Celebrities You Compare Your Selfie To VS Reality!
Вставка
- Опубліковано 16 чер 2023
- 🦋 The best skin care products I've used, categorized by skin type/concern: shop.howl.me/cassandra-bankson 🦋
🌟 rebrand.ly/BeABeautifulButterfly Turn the like button blue, and make the SUBSCRIBE button gray if you want new videos on the science of skincare, cosmetic chemistry and inspiration! (It's free and helps me create free content to help you embrace your beauty!) 🔴 rebrand.ly/BeABeautifulButterfly
▷ Join our Inspirational Beauty Community here: www.cassandrabankson.com/
🦋 🦋 🦋 My beYOUtiful butterfly necklace is only $14 🦋 🦋 🦋 amzn.to/3oaDlCx
▷ My Skincare Shelf & favorite products for different skin types: shop.howl.me/cassandra-bankson
⚠️ My daily updates on BeReal! bere.al/cassandrabankson
🌎 Exposing Photoshop, Skin Science & Acne Positivity Instagram Here: / cassandrabankson
😂 30 Seconds skin tips, motivational quote s and Twitter Thoughts Here: / cassbankson
😻 More inspiring Skin Stories, my cats, and weekly live streams on Facebook / sincerelycass11
🦋 Skin Science, Cosmetic Chemistry, Healthy Body & Beauty Advice Here: www.cassandrabankson.com
😂 Skincare Advice, 60 Second Brand Reviews, & Skincare Routines on TIK TOK / cassandrabankson
▷ Join the Patreon for exclusive live q&a's, updates, skincare nights and more! / cassandrabankson
▷ 3 ACNE Products I Recommend Most Often For Blemish Prone Skin: shop.howl.me/cassandra-bankson
▷ 3 WRINKLE Products I Recommend Most Often For Mature Skin: shop.howl.me/cassandra-bankson
▷ 3 SPF Products I Recommend Most Often: shop.howl.me/cassandra-bankson
▷ 3 Sensitive Skin Products I Recommend Most Often: shop.howl.me/cassandra-bankson
▷ My favorite Sun protective Clothing! www.amazon.com/shop/cassandra...
▷ Trying to find I wear, eat, and read on a regular basis?! It's all here!!
www.amazon.com/shop/cassandra...
🔴 Although I have over 1000 videos on skincare and acne I realized sometimes it's still hard for people to remember which acne products I recommend, vs those that I think are a waste of money!
I decided to create this helpful skincare list of breakout and other skin products that are acne-safe, that I personally recommend and put them all in one place! I hope you find this helpful- enjoy!
▷ Check out Skincare + Clearing Acne on Amazon! rebrand.ly/AmazonSkincare
▷ My Skincare Shelf & favorite products for different skin types: shop.howl.me/cassandra-bankson
▷ On this channel, we believe in leaving this world a better place than we entered it. Please consider donating to feed school children meals through Food For Life Global, supporting animal rights through Juliana's Animal Sanctuary, and planting trees to save rainforests and valuable ecosystems. Please consider giving a gift card to someone you love, and/or donating to the Om Guarantee omguarantee.com/om-guarantee-...
Copyright Disclaimer: As permitted Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976 US Copyright Office, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, comedy, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. The term and usage of "Fair Use" is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Usage in the context of non-profit, educational, research, news, or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use.
▷ This video is not sponsored or influenced by any brand :) Having the opportunity to create and share enlightening content is another reason I'm so grateful for youtube as a platform, the opportunities life presents us, and your love and support as part of my youtube family!! In some cases, I post affiliate links that ultimately support the content provided. By no means should you ever feel obligated to use these links, but know that if you do purchase through any of them, you are contributing to spreading the message of positivity, self-love, and self-care that is expressed on this channel. Your love, support, and involvement in this youtube family is very much appreciated. Thank you always!
_______________________________________________________________
🦋 You are beYoutiful inside and out; I love you!
👙 *Up next: why celebrities can fake bikini bodies but you and I cant*
ua-cam.com/video/GpRWJCiT53c/v-deo.html ❤
Hey, could you post your favorite people again or put it in the info for the video? I can't find it because there are so many comments lol. Thanks for this video. I really love your work.
@CassandraBankson can u tell me where u got that little gold 🦋 butterfly necklace ❤️ I think that is gorgeous. Butterfly r the symbol of transformation, if u didn't know that look it up.. 🙀 I hope I taught u something bc u teach me knew things every day 🤟❤️
Have you ever thought about using Acutane? That medicine works wonders and you would be a perfect candidate for it. Talk to your dermatologist if you haven’t used it.
Don't take this wrong, but you could play the part of Ruby Franke when they make a movie about that whole story. There's quite a resemblance.
My grandmother used to say "aging is a privilege denied to many." And boy was she right.
Ya but alot of us don't like or want the reality - it's painful and terrifying.
Oof, it's definitely true. Those who don't have the privilage to grow old want it and those who do hate it
@@codewick8985can’t escape reality.
@@misakiaobathehedgehog Decline is not enjoyable - losing beauty is not enjoyable, skin/crepe hanging is not enjoyable. But yes I thank God every morning I wake up that I'm still here.
Bitter. Sweet
@@Sarafara7 😥
I honestly need to see aging normalized. It’s such a taboo. Everything is anti-aging like it’s a horrible crime. I’m 53 and struggle with this concept all the time.
Ageism is the last publicly unaddressed/challenged discrimination. Only one of a few recent personal examples is I was told I shouldn't foster anymore kids because I'm "getting on". I retaliated with "that's funny considering I'm good enough when just about everyone wants to dump their kids onto me so that they can go have fun"..they quickly shut-up...😠. All those kinda things in addition to this "in your face" issue (pardon the pun).
Well you look stunning though ❤
I see old people everyday. In REAL LIFE.
Get your mind away from Social Media.
@@CordeliaWagner I couldn’t agree more. I was thinking “I see natural aging everyday”… especially when I look in the mirror 😂 I don’t even KNOW anyone who’s had any procedures! Irl, natural aging is all around us! 💕
Stop struggling do more think less. You are more than your looks. Have fun w filters. I have to wear makeup because I want to look happy. Age makes us look stern
I modeled for years! It still messes me up when I see photos of myself (knowing full well I had a hair stylist, nutritionist, personal trainer, medical grade skincare as well as photoshop and editing) and feeling like I don’t look like that anymore. When in reality I never did!!!!
Remember humans look human once you involve yourself in reality!
I had and have the same experience as you ! I remember when I first saw myself in print all photoshopped and realized then even then I didn’t look like me let alone now, many years later!
Same
@@shaynalee exactly
@@KrishanKumar-ec1ch black widow
@@KrishanKumar-ec1chYours?
I feel sorry for the younger generation. Now everyone thinks they gotta look like a movie star 24/7 😢
Right?! I feel like I’d have clinical depression if I were a teenager nowadays. Even in my later teens, I didn’t even think that much about my appearance. I just wanted to be outside playing sports or whatever. I just straightened my hair and applied black eyeliner and was good to go. I wore a tshirt and jeans pretty much everyday, and somehow, I never got bullied either. It was just a pretty good time.
Right, it was bad enough with just magazines. I’ve had body image issues since I was 10 and that’s just from the three times a year I’d watch the Disney channel at my grandmas
every other girl is walking around with lip fillers, young girls are so insecure these days it’s sad
@@vareeshabukhari8276 it’s absolutely disgusting.
Even before the internet we had Teen Mag, Vogue, Cosmo and their airbrushed photos to promote consumerism.
I have had body dysmorphia my whole life. I feel like these filters are giving EVERYONE body dysmorphia and it is awful.
Maybe y'all should get more confident and stop blaming them for your insecurtiesif
@@jcbrad4709If there aren’t people judging and bringing people down for their appearance then nobody would feel insecure in the first place.
@@jcbrad4709 you completely missed the point
*DO YOU NOT NOTICE CASSANDRA HAS THE CERULEAN BUTTERFLY EVERYWHERE. THERE IS ONE AROUND HER NECK!!!* COME ON!
I stopped social media around age 25 and with that came the end of most selfies. Now at 30, I have not seen a filter on my face for five years and honestly I never plan on adding a filter. I struggle with very oily and acne prone skin, but I have also learned to love myself more without wearing face makeup. I'm glad that I have been able to "train" myself to accept my natural beauty.
My parents only allowed a flip phone until I was 18. When I first had access to filters I was like "This looks too weird" I tried using TikTok filters once or twice but it's just too odd to me.
I'm 43yo, & if I can give you something to look forward to: I struggled with MAJORLY oily skin, until I was in my mid-30s. But it settled down & now it's fine (not too dry OR oily). Also, an unexpectedly nice side effect is that my skin has aged much more slowly than a lot of people my age, because all that extra oil has helped stave off the development of fine lines, wrinkles & dry, dull skin. So just hang in there! 😊
Or you could work with what’s available to be the best you can be.
I know I look like a better me as in more put together and professional when I wear make up.
Each to their own and we must live our lives the way we feel most comfortable without expecting others to follow suit.
Same here. I don't take selfies, and if I take pics with friends on a night out or doing activities, I never use a filter and haven't for years. I stopped filters when I was on dating apps. I thought what am I doing? If I meet someone on this app, I'm going to look nothing like my pictures and of I meet someone I want it to be for the real me, not for a filtered me, only to find I'm not a filter in real life. It really changed how I view filters and also changed my view of myself. I do look after my skin, have a solid routine, use tretinoin, SPF and I do get Botox, from the years of not wearing glasses, I developed bad 11s from squinting, and I do get lip filler as one side of my lips is noticeably smaller than the other, I also have a longer nose so having my lips slightly plumper balances my nose out. I actually wear minimal make up now too. From 2017 to 2022 I was permanently make up free, now I just put BB cream on my nose to cover redness, then a bit of blush and just take my brows and that's it. And I only wear that on my office days or when I visit clients, because my job does require a level of looking out together
I just wish I knew how to ADD filters on cellphone photos and videos!!!!! 😢😢😢😞😞😞
I was a young woman in the late 80’s and early 90’s. Magazines and catalogs were our tools of self-flagellation. Air brushed was my generation’s “filter”.
Lol yes girl! Our thing was we wanted to look like our Glamour Shots! Lol those were the days
Yup
For me the worst filtering is on the "my skincare routine" by Harper's Bizaar. We're supposed to see celebs REAL skin but they slap a filter on and you can tell because they blur it to the heavens, but before I noticed it it made me feel so bad about my skin (specifically Bailee Madison and even Cassandra didn't notice the filter and made her question her skin too)
@@fatimaezzahral Yes. According to Buzzfeed, "Apr 1, 2023 - The Kardashians on Hulu has its Season 3 trailer, and the show's apparent use of filters appears to be back in full swing. Hulu."
Thank you for sharing this because I was wondering. Naomi Campbell's skin was beyond creamy and I was wondering how. I'm sure she already had great skin to work with, but it seemed poreless.
@@sjg5994 exactly my thought with Bailee Madison and that's when I had to research it because I COULDN'T believe my eyes
Don't think I need to be surprised but I still am about the use of filters 😮
I just look up photos of celebrities from the 70s and early 80s that didn't wear a thick layer of foundation to cover the skin and hide it from view. You can actually see what their skin really looks like in photos of Suzanne Summers and Goldie Hawn. They have natural tan and freckles they don't cover with makeup.
Jamie Lee Curtis is a shining example of what aging naturally looks like.
She wear her hair natural and wears makeup or no makeup like we all do.
More women in the public eye need to follow her example.
Yes. You are right. And Jamie Lee Curtis was "HOT" in her younger years. And worked often. PLUS, she was/is "Hollywood royalty". But look at how little work she gets. She is practically irrelevant in current Hollywood. That is the problem!
As long as the patriarchy CONTROLS how successful a woman can become, AND how successful she can CONTINUE to be, women will pressure themselves and implicitly, other women to embrace the unrealistic, unattainable, and ridiculous DEMAND that women STOP aging. And the women that REFUSE to "drink the Kool-Aid" lose out.
Jamie Lee Curtis has a healthy net-worth. SHE can afford to give the middle finger to Hollywood's patriarchy. But she should NOT have to fade away. Older women, aging gracefully, should STILL be visible. Should still have movie roles that feature strong, older, vital female characters.
Meryl Streep and Helen Mirren, are examples of phenomenally talented women, that STILL get roles that older women in Hollywood NEVER had. BUT even Meryl Streep has had to compromise in ways that her (older) male peers do not. Helen Mirren is ballsy about speaking up. BUT I haven't seen her in movies lately. Maggie Gyllenhaal an extremely talented 37-year-old actress (Jake Gyllenhaal's sister) was told she was too OLD for the role of the male lead's "love interest". The male character was age 55!!!!!!!!! how fucked is that? But then I thought about it. It DOES make sense. Those men that have the POWER in Hollywood, are the same men who date/marry 23-year-old GIRLS!!! while they are in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s. OF COURSE they wouldn't get a 37-year-old GF or wife.
It's insidious. The patriarchy must go.
Isabella Rossellini . . . Is another good example.
Lee needs to work on her humanity.
…hasn’t Jamie Lee been really open and honest about how cosmetic surgery lead to her addiction to pain pills?
@@amandalogan89 Idk thought it was partying with her father that gave her problems.
I used to do graphic design and the level of filters and photoshop nowadays is astounding.
Thanks for keeping it real.
I think the filters are crazy out of control! I stopped looking at magazines ages ago because it just was causing me to feel bad about myself. I scroll past pictures on FB and IG that I know look fake and just ignore them and try to focus on people who keep it real. Like you keep it real Cassandra, so THANK YOU!! I only post unfiltered pics of myself at 49. I want to be authentic. I want to look good, but be truly myself. Like you say aging is a privilege and so is being perfectly imperfect 😊
I totally agree! I have a friend who gets mad at me if I post a 'normal' pic of us and she's made me take some down! Then she'll post the same pic and it looks like our faces are 'erased'...its SO WEIRD!
@@weatherviewerBuckle fat removal seems to be the new thing for the mid to late 20 year olds. The surgeon goes in under the cheek bone and sucks all the fat out to make the cheeks stand out like razor blades.
So you have some filling it in and some sucking it out. They are all going to look scary by 50. Isn't vanity one of the 7 deadly sins?
I did the same thing with magazines. 🚮 I realized they were just trying to make women feel bad about themselves so they could sell us crap.
I took a media literacy class my second year of college way back in 2007 which was before all the crazy, realistic filters were available to the general public on all social media platforms. I think that should be taught in high school when people are much more insecure but also while writing this, high school students today probably know more about filters and photoshop than I do!
But still, everything presented in the media (traditional or otherwise) is fake, filtered, augmented and manipulated to encourage sales of products. Even the old liquor ads with bikini clad women, set the tone that if you buy this liquor, these gorgeous women will appear out of thin air.
Hi Claw, thank you so much for taking time out of your busy days to watch and comment on my video. Your compliments and kind words just made my whole month, you are so sweet and thank you once again. You are oh so right after high school kids and manipulating ads. I have a huge smile on my face and I owe it all to you and all the wonderful comments I recieve. Have a great rest of your day!!
Business of making woman (and lately even man)feel bad with them self and that they need to by a ton of overpriced,overhyped shit that they need to put on to leave a home without feeling like leper is multi billion dollar business a year. It’s HUGE Business,based on very powerful brainwashing,it’s like very powerful magic spell on whole humanity 😉
As I always say...perfection is overrated. You are a gorgeous human. It is very sad that being human is no longer good enough.
I’m really glad, Cassandra Bankson, that you talk about these things. I appreciate that you work to have a healthy balance- you don’t give up on working in aesthetics bc of the toxicity that exists around you, but aim, instead to bring a more authentic, vulnerable, and real version of yourself to that world. It really resonates and I hope you keep doing what you are doing. I know I’m not the only one who receives benefit but rather are one of so many of your be-you-ti-ful butterflies and skintellectuals! Love love love love ya! 💜
This 👏👏💕💕
⁷⁷⁷
There is a reason the Attorney General just put out a statement saying Social Media poses a health risk for teenagers. And it’s not just teens. Unregulated and unsupervised social media can absolutely mess you up, as you put it so nicely in this video.
this is so important.
Seeing how amazing JLo (who is my age) looked made me feel terrible (and bitter for not having $$ for all the work) for so long- until I realized that even Getty images (or at least Jlo herself grabbing them) were filtered. I didn't think the paparazzi photos were retouched- but I didn't understand the collaborative, parasitic relationship that stars have with them (Jlo, Taylor, etc, not only tell photogs where to get 'candid' photos, they have APPROVAL of the photos that go to print). It really straddles a line between fantasy- which one is entitled to create- and deceit- creating a world that others accept but that is not real.
JLo is one of the worst fakers. She doesn’t only use filters, she also uses photoshop to make her legs look longer and slimmer, to make her waist look smaller, to make her butt look rounder and perky.
And she wears the most expensive wigs especially cut and coloured for her by a world famous hairdresser. She wears false eyelashes, she has pearly white tooth veneers, she has had a nose job, she has a great makeup artist, she uses flattering soft lighting, a good photographer. Etc. So don’t compare yourself to her because not even JLo herself looks like JLo. She is not natural at all.
Tbh I find Jennifer Garner a great example of graceful aging. She works out, is clearly in great shape and has no issues showing off her facial wrinkles on insta 😄
But are you in the business of looking good? Are you a model or an actress?
@@FatiFleur-jn7ky your point?
@@fullercorp To not compare yourself to those who are in the business of looking good.
I ran headlong into the illusory world of the beauty industry when I was told repeatedly that I was (not looked, but was) plump at a time when I had less than 10% body fat and dancer’s muscles. I was always embarrassed by my appearance. I look at pictures from that time in my life and see just how wrong they were. It’s amazing how perspective changes perception.
Same! I was that teen comparing myself to magazine pictures. 😢 I look back and realize how healthy and normal I looked.
I was told I was fat multiple times at 103 pounds and skinny shamed in America just as bad bullied from both sides
@@tylermadsen4771 That’s horrible.
I was told I should b constantly forcing myself to gain weight and lift weight fitness programs when actually I was bigger than the modeling I wanted . I didn’t want to b anorexic so got used to force feeding which isn’t healthy either . Anorexia is starving self . I got sick of force feeding
Wait. Tati uses a filter?? Wow, that’s really deceptive for a makeup artist. No wonder my foundation NEVER looks that good! 🤯
I noticed this with Nikki tutorials. Hardly a filter to start with but will apply one after she uses her own brand primer/moisturizer.
Nah it’s just lighting you have to tho if you’re going to have a makeup channel cuz how else are you going to see the makeup…. 😅
Yep it’s all a LIE ALL OF THEM😤
Sad isn’t it? We try to imagine what our lives would be like if we were “naturally beautiful” as in Tati 😮
Tati specifically I would say yes filters but also ..well her face is moving less and less its a shame .
I wish every female would listen to your wise and truthful words. It's so important to know the difference between reality and what's thrown at us about the so-called "beautiful people". Nobody is flawless.
wow the girl using the body slimming filter in the white set is so comforting. we have almost the exact same body and idk why i feel so bad about myself but when i saw the filter remove from her body i was like "she looks perfect!". I should keep that mindset for myself too
"It's a feature, not a flaw."
That hits. Thank you.
You are not only beautiful, you are incredibly intelligent, and you are very kind to provide us with an education about what is really happening in the world of social media which distorts reality. Love and appreciate you very much. Your brand of vulnerability and integrity is very rare. Thank you for who you are Cassandra Bankson!
I’m 53 years old and suffered from horrible big cysts that would disfigure my face sometimes… I would look in the mirror and break out in tears. Back then the only advice you got was to dry out your skin with alcohol or benzoyl peroxide, oily skin was taboo!! Or so I thought… Thanks to you Cassandra I have learned about double cleansing and products that can irritate the skin and learning that I have sensitive skin… my skin is now happy and healthy 🙌 you are the face of beauty Cassandra ❤ and I thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏🏻🦋🦋
this is frightening ! thank you for talking about this - its so scary to many girls and women are being duped into thinking this is attainable and feeling bad because they can't achieve it ! I know i've used good natural lighting and angles to hide my pores in pictures and it gives me an airbrushed look.
Amazing message Cassandra, more people should be like you.! I "never" use filters, I dont want my grandkids to have a distorted image of me, I am happy being me and secure with it. I dont have the perfect skin, its got its share of problems, I have acne scars and age lines. I am human and a person not an image for people to like. Authentic and one of a kind!
I've been breaking out a lot lately and I so needed to hear this right now! Thank you Cass ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Excellent video Cassandra! I don't wish I were 25 forever, but I gotta be honest: I wish I looked 25 forever.
You are absolutely stunning, but the fact that you worry about your looks makes you even more relatable.
Also, you've made me a skintellectual. Forever thanks! 🦋
This is so important for people to recognize! I find filters to look ridiculous. Thank you for sharing this.
What’s crazy is I feel so pretty in real life, and in person, just photos make go.. why do I look like that ???
Ditto, I say I am very unphotogenic. I thought it was just me, til my friend told me she has to take soooo many pics, just to get one she looks ok in
You are stunning! So happy you don’t use filters. I wish there were more influencers not using filters, and changing every single aspect of their bodies. We are not plastic dolls frozen in time, we are human.
Love and respect you girl! ❤❤❤
As a teenager in the 90's I used to cut out photos from magazines of the beautiful features of models and celebrities I wanted to look like. Mine wasn't to do with facial beauty but their bodies. I suffered with eating disorders and body dysmorphia right through to my mid 20's
hope you have self esteem now, and don't have to worship another human for no reason.
You are so beautiful and wise! Thank you for bringing this to the light. I felt that & didn’t realized it was “filtered” I had to realize people don’t look like that in person. Again, thank you. ❤
People need to understand that skin is an organ, it's alive. It reacts to stress, health issues, environment (inside and outside of your house), foods, self-hygiene, products, bacterias, summer allergies etc etc. So it's normal that your skin is having up and down days. Like mine, some days I will have clear normal skin for several weeks in a row and some days I will be on a oily side with a lil' of pimples, alot of textures and some redness going on.
Important to remind people of that, that the skin is an organ.
@@PicoAndSepulveda yup! It's that sad. People get so much of fake influences (and constantly) that they start thinking they are unlucky to have NORMAL pores. It's almost like they are getting brainwashed.
That was Haley at 8:20 💙 and she does show the tricks and secrets of models and the modeling world 👀 she is a troll of the internet
Love her for it!
A breath of fresh air.
Exactly! Hailey mocks the way celebrities are deceiving their fans, she’s trully genuine. And though - her natural body is still amazing 👍🏻
You are seriously the best. Genuine and honest. Talking about vulnerabilities and turning them into strengths. ❤
Great video!! Thank you for talking about this and showing these filters. Its an important topic that too many celebs lie about by omission. I feel sorry for kids today who dont know its filters and/ or the pics of what this or that makeup/ skin care can do for you is unintainable because its photo shopped. More people need to speak up about this! Thank you again!
Thank you for this vid. Even at 36, I still need this reminder. I have acne that I will probably never get rid of (I’ve tried so many Rx & OTC stuff over the years). I had to learn to accept my face and focus on skin health instead. Everyone needs to know they are valid.
Accutane, if you can get your Derm to prescribe. You MUST be on birth control and so serial pregnancy test for the duration as well as blood work-6 months for me. In 1998, it cost me $500/month WITH insurance. So worth it. My cystic acne started at 21, my hormones have always been messed up and experienced "natural" menopause...at 35 not having started menstruation until16!
This needs to be shared around, talked of more, and reiterated. I love your take and that you are compassionate to both manufactured and real beauty, emphasizing the power and beauty of not only acceptance, but confidence of always being good enough
Thank you for this Cassandra! I needed to hear this. I have a love/hate with Botox. I've gotten it twice on my forehead and 11s and loved the effect. But each time it wore off, I felt so ugly. So I made the decision to not get botox again. I do not want to be comparing myself to a fake version of myself. I want to learn to accept myself and accept the aging process. Aging is okay!! And if you get Botox... you do you! I am not against or for it. I just noticed how it affected my view of my natural aging beauty, and I didn't think it was healthy for me to continue in it.
I love you so much girl. You and your channel have supported and uplifted my spirit since I was a young girl, and now I’m a woman and I’m reminded of the beauty of real life! You truly are the embodiment of empowerment, and you are such a force of goodness. All the love to you Cassandra! You’re gorgeous inside and out and encourage everyone to be their best self 🌱🤍
You’re beautiful inside and out and I truly appreciate this video. This new generation is so fixated on filters and looking perfect all the time it’s really sad. They need to know that outside beauty isn’t everything. What’s on the inside is what really matters. Beauty fades with time. But a beautiful heart and soul now that’s for a lifetime❤️
THANK YOU so much for this! Your honesty and candidness is SO appreciated! I am nearing 40 and struggle with this on a daily basis... I definitely like your recommendation to start following accounts that are normal and not just fitness influencers, actresses, makeup bloggers, etc. I have spoke with my therapist about how severely social media has (further) damaged my self-esteem, and she had a similar recommendation: to follow female influencers/personalities that are known for something OTHER than their appearance (ex. social justice, authors, prominent women in STEM, etc.). This has helped make a big difference for me to see something pop up in my feed that doesn't make me feel terrible about myself AND inspires me to value the right things in the world.
I feel the same way. I'm 51 years old and started posting on all the platforms filter-free, with flaws, wrinkles and all. It's important for women to see. I'm also honest about cosmetic treatments I've had and that's extremely important. Women will compare themselves to me but it's not the natural aging process. I've had botox since I was 30 years old.
On another note, did you ever have a photo shoot in Queens NY for your portfolio years ago? It was in a man's house named Stephen Eastwood. You remind me so much of a model I worked with.
There is so much pretty and lovable about you Cassandra!✨
I’m 30 and still have a hard time comparing myself to others . Especially comparing me to the older more mature skin women I love to watch who have experience and usually were or still are professional makeup artists . Their skin has no wrinkle insight while im starting to get lined under my eyes. I always have to reassure myself that in UA-cam videos the influencer usually is farther away from the camera as well. Which is ironic bc I think I look way better from afar then up
Close. Sometimes I’m too scared to get to close to the mirror so I stand back further so at least the illusion makes me feel pretty and good about myself. I’m terrified for my now 8 year old
Daughter to grow up in this world of fake filters and unhealthy beauty standards. That’s why I love watching you so much bc your authentic and make me n others feel okay and normal to have flaws . So thank you Cass for being YOU and no one else ❤❤
I get it. But when you're 40, you'll think, "I was so silly when I was 30." And when you're 50, you'll think, "I was so silly when I was 40." It's an endless cycle. Just be happy in the skin that you're in. Easier said than done, I know, but faces have wrinkles and that's totally normal. It doesn't even mean that you're "old." I started going gray at 18. So did my brother. It's just genetic.
If you're interested in advice, my number one thing to tell you is DON'T TAN. You watch Cassandra, so you probably already know this, but I can't stress it enough. I didn't tan when I was younger because I couldn't. My two skin color options are either ghost or lobster...There is no in between. So I've been using 100 SPF my whole life. (No joke, I really use 100. LOL) But it was a blessing in disguise because I don't have a lot of wrinkles and I'm going to be 45 this year. But I have some and I get new ones every day and I'm OK with that. I'm supposed to have them. I started taking tretinoin to try to fight the "signs of aging" and my skin still looks pretty good, but one day it won't and that's OK. I was just hanging out with my 86 year old aunt last weekend and do you think she gives a F about wrinkles?! No way! 🤣 She's just living her life enjoying her time with her daughter and her granddaughter while she still has it. She would tell you that worrying about wrinkles is a total waste of time, and I agree.
Hey I got wrinkle at 22/23 as my mother loved to point out! It's partly genetic (I'm also getting whiter by the minute). It shows we have emotions, like Cass said ❤
You are absolutely my favorite person in the internet. Thank you about everything and the knowledge you giving to us and your kindness is everything ❤
thank you for your honesty and also showing us about filters and editing tricks
Thank you for this! With so many young impressionable girls figuring out where they fall on the beauty standards they’re being fed, I’m thankful for content like this that reminds them of reality and let’s them know it’s okay not to be “perfect”. Way to balance the scales out a little. Love your sincerity and you for this! 👏🏼 🥰
Thank you for THIS content. I don’t use filters or edit myself ❤We are beautiful just the way we are
Happiness happens when we stop focusing on self and search and appreciate the natural beauty in the world.
Cassandra, you do look beautiful naturally. But, what really makes you beautiful and a great example for people younger than myself is your authenticity and your intelligence. Thank you for taking time to share your knowledge and critical thinking. 😊
I love your hair in this so so so much!
I love your authenticity! Thank you so much for the truth
What a wonderful pep talk!! Thank you~
I’ve been watching you since you were sitting on the floor in front of your flower print sofa… loved and respected you back then, and I love and respect you now more than ever. Not that it’s all about the feels, but I do feel a little bit better about myself after watching your videos. You can be so goofy and realistic, and you don’t care if others might say negative things about you, you just come out grinning and say what’s on your heart. Thank you, from one beautiful butterfly to another. 🦋
I think realism is amazing - and it would lead to a lot less stress, anxiety, fear, and obsession with superficial self - that said - seeing someone super fit (filtered or not) is motivational at the gym. Thanks for this - I think it's great and helpful to talk honestly like this - although you do need to take a breath once in a while lol - it's like a giant run on sentence kinda - love vibes and thanks
I didn't notice too much before the pandemic, but during the pandemic I started breaking out more and consuming way more social media, and at first I didn't realize it was affecting me, its only been recently that I saw that I had unrealistic expectations for my own skin because of filters
This was such a real and honest discussion here Cassandra. As an esthetician my self I always aim for my clients and myself to have the most healthiest skin as possible not PERFECT skin but healthy skin. I saw the unfiltered photo of beyonce and felt if her fans saw that they would immediately go in defense mode claiming she is perfect and that the non filtered photo was some how photo shopped. Unfortunately people’s minds have because warped over celebrities and the defensiveness when someone shows how we are all imperfectly perfect.
I relate absolutely about collecting things I found beautiful. This is such a difficult subject but thank you for addressing it.
I remember my mom telling me the pictures in her fashion magazines were touched up and explained what it meant. I would tell her I wanted to look like her when I get older. I had no ideas about filters! I thought Britney Spears and Xtina and everyone else had perfect faces and bodies. I don’t use filters but I’m amazed at how many of my friends use filters. It’s sad.
Thanks Cassandra. Something we all need to talk about because it's really messing kids up these days. You are more beautiful without a filter Cass. You look like a real person that is also just beautiful. I wish more people would do this, thank you 😊 and no, you weren't the only one that collected things, I had a scrapbook filled with pictures of emaciated women because I wanted to be skinny. Spoiler alert - it didn't end well.
Hi, your the first person I've come across that says it's ok to have some facial lines or acne. So refreshing.
Thanks
I really needed this video! To be reminded that because of the media we consume, we are forgetting what real people look like and that its okay and normal how we look, it's what we see online that is abnormal! Thank you so much for this content.
I've never really had a problem with feeling bad because of celebrities, but I often feel bad, because my dad sees such photos and tells me I have acne (And I don't have a lot, only a few pimples here and there) because I don't wash my face enough or properly. Only now I found out it's natural to have some (especially during the menstrual cycle)! I was born with light yellow teeth, but to him I have yellow teeth because I don't know how to brush them. He also didn't allow me to use antiperspirant in summer, because I was sweating only because I didn't wash myself enough and I was using it to cover the smell. But he was using one! And I found out everybody sweats + I actually sweat more because of my dysautonomia, can't influence it no matter what I do. Washing myself twice or even once a day should be enough, unless I'm sporting, which I can't do anyway. Or that I don't wash my hair enough because it gets greasy quite soon after I wash it (my hair is almost above the knees, it's -again- normal for hair to do that. He didn't know it was harmful, but I felt so bad during puberty because of it. :// Never told anyone before today actually 🙈
That sounds kind of abusive. My mom did very similar things and she's a sociopath.
@@amberblack6908 I'm sorry to hear about your mum :c He always says he means well and now when I explained to him how it makes me feel, he does it way less often (and says that he's trying not to do it at all), but it still feels hurtful to me tbh :// He just strives for perfection all the time (I think it might be, because our lives are far from perfect, my mum (and I) is sick all the time and nothing we do goes as planned - and we're very likely both autistic, (I'm getting tested in August, my dad doesn't want to) planning is very important to him)... but yeah.. I'd be so much more comfortable and confident if he complimented me instead, at least half the time 🙈 He's quite negative about everything:c
Everything u described is perfectly normal for the human body! The talk u describe from your dad unfortunately sounds like emotional and verbal abuse. U sound like a lovely spirited person thou. U defend him even thou he doesn’t sound particularly kind to u. Just know that u r a beautiful person inside. Your worthy. I hope that someday your know just how worthy u r.
@@user-qg1mw7sv1z Aww thank you so much, you seem very sweet 💗 I think my dad really means well, but yeah, it's usually difficult to cope with ://
In my teenage years i had plenty of spots, never as severe as your acne for example Cassandra, but i remember that I didn't want to wear the kind or amount of makeup that would totally cover everything because I didn't want people to suddenly be shocked when they see me without makeup.
It doesn't mean that I wasn't insecure about my spots/ redness but I think it just made it more subtle, took away the attention from it, i hoped at least lol.
I think it's very important to have that distance towards photos or media and understand that it's not fully real.
Mind you, as a fun fact, i always wanted to have legs so smooth you could have a silky scarf run down them like in the adverts. But thankfully I never went overboard in trying to achieve that 😅
God what a breath of fresh air you are!!! Telling it straight. Bravo sister 👏
This was so helpful, thank you so much for taking the time to make this video.
Girl, you do look like that filtered photo naturally, unless your camera is currently filtered, you literally are so beautiful
Honestly I have always felt that I have better skin than many of these celebs. Saw Kim Kardashian's skin pampering video once and realised how lucky many plain janes like us are compared to them ❤
I saw that one too! I also felt very blessed to have the skin I’m in as a skinimalist! WE had to figure out our OWN skin regimes! Sometimes thru trial & error 😂
You are so great for pointing this out, it's really important especially for teens to know.❤
Absolutely love this! I have adult children and I’ve seen how much harder it can be for them, growing up in a world that is so social media based. I had acne as a teenager, and I just thank God that there wasn’t any social media back in the 1980s. Videos like this help to counter all that fakeness, and remind people that it’s good to be real.. I watched a UA-camr earlier talk about the many tens of thousands of dollars. She spent on beauty procedures and products over the last few years. She’s been having Botox since she was 25. She said that she’s working hard on trying not to express her emotions on her face. That really kind of freaked me out. It’s almost like women feel they have to be dolls to be lovable with plastic faces and no body hair. Thank you for putting out a very different message. ❤
This is such a brilliant video. So encouraging and honest and real.
(Also your hair looks STUNNING!)
In my depressed potato state, when I can't be bothered to do skincare, because depressed potato.. Seeing Cassandra anywhere, I'm like. Fine! I'll go do my skincare! And then I feel slightly less crap about myself. So thank you Cassandra for giving me that gentle kick in the behind! And yes, I did spf, because even in depressed potato state, I hate cancer.
Spf gives cancer.
Thank you very much for this! I needed the reminder. Also, I love your hair! It looks so cute on you! I'm going to have to put my curls up like that now! 😍🥰💖💖💖
I had no idea about all this stuff! I do know that your hair looks super pretty curly!!❤
Thank you for another excellent video, Cassandra. This is the kind of content we need to see! Especially the younger generation. Also, I'd just like to say that I love your hair in this video! I think this is you with your natural waves? And you are rocking this look! :)
Awe Cassandra, you look so beautiful with your gorgeous curls all tied up! I LOVE it when you rock those lovely locks of yours! Well, honestly, you ALWAYS shine beautifully...just Extra today sister!! Thanks for the great info and smart perspective! And to all the lovelys out there: We are all beautiful JUST the way we are, even when we aren't feeling it! Let's try and lift one another up as often as possible, let's make positive self image thinking go viral!!! ❤😊
Absolutely loved this video, and as I start to prepare to say goodbye to 50 and hello to 51, I definitely needed the reminder! Please keep these coming! I just subscribed - this is EXACTLY the kind of balanced beauty content I'm looking for, and it's so hard to find. Thank you!
Omg, same. I was so obsessed with celebs. You are naturally pretty. ❤
I recently head from another creator on here in regards to the same topic, that we are rapidly heading to a society where people don’t have an issue with celeb or influencer photo manipulation and also don’t see an AI advertising a product as a problem, even if the AI is advertising a face product! People want to see beauty and perfection and don’t care if it’s real or not. This is all according to a study that the creator quoted but I honestly can’t recall atm.
There is also a world of difference between beautiful in photos and in person. The makeup must be completely different.
I hope everyone can watch this video, it’s really made me think twice about feeling so bad about my skin.
100% agree with you & your message. Loads of love to you! ❤
I’ve never used a filter. I’m scared to lol. I have pretty good self esteem and I’m scared that using filters would mess with that.
I feel the same. I know they don't look like this, but I do compare myself all the time and start spiraling. I get myself out of it quite fast, but I'm almost 40 years old. I know that I would have not done this in my twenties. I also started wearing less make up to stop hiding my natural self.
Thankyou x a million for this video, it meant so much to me at a difficult time when I'm finally dealing with ageing. I absolutely love you back!
This is an eye opener, very important to discuss and spread the awareness not to trust what we see in media nowadays and to embrace our raw/natural human beauty not AI beauty because that is artificial not real.
Watching Lorry Hill and Stephanie Lange helped me so much
You are right. I grew up thinking women didn't have body hair. My peach fuzz made me feel dirty and insecure. And that never went until I had laser. Now I see really hairy women showing themselves as if nothing was going on. I still hate it, but I think to myself: why didn't I see any of this as a teenager? It probably wouldn't have made much difference but who knows.
Your natural self is sooo charming❤!!!
Your skin looks absolutely amazing!
2:08 Cassie you look breathtaking. Your hair looks stunning
Filter r so dangerous thank u fir this !
Excellent video! Kudos to you for not using filtres & keeping it real! ❤
you do Not need filters! thank you for being you and being honest
It's scary how most smartphones have filter on by default and if i didn't tinker with the settings i would've just thought that my skin was looking plumper that day. Then the face/body dysmorphia kicks in as i remove the filters.
So I now follow Dr. Dre's advice on pore reduction, and it 100% works!
"Stand farther away from the mirror." 😊
Yes! Humanity needs this!!!
I love enhancing the beauty of my environment, people and the world be it with applying makeup 💄 on my friends, planting flowers in the garden, picking up litter from the beach, taking care of my mum or helping people with problems. Grace life with adding your light to it 🌸
You’ve probably saved lives with theses videos! Keep it up!