they're feeding on your loneliness btw
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
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There's an entire emerging industry feeding on the loneliness of young men by selling them something that can't be sold: 'masculinity'.
Following their advice is better than nothing if you’re literally doing nothing else, but hyper-fixating on masculinity-enhancing practices allows you to ruminate on the possible rewards without having to confront the actual obstacles.
You know the uncomfortable stuff you gotta do, so when you do something else instead, it’s just sugar-coated procrastination.
Time to stop letting young men get bad direction from confused people.
Channel overview:
A few years ago, I was stuck in bed, hating the universe for subjecting me to the 'sick and twisted game of life' without my consent. I was pathetic.
It was only after I realized something very important that things began getting better... life didn't suck; I did.
In the absence of friction, my mind was conjuring its own, so life was hard, yes, but it didn't have to be. The suffering was unnecessary. After a few years of incremental progress, I'm having the time of my life. I've never been in better shape, my mind has never been sharper, I've never experienced so much happiness, and it's all rooted in a deep sense of meaning that was once absent.
I had to shake myself of lots of old beliefs and patterns to get to where I am, and I believe there are millions of other people who feel stuck and could learn from my mistakes. So that's why I'm starting this channel: to share some of the insights that formed the foundation of the psychological habitat I now occupy.
I don't know exactly how the channel will develop but I'm going to start by posting my raw ideas as that's the only thing I can consistently do at this point in time.
I hope it helps!
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Getting a job as a waiter alongside a bunch of girls in the past increased my social skills way more than watching videos did.
How old were you?
@@Jakefromstatefarm56503 20/21
@@Jakefromstatefarm5650310 years old
Yip, I just made friends with a lot of girls at work. A few months later, I was being told someone has a crush on me. No cold approaches or tricks from the Internet.
@@Jakefromstatefarm56503 21/22
I’ve been on “self improvement” for almost 2 years but it was shortly after my first year of self improvement that I realised how much bullcrap was coming out of these guru’s mouths, and that hyper fixating on making every aspect of my life a good habit was destroying my life and my connections with friends and family. Granted I still do some things that these gurus preach such as meditation and nofap, but I definitely don’t take it to the extreme and I’ve abandoned that “masculine men do this and that” mentality. I do them purely for the enjoyment of bettering myself. This video has excellently put into words what I’ve been thinking about the self improvement industry.
exactly, you always have to beware when people claim to have a 'total' solution to life. they're also known as totalitarians ;)
most of their advice is great, but it's when they start telling you that you're a piece of shit if you don't stick to their methods religiously that it starts to go sideways. you gotta listen to yourself at the end of the day, you often know what's best for you.
and often it's just a way to ruminate on potential rewards without doing what you know needs to be done, it's easy to think you're 'above' the small things when you're in that totalitarian mode
I sincerely want to cry rn, yet i can't bring myself to tears. My story years back was exactly the same as many of the young men of the today's world. It took me years to finally understand and actualize these concepts you refereed to.
I hope young men all the best.
everything you have mentioned in this video is stuff that I was always afraid to talk about. thanks for being my voice.
This is the reason I've stopped watching all of that self improvement stuff, and from there on my life has gotten better, from sports to social lives and everything else. Thats when I learned that I could just be myself and that I should actually trust myself unlike what these guys say
To anyone reading this right now whose still watching "Masculinity" UA-camrs: Think and *Live* for Yourself. You'll thank me later.
A Lao Tzu quote to accompany the "masculine men" trying to be "masculine":
"The man of superior virtue is not conscious of his virtue, and in this way he really possesses virtue. The man of inferior virtue never loses sight of his virtue, and in this way he loses his virtue."
Dude. This quote is perfect, thank you ! 🙏
That absolutely shocked me.
"I have tried to describe the nature of the 'having' and of the 'being' modes of existence, and the consequences that the dominance of either mode has for man’s wellbeing. We had concluded that the full humanization of man requires the breakthrough from the possession-centered to the activity-centered orientation, from selfishness and egotism to solidarity and altruism."
- Erich Fromm, The Art of Being
I'm gonna have to read more of Fromm's work. I read Escape from Freedom and it was incredibly interesting. Fromm's ideas seem to be quite in-line with thinkers like Rollo May and Viktor Frankl.
Having a full time job where I was forced to communicate with people at all walks of life improved me more than anything online ever did.
I agree with everything you said in this video.
Me agreeing to someone fully is actually really rare.
I appreciate your openess as a man
I didn’t watch ur video but I feel this way about “femininity coaches”
I hope this will reach as much people as possible. When I was 18 my life with women completely changed, the reason was that I saw how the socially competent people lived within themselves, I understood what gave them the aura and the confidence that they had, i implemented it and women became no issue for me, the change was drastic, really insane. And then I discovered Tate and Hamza, I believed in them for a while, but it lead me nowhere. Point is you can completely change naturally, without any need for self improvement or even assistance, you just figure out why you’re not good socially, you make genuine effort to abandon certain mentalities and acquire certain ones, and you’ll eventually reach a point where it become passive and on autopilot. All you need is yourself, nothing more, just work your emotions well and be honest.
“I’m a certified spastic” is my new fav pre-drop sample
Imo joe rogan started a lot of this. Constantly reverting every topic to fighting and equating fighting with manliness, peddling supplements and other health fads to his audience. Then tate came along and it was over. I feel sorry for the dudes that eat it up ... as its mostly all smoke n mirrors.
Joe Rogan? The primary pusher of this in the beginning, was PUA coaches / fitness influencers. Guys going into the street shirtless “picking up” women. Roosh V, then Tomassi, then you got a whole offshoot where Tate just made the message marketable.
Don’t feel sorry for them. Feel sorry for the women and their daughters that have to put up with their BS
@@waternotwater5562 fair enough.. I don't know the exact origins but rogan constantly pushes how men these days are all weak etc etc and only way to combat that is through punching ppl. Btw I say this as someone who enjoys training martial arts but Hate this new bro culture surrounding it
No it was Alex Jones who started the supplements then the podcast thing started with Joe Rogan and then it was Hamza and the red pill in general and then it was Tate and then Sneako and the “new red pill” and now it’s incels and black pill
@@eo0-g9jexactly I don’t feel sorry for them you have to be seriously weak and seriously dumb to fall for it
Damn, this video is going to hit 10k and keep going 🚀
hahahah jinx! ;)
Masculinity is being your authentic self and not giving a fuck about what dumbass social media platforms say. Get your ass off the chair and get outside. That’s it. No need for a fucken course or tutorials. Simply get outdoors and move your body.
really enjoy this video, commenting to also help the algo, good shit man 👊
Gosh I love you 🫶🏻 more of this 🙏🏻
❤️❤️❤️ you da best
watched a couple videos, liked what i saw, subbed👍
I wonder if the issue is that with the internet we are told too much what is importance and what isn’t. Experience is meant to show us that but I find with so much information I can avoid experience due to fear and take in information that can lead me to feel bad.
Dudeeeee this is such a good observation! Information can subsidise a lack of experience for sure
Great content bro , definitely needed this wake up call
If you are kind, even in the face of hate. Brave, even in the face of fear. You are more masculine than a 600 pound bench lifting ogre!
We have the life. 1 year of feeding ego and then when it comes to girls, i was bad at dating and talking to girls. After that, i regain my consciousness at march and began to saw life differently.
asking girls out is not masculinity
Confronting your fears is
@@AngeloSomers not all types of fears bud, i wouldt consider myself a good example of what a masculine male should be like but if my fear is lets say taking a backflip i would not say im more masculine if i learn to take a backflip, there are certain things in life that masculine men should do, asking girls out is not one of them.
@@im.olahhzukor8346 if it´s a big fear of yours that´s holding you back, then yes it is
This is awesome🙏 Great work, man!
much appreciated :)
Great video man! Acheeto sent me
I’m so glad men are now realizing, red pill is not the answer
Aye good stuff my man
Nice reference there in the end of the video lol
Watched a couple of your videos bro. I am really looking forward to seeing the channel take off ✈️💪🏻
thanks man :)
I will admit that it did help to some extent with working on my habits, but overall I wish these recommended videos would shut the hell up for one day that I use it, but ignorance became blissful.
This man is spitting
wow bro, bravo, you spoke a lot of truth, and earned a sub
i think all of the things these gurus say are literally true as well, but we just dont get it right, its so obvious that it should happen in natural way, but we take it as kind of a goal to reach by doing that and that, instead of just be that.
it shall be taken as hints and directions, not as step by step guides, and definitely not saturate it to this micro precision.
We need more creators like you. 🙏
Yeah like you said Hamza seems like a good guy but I can’t take him seriously at all lol. This was a great video bro keep it up 🙏
Literally all you have to do is take care of yourself and socialize... I don't know why everyone is overcomplicating shit the past few years (and i also fell for it), but literally sleep better, eat better, take care of your hygene (like brush your teeth and take a shower), get a good haircut, excercise, and socialize. You don't need to mew, looksmax or all these other shits. Literally half of what you actually need to do can be done in the first 30 minutes of your day and after that you shouldn't give a fuck and enjoy life.
Bars. 🔥
if you have to do the bare minimum youre probably not ugly lol
The OrangePeanut of Self-Improvement.
Shoutout! ☝🏻😂
If you want advice on how to get women. Ask women. Not some weird men who think they know what women want. Easy.
Appreciate the vulnerability. Subbed
They bank on the fact that they know they get better results with women beacuse of their height and looks. They know the person consuming the content doens't have their genetics, so they try to sell programs saying oh you just need game bro, when they know this isn't true and dating is about looks and genetics. They also know that their audience will never improve because they litearlly can't change these things about themselves and are basically addicted to self fufilling content.
if we take a look at those channels, it says a lot that men perceive women to want these specific things that self-improvement channels want you to do. saying that you become more attractive to women because of these things puts in the false narrative that women want a "chad" when really they just want someone genuine, not a replica of the self-improvement channel. because what that entails is they want HIM rather than the guy the video is made for. so it further sows jealousy and doubt within one's self. add that with the mixture of so much testosterone and you get a man angry at women projecting his insecurities at them.
honestly, even if we take a look at this in a sociopolitical pov, it's apparent that both men and women suffer from patriarchy. if a man can exploit his fellow men's insecurity, is that masculine or is it slimy capitalism?
sorry for making it political please be civil in the comments
Feeling is the secret. Don't be stressed all the time.
Bro just described my life in 1 video
You know sperm count and tt is on the fall from the foods we eat and the recycled water in citys and micro plastics
Good looks dawg
great video bro - love it
Appreciate it!
True but our ancestors didnt have to deal with stuff like microplastics in their balls
I am tired of all the alpha male snake oil salesmen selling their content. You either have it, or you don't. There are places where you can cultivate your manhood, but unless women start drastically changing, I could care less about attracting them. They seem to be devoid of integrity.
Hey bro don’t be afraid to think for yourself brother, That’s what we’re missing in this world that’s the void where missing.
Appreciate you man
5000 bucks because he is a 2nhand ventriloquist...he "deepens" his voice.
getting a bit dizzy mate the camera is shaking around. But good content though I agree for sure
Yesterday was brutal for me. I was at a party and one of my mates said a joke about "women should be in the kitchen" or something. And i laughed at that joke, but the girlfriend of one of my mates clapped back with "ofcourse the guy without a girlfriend is laughing the hardest". I was like god damn 💀
ooofttt hahahah thats tough one to digest hahahah
Karma lol but learn from it
Masculinity is strength in all aspects. Doesn’t have anything to do with personality
insightful. Thank you
I like how you actually kind of look like Tyler Durden. And I don’t think that is a confidence
Great video! Really helped 👊
fuck yeah dude
Great advice, keep it up
Great video... but I strongly advice you to not talk about Jesus Christ in that way...
Yes I know you don't mean it, but still .... it's for your own good.
Great vid man 🔥🔥🔥
I say just workout, eat healthier, do ur job, drink a beer or 5 on weekends- just enjoy life
beer lowers testosterone making you by definition less masculine
SOLID VIDEO, BRO🤝
Bro speaks fluent Facts.
Skibidi acheeto
Hello, here from @Acheeto !
I mean I’m lonely not by choice lol even though I have been reaching out to friends and asking women on dates on weekends but got rejected 😂
Awesome video!
Killing the content bro
I mean, this could be said of feminism and lonely women too. "They just want to sell you their zines and makeup and diet supplements. They just want you to go to therapy and make money." There's more to be said of this phenomenon than just dismissing it as a marketing ploy. The market is reaction to men who are reaching out for meaning and purpose, whether in a genuine way or not. So either try and be "genuine" (all the grifters say this too so good luck) or I guess tell men to just stop looking or stop asking (not going to happen). Idk the "above it all!" attitude is just head in the sand approach while feeling cool.
Great video
I grew up on Conan the Barbarian comics and Motorhead, so seeing those 'roided up gymrats trying to pass off toxicity and narcissism as masculinity... well, I know better.
I used to be obsessed with these self help “alpha” influencers but then I started realizing 90% of them are just trying to persuade you to buy a course or something else in the name of becoming alpha and take advantage of depressed lonely men who don’t know what to do. if you want my advice just keep moving forward and keep evolving and improving in every aspect in life. Don’t ever give up.
Pretty much hahaha, some are worse than others, but almost all have an element of opportunism
There’s a fucken course for everything. You also have the stupid spiritual gurus selling ridiculous courses as well
that's the word "improving " in every aspect of life , because some will misunderstand this and be left in their confort zone without no improvement
@@akramsocisse4872But the same part of you who wants to improve is the one who needs improving.
Which one?
You are masculine when you don’t care if you are masculine
No! U should care if you start becoming feminine=less masculine.. and check your life and environment to see solve the problem
so true! It's also an inner state and not superficial shit!
Idk because that can lead to just sitting on your computer playing video games all day. It's super masculine to want to be masculine in today's society because we are being conditioned to be feminine, and wanting to be masculine means you are going to war against the people who want a weak society which is very masculine. But I do think that obsessing over masculinity to the point where you do everything to appear more masculine is in fact not masculine at all.
Slight edit. You are masculine when you don’t care if your “an influencers version” of masculine.
Not really, boys who wear skirts think they are masculine because they don't care if they are masculine
"Doing everything except the thing that they're scared of and call it masculinity" - that's the ultimate summary of people capitalizing on loneliness and their clients, whom I wish all the best.
Fresh n fit would be a lot more useful if they charged less to take some guys into a club or bar and introduce them to some normal girls to talk to.
Most ''masculinity'' influencers don't actually give 2 fcks about you and just want to sell their courses.
my boyfriend really dislikes these red pill podcasts, and he’s such a great man. always helping his family and people weaker than him, and he takes complete care of me. i hope more young men can grow masculinity in a good way rather than getting taken advantage of by these weirdos online
Going to college and talking to more women romantically or platonically really showed me that we’re all the same. We all have interests, passions, issues, aspirations, thoughts, etc. I knew this before in late high school but I still felt like I was putting women on a pedestal during my younger years.
Maybe because I didn't attend college, unfortunately when I attempt to talk to people I find most people have no interests or passions.
Thats because we all are brain-wired to put women on a pedestal. Its no ones fault. The problem are the simps that never grow out of that phase and screw everyone else by giving women free attention and super inflated egos
We are definitely not “all the same” 😂
@@JonJones1776he means that men and women are the same and women are not some magical far away creatures that a lot of men think they are
@@Asabovesobelow888 Men and women live completely different lives and experiences, there are definitely some things that are universal between the two, but we're very, very different for the most part.
It was either a Jocko or Rogan podcast where someone said that some soldiers who were the peak level of masculinity and braveness and faced deadly battles on a regular basis would come back home only to be a stuttering mess when talking to women at bars.
The message was that certain things don't translate to other areas in life, if you want to be better at talking to women you have to do exactly that.
Getting fit and being productive ad all this stuff is not bad for confidence but it does not substitute for authenticity and social skills.
It's high expectations and the fear of embarrassment and rejection and judgement. You dont have that in going into battle. Its a different mental muscle and exercising one won't change the other
nothing is more “masculine” than doing whatever the fuck you want without caring about other peoples opinion
so pedos and all criminals are the epitome of masculinity? You just described psychopathy, really
Masculinity is self control
yes homeless crackheads are masculine
I believe that is true masculinity
what you said can lead to people being lazy and not smart
Absolutely true. I realized this like half a year ago and it all started to make sense. It's honestly pretty embarrassing some of the things I did. Hope this reaches more men still in that delusional phase.
Glad I’m not the only one hahaha
facts
I felt that part of embarrassing things in the past part heavy
Ngl the cringe hit so hard when i looked back at that “self improvement” phase
To all those feeling embarrassment, remember that you as a person remember your embarrassing moments more than anyone, most forget very quickly
I love that there are men out here spreading this understanding. My hope is that your message becomes louder than the “red pill” and “manosphere” that is all too common amongst younger men.
as a girl I can confirm that pretty much any guy that is talking to me is shaking, scared, red, and overflowed by anxiety. Even if I am as nice as possible they just block themselves and can't seem to go forward with the interaction. Hope this situation changes for the better
Oh wow my lady so you must be a virgin goddess since every man crumbles under your mighty power
How old are you? Also are these random people coming up to you, or people you are frequently around? Feel like some guys definetly idolize women, and need to realize women are just dudes with tits pretty much.
I mean take it as a compliment 😂😂. But being honest, even if this probably isn't you, a lot of people are way more socially judgemental than they used to be. More people self diagnose with autism because they think there's something mentally wrong with their ability to socialise, when realistically people judge on social mishaps so much more
Nowadays its all about the methods of “how to talk to women” “use this trick to attract more women” but they ultimately fail cuz when you are talking to a woman you should go with the flow not this “mysterious” bs that hamza keeps pushin. All bout bein yourself
Can’t say I’m immune to this. Most men have that stage in their life when they’re shack and nervous to talk to women. We just need time to have real confidence.
1:04 Exactly. Masculine, alpha etc... Julius Caesar , Gengis Khan were not selling supplements and telling young boys how to act like a man.
What you DO as a man is what matters.
absolutely right you have a like from me
Those examples of men were taking prisoners and concubines, which isn’t any better morally or legally, but I get what you’re sayin.
@@eastwaters4082 plus ruling over hundreds of thousands or millions of people, dictating their own morality as the true way to live through legistation, rape parties (harems etc)...
They also fucked a lot of men
Julius was a gay bottom though
I absolutely HATE how they've hijacked The Matrix. It's my favorite film trilogy of all time, and if anything the core themes and messages the wachowski sisters were trying to convey are in total opposition to what these dudes think it means.
Amazing how the algorithm brought me to this video. i’ve spent months cultivating thoughts in my phone notes around the simple fact that: “masculinity” and male insecurity has been massively commercialized and capitalized on. Pretty fucking cool to see im not the only one thinking this shit.
honestly, I think the most masculine thing is kissing another man on the mouth
Agree
Logging off, stepping outside is one the best things you can do for yourself. It brings you back to reality.
Easier said than done everything is designed to keep you hooked but I agree with you.
Ironically, Hamza’s “Do the work, especially when you don’t feel like it” would fit in here. He’s still primarily a salesman, like all the self-improvement gurus are.
I used to watch him but he fell off completely in his logic
I like that hamza is usually pretty honest though even if he's dumb. Hamza openly said the only reason he works out is for attention lol.
@@jklmnopq233 he has also admitted on occasions that he is slow and dumb but he definately seems to have much higher perseverance to an average man.
He's a cool dude, I watched his first vids on how to get an aesthetic body, then he got famous and stopped watching him lol
There are many people that said the same before. Non of them is unique or revolutionary
Step 1 blast gear
Step 2 create course
Step 3 promote via self improvement social media funnel
Step 4 profit
Step 1: blast gear
Step 2: blast gear
these song choices are elite
The biggest compliment, put lots of thought into it hahha
change this title to the realest video on my channel. absolutely love this POV on the industry. i never comment, but i’m a hard working lad focussed on kickboxing, boxing, testosterone, exams, money and being a good, moral led man. great explanation of how these people some of us idolise are monetising on our weakness by giving us a checklist and ‘science’ to ‘masculinity’ instead of leading us to being comfortable with the uncomfortable and living with morals and values we believe are righteous to the man we want to be. James Bond doesn’t break down and ‘science’ of how to be a man… he does his duty and what must be done and is James fucking Bond.
👏👏
You understood the video perfectly sir. I’m sure you’ll do just fine in life ;) 👏
And he also doesnt exist lol
That Pixar lamp is making me blind
hahahahahhahahahah
I've been guilty of this. i haven't talked to girls in an actual conversation, apart from in my family, in a year and a half. I got stonger, way better looking, and muscles but i am still in the same place mentally. I have avoided social side of life for ages. Thank you for making this video, it really made me think about what ive done wrong and what i need to change.
If you don't work with girls or go to school it can be hard. But if you work with girl I always recommend casually talking with them because it gave me a lot of experience
It's also because working on your body and all that is somethings bros do to look more attractive (according to them) which is just a simple way of saying 'they want to be accepted and fear rejection'.
@@akshayde so true
Hamza is so cringe
Masculinity has become a "product" that those red pill coaches feed of insecure men.
What has this society become😂
Im sure red pill coaches are the problem when 50% of marriages fail, 80% of divorces initiated by women and those same women find 80% of men unattractive😂 Red pill coaches simply tell you the truth about how women behave. You either accept it and adapt or become a statistics.
Real as fuck, mate. Keep it up.
legend
I feel like true masculinity comes from a deep sense of comfort in one’s self, and not needing to fake it.
You make a lot of valid points, you’ll be a success in no time
love to see this sort of content bro - a good refresher from some of the mainstream self improvement bullshit thats getting spread about these days. keep it up man
Bro I love this! You're so eloquent. I'm waiting for the "how to be less masculine course" from you.
$42,069 coming soon
What a bargain@@AngeloSomers
💀@@AngeloSomers