He reminds me of Naeun lokkinh after Gunhoo and Jinwoo. They get more responsibility to look after the others and forget that they themselves are kids too
Si pero de todas maneras deben esforzarse por quitarle tanta responsabilidad el esta ahí para comportarse como un niño, no para sentir que es la mano derecha de la madre, y en cuanto al papá opino que debería demostrarle más agradecimiento y amor, pues, el niño ocupa su lugar cuando no está,pero, lo único que vi es que son los 4. El papá La mamá Y los dos menores Y se olvidan por completo del mayor y no es justo con el, los hijos son de los papas no del niño, el solo es el hermano mayor
The fact that the dad came in. Taeha saw him first. Instead of hugging him, the dad asked him to stay silent to surprise the rest. And afterwards, when he finally got away from the kids, Taeha had to hug him first. Sometimes it’s so sad to be the eldest and a boy. Taeha may be so incredibly mature but it’s sad to see him have to fall in line behind his mom when his siblings are first in line. I wish they show him more love and affection and not take his maturity for granted. I cried watching this not because it was sweet, but because it was sad. And to see everyone praising Taeha from being such a wonderful child yet not pointing out how ignored he was. It’s sad to be taken for granted.
Yes, especially the last part! Taeha deserves just as much as affection as his siblings. Although I know his parents love him, I can’t help but feel sadden by the thought that he holds himself back because he feels like he has to be the strong one.
Ikr I was thinking this! As an older child of many younger children it gets tough at times esp when I was younger and closer in age to Taeha. I understand that Mothers will need the help from the oldest/older ones and even Fathers and that's ok. But it because of how much older Taeha is than his younger siblings and his maturity I really wish his parents would take time to be with him one on one and thank him. Like his parents plus him, or Taeha + Mom alone, or Appa + Taeha alone. I can gurantee it would help him out sm, I just really hope he is feeling ok because I know it can be really hard being the oldest or one of the older ones that has to step up to the plate and mature early to pick up after the kids to help out the Mom
the eldest has to act more mature than he should when he's still so young,,,,i rlly feel bad for him, he deserves the same amount of affection and care as the younger ones,,,
@@sissyrayself7508 yes and i agree with tht he seems to be such a nice big bro but as an older sibling myself, in some situations u rlly do feel the distance of affection,, and we kinda see tht here too
Young children needs to have alot of love attention he is old enough to not have those love attention plus there is 2 baby he and his mother needs to take care of those young two babies
I hope the dad and the mother would spend time to yhe eldest child. The way he didnt come to his dad even though he miss him after seeing his sisters and brother already come to their dad makes my heart hurt. He is still 12 years old, i hope they would shower him with love too and teach the daughter slowly to help taeha and be more considerate
See I get what your saying but then as a middle child in a similar position to her she probably liked playing with the baby just like her brother but have been called boisterous or say like the old one would rather play with the baby. And in her position she wants that attentions because she has always had to share it and her mum spends a lot of time with the baby and her brother too. So like while I get the brothers position you have to understand she is also a much younger child than the brother. There are things each child in a big family give up and have to deal with. As a middle child she’ll always have to deal with being forgotten about, less attention, and have that feeling of always being second or third in priority your neither the first or last for your parents. The older much like the parents often adopt a more responsible role to lift the burden on their parents and have pressure. The youngest has the burden of living up to expectations and the parents who raise them being older than the ones who raised there siblings. Not saying that she shouldn’t help but it’s not something u should expect her to do so early especially when she has to deal with and organize her emotions of feeling a sense of loss and abandonment due to the her parents and brother spending more time with her younger sibling. It took me a while to process how I felt when my little sister and then brother was born. It’s not something that will go away but she needs some time to understand and to accept the new reality she is in
Taeha is literally the goat. he's so mature, caring and loving. The fact a 12 year old told his mom good job for all the things she does and how he helps his mom out and is caring to his siblings. The fact he misses his dad a lot but let his 2 younger siblings have him all to themselves and give his mom time with his dad and then hug his dad. Bruh, why is this kid so nice. I want a boyfriend like him, but 7 years older, lolllll. His personality is literally 11/10. He's so selfless, bro
Her eldest son is the reason why she is still sane, she gotta discipline the kids a little bit more. And the daughter needs to learn that sharing is caring, don’t want her to grow up being a jealous and possessive person
I used to be like that as well.. I never let my sister get close to my dad or I would get mad. Since my dad used to work far away(he quit) so he only comes home once in 2 month but I still love him. When we go out I would always cling onto my dad's leg all the time and one time I accidentally hug stranger's leg. But now as I grew up I'm not like that anymore ever since I got a phone, friends... So sometimes my dad would feel lonely cuz I'm in my room all the time and I do feel bad so now I try to get close to my dad whenever I had time and spend time together while he's still here.. My dad once told me he misses the old me when I was little rather than me now that barely talk 2 sentences in one day
I'm in awe of Taeha - what an amazing young man. Please Dad spend some one on one time with him, show him how much you respect him for stepping into your role. He is so mature, stepping back to let the young ones take all of Dad's attention when I'm sure he was longing for a hugs too.
everytime the eldest child is helping her and people start to praise him she says "he likes to do it", he likes to help with the other kids, he likes to help her in the kitchen...maybe he doesn't like it, but now is something that he's so used to it because he knows the mother needs help with the other siblings and the house, so now it's a part of his personality...not saying anything bad about the mother because i know how much she actually needs the help, but i wish they would show him a little more love! he's a great brother and such an amazing son.
Bruh why did I cry at when the oldest say “it’s okay” to the mom. OMG but like really someone needs to talk to him and ask him if he is okay. it brings tears to my eyes seeing him be basically the 3rd parent and he is only 12. Cant be just be a regular 12 year old the moms needs to stop depending on him so much .
I would consider him the second parent, their dad isn't home much sadly because of their work unless it's off season... I feel for the kid. It's not easy. The dad is the aunt or grandparent at this point.
After watching this, I’m sure the mom will love and appreciate the eldest son a whole lot more, she got to see what she might’ve missed out on when she’s busy taking care of the other two
@@진우-o3m 엄마 아빠한테 짐이 되고 싶지 않아서 그러는거예요 자기도 떼쓰고 싶고 철없이 굴고 싶은데 이미 그러는 동생들이 많으니까 자기까지 엄마를 힘들게 할 수는 없다는 생각에 의젓하게 굴 수 밖에 없는거예요 엄마 아빠는 그걸 모르고 얘는 원래 의젓한 애구나 원래 이런 애구나 당연한거구나 해버리면 그때부터 엄청난 심리적 부담감이 몰려오죠..알아서 저렇게 하는게 아니라 자기 욕망 꾹꾹 참아가며 엄마아빠 위하는 마음으로 해내는겁니다
I’m literally crying Taeha is such a great brother and he helps his mum so so much but I think they should give him a little more attention he’s doing so so much and he deserves to get attention, hugs and kisses as much as his younger siblings do.
As the oldest child and having two younger siblings, I can totally relate to taeha. I mean we have to take care of our siblings and we don't get attention at all. :((
모두들 첫째가 듬직하다 잘 키웠다 하지만 아들은 대단하면서도 할 수밖에 없는 상황 속에서 열심히 살아가고 있을 것 같다. 당장 편집되고 영상 속 모습만으로 이렇게 얘기하는 것이 무례할 수도 있지만 그저 첫째가 엄마와 두 동생 사이에서 너무 많은 스트레스를 받지 않고, 가끔 자신도 들여다볼 수 있는 시간이 있기를... 어린 나이에 너무 많은 배려를 하다 보면 겉에서 티는 나지 않아도 본인도 모르게 안에서 무슨 일이 일어나는지 잘 알 수 없으니 말이다... 이 예쁜 가족이 항상 행복하기를 바랍니다:)
둘째가 아빠 왔을때 혼자 안겨서 엄마도 못안게하고 침대에서도 아빠랑 둘이서만 자려고 하고 유치원에서도 선생님들한테 그런다고 하니 가볍게 넘길 문제는 아닌거같음... 동생의 나 불편해 이 말 뜻 알아차리고 아무 말 없이 바로 자리 비켜주고 엄마 옆으로 가서 수고했다고 말해주는 첫째 속도 헤아려 주세요ㅠㅠ 저였으면 성질나서 동생이고 뭐고 잘 밤에 시끄럽게 짜증 엄청 냈을거에요...ㅋㅋ.......
The eldest is mature, he understands that the mom needs to care more to the 2nd and youngest. Mostly eldest voices it out and tell their parents that their jealous of what they see through the 2nd and youngest. Glad he understands well
대체적으로 어린 자식한테 엄격하게 훈육하든 안하든 올곧게 성실하게 자라는 애들이 있는데 이런 아이들은 아빠든 엄마든 부모를 진심으로 존경하고 사랑하는 거임 내가 이런 아빠 엄마에게서 태어난게 너무나 자랑스럽고 감사하다고 느끼면 애한테 잔소리 안해도 알아서 잘 큰다 다시말해서 부모가 잘살아야하는겨 그게 교육임
아......진짜 이게맞는말이네요 진짜 전그래서 결혼하면 애낳을건데 그래서 결혼부터 절대 신중하게 하고싶고 그래서더욱 비혼주의가 될것만같아요 좋은 모습을 보여줘야하는데 영향을 좋게 주지못할까봐. 내적으로 고민이 있는분들은 다 그런걸 풀고 결혼을하고애를낳고.. 하시는걸 강추해요 아니면 어두운부분이 전달되니까 그건 참 싫어요..
Brb crying for the oldest child, he doesn't get enough T-T. They need to teach the girl "sharing is caring", at that age it can be seen as cute but not in teenagers.
Yea I didn't see it as cute honestly and I don't want to be mean but damn she is rude. And I mean she is a kid still but she shouldn't be like that. I was so mad.
그것도 있지만 엄마가 애들 앞에서 아빠 비난을 안 하는 덕이 더 큼. 아빠가 없어서 힘들다 아빠가 가정에 헌신을 안 한다 이런 식으로 불평하지 않고 아빠가 밖에 나가있을 수 밖에 없다는 식으로 정당화해주고 엄마가 아빠를 좋아하는 티를 많이 내니까 애들이 아빠를 미워하지 않는거임
16:27 when his mom was saying that she doesn’t know what she would do without taeha and he patted her back like “it’s okay”.. i just hope he’s really okay and that when he’s older he doesn’t feel a disconnect to the family you can tell he missed his dad but the little girl was honestly so disrespectful and it’s really not funny like she’s so young and is already acting like that :(
와,,, 첫째 진짜 잘 자랐고 멋지다,, 그리고 태하 꼭 안아주고 태하랑만도 시간 많이 보내주셔야 할것 같아요,, 저 나이면 태하도 엄마아빠한테 달려가고 껴안고 울고 할 수 있는 나이인데 저렇게 의젓한거 보니까 마음미 뭉클하네요 😢 아무래도 어린동생들 때문에 맘껏 안아달라고도 못하고 눈치보는게 보이네요
보는데 맘이 짠하다. 난 내 딸 같으면 제주도에서 같이 살라고 한다. 인생이 너무 짧아. 근데 돌아보면 같이 있지 못한 시간은 두고두고 후회가 남아. 돌이킬 수가 없어. 언젠가 아빠의 빈자리를 애들은 무엇인가로 되갚으려고 할텐데. 큰 태하 대견하지만 맘이 아프다. 두 부부 보니 맘이 왜 아프고 아련하지.
I disagree with Jang Hoon. Maybe it's the society, culture and mentality Asians are raised in which looks at physical affection by sons towards their parents as awkward and uncomfortable but honestly, that just ruins our relationship with our parents. There is no shame whatsoever in being able to openly hug, kiss and say I love you to our parents. Instead, we should encourage that even more especially today with all that is going on. I really enjoy watching variety shows but often end up disagreeing with the patriarchal, misogynist and traditional views. Also, I can see Taeha growing up to be a responsible and understanding person. He just needs more love and affection
@A Sprocket Being physically affectionate with one's family has NOTHING to do with inappropriately touching people. Teach your children about boundaries and respect, rather than deprive them of affection, weirdo.
@A Sprocket You’re absolutely ridiculous because that’s the shit that happens as a result of doing shit like that most of the time from what I’ve noticed. You’re doing the biggest disservice to your son if you think like this. Teach your sons how to respect people & don’t blame it on being affectionate. People who say shit like that just don’t want to admit they failed as parents because they didn’t teach their sons to respect females.
제가 태하 입장으로 어린시절을 보내고 성인이되고 이제는 제 일을 하고 있어요 ㅎㅎ 중고등학생때도 동생위주로 제 생각이 돌아가고 유치원데리러가고 초등학생이 유모차끌고 소아과 가고 문화센타 엄마역할로 가기도 하고 ㅎㅎ 엄마 아빠 역할을 제가 할려고 노력했었어요 그래야 엄마아빠가 좋아하고 덜 힘드실꺼니까요 지금은 동생들 가끔이라도 용돈 줄려고 제가 쓸 돈 줄이고, 후에 책임지고 막내 용돈도 챙겨줘야하지 않을까 고민한답니다 둘째 입시 막내 고등학교 성적까지.. 부모님들이 강조하지 않지만 스스로 그렇게 생각하게 되더라구요 물론 저희 셋 사이가 너무 좋아요 언니 누나 하면서 전화도 하고 데이트도하고 동생들끼리는 2살 차이라 서로 카페도가고 벚꽃놀이도 가는 좋은 남매사이에요 셋이 서로 밤에 데리러 가겠다고 싸우기도 하고요 하지만 조금은 벅찰때도 있어요 제 미래에는 제걱정과 동생들까지의 걱정도 있거든요 내가 동생들까지 책임져야지 열심히 살아야지 돈 모아야지 필요한게 있으면 사주어야지. 양보 배려 몸에 배여서 사회에서 늘 양보하게 되더라고요 .스스로의 주관이 사라진것 같아요 ㅎㅎ..주변에 힘든친구 조금은 동생같은 친구 를 챙겨줘야한다는 강박감이있어요 그러면 안되는데 그친구도 어엿한 성인이도 스스로 할 힘이 있는데도 불구하고 제가 달래줘야 마음이 편하더라고요 무거운거,힘든거 옆사람보다 제가 해야 마음이 편하고 집에 일이 생기면 제가 중심이 될려고 애써요 윗사람들 한테 잘보일려고 하는듯한 제 모습에 한번식 헛웃음이 나올 때도 있고요 우리큰딸 우리 첫째,늘 고마워 라는 말이 이제는 마냥 좋진 않고 버거워지기 시작하는 26살이 되었네요 조금은 벗어나서 제 주관 스스로 어릴때 시절을 탓하지 않고 살고 싶어서 주저리주저리 썻네요ㅎㅎ 태하야 너무 애쓰지마 부모님의 역할은 부모님만 할 수 있는 부분이 있더라 너도 아직 아가야 힘들면 힘들다 이야기 할줄 아는 아이가 되길 바라
18:43 omg I'm crying, he just a 12yo boy but already mature by circumstances, he need to take care of his siblings so he can help her mother and comfort her fr, I'm a fan of him start now😭😭
I just feel too bad for the boy. I can literally feel that empty space in his heart...the pressure of being reliable and responsible. I have lived my life being in the same situation. Playing the same role. And believe me, when we grow up, it hurts more. And for the mom, I kinda find her immature to think that "that like doing that". He might be okay with doing that and maybe even like it a bit, but he is just 12! He deserves to get the affection & attention just like his other siblings.
사람들 오지랖은 ㅋㅋ 첫째가 엄마아빠 사이 좋은거 보면서 크고 사랑받아 커서 저렇게 엄마 위하고 동생들 사랑해주는거지 댓글만 보면 첫째 잘못되는 줄 알겠네 ㅋㅋㅋ첫째들의 책임감은 사실 첫 아기에 대한 부모의 관심과 사랑을 온전히 듬뿍 받아서 생기는거고 둘째는 확실히 첫째를 키워본 부모들이 첫째만큼 아이의 일거수일투족에 관심을 안주니까 자연스럽게 더 애정을 갈구하고 애정결핍처럼 보이죠... 여튼 사랑넘치는 가정 부러워요♥
자꾸 큰애한테만 무거운 짐 지운다 하는데 ..지나친 오지랖입니다~ 다 알아서 하리라 생각합니다. 예전에 다른 육아예능에서 봤는데, 태하가 혼자일때인가..둘째 까지만 있을태 김성은씨가 거의 초등학교 들어갈 나이의 아들 밥 직접 떠먹여줬어요.. 그만큼 첫째 한테도 엄청 잘했었고 사랑 마니 받았어요.., 동생들이랑 나이 차이도 꽤있기에 어느 정도 이해하고 받아들일거예요. 경제적 여유도 있으니 잘 밀어줄거고.. 악플좀 ㄴㄴ
첫째로 태어났기에 자연스레(?) 저러는 것도 있을 것같아요. 저도 장녀인데 엄마가 힘든 거 많이 봐서 전 엄마에게 미안함 + 죄책감이 큰데 (도움이 못돼서) 동생은 그런 감정 거의 없더라구요. 같은 환경에서 같은 이야기를 듣고 자랐는데 말이죠! 장녀 장남 콤플렉스 같기도 하고ㅠㅠ
I would like a son like taeha but I would like him to have a greater bond with their dad than Taeha .You can see how the neglectance of fatherly love is affecting him .This boy has had to grow up 3x faster to be that male figure when his dad is gone. This is not bashing the father as he is working hard to make money for his family
@@whiteg1815 exactly but from the same personal experience I've watched it all happen to my brother and they tend to shut people out, it's not good mentally
Its hard being the eldest. I'm an adult and I know I'm their daughter. But the dynamic between my siblings is difficult sometimes. I resent my parents for making me their "mom" and I resent my siblings for not helping my position. My siblings resent me because I am not their parent and I feel that when I try to ask them for something. I try my best to be their sister... but it's so hard when I've been given this position where I can't satisfy both groups. And I feel like leaving and moving out was probably the best for everyone. Being in the picture only brings toxicity...even if my parents have show their appreciatiom towards me. Its a hard life 🥲
@@lizbetcruz172 as the youngest of 4 kids. I Appreciate my older sisters especially the oldest because even today I needed to do school shopping and my mom didn’t pick up or anything but she sent me money ,she also took me on a huge shopping spree. My mom and my sisters relationship is not the best because my mum is hardheaded but ive always looked up to her and felt the need to reach her expectations. She got me my first phone aswell and the only person who cared about my mental health . I’ve seen how hard oldest siblings get it and especially with POC families. I don’t think people appreciate their oldest sibling enough .She literally feels like my mum especially with the huge age gap As soon as my sister turned 18 she moved out 2 hours away and refused help from my mom so my mom couldn’t say I told you so .Honestly my mom had high demands like all of my siblings one by one want to run away and so do I
정조국. 가족들 모두 희생하는데 그걸 느끼지도 알고싶어하지도 않는데... 정조국 개인적으론 편하겠지만 아빠로선 완전 빵점. 김성은은 본인 선택이지만 태하는 무슨 죄..우울증에 참고 또 참고 불쌍. 그나이에 누릴것을 못누리네. 짐이 너무 무거워. 엄마 아빠가 생각이없고 무개념. 부모가 첨이라는걸로 변명 안됨. 그냥 생각이 없고 걍 개인주의.
As the oldest child I can relate to the eldest having to be more mature and take more responsibility but I think he genuinely likes being a big brother and he enjoys spending time and taking care of everyone plus we see a fraction of what really goes on here, dont think you know everything there is to the family
Es verdad es hay donde el hijo empieza a aislarse y después se preguntan por qué no comparte con la familia, puede llegar a sentir incluso que no es parte de la familia, cuanto más lo veo, más me indignó, me da frustración ver al hermano mayor
Tae-ha is the blessing of God to this Family!!! i'm in awe when he said "Good job, good job today"!!! He is a man in the form of a 12-year-old child!!!
I’m the eldest out of 4 kids and I resonate with Taeha so much, being one of the parents when you’re still a kid yourself. I hope he doesn’t grow up to resent his parents like I did, and I hope his parents express their gratitude for him cause it isn’t so easy being selfless . He’s the glue of the family 🥺💛
That's what I kept thinking. As much praise he gets for being mature, he should still be able to have a childhood. His mom was able to see how much he does so I truly hope his efforts are recognized ❤️😭
Understandably yes a baby who has just been born does need more attention, that is a fact that is understandable. The problem I have is in saying that he is old enough to not need much affection, this damages a child specifically during preteen stages because this is a time where he trying to figure out everything. Children his age would think being called mature and wise for his age might think it is a good thing but it robs a CHILD of there childhood. I think he must be given a platform to be a CHILD not the one who ' likes ' helping his Mom. This will lead to depression, anxiety etc, I am not saying that is what is happening but I can see from personal experience that this will lead to it. I get that the parents are busy but give time for the oldest that is what is being said. At the end of the day you as a parent don't want your child to feel unwanted because you are busy with the other kids. Again I wanted to put my input respectfully.
Please don't break your son's heart. Dad should have hugged him so tightly, encourage him, tell him thank you for helping out in the house. He needs to hear that from his father so that he doesn't become resentful.
Coming from a last-born, it’s quite the opposite for some of us bcs the eldest can be over the top and we had to sacrifice more. It’s an unfair world! 😛
I have never disagreed with a comment so much in my life. When the main panel said that Taeha was too old to give kisses to his dad that blew me. He is only 12 yrs old and like the rest of the kids, he hasn't seen his dad for 2 months it's not like he doesn't feel any less happy to see his dad like the other kids. Till this day and age me and my brother still give kisses to my mom and dad on the cheek and receive them to and we are 19 and 20 yrs old. The culture and upbringing for kids in Korea are all about growing up fast and taking care of the rest of the family as a substitute for the parents and I think that is very unfair. He's 12 for gods sakes he should be surrounded by loss of affection and love at that age, yes its great that he is such a responsible older brother but at the same time all 3 children should be given the same amount of attention his little sister no matter how old she is you can tell that is "her way or no way". They need to discipline her on equality and sharing, her older brother has every right to express himself at that age and want his father's attention as well that's what a normal child will want he shouldn't be worried about other responsibilities of yielding to his siblings just because he's the oldest 24/7.
@@lemonstrangler Well it is personal preference based on your own cultural and home environment so I am not one to judge. It just surprises me to see since I've been raised since I was a small baby by a family that gives hugs and kisses on the cheek or forhead as a way to show affection and that they love/care about you.
When every woman becomes every woman’s child’s mother,this world is a lot more precious because of the mothers. Plus the little man need that parents attention and affection,he is too mature for his age
Taeha is such an amazing son most of us at 12 weren’t like that she is so blessed 😩😩💜💜Poor mother she has to carry 3 children, one is already hard and by herself. They need the father to be there and take care of them. Time flies too fast and if not enough spent together in order to watch them grow up they can regret it later. She is so tired but so strong 💪
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why and i tearing up while watching the oldest? he is so precious. the mom would suffer so much without him.
He reminds me of Naeun lokkinh after Gunhoo and Jinwoo. They get more responsibility to look after the others and forget that they themselves are kids too
the oldest child is literally sooo mature beyond his ages the way he treats his siblings and his mother proves it and i wish him a bright future
Si pero de todas maneras deben esforzarse por quitarle tanta responsabilidad el esta ahí para comportarse como un niño, no para sentir que es la mano derecha de la madre, y en cuanto al papá opino que debería demostrarle más agradecimiento y amor, pues, el niño ocupa su lugar cuando no está,pero, lo único que vi es que son los 4.
El papá
La mamá
Y los dos menores
Y se olvidan por completo del mayor y no es justo con el, los hijos son de los papas no del niño, el solo es el hermano mayor
동생 엄마한테 먼저 양보하고 젤 나중에 아빠한테 안기네 태하 너도 애긴데 너무 듬직해져버렸다..
태하부터 잘 챙겨주세요. 멋진 남자네요
The fact that the dad came in. Taeha saw him first. Instead of hugging him, the dad asked him to stay silent to surprise the rest. And afterwards, when he finally got away from the kids, Taeha had to hug him first. Sometimes it’s so sad to be the eldest and a boy. Taeha may be so incredibly mature but it’s sad to see him have to fall in line behind his mom when his siblings are first in line. I wish they show him more love and affection and not take his maturity for granted. I cried watching this not because it was sweet, but because it was sad. And to see everyone praising Taeha from being such a wonderful child yet not pointing out how ignored he was. It’s sad to be taken for granted.
ikr,, he's still a little kid
This comment right here😍
Yes, especially the last part! Taeha deserves just as much as affection as his siblings. Although I know his parents love him, I can’t help but feel sadden by the thought that he holds himself back because he feels like he has to be the strong one.
True,that is so sad😢.
Ikr I was thinking this! As an older child of many younger children it gets tough at times esp when I was younger and closer in age to Taeha. I understand that Mothers will need the help from the oldest/older ones and even Fathers and that's ok. But it because of how much older Taeha is than his younger siblings and his maturity I really wish his parents would take time to be with him one on one and thank him. Like his parents plus him, or Taeha + Mom alone, or Appa + Taeha alone. I can gurantee it would help him out sm, I just really hope he is feeling ok because I know it can be really hard being the oldest or one of the older ones that has to step up to the plate and mature early to pick up after the kids to help out the Mom
the eldest has to act more mature than he should when he's still so young,,,,i rlly feel bad for him, he deserves the same amount of affection and care as the younger ones,,,
Right!
I think he genuinely enjoys his role as big brother.. Some people have a great need to be nurturing.
@@sissyrayself7508 yes and i agree with tht he seems to be such a nice big bro but as an older sibling myself, in some situations u rlly do feel the distance of affection,, and we kinda see tht here too
Young children needs to have alot of love attention he is old enough to not have those love attention plus there is 2 baby he and his mother needs to take care of those young two babies
@@danielhern3816 u can't say that unless they grow up
I hope the dad and the mother would spend time to yhe eldest child. The way he didnt come to his dad even though he miss him after seeing his sisters and brother already come to their dad makes my heart hurt. He is still 12 years old, i hope they would shower him with love too and teach the daughter slowly to help taeha and be more considerate
What I was thinking as well. The eldest always get treated like this, he needs more love :(
See I get what your saying but then as a middle child in a similar position to her she probably liked playing with the baby just like her brother but have been called boisterous or say like the old one would rather play with the baby. And in her position she wants that attentions because she has always had to share it and her mum spends a lot of time with the baby and her brother too. So like while I get the brothers position you have to understand she is also a much younger child than the brother. There are things each child in a big family give up and have to deal with.
As a middle child she’ll always have to deal with being forgotten about, less attention, and have that feeling of always being second or third in priority your neither the first or last for your parents. The older much like the parents often adopt a more responsible role to lift the burden on their parents and have pressure. The youngest has the burden of living up to expectations and the parents who raise them being older than the ones who raised there siblings.
Not saying that she shouldn’t help but it’s not something u should expect her to do so early especially when she has to deal with and organize her emotions of feeling a sense of loss and abandonment due to the her parents and brother spending more time with her younger sibling.
It took me a while to process how I felt when my little sister and then brother was born. It’s not something that will go away but she needs some time to understand and to accept the new reality she is in
I felt this comment because compared to my siblings I ain't that close to my parents and I'm 21 so......yup
Just got used to loneliness now
He’s actually 10 or 11 according to Korean age he’s 12
Taeha is literally the goat. he's so mature, caring and loving. The fact a 12 year old told his mom good job for all the things she does and how he helps his mom out and is caring to his siblings. The fact he misses his dad a lot but let his 2 younger siblings have him all to themselves and give his mom time with his dad and then hug his dad. Bruh, why is this kid so nice. I want a boyfriend like him, but 7 years older, lolllll. His personality is literally 11/10. He's so selfless, bro
goat💀
yesssss, but more like 1 million/10
nice, but selfless people are the ones who have to compromise the most
He's the oldest. Ofc he has to be mature and take care of others.
@@aura7375 no. He is a kid itself, why would he need to take care of his siblings? He doesn't have to be mature HE NEEDS TI ENJOY HIS CHILDHOOD
Her eldest son is the reason why she is still sane, she gotta discipline the kids a little bit more. And the daughter needs to learn that sharing is caring, don’t want her to grow up being a jealous and possessive person
I used to be like that as well.. I never let my sister get close to my dad or I would get mad. Since my dad used to work far away(he quit) so he only comes home once in 2 month but I still love him. When we go out I would always cling onto my dad's leg all the time and one time I accidentally hug stranger's leg. But now as I grew up I'm not like that anymore ever since I got a phone, friends... So sometimes my dad would feel lonely cuz I'm in my room all the time and I do feel bad so now I try to get close to my dad whenever I had time and spend time together while he's still here.. My dad once told me he misses the old me when I was little rather than me now that barely talk 2 sentences in one day
@@awin_ramli782 ohh, it's good that u recognized this and now want to spend more time with your father
@@ellenveloso5306 when I watch this it really reminds me of myself who I used to be
Felt exactly the same. I think because she is the out girl, they have let her have too much leeway
Sounds like seokyung from penthouse
I'm in awe of Taeha - what an amazing young man. Please Dad spend some one on one time with him, show him how much you respect him for stepping into your role. He is so mature, stepping back to let the young ones take all of Dad's attention when I'm sure he was longing for a hugs too.
What's this show?
@@Suga.8 sorry no idea it just came up on my feed
@@stellp2956 oh!! That's okay. ❤️
@@Suga.8 it’s called ”you are My Destiny”
@@NooMStudies where to watch?
요즘 배운 가스라이팅 생각나요...ㅠㅠ
난 딸에게 저런 위로를 받았고 고맙다는 생각을 했는데 딸은 항상 맘이 어려웠다네요.
깊은 속 마음을 함께 털어놓는 시간에...
엄마에게 투정 한번 부리기가 죄송했었다고...그래서 늘 참았다고...ㅠㅜㅜ
태하는 아빠 역할을 하는거 아니에요.
그냥 형을 하는거에요. 아빠 역할을 하라는 메세지를 주지말았으면 해요.
ㄹㅇ 부담
????
ㅇㅈ
맞아요 애는 애라고 그러셨어요 오은영 박사님도
장남이면 어쩔 수 없지요,,
everytime the eldest child is helping her and people start to praise him she says "he likes to do it", he likes to help with the other kids, he likes to help her in the kitchen...maybe he doesn't like it, but now is something that he's so used to it because he knows the mother needs help with the other siblings and the house, so now it's a part of his personality...not saying anything bad about the mother because i know how much she actually needs the help, but i wish they would show him a little more love! he's a great brother and such an amazing son.
i agree):
Couldn’t agree more
i think he likes it, with such a great mum like that
couldn’t stop thinking the same
@@lemonstrangler fun fact: some of the people who have depression are shocked that they have it, bcs they thought they're happy
태하야. 혹시나 언젠가 이 글을 보게된다면 조금이나마 너에게 힘이 되었으면 좋겠어. 널 응원하는 사람들이 이렇게도 많단다. 늘 건강히 지금처럼 반듯하게 잘 커가기를 삼촌이 멀리서 기도할게!
이모도! 응원할게 동생들 잘 돌봐쥬서 고마워♡
@아으아으 너같은 인간이 뭘 알겠냐 그 따위로 살다 아무도 없는 곳에서 객사해라 너의 장례식은 아무도 안지내줄게야^^
@아으아으 크 우리 방구석 키보드 워리어 ㅋㅋ 멋있다 아주 장하네 ㅋㅋ
@아으아으 왜 측은하지.....
@아으아으 불쌍…
Bruh why did I cry at when the oldest say “it’s okay” to the mom. OMG but like really someone needs to talk to him and ask him if he is okay. it brings tears to my eyes seeing him be basically the 3rd parent and he is only 12. Cant be just be a regular 12 year old the moms needs to stop depending on him so much .
G A Y
@@semprequevoceleroscomentar2273 💀
@@semprequevoceleroscomentar2273 Tf you talking about dude
I would consider him the second parent, their dad isn't home much sadly because of their work unless it's off season... I feel for the kid. It's not easy. The dad is the aunt or grandparent at this point.
I see myself so much in the oldest, I am sure he need to talk with someone
After watching this, I’m sure the mom will love and appreciate the eldest son a whole lot more, she got to see what she might’ve missed out on when she’s busy taking care of the other two
Hopefully, he’s too precious!
She did notice at 16:30. This show allows also to see what they missed during the shouting.
i’m literally crying with how good of a brother taeha is I wish my brother was like him
Give love to be loved
아들이 의젓하고 어른스럽지만 아직 앤데, 엄마가 아들한테 의지하는순간 엄청난 스트레스로 올겁니다. 고맙게도 동생들을 돌보고 집안일도 돕는등 여러가지 일들을 하고 잇지만 아직 애라는 점을 간과해선 안될거 같습니다. 애는 애처럼 키우는게 맞아요.
NY Life 222
저런걸 강요하지 않아도 알아서 저렇게 하는 애들이 있어요. 첫째만 차별하는거도 아닌데요 뭘
@@진우-o3m 엄마 아빠한테 짐이 되고 싶지 않아서 그러는거예요 자기도 떼쓰고 싶고 철없이 굴고 싶은데 이미 그러는 동생들이 많으니까 자기까지 엄마를 힘들게 할 수는 없다는 생각에 의젓하게 굴 수 밖에 없는거예요
엄마 아빠는 그걸 모르고 얘는 원래 의젓한 애구나 원래 이런 애구나 당연한거구나 해버리면 그때부터 엄청난 심리적 부담감이 몰려오죠..알아서 저렇게 하는게 아니라 자기 욕망 꾹꾹 참아가며 엄마아빠 위하는 마음으로 해내는겁니다
@@유토-s6h 제주도에서 탱자탱자 논다고 누가 그러던가요?
육아하기 싫어서 유명하지도 않은 선수가 이핑계 저핑계 대면서 집에 자주 안오는 정조국인가 뭐신가 저 남편때문이지 전부
정신차리고 아빠 남편 역할이나 제대로 해라
I’m literally crying Taeha is such a great brother and he helps his mum so so much but I think they should give him a little more attention he’s doing so so much and he deserves to get attention, hugs and kisses as much as his younger siblings do.
태하도 알게 모르게 스트레스 쌓일수 있으니 엄마가 한번씩 고맙다는 식으로 계속 표현해주면 좋을듯!
이 영상만봐도 엄마가 첫째한테 사랑표현 고맙단표현 잘하는것같은데요??
@@우루-m7t 직접적인 표현이 없다는거죠. 표정이 고맙게 느끼고 잇는게 보이고, 자막이 그렇게 표현할뿐이죠
인스타 보니까 첫째랑 데이트도 하시고 시간 보내시는것같더라고요!
@Joo A 근데 그 칭찬이 태하의 행동에서 비롯된 거라서 조건부 사랑으로 여겨질 수도 있음.
@Joo A 조건부 사랑보다는 나을 거 같은데요? 김성은씨가 맹목적인 사랑을 보인 아이는 단 한 명도 없는 거 같은데.
18:42 아들이 ...엄마한테.. 오늘도 ... 잘했어 수고했어래......아들을 저렇게 키운 엄마도 대단하지만, 저렇게 태어나 잘 자라준 아들도 존멋♥
오늘도수고했어 태하말에 눈물이팡터지네요
할머니 마음도 감동 했어요
아이고....아직 태하도 아가인데, 어린 동생둘에 아빠의 부재에 엄마가 혼자 고생하는거 같아서 늘 마음이 애타나봐요...
진짜 남편한테 듣고 싶었던 말이었는데... 너무 속 깊은 아들이네요❤️
제주에 내려가서 적은집 빌려서 가족끼리 사세요~
제주에 내려가서 작은집 년세나 전세로 살면 되죠!!
As the oldest child and having two younger siblings, I can totally relate to taeha. I mean we have to take care of our siblings and we don't get attention at all. :((
Yes I can relate too I am the oldest and I have a younger brother , I feel the same as you :((
Yeah, I'm the oldest too. I have two younger brother.
I am the eldest and have 5 sibling 😂 the baby sitter 😂😭
Im the middle child of five.. also called the forgotten kid. Looool
@@rick-su5ze :(
모두들 첫째가 듬직하다 잘 키웠다 하지만 아들은 대단하면서도 할 수밖에 없는 상황 속에서 열심히 살아가고 있을 것 같다. 당장 편집되고 영상 속 모습만으로 이렇게 얘기하는 것이 무례할 수도 있지만 그저 첫째가 엄마와 두 동생 사이에서 너무 많은 스트레스를 받지 않고, 가끔 자신도 들여다볼 수 있는 시간이 있기를... 어린 나이에 너무 많은 배려를 하다 보면 겉에서 티는 나지 않아도 본인도 모르게 안에서 무슨 일이 일어나는지 잘 알 수 없으니 말이다... 이 예쁜 가족이 항상 행복하기를 바랍니다:)
맞아요ㅜ
맞아요. 보기는 좋지만 태하입장에서는 뭔가 잘못된겁니다.
애기 애 다워야지 너무 일찍 많은 걸 포기하면 나중에 후회가 많이 남게 됨.
사람은 누구나 그 나이에 할 일이 있음.
무슨소리 어른의 역할을 강요하지 않아도 원래 성향이 아래 애들 잘 챙기고 그런 아이들이 있어요. 김성은님이 첫째만 차별하거나 강요하는거도 아니고 자연스럽게 저러는건 좋은겁니다
@@진우-o3m 저런 성향 없어요. 그저 자신의 감정을 억누를뿐.. 나중에 어른으로 자라면 마음에 한구석에 한이 있음. 타인은 쉽게 생각하죠
I've never seen such a responsible and caring 12 year old, it's so heart warming 🥺❤
Right? 😭❤
태하 다기다려주고 마지막에 안아달라고 할때 눈물핑
잘했어 수고했어요 엄마...
이말 진짜 듬직하다
정조국이 제일 편하고 사람답게 사네~
가정이고 육아는 신경도 안 쓰고
둘째가 아빠 왔을때 혼자 안겨서 엄마도 못안게하고 침대에서도 아빠랑 둘이서만 자려고 하고 유치원에서도 선생님들한테 그런다고 하니 가볍게 넘길 문제는 아닌거같음... 동생의 나 불편해 이 말 뜻 알아차리고 아무 말 없이 바로 자리 비켜주고 엄마 옆으로 가서 수고했다고 말해주는 첫째 속도 헤아려 주세요ㅠㅠ 저였으면 성질나서 동생이고 뭐고 잘 밤에 시끄럽게 짜증 엄청 냈을거에요...ㅋㅋ.......
222둘째와 엄마의 시간을 늘리고 동생이나 오빠한테 양보하면 큰칭친해주고 평소에도 사랑받고 있다는 정서를 느끼게 해줘야할듯해요
대책 없이 아이를 많이 낳으면 벌어질 일... 경제적 여건이 되는 데도 저 정도인데 안 되는 가정들은 생각하지도 마시길~
근데 존나 행복해보이긴한다
아니 백지영 리액션맛집 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
백지영 덕분에 재미가 두배임ㅋㅋ진짜 리액션 대박
불을끄라고 성은아 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
백지영 진짜 쵝오네
진심 감정이입하며 함께 울고웃고 추임도 적절히 넣어주고 멋져요
예능감 구웃
맞아요 백지영씨 동상이몽 고정이면 좋겠네용ㅠㅎㅎ
진짜 이번 조합 넘 좋았음 백지영 이지혜 김성은...
The eldest is mature, he understands that the mom needs to care more to the 2nd and youngest. Mostly eldest voices it out and tell their parents that their jealous of what they see through the 2nd and youngest. Glad he understands well
대체적으로 어린 자식한테 엄격하게 훈육하든 안하든 올곧게 성실하게 자라는 애들이
있는데 이런 아이들은 아빠든 엄마든 부모를 진심으로 존경하고 사랑하는 거임
내가 이런 아빠 엄마에게서 태어난게 너무나 자랑스럽고 감사하다고 느끼면 애한테
잔소리 안해도 알아서 잘 큰다 다시말해서 부모가 잘살아야하는겨 그게 교육임
진짜 동감해요!!!!!
아......진짜 이게맞는말이네요 진짜 전그래서 결혼하면 애낳을건데 그래서 결혼부터 절대 신중하게 하고싶고 그래서더욱 비혼주의가 될것만같아요
좋은 모습을 보여줘야하는데 영향을 좋게 주지못할까봐.
내적으로 고민이 있는분들은 다 그런걸 풀고 결혼을하고애를낳고.. 하시는걸 강추해요
아니면 어두운부분이 전달되니까 그건 참 싫어요..
Brb crying for the oldest child, he doesn't get enough T-T. They need to teach the girl "sharing is caring", at that age it can be seen as cute but not in teenagers.
Yea I didn't see it as cute honestly and I don't want to be mean but damn she is rude. And I mean she is a kid still but she shouldn't be like that. I was so mad.
태하도 아직 어린데 아빠역할을 하네
아이는 엄마가 전부라서 엄마가 아빠 출장으로 힘든걸 너무 잘아는거 같아요..
태하가 엄마도와주는걸좋아한다기보다 엄마가힘들까봐 도와주는대견한아들이네요 ❤️
아빠를 자주 못보는데도 아빠를 좋아한다는건 그 자주 보지 못하는 상황에서도 아이들에게 엄청 잘해준다는거다. 애들은 거짓말 안하거든.
이게 맞지
아빠가 다정해야 가족이 행복합니다.
이건 진리
다정한 남자가 최고에요👍
그것도 있지만 엄마가 애들 앞에서 아빠 비난을 안 하는 덕이 더 큼. 아빠가 없어서 힘들다 아빠가 가정에 헌신을 안 한다 이런 식으로 불평하지 않고 아빠가 밖에 나가있을 수 밖에 없다는 식으로 정당화해주고 엄마가 아빠를 좋아하는 티를 많이 내니까 애들이 아빠를 미워하지 않는거임
@@dandelionn1844 아주 틀린말은 아니지만, 머리크면 엄마가 정당화 시켜주는거 애들도 다 압니다.
쉴드도 정도껏 쳐야해요.
요즘 애들이 얼마나 똘똘한데요.
당연히 이뻐하죠....매일 육아하는것도 아니고 두달만에 와서 며칠만 보고 가는데 얼마나 이쁠까ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
16:27 when his mom was saying that she doesn’t know what she would do without taeha and he patted her back like “it’s okay”.. i just hope he’s really okay and that when he’s older he doesn’t feel a disconnect to the family you can tell he missed his dad but the little girl was honestly so disrespectful and it’s really not funny like she’s so young and is already acting like that :(
태하 진짜 진국이다...저렇게 올바른 아이는 처음봐 대단해...
교육을잘시켰는게보여
와,,, 첫째 진짜 잘 자랐고 멋지다,,
그리고 태하 꼭 안아주고 태하랑만도 시간 많이 보내주셔야 할것 같아요,, 저 나이면 태하도 엄마아빠한테 달려가고 껴안고 울고 할 수 있는 나이인데 저렇게 의젓한거 보니까 마음미 뭉클하네요 😢 아무래도 어린동생들 때문에 맘껏 안아달라고도 못하고 눈치보는게 보이네요
보는데 맘이 짠하다. 난 내 딸 같으면 제주도에서 같이 살라고 한다. 인생이 너무 짧아. 근데 돌아보면 같이 있지 못한 시간은 두고두고 후회가 남아. 돌이킬 수가 없어. 언젠가 아빠의 빈자리를 애들은 무엇인가로 되갚으려고 할텐데. 큰 태하 대견하지만 맘이 아프다. 두 부부 보니 맘이 왜 아프고 아련하지.
The eldest is the best but seeing the whole clip makes me sad for him too...
남자가 더 잘해야겠다.
엄청 노력하는것 같은데
더욱더..ㅠ눈물이 왈칵 쏟아지네
ㅠㅠ 두달만에 상봉이라니... 저런생활을 계속 하신다고요..?? 세아이 혼자 저렇게 키우시면 아무리 친정엄마가 도우미 분이 도와주셔도 외롭고 힘들죠 ㅠㅠ
정조국도 진짜 여신을만났네ㅎㅎ 유명한연예인으로 살다 저렇게 사는게 쉬운게 아닐텐데 대접만받으면서 살다가 대단합니다ㅎㅎ
I disagree with Jang Hoon. Maybe it's the society, culture and mentality Asians are raised in which looks at physical affection by sons towards their parents as awkward and uncomfortable but honestly, that just ruins our relationship with our parents. There is no shame whatsoever in being able to openly hug, kiss and say I love you to our parents. Instead, we should encourage that even more especially today with all that is going on. I really enjoy watching variety shows but often end up disagreeing with the patriarchal, misogynist and traditional views.
Also, I can see Taeha growing up to be a responsible and understanding person. He just needs more love and affection
@A Sprocket Being physically affectionate with one's family has NOTHING to do with inappropriately touching people. Teach your children about boundaries and respect, rather than deprive them of affection, weirdo.
I haven't experienced the love and affection i deserved that's why will be better parents than my parents
@A Sprocket You’re absolutely ridiculous because that’s the shit that happens as a result of doing shit like that most of the time from what I’ve noticed. You’re doing the biggest disservice to your son if you think like this. Teach your sons how to respect people & don’t blame it on being affectionate. People who say shit like that just don’t want to admit they failed as parents because they didn’t teach their sons to respect females.
Its not like that.. Its just taeha is different.. I think many ppl have misunderstood asian culture.. In a negative way
@A Sprocket fuck off and know what consent is. It’s not that hard
어머 태하가 자기전에 저런말을ㅜㅜ 눈물1도 안나다가 저기서 울컥한다잉
저도 통통틀어 유일하게 눈물났어요
왜 조선시대의 남자와 여자가 현실에 와있는 느낌이다…….와…..그 고생을 하고 나는 아무리 일때문이라지만 떨어져잇다 오면 마냥 반갑지만은 않을거같다.
태하가 너무 소중하다..
저게 엄마 도와주는걸 좋아하는걸로보이는건가...내가 맏이라 그런가 좋아하는게아니라 그냥 어쩔수없이 하다가 그냥 익숙해져서 자연스레 했던거같은데 그래도 착하게 잘자라고잇는것같아서 다행이네...
우와 아이셋을 혼자서 성은씨 너무 대단하다~~ 육아로 지쳐서 하소연하듯 눈물흘릴때 너무 공감되서 울컥했네요 태하도 너무 의젓하고 딸같은 아들 너무 사랑스러워서 꼭 안아주고싶네요~^^
성은씨도 지금 너무 잘하시고 있어요~
힘내세요~ 화이팅^^
본인이 애낳은건데 그게 왜 고생이라는건지 노이해
@@문영균-u2c 육아는 원래 혼자하는게 아니라 남편이랑 같이하는거니까요 ^^ 혼자하면 아무래도 둘이 할때보단 고생하겠지요
@@문영균-u2c 니가 낳아서 키워보고 그런소리하심ㅋㅋ 그런 공감 능력으로 산다는게 신기하네
@@johnko4984 새벽 네시에 할일없이 악플이나 달고있는 한심한 키보드워리어,, 내 주위에 맞벌이 아닌 집이 없음 ㅋㅋ 현실을 좀 봐.. 제발..! 눈좀 떠봐...!!
@@johnko4984 그렇다면 정말 현실파악이 더 어렵겠네,, 니가 있는곳이 낮인게 왜 나한테 미안해할 일인지는 모르겠고,, 한녀들이 안만나줘서 꽤나 속상했나본데~,, 일 하고싶으먼 하는거고 아니면 안하는거지~
비혼다짐해도 결혼하자고 매달려서 애 생기면 애는 엄마가 키워야된다며 커리어 무너뜨리는게 누군데 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
어머 태하 어떡해...ㅠㅠ 저 나이 대에 남자 아이가 어떻게 저렇게 섬세하고 말도 행동도 저렇게 예쁠수가 있어 ㅠㅠ 진짜 0.1프로의 아이다 ㅠㅠ 혼자서도 참 잘 키우셨네요 ㅠㅠ
엄마의 마음을 알아주는 딸같은 아들이라 사춘기올법도한데 사랑많이받고 동생들도예뻐해주고 앞으로 얼마나 자상하게클지^^
제가 태하 입장으로 어린시절을 보내고 성인이되고 이제는 제 일을 하고 있어요 ㅎㅎ 중고등학생때도 동생위주로 제 생각이 돌아가고 유치원데리러가고 초등학생이 유모차끌고 소아과 가고 문화센타 엄마역할로 가기도 하고 ㅎㅎ
엄마 아빠 역할을 제가 할려고 노력했었어요 그래야 엄마아빠가 좋아하고 덜 힘드실꺼니까요 지금은 동생들 가끔이라도 용돈 줄려고 제가 쓸 돈 줄이고, 후에 책임지고 막내 용돈도 챙겨줘야하지 않을까 고민한답니다 둘째 입시 막내 고등학교 성적까지.. 부모님들이 강조하지 않지만 스스로 그렇게 생각하게 되더라구요 물론 저희 셋 사이가 너무 좋아요 언니 누나 하면서 전화도 하고 데이트도하고 동생들끼리는 2살 차이라 서로 카페도가고 벚꽃놀이도 가는 좋은 남매사이에요 셋이 서로 밤에 데리러 가겠다고 싸우기도 하고요
하지만 조금은 벅찰때도 있어요 제 미래에는 제걱정과 동생들까지의 걱정도 있거든요 내가 동생들까지 책임져야지 열심히 살아야지 돈 모아야지 필요한게 있으면 사주어야지.
양보 배려 몸에 배여서 사회에서 늘 양보하게 되더라고요 .스스로의 주관이 사라진것 같아요 ㅎㅎ..주변에 힘든친구 조금은 동생같은 친구 를 챙겨줘야한다는 강박감이있어요 그러면 안되는데 그친구도 어엿한 성인이도 스스로 할 힘이 있는데도 불구하고 제가 달래줘야 마음이 편하더라고요 무거운거,힘든거 옆사람보다 제가 해야 마음이 편하고 집에 일이 생기면 제가 중심이 될려고 애써요 윗사람들 한테 잘보일려고 하는듯한 제 모습에 한번식 헛웃음이 나올 때도 있고요
우리큰딸 우리 첫째,늘 고마워 라는 말이 이제는 마냥 좋진 않고 버거워지기
시작하는 26살이 되었네요 조금은 벗어나서 제 주관 스스로 어릴때 시절을 탓하지 않고 살고 싶어서 주저리주저리 썻네요ㅎㅎ
태하야 너무 애쓰지마 부모님의 역할은 부모님만 할 수 있는 부분이 있더라 너도 아직 아가야 힘들면 힘들다 이야기 할줄 아는 아이가 되길 바라
진짜 남편을 사랑하는 듯..사랑이 없으면 불가.보기 조아요
18:43 omg I'm crying, he just a 12yo boy but already mature by circumstances, he need to take care of his siblings so he can help her mother and comfort her fr, I'm a fan of him start now😭😭
Same 😭✊
태하가 그래도 외동으로 오래있어서 사랑충분히받아서 양보도 잘하는듯
맞아요 😄
꼭 그이유는 모르겠어요 저는 그냥 태하라는 아이가 너무 너무 자체가 천사에요ㅜㅜㅜㅜ
ㅣ
ㅋ백지영 너무 몰입했어 ㅋㅋ 저런성격 너무좋아 ㅎㅎ
세상에 성은씨 큰 아들 정말 잘 키웠네요
참 이쁘고 든든하겠어요
처음봐요. 저런 아들..^^
진짜 남의집 아들내미보고 딸 사위 삼고 싶은 마음 처음이에요
I just feel too bad for the boy. I can literally feel that empty space in his heart...the pressure of being reliable and responsible. I have lived my life being in the same situation. Playing the same role. And believe me, when we grow up, it hurts more.
And for the mom, I kinda find her immature to think that "that like doing that". He might be okay with doing that and maybe even like it a bit, but he is just 12! He deserves to get the affection & attention just like his other siblings.
큰아들이 효자로세 득짐하고 한편으로는 너무 어른스럽네 안타갑기도 하고 아빠가 없을때는 가장노릇 하고 엄마의 오른팔 역활 톡톡히 하고 최고네
ㅣ1ㅣㄲ1ㅣ4기4긱ㄱ깈4ㄱ🙂444444ㄱㄱ4ㄱ🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂⛹♀️🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂4기4기ㅣㅣㄱ4ㄱ4ㄱㄱ44ㅣ4ㅋㄱ
ㅋㄱ🙂⛹♀️⛹♀️🙂🙂⛹♀️⛹♀️🙂🙂ㄲ44ㅋ4ㄱ4ㅣㅣ441ㄱ4411ㅣ1ㅣㅣ1ㅣ1111111ㅣ11111
엄마가 아빠를 좋아해서 아빠 뒷담화를 애들한테 안 하니까 아빠가 집에 잘 없어도 아이들이 아빠 거부감이 없는 거 같다.
진짜 동감 입니다
엄마가 아빠를 진심으로 사랑하고 올때마다 스킨십하고 하니깐, 아기때부터 아이들도 모델링으로 보고 배운 거 같아요.
애들 너무 이쁜데 진짜.. 정말 힘드시겠다..우리집도 삼남매인데 우리엄마도 이랬겠지..ㅜㅜ다시한번 모든 어머니는 위대하다고 생각되네요
사람들 오지랖은 ㅋㅋ 첫째가 엄마아빠 사이 좋은거 보면서 크고 사랑받아 커서 저렇게 엄마 위하고 동생들 사랑해주는거지 댓글만 보면 첫째 잘못되는 줄 알겠네 ㅋㅋㅋ첫째들의 책임감은 사실 첫 아기에 대한 부모의 관심과 사랑을 온전히 듬뿍 받아서 생기는거고 둘째는 확실히 첫째를 키워본 부모들이 첫째만큼 아이의 일거수일투족에 관심을 안주니까 자연스럽게 더 애정을 갈구하고 애정결핍처럼 보이죠... 여튼 사랑넘치는 가정 부러워요♥
동상이몽 보면서 흐뭇해하다가 울다가 진짜ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 김성은님 진짜 대단하세요... 아이들 너무 잘자라고 있는거 같으니깐 사랑 못줬다는 죄책감 같지 마세요.. 진짜 애기들이 다 사랑둥이다
갖지
I know everyone has said this. But it just so sad watching the eldest child. I cant stop crying watching him.
자꾸 큰애한테만 무거운 짐 지운다 하는데 ..지나친 오지랖입니다~ 다 알아서 하리라 생각합니다. 예전에 다른 육아예능에서 봤는데, 태하가 혼자일때인가..둘째 까지만 있을태 김성은씨가 거의 초등학교 들어갈 나이의 아들 밥 직접 떠먹여줬어요.. 그만큼 첫째 한테도 엄청 잘했었고 사랑 마니 받았어요.., 동생들이랑 나이 차이도 꽤있기에 어느 정도 이해하고 받아들일거예요. 경제적 여유도 있으니 잘 밀어줄거고.. 악플좀 ㄴㄴ
ㄹㅇ 댓글들이 오지랖이 심하네
첫째로 태어났기에 자연스레(?) 저러는 것도 있을 것같아요. 저도 장녀인데 엄마가 힘든 거 많이 봐서 전 엄마에게 미안함 + 죄책감이 큰데 (도움이 못돼서) 동생은 그런 감정 거의 없더라구요. 같은 환경에서 같은 이야기를 듣고 자랐는데 말이죠! 장녀 장남 콤플렉스 같기도 하고ㅠㅠ
최근에 태하 심리상담한거 보면 아니던데요.. 첫째로 태어나면 저렇게 사랑해줌에도 불구하고 어떻게 영상 속에서의 행동들이 짐이 될수있는건지 알수있음
I would like a son like taeha but I would like him to have a greater bond with their dad than Taeha .You can see how the neglectance of fatherly love is affecting him .This boy has had to grow up 3x faster to be that male figure when his dad is gone.
This is not bashing the father as he is working hard to make money for his family
Life is like that
@@whiteg1815 exactly but from the same personal experience I've watched it all happen to my brother and they tend to shut people out, it's not good mentally
@@whiteg1815 It shouldn’t be. People should be the damn parents they signed up to be and give their kids affection. That’s not an excuse.
Its hard being the eldest. I'm an adult and I know I'm their daughter. But the dynamic between my siblings is difficult sometimes. I resent my parents for making me their "mom" and I resent my siblings for not helping my position. My siblings resent me because I am not their parent and I feel that when I try to ask them for something. I try my best to be their sister... but it's so hard when I've been given this position where I can't satisfy both groups. And I feel like leaving and moving out was probably the best for everyone. Being in the picture only brings toxicity...even if my parents have show their appreciatiom towards me. Its a hard life 🥲
@@lizbetcruz172 as the youngest of 4 kids. I Appreciate my older sisters especially the oldest because even today I needed to do school shopping and my mom didn’t pick up or anything but she sent me money ,she also took me on a huge shopping spree.
My mom and my sisters relationship is not the best because my mum is hardheaded but ive always looked up to her and felt the need to reach her expectations. She got me my first phone aswell and the only person who cared about my mental health . I’ve seen how hard oldest siblings get it and especially with POC families. I don’t think people appreciate their oldest sibling enough .She literally feels like my mum especially with the huge age gap
As soon as my sister turned 18 she moved out 2 hours away and refused help from my mom so my mom couldn’t say I told you so .Honestly my mom had high demands like all of my siblings one by one want to run away and so do I
김성은 대단하다
둘째가 고집이 너무쎈듯 가볍게여기면 안될듯 단호하게 해야할듯
부부사이가 젤로 가식적이지않고 서로 아끼며 서로 떨어져도 있으니 더 안싸우고 백년해로하셈
The eldest is so precious he help and cheer up his mom she's really lucky to have a son like him by her side ❤😊
정조국 결혼 잘했네.... 김성은 최고다 특히 태하 정말 든든하다.........보는 내내 흐믓~~^^
정조국. 가족들 모두 희생하는데 그걸 느끼지도 알고싶어하지도 않는데... 정조국 개인적으론 편하겠지만 아빠로선 완전 빵점. 김성은은 본인 선택이지만 태하는 무슨 죄..우울증에 참고 또 참고 불쌍. 그나이에 누릴것을 못누리네. 짐이 너무 무거워. 엄마 아빠가 생각이없고 무개념. 부모가 첨이라는걸로 변명 안됨. 그냥 생각이 없고 걍 개인주의.
@@미소천사-v4q 오우~ 그렇다고 방송 하나보고 정조국을 판단하는건 좀 아니라고 봅니다 .... 아빠와 엄마 또 자녀들 각각 위치에서 느끼고 있는 감정선들은 분명 존재하니까요
이 댓글이 찐이다 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 사람들이 걱정하는부분에대한 공감능력이 마이너스네 소시오패스 의심스러움 ㅋㅋ
큰아들이 오늘도 엄마수고했어 라는 말이 가슴이 뭉클하네 잘컸다 싶어요 엄마가 수고하는걸 알아주고 표현하는 모습이 최고다
김성은 정말 좋은 아내 인것같다 ㅠㅠ
As the oldest child I can relate to the eldest having to be more mature and take more responsibility but I think he genuinely likes being a big brother and he enjoys spending time and taking care of everyone plus we see a fraction of what really goes on here, dont think you know everything there is to the family
보면서 울었다가 웃었다가 반복하네요. 두분 부부 너무 애틋함이 느껴지고..멋진 장남 정말 👍 엄지척♡
18:45 wow, these words are so important
I'm crying now~
Her son the best
😭😭
김성은님 이쁘시고 날씬하시고 살림도 잘하시고 애도 잘키우셨고
저도 7살5살 남매 맘인데 성은님 부지런함과 남편위하는 한결같은 마음 등등 많이 배우고 갑니다
큰애한테 쉿하고 와이프한테 서프라이즈하고 둘째부터 안아주는거 봐라ㅋㅋ 저 집 사람들 모두 큰애가 우선대상이 아닌거임 큰애 혼자 아무말도 안하고 제일 뒤에서 반가워하고 있음 이게 뭐냐 이게
Es verdad es hay donde el hijo empieza a aislarse y después se preguntan por qué no comparte con la familia, puede llegar a sentir incluso que no es parte de la familia, cuanto más lo veo, más me indignó, me da frustración ver al hermano mayor
첫째사랑하는마음
믿고의지하는마음이 보이는구만
무슨 1순위가 아닐까요
두찌세찌는 태어나자마자
시간가치못한 미안한마음에
그러는걸껄요
3명 밸런스 맞춰주는게 얼마나 힘들겠습니까.. 그래도 첫째 아이 위해서 제주도로 이사도 못 갈 정도 인데
큰아들 감동 그 자체
말만하지말고 좀 자주좀 가라ㅜ 두달이 뭐니..ㅜ
진짜 태하 너무 멋지다. 12살 짜리 남자아이한테 반하기는 처음이네👍🏻
Tae-ha is the blessing of God to this Family!!! i'm in awe when he said "Good job, good job today"!!! He is a man in the form of a 12-year-old child!!!
But still at that age he needs love even mature kids are also kids
성은씨 예쁜 가정 잘 가꾸어가시네요
첫째가 넘 반듯하게 잘 자라고 있는 모습이 감동이네요
아들 둘 딸하나~~보기좋은 모습. 오래도록 응원할께요
아침 부터 눈물 흘리며 봤네요
감사합니다 나라를 살리는 밑거름이 됩니다~~♡♡♡
I’m the eldest out of 4 kids and I resonate with Taeha so much, being one of the parents when you’re still a kid yourself. I hope he doesn’t grow up to resent his parents like I did, and I hope his parents express their gratitude for him cause it isn’t so easy being selfless . He’s the glue of the family 🥺💛
why would he resent his parents, his parents are the best, he should be thankful
Your comment 💯💯
That's what I kept thinking. As much praise he gets for being mature, he should still be able to have a childhood.
His mom was able to see how much he does so I truly hope his efforts are recognized ❤️😭
@@lemonstrangler not the best but definitely not the worst
점잖고 든든한남편에 김성은은
애교꾼에 아이셋 잘 키우는
에너지까지~
예쁜가족이네요ㅡ
자주못보는데도 아빠보자마자
달려가는아이들보면
정말 가정적인아빠인듯
방송보며 응원합니다
태하가 애어른이네.속도 깊고 배려심도 있고 무엇보다 엄마 위로해줄 줄도 알고 동생들 잘 돌보고.근데 한편으론 짠하네.저 나이땐 애교도 부리고 투정도 부리고 아이다워야 하는데 너무 일찍 철들었다. 옆에 있으면 꼬옥 안아주고 위로와칭찬 많이 해주고 싶네
저렇게 사랑받는 아빠
요새 잘 없는데
Understandably yes a baby who has just been born does need more attention, that is a fact that is understandable. The problem I have is in saying that he is old enough to not need much affection, this damages a child specifically during preteen stages because this is a time where he trying to figure out everything. Children his age would think being called mature and wise for his age might think it is a good thing but it robs a CHILD of there childhood. I think he must be given a platform to be a CHILD not the one who ' likes ' helping his Mom. This will lead to depression, anxiety etc, I am not saying that is what is happening but I can see from personal experience that this will lead to it. I get that the parents are busy but give time for the oldest that is what is being said. At the end of the day you as a parent don't want your child to feel unwanted because you are busy with the other kids. Again I wanted to put my input respectfully.
YES!!! this is the comment
너무 눈물남요 ㅠㅠ 태하 더더 예뻐해주세용❣️ 제가 가서 놀아주고싶네유 ㅠㅠ
성은씨 마음 너무너무 이해가요
저도 비슷한 처지라 매일 밤 눈물로 지새웠어요
분명 다같이 살면서 행복한 날들이 올거에요 태하같은 아들 너무너무 부러워요
자식복 남편복 너무 부러워요~좋운날은 분명히 옵니다 응원할게요 성은씨 호ㅏ이팅 !!
딸있음 저렇게 아빠를 좋아하는구나! 진짜로 샘 날듯~ㅠ딸 넘 아빠밖에 모르고 함 정말 샘날것 같네요 아빠 진짜로 못 봐도 아빠를 좋아하고 진짜로 첫째 12살이면 뽀뽀 안해요 태하가 진짜로 착하고 아직 정말 아기인거 같네요. 아님 동생들 있는것보고 더 사랑받고 싶어서 뽀뽀해달라고 하는거 같네요
성은씨 너무 지쳐보이네요 ㅠㅠㅠㅠ 매일우는건 우울증이예요.. 방치말고 자기스스로도 잘 돌보세요ㅠ
백지영씨, 이지혜씨~ 정말 좋으신 분이신게 느껴집니다~^^ 항상 좋은 일로 함께 하시기 바랍니다~
김성은씨 가족분들도 참 보기좋습니다~^^
Please don't break your son's heart. Dad should have hugged him so tightly, encourage him, tell him thank you for helping out in the house. He needs to hear that from his father so that he doesn't become resentful.
Let me say this, being the firstborn is so stressful!! like I'm TIRED.
Coming from a last-born, it’s quite the opposite for some of us bcs the eldest can be over the top and we had to sacrifice more. It’s an unfair world! 😛
@@silentobserver3017 I understand what you mean💔
I have never disagreed with a comment so much in my life. When the main panel said that Taeha was too old to give kisses to his dad that blew me. He is only 12 yrs old and like the rest of the kids, he hasn't seen his dad for 2 months it's not like he doesn't feel any less happy to see his dad like the other kids. Till this day and age me and my brother still give kisses to my mom and dad on the cheek and receive them to and we are 19 and 20 yrs old. The culture and upbringing for kids in Korea are all about growing up fast and taking care of the rest of the family as a substitute for the parents and I think that is very unfair. He's 12 for gods sakes he should be surrounded by loss of affection and love at that age, yes its great that he is such a responsible older brother but at the same time all 3 children should be given the same amount of attention his little sister no matter how old she is you can tell that is "her way or no way". They need to discipline her on equality and sharing, her older brother has every right to express himself at that age and want his father's attention as well that's what a normal child will want he shouldn't be worried about other responsibilities of yielding to his siblings just because he's the oldest 24/7.
well i never received kisses lol. 12 is pretty mature anyways
@@lemonstrangler Well it is personal preference based on your own cultural and home environment so I am not one to judge. It just surprises me to see since I've been raised since I was a small baby by a family that gives hugs and kisses on the cheek or forhead as a way to show affection and that they love/care about you.
@@yanelidejesus9033 if i was a parent i would do the same , but unfortunately my parents werent like this
Thank you thats what I wana say 2
Absolutely kiss and hug your child no matter what age, boy or girl. Show them and tell them how much you love them every day.
내가 울고 있네.
가족이 세상에서 제일 큰 힘같아요.
When every woman becomes every woman’s child’s mother,this world is a lot more precious because of the mothers.
Plus the little man need that parents attention and affection,he is too mature for his age
매일 같이있는거 보다는 이렇게 가끔씩 보는것도 부부관계에는 나쁘지 않다고 봅니다. 혼자 육아책임지는성은씨의 희생과 사랑이 대단하네요😃👍
부부관계는 괜찮을지 몰라도 성은씨가 혼자 너무 힘들다보니 첫째도 너무 어릴때부터 아빠역할을 대신하게 되는거 같아요ㅠ
저렇게 다 자라던 첫째들이 다 커서도 서운하고 어릴때 애답게 어리광못부린게 다 커서 나옴.. 어쩔수없지만 바람직하다곤못하겠네요
@@user-yf1sv8bc1d
결혼후 아내에게 나타납니다
그래도 태하는 인성이좋고
공감능력좋은듯
Taeha is such an amazing son most of us at 12 weren’t like that she is so blessed 😩😩💜💜Poor mother she has to carry 3 children, one is already hard and by herself. They need the father to be there and take care of them. Time flies too fast and if not enough spent together in order to watch them grow up they can regret it later. She is so tired but so strong 💪