Dr Fox, it may be good to invest in a better mic, or if it's a good mic, just back down the input gain on the mic or your recording device in the future. I can tell that the input gain is being overloaded. If you record more quietly, you can turn the volume back up in post-production, and not have to deal with the distortion that occurred during the recording. I'm an audio engineer so let me know if you need help with this. Thanks so much for your videos.
Does anyone have flashbacks to small moments in their past where one was humiliated, criticised, or admonished that can go back as far as early childhood? I saw a psychologist for several years, and she treated me as though I had BPD, but she indicated, towards the end of the treatment, that I more fitted the criteria for CPTSD.
Yes all the time whenever i do anything i will have unnintended flashbacks to some other moment i was doing the same but something awful was going on at the same time.
I was initially diagnosed with BPD by a therapist but then I saw a pyschologist who thought I just had traits of BPD along with CPTSD. She thought I lacked some core features. I did close to 5 sessions with her. One of my best friends has BPD and he feels pretty confident that I do too.
I've been in treatment for my bpd, my therapist had me get his workbook. It, combined with therapy, has changed my life. I've gone from dangerously dysfunctional to myself, to a content happy individual with grounding skills. I carry a sobriety coin in my heart for every month I don't spiral, 14 months now. I became a mom 12 months ago, and he's the happiest healthiest baby boy. My relationships in my life are repaired, I started my own business, and I have the skill set to manage all that comes my way. Thank you for being a part of what has saved me and my sons life.
Being a sufferer of trauma and undiagnosed personality disorders, I really appreciate these videos that you do and many other very intelligent people I have stumbled across. It's helping me heal and pointing me to the way of my purpose in life. I cannot wait to be on the other side of all of this and I know I can be. When that time comes I will be out there helping others not feel the way I do.
Thank you for talking about this because I cannot tell you how many times I get asked if BPD is bipolar disorder or multiple personality disorder (DID). This is a good video to refer people to who either were just diagnosed or to educate those who don’t know much about BPD. Especially after the Depp v. Heard trial with the talks of Heard’s diagnosis of BPD and HPD.
I cant function during those depressive episodes. If I feel ignored, unwanted, or abandoned by someone i like... i spiral so fast and so hard i could be in bed for days until i get a message from them... or have such anxiety i cant do anything until its resolved, or anger like im gonna block them out of feeling rejected. As much as someone raising their voice at me or a doctor belittling me over medical issues... will send me into an intense crying fest like im being killed. Because Im already traumatized and sensitive... doctors are a nightmare for me when they talk over me, yell, or don't take me seriously... then after its too late they call to tell me they found something... they've given me legit extra ptsd to a point i feel mentally worse. I just am not made for this world. I literally cannot sleep well since a kid, cuz im this way.
hey do you think you could make a video about quite bpd? i really love all your videos and theyve helped so much, it is just a little harder to relate when all of my symptoms are internal and i isolate myself so i dont act on them. these videos give me a sense of empowerment that whenever i do make friends i wont ruin the relationships, i just dont know how to push myself out there alone
Sir, you have no idea how helpful your videos are. I struggled for over 10 years to box these behaviors in something that made any sense and is not conveniently based on blame. Thank you.
Hi Dr fox. Having BPD sucks.i have a hard time keeping counslier because of my BPD.i all ways feel my counselor try to hurt me bye something's they say.this counselor I have now is hanging in there.i hate this BPD it has run my life to long. I got your book and it's helping alot.thanks for your videos I just love you. I thank your a angel 😇
Here's an interesting one, BPD and Autism. Just one study done yet the person I know matches up with it. They had pretty much narrowed it down to, and accept it was Quiet BPD. Then a DNA test for a medical condition stumbled on a mutation for Autism. At first they thought maybe they were wrong about the BPD, and are going to be tested to confirm autism. Interestingly the presents of both cancels out any issue with substance abuse. The one study done on comorbid BPD and autism found that 100% of those found to have both conditions had no substance abuse whatsoever.
@@Vel.Asunai it really stood out because others in the family do struggle with alcoholism. Another thing that really stood out was 100% no children. She only wanted children to make her mother happy. Once the mother passed there was no further discussion of children. (and yes internalized BPD ..sometimes called Quiet BPD)
My therapist thought i had a mild form of aspergers. More specifically Pervasive Developmental Disorder Not Otherwise Specified. I told her i was sceptical because i could relate more to personality disorders such as BPD and ASPD due to the intense anger/aggression episodes that could sometimes last for hours and even days. I also had some ideations. I've never drank alcohol in my entire life thanks to my parents. I resent alcoholics. And drugs too i guess, but mostly alcohol.
Hello Dr. Daniel Fox, one of your biggest fans here!! I was wondering how common complex BPD is? I know for a fact I have BPD, but I also have issues that I do believe to be something else... I experience an intense fear of engulfment, almost equally as horrible to live with as my irrational and annoying fear of abandonment. This combination causes me to want to be around others, however never ever too close! Distrust is a very real character defect of mine and I am not willing to risk others trying to dictate how I should live my life or get close enough to me to abuse a position of intimacy via force me into an enmeshed relationship or attempt to dominate/ corner me. It's an awful push-pull ...and I really wish I could move into an attachment with others that is less fear-based. My attachment style scores are fearful-avoidant or otherwise known as disorganized. I've also been diagnosed with ADHD, and I want to know if that was accurate or a misdiagnosis. I suffer from a deep lack of motivation and what I believe is apathy. I get so many thoughts in my head and it's hard to focus on anything outside of me mindfully. I think I have a really bad case of BPD or bpd and inattentive ADHD. Could you create something that explains clear and in depth detail that slices the difference between those living with bpd and ADHD verses those just living with bpd. Lastly thank you for this video and all of your work in the mental health field! I know you're only a man doing your job, however to someone like me you are a heroic public figure. Sincerely, - A Mother with BPD
Hello, I have diagnoses of ADHD and Bipolar Disorder and some traits of BPD. To answer some of your questions... ADHD is a developmental disorder characterized by impaired executive functioning (impulse inhibition and metacognition-- such as time perception, working memory). ADHD starts in childhood and is sometimes no longer present by adulthood, and most people improve functioning with medication. BPD is not diagnosed until adulthood, and it is treated with Dialectical Behavioural Therapy; there is no specific medication known to treat BPD.
I once felt that my emotional reactions were extreme and deemed as inappropriate in the eyes of others. No one but my family ever seemed to give something other than pain in the end. I felt like something might be wrong with myself, and heavily doubted that I knew what was right. I began to feel like I didn't want to be me any more as time went on. When I first heard about BPD I decided to learn more to see if maybe I saw the symptoms in myself. I've not been diagnosed, but I have been curious. I was surprised to learn that emotional dysregulation is also present in ADHD which I have been diagnosed. This was surprising to learn!
After 3 years of therapy, I can say my 'bpd symptoms' are less prominent, but my general anxiety (with a big social anxiety core) is still a big part of my day-to-day life, and honestly I feel this anxiety has root in bpd problematics, such as fear of rejection. Good video as usual ❤️👆 the best ressources for BPD!! Greetings from France
I appreciate your Channel and I watch them from time. to time. I don't always follow your explanations but overall the information is highly helpful. So thanks!
I now know I started with BPD which became complex BPD the more complex the less I could hide it , maybe why my diagnosis was later in life. I also understand more as it was given to me but never explained , that's a pattern too.
Thank you for your insight, I'm finally in clinic tomorrow getting a proper diagnosis over a 2-week period. Im already on a waiting list for DBT i think i can do this even when it sometimes seems impossible. Your channel is a huge help, thank you!!!
I’d be interested to see how social issues manifest through different disorders. Those with bpd often have trouble fitting in or believing they’re liked, and I know this can be an issue in autism and adhd as well. It’s so bad in adhd that they develop what’s believed to be a special kind of rejection sensitivity that only they experience. I’ve also heard a lot of people with adhd say they’ve had issues with socially inappropriate and impulsive speech, resulting later in humiliation, which seems like it would have an interesting overlap with bpd. I’d be interested to hear more about these similarities and distinctions.
At least 14% of those diagnosed with ADHD in childhood later receive a diagnosis of BPD while between 18% and 34% of the adults with ADHD are estimated to have comorbid BPD. I got diagnosed with BPD at 46 years old, and am currently in a 2 year wait to be screened for adult ADHD (well ADD really since I'm not hyperactive). The presumed ADD really interferes with my ability to adhere to lifestyle changes which can help manage the BPD, but I'm doing my best. The term you're looking for is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, but the crossover between BPD and ADHD is so prevalent, it's a bit of a chicken and egg situation.
@@M2Mil7er Thanks for your reply. I keep hearing that the current thinking around bpd in progressive parts of the MH field is that it’s either a manifestation of adhd/autism and the chronic invalidation that goes along with that, or a manifestation of c-ptsd. I find the intricacies between them fascinating. They thought I had adhd as a kid and I think I’m about to begin the diagnostic process for bpd and/or any other comorbidities, so it seems to check out in my case. It’s funny I actually had a theory about the adhd/autism and bpd connection before I knew it was already a thing. It just makes so much sense to me.
@@CrimsonVioletMoonthank you. I also investigated possible aspergers when I was trying to understand my condition. What you say checks out, and I wouldn't be surprised if it becomes the dominant theory in time. I hope you get the treatment you need. All the best x
@@M2Mil7er Well I have my intake for dbt later today. Hopefully they believe I need it and take me on, accurately communicating my needs was never my strong suit. Thanks for the convo and the good will.
Thank you Dr. D. Fox, I have “The Purple Book”, and I have found it insightful as is this Video. My only wish is I still lived in Houston, it would be great to see you in person for a consultation; perhaps some day!
Thank you so much. I have the blue workbook. Between your videos, a few others on UA-cam and the workbook I feel like I am getting a bit better in learning how to live healthier with my bpd.
Wow thank you so much for your channel^^ I have your book, and this book and therapy helping me a lot^^ but I never knew about channel, so good to watch it now
Very good approach, Dr. Fox. Maybe I somehow missed it, but if not, I think it's really important to state and explain the differences between BPD and NPD. Which also can be comorbid. But it makes me very uncomfortable for the BPD sufferers that there are people and channels with some influence on their audiences (little shaman on UA-cam for example) who insist that BPD is NPD. I love your channel, by the way, follow your videos religiously, and recommend it wherever I see it fit. Thank you.
What do you think about BPD and CPTSD? The core of BPD seems inextricably linked with my CPTSD. Personality disorders in general seem linked to developmental trauma, but that is just my opinion as a patient.
Hey Dr Fox. You are fabulous 😁❤ Im in the UK, recently diagnosed with Bpd and Ptsd after hospitalisation last year (nearly unalived myself after big meltdown) I haven't been functioning since then. I have 3 children, I used to do the housework etc.. now i dont cook or do much around house. I have to have people help. I dont look after myself, I can't handle any stress.. The depression is so severe.. I am very burnt out but I did think it was because of the bpd. Now I'm not sure. Maybe the big breakdown last year has made me non functional? I've started dbt therapy and will try my best to beat this, for my children's sake as well as my own. I just dont feel able to open up to my therapist about how bad its got at home. Please someone help with any insight you may have 😩 Thankyou xx
(sorry if this seems like a spew i don't know how to speak about bpd stuff very well sometimes) sometimes i feel like i can't tell whether or not im procrastinating about my symptoms or if they are really affecting me in the ways that i think they are. i guess an example of what im trying to talk about is sometimes when i tell my friends i cant do something because of my symptoms/illness they treat like an excuse. and there's no rash feelings that come of that because i know how it sounds to them i just want to know why it feels like im doing something wrong when i tell them the reasons for some of my behavior is linked to my bpd. im also just stumped about my bpd if that makes sense.. its gotten to a point where i just push people away because i don't know what im feeling anymore. or from the overthinking and worries that they will try to harm me emotionally. idk its confusing and its slowly destroying sense of hope.
What would happen if a person with BPD gets in a relationship with someone with schizoid personality disorder, or features of it? Seems like one of the most unlikely and opposite pairings in the personality disorder area.
My Dad was like that, a narcissistic schizoid, I believe he had both disorders.... which is rather unusual guess.... I know it sounds contradictory but imagine it like a very introverted or loner narcissist, he didn't care about "supply" in the usual sense only to have a good imagine on the outside. It was living hell for me... extreme emotional neglection, constant silent treatment was his favorite thing... our perception of reality and needs were so opposite of each other that the gaslighting felt like on another level... it took me a long time to recover from that.... to understand that my needs are normal but that I also don't have to get angry (really deep despair is what it actually is on a deeper level) when someone can't meet them... I think a relationship like that would be very painful for both and probably brief... I had a dismissive avoidant boyfriend once... even just that was the worst and him breaking up utterly broke me.... it was mirroring my childhood.... I was in relationship with someone being physically abusive before that and that was not nearly, like nowhere nearly as painful for me.... he was a bit controlling and as bad as it sounds but that made me feel like he cared because my Dad was always so tuned out and indifferent towards me that I never experienced anything resembling care before.... (My mum left when I was 3, or my Dad left her, so I was alone with him)
For years I have had the bpd diagnoses shoved down my throat even though I do not have chronic feelings of emptiness, have an extremely low appetite for risky behavior, don’t see the world in black and white, am not promiscuous, and only have tumultuous relationships with abusive people I cannot avoid (such as at work or with idiot racist psychiatrists who think they can glean the complexities of my life from a single 15 minute conversation). Having been trained in science, it’s truly remarkable that the pseudoscience of psychiatry is allowed to ruin so many lives. Too many psychiatrists have the same view of themselves as Ignaz Semmelweis’ peers (durr we can’t do harm because we are doctors, how dare you tell me to wash my hands). I don’t dispute that some people have BPD but I am OUTRAGED that I had to suffer for YEARS with this constant misdiagnose shoved down my throat when, this whole F😡ing time I had CPTSD and ADD. Why don’t you talk about that?? Why doesn’t ANYONE talk about the IMMENSE HARM callous and lazy psychiatrists do? The only “triggering event” I had was being put on the WRONG medication and lost my F😡ing mind and got told “oh it’s working keep taking it”
@@DrDanielFox honestly I’d say fire the whole health board but they’ll all get over half a million dollars as severance EACH. Gross incompetence like this shouldn’t be rewarded, gross incompetence like this should be criminal. Especially when the health care system is sorely needing accountability and staff. And this is in CANADA
I think I have it but I’m scared to get officially diagnosed; Like it or not, it hinders one’s career and can be problematic when starting a family. Trying to find a natural treatment.
If the origin of the emotions/disruption comes from infancy will it not be located and stored in a different part of the cortex than the more mature rational aspects of the personality and the infant will have no language to process or metabolise the resultant emotions as the brain will not have developed that capacity yet. The effect of this being that the emotions may appear autonomous and thus outside of the control of conscious intervention. Also, the trauma even/events that the infant experinces will put in into survival mode and it will learn that specific situations or individuals must be avoided as they pose a danger. This will thus become imprinted and any reaction to the same situation/individual will be automatic and instinctive. So the problem there is that often unconscious and very powerful instinctive reactions will come up against rational and reflective adult reactions both being derived from the same situation/event.
Hi Dr Fox ...before my mental health went bad I first had an enlarged Thyroid.....I read that if the thyroid goes wrong then it is a sign of something more serious in your body.... after I got diagnosed with BPD....Just wondered your thoughts on this and if you do not keep getting it checked, like me, does it affect the BPD? and in what way if it does?....thanks Dr Fox for the past 5 years you where the first person that made sense to me x
@@DrDanielFox I was asking about major depressive disorder bc you had mentioned it and I was diagnosed with with it but it disappeared after stopping antidepressants so I wanted to hear what you thought MDD was. I don't have bpd.
My adult daughter has BPD. Her biological father left before she was born, then gave up his parental rights rather than pay child support. She never met him. He tried to 'reconnect' when she was 16 but changed his mind when child support was mentioned. This interaction went through me but the exchange was at her request. Shd wanted to know if he had other kids. He didn’t. This week we found out he died. Are there any resources that can help me, help her through this?
I have BPD and was told I also have manic traits, adhd, cptsd, narcelopsy, ocd, panic disorder, depression, psychosis. So would I be complex BPD because the one who gave me a diagnoses was a psychiatrist? Should I seek a psychologist?
Is it possible for a person to be egalitarian AND have BPD? Anyone have an answer, resources etc? I've been told it's not possible but have not seen anything to prove it. This is important to me as I have actually been diagnosed BPD and have been labeled egalitarian as well. Dr. Fox, thank u for sharing ur knowledge with us. It's much appreciated!
And I have the BPD workbook by Dr. Fox. Will it be beneficial for me if I've been misdiagnosed again to complete this workbook or should I take a step back from that? *Also have a recent diagnosis of Functional Neurological Disorder if that's of any importance.
Can BPD or other personality disorders occur following a physically traumatizing experience? An experience which physically is acute to a life long chronic problem?
Hey Dr Fox, the part with bpd and ptsd is quite intriguing to me, I am diagnosed with bpd and I’ve had some traumatic events when I was 4 years old, which carried a specific repeating nightmare for around 2 years after that (I still remember this dream clearly to this day). It’s a big trigger for me but I haven’t had dreams or flashbacks of it (I was unaware of it happening up to 2 years ago). I don’t know if i got ptsd as well, does it matter though? Will it change my therapy/medication?
It’s certainly hard to give specific advice but I would suggest working with a mental health provider to explore it and see if some of those traumatic instances are influencing some of those BPD specific behaviors. I wish you well.
A person that has BPD can experience major depression, people react differant ways to this illness. I know VERY well that a person with BPD can experience major depression. Dr Fox Your Wrong! If you don't have BPD then you can't begin to know what this horrible illness feels like!
It would have been nice if you told us what the initials stood for right away rather than 10 minutes in. I did not know what BPD stood for. This was terribly hard to follow. Comparing these without knowing what each was a poor way to help someone understand what you were talking about!
@@DrDanielFox yes once I figure out your what you were talking about it was fine. Thank you for your reply. Please clear up future videos so people who are just learning can understand earlier in the talk. I was tempted to just go elsewhere but you’re talks are good and worth watching. I’ll check the down arrow about the video first for possible explanations from now on! So many acronyms in everything theses days, I feel like making up my own so others can try to figure them out! lol 😂
I thought my boyfriend had BPD. After I left him I realized he was far more NPD and a psychopath. I know that BPD,s are totally irresponsible, but I don't think they are vengeful. They will leave someone when they see they are being left but my bpd went on a rampage of financial and emotional destruction and a smear campaign against me. I now think he is more a npd psychopath.
I’m glad the video was helpful for you and I know it can be really hard to identify personality issues and components in the ones that we are emotionally connected to. Thanks for your comment.
@@DrDanielFox Yes extremely hard but for those of us emotionally connected to the person we are also in denial and ignore all the red flags. Dr Fox it would be very helpful to make a video differentiating BPD/NPD and psychopathy. I realize they are on the same spectrum, but had I seen the specifically narcissistic and psychopathic traits then I would have left long ago.
I’m a psychologist and a psychiatrist, so I cannot write prescriptions. Instead, I have to work with the individual to build insight so they can make better choices for themselves.
@@DrDanielFox Is that common? In my personal experience, the psychiatrists I’ve seen have only suggested medications. Now I’ve spent over 10 years with a stimulant dependency trying to get my mind and body to fit into the unnatural economic mold of modern society.
@@DrDanielFox I saw you’re from Texas as well. You ever consider it’s faster, more convenient, and cheaper in many cases to buy an AR15 in Texas than make an appointment with a psychiatrist _and_ even doing something as simple as getting an Adderall refill?
I can already hear the tiktok fueled self diagnosers clacking away at their keyboards, trying to justify why they think they have BPD because of a few videos and a 20 minute #BPD binge...
Psychiatry has to be the least scientific field of medicine that is still credible. So many causes of psychiatric disorders are unknown, it’s not fully understood how various drugs improve symptoms or when they might actually _worsen_ symptoms, and many of the symptoms of various diseases are experienced by everyone to varying degrees. It’s just too subjective. C’mon, you have Jordan Peterson in your field. 😬 Disagree??? It must be your ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder). Here, take some lithium with your shock therapy. It should hold you over until your lobotomy. What do I know though? According to Sigma Kappa Froooooiiiid, I just suck because of an unmet oral need as a child. Sounds kinda sus, Frued. I have a feeling he would get more brain as a Catholic priest than a psychologist. 😮
@@DrDanielFox Thanks. In all seriousness though, there’s legitimate scientific research done in psychology. I’m just uncertain about the drugs used in psychiatry.
Weeeeeell, actually BPD and NPD are two different things, according to every professional who has a high degree of understanding of personality disorders. But additionally, those who have spent a lifetime of suffering with BPD have such an unstable self image, they may have employed maladaptive coping strategies which can manifest in narcissist traits, in order to feel empowered when they otherwise feel powerless. so to answer you question: Yes, in some cases narcissist traits can arise in some people with BPD, so more of a reason than an excuse. But given that there are almost as many ways to have BPD as there are people with BPD, given a spectrum of severity, background, which of the 9 markers they have, and share with others, which of the broad 200+ combinations they throw up, at what stage of diagnosis / recovery, if any. People with BPD are as varied as other people in the world, who may share some characteristics. The Amber Heards of this world account for about 1% of those with BPD, and if around 1% of the population have a form of BPD, your comment may be directed at a mere 0.0001% of the global population. Maybe focus on other things? The more you know!
@@M2Mil7er thank you for the very well worded response! And esp making the reference to Amber Heard! Wishing you all the best :) P.s. sad how the whole story of Amber/Johnny is so hyped up in the media and taken by some ignorant folks as "examples" of how BPD/NPD looks like! Again, thnx for your comment!
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@F. Aduke Femi-Babalola bpd and npd can overlap and comorbid
Dr Fox, it may be good to invest in a better mic, or if it's a good mic, just back down the input gain on the mic or your recording device in the future. I can tell that the input gain is being overloaded. If you record more quietly, you can turn the volume back up in post-production, and not have to deal with the distortion that occurred during the recording. I'm an audio engineer so let me know if you need help with this. Thanks so much for your videos.
Audio is terrible.
Message is great though
Yes please!!
I think mic should be farther from the doctor
this was such a sweet way of puttin it way to go man
Does anyone have flashbacks to small moments in their past where one was humiliated, criticised, or admonished that can go back as far as early childhood? I saw a psychologist for several years, and she treated me as though I had BPD, but she indicated, towards the end of the treatment, that I more fitted the criteria for CPTSD.
Yes I have. I been diagnosed with BPD. Bipolar and PTSD
Yes all the time whenever i do anything i will have unnintended flashbacks to some other moment i was doing the same but something awful was going on at the same time.
I was initially diagnosed with BPD by a therapist but then I saw a pyschologist who thought I just had traits of BPD along with CPTSD. She thought I lacked some core features. I did close to 5 sessions with her. One of my best friends has BPD and he feels pretty confident that I do too.
Yes, and they come with horrible intrusive thoughts
Yes
I was 4 years old 💀💀💀
I've been in treatment for my bpd, my therapist had me get his workbook. It, combined with therapy, has changed my life. I've gone from dangerously dysfunctional to myself, to a content happy individual with grounding skills. I carry a sobriety coin in my heart for every month I don't spiral, 14 months now. I became a mom 12 months ago, and he's the happiest healthiest baby boy. My relationships in my life are repaired, I started my own business, and I have the skill set to manage all that comes my way. Thank you for being a part of what has saved me and my sons life.
I’m so glad to hear that you are doing well and I want to encourage you to stay on this path. Sounds like you’re doing great and stay strong.
Beautiful post. Congratulations on your sweet baby. 🥰🌷❤
BLESSINGS BLESSINGS ALWAYS!💋💞🌷🌹💪🙏🥰
Being a sufferer of trauma and undiagnosed personality disorders, I really appreciate these videos that you do and many other very intelligent people I have stumbled across. It's helping me heal and pointing me to the way of my purpose in life. I cannot wait to be on the other side of all of this and I know I can be. When that time comes I will be out there helping others not feel the way I do.
Thank you for talking about this because I cannot tell you how many times I get asked if BPD is bipolar disorder or multiple personality disorder (DID). This is a good video to refer people to who either were just diagnosed or to educate those who don’t know much about BPD. Especially after the Depp v. Heard trial with the talks of Heard’s diagnosis of BPD and HPD.
You said it: "The more you know, the more you can (essentially) help yourself change into something different."
I cant function during those depressive episodes. If I feel ignored, unwanted, or abandoned by someone i like... i spiral so fast and so hard i could be in bed for days until i get a message from them... or have such anxiety i cant do anything until its resolved, or anger like im gonna block them out of feeling rejected.
As much as someone raising their voice at me or a doctor belittling me over medical issues... will send me into an intense crying fest like im being killed. Because Im already traumatized and sensitive... doctors are a nightmare for me when they talk over me, yell, or don't take me seriously... then after its too late they call to tell me they found something... they've given me legit extra ptsd to a point i feel mentally worse.
I just am not made for this world. I literally cannot sleep well since a kid, cuz im this way.
hey do you think you could make a video about quite bpd? i really love all your videos and theyve helped so much, it is just a little harder to relate when all of my symptoms are internal and i isolate myself so i dont act on them. these videos give me a sense of empowerment that whenever i do make friends i wont ruin the relationships, i just dont know how to push myself out there alone
I second this
Search for the videos on his channel labeled “subtypes”. There’s a few that reference “quiet”.
Great development, as usual! I have bpd + bipolar disorder + major depression... Today I can see which is which. Thank you as always!
Hi my bpd friends, I love you all ❤️
Today...ha. Love back at ya.
You monster! 😋 love to you too! x
Love You Too! BLESSINGS TO ALL OF US!💋💞🌷🌹💪🙏🥰
Sir, you have no idea how helpful your videos are. I struggled for over 10 years to box these behaviors in something that made any sense and is not conveniently based on blame. Thank you.
The Purple Book has changed my life. Thank you Dr. Fox. And the workbook. I have such a better, more healthy and more informed grasp on my CBPD.
Just to express some appreciation. I enjoy your videos and the calm, straightforward way you deliver the information. Thanks for the videos!
Dr Fox thank you so much for what you do!
Hi Dr fox. Having BPD sucks.i have a hard time keeping counslier because of my BPD.i all ways feel my counselor try to hurt me bye something's they say.this counselor I have now is hanging in there.i hate this BPD it has run my life to long. I got your book and it's helping alot.thanks for your videos I just love you. I thank your a angel 😇
Thank you Dr Fox
Here's an interesting one, BPD and Autism. Just one study done yet the person I know matches up with it. They had pretty much narrowed it down to, and accept it was Quiet BPD. Then a DNA test for a medical condition stumbled on a mutation for Autism. At first they thought maybe they were wrong about the BPD, and are going to be tested to confirm autism. Interestingly the presents of both cancels out any issue with substance abuse. The one study done on comorbid BPD and autism found that 100% of those found to have both conditions had no substance abuse whatsoever.
I also know someone who fits that study perfectly. They have internalized BPD and are also autistic. No substance abuse at all.
@@Vel.Asunai it really stood out because others in the family do struggle with alcoholism. Another thing that really stood out was 100% no children. She only wanted children to make her mother happy. Once the mother passed there was no further discussion of children. (and yes internalized BPD ..sometimes called Quiet BPD)
@@Inseparable724365 well the person I'm referring to is myself. I also dont want kids and my father was an alcoholic. Super interesting.
@@Vel.Asunai there's a button to download the full text (PDF)
My therapist thought i had a mild form of aspergers. More specifically Pervasive Developmental Disorder Not Otherwise Specified.
I told her i was sceptical because i could relate more to personality disorders such as BPD and ASPD due to the intense anger/aggression episodes that could sometimes last for hours and even days. I also had some ideations.
I've never drank alcohol in my entire life thanks to my parents. I resent alcoholics. And drugs too i guess, but mostly alcohol.
Thank you for your videos about bpd. They help so much with the sometimes insane behavior and is a light in the darkness.💕
using the phrase "insane behaviour" is not helpful
Hello Dr. Daniel Fox, one of your biggest fans here!!
I was wondering how common complex BPD is?
I know for a fact I have BPD, but I also have issues that I do believe to be something else...
I experience an intense fear of engulfment, almost equally as horrible to live with as my irrational and annoying fear of abandonment. This combination causes me to want to be around others, however never ever too close! Distrust is a very real character defect of mine and I am not willing to risk others trying to dictate how I should live my life or get close enough to me to abuse a position of intimacy via force me into an enmeshed relationship or attempt to dominate/ corner me.
It's an awful push-pull ...and I really wish I could move into an attachment with others that is less fear-based.
My attachment style scores are fearful-avoidant or otherwise known as disorganized.
I've also been diagnosed with ADHD, and I want to know if that was accurate or a misdiagnosis.
I suffer from a deep lack of motivation and what I believe is apathy.
I get so many thoughts in my head and it's hard to focus on anything outside of me mindfully.
I think I have a really bad case of BPD or bpd and inattentive ADHD.
Could you create something that explains clear and in depth detail that slices the difference between those living with bpd and ADHD verses those just living with bpd.
Lastly thank you for this video and all of your work in the mental health field!
I know you're only a man doing your job, however to someone like me you are a heroic public figure.
Sincerely,
- A Mother with BPD
Here’s one from this channel.
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Hello, I have diagnoses of ADHD and Bipolar Disorder and some traits of BPD. To answer some of your questions... ADHD is a developmental disorder characterized by impaired executive functioning (impulse inhibition and metacognition-- such as time perception, working memory). ADHD starts in childhood and is sometimes no longer present by adulthood, and most people improve functioning with medication. BPD is not diagnosed until adulthood, and it is treated with Dialectical Behavioural Therapy; there is no specific medication known to treat BPD.
I once felt that my emotional reactions were extreme and deemed as inappropriate in the eyes of others. No one but my family ever seemed to give something other than pain in the end. I felt like something might be wrong with myself, and heavily doubted that I knew what was right. I began to feel like I didn't want to be me any more as time went on. When I first heard about BPD I decided to learn more to see if maybe I saw the symptoms in myself. I've not been diagnosed, but I have been curious. I was surprised to learn that emotional dysregulation is also present in ADHD which I have been diagnosed. This was surprising to learn!
Glad to clear this up! Bi Polar Disorder especially Bi Polar 1 is not the same
After 3 years of therapy, I can say my 'bpd symptoms' are less prominent, but my general anxiety (with a big social anxiety core) is still a big part of my day-to-day life, and honestly I feel this anxiety has root in bpd problematics, such as fear of rejection. Good video as usual ❤️👆 the best ressources for BPD!! Greetings from France
I appreciate your Channel and I watch them from time. to time. I don't always follow your explanations but overall the information is highly helpful. So thanks!
I now know I started with BPD which became complex BPD the more complex the less I could hide it , maybe why my diagnosis was later in life. I also understand more as it was given to me but never explained , that's a pattern too.
Thank you for your insight, I'm finally in clinic tomorrow getting a proper diagnosis over a 2-week period. Im already on a waiting list for DBT i think i can do this even when it sometimes seems impossible. Your channel is a huge help, thank you!!!
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
I’d be interested to see how social issues manifest through different disorders. Those with bpd often have trouble fitting in or believing they’re liked, and I know this can be an issue in autism and adhd as well. It’s so bad in adhd that they develop what’s believed to be a special kind of rejection sensitivity that only they experience.
I’ve also heard a lot of people with adhd say they’ve had issues with socially inappropriate and impulsive speech, resulting later in humiliation, which seems like it would have an interesting overlap with bpd. I’d be interested to hear more about these similarities and distinctions.
At least 14% of those diagnosed with ADHD in childhood later receive a diagnosis of BPD while between 18% and 34% of the adults with ADHD are estimated to have comorbid BPD. I got diagnosed with BPD at 46 years old, and am currently in a 2 year wait to be screened for adult ADHD (well ADD really since I'm not hyperactive). The presumed ADD really interferes with my ability to adhere to lifestyle changes which can help manage the BPD, but I'm doing my best. The term you're looking for is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, but the crossover between BPD and ADHD is so prevalent, it's a bit of a chicken and egg situation.
@@M2Mil7er Thanks for your reply. I keep hearing that the current thinking around bpd in progressive parts of the MH field is that it’s either a manifestation of adhd/autism and the chronic invalidation that goes along with that, or a manifestation of c-ptsd. I find the intricacies between them fascinating.
They thought I had adhd as a kid and I think I’m about to begin the diagnostic process for bpd and/or any other comorbidities, so it seems to check out in my case. It’s funny I actually had a theory about the adhd/autism and bpd connection before I knew it was already a thing. It just makes so much sense to me.
@@CrimsonVioletMoonthank you. I also investigated possible aspergers when I was trying to understand my condition. What you say checks out, and I wouldn't be surprised if it becomes the dominant theory in time. I hope you get the treatment you need. All the best x
@@M2Mil7er Well I have my intake for dbt later today. Hopefully they believe I need it and take me on, accurately communicating my needs was never my strong suit. Thanks for the convo and the good will.
@@CrimsonVioletMoon you're welcome, and same! Make some notes to take in with you. That always helps me to not get side tracked in the moment.
Really helpful, thank you
Thank you Dr. D. Fox, I have “The Purple Book”, and I have found it insightful as is this Video. My only wish is I still lived in Houston, it would be great to see you in person for a consultation; perhaps some day!
very helpful content thank you very much.
I'm glad you found the content helpful! Your support means a lot to me.
Thank you so much. I have the blue workbook. Between your videos, a few others on UA-cam and the workbook I feel like I am getting a bit better in learning how to live healthier with my bpd.
Wow thank you so much for your channel^^ I have your book, and this book and therapy helping me a lot^^ but I never knew about channel, so good to watch it now
Your amazing 💯👏 ive got alot of help from your channel ive got bpd & adhd insight is so important thanks so much Dr Fox 💯💚🏴✌️
Thank you. thank you so much, Dr. Fox!
You’re welcome ☺️
Can you please explain more about the difference between BPD and ADHD ?
You sir, are a godsend. I appreciate you !
This BPD & NPD stuff is really, really complex :O
This information was great 💜. Thank you. 💜
Immensely helpful!
Glad it was helpful!
Dr. Fox, what are some healthy ways to cope with the feelings of emptiness?
Thank you
@@minooluna23 Nature helps me too. Wish I could live in a tree house. 🙂
Very good approach, Dr. Fox.
Maybe I somehow missed it, but if not, I think it's really important to state and explain the differences between BPD and NPD. Which also can be comorbid. But it makes me very uncomfortable for the BPD sufferers that there are people and channels with some influence on their audiences (little shaman on UA-cam for example) who insist that BPD is NPD.
I love your channel, by the way, follow your videos religiously, and recommend it wherever I see it fit. Thank you.
Very helpful. Thanks
I’m glad it’s helpful for you.
I feel I might have everything!?
Thank you!!!
What do you think about BPD and CPTSD? The core of BPD seems inextricably linked with my CPTSD. Personality disorders in general seem linked to developmental trauma, but that is just my opinion as a patient.
I'm curious about this too
Hey Dr Fox. You are fabulous 😁❤
Im in the UK, recently diagnosed with Bpd and Ptsd after hospitalisation last year (nearly unalived myself after big meltdown) I haven't been functioning since then. I have 3 children, I used to do the housework etc.. now i dont cook or do much around house. I have to have people help. I dont look after myself, I can't handle any stress.. The depression is so severe.. I am very burnt out but I did think it was because of the bpd. Now I'm not sure. Maybe the big breakdown last year has made me non functional?
I've started dbt therapy and will try my best to beat this, for my children's sake as well as my own. I just dont feel able to open up to my therapist about how bad its got at home. Please someone help with any insight you may have 😩
Thankyou xx
ur mic is cooked af in this video bro
I'd like to know what inspired you to study personality disorders and make this your field, if you ever want to share! 🙂
Thanks for the idea!
(sorry if this seems like a spew i don't know how to speak about bpd stuff very well sometimes) sometimes i feel like i can't tell whether or not im procrastinating about my symptoms or if they are really affecting me in the ways that i think they are. i guess an example of what im trying to talk about is sometimes when i tell my friends i cant do something because of my symptoms/illness they treat like an excuse. and there's no rash feelings that come of that because i know how it sounds to them i just want to know why it feels like im doing something wrong when i tell them the reasons for some of my behavior is linked to my bpd. im also just stumped about my bpd if that makes sense.. its gotten to a point where i just push people away because i don't know what im feeling anymore. or from the overthinking and worries that they will try to harm me emotionally. idk its confusing and its slowly destroying sense of hope.
Thank u sounds good
What would happen if a person with BPD gets in a relationship with someone with schizoid personality disorder, or features of it? Seems like one of the most unlikely and opposite pairings in the personality disorder area.
It depends on the person
My Dad was like that, a narcissistic schizoid, I believe he had both disorders.... which is rather unusual guess.... I know it sounds contradictory but imagine it like a very introverted or loner narcissist, he didn't care about "supply" in the usual sense only to have a good imagine on the outside.
It was living hell for me... extreme emotional neglection, constant silent treatment was his favorite thing... our perception of reality and needs were so opposite of each other that the gaslighting felt like on another level... it took me a long time to recover from that.... to understand that my needs are normal but that I also don't have to get angry (really deep despair is what it actually is on a deeper level) when someone can't meet them...
I think a relationship like that would be very painful for both and probably brief...
I had a dismissive avoidant boyfriend once... even just that was the worst and him breaking up utterly broke me.... it was mirroring my childhood....
I was in relationship with someone being physically abusive before that and that was not nearly, like nowhere nearly as painful for me.... he was a bit controlling and as bad as it sounds but that made me feel like he cared because my Dad was always so tuned out and indifferent towards me that I never experienced anything resembling care before.... (My mum left when I was 3, or my Dad left her, so I was alone with him)
@@user-li7gm7gv3v of course, it always does, because wee are not our disorders.
Try one partner with ADHD and the other with BPD! It is a recipe for disaster!
Thanks😌
thx for that distinction, what about cptsd?
Dr fox you really get it alot of counslier don't get it and it upset me.you get it 👍👍👍👍👌🤷
For years I have had the bpd diagnoses shoved down my throat even though I do not have chronic feelings of emptiness, have an extremely low appetite for risky behavior, don’t see the world in black and white, am not promiscuous, and only have tumultuous relationships with abusive people I cannot avoid (such as at work or with idiot racist psychiatrists who think they can glean the complexities of my life from a single 15 minute conversation).
Having been trained in science, it’s truly remarkable that the pseudoscience of psychiatry is allowed to ruin so many lives.
Too many psychiatrists have the same view of themselves as Ignaz Semmelweis’ peers (durr we can’t do harm because we are doctors, how dare you tell me to wash my hands).
I don’t dispute that some people have BPD but I am OUTRAGED that I had to suffer for YEARS with this constant misdiagnose shoved down my throat when, this whole F😡ing time I had CPTSD and ADD.
Why don’t you talk about that??
Why doesn’t ANYONE talk about the IMMENSE HARM callous and lazy psychiatrists do?
The only “triggering event” I had was being put on the WRONG medication and lost my F😡ing mind and got told “oh it’s working keep taking it”
That’s a difficult course. Thanks for sharing.
@@DrDanielFox honestly I’d say fire the whole health board but they’ll all get over half a million dollars as severance EACH. Gross incompetence like this shouldn’t be rewarded, gross incompetence like this should be criminal. Especially when the health care system is sorely needing accountability and staff. And this is in CANADA
I think I have it but I’m scared to get officially diagnosed; Like it or not, it hinders one’s career and can be problematic when starting a family. Trying to find a natural treatment.
Well I’m confused I have MDD,BP2,BPD 🥺
If the origin of the emotions/disruption comes from infancy will it not be located and stored in a different part of the cortex than the more mature rational aspects of the personality and the infant will have no language to process or metabolise the resultant emotions as the brain will not have developed that capacity yet. The effect of this being that the emotions may appear autonomous and thus outside of the control of conscious intervention. Also, the trauma even/events that the infant experinces will put in into survival mode and it will learn that specific situations or individuals must be avoided as they pose a danger. This will thus become imprinted and any reaction to the same situation/individual will be automatic and instinctive. So the problem there is that often unconscious and very powerful instinctive reactions will come up against rational and reflective adult reactions both being derived from the same situation/event.
Hello DR. I was wondering if maybe sometime you could talk about LGBT+ people with BPD.
Hi Dr Fox ...before my mental health went bad I first had an enlarged Thyroid.....I read that if the thyroid goes wrong then it is a sign of something more serious in your body.... after I got diagnosed with BPD....Just wondered your thoughts on this and if you do not keep getting it checked, like me, does it affect the BPD? and in what way if it does?....thanks Dr Fox for the past 5 years you where the first person that made sense to me x
Is that a Start button on the mirror behind you?
Do you have a video on major depressive disorder ? I was dx with various things that disappeared when I weaned off medications.
I have several videos on depression and BPD that you might find helpful.
@@DrDanielFox I was asking about major depressive disorder bc you had mentioned it and I was diagnosed with with it but it disappeared after stopping antidepressants so I wanted to hear what you thought MDD was. I don't have bpd.
Have you seen many BPD / fibromyalgia comorbidity?
My adult daughter has BPD. Her biological father left before she was born, then gave up his parental rights rather than pay child support. She never met him. He tried to 'reconnect' when she was 16 but changed his mind when child support was mentioned. This interaction went through me but the exchange was at her request. Shd wanted to know if he had other kids. He didn’t.
This week we found out he died.
Are there any resources that can help me, help her through this?
Get a grip on the audio!! Great information here but the audio is very unprofessional !! Call B&H in New York they’ll help you Keep up the good work !
I have BPD and was told I also have manic traits, adhd, cptsd, narcelopsy, ocd, panic disorder, depression, psychosis.
So would I be complex BPD because the one who gave me a diagnoses was a psychiatrist? Should I seek a psychologist?
Is it possible for a person to be egalitarian AND have BPD? Anyone have an answer, resources etc?
I've been told it's not possible but have not seen anything to prove it. This is important to me as I have actually been diagnosed BPD and have been labeled egalitarian as well.
Dr. Fox, thank u for sharing ur knowledge with us. It's much appreciated!
And I have the BPD workbook by Dr. Fox. Will it be beneficial for me if I've been misdiagnosed again to complete this workbook or should I take a step back from that?
*Also have a recent diagnosis of Functional Neurological Disorder if that's of any importance.
Can BPD or other personality disorders occur following a physically traumatizing experience? An experience which physically is acute to a life long chronic problem?
Hey Dr Fox, the part with bpd and ptsd is quite intriguing to me, I am diagnosed with bpd and I’ve had some traumatic events when I was 4 years old, which carried a specific repeating nightmare for around 2 years after that (I still remember this dream clearly to this day).
It’s a big trigger for me but I haven’t had dreams or flashbacks of it (I was unaware of it happening up to 2 years ago).
I don’t know if i got ptsd as well, does it matter though? Will it change my therapy/medication?
It’s certainly hard to give specific advice but I would suggest working with a mental health provider to explore it and see if some of those traumatic instances are influencing some of those BPD specific behaviors. I wish you well.
BPD is NOT a lack of empathy, that's a symptom of NPD/ASPD
and bpdnpd can overlap
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Thank you 😊
A person that has BPD can experience major depression, people react differant ways to this illness. I know VERY well that a person with BPD can experience major depression. Dr Fox Your Wrong! If you don't have BPD then you can't begin to know what this horrible illness feels like!
do NPD prey on BPD?
It would have been nice if you told us what the initials stood for right away rather than 10 minutes in. I did not know what BPD stood for. This was terribly hard to follow. Comparing these without knowing what each was a poor way to help someone understand what you were talking about!
Sorry you experienced confusion in regard to the acronym but I hope you found the video helpful.
@@DrDanielFox yes once I figure out your what you were talking about it was fine. Thank you for your reply. Please clear up future videos so people who are just learning can understand earlier in the talk. I was tempted to just go elsewhere but you’re talks are good and worth watching. I’ll check the down arrow about the video first for possible explanations from now on! So many acronyms in everything theses days, I feel like making up my own so others can try to figure them out! lol 😂
I thought my boyfriend had BPD. After I left him I realized he was far more NPD and a psychopath. I know that BPD,s are totally irresponsible, but I don't think they are vengeful. They will leave someone when they see they are being left but my bpd went on a rampage of financial and emotional destruction and a smear campaign against me. I now think he is more a npd psychopath.
I’m glad the video was helpful for you and I know it can be really hard to identify personality issues and components in the ones that we are emotionally connected to. Thanks for your comment.
@@DrDanielFox Yes extremely hard but for those of us emotionally connected to the person we are also in denial and ignore all the red flags. Dr Fox it would be very helpful to make a video differentiating BPD/NPD and psychopathy. I realize they are on the same spectrum, but had I seen the specifically narcissistic and psychopathic traits then I would have left long ago.
Everyone is diagnosing everyone else these days
And then telling people to ‘mind their business’ & ‘ just heal’.. whilst saying they advocate for mental health.
You should buy a mic in between writing Xanax and Adderall scripts.
I’m a psychologist and a psychiatrist, so I cannot write prescriptions. Instead, I have to work with the individual to build insight so they can make better choices for themselves.
@@DrDanielFox Is that common? In my personal experience, the psychiatrists I’ve seen have only suggested medications. Now I’ve spent over 10 years with a stimulant dependency trying to get my mind and body to fit into the unnatural economic mold of modern society.
@@DrDanielFox I saw you’re from Texas as well. You ever consider it’s faster, more convenient, and cheaper in many cases to buy an AR15 in Texas than make an appointment with a psychiatrist _and_ even doing something as simple as getting an Adderall refill?
@@DrDanielFox ua-cam.com/video/3Q6uCrpzbPY/v-deo.html
@@DrDanielFox ua-cam.com/video/s_nc1IVoMxc/v-deo.html
I can already hear the tiktok fueled self diagnosers clacking away at their keyboards, trying to justify why they think they have BPD because of a few videos and a 20 minute #BPD binge...
hence the term tokked LOL
Maybe. But you also have to realize that there is also almost no resources online for this especific personaliy disorder .
Psychiatry has to be the least scientific field of medicine that is still credible. So many causes of psychiatric disorders are unknown, it’s not fully understood how various drugs improve symptoms or when they might actually _worsen_ symptoms, and many of the symptoms of various diseases are experienced by everyone to varying degrees. It’s just too subjective. C’mon, you have Jordan Peterson in your field. 😬 Disagree??? It must be your ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder). Here, take some lithium with your shock therapy. It should hold you over until your lobotomy.
What do I know though? According to Sigma Kappa Froooooiiiid, I just suck because of an unmet oral need as a child.
Sounds kinda sus, Frued. I have a feeling he would get more brain as a Catholic priest than a psychologist. 😮
You certainly have some passionate beliefs. Thank you for sharing them.
@@DrDanielFox Thanks. In all seriousness though, there’s legitimate scientific research done in psychology. I’m just uncertain about the drugs used in psychiatry.
You need a better micphone, it sounds awaful….. 🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤
Borderline personality disorder = bpd
BPD is not an excuse for woman to be Narcissists.
You need to be more educated on those disorders before you comment.
Neither is using “mental illness of all women” to explain why you’re miserable lol
Weeeeeell, actually BPD and NPD are two different things, according to every professional who has a high degree of understanding of personality disorders. But additionally, those who have spent a lifetime of suffering with BPD have such an unstable self image, they may have employed maladaptive coping strategies which can manifest in narcissist traits, in order to feel empowered when they otherwise feel powerless. so to answer you question: Yes, in some cases narcissist traits can arise in some people with BPD, so more of a reason than an excuse. But given that there are almost as many ways to have BPD as there are people with BPD, given a spectrum of severity, background, which of the 9 markers they have, and share with others, which of the broad 200+ combinations they throw up, at what stage of diagnosis / recovery, if any. People with BPD are as varied as other people in the world, who may share some characteristics. The Amber Heards of this world account for about 1% of those with BPD, and if around 1% of the population have a form of BPD, your comment may be directed at a mere 0.0001% of the global population. Maybe focus on other things? The more you know!
@@M2Mil7er thank you for the very well worded response! And esp making the reference to Amber Heard! Wishing you all the best :)
P.s. sad how the whole story of Amber/Johnny is so hyped up in the media and taken by some ignorant folks as "examples" of how BPD/NPD looks like!
Again, thnx for your comment!
@F. Aduke Femi-Babalola bpd and npd can overlap and comorbid
Truamatized by this audio
🤣 yo that's actually comedy