George, This was perhaps the most poignant, truth telling, and important video concerning the subject of divorce and breakups that I've ever come across. I wish this was available back in the early 90s (*sighs)....Anyways, having lived through an extremely bad relationship a few decades back, I feel it necessary to tell anyone that trying to fix a leaky boat (bad marriage) for too long will find oneself at the bottom of the sea feeling bewildered and bitter. Heed this sage wisdom George here has imparted upon all of us. He truly gets it!!! I've shared this with my son and some young lads as a precursor to potential pitfalls in matters of the heart. An ounce or two of proven prevention, is preferable to a pound of cure.
"your never going to have your world revolve around a woman again are you? you're going to create a mission and she will join your mission." ...literally felt such encouragement from that one statement. Thank you George.
Thank you I’ve recently discovered you. I to am going through a divorce after 20 years married and 3 kids! 27 years together! HS sweethearts and all! Everything you spoke about is exactly the same experience I am having! The last 3 months I have completely uprooted and moved bought a new home with all new things nothing that we acquired together I took. Wiped the slate clean. Started to work out lost 51 pounds and gained so much confidence in myself and started to self love. I too tired to hang on only to get burned and set back. I was a door mat and am priority LAST on anything that doesn’t have to do with our children. When something like that happens the first thing any man needs to do is move forward. When a woman checks out they check out and no convincing otherwise. Don’t waste your emotions and time 💯 It is painful, you feel abandoned, empty, confused and frightened to face the world by oneself, you are not alone as others are going through the battle. Thank you for the video I will watch them all.
I'm glad I read your post, I'm going through the same thing right now and we need as much strength and support we can get. I got totally lost in this shitshow of a marriage and knowing that I'm still in there somewhere is encouraging. Thanks Brother.
Gentlemen, this is very valuable information, George’s content I found when my 11 year relationship ended, I was 44, now I am almost 48 and life is so much better because of this man. Thanks again George 👍
I am 41. I am still young. I am a homeowner again in a great part of town. I am successful. I will bounce back after my 20 years of marriage. I have always been introverted, but have found myself being confident with NOTHING to lose in dating. Like he said, date LOONGG…but I don’t think I want to do the marry thing again…
Amen brother. I think it’s because we take time to retreat into our caves and reevaluate. Woman, however, keep craving the attention of whatever comes their way for a short term fix
I discovered last year that my wife of 18yrs had an affair. A year later and now she has decided she wants a divorce. I’m watching this video over and over trying to accept what I already know, but damn this is gonna be hard. Thanks for this video and the honesty, George. My dad is telling me the exact same and I guess I just have to keep watching to get this mind of mine right.
I might not know you, and I know I'm too young to even imagine what you're feeling right now, but as a younger man I am with you and your peace is at hand. Be kind to yourself and know that she lost you and you didn't lose her.
My wife did the same. I was glad she did. That was a great excuse to could get rid of her. Life post divorce is great for men. Eventually you get that money back, and can begin to enjoy life again. My new girlfriend is begging to move in together, and I’m like “ nah, I enjoy my peace and freedom “. Man she’s pissed about it, but I won’t budge. Good luck brother 😎.
@@sontodosnarcosI gave her every opportunity to be truly sorry and I never saw empathy. I forgave and tried to work things out. Love makes you do strange things, and even more so after lots of years, and even more complicated with children involved. Still going through hell in the divorce process but I am stronger every step of the way.
Sir thank you, I’m 32 and going through a divorce after ten years. This felt like my older self giving me a message from the future. And I mean this in the most respectful way, wisdom passing down. Thank you
@@eddys.3485just the beginning. Seperation initiated amicably last week. Have a child and home. Going through the expected emotions and peaks and valleys. I hope i make it through
@@bretteidem6248in no way shape or form do I say this as a haha moment. But being 23 and seeing you guys say you’re getting through a whole divorce when I had a simple 3 year GF break up is relieving in a way. Puts my perspective differently that a ring won’t mean shit it’s about the person the ring is on and I’m glad I didn’t hold on to someone who wanted to leave. Good luck fellas
I'm an Orthodox Christian, and I love your icon. I have the same one. My wife of 21 years up and left. I never abused her or cheated on her. She'd gone. Everything you are saying is on point. Thank you brother.
I also noticed the ICON. My wife has been dishonest and completely uncaring to the point where she is removed from our relationship. Conversations like this are great. Thank you.
Just came across your channel thank you brother. I'm recently divorced from a wife of 14 years married and five children together ages 14, 11,9, 7 and 4 four girls one boy. My son is the youngest. It hurts so bad. She filed a few days after my birthday. 12/17/2023 we even went out and had a nice time. Then I was served. I stayed with this woman during her infidelity I should have been left. But I wanted to keep my family together. My divorce was final April 29th. Through a Zoom call court meeting. This is the most worst pain ever. Plus I'm still at the house untill I get on my feet and I'm able to move out
I was stuck in a rut after my divorce.. doing exactly what you said not to do. It's difficult. Then I rekindled my fly fishing for trout, started mountain biking, road cycling, hiking, camping, partying, investing time in myself.. and of course concentrating on income.. and after a while my ex didn't feature anymore. I was doing my own things.. what a revelation. .. thinking back on it now 20yrs back.
Very good video. I'd say the worst mistake I made after my divorce was to jump back into the dating market really quickly. I hooked up a lot to try and replace what I had lost. It was not good and I had caused a lot of hardship for those short-term partners. Best to just take a break, let yourself process the break-up/divorce, and then re-enter dating after enough time has passed. When you no longer think of the ex, is when enough time has passed.
The holy spirit told me in meditation "pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice" and hearing you say this is undeniably very refreshing for my young man brain. Thank you so much for opening my eyes to what men of all ages have to go through, it's so confusing when we lack mentors like yourself nowadays with all these broken down or even, feminine controlled homes. Thank you for sanity, clarity and reason. Knowledge, wisdom and understanding🙏🏽🙏🏽
36 year wife went straight from the sweetest woman in the world to the cruelest. Either she is 2 ppl in one or the first one was just a lie. At this second, I REALLY DO HATE HER. She ruined EVERYTHING and stole my kids from me to boot. Now I am supposed to somehow start over.
After 23 years I got kicked into touch, I did hate her with a passion for a long time, like you say from sweet to a venom filled witch in the blink of an eye. I am ok now, it was beyond painful for the first 2 months, mental torture, away from the family you love and care for especialy that first Christmas but I will tell you something Chuck, I realise now what a miserable existance it was with her, she wasnt real, an act for the white picket fence fantasy. I
@@Nestor-jx8nw amen to that. sounds like the same situation with me. im almost 2 months out and im transitioning from wanting the old life back to now seeing I deserve much better and that this is a blessing in disguise
@@JakeBlack_Official Jake my man, welcome to the free world, one where your mind is free of that constant female drama. Its tough and you will have bad days but you will be fine and a day will come when you will think of it as silly for letting another human have that much sway over your feelings.
26 years for me. I'm in the same place. Never wanna see this person again, she thinks she is so superior to me. The only thing she did was lie, conceal and cheat
Man, I share your videos in my mens divorce group. This is so real; I watched my neighbor go through this to the point where he killed his exwife boyfriend a month after she kicked him out and had the new guy in. Keep us men sane!!!!
That can happen unfortunately and women don't know how some men will react when they've been done wrong. She's blessed to be alive and it's sad that the boyfriend lost because of that. It happens more than you think and it doesn't always make the news
Thank you sir! All your wisdom is on point. I'm 9 months into my separation/divorce. She stonewalled & keep the kids from me for 2.5 months including Thanksgiving, Xmas, New Years. I'm letting her make all the mistakes. My patience will pay off in the long run. Coach me.
You saved my life in this dark times bro. Thank God I found your channel. She just left me and took our 3 kids, I didin't know she's been having an affair for 2 years now. She is still in denial of the affair until now and making-up stories against me to justify why she left me. I was so blind that I didin't see how manipulative she is in our 23 years of marriage. I wish I can still see my kids again, I don't know where are they now. 😢
Going through a rough breakup, my ex dumped me 2 weeks ago we met in our condo gym. We had a hot n heavy relationship but I would always call her out on her abrasive personality. One day we had an episode where I called her out.. she dumped me right then n there. I have a strong gut feeling there was another guy in the picture lurking around. It's been hard lately, just trying to rebuild myself.
My story will blow minds! 47 years, 7 children, 7 grandchildren . . . Set out to the curb 14 years ago and heard the very best line and truth from my VA therapist right at the start of my unknown new single life . . . She said; “David, what would you do if your wife died? “ I was floored at that question ! I pondered it for a minute and answered, “I would need to learn new coping skills” . . . Her reply saved my life as she said; “David, your wife died!!!” . . . PRICELESS! George Bruno your truth will bless many who are not pussies who don’t need pussy! I believe this is your best moment as you have and are DOing the work! God bless you brother, this is epic! This video should go viral! Many would be blessed beyond measure to believe your truth and choose to live and love their lives! I have become a prolific ice skating dancer and entertain those who see me at 63 and I am getting better each time I write my story with my feet! Designing a new stretcherscize as I dance in the sand dreaming on ice . . . It is time for for boys to make noise!
George... I respect you man. I've been through some shit... I've been doing what you have been saying... I'm loving life, the freedom, my motorcycle, my gym training, I and my red wine...
Love you videos. Going through a divorce after 14 years - with three little ones. I have been watching your videos like crazy! Not sure how I am going to get through this mess!!
Don't worrie, Bruno said it exactly! Is only a storm it will pass... I have gone through it a couple times and always feels like the end of the world until you look back and regret waiting so much energy for nothing. Have fun with it, now you are not responsible for disappointing anyone. Invest in your self you only live once..
This is really good advice...especially the mindfulness exercises. I was married for 20 years..5 kids...and have been divorced for 7 years now. You will have days of complete hopelessness...but you will get through...and day by day...that deep wound, will heal and you will find peace again...perhaps even more peace, than you ever imagined possible 🙏
Going thru a difficult break-up it has been months. Just last week something incredible happened I started to get myself back. Just a very small amount for now but none the less a tiny bit of hope. I think I am going to make it. Thank you, Sir
Love George and his sage wisdom.... he knows his stuff. I've been through this cycle a couple times. Once not long ago after losing my wife of 23 years in 2017... then a horrific breakup with a younger woman a year ago. Two totally different forms of loss... but similar in many ways... the grief and sorrow and the self pity is the worst... the solution is the same. Appreciate the good there was and don't ever focus on the negatives and move on... because life doesn't ever stop. Keep moving forward... as Disney used to say. As Aaron Clarey writes in The Menu, get comfortable being alone and with yourself or no one will ever want your company. We all come into this world alone and leave the same way. Just fill your days with fun and memories.
I went through it 20 years ago. Everything you said in this video is 100% accurate. What a pathetic man I was during that time. But it changed me into the man I am today. My girlfriends brother-in-law is going through this right now. I am sending him this video.
Lol, this really came just in time, I definitely feel more vulnerable and doubt my value as a man and a partner after the whole breakup happened but I think after some thinking and meditation I have started to finally accept it and move on.
My wife left me 3 months ago at the drop of a hat. No discussion, no argument nothing. I can home to a note on the table that wraps up to "sorry, goodbye" Im digging through everything i can trying to help
Same here, bro. She left the same way, almost 6 months ago. Still plenty of tough days but getting better. Little by little. Leaning on good friends and making it through.
I just want to say that today after 5 years my marriage is done, this video has really helped me out, and I know one day I’ll come back and see this comment, and to my future self, I’m proud of you.
Good advice. I am going trough divorce. The most thing I have problems is our 2 kids. And the disappointment, lies from my ex. She turned it like I was the bad guy. I just want to go to an island for 1 year ...without Internet or phone. God and Jesus helped me. God showed me a lot of miracles in this time. He spoke to me. He told me that HE loves me. 🙏♾️ Amen
Michael, thank you! You get it! Praise God! I still pray for her as she is and will always be the mother I my children but she put me away 16 years ago and the lady therapist was a spiritual lady and knew that the trUth would Make/create me free! This is how the Holy Spirit works to assist in our suffering as He teaches us the peaceable things of The Kingdom of God peace and blessings brother Michael . . .
The ruminating on the vows was a big deal for me. I finally realized that women just aren’t measured by integrity, as are men. A woman breaking her word is no big deal to society. Fight hard for your money through your attorney, and take the high road regarding co-parenting duties. Then work on creating your new life.
Replace her immediately. There is no other way. Mindset, gym, etc are all good things to do, BUT you need to mitigate the loss, just like when you put an animal down. Get a new animal or at least start looking at new ones. That's EXACTLY what she did, even before she left. Cold hard truth you don't want to hear. Trust me.
I’m so thankful to learn these lessons with girlfriends at 24 rather than trying to figure it out in divorce court with my wife at 40. That can still happen but I will hopefully have better wisdom navigating that situation. I am going to hold these truths close. I am going to get me back after 2 1/2 years.
Just been introduced to Listen my Son podcasts and thank you for sharing the knowledge and wisdom that you have been through and learnt the hard way. Catching a wake up here. Thank you👍🏼
33 years married. My one goal in life was to grow old with her and enjoy our grandchildren together. She used me all those years then walked away. I can’t see the other side. Seven years now and life has no meaning.
Hey Trailboss! Thank you for the refresher. I am almost 3 years post-divorce and your steady hand and calm voice still center me. I look forward to meeting you sir. Godspeed!
The more I accept she's gone and to do the things you say the better I feel. The storm is passing for me. I'm finally ready to start the process of the divorce instead of waiting for her. She gets to have what she thinks she wants why am I suffering?
It was tough for me. The guy who i asked if i should get married and told me i will be happy I did it was getting a divorce at the time . Then he turned alcoholic like 750ml fireball every morning, while I just got a divorce and I had to force my self to not drink with him. It doesn’t seem easy but you’ll see who was your real friend and who was just there just for the couples hangout. Couples who were around a lot will ignore you after a divorce
My 36 yr old wife of 10 years, 2 young kids together, cheated on me with a guy and at the same time with our 22F babysitter. Was super hard to accept, but I had to move on. It’s a long road. They live together in my old house
Great video, thank you. I don’t believe in marriage. A marriage has lost its meaning because you can divorce over anything and let’s be honest, it’s more common than successful marriages. Marriage is a mindset. Men and women trapping each other because they fear losing and being alone. Think we all been there at one point in life but life kicks your backside but will make you stronger later.
The first time I heard of Mr. Bruno, I was sent a link to an interview about his divorce. Specifically, how the congregants turned on him- and supported and uplifted the wife who initiated the divorce- in the Presbyterian church he and his then wife had attended for years. It helped many men over the years. It is OLD. Wish I'd saved the link.
It happens a lot to men. I was treated like I had the plaque at my church when my divorce started. The singles, especially the single parent groups, are dating pools and usually not good ones. I stopped going. I read my Bible at home.
Thanks George, I am in the beginning stages of this right now. I am quietly now planning my next step, in regards to where I will land, live and begin resetting myself. At the moment, I am trying to do the aforementioned under the radar and once the time the next step (for me) is setup/solidified, then its time to bring her up to speed and let her know that we are officially done.
Hi . Great advices. In my case Ive asked for divorce after 2 y of sexless and complicated marriage. It wasnt easy to maked that call but there wasnt any dialog between us . We did mane family and marriage therapys but there wasnt any improvements. So the divorce is in progres . Its not easy because we have 2 small children. I love smoking my piepes too and my go to is capstan blue . Thank you for all you advices. I was really trying to save that marriage but i think she decided long time ago and was trying to force me to make that decision. I need to get to the shape too . God bless you
It is going to take time to heal. Once you get away from them your clarity will start to return. Exercise, even if it is walking, that will help you. Reading Psalms provided a great deal of relief for me. Stay busy, do things you enjoy. Make sure you are getting enough sleep. Have a support group, people that you trust, make sure they are not gossipers. Take care of yourself, no one else will.
Ok it works! Got triggered by the let her go tried the awareness sense exercises. I have calmed down and starring to think... it's control over self! He'll yea!!! I will definitely be watching more. I'm at the very beginning. Paperwork is coming... I will be honest heartbreak is an eclipse of pain. And it comes and goes. In short, I'm listening.
I have my first photo exhibit in 6 weeks. Last night I finally told her how I have felt after carrying her burdens and lies. I am a full time college student and I'm supposed to graduate in 3 and a half months at 40. I have been working out for two months to search for some kind of focus after 20 years of marriage and I am scared shitless of the changes that are coming. I don't know how to recover from this other than to just keep moving. One foot in front of the other.
I am really glad I found this channel. Man, smoking a pipe and having a drink with you sir would be awesome. You give good advice after this divorce crap.
How many times does a car need to be DRIVEN before it is called a rental? Man, that was profound! Even if it may not yet be driven, it has been in my mind so onto workin on ME and being the BEST thing that happens for the next woman in my life.
Bro I love your vibe, currently 3 months into a break up, still only slightly better than before but its things like this video that help me through, create a positive mindset and just let me move tf on. Ps you look and sound like you'd make up for an amazing dad/granddad. Thanks pops
I moved to my other country for my first gf. A pair of horns is what I got from doing my best. I wonder how much damage that did to me, as she was an outlier. After her, I actually got more game than I thought I had in me, dates and Saturday night hookups without even trying and by the plenty (if I had cash I'd actually be able to keep one of them!). But there is something broken there. I want to connect and I want to trust, and any woman coming after isn't guilty of what the first did, but... I don't even try anymore. I know I can do great and it's fun to be in the game, but there's no will to it.
... as a German Biologist - it is a slow process of sensing strong Antagonisms that become emotional Allergies - which are incurable. It is Distance and Meta Morphosis - to start a new Life - with better Senses and RADAR to detect from afar Predators and Vampyres. A Phase Transition to a higher state of Life. This can be extremely painful and devastating - like the Dark Night of the Soul. I promote Inner Strength Training and EMAT - Emotional Martial Arts Training - we will get more challenges than we can imagine - Things to come - H G Wells...
"We just celebrated our anniversary now there's another car in my driveway.."...wow. this is almost exactly what happened. She changed the security cameras so that I couldn't see a car in the cul de sac
Hey George... thank you for this. You and I are a similar age and I've been through some shit. I found this video full of such wisdom and encouragement. I've recently gone through a break up and maybe because of my age and experience I'm doing well, what you spoke about I have done instinctively... thank you man, I feel like you are a brother. As a side note, I've decided to grow out my beard... 3 months in.
So this channel was really cool when I found it a few years ago. Especially considering I have smoked a pipe since I was about 17 or so and the topic of divorce was so heavily on my mind. I didn’t even want to smoke my pipes or look at them I was grieving so hard at that time. I was going thru a divorce and was with the same girl for 18 years since I was just 16 years old. Things happened and nothing seemed to feel right about it and I struggled for a few years. The healing journey is quite a journey. I can relate to so much in this video that George is talking about. But I can tell you one thing is that TIME and DISTANCE is key. Just like George said. And I used to still have sex and stuff with my x like once a week for about the first year or so of us being “ single”. And one day I just said no and I stuck to that and I wouldn’t give her even a second of my time to text or talk or anything. I just cut her out of my life one day and forever. And we do have a child together which we split custody with. I will only respond to something that has to do with that. But everyone says “ just let go” but no matter how hard u try u can’t. But suddenly it just kinda happens after enough time and grieving and the realization that your doing it to yourself at that point and it’s not even her anymore. I took back the control when I cut ties with her and I started working out and bettering myself and I met tons of woman and had lots of sex and I was still reacting and not fully healed finding myself doing crazy shit all the time. But I did meet the most amazing girl when I was finally good being on my own. And we have been together about half a year now and we haven’t had one fight and she is always extremely sweet and she’s so attractive. I feel lucky honestly. Things are much different than my old toxic marriage but I learned a lot on my end what I could have done differently and I feel like such a better man to my new girl than I was to my x wife. Best of luck if your going thru all this. You can do it tho and you will definitely find a new better version of yourself at the end. Nice video George ! I gotta try some capstan gold now lol.
George, This was perhaps the most poignant, truth telling, and important video concerning the subject of divorce and breakups that I've ever come across. I wish this was available back in the early 90s (*sighs)....Anyways, having lived through an extremely bad relationship a few decades back, I feel it necessary to tell anyone that trying to fix a leaky boat (bad marriage) for too long will find oneself at the bottom of the sea feeling bewildered and bitter. Heed this sage wisdom George here has imparted upon all of us. He truly gets it!!! I've shared this with my son and some young lads as a precursor to potential pitfalls in matters of the heart. An ounce or two of proven prevention, is preferable to a pound of cure.
Well said friend
"your never going to have your world revolve around a woman again are you? you're going to create a mission and she will join your mission." ...literally felt such encouragement from that one statement. Thank you George.
Thank you I’ve recently discovered you. I to am going through a divorce after 20 years married and 3 kids! 27 years together! HS sweethearts and all! Everything you spoke about is exactly the same experience I am having! The last 3 months I have completely uprooted and moved bought a new home with all new things nothing that we acquired together I took. Wiped the slate clean. Started to work out lost 51 pounds and gained so much confidence in
myself and started to self love. I too tired to hang on only to get burned and set back. I was a door mat and am priority LAST on anything that doesn’t have to do with our children. When something like that happens the first thing any man needs to do is move forward. When a woman checks out they check out and no convincing otherwise. Don’t waste your emotions and time 💯 It is painful, you feel abandoned, empty, confused and frightened to face the world by oneself, you are not alone as others are going through the battle.
Thank you for the video I will watch them all.
I'm glad I read your post, I'm going through the same thing right now and we need as much strength and support we can get. I got totally lost in this shitshow of a marriage and knowing that I'm still in there somewhere is encouraging. Thanks Brother.
Gentlemen, this is very valuable information, George’s content I found when my 11 year relationship ended, I was 44, now I am almost 48 and life is so much better because of this man. Thanks again George 👍
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Yes sir!!! Gentleman speaking truth!!!
I am 41. I am still young. I am a homeowner again in a great part of town. I am successful. I will bounce back after my 20 years of marriage. I have always been introverted, but have found myself being confident with NOTHING to lose in dating. Like he said, date LOONGG…but I don’t think I want to do the marry thing again…
“Suffering is a school, trauma is a teacher” - Robin Sharma
A red flag is a red flag 🚩
Women move on quicker initially, but men are happier in the long run. That was the case with me anyway!🙂
Amen brother. I think it’s because we take time to retreat into our caves and reevaluate. Woman, however, keep craving the attention of whatever comes their way for a short term fix
Amen brother. Always
TACB-they always come back. As a man, never allow it
I needed to read your message. I look forward to when I'm able to say I'm happier. Thanks for the hope.
@@Savvynomad225is that true?
I discovered last year that my wife of 18yrs had an affair. A year later and now she has decided she wants a divorce. I’m watching this video over and over trying to accept what I already know, but damn this is gonna be hard. Thanks for this video and the honesty, George. My dad is telling me the exact same and I guess I just have to keep watching to get this mind of mine right.
I might not know you, and I know I'm too young to even imagine what you're feeling right now, but as a younger man I am with you and your peace is at hand. Be kind to yourself and know that she lost you and you didn't lose her.
Sorry to hear that man. The faster you accept the reality the better off you'll be. Feel what you feel there's no shame in that.
My wife did the same. I was glad she did. That was a great excuse to could get rid of her. Life post divorce is great for men. Eventually you get that money back, and can begin to enjoy life again. My new girlfriend is begging to move in together, and I’m like “ nah, I enjoy my peace and freedom “. Man she’s pissed about it, but I won’t budge. Good luck brother 😎.
So you've known this for a year and waited all this time just to have her leave and divorce you?
@@sontodosnarcosI gave her every opportunity to be truly sorry and I never saw empathy. I forgave and tried to work things out. Love makes you do strange things, and even more so after lots of years, and even more complicated with children involved. Still going through hell in the divorce process but I am stronger every step of the way.
I honestly are completely done with relationships and women, after 30 years of disappointment and hurt I’m simply done.
They're just good for pump and dump. It's sad
If the fish don’t bite blame the fisherman not the fish
She wanted to leave and I opened the door and helped her out.
I was planing my future before the door closed.
Never contact anyone who leaves you. Then go and smash every glass ceiling in your life
Sir thank you, I’m 32 and going through a divorce after ten years. This felt like my older self giving me a message from the future. And I mean this in the most respectful way, wisdom passing down. Thank you
Same. 31 here
@@Amk4792 hanging in there?
@@eddys.3485just the beginning. Seperation initiated amicably last week. Have a child and home. Going through the expected emotions and peaks and valleys. I hope i make it through
41 here. On my second divorce. God, when will I learn to discern good women from toxic ones?
@@bretteidem6248in no way shape or form do I say this as a haha moment. But being 23 and seeing you guys say you’re getting through a whole divorce when I had a simple 3 year GF break up is relieving in a way. Puts my perspective differently that a ring won’t mean shit it’s about the person the ring is on and I’m glad I didn’t hold on to someone who wanted to leave. Good luck fellas
I'm an Orthodox Christian, and I love your icon. I have the same one. My wife of 21 years up and left. I never abused her or cheated on her. She'd gone. Everything you are saying is on point. Thank you brother.
I also noticed the ICON. My wife has been dishonest and completely uncaring to the point where she is removed from our relationship. Conversations like this are great. Thank you.
Just came across your channel thank you brother. I'm recently divorced from a wife of 14 years married and five children together ages 14, 11,9, 7 and 4 four girls one boy. My son is the youngest. It hurts so bad. She filed a few days after my birthday. 12/17/2023 we even went out and had a nice time. Then I was served. I stayed with this woman during her infidelity I should have been left. But I wanted to keep my family together. My divorce was final April 29th. Through a Zoom call court meeting. This is the most worst pain ever. Plus I'm still at the house untill I get on my feet and I'm able to move out
I was stuck in a rut after my divorce.. doing exactly what you said not to do. It's difficult. Then I rekindled my fly fishing for trout, started mountain biking, road cycling, hiking, camping, partying, investing time in myself.. and of course concentrating on income.. and after a while my ex didn't feature anymore. I was doing my own things.. what a revelation. .. thinking back on it now 20yrs back.
Very good video. I'd say the worst mistake I made after my divorce was to jump back into the dating market really quickly. I hooked up a lot to try and replace what I had lost. It was not good and I had caused a lot of hardship for those short-term partners. Best to just take a break, let yourself process the break-up/divorce, and then re-enter dating after enough time has passed. When you no longer think of the ex, is when enough time has passed.
Beautiful awesome advice
Once she’s gone get yourself back not her ! Best advice I’ve heard especially being a young man who grew up without a Father…
The holy spirit told me in meditation "pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice" and hearing you say this is undeniably very refreshing for my young man brain.
Thank you so much for opening my eyes to what men of all ages have to go through, it's so confusing when we lack mentors like yourself nowadays with all these broken down or even, feminine controlled homes. Thank you for sanity, clarity and reason. Knowledge, wisdom and understanding🙏🏽🙏🏽
36 year wife went straight from the sweetest woman in the world to the cruelest. Either she is 2 ppl in one or the first one was just a lie. At this second, I REALLY DO HATE HER. She ruined EVERYTHING and stole my kids from me to boot. Now I am supposed to somehow start over.
After 23 years I got kicked into touch, I did hate her with a passion for a long time, like you say from sweet to a venom filled witch in the blink of an eye. I am ok now, it was beyond painful for the first 2 months, mental torture, away from the family you love and care for especialy that first Christmas but I will tell you something Chuck, I realise now what a miserable existance it was with her, she wasnt real, an act for the white picket fence fantasy. I
@@Nestor-jx8nw amen to that. sounds like the same situation with me. im almost 2 months out and im transitioning from wanting the old life back to now seeing I deserve much better and that this is a blessing in disguise
@@JakeBlack_Official Jake my man, welcome to the free world, one where your mind is free of that constant female drama. Its tough and you will have bad days but you will be fine and a day will come when you will think of it as silly for letting another human have that much sway over your feelings.
@@Nestor-jx8nw I appreciate the encouragement bro. Thank you!!
26 years for me. I'm in the same place. Never wanna see this person again, she thinks she is so superior to me. The only thing she did was lie, conceal and cheat
Man, I share your videos in my mens divorce group. This is so real; I watched my neighbor go through this to the point where he killed his exwife boyfriend a month after she kicked him out and had the new guy in. Keep us men sane!!!!
Holy sh*t is there a news article on this? Also how much time did he get?
That can happen unfortunately and women don't know how some men will react when they've been done wrong. She's blessed to be alive and it's sad that the boyfriend lost because of that. It happens more than you think and it doesn't always make the news
I could see how that happened.
Thank you sir! All your wisdom is on point. I'm 9 months into my separation/divorce. She stonewalled & keep the kids from me for 2.5 months including Thanksgiving, Xmas, New Years. I'm letting her make all the mistakes. My patience will pay off in the long run. Coach me.
You saved my life in this dark times bro. Thank God I found your channel. She just left me and took our 3 kids, I didin't know she's been having an affair for 2 years now. She is still in denial of the affair until now and making-up stories against me to justify why she left me. I was so blind that I didin't see how manipulative she is in our 23 years of marriage. I wish I can still see my kids again, I don't know where are they now. 😢
I feel you nigga
@@Dignified32😂 dead ass
Going through a rough breakup, my ex dumped me 2 weeks ago we met in our condo gym. We had a hot n heavy relationship but I would always call her out on her abrasive personality. One day we had an episode where I called her out.. she dumped me right then n there. I have a strong gut feeling there was another guy in the picture lurking around. It's been hard lately, just trying to rebuild myself.
My story will blow minds! 47 years, 7 children, 7 grandchildren . . . Set out to the curb 14 years ago and heard the very best line and truth from my VA therapist right at the start of my unknown new single life . . . She said; “David, what would you do if your wife died? “ I was floored at that question ! I pondered it for a minute and answered, “I would need to learn new coping skills” . . . Her reply saved my life as she said; “David, your wife died!!!” . . . PRICELESS!
George Bruno your truth will bless many who are not pussies who don’t need pussy!
I believe this is your best moment as you have and are DOing the work! God bless you brother, this is epic! This video should go viral! Many would be blessed beyond measure to believe your truth and choose to live and love their lives!
I have become a prolific ice skating dancer and entertain those who see me at 63 and I am getting better each time I write my story with my feet!
Designing a new stretcherscize as I dance in the sand dreaming on ice . . .
It is time for for boys to make noise!
💜💪be strong brother!🤟
Did you see the divorce coming ?
“She died” is a great framing.
Nothing to wonder how to fix. And the good and bad can be placed in a box called the past.
Thank you 🙏🏽
thank you for this. I was hung up on the vows. when you said, "the covenant takes two" that really hit me.
George... I respect you man. I've been through some shit... I've been doing what you have been saying... I'm loving life, the freedom, my motorcycle, my gym training, I and my red wine...
Love you videos. Going through a divorce after 14 years - with three little ones. I have been watching your videos like crazy! Not sure how I am going to get through this mess!!
Don't worrie, Bruno said it exactly! Is only a storm it will pass... I have gone through it a couple times and always feels like the end of the world until you look back and regret waiting so much energy for nothing. Have fun with it, now you are not responsible for disappointing anyone. Invest in your self you only live once..
This is really good advice...especially the mindfulness exercises. I was married for 20 years..5 kids...and have been divorced for 7 years now. You will have days of complete hopelessness...but you will get through...and day by day...that deep wound, will heal and you will find peace again...perhaps even more peace, than you ever imagined possible 🙏
How could someone leave after three kids?
That's crazy
Years of practice bro. Just dont take on another woman untill you completely heal or it will be same turd all over again...
@pauld8580 - can you give an update? Has the mess subsided? Are you happier?
Going thru a difficult break-up it has been months. Just last week something incredible happened I started to get myself back. Just a very small amount for now but none the less a tiny bit of hope. I think I am going to make it.
Thank you, Sir
How you doing now?
Love George and his sage wisdom.... he knows his stuff. I've been through this cycle a couple times. Once not long ago after losing my wife of 23 years in 2017... then a horrific breakup with a younger woman a year ago. Two totally different forms of loss... but similar in many ways... the grief and sorrow and the self pity is the worst... the solution is the same. Appreciate the good there was and don't ever focus on the negatives and move on... because life doesn't ever stop. Keep moving forward... as Disney used to say. As Aaron Clarey writes in The Menu, get comfortable being alone and with yourself or no one will ever want your company. We all come into this world alone and leave the same way. Just fill your days with fun and memories.
You’re honestly the most unique person I’ve ever seen. There’s something so calming about you. It sounds cliche I know but seriously!
Agree
Agree!!
I went through it 20 years ago. Everything you said in this video is 100% accurate. What a pathetic man I was during that time. But it changed me into the man I am today. My girlfriends brother-in-law is going through this right now. I am sending him this video.
toughens you up quicksmart
Lol, this really came just in time, I definitely feel more vulnerable and doubt my value as a man and a partner after the whole breakup happened but I think after some thinking and meditation I have started to finally accept it and move on.
My wife left me 3 months ago at the drop of a hat. No discussion, no argument nothing. I can home to a note on the table that wraps up to "sorry, goodbye" Im digging through everything i can trying to help
Same here, bro. She left the same way, almost 6 months ago. Still plenty of tough days but getting better. Little by little. Leaning on good friends and making it through.
You have great value even though she is blind to see it.
I’ve skipped these videos because I never thought it would happen to me, but here I am. Thank you for being here in the dark times.
“They’re all temporary problems”
I'm at the point of stress where i'm tempted to tell her to Fu%k off!!!
Man this dude is smooth as silk
I just want to say that today after 5 years my marriage is done, this video has really helped me out, and I know one day I’ll come back and see this comment, and to my future self, I’m proud of you.
Its been 2 years and i still haven't moved on. I still base every new relationship off the best of that previous relationship
Good advice. I am going trough divorce. The most thing I have problems is our 2 kids. And the disappointment, lies from my ex. She turned it like I was the bad guy. I just want to go to an island for 1 year ...without Internet or phone. God and Jesus helped me. God showed me a lot of miracles in this time. He spoke to me. He told me that HE loves me. 🙏♾️ Amen
Reading Psalms was the one item that gave me comfort during my divorce. I was dealing with Jezebel spirit. It really got ugly with the ex-wife.
Michael, thank you! You get it! Praise God! I still pray for her as she is and will always be the mother I my children but she put me away 16 years ago and the lady therapist was a spiritual lady and knew that the trUth would Make/create me free! This is how the Holy Spirit works to assist in our suffering as He teaches us the peaceable things of The Kingdom of God peace and blessings brother Michael . . .
Thank you for sharing your experience. My 25 year marriage is ending and your wisdom is helping me more than words can explain.
The ruminating on the vows was a big deal for me. I finally realized that women just aren’t measured by integrity, as are men. A woman breaking her word is no big deal to society.
Fight hard for your money through your attorney, and take the high road regarding co-parenting duties. Then work on creating your new life.
As you said Mr. Bruno: "Save the man, not the marriage" Thank you as always
The pain is incredible..
I’m going through a divorce and I’m loosing it. I don’t know how to let her go .
Replace her immediately. There is no other way. Mindset, gym, etc are all good things to do, BUT you need to mitigate the loss, just like when you put an animal down. Get a new animal or at least start looking at new ones. That's EXACTLY what she did, even before she left. Cold hard truth you don't want to hear. Trust me.
@@ListenMySon thanks for the advice I’m trying my best to
Keep going. There are a lot of women wishing they could meet someone who cares like you do.
Find peace in life. Nice dog that loves being with you, fly fishing, some hobby that you love or always wanted to learn
I’m so thankful to learn these lessons with girlfriends at 24 rather than trying to figure it out in divorce court with my wife at 40. That can still happen but I will hopefully have better wisdom navigating that situation. I am going to hold these truths close. I am going to get me back after 2 1/2 years.
Just been introduced to Listen my Son podcasts and thank you for sharing the knowledge and wisdom that you have been through and learnt the hard way. Catching a wake up here. Thank you👍🏼
33 years married. My one goal in life was to grow old with her and enjoy our grandchildren together. She used me all those years then walked away. I can’t see the other side. Seven years now and life has no meaning.
Hey Trailboss! Thank you for the refresher. I am almost 3 years post-divorce and your steady hand and calm voice still center me.
I look forward to meeting you sir. Godspeed!
The more I accept she's gone and to do the things you say the better I feel. The storm is passing for me. I'm finally ready to start the process of the divorce instead of waiting for her. She gets to have what she thinks she wants why am I suffering?
It was tough for me. The guy who i asked if i should get married and told me i will be happy I did it was getting a divorce at the time . Then he turned alcoholic like 750ml fireball every morning, while I just got a divorce and I had to force my self to not drink with him. It doesn’t seem easy but you’ll see who was your real friend and who was just there just for the couples hangout. Couples who were around a lot will ignore you after a divorce
My 36 yr old wife of 10 years, 2 young kids together, cheated on me with a guy and at the same time with our 22F babysitter. Was super hard to accept, but I had to move on. It’s a long road. They live together in my old house
Damn!!
Good stuff, man! Was married for 20 years and divorced for 7...Spot on advice...and love the Christ icon too 👍
Did you see it coming?
Came for the beard trimming videos.
Stayed behind for this 🙏🤣🤣👍
Great video, thank you. I don’t believe in marriage. A marriage has lost its meaning because you can divorce over anything and let’s be honest, it’s more common than successful marriages. Marriage is a mindset. Men and women trapping each other because they fear losing and being alone. Think we all been there at one point in life but life kicks your backside but will make you stronger later.
Take care of yourself
People think you are selfish
Greetings from south africa 🇿🇦
Read me like a book. This was therapeutic, George. Thank you.
The first time I heard of Mr. Bruno, I was sent a link to an interview about his divorce. Specifically, how the congregants turned on him- and supported and uplifted the wife who initiated the divorce- in the Presbyterian church he and his then wife had attended for years.
It helped many men over the years. It is OLD. Wish I'd saved the link.
It happens a lot to men. I was treated like I had the plaque at my church when my divorce started. The singles, especially the single parent groups, are dating pools and usually not good ones. I stopped going. I read my Bible at home.
Thanks George, I am in the beginning stages of this right now. I am quietly now planning my next step, in regards to where I will land, live and begin resetting myself. At the moment, I am trying to do the aforementioned under the radar and once the time the next step (for me) is setup/solidified, then its time to bring her up to speed and let her know that we are officially done.
Thank you George, I needed to hear this!
Finally completed 7 months of Army OSUT. Got a lot of videos to catch up on AND I found out you're launching your latest book, so congratulations sir.
Hi . Great advices. In my case Ive asked for divorce after 2 y of sexless and complicated marriage. It wasnt easy to maked that call but there wasnt any dialog between us . We did mane family and marriage therapys but there wasnt any improvements.
So the divorce is in progres . Its not easy because we have 2 small children. I love smoking my piepes too and my go to is capstan blue . Thank you for all you advices. I was really trying to save that marriage but i think she decided long time ago and was trying to force me to make that decision. I need to get to the shape too . God bless you
Thanks for your time. I'm not going through a breakup now, but I'm applying a lot of what you said to the situation I'm going through.
As they say in TEXAS: "She's a HANDFUL: Grab your Heart and Go"!
I dont even know who i am anymore...i hate myself..i hate this broken shell of whatever the hell i am
It is going to take time to heal. Once you get away from them your clarity will start to return. Exercise, even if it is walking, that will help you. Reading Psalms provided a great deal of relief for me. Stay busy, do things you enjoy. Make sure you are getting enough sleep. Have a support group, people that you trust, make sure they are not gossipers. Take care of yourself, no one else will.
Ok it works! Got triggered by the let her go tried the awareness sense exercises. I have calmed down and starring to think... it's control over self! He'll yea!!! I will definitely be watching more. I'm at the very beginning. Paperwork is coming... I will be honest heartbreak is an eclipse of pain. And it comes and goes. In short, I'm listening.
Best you tube video of 2022 by a mile. George Bruno Legend. Jonathan 🇬🇧
Some of the best advice I've ever heard. You're godsent, George.
I have my first photo exhibit in 6 weeks. Last night I finally told her how I have felt after carrying her burdens and lies. I am a full time college student and I'm supposed to graduate in 3 and a half months at 40. I have been working out for two months to search for some kind of focus after 20 years of marriage and I am scared shitless of the changes that are coming. I don't know how to recover from this other than to just keep moving. One foot in front of the other.
I am really glad I found this channel. Man, smoking a pipe and having a drink with you sir would be awesome. You give good advice after this divorce crap.
How many times does a car need to be DRIVEN before it is called a rental? Man, that was profound! Even if it may not yet be driven, it has been in my mind so onto workin on ME and being the BEST thing that happens for the next woman in my life.
Bro I love your vibe, currently 3 months into a break up, still only slightly better than before but its things like this video that help me through, create a positive mindset and just let me move tf on. Ps you look and sound like you'd make up for an amazing dad/granddad. Thanks pops
I moved to my other country for my first gf. A pair of horns is what I got from doing my best.
I wonder how much damage that did to me, as she was an outlier. After her, I actually got more game than I thought I had in me, dates and Saturday night hookups without even trying and by the plenty (if I had cash I'd actually be able to keep one of them!). But there is something broken there. I want to connect and I want to trust, and any woman coming after isn't guilty of what the first did, but... I don't even try anymore. I know I can do great and it's fun to be in the game, but there's no will to it.
@Baron Richie 🤔I know very well how to manifest things. Problem is, I don't want to.
Man , you're amazing . Really appreciate you giving advice .
... as a German Biologist - it is a slow process of sensing strong Antagonisms that become emotional Allergies - which are incurable. It is Distance and Meta Morphosis - to start a new Life - with better Senses and RADAR to detect from afar Predators and Vampyres. A Phase Transition to a higher state of Life. This can be extremely painful and devastating - like the Dark Night of the Soul.
I promote Inner Strength Training and EMAT - Emotional Martial Arts Training -
we will get more challenges than we can imagine - Things to come - H G Wells...
"We just celebrated our anniversary now there's another car in my driveway.."...wow. this is almost exactly what happened. She changed the security cameras so that I couldn't see a car in the cul de sac
George, Your sharing and insights are a gift to us Men dealing with this s**t. (My 6yo son is George). Thank you from New Zealand
My divorce was very slow and then bam fast! I am handling it in a strange way you could say!
This came at the perfect time George. Thank you.
"That is a tough debt to collect'" --- George, this one is brutal. I wish you would have elaborated on this what the therapist said.
“Good cheers attract good things”
Hey George... thank you for this. You and I are a similar age and I've been through some shit. I found this video full of such wisdom and encouragement. I've recently gone through a break up and maybe because of my age and experience I'm doing well, what you spoke about I have done instinctively... thank you man, I feel like you are a brother.
As a side note, I've decided to grow out my beard... 3 months in.
I really appreciate your podcasts George.👍🏿🙏🏿😎
Sanity is what I needed to salvage. Enough said...
I SURVIVED DIVORCE AN LIFE IS GOOD .. GREAT TALKING POINTS SIR .. SALUTE 👍🏾💯
Thank you for saving my life.
This makes the most sense of anything I’ve ever heard.
Thanks George! I really needed to hear this video. Perfect timing in my life.
This channel is so spot on
God bless you George. God bless you.
Thx George you saved me from serious trouble.
@Lisa thx 🙏 but baby steps in right direction god bless you friend
Wish there was a channel like this for women...
Yours, George, is council like that of an old friend. Thank you.
This Man Iz Droppin' Gems / Jewels!!!
If she thinks she can do better and the opportunity comes up, she will jump ship. Doesn't matter if you have small children
You are 💯 percent correct
Every single human on earth is vulnerable. We all need to go to sleep, right?
This was a great video that I needed to watch and hear in my life at this time. Glad I came across it. Thanks so much!
So this channel was really cool when I found it a few years ago. Especially considering I have smoked a pipe since I was about 17 or so and the topic of divorce was so heavily on my mind. I didn’t even want to smoke my pipes or look at them I was grieving so hard at that time. I was going thru a divorce and was with the same girl for 18 years since I was just 16 years old. Things happened and nothing seemed to feel right about it and I struggled for a few years. The healing journey is quite a journey. I can relate to so much in this video that George is talking about. But I can tell you one thing is that TIME and DISTANCE is key. Just like George said. And I used to still have sex and stuff with my x like once a week for about the first year or so of us being “ single”. And one day I just said no and I stuck to that and I wouldn’t give her even a second of my time to text or talk or anything. I just cut her out of my life one day and forever. And we do have a child together which we split custody with. I will only respond to something that has to do with that. But everyone says “ just let go” but no matter how hard u try u can’t. But suddenly it just kinda happens after enough time and grieving and the realization that your doing it to yourself at that point and it’s not even her anymore. I took back the control when I cut ties with her and I started working out and bettering myself and I met tons of woman and had lots of sex and I was still reacting and not fully healed finding myself doing crazy shit all the time. But I did meet the most amazing girl when I was finally good being on my own. And we have been together about half a year now and we haven’t had one fight and she is always extremely sweet and she’s so attractive. I feel lucky honestly. Things are much different than my old toxic marriage but I learned a lot on my end what I could have done differently and I feel like such a better man to my new girl than I was to my x wife. Best of luck if your going thru all this. You can do it tho and you will definitely find a new better version of yourself at the end. Nice video George ! I gotta try some capstan gold now lol.
Needed this, thank you
George, I am thankful for you and your channel
Hey man, this video really helped me, i desperately needed to hear some words like yours. Thank you for your wisdom, Christ Is Risen.