"What Gender are you?" "I'm a Transformer." "No, are you a boy or a girl?" "I'm an Autobot." "I mean, what's in your pants?" "The Matrix of leadership."
@@Tekdruid eh it depends on context I think If you said it with the whole rest of that message, then yeah, but if its just "it would be cool for like a day maybe, but I could go without" Then eh, not necessarily
When I was thinking of a good preferred name, I liked Oliver, but it was too masculine for me. Olivia was way wayy too feminine. So my preferred name is Olive. Yes the food. I also commonly get called "Olive Garden", as in the restaurant. I just thought it would be interesting to share.
As a cis person who knows for sure she is: same here! I was just happy that in that scenario, I'd be getting the two free name changes as well. I don't know what I'd change it to, since I'm happy with my name, but still pretty cool to just have the option there.
As a cis woman who never had the desire to be pregnant... And always have had a weird feeling of envy towards trans men and non-binary people... I have realized that maby I should do some soul searching...
It is not so much the desire to be pregnant, as some trans men get pregnant and have kids, but it is the desire to be a woman, that person clearly has expressed that if they woke up as a woman they wouldn’t identify as a man but instead happily live life as a woman, it is clear that they would view themselves as a pregnant woman if they got pregnant, trans men who get pregnant say they are pregnant men, but this person isn’t like that, they clearly do have some deep hidden desire to be a woman.
@@Anon-rt3fx thank you for that explanation, I’m a trans male whose laying here with my 2wk old baby rn…. I did in a way desire to be pregnant but it was about wanting a lovely family with my significant other. Many days the feeling of dysphoria was SO MUCH WORSE because I was pregnant, but her little self 1000% was worth every bad emotion on the trip here. Thank you for explaining how your never less trans for doing what’s needed for you to have children/ make a family.
.... As a AFAB, I wanna tell 'em Go For It. I don't want all this blood I ent gonna put to good use, I'm a disabled repulsed Ace with no motherly instinct! XD So wouldn't even even if I wasn't disabled XD
"I'd rather be a girl but I don't hate being a guy." You know, it sounds normal when someone else says it, I don't why I thought it would sound weird if I said it.
Oh cool so it's not just me. Yeah for the longest time I thought that meant I wasn't trans enough and I should just put up with my body and likely die alone because I had little to no interest in dating as a cis man. Nevermind the fact that I hate my facial hair and really all my body hair. I don't know why I put myself through things I wouldn't want my worst enemy to go through.
I am trans myself and I had the similar "blissfully unaware" thing, only it was being acutely aware, trying to assert that I am the most tomboyish tomboy to ever exist but still not being allowed to sleep in the same room as my older brother and male cousin, but being too uncomfortable to sleep in the room with my sister and female cousin, so I got stuck sleeping on the couch. Crying because I didn't understand why I was different.
Yeah, I just thought it was normal to pretty much hate being a girl (later woman) for almost everyone not born male. Then I thought I can't be a trans man, since I'm not all that tomboy-ish, I DO have "female" traits and would occasionally (like, a handful of times a year) enjoy a dress etc. But I didn't enjoy how I look in one, since boobs and all (waaay to big to bind, btw). I'd prefer to wear this with a completely different body. Then, one day I realised, I'm just a man who's sometimes a bit over the top (I call it "william shatnering") and on a few days enjoys "crossdressing".
Fun fact: that one picture with a person being interviewed about their ideal girl and that they are frustrated about not being born as one is the mangaka for a manga named Stop!Hibari-kun! featuring a trans girl main character that was first serialized in Weekly Shonen Jump in 1981. For a manga of its time, the manga does a good job of conveying the main character in contrast to her family's transphobic views.
Hell yeah! Also Eguchi stated that many people wrote to them letters saying that this manga finally pushed them to start "crossdressing" and that its wonderful
@@TurtleInATopHat they are an egg, and it might've changed more recently but last I knew they were still living as their birth gender because they "didn't [transition] young" and felt like it was too late :((
Hey friend, as was being said you can't appropriate feelings. If you feel it, that's you, not someone else. You're valid, but even more important: your feeling are valid and important. Don't doubt yourself, you choose your path and you alone.
Yeah... I felt it too. Especially since I'm mostly fine with my body, and my gender is a very ambiguous thing that seems to wobble this way and that, so... yeah.
This comment thread, and the comic it was based on, has encapsulated my feelings in a way that I don't think anything else has. Thanks for that guys Hope we all get somewhere, somepoint someday and even if we don't we're happy anyways
@@elieli2893 i though "gender roles are bullsh*t so feeling feminine doesnt make me a woman. im fine being non binary because i dont like the idea of being a man" so i never took E as i didnt wanna be a woman but i keep getting called maam and for some reason it makes me happy. i try to look as gender ambiguous as possible yet im fem passing without trying
@@elieli2893 I've always said that being trans isn't gender dysphoria, it's the lack of gender euphoria. You can feel fine about being one thing, but if you feel happy being a different thing, be that thing. Keep in mind that thing doesn't need to have a label, nor does it need to stay the same.
8:05 The HRT pill one. "I offered a single oestrogen pill to my guy friends in the pub and every one of them physically recoiled in horror" ...So...What does it mean if i would actually want to try it?...
I've been really stressing over everything lately but the camera boop OT did in this video made me forget about everything terrible that i was stressing over.
to the """gender critical"""" it's all fun and games until dysphoria kicks in... trust me I am a trans guy who played REALLY WELL the woman skin... But it's not good on the long run. Dysphoria happens. It's inevitable
Honestly that whole thing was such a textbook check-back-in-two-years-and-see-if-she-figured-it-out level of egg in denial "don't all cis men dream about being women?" that I'm honestly wondering if it was deliberate. Of course I still don't know how *I* didn't figure it out for as long as it took me, so I'm in no position to judge.
I think my sibling may be an egg. They specifically expressed to me "there's a reason all of my characters are able to swith sexes at will." They have also expressed interest in waking up one day as the opposite biological sex and using gender neutral pronouns. They have also stated that they don't really feel strongly connected to the concept of gender and don't really care for their gender assigned at birth. They've opened up to me a lot about these kinds of things since I've come out as agender.
Same. I had written and illustrated a lot of characters like that too. They are shapeshifters in a futuristic society that has abolished traditional gender roles. For some reason though, it took me years and years to figure out what I was trying to tell myself.
I was definitely like this, excluding creating characters, as I never had created non-binary characters cuz I didn’t know/understand what it was when I was younger. It’s more of how I express myself not only now but also back then. I liked being able to be shirtless at home and not have to deal with my body, and I got angry that I was going through puberty. I tired to act like I was fine with it and sort of ended up convincing myself that I was fine with it, only until recently where I realized my gender wasn’t what I was comfortable with. I also wanted my hair cut short for years and finally got it and I’ve never been happier. Now I know I’m non-binary and I’m comfortable being myself.
I remember one time I was out with Friend and someone offered them a chicken nugget and they said “no thanks I’m a pescatarian” and this guy just went red and shouted “I DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR GENDER OR SEXUALITY I WAS ASKING IF YOU WANT A CHICKEN NUGGET”
I started binding before I realized I was genderfluid and excused it by telling myself I was "just dressing up as a male character" When it wasn't Halloween And I wasn't going to any convention. Just dressed up because *for some reason* I liked looking like male characters. (Edit: Grammar is hard)
9:38 So, this made me start crying. I never had words to explain how I felt dysphoric before I was aware of the idea of transness, and this HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD. Thank you so much for this 💜
Took me so long to realize that not all boys dreamt about being Ariel from the little mermaid. Good lord the things that movie made me feel and think when I was a kid. It's like a core memory. To this day, it's one of my favorite Disney movies.
I am he/him cis but I would throw my gender into the woodchipper if I could get every person I ever have or will meet to refer to me as "Cap'n" Maybe I just need to wear the hat for long enough...
I'm genderfluid, born male, if I was going to change my name I'd use Akira. Since as a Japanese name it can be either male or female. Only issue is I look very masculine, so pulling off feminine looks is hard.
The same for me expect I was born a girl. I have a very feminine body and I sometimes wanna appear male but I can't. And people just assume your a girl all the time and I'm there in a pineapple button up and cargo pants like 👁👄👁
I'm a demiguy born female and I just want to look slightly masculine but the thing is, I have a very feminine body type and I hate it. So I have the same problem. Edit: Sometimes I wanna look feminine but more often than not, I want to look masculine.
Same, except I was born female. I look very young and *might* pass as an adult, on a good day. Plus, my voice gets higher when I'm nervous. So, maybe if I'm lucky, one day, I'll be able to pass as a 10 year old boy =w=" Also, Akira's a pretty cool name, I think if I wanted to change my name, I'd pick Gabby.
Same but opposite for me. I’m afab and I’m physically very feminine. I have a high voice, I got big baboobas, thunder thighs, etc but I just wanna be a shadow being with no tangible body and when people look at me they die :/
Tips as an afab person Flared and poofy skirts help balance out wide shoulders and can give an hourglass or pear -ish silhouette (depending on your body) softer/drappier fabrics tend to read as more feminine ruffles on the chest can produce the illusion of breasts high waisted pants and skirts make your legs look long and are usually worn by women. if you want to wear makeup, there are tons of tutorials on youtube. Remember, even afab people have issues feeling that they don't look feminine. Because of this, there are many tips for looking more feminine. Look up stuff you feel makes you feel masculine and how to dress/style for it. For example, how to dress for a flat chest. With all these tips, take what you want, ignore what you don't. You get to choose what femininity means for you. Good luck.
As a genderfluid person who identifies as agender most of the time, I'm very glad to have been given a gender neutral name at birth which I love, though I cannot wait till I can get a binder. Thanks for making these videos which make me feel a little bit more light-hearted and open about my feelings ;)
Here's an event that happened in my school and warmed my heart, restoring my faith in humanity: Two years ago in a class in my school, all the boys bought the school hoodie in pink to protest against the "Pink is for girls" stuff. It was amazing to see them just hang around the school looking confident and super cute in pink
when i came out to my friend (which is amab) as trans, he was like "why would you wanna be a man i dont get it??? if i were born a woman id be so happy??" and ranted to me about how much it sucks to be a man and how much he wishes he were born a woman and i had no heart to tell him thats not cis thinking. EDIT: she*, she*, she* her*. the egg had cracked.
that’s super sweet honestly. i had a similar thing happen when i came out as a trans masc enby. i’m glad your friend was able to come to terms with who she is and was able to accept herself.
I'm having a panic attack right now and I am very dissociated so I'm watching OT'S videos for comfort. I hope he reads this so he knows that he helps me feel better. ❤️
Everyone but my mom knows I'm trans or at least not cis. I didnt have a "coming out" moment with my grandma. I was just talking to her about clothes or something and I got caught up in anger and complained about how my mom didn't let me get these boxers briefs. My grandma cut me off and said, "Oh, you're transitioning?" I didnt know how to respond and just mumbled"uh um no..." "Ah that's okay, you can be whoever you want to be, Ya cant fight what feels right." Oh.. Edit: my mom just bought me a binder, no questions asked. I'm just gonna go die now..😶
I have mental breakdowns when I think about how I’m a “girl” and I’m probably a trans man, but then sometimes I’m like: “Wait.. am i.. *faking it?”* but I know I’m not
"I'm figuring it out" may be a useful response to those intrusive thoughts. It's a spectrum. Trying to figgure out where you fall and the best label to describe it is a process, and even for those who end up at "I'm a somewhat gender non-conforming cis person" a valuable one. Worries if you're "faking it" are understandable and common, but never productive, and you can always describe/think of yourself as questioning or exploring your gender until you have a more solid idea (and NB is a pretty broad category that a lot of binary trans people think they fall into as part of their transition, so that's possible as well). The main thing to keep in mind is that it's find to be unsure and still figguring yourself out. Infact, if you take that sentiment broadly, it probably applies to most people.
Noone can tell you what your gender i but that doesn't sound like a cis-girl-thing. And something nice to remember (what I probably also should tell maself more often) is that if you think you are fanking it you probably aren't.
Same here. I despise being referred to as feminine pronouns and yet I sometimes am like oooo I wanna dress like a cute lolita girl. And then I'm like am I really a dude???
Honestly, finding out my gender was like hitting my head against gender, and right after hitting my head harder and flopping on the ground, and finding a bunch of shiny gender I think is nice. I think that’s the best way that I can describe it.
I wanna be feminine, yet masculine, yet both at the same time, yet I don't wanna be neither. Help :,) [Thank you to people who are suggesting labels to me, but I'm not necessarily talking about gender identity, but just gender expression. However, this comment can apply to gender identity as well if you relate, you're valid, ily ^^]
Best advice.. get chonky (within reason) and be happy. That way you can easily pass for all three without much effort depending on how you feel that day
The closes I feel to wanting to be a woman is having boobs but I still wish to keep my crotch like I just want bobs cause they look so cool and fun. But I still wish to be a man. Why can’t men have boobs 😡
To anyone considering ordering mantis eggs: PLEASE make sure it's a native species! As a bug nerd I cannot stress this enough how important insects are to the ecosystem and introducing a foreign predator will be incredibly harmful.
15:23 i had a nonbinary friend who named themselves “windex”. I didn’t get it at first since MOST of thr times people bane themselves something else. But when I heard that their deadname is “sarah” I immediately understood that choice of a new name. They were fucking awesome.
That feeling of "I *so* wish I could get pregnant!" was one of the first big cracks in my egg! I'd be the happiest person on earth if I could carry my own children.
At the rate this is going, maybe it'll be a possibility one day. Don't bring your hopes up, but... Well, it's not too far out there honestly. Though... Actually, since the human body doesn't produce any eggcells after their birth... I don't know, but you go queen(I'm assuming you prefer female due to that)
@@dominiklehn2866 I know it's a thing that you can take out non-zygote dna and put it inside of a sperm cell so two lesbians could have kids for example (or at least that's something in development, don't think it's widely available as a thing yet) so if you could do that you probably could also take non-zygote dna and put it in an egg cell...matter of fact I think that might be how cloning works though that might be wrong
@@mermaidismyname I think that she means the actual feeling/process of being pregnant, not just having a baby with their own DNA (actually that's technically already possible with sperm freezing and other things).
@@mermaidismyname oh yeah, that sounds familiar. Though sperm cells themselves are to my knowledge too simple to be part of this process without an eggcells which would then just be in-vitro insemination.
On the flip side, as a trans guy I have had literal nightmares and panic attacks about being pregnant despite never having any adult fun time of any kind with someone who produces sperm
Funny story, I got surprised by the same Stardew cutscene not too long ago. And I named my farm Gayest Witch Farm so Marnie ended up saying Mmmm… Gayest Witch eggs. It’s the little things that matter most. -w-
I would just like to say: OT covering this subreddit and being wholesome is the primary reason I realized that I was trans. And now, here I am, a still mostly closeted trans girl who is being hurt by the relatability of these memes. -A recently cracked egg, beardo who didn't ask to be one, and proud a weirdo
As a forcibly shattered egg, I'm very happy that you're taking your time with coming out, and realizing exactly who you wanna be. Don't stress about feeling like you're hiding things from people because what matters is that you feel safe about giving up information that is yours and yours only to release
For me I'm just confused tbh. I dress as a girl and recently started doing so in front of my family even though I told them about this all a year ago. I just don't really know what it means to be a girl. I think I like female pronoums but haven't committed to any public declarations about my gender people mostly just accept me as me and how I dress as how I dress.
i have a bad habit of aggressively correcting myself when i start stuttering, so when i realize i’m accidentally misgendering someone mid-sentence i start aggressively using the right pronouns/name. i have a friend who recently came out as trans and i still mix up his name sometimes, so talking to him is often like “hey, dar- *CALEB* ” he knows i’m just correcting myself and he thinks it’s really funny lol.
@@SkullQueen_Chloe i cant show skin because im embarassed of my body hair im getting laser removal for. im looking forward to the future i can wear skirts
@@RaineBans fair enough. Ngl, because of the people I live with my first thought went to “I’m ashamed to be seen in a skirt but I want the money.” Hope you have a wonderful day friend!~
@@SkullQueen_Chloe 1000 bucks is decent money so i'd say its worth it even if you dont like it. again you dont even have to go out in it so its pretty stupid to refuse
"Sponge after the Bob!?" Is now something I'm going to say every time someone mentions the word sponge. You're seriously one of the best, funniest, and sweetest people I've ever even thought of. Thank you for existing, OT. :]
Gender Neutral Formal, "Good day, noble customer. How may I assist you?" "Excuse me, m'leige, but you dropped your phone." "Honored existence, welcome!" "Yes, elder!" "Yes, Soup." (As in supervisor, actually have heard that one before.)
I definitely should have realised I was trans much earlier when I was really young and wanted a pixie cut, and everyone told me "People are gonna call you a boy" and I just said "That's okay!"
I've always wanted to be a boy, but I don't know if I'm trans or just like the idea of being a boy. I remember one day having my friend's mother call me a boy or something like that, I was happy in the inside but pretended to be mad about it, my friend corrected her mother and I was... confused on what I was feeling, I didn't know if I should be happy or sad. Life is confusing when you're a teenager
I very much asked some of my cishet male friends that question, was shocked and confused when they said they would not. Egg days really do be like that
12:37 oh hey, it's conure! Love that person so much, and I love her analysis vids. They're always do well articulated in my opinion, and he's got a very strong stance on his arguments but still can admit when they've been wrong
You would not believe the add I just got, while watching this video specifically. It was an add of a Straight Cis person talking about how Feminists and LGBTQ+ plus activists are “trying to change the most basic cultural things” all because someone wrote a book about Santa having a Husband that had more Melanin than him.
straight people are the ones making movies about how santa’s real and people who don’t believe in him are jaded adults which is so weird because santa’s literally not real? what’s with the obsession with lying to kids?
Hehe fellow polytheistic curser. I, too, use "gods". (also, I'm a trans girl who wants to go to my boyfriend and give him a big big hug. I want to be in his arms (i love my Alex))
I was a hawk crew chief, we had gay, trans and everything to include cis in our ranks. The stuff we all survived together. Lol. Not a single one of us cared what anyone else was. We did our jobs. Came home alive and all of us face palm about these morons that act so phobic.
Hey youre treding in some dangerous waters there. "If you want to send me $1000 to wear clothes for a week" is almost EXACTLY what f1nster said and look where that got them!
I'm currently six months pregnant and one of the only things that soothes the baby, to stop her kicking my ribs, is watching the videos that OT puts out. They're so wholesome and make me smile so much, I think we've got a young beardo or weirdo coming soon!
As a totally cis male person I can confirm that every cis man wants to be a woman. 9:00 Thats Hisashi Eguchi, author of Stop, Hibari-kun! which features a trans girl as one of its main characters.
Fun fact: Lincoln is now suspected of having had Marfan Sx, a genetic condition arising from a defective fibrillin gene that causes elongation in limbs, facial features, blood vessels, etc. due to abnormal connective tissue. It's actually quite common. (Ann Coulter, for instance, has it.) Also, gosh, the nostalgia. My brother and I used to get those egg sacs and hatch them in glasses with stockings over them (for airholes) so we could try to separate/raise some of the babies before releasing them all.
10:00 I wanted to look like this even at age 10. Whether I was a girl or boy didn't matter, I just want gains. I still want gains, and I'm still seen as a woman. I'm AFAB. Assigned Fab At Birth.
Reminder for everyone reading this : Your gender is valid! Your sexual orientation is valid! Your romantic orientation is valid! You're valid! You're a nice person! It is perfectly okay to have boundaries. Have a lovely day/night!
One day, OT will greet us just with “Hello weirdos.” And I am stoked for the chaos that will come forth Also, I love this subreddit with my whole being.
13:50,for the last 3 months ive been really stuggling between if i am trans or not, and one of the big things was I dont hate my current body and have no dysphoria that I notice, but it also seems like theres something missing.
Dysphoria is not necessary to be trans, not every trans person feels dysphoria. Gender euphoria is the uniting factor in the trans experience. If being called something other than you assigned gender makes you feel happy, than it is likely that you are trans. But only you can decide if that's what best fits you.
How I realized I was trans: I Questioned my gender over a year ago and thought I was still cis after a day of thinking, (the denial was strong and my knowledge on gender + pronouns was weak), until I recently bought Animal Crossing and would dress up my character as feminine, masculine, androgynous, etc etc. I got SO much serotonin from that, it was unreal. After a week of doing that, the back of my head started questioning my gender identity again. I went on the internet, and found a website (i think it was called Pronoun dress up?) That would let you put in a name and what pronouns to use, and then generate a sentence from that, referring to you with whatever you put in (It had maybe over 5 slots to fill in with pronouns). after a test run, I quickly knew I was not cis at all. I still haven't handled the whole "do i want to change my name or not and if i do what would I even name myself" situation but I'll cross that bridge when I get there Tl;Dr Animal Crossing made me realize I was non-binary, I blame the Able Sisters
I tried pronoun dressing room and as soon as I put in he/him/his pronouns, I got major goose bumps and smiled like an idiot and it confirmed it for me tysm
I took a long time to realize I was nonbinary because I didn't even know it's actually a thing. So as an afab I felt a very close connection to androgynous characters or male characters with very feminine traits because that's the best I got at the time. On the internet I always picked neutral nicknames and pics so I would either pass as a guy or a genderless person. I still wasn't sure what the heck my gender was until someone referred to me as they/them and I began to realize that I'm in fact agender. I'm still fine with being referred to as a guy even though I don't identify as one, but I don't feel the same when someone calls me a woman. Probably because it made me feel so insecure and uncomfortable in the past to be treated like a girl that it only brings back bad memories.
My gender denial was strong (strong still) and it lasted for two years after I was shamed back into the closet after trying to come out as genderfluid. I have to say I have to blame anime and BL manga for mine though. I would be insanely jealous of androgynous anime men then I would wake up the next day “that was weird. Why should I wanna be a man?” My eggshell recracked recently when I saw a trans masc talk about making a trans affirmation sim in Sims 4. I though “wow what a fun project”. Then I got to see a flat chested version of me and the unexpected feeling rightness that came over me. Two years of telling myself my feelings were wrong was suddenly silenced TLDR: Being a massive weeb and Sims 4 are to blame for my genders
Hey OT, just wanted to let you know that not only did you crack me, you were part of the puzzle that made me realize I was even an egg to begin with a few months back. I don't know if I'd have made it there with so relatively little damage without you, and so soon. So, thank you.
5:58, I used to be in the military and had my blood tests done by a Trans service member, AND I HATE NEEDLES WITH A DYING PASSION. They made me so comfortable that I could survive the visit and not panic. 12/10 best military service I've ever had.
in regards to the praying mantis: it's actually very common for mantis to engage in canibalism, from the moment of birth. they are BRUTAL and most of the mantis will probably eat each other. They have very much influenced horror, including for me
Casually getting flashbacks to watching OT's egg_irl videos thinking "Wow, this stuff is interesting. I'll be an educated little ally, but I'm not trans myself" Oh boy how that changed. Literally. Oh, BOY that's different
The "it feels like I'm appropriating real trans people's feelings" comic felt kinda familiar to me, bc it looked a bit like what I was feeling : I like being a girl, but I'd rather identify as non-binary, use gender neutral pronouns, look less feminine etc. I often remind myself that I'm cis, and that I shouldn't really envy enby people, just to try and feel special, cause they probably dont have it as easy as I do with gender. But I still get this weird feeling, constantly swaying between "You're a girl, you're fine with being a girl, so stop acting like that" and "I want to cancel my gender subscription" It's kinda weird and tbh I hope I'm not the only one in this situation
I hear ya, I tolerate my 'default settings' and at this point in life probably wouldn't risk my career to change anything, but between the immense appeal of falling somewhere outside the gender binaries and the pretty significant gender envy I've found I have toward people whose expression falls outside the binaries, it becomes a weird bit of mental gymnastics of whether I really qualify/feel/am somewhere outside those binaries, or just find the concept so darned attractive (I don't know if I explained well, sorry)
Same. I think my brain is non-binary, but I don't know if I'm actually non-binary(more like non-binary enough), I'm also not sure if I'm confusing not fitting in for other reasons with gender. I don't know if that makes any sense.
I felt so free when I realized that HRT would make some changes to the body I already had but it would not steal my body and replace it with an alien one. I don't have to hate my body to be valid; I have to love it enough to customize it and get comfy in it.
As a demiboy who was AFAB, I've often questioned my identity due to the type of dysphoria I face. I am very uncomfortable with my body, but I actually quite like my voice (as high-pitched as it may be). I never really felt like a true demiboy because of it, and I always questioned whether I was faking it or not. Watching videos like these helps remind me that there is no "true way" to be trans. Some trans people experience crippling dysphoria while others don't. Some trans people don't want to undergo hormone replacement therapy while others do. The only "true way" to be trans is to just be trans. You don't have to have dysphoria caused by everything to be trans, you just have to be trans. You are loved and so very valid no matter what you experience! I hope you have a wonderful day/night/evening/whenever you're reading this. 💚💚💚
15:03 i gave myself the internet name "frey" long before i knew i was a demigirl. i just felt,,, comfortable as "frey". also, only later on did i find out that "frey" is the name of a norse god. im from a nordic country. overall, very good name choice, well done 11 year old me-
It's so so lovely to see everyone sharing experiences and how they feel in the comments^-^ my gender rn is just "gaaaaAAAAAHH WTF EVEN IS THIS???!?!?" and seeing so many people on the internet relate to that is really helping❤
I feel u sm lol- it’s calmed down for me since I came out as nb but it used to be rly confusing *all the frickin time* so I get at least a bit of how you’re feeling- for me, putting a specific label on it stressed me out so I settled for the broadest one I could both sexuality- and gender-wise (nb and queer) so ye Wish you the best~ just know there are ppl out there with experiences like yours. you’re not alone ❤️
To the applefrither post about formal words for nonbinary folks!: One that I've heard and want to use for myself is Mist/Mistrum! A replacement for Mr./Ms. And honestly it sounds so much cooler than the gendered ones... P.s. I can't remember if this was in another one of OT's videos, but I got too excited to not mention it
My favourite non-binary formal title is Chief. Before I was born, my parents thought I was going to be a boy, and my dad wanted to name me Chief Brody, first name Chief, middle name Brody. Then I was born, and they found out that they wanted be wrong about me being a girl too, thus my mother named me. So I like to think of Chief as my non-bianary birth name.
13:47 *This particular comic* has stayed in my head since the first time I saw it, when this video was uploaded. I relate to this comic so painfully much and whenever I´m in doubt again, I remember this one comic and it allways makes me immediately feel much better and sure about my gender identity again. Thank you for putting this comic in your video, OT. This is going to stay with me for a very very long time to come. I don´t know if I´d be as confident in my gender identity today, if I had never seen this comic. Thank you!
Idk why, but when OT said he’d wear that clothing for 1K(6:47), it was really gender affirming for me. I’m Enby and have present as Femme, I feel like an imposter sometimes. But when OT just completely neutralized it, it felt really nice. Thank you OT❤️
When I was a kid I used to wish I would one day wake up as the opposite gender. I haven't felt that way I years, but I can't help but wonder what my life would be like if my child self had heard about being trans
8:58 - 9:10 Made me cry. It snuck in there and hit me in my feels. Some times I wish I was born cis to avoid all the suffering i have faced because I am trans. Then I remember that I suffer because society is cruel, not because I am trans. Trans is beautiful and adds variety and character to life. Not being one of the default genders is a wonderful thing to be proud of.
I feel the same way about having adhd. Neurodivergence is a wonderful thing when neurotypicals aren't trying to suffocate you in a box. We're both gonna make it 😘
9:50 Actually why I'm thinking if I want to be non-binary, since I both love being a girl, and can't grasp that I'm a girl. Victorian era style clothing is about how I can easily understand gender
I started watching OT in February when I just realized I had these feelings™ at 24. Took me until October to be able to get out the words 'I need to transition' to my counselor. It's so hard to voice it still but I'm getting there. OT is definitely one of the creators that helped me on my self acceptance journey.
It took a lot of years for me to accept myself (my sexuality. I guess I still don't accept me.) I wis I could have had content like this when I was young. Anyway congratulations on starting the journey. Best wishes on finding your true self!
On my 28th rotation around the Sun, I have finally opened the surprise box that is my enby-ness xD I was definitely the person who was blissfully ignorant of the whole concept of gender as pertaining to myself, and when I then started thinking on it, my whole existence fell apart :'D
Dude you know how powerful I’d be with my dress and hijab and then someone tries to fight me and I just pull up my arm while my long sleeved shirt underneath reveals the shape of my hardcore guns? Yeah. That’s who I want to be.
I was born female. When I was a little kid, I was convinced I was a boy. When I voiced that thought to my Catholic grandparents (who were taking care of me at the time), they lost their shit and made it very clear to me that I was a girl, I needed to play with dolls, I needed to hate getting dirty, I needed to wear dresses, I need to like pink, and when I grow up, I needed to find a husband, have kids, and be a perfect little catholic housewife. They had me convinced for a while. I forgot all about thinking I was a boy and dedicated myself to trying to be more feminine and follow the lead of the girls in my classes. But I always felt alienated from them. I always felt more connected and related more to my male classmates, even if they bullied me most. I was 14 or 15 when I learned what transgender meant, and I refused to believe thats what I was. I went through phases of believing I was nonbinary or genderfluid but the truth was I always came back to the idea that I felt like a boy. I didn’t accept that I was trans until I was 20. I am now 21 and finally beginning my transition. Point is, even if you think you can convince kids they're not trans- even if you manage to get them to believe, for a while, that they are their gender assigned at birth- you cant change trans kids. All you will do is traumatize them and make them afraid, but above all, you will make them resent you. And then they will go and do what they want anyway as adults. That includes transitioning. I have always believed I was a boy. Now I'm finally starting my journey of becoming the man I wanted to be since I was in preschool, getting jealous of my grandpa's moustache and wondering why I kept getting in trouble for things boys were allowed to do. My grandparents are out of the picture, and the rest of my family is supportive. They haven't quite gotten used to me being their son/grandson/nephew but theyre coming around, and I have never been happier
I remember as a kid when one of my parent's friends would come over sometimes, she, like several other people in my life, was trans, and had adopted the name "Pi". She also wore a choker with the pi symbol all the time which I thought was the coolest fucking thing in the world
I still remember the fear in my partner's eyes when coming to me to tell me I didn't have a boyfriend I had a partner. I was like "Oh thank god, I thought something was wrong" He felt so bad for keeping it from me for so long. and yes, my brain did the selfish "Why did you tell your friends but not me" thing but I threw that thought out quickly because, their friend was trans and has been helping them deal with the confusion, and I'm their girlfriend who they were terrified of losing. I know damn well knowing I would accept them, which they admitted they knew, was not going to stop the mind numbing terror of actually saying it for the first time to me.
Your SO is lucky. I'm still figuring out the nitty-gritty of my identity, but it's sure as heck not binary and my wife has repeatedly balked at reminders that depending on what I figure out I may want to be referred to as her "spouse" rather than her "husband."
Just remembering the friend who was insisting they were a cis man but confided in me that when they were sad and stressed they fantasized being a pretty girl wanting to be treated like a princess as a comfort...I honestly don't have the courage to tell them.
3:10 *Guy: I could totally role play as a woman* I mean, yeah? I sometimes want to roleplay as a man too. Totally normal for cis-people as far as I know. *Guy: I wish to become pregnant* Ehm... a little weird but hey. Maybe some guys really want to experience childbirth. Not gonna kink-shame. *Guy(?): All men want to be women!* ............................................... ............................................... Buddy, maybe make yourself some relaxing tea and think about that last statement again.
One of the biggest flexes I've ever been able to pull off is giving myself two names. It's pretty much just having a first name and a middle name. BUT! I can go by Jenny when talking to cis people so they can just assume I'm a woman or whatever, who cares, I don't have the energy to explain my gender to them. AND, when I'm talking to normal people, I can go by Mushroom, which fully encapsulates my unique brand of non-binary perfectly. I don't just have she/they pronouns, I have she/they names.
That's dope xD I personally still more or less vibe with my birth name, but on the other hand, would love to be addressed with just like, a couple letters long utterance, like "Ah", "Oo", "Na" and the like? :'D
What's wack to me is all along I was thinking I couldn't really be non-binary, I had just full on been doing the weird name thing that non-binary people do not even realizing it was a non-binary thing to do
What are some good gender neutral formal titles?
I like *Pathfinder* ☺️
ooOoOooo yes
Champion!
Royalty
I like to refer to my non binary friend as *Blademaster*
Is lord a good one?
"What Gender are you?"
"I'm a Transformer."
"No, are you a boy or a girl?"
"I'm an Autobot."
"I mean, what's in your pants?"
"The Matrix of leadership."
"Gender is what's I ur pants"
**pulls a skunk plushy**
I thought the Matrix was in your chest?
"whats in your pants"
*PULL GUN FOR FUN*
Bah-weep-Graaaaagnah wheep ni ni bong
wow yeah who cares about gender, you're a Prime? dope
"Waking up as a beautiful woman is literally every guy's dream."
This is the most egg thing I've ever heard someone say
Welp, time to turn in my man card I guess.
Well it's my dream to wake up as a beautiful lady
I thought everyone's dream was to wake up as a dragon...
@@Tekdruid eh it depends on context I think
If you said it with the whole rest of that message, then yeah, but if its just "it would be cool for like a day maybe, but I could go without"
Then eh, not necessarily
I just want to wake up and notice no one can tell what gender I am and are just fine with it... :'D
The blissfully-unaware-until-I-bit-the-gender-apple-and-realised-everything-was-Wrong part is VERY accurate to my nonbinary nature.
Same
same
Same, ahahaha
@@scapegoatmiller9110 I must be cheating 'cause I got both
Oh god yes
When I was thinking of a good preferred name, I liked Oliver, but it was too masculine for me. Olivia was way wayy too feminine. So my preferred name is Olive. Yes the food. I also commonly get called "Olive Garden", as in the restaurant. I just thought it would be interesting to share.
That's wonderful
I love that name! If I ever change my name I might steal it heh
We're all family here
First names aren't the only part you can legally change, so you CAN change your last name to Garden.
Do it. Fulfil the prophecy.
Yes to all of thjs
The fact that when they said “both normal and cis” I didn’t even question it till he pointed it out
same ._.
Same lol
Because it clicked for you.
Same, but it was more that I think everyone is normal XD
As a cis person who knows for sure she is: same here!
I was just happy that in that scenario, I'd be getting the two free name changes as well. I don't know what I'd change it to, since I'm happy with my name, but still pretty cool to just have the option there.
As a trans man, I have never once had the desire to be pregnant. That "cishet" dude may need to do some soul searching.
As a cis woman who never had the desire to be pregnant... And always have had a weird feeling of envy towards trans men and non-binary people... I have realized that maby I should do some soul searching...
It is not so much the desire to be pregnant, as some trans men get pregnant and have kids, but it is the desire to be a woman, that person clearly has expressed that if they woke up as a woman they wouldn’t identify as a man but instead happily live life as a woman, it is clear that they would view themselves as a pregnant woman if they got pregnant, trans men who get pregnant say they are pregnant men, but this person isn’t like that, they clearly do have some deep hidden desire to be a woman.
@@Anon-rt3fx thank you for that explanation, I’m a trans male whose laying here with my 2wk old baby rn…. I did in a way desire to be pregnant but it was about wanting a lovely family with my significant other. Many days the feeling of dysphoria was SO MUCH WORSE because I was pregnant, but her little self 1000% was worth every bad emotion on the trip here. Thank you for explaining how your never less trans for doing what’s needed for you to have children/ make a family.
@@cutecupcake8604 A lot of cis women don't want kids. I don't, if I could, I would get rid off my uterus but don't see myself as anything but a woman
.... As a AFAB, I wanna tell 'em Go For It. I don't want all this blood I ent gonna put to good use, I'm a disabled repulsed Ace with no motherly instinct! XD So wouldn't even even if I wasn't disabled XD
"I'd rather be a girl but I don't hate being a guy."
You know, it sounds normal when someone else says it, I don't why I thought it would sound weird if I said it.
you are valid buddy
I have and still am currently going through it
Still valid little dude
Why did this pierce my soul?
Same
Oh cool so it's not just me. Yeah for the longest time I thought that meant I wasn't trans enough and I should just put up with my body and likely die alone because I had little to no interest in dating as a cis man. Nevermind the fact that I hate my facial hair and really all my body hair. I don't know why I put myself through things I wouldn't want my worst enemy to go through.
I am trans myself and I had the similar "blissfully unaware" thing, only it was being acutely aware, trying to assert that I am the most tomboyish tomboy to ever exist but still not being allowed to sleep in the same room as my older brother and male cousin, but being too uncomfortable to sleep in the room with my sister and female cousin, so I got stuck sleeping on the couch. Crying because I didn't understand why I was different.
Yeah, I just thought it was normal to pretty much hate being a girl (later woman) for almost everyone not born male.
Then I thought I can't be a trans man, since I'm not all that tomboy-ish, I DO have "female" traits and would occasionally (like, a handful of times a year) enjoy a dress etc.
But I didn't enjoy how I look in one, since boobs and all (waaay to big to bind, btw).
I'd prefer to wear this with a completely different body.
Then, one day I realised, I'm just a man who's sometimes a bit over the top (I call it "william shatnering") and on a few days enjoys "crossdressing".
Fun fact: that one picture with a person being interviewed about their ideal girl and that they are frustrated about not being born as one is the mangaka for a manga named Stop!Hibari-kun! featuring a trans girl main character that was first serialized in Weekly Shonen Jump in 1981. For a manga of its time, the manga does a good job of conveying the main character in contrast to her family's transphobic views.
I really hope that that person is much happier now.
Oh that's awesome! I'll have to check out that manga!
I was watching that show and honestly freaked out when I saw that clip. I never knew the creator was trans.
Hell yeah!
Also Eguchi stated that many people wrote to them letters saying that this manga finally pushed them to start "crossdressing" and that its wonderful
@@TurtleInATopHat they are an egg, and it might've changed more recently but last I knew they were still living as their birth gender because they "didn't [transition] young" and felt like it was too late :((
Axolotl Binarycode sounds like the most gender name an Enby could come up with! I love it so much!
If I met someone named “Axolotl” they would instantly be befriended by me that is such a cool name
@@Anon-rt3fx yes and it would be much if they look cute
@@Anon-rt3fx same I'd love to be friends with someone like that
Half of my chosen name can't be typed with an English keyboard (no I will not be saying it here for the record)
I met a person named blade. They were already the most metal person I had met but the fact that they named themself blade will forever be cool to me
"All clothes are unisex once you stop being bich about it!"
Absolutely true xD
Good quote.
Ill keep it.
Best quote I've heard all my life
Fukit
Skirt time
@@the_real_kelagreed.
“I’m probably appropriating the feelings of REAL trans people”
Yeah…
I felt that
Hey friend, as was being said you can't appropriate feelings. If you feel it, that's you, not someone else. You're valid, but even more important: your feeling are valid and important. Don't doubt yourself, you choose your path and you alone.
Yeah... I felt it too. Especially since I'm mostly fine with my body, and my gender is a very ambiguous thing that seems to wobble this way and that, so... yeah.
This comment thread, and the comic it was based on, has encapsulated my feelings in a way that I don't think anything else has.
Thanks for that guys
Hope we all get somewhere, somepoint someday and even if we don't we're happy anyways
@@elieli2893 i though "gender roles are bullsh*t so feeling feminine doesnt make me a woman. im fine being non binary because i dont like the idea of being a man" so i never took E as i didnt wanna be a woman but i keep getting called maam and for some reason it makes me happy. i try to look as gender ambiguous as possible yet im fem passing without trying
@@elieli2893 I've always said that being trans isn't gender dysphoria, it's the lack of gender euphoria. You can feel fine about being one thing, but if you feel happy being a different thing, be that thing. Keep in mind that thing doesn't need to have a label, nor does it need to stay the same.
8:05 The HRT pill one.
"I offered a single oestrogen pill to my guy friends in the pub and every one of them physically recoiled in horror"
...So...What does it mean if i would actually want to try it?...
Trans
Either some kind of gender fuckery or just very secure in your cisness and bored
It doesn't necessarily mean you're trans, buuuuut it's worth looking into!
14:36
"Respect my trans homies or i'm gonna identify as a fucking problem" Is a sentence i hope to use someday as that is comedy GOLD.
I'm a cishet guy... and I totally want to use that sentence on some transphobes myself. That is just a badass sentence.
I literally just wrote it down for future reference for the books I plan to write 😂
Same
The sudden change to "Oh, uh, Americans... hang on" had me laughing for too long xD
and when he searched "in feet" it was still in meters XD
"THERE'S A BABY IN THERE!" once more, OT strikes again with legendary out of context quotes.
Ok, but what if there wasn’t a baby in there
I've been really stressing over everything lately but the camera boop OT did in this video made me forget about everything terrible that i was stressing over.
to the """gender critical"""" it's all fun and games until dysphoria kicks in... trust me I am a trans guy who played REALLY WELL the woman skin... But it's not good on the long run. Dysphoria happens. It's inevitable
“woman skin”
your gamer is showing
@@meihasanegg7147 or his serial killer is showing
Damn sounds like hell, hope you are better now though
@@kalyanigollamudi759 is thare a anime villain that I can fight
Honestly that whole thing was such a textbook check-back-in-two-years-and-see-if-she-figured-it-out level of egg in denial "don't all cis men dream about being women?" that I'm honestly wondering if it was deliberate.
Of course I still don't know how *I* didn't figure it out for as long as it took me, so I'm in no position to judge.
Dude your laughs are the best oh my god "THERE'S A BABY IN THERE" LMAOOOO
Hello friend
I just need a voice clip of him exclaiming "there's a baby in there" and use it as my notifications sound! 🤣
@@Screaming_into_the_Void yep.
Ikr
I mean all the cis guys wish they had a uterus right? Guys?
I think my sibling may be an egg. They specifically expressed to me "there's a reason all of my characters are able to swith sexes at will." They have also expressed interest in waking up one day as the opposite biological sex and using gender neutral pronouns. They have also stated that they don't really feel strongly connected to the concept of gender and don't really care for their gender assigned at birth. They've opened up to me a lot about these kinds of things since I've come out as agender.
Wow, I wish them good luck, my sibling is enby too
Same. I had written and illustrated a lot of characters like that too. They are shapeshifters in a futuristic society that has abolished traditional gender roles. For some reason though, it took me years and years to figure out what I was trying to tell myself.
I was definitely like this, excluding creating characters, as I never had created non-binary characters cuz I didn’t know/understand what it was when I was younger. It’s more of how I express myself not only now but also back then. I liked being able to be shirtless at home and not have to deal with my body, and I got angry that I was going through puberty. I tired to act like I was fine with it and sort of ended up convincing myself that I was fine with it, only until recently where I realized my gender wasn’t what I was comfortable with. I also wanted my hair cut short for years and finally got it and I’ve never been happier. Now I know I’m non-binary and I’m comfortable being myself.
@@PikachuYoshiPines164 Ja, I was definitely like that. I just created my own species and civilizations that just didn't have gender.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Cool! I made a sort of country with a friend and the people are shapeshifters too
7:29 is it just me or does he have a really good granny voice
I remember one time I was out with Friend and someone offered them a chicken nugget and they said “no thanks I’m a pescatarian” and this guy just went red and shouted “I DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR GENDER OR SEXUALITY I WAS ASKING IF YOU WANT A CHICKEN NUGGET”
ngl people be like that sometimes /J /J /J
Pfffffft
i only NEARLY forgot my wave okay 😳
LOL get wrecked
Don't forget the wave!
its ok we didnt see anything
Never forget the wave 😢
oof
I started binding before I realized I was genderfluid and excused it by telling myself I was "just dressing up as a male character"
When it wasn't Halloween
And I wasn't going to any convention.
Just dressed up because *for some reason* I liked looking like male characters.
(Edit: Grammar is hard)
nice
Man, don't call out my costume addiction like this
mood
9:38 So, this made me start crying. I never had words to explain how I felt dysphoric before I was aware of the idea of transness, and this HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD. Thank you so much for this 💜
“Waking up as a (beautiful young) woman is literally every guy’s dream”
Someone check on this one in two years to see if he figures it out
It's strange really, after watching this channel I've realized I thought the same thing... XD
@@VampyrMygg me, but the other way around lmao
Took me so long to realize that not all boys dreamt about being Ariel from the little mermaid. Good lord the things that movie made me feel and think when I was a kid. It's like a core memory. To this day, it's one of my favorite Disney movies.
@@Kira-zm7vy it was so formative to me that i named myself Ariel. Im non binary
@@arielruby13 Ariel is just an amazing name, it's funny how helpful that mermaid has been to people learning about their gender.
I am he/him cis but I would throw my gender into the woodchipper if I could get every person I ever have or will meet to refer to me as "Cap'n"
Maybe I just need to wear the hat for long enough...
In 2022 the nb style is golden age pirate attire
I'm genderfluid, born male, if I was going to change my name I'd use Akira. Since as a Japanese name it can be either male or female. Only issue is I look very masculine, so pulling off feminine looks is hard.
The same for me expect I was born a girl. I have a very feminine body and I sometimes wanna appear male but I can't. And people just assume your a girl all the time and I'm there in a pineapple button up and cargo pants like 👁👄👁
I'm a demiguy born female and I just want to look slightly masculine but the thing is, I have a very feminine body type and I hate it. So I have the same problem.
Edit: Sometimes I wanna look feminine but more often than not, I want to look masculine.
Same, except I was born female. I look very young and *might* pass as an adult, on a good day. Plus, my voice gets higher when I'm nervous. So, maybe if I'm lucky, one day, I'll be able to pass as a 10 year old boy =w="
Also, Akira's a pretty cool name, I think if I wanted to change my name, I'd pick Gabby.
Same but opposite for me. I’m afab and I’m physically very feminine. I have a high voice, I got big baboobas, thunder thighs, etc but I just wanna be a shadow being with no tangible body and when people look at me they die :/
Tips as an afab person
Flared and poofy skirts help balance out wide shoulders and can give an hourglass or pear -ish silhouette (depending on your body)
softer/drappier fabrics tend to read as more feminine
ruffles on the chest can produce the illusion of breasts
high waisted pants and skirts make your legs look long and are usually worn by women.
if you want to wear makeup, there are tons of tutorials on youtube.
Remember, even afab people have issues feeling that they don't look feminine. Because of this, there are many tips for looking more feminine. Look up stuff you feel makes you feel masculine and how to dress/style for it. For example, how to dress for a flat chest.
With all these tips, take what you want, ignore what you don't. You get to choose what femininity means for you. Good luck.
As a genderfluid person who identifies as agender most of the time, I'm very glad to have been given a gender neutral name at birth which I love, though I cannot wait till I can get a binder. Thanks for making these videos which make me feel a little bit more light-hearted and open about my feelings ;)
Here's an event that happened in my school and warmed my heart, restoring my faith in humanity:
Two years ago in a class in my school, all the boys bought the school hoodie in pink to protest against the "Pink is for girls" stuff. It was amazing to see them just hang around the school looking confident and super cute in pink
That's awesome!
when i came out to my friend (which is amab) as trans, he was like "why would you wanna be a man i dont get it??? if i were born a woman id be so happy??" and ranted to me about how much it sucks to be a man and how much he wishes he were born a woman and i had no heart to tell him thats not cis thinking.
EDIT: she*, she*, she* her*. the egg had cracked.
He'll probably come to the realization eventually lol
love the edit
Good for her!
ha! nice on the edit. good for her, hope she’s on the path to living her best life
that’s super sweet honestly. i had a similar thing happen when i came out as a trans masc enby. i’m glad your friend was able to come to terms with who she is and was able to accept herself.
that "cismas" joke seems so obvious and yet somehow this is literally my first time hearing it, thank you for this gift
I'm having a panic attack right now and I am very dissociated so I'm watching OT'S videos for comfort. I hope he reads this so he knows that he helps me feel better. ❤️
oh well even if i'm a year late i hope your doing well
The realization that men don't want to be women came as quite a shock. I thought everyone felt that way.
Everyone but my mom knows I'm trans or at least not cis. I didnt have a "coming out" moment with my grandma. I was just talking to her about clothes or something and I got caught up in anger and complained about how my mom didn't let me get these boxers briefs. My grandma cut me off and said, "Oh, you're transitioning?" I didnt know how to respond and just mumbled"uh um no..." "Ah that's okay, you can be whoever you want to be, Ya cant fight what feels right." Oh..
Edit: my mom just bought me a binder, no questions asked. I'm just gonna go die now..😶
We stan your adorable grandma
Yay for you and your grandma!
grandma for the win
Your grandma sounds awesome!
I have mental breakdowns when I think about how I’m a “girl”
and I’m probably a trans man, but then sometimes I’m like:
“Wait.. am i.. *faking it?”* but I know I’m not
I feel that... Ive been questioning if Im a transman. I thought I was genderfluid then I realized I never not wanted to be a boy, but a femboy.
"I'm figuring it out" may be a useful response to those intrusive thoughts. It's a spectrum. Trying to figgure out where you fall and the best label to describe it is a process, and even for those who end up at "I'm a somewhat gender non-conforming cis person" a valuable one.
Worries if you're "faking it" are understandable and common, but never productive, and you can always describe/think of yourself as questioning or exploring your gender until you have a more solid idea (and NB is a pretty broad category that a lot of binary trans people think they fall into as part of their transition, so that's possible as well).
The main thing to keep in mind is that it's find to be unsure and still figguring yourself out. Infact, if you take that sentiment broadly, it probably applies to most people.
Noone can tell you what your gender i but that doesn't sound like a cis-girl-thing. And something nice to remember (what I probably also should tell maself more often) is that if you think you are fanking it you probably aren't.
Same here. I despise being referred to as feminine pronouns and yet I sometimes am like oooo I wanna dress like a cute lolita girl. And then I'm like am I really a dude???
To quote OT “If you feel like you’re faking it, you’re probably not”
As a small child I used to pretend I was a lumberjack who was a boy and thought I’d become one when I was older.
Took me too long to figure it out.
Honestly, finding out my gender was like hitting my head against gender, and right after hitting my head harder and flopping on the ground, and finding a bunch of shiny gender I think is nice. I think that’s the best way that I can describe it.
I really love this description😂 remember your valid no matter what, and an amazing part of or universe! 💛
Oh gosh how much imagination can you have to come up with this metaphor!
neurodivergent?
@@kaiyodei hm?
I wanna be feminine, yet masculine, yet both at the same time, yet I don't wanna be neither. Help :,)
[Thank you to people who are suggesting labels to me, but I'm not necessarily talking about gender identity, but just gender expression. However, this comment can apply to gender identity as well if you relate, you're valid, ily ^^]
Moood!
Well he best advice I can give you is to be all of them. I understand this completely
That's a fucking mood
Best advice.. get chonky (within reason) and be happy. That way you can easily pass for all three without much effort depending on how you feel that day
@@Lilith-Rose chonky? Like as in getting more weight or something? It's REALLY hard for me to gain weight tbh lol.
"Waking up as a beautiful young woman is every man's dream" so should I tell them or should we let them figure it out themselves?
I mean- it’s my dream
Nah, they will soon figure it out.
The closes I feel to wanting to be a woman is having boobs but I still wish to keep my crotch like I just want bobs cause they look so cool and fun. But I still wish to be a man. Why can’t men have boobs 😡
@@CommanderDiamond678 Ehm... You can. Ever heard of man-boobs?
@@lexa2310 well yeah but I mean natural ones.
To anyone considering ordering mantis eggs: PLEASE make sure it's a native species!
As a bug nerd I cannot stress this enough how important insects are to the ecosystem and introducing a foreign predator will be incredibly harmful.
Unfortunately there's no such thing as a native mantid where I live :(
Please, like this comment so its message reaches more people.
I probally wouldn't have to order them I see the native ones all the time :)
YES YES YES
Thanks for telling us that
15:23 i had a nonbinary friend who named themselves “windex”. I didn’t get it at first since MOST of thr times people bane themselves something else. But when I heard that their deadname is “sarah” I immediately understood that choice of a new name. They were fucking awesome.
That feeling of "I *so* wish I could get pregnant!" was one of the first big cracks in my egg! I'd be the happiest person on earth if I could carry my own children.
At the rate this is going, maybe it'll be a possibility one day. Don't bring your hopes up, but... Well, it's not too far out there honestly. Though... Actually, since the human body doesn't produce any eggcells after their birth... I don't know, but you go queen(I'm assuming you prefer female due to that)
@@dominiklehn2866 I know it's a thing that you can take out non-zygote dna and put it inside of a sperm cell so two lesbians could have kids for example (or at least that's something in development, don't think it's widely available as a thing yet) so if you could do that you probably could also take non-zygote dna and put it in an egg cell...matter of fact I think that might be how cloning works though that might be wrong
@@mermaidismyname I think that she means the actual feeling/process of being pregnant, not just having a baby with their own DNA (actually that's technically already possible with sperm freezing and other things).
@@mermaidismyname oh yeah, that sounds familiar. Though sperm cells themselves are to my knowledge too simple to be part of this process without an eggcells which would then just be in-vitro insemination.
On the flip side, as a trans guy I have had literal nightmares and panic attacks about being pregnant despite never having any adult fun time of any kind with someone who produces sperm
dude you DIDN’T even wave - oh, you did
Funny story, I got surprised by the same Stardew cutscene not too long ago. And I named my farm Gayest Witch Farm so Marnie ended up saying Mmmm… Gayest Witch eggs.
It’s the little things that matter most. -w-
I would just like to say: OT covering this subreddit and being wholesome is the primary reason I realized that I was trans. And now, here I am, a still mostly closeted trans girl who is being hurt by the relatability of these memes.
-A recently cracked egg, beardo who didn't ask to be one, and proud a weirdo
You go queen, good luck with your next steps, whatever they happen to be
As a forcibly shattered egg, I'm very happy that you're taking your time with coming out, and realizing exactly who you wanna be. Don't stress about feeling like you're hiding things from people because what matters is that you feel safe about giving up information that is yours and yours only to release
For me I'm just confused tbh. I dress as a girl and recently started doing so in front of my family even though I told them about this all a year ago. I just don't really know what it means to be a girl. I think I like female pronoums but haven't committed to any public declarations about my gender people mostly just accept me as me and how I dress as how I dress.
6:40 my man, I’ll shave my legs and everything. I’m rocking that outfit lmao
1.93m is roughly 6'4", for those who were wondering.
If I almost accidentally misgender someone I just panic and say,
“ Hey gi- *YOU* !”
hello person
i have a bad habit of aggressively correcting myself when i start stuttering, so when i realize i’m accidentally misgendering someone mid-sentence i start aggressively using the right pronouns/name. i have a friend who recently came out as trans and i still mix up his name sometimes, so talking to him is often like “hey, dar- *CALEB* ” he knows i’m just correcting myself and he thinks it’s really funny lol.
Words, words… *grunts* better?
“Would you wear this for a week for a thousand dollars?”
Yes. It’s fuckin cute. I’m trans not stupid.
even if you are uncomfortable in them its easy money because you dont have to go out dressed like that
@@RaineBans I’d still go out in it. It’s cute.~
@@SkullQueen_Chloe i cant show skin because im embarassed of my body hair im getting laser removal for. im looking forward to the future i can wear skirts
@@RaineBans fair enough. Ngl, because of the people I live with my first thought went to “I’m ashamed to be seen in a skirt but I want the money.”
Hope you have a wonderful day friend!~
@@SkullQueen_Chloe 1000 bucks is decent money so i'd say its worth it even if you dont like it. again you dont even have to go out in it so its pretty stupid to refuse
"Sponge after the Bob!?" Is now something I'm going to say every time someone mentions the word sponge.
You're seriously one of the best, funniest, and sweetest people I've ever even thought of. Thank you for existing, OT. :]
Gender Neutral Formal,
"Good day, noble customer. How may I assist you?"
"Excuse me, m'leige, but you dropped your phone."
"Honored existence, welcome!"
"Yes, elder!"
"Yes, Soup." (As in supervisor, actually have heard that one before.)
Mytheydy
I definitely should have realised I was trans much earlier when I was really young and wanted a pixie cut, and everyone told me "People are gonna call you a boy" and I just said "That's okay!"
Yeah! Same!
I just had that conversation with someone!
or for me, when people kept "mistaking" me for a girl and i was disappointed when my History teacher stopped
Nowadays the go-to cut is the undercut. There are a few variations but each looks amazing and it does wonders for slimming your face.
I've always wanted to be a boy, but I don't know if I'm trans or just like the idea of being a boy. I remember one day having my friend's mother call me a boy or something like that, I was happy in the inside but pretended to be mad about it, my friend corrected her mother and I was... confused on what I was feeling, I didn't know if I should be happy or sad. Life is confusing when you're a teenager
“All guys want to be girls”
Yep, I remember those egg days
[Gasp] What if I go *back* to those days though 😳
I very much asked some of my cishet male friends that question, was shocked and confused when they said they would not. Egg days really do be like that
12:37 oh hey, it's conure! Love that person so much, and I love her analysis vids. They're always do well articulated in my opinion, and he's got a very strong stance on his arguments but still can admit when they've been wrong
Oh my gosh I freaking love conure I would like to point out she has a fantastic Community as well
You would not believe the add I just got, while watching this video specifically.
It was an add of a Straight Cis person talking about how Feminists and LGBTQ+ plus activists are “trying to change the most basic cultural things” all because someone wrote a book about Santa having a Husband that had more Melanin than him.
straight people are the ones making movies about how santa’s real and people who don’t believe in him are jaded adults which is so weird because santa’s literally not real? what’s with the obsession with lying to kids?
Gods. I cannot wait to go to my trans girlfriend in a few years and give her a big big hug. I really want to protect her.
Hehe
fellow polytheistic curser.
I, too, use "gods".
(also, I'm a trans girl who wants to go to my boyfriend and give him a big big hug. I want to be in his arms (i love my Alex))
I was a hawk crew chief, we had gay, trans and everything to include cis in our ranks. The stuff we all survived together. Lol. Not a single one of us cared what anyone else was. We did our jobs. Came home alive and all of us face palm about these morons that act so phobic.
Hey youre treding in some dangerous waters there. "If you want to send me $1000 to wear clothes for a week" is almost EXACTLY what f1nster said and look where that got them!
I'm currently six months pregnant and one of the only things that soothes the baby, to stop her kicking my ribs, is watching the videos that OT puts out. They're so wholesome and make me smile so much, I think we've got a young beardo or weirdo coming soon!
Congrats my dude! I hope you and your beardo/weirdo stay happy. OT is definitely one of the most wholesome you tubers and I love him a lot
From one parent to another, may your pregnancy and birth go smoothly. 🙏❤️ I've incubated 3 humans, and the youngest turned 18 today.
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Awww
@@queenthot1438 Thank you! ☺️
As a totally cis male person I can confirm that every cis man wants to be a woman.
9:00 Thats Hisashi Eguchi, author of Stop, Hibari-kun! which features a trans girl as one of its main characters.
Hmm.
sus
SUUUURE
idk about that one chief :/
haha egg-uchi
Fun fact: Lincoln is now suspected of having had Marfan Sx, a genetic condition arising from a defective fibrillin gene that causes elongation in limbs, facial features, blood vessels, etc. due to abnormal connective tissue. It's actually quite common. (Ann Coulter, for instance, has it.)
Also, gosh, the nostalgia. My brother and I used to get those egg sacs and hatch them in glasses with stockings over them (for airholes) so we could try to separate/raise some of the babies before releasing them all.
I don't know who is Ann Coulter, my first thought was Mrs Coulter from Dark Materials XD
I'm so sorry but I misread that as martian sfx and got so confused for a minute
@@krankarvolund7771 I mean, similar vibes.
Also he was super gay- iconic
I was deliberating transness, fluidity and queerness for 4 YEARS. Then i discovered everyone's experiences and was like a shit I'm a girl
10:00 I wanted to look like this even at age 10. Whether I was a girl or boy didn't matter, I just want gains. I still want gains, and I'm still seen as a woman. I'm AFAB. Assigned Fab At Birth.
Reminder for everyone reading this : Your gender is valid! Your sexual orientation is valid! Your romantic orientation is valid! You're valid! You're a nice person! It is perfectly okay to have boundaries. Have a lovely day/night!
Shiny euphoria feelings ✨🎇✨
Okay then make me cry first thing in the morning
One day, OT will greet us just with “Hello weirdos.” And I am stoked for the chaos that will come forth
Also, I love this subreddit with my whole being.
Lol same
13:50,for the last 3 months ive been really stuggling between if i am trans or not, and one of the big things was I dont hate my current body and have no dysphoria that I notice, but it also seems like theres something missing.
Dysphoria is not necessary to be trans, not every trans person feels dysphoria. Gender euphoria is the uniting factor in the trans experience. If being called something other than you assigned gender makes you feel happy, than it is likely that you are trans. But only you can decide if that's what best fits you.
I didn’t notice my dysphoria until after I came out as trans. Then I was like, oh, that thing that always felt weird makes sense now.
How I realized I was trans:
I Questioned my gender over a year ago and thought I was still cis after a day of thinking, (the denial was strong and my knowledge on gender + pronouns was weak), until I recently bought Animal Crossing and would dress up my character as feminine, masculine, androgynous, etc etc. I got SO much serotonin from that, it was unreal. After a week of doing that, the back of my head started questioning my gender identity again. I went on the internet, and found a website (i think it was called Pronoun dress up?) That would let you put in a name and what pronouns to use, and then generate a sentence from that, referring to you with whatever you put in (It had maybe over 5 slots to fill in with pronouns). after a test run, I quickly knew I was not cis at all. I still haven't handled the whole "do i want to change my name or not and if i do what would I even name myself" situation but I'll cross that bridge when I get there
Tl;Dr Animal Crossing made me realize I was non-binary, I blame the Able Sisters
I tried pronoun dressing room and as soon as I put in he/him/his pronouns, I got major goose bumps and smiled like an idiot and it confirmed it for me tysm
@@andyboutilier1408 I'm so happy for you, I'm glad I was able to help! Congrats on coming out of your egg 🏳️⚧️
I took a long time to realize I was nonbinary because I didn't even know it's actually a thing. So as an afab I felt a very close connection to androgynous characters or male characters with very feminine traits because that's the best I got at the time. On the internet I always picked neutral nicknames and pics so I would either pass as a guy or a genderless person. I still wasn't sure what the heck my gender was until someone referred to me as they/them and I began to realize that I'm in fact agender.
I'm still fine with being referred to as a guy even though I don't identify as one, but I don't feel the same when someone calls me a woman. Probably because it made me feel so insecure and uncomfortable in the past to be treated like a girl that it only brings back bad memories.
My gender denial was strong (strong still) and it lasted for two years after I was shamed back into the closet after trying to come out as genderfluid. I have to say I have to blame anime and BL manga for mine though. I would be insanely jealous of androgynous anime men then I would wake up the next day “that was weird. Why should I wanna be a man?”
My eggshell recracked recently when I saw a trans masc talk about making a trans affirmation sim in Sims 4. I though “wow what a fun project”. Then I got to see a flat chested version of me and the unexpected feeling rightness that came over me. Two years of telling myself my feelings were wrong was suddenly silenced
TLDR: Being a massive weeb and Sims 4 are to blame for my genders
I just tried pronoun dressing room and almost cried from how happy the she/her pronouns made me feel
Hey OT, just wanted to let you know that not only did you crack me, you were part of the puzzle that made me realize I was even an egg to begin with a few months back. I don't know if I'd have made it there with so relatively little damage without you, and so soon. So, thank you.
Same here, this time last year in fact. Heck of a Christmas gift OT gave me but I'm so much happier now the confusion was definitely worth it
5:58, I used to be in the military and had my blood tests done by a Trans service member, AND I HATE NEEDLES WITH A DYING PASSION. They made me so comfortable that I could survive the visit and not panic. 12/10 best military service I've ever had.
5:36 This isn’t just a Gordon Ramsay thing. “Yes Chef” is pretty much acknowledgement that you heard and understand what Chef just said
in regards to the praying mantis: it's actually very common for mantis to engage in canibalism, from the moment of birth. they are BRUTAL and most of the mantis will probably eat each other. They have very much influenced horror, including for me
Casually getting flashbacks to watching OT's egg_irl videos thinking "Wow, this stuff is interesting. I'll be an educated little ally, but I'm not trans myself"
Oh boy how that changed. Literally. Oh, BOY that's different
SAME.
The "it feels like I'm appropriating real trans people's feelings" comic felt kinda familiar to me, bc it looked a bit like what I was feeling : I like being a girl, but I'd rather identify as non-binary, use gender neutral pronouns, look less feminine etc. I often remind myself that I'm cis, and that I shouldn't really envy enby people, just to try and feel special, cause they probably dont have it as easy as I do with gender. But I still get this weird feeling, constantly swaying between "You're a girl, you're fine with being a girl, so stop acting like that" and "I want to cancel my gender subscription"
It's kinda weird and tbh I hope I'm not the only one in this situation
I hear ya, I tolerate my 'default settings' and at this point in life probably wouldn't risk my career to change anything, but between the immense appeal of falling somewhere outside the gender binaries and the pretty significant gender envy I've found I have toward people whose expression falls outside the binaries, it becomes a weird bit of mental gymnastics of whether I really qualify/feel/am somewhere outside those binaries, or just find the concept so darned attractive (I don't know if I explained well, sorry)
Same. I think my brain is non-binary, but I don't know if I'm actually non-binary(more like non-binary enough), I'm also not sure if I'm confusing not fitting in for other reasons with gender. I don't know if that makes any sense.
@@leafhoff4321 you don't have to be enough of a certain gender to be that gender
dude this is somehow exactly how i feel put into words /pos
14:05 that snort, i also snort sometimes when i laugh, i love it
I felt so free when I realized that HRT would make some changes to the body I already had but it would not steal my body and replace it with an alien one. I don't have to hate my body to be valid; I have to love it enough to customize it and get comfy in it.
As a demiboy who was AFAB, I've often questioned my identity due to the type of dysphoria I face. I am very uncomfortable with my body, but I actually quite like my voice (as high-pitched as it may be). I never really felt like a true demiboy because of it, and I always questioned whether I was faking it or not. Watching videos like these helps remind me that there is no "true way" to be trans. Some trans people experience crippling dysphoria while others don't. Some trans people don't want to undergo hormone replacement therapy while others do.
The only "true way" to be trans is to just be trans. You don't have to have dysphoria caused by everything to be trans, you just have to be trans.
You are loved and so very valid no matter what you experience! I hope you have a wonderful day/night/evening/whenever you're reading this. 💚💚💚
yooo fellow afab demiboy
Fellow AFAB demiboy!
I'm amab and I'm nb. This kinda resonates with me. I don't hate my voice either. Slightly changing it is something I might do
15:03
i gave myself the internet name "frey" long before i knew i was a demigirl. i just felt,,, comfortable as "frey".
also, only later on did i find out that "frey" is the name of a norse god. im from a nordic country.
overall, very good name choice, well done 11 year old me-
4:26
*THANK YOU!!!!* FINALLY someone else realizes that!
It's so so lovely to see everyone sharing experiences and how they feel in the comments^-^ my gender rn is just "gaaaaAAAAAHH WTF EVEN IS THIS???!?!?" and seeing so many people on the internet relate to that is really helping❤
I feel u sm lol- it’s calmed down for me since I came out as nb but it used to be rly confusing *all the frickin time* so I get at least a bit of how you’re feeling-
for me, putting a specific label on it stressed me out so I settled for the broadest one I could both sexuality- and gender-wise (nb and queer) so ye
Wish you the best~ just know there are ppl out there with experiences like yours. you’re not alone ❤️
@@pandajesus5052 right back at ya😊❤
To the applefrither post about formal words for nonbinary folks!:
One that I've heard and want to use for myself is Mist/Mistrum! A replacement for Mr./Ms.
And honestly it sounds so much cooler than the gendered ones...
P.s. I can't remember if this was in another one of OT's videos, but I got too excited to not mention it
I've heard about Mx. , But that one's new
That's... kinda badass, not gonna lie.
Mist would be really cool!
My favourite non-binary formal title is Chief. Before I was born, my parents thought I was going to be a boy, and my dad wanted to name me Chief Brody, first name Chief, middle name Brody. Then I was born, and they found out that they wanted be wrong about me being a girl too, thus my mother named me. So I like to think of Chief as my non-bianary birth name.
13:47 *This particular comic* has stayed in my head since the first time I saw it, when this video was uploaded. I relate to this comic so painfully much and whenever I´m in doubt again, I remember this one comic and it allways makes me immediately feel much better and sure about my gender identity again. Thank you for putting this comic in your video, OT. This is going to stay with me for a very very long time to come. I don´t know if I´d be as confident in my gender identity today, if I had never seen this comic. Thank you!
Same. Do you know the author or that comic's name?
Idk why, but when OT said he’d wear that clothing for 1K(6:47), it was really gender affirming for me. I’m Enby and have present as Femme, I feel like an imposter sometimes. But when OT just completely neutralized it, it felt really nice. Thank you OT❤️
Your gender presentation is not your gender identity and the two do not need to match at all.
You are valid as heck, don't forget that :)
When I was a kid I used to wish I would one day wake up as the opposite gender. I haven't felt that way I years, but I can't help but wonder what my life would be like if my child self had heard about being trans
Ok, so I’ve assumed you’ve felt that way again, as you are now a fluffy purple dragon with gender dysphoria
8:58 - 9:10 Made me cry. It snuck in there and hit me in my feels.
Some times I wish I was born cis to avoid all the suffering i have faced because I am trans. Then I remember that I suffer because society is cruel, not because I am trans. Trans is beautiful and adds variety and character to life. Not being one of the default genders is a wonderful thing to be proud of.
I feel the same way about having adhd. Neurodivergence is a wonderful thing when neurotypicals aren't trying to suffocate you in a box. We're both gonna make it 😘
9:50 Actually why I'm thinking if I want to be non-binary, since I both love being a girl, and can't grasp that I'm a girl. Victorian era style clothing is about how I can easily understand gender
I started watching OT in February when I just realized I had these feelings™ at 24. Took me until October to be able to get out the words 'I need to transition' to my counselor. It's so hard to voice it still but I'm getting there.
OT is definitely one of the creators that helped me on my self acceptance journey.
Congrats!
It took a lot of years for me to accept myself (my sexuality. I guess I still don't accept me.) I wis I could have had content like this when I was young.
Anyway congratulations on starting the journey. Best wishes on finding your true self!
Do what you need to do to be you for you, babe.
You deserve to be here and you deserve to love yourself, regardless.
On my 28th rotation around the Sun, I have finally opened the surprise box that is my enby-ness xD I was definitely the person who was blissfully ignorant of the whole concept of gender as pertaining to myself, and when I then started thinking on it, my whole existence fell apart :'D
Dude you know how powerful I’d be with my dress and hijab and then someone tries to fight me and I just pull up my arm while my long sleeved shirt underneath reveals the shape of my hardcore guns? Yeah. That’s who I want to be.
Reminds me of my “I have several herrscher cores That’s what’s in my pants” jokes
Sounds like insanly cool anime moment honestly!!
@@Eosinophyllis Omg
I have a friend who works in demolition often wears an abaya outside work and has some impressive abs and biceps under there
@@sou.p Fuck they can’t know i found a way to travel between universes they’re trying to kill me because I’m a herrscher little do they know
Reminder that all of y'all are valid and deserve to be happy. Stay safe, eat food, drink water and get sleep
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I was born female. When I was a little kid, I was convinced I was a boy. When I voiced that thought to my Catholic grandparents (who were taking care of me at the time), they lost their shit and made it very clear to me that I was a girl, I needed to play with dolls, I needed to hate getting dirty, I needed to wear dresses, I need to like pink, and when I grow up, I needed to find a husband, have kids, and be a perfect little catholic housewife. They had me convinced for a while. I forgot all about thinking I was a boy and dedicated myself to trying to be more feminine and follow the lead of the girls in my classes.
But I always felt alienated from them. I always felt more connected and related more to my male classmates, even if they bullied me most.
I was 14 or 15 when I learned what transgender meant, and I refused to believe thats what I was. I went through phases of believing I was nonbinary or genderfluid but the truth was I always came back to the idea that I felt like a boy. I didn’t accept that I was trans until I was 20. I am now 21 and finally beginning my transition.
Point is, even if you think you can convince kids they're not trans- even if you manage to get them to believe, for a while, that they are their gender assigned at birth- you cant change trans kids. All you will do is traumatize them and make them afraid, but above all, you will make them resent you. And then they will go and do what they want anyway as adults. That includes transitioning.
I have always believed I was a boy. Now I'm finally starting my journey of becoming the man I wanted to be since I was in preschool, getting jealous of my grandpa's moustache and wondering why I kept getting in trouble for things boys were allowed to do. My grandparents are out of the picture, and the rest of my family is supportive. They haven't quite gotten used to me being their son/grandson/nephew but theyre coming around, and I have never been happier
I remember as a kid when one of my parent's friends would come over sometimes, she, like several other people in my life, was trans, and had adopted the name "Pi". She also wore a choker with the pi symbol all the time which I thought was the coolest fucking thing in the world
I still remember the fear in my partner's eyes when coming to me to tell me I didn't have a boyfriend I had a partner. I was like "Oh thank god, I thought something was wrong" He felt so bad for keeping it from me for so long. and yes, my brain did the selfish "Why did you tell your friends but not me" thing but I threw that thought out quickly because, their friend was trans and has been helping them deal with the confusion, and I'm their girlfriend who they were terrified of losing. I know damn well knowing I would accept them, which they admitted they knew, was not going to stop the mind numbing terror of actually saying it for the first time to me.
Your SO is lucky. I'm still figuring out the nitty-gritty of my identity, but it's sure as heck not binary and my wife has repeatedly balked at reminders that depending on what I figure out I may want to be referred to as her "spouse" rather than her "husband."
@@rickyroughton8098 Your wife? Aw, this makes me smile :)
Okay, but that outfit from the “would you wear this for a week for $1,000?” I want it.
once as a kid i said "what if i want to be a genderless unicorn "
Just remembering the friend who was insisting they were a cis man but confided in me that when they were sad and stressed they fantasized being a pretty girl wanting to be treated like a princess as a comfort...I honestly don't have the courage to tell them.
3:10
*Guy: I could totally role play as a woman*
I mean, yeah? I sometimes want to roleplay as a man too. Totally normal for cis-people as far as I know.
*Guy: I wish to become pregnant*
Ehm... a little weird but hey. Maybe some guys really want to experience childbirth. Not gonna kink-shame.
*Guy(?): All men want to be women!*
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Buddy, maybe make yourself some relaxing tea and think about that last statement again.
yo no way the mantis one came on as i am setting up an enclosure for a mantis
One of the biggest flexes I've ever been able to pull off is giving myself two names. It's pretty much just having a first name and a middle name. BUT! I can go by Jenny when talking to cis people so they can just assume I'm a woman or whatever, who cares, I don't have the energy to explain my gender to them. AND, when I'm talking to normal people, I can go by Mushroom, which fully encapsulates my unique brand of non-binary perfectly.
I don't just have she/they pronouns, I have she/they names.
That's fantastic, absolute power move, also how could one not love someone named Mushroom
As a Non-binary, yeah. Sounds about Non-binary
That's dope xD I personally still more or less vibe with my birth name, but on the other hand, would love to be addressed with just like, a couple letters long utterance, like "Ah", "Oo", "Na" and the like? :'D
so more "xenogenders are scientifically proven"?
What's wack to me is all along I was thinking I couldn't really be non-binary, I had just full on been doing the weird name thing that non-binary people do not even realizing it was a non-binary thing to do