Real beautiful and thoughtful interview. Thanks to Thomas team for releasing it now. Still so timely and wise. Resilience actually covers many different realities even through words...
Wonderful! Margaret's book 'Who Do We Choose To Be' had a profound effect on me. In this interview, I love when she says that her teacher said to her "You didn't lose your life... you just lost your lifestyle!" Reminds me when I sadly told my Vietnamese Buddhist teacher that I had just lost my job, to which he replied, in broken English, "Well, you may have lost your job, but you will never lose your Buddha nature!" 🙏
As a child, being abused or oppressed by those upon whom you depend, you don't get to choose a transcendent narrative. Instead, your nervous system gets instilled with the shame and trauma resulting from improper witnessing -- the abusers and/or their enablers either deny/ignore that anything noteworthy happened, or they acknowledge that it did happen, because you deserved or caused it. Therapist, author, teacher David Bedrick really drills into this in his Un-Shaming work. Trauma and the shame result when the crime, harm, abuse, neglect is not appropriately witnessed, named, and responded to, thereby leaving the child with a soul-eroding narrative to explain why someone (usually someone who was supposed to provide love/care) treated them so badly.
Real beautiful and thoughtful interview. Thanks to Thomas team for releasing it now. Still so timely and wise. Resilience actually covers many different realities even through words...
Thank you for uploading this conversation now. Very helpful for perspective, direction, empowerment and hope.
Wonderful! Margaret's book 'Who Do We Choose To Be' had a profound effect on me. In this interview, I love when she says that her teacher said to her "You didn't lose your life... you just lost your lifestyle!" Reminds me when I sadly told my Vietnamese Buddhist teacher that I had just lost my job, to which he replied, in broken English, "Well, you may have lost your job, but you will never lose your Buddha nature!" 🙏
Incredible!!! Will be a new direction to my study and sharing this to my group ..so exciting ! Thank you.
48:56 Great question to ask yourself in the midst of trauma! 💜
As a child, being abused or oppressed by those upon whom you depend, you don't get to choose a transcendent narrative. Instead, your nervous system gets instilled with the shame and trauma resulting from improper witnessing -- the abusers and/or their enablers either deny/ignore that anything noteworthy happened, or they acknowledge that it did happen, because you deserved or caused it. Therapist, author, teacher David Bedrick really drills into this in his Un-Shaming work. Trauma and the shame result when the crime, harm, abuse, neglect is not appropriately witnessed, named, and responded to, thereby leaving the child with a soul-eroding narrative to explain why someone (usually someone who was supposed to provide love/care) treated them so badly.