Bridesmaid ONLY Has A $20 Budget For Her Dress | Say Yes To The Dress: Bridesmaids
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The bride has no idea what she's looking for when it comes to her bridesmaid dresses, but the real problem is one of her bridesmaids only has a $20 budget.
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you mean ya'll couldnt have taken this POOR mother of 4 to a sears/macys/dillards/etc or even a thrift store to find a SIMILAR (darkly colored) ruffled dress that would have probly been half the price? Maybe grab her something from your clearance rack that is close to theme? Shif... idgaf if she was my best friend i would refuse to be a brides maid and just be a normal guest rather than pay $200 for a dress. I wouldnt pay $200 for a wedding dress. I would just wear a basic dress
My twin sis and I were bridesmaids for a school friend. The bride picked pretty dress’s but had them died a dark Christmas green, since her wedding was at christmas. Then we also had to buy new shoes that were white & they also were dyed green. So two dresses and 2 pair of shoes that were expensive. The bride gave us white pearls to wear too. My parents never said a word and paid a lot of money and we never wore the dresses or shoes ever again. Worst colors imaginable!!
My wedding, we went to JC Penney and bought very simple cotton dresses in a pretty spring color, light peach. They were cheap and the girls could wear the dresses after the wedding was over. I would never ask people to pay a lot for someone else’s wedding. Weddings are so expensive now it’s become a competition to see whose wedding is the biggest and best. This was in 1970 so things were not like today. Weddings have become a clown show to me!!!
I don't know why these conversations don't happen before you agree to be a bridesmaids.
I think its because its understood that a bridesmaid at least pays for their own lodging, travel, dress, shoes for the wedding. However, I think what needs to be normalized is not feeling guilty for declining to be a bridesmaid if budget might be a problem. You wanna do this for your friend or family member and you feel honored they selected you to be in their bridal party. Theres a guilt that goes along with feeling like you HAVE to accept or that you cant discuss your budget.
Right, and if that's the cause, you need to be honest with the bride off the bat if money is tight.
I didn't have a bridal party for my wedding and no regrets. I also really don't mind that I've never been a bridesmaid.
@@kiarimarie Personally, I dont think I'm going to have a bridal party either if I ever get married. I have a few reasons for that, this being one of the issues. Its gonna cost some of my friends enough already just to travel to my area for the wedding considering some of them are halfway across the US from me. I most certainly dont want to put extra pressure on them to buy a whole bridesmaid dress too when I'm sure they have appreciate attire already for a wedding. The other reason is family related which is a completely different story lol
Exactly...start at TJ Maxx and Marshalls or similar and work around the base price. 😐
@malamaurer4043 My sister-in-law chose ours from Target online and they actually were $20. They had more of a t-shirt texture yet were still gorgeous in photos. Machine washable and I still wear it several times a month 10 years later.
She paired our yellow dresses with blue cardigans. We all looked gorgeous, even accounting for the variety of sizes and shapes.
The parents of the bride and groom covered the cost for the bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen suits. It makes even more sense knowing almost everyone in the bridal party was a sibling to either the bride or groom.
I was a bridesmaid and my friend gave us a website with dresses under $100. She told us the fabric, color, and length and we were able to get a dress we could afford. We also had about 2 yrs to save up.
What’s the website?
i would also like to know the website
My former friend bought me and her other 3 bride maids a dress for only $55 each. She was lucky to get it at wholesale price. She bought her cake cutting gown at the same place for $200.
Azazie. I corrected my original post. They are not all under $100 but they have dresses under $100@@420bluntly_
@@val-qt8bq It's called Azazie. I corrected my original post. They are not all under $100 but they have dresses under $100
No way they seriously villainized a poor woman for not being able to shell out 220$ on a dress she doesn't like that she won't wear ever again. This is robbery
She should have told the bride she couldn’t afford to buy a dress to be in the wedding. She has 4 children, sometimes when we have children, we can’t do everything we could do before our children. She could have handled the guest book, or helped sere at the reception.
@@nanaberry4120 Being in the wedding has nothing to do with being able to afford a $220 dress that she will only wear once. Many bridesmaids can plan financially to be part of a wedding. That doesn't mean they should be forced to shell out a lot of money they don't have to buy a dress they will likely only wear once.
They who? It was all Krista.
@@jessicaspecht she could have decided to be a bridesmaid, it's really that simple, the bride shouldn't have to compromise because a bridesmaids made can't afford the dress, when you agree to be a bridesmaid, you should realize that you may be spending over $500 between the dress, makeup, activities and whatnot. She should have gracefully declined her offer.
Then you do not accept the bridesmaid position.
The embarrassment and shame in Krista’s eyes I felt so deeply. It’s really hard to want to be there for your friend and have everyone gang up against you when you can’t do what everyone else can. And frankly the bride as her friend had to know her situation beforehand.
But then why did Krista agree to be a brides maid? She should have known she was going to have to shell out some money.
This had me crying! I could feel her pain! I pray she is in a better financial situation to not only afford the things she and her family need, but to also to not be deprived of participating in pleasurable activities due financial strain! ❤🙏🏾🤗
@@janetrouse5917 but she doesn't want to pay that much for a dress she doesn't like and don't wear
@@jirou6228 There are realistic expectations and then allowing pride to get in the way. If she could not afford a dress over $100 you say that BEFORE you go dress shopping. Period. I have very rarely met a bridesmaid that ever wants to spend money on a dress they won't wear again, but that is generally what happens as a bridesmaid no matter if someone says otherwise. Krista, who was childhood friends of the bride, is very comfortable speaking up for herself about her likes but couldn't have a private conversation about her personal budget to begin with? The makes Krista in the wrong, no one else.
Yes and no. Finances can be embarrassing. There's no way she didn't know how low her budget was. She could've and probably should've said no.
My jaw dropped at the cost of those dresses. I didn’t expect them to be over $150.
I’m also shocked that her budget wasn’t discussed beforehand. Poor girl was embarrassed and now the bride is an a-hole if she only pays for one dress and not all of them 😬
I agree and my former friend bought me one for $55 bucks and it was way prettier than these dresses.
Period. Horrendous
@@krisclayfreeno no she’s not an ahole only paying for that 1 when the others clearly stated their way bigger budgets earlier
This is an expensive bridal shop so of course the dresses would be on the pricier end.
The price for bridesmaid's dresses are ridiculous ESPECIALLY when they are ugly as hell! Also, don't just assume people can pay those prices.
None of those dresses were pretty
Finally I was looking for a comment that agreed the dresses were not it especially for that price
I thought it was total BS how they tried to guilt and shame her into buying that dress and just to have her have to fill humiliated for not being able to afford the dress
Actually I liked Kristinas pick most.
They could’ve found better dresses at Burlington Coat Factory for $25 bucks! 😂
The sale assistant saying " it comes with being a bridesmaid, you need to compromise " when talking about the price point being way too high for someone is wild 😒
She meant her attitude. She had an attitude for everything
had she communicated her money problems to the bride instead of being rude and selfish during the try on maybe there would have only been a compromise on the brides end to pay for it . “ if you pay for it “ is not a way you ask someone to help you out
@@wetnoodles5751 i do agree with that, if it's the first and only time she communicated on her struggle, it's out of place. I was thinking that she made it known before.
@@wetnoodles5751 "Rebecca knows my situation and she knows I don't have that kind of money in the bank." implies there was a conversation.
It’s wrong that they’re in that store to begin with
I paid for all of my bridesmaids dresses, and kept them under $100. I couldn’t imagine asking my friends to spend 100-300 dollars on a dress for one day. That just seems extravagant.
It's their fault if they don't rewear it, not yours.
@@saraschneider6781I don’t know where this convention started but bridesmaids shouldn’t have to shell out hundreds for a dress.
She shouldn’t have went to the store that’ll be on TV. Bc all of these dress are a lot. Shoulda went to Dave and bridal
@@siobhanwalker6816honestly when she introduced herself as someone who doesn’t like to be the center of attention, I was like then why be on TV?
@@saraschneider6781 A lot of bridesmaid dresses just aren't rewearable. Not like you can easily wear a full length satin gown to Walmart.
They don't have to shop at wedding dress boutiques. For less than $100, there are beautiful cocktail dresses which bridesmaids could wear.
Yes as soon as it is labeled brisk, they Jack up the price.
Yeah exactly!! There are soo many other places that have nice dresses & are way cheaper
Eshakiti has great dresses that can actually be worn again at a reasonable price.
And so it is.
You can even find really nice dresses at Macy’s with all the coupons and discounts they have.
I feel bad for the girl that isn’t as wealthy. “It’s a gift to the bride” isn’t as easy as all that when it would take a YEAR to save that amount. Some people do not understand.
Krista and bride should have had that talk upfront. Why wait until you're at the appointment?
Then she shouldn't have agreed to being a Bridesmaid. Just be honest and tell her you can't afford it
@@Pidatha even you can understand that unexpected emergencies like car problems or house issues can drain your savings account overnight right?
@@Pidatha I agree and if I can’t afford it then I wouldn’t be a bridesmaid.
she shouldnt have went to an expensive place lol there are godwills everywhere
I feel krystas pain and I see her defensiveness in the beginning and disagreement because she was embarrassed she can’t afford it….so happy the bride was able to help ❤
She was literally forced because she was humiliated on national tv.
If you know you have money issues you shpuld discuss your budget with the bride beforehand. Or decline and ask to take on a different role like doing the invites or something
@@bleechrcreechrror the bride should pay 🤷🏽♀️ it’s her wedding why should anyone spend any money on an ugly dress she’ll only ever wear once?
@@user-nb8tk6hh6x no, she shouldn't. If you don't want to spend money don't be a bridesmaid. Simple. You're not entitled to her money. Or, be honest up front and say you cant afford it. The bride may not be able to pay for everyone, but may be able to help one or two. And idk what kind of Alabama-what-in-the-South weddings you're going to, but every wedding I've been to the bridesmaids dresses were perfectly wearable again for any formal occasion. Just basic long chiffon dresses.
@@bleechrcreechrr As a bride, I would be ashamed to ask my closest friends to shell out $200 for a dress for me, especially if I knew a few of them had money struggles. The fact that a lot of the comments are saying to kick this woman out of being a bridesmaid to not be next to one of her closest friends on her big day, just because she cannot afford to be "on theme" tells me a lot about the kind of people watching this show, not people I would want as friends.
I cannot believe that they all stood there while the girl in the lower socioeconomic stratum was overtly humiliated. This was such an easily dilemma to solve from the get go. There were 6 people (mother included), who all had prior knowledge of her financial situation. All they has to do, is to is divide the cost by 6, and contribute a small portion. And shame on the the sales associates for speaking ever so judgmentally.
And Krista should have pulled the bride over privately before the dress shopping and indicate that she could not afford to buy a dress. There could have been a conversation between them and the mother on other options before any of this occurred in public. Krista should have been more forthright about her situation to the bride beforehand.
@@donnawilson559, they already knew that Krista had severe budget constraints. This was addressed by one of he bridesmaids prior to Krista speaking about it on camera.
Shame on her for putting her friend in this situation on national tv
The friend put herself in this position by not sayin "I cant afford to be in your wedding"
@@geneviasims7617what kind of woman are you to say something like that???
@@miryam.makkkk The one who doesnt speakin up for herself.....
She put herself in that situation by not making it clear beforehand
@@geneviasims7617be a better friend. Two way street.
I got married 5 years ago. I knew what kind of color scheme I wanted. I also told all of my bridesmaids to pick something comfortable and nice looking that fit with the colors. One of my bridesmaids is a single mom and I knew that it was going to be difficult for her to purchase something. Not just for her, but her daughter was my flower girl. So I got the measurements for her daughter. I found several cute ones and had her daughter pick the one she wanted. Boom! Done! It was only $65.00. I also bought my bridesmaid her dress and shoes. I asked if anyone else needed help and they all said no. I told them all I could help if they needed it because all together with my dress and alterations, accessories, my husband's suit and shoes all came in under $1000.00. Every bride should be willing to help cover costs for their bridal party. Just sayin'.
Well Spoken ❤❤...U Are Sooooooooo Thoughtful
I've been married for 28 years and back in my day no bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc etc., would even think of asking the bride to help pay for their clothes WTH...I see things have changed. It's more than enough for the bride & groom to pay for the Wedding, Honeymoon, (New Home my hubby and I purchased a new home too). Then to have to worry about chipping in for the wedding party clothes too OMG!!!!!
I did the same for my bridesmaid. ❤
@@momonie4if someone you love is in your bridal party and they don’t have the money for rent let alone a $260 dress - are you going to kick them out? If you do then they are definitely better off without you. The amount of insensitivity in this comment section is astounding.
You are a good person.
Made me tear up a bit. If they were her true friends they would have understood her situation and not make her feel badly .
She has 4 kids? Are they insane, why the hell are they treating her this way it’s disgusting
Can't believe the bridesmaids are expected to pay for anything 😦 That's unheard of in the UK. The bridesmaids' outfits are part of the wedding budget here
Same in Australia. This is so weird to expect the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses
That's how it should be here in the U.S. too
Use to be here.
Common American L
Especially that you will never wear this dress again
Here's the thing - if you have a close friend/family member who cannot afford the dress, you either change to a cheaper option or pay for it yourself. It is not okay to push someone to spend more than what they are comfortable -- it doesn't show their support to you to blow their budget. If it matters to you that they are in your bridal party, then either accommodate their price range or pay for it yourself.
That said, you don't have a choice about what you are asked to wear. You can ask for certain accommodations for your body type and size, but if the bride decides a trashbag is the correct look, say hello to trashbag dress. Supporting the bride's vision is supporting the bride.
I have a personal modesty standard that is tied to my faith. It's not something I can set aside for a bridesmaids dress.
A friend of mine was getting married and her bridesmaid situation was a mess. She verified with me that I wouldn't wear a strapless dress. It's not something I can compromise on, and we mutually agreed it wasn't the right fit, even though she would have asked me to be her matron of honor.
I was also 6 months pregnant but carrying like I was 8-9 months pregnant because baby was so big. I don't think it would have been unreasonable to change the aesthetic; her dress certainly would look very awkward on a bridesmaid that was heavily pregnant. Still, while I did have hurt feelings, it was her call and I supported her in it.
She still doesn't know it hurt. That was a gift to her because I love her and wouldn't want to add to her stress. We're still friends and that baby is old enough to drive.
Christa should not have agreed to be a bridesmaid because she has 4 kids, and it is understandable that she would not have the budget. Also, the dress is just the beginning: shoes, makeup, hairstyle, showers, bachelorette party, etc. Ka-ching-Ka-ching. Does she expect the bride to pay for all of this for her? It sounds to me like she wants to do all of this, cannot afford it and at the same time resents the bride for paying for it as well as being the most opinionated. IMO Christa set up the bride to pay for this and is so entitled that she thinks that is appropriate since the bride knows her financial situation. It wouldn't surprise me if she was eventually eliminated from the bridal party for her entitlement and controlling personality. In the end instead of being grateful she sounds resentful for the bride paying for the dress as well as not getting the dress she wants, whatever that is. She acts like the bride is at fault for placing her in this situation when she knew before the appointment she couldn't afford the dress.
@gracielou1407 Why shouldn’t the bride pay for it? I paid for my bridesmaids’ dresses. You don’t have to pay for makeup or manicures, just do that yourself.
I do agree that she was rather ungrateful though.
Being a bridesmaids comes with expenses so if you can't afford to be a bridesmaid then either tell the bride you can't be a bridesmaid or explain that you can't afford it and discuss other options.
@@gracielou1407it was over dramatised for good watching
Why was Krista speaking in 3rd person?
To try & deflect from her embarrassment
@@dandare2586wow you're smart
@@sadiya2418 Thank you
I agree with krista those ruffle neck dresses were horrendous
This bridesmaid obviously would struggle to pay for the dress if she's a single mother, strapped for cash. I understand the bride wanting her vision, but the bride would've known that this was an issue before they even arrived. It should've been sorted before they even looked at dresses.
It makes me wonder if it's because the bride went into it thinking they could all just have different dresses so the bridesmaid could pick a cheap one and then once she saw how chaotic it all was she changed her mind and wanted a specific style of dress which then meant a different price too?
If you cant afford to pay for 5 dresses for your bridesmaids then you don't GET them! It's outrageous to expect the whole Disney production performance at other people's expense.
$200 something is insane to spend on a dress for someone else's wedding.
It's an expectation of bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses. If the bride is gonna be outrageous with something expensive then the bride should pay. Your bridesmaid dresses are based on what your bridesmaid can afford. Like knowing her friends budget going shopping at a store like this is out of the question.
For the bridesmaids if you can't afford to participate in the wedding party tell the bride/groom when they ask you that you would love to but can't afford it. Don't just agree then be difficult when it comes to buy a dress. If you communicate and are important to them they will help figure something out with you even if you go 50/50 or if they really like you they may pay for it all.
It's expected for the bridesmaids to pay for there own dress, shoes and accessories
Not in England! We're not that cheap.@@addelineschluckbier1014
Even if it is “expected” for bridesmaids to pay for their dresses, I still disagree. I seemed to be maid of honor like 3 times one summer. It was such a waste on an ugly dress. When you’ve not been picked to be in a bridal party, you have no idea how annoying it is. Yes, it is an honor, that’s why I did it. But, it was also a burden. If you disagree, its probably because you were a bride who made this mistake and can’t stand criticism, but haven’t been invited many times into a bridal party.
Absolutely ridiculous how the store manager tried to push her to spend 220$ it not all just compromise if you love the bride! Some people cannot afford it, and if she got extra money she would prefer to spend it on extras for her children. It was so manipulative and insensitive!
Ikr! Unbelievable
Yeah, I thought so, too. David's Bridal has nice dresses that are $50-100. If I knew one of my friends was having a hard time, I'd go dutch on a $100 dress. Then again, I wouldn't play dress up with my friends. They're adults, and I'd just expect them to wear their best. That's the way it used to be -- the bride and her party wore their best dresses. I swear, people care more about the wedding than about the marriage.
That manager made the poor girl cry.
Please tell me she doesnt work there anymore?!
If the bride knew she was already in a tight financial situation, she should’ve had a talk with her beforehand or even with the other friends asking if they could pitch in
She didn't clearly. Krista was expecting a free dress.
I live in Ireland and was bridesmaid twice. The BRIDE pays for the bridesmaid dresses. Also she bought us each a small gift , like a necklace, as a thank you. When my best friend got married I'd saved up 500 dollars ( euros) as her wedding gift . ( I had two years notice) . She also went half to cover the cost of the hotel room... now I would have paid full price but she insisted that it was HER day and we'd all helped out with planning, phone calls, taking time off work to pick her dress. Go to fittings etc. I can't understand why you would shame someone like this. YOU asked them to be bridesmaid at YOUR wedding. So cough up or shut up....
Same with my sisters wedding. She got us a nice earring and necklace set for us bridesmaids. She ordered the dresses for us and we were fitted ahead of time. I think the “opinionated” friend was a low-key hater though.. the one that complained about the dresses 😂
In America, that's not the case. Each bridesmaid pays the cost of her dress and shoes.
When i was the bride, i took varying budgets into consideration, so that no one had an issue with cost. The whole ceremony/reception was done tastefully, yet very frugally. Even our honeymoon was both memorable and budget friendly.
@@court529I am in America and my former friend paid for my dress. But I paid for the flight to come as I was the only one who was long distance. I had my own shoes too. I stayed at her house for free too so did not need to pay for hotels.
@@court529I agree with this.. Bridesmaids should be paying for their own dresses and shoes..
Im Indian and from one of Indian community and in my culture we pay for everything for our bridesmaid coz after all its our wedding and they are doing us the honour....if we cant afford we dont have bridesmaid.....i cant imagine letting someone pay for participating in my wedding ...
We were so shocked when my sister in America told us bridesmaid pay for their dress in America
Being a bridesmaid broke the bank for me. It destroyed the friendship and we fought until I dropped out after she wanted $400 heels I would never wear again because I'm already super tall plus a mink stole and a satin ballgown. $1500 at least for the outfit not including the limo we were all asked to pay for just for the bride, the car rental, hotel, gifts, flight et when I was unemployed and couldn't afford groceries.
Please tell me you didn’t shell out any money and if you did please tell me you got it back.
@@ashleyt6840 nooooooo we had a huge fight and I dumped her as my friend
Damn girl how tall are ya?
@@theunknowjellybean118 5'10" and the bride wanted me in 3" stilletos... in the winter...in the snow
Oh my goodness! That is so wrong, she’s not your friend, she’s just someone you know.
Krista needs to be ok with saying, “I love you but I can’t be in your wedding party.”
Well other cultures and countries have the bride pay for dresses. I would like to do that for my bridesmaids and if I don't I will use Birdy Grey because they are $99
The Bride should have had a private talk to make sure what someone could or could not afford before asking them to be a bridesmaid
not gonna lie if this was my best friend I would have her stand next to me at my wedding even if she was wearing a T-shirt. But now I am from Russia and we do not have this whole crazy "themed wedding" culture.
@@lizvtaz6 that’s beautiful❣️You are absolutely correct❣️
The bride should just pay for everyone.
One wedding I was in, the bride asked that the bridesmaids find a white or cream dress that made us feel beautiful in. We all had different dresses but they came together and looked beautiful. It was so nice that everyone felt confident and showed a bit of their own style in the dresses.
White dress for a bridesmaid?
@@saraibra7252 If the bride wears a colored dress, she pops up amazingly if her girls are in white. It's such a a nice choice!
@@saraibra7252
If I ever get married, I would request that everyone else wears white/black at the wedding while me and my bride wear coloured clothing ✌️
I did that, too, but unfortunately my experience wasn't as great lol.
One bridesmaid decided to make her dress. I privately offered to buy her dress if she found one she liked "so she didn't have to go to the trouble of making a dress for my wedding" and she turned down my offer because she INSISTED on making her dress.
When we all got together, everyone looked great except for that bridesmaid. It looked like she had thrown a literal tent around her neck. She knew it was a disaster, because she had tried to talk us out of meeting up to see what the dresses looked like together.
When she saw everyone else's dresses and how beautiful they looked, it turned into a pity party/compliment fishing expedition. It was an absolute mess.
She ended up dropping out of the wedding party and didn't even attend the wedding, even though her husband was our best man.
@@SuperdudeHatesMilkI did the same where I let my bridesmaids pick and only requirement was the color and I also had trouble. One of my bridesmaids waited until the week before to get her dress. Then she realized day before she didn’t have time for a hem (duh girl) so she spent half of rehearsal day hunting for a new one. People man.
Another bridesmaid I chose to ask to not be in my party because 30 days out I asked if she had any idea when she’d get a dress and she was just super rude about it and acted like emerald in November was a really hard to find color.
If you can’t afford to be in a wedding it’s best to just decline the invitation to be in the wedding party.
My bridesmaids were my cousins and sister, and I used the money I got from my late aunt to pay for their dresses as a symbolic gesture (she had no kids of her own but doted on her nieces). They were touched and it took so much stress out of the whole process.
I literally told my bridesmaid, "wear what you want". Even then we decided on a solid color dress, etc. But the sweet part was the night before when she revealed she was a few months pregnant. I was so happy, they had been trying for a while. In the end, she ended up wearing a print dress because of the baby bump, and I couldn't have been happier. My biggest requirement: be there.
Way easier like that.
When the day came, and my fiance and I actually married, I cared only that people were there and enjoyed themselves (they did) and did not even notice what they were wearing.
I'm almost 70 and have been in 2 weddings in my younger years. One I was the Maid of Honor and the other I was a Bridesmaid. The brides' family covered the cost for the dresses. They were being made and they just told me where to go to get fitted. There was no "What do you want to wear?" The bride told us what we were wearing.
When the bride's family covers the cost of the dress then you wear what they buy but nowadays the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses so they want a dress they at least somewhat like.
@@NH-tb2smTimes are changing for sure.
@@NH-tb2smyeah I think couples are wanting bigger and better weddings and the only way they can get that is by making their Bridal parties pay for it in one way or another
@@danahickman5716 Yeah, nowadays, bitchy brides are expecting their female friends to buy outrageously expensive and HIDEOUS dresses so that they can satisfy a "vision." Most of the time, they end up getting divorced within five years. Meanwhile, these female friends are expected to be quiet and accommodating, even if the experience humiliates and/or puts them in financial difficulties. This is why bride = bitch in my generation. I've never had an experience where this WASN'T true.
I want my two matrons of honour to be comfortable, both are my age group, I'm 60 and this is my first wedding. We are all old enough and ugly enough to understand our tastes. They know my style and colour and I want them to chose what they want to wear within those parameters. They keep the outfits to wear again and are happy to pay. I do feel that if a woman wants to look like a Disney Princess, she needs to postpone getting married till she realises that it's only one day, and life ain't a fairy tale, grow up in other words.
I think it's totally fair to say that you will wear whatever the bride wants if she is the one paying for it. But if I'm paying for a dress out of my own pocket, I better like how it looks on me!
4 bridesmaids 4 body types and 4 different dresses along with budgets. I gave them teal as the colour and let them know it was a end of summer area, and I hope you enjoy shipping!
She is her lifelong friend. She knows absolutely everything that has happened to her and is going on now. The woman has 4 children, and even if she is married, that is a lot of mouths to feed and clothe. Of course she needs to be in the wedding! But they should have talked first. All the bride did was echo everyone else. The mother said she would take care of it. But the bride gives the wedding party their dresses and a little remembrance gift.
She doesn't NEED to be a bridesmaid to honor a lifelong friendship.
No she doesn't need to be in the wedding.
This issue needed to be sorted out, before they started looking for bridesmaid dresses!
For sure the bride knew, that she would not be able to buy a bridesmaid dress, so there was definitely no reason, to make her feel ashamed in front of all!
Sad, she could've been more thoughtful about this issue!
Over here in Germany it's usual, that the bridesmaid pays for the dress by herself!
This golden dress with the ruffles looked ugly as hell! 🤢🤮
Krista also knew she couldn't afford it so why did she put herself in that position? She is responsible for herself. Yall keep taking responsibility off the one person whose responsibility it was! If they are such good friends there should have been a conversation long before this.
@@tiffytatortots1278 you're really out here replying to all the comments talking about she knew she couldn't afford it... makes one wonder..
No Krista just expected a free dress.
@@tiffytatortots1278 Sweetie-cakes, it's obvious you're one of those girlies who care more about the wedding than the marriage. If bride really wanted Krista in the wedding, then she should have said, "Wear what you want, just pick X color." Or go dutch. Everyone's happy, and no one's breaking the bank. That's the correct, MATURE thing to do. Only little girls care about color AND style coordination of a bunch of grown women for ONE day. Rather, bitchy bride is an obvious passive-aggressive; my guess is that this was her way of forcing Krista to buy the dress (power move) or forcing her out. Brides who play dress up with other people are generally the ones who are divorced in short order. Why? Because they're not mature. And none of these girls are.
It’s easy to say that you shouldn’t say yes to being in the wedding party if you can’t afford these things. But when someone says “would you be one of my bridesmaids??” It doesn’t come with the disclaimer of a detailed list of expenses. And often, you have no control over the choices made. Weddings can get out of hand quickly and people can make decisions not understanding the different life and financial circumstances each person may face. And too often if a person says no to avoid this type of situation, it creates hurt feelings and animosity. When I got married I bought the dresses and jewelry and paid for many other things because I was bringing these people along for the ride and it wasn’t fair to place that expense on them for my day.
Funny how shes the bad person for not wanting to spend 200$ on a dress she hates and would only wear once. And because money absolutely is an object she has to feel ashamed for her financial standing because she struggles to afford the dress her friends can apparently afford. I hate how they were all painting her as the ridiculous one when she was fucking right, those dresses were ugly as hell and you shouldnt have to spend 200$ on something you hate.
This is why I refuse to have a wedding. My friend still mentions that I didn't give her a Bachelorettes party but honestly I'm a single mother of 2 I didn't have it like that.
She doesn't sound like a friend.
Ditch her. Seriously. You deserve better.
That is so terribly rude!
The bride needed to talk to everyone before asking them to be a bridesmaid to see if they could afford it. Then a firm budget number needs to be set. Why does this happen? And lord knows, if you have maids on a budget, get your butt to David's bridal because Bridals by Lori is super expensive.
In this case it happened because the bride had no idea what she’s doing. She had no vision for the wedding and hadn’t even found her own dress yet. She is not the “typical” bride that has been dreaming about her wedding since she was young and has an idea of what she likes and wants. Seems like she would just rather have someone else make all the decisions for her and just tell her when and where to show up for the wedding 😬
Also think they do stage some of these conversations for drama purposes for the shows
Okay but the bridesmaid is old enough to speak up
Why did she not speak up? Maybe she does not dare or she does not like conflict
@@melissamojica9143 Do you know how uncomfortable it is to be so poor you can't afford a bridesmaid dress? Do you know how demoralizing it is to have to tell someone that you can't stand for them on their day because you have to feed your kids and pay bills? We don't know if this woman is a single mom or if her husband lost a job, nothing. It's the bride's responsibility to have this talk with each of the people she asks to stand for her.
@@kwest5171 exaxtly!!!!! not to mention she had said ' so and so knows my situation' maybe when she had agreed to be in the bridal party her situation was different... maybe something came up that had forced their financial situation to change... they said they have been friends since they were children.. felt so bad watching her be publically shamed like this on national television. Poor girl.
When I got married I couldn’t imagine asking any of my bridesmaids to pay for their dress let alone something I like and they don’t. I asked all my bridesmaids to get their dresses at the same store and the same color but I said the style and fabric can be whatever they are most comfortable in and I paid for everything. They looked beautiful and my wedding was beautiful. It’s a privilege to have someone say yes to being in your wedding not a right. I was a maid of honor for a bride that wanted everyone to pay their way and for her and it was a total nightmare to the point where two of her bridesmaids dropped out. Call me old fashion but the bride should pay for the dresses and her bridal party.
When I had my wedding I told my bridesmaids that I wanted a black midi dress, the rest was up to them, sleeves, no sleeves, fabric, details, etc, it was their choice, and they all looked amazing!
Krista is her oldest/longest friend. 2 are sisters, 2 are college roommates. That means the only person Krista had in her corner was the bride. The others could tag team and pull rank, because they're in pairs. It's actually so sad that someone else had to tell the bride that there was probably another reason she was acting that way, and that even after that she made it no easier for her. It's very hard to admit something like that in front of strangers and literal television, or to feel like you can't support your friends because you're not well off. Even sadder that the mother had to bail Krista out. The bride just stood there. Krista tried to save face and drop hints throughout eventually she just broke down. I hope the bride works on being as oblivious as she is, because had she considered her friend more she would've saved her from the embarrassment and stress. I don't even think she likes the dress, she just can't refuse, and that in itself is hard. Hope she's a little better now
Exactly. They put her in a position that she couldn’t refuse. I’m hoping her best friend knew of her financial situation which any woman with four kids would be in- but sometimes friends like that refuse to see due to selfishness.
She shouldn’t have agreed to be a bridesmaid
@@genedycandelario Why not? That's her friend from childhood. She supported her friend by being there for her throughout the process and on her big day, and her friend should've supported her by understanding her situation and not putting her in a compromising position. Give and take is what friendship is about. The dress is the least crucial part of being a bridesmaid, a lot of it is emotional and mental support, encouragement, and a lot of other non-monetary forms of assistance. People like Krista who have grown up with her probably understand her the most and can help her best. It absolutely makes sense for her to be a bridesmaid, and in most countries, the bride pays for the dresses. It's the least they can do considering bridesmaids commit themselves to helping the bride for a couple months to a year or more and adjust their schedules to suit, and they are normally the ones dealing with all the frustration the bride spits out when the process gets overwhelming.
@emilyprentice5581 Lol. There's other ways to show support or be supportive other than being a bridesmaid. She could've simply said, "no."
@@WanderingAlone.OR the bride could’ve paid for the dress, if I was choosing dresses for my bridesmaids I would’ve paid, they might not have another opportunity to wear that dress, so why should they pay for it?
I mean I still don't understand why in America the bridesmaids pay for their dresses when they're being picked by the bride. Imo, that should be in the wedding budget paid by the bride and groom if the bridesmaids are buying dresses they wouldn't normally pick.
It's the same in Europe too 😢
I agree. When my daughter was a flower girl I didn't have to buy it.
I agree I have been bridesmaid 4 times and never paid for a dress x
Good point
Totally agree
Just when did a bridesmaid paying for their own dresses become a thing? I was a bridesmaid three times, not one time did any of us have to pay for our own dresses. If a bride wants a bunch of bridesmaids wearing a specific dress and colour, then she should be prepared to pay for them. Times sure have changed!!!!
I think it wasn't just the dress. She knows it's shoes, hai, makeup, undergarments for the dress, accessories. I hope everything works out.
My best friend tried to back out because she couldn’t afford to buy any kind of dress..I was more than happy to pay for hers, she was my best friend and I couldn’t imagine getting married without her by my side.
When I got married 7 years ago I had four bridesmaids and I paid for their dresses.. they were cute and were something that they could also wear to church or to work as well. They just told me their sizes and I bought them at a cute boutique along with some cute necklaces as a thank you gift 😊
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First wedding, I actually hired my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses,but they paid for their own shoes,just little flat ballet pumps
"Cute"???🙄
@@jb6712 did you see it? No
If it's cute for her it is cute
Bich
That’s so sweet
Why does she talk about herself in the third person?
My thing is how come they do not discuss this BEFORE agreeing to be a bridesmaid
My bridesmaids dresses were 16.95 at Ross lol. I never was one to dream up a big wedding though. The marriage was what was important.
If they have been friends for that long, she should have known not to bring her friend onto the show and embarrass her
Poor Krista has 4 kids! I’m glad the bride will help her pay for the dress to have her participation in the wedding. She deserves to be a part of the festivities no matter what her finances are. 💗
I think she should’ve told the bride beforehand that she couldn’t afford a dress and maybe she could’ve just been a guest at the wedding
@@rayneishadavis7263 Absolutely agree. I think she said the bride did know what she was going through. But you are correct, prior communication ahead of time could have avoided this drama.
Help her be toxic because she can't keep her legs closed?
Bridesmaids rarely help at weddings, all the actually do is reflect their own problems and grievances of the past on your happy day so if you take them to a fitting, you have to be the boss and know what you want, otherwise it becomes silly and emotional.
If i could'nt afford it, id just drop out. Bridesmaids are not indispensable. Be there as a friend.
Exactly al do the same
I agree and having bridesmaids are not a requirement. You don’t need to have any. If you must have one then one is enough. My aunt did not even have one and had a very small and simple wedding. But she is very happily married for 26 years now.
I paid for all my bridesmaids dresses. I don't understand making everyone pay for dress that's your wedding.
Why does Krista keep talking about herself in the 3rd person.
I’ve seen plenty of weddings where the bridesmaids had some sort of theme or color pallet and just mixed and matched and it looked great.
Wow this was a painful thingto eatch. I cringed and grieved at the humiliation that poor woman felt.
I can understand the struggle to pay $200+ for something you don't even like and would never wear again, especially when you don't have it. Hopefully she knows someone who sews and can change it for her after the wedding so she can wear it again.
I loved the way my friend did it. She gave us a website, color, fabric and length. Then we picked three we liked and sent them to her and she picked which ones looked best together from those. So no one knew anyone else’s budgets and most were under $150. And as low as $20 for dresses on sale.
Why does Christa keep referring to herself in the 3rd person
Being in a wedding is always a financial burden these days. If I’m asked to be in a wedding it’s an easy $1000 each time. Its become so outrageous I hope no one else asks me anymore!
Forreal!! If u can’t afford bridesmaid dresses just go elope!
In Britain the tradition is the bride’s family pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, possibly the shoes as well. The bride picks the colour and the style and you just go with it. It’s her day
Love this! I'm in the US, and I had a matron of honor but no bridesmaids. She wore a dress that she had gotten for someone else's wedding, and it was perfect. I got her new shoes as a gift, and they were shoes that she could wear to church, so she was delighted. I simply do not understand expecting your friends to subsidize your idea of how your wedding should be.
I love that the bride didn’t make her feel worse that’s true friendship and I also agree when you ask someone to be a bridesmaid to let them know what their responsibilities financially, emotionally are
Nobody’s going to say anything about Krista referring to herself in the third person 😂
It's okay to decline an invitation to be in a wedding if it's not in your budget.
The bride should pay for the bridesmaids dresses. It's her wedding after all. If she can't afford it, you just have one bridesmaid.
My bridesmaids all wore different dresses, similar colours all very close to maroon colour, 2 wore a floral type pattern both different..
I always just said I wanted them to be comfy and they kinda just worked it out from there.
Everyone looked beautiful and it was perfectly mismatched ❤️
My husband and I chose not to have a wedding party, and while I love SYTTD, it definitely reinforces the choice we made. I believe that wedding party attire should just be a part of the wedding budget (why should anyone else have to pay for the bride's vision?), so not having the wedding party cut out a lot of hassle and expenses.
I had 2 bridesmaids. Told them to buy a yellow dress that they would wear again. I provided the wide brimmed sun hats. It was the 70s but looked so cute.
Don’t ever feel embarrassed or ashamed for not having extra money! I understand pride, I understand struggle… I’m there right now- it’s devastating. But, this is a very special day and you’re a special person to the bride. Accept the help and pay it forward whenever you can in the future. 💜
This has got to be fake drama. You don’t accept being a bridesmaid without KNOWING you have to buy a dress. That’s a conversation you have BEFORE you go buy dresses, especially in front of TV cameras!!! They obviously made this situation happen for tv. Also, maybe don’t have 4 kids when you’re under 30? If you can’t afford an extra $220 now, what happens if your car breaks down or you need a new roof. Pretty irresponsible.
Wow! How embarrassing. There should have been a discussion before filming.
When I got married, my sister helped me find the most beautiful vintage wedding dress at goodwill for only $50.00! It had a train that bustled up for the reception, and it already fit me perf! I had been considering seeing my own (I made my own prom dress), but I couldn't even uy all that fabric for $50, so I totally jumped at the one we found. My sister, and 3 of my friends were my bridesmaids. I chose the color, and let them pick their own dress styles. We went to a thrift store that was known for fancy dresses, and they found ones they loved for $10 and $20 each. Even so, 2 of my bridesmaids asked if they could be ushers instead, because they were shy, and also didn't have the budget for even the thrift store dresses, but they still wanted to take part. I told them I understand, and actually, my fiance only had 2 groomsmen who would be able to travel to our wedding in my home state, so that ended up working out for everyone.
My mother made my sister's wedding dress for 75$ on a 1910 singer treadle sewing machine. Long, puffed sleeves, 3 foot train, seed pearls, the whole 9 yards.
My daughter simply choose and bought all bridesmaid dresses, paid for their hair and makeup, and also the shoes. Problem solved. She saved money on the cake, I made it for her. 😅
The bride knew the situation with her go-to girl. Why did she put her through the embarrassment of all that??
A lot of the comments that I’m reading are actually really good advice on how to handle bridesmaids dresses. I definitely want to get married in the future, and I’ve always known that I would want my bridesmaids in lavender dresses (my favorite color) but now I know that I gotta consider fabric options, everyone’s body type and the season in which my wedding takes place in. So thank you to everyone who is leaving this advice!
We in the UK pay for the bridesmaids dresses, and buy them a gift as well. Well I did when I got married for the first time.
We do this too in Australia- bride pays for dresses, shoes, hair and hair up and jewellery-
I just feel like when you are the bride you have to pay for ur bridesmaids dresses or otherwise you have to know your bridesmaids financial states and then chose budget yourself accordingly and if you see they have kids and they are always busy don't choose them as a bridesmaids you are just gonna make their life more stressful. At the end of the day it's your day so other PPL should not be under pressure for your special day
Súper sweet bride!!!❤ and the bridesmaid, my heart goes for her. It’s was an unfortunate situation. I wish this could at least have been private between the two or something like that
2 of my 5 bridesmaids I knew were going to have a tight budget. I spoke with both of them privately about what they could afford and we worked it out before ever going shopping. One of my ladies could only put $50 towards it. And my parents covered the other one completely. It was a non issue at the store. Money should not be a reason to be excluded from the special day, OR feel singled out or embarrassed when shopping together. The final dress was $120. The brides maids had one color and my maid of honor had a complimentary color. The dress was strapless, but it had optional spaghetti straps for my heavy chested girls if they chose to wear it that way. Which they did. Everyone was happy
She said $20! Girl, why did you even accept being a bridesmaid??? You KNEW you were going to have to pay for things 🙄🤦🏽♀️
Why be in it? If you can't afford it??
Yeah I would’ve been irritated. But also would’ve took in consideration who could afford to be a bridesmaid. I pray when my time comes I will be financially set to pay for my bridesmaids dresses
Guess she didn't know they were going to be looking at dresses that were more than ten times that amount. She probably imagined it would be something she could possibly manage at a stretch.
@@cyflym11 everyone knows bridesmaids dresses are well over $20 lol they aren’t kids
@@florida9728 Of course but there are degrees. I would have thought a lovely dress could easily be bought for less than a hundred, which could be seen as doable if there was plenty of time to save up for it.
By saying 20 she was making the point that she couldn't afford to go way over the top, she didn't actually believe she would get a dress for that. Instead of taking the hint her friends started looking at very expensive dresses and not taking her situation into consideration at all. One of them could at least have whispered to her in the changing room "don't worry, I will pay yours and you can pay me back in installments" or they could have agreed to club together and make a contribution. Instead she was forced to be humiliated in front of the cameras. None of those girls are her friends.
I'm a Bride getting married in a few short months and I prevented my bridal party from facing this humiliation by first off not choosing an obnoxiously expensive store for them to get their dresses but also giving them the freedom to buy their dresses from whatever place they can afford. My mother in law literally bought her dress off of Temu (she's my maid of honor) and it's beautiful
I feel so so bad for her. Sometimes tough situations in your life make you behave in a certain way that others judge you but only you know the pain that is in hour heart.
Different styles and colors are fine-just choose all jewel tones or all pastels etc
I think traditions between the UK and the US are so different when it comes to costs and who’s expected to pay for what. Never, never would I expect for a bridesmaid of mine to pay for their own dress!! It’s completely ridiculous and I would be waving 👋🏻 bye bye to a friend or family member who expected me to pay for mine 😮
why wait until the appointment to bring budget into it. if you can’t afford it, 1. why are you a bridesmaid, 2. discuss that privately with the bride so you can maybe work something out.
My daughter's bridesmaid dresses were burgundy lace,beautiful from Ross for $17 each. Matched the burgundy Calla lillies in bouquets. We paid for it all. Including silver & black satin vests & ties for the men
I paid for my entire bridal party. If you ask someone to be part of your day, you pay!!! It’s just how I grew up. And if you don’t, that’s fine… at least ask them to make sure it’s okay before hand.
I paid for my wedding dress and cake and invitations and flowers and made my own birdseed bags. Paid for my cake. I didn’t pick out the most fancy bridesmaids dresses; I got the color I needed. My parents didn’t have the money. My to be in-laws paid for the cakes and food and the wedding coordinator.
Picked and washed beautiful ivy from a church member back yard. That Ivy was the most beautiful ivy I had ever seen. It ran across their covered pool that they were going to had filled in since they didn’t use it anymore. The vines were so lushes and long. We put them in a large garage bag i a large walk in cooler at my husband to be grandparents. That was 31 years ago.
My husband and in-laws are are deceased. Husband passed from a massive heart attack 5 years ago.
My MIL passed away 6 months before he did; my FIL passed away two years ago. My son and I cared for my FIL after my husband passed away.
Cherish your spouse, and family; You never know when the end is near.
This has been the hardest five years, but God has given me two Grand babies. I love them so much.
I paid for my wedding with my tax refund. MIL and SIL provided food, borrowed wedding dress. Most of the expense was the cake and invitations.
Prayers to you and remaining family members for healing. 🙏🏼 Your wedding sounded like a group effort, resulting in cherished memories --- a foreshadowing of what your marriage and lives together would be. 🌹
That accordion style ruffle dress is ugly. It's not something that I would pick for my bridesmaids to wear but to each their own.
How is no one talking about the fact that Krista is so focused about what she likes and not what the bride likes
And called her scatterbrained… not really a friend if you ask me
@@tooprada606 right?!
Bcs its not tht she doesnt like it. Its tht she cant afford it. She has 4 kids
She's not much of a Maid of Honor is she? She should of helped the Bride during or before organize a cohesive plan for the brides maids dresses.
She could have raised her concern before agreeing to be a bridesmaid.
No one needs a commotion like this at the very last moment.
It’s really not the extravagance of the wedding that makes a marriage strong. It’s the things that you can’t buy that matter the most. My husband (rest in peace, Babe.) and I had NOTHING. When we got married. We loved each other for 44 years until he passed away. I will always love him. Make a commitment to stay focused on what’s really important. The love you have for each other and respect. Always respect. 🙏🏻
That was beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss of the love of your life. ❤❤❤❤ Please reach out if you ever need to.
I've also never heard of bridesmaids paying for their own dresses. In the UK the bride pays for the dresses. I was a bridesmaid twice. Unbelievable.
@marilynmunro-heim6093 Customs differ from culture to culture, country to country, even region to region. This may be unbelievable to you but not to people in other areas where the custom is different. I was a bridesmaid twice, once 50 years ago and once 45 years ago. Each time we bridesmaids bought our own dress and kept it. The bride should keep her choices to a reasonable cost but the bridesmaids should respect that it is the bride's wedding. If Krista really could not afford any dress, she should have had a talk with the bride to come up with an alternative that would be closer to her budget but still fit the wedding expectations. Perhaps borrowing a dress from someone else or shopping at a thrift store, perhaps sewing a dress. If no other option existed, then Krista should have graciously declined being in the wedding party and could ask to support her friend in another role. The bride should not expect Krista to pay an amount way too high for her budget but the bride is also not responsible for Krista's family and finances. There were many other options that could have been considered here. It appears that neither side communicated with each other about this until it reached this point in filming.
This is stupid. If someone is close enough to be a bridesmaid why would you put them in such a crappy position?? People suck.