So if the financing conditions is bad then the mother should eat less and give to her children. That mother jist have a favorite child, a golden child, that’s all .
@@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwasno but they can be fair like one time made fried egg and one time black beans same with the birthday always taking the silence for granted is not good. If the child cares for your feelings shouldn't you see how much they also sacrifice by just keeping silent and thinking about them
You don't know what it feels to be treating unfairly. So wasn't talking about the food, she talks about how her mom treat her unfairly unlike her sister gets everything
Same my parents treat me much worse than this compare to my sis. When my sis is laying on bed using phone mom says nothing while im about to study, mom told me to do the household works knowing damn well they’re treating me differently even though Im the youngest. In most of the case youngest are treated like a spoiled princess and treated the best but my parents treat me the worst and still tell me I shouldn’t have been born. But still my sis lied that my parents love me the most and always complain while she’s doing nothing but complain. I have 3 sisters I’m talking about 1 sis
And also my mom give yummy foods to my sis the most. For example mom made a yummy dish she’ll put the dish more to my sis while putting less to mine. And always compare me with my sis saying that my sis grade is more than me while it’s not a big difference. And how would I get my marks while I’m doing the whole household works,and my mom complaining like I’m the only person responsible in the house. Sometimes I hate my mom …..dad,sis everyone in my family
Yea... Food was either the last straw or the medium to break her dam... My sibling had to go through the same because of me but he never showed it to anyone but it was becoming apparent as the time went... It's really painful to watch so I stopped indulging and noticed how his attitude changed eventually.... Yet again I'd say sibling's bonds are stronger than that with the parents, more so in dysfunctional family, though speaking from experience but it still stands true that you and your sibling most likely will go through same shit if family problems is consistent and permanent and at the end of the day, only they'd understand eachother and the pain they go through... This scene was really heartbreaking, also makes me want to watch the k drama
Yes I can feel this as the eldest child of my family every time I complain so they think it's about food and all but actually it's about lack of affection.. everyone needs love regardless of their age
My mom used to prepare breakfast for my sis and not for me. And she told everyone that I don't like to eat breakfast on the other hand I avoided it because she was always late to work as she prepared breakfast for everyone. Parents are like this in India as well
I think your opinion is right and ofc they are taking more care of other siblings but still I think is every child should cooperate with their parents when their financial condition is not good and I am not saying it for her but her siblings also
@@Smishra2011 bro but her parents could have treated them equally. She understands too that their financial situation isn't great, which is why she never really says anything. But always giving the best to your other kids and neglecting one isn't because of the financial situation. The chicken was something she got and yet they gave the best parts to her siblings and gave her the leftovers
You misjudged her parents without watching the whole drama, after this last scene, dad go to her with the birthday cake and apologized to his own daughter saying I'm not perfect, I know that, but this's my first time being father of three children too, I didn't think about your feelings, I'm sorry. If someone do mistakes, this doesn't mean they're bad
@@des_3.0 typical dialogue of a privileged person...the people who can feel with the oppressed are mostly other oppressed person.. The privileged mostly never accepts or understands that they are privileged
@@aishap.h.5042 exactly.. honestly I am the oldest but it was always.. always my younger sister.. she is just 11 months younger than me and mum always says "she is younger than u no??".. I mean it is just f eleven months.
@@des_3.0she kinda did she wanted to become a procecuter but due to their financial situation she chose to learn maths and become a teacher. In the later episodes when their debts were paid off she got to study law. Also she was also striking againt the govt for democracy and voting rights. And parents were more closer to the younger siblings than her. Like deok sun , the middle child in the video was close with both her parents but in her her case she really wasnt. Her conversations with her parents was really formal ... Mayb im kinda biased over the okder sister bcz im the older sibling and i was always the "older" One and never got to have much fun.
@@jasminebrooks5885 i would've been happily selfish at that time food is where I set boundaries! I would've snatched the whole chicken away with the 2 pieces given to those siblings and would've walked out and ate it all by myself or would've shared it with actually hungry PPL instead of giving the food to those entitled ppl
The child who never complains when they are done wrong will either learn to bite their tongue or say what they truly feel sooner or later. I’m so glad Deok sun said what she felt because they treated her second class 😭
You think it's only middle children that get treated like this? Older children and the youngest can be treated like this too. It's called emotional neglect and it can happen to any child.
As the youngest , this happens to me. I can understand. Somehow they still think they can do it because Im just too dumb to understand anything but I'm just honestly putting them first. It sucks when you're doing all this only to get made fun of.
@@Pudding_zip I'm the oldest of my three siblings. My Mom got with her current partner and I'm not his child so she ended up neglecting my needs emotionally until I moved out to live with my dad. She's a wonderful mom to my siblings but I'm different from them and she didn't understand me. They can love you and neglect you at the same time. My sister is the middle child and my mom's pride and joy. I always put her needs first because I hoped my mom would notice but they never do and we are sometimes the only ones that put ourselves first. It took me a long time to learn that lesson. I hope you don't and that you live a happy life now.
@@nicolesword2739 I'm so sorry to hear how you got abandoned like that. It wasn't deserved. And that actually does make so much sense. That's a lovely thinking 💛 tysm I look forward to your success and happiness 💗
Parents should treat children equally because they gave birth to them. If they can't afford to raise them they should have stopped having children. Why children should suffer?
You just said what I always thought...If parents can't afford to raise their children then they shouldn’t have those children in the first place..Ik it’s hard to raise children and I'm not trying to be disrespectful, but they shouldn’t always do what they want with their kids, they should try to understand them & see what kids actually wants....
@@misha5728U r not at all disrespectful towards them. Only bcoz a child is always treated with the leftovers while giving them a sweet smile doesn't take away the fact that it is unfair towards that child.
Only the father made a small effort to make her feel better. He bought her her own little birthday cake and started buying her ice creams too like he had been for the son.
The sad thing is that they never changed their treatment to her and even when they almost died of carbon monoxide because their charcoal heater broke down they still decided to aave the bid sister and young brother and even forgot her in the house, she almost died and they treated it like a joke too, she had to crawl herself outta the house, I'm just happy she ended up marrying a good husband who loves and cares for her so much
You should never bring a child to this Earth if you can't afford one. "Afford" here doesn't only mean financial capability but also being there for the child physically and emotionally.
Exactly! I tell my mom this all the time. She asks why Im 30 and married but with no kids. Its because I saw her pop out 5 kids and ignore her first born... me. I want to give all my love and attention to one special child, not be stretched too thin to give to a bunch of them
and the fact the dad is always secretly buying the son an ice cream broke me. she's silently putting up with everything until she's too heartbroken for losing that sign-olympic thing. this drama will always have a room in my heart*
Her sister is a genius so she gets love and her younger brother is a male after two girls so he also get love too. But she is just the middle child. But she is the most careering, loving empathetic child of all of them. What a beautiful drama.
this is a struggle among the person who is the most understanding in the family’s situation. At a young age, I fully grasp the hardship in our family’s financial status, therefore I always say yes, and never said no. To the point where i felt like i was their maid, they took me for granted. When i watched this kdrama, i cant help but to understand the dept of her feelings. I just wished i had enough voice to stand up for myself to my family
You WILL find the courage. Just learn to be more confident in your speeches and trust yourself, love yourself more. Start prioritising yourself... (I know many must have told you this but I just wanna attempt to make you feel more confident about yourself and how sometimes family can be wrong and it's ok to point it out)
The moment my mother told me to do house chores when I was busy studying while my brother was playing video games, that moment I knew I was never going to get whatever from her nor make her proud no matter what I do. Took years to learn but I accepted the fact she is she and I can't change her. All I can do is focus on myself.
This is why I didn't want to have more than 2 children. I feel that if I had 3 no matter how much I tried not to 1 child would be left out a bit. I grew up with 3 siblings and was treated differently and left to my own devices alot growing up and I didn't want that for my children.
It feels so satisfying when she finally let out all her bottled emotions. I used to get annoyed by this girl, but her acting in this scene made me cheer for her. Just so good
Even after all this when the gas was leaking in their house they saved her older sister and younger brother and they forgot about her . How could someone forget their own child ? It hurts seeing her hurt
Such type of treatment becomes the reason for an unhealthy relationship between siblings. They started to get jealous and end up hating to their own sister/brother .
I feel this. No matter how much you yell, they will never hear. No matter how much you think positive of it, they will always give back negative response. No matter how much you achieve and succeed, they will always be more proud of the others. It's tiring, it sucks, it hurts. There's no good karma, there's no appreciation, there's no sympathy. The only way to fix it is to leave them. They don't deserve you
Never watched this drama but this clip made me realize what I felt all my life is actually valid and that Im not overreacting or being "Jealous" of my sibling.
Life is unfair, parents are unfair. So it's important to cherish those who cherishs you. I'm the middle child and have been treated unfairly for decades. I always thought that I cant wait to move out and be done with these disgusting relationships but my parents have been treating me much better after both my sisters left for university and marriage. I have no doubt they will always be bias though because i can tell the different treatment whenever they are home but i dont really take it to heart anymore, as i have someone who loves and trusts me more than anyone had ever did. You'll grow numb to the bias and if you are up to it, kill them with kindness
I felt really bad when I watched the chicken scene. Her friends father literally gave it to her and even told her to not share then the mom proceeds to give the drumstick to her sisters. Also not to mention deoksun is literally the least problematic out of all her sibling😅
Yup, being in the exact and even worse situation, that usually is the outcome. They either shout at you and make you believe that you are wrong in the way your thing King and that their only ones their alway right or they’ll still do that and hit you as well
That's not true. Her mother did buy her the pair of shoes she yearned for (she promised to gave Noeul first). Her father also gave her a cake for herself. Her parents also talk to her and understood that she always gave out more, that she's a sympathetic person and have the best personality. Their family have their own dynamics and it's fine. She got love from all her childhood friends, neighbors and school friends. She also received a thankful gift from her friends' parents for handling the epilepsy episode so well. There were even 2 outstanding guys who were chasing her.
People ask me why I waste my time on wanting dramas. Only I know how detailed they describe my life and to find someone who relates to me make me feel I am the not lonely one. But who will make them understand it.
I’m so grateful with my mom. She’s been treating us equally. She raised us alone with my two other siblings. Even a small chocolate, she will cut it into 3 just for me and my siblings.She’s so selfless, she sacrificed a lot.
Her parents are like mine. Always taking the path of least resistance. They didn't want to deal with her sister's explosive temper or her brother's whinniness, so they allowed the most good-natured child to take the unfairness.
No because I cried in this scene. She made so many adjustments to herself for her siblings. There were only two eggs left, she said she didn’t want any eggs that morning. Mr. Kim told her he bought her that chicken and to make sure she enjoys the legs and the mom gave them to her siblings without a second thought- and gave her the wing because she didn’t want her husband to eat it because he “would fly away”. She never fought back against her older sister even though she beat three girls almost single-handily so you know she could have beat her sister’s a**. The whole thing with the Walkman and her sister was sad too, never getting anything because her ungrateful, disobedient, disrespectful sister always came first.
I feel her I hate parents like that so much Ik their financial condition is not right but making someone feel low compared to other children is not right 😭 Tis show was so good I cried during this scene
I will never understand why parents do this. She could have simply made equal share for all 3. It’s not about the food but the love she is deprived of. I can relate to her character and I am the youngest so, it isn’t the middle child all the time.
Reply 1988 is my all time favorite kdrama. This drama is really long but still I was so mad over the fact that it had only 20 epis. Anyway when chicken scene came I was so mad at her mom. Mr kim gave the chicken to deok sun. But as she have a big heart she decided to share this with her family. Still she didn't get a good piece. When she brust out in tears on her sister's birthday I also cried with her. And her sister was hella selfish. She had superiority complex. And her mom and dad treated her like goddess. Just because she was a good student. We saw a character development after she started dating one of her sister's best friend. But still she was one of my least favorite character.
I am the second daughter and this really represent me. It just I did not say it out like her. Till now I choose to keep it myself and I rarely share anything with my parents and siblings. I'm more comfortable sharing things with close friends. I really bawled my eyes out when I watched this series before.
I am also a middle child, since child I know i am not the most favorite one but thanks God my parent is a good parents eventhough like that i still feel a little bit indifferent as a middle child As I grown up I just realized that they love me but not always equal and i start to tell my thought and speak what I feel as a middle child to my family, they do try to understand but most of it they just think that I am too sensitive. So now if it its crucial things for me and my future I "ll speak up but if it not too importants things for me I just celarly show my "don't care" behavior
@@fy5721 completely understand you with the 'being sensitive part'. I once broke down in tears and yelling for some reason, I am not like the usual me they know. I thought I could make them think that I am truly in need to be understood. But no 😔 my parents and even my siblings said I am being rude and never listen, till I give up to express everything. But now I enjoyed being away from home, working and living my life quietly. Just come back home once in a while.
But what will I do. I'm the first child and I'm always treated like this. I can't serve my food before my younger brothers. And even my friends leave me when I need them
Oh, I know. And maybe in this situation they could also tell you "oh man, you can't even feel happy for your sister, you literally don't care, what a terrible person you are".
I love this drama so much....incredible actors, acting, direction, story and everything....it is the speciality of Korean dramas to force to you to seen kdramas more n more....❤
but sadly the parents never understand when kids break up like this, parents always thinks they're just overreacting or just upset about food.. sadly parents never understand this enough, especially when the child themselves is the one speaking up, they mostly think its not a big matter but that child could hold grudges,bottle up their feelings, accept things as if its fate, and grow hate for both their parents and sibling who is treated with more love.... my parents are like this, but i can't blame them, they have 7 kids, one could possibly be forgotten💔💔
The reason why most situation won't change is because the mistreated child is conflicted. They make excuses for the neglectful parents. Believe me they know what they are doing. Most of them hate themselves for their short comings and vent it on the neglected child. It is sad that the neglected child will have to be defensive, but should do it in a quiet rational way.
The beautifully sad part is that in the end, out of all the siblings she was the one who understands, knows, and cared for her parents the whole time. Even when all of the siblings left the house and had their own respective careers, she was the one who took care of her parents.
as a younger child I understand it's not possible for a parents to love all children equally but it's possible to love more secretly so that other children won't feel sad.... I was the least loved too ... I know how it feel :) I'm never gonna treat bad any of my children in future if I have :)
Its just every house story of middle child. I can feel it completely who always has to sacrifice for other siblings. I never wanted to be middle child in my other lives its hurt even we tried hard to behave normal
My mom and one of my sister is sitting in the lounge just because I am sitting in the room. Otherwise they always sit in room cause I am in the lounge. I don't know but when I saw this video, my heart broke into million pieces......
Ngl sometimes not financial conditions but mindset of moms towards treating a kid like she's not a big deal, making her eat just anything coz she's aware the daughter adjusts But little did she agree to...."oh I can adjust with anything, that's what I'm taught " And she gets amazed when someone treats her precious, not because she don't deserve it but that's so rare to her
The reason behind this bcoz she felt the second daughter is the only one who is understanding one .. among her children, it happens..in every family..the most considerate child has to always adjust, it's all about balance , the middle child has to be always the considerate one
This is so relatable... I feel relieved I'm not in it alone... At times i hate having a family but then people would start making me count my so called 'blessings' of having parents and food and shelter and what not... Just because I have a stable life doesn't mean I don't deserve to be loved!
People can feel love from little little things that someone does for them. It makes them know they are treasured. U give, ur sure to get it gave one way or the other.
God I hated her elder sister, she only cared about herself and always treated Deok Sun like a doormat. She wanted things for herself and always looked down upon her sister
This is why I was so happy when she was with someone considerate and someone who would solely focus on her and would be biased. Their family might have been normal but these things.. can't really be fixed.
Me also a second child My uncle and Grandmother love my big sister so much BC she grow up there and me staying with my mom and dad that's why mom and dad love her so much and my little brother BC he is boy after two girls I know the pain when your friends forbidden you and your teacher don't see you also and your family pressure+abuse 💔💔💔
Also when the house was on fire.. They left her.. Inside the house.. Forgot bout her.. Like seriously she is also ur daughter.. I literally felt it... The feeling, it made me cry...
When you actually thought her parents finally realized what she has been through.. Follows the scenario where she was left in the house while the other two children were evacuated by their parents (smoke engulfed their house due to the briquettes). 😢😅 still this is my all time favorite kdrama, REPLY 1988!
You should have added the scene where her parents forget about saving her during house smoke/carbon monoxide poisoning. Thankfully she saves herself and being a good daughter, she never disowned her parents.
It's really heartbreaking 💔 I can feel it too as this same things happen to me....still have to face same thing.....and if i say so...i m the selfish person...to not understanding things....
I am a second child. Parents often think that the second child is an understanding child. patient and reliable. but they don't know that the second child often keeps their feelings hidden. But, even so, my parents are not as bad as Dook Soon's parents.😢😢😢
Anak pertama kebanggaan, anak bungsu kesayangan, anak tengah kelupaan 😅 Orangtua tidak pernah sengaja membedakan kasih sayang...but it happens just like that tanpa mereka sadari...sad but true ...😢
This looks to be a very small thing. But being partial n being ignored by your parents hurt more than being burned alive. If that happens just work hard and earn your life, your parents will realise n say sorry to you one day,but you accept them that time.
I know that feeling being the middle child was so stressfull in my life, I thought will be the second but my brother was the second. Well i know my parents didn't mean it that way but that was exactly what i feel being second child for small reasons so easily hurt and in the end, the feeling is just buried alone. 😭😭💔💔
True story of a middle child, even though their parents think that they treat every child same but it's not true, it's always the middle childs are left alone, even though they do & care the most for their parents and siblings
They do not understand her feelings, usually people keep treating that person badly who doesn't says anything. They think that person do not have feelings
I feel u ❤ im already numb to it and i try to focus on my other relationships and my relationships with my big and lil sister. Ask your parents to get their favorites to take care of them when they need help one day or when they need care when they are old. Then they will know the consequences of their bias
I know how it feels to be victim of favoritism by your own parent. Since I was a kid my mum used to tell me harsh truth about something I'm sad about and broke my heart time to time. Even till this day she does that. But never saw her do that to my other sibling . She would go out of her , sometimes lie to make her happy but never cared about me.
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I know their financial conditions weren’t good. But it is really unfair to only treat her siblings better not her.
So if the financing conditions is bad then the mother should eat less and give to her children. That mother jist have a favorite child, a golden child, that’s all .
I can relate so much with this girl except that I'm the only child & my parents used to treat other people better
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@@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwasno but they can be fair like one time made fried egg and one time black beans same with the birthday always taking the silence for granted is not good. If the child cares for your feelings shouldn't you see how much they also sacrifice by just keeping silent and thinking about them
@@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas it's just the middle child problem 😩🤌🏻
She is not being ungrateful , she just felt neglected
I am like her and honestly what you said is so true. I always thought and was told I am an ungrateful person for not appreciating what I have.
You don't know what it feels to be treating unfairly. So wasn't talking about the food, she talks about how her mom treat her unfairly unlike her sister gets everything
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Same my parents treat me much worse than this compare to my sis. When my sis is laying on bed using phone mom says nothing while im about to study, mom told me to do the household works knowing damn well they’re treating me differently even though Im the youngest. In most of the case youngest are treated like a spoiled princess and treated the best but my parents treat me the worst and still tell me I shouldn’t have been born. But still my sis lied that my parents love me the most and always complain while she’s doing nothing but complain. I have 3 sisters I’m talking about 1 sis
And also my mom give yummy foods to my sis the most. For example mom made a yummy dish she’ll put the dish more to my sis while putting less to mine. And always compare me with my sis saying that my sis grade is more than me while it’s not a big difference. And how would I get my marks while I’m doing the whole household works,and my mom complaining like I’m the only person responsible in the house. Sometimes I hate my mom …..dad,sis everyone in my family
To them it’s about food probably but in reality it’s the indifference of her mother.
Yea... Food was either the last straw or the medium to break her dam... My sibling had to go through the same because of me but he never showed it to anyone but it was becoming apparent as the time went... It's really painful to watch so I stopped indulging and noticed how his attitude changed eventually....
Yet again I'd say sibling's bonds are stronger than that with the parents, more so in dysfunctional family, though speaking from experience but it still stands true that you and your sibling most likely will go through same shit if family problems is consistent and permanent and at the end of the day, only they'd understand eachother and the pain they go through... This scene was really heartbreaking, also makes me want to watch the k drama
And her father 😢
Yes I can feel this as the eldest child of my family every time I complain so they think it's about food and all but actually it's about lack of affection.. everyone needs love regardless of their age
My mom used to prepare breakfast for my sis and not for me. And she told everyone that I don't like to eat breakfast on the other hand I avoided it because she was always late to work as she prepared breakfast for everyone. Parents are like this in India as well
Yeah that hurt
It's not jealousy that made her Act like that but an Unfair treatment😢
Having parents like that is death by a thousand cuts.
I think your opinion is right and ofc they are taking more care of other siblings but still I think is every child should cooperate with their parents when their financial condition is not good and I am not saying it for her but her siblings also
So true , i know how it feels 😖😖
@@Smishra2011 bro but her parents could have treated them equally. She understands too that their financial situation isn't great, which is why she never really says anything. But always giving the best to your other kids and neglecting one isn't because of the financial situation. The chicken was something she got and yet they gave the best parts to her siblings and gave her the leftovers
Indeed.
You misjudged her parents without watching the whole drama, after this last scene, dad go to her with the birthday cake and apologized to his own daughter saying I'm not perfect, I know that, but this's my first time being father of three children too, I didn't think about your feelings, I'm sorry. If someone do mistakes, this doesn't mean they're bad
Her sister's laid back attitude at such a time is what irritates me more...she's like here we go again type...I hate these kind of people...
Me too I hated her very much.
She probably had her own troubles but she's not the main character here so those were not the focus.
@@des_3.0 typical dialogue of a privileged person...the people who can feel with the oppressed are mostly other oppressed person..
The privileged mostly never accepts or understands that they are privileged
@@aishap.h.5042 exactly.. honestly I am the oldest but it was always.. always my younger sister.. she is just 11 months younger than me and mum always says "she is younger than u no??".. I mean it is just f eleven months.
@@des_3.0she kinda did she wanted to become a procecuter but due to their financial situation she chose to learn maths and become a teacher. In the later episodes when their debts were paid off she got to study law. Also she was also striking againt the govt for democracy and voting rights. And parents were more closer to the younger siblings than her. Like deok sun , the middle child in the video was close with both her parents but in her her case she really wasnt. Her conversations with her parents was really formal ... Mayb im kinda biased over the okder sister bcz im the older sibling and i was always the "older" One and never got to have much fun.
the fact that Mr. kim gave the chicken only for her and yet she can't eat it as she wants to
THIS is what breaks my heart. she choose to share the chicken with her family, she is kind enough to do that. but, she cant eat it as she wants ㅠㅠ
istg....i dont know what was going on with me but i cried like a baby when i was rewatching this episode....
I cried watching that ep
Name of the k drama?
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The worst part about the chicken is the neighbor SPECIALLY GAVE IT TO HER but she shared with the family instead - somehow were pushed over
No way, bruh if that happened to me i'd be setting the whole place on fire
@@misslen575as you should! 😊
And if you dont share you're considered selfish too
@@jasminebrooks5885 i would've been happily selfish at that time food is where I set boundaries! I would've snatched the whole chicken away with the 2 pieces given to those siblings and would've walked out and ate it all by myself or would've shared it with actually hungry PPL instead of giving the food to those entitled ppl
As we saw in the clip how justified her frustrations were..
The child who never complains when they are done wrong will either learn to bite their tongue or say what they truly feel sooner or later. I’m so glad Deok sun said what she felt because they treated her second class 😭
It happens in many Asian families
@@premasivasubramaniam6621 mhmm
I can feel her pain.😢 Maybe every middle child can.😢
You think it's only middle children that get treated like this? Older children and the youngest can be treated like this too. It's called emotional neglect and it can happen to any child.
As the youngest , this happens to me. I can understand. Somehow they still think they can do it because Im just too dumb to understand anything but I'm just honestly putting them first. It sucks when you're doing all this only to get made fun of.
@@Pudding_zip I'm the oldest of my three siblings. My Mom got with her current partner and I'm not his child so she ended up neglecting my needs emotionally until I moved out to live with my dad. She's a wonderful mom to my siblings but I'm different from them and she didn't understand me. They can love you and neglect you at the same time. My sister is the middle child and my mom's pride and joy. I always put her needs first because I hoped my mom would notice but they never do and we are sometimes the only ones that put ourselves first. It took me a long time to learn that lesson. I hope you don't and that you live a happy life now.
@@nicolesword2739 I'm so sorry to hear how you got abandoned like that. It wasn't deserved. And that actually does make so much sense. That's a lovely thinking 💛 tysm I look forward to your success and happiness 💗
Ben büyük çocuğum ve bende yaşamıştım bir ara ilgisizliği
Parents should treat children equally because they gave birth to them. If they can't afford to raise them they should have stopped having children. Why children should suffer?
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You just said what I always thought...If parents can't afford to raise their children then they shouldn’t have those children in the first place..Ik it’s hard to raise children and I'm not trying to be disrespectful, but they shouldn’t always do what they want with their kids, they should try to understand them & see what kids actually wants....
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So true more people need to have your mindset
@@misha5728U r not at all disrespectful towards them. Only bcoz a child is always treated with the leftovers while giving them a sweet smile doesn't take away the fact that it is unfair towards that child.
The sad part is they ignored her even after she told them this 😢
Being the only daughter with two brothers that get coddled. I felt this drama too much in my heart😢
Only the father made a small effort to make her feel better. He bought her her own little birthday cake and started buying her ice creams too like he had been for the son.
Nd i see her sister in background getting irritated.... So apathetic
I know her feel😢
Yes
The sad thing is that they never changed their treatment to her and even when they almost died of carbon monoxide because their charcoal heater broke down they still decided to aave the bid sister and young brother and even forgot her in the house, she almost died and they treated it like a joke too, she had to crawl herself outta the house, I'm just happy she ended up marrying a good husband who loves and cares for her so much
True😢
What is the name of the movie or drama?
@@msr8627Reply 1988
@@msr8627reply 1988
Drama nane
If I tell this to my parents they would tell "who the hell would cry for food"😢
But it's not about food it's all about how she felt lefted by her own family 💔
If you are middle child, whole life you will face this things🙂🙂🙂
You should never bring a child to this Earth if you can't afford one. "Afford" here doesn't only mean financial capability but also being there for the child physically and emotionally.
Yh you should never even dream about children if you aren't capable of loving them.
Most stupid comment ever.
Exactly! I tell my mom this all the time. She asks why Im 30 and married but with no kids. Its because I saw her pop out 5 kids and ignore her first born... me. I want to give all my love and attention to one special child, not be stretched too thin to give to a bunch of them
❤
Wish my parents knew this
and the fact the dad is always secretly buying the son an ice cream broke me. she's silently putting up with everything until she's too heartbroken for losing that sign-olympic thing. this drama will always have a room in my heart*
I think the father will get ice cream for deok son later too
What's the drama name? This looks like something that could hurt me, perfect for me :)
@@yeetusthefetus3465 Reply 1988 its such a good drama I love it sm
@@Xo01w Thanks
This drama always have a room in your heat ?? 😅😅
Her sister is a genius so she gets love and her younger brother is a male after two girls so he also get love too. But she is just the middle child. But she is the most careering, loving empathetic child of all of them. What a beautiful drama.
Drama name please
@@madhurimasen2736reply 1998
@@madhurimasen2736reply 1988
@@madhurimasen2736replay 1988
@@madhurimasen2736reply 1988
Thats why Choi Taek suit to Dukseon,
He always priorities DS, and show his love perfectly
this is a struggle among the person who is the most understanding in the family’s situation. At a young age, I fully grasp the hardship in our family’s financial status, therefore I always say yes, and never said no. To the point where i felt like i was their maid, they took me for granted. When i watched this kdrama, i cant help but to understand the dept of her feelings. I just wished i had enough voice to stand up for myself to my family
How are u now?🥀
You WILL find the courage. Just learn to be more confident in your speeches and trust yourself, love yourself more. Start prioritising yourself...
(I know many must have told you this but I just wanna attempt to make you feel more confident about yourself and how sometimes family can be wrong and it's ok to point it out)
The moment my mother told me to do house chores when I was busy studying while my brother was playing video games, that moment I knew I was never going to get whatever from her nor make her proud no matter what I do. Took years to learn but I accepted the fact she is she and I can't change her. All I can do is focus on myself.
Same situation everyday
How many years will it take it for me to realize that I wonder
@@raveenadevi763 Took me almost 3 decades. 😅 Hopefully it's easier for you.
@@jselenatan9834 oh and thanks
U made the right decision..focussing on yr growth n happiness❤
The pain of every middle child 😢
Ikr 🥺
I can feel that
Yeah. It hurts.
I'm the Last child & my parents did treat me that way cuz my big brother just much smarter and soft than me😊
Ah, can relate. I'm the smartest of 3 yet still the least liked.
I felt so bad for her. Honestly most of parents in the world can’t treat their children equally. There is always a most favourite or least favourite.
Yes. And this is something that I actually can't understand... All of them are your children - how can you treat them differently... 🤔
This is why I didn't want to have more than 2 children. I feel that if I had 3 no matter how much I tried not to 1 child would be left out a bit. I grew up with 3 siblings and was treated differently and left to my own devices alot growing up and I didn't want that for my children.
True
What is the name of this drama 🙂
@@Bangtannie_X0t7 Reply 1988
Reply 1988 will forever stay in my heart hehee
1988
It feels so satisfying when she finally let out all her bottled emotions. I used to get annoyed by this girl, but her acting in this scene made me cheer for her. Just so good
Deok-Sun spoke to a nation of children during this series. Hyeri became the most beloved sister .
Even after all this when the gas was leaking in their house they saved her older sister and younger brother and they forgot about her . How could someone forget their own child ? It hurts seeing her hurt
Damn that’s cold, they’re the type of parents to then wonder why she moves out and never talks to them! what’s this show called?
@@jenicdarling9425 reply 1988
Drama name??
@@jenicdarling9425reply of 1988 , I think that's what it's called
@@Vgukkieficsreply of 1988
Such type of treatment becomes the reason for an unhealthy relationship between siblings. They started to get jealous and end up hating to their own sister/brother .
I feel this. No matter how much you yell, they will never hear. No matter how much you think positive of it, they will always give back negative response. No matter how much you achieve and succeed, they will always be more proud of the others. It's tiring, it sucks, it hurts. There's no good karma, there's no appreciation, there's no sympathy. The only way to fix it is to leave them. They don't deserve you
This kind of parenting leaves you with permanent traumatic memories . At least she is able to speak for herself.
Never watched this drama but this clip made me realize what I felt all my life is actually valid and that Im not overreacting or being "Jealous" of my sibling.
Life is unfair, parents are unfair. So it's important to cherish those who cherishs you. I'm the middle child and have been treated unfairly for decades. I always thought that I cant wait to move out and be done with these disgusting relationships but my parents have been treating me much better after both my sisters left for university and marriage.
I have no doubt they will always be bias though because i can tell the different treatment whenever they are home but i dont really take it to heart anymore, as i have someone who loves and trusts me more than anyone had ever did. You'll grow numb to the bias and if you are up to it, kill them with kindness
You want a hug from an internet stranger?
@@Haru-nee😭😭 can I have one
I felt really bad when I watched the chicken scene. Her friends father literally gave it to her and even told her to not share then the mom proceeds to give the drumstick to her sisters. Also not to mention deoksun is literally the least problematic out of all her sibling😅
What's more emotional is that nothing changed even after that rant~🙂
Drama name please
@@pain150 Reply 1988
Yup, being in the exact and even worse situation, that usually is the outcome. They either shout at you and make you believe that you are wrong in the way your thing King and that their only ones their alway right or they’ll still do that and hit you as well
@@tabbyalex8949 That's so painful!!
That's not true. Her mother did buy her the pair of shoes she yearned for (she promised to gave Noeul first). Her father also gave her a cake for herself. Her parents also talk to her and understood that she always gave out more, that she's a sympathetic person and have the best personality. Their family have their own dynamics and it's fine. She got love from all her childhood friends, neighbors and school friends. She also received a thankful gift from her friends' parents for handling the epilepsy episode so well. There were even 2 outstanding guys who were chasing her.
People ask me why I waste my time on wanting dramas. Only I know how detailed they describe my life and to find someone who relates to me make me feel I am the not lonely one. But who will make them understand it.
I can relate so much with her becoz im the middle child who is usually left out in everything 😢
No one listened or hear Deok Sun. This makes cry every time I watched this show. Her mom made it so obvious that she didn't matter.
I’m so grateful with my mom. She’s been treating us equally. She raised us alone with my two other siblings. Even a small chocolate, she will cut it into 3 just for me and my siblings.She’s so selfless, she sacrificed a lot.
This is a sign to give ur mama a hug ❤
Me I feel I don't even exist in my Family
Now, make her proud.💜💜💜
My mom did the same thing, she made sure we shared that one piece of candy.
Be good to her man. I am raising my daughter alone and I am dying everyday
Those parents did her dirty. Because she was kind and compassionate doesn't mean they could deprived her every single time
Her parents are like mine. Always taking the path of least resistance. They didn't want to deal with her sister's explosive temper or her brother's whinniness, so they allowed the most good-natured child to take the unfairness.
@@opheliamaples so they were rewarding bad behaviour and encouraging it. While neglecting the good natured child becuz she was good..
The hardships of being a middle child,even though i am the youngest i could see the sadness towards my sister's eyes
It disrespectes if you yell at someone's birthday, it gives them bad luck !
She didn’t even get the wings she got the wing😢
Maybe she should grow her own and fly away from the shitty place
And it was her chicken too
whats sad is that the chicken was for her from neighbour
I can't blame her. Cuz her parents make her do it. 💔
No because I cried in this scene. She made so many adjustments to herself for her siblings. There were only two eggs left, she said she didn’t want any eggs that morning. Mr. Kim told her he bought her that chicken and to make sure she enjoys the legs and the mom gave them to her siblings without a second thought- and gave her the wing because she didn’t want her husband to eat it because he “would fly away”. She never fought back against her older sister even though she beat three girls almost single-handily so you know she could have beat her sister’s a**. The whole thing with the Walkman and her sister was sad too, never getting anything because her ungrateful, disobedient, disrespectful sister always came first.
Even when she is crying on her bday i can see her sister getting irritated and acting all entitled! So sad
Gurl same… it was a bad day and I was rewatching reply 1988 and this scene came up and I just sobbed for a solid hour 😅😂😭
I hate it when parents discriminate between their children, even if they love one child more than the other they should treat them equally
I could totally understand her feelings it's so painful because I myself experienced it each and every day 😢😢😢
I feel her
I hate parents like that so much
Ik their financial condition is not right but making someone feel low compared to other children is not right 😭
Tis show was so good I cried during this scene
What’s this show called?
@@jenicdarling9425 reply 1988
@@jenicdarling9425 reply 1988
I will never understand why parents do this. She could have simply made equal share for all 3. It’s not about the food but the love she is deprived of. I can relate to her character and I am the youngest so, it isn’t the middle child all the time.
Reply 1988 is my all time favorite kdrama. This drama is really long but still I was so mad over the fact that it had only 20 epis. Anyway when chicken scene came I was so mad at her mom. Mr kim gave the chicken to deok sun. But as she have a big heart she decided to share this with her family. Still she didn't get a good piece. When she brust out in tears on her sister's birthday I also cried with her. And her sister was hella selfish. She had superiority complex. And her mom and dad treated her like goddess. Just because she was a good student. We saw a character development after she started dating one of her sister's best friend. But still she was one of my least favorite character.
Name of the drama please?
@@maimunaho.a.owoiya1062reply 1988
@@maimunaho.a.owoiya1062Reply 1988, best kdrama in my opinion 😊
Episode no
@@titlighosh6502 around ep 1 or 2
Middle child is the one that is always ignored☹️
Whenever I watch this scene I can't hold my tears.🥺💔
How can i blame her when i have the same experience ever since i was little even now!!
I can feel you I am also in a situation like this
I feel you. 😭🫂
So sorry to hear that. May God bless you abundantly.
You are not the only one I'm also in the same situation
Sometimes these little things do matter alot and leave u broken 😢
I am the second daughter and this really represent me. It just I did not say it out like her. Till now I choose to keep it myself and I rarely share anything with my parents and siblings. I'm more comfortable sharing things with close friends. I really bawled my eyes out when I watched this series before.
Sending you much love ❤ i also focus on my other relationships more now, it only gets better the more they need you in the future
I am also a middle child, since child I know i am not the most favorite one but thanks God my parent is a good parents eventhough like that i still feel a little bit indifferent as a middle child
As I grown up I just realized that they love me but not always equal and i start to tell my thought and speak what I feel as a middle child to my family, they do try to understand but most of it they just think that I am too sensitive.
So now if it its crucial things for me and my future I "ll speak up but if it not too importants things for me I just celarly show my "don't care" behavior
@@misslen575 thank you for the warm words 💕
@@fy5721 completely understand you with the 'being sensitive part'. I once broke down in tears and yelling for some reason, I am not like the usual me they know. I thought I could make them think that I am truly in need to be understood. But no 😔 my parents and even my siblings said I am being rude and never listen, till I give up to express everything. But now I enjoyed being away from home, working and living my life quietly. Just come back home once in a while.
But what will I do. I'm the first child and I'm always treated like this. I can't serve my food before my younger brothers. And even my friends leave me when I need them
Oh, I know. And maybe in this situation they could also tell you "oh man, you can't even feel happy for your sister, you literally don't care, what a terrible person you are".
I love this drama so much....incredible actors, acting, direction, story and everything....it is the speciality of Korean dramas to force to you to seen kdramas more n more....❤
This scene literally made me cry...
but sadly the parents never understand when kids break up like this, parents always thinks they're just overreacting or just upset about food..
sadly parents never understand this enough, especially when the child themselves is the one speaking up, they mostly think its not a big matter
but that child could hold grudges,bottle up their feelings, accept things as if its fate, and grow hate for both their parents and sibling who is treated with more love....
my parents are like this, but i can't blame them, they have 7 kids, one could possibly be forgotten💔💔
you're so true.....same situation here
Yup
You have a beautiful heart and are very understanding.
❤🫂
The reason why most situation won't change is because the mistreated child is conflicted. They make excuses for the neglectful parents. Believe me they know what they are doing. Most of them hate themselves for their short comings and vent it on the neglected child. It is sad that the neglected child will have to be defensive, but should do it in a quiet rational way.
The beautifully sad part is that in the end, out of all the siblings she was the one who understands, knows, and cared for her parents the whole time. Even when all of the siblings left the house and had their own respective careers, she was the one who took care of her parents.
Kdrama name : Reply 1988
I was searching for this comment. thank you 😊
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋ yᴏᴜ ❤❤❤😊😊
I'm the only child but can feel the pain of being neglected.. ❤.. And the bgm, the acting made me fell harder for this feeling.
I thought her mother was so sweet but when i learned that she didn't like it I started crying
as a younger child I understand it's not possible for a parents to love all children equally but it's possible to love more secretly so that other children won't feel sad.... I was the least loved too ... I know how it feel :) I'm never gonna treat bad any of my children in future if I have :)
Its just every house story of middle child. I can feel it completely who always has to sacrifice for other siblings. I never wanted to be middle child in my other lives its hurt even we tried hard to behave normal
My mom and one of my sister is sitting in the lounge just because I am sitting in the room. Otherwise they always sit in room cause I am in the lounge. I don't know but when I saw this video, my heart broke into million pieces......
You need to confront them immediately.
They’re basically forming a clique in a family. My heart hurts for you.
By this drama i understood sometimes being to matured is also a burden everyone takes you for granted. The proof is this girl crying here .
Ngl sometimes not financial conditions but mindset of moms towards treating a kid like she's not a big deal, making her eat just anything coz she's aware the daughter adjusts
But little did she agree to...."oh I can adjust with anything, that's what I'm taught "
And she gets amazed when someone treats her precious, not because she don't deserve it but that's so rare to her
The reason behind this bcoz she felt the second daughter is the only one who is understanding one .. among her children, it happens..in every family..the most considerate child has to always adjust, it's all about balance , the middle child has to be always the considerate one
This is so relatable... I feel relieved I'm not in it alone... At times i hate having a family but then people would start making me count my so called 'blessings' of having parents and food and shelter and what not... Just because I have a stable life doesn't mean I don't deserve to be loved!
Hmm that’s so true! Everyone deserves to be loved. Unfortunately Sometimes family hurts you the most. ❤
Dear parents, maybe you have many children but we have only you as parents so please be kind to us too.
The pain all middle kids go through 😭 this hurts really bad it's not about food it's about the way they all treat
People can feel love from little little things that someone does for them. It makes them know they are treasured. U give, ur sure to get it gave one way or the other.
These seems just small things but when you are the one who suffer it hurt like hell i hope parents and siblings Don't take these matters for granted
God I hated her elder sister, she only cared about herself and always treated Deok Sun like a doormat. She wanted things for herself and always looked down upon her sister
This is why I was so happy when she was with someone considerate and someone who would solely focus on her and would be biased. Their family might have been normal but these things.. can't really be fixed.
neglected middle child can only understand the pain.
Some parents are so mean.. It makes me sad.. So many people lack good parents including me
DRAMA NAME IS : Reply 1988
we are not rich but we are all treated fairly... now I'm adult and have my own home.. even my 2 cats is treated fairly..
Me also a second child My uncle and Grandmother love my big sister so much BC she grow up there and me staying with my mom and dad that's why mom and dad love her so much and my little brother BC he is boy after two girls I know the pain when your friends forbidden you and your teacher don't see you also and your family pressure+abuse 💔💔💔
Also when the house was on fire.. They left her.. Inside the house.. Forgot bout her.. Like seriously she is also ur daughter.. I literally felt it... The feeling, it made me cry...
I am a middle child and this is exactly how I have been treated my whole life ...and they wonder why I would rather sit alone then to sit with them 🙂
the scene when her father bought a whole cake only for her always makes me cry 😭😭
When you actually thought her parents finally realized what she has been through.. Follows the scenario where she was left in the house while the other two children were evacuated by their parents (smoke engulfed their house due to the briquettes). 😢😅 still this is my all time favorite kdrama, REPLY 1988!
I literally cried during these scene 😭..
As I am also a middle child and I can feel what she went through 😔..
Oldest child, responsible of everything.
Middle child, left out.
Youngest child, spoiled but parents are being overprotective
You should have added the scene where her parents forget about saving her during house smoke/carbon monoxide poisoning. Thankfully she saves herself and being a good daughter, she never disowned her parents.
It's really heartbreaking 💔 I can feel it too as this same things happen to me....still have to face same thing.....and if i say so...i m the selfish person...to not understanding things....
Pov: it's not about the food
I am a second child. Parents often think that the second child is an understanding child. patient and reliable. but they don't know that the second child often keeps their feelings hidden. But, even so, my parents are not as bad as Dook Soon's parents.😢😢😢
Anak pertama kebanggaan, anak bungsu kesayangan, anak tengah kelupaan 😅
Orangtua tidak pernah sengaja membedakan kasih sayang...but it happens just like that tanpa mereka sadari...sad but true ...😢
This looks to be a very small thing. But being partial n being ignored by your parents hurt more than being burned alive. If that happens just work hard and earn your life, your parents will realise n say sorry to you one day,but you accept them that time.
Being a middle child I can relate to this on another level 😔
I know that feeling being the middle child was so stressfull in my life, I thought will be the second but my brother was the second. Well i know my parents didn't mean it that way but that was exactly what i feel being second child for small reasons so easily hurt and in the end, the feeling is just buried alone. 😭😭💔💔
True story of a middle child, even though their parents think that they treat every child same but it's not true, it's always the middle childs are left alone, even though they do & care the most for their parents and siblings
They do not understand her feelings, usually people keep treating that person badly who doesn't says anything. They think that person do not have feelings
There were many such heart-breaking scenes. Loved this K-Drama.
Drama name?
@@AksharaShinge Reply 1988.
Why it's always the middle child ? We are not complaining we just want to be treated fairly 😢
I feel u ❤ im already numb to it and i try to focus on my other relationships and my relationships with my big and lil sister. Ask your parents to get their favorites to take care of them when they need help one day or when they need care when they are old. Then they will know the consequences of their bias
Seriously I miss my father. Had he been here I wouldn't have been treated like this ever. I am Deok-Sun.
I only had my grandmother ..she is gone too 😪
I literally weep watching this video, such parents never deserve such nice children or kids ...
I know how it feels to be victim of favoritism by your own parent. Since I was a kid my mum used to tell me harsh truth about something I'm sad about and broke my heart time to time. Even till this day she does that.
But never saw her do that to my other sibling . She would go out of her , sometimes lie to make her happy but never cared about me.