish, would be to sing this song with you. I’ve been through some tough, life changing stuff for the past several years. I’ll never be the same. This is just my song.. So many of your songs I can relate to. A true artist shows the emotion, and you live it with every song. You’re amazing! You’re an inspiration and I thank you for all you’ve given to us through your music.❤
I remember crying as a little girl listening to my Mother suffer... All I could do was sneak my baby brother up to my room for his protection and waking to her battered face and body all to hear her say she was fine... Thank God for love kind hearts and for the strength my Mother showed to say NO MORE!!!!!!!!
I lived this song for 10yrs, until one night I couldnt anymore. I took my then 5yr old son and got the hell OUT! I had never been as scared as I was that night....this song resonates in my soul. I was a social worker for child protective services, counseling women and men to leave and yet I wasnt taking my own advice. Dont ever let ANYONE disrespect you or your children by putting their hands on you
this song woke me up from a dead sleep and I laid there and cried for all the times I walked on egg shells so my kids wouldn't know what their father could do. 31 years later, he's got a younger girlfriend and believe it or not, I don't care. I'm just glad I don't have to feel that strain anymore...
OMG! That walking on eggshells, shutting up when you want to speak, hating yourself for cowering in fear. It is so degrading. Made me hate myself more than him. So glad to be out of that hell.
Jennifer Nettles is one of the most perfectionist female vocalist ever. She always makes sure that she sings the notes precisely and executes with technically perfect singing...
I'm embarrassed to admit that this is the very first time that I've ever heard this song despite being a long time fan. As beautiful as it is, this song just hit me like a ton of bricks. Tears are streaming down my face but I'm smiling because this puts words to it all when I've never been able to. Somehow it's almost freeing. Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. Sadly, I'm sure I'm not the only one it'll speak to.
This song hit so close to home,, I couldn't stop crying. It all came back. I escape 11 years ago and thought I was over it. But I guess it's like being in combat. You never really get over it, you just get used to living with it.
@@lindamartinez6542 Exactly. I was only able to escape after my home was raided and he was sent to prison. Unfortunately, I left with a lot more than I came with. Not only did I now have multiple scars and ribs that seem to never heal but I also had ptsd, severe anxiety, and depression. Fear & a deep mistrust in people. Searching tirelessly for anyone or any place that feels safe... Holding on to what little bit of hope i have left between my fingers so tightly they feel like they're going to bleed... Checking and rechecking the locks on the doors and windows at night before laying in bed for hours at night wondering if it's all my fault and going over all the should have's and what if's until finally i become so physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted that i get some rest... Unless I hear a noise... Any noise... Anything even remotely unusual. Because that seems to set my mind into motion yet again. And to think I spent so much money, so much time, and prayed so so much to be a mother. As much as it hurts knowing that I couldn't do this one simple thing that women were made to do, I'm beyond thankful that I do not have a child suffering alongside me. However, as selfish as it sounds... It would be nice to not go through all of this alone. It's hell. I seen a t-shirt recently that said "I'm down with my demons"... smh... They don't know how true that is.
@@_stay_wild_ Ive never really known how to put it ono words. I left with a 6 month old and a 4years old, no clothes and barefeet. I had to go buy clothes that night. I have PTSD so bad I have a guard dog that sleeps with me. I left in 1998.. He went to prison in 2005 for 15 years. He is out now and I find myself back in the same way looking over my back. My children are grown now and My oldest has contact with him. I dont think you really get over it. You learn to be more aware than most people are.
The difference between powerful singing and just good singing. Jennifer is special. For the teachers show your students this video so they hear the difference.
Becky Davis please get out while you can. I've been there and done that. It always escalates. No matter how many apologies, it will happen again. Run sweet girl run, don't walk run.
Sometimes we keep going back to the thing that hurts us the most. I thank God today because I have choices, that don't include my Son seeing things. Thank you for your comment. It made me think 💜
"...eyes looked right through me and that was it..." While the song is from 2014, the words resonate with so many people today when people are discounted. Thank you for writing this song!!!
I am a musician and a Domestic Violence Survivor and I have tried to sing this song at a few of my shows and I cannot get through it without breaking down. Thank you very much for breaking the silence on domestic violence!
I think you are amazing. For trying to sing it. The same reason I can't finish the song I've been writing in my head since I was 11. Losing my mother to ALS was so traumatic to me that I still 26 years later have trouble talking about it.
Every single woman who is sharing their story on this page is making all of us who read it and have been there feel even stronger. The song is just heartbreaking especially if you've been there. And Jennifer nettles can literally turn anything into heartbreaking but this song didn't even need help. Though both of them were incredible it always amazes me how unique Jennifer's voice is yet she can harmonize with almost anyone. As a singer I've caught a few things that she does differently. But her talent is unquestionable and her emotion that she brought to this song that led to all of us telling our stories is a big deal it matters if it reached one of us it was a big deal but clearly from the comments it reached hundreds of us.
If you ever had to choose an artist to recreate your life experiences into music , jennifer nettles is pure genius beautiful on the eyes and ears , her talent singing different genre's and even the national anthem at a college football game , gives you goosebumps and it's not even my country. ❤👌👍
This is what my mom went thru till I was out of the house. After I left , she had no more reason to stay. Get out while you can! Don't stay for the children. I too was abused by him, there was no benefit in staying NONE!
WHAT POWER THIS SONG HAS!! Both Vocally as well as Lyrically!!! I, too, have BEEN THERE~~Hands felt like THUNDER on my skin...So much 'pounding' that my sleeve on a T-Shirt hurt HORRIBLY as it lay on my arms..I guess that's why this song touches me so much :'(
Wow....this really moved me. I come from a traditional Italian American family where putting your hands on a woman is the lowest thing a man can do. It can get a man killed in short order in my neck of the woods. Sorry to see so many here have been victimized. The song and the comments hit me like a ton of bricks. Got very emotional....thinking about someone striking my wife, my sisters, and my mom. Really can't explain it. Made me enraged and deeply saddened at the same time. Oh, and yeah.....the singing was Phenomenal! They complemented each other so well. Jennifer has one of the best voices I've ever heard.
I heard this song for the first time about three days ago and it honestly brought chills and tears. All I could do was cry with the flashbacks that this brought to me. I’m a survivor.
Jennifer Nettles has the most Amazing voice. She sings with such passion, that can only come from the heart. Paired with Brandy Clark this song is totally amazing. :)
Of course, I was blown away !!! "His Hands" is my favorite on the CD. When you experience Jennifer Nettles live it sounds the same as on the CD. She is an amazing vocalist. Brandy Clark is amazing also and this is a great duet.
This song still makes me cry. I was left for dead in a church parking lot by my ex. Thank God our son was with his grandparents. He got married before we were even divorced, and had 5 kids with her. I don’t know if he ever laid a hand on her or not, but I hope for her sake he didn’t. What gets me is how well he hid how he really was before I married him. He had everyone fooled, including his own parents!
I'm so glad you survived and moved on. So many women do not value themselves and think we need to remove jewels from the crowns we wear to make it easier for men to carry. We don't. We need to lift ourselves up, we're strong as steel. God bless you. I've been in mentally abusive relationships, I feel bad for the guy that thinks his thunder and heat will hold me down.
Lyrics: I remember that day when he walked up to me. Wrote my number down, put it in the pocket of his bluejeans. And I fell like a feather, yeah, just like that, we were together. He was my perfect gentleman, sweet like, real sweet. And his hands felt like thunder on my skin, His breath hot, oh, how or how could I forget That his eyes looked right through me and that was it. Silence was the only sound then, and my heart pounding. Told me things would be different leaving church that Sunday, But the only change coming was the quarters in the ashtray. Yeah I should have known better when the last three times he swore That he would never lay another finger on me but the truth's on my face. And his hands felt like thunder on my skin, His breath hot, oh, how or how could I forget. His eyes looked right through me and that was it. Silence was the only sound then, and my heart pounding. Oh I, thought that he was all I ever wanted. Should have come with a warning. Just like you, I've been there too. Oh I got bag and I got a plan. Girl you better get out while you can... while you can, while you can. Cause his hands felt like thunder on my skin, His breath hot, oh how could I forget That his eyes looked right through me and that was it. Silence was the only sound then, silence was the only sound then, Silence was the only sound then, and my heart heart pounding.
My dad passed away on March 31, 2017. Before he passed, I introduced him to this song and he loved it. He made me play it for him on a daily basis along with Stay by Jennifer Nettles. Love and miss you so much dad. #ripdad #flyhigh
Domestic abuse in any form is insidious. My heart breaks for anyone in the midst of this hell. May you find the means and the strength within yourself to leave and live the life you deserve. And to all the survivors, the ones who got out, may God continue to bless you ..
This song is very good as a solo track (On the deluxe version of JN's album) but as a duet, it's just haunting! It's goosebump-city! Over-the-top good! Another ball out of the park for the Jennifer Nettles Duet Collection!
My baby Jennifer she doesn't hold back her voice is a beautiful and powerful thing.She sends chills through me the hair stands up on my arms when she she sings.love her .
Nettles has the all time most beautiful unreproducible voice. Her songs evoke so much emotion they touch not just my heart, but every nook and cranny of my soul.
Great song love Jennifer Nettles I got chills, feels like this song was written for me and I’m sure many others .Thank god I survived and got away from it ,but it left scars literally.
Jennifer has the most beautiful voice I have ever heard. I am just mesmerized when she sings. Powerful and full of expression and everything is sung from the heart.
This song has such a haunting and chilling feeling about it. This is a good reminder for those who suffer through domestic violence that there is hope and a way out. Just take that first step. There is help out there. Don’t become another statistic. Run.
This is the very first time I have heard this song, and I absolutely love it. His hands should always be full of love, but sadly this isn't always the case. Wonderful words, tune and the most beautiful voices, singing in harmony.
@@britanirollins291 I remember once having to stand up for my mama, I was only 13 and in foster care, I had come for my weekend visit I saw the evidence on her face, I got pissed and packed what little she had and used my allowance to get her to a woman's shelter, she never went back to him, 3yrs later she married the man I call my dad
Jon Figac I lived it and I’m still learning it and he’s been with me for 20 years and I’m 39 years old and was diagnosed with an incurable rare disease and still did it. I never thought it would happen more than once. He denies every bit of it but the photos don’t lie. And every word of this song is exactly how it happened to me but I didn’t think he would do it to me when I was disabled and I know I started the argument that pissing him off, I guess but if I post the pictures, you’ll understand.
This song is just unreal and gives all woman a reality check to never accept abuse because if they do it once they will continue. Great artist great song.
Through experience I can tell you it doesn't start out as abuse. Things are great at first. It slowly happens over time until you're stuck either physically or mentally. 16 years out and it still hurts...
I'm so hopeful that everyone coming forward will help others (be it man or woman) take that final step to get out before it's to late. Jennifer's lyrics and melodies come from her heart and soul for it touches my heart and soul, I went through this with a dear friend and it was almost to late, things can go from horrible to deadly so quickly. I know this song as many of Jennifer's songs will be a source of help or comfort to others. Even songs she wrote at Agnes Scott University was a comfort to a friend that was dying from cancer and she passed with "Story Of Your Bones" playing softly in the background. I believe it was played in an episode of "Dawson's Creek".
Gosh, listening to this and thinking of where I am today, are two worlds apart, I've been there, I've been used and abused, my last relationship he was a narcissist, emotionally abusive and somewhat physical and once sexual, I never thought I would be strong enough to leave to walk away, but I can say now without a shadow of doubt it was the best decision that I've ever made. I've now met someone who treats me like a queen and would never do anything to hurt me intentionally, worlds apart from who I was back then. If you're in this situation getting out is the best decision you can and will ever make
I now watched / listened to the video about 8 times and I just love it. The depth of the emotion and the beauty of the collaboration between the two of you is simply awesome and amazing. Thank you for such a great experience.
Love this song ..abuse exist it's a very dangerous thing if your living through it get out don't let love blind you ...i got out and was losing myself at one point but enough was enough. .now I'm as happy as can be those memories don't even face me now...
Good for you, a very close friend of mine finally got out before it was to late and you could literally see the life coming back into her body. She started eating again for she was skin and bones, her color came back but it was a slow process because it took us 4 years to get her out! It's wonderful to see her beautiful smile again! I love this song and I hope it will help those (man or woman) to take that final step to get out!
It's not east to get out and it's the most dangerous for women, especially when there's kids. The best thing you can do is support them so when they do go to leave they dont feel alone and like they can't, especially when the abusive spouse is extremely controlling
..This song hits in all the right spots..My heart is really broken & scrambled!!..Never ever excited of him but I will rise up & be that strong Woman again & never go through something like this ever again!!..
This song got me through a bad moment in life....your song made me stop and realize I deserved more it was me and my kids or him and I ran thank-you! even to this day 8 years later I still think back everytime this song comes on! ❤❤😢
😢 damn song is tear jerking. my mom told me my dad was just like that it's so sad, my parents stayed together though till my dad died, but my mom said my dad fits the description of the man at the beginning and middle of the song. I had no idea he was like that to my mom. Like I said the song is a tear jerker.
In the middle of this covid pandemic and listening to news reports This song and Martina McBride's 'Independence Day' should be a wake up call to everyone
I've only heard this song a few times but it always makes me have tears, because I can relate, being abused for yrs, I wish every woman who has been abused would listen to this and rethink their life because they are worth it.
@Jennifer Nettles.. Your performance is so heartfelt and amazing! I’ve told my daughter-in-laws that my dream, my final wish, would be to sing this song with you. I’ve been through some tough, life changing stuff for the past several years. I’ll never be the same. This is just my song.. So many of your songs I can relate to. A true artist shows the emotion, and you live it with every song. You’re amazing! You’re an inspiration and I thank you for all you’ve given to us through your music.❤
Jennifer Nettles can't hit a bad note. So unbelievably gifted.
Brandy also has a beautiful voice.
A slap doesn't have to be physical. Nobody abuses me anymore.
What powerful voices that reach the the highest point of heaven that even the Angels applauded.
Jen is the best singer I have ever heard, I just love her voice and all the songs she sings.
I remember crying as a little girl listening to my Mother suffer...
All I could do was sneak my baby brother up to my room for his protection and waking to her battered face and body all to hear her say she was fine... Thank God for love kind hearts and for the strength my Mother showed to say NO MORE!!!!!!!!
Precious one, I'm so sorry. I'm so grateful your mother found the strength! Often it's our children who help us find it, even unintentionally.
I lived this song for 10yrs, until one night I couldnt anymore. I took my then 5yr old son and got the hell OUT! I had never been as scared as I was that night....this song resonates in my soul. I was a social worker for child protective services, counseling women and men to leave and yet I wasnt taking my own advice. Dont ever let ANYONE disrespect you or your children by putting their hands on you
I'm 68 female & living this for 25yrs. Get the fuck out ASAP. ❤
This speaks to every women and man that has been abused.
this song woke me up from a dead sleep and I laid there and cried for all the times I walked on egg shells so my kids wouldn't know what their father could do. 31 years later, he's got a younger girlfriend and believe it or not, I don't care. I'm just glad I don't have to feel that strain anymore...
So glad you escaped from that prison Cheryl Battista.. Live a beautiful life!!
I was in the same kind of relationship. She running her mouth behind my back & tried to run my life. She left me 1 year ago.
OMG! That walking on eggshells, shutting up when you want to speak, hating yourself for cowering in fear. It is so degrading. Made me hate myself more than him. So glad to be out of that hell.
ROCKNCOUNTRYFAN good for u! I hope I'm that strong 1 day soon for no1 but my kids
ROCKNCOUNTRYFAN I learned recently men date younger women only because they still fall for their nonsense
Jennifer Nettles is one of the most perfectionist female vocalist ever. She always makes sure that she sings the notes precisely and executes with technically perfect singing...
Underrated for sure!
I'm embarrassed to admit that this is the very first time that I've ever heard this song despite being a long time fan. As beautiful as it is, this song just hit me like a ton of bricks. Tears are streaming down my face but I'm smiling because this puts words to it all when I've never been able to. Somehow it's almost freeing. Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. Sadly, I'm sure I'm not the only one it'll speak to.
Yes, exactly how I feel
I escaped 17 years ago. I broke down when I heard this. It's so spot on. Take care.
This song hit so close to home,, I couldn't stop crying. It all came back. I escape 11 years ago and thought I was over it. But I guess it's like being in combat. You never really get over it, you just get used to living with it.
@@lindamartinez6542 Exactly. I was only able to escape after my home was raided and he was sent to prison. Unfortunately, I left with a lot more than I came with. Not only did I now have multiple scars and ribs that seem to never heal but I also had ptsd, severe anxiety, and depression. Fear & a deep mistrust in people. Searching tirelessly for anyone or any place that feels safe... Holding on to what little bit of hope i have left between my fingers so tightly they feel like they're going to bleed... Checking and rechecking the locks on the doors and windows at night before laying in bed for hours at night wondering if it's all my fault and going over all the should have's and what if's until finally i become so physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted that i get some rest... Unless I hear a noise... Any noise... Anything even remotely unusual. Because that seems to set my mind into motion yet again.
And to think I spent so much money, so much time, and prayed so so much to be a mother. As much as it hurts knowing that I couldn't do this one simple thing that women were made to do, I'm beyond thankful that I do not have a child suffering alongside me. However, as selfish as it sounds... It would be nice to not go through all of this alone. It's hell.
I seen a t-shirt recently that said "I'm down with my demons"... smh...
They don't know how true that is.
@@_stay_wild_ Ive never really known how to put it ono words. I left with a 6 month old and a 4years old, no clothes and barefeet. I had to go buy clothes that night. I have PTSD so bad I have a guard dog that sleeps with me. I left in 1998.. He went to prison in 2005 for 15 years. He is out now and I find myself back in the same way looking over my back. My children are grown now and My oldest has contact with him. I dont think you really get over it. You learn to be more aware than most people are.
Beautiful! My heart breaks for all the people around the world who suffer from domestic violence!
The difference between powerful singing and just good singing. Jennifer is special. For the teachers show your students this video so they hear the difference.
She is a class above the rest that's for sure 🙌
To paraphrase a band teacher that I knew, it's the difference between simply singing the notes and singing music.
It is sad that too many times abusive men start out gentle and turn into monsters. Jennifer Nettles has a way of telling these stories.
They are only monsters in ur memory if u allow it...fear is a liar. U always remember Never Again
TRUTH! About starting out nice. You don't see it coming. Some get out but some are not so lucky. Death every 20 minutes at the hand of a man...
Jennifer Nettles has one of the greatest voices in music. And Brandy is great too.
I love this song
totally agree
Becky Davis please get out while you can. I've been there and done that. It always escalates. No matter how many apologies, it will happen again. Run sweet girl run, don't walk run.
Jennifer is SO underrated in the industry.
Unreal performance
Brought me to tears with memories of an old life! I am so grateful to God for showing me the path to a better life.
Love this comment
MsPrissyPam bless you !!
Yes, I am grateful for the same reason. Hidden even in our deepest pain, is His infinite mercy, that we soon discover has delivered us....
Sometimes we keep going back to the thing that hurts us the most. I thank God today because I have choices, that don't include my Son seeing things. Thank you for your comment. It made me think 💜
Jennifer Nettles singing......... SECOND TO NONE!! However, Jennifer Nettles dancing.................... DAMN THAT GIRL CAN SING!!!!
Jennifer takes you from ecstasy to dread in the blink of an eye! She is amazing.
"...eyes looked right through me and that was it..." While the song is from 2014, the words resonate with so many people today when people are discounted. Thank you for writing this song!!!
What a duo!! Love their voices together!!! Great singing ladies!!!
Hi Penny hope you’re okay?
This is written about me. Exactly every word is my past. Goosebumps every time I listen to it. Jennifer is AMAZING!!!!
Hello Christy, how are you doing today?
I get goosebumps everytime I hear this song. I felt every hit! I felt her pain. I was her
Yeah too many of us have lived this way at some point in our lives!
Trying to get away...30yrs😢
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Absolutely love Jennifer.
She put her heart into every song she sings.
I'd say she puts her heart into every word she sings.
I am a musician and a Domestic Violence Survivor and I have tried to sing this song at a few of my shows and I cannot get through it without breaking down. Thank you very much for breaking the silence on domestic violence!
I think you are amazing. For trying to sing it. The same reason I can't finish the song I've been writing in my head since I was 11. Losing my mother to ALS was so traumatic to me that I still 26 years later have trouble talking about it.
16 year survivor here...just wish the memories would go away...
Every single woman who is sharing their story on this page is making all of us who read it and have been there feel even stronger. The song is just heartbreaking especially if you've been there. And Jennifer nettles can literally turn anything into heartbreaking but this song didn't even need help. Though both of them were incredible it always amazes me how unique Jennifer's voice is yet she can harmonize with almost anyone. As a singer I've caught a few things that she does differently. But her talent is unquestionable and her emotion that she brought to this song that led to all of us telling our stories is a big deal it matters if it reached one of us it was a big deal but clearly from the comments it reached hundreds of us.
If you ever had to choose an artist to recreate your life experiences into music , jennifer nettles is pure genius beautiful on the eyes and ears , her talent singing different genre's and even the national anthem at a college football game , gives you goosebumps and it's not even my country. ❤👌👍
At 2:38 Jennifer forgot she was human........ I love this woman!!!!!!
This is the most accurate domestic abuse song I have ever heard. Hearing your heartbeat trying to be quiet, and I really hard thing to do.
This is a big ole HIT! Wake up Country Radio!
The harmonies on this are beautiful, such powerful lyrics
I love this duet and I can totally relate to this song. Domestic violence is no joke. Ladies listen to your intuition.
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This is what my mom went thru till I was out of the house. After I left , she had no more reason to stay. Get out while you can! Don't stay for the children. I too was abused by him, there was no benefit in staying NONE!
Hi Cindy hope you’re okay?
I stayed so he'd h*t me and not our son
Im literally crying.... I absolutely hurt when I hear of a woman being abused and this song gave me chills and is FANTASTIC!
It gave me chills to. I went through a abusive relationship for 10 years, but never again!
Susan Gannon sorry for your memories but thankful you've become stronger ...
April C.-apereight We have been missing Our Friend, if there's a problem, I'd like to know if possible,
No problem with me. Just had a dear friend and family member that I feel their pain and my heart hurts for others
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Beautiful ladies The Lordngave us 2 angels my lord Jennifer's voice she can send chills through me my hair stands up all over my body .
WHAT a MAGNIFICENT preformance !
Nettles is in TOP form and Brandy Clark is ONE HIT SONG away from becoming a SUPERSTAR !
so true
She’s got two albums out.
Jennifer's voice is just phenomenal and unique!
I’m lucky to still be here as my ex tried to kill me, so song really hit me, it’s so accurate it’s scary. God bless you all ❤️
I was worried for Brandy when I seen this was a duo..but she sure held her own. They are great together. Both great singers.
Hi Rhonda hope you’re okay?
Best female vocalist ever! Her pipes have no limitations!
saying she is under rated is an understatement
WHAT POWER THIS SONG HAS!! Both Vocally as well as Lyrically!!! I, too, have BEEN THERE~~Hands felt like THUNDER on my skin...So much 'pounding' that my sleeve on a T-Shirt hurt HORRIBLY as it lay on my arms..I guess that's why this song touches me so much :'(
I hope ur out. After 3 years & loosing my kids because of his violence I'm out. Now working to get my kids back & have a better life for us.
Mine never hit me. It was verbal, emotional, tear me down to almost suicide. WORDS HURT!
Wow....this really moved me. I come from a traditional Italian American family where putting your hands on a woman is the lowest thing a man can do. It can get a man killed in short order in my neck of the woods. Sorry to see so many here have been victimized. The song and the comments hit me like a ton of bricks. Got very emotional....thinking about someone striking my wife, my sisters, and my mom. Really can't explain it. Made me enraged and deeply saddened at the same time. Oh, and yeah.....the singing was Phenomenal! They complemented each other so well. Jennifer has one of the best voices I've ever heard.
I heard this song for the first time about three days ago and it honestly brought chills and tears. All I could do was cry with the flashbacks that this brought to me. I’m a survivor.
Jennifer Nettles has the most Amazing voice. She sings with such passion, that can only come from the heart. Paired with Brandy Clark this song is totally amazing. :)
Of course, I was blown away !!!
"His Hands" is my favorite on the CD.
When you experience Jennifer Nettles live it sounds the same as on the CD. She is an amazing vocalist. Brandy Clark is amazing also and this is a great duet.
This song still makes me cry. I was left for dead in a church parking lot by my ex. Thank God our son was with his grandparents. He got married before we were even divorced, and had 5 kids with her. I don’t know if he ever laid a hand on her or not, but I hope for her sake he didn’t. What gets me is how well he hid how he really was before I married him. He had everyone fooled, including his own parents!
I'm so glad you survived and moved on. So many women do not value themselves and think we need to remove jewels from the crowns we wear to make it easier for men to carry. We don't. We need to lift ourselves up, we're strong as steel. God bless you. I've been in mentally abusive relationships, I feel bad for the guy that thinks his thunder and heat will hold me down.
I cry my eyes out every time I hear this. Such an emotional song.
Lyrics:
I remember that day when he walked up to me.
Wrote my number down, put it in the pocket of his bluejeans.
And I fell like a feather, yeah, just like that, we were together.
He was my perfect gentleman, sweet like, real sweet.
And his hands felt like thunder on my skin,
His breath hot, oh, how or how could I forget
That his eyes looked right through me and that was it.
Silence was the only sound then, and my heart pounding.
Told me things would be different leaving church that Sunday,
But the only change coming was the quarters in the ashtray.
Yeah I should have known better when the last three times he swore
That he would never lay another finger on me but the truth's on my face.
And his hands felt like thunder on my skin,
His breath hot, oh, how or how could I forget.
His eyes looked right through me and that was it.
Silence was the only sound then, and my heart pounding.
Oh I, thought that he was all I ever wanted.
Should have come with a warning.
Just like you, I've been there too.
Oh I got bag and I got a plan.
Girl you better get out while you can... while you can, while you can.
Cause his hands felt like thunder on my skin,
His breath hot, oh how could I forget
That his eyes looked right through me and that was it.
Silence was the only sound then, silence was the only sound then,
Silence was the only sound then, and my heart heart pounding.
Beautiful. Vocals together. Great. Job ladies. I listen to this repeatedly. Daily 3:53
My dad passed away on March 31, 2017. Before he passed, I introduced him to this song and he loved it. He made me play it for him on a daily basis along with Stay by Jennifer Nettles.
Love and miss you so much dad. #ripdad #flyhigh
Domestic abuse in any form is insidious. My heart breaks for anyone in the midst of this hell. May you find the means and the strength within yourself to leave and live the life you deserve. And to all the survivors, the ones who got out, may God continue to bless you ..
Who else could make a scream so musical and beautiful.
Agree, so sexy.
This song is very good as a solo track (On the deluxe version of JN's album) but as a duet, it's just haunting! It's goosebump-city! Over-the-top good! Another ball out of the park for the Jennifer Nettles Duet Collection!
just amazing, not often i get goose bumbs but wow i had them all though this track. I love Jennifer!
YES! Amazing song all the way around.
beautiful women beautiful voices
One of your BEST Songs Jennifer! Thank you Friend
I've been though the Words of This Song! Thank you!
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My baby Jennifer she doesn't hold back her voice is a beautiful and powerful thing.She sends chills through me the hair stands up on my arms when she she sings.love her .
Nettles has the all time most beautiful unreproducible voice. Her songs evoke so much emotion they touch not just my heart, but every nook and cranny of my soul.
Hi Shann hope you’re okay?
I love u Hun my LORD what a lady you are an angel so beautiful voice makes my hair stand up all over my body
Jennifer you are by far the most amazing artist I've had the pleasure to see live and hear.....omg I love your music. Keep blowing us away!!!!
I used to live with abuse but now I'm with a great guy
What is that like? Trying to remain hopeful 😉
WOW! I’m just hearing this??? Where have I BEEN? This blew me away! Powerful, tender, then Powerful again. Gah!
Hi Terri hope you’re okay?
his breath how could I forget..his eyes looked right through me ...silence was the only sound ...my 💔 that day
LUV Jennifer Nettles, good to look at and listen to. Beautiful lady , extremely talented performer....................
I havent heard voices harmonize that good since lane Staley and Jerry cantrel... amazing duo
her voice is just powerful she really puts the emotions into her songs better than any other female country singer in my opinion
Great song love Jennifer Nettles I got chills, feels like this song was written for me and I’m sure many others .Thank god I survived and got away from it ,but it left scars literally.
Deanna McGregor I'm glad to hear that you're a survivor. I survived also thank God.
anita chaney Thank you,I’m glad you survived as well.🙏🏻
16 years out for me...
Jennifer has the most beautiful voice I have ever heard. I am just mesmerized when she sings. Powerful and full of expression and everything is sung from the heart.
This song has such a haunting and chilling feeling about it. This is a good reminder for those who suffer through domestic violence that there is hope and a way out. Just take that first step. There is help out there. Don’t become another statistic. Run.
Hi Susan hope you’re okay?
LOVE LOVE LOVE! This gives me goose bumps everytime! Saw them both in concert last night and it was amazing!!
Hi Nancy hope you’re okay?
This is the very first time I have heard this song, and I absolutely love it. His hands should always be full of love, but sadly this isn't always the case. Wonderful words, tune and the most beautiful voices, singing in harmony.
Hi Zanna hope you’re okay?
i love the twist of how it goes from a intimate his hands to a abusive his hands
True story. I lived it everyday.
@@mymountainmemories5410 same here. Here's to survivors
@@britanirollins291 I remember once having to stand up for my mama, I was only 13 and in foster care, I had come for my weekend visit I saw the evidence on her face, I got pissed and packed what little she had and used my allowance to get her to a woman's shelter, she never went back to him, 3yrs later she married the man I call my dad
@@WizardPandora That is an awesome story and good for you!!
Jon Figac I lived it and I’m still learning it and he’s been with me for 20 years and I’m 39 years old and was diagnosed with an incurable rare disease and still did it. I never thought it would happen more than once. He denies every bit of it but the photos don’t lie. And every word of this song is exactly how it happened to me but I didn’t think he would do it to me when I was disabled and I know I started the argument that pissing him off, I guess but if I post the pictures, you’ll understand.
Her singing gives me chills.....
This song is just unreal and gives all woman a reality check to never accept abuse because if they do it once they will continue. Great artist great song.
Through experience I can tell you it doesn't start out as abuse. Things are great at first. It slowly happens over time until you're stuck either physically or mentally. 16 years out and it still hurts...
@@cherylmccullough4153 then when you do leave....no one asks him why, just you
Her crescendo at the 2:40 mark made me emotional.
I'm so hopeful that everyone coming forward will help others (be it man or woman) take that final step to get out before it's to late. Jennifer's lyrics and melodies come from her heart and soul for it touches my heart and soul, I went through this with a dear friend and it was almost to late, things can go from horrible to deadly so quickly. I know this song as many of Jennifer's songs will be a source of help or comfort to others. Even songs she wrote at Agnes Scott University was a comfort to a friend that was dying from cancer and she passed with "Story Of Your Bones" playing softly in the background. I believe it was played in an episode of "Dawson's Creek".
16 year survivor here...still hurts though
Gosh, listening to this and thinking of where I am today, are two worlds apart, I've been there, I've been used and abused, my last relationship he was a narcissist, emotionally abusive and somewhat physical and once sexual, I never thought I would be strong enough to leave to walk away, but I can say now without a shadow of doubt it was the best decision that I've ever made. I've now met someone who treats me like a queen and would never do anything to hurt me intentionally, worlds apart from who I was back then. If you're in this situation getting out is the best decision you can and will ever make
One of the best-written country songs this year. What a great performance!
Off the doggone chain. Jennifer kills it...once again! Big time country.
Jennifer, your voice pierces me. Can't get enough. Thanks for sharing your gift.
Hi Sandra hope you’re okay?
I just get enough of this song, I have it on repeat in my car. If you get a chance to see Jennifer live it is THE BEST concert you will ever see!
Hi Allison hope you’re okay?
I now watched / listened to the video about 8 times and I just love it. The depth of the emotion and the beauty of the collaboration between the two of you is simply awesome and amazing. Thank you for such a great experience.
My parents celebrated 54 yrs Mattie’s today, there was trouble but they made it thru and now they just have happieness
Love this song ..abuse exist it's a very dangerous thing if your living through it get out don't let love blind you ...i got out and was losing myself at one point but enough was enough. .now I'm as happy as can be those memories don't even face me now...
Good for you, a very close friend of mine finally got out before it was to late and you could literally see the life coming back into her body. She started eating again for she was skin and bones, her color came back but it was a slow process because it took us 4 years to get her out! It's wonderful to see her beautiful smile again! I love this song and I hope it will help those (man or woman) to take that final step to get out!
15 years...those memories never go away
It's not east to get out and it's the most dangerous for women, especially when there's kids. The best thing you can do is support them so when they do go to leave they dont feel alone and like they can't, especially when the abusive spouse is extremely controlling
..This song hits in all the right spots..My heart is really broken & scrambled!!..Never ever excited of him but I will rise up & be that strong Woman again & never go through something like this ever again!!..
It's good you were strong enough to get out. Some aren't so lucky...
Jennifer has the voice of angles. She can make you feel everything she is singing about.
I love both of these artist. I can't wait for Brandy Clark to become a mainstream artist.
This song got me through a bad moment in life....your song made me stop and realize I deserved more it was me and my kids or him and I ran thank-you! even to this day 8 years later I still think back everytime this song comes on! ❤❤😢
It’s been 2yrs since mine was taken to jail and accidentally let out. Burying it is easy... this song dug it right back up.
I absolutely love this song! Jennifer & Brandy harmonize great together.
😢 damn song is tear jerking. my mom told me my dad was just like that it's so sad, my parents stayed together though till my dad died, but my mom said my dad fits the description of the man at the beginning and middle of the song. I had no idea he was like that to my mom. Like I said the song is a tear jerker.
In the middle of this covid pandemic and listening to news reports This song and Martina McBride's 'Independence Day' should be a wake up call to everyone
this song was my husband to a t thank you for geting my story out . to far gone in richmond va
I've only heard this song a few times but it always makes me have tears, because I can relate, being abused for yrs, I wish every woman who has been abused would listen to this and rethink their life because they are worth it.
We don't think when we're in it. Some never make it out...
Jen, I just can't get enough of your music.!!!! Next time your in NC, stop by ( all of Sugarland ) for a BBQ
Powerful
Jennifer doesn't take a note off. She's got you from second one til the end.
There's only one female artists that can match Jennifer Nettles vocal talent and that's Adele
Only wonderful 😍 this voices. what a power 👍 greetings from germany
Great song! Brings back too many bad memories for me. Powerful! Makes me very emotional when I hear it
This is my first time hearing this song.. As someone who is living these lyrics everyday, I find myself crying throughout the entire song.
My soul sang this song for so long! This woman is absolutely amazing artist and this song does not get enough credit!
Survivors Song
Gosh, this song is so reflective of my life. Im so glad I got out before it was too late.
Hi Sophia hope you’re okay?