Okay. So, here's the thing about the last one.... the dude upset because his wife is breastfeeding their newborn daughter... he is not only sexualizing his wife's breast, he is also sexualizing his newborn daughter. 🤮 The fact that he observes his wife feeding their baby and has thoughts about his newborn daughter enjoying breastfeeding for any reason other than sustenance and comfort is absolutely disgusting. STOP SEXUALIZING EVERYTHING THAT WOMEN DO! Jeez!😡
Yeah, that’s what upset me about it too. I hope he does tell his wife he’s having this “problem”, and I hope she sees sense and gets the fuck out of there before he starts finding other things his daughter does ‘too sexy’, the fucking creep.
have to say when I first saw flovoured condoms I wondered why on earth ... and just as suddenly the realisation struck young teen me and I was disgusted lol
Maybe they heard that the inside of your mouth and the vagina are composed of the same tissue, that's the only thing I can think of that might make someone ask that question 🤔
Actually that does make sense. When I was younger I didn't know flavoured condoms could only be used for blowies tho, I think I was about 14 when I found out that using them for penetrative sex can cause a yeast infection.
That creepy father watching his daughter being fed and thinking about her future sexuality is bizarre. If that was my husband bringing that up and arguing with me about it, he'd be gone. What a piece of shite.
Unfortunately a lot of women don’t have many options. But let’s hope he posts a follow up whining “she left me! She has full custody! I have supervised visitation! Why????”
Bet he’d still be laying awake at night wondering if the daughter was being breastfed.. Ew. If that daughter grows up to actually be a lesbian, I hope she immediately finds a way to escape that father. Hell, I hope the father’s out of the picture either way, such a disgusting creature.
My best friend (gay man) also doesn’t seem to get why I am constantly gushing about how he sees me as a complete, competent human. We were working on a project with several straight men and I noticed one of them doing something in a way that would cause a problem. I pointed it out and the dude was like, “It’ll be fine.” Which it wasn’t. The very next day I pointed out something similar to my friend and he said, “Oh, you’re right, thanks.” He was very confused when I immediately hugged him. 😂
I cannot be tickled anymore. When I was a small child, it was fine and normal like most kids. I would do flips in my grandpas lap as he tickled me, full of joy! But somewhere along the way and my mental health journey, I couldn’t handle it. By the time I was about 12, I noticed I would freak out if someone touched me. So this is my long way of saying being tickled gives me a panic attack. In some relationships, partners will tickle each other as a playful intimate act, and that’s fine and even cute. My ex couldn’t understand that I cannot handle being tickled, and would do so whenever he wanted to make me squirm. I was young and never seen that as a hatful act, I was naive. My current boyfriend, who is now very aware of my inability to not have a panic attack when being tickled, accidentally tickled me once, and as soon as he noticed I was crying he immediately stopped and started apologizing relentlessly. I kept saying it was okay, he didn’t mean to, and he wasn’t having it. He said it was not okay and he was upset with himself. After talking about it he realized just how low the bar was. Needless to say, we’re going on four years together and I am going to marry this man. My dad, who only has daughters, already calls him son and son-in-law. And despite the fact he’s aware me and my bf want to wait until mid-20’s to have kids, he’s ready to be a grandpa and told us we needed to get on that 😂 idk why this was so long, but I had to share my bf’s realization of how low the bar is
Similar situation. Anytime I praise my fiance for being emotionally available, understanding, easy-going, not willing to control me, and such other things, he always reacts with confusion and "Well, of course I am- I love you." It's adorable, but I'm rather sad that more men aren't like him.
The postpartum depression one hit me hard...because I told myself the same thing..."how can I feel so depressed when I wanted to be a mom so bad". And yet, I had such bad depression after having both of my kids that I'm lucky to be here now. And I absolutely adored and still adore my babies. ❤
Anyone who says that to new mothers are wretched. I have friends and family who have gone through postpartum depression, and they put so much pain and guilt on themselves about "being bad moms" because of their emotional struggle after birth, and it has been heartbreaking to see that. You can yearn to be a mother and still be a victim of physiological chaos outside of your control. Parents, love yourself and be proud of your strength and compassion. You're superheroes. 💖
That is like asking me how I can have bad eyes (like my mother and grandmother ...) when I love to read - duh, because bodies aren't always perfect and don't always work perfectly! Nothing to do with what you love. ❤
The thing that mind boggles me about the mentality around nice guys (besides what already been stated) is that relationships are formed on mutual interests/personalitys not niceness. I have gone on many dates with actually nice men, theyre kind nature is what FIRST attracts me to them. But so far all the reasons i have not gone beyond a first date is just regular relationship reasons, we have different values, our personalities dont mesh, i didnt like his sense of humor etc etc. There was one man i dated for 2 months. We REALLY liked each other, he was SUPER nice, i could easily see myself falling inlove with him one day, but the reason we broke up was when we talked about future desires/goals he really wanted kids, he dreamed of being a dad one day, and i dont. And unfortunately that isnt something you can comprimise on. I wish that man the best, i really do think he was a catch just not the one for me. And none of it had to do with niceness tm.
yeah! plus the fact that _even when_ two people seem like they'd be the perfect match, sometimes there just isn't a spark and feelings just don't develop, and that can't be forced
@@hannahk1306 I think it's more like they played way too many eroge dating sims and think that if you just click the nice dialogue option you'll get the sex scene
The "will my baby daughter turn out to be a lesbian" guy is either really misguided, or his wife needs to pick the kids up and get the hell away from that idiot, but the tangent about straight marriage that came out of it is hilarious; i haven't laughed like this in months! Thank you❣
Okay so I was actually eating macaroni and cheese when Jamie said "vaginas can taste macaroni and cheese" And I think it's the only time in my life I've been slightly repulsed by mac and cheese. LoL
I'd seen the one about the breastfeeding before - I feel like I need to bathe in disinfectant every time I hear it. The guy's gross - sexualising his infant daughter and the act of feeding a baby, rampant homophobia, control issues. Just sickening.
Compared to everybody else, Jaime is so kind and gentle, never swears, and even when he's mad it's still quiet and gentle. But you put him next to the angelic Shaaba, and he seems like he's flipped out multiple times in this video. I love you guys. You're seriously the best. We all need to aspire to their relationship.
@@itme999 That's wonderful! Is it avocado green, my moms' is. She got it as a wedding present, still going strong. I also inherited my grandmother's stand mixer, I think that's from the fifties.
D’you mean like, the appliance that brings joy and daiquiris into our lives? They did. Because I made frozen drinks with them. And baby food. And milkshakes.
Shaaba, I need to tell you that you almost killed me. I was eating grapes while watching the video, and when you said "See, I'm not expecting sex right now" I snorted with laughter and almost inhaled a grape lol
Ok myself and my two sisters were all breastfed, youngest is cishet, middle a lesbian and I'm bisexual so breastfeeding didn't change our sexual attraction.
I hate how people sexualize boobs so much, and childs tooo. If a baby boy is held by women and goes for their boobs suddlendy he is "THE MAN" and "LOVES WOMEN"winkwink, why?? He is just hungry
So sexualising breastfeeding... if the baby had been a son, what would the response have been then? Different? Worse? Or would implied mother-son incest have been fine?
Either the breastfeeding dude is not alone, or he is alone and posting this everywhere. I remember a few years ago, some guy in AITA arguing with his wife about breastfeeding their daughter. Also, versions of feeding bottles are much, much older than you think. Poor people couldn't afford a wet nurse. Or maybe worked as a wet nurse for someone rich and still needed to feed their own baby. Infant mortality was high.
Jamie: very composed and low-key in solo videos Shaaba: usually laid-back but sometimes gets more silly in solo videos Shaaba and Jamie together: CHAOS CHAOS Ç|=|ÆØ$
Just want to clarify, if any object like the tip of a baby bottle, or even a finger is also put next to a child, as long as there isn't a bitter odor coming from it or a bitter taste on it, an infant, especially one less than a month old, will start sucking on it. It is an actual reflex to make sure they get food that starts to develop during the 32nd week of pregnancy and fades 6-12 months after birth, and it is actually how you can track a baby's development in those early weeks, as a baby will suck more enthusiastically when their brain is stimulated. Along with eye movement, this helps researchers learn about memory and intelligence in infants who can't babble yet (which starts around 6-7 months).
My OCD has made my life hell at times, but not even in my worst OCD fever dreams could I have conceived of that "women touch penises, then doorhandles, and it's making us GAY" thing. 🙄
The post about the woman and her baby at the end is really sad and scary, I hope they got away from that man - that's not a safe person to be involved with.
I can confirm the breastfeeding one. I didn’t eat anything at all as a baby and that’s how I became asexual. That’s also why aces are so obsessed with cake and garlic bread. We can finally eat so we may overreact a bit 🤷♂️
Fun fact, baby feeding vessels have been found in some of the most ancient villages. Basically one of the first things we made with pottery is baby feeding vessels. One I saw looked like a cow. They had little spouts to provide the milk/pap to the child. Also, wet nursing has been a thing since time and memorial, because not all women make enough milk for their babies.
My daughter's father took her in the shower to give her a bath with him as a baby and while he was cleaning her off, she gave him a hickey on his bicep from trying to nurse. He hollers out, "Babe, I think she's hungry!"
I had several instances today where I've been utterly baffled by other people's opinions and strange conclusions to information we had shared in consuming, so this video felt very on theme for me haha.
As a cis woman who breastfed as a baby, I can confirm that I didn't turn out to be a lesbian (unless my boyfriend is secretly a trans woman 🤷♀️). Seriously though, how do people even think of this stuff, let alone type it out and post it online for strangers to see? Surely somewhere in that process there must be a part of their brain that thinks, "no, this is nonsense"?
on the topic of postpartum depression/psychosis: it is uncontrollable and caused by hormones. it will go away at some point. when you hear about a mother killing their newborn, it's due to postpartum psychosis. my mom experienced postpartum psychosis with my brother, but for her it was her being convinced she'd be a horrible parent. I think she told me she may have gotten adoption papers even? my dad kept her from doing it for long enough for her to get herself back, but it's very real and very scary. I hate when people say postpartum or post surgery depression means you didn't want it. it really boils my blood. okay rant over lol
Jamie's disgusting face to these posts just made my day 😂 thankyou Jamie for your cameo in this video , you two are such an adorable and chaotic couple ❤
OMG… postpartum doula here, and that is an *incredible* discussion of feeding babies that manages to avoid the pitfalls that often come into it. Also, before bottles if a mum couldn’t breastfeed someone else did, if the baby couldn’t feed there were cups and fingers. They found a way.
Yeah they were called "wet-nurses". Fun fact, that's why nurses in hospital are called nurses. The word "nurse" originally only referred to wet-nurses, but over time that name definition expanded to cover any female caretaker of children (nursemaids who were essentially apprentice nannies, who in turn tended to be an older woman), and then was further expanded to include adults. And thus became the term "nurse" we use today.
That agriculture one is really bothering me as an archaeologist bc what do they think people ate before agriculture? Like did we not have food for most of human existence?!?!
You actually just saved my day. I cannot explain it, but the first ten seconds of this already boosted my mood so much. You two are great. Also, Shaaba is very pretty. I hope you continue having fun and educating people and saving shitty days. Thanks!
Even disregarding the immense amount of sleep and basic function after having a baby. The hormone changes in the body are so extreme and so sudden that it's incredibly common to have postpartum depression because of how chemicals in the body work
What a respectful, loving, caring and intelligent connection you have! Seems like your relationship is your save space. It is heartwarming to listen to you. Thank you. I hope I will find a connection of that kind with a partner, too. Wish me luck. Lovely wishes to the community.
The last one... "(...) for what she's doing to my child?" Feeding it??? Like, bro." I hate the idea of **** being forced in my baby girls face". It's not forced you weirdo, the child literally just wants to be fed like wtf
I have insecurities about my breast and all it took was Shaaba reminding me that they were created for the purpose of feeding to make me realize that they are literally just udders and it shouldn’t matter what they look like. It seems so simple and obvious now but society made me view them in a more sexual light and it has always made me feel lesser than because I don’t have perfect tits. Thank you Shaaba I genuinely needed to hear that.
I was about to say "well before bottles they fed some babies with wet nurses and even goats in some cases" but then I realised that even with the goat, that still counts as breast fed
That was so cruel, the father and the breastfeeding thing, if I was that girl I would be humiliated. Especially if she was gay, I would NEVER tell my dad with how much of a perv he is.
I've seen (in a medical museum) a small ceramic teapot to feed milk to infants. One of my nieces had a really hard time getting a good latch and it was a struggle for my sister to nurse her without the aid of a bottle. It was good to see that people have found ways to get food into babies even before the invention of the rubber (and later silicone) nipple!
2:20 This one infuriates me on So. Many. Levels. First, it's implying that people with a depressive mood disorder have control over it or are to blame for it. *_THIS CAN ACTUALLY KILL PEOPLE SUFFERING FROM a mood disorder!_* Second, it's trivializing a serious and quite nasty medical condition, one that _needs _*_more awareness_*_ and _*_understanding._* Third, it is, once again, spreading misinformation about how pregnancy, birth, and post-natal maternal physiology work. And lastly, it shows a complete lack of understanding of what a depressive mood disorder actually is. Having lived with one since age 7 [I'm in my mid-50s now], forgive my Public Service Announcement: it's not about "feeling sad." A depressive mood disorder: (1) Makes you _incapable_ of feeling "positive" emotions. Joy, pleasure, happiness, hope, … they all go out the window; (2) Drops the bottom out from under emotions like: sadness, misery, self-loathing, despair, guilt, and hopelessness. And as a disorder, _it's not tied to anything or "about" anything._ It is a malfunctioning amygdala that's causing it, not anything external. So post-partum depression strikes me as particularly insidious and nasty. Because society is telling you that you're "supposed to" feel this way or that, but due to a malfunctioning amygdala, _you are incapable of feeling anything that doesn't make you suffer._ Which makes you hate yourself, which in turn just feeds into the mood-disorder, strengthening it. Anyway, whoever wrote that, I want to _smack_ him hard upside the head.
This is kind of off topic, but I’d just like to say, Shaaba, that your hair looks really nice in this video. I don’t know if anything’s different about it, but it looks great!
I was unable to breastfeed my two children for medical reasons. My daughter is queer, my son is not. I am one of three siblings. I was breastfed for a few weeks. I am not gay. My sister and brother were not breastfed. They are also not gay. OMG! This is some wild s*it!
The diet one is really funny because pretty much every diet I can think of that's named after a person is named after the man who invented it lol. Turns out that a majority of popular diets were developed by doctors, who, due to the patriarchy, are often men...
Sorry to inform the last writer who's having issues with his wife breast-feeding their daughter. I am female, my mother breast fed me and I am asexual. So, obviously, breast feeding does not make girls lesbians, but asexuals. You're welcome.
I breastfed 3 kids. Oldest is female to male trans. Uses they/then Maybe they got love and felt attached so that they had the courage to be who they are.
there is a thing of if you put something (i think an onion) on your feet you will start tasting it in your mouth. also this could be wrong cuz my mom told me and she has a track record of lying to me
I am transmasculine. Blood tests have confirmed that the level of testosterone are the same as a cis gender man. I was in a waiting room next to two women and a small dog. The owner of the dog said that it didn't tolerate men and had attempted to bite a guy earlier that day. Thier dog allowed me to pet it and ignored me most of the time. I found it interesting.
@@SharylLacroix There are a lot of dogs that will take a cue from their owners, but I have seen so many rescue dogs who are terrified of men, despite the encouragement from their owners. Some were only afraid of children. I knew a man who's wife left the family dog locked in an apartment with out food for weeks, to punish her ex husband. Before that happened, the dog was happy and secure. After the incident, the dog would howl and scream if it was left alone, even if it was only for a few minutes. My family had a rescue dog that had been beaten all of it's life. He was affectionate and was easy to handle, as long as no one restrained him. If anyone attempted to restrain it, he would turn on them. No matter how much he otherwise trusted them. One form of abuse that happened was the sprayed with water form a hose while being beaten. That dog didn't tolerate being bathed. My family definitely did everything that they could to help that dog feel secure and safe, but it never forgot the abuse and that was reflected in the animal's behavior. My friend has a small dog that was regularly picked up and thrown by her partner who was a man. That dog won't tolerate contact with men and won't allow anyone but my friend to pick it up. It enjoys being petted by me, but freaks out if it thinks that I am going to pick it up. I have read the results of a very unethical experiment on trauma, using dogs as test subjects. After repeated physical torture the personality was permanently changed. Dogs can develop PTSD triggers just like humans can. I knew a guy who had a small parrot that was bonded to him. It was happy to sit on other people and interact with them. After the man went to prison, the bird would only tolerate the proximity that man's son. Everyone else gets bitten. It used to a quiet animal. Now, it screams constantly. The bird had emotional reaction to the loss. I am interested in learning as much as I can about the physical and behavioral effects of trauma, including animals. Even though some dogs are responding to cues from their owners, I avoid making judgement calls on what people tell me about their pets, because they know their animal a lot better than someone who just met them.
Couple of fun facts: humans can actually "taste" with their feet. Not actually, but technically. If you stand on some garlic with your bare feet, after only a short time you can actually taste garlic! Of course you're still using your taste buds in your mouth, it's that the molecules responsible for garlics smell (allicin) absorb into your skin, get into your blood stream and that takes them to your mouth where your taste buds can detect those molecules. But still, that kinda counts right? Also, humans absolutely _can_ smell pheromones. We just have a far weaker sensitivity to it, so most of the time we're only aware at the subconscious level. It's why someone might smell good to you even though they aren't wearing anything fragrant, and you likely can't describe _how_ they smell exactly. It's thought it might also influence who you find attractive if you get close to them. Curiously, certain illnesses can change your pheromones, and one lady (Joy Milne) discovered she can literally smell Parkinson's disease from people with the condition, even long before any of our current diagnosis tools can pick it up. She first noticed this after a sudden change in how her husband smelled, then he got a diagnosis a short while later because the sudden change worried her and she demanded he got tested to find out what was going on. Then about a year later she smelled the same odd "fragrance" on a stranger walking past and told them they likely had it and to get tested - turned out she was right and they caught it earlier than they ever have before in a person.
You guys are so adorable, I love seeing y'all together for videos like this. Also... Goodness... The amount of people who don't understand how things work is very yikes. That last bit at the end was super unsettling. Wtf is this man doing sexualizing the relationship between his wife and daughter like that? Gross!
Ok... so the 'dad' is talking about "staying pissed" and "the arguing is getting intense". That means that this has been going on for a while. That must be very stressful for his wife. Could it be that the baby is "attacking" the breasts because mom has difficulty breastfeeding because of all the stress? I know for a fact that breastfeeding can be a problem if the mother can't be relaxed.
😂😂😂 I love seeing you two together. With the man invents food. Woman invents sietone, I was just confused. 😂 Last story, i fear for those children and mom. Dad in the story NEEDS to STOP seeing breasts as only for sex. Maybe someone's going to point out that it's where we get milk. And that cow milk comes from essentially cow boobs, just that the udder is not on the chest. See how he reacts. 😂
I always like the thing about "the way you treat women who won't have sex with you is ACTUALLY how you treat women"
Well said
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Yes!!! A man not being able to have platonic relationships with women is such a red flag
Okay. So, here's the thing about the last one.... the dude upset because his wife is breastfeeding their newborn daughter... he is not only sexualizing his wife's breast, he is also sexualizing his newborn daughter. 🤮 The fact that he observes his wife feeding their baby and has thoughts about his newborn daughter enjoying breastfeeding for any reason other than sustenance and comfort is absolutely disgusting. STOP SEXUALIZING EVERYTHING THAT WOMEN DO! Jeez!😡
Yeah, that’s what upset me about it too. I hope he does tell his wife he’s having this “problem”, and I hope she sees sense and gets the fuck out of there before he starts finding other things his daughter does ‘too sexy’, the fucking creep.
It's so nasty. This guy needs some therapy ASAP and to be removed from being around children. Or anyone for that matter
Equally gross: probably thought the same about his son and was fine with it 🤮
I wish I could like this about a thousand times.
Aside from the fact that babies have been breastfed for literal millennia and we've still managed to turn out straight women.
I think the "do vaginas have taste buds" is a very innocent person trying to figure out why flavoured condoms exist.
😮 I forgot about flavored condoms! 😂 I did think it was an innocent question of a confused person
have to say when I first saw flovoured condoms I wondered why on earth ... and just as suddenly the realisation struck young teen me and I was disgusted lol
Exactly what I thought!
Maybe they heard that the inside of your mouth and the vagina are composed of the same tissue, that's the only thing I can think of that might make someone ask that question 🤔
Actually that does make sense. When I was younger I didn't know flavoured condoms could only be used for blowies tho, I think I was about 14 when I found out that using them for penetrative sex can cause a yeast infection.
As a lesbian, I can confirm that breastfeeding did not make me gay! Anime did.
same but i'm gay the other way round :D
I am a lesbian and was never breast fed lol.
I wasn't breastfed, and I'm ace and nonbinary, hmmm...
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wow… it’s almost like… being breastfed doesn’t affect if you’re going to be LGBTQ or not…curious.
That creepy father watching his daughter being fed and thinking about her future sexuality is bizarre. If that was my husband bringing that up and arguing with me about it, he'd be gone. What a piece of shite.
I think you’d have probably sensed the moron in him before you married him to be fair 😅 Totally agree though..what an absolute disgusting moron.
Unfortunately a lot of women don’t have many options.
But let’s hope he posts a follow up whining “she left me! She has full custody! I have supervised visitation! Why????”
Bet he’d still be laying awake at night wondering if the daughter was being breastfed.. Ew.
If that daughter grows up to actually be a lesbian, I hope she immediately finds a way to escape that father. Hell, I hope the father’s out of the picture either way, such a disgusting creature.
I'm ace, would that mean that I just... photosynthesized as a baby?
Yes, obviously! 🤣
well of course! 🤣
I was bottle fed, and I'm ace and nonbinary
Check your chlorophyll levels 😂
My ace friend does have a vitamin D deficiency...
Please make sure to get some sunlight, guys! You don't want wilted leaves and no energy :(
Whenever I compliment my bf on basically caring about me he just is like “why would I NOT care about you? Is this a problem you’ve had before?” I nod.
It's both sweet and sad. My bf cries out "is the bar really so low?!" 🤣 I appreciate him for clearing it by miles every day.
My best friend (gay man) also doesn’t seem to get why I am constantly gushing about how he sees me as a complete, competent human. We were working on a project with several straight men and I noticed one of them doing something in a way that would cause a problem. I pointed it out and the dude was like, “It’ll be fine.” Which it wasn’t.
The very next day I pointed out something similar to my friend and he said, “Oh, you’re right, thanks.” He was very confused when I immediately hugged him. 😂
I cannot be tickled anymore. When I was a small child, it was fine and normal like most kids. I would do flips in my grandpas lap as he tickled me, full of joy! But somewhere along the way and my mental health journey, I couldn’t handle it. By the time I was about 12, I noticed I would freak out if someone touched me. So this is my long way of saying being tickled gives me a panic attack. In some relationships, partners will tickle each other as a playful intimate act, and that’s fine and even cute. My ex couldn’t understand that I cannot handle being tickled, and would do so whenever he wanted to make me squirm. I was young and never seen that as a hatful act, I was naive.
My current boyfriend, who is now very aware of my inability to not have a panic attack when being tickled, accidentally tickled me once, and as soon as he noticed I was crying he immediately stopped and started apologizing relentlessly. I kept saying it was okay, he didn’t mean to, and he wasn’t having it. He said it was not okay and he was upset with himself. After talking about it he realized just how low the bar was. Needless to say, we’re going on four years together and I am going to marry this man. My dad, who only has daughters, already calls him son and son-in-law. And despite the fact he’s aware me and my bf want to wait until mid-20’s to have kids, he’s ready to be a grandpa and told us we needed to get on that 😂 idk why this was so long, but I had to share my bf’s realization of how low the bar is
Aww, dang, that's a little sad, but also nice that he's like loving you is a natural thing.
Similar situation. Anytime I praise my fiance for being emotionally available, understanding, easy-going, not willing to control me, and such other things, he always reacts with confusion and "Well, of course I am- I love you." It's adorable, but I'm rather sad that more men aren't like him.
The postpartum depression one hit me hard...because I told myself the same thing..."how can I feel so depressed when I wanted to be a mom so bad". And yet, I had such bad depression after having both of my kids that I'm lucky to be here now. And I absolutely adored and still adore my babies. ❤
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❤ Me too. I’m better now but it was really hard for awhile.
Anyone who says that to new mothers are wretched. I have friends and family who have gone through postpartum depression, and they put so much pain and guilt on themselves about "being bad moms" because of their emotional struggle after birth, and it has been heartbreaking to see that. You can yearn to be a mother and still be a victim of physiological chaos outside of your control.
Parents, love yourself and be proud of your strength and compassion. You're superheroes. 💖
That is like asking me how I can have bad eyes (like my mother and grandmother ...) when I love to read - duh, because bodies aren't always perfect and don't always work perfectly! Nothing to do with what you love. ❤
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The dude wasn't just thinking those ridiculous, perverted thoughts. He was INTENSLY arguing with his wife about it. Wtf is going on?
Well, that was twice the sarcasm. Jamie and Shabba together are just chaos incarnate, and I love everything about it.
I love them both, but I love them 10x more together!
@@SomersetSewist Same.
It feels more like a party rather than someone confiding
@@lapislazarus8899 It really does.
The thing that mind boggles me about the mentality around nice guys (besides what already been stated) is that relationships are formed on mutual interests/personalitys not niceness. I have gone on many dates with actually nice men, theyre kind nature is what FIRST attracts me to them. But so far all the reasons i have not gone beyond a first date is just regular relationship reasons, we have different values, our personalities dont mesh, i didnt like his sense of humor etc etc.
There was one man i dated for 2 months. We REALLY liked each other, he was SUPER nice, i could easily see myself falling inlove with him one day, but the reason we broke up was when we talked about future desires/goals he really wanted kids, he dreamed of being a dad one day, and i dont. And unfortunately that isnt something you can comprimise on. I wish that man the best, i really do think he was a catch just not the one for me. And none of it had to do with niceness tm.
Exactly, I think some of these men think that women are like a video game: if they find the right combination of moves, they'll win the prize.
yeah! plus the fact that _even when_ two people seem like they'd be the perfect match, sometimes there just isn't a spark and feelings just don't develop, and that can't be forced
Don’t be too regretful when you hit 30 / 35 and can’t find a guy anywhere near as desirable as that one 🤷🏻♂️
You’ll see
@@hannahk1306 I think it's more like they played way too many eroge dating sims and think that if you just click the nice dialogue option you'll get the sex scene
The "will my baby daughter turn out to be a lesbian" guy is either really misguided, or his wife needs to pick the kids up and get the hell away from that idiot, but the tangent about straight marriage that came out of it is hilarious; i haven't laughed like this in months! Thank you❣
I love how savage Jamie is in this video. Seeing you try to find the learning curve while he was just “Fuck ‘em” was hilarious 😂 xx
Okay so I was actually eating macaroni and cheese when Jamie said "vaginas can taste macaroni and cheese" And I think it's the only time in my life I've been slightly repulsed by mac and cheese. LoL
I was also eating mac and cheese haha
I'd seen the one about the breastfeeding before - I feel like I need to bathe in disinfectant every time I hear it. The guy's gross - sexualising his infant daughter and the act of feeding a baby, rampant homophobia, control issues. Just sickening.
13:18 The fact that there’s a man out there who thinks the Lesbian Origin Story is breast feeding makes me chuckle.
Now I’m wondering how gay men get invented!
Probably Freud
**straight guy voice** is she, you know, breast fed?
Man? Singular? I have a sinking feeling it's more than one dude....
Compared to everybody else, Jaime is so kind and gentle, never swears, and even when he's mad it's still quiet and gentle. But you put him next to the angelic Shaaba, and he seems like he's flipped out multiple times in this video. I love you guys. You're seriously the best. We all need to aspire to their relationship.
I love that Jamie's sweatshirt matches Shaaba's hair.
Also, blenders definitely existed in 1995.
My mom has one from the 1970s. 💀😂
@@KatjeKat86 I had to check: blenders came out in the THIRTIES. 😂
@@KatjeKat86 when my mom died, I inherited a 1970s blender. It still works 🥰
@@itme999 That's wonderful! Is it avocado green, my moms' is. She got it as a wedding present, still going strong. I also inherited my grandmother's stand mixer, I think that's from the fifties.
D’you mean like, the appliance that brings joy and daiquiris into our lives? They did. Because I made frozen drinks with them. And baby food. And milkshakes.
"Touching semen makes you gay" is like an updated version of "masturbation makes you blind".
Shaaba, I need to tell you that you almost killed me. I was eating grapes while watching the video, and when you said "See, I'm not expecting sex right now" I snorted with laughter and almost inhaled a grape lol
Jamie was really not having it today. It was lovely to see
That lesbian one was WILD. People are so stupid 🤦🏻♀️
and ignorant
Or as we say in Scotland they are numptys (useless idiots)
Ok myself and my two sisters were all breastfed, youngest is cishet, middle a lesbian and I'm bisexual so breastfeeding didn't change our sexual attraction.
yeah, i was breastfed and im gay so i dont think it does
I hate how people sexualize boobs so much, and childs tooo. If a baby boy is held by women and goes for their boobs suddlendy he is "THE MAN" and "LOVES WOMEN"winkwink, why?? He is just hungry
Heh heh sarcasm.
i was breastfed and i turned out to be an mlm ace trans guy so yeah breastfeeding definitely doesn't influence anything XD
@@inni_k7767 people seriously sexualize beastfeeding. genuinely disturbing.
So sexualising breastfeeding... if the baby had been a son, what would the response have been then? Different? Worse? Or would implied mother-son incest have been fine?
Shaaba and Jamie: the absolute adorably lovely chaos we all need in our lives!
Either the breastfeeding dude is not alone, or he is alone and posting this everywhere. I remember a few years ago, some guy in AITA arguing with his wife about breastfeeding their daughter.
Also, versions of feeding bottles are much, much older than you think. Poor people couldn't afford a wet nurse. Or maybe worked as a wet nurse for someone rich and still needed to feed their own baby. Infant mortality was high.
Jamie: very composed and low-key in solo videos
Shaaba: usually laid-back but sometimes gets more silly in solo videos
Shaaba and Jamie together: CHAOS CHAOS Ç|=|ÆØ$
Just want to clarify, if any object like the tip of a baby bottle, or even a finger is also put next to a child, as long as there isn't a bitter odor coming from it or a bitter taste on it, an infant, especially one less than a month old, will start sucking on it. It is an actual reflex to make sure they get food that starts to develop during the 32nd week of pregnancy and fades 6-12 months after birth, and it is actually how you can track a baby's development in those early weeks, as a baby will suck more enthusiastically when their brain is stimulated. Along with eye movement, this helps researchers learn about memory and intelligence in infants who can't babble yet (which starts around 6-7 months).
My OCD has made my life hell at times, but not even in my worst OCD fever dreams could I have conceived of that "women touch penises, then doorhandles, and it's making us GAY" thing. 🙄
1:15 I don’t think it’s the pheromones, it’s just that they give less Fs to people who don’t deserve it in the first place.
The post about the woman and her baby at the end is really sad and scary, I hope they got away from that man - that's not a safe person to be involved with.
I can confirm the breastfeeding one. I didn’t eat anything at all as a baby and that’s how I became asexual. That’s also why aces are so obsessed with cake and garlic bread. We can finally eat so we may overreact a bit 🤷♂️
Fun fact, baby feeding vessels have been found in some of the most ancient villages. Basically one of the first things we made with pottery is baby feeding vessels. One I saw looked like a cow. They had little spouts to provide the milk/pap to the child. Also, wet nursing has been a thing since time and memorial, because not all women make enough milk for their babies.
My daughter's father took her in the shower to give her a bath with him as a baby and while he was cleaning her off, she gave him a hickey on his bicep from trying to nurse. He hollers out, "Babe, I think she's hungry!"
Oh my god that’s hilarious
I had several instances today where I've been utterly baffled by other people's opinions and strange conclusions to information we had shared in consuming, so this video felt very on theme for me haha.
As a cis woman who breastfed as a baby, I can confirm that I didn't turn out to be a lesbian (unless my boyfriend is secretly a trans woman 🤷♀️).
Seriously though, how do people even think of this stuff, let alone type it out and post it online for strangers to see? Surely somewhere in that process there must be a part of their brain that thinks, "no, this is nonsense"?
It's Freud's fault. We should blame Freud more actually.
He's also getting into arguments with his wife about it.
on the topic of postpartum depression/psychosis: it is uncontrollable and caused by hormones. it will go away at some point. when you hear about a mother killing their newborn, it's due to postpartum psychosis. my mom experienced postpartum psychosis with my brother, but for her it was her being convinced she'd be a horrible parent. I think she told me she may have gotten adoption papers even? my dad kept her from doing it for long enough for her to get herself back, but it's very real and very scary. I hate when people say postpartum or post surgery depression means you didn't want it. it really boils my blood. okay rant over lol
Jamie's disgusting face to these posts just made my day 😂 thankyou Jamie for your cameo in this video , you two are such an adorable and chaotic couple ❤
Do you mean "disgusted"?
3:44 Fun Fact: Lobsters can taste with their feet.
Another fun fact, ypu have taste receptors in your anus and (if you have one) your vagina, luckily they don't seem to be functional but they are there
The more you know... 😄🙌
OMG… postpartum doula here, and that is an *incredible* discussion of feeding babies that manages to avoid the pitfalls that often come into it.
Also, before bottles if a mum couldn’t breastfeed someone else did, if the baby couldn’t feed there were cups and fingers. They found a way.
Yeah they were called "wet-nurses". Fun fact, that's why nurses in hospital are called nurses. The word "nurse" originally only referred to wet-nurses, but over time that name definition expanded to cover any female caretaker of children (nursemaids who were essentially apprentice nannies, who in turn tended to be an older woman), and then was further expanded to include adults. And thus became the term "nurse" we use today.
You two need to do more videos together. That was hilarious!
That agriculture one is really bothering me as an archaeologist bc what do they think people ate before agriculture? Like did we not have food for most of human existence?!?!
Also, wasn't agriculture discovered by women
Being breastfed as a baby is like an adult eating a burger. If an observer finds either sexual, the problem is with *them*. It's just food dammit.
You actually just saved my day. I cannot explain it, but the first ten seconds of this already boosted my mood so much. You two are great. Also, Shaaba is very pretty. I hope you continue having fun and educating people and saving shitty days. Thanks!
Even disregarding the immense amount of sleep and basic function after having a baby. The hormone changes in the body are so extreme and so sudden that it's incredibly common to have postpartum depression because of how chemicals in the body work
OMG the breastfeeding thing. My niece latched on to every ELBOW within reach! Hahahahaaaa
"my parents were one of the first straight marriages" 😂
😂😂
Wow is that artist going to be shocked when they see the blender my mom uses that she got as a wedding gift in the 1970s.
0:26 screaming crying sobbing. The little gesture :( y'all are so cute todether I'm so happy for y'all. What a great couple
Omg this is the angriest I have seen Jamie come across and I am dying. I love y'all's dynamic.
It’s so nice to see the happy couple back together for a new video. Sending all my love ❤
Jamie is so spicy in this one. Love this.
Jamie being the grumpy one for once is just so entertaining, I'd watch entire series of the two of you commenting anything
OMG Jamie is spicy today
I'm here for it 110%
"I just want to see what it looks like in their heads"
"A dumpster fire"
😂
This whole video made me laugh so much. I hope you are this chaotic and silly off camera too!
What a respectful, loving, caring and intelligent connection you have! Seems like your relationship is your save space. It is heartwarming to listen to you. Thank you. I hope I will find a connection of that kind with a partner, too. Wish me luck. Lovely wishes to the community.
Lots of luck for you :)
The last one... "(...) for what she's doing to my child?" Feeding it??? Like, bro." I hate the idea of **** being forced in my baby girls face". It's not forced you weirdo, the child literally just wants to be fed like wtf
Touching door handles did not make me gay Supernatrual and Shadowhunters did
you can pinpoint the moments jamie's soul leaves his body
3:37 I think someone found flavoured condoms and was super confused why the condom would have a taste lol
The end makes me want to hang out with these two so bad 😂 total goofs, bringing out the best and the dumbest in each other ❤
Breastfeeding did not make me a lesbian, but Katherine Moenning and the rest of the cast in The L Word made me realize it 😅
Miss Congeniality > Miss Consumption
I think Miss Consumption is who Nicole Kidman played in Moulin Rouge 😂
@@bitchenboutique6953 You beat me to it! 😂
I have insecurities about my breast and all it took was Shaaba reminding me that they were created for the purpose of feeding to make me realize that they are literally just udders and it shouldn’t matter what they look like. It seems so simple and obvious now but society made me view them in a more sexual light and it has always made me feel lesser than because I don’t have perfect tits. Thank you Shaaba I genuinely needed to hear that.
I was about to say "well before bottles they fed some babies with wet nurses and even goats in some cases" but then I realised that even with the goat, that still counts as breast fed
That was so cruel, the father and the breastfeeding thing, if I was that girl I would be humiliated. Especially if she was gay, I would NEVER tell my dad with how much of a perv he is.
I've seen (in a medical museum) a small ceramic teapot to feed milk to infants. One of my nieces had a really hard time getting a good latch and it was a struggle for my sister to nurse her without the aid of a bottle. It was good to see that people have found ways to get food into babies even before the invention of the rubber (and later silicone) nipple!
8:20 Jamie’s takes are so spicy that someone has indigestion at this point.
2:20 This one infuriates me on So. Many. Levels. First, it's implying that people with a depressive mood disorder have control over it or are to blame for it. *_THIS CAN ACTUALLY KILL PEOPLE SUFFERING FROM a mood disorder!_*
Second, it's trivializing a serious and quite nasty medical condition, one that _needs _*_more awareness_*_ and _*_understanding._*
Third, it is, once again, spreading misinformation about how pregnancy, birth, and post-natal maternal physiology work.
And lastly, it shows a complete lack of understanding of what a depressive mood disorder actually is. Having lived with one since age 7 [I'm in my mid-50s now], forgive my Public Service Announcement: it's not about "feeling sad." A depressive mood disorder: (1) Makes you _incapable_ of feeling "positive" emotions. Joy, pleasure, happiness, hope, … they all go out the window; (2) Drops the bottom out from under emotions like: sadness, misery, self-loathing, despair, guilt, and hopelessness. And as a disorder, _it's not tied to anything or "about" anything._ It is a malfunctioning amygdala that's causing it, not anything external.
So post-partum depression strikes me as particularly insidious and nasty. Because society is telling you that you're "supposed to" feel this way or that, but due to a malfunctioning amygdala, _you are incapable of feeling anything that doesn't make you suffer._ Which makes you hate yourself, which in turn just feeds into the mood-disorder, strengthening it.
Anyway, whoever wrote that, I want to _smack_ him hard upside the head.
This is kind of off topic, but I’d just like to say, Shaaba, that your hair looks really nice in this video. I don’t know if anything’s different about it, but it looks great!
I love Jamie being out for blood today vs Shaaba's: "Do you wanna talk about it, love?" Oh my goshhh
I was unable to breastfeed my two children for medical reasons. My daughter is queer, my son is not. I am one of three siblings. I was breastfed for a few weeks. I am not gay. My sister and brother were not breastfed. They are also not gay. OMG! This is some wild s*it!
Breastfeeding did not make the baby gay. It did turn the mom off on men after the arguments about it.
You two are so sweet and marvelous 💜💜💜 The world needs more people like you two 🎉🎉🎉
The diet one is really funny because pretty much every diet I can think of that's named after a person is named after the man who invented it lol. Turns out that a majority of popular diets were developed by doctors, who, due to the patriarchy, are often men...
We're literally raised to think being a mom is something we're supposed to want. And then when reality hits, there comes the regret.
I had a lady explain to me why i had to bottle feed my baby or itd turn gay. I was at my friends birthday party...so weird.
Sorry to inform the last writer who's having issues with his wife breast-feeding their daughter. I am female, my mother breast fed me and I am asexual. So, obviously, breast feeding does not make girls lesbians, but asexuals. You're welcome.
"Nice guys" will always tell you how nice they are
Nice guys will just go about their nice day being nice.
I breastfed 3 kids. Oldest is female to male trans. Uses they/then Maybe they got love and felt attached so that they had the courage to be who they are.
as an aroace i was breast fed, thus dis proving the theory that breast feeding makes you like women
jamie looking at shaaba >>>
it’s so cute 🤧💖
I'm with Jamie's style. Some of these doods don't deserve our time and labor to educate them.
there is a thing of if you put something (i think an onion) on your feet you will start tasting it in your mouth. also this could be wrong cuz my mom told me and she has a track record of lying to me
THE BEST DUO FOR REEEAAAALLLLL LIKE OMG YALL WORK TOGETHER SO FREAKING WELL!!!
According to my ex our first born, a son is gay because I loved him too much BAHAHAHA
I am transmasculine. Blood tests have confirmed that the level of testosterone are the same as a cis gender man. I was in a waiting room next to two women and a small dog. The owner of the dog said that it didn't tolerate men and had attempted to bite a guy earlier that day. Thier dog allowed me to pet it and ignored me most of the time. I found it interesting.
I am pretty sure that dogs pick up on their owners reactions to people.
@@SharylLacroix There are a lot of dogs that will take a cue from their owners, but I have seen so many rescue dogs who are terrified of men, despite the encouragement from their owners. Some were only afraid of children. I knew a man who's wife left the family dog locked in an apartment with out food for weeks, to punish her ex husband. Before that happened, the dog was happy and secure. After the incident, the dog would howl and scream if it was left alone, even if it was only for a few minutes. My family had a rescue dog that had been beaten all of it's life. He was affectionate and was easy to handle, as long as no one restrained him. If anyone attempted to restrain it, he would turn on them. No matter how much he otherwise trusted them. One form of abuse that happened was the sprayed with water form a hose while being beaten. That dog didn't tolerate being bathed. My family definitely did everything that they could to help that dog feel secure and safe, but it never forgot the abuse and that was reflected in the animal's behavior. My friend has a small dog that was regularly picked up and thrown by her partner who was a man. That dog won't tolerate contact with men and won't allow anyone but my friend to pick it up. It enjoys being petted by me, but freaks out if it thinks that I am going to pick it up. I have read the results of a very unethical experiment on trauma, using dogs as test subjects. After repeated physical torture the personality was permanently changed. Dogs can develop PTSD triggers just like humans can. I knew a guy who had a small parrot that was bonded to him. It was happy to sit on other people and interact with them. After the man went to prison, the bird would only tolerate the proximity that man's son. Everyone else gets bitten. It used to a quiet animal. Now, it screams constantly. The bird had emotional reaction to the loss. I am interested in learning as much as I can about the physical and behavioral effects of trauma, including animals. Even though some dogs are responding to cues from their owners, I avoid making judgement calls on what people tell me about their pets, because they know their animal a lot better than someone who just met them.
You two are so sweet and funny. I‘m going through a stressful time right now and you‘re cheering me up so much!
9:20 BLENDERS WERE INVENTED IN 1922
?????????
Couple of fun facts: humans can actually "taste" with their feet. Not actually, but technically. If you stand on some garlic with your bare feet, after only a short time you can actually taste garlic! Of course you're still using your taste buds in your mouth, it's that the molecules responsible for garlics smell (allicin) absorb into your skin, get into your blood stream and that takes them to your mouth where your taste buds can detect those molecules. But still, that kinda counts right?
Also, humans absolutely _can_ smell pheromones. We just have a far weaker sensitivity to it, so most of the time we're only aware at the subconscious level. It's why someone might smell good to you even though they aren't wearing anything fragrant, and you likely can't describe _how_ they smell exactly. It's thought it might also influence who you find attractive if you get close to them. Curiously, certain illnesses can change your pheromones, and one lady (Joy Milne) discovered she can literally smell Parkinson's disease from people with the condition, even long before any of our current diagnosis tools can pick it up. She first noticed this after a sudden change in how her husband smelled, then he got a diagnosis a short while later because the sudden change worried her and she demanded he got tested to find out what was going on. Then about a year later she smelled the same odd "fragrance" on a stranger walking past and told them they likely had it and to get tested - turned out she was right and they caught it earlier than they ever have before in a person.
You guys are so adorable, I love seeing y'all together for videos like this. Also... Goodness... The amount of people who don't understand how things work is very yikes. That last bit at the end was super unsettling. Wtf is this man doing sexualizing the relationship between his wife and daughter like that? Gross!
And presumably he also sexualised the relationship between his wife and son but didn't see a problem with that
Ok... so the 'dad' is talking about "staying pissed" and "the arguing is getting intense". That means that this has been going on for a while. That must be very stressful for his wife. Could it be that the baby is "attacking" the breasts because mom has difficulty breastfeeding because of all the stress? I know for a fact that breastfeeding can be a problem if the mother can't be relaxed.
You two are so adorable and silly and I love it.
Oh! Fun fact! Archaeologists have found ceramic baby bottles made as early as 7000 years ago! People are so clever!
The last 5 minutes are killing me. Yall are so cute
Omg... I adore you two! I popped over from Jessica and Claudia.
😂😂😂 I love seeing you two together. With the man invents food. Woman invents sietone, I was just confused. 😂 Last story, i fear for those children and mom. Dad in the story NEEDS to STOP seeing breasts as only for sex. Maybe someone's going to point out that it's where we get milk. And that cow milk comes from essentially cow boobs, just that the udder is not on the chest. See how he reacts. 😂
Man's really out here sexualizing his daughter's source of food like.. 🙄
The lesbian one is so crazy. 😂😂😂 the hoops he was jumping through.
As a bottle fed Bebe I am 100% not straight