I'm sorry, but why do you guys think OP from the baby story is the AH in any degree?? The mom was ready to leave a baby in her care FOR DAYS without any food, any diapers, any warnings, nothing. She said clearly she couldn't communicate with her BF and honestly, it sounds like he's been an enabler of his sister's horrible behavior so I 100% get why she called the police. She was not an AH. The mom was the AH in this situation, no doubt in my mind.
Probably because it was an immediate escalation. I don't think it makes her an AH, it's also something I wouldn't do - at all lol. I'd call their parents or another family member to come get the baby before I called the cops.
Because it was an over reaction too immediate. I think she should've waited for her boyfriend to return. She obviously has the internet she could've easily learned how to make a bottle and feed a hungry baby. Thay baby could've ended up in the system. A system that is incredibly broken where children are often abused and neglected. I think she was an AH to the baby not necessarily the baby's mother. After reading the book legally kidnapped a book written by a cps whistle blower things would've have to be very extreme for me to risk a child entering the foster care system
Yesss thank you omg the mother should have to take parenting classes and have random CPS pop ups for the babies welfare. I’m a single mother of 2 boys both with extreme ADHD and one has Bipolar disorder, let me tell you it’s not easy, BUT never have I ever just left my kids anywhere with anyone without asking if they where willing to keep them for a day or two and without making sure they could get in contact with at ANY time my children are in their care. That was child abandonment and neglect, PERIOD.
NO, OP (in the baby Alex story) is NOT the AH! THE MOTHER didn't ask, ditched the baby, and hung up and TURNED OFF her phone! OP didn't know how to take care of a baby. Period. NTA.
I literally had someone never come pick up their boyfriend's children from my house. She never answered the calls or any way of my reaching out to her. The dad was up in the hills on a tactical training seminar and their CO refused to pass on the message. I kept the children (3 and 5) for the week. They never noticed a change since they were at the house all the time. They wore my children's clothes. Also nothing new. Guess who showed up at my door an hour before said boyfriend returned? Yup. I refused to give the children to her. The boyfriend showed up super angry because apparently I wouldn't hand the children over to her. Long story short - he believed girlfriend over me. Girlfriend wanted the woman she hated most to come back from her first vacation ever to watch the children despite the fact that it was the boyfriend's turn to watch the children. I didn't tell mom about it.
ok, but how can you be so helpless incompetent and worthless as a GROWN ADULT WOMAN that you can't take care of a baby for a little while without panicking and claiming you don't know what to do. That's ridiculous
I was thinking the same thing. As a Bipolar person I feel like this could be an extreme case of a low. His insecurity in the note and the switches in mood in it really made me feel like his mind was pretty scattered. I hope he gets help from a professional and gets better.
You can’t go away for a few days and not have that planned out with someone to watch your baby. I would have called the boyfriends parents before calling the cops. But she wasn’t completely wrong in doing that. Doesn’t sound like the mom packed enough stuff for the baby for several days either. That’s neglect.
They didn't have family living anywhere near them, from what I can recall, and the boyfriend was unreachable. Something about his workplace not having service so she couldn't call him. I can understand her logic, she did not know how to care for the baby and didn't have anything at hand to do so. I can't imagine not knowing how to soothe a baby, while driving around with baby in the car (I'm sure she didn't have a baby seat in her car) looking to buy the things baby needed. Ugh...
@@iulia.bianca.b yeah I understand to a degree but his family while may not be close in proximity they could help her over the phone and been able to make arrangements to get the baby. OP did the best she could think of.
@@tracyison2289 That's not her responsibility to do so though. And if she's in the middle of a massive panic, no one to get a hold of (If she even had the inlaws numbers) the literal mother turned her phone off just to go and get high with friends for days. I don't think you can expect OP to think straight at the time.
@@retaiid I know and I never said she was wrong. I simply mentioned other options that I would have tried. The mom was completely wrong and hopefully learned a lesson. OP isn’t the asshole at all. She did the best she could think of and I said that. There’s no shade at her.
@iulia.bianca.b it said the baby didn't have much not anything. She should've called her in-laws even if they weren't close by. They could've offered her advice on what to do and how to handle the baby until they or the boyfriend returned home. After reading legally kidnapped a book written by a cps whistle blower things would gave to be incredibly extreme for me to risk a child entering the broken foster care system where children are often abused and neglected. I.mean she has the internet and she could've easily learned how to feed and another a baby for a couple hours she acted rashly and risked the baby loosing it's family
Im a mother to a 3yo. Theres no way in hell id leave my kid with someone for 4 days without communicating it to them and insuring that the baby has enough diapers and food to last more then 4 days just to be safe. That moms an asshole im Sorry. If she needed a break she should have communicated and planned it out with her brother. She was capable of planning a 4day vacation with her friends but not her brother who she expected to watch her child? No. Sorrry. She fucked up. Not saying she doesnt deserve a break but communicating that and making aure your child is safe is apart of the process
And to not have the baby with 5 days worth of supplies and to make sure the mother can be reached if there was an emergency also that woman needs parenting classes and random pop up CPS visits because she is clearly unfit
for the little girl who was a bully- i lost my mom at 10 and I was injured badly in the wreck that killed her. i was bullied horribly by my ENTIRE CLASS from 5TH-7TH grade. losing a family member does not give you a reason to act like this. period.
1:03:00 The open marriage story is horrible. I feel so bad for OP. Her husband asked for an open marriage, got to do w/e n basically whoever he wanted, but as soon as OP found someone he did everything in his power to stop it and completely ruin it. Their relationship is not a two way street, and although she’s completely aware, she refuses to truly see that.. her husband is definitely the AH.
Absolutely for me he started showing his true colours when he repeatedly used excuses so she couldn't meet J. I guess I can understand asking for an open marriage but then not to play by the rules and then going and ruining your partner's relationship and afterward renewing your wish for an open marriage...? What a scumbag! Awful. She should absolutely divorce him. She seems to say she'll stay because her kids are her priority but if he is that entitled and disrespectful of her, what kind of example is he setting for her kids really?
The lady with the cancer, i say let her do what she wants. Shes not going to have an affair she just wants to reconnect with someone who brought her happiness at one point in her life and she wants to remember that before she dies. Shes done a lot for her family and her husband, i say give her this. Also props to her for telling her husband not to askher parents if its ok if he remarries. She truly does care for him and want him to have love in his life after her. Thats beautiful and selfless
she died five weeks after her post:( but I assume they had a talk because her husband posted an update. he says he kinda knew what happened between them cause they lived in a small town so everyone knows each other's business. "A" went to visit her once in her home (she had mobility issues as a result of her cancer and paliative care) so yeah, I would assume they talked.
The woman who called the cops on her boyfriend's baby mama is 100% not the asshole. Or whatever the Hell that mom is to the boyfriend. She's a crappy, neglectful mom anyways. The mom lied, ditched her child there without enough to take care of said child, there's no way that she didn't know the uncle wasn't gonna be there, she knows the woman has no idea how ro take care of the child, she didn't plan it out and do that nonsense correctly. Hell no, that's neglect, plain and simple. You wouldn't just drop your kid off with anyone, much less someone that makes it very known that she has no idea what she's doing. And before anyone says I "just don't understand"/"She just wanted a break", I have a 5-year-old that I have not "taken a break" from in the almost 6 years since she came out my flesh oven. No trips, outings or vacations without my child. If I even thought of doing this crap, I'd expect the cops being called on me. Seriously. She shouldn't have been a shit mom. Plus, it even says that the family on both sides are all out of state, she wasn't allowed to call her boyfriend, the terrible mom turned her phone off and she called friends for help and got none. She made the right move. She did the right thing.
@@songer1018 No matter who the mom is to the boyfriend doesn't matter. Neglect is neglect and all other family members are out of state. If I had a boyfriend and their sister dropped their kid off with the false pretense of it being a few hours, waited til the last minute to say it would be 4 days, didn't even leave enough to care for them that long, then turned their phone off and disappeared....I'd be calling CPS and the cops. And I would never be able to look at their family members the same if they got mad at me for putting the baby's safety and well being first. Any kind of relationship where that behavior is acceptable isn't worth keeping.
@@Ms.Whiplash Exactly. These are the types of stories where the mother is in serious danger and the attacker is buying time with an excuse. If you make communication with your baby's caretaker impossible, you should KNOW to expect police on your doorstep. Which is for YOUR safety since these mothers go missing with no leads. And if she provided no supplies just so her "few hours" lie was believeable, then she deserves everything she got twice over.
In regards to the service dog getting a shock collar is a big NO. It could potentially cause the dog to not be able to be a service dog anymore. A traumatized or reactive dog could miss cues and alerts for the person who needs it. A lot of people with service dogs still let their dogs be dogs and play and stuff. Theres nothing wrong with a bit of barking and if the mom finds it so bothersome then she needs to do it to her own yappy dog. I think its more she doesn't like her daughter's dog or maybe has more to do with her disabled daughter, just a gut feeling.
A very immature me in my 20s was with a man who asked for an open relationship after we were engaged. I said okay because I had a feeling he'd already been 'open' and was just biding my time to move on anyway. After I said I had met someone to be open with he flipped the script and came to my job to break up with me because he said I wasn't happy...? We had a two bedroom town house and a lease so I moved into my own room and started seeing the guy I wanted to be open with. The ex would lay in his room wailing 'i love her, 'she's mine,' and all other sorts of patheticism when I had a friend over. Moved out while he was at work one day and he continued to call me... Dudes, you cannot handle the ego blow of an open relationship so stop suggesting it.
You don't just get to drop your kid off for days without letting their caretaker know what's up. That mom is fully and completely the AH. However, if I were OP, I would have called the BFs parents. Like "hey, can you get your grand spawn? No idea what I'm doing here."
Steak guy is literally a sitcom husband. Once the strike is over, wife can probably quit her job and just write stories about her ridiculous husband and have several seasons of a sitcom ready to go.
Story 2: NTA. OP is not an asshole for not knowing how to take care of a baby. A lot of people don't. OP seemed to be expressive about this so the SIL should know that. OP did everything right in the situation and while some might think that calling the cops is a step too far, it actually shows that she really cares about the child. Besides, if you put yourself in f'd up situations, prepare to deal with the consequences. SIL is the AH.
The girlfriend who sabotaged OPs jobs is a level of psycho that makes me lose my faith in humanity. I'll never understand why people spend that amount of energy on ruining another person's life. Especially their partner's. Just.. why?
Just a guess... But was witness to a similar situation.... In that situation the girl was the type where the bf going to work... Ie not being at her beck and call 24/7 ... Was cheating in her mind..... Basically doing anything that didn't revolve around her ... And she didn't understand why her bf couldn't have $ without a job My hubby just lost a coworker to a different but similar situation where the gf would call him at work allll the time.... Call his bosses phones.... Turn off his alarm so he'd miss work etc
For the story about the racist woman at the Korean BBQ, it's not the job of people of color to teach others how not to be bigoted racists. If she couldnt find it in her heart not to be a racist ass-hat, that's her failing as a human being. The guy paid for the meal and then ditched her and was fully in the right to have done so. She was owed no "teachable moment," as I'm sure any lesson taught would have gone in one ear and out the other.
I agree. However by him not saying anything, she would’ve most likely thought it was something else (like she wasn’t pretty enough or something). Ppl like her need to be called out as much as humanly possible so they can (hopefully) eventually see their awful hateful ways one day, after so freakin many ppl are all saying the exact same thing.
Look, a 5 year age gap typically isn't bad, but when it's between a 22 and a 27 year old, it makes what happened more clear. She wanted control over him and she got it. Thank god OP figured it all out and left her. What a chaotic situation.
If I found divorce papers in my husbands stuff, I'd sign then and leave them out in the open where I'd know he'd see it quickly. What were not gonna do is beg someone to stay
Honestly, for the first story, I would've just started responding. You're looking through the hole you made? Pepper spray. You at my son's window? Pepper spray, I'll try to miss the cat since he/she didn't choose their owner. You wanna use a megaphone to yell at me? I'll megaphone my babies crying and my dogs barking. Get a whole karaoke system and attach mics to the dogs. I can be louder.
Panicking is a huge factor and if your brain tells you „My Parents/ BF Parents are not near means they are no help“ you probably won’t think about calling them till your cooled down (cooling down while a baby is crying is not easy especially if you don’t know anything about baby’s)
Re the window steak. I would have said I saw a spider and I am super aracniphobic and paniced I guess my initial reaction to an undercooked steak would actually be like "sorry I really like well done steak, could we cook this a bit more"
11 hours later, I’m glad to see you guys posted tonight. My date bailed on me, after I just got back from work. you two making me laugh makes up for the night :) ❤you guys ✌🏽
*Dog Shock Collar:* My BF wanted a shock collar for our little 10 lb shih tzu. I did not. It’s cruel etc but he did bark at even blowing wind so I let him order it. He put it on the lowest setting (1 out of 10). Our dog set it off a couple of times + from then on he learned the level of noise his bark could be before setting it off and it solved the issue. He’s bark little quiet ones which was much better. He quieted down quite a bit but when he started up we’d put it on him but kept it OFF so he thought he couldn’t bark but he wouldn’t hv gotten zinged anyway. I still felt horrible (this is in a matter of 2 weeks). So one day I made my BF feel the mild shock on his wrist and he said it was nothing. I said _put it on your neck_ I set it on 7 (out of 10) And let him hv it. The collar went into garbage soon after.
The divorce paper guy is insane. Such a red flag, especially with all the love stuff he did afterwards. He went to a lawyer, wrote that crazy note, all because she "might" cheat on him? Nah, run away girlie.
If u were in a committed relationship and you truly loved your S/o you'd understand that people get insecure, all in their own heads and start overthinking. This happens to most people and as a partner the op recognised this is more about the husband doubting his self worth(especially reading the first letter). Any decent human being who cared about their s/o would be forgiving and seek help just like op did.
For the child who was bullied by the girl whose grandmother passed, I was bullied in high school by a girl whose mother had passed and the school was pretty complacent but my mom continued to go after them. She was reprimanded but I ultimately transferred to a better high school. The girl has tried to interact with me several times over social media but this mom is not the asshole. Especially because it will teach the other girl her behavior is okay.
Only speaking to the shock collar story. What op should have told her mother, "You wear it for a day with somebody else controlling it, if you're so sure it doesn't hurt, prove it or NEVER try that shit again!"
The open relationship dude: I honestly would end it with him. He is a manipulator. It’s so obvious he’s just going to cheat on her if he hasn’t already. And the throwing of the plate is a HUGE red flag. Nah, this dude is all bad newd
Tale as old as … open relationships One partner wants to cheat but doesn’t wants to be a bad guy So they try to get the other partner to open the relationship The other partner is reluctant but accepts the open marriage The first Partner goes out on their sexual adventures The other partner struggles at first but slowly gets used to the new normal (often with many tears and headaches) When the more reluctant partner finds their first encounter the first partner wants to close the relationship again because they want to be the only one having fun outside the relationship
@@krystinaxxlea yeahhh.. sadly it didn't work out, but I'm now with a man who respects and loves me with all his heart and would never want another woman in his bed or life in my place
@@CocoaBeans567🎉🎉 that's fucking fantastic!!! That's honestly the best thing that happens after dealing with such pos partners. You deserve to be respected and loved. Truly I hope you've found your one and have an amazing life together ❤️
There’s literally two jobs that you can’t bring your service dog to work, one is the ICU of a hospital, the other is OPs job. Sounds like they need a different job for the safety of their service animal.
Agreed because if it was a true service dog its always a service dog...ptsd, diabetes, blind, seizures, panic attacks possibly more sorry if I missed any but yea
If the cops knows it’s the neighbors MO then she should be the one to leave that’s bs the landlord home owners what’s ever what ever safety thing you have should evict her
What's even worse is the homeowner is OP's father!! He had been allowing them to act like that and scaring off all his other tennents for years! He probably ran out of people to sucker into taking the other side of the duplex so that's why he moved his own kid in there. Despicable that he enabled the mentally ill woman to act like that for so many years. And before anyone says anything about it not being his responsibility, it's not. BUT he had the *power* to give her consequences for her actions, eviction. And he never did.
The mom poisoning child thing is called Münchausen by proxy. Münchausen syndrome is about sympathy for an illness and by proxy is using someone else in a similar manor for themselves
@@dubblebubble69 ??? You were the one who outright said you'd run away before hearing him and suddenly I have issues💀 one thing's for sure, I won't be like that, lol
@@ninectstay_ I was making a joke bud, about the anxiety of finding those papers. Doesn't mean I'd actually just up and leave the dude. Comprehension is half of communication. Take a joke and move forward.
Disabilities don’t go away when you’re at work and there is no legitimate “certification” for service dogs. 🐂💩🚩At most, it’s an emotional support animal.
For the service dog one, is the dog crate trained? She could crate the pup while gone at work, set up a radio or tv with dog tv/radio or some soothing music to distract from the rest of the house. Shock collars can be terrible. Other training can be utilized instead of "instant gratification" by shocking the dog. Sticky situation indeed.
I did get one for my Lab sheltie sorry if I spelt that wrong I did test it out on myself I only used the beep warning except for twice and when I did shock him it was on the lowest setting and it was because he was protecting me from cars to the point He would get out of his halter and I was worried for his safety after the 2 shocks I only had to use the beeps and not long after that I didn't need the collar at all and yes as soon as I realized he wanted that car I beeped him it meant nothing so I knew if I didn't do what I did he could have died.
For the service dog one, I find it very hard to believe a service dog if trained correctly has a barking problem. I think op got emotional support dog and service dog mixed up. You can get “papers” for emotional support dogs to make it look more professional but you have to get your service dog licensed by a professional. And it seems by what op says that the dog isn’t correctly trained. But I could be wrong.
Yea, service animals don’t bark. They are trained to be on alert . She has already stated the dog wasn’t professionally trained, so don’t know how she got it certified. But if she has a service animal, then wouldn’t the dog be with her at all times? Most service animals are trained to alert for medical reasons, such as blood sugar or seizures.
Under the ADA, people with disabilities have the right to train the dog themselves and are not required to use a professional service dog training program. There are individuals and organizations that sell service animal certification or registration documents online. These documents do not convey any rights under the ADA and the Department of Justice does not recognize them as proof that the dog is a service animal. Service animals also are not required to wear a vest or collar that identifies them as a service animal. Most handlers do choose to use them to try to make things easier but all the pretend service dogs have really made a mess of things for disabled people. I already have enough to deal with and now they've made it so I'm frequently met with a hostile environment out in stores and restaurants. Only dogs and mini horses are currently allowed to be service animals. Both are very expensive if trained by a professional. A lot of disabled people, such as myself, do not have $10,000+ laying around so they have to do the training themselves. There are some programs that provide service dogs for free, but the waitlist is long and you're not likely to get one. There are some situations out in public that a service dog is allowed to bark. If someone is harassing them, they're trying to wake an unresponsive handler and/or getting help for said handler, and if the service dog and handler are in danger. As an example, I've trained mine to try other ways to wake me if I'm not responsive, like licking, nudging with her nose, pawing at me, etc. Barking is her last resort and its not a loud continual bark. There are a lot of jerks out there who have tried to pass off their emotional support dogs as service animals and it has made the lives of the disabled with real service dogs a lot harder. I don't appreciate it! A service dog is also allowed time off from working. They can bark, run, play, dig... etc and act like a pet dog during that time. Everyone needs a break, including them! Could you imagine having to work 24/7 every day of your life?! It does sound like the OP may have confused emotional support animal with service dog. To be honest, my service dog is so well trained that during her off time, she is always under control. I do let her bark because that's how dogs communicate! They get very depressed if they can't be vocal at all.
Dude, you CANNOT just peace out on your kid without a sitter that knows! I'd call the cops too. That's not ok and people get their kids taken away for this. It's called abandonment and it's a crime.
A “self trained” service dog isn’t a service dog. It’s at most an emotional support animal, and that isn’t a protected class of animal. If your dog barks at people and other animals while on the job, it’s not a service dog. Period. Shock collars are also abuse. If you have to electrocute a dog to “help train them”, then you shouldn’t be a dog owner. Everyone in that story is an asshole.
the rarer than finding a braincell in his head steak… oh my god 😅 that was some excellent comedic relief after the infuriating stories that came before it. especially the one about the hypocrite villain husband! jesus christ, i can’t believe anyone thought it would be BETTER for the kids to grow up with this asshole for a dad teaching them through example how to love in a relationship… jesus.
My previous upstairs apartment neighbor had a baby/toddler and it would cry. They also had dogs that would run around. Husband and I could hear ALL of it, but we never reported him for noise because BABIES CRY. We only reported him for noise because we could hear the adult man in the apartment screaming and swearing even during quiet hours
Okay I get needing some time to yourself ESPECIALLY after having a baby! It's alot! But you can't just be like "hey watch my kid for a few hrs" and then decide you are gonna be gone for a week??? What exactly did she think was going to happen?!! It's not OPs fault that she got caught with weed. OP 100% not the AHole on my book!
My uncle had cancer and he never once asked his wife to do anything because he was dying. He was always fighting for his life even when the hospital told him to give up, because he loved his wife and wanted to give his kids everything and all his time before he went. This wife does not love her husband if she’d rather spend time with someone else. Come for me if you want but that shit is no excuse.
RE: Steak story I went through a period as a child where I hated rare meat, and most of the steaks my Dad grilled were rare in the middle. The rule in our house is you had to at least mostly clear your plate before being excused from the table. My folks had a free-standing small bar that was right behind my seat at the dining room table, but it was about an inch and a half from the wall. So when they were not looking, I would toss the bits I didn't want there. They found the petrified remains when they moved about 20 yrs later. and it is now a big family joke. (btw, my dad later learned how to cook medium to medium rare, even though he still prefers his as "run the steer past the grill and then serve it"}
About the open marriage - he slept with so many people not giving her the opportunity, it's not ok, but let me introduce you to a Polish phrase that perfectly desribes the guy. He's a "garner's dog" (pies ogrodnika) - he won't make use of something but won't let others use it too. We use the phrase especially about relationships - when someone doesn't want you but then gets mad others do and don't want to let you be with them. That type ghosts you, sees you went on a date and suddenly messages you trying to reel you in.
re: the open relationship, the dude is absolutely a huge AH. I've been with my partner for 9 years, I was 17 when we got together. By that time in my life, I'd already figured out that I am polyamorous, and that's just how I experience the world and love. My partner on the other hand is monogamous. He had been cheated on in the past and had some tenderness around the idea of me being polyamorous, and I told him I was ok with being monogamous for a while, but that it'd definitely come up later. Well, two and a half years ago was that later - it took about six months of relationship counseling and intense work on both our parts to get to a place where we could try, and we are now in a better place than ever. I had a relationship that unfortunately didn't go great and I no longer am in, but through that I learned things like my partner saturation limit is 2 and I felt wholly fulfilled like that. We talked openly about everything, even the hardest things, and held each other when these conversations were difficult. We are stronger as a couple than ever before. He has tried being on dating apps, but he's thoroughly monogamous and just isn't interested in anyone else (though I've always been clear that it would be ok with me if he did find someone he wanted to explore that with). THESE types of communication are how people make polyamorous situations work, not springing it on someone in the middle of a relationship because you want to get your rocks off, and then trying to control them when the other person has desires as well. Absolutely horrible of him to ruin his partner's other relationship from his jealousy. I understand she wants to put her kids first, but he is no good example for them.... showing them that double standards are okay, that partners are your possessions... just gross.
so i agree that the husband that wanted to open the relationship is not to be trusted. i will say though I did bring up trying a poly relationship with my then boyfriend now fiancé (male) I brought up the both of us bring in another girl, he didn't like the idea but said he didn't want to stop me from trying. i told him that i love him and don't want to risk what we had for some random jane doe. Then not to long ago he brought it up again and asked how would be go about it. in short i feel like that if its communicated correctly and respectfully opening or trying a poly relationship can be fun, its not for everyone and cant get ugly if communication is not upfront.
For the childcare one, if that happened at a school, they would have called the police. That's technically abandonment. I've seen that happen before. It was exceptionally selfish AF for the mother to dump the baby off at their home saying it was for "the day" and without warning or checking in, leaves the baby. Only when the OP asks the mother is when she says it's for a few days. The entitlement is huge. If that happened ANYWHERE else, the police would have been called. OP did the right thing. Mom shouldn't have been using pot and dropping off her baby at a whims notice.
When we were at a steak house last year for our birthday, my mom went to cut her steak and it flew off her plate onto the floor. It was the funniest thing. She told the waitress and she took it and put it in a new order. We know the owner. So to make things funnier and embarrass her more, he came over and said "so I heard we had flying steaks"
I had a crazy neighbor like that. I moved into a apartment when my daughter was about 7 months old. They called the police on me that my daughter was stomping on the floor. She was 10 months old and learning to walk. Every single time she woke up at night and cried they called to do a welfare check and complain. Like it's literally a baby. The day I moved in she literally got mad and said omg you have a baby. She called the cops saying my sliding door was to loud almost daily. She was awful. I ended up braking the lease after a few months. I seen her in Walmart and she said oh why did you move. You! You are why I moved.
Should tell her she can’t be so picky when she’s living in an apartment! When my kids were younger, we lived in an apartment (lower level). One day, a single lady (think 50’s) moved in upstairs. After a while, I started getting calls from the office, saying the lady upstairs was complaining about my kids jumping off the bunk beds and making too much noise. She would sit in her car and watch my kids, through the window, playing in their room…during daylight hours. Now, what really pissed me off was that she ordered a treadmill (husband helped delivery guy carry the heavy ass thing up the stairs) and we had to listen to her fat ass pounding away on the damn thing. We were the “bigger person” people and just dealt with it…cause we lived in an apartment! Eventually we had to move out cause they raised the rent when the lease ran out…probably as an excuse to get rid of the nuisance kids who played while it was light outside! Should have let that treadmill sit at the bottom of the stairs and watched to see how she was gonna get it up to her apartment!!!
Yeah… you don’t ask someone to watch your kid, leave them with less than a day’s worth of supplies, then be like “I’m not coming back for four days” when their SO calls asking where the hell you are. Since the bro went to work that night and he’s the one that watched the kid, I assume the agreement was to watch the kid for the day and sister did a bait n switch, so it’s a faafo moment for her. You try to trick the panicky SO into taking care of your kid, you get the police… sucks to be you.
Here is how you handle the steak situation: "Terribly sorry ma'am but I sadly can't eat rare steak because it upsets my stomach badly and I always forget that until I am faced with one. I really hate to bother you but would you mind letting me use the kitchen to cook it more?" The two most likely outcomes are A) the boss just lets him do that and OP can cook the steak to his preference or B) the boss offers to cook it more at which point she would likely notice that the steak is undercooked. The excuse is plausible enough and the boss might even appreciate not being called out for serving raw steak to her guest. By claiming it keeps slipping his mind OP also has an excuse why he didn't bring it up earlier as well. The single risk to his claim would be his wife asking about it but that seems unlikely. She seems far smarter than OP and would probably figure out that the steak isn't fully cooked. Alternatively while the boss is in the kitchen OP should quietly tell his wife about the problem and ask her what to do. I highly doubt her advice would be too different from mine.
My roommate left the state for 2 weeks, but left her 2 kids at the house. One was 9 and one was 4. Didn't tell anyone. I got home to a note asking me to pick them up from school, because she wouldn't be home on time. Okay, but by the next morning, she still wasn't home. She said she went to visit a guy in another state and didn't know when she would be back. When she got home 2 weeks later, I moved out. When she said she needed notice, I said so did I, before she left her kids, no money, empty fridge, and not even asking. We haven't spoke since. Her family said she was lucky that I didn't call the police.
There is no such thing as a "certified" service dog, at least not in the USA. Both of these dogs sound reactive, and no one sounds like they know how to train a dog at all and certainly not to the level of a service dog. It is illegal to pass off a dog as a service dog when they are not acting in that capacity, and service dogs can be refused from public spaces if they are disruptive. This dog seems as though it would be. These folks need to take both dogs to obedience training and then decide whether OP's dog is a candidate for service dog training.
Thank you! I got bit by a dog on an airplane that was an "internet-certified" service dog. I still can't get over the lady with the service Peacock and the service mini-horse trying to get on a plane. This guy should not put his mom in the position of being a bad person. He needs to take responsibility for his own dog.
I am a professional certified dog trainer and 1. They are not shock collars, they are ecollars similar to a tens unit for physical therapy that use electrodes to stimulate muscles. (The good ones mini educator or dogtra) if it's not one of those don't get it. 2. You MUST have proper training to use. It is very easy to do wrong without training. 3. If you get the proper equiptment and training, ecollars are fabulous tools! They are like invisible leashes, and meant to be used the same way as leash pressure but for offleash training. 4. You should not use until your dog allready has good obedience foundations on leash. 5. They are NOT a magic remote for your dog. They are not meant to be used just for punishment.
Steak dude was 100% panicking, probably thought it's be rude to ask them to fry the steak a bit longer and just made some questionable decisions from there. Personally if he did that to me I'd probably need a minute to catch my breath from laughing.
No way, the lady who left her baby for days without making sure, that its fine is totally in the wrong. She say that it was just for a day, and she didn't prepared her baby for more. She was notified that her brother is not there to take care of baby, so she should just be back right away. It doesn't matter that she wanted a break, when you are a parent you need to plan thise things well. If she would do that, for sure she would find a date that fit her brother schedule and everything would be fine. The OP just didn't want to hurt the baby, there was really not much more, that she could do... I don't know, maybe trying to call the mother again or text her that she doesn't know hwo to take care of baby or warn her that if she wont come back, that she will have to call police? Maybe then she would be back?
The one where the sister just dropped Alex off is considered child abandoment. First off, she didn't state that she'd be gone for four days upfront she said she would be back that night. She also didn't suffienctly pack for Alex to be with them for days, forcing OP and her partner to spend money on the child in terms of diapers/food. I work in childcare, and if the parent does not come back, you call the police. Also, Op was not comfortable taking care of Alex alone. Child Abandoment in some states IS considered a felony.
If someone was going to shock my dog and say 'it doesn't even hurt' I'd 100% make them prove that by wearing the shock collar and giving me the controls so I could shock them when they weren't expecting it and they could let me know how it feels for them. There are literally hundreds of ways to train dogs, why the awful shock/abuse collar?
1:09:04 in my family, I was always told if something is undercooked. Please bring it up because the person isn’t gonna be offended by you bringing it up their definitely gonna feel bad they you know didn’t check it in my family once we bring it up there’s two things that’s gonna happen. The person is otherwise gonna go “Oh I’ll take it back and just you know cook it for a little longer” or your response can be “is it alright if I go in the kitchen and just cook it for a little longer because it’s really undercooked” but like in my family it’s very good to give your opinions on food because my grandfather likes his roast potatoes slightly undercooked my grandfather doesn’t mind them being cooks, how they should be, which is like softer in the middle he just prefers them to be a little more solid in the centre, but after telling my Nan that I preferred my roast potato soft, she’s more than happy to cook them that way whenever we decide to have roast for lunch no scratch that when she decides, we’re gonna have roast for lunch. Because it’s not that hard to tell someone hey, it’s really undercooked because they’re not gonna take offence to that.
Mom leaves baby: I had something similar happen. I had a neighbor that was on the low intelligence scale who had a teenage daughter, also dumber than dirt, who lived Mom and had a baby and was living with her. She, teen Mom, came over really early on a Saturday and woke me up, asking if I could watch her 2 month old for a few hours as she had to go to court. I was kind of groggy, had my own 18 month old and a 6 month old, but for some dumb reason I agreed. A few hours later I realized, as it was Saturday, there was no court. I took baby over to the grandma who was a drunk, to question her about her daughter's whereabouts and she was clueless. I actually kept the baby for 9 days before turning him over to Social Services. Grandma had been calling me daily to try and convince me to not turn in her grandson to Social Services and daughter would be coming home soon. I felt so darn sorry for the baby as did my husband.
Baby bombed op was not an AH. She acknowledged having neither the materials or experience to take care of a baby for multiple days, the person who knew how to take care of this baby was not picking up their phone and the person that usually babysits was gone, she KNEW he was gone. She tried to strongarm an unprepared person into taking care of the baby. Putting your niece/nephew to sleep and playing with him/her are incredibly different from doing all of the child care over multiple days and nights. Op not only did the right thing, she did the only responsible thing she could in a situation she was not prepared for/ able to deal with
Divorce paper story: dude, my ex refused to do his part, used malicious incompetence to get out of parenting our kid by any stretch possible and was out of a job.
My divorce story: we were high school sweethearts got married at 18 because that’s what you did where I came from….he cheated early in our relationship (after we moved in together, I was still in high school when we moved in together but the cheating was just out of high school) a few times and never gave me a chance to move on or even heal from it. Like made us sleep in the same bed the same night I found out. I tried to break off the engagement to at least take a break and figure myself out. He was the only person I’ve ever been with and knew that it wasn’t good. He told me my family would hate me bc they spend the money on the wedding and they already RSVPed so I believed him. I was 18 and dumb. Well a few years go by and I’m unhappy and start cheating so did he. He caught me with messages for the umpteenth time and asked “what do you have to say for yourself?” I said “I want a divorce “. Ruined credit and no idea who I am or how to live on my own is what I got out of that one.
The thing is, open relationships is a thing you discuss before getting into a relationship. Not after your relationship has already been established as monogamous
I’m a fan of blue rare steak. If it goes moo when i put my fork in it i’m cool. Any man that would rather throw it out the window before asking for it to be cooked more is not a match for me.
Ok, so my biggest disaster at a dinner party: I was talking with this girl, a friend of a friend, who came from a very conservative family, she was so cloistered that she literally told me I was her first boy friend (not boyfriend we were not at that point though I thought we were both interested, later turned out not), and she not only got to go to a party thanks to my advice but also managed to go to my birthday party and got me to go to her house, apparently these were huge milestones for her since her parents were super strict. So at one point I get invited to a party from one of her siblings, and they all went out to eat sushi, this was not my first time with sushi but I still hadn't learn to use the chopsticks. However I wanted to impress not only the girl I was courting but also the parents, so OF COURSE I wasn't going to ask for a fork for my sushi. I just grabbed the chopsticks as best I could, tried to hold on to my Tamaki roll and lo and behold my roll flipped out of my hold, flew halfway across the table and landed on the soy sauce plate of this girl's father... thankfully he didn't say anything about me there but I imagine that it didn't leave a good impression on them at that point XD
As the mother of a bullied child...NOPE... mom is NTA. There are a lot of reasons why children will act out and bully others, but that is just a chance for them to learn better behavior. Parents that expect schools and their staff to blindly accept poor behavior would be doing a disservice to all of the other children. Thankfully, we always had supportive school staff that helped our daughter and we had positive experiences overall.
LOL the steak story reminded me of the time my school friend Suzie and I stayed at an old couples house for one night. We were served tea in bed in the morning with a delicious cookie. The tea however was made in a coffee pot and tasted awful, so I tried to bribe Suzie with my cookie to drink my tea but she wouldn't The plant in the room was plastic, so I couldn't empty the tea in the flowerpot and when I poked my head out of the bedroom door to see if I could transport it to the toilet, granny was standing in the corridor... Then at the breakfast table we were served cooked breakfast: eggs, sausages and bacon, beans and bread. Once granny went to the kitchen I asked Suzie if she would please eat the sausages that were on my plate as I did not like them. She agreed and I quickly moved them to her plate. I therefore finished eating my breakfast first and got complimented for eating so well and was asked if I wanted more, which I declined. Granny then felt bad for Suzie, having given me a compliment, so she said to Suzie: You are eating well as well my dear, you are just a bit slower. I had to do my best not to burst out laughing, knowing that she had to eat part of my portion as well.
Open Marriage story: I have no doubt that the husband wanted to close the marriage because he wants a doormat waiting for him at home. Then after he ruins his wife's fling, he wants to open the marriage again. Dude is such a pos with a fragile ego. Also, i could've sworn I heard an update on this at some point.
My now ex husband final action that gave me the wake up call said that my 11 yr old at the time, was his slave, that I was to be his slave and I was to serve him. But I had kicked him out 2 months prior when I found out about his secret debt. 3 yrs free. We lived a nightmare of gaslighting narcissist abuse. He used the excuse of insecurity whenever I started to talk about things that didn’t make sense. He gaslit my entire church to the point that we no longer go to that church. Because I filed for divorce. He changed the day we got married, and I felt like a widow. The man I loved died the day we got married and a monster manipulator took over.
Not an open marriage but relationship. Started it that way. Our rules were always using protection and honesty. No details or needing to tell before but just immediately informing the first chance we got and with who. The relationship eventually went to open but only with hand and oral (no sex) and then it went to exclusive but still open in the sense of no guilt if something ever did happen and now we just have eachother and that's enough for us. So I guess we're exclusive 😂😂 we just grew to realize how much we wanted eachother and that all we really needed or wanted was eachother. Sure we've had our problems but at the end of the day other people don't seem to interest us more then eachother and it was an interesting way to go about dating. I had never really tried or done something like this but it genuinely went well for us as we always promised to be open and honest with eachother if nothing else.
If I were the husband I would completely understand and let my wife have the meal. Sure it might have a lil sting in the heart but at the same time….I would give days of my life just to see my dying partner happy and live longer…I guess overall im saying I would do anything for the one I love when they dying.
I'm sorry, but why do you guys think OP from the baby story is the AH in any degree?? The mom was ready to leave a baby in her care FOR DAYS without any food, any diapers, any warnings, nothing. She said clearly she couldn't communicate with her BF and honestly, it sounds like he's been an enabler of his sister's horrible behavior so I 100% get why she called the police. She was not an AH. The mom was the AH in this situation, no doubt in my mind.
Probably because it was an immediate escalation. I don't think it makes her an AH, it's also something I wouldn't do - at all lol. I'd call their parents or another family member to come get the baby before I called the cops.
@@diamcole Well even then in the story OP said there was no family in the state so it'd be hours or days until the family would be there.
@@ForTheHopefulSorrowExactly why I don’t think OP was an ahole but I can understand why different people react to police involvement differently.
Because it was an over reaction too immediate. I think she should've waited for her boyfriend to return. She obviously has the internet she could've easily learned how to make a bottle and feed a hungry baby. Thay baby could've ended up in the system. A system that is incredibly broken where children are often abused and neglected. I think she was an AH to the baby not necessarily the baby's mother. After reading the book legally kidnapped a book written by a cps whistle blower things would've have to be very extreme for me to risk a child entering the foster care system
Yesss thank you omg the mother should have to take parenting classes and have random CPS pop ups for the babies welfare. I’m a single mother of 2 boys both with extreme ADHD and one has Bipolar disorder, let me tell you it’s not easy, BUT never have I ever just left my kids anywhere with anyone without asking if they where willing to keep them for a day or two and without making sure they could get in contact with at ANY time my children are in their care.
That was child abandonment and neglect, PERIOD.
NO, OP (in the baby Alex story) is NOT the AH! THE MOTHER didn't ask, ditched the baby, and hung up and TURNED OFF her phone! OP didn't know how to take care of a baby. Period. NTA.
I literally had someone never come pick up their boyfriend's children from my house. She never answered the calls or any way of my reaching out to her. The dad was up in the hills on a tactical training seminar and their CO refused to pass on the message. I kept the children (3 and 5) for the week. They never noticed a change since they were at the house all the time. They wore my children's clothes. Also nothing new. Guess who showed up at my door an hour before said boyfriend returned? Yup. I refused to give the children to her. The boyfriend showed up super angry because apparently I wouldn't hand the children over to her. Long story short - he believed girlfriend over me. Girlfriend wanted the woman she hated most to come back from her first vacation ever to watch the children despite the fact that it was the boyfriend's turn to watch the children. I didn't tell mom about it.
@@readeruniteliterally don’t understand what happened or what your trying to say but OP NTA
it's a neglecting the baby move
ok, but how can you be so helpless incompetent and worthless as a GROWN ADULT WOMAN that you can't take care of a baby for a little while without panicking and claiming you don't know what to do.
That's ridiculous
@@angelfierro2951 My story literally agrees with you.
The cops should all be fired for refusing welfare checks....
And to say her baby was the problem? Really?
Dude with the hidden divorce papers is dealing with extreme insecurity and needs therapy
I was thinking the same thing. As a Bipolar person I feel like this could be an extreme case of a low. His insecurity in the note and the switches in mood in it really made me feel like his mind was pretty scattered. I hope he gets help from a professional and gets better.
They both sound insufferable and I'm glad they have each other. But OMFG everything in that story was a red flag and cringe.
You can’t go away for a few days and not have that planned out with someone to watch your baby. I would have called the boyfriends parents before calling the cops. But she wasn’t completely wrong in doing that. Doesn’t sound like the mom packed enough stuff for the baby for several days either. That’s neglect.
They didn't have family living anywhere near them, from what I can recall, and the boyfriend was unreachable. Something about his workplace not having service so she couldn't call him. I can understand her logic, she did not know how to care for the baby and didn't have anything at hand to do so. I can't imagine not knowing how to soothe a baby, while driving around with baby in the car (I'm sure she didn't have a baby seat in her car) looking to buy the things baby needed. Ugh...
@@iulia.bianca.b yeah I understand to a degree but his family while may not be close in proximity they could help her over the phone and been able to make arrangements to get the baby. OP did the best she could think of.
@@tracyison2289 That's not her responsibility to do so though. And if she's in the middle of a massive panic, no one to get a hold of (If she even had the inlaws numbers) the literal mother turned her phone off just to go and get high with friends for days. I don't think you can expect OP to think straight at the time.
@@retaiid I know and I never said she was wrong. I simply mentioned other options that I would have tried. The mom was completely wrong and hopefully learned a lesson. OP isn’t the asshole at all. She did the best she could think of and I said that. There’s no shade at her.
@iulia.bianca.b it said the baby didn't have much not anything. She should've called her in-laws even if they weren't close by. They could've offered her advice on what to do and how to handle the baby until they or the boyfriend returned home. After reading legally kidnapped a book written by a cps whistle blower things would gave to be incredibly extreme for me to risk a child entering the broken foster care system where children are often abused and neglected. I.mean she has the internet and she could've easily learned how to feed and another a baby for a couple hours she acted rashly and risked the baby loosing it's family
Im a mother to a 3yo. Theres no way in hell id leave my kid with someone for 4 days without communicating it to them and insuring that the baby has enough diapers and food to last more then 4 days just to be safe. That moms an asshole im Sorry. If she needed a break she should have communicated and planned it out with her brother. She was capable of planning a 4day vacation with her friends but not her brother who she expected to watch her child? No. Sorrry. She fucked up. Not saying she doesnt deserve a break but communicating that and making aure your child is safe is apart of the process
Exactly that’s child abandonment period
And to not have the baby with 5 days worth of supplies and to make sure the mother can be reached if there was an emergency also that woman needs parenting classes and random pop up CPS visits because she is clearly unfit
@@PuertoRicanCreoleQueen I definitely agree!
for the little girl who was a bully- i lost my mom at 10 and I was injured badly in the wreck that killed her. i was bullied horribly by my ENTIRE CLASS from 5TH-7TH grade. losing a family member does not give you a reason to act like this. period.
I am so sorry children are monsters! You deserved love, sympathy, empathy, kindness. I wish I was there I would have smashed every single one of them.
1:03:00 The open marriage story is horrible. I feel so bad for OP. Her husband asked for an open marriage, got to do w/e n basically whoever he wanted, but as soon as OP found someone he did everything in his power to stop it and completely ruin it. Their relationship is not a two way street, and although she’s completely aware, she refuses to truly see that.. her husband is definitely the AH.
Absolutely for me he started showing his true colours when he repeatedly used excuses so she couldn't meet J.
I guess I can understand asking for an open marriage but then not to play by the rules and then going and ruining your partner's relationship and afterward renewing your wish for an open marriage...? What a scumbag! Awful. She should absolutely divorce him. She seems to say she'll stay because her kids are her priority but if he is that entitled and disrespectful of her, what kind of example is he setting for her kids really?
Is there an Update to the Story?
@@motherofcats23x36I just copy and pasted the final update but here ya go
The lady with the cancer, i say let her do what she wants. Shes not going to have an affair she just wants to reconnect with someone who brought her happiness at one point in her life and she wants to remember that before she dies. Shes done a lot for her family and her husband, i say give her this. Also props to her for telling her husband not to askher parents if its ok if he remarries. She truly does care for him and want him to have love in his life after her. Thats beautiful and selfless
she died five weeks after her post:( but I assume they had a talk because her husband posted an update. he says he kinda knew what happened between them cause they lived in a small town so everyone knows each other's business. "A" went to visit her once in her home (she had mobility issues as a result of her cancer and paliative care) so yeah, I would assume they talked.
@ninectstay_ oh that makes me so happy to hear she got to rekindle that friendship. I hope she went peacefully. Thank you for sharing that update.
The woman who called the cops on her boyfriend's baby mama is 100% not the asshole. Or whatever the Hell that mom is to the boyfriend. She's a crappy, neglectful mom anyways.
The mom lied, ditched her child there without enough to take care of said child, there's no way that she didn't know the uncle wasn't gonna be there, she knows the woman has no idea how ro take care of the child, she didn't plan it out and do that nonsense correctly. Hell no, that's neglect, plain and simple. You wouldn't just drop your kid off with anyone, much less someone that makes it very known that she has no idea what she's doing.
And before anyone says I "just don't understand"/"She just wanted a break", I have a 5-year-old that I have not "taken a break" from in the almost 6 years since she came out my flesh oven. No trips, outings or vacations without my child. If I even thought of doing this crap, I'd expect the cops being called on me. Seriously.
She shouldn't have been a shit mom.
Plus, it even says that the family on both sides are all out of state, she wasn't allowed to call her boyfriend, the terrible mom turned her phone off and she called friends for help and got none. She made the right move. She did the right thing.
ALL OF WHAT YOU SAID!!!! 💯💯‼️‼️‼️
What you said was all true but it’s the OP boyfriend’s sister not baby mama so that is why it was an issue.
@@songer1018 No matter who the mom is to the boyfriend doesn't matter. Neglect is neglect and all other family members are out of state.
If I had a boyfriend and their sister dropped their kid off with the false pretense of it being a few hours, waited til the last minute to say it would be 4 days, didn't even leave enough to care for them that long, then turned their phone off and disappeared....I'd be calling CPS and the cops.
And I would never be able to look at their family members the same if they got mad at me for putting the baby's safety and well being first. Any kind of relationship where that behavior is acceptable isn't worth keeping.
@@Ms.Whiplash Exactly. These are the types of stories where the mother is in serious danger and the attacker is buying time with an excuse. If you make communication with your baby's caretaker impossible, you should KNOW to expect police on your doorstep.
Which is for YOUR safety since these mothers go missing with no leads. And if she provided no supplies just so her "few hours" lie was believeable, then she deserves everything she got twice over.
In regards to the service dog getting a shock collar is a big NO. It could potentially cause the dog to not be able to be a service dog anymore. A traumatized or reactive dog could miss cues and alerts for the person who needs it. A lot of people with service dogs still let their dogs be dogs and play and stuff. Theres nothing wrong with a bit of barking and if the mom finds it so bothersome then she needs to do it to her own yappy dog. I think its more she doesn't like her daughter's dog or maybe has more to do with her disabled daughter, just a gut feeling.
A very immature me in my 20s was with a man who asked for an open relationship after we were engaged. I said okay because I had a feeling he'd already been 'open' and was just biding my time to move on anyway. After I said I had met someone to be open with he flipped the script and came to my job to break up with me because he said I wasn't happy...? We had a two bedroom town house and a lease so I moved into my own room and started seeing the guy I wanted to be open with. The ex would lay in his room wailing 'i love her, 'she's mine,' and all other sorts of patheticism when I had a friend over. Moved out while he was at work one day and he continued to call me... Dudes, you cannot handle the ego blow of an open relationship so stop suggesting it.
they like the ego boost of having multiple sides though
You don't just get to drop your kid off for days without letting their caretaker know what's up. That mom is fully and completely the AH. However, if I were OP, I would have called the BFs parents. Like "hey, can you get your grand spawn? No idea what I'm doing here."
Steak guy is literally a sitcom husband. Once the strike is over, wife can probably quit her job and just write stories about her ridiculous husband and have several seasons of a sitcom ready to go.
Story 2: NTA. OP is not an asshole for not knowing how to take care of a baby. A lot of people don't. OP seemed to be expressive about this so the SIL should know that. OP did everything right in the situation and while some might think that calling the cops is a step too far, it actually shows that she really cares about the child. Besides, if you put yourself in f'd up situations, prepare to deal with the consequences. SIL is the AH.
The girlfriend who sabotaged OPs jobs is a level of psycho that makes me lose my faith in humanity. I'll never understand why people spend that amount of energy on ruining another person's life. Especially their partner's. Just.. why?
Not understanding is a good thing because we can’t fathom doing anything close to that type of insanity.
I just want to know why she did it and what she thought would happen had she gotten away with it.
Just a guess... But was witness to a similar situation.... In that situation the girl was the type where the bf going to work... Ie not being at her beck and call 24/7 ... Was cheating in her mind..... Basically doing anything that didn't revolve around her ... And she didn't understand why her bf couldn't have $ without a job
My hubby just lost a coworker to a different but similar situation where the gf would call him at work allll the time.... Call his bosses phones.... Turn off his alarm so he'd miss work etc
For the story about the racist woman at the Korean BBQ, it's not the job of people of color to teach others how not to be bigoted racists. If she couldnt find it in her heart not to be a racist ass-hat, that's her failing as a human being.
The guy paid for the meal and then ditched her and was fully in the right to have done so. She was owed no "teachable moment," as I'm sure any lesson taught would have gone in one ear and out the other.
I agree. However by him not saying anything, she would’ve most likely thought it was something else (like she wasn’t pretty enough or something). Ppl like her need to be called out as much as humanly possible so they can (hopefully) eventually see their awful hateful ways one day, after so freakin many ppl are all saying the exact same thing.
Look, a 5 year age gap typically isn't bad, but when it's between a 22 and a 27 year old, it makes what happened more clear. She wanted control over him and she got it. Thank god OP figured it all out and left her. What a chaotic situation.
22 and 27 is incredibly normal. There is nothing wrong with that age gap.
If I found divorce papers in my husbands stuff, I'd sign then and leave them out in the open where I'd know he'd see it quickly. What were not gonna do is beg someone to stay
Honestly, for the first story, I would've just started responding. You're looking through the hole you made? Pepper spray. You at my son's window? Pepper spray, I'll try to miss the cat since he/she didn't choose their owner. You wanna use a megaphone to yell at me? I'll megaphone my babies crying and my dogs barking. Get a whole karaoke system and attach mics to the dogs. I can be louder.
Panicking is a huge factor and if your brain tells you „My Parents/ BF Parents are not near means they are no help“ you probably won’t think about calling them till your cooled down (cooling down while a baby is crying is not easy especially if you don’t know anything about baby’s)
Re the window steak. I would have said I saw a spider and I am super aracniphobic and paniced
I guess my initial reaction to an undercooked steak would actually be like "sorry I really like well done steak, could we cook this a bit more"
11 hours later, I’m glad to see you guys posted tonight. My date bailed on me, after I just got back from work. you two making me laugh makes up for the night :)
❤you guys ✌🏽
She did you a favour and you dodged a bullet bro. No one needs a flakey fool in their life
*Dog Shock Collar:* My BF wanted a shock collar for our little 10 lb shih tzu. I did not. It’s cruel etc but he did bark at even blowing wind so I let him order it.
He put it on the lowest setting (1 out of 10). Our dog set it off a couple of times + from then on he learned the level of noise his bark could be before setting it off and it solved the issue. He’s bark little quiet ones which was much better.
He quieted down quite a bit but when he started up we’d put it on him but kept it OFF so he thought he couldn’t bark but he wouldn’t hv gotten zinged anyway.
I still felt horrible (this is in a matter of 2 weeks). So one day I made my BF feel the mild shock on his wrist and he said it was nothing. I said _put it on your neck_ I set it on 7 (out of 10) And let him hv it. The collar went into garbage soon after.
The divorce paper guy is insane. Such a red flag, especially with all the love stuff he did afterwards. He went to a lawyer, wrote that crazy note, all because she "might" cheat on him? Nah, run away girlie.
Yeah i was thinking the same thing lol
Yeah, he's gonna be wearing her as a skin suit if she doesn't get out of there.
What gets me is his request of her to be completely open and honest as of he DIDNT HIDE DIVORCE PAPERS AND NOT COMMUNICATE W HER ABOUT HIS ANXIETY
If u were in a committed relationship and you truly loved your S/o you'd understand that people get insecure, all in their own heads and start overthinking. This happens to most people and as a partner the op recognised this is more about the husband doubting his self worth(especially reading the first letter). Any decent human being who cared about their s/o would be forgiving and seek help just like op did.
@@c.w.61are you unable to see he was a hypocrite at all?
For the child who was bullied by the girl whose grandmother passed, I was bullied in high school by a girl whose mother had passed and the school was pretty complacent but my mom continued to go after them. She was reprimanded but I ultimately transferred to a better high school. The girl has tried to interact with me several times over social media but this mom is not the asshole. Especially because it will teach the other girl her behavior is okay.
Only speaking to the shock collar story. What op should have told her mother, "You wear it for a day with somebody else controlling it, if you're so sure it doesn't hurt, prove it or NEVER try that shit again!"
The open relationship dude: I honestly would end it with him. He is a manipulator. It’s so obvious he’s just going to cheat on her if he hasn’t already. And the throwing of the plate is a HUGE red flag. Nah, this dude is all bad newd
to the open marriage post... I've been through nearly the exact same situation and had the exact same outcome.. it was a bit more messy though
Omg I'm so sorry. Some people just don't know how to act respectful when in a committed relationship.
Tale as old as … open relationships
One partner wants to cheat but doesn’t wants to be a bad guy
So they try to get the other partner to open the relationship
The other partner is reluctant but accepts the open marriage
The first Partner goes out on their sexual adventures
The other partner struggles at first but slowly gets used to the new normal (often with many tears and headaches)
When the more reluctant partner finds their first encounter
the first partner wants to close the relationship again because they want to be the only one having fun outside the relationship
@@krystinaxxlea yeahhh.. sadly it didn't work out, but I'm now with a man who respects and loves me with all his heart and would never want another woman in his bed or life in my place
@@LittleMaiteading ding ding you're exactly correct
@@CocoaBeans567🎉🎉 that's fucking fantastic!!! That's honestly the best thing that happens after dealing with such pos partners. You deserve to be respected and loved. Truly I hope you've found your one and have an amazing life together ❤️
There’s literally two jobs that you can’t bring your service dog to work, one is the ICU of a hospital, the other is OPs job. Sounds like they need a different job for the safety of their service animal.
Agreed because if it was a true service dog its always a service dog...ptsd, diabetes, blind, seizures, panic attacks possibly more sorry if I missed any but yea
If the cops knows it’s the neighbors MO then she should be the one to leave that’s bs the landlord home owners what’s ever what ever safety thing you have should evict her
What's even worse is the homeowner is OP's father!! He had been allowing them to act like that and scaring off all his other tennents for years! He probably ran out of people to sucker into taking the other side of the duplex so that's why he moved his own kid in there. Despicable that he enabled the mentally ill woman to act like that for so many years. And before anyone says anything about it not being his responsibility, it's not. BUT he had the *power* to give her consequences for her actions, eviction. And he never did.
The mom poisoning child thing is called Münchausen by proxy. Münchausen syndrome is about sympathy for an illness and by proxy is using someone else in a similar manor for themselves
if I found divorce papers I'd probably try to leave him first out of panic lol
I think you need to learn communication, lol. It saves many relationships from misunderstandings, HAHAH
@@ninectstay_ I think everyone needs to learn communication skills, including you :)
@@dubblebubble69 ??? You were the one who outright said you'd run away before hearing him and suddenly I have issues💀 one thing's for sure, I won't be like that, lol
@@ninectstay_ I was making a joke bud, about the anxiety of finding those papers. Doesn't mean I'd actually just up and leave the dude. Comprehension is half of communication. Take a joke and move forward.
I feel like Divorce Papers lady made this all up as a way to write erotica/fan fiction about her own life.
See, I think that story was written by an AI.
It is absolutely out there for sure! I agree that it was probably written by AI 😂
1st story, escalation to security cam The Shining w/cats would be my official 'run the fuck away' moment.
The steak story was so well written I laughed so hard I nearly peed!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 omg thank you. Y’all have no idea how much I needed that laugh.
Disabilities don’t go away when you’re at work and there is no legitimate “certification” for service dogs. 🐂💩🚩At most, it’s an emotional support animal.
Yeah the OP sounds like trash with a yappy rat dog they want to take places
11:06 we got another dalia dipolito lmao
The squeaker is driving my puppy insane 😂😂
The steak story had my almost peeing on myself. Better communication is needed. Just tell her yours is a little too raw or “I like it medium rare”
For the service dog one, is the dog crate trained? She could crate the pup while gone at work, set up a radio or tv with dog tv/radio or some soothing music to distract from the rest of the house. Shock collars can be terrible. Other training can be utilized instead of "instant gratification" by shocking the dog. Sticky situation indeed.
I did get one for my Lab sheltie sorry if I spelt that wrong I did test it out on myself I only used the beep warning except for twice and when I did shock him it was on the lowest setting and it was because he was protecting me from cars to the point He would get out of his halter and I was worried for his safety after the 2 shocks I only had to use the beeps and not long after that I didn't need the collar at all and yes as soon as I realized he wanted that car I beeped him it meant nothing so I knew if I didn't do what I did he could have died.
For the service dog one, I find it very hard to believe a service dog if trained correctly has a barking problem. I think op got emotional support dog and service dog mixed up. You can get “papers” for emotional support dogs to make it look more professional but you have to get your service dog licensed by a professional. And it seems by what op says that the dog isn’t correctly trained. But I could be wrong.
That dog doesn't sound trained in any sense of the word
Yea, service animals don’t bark. They are trained to be on alert . She has already stated the dog wasn’t professionally trained, so don’t know how she got it certified. But if she has a service animal, then wouldn’t the dog be with her at all times? Most service animals are trained to alert for medical reasons, such as blood sugar or seizures.
Under the ADA, people with disabilities have the right to train the dog themselves and are not required to use a professional service dog training program.
There are individuals and organizations that sell service animal certification or registration documents online. These documents do not convey any rights under the ADA and the Department of Justice does not recognize them as proof that the dog is a service animal.
Service animals also are not required to wear a vest or collar that identifies them as a service animal. Most handlers do choose to use them to try to make things easier but all the pretend service dogs have really made a mess of things for disabled people. I already have enough to deal with and now they've made it so I'm frequently met with a hostile environment out in stores and restaurants.
Only dogs and mini horses are currently allowed to be service animals. Both are very expensive if trained by a professional. A lot of disabled people, such as myself, do not have $10,000+ laying around so they have to do the training themselves. There are some programs that provide service dogs for free, but the waitlist is long and you're not likely to get one.
There are some situations out in public that a service dog is allowed to bark. If someone is harassing them, they're trying to wake an unresponsive handler and/or getting help for said handler, and if the service dog and handler are in danger. As an example, I've trained mine to try other ways to wake me if I'm not responsive, like licking, nudging with her nose, pawing at me, etc. Barking is her last resort and its not a loud continual bark.
There are a lot of jerks out there who have tried to pass off their emotional support dogs as service animals and it has made the lives of the disabled with real service dogs a lot harder. I don't appreciate it!
A service dog is also allowed time off from working. They can bark, run, play, dig... etc and act like a pet dog during that time. Everyone needs a break, including them! Could you imagine having to work 24/7 every day of your life?!
It does sound like the OP may have confused emotional support animal with service dog. To be honest, my service dog is so well trained that during her off time, she is always under control. I do let her bark because that's how dogs communicate! They get very depressed if they can't be vocal at all.
Im straight up dyinngggggg from the steak 🥩 slinger story 😭😭😭😭 I haven't laughed so hard in a long time 🤣🤣😭😭
Dude, you CANNOT just peace out on your kid without a sitter that knows! I'd call the cops too. That's not ok and people get their kids taken away for this. It's called abandonment and it's a crime.
A “self trained” service dog isn’t a service dog. It’s at most an emotional support animal, and that isn’t a protected class of animal. If your dog barks at people and other animals while on the job, it’s not a service dog. Period.
Shock collars are also abuse. If you have to electrocute a dog to “help train them”, then you shouldn’t be a dog owner.
Everyone in that story is an asshole.
the rarer than finding a braincell in his head steak… oh my god 😅 that was some excellent comedic relief after the infuriating stories that came before it. especially the one about the hypocrite villain husband! jesus christ, i can’t believe anyone thought it would be BETTER for the kids to grow up with this asshole for a dad teaching them through example how to love in a relationship… jesus.
My previous upstairs apartment neighbor had a baby/toddler and it would cry. They also had dogs that would run around. Husband and I could hear ALL of it, but we never reported him for noise because BABIES CRY. We only reported him for noise because we could hear the adult man in the apartment screaming and swearing even during quiet hours
Baby Alex Story, OP NTA. Mother is the AH for child abandonment. I'm surprised she didn't lose her kid.
Okay I get needing some time to yourself ESPECIALLY after having a baby! It's alot! But you can't just be like "hey watch my kid for a few hrs" and then decide you are gonna be gone for a week??? What exactly did she think was going to happen?!! It's not OPs fault that she got caught with weed. OP 100% not the AHole on my book!
I mean im hispanic and my husband calls me his tortilla and he is asian and i call him my rice ball😂😂😂💀
The cancer woman , let her do what she wants . She has little time left , every other reasoning cancels that .
My uncle had cancer and he never once asked his wife to do anything because he was dying. He was always fighting for his life even when the hospital told him to give up, because he loved his wife and wanted to give his kids everything and all his time before he went.
This wife does not love her husband if she’d rather spend time with someone else. Come for me if you want but that shit is no excuse.
RE: Steak story
I went through a period as a child where I hated rare meat, and most of the steaks my Dad grilled were rare in the middle. The rule in our house is you had to at least mostly clear your plate before being excused from the table. My folks had a free-standing small bar that was right behind my seat at the dining room table, but it was about an inch and a half from the wall. So when they were not looking, I would toss the bits I didn't want there. They found the petrified remains when they moved about 20 yrs later. and it is now a big family joke. (btw, my dad later learned how to cook medium to medium rare, even though he still prefers his as "run the steer past the grill and then serve it"}
About the open marriage - he slept with so many people not giving her the opportunity, it's not ok, but let me introduce you to a Polish phrase that perfectly desribes the guy. He's a "garner's dog" (pies ogrodnika) - he won't make use of something but won't let others use it too. We use the phrase especially about relationships - when someone doesn't want you but then gets mad others do and don't want to let you be with them. That type ghosts you, sees you went on a date and suddenly messages you trying to reel you in.
Babysitter story: OP's boyfriend's sister is the AH in this situation. Alex never should have been her responsibility in the first place.
What the hell rent a nanny idk, wtf not just drop it on a friend without prior notification nta
My sister came by and dropped off her kids. She went for a coke and came back 4 years later.
The FIL should evict the awful neighbor; he needs to put his family first.
re: the open relationship, the dude is absolutely a huge AH. I've been with my partner for 9 years, I was 17 when we got together. By that time in my life, I'd already figured out that I am polyamorous, and that's just how I experience the world and love. My partner on the other hand is monogamous. He had been cheated on in the past and had some tenderness around the idea of me being polyamorous, and I told him I was ok with being monogamous for a while, but that it'd definitely come up later. Well, two and a half years ago was that later - it took about six months of relationship counseling and intense work on both our parts to get to a place where we could try, and we are now in a better place than ever. I had a relationship that unfortunately didn't go great and I no longer am in, but through that I learned things like my partner saturation limit is 2 and I felt wholly fulfilled like that. We talked openly about everything, even the hardest things, and held each other when these conversations were difficult. We are stronger as a couple than ever before. He has tried being on dating apps, but he's thoroughly monogamous and just isn't interested in anyone else (though I've always been clear that it would be ok with me if he did find someone he wanted to explore that with). THESE types of communication are how people make polyamorous situations work, not springing it on someone in the middle of a relationship because you want to get your rocks off, and then trying to control them when the other person has desires as well. Absolutely horrible of him to ruin his partner's other relationship from his jealousy. I understand she wants to put her kids first, but he is no good example for them.... showing them that double standards are okay, that partners are your possessions... just gross.
We need an update
so i agree that the husband that wanted to open the relationship is not to be trusted. i will say though I did bring up trying a poly relationship with my then boyfriend now fiancé (male) I brought up the both of us bring in another girl, he didn't like the idea but said he didn't want to stop me from trying. i told him that i love him and don't want to risk what we had for some random jane doe. Then not to long ago he brought it up again and asked how would be go about it.
in short i feel like that if its communicated correctly and respectfully opening or trying a poly relationship can be fun, its not for everyone and cant get ugly if communication is not upfront.
For the childcare one, if that happened at a school, they would have called the police. That's technically abandonment. I've seen that happen before. It was exceptionally selfish AF for the mother to dump the baby off at their home saying it was for "the day" and without warning or checking in, leaves the baby. Only when the OP asks the mother is when she says it's for a few days. The entitlement is huge. If that happened ANYWHERE else, the police would have been called. OP did the right thing. Mom shouldn't have been using pot and dropping off her baby at a whims notice.
The lady in the open marriage is the AH for not leaving the husband.
“Shovel out the poops?” ☠️
When we were at a steak house last year for our birthday, my mom went to cut her steak and it flew off her plate onto the floor. It was the funniest thing. She told the waitress and she took it and put it in a new order. We know the owner. So to make things funnier and embarrass her more, he came over and said "so I heard we had flying steaks"
I had a crazy neighbor like that. I moved into a apartment when my daughter was about 7 months old. They called the police on me that my daughter was stomping on the floor. She was 10 months old and learning to walk. Every single time she woke up at night and cried they called to do a welfare check and complain. Like it's literally a baby. The day I moved in she literally got mad and said omg you have a baby. She called the cops saying my sliding door was to loud almost daily. She was awful. I ended up braking the lease after a few months. I seen her in Walmart and she said oh why did you move. You! You are why I moved.
Should tell her she can’t be so picky when she’s living in an apartment!
When my kids were younger, we lived in an apartment (lower level). One day, a single lady (think 50’s) moved in upstairs. After a while, I started getting calls from the office, saying the lady upstairs was complaining about my kids jumping off the bunk beds and making too much noise. She would sit in her car and watch my kids, through the window, playing in their room…during daylight hours. Now, what really pissed me off was that she ordered a treadmill (husband helped delivery guy carry the heavy ass thing up the stairs) and we had to listen to her fat ass pounding away on the damn thing. We were the “bigger person” people and just dealt with it…cause we lived in an apartment! Eventually we had to move out cause they raised the rent when the lease ran out…probably as an excuse to get rid of the nuisance kids who played while it was light outside! Should have let that treadmill sit at the bottom of the stairs and watched to see how she was gonna get it up to her apartment!!!
Honestly for the first one, would wait til the banging stops, wait til they sleep and then start kicking the shit out of my walls.
I'm so glad i heard the steak story from the wife's POV before this
I need to hear this
More than meets the rib eye😂
Yeah… you don’t ask someone to watch your kid, leave them with less than a day’s worth of supplies, then be like “I’m not coming back for four days” when their SO calls asking where the hell you are. Since the bro went to work that night and he’s the one that watched the kid, I assume the agreement was to watch the kid for the day and sister did a bait n switch, so it’s a faafo moment for her. You try to trick the panicky SO into taking care of your kid, you get the police… sucks to be you.
Here is how you handle the steak situation: "Terribly sorry ma'am but I sadly can't eat rare steak because it upsets my stomach badly and I always forget that until I am faced with one. I really hate to bother you but would you mind letting me use the kitchen to cook it more?"
The two most likely outcomes are
A) the boss just lets him do that and OP can cook the steak to his preference
or
B) the boss offers to cook it more at which point she would likely notice that the steak is undercooked.
The excuse is plausible enough and the boss might even appreciate not being called out for serving raw steak to her guest. By claiming it keeps slipping his mind OP also has an excuse why he didn't bring it up earlier as well.
The single risk to his claim would be his wife asking about it but that seems unlikely. She seems far smarter than OP and would probably figure out that the steak isn't fully cooked.
Alternatively while the boss is in the kitchen OP should quietly tell his wife about the problem and ask her what to do. I highly doubt her advice would be too different from mine.
My roommate left the state for 2 weeks, but left her 2 kids at the house. One was 9 and one was 4. Didn't tell anyone. I got home to a note asking me to pick them up from school, because she wouldn't be home on time. Okay, but by the next morning, she still wasn't home. She said she went to visit a guy in another state and didn't know when she would be back. When she got home 2 weeks later, I moved out. When she said she needed notice, I said so did I, before she left her kids, no money, empty fridge, and not even asking. We haven't spoke since. Her family said she was lucky that I didn't call the police.
There is no such thing as a "certified" service dog, at least not in the USA. Both of these dogs sound reactive, and no one sounds like they know how to train a dog at all and certainly not to the level of a service dog. It is illegal to pass off a dog as a service dog when they are not acting in that capacity, and service dogs can be refused from public spaces if they are disruptive. This dog seems as though it would be. These folks need to take both dogs to obedience training and then decide whether OP's dog is a candidate for service dog training.
Thank you! I got bit by a dog on an airplane that was an "internet-certified" service dog. I still can't get over the lady with the service Peacock and the service mini-horse trying to get on a plane. This guy should not put his mom in the position of being a bad person. He needs to take responsibility for his own dog.
Shock collars are abusive. Beyond cruel.
I am a professional certified dog trainer and 1. They are not shock collars, they are ecollars similar to a tens unit for physical therapy that use electrodes to stimulate muscles. (The good ones mini educator or dogtra) if it's not one of those don't get it.
2. You MUST have proper training to use. It is very easy to do wrong without training.
3. If you get the proper equiptment and training, ecollars are fabulous tools! They are like invisible leashes, and meant to be used the same way as leash pressure but for offleash training.
4. You should not use until your dog allready has good obedience foundations on leash.
5. They are NOT a magic remote for your dog. They are not meant to be used just for punishment.
Put the shock collar on the mum... Every time her dog barks press the button... After a few hours ask her "so you're sure it doesn't hurt??"
Steak dude was 100% panicking, probably thought it's be rude to ask them to fry the steak a bit longer and just made some questionable decisions from there. Personally if he did that to me I'd probably need a minute to catch my breath from laughing.
The steak dude, seems to have been so nervous he reverted into a child solution. If these incidents are not common, no red flag!
No way, the lady who left her baby for days without making sure, that its fine is totally in the wrong. She say that it was just for a day, and she didn't prepared her baby for more. She was notified that her brother is not there to take care of baby, so she should just be back right away. It doesn't matter that she wanted a break, when you are a parent you need to plan thise things well. If she would do that, for sure she would find a date that fit her brother schedule and everything would be fine. The OP just didn't want to hurt the baby, there was really not much more, that she could do... I don't know, maybe trying to call the mother again or text her that she doesn't know hwo to take care of baby or warn her that if she wont come back, that she will have to call police? Maybe then she would be back?
Shock collars require a LOT of training to associate invisible fences with the shock.
The mom is just being abusive.
The dog and the shock collar story. If her mom doesn't think it hurt tell the mom to put on the shock collar on bark see if the mom like the pain.
Dude is a whole ass adult. Im autistic myself. People having power over me and not letting me make choices for my own life is my #1 nightmare.
Lol he was paying them or using the player card and when she got a piece it hurt his feelbads 😂
You left it on a cliff hanger! is it continued anywhere else?
I wanna know too!! Like what happened next?!.
The one where the sister just dropped Alex off is considered child abandoment. First off, she didn't state that she'd be gone for four days upfront she said she would be back that night.
She also didn't suffienctly pack for Alex to be with them for days, forcing OP and her partner to spend money on the child in terms of diapers/food.
I work in childcare, and if the parent does not come back, you call the police. Also, Op was not comfortable taking care of Alex alone.
Child Abandoment in some states IS considered a felony.
If someone was going to shock my dog and say 'it doesn't even hurt' I'd 100% make them prove that by wearing the shock collar and giving me the controls so I could shock them when they weren't expecting it and they could let me know how it feels for them. There are literally hundreds of ways to train dogs, why the awful shock/abuse collar?
1:09:04 in my family, I was always told if something is undercooked. Please bring it up because the person isn’t gonna be offended by you bringing it up their definitely gonna feel bad they you know didn’t check it in my family once we bring it up there’s two things that’s gonna happen. The person is otherwise gonna go “Oh I’ll take it back and just you know cook it for a little longer” or your response can be “is it alright if I go in the kitchen and just cook it for a little longer because it’s really undercooked” but like in my family it’s very good to give your opinions on food because my grandfather likes his roast potatoes slightly undercooked my grandfather doesn’t mind them being cooks, how they should be, which is like softer in the middle he just prefers them to be a little more solid in the centre, but after telling my Nan that I preferred my roast potato soft, she’s more than happy to cook them that way whenever we decide to have roast for lunch no scratch that when she decides, we’re gonna have roast for lunch. Because it’s not that hard to tell someone hey, it’s really undercooked because they’re not gonna take offence to that.
Mom leaves baby: I had something similar happen. I had a neighbor that was on the low intelligence scale who had a teenage daughter, also dumber than dirt, who lived Mom and had a baby and was living with her. She, teen Mom, came over really early on a Saturday and woke me up, asking if I could watch her 2 month old for a few hours as she had to go to court. I was kind of groggy, had my own 18 month old and a 6 month old, but for some dumb reason I agreed. A few hours later I realized, as it was Saturday, there was no court. I took baby over to the grandma who was a drunk, to question her about her daughter's whereabouts and she was clueless. I actually kept the baby for 9 days before turning him over to Social Services. Grandma had been calling me daily to try and convince me to not turn in her grandson to Social Services and daughter would be coming home soon. I felt so darn sorry for the baby as did my husband.
Baby bombed op was not an AH. She acknowledged having neither the materials or experience to take care of a baby for multiple days, the person who knew how to take care of this baby was not picking up their phone and the person that usually babysits was gone, she KNEW he was gone. She tried to strongarm an unprepared person into taking care of the baby. Putting your niece/nephew to sleep and playing with him/her are incredibly different from doing all of the child care over multiple days and nights. Op not only did the right thing, she did the only responsible thing she could in a situation she was not prepared for/ able to deal with
Divorce paper story: dude, my ex refused to do his part, used malicious incompetence to get out of parenting our kid by any stretch possible and was out of a job.
“All mobsters off limits” next job I get I would just talk to the boss and let them know what’s been going on with me.
My divorce story: we were high school sweethearts got married at 18 because that’s what you did where I came from….he cheated early in our relationship (after we moved in together, I was still in high school when we moved in together but the cheating was just out of high school) a few times and never gave me a chance to move on or even heal from it. Like made us sleep in the same bed the same night I found out. I tried to break off the engagement to at least take a break and figure myself out. He was the only person I’ve ever been with and knew that it wasn’t good. He told me my family would hate me bc they spend the money on the wedding and they already RSVPed so I believed him. I was 18 and dumb. Well a few years go by and I’m unhappy and start cheating so did he. He caught me with messages for the umpteenth time and asked “what do you have to say for yourself?” I said “I want a divorce “. Ruined credit and no idea who I am or how to live on my own is what I got out of that one.
The thing is, open relationships is a thing you discuss before getting into a relationship. Not after your relationship has already been established as monogamous
Shock collars come with a vibrate only setting for training
I’m a fan of blue rare steak. If it goes moo when i put my fork in it i’m cool. Any man that would rather throw it out the window before asking for it to be cooked more is not a match for me.
John is adorable. He makes the show.
Ok, so my biggest disaster at a dinner party: I was talking with this girl, a friend of a friend, who came from a very conservative family, she was so cloistered that she literally told me I was her first boy friend (not boyfriend we were not at that point though I thought we were both interested, later turned out not), and she not only got to go to a party thanks to my advice but also managed to go to my birthday party and got me to go to her house, apparently these were huge milestones for her since her parents were super strict. So at one point I get invited to a party from one of her siblings, and they all went out to eat sushi, this was not my first time with sushi but I still hadn't learn to use the chopsticks. However I wanted to impress not only the girl I was courting but also the parents, so OF COURSE I wasn't going to ask for a fork for my sushi. I just grabbed the chopsticks as best I could, tried to hold on to my Tamaki roll and lo and behold my roll flipped out of my hold, flew halfway across the table and landed on the soy sauce plate of this girl's father... thankfully he didn't say anything about me there but I imagine that it didn't leave a good impression on them at that point XD
As the mother of a bullied child...NOPE... mom is NTA. There are a lot of reasons why children will act out and bully others, but that is just a chance for them to learn better behavior. Parents that expect schools and their staff to blindly accept poor behavior would be doing a disservice to all of the other children. Thankfully, we always had supportive school staff that helped our daughter and we had positive experiences overall.
LOL the steak story reminded me of the time my school friend Suzie and I stayed at an old couples house for one night. We were served tea in bed in the morning with a delicious cookie. The tea however was made in a coffee pot and tasted awful, so I tried to bribe Suzie with my cookie to drink my tea but she wouldn't The plant in the room was plastic, so I couldn't empty the tea in the flowerpot and when I poked my head out of the bedroom door to see if I could transport it to the toilet, granny was standing in the corridor... Then at the breakfast table we were served cooked breakfast: eggs, sausages and bacon, beans and bread. Once granny went to the kitchen I asked Suzie if she would please eat the sausages that were on my plate as I did not like them. She agreed and I quickly moved them to her plate. I therefore finished eating my breakfast first and got complimented for eating so well and was asked if I wanted more, which I declined. Granny then felt bad for Suzie, having given me a compliment, so she said to Suzie: You are eating well as well my dear, you are just a bit slower. I had to do my best not to burst out laughing, knowing that she had to eat part of my portion as well.
Open Marriage story: I have no doubt that the husband wanted to close the marriage because he wants a doormat waiting for him at home. Then after he ruins his wife's fling, he wants to open the marriage again. Dude is such a pos with a fragile ego.
Also, i could've sworn I heard an update on this at some point.
My now ex husband final action that gave me the wake up call said that my 11 yr old at the time, was his slave, that I was to be his slave and I was to serve him. But I had kicked him out 2 months prior when I found out about his secret debt. 3 yrs free. We lived a nightmare of gaslighting narcissist abuse. He used the excuse of insecurity whenever I started to talk about things that didn’t make sense. He gaslit my entire church to the point that we no longer go to that church. Because I filed for divorce. He changed the day we got married, and I felt like a widow. The man I loved died the day we got married and a monster manipulator took over.
Not an open marriage but relationship. Started it that way. Our rules were always using protection and honesty. No details or needing to tell before but just immediately informing the first chance we got and with who. The relationship eventually went to open but only with hand and oral (no sex) and then it went to exclusive but still open in the sense of no guilt if something ever did happen and now we just have eachother and that's enough for us. So I guess we're exclusive 😂😂 we just grew to realize how much we wanted eachother and that all we really needed or wanted was eachother. Sure we've had our problems but at the end of the day other people don't seem to interest us more then eachother and it was an interesting way to go about dating. I had never really tried or done something like this but it genuinely went well for us as we always promised to be open and honest with eachother if nothing else.
If I were the husband I would completely understand and let my wife have the meal. Sure it might have a lil sting in the heart but at the same time….I would give days of my life just to see my dying partner happy and live longer…I guess overall im saying I would do anything for the one I love when they dying.
The stalking partner story . They should sell movie right and make bank . Living well is the best revenge