Why I Became A Lesbian - Tabitha Wothaya

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  • Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
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  • @jalangotv1447
    @jalangotv1447  3 роки тому +126

    To support Tabitha Wothaya publish her book, reach her on 0708 564 159.

    • @bronzekaylow1298
      @bronzekaylow1298 3 роки тому +6

      Okay

    • @shay1999
      @shay1999 3 роки тому +10

      She talked about not being able to take good care of her children, and she has two books that are barely close to the end, I think she needs to set her priorities wisely. Ningekua yeye, I would have asked for money to support my children, atleast have a peaceful clear head to finish writing her books. Anyway, kila mtu na maoni yake.

    • @sabinamamaphiktoria7524
      @sabinamamaphiktoria7524 3 роки тому

      @@bronzekaylow1298 e

    • @felestusemitewa6948
      @felestusemitewa6948 3 роки тому +1

      please i need ur help

    • @cuttieangel3526
      @cuttieangel3526 3 роки тому +10

      @@shay1999 thanks for your views but my books are going to change my kids life too

  • @jaymodollars4331
    @jaymodollars4331 3 роки тому +66

    Kama unataka conjestina achieng' aletwe hapa na jalas,piga likes na comments aone.

  • @Future88746
    @Future88746 3 роки тому +94

    Tabitha thank you for sharing your story even though the person you're talking to isn't paying attention to you. Jalang'o you did terribly on this interview, terribly is an understatement. We need more empathetic interviewers like Lynn Ngugi.

    • @bonbilia
      @bonbilia 3 роки тому +5

      I agree..and at some point he tries to disregard what she says

    • @crayki6593
      @crayki6593 3 роки тому +1

      Ingekuwa story ya mwanaume na yenye wanaingilia wanawake, angekuwa present. He is clear not even there.

    • @tanashabella1873
      @tanashabella1873 3 роки тому +2

      So sad.. God bless you girl

    • @mirwanmwangi9626
      @mirwanmwangi9626 3 роки тому +1

      I agree also

    • @Kitchen-table-flavours
      @Kitchen-table-flavours 3 роки тому +1

      I second you .

  • @teshshon9404
    @teshshon9404 3 роки тому +97

    after listening to this lady, i believe ''people should heal before having children so your children don't have to heal from having you as a parent''.

    • @cuttieangel3526
      @cuttieangel3526 3 роки тому

      Sure

    • @-nancy9330
      @-nancy9330 3 роки тому

      Sure

    • @kendimmbuka205
      @kendimmbuka205 3 роки тому

      💯💯

    • @CK-ps7sm
      @CK-ps7sm 3 роки тому

      Personally after multiple sexual assaults I don't think I can ever live with a man..so how will I survive ever? Any advice? Nilikua mlevi kitambo na sikua najua nature ya wanaume,si ati nawachukia but I don't want to ever see a man naked

  • @moiben663
    @moiben663 3 роки тому +80

    This interview needed a female host

  • @akinyiokeyo4618
    @akinyiokeyo4618 3 роки тому +34

    As a single mum,there are things you need to forgo.Forget marriage to protect you child.

  • @marymoureen637
    @marymoureen637 3 роки тому +21

    After watching your story...I feel like sharing mine too

  • @agnesawuor5857
    @agnesawuor5857 3 роки тому +24

    This is such a sad story. Sometimes people in such situations talk like this to cover their pain. Mothers, watch out for your kids both boys and girls and put them first. Never believe anyone else over them. Teach them about their bodies early and create a safe haven for them to talk to you about anything!
    But jalango...surely this is one interview that doesn't need your comedy. May God intervene for this lady.

  • @cessmichaels8555
    @cessmichaels8555 3 роки тому +36

    Jalang'o this girl has a beautiful voice for radio even if it's a vernacular station coz of her strong kikuyu accent.

  • @regimentish
    @regimentish 3 роки тому +125

    How i wish Lean Ngugi was interviewing her!
    Her story is very sensitive,Jalango hapo nayo ulichemsha.

  • @salimamalongo8832
    @salimamalongo8832 3 роки тому +28

    Tabitha is so vocal.She has a msg to single parents in love.

  • @andrewmaiyo3831
    @andrewmaiyo3831 3 роки тому +166

    I think jalas did not handle this interview the way it was supposed to be handled. He did not take the girl very seriously. Sad to see

    • @andrewmaiyo3831
      @andrewmaiyo3831 3 роки тому +1

      @@alyce9494 sana. Ametudissapoint round hii

    • @triggaforeign8591
      @triggaforeign8591 3 роки тому +16

      Define seriousness coz i see a keen interviewer doing wat interviewers should do keeping quite n avoiding many questions....using his ears more n less mouth... 👏👏👏

    • @shay1999
      @shay1999 3 роки тому +12

      @@triggaforeign8591 sensitive interview deserves sensitive interviewer. He is taking rape to be such a light information, hakuna hata feelings in his voice

    • @andrewmaiyo3831
      @andrewmaiyo3831 3 роки тому +11

      @@shay1999 yes you can see him laughing at her trauma and joking about it. There's nothing funny about her situation

    • @esthermugo3775
      @esthermugo3775 3 роки тому

      He jokes so much

  • @thegodlyprincess_kenya
    @thegodlyprincess_kenya 3 роки тому +27

    Grace Nsalame need to take up this interview and give it justice.Pole Sana Tabby

  • @shironjuguna5853
    @shironjuguna5853 3 роки тому +58

    Tabitha is on the way to restoration and complete healing. You went through a lot and you've shown what resilience can help one achieve. I pray that God will completely heal you and turn your ashes into beauty!

  • @thedawnministry8406
    @thedawnministry8406 3 роки тому +14

    Dear daughter of the most high God,I pray for your healing and permanent soul,mind spirit and body restoration.May you find peace for rest of your remaining days on this earth..such tales break me and wish I had been near you to help you fight for your dignity..it shall be well.

  • @fab_254.
    @fab_254. 3 роки тому +30

    Sexual abused is very painful survivors need quality physiological and medical care! This lady need someone to listen to her aki

    • @terryadams7416
      @terryadams7416 3 роки тому +3

      Its so sad aki hata nimefeel..i pray to get a good man hata naogopa kuolewa if men wako this cruel 😭😭

    • @wanguigrace2957
      @wanguigrace2957 3 роки тому +2

      Very true. Whats her ig

    • @paulinemutinda6245
      @paulinemutinda6245 3 роки тому

      @@wanguigrace2957 would love to know

    • @michaelmwaniki9097
      @michaelmwaniki9097 3 роки тому +1

      She should consider Dr. Jane Wanjau. She is a remarkable family therapist. She was ones hosted by Kate Actress.

    • @elizabethberniceodaba2822
      @elizabethberniceodaba2822 3 роки тому

      Justice for Tabitha it's not late

  • @mollinedove
    @mollinedove 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you for being brave enough to share your story, Tabby. My heart breaks. 😢💔 This is a culture no one talks about in Kenya. #STOPrapeculture in Kenya. Rapists should be jailed FOR LIFE because their victims are NEVER the same again (mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically)!!! 💔😠🤬💔

  • @mumoyoungbonymutua7343
    @mumoyoungbonymutua7343 3 роки тому +37

    Lynn ngungi needed this interview

  • @lilianmbula9397
    @lilianmbula9397 3 роки тому +39

    This lady also needs a therapist as well. She hasn't dealt with what happened to her. Jalas, bro, today you didn't handle this well today..

  • @videlialabeka4899
    @videlialabeka4899 3 роки тому +34

    Can that man be arrested even today,?am soo frustrated😭😭😭

    • @lavingtonenjenga1440
      @lavingtonenjenga1440 3 роки тому

      If by then he was 40 years....Do your math i think he's dead already

    • @videlialabeka4899
      @videlialabeka4899 3 роки тому +1

      @@lavingtonenjenga1440 he should resurrect..we do justice😫

    • @jamesndungu5427
      @jamesndungu5427 3 роки тому

      Yes he can! With a little concerted effort from we "the people".

  • @njeri5536
    @njeri5536 3 роки тому +17

    This lady should be interviewed by Lynn ngugi..of tuko talks..

  • @joywambo8077
    @joywambo8077 3 роки тому +101

    who else thought Jalas took this story as a joke..Jalas style up...this isnt a laughing matter .saitan🙅🙅

    • @ritamiaririe5934
      @ritamiaririe5934 3 роки тому +2

      Mpaka alisema 'inabore'

    • @chikujumat.v1308
      @chikujumat.v1308 3 роки тому +8

      He wasn't serious I think Lynn tuko should do her interview akii.

    • @mercykimcy5887
      @mercykimcy5887 3 роки тому +1

      @@chikujumat.v1308 i agree

    • @sellyj7882
      @sellyj7882 3 роки тому

      I totally agree,she was holding back so much tears....She had so much to say which was taken as a joke,that was sad sad.

    • @maggieshi690
      @maggieshi690 3 роки тому

      Wanna mutheri

  • @cancerqueen5153
    @cancerqueen5153 3 роки тому +6

    Hello Jalas....This girl was my classmate back then St.Regina Secondary School Nairutia....Am sorry for what she was going through silently😭😭😭😭

  • @margaretkimani5007
    @margaretkimani5007 3 роки тому +40

    Jalas, ive something to request please bring Princess Jully to say her story so that people can help her she is really in bad situation. She sang that song "Dunia Mbaya" which helped during the Aids/Hiv era.

    • @jamespeter5060
      @jamespeter5060 3 роки тому

      True nimeongea sana but I don't know why hajamleta I am for it

  • @mercyakinyi1539
    @mercyakinyi1539 3 роки тому +33

    My kids my life... No man can come between me n them...

  • @eekiane1921
    @eekiane1921 3 роки тому +4

    Omg no words, thank you for being brave enough to come out and talk about this topic. How many young innocent children go through this. As a community have we failed our children?

  • @janeliberal3170
    @janeliberal3170 3 роки тому +5

    It's sad and painful story. I concur with others here that this interview lacked empathy but more of joy. No blame. Thanks for your courage in sharing your story. Can benefit from trauma help, early childhood abuse, environmental issues, and delivalance. Wishing you brighter future

  • @amirenemwinzi8315
    @amirenemwinzi8315 3 роки тому +45

    I understand your situation my dear. I know that pain but if I was healed The LORD will heal you too.

  • @classiccontentcreator5060
    @classiccontentcreator5060 3 роки тому +49

    Such a sad story. You have been through a lot. May God stretch His blessings upon you.

  • @furahahappiness110
    @furahahappiness110 3 роки тому +12

    I just wanna hug her so hard and say it's okay sis you can tell she still haven't healed she need same one to talk too .

  • @Tumaini1977
    @Tumaini1977 3 роки тому +83

    Jalango.....some interviews like this one; give to the likes of..."tuko talks- Lynn Ngugi" and "metha ya Kagoni"..at least there's more of emotional support in a gal to gal interview empowerment...and audience capture the texture of the story more....My take....x

    • @virginiamburu4335
      @virginiamburu4335 3 роки тому +10

      Very true. Woman to Woman is better.Jalang''o is a comedian. He was shocked you can tell but he was not showing the empathy that she needs. I will tag lynne abt her

    • @annmbugua4846
      @annmbugua4846 3 роки тому +3

      Yap! point!

    • @terrygolda4525
      @terrygolda4525 3 роки тому +2

      True

    • @lilymnyash
      @lilymnyash 3 роки тому +1

      Weeuuh

    • @monicahmaina1446
      @monicahmaina1446 3 роки тому +1

      Hungura show interviews this lady and it is clear but in kikuyu

  • @agaltoto8506
    @agaltoto8506 3 роки тому +47

    I can’t believe I’m saying g this.....DO NOT LEAVE YOUR DAUGHTERS IN THE CARE OF MALE RELATIVES/MALE RELATIVES SHOULD NOT BE YOUR DAUGHTER’S CLOSEST FRIENDS. Talk to your children from a tender age.....Let them understand that it’s wrong for anyone to touch them.You will be surprised at how many girls were molested as kids. These stories are harrowing 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭. I think there’re so many paedophiles prowling everywhere.

    • @rasputin7323
      @rasputin7323 3 роки тому +2

      Atieno Ogara!Don't make it a gender issue.Pedophiles come in all genders.How about being gender blind when addressing this issue. This unfortunate acts happen to kids of both genders from crippy adults of both genders.For all intent and purpose you miss the whole picture when u make it a gender issue.Boy child is just as vulnerable....but I know you ment well.

    • @agaltoto8506
      @agaltoto8506 3 роки тому +2

      @@rasputin7323 thank you for understanding my emotionally driven sentiments. I totally acknowledge that boys also suffer in the hands of house helps or are equally sodomized by male relatives and "family friends". The key thing is that we need to teach our children to tell us everything and anything without fear of needless retribution.

    • @rasputin7323
      @rasputin7323 3 роки тому +1

      @@agaltoto8506 Great!This what dialogue is supposed to look like.Meanwhile ill sent you a friend request on Facebook,you sound like a smart person and............. I'll tell you the rest after we become friends😉😊.

    • @playerpresident856
      @playerpresident856 3 роки тому

      Nkt what are you talking about.

    • @wambuijacinta9723
      @wambuijacinta9723 3 роки тому

      Very true, we need to talk about this in kenya

  • @erastusmigwi100
    @erastusmigwi100 3 роки тому +10

    Tabitha needs counseling n future she can take a guidance n counseling course to help our community.she is sharp lady

  • @BennPixImaging
    @BennPixImaging 3 роки тому +11

    Sad story! Jalas, hio phone next time weka mbali during such an interview.

  • @jane-wn1dq
    @jane-wn1dq 3 роки тому +42

    Ooh GOD...THESE INTERVIEW NEEDED TO BE DONE BY LYN OR KAGONI.THIS IS NOT A LAUGHING MATER .THESE GIRL STILL NEED TO HEAL.

  • @rachelakinyi6441
    @rachelakinyi6441 3 роки тому +61

    I wish she approached Lynn Ngugi to put her story out there.

    • @destinydes3318
      @destinydes3318 3 роки тому +2

      It could be deeper and the massage could reach many ppl ... even action could be taken ...and she could be helped by people....how I wish tooo.

    • @joykanana1922
      @joykanana1922 3 роки тому +2

      My thoughts exactly

    • @estheralbrechtsen8999
      @estheralbrechtsen8999 3 роки тому +1

      It was With Kagoni. Real sad hata mamake alisema hawesi ongea na Tabitha

    • @bernardropp
      @bernardropp 3 роки тому +2

      She is better interviewer on such emotional topics. Jalas ako na niche yake pia

    • @destinydes3318
      @destinydes3318 3 роки тому +1

      @@estheralbrechtsen8999 aki I really pity her..but with God everything is possible 🙏

  • @maggiemeggie897
    @maggiemeggie897 3 роки тому +14

    Taby is healing saa hii anapeana story akicheka, it was sad juzi in some media mamake kupigiwa simu bado anatetea huyo bwana ati niwahubiri, but the mam to the sister akapasua mbarika taby anasema ukweli kweli kuna mothers from hell una choose mwanaume over your child🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @cuttieangel3526
      @cuttieangel3526 3 роки тому +2

      Aki soo painful

    • @sharleenjj8548
      @sharleenjj8548 3 роки тому +3

      And that is what i will never do,chose a man over my daughter,would rather die single.

    • @maggiemeggie897
      @maggiemeggie897 3 роки тому

      @@cuttieangel3526 you are going far and you will be a blessing to many🙏🏻 trust the process

  • @WanjikuMwaura.
    @WanjikuMwaura. 3 роки тому +10

    Tabitha, I'm truly truly sorry for all you had to endure but don't you ever forget that God's got you.
    Jalango, this is for you, with such an interview, you should have shown some level of empathy and let her see and feel she has all your attention rather than being on and off your phone and fidgeting all the time.

    • @angelawaiguru2490
      @angelawaiguru2490 3 роки тому

      Truly agree on this one. I guess the interview wasn't important to him. What a mess!!!

    • @mahamudali1453
      @mahamudali1453 3 роки тому

      It is good lesson for parents be open to your kids and don’t even trust maids

    • @susanmukasa4213
      @susanmukasa4213 3 роки тому

      The message was not to jalas but parents.Let's listen to our children and understand.

  • @terrytesh1484
    @terrytesh1484 3 роки тому +25

    @jalas u didn’t pay attention on this interview guess you were not ready for it may be because she’s not a celeb #equalizepls

    • @Njenga.Adventures
      @Njenga.Adventures 3 роки тому +1

      Be nice, giving her his attention and a stage was a big thing.....
      Jalas amestuka juu ya hiyo story

  • @norahshiundu7756
    @norahshiundu7756 3 роки тому +66

    Am so frustrated with how jalas has handled this. I could literally slap some senses into the guy.

    • @shanayawangui3870
      @shanayawangui3870 3 роки тому +3

      I noticed it seems hakuwa intrested

    • @DaisyKiprop25
      @DaisyKiprop25 3 роки тому +6

      Thank you ..i came for this comment...she deserved Tuko talks 😭

    • @mercyakinyi5102
      @mercyakinyi5102 3 роки тому +3

      How to get tuko talk please nimepitia na nataka speak out

    • @norahshiundu7756
      @norahshiundu7756 3 роки тому +4

      @@shanayawangui3870 atleast he shouldn't have showed that he is not that interested. Taking such a thing so lightly yet it has scarred that lady and who knows how many ladies have gone through such.

    • @candidmusings
      @candidmusings 3 роки тому +2

      @@mercyakinyi5102 go to her channel she leaves her contacts

  • @villagealien
    @villagealien 3 роки тому +35

    Jalas your phone, both on the table and you picking it up took away something so vital from Tabitha's sharing. You broke the connection.

    • @peach5860
      @peach5860 3 роки тому +1

      He always does that. Does not really connect with his guests

    • @roselynemaina4652
      @roselynemaina4652 3 роки тому +2

      Uuuui thought I was the only one who noticed...that's not good

    • @mariamidd221
      @mariamidd221 3 роки тому

      Kabisaaa

    • @rozakimani244
      @rozakimani244 3 роки тому +1

      Jalas...stay professional. You don't look interested in this story. FYI its very traumatic! SHAME

  • @media1international279
    @media1international279 3 роки тому +25

    Stepdads are on the spot! This stories represent so many cases that have gone untold in our society today. Ephesians 6:12: “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

  • @thesalanos
    @thesalanos 3 роки тому +30

    The first interview Jalango has not said a word in between. So painful 😭😭😭😭

  • @wamboey5127
    @wamboey5127 3 роки тому +23

    People need to understand that rape is not just a woman's issue. Ask yourself where we would be as a society if we were as afraid of having criminals as sons, as we are afraid of having victims as daughters. Getting rid of the branches doesn't make the roots go away but addressing sexual abuse needs earnest attention.

    • @i-deegamingvideos6016
      @i-deegamingvideos6016 3 роки тому +3

      Aki.. your comment deserves a million likes. It's sad the perpetrators go unpunished. That's why these cases are increasing by the day.

  • @lite-ck5mj
    @lite-ck5mj 3 роки тому +28

    I remember watching her on kikuyu diasporah TV show seeing her here has really hurt all over again.. Justice should be served ⚖️😢

  • @ciikuthemillennial.3082
    @ciikuthemillennial.3082 3 роки тому +17

    Jalas looks like he is late to go somewhere 🤣

  • @princesssang4861
    @princesssang4861 3 роки тому +16

    Mtoto wa kuzaliwa nje ni stress juu in some cause you had to choose between your kid and your husband but remember men come and go but your kid will forever remain in your life so choose wise mamas

  • @millielyysh6831
    @millielyysh6831 3 роки тому +49

    Single mums deserve love too but not at the expense of their children

    • @joyakinyi4756
      @joyakinyi4756 3 роки тому

      I guess not everyone has the same mentality 😂

  • @chikujumat.v1308
    @chikujumat.v1308 3 роки тому +55

    Jalas you didn't give your best in this interview.

    • @thegodlyprincess_kenya
      @thegodlyprincess_kenya 3 роки тому +4

      He couldn't. It needs another woman like Grace Nsalame to take up this interview to another level. Men don't understand

    • @zipporahndanu3601
      @zipporahndanu3601 3 роки тому +1

      Yes

    • @katechep6450
      @katechep6450 3 роки тому +1

      alishtuka hio story ni sad

    • @snooki911
      @snooki911 3 роки тому +1

      He looks disinterested somehow. He is fighting not to doze off..... fidgeting too much.

  • @drsusanchangorok2030
    @drsusanchangorok2030 3 роки тому +4

    Jelas as a psychologist. This one you handled it casually this is a real experience it needs you to identify with what she is feeling and her experience. Lakini you checking your phone all the time. Next time try to give more attention and put your phone away.
    Thank you girl for opening up, it helps in the healing process.

    • @mumbicate2844
      @mumbicate2844 3 роки тому

      That’s the problem we have in Kenya, we take serious matters lightly like rape or suicidal cases 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @rabut.j.1829
    @rabut.j.1829 3 роки тому +2

    Jalas umechemsha kwa hii interview,such cases happens on our daily lives , you've taken it so lightly

  • @sharonkimaiyo3526
    @sharonkimaiyo3526 3 роки тому +39

    This lady needs a counsellor and a mentor

  • @phanicealivitsa5285
    @phanicealivitsa5285 3 роки тому +21

    Mm hata siendi mbali kusikiza pls jarango hao watu si watafutwe washikwe imagine mama kama huyo hana time na mtoto ni uchungu sana my daughter pole

  • @charlcoke
    @charlcoke 3 роки тому +110

    msichana hapumui!!
    wooi.
    weka likes za Jalas kusahau kusanitize.

  • @sharon-gathiru
    @sharon-gathiru 3 роки тому +4

    This is the worst thing anyone could ever go through. I swear. It remains fresh in your mind through the years.

  • @gmediaassociates6417
    @gmediaassociates6417 3 роки тому +3

    Tabitha, I feel your story, I pray for you, may you talk to single mothers and encourage women and girls who have gone through your ordeal. Your story is very sad and amusing at the same time. I wish you well with the book.

  • @kencantv7692
    @kencantv7692 3 роки тому +28

    Jalas you didn't handle this interview with respect. Respect the lady. Giver her the interview you can give to Lilian muli or those rich ladies

    • @edwinahbuyu7611
      @edwinahbuyu7611 3 роки тому +1

      Naona iko tu sawa coz kama dem was strong so jalongo hakua so emotional na pia dem was talking almost through out

    • @nancyoduma5615
      @nancyoduma5615 3 роки тому +1

      I don't understand what is wrong with Jalas interviewing this lady.

    • @melishakendra4092
      @melishakendra4092 3 роки тому

      Lillian Muli is not rich

  • @milkahnganga
    @milkahnganga 3 роки тому +5

    She needs deliverance, the spirit of rejection is a very stubborn spirit and it opens a door to every other filthy spirit and the situation of that person becomes almost hopeless but the Lord is so gracious there's no mountain he won't climb or walls he won't kick down coming after a lost sheep, he's the one who never leaves the 'one' behind. God loves you girl, he's not done with you...

  • @kareymburu2953
    @kareymburu2953 3 роки тому +4

    What a sad story I think Lynn Ngugi would have given her a better platform and empathy for her story ....but I'm glad she seems to be in a better place now.

  • @JWambui
    @JWambui 3 роки тому +15

    i have a girl the same age,,,this story gives me goosebumps it was on Hungura show

    • @essstar2734
      @essstar2734 3 роки тому

      Scary...very scary

    • @annmuchina4441
      @annmuchina4441 3 роки тому

      She's the one

    • @triggaforeign8591
      @triggaforeign8591 3 роки тому +2

      Always listen to your small gal...

    • @michaelkimaru8293
      @michaelkimaru8293 3 роки тому

      @@triggaforeign8591 listening to her for second time after the kikuyu diaspora media i guess 2017-18 😢 keep flowing.I have 3 dotas and have started to teach them and also am SUPER close to them bcs i can think of such an evil thing to EVER happen to them.God help our kids and open the eyes of parents.She has same story as last interview.God truly walk with this hurted soul.She hurts alot in her life.

  • @wanjikukamau9064
    @wanjikukamau9064 3 роки тому +8

    Jalango, this one you did a poor job on the recognition of her situation, and lacked the empathy it deserves. Tabitha pole sana but thankyou for bravely sharing your story.

  • @trizakanyiri
    @trizakanyiri 3 роки тому +10

    Such an emotional story. Jalas l wish u noticed there is a time she was almost breaking down but she swallowed the pain. U should have given her shoulder to lean on and allowed her to cry cause this girl has really gone through a lot and she's still suffering.. All the same thanks for trying to help her.

  • @antonyclement4220
    @antonyclement4220 3 роки тому +59

    To be honest jalas, you did not handle this interview with the empathy that it deserved. This girl has gone through so much, but some instances you were laughing it off and there was nothing to laugh about here. And you really fast forwarded the story and did not give the girl the chance to express everything she wanted. In my opinion, as the interviewer you did not properly handle this interview

    • @agaltoto8506
      @agaltoto8506 3 роки тому +2

      Thank you for highlighting what I just posted!!!!

    • @hakeemabdi3701
      @hakeemabdi3701 3 роки тому

      True

    • @lucienferre2717
      @lucienferre2717 3 роки тому +4

      That's what happens when illiterates try journalism without formal training. It's like watching Churchils interviews. Pathetic. Tuko media all the way

    • @thisismercy2489
      @thisismercy2489 3 роки тому

      I support you

    • @senganjoki5780
      @senganjoki5780 3 роки тому +9

      I don't usually comment , I purposefully came here to highlight this ;Jalas I feel you owe this lady an apology.
      You didn't handle this interview with the outmost humane , empathy and effective listening skills.
      I felt like you harassed this lady .
      She has a very sensitive topic that is happening in our community.
      Tabby please note this platform wasn't ideal try @tuko, @metha ya kagoni
      Peace!

  • @michaelmwaniki9097
    @michaelmwaniki9097 3 роки тому +7

    Damn those mothers, my mom included. Fortunately, I was not raped, aliomba roho safi. He never touched me but he refused to take me to school despite being among the best girls in school. I rebelled against them, I knew what was right and I loved my life. Thank God He protected me and brought me guardian angels who made sure I went back to school. This trend is very common amongst my community and nobody is talking about it. This Generation X- single mothers who were so desperate to get married are narcissist and they made their little girls go through hell. I recent those mothers. How blame a child you chose to give birth to, yet Roe vs. Wade was widely publicized. I swear I can relate 100% with what this girl experienced when she run to her mother for protection. My mom ones told me that naringa na hiyo maneno na kuna wanaume wanazaa na their biological daughters, she even gave me an example. I only wish my grandma was alive I know she would have protected me. Unlike Tabitha, I chose to be a normal woman, I never gave myself away to men, I believed in myself. I never relied on any man for upkeep. But it took a lot of hard work to be where I am today. God gave me wonderful daughters, the best husband and I would say I have a beautiful family. I went to therapy too. Dr. Jane Wanjau who was ones hosted by Kate actress took me through a therapy session to overcome the childhood traumas. There is nothing worst that could happen to a child other than being rejected, abandoned and neglected by their mothers. Likes of Menendez brothers, Ed Kemper, Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer turned to the monsters they were because of their mothers. I gave up on trying to please my mother because even when you become independent she feels she has power over you. she want to control how you raise your kid or live with your husband, want everyone to believe that you are not a good person, it is like it pleases them when you are on your knees. Pure toxic. I found my biological dad and I have never been happier.

    • @Faith-db9yw
      @Faith-db9yw 3 роки тому +1

      So we are many in this. I share the same story with you. Currently, my fiancee and I are trying to get married but my mother is still a stambling block for my wedding preparation. It is hard but I believe God will see us through. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @evanjoki5799
      @evanjoki5799 3 роки тому

      😭😭

  • @leahakinyi636
    @leahakinyi636 3 роки тому +2

    Jalang'o manze umeniuuuuuuuuuuuuuuddddhhhhiii aki. Kwani huwezi eka hiyo simu kando!! Manzeee this story deserves a lot. Lynn ngugi @tuko mnaeza fanya kitu?

  • @kiwishbj1
    @kiwishbj1 3 роки тому +12

    Jalango has cameras and a studio.. but he lacks professionalism. This is an emotional story from the actual victim, but he just takes her so lightly and keeps laughing at some times. At some points, he even ignores what she says by not paying attention.

  • @yolawarema3960
    @yolawarema3960 3 роки тому +5

    These story needed a female interviewer

  • @abdul2busy439
    @abdul2busy439 3 роки тому +20

    Justice for Tabitha 😔❤️

  • @shiqohann1359
    @shiqohann1359 3 роки тому +20

    Teachers are angels

  • @patriciaowntales3932
    @patriciaowntales3932 3 роки тому +13

    Tabitha please you need to have done this interview at Tuco talks

    • @angelawaiguru2490
      @angelawaiguru2490 3 роки тому +2

      Very true. Cell phone was more important. TUKO talks should have handled this. Jalas the worst interviewer i have ever seen. He does very well what you are not supposed to do.

  • @samwelnguyo9301
    @samwelnguyo9301 3 роки тому +6

    It pain's me alot seeing such gal i know. Mwenye tumelelewa pamoja toka utotoni na kunayo mambo aliyapitia sikuyajua Mimi. Very sad. Jalas thanks and thanks alot ku interviwe huu msichana juu nimejua story sijawai iskia ama ata kuijua kwa maisha yangu

  • @queenlynne4157
    @queenlynne4157 3 роки тому +7

    Waaah Tabitha is innocent and needs counselling..😭😭😭

  • @wechenjeke9776
    @wechenjeke9776 3 роки тому +19

    Despite the challenges you went through you're still strong

  • @patiencemrunde3922
    @patiencemrunde3922 3 роки тому +36

    This is for the parents (mothers and father's) let's be mindful of how we bring up our kids. It plays a big role in their later life.

  • @mikesoi
    @mikesoi 3 роки тому +29

    I feel hajapewa enough time to spit it out she still has more in store, if umezaliwa kwa nyumba tofauti utaelewa

  • @esthermuthoni6510
    @esthermuthoni6510 3 роки тому +7

    You really tried to
    Ignore this lady and her story was so touching

  • @mirwanmwangi9626
    @mirwanmwangi9626 3 роки тому +2

    This girl story have made me learn a lesson in life,may God continue strengthening you girl,the lord who prevented you from suicide have a good plans for your future,for sure i will be a best friend to my children.

  • @cikanyoro
    @cikanyoro 3 роки тому +5

    So sad you went through this....and the ease with which you share your story shows you are healing

  • @khallidyussuf814
    @khallidyussuf814 3 роки тому +25

    Big up our teachers 4 sure walimu wetu were what were because of u mlikuwa second parents for us

  • @Hottpops
    @Hottpops 3 роки тому +31

    I vowed to stand with my kids ....they are the only their body running my blood...

  • @DjMozz.
    @DjMozz. 3 роки тому +27

    I think she is not strong enough to mentor, as she ain’t healed yet. She may need to get help to get over her trauma first...But it takes courage to open up, so congratulations!

    • @suegreg8040
      @suegreg8040 3 роки тому +1

      Since she is the one who reached out to jalas.... Thats the first step to healing

  • @valentinewanyonyi264
    @valentinewanyonyi264 3 роки тому +21

    I like her advice to other mothers everywhere, it has got weight.

  • @mikeinnocent
    @mikeinnocent 3 роки тому +27

    Who has noticed that Jalango watches Abel Mutua's and Wajesus Channel? He just dropped the hints in the first 2 minutes of this video.

    • @georgeodary349
      @georgeodary349 3 роки тому +4

      Thats how we support each other..watch and learn from some of the best online content creators

    • @wanguigrace2957
      @wanguigrace2957 3 роки тому +2

      Its amazing to watch other content creators. 💪💪

    • @iam_mercyneno
      @iam_mercyneno 3 роки тому +1

      This is how most of content creators become successful, by WATCHING WHAT OTHERS DO

  • @maureenchege6824
    @maureenchege6824 3 роки тому +6

    Lynne ako wapi is like jalas is not serious with tabitha.these happens alot to many girls

  • @MinisterCod
    @MinisterCod 3 роки тому +10

    Her Father is God.He has a big purpose for her.All this far its God but its true,there are deep sectrets in families and also from my experience may God help me protect my children from predators in the family and outside the family.

  • @racquelann7408
    @racquelann7408 3 роки тому +20

    Jalas handled this interview in the worst possible way 😩 very insensitive! he’s even using his phone in the middle of Tabby’s story 😒😒😒

    • @angelawaiguru2490
      @angelawaiguru2490 3 роки тому +1

      I agree, very disrespectful. What is so important that cannot wait. And why is he having his cell phone on during an interview. I had to stop here with disgust!!! Poor production, lacking professionalisium

    • @cessmichaels8555
      @cessmichaels8555 3 роки тому +2

      I think he tried because he is not a professional in such matters. It would have been better though if he handed it over to a woman like he did with Shakila.

  • @kagamedimaria4787
    @kagamedimaria4787 3 роки тому +17

    Guy's she's talking the truth but her mother was interviewed in another channel and she denied everything but sister to her mother confirmed what she's saying....

    • @sarahwambui5287
      @sarahwambui5287 3 роки тому

      Which channel

    • @maryngash6100
      @maryngash6100 3 роки тому +1

      @@sarahwambui5287 hugura show

    • @TheSpectrumSafari
      @TheSpectrumSafari 3 роки тому

      Which channel was that?

    • @darlingsly
      @darlingsly 3 роки тому +5

      i watched it too. the sister to her mother clarified everything and also said that man also wanted to rape her

    • @nancynano4608
      @nancynano4608 3 роки тому

      Woie sad, such an evil mum. One day God will fight for Tabitha

  • @brianatuti6898
    @brianatuti6898 3 роки тому +11

    He who came down from Heaven and was made lower than Angels once said on the Cross that it's finished. In him cast your burdens and worries to him and will give you rest. His name is Jesus Christ.

  • @tanyanyakipande8082
    @tanyanyakipande8082 3 роки тому +1

    am proud of my mom alitufanya watoto wake kama mboni yake ya jicho Mungu ampunzishe kwa amani ....asante mama ulinilinda sanaa

  • @carolinekyalo2112
    @carolinekyalo2112 3 роки тому +33

    Jalango is so insensitive in this interview 🙄😪😥I wonder why he didn't take her seriously..ama ni vile she's not a "celeb" this lady needs help and counselling, she has childhood traumas and not healed yet

    • @francisn442
      @francisn442 3 роки тому +2

      Trauma victims should also be guided. Some could be sharing because they feel lost and confused. In this case I'm wondering if this girl will be able to meet her immediate basic needs by publishing a book. What if she first boosts her business and she undergo counselling. Then from her commitment to her business she can channel some profits to publishing. Truthfully speaking...who read or buy books nowadays? Today's generation are more inclined to online content. Can she be helped to package the story in her online channel as opposed to leaving it to lie in dusty book shelves? My thought though

    • @CK-ps7sm
      @CK-ps7sm 3 роки тому +2

      @@francisn442 hey me as a female being a victim of multiple sexual assaults upto the point I don't think I can ever live with a man..I like male company but I dont want sex how will I ever live with a man? I feel lost

    • @carolinekyalo2112
      @carolinekyalo2112 3 роки тому +1

      @@CK-ps7sm hey darling, I'm really sorry for what you went through, sending you love&light

    • @reyhabk236
      @reyhabk236 3 роки тому +2

      I've also noted...

    • @counselorraymondmwaura8000
      @counselorraymondmwaura8000 3 роки тому +1

      @@CK-ps7sm You still can heal....there is still hope I am a trauma counselor with refugees and I have seenmy clients recover fully and doing better

  • @vostinjoro8988
    @vostinjoro8988 3 роки тому +1

    Am a victim of the same, married with a baby boy but it's hell... I swear it's hell kwa my son, I jz feel like quiting

  • @francisn442
    @francisn442 3 роки тому +16

    Kindly Jalas can you put the phone aside. I could distract your guest. They might feel like what they're saying is not as import as what you're attending to on phone. Of course you could be attending to online followers but your guest might mistake that to impatience or feel demeaned. Allow your trusted and able team attend to your phone for that short duration if possible.

  • @namukhulajuliet2584
    @namukhulajuliet2584 3 роки тому +40

    Ive never seen such a poor interviewer.
    This case is all mental, physical,emotional and spiritual.
    Jalas there's time for jokes and comedy and time to get serious this particular interview needed seriousness🤧

  • @ellysBravine
    @ellysBravine 3 роки тому +18

    Jalas what's funny? Kindly get counseling for the lady. She's still far from healing emotionally, physically, mentally.Please any expert counselor take up this case.

    • @sly2549
      @sly2549 3 роки тому +2

      Btw she really needs help

    • @sellyj7882
      @sellyj7882 3 роки тому +2

      She absolutely needs counseling....the book writing is therapy to her,but she has deep wounds that she'll always transfer to anyone she dates or relates to on a personal level......Jalas,do your due diligence on some sensitive issues please and thank you!!

  • @jacobokoth8244
    @jacobokoth8244 3 роки тому +2

    Yani we are still crying for Tabitha then Harun that change of tune is making Tabitha feels she is not loved everywhere,this story aught to have end with deep massage am surprised to here anou cement,Lilian ngugi of tuko can do this better

  • @ciikuthemillennial.3082
    @ciikuthemillennial.3082 3 роки тому +16

    Omg if you touch that phone one more time! 🤣

  • @catherinemaina3302
    @catherinemaina3302 3 роки тому

    Interviewers have Niches, this one is not the type that Jalas should handle. Tuko, metha ya kagoni and the like should handle this interview. Jalas should stick to his lane, stories that can handle a humorous twist because that is what he's really good at. Tabitha we are sorry to hear what you went through in the hands of those that were meant to protect you. May God heal your wounds. Don't feel shy speaking out, and find other platforms that do emotional stories such as yours. Pole sana.

  • @gregoryyegon5044
    @gregoryyegon5044 3 роки тому +17

    So sad we should be very close to our children...

  • @nyandatesther6045
    @nyandatesther6045 3 роки тому +7

    Jalas unacheka Nini surely 😳😳😳😳
    Tuko with Lynn Ngugi all the way..... You making this lady feel demeaned ata hajaopen up vizuri

  • @carolekavita5949
    @carolekavita5949 3 роки тому +42

    Jalas this is not funny. I can't see empathy throughout your interview. Someone telling you they wanted to kill themselves alongside with their kids is not funny. Rape is not funny.
    First of all get a good understanding of mental health to be able to accept this kind of interviews . Jalas this is soo Poorly done .
    Tabitha well done and with no doubt your story is eye opening.
    May you receive healing IJN . Kindly find even a probono counselor . You have not healed. There's no definite time for the same but Kindly start that journey.

    • @Future88746
      @Future88746 3 роки тому +3

      I agree with you 💯. He did poorly on this one. This is a very serious issue.

    • @KaariMukura
      @KaariMukura 3 роки тому +10

      And a lot of sarcasm .....this girl should have shared her story with Lynn of Tuko. She is sensitive.

    • @leahelegwa2123
      @leahelegwa2123 3 роки тому +3

      Jalas anamwangalia nikama hamwamini

    • @halimagichuki9069
      @halimagichuki9069 3 роки тому +3

      @@KaariMukura Agreed she should have been interviewed by Lynn of Tuko news, shocked by Jalas' lack of empathy

    • @jacquelinemalowa9626
      @jacquelinemalowa9626 3 роки тому +2

      💯 The presenter handled this really poorly. Really disappointed ☹️