I want to thank everyone who stopped to answer this question... this episode wouldn't be possible without YOU. Thank you for your kindness in stopping to hear me out and your braveness in answering. I try to put as many answers as I can in the episode, however, not every answer goes on the page. Please know that if your answer is not in the episode, it does not take away from the importance of your story. There are many outside variables that determine the order and answers that go in the episode. Things like duration, flow, variety in answers, ensuring a diverse range of voices, overall feel of an episode, and sometimes background noise, or other audio and visual problems. I love you all. Thank you
I discovered your videos by chance and have followed you ever since! Thank you for your meaningful videos which have driven me to ask people very often "how are you really", such a transformative question!
For those who feel like they are alone, especially if in a crowded room, the answer is to simply communicate with someone. Don't be afraid to simply say "hi". If you don't communicate, you're only looking at everyone from the outside, and the illusion is that everybody else is okay and together, and they're not. Nobody wants to appear vulnerable and 'not okay' so they all put on the ' I'm okay ' mask we all learn how to do. Some do it better than others, but the secret to making connections to the person behind the mask is often to just simply say "hi" and see if they'll respond back. Most will, and before you know it, you have a conversation going and for that time you aren't alone. Social skills are a skill, and like all skills, you need to practice. With practice you'll get better at it, and people will feel more comfortable talking to you, then not only you, but now maybe they also won't feel alone.
It's really sad and I feel you 100%. I guess she might not necessarily live in SD, but food pantries are in a lot of places across the country 🤔 I'm assuming she can't travel as she can't afford to put food on the table so probably lives in the area therefore likely has access to food pantries. Anyway, I realize I have NO CLUE about this woman or her situation beyond what was mentioned in the note so I'll just stop here.
I'm thinking that because she's a teacher, she works Monday through friday. There's usually only food pantries Monday through friday. There's none on the weekend. So she might not have anywhere to go to ask for help.@@ijustneedmyself
I am sorry, but I make 20 thousand as a CNA. Try getting by on that. Teachers do make more. I"ve gone hungry before and have not dumpster dived. Yes, I've gone to food pantries. Please focus on the reasons you chose to become a teacher.
Agreed. There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Some who live alone...that works for them. Others who live alone, not by choice...they tend to feel lonely so it doesn't work for them. Then there are some who need extensive "me/alone" time...
@@carvedwood1953 you can be kind to a stranger but you can’t love a stranger. Kindness describes the nature of actions, love only exists within the context of personal relationships
This is definitely spiritual/energetic work you’re doing out there. ❤ You can see it by the way people feel after they answer, and it always comes from the heart ❤️
Not everyone finds love. Life is not like the movies or books or songs. The best thing you can do is get along with yourself. Be kind. Be strong. Be someone who you'd be proud to know. If you're lucky, someone worthwhile will find you. But no one will ever love you as much as a dog would...
What everyone says... But how can I love myself, if I hate myself so much? I need that missing piece of myself, someone else who can make me feel loved in the way I crave.
@Willowsong10 forget the "love yourself " bit. Just try to get along with yourself. Kinda difficult to give advice if I don't know you. But you know what bothers you about yourself. How would you react to someone else with what bothers you? Still, no one will ever love you as much as a dog would, if you let it...
I met this older woman named Maribel at work yesterday, she’s a great person with a lot of wisdom I could tell just by saying hi. Just wanted to say, I love old people lol
One could easily argue that the guise of anonymity online, allows people to let their true feelings come to light, and that the people in this video are just fabricating their answers to seem more appealing and kind. But that would be a bummer, so let's not think like that.
I’ve read all of the comments, and didn’t notice any about the woman who just wanted to be a mom and wife. It’s stunning that is looked down on. That’s where people come from. We need people to have kids, and then be good parents. I think bad parenting is where it all goes wrong and then all these warring factions pop up, and people reject basic human concepts. My wife was 16 when we went on our first date. We got married right after she turned 18, and she had our first child a year later. Even back then (early 90’s) people in the small conservative town where we lived looked down on her for being a pregnant teen (???), and then when they found out she was married, some were disgusted that she was “throwing her life away” on a guy/family, and not going to college, and not being a feminist, etc. She was and still is a fantastic mother, and she loves everything about being a mom. In my 30s, I developed health issues and haven’t worked since. She started working while I was at home with our kids. She’s fantastically smart, and has been super successful. She has outperformed most college educated people, male or female. We love each other and I am so glad that we have never felt like we are members of separate competing teams (men v. women, etc.) We are a team. We celebrated our 35 anniversary of our first date last week by eating the same food we ate that night - Wendy’s lol! So fancy, right? But she loved it. I couldn’t imagine life without her.
I see why no one commented on that!! I'm glad it worked out for y'all, but that's the problem with yo MEN!! wanting to finish school and having a degree as a woman before marrying and having kids IS NOT FEMINIST OR BEING FEMINIST!!! YOU MEN NEED TO READ AND RESEARCH THE MEANING OF FEMINIST!! A WOMAN'S JOB IN THIS WORLD WAS NOT JUST TO TURN 18 MARRY, HAVE A BABY AND STAY AT HOME!! SAME GOES FOR MEN!!! YOU WERE NOT JUST PUT IN THIS WORLD TO WORK WORK TO TAKE CARE OF X, Y AND Z...Like you said, you got sick and could not work...having a career before family AS a woman is not wanting to be feminist, it's important, it serves a back plan, like you just said!!! you can't, she now got it got it!!! why wait until something happens and you can't provide anymore, when yall both could wait and finish school...you are now saying she went back to school and auto smart everyone, which is good!! but doing it before kids and marriage is less stressful and much better. like I said, happy it worked for yall....
@@jani1321 My girl, the moment you started blaming men, I knew the rest of the post would be bad, and I was not wrong. You are definitely part of the problem the moment you blame some gender or someone. Not everything is a war. Stop that. People's lives are already hard enough already
@@jani1321wow. I’m not college educated either. Neither one of us are. She didn’t go to school. She’s just brilliant. I don’t know why you are raging against me and put all of that onto me, because it doesn’t belong to me. You read what I had to say, and you still went into autopilot, like you’ve been programmed or something. It’s astounding. My wife and I are a team and just love each other. Thank goodness we aren’t a part of your hateful war. Like the person above me said, you truly are a part of the problem. A HUGE part. I hope you feel better soon. I truly do.
Why do you assume it was looked down upon? You know, feminism is about equality. Getting a choice on what and who you want to be. If your wife wanted to be a wife and mom, guess what? She got that choice and that's feminism too. Glad to know you guys are happy. Sometimes it's not the choice we make but how soon we make it (being we are young and sometimes mess up choices). You guys were a good choice and that's great! Many actually would be good as a couple but eff it up because they aren't mature enough to make it long run. You guys did, that's awesome 👍😎 Best of luck to both of you and hope you get better from whatever it is that's injuring your health.
The end of this video reminded me of how amazing it feels to write a love letter to yourself to find the things that you like about yourself and to forgive yourself for your shortcomings. But to physically write it on paper. I hope anyone who reads this has a wonderful day and finds their self-love!
This was nice. To see all these different people taking time out of their day to help someone they will never meet is priceless. It shows they are special people too.
I found your channel a few days ago and can't stop watching. It is such a breath of fresh air. Im rooting for you to break the 2m subscribers mark, so close!
I hadn’t even looked at her subscriber count until you said that. I’m a long time subscriber but I that all of those people that are not subscribed that watched this and was touched in some way repay her by subscribing
“It feels like I can stop thinking about it because it’s living somewhere else in the world.” So real. This is why writing/talking to yourself is so spiritual and vital to the human experience & evolution.
Thoraya, this cracked me completely open while drinking my coffee this morning. These videos ALWAYS show up with divine timing. Long time viewer here & as always very thankful for your work on this corner of the internet.
“Sometimes I’m worried if I will be able to love completely. A part of me always expect them to leave” This is exactly how I’ve been feeling few months ago. Of course I teared up when she was giving the advice 😢
I watch UA-cam more than any other platform (streaming or social media), but very rarely comment. This was beautiful. I absolutely love the idea and hope it catches on in every city. Thank you, I needed this.
The video captures a captivating live performance. As the person reads a secret aloud, followed by reactions and conversations unfold. In the background, the bustling activity of people walking and birds flying adds a sense of intrigue. It's as if countless secrets are passing by, about to be revealed and offer relief from the burdens of the past. Great Video
Being alone and being lonely are two very different things. I fear falling back into a time when I felt nothing, or getting stuck in a never ending cycle of dread
Loved this! The advice from the older lady was the best. So, insightful and drawing from her own experience. Wow you are nearly at 2 million! Not surprised as your content is always so good!
I related to the one that stated their father didn't know how to be a father. That specific line is one of my biggest fears. I had no father figure growing up and part of it made me know what I didn't want to do, but at the same time doesn't instill confidence that I'll be capable of such a role.
The fact that a large portion of them all said that they felt a weight was lifted off their shoulders is proof that this concept is legitimately helpful and therapeutic and that this should be a permanent thing somewhere. You probably helped some of these people more than you could fathom with this simple setup.
I just wanna say that your videos are helping me get through some stressful times. I know I'll look back on younger me watching these and be incredibly grateful for how much they helped and will continue helping me. Thank you for everything
This account helped me during Covid and at the same the most heartbreaking break up ever, and now that im all better and brighter, I always find myself coming back and watch all your videos. This youtube account is like my comfort blanket, it feels safe and it feels like home. You’re a God sent Thoraya ✨
I love what you do Thoraya. You know, aside from listening to the content I enjoy you capturing the background of people mooching around, relaxing, going places, families on bikes. Is that NYC? I’ve realised, that my favourite thing to hear around me is children playing - I love it 😊
The visually impaired people broke my heart, I know how it feels to think you aren’t normal like others and I feel for anyone having to go through that. That individual, and all humans deserve their place here! No one should be made to feel otherwise!
I always try to not cry when I watch your videos, but this one hit me deep in the heart. I need to work on myself and take care of myself. Along with loving myself and being confident and content doing things alone.
It’s so great to see these people coming out. I get so overwhelmed with so much sport, school work and captaincy while only being 11. It ends up with me barely finishing assignments, and feeling so stressed when coming home. I get no relaxation, my parents expect me to be the best. They congratulate me but it’s seems like they care more about other people child than me. They constantly remind me to do homework after getting home from school. It’s so hard and I’m still young. I feel like quitting everything and just want to be alone for once in a while. That’s probably my biggest secret that I just can’t tell anyone or it’ll leave me in tears.
If ur sad or depressed you can try to learn about local bugs and birds and plants whenever you go outside you will see somthin youll know what it is and it can spark more dopamine output makes going outside or even being in the house (im bedridden and seeing housspiders and moths inside feeding them and puttin them outside brightens my day) way more enjoyable. Seeing a cool bug i know isnt as common or i know what its doing it makes living much more fun. Arachniphobia still makes my skin crawl and feel scared but spiders are so cute now and feeding one was a little scary at first but really made me start viewing life in a less scary light. Whenever i can go outside just flippin over some rocks and looking around at everything is the best
Seems like we torture ourselves by holding onto the status quo a bit too long. Juxtaposed is the uneasiness of consistency, especially for those who experienced long-term chaos. Taking personal social risk is much more fulfilling, although inherently difficult. If it doesn't work out, at least you were honest with the world.
this video was very inspiring, there are still good people in the world, remember that even people that say mean things and do bad stuff are having inner struggles too.
Ian currently in college, and I really like this project, and in my opinion I feel as if this is worthy to show my psychology professor. This is a great example of how we all think these things may be true or not we all experience similar feats through our day to day life. Definitely a well thought out experiment.
On occasion, I daydream about reliving my life and making different decisions. I would not do it the same way at all, and that means never meeting certain people or having them in my life, but I would still do it. If I could leave everyone and everything behind I would. I feel bad about it bc the people I would leave behind love me the most, and I love them, but they have caused scars that will never go away.
I am not selfish enough to leave everyone behind, i just can't do it to my parents. But the thing is, more often it just feels like the best way out and that no one really cares or misses me... And i am ashamed of feeling this way, too weak to end it, but also to weak to even think about it. And when i move it out of my head, i can be happy for a week or so, before i feel like who am i lying to, i fail them, they dont like me, i waste space... I just want a normal thought, and not such a self destroying mind. The part of knowing its in my head hurts the most, i am doing it to myself. But i cant seem to turn it off.
I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way, I've been there it's damn hard. I would recommend this book Healing the Shame that Binds you by John Bradshaw. It might give you some clues on why you feel the way you do. I found it helpful. Sending you hugs and I hope life gets easier soon.
This sounds like clinical depression, which is a physical disease. You can get treatment for it and feel better. I'm not a professional, but I do recommend that you _talk_ to a professional. You deserve to feel at home in your skin. In fact, you may have to talk to several before you find the one you can communicate with effectively. Let me repeat: IT IS NOT IN YOUR HEAD AND YOU'RE NOT DOING IT TO YOURSELF. IT'S A PHYSICAL ILLNESS THAT CAN BE TREATED.
Magical as always, Thoraya. In my opinion, your channel is the best use of internet space on any level. You are always inspiring and uplifting. Thank you!
I had a mentor years ago, she always said goodbye with a 'be kind to yourself'. A very simple, but powerful message that most of us ignore. Please, be kind to yourself ❤
One of your best videos I have watched. I sobbed multiple times. A few secrets hit really hard. What's even more painful is that I feel my secret left on a note, is sadder and more heavy than any read out. I might even need an A4 sheet.
I dont know why youtube recommended this video to me but i sure am glad they did. this seemingly meaningless video was full of heartbreaking moments. Its also full of people who care about other peoples heartbreaking moments, which is so perfect. heartbreaking and heart warming at the same time. what a brilliant idea! subbed
I totally relate to the person whose secret is at 2:54! I don't WANT to be alone, but I definitely choose to be alone over being with the wrong person/people. I am in love with someone who is absolutely amazing, but we are not together for reasons and that's ok. I'm glad we met, and I'm grateful for all the value he has added to my life, and continues to add every time we see each other. I do hope that we will have a chance to be together, but I'm not waiting for it and I'm not pining over it. We are what we are and we will be what we will be, and that is enough. He's my favourite human and he will be until we go our seperate ways, whether that happens sooner or later in life ❤
I found your channel today. Watched a few videos, clicked the subscribe button and thought, there are some people here who are still interested in humanity and human beings with real feelings. Brilliant!
I've noticed people have become more vulnerable in the last I think I've been following you for like 5 years now and I really can tell that America has done a lot of soul searching.
Oddly, the visual that stuck with me from this video was when someone was reading the secret about "....everyone says I'm extraordinary, but what if...I'm just ordinary", and the older woman was walking by behind the scene. Some may say she's ordinary. But I imagine she has an extraordinary life story. I'd love to know her story. Perception is key. Also, I think (as someone mentioned), it would be so cool to have a series of older people sharing their insights and wisdom.
A lot of people are lonely because they discount good people around them in exchange for the idea of some film worthy romantic love they’ve had put in their head through media.
I've self-sabotaged every relationship I've ever had that had long-term / forever potential because I believed they were better off without me. I still love them, and miss them, and still believe they're better off without me.
That first one really hurt. It's so wrong that this is the world we live in. The ones that care the most about lifting up others get the least in this country.
2:24 a man said this 100% I feel this way all the time. Someone say they interested but are just interested in the things they are told they should be interested in. It’s like they aren’t interested in you it’s just that you chk all the time”correct” boxes. It’s depressing to go through all the time.
To all ladies who think the guy they hang around with and are into, is maybe not feeling the same: He's (almost certaintly) 100% into you, else he would not hang around with you. Guys do not have just girl buddies, there are (almost) always ulterior motives. Not all guys are "alpha" and he will appreciate you doing the first step that he is probably afraid to do. It's not wrong to make the first move as a girl. And just because he is maybe not an alpha chad, there are a lot of very lovely guys out there who are introverted and not outgoing.
I resonated with the ''i miss who i used to be, before he took that from me.'' im at this point so damaged goods im just alive until im not at this point, my life is done.
I want to thank everyone who stopped to answer this question... this episode wouldn't be possible without YOU. Thank you for your kindness in stopping to hear me out and your braveness in answering. I try to put as many answers as I can in the episode, however, not every answer goes on the page. Please know that if your answer is not in the episode, it does not take away from the importance of your story. There are many outside variables that determine the order and answers that go in the episode. Things like duration, flow, variety in answers, ensuring a diverse range of voices, overall feel of an episode, and sometimes background noise, or other audio and visual problems. I love you all. Thank you
I discovered your videos by chance and have followed you ever since! Thank you for your meaningful videos which have driven me to ask people very often "how are you really", such a transformative question!
Do you remember “Post Secret”? It was huge when I was in college in 2008. That’s what this video reminds me of. It’d be wonderful to see a resurgence.
For those who feel like they are alone, especially if in a crowded room, the answer is to simply communicate with someone. Don't be afraid to simply say "hi". If you don't communicate, you're only looking at everyone from the outside, and the illusion is that everybody else is okay and together, and they're not. Nobody wants to appear vulnerable and 'not okay' so they all put on the ' I'm okay ' mask we all learn how to do. Some do it better than others, but the secret to making connections to the person behind the mask is often to just simply say "hi" and see if they'll respond back. Most will, and before you know it, you have a conversation going and for that time you aren't alone. Social skills are a skill, and like all skills, you need to practice. With practice you'll get better at it, and people will feel more comfortable talking to you, then not only you, but now maybe they also won't feel alone.
1:19 That person's secret is that they're an angel.
That old woman at the end was just a shining light oml
She really was 💫
Definitely
Gosh, was she old?
She don’t look a day over 55 🥹 luvvv her
Definitely an angel in disguise
The old lady wearing pearls saying to see the pearl inside you is the sweetest thing 😭😭😭😭
Holy, that girl who said she couldn't give advice and then said gave some of the most beautiful advice I've ever heard?? Omg
we are our own worst critics
that friend is a keeper! :D
Yeah, great person, and great friends!
"Do something for YOURSELF every day, no matter how small"
Thank you.
The Teacher having to dumpster dive to feed her family 😢
There's something clearly wrong with a society that creates that kind of life for people
It's really sad and I feel you 100%. I guess she might not necessarily live in SD, but food pantries are in a lot of places across the country 🤔 I'm assuming she can't travel as she can't afford to put food on the table so probably lives in the area therefore likely has access to food pantries. Anyway, I realize I have NO CLUE about this woman or her situation beyond what was mentioned in the note so I'll just stop here.
I'm thinking that because she's a teacher, she works Monday through friday. There's usually only food pantries Monday through friday. There's none on the weekend. So she might not have anywhere to go to ask for help.@@ijustneedmyself
I am sorry, but I make 20 thousand as a CNA. Try getting by on that. Teachers do make more. I"ve gone hungry before and have not dumpster dived. Yes, I've gone to food pantries. Please focus on the reasons you chose to become a teacher.
I do think poor people shouldn't have children, but for that fact to stand is sad.
As a Australian I can't believe how poorly paid teachers are in America.
I totally agree with the idea that we should not always pity people who choose to live alone. It's not a moral fault, just a different lifestyle.
Agreed. There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Some who live alone...that works for them. Others who live alone, not by choice...they tend to feel lonely so it doesn't work for them.
Then there are some who need extensive "me/alone" time...
“You are a human being, and therefore you are enough within itself.”
Didn’t expect to hear such a good quote.
“Mistaking kindness for love”. Oooofff. That hit me hard.
A lot of times kindness is love. Its like mistaking love for love.
@@carvedwood1953 you can be kind to a stranger but you can’t love a stranger. Kindness describes the nature of actions, love only exists within the context of personal relationships
@@HeatMiserr I'll do you one better. Love is just a made up word. Next time on shit that is irrelevant to the current topic....
it's like everyone read their own secrets.
A good few of them said they don`t relate.
A lot of secrets are relatable🤷🏻♀️ we arent as alone as we think sometimes
or maybe they are hiding the fact that they relate to it because they don't want to announce their own secrets themselves.
Oh old people sometimes just say the right words.
I think you should make a video on old people giving advise. ❤
That's because they've lived through trials and they can see through the bullshit that society throws them and that their own head throws them.
And yet people don't make time to listen to them enough. Me included😢
The sad thing is that it makes that old saying “youth is wasted on the young” kind of make sense
We have some of those ❤️
Your projects are the best thing to happen to the internet - THANK YOU!
This is definitely spiritual/energetic work you’re doing out there. ❤ You can see it by the way people feel after they answer, and it always comes from the heart ❤️
Not everyone finds love. Life is not like the movies or books or songs. The best thing you can do is get along with yourself. Be kind. Be strong. Be someone who you'd be proud to know. If you're lucky, someone worthwhile will find you. But no one will ever love you as much as a dog would...
A reality check
Don't forget love comes in many forms, and even if it's not quite the one you might be looking for, it's still out there if you let it in.
What everyone says... But how can I love myself, if I hate myself so much? I need that missing piece of myself, someone else who can make me feel loved in the way I crave.
@Willowsong10 forget the "love yourself " bit. Just try to get along with yourself. Kinda difficult to give advice if I don't know you. But you know what bothers you about yourself. How would you react to someone else with what bothers you? Still, no one will ever love you as much as a dog would, if you let it...
Well, I just don't know how... And sadly I don't have a dog, and I can't get one...;-;
I met this older woman named Maribel at work yesterday, she’s a great person with a lot of wisdom I could tell just by saying hi. Just wanted to say, I love old people lol
At what age do you consider someone old?
Love how this is the real world answers, not the negative comments you would get if someone would write that in the internet.
One could easily argue that the guise of anonymity online, allows people to let their true feelings come to light, and that the people in this video are just fabricating their answers to seem more appealing and kind.
But that would be a bummer, so let's not think like that.
Imagine if a project idea like this went global and we had people from different countries giving advice to other countries.
The fear of being alone. That shit hits so hard!
I’ve read all of the comments, and didn’t notice any about the woman who just wanted to be a mom and wife. It’s stunning that is looked down on. That’s where people come from. We need people to have kids, and then be good parents. I think bad parenting is where it all goes wrong and then all these warring factions pop up, and people reject basic human concepts. My wife was 16 when we went on our first date. We got married right after she turned 18, and she had our first child a year later. Even back then (early 90’s) people in the small conservative town where we lived looked down on her for being a pregnant teen (???), and then when they found out she was married, some were disgusted that she was “throwing her life away” on a guy/family, and not going to college, and not being a feminist, etc. She was and still is a fantastic mother, and she loves everything about being a mom. In my 30s, I developed health issues and haven’t worked since. She started working while I was at home with our kids. She’s fantastically smart, and has been super successful. She has outperformed most college educated people, male or female. We love each other and I am so glad that we have never felt like we are members of separate competing teams (men v. women, etc.) We are a team. We celebrated our 35 anniversary of our first date last week by eating the same food we ate that night - Wendy’s lol! So fancy, right? But she loved it. I couldn’t imagine life without her.
I see why no one commented on that!! I'm glad it worked out for y'all, but that's the problem with yo MEN!! wanting to finish school and having a degree as a woman before marrying and having kids IS NOT FEMINIST OR BEING FEMINIST!!! YOU MEN NEED TO READ AND RESEARCH THE MEANING OF FEMINIST!! A WOMAN'S JOB IN THIS WORLD WAS NOT JUST TO TURN 18 MARRY, HAVE A BABY AND STAY AT HOME!! SAME GOES FOR MEN!!! YOU WERE NOT JUST PUT IN THIS WORLD TO WORK WORK TO TAKE CARE OF X, Y AND Z...Like you said, you got sick and could not work...having a career before family AS a woman is not wanting to be feminist, it's important, it serves a back plan, like you just said!!! you can't, she now got it got it!!! why wait until something happens and you can't provide anymore, when yall both could wait and finish school...you are now saying she went back to school and auto smart everyone, which is good!! but doing it before kids and marriage is less stressful and much better. like I said, happy it worked for yall....
@@jani1321 My girl, the moment you started blaming men, I knew the rest of the post would be bad, and I was not wrong.
You are definitely part of the problem the moment you blame some gender or someone.
Not everything is a war. Stop that.
People's lives are already hard enough already
@@jani1321wow. I’m not college educated either. Neither one of us are. She didn’t go to school. She’s just brilliant. I don’t know why you are raging against me and put all of that onto me, because it doesn’t belong to me. You read what I had to say, and you still went into autopilot, like you’ve been programmed or something. It’s astounding. My wife and I are a team and just love each other. Thank goodness we aren’t a part of your hateful war. Like the person above me said, you truly are a part of the problem. A HUGE part. I hope you feel better soon. I truly do.
Why do you assume it was looked down upon?
You know, feminism is about equality. Getting a choice on what and who you want to be.
If your wife wanted to be a wife and mom, guess what? She got that choice and that's feminism too.
Glad to know you guys are happy. Sometimes it's not the choice we make but how soon we make it (being we are young and sometimes mess up choices). You guys were a good choice and that's great! Many actually would be good as a couple but eff it up because they aren't mature enough to make it long run.
You guys did, that's awesome 👍😎
Best of luck to both of you and hope you get better from whatever it is that's injuring your health.
@@jani1321why bro so angry 😭
The end of this video reminded me of how amazing it feels to write a love letter to yourself to find the things that you like about yourself and to forgive yourself for your shortcomings. But to physically write it on paper. I hope anyone who reads this has a wonderful day and finds their self-love!
This was nice. To see all these different people taking time out of their day to help someone they will never meet is priceless. It shows they are special people too.
I found your channel a few days ago and can't stop watching. It is such a breath of fresh air.
Im rooting for you to break the 2m subscribers mark, so close!
I hadn’t even looked at her subscriber count until you said that. I’m a long time subscriber but I that all of those people that are not subscribed that watched this and was touched in some way repay her by subscribing
The older woman is a true gem dropping gems. Protect her! ❤
“It feels like I can stop thinking about it because it’s living somewhere else in the world.” So real. This is why writing/talking to yourself is so spiritual and vital to the human experience & evolution.
Thoraya, this cracked me completely open while drinking my coffee this morning. These videos ALWAYS show up with divine timing. Long time viewer here & as always very thankful for your work on this corner of the internet.
The older lady towards the end if the video completely stole my heart and deserves all the happiness and love one can receive ❤❤❤❤❤
Your videos are always so emotional and inspiring, can’t help but cryring😭
it's a good day when thoraya posts :D
“Sometimes I’m worried if I will be able to love completely. A part of me always expect them to leave”
This is exactly how I’ve been feeling few months ago.
Of course I teared up when she was giving the advice 😢
Childhood trauma - abandonment issues. I felt this way. Only Jesus could heal me from the hurt
I watch UA-cam more than any other platform (streaming or social media), but very rarely comment. This was beautiful. I absolutely love the idea and hope it catches on in every city. Thank you, I needed this.
I loved that episode - the readers' comments were so appreciative and understanding.
The video captures a captivating live performance.
As the person reads a secret aloud, followed by reactions and conversations unfold.
In the background, the bustling activity of people walking and birds flying adds a sense of intrigue. It's as if countless secrets are passing by, about to be revealed and offer relief from the burdens of the past.
Great Video
Great writing!
I agree, beautifully said. True as well.
Being alone and being lonely are two very different things. I fear falling back into a time when I felt nothing, or getting stuck in a never ending cycle of dread
Loved this! The advice from the older lady was the best. So, insightful and drawing from her own experience. Wow you are nearly at 2 million! Not surprised as your content is always so good!
I related to the one that stated their father didn't know how to be a father. That specific line is one of my biggest fears. I had no father figure growing up and part of it made me know what I didn't want to do, but at the same time doesn't instill confidence that I'll be capable of such a role.
The fact that a large portion of them all said that they felt a weight was lifted off their shoulders is proof that this concept is legitimately helpful and therapeutic and that this should be a permanent thing somewhere. You probably helped some of these people more than you could fathom with this simple setup.
I just wanna say that your videos are helping me get through some stressful times. I know I'll look back on younger me watching these and be incredibly grateful for how much they helped and will continue helping me. Thank you for everything
i feel the exact same way!! thoraya's videos always make my day ⭐
That drumstick ice cream story was hilarious🤣 Like hell na 😭😭
This account helped me during Covid and at the same the most heartbreaking break up ever, and now that im all better and brighter, I always find myself coming back and watch all your videos. This youtube account is like my comfort blanket, it feels safe and it feels like home. You’re a God sent Thoraya ✨
I love what you do Thoraya. You know, aside from listening to the content I enjoy you capturing the background of people mooching around, relaxing, going places, families on bikes. Is that NYC? I’ve realised, that my favourite thing to hear around me is children playing - I love it 😊
The visually impaired people broke my heart, I know how it feels to think you aren’t normal like others and I feel for anyone having to go through that. That individual, and all humans deserve their place here! No one should be made to feel otherwise!
I always try to not cry when I watch your videos, but this one hit me deep in the heart. I need to work on myself and take care of myself. Along with loving myself and being confident and content doing things alone.
It’s so great to see these people coming out. I get so overwhelmed with so much sport, school work and captaincy while only being 11. It ends up with me barely finishing assignments, and feeling so stressed when coming home. I get no relaxation, my parents expect me to be the best. They congratulate me but it’s seems like they care more about other people child than me. They constantly remind me to do homework after getting home from school. It’s so hard and I’m still young. I feel like quitting everything and just want to be alone for once in a while. That’s probably my biggest secret that I just can’t tell anyone or it’ll leave me in tears.
If ur sad or depressed you can try to learn about local bugs and birds and plants whenever you go outside you will see somthin youll know what it is and it can spark more dopamine output makes going outside or even being in the house (im bedridden and seeing housspiders and moths inside feeding them and puttin them outside brightens my day) way more enjoyable. Seeing a cool bug i know isnt as common or i know what its doing it makes living much more fun. Arachniphobia still makes my skin crawl and feel scared but spiders are so cute now and feeding one was a little scary at first but really made me start viewing life in a less scary light. Whenever i can go outside just flippin over some rocks and looking around at everything is the best
This is such a lovely comment 😊. Lots of love to you and I love how appreciative you look at your surroundings 😍🥲😘🤗
Seems like we torture ourselves by holding onto the status quo a bit too long. Juxtaposed is the uneasiness of consistency, especially for those who experienced long-term chaos.
Taking personal social risk is much more fulfilling, although inherently difficult. If it doesn't work out, at least you were honest with the world.
Beautifully said.
I like that lady at the end with a hat, she is so beautiful. So smart. Thanks for being so wonderful
Thoraya... I am so happy to see you.. I didnt realize how much you were missing in my life.. but you are.. Thank you sweet Angel!!! xo
this video was very inspiring, there are still good people in the world, remember that even people that say mean things and do bad stuff are having inner struggles too.
Ian currently in college, and I really like this project, and in my opinion I feel as if this is worthy to show my psychology professor. This is a great example of how we all think these things may be true or not we all experience similar feats through our day to day life. Definitely a well thought out experiment.
This is like teletherapy. I absolutely love your projects. Great work!
This was so wholesome and encouraging to watch. What a great way for people to be heard and lift each other up. Thank you for sharing. :)
On occasion, I daydream about reliving my life and making different decisions. I would not do it the same way at all, and that means never meeting certain people or having them in my life, but I would still do it. If I could leave everyone and everything behind I would.
I feel bad about it bc the people I would leave behind love me the most, and I love them, but they have caused scars that will never go away.
I am not selfish enough to leave everyone behind, i just can't do it to my parents.
But the thing is, more often it just feels like the best way out and that no one really cares or misses me...
And i am ashamed of feeling this way, too weak to end it, but also to weak to even think about it.
And when i move it out of my head, i can be happy for a week or so, before i feel like who am i lying to, i fail them, they dont like me, i waste space...
I just want a normal thought, and not such a self destroying mind. The part of knowing its in my head hurts the most, i am doing it to myself. But i cant seem to turn it off.
Just watch those thoughts like clouds passing by & don't attach to them or entertain them & see what happens. (((hugs))) 💛 💫 🌟 🫶
I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way, I've been there it's damn hard. I would recommend this book Healing the Shame that Binds you by John Bradshaw. It might give you some clues on why you feel the way you do. I found it helpful.
Sending you hugs and I hope life gets easier soon.
Talk to someone, maybe with your parents, please have strength and faith and i hope everything will be fine. 🙏
So so much love to you ❤❤❤❤❤ please stay. The world needs people who can relate to having gone through the hardest times. ❤❤❤❤
This sounds like clinical depression, which is a physical disease. You can get treatment for it and feel better. I'm not a professional, but I do recommend that you _talk_ to a professional. You deserve to feel at home in your skin.
In fact, you may have to talk to several before you find the one you can communicate with effectively.
Let me repeat: IT IS NOT IN YOUR HEAD AND YOU'RE NOT DOING IT TO YOURSELF. IT'S A PHYSICAL ILLNESS THAT CAN BE TREATED.
Magical as always, Thoraya. In my opinion, your channel is the best use of internet space on any level. You are always inspiring and uplifting. Thank you!
7:22 - wonderfully encouraging friends she has!
...also, the immediate switch to pro advice giver - let's goo! :D
I had a mentor years ago, she always said goodbye with a 'be kind to yourself'. A very simple, but powerful message that most of us ignore. Please, be kind to yourself ❤
One of your best videos I have watched.
I sobbed multiple times. A few secrets hit really hard.
What's even more painful is that I feel my secret left on a note, is sadder and more heavy than any read out.
I might even need an A4 sheet.
wow, what a great idea! cried through the whole thing. feel less alone now. thank you
I love these people who share! Thanks Thoraya!
The older lady made me cry 🥲 beautifully said
Receiving advice from our elders is one of the most precious gifts in life. ❤
7:26 love how her friends were so encouraging!
Thoraya, thank you very much, thanks to people like you, people like me, can believe that a better world is possible.
God bless you
Awee this was soo sweet! People are soo lonely 😪❤️❤️❤️but the lady at the end gives the best advice❤️❤️❤️
I dont know why youtube recommended this video to me but i sure am glad they did. this seemingly meaningless video was full of heartbreaking moments. Its also full of people who care about other peoples heartbreaking moments, which is so perfect. heartbreaking and heart warming at the same time. what a brilliant idea!
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More guys need to be featured in your videos. More of them need to confess their love. This world needs more men who are okay with being sentimental.
Thoraya, this work is your deepest and truest art. I’m so grateful for your courage to embark on this. 🙏💛
You’re videos always make me cry, usually with a smile on my face! We are all human & all deserve to love ourselves ❤
Your content is beautiful Thoraya.
You all have a pearl that somebody will see and treasure 😢
I totally relate to the person whose secret is at 2:54! I don't WANT to be alone, but I definitely choose to be alone over being with the wrong person/people. I am in love with someone who is absolutely amazing, but we are not together for reasons and that's ok. I'm glad we met, and I'm grateful for all the value he has added to my life, and continues to add every time we see each other. I do hope that we will have a chance to be together, but I'm not waiting for it and I'm not pining over it. We are what we are and we will be what we will be, and that is enough. He's my favourite human and he will be until we go our seperate ways, whether that happens sooner or later in life ❤
Another exceptional video 📹 👏🙌 that touches the heart ❤️ Thank you, Thoraya❣️
I found your channel today. Watched a few videos, clicked the subscribe button and thought, there are some people here who are still interested in humanity and human beings with real feelings. Brilliant!
I've noticed people have become more vulnerable in the last I think I've been following you for like 5 years now and I really can tell that America has done a lot of soul searching.
This is the BEST!! All you see is hate and rubbish on here and this saved it!! Thank you 🙏
Oh my gosh, I love that woman at 10:00. Also, I REALLY hope the girl at 9:20 got that good text back. I love to see someone being brave like that!
It is a virtue to be content with ones own company without the need for a romantic partner. ❤
thank you for this and all of your videos from this project. it always has such a meaningful impact on me. love from Brazil ❤
Oddly, the visual that stuck with me from this video was when someone was reading the secret about "....everyone says I'm extraordinary, but what if...I'm just ordinary", and the older woman was walking by behind the scene. Some may say she's ordinary. But I imagine she has an extraordinary life story. I'd love to know her story.
Perception is key.
Also, I think (as someone mentioned), it would be so cool to have a series of older people sharing their insights and wisdom.
I felt that father part, pearl lady.
'I worry I won't be able to love anyone completely, like a part of me always expects them to leave' Damnn that hit hard
A lot of people are lonely because they discount good people around them in exchange for the idea of some film worthy romantic love they’ve had put in their head through media.
I've self-sabotaged every relationship I've ever had that had long-term / forever potential because I believed they were better off without me. I still love them, and miss them, and still believe they're better off without me.
That old lady brought tears to my eyes
I want to buy a book from that last lady omg so inspiring!!
That first one really hurt. It's so wrong that this is the world we live in. The ones that care the most about lifting up others get the least in this country.
Thank you Thoraya. As always, such wonderful, reassuring interviews. Reminding us we are all so alike. Same but different. Different but the same.
i could listen to the older lady with the hat and her advice for a long time.
Babe! grab the tissues! Thoraya uploaded a new video
I was not expecting this to be so wholesome!❤❤❤
The last lady was so profound. Eventually, someone will leave you…we all die.
I love that pearl woman's dress...so lovely!
2:24 a man said this 100% I feel this way all the time. Someone say they interested but are just interested in the things they are told they should be interested in. It’s like they aren’t interested in you it’s just that you chk all the time”correct” boxes. It’s depressing to go through all the time.
I really like the foreshortening you did in this video, it looks cool and gives off an comfortable, intimate vibe.
These videos are always lovely. Congrats on nearly 2mil subscribers!
Oh wow this is emotional 😭😭
“Someone will see the pearl inside of you” that made me tear up for a moment 😭
love how grandma talks to the paper like it was the person who wrote it
To all ladies who think the guy they hang around with and are into, is maybe not feeling the same:
He's (almost certaintly) 100% into you, else he would not hang around with you. Guys do not have just girl buddies, there are (almost) always ulterior motives. Not all guys are "alpha" and he will appreciate you doing the first step that he is probably afraid to do. It's not wrong to make the first move as a girl. And just because he is maybe not an alpha chad, there are a lot of very lovely guys out there who are introverted and not outgoing.
Thank you for this 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙂
I resonated with the ''i miss who i used to be, before he took that from me.'' im at this point so damaged goods im just alive until im not at this point, my life is done.